How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to?

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2024-06-23T13:34:00+00:00

A very similar post was made a week ago and lots of advice received. Assuming you are the same poster, what answer are you looking for now that you didn’t see before?

Not trying to be unfriendly. But it seems like you are looking for a specific answer. What is it? Are you looking for permission to break up?

UMomGae420 · 2024-06-23T12:38:27+00:00

Is tough man. Idk. If your attraction for this person doesn't grow it might be best to make some kind of move. Try to change something or break up I guess. I'm not too sure. What I do know is that I strongly recommend doing something. Because doing nothing and staying in a relationship with someone you aren't physically attracted to robs you the experience of dating someone you are attracted to and more importantly robs her of the experience of having a boyfriend who looks at her and thinks she is the most beautiful in the world.

tinyhermione · 2024-06-23T15:01:58+00:00

Attraction rarely grows if it doesn’t arrive after the first few dates.

Just end it. It’s not kind to her.

goodboy92 · 2024-06-23T15:32:20+00:00

If you are not attracted to her, the best thing is to leave it. Don't waste her time nor your time.

kingpinkatya · 2024-06-23T19:08:09+00:00

Do everyone a favor and break up with this girl

Competitive-Yak-4398 · 2024-06-23T15:53:22+00:00

Dude, break up. You have to be attracted to your partner, if not, it’s not a real relationship. You need to work on self-esteem and date women that you’re fully attracted to. That’s the only way to have a relationship. People don’t start out in real relationships dating people they’re not really attracted to. Don’t believe that, that’s not possible. At least for a real loving relationship.

Polish_Girlz · 2024-06-23T20:35:25+00:00

It sounds like you're a sweetie, but you deserve someone who really gets you going. ;D Is it so bad that you don't want to sleep with this person, or would that still be something appealing to you?

NegativeKarmaVegan · 2024-06-23T16:34:20+00:00

I wouldn't.

SilverTango · 2024-06-24T01:32:36+00:00

I have tried dating good men I am not attracted to, hoping it will grow, but it just doesn't work. Dating them felt like a chore I had to put up with. I wasn't excited about meeting them, and I'm sure they felt a lack of energy from me. I don't recommend doing this.

Mabchi · 2024-06-26T01:44:15+00:00

I mean it’s okay to realize you’re not attracted to her and move on

Dear-Tank2728 · 2024-06-23T15:56:58+00:00

It depends, if they disgust you, you really cant. If its just a neutral feeling, then its really a matter of how much you appreciate mind over matter so to speak.

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Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-06-24T06:56:48+00:00

We actually do not really talk about porn consumption much on this page, nor do we usually randomly accuse people of being addicts (a few individuals on this subreddit get preachy against porn consumption though): is that something people talk about a lot on other subreddits?

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-06-24T20:49:12+00:00

Do dish. Is this someone you met organically and clicked with, someone you met online and kind of stuck with, someone your friend set you up with?

What keeps you with her, is it the emotional connection, mental stimulation, or what?

Try to separate from the overly clinical and cynical reddit culture for a bit.

dottywine · 2024-06-25T19:29:51+00:00

I dated someone I was not physically attracted to. I focused on the emotional/mental connection. But in the end, he wasn’t a good enough partner + he’s ugly so he had to go 😭 I will not date someone I’m not attracted to ever again.

Miserable_Scratch_99 · 2024-06-28T02:56:33+00:00

Do you feel a romantic connection to her?

Put sex aside for a minute. Can you imagine spending your life with her? Being happy that you're romantically involved with her?

If you don't feel it, end it. Sexual attraction is one thing - you can hook up temporarily. Dating without romance feels like a disaster unless you're that good of friends, since Sexual desire is a bit fickle. Unless you're fine with no sex, you should break up or discuss it with her. There's no use lengthening it.

Odd-Luck7658 · 2024-06-29T21:08:42+00:00

Move on.

Beginning-Yak-5387 · 2024-07-02T18:00:05+00:00

You’ve been seeing her for a few months?! Stop wasting this woman’s time and fertility.

Polish_Girlz · 2024-06-23T20:33:29+00:00

It's why I left white nationalism.

ajj2z · 2024-06-23T20:49:06+00:00

r/deadbedrooms exists lol

OneLobster009 · 2024-06-23T13:42:53+00:00

Idk, man.

Don't let a nice girl because she's not nice-looking. Imo, sort yourself out, stick with her. It's hard to find wonderful women nowadays.

Title	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to?
Author	DryOil9232
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Comments	42
Date	June 23, 2024 11:55 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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