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tinyhermione/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 09:23 AM
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tinyhermione/r/MGTOW229/09/20 11:57 AM
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In my country people always split the check. But does it even matter. Drinks in a cheap cozy bar for a first date with a stranger. Then how many dates do most ppl even go on. The important part is how expenses are divided in everyday life.
/r/BlackPillScience20/09/25 08:57 PM
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You come across that bc you run into women who are red flags. Normal women split rent and expenses. Then some split the check and others don’t. But this is more about traditional vs progressive.
/r/BlackPillScience20/09/25 08:40 PM
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Thank you for making my day better. And your marriage sounds lovely. And yes, this is exactly it.
/r/BlackPillScience18/09/25 03:54 PM
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But most men who have experienced a long term relationship? Will also see it this way. Maybe their first girlfriend was just for sex. But then they got bored and claustrophobic. Realized it wasn’t enough.
/r/BlackPillScience18/09/25 01:07 PM
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It’s not the reality of normal people. Firstly: sex isn’t good enough to justify marriage. You aren’t gonna sacrifice your whole life for 5 minutes twice a week. Then in a serious relationship? Most of the time there isn’t a sexual or romantic subtext. 99% of the time youre not having sex. 5-6 days per week there will be no sex. Then many men can get laid if they really want to without getting into a relationship. With the prettiest girl? No. But you’ll find someone if that’s important to you. S…
/r/BlackPillScience18/09/25 05:49 AM
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That’s just not true. Most men do not marry a woman to get laid. Most men also do not dislike women as people. Talk to some couples. Talk to more men in real life. Notice how a lot of men actually like spending time just hanging out with their wife. If you don’t like the personality of women? That’s fair enough, but you’ll hate having a girlfriend. Skip a step, invest in a high quality fleshlight. And then instead focus on friendships with other men.
/r/BlackPillScience18/09/25 03:58 AM
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Firstly there’s assortative mating. Meaning people date similar people. Educated people tend to date each other. Same with people from different social classes. And when it comes to looks and social status. The typical couple has matching looks and matching social status. Do you have autism? Bc ofc divorce isn’t about facial attractiveness. Once two people are attracted enough to each other that they’ll date? What happens after is mostly due to: 1)The social skills and emotional intelligence of …
/r/BlackPillScience18/09/25 03:55 AM
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Most educated middleclass couples do not get divorced. Most women date within their own social class. Why would women date, marry and fuck a man they do not like if they can sustain themselves?
/r/BlackPillScience17/09/25 09:11 PM
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But most women are not in marriages where the man is flying them around and pampering them. Typical 2025 married couple? Both work full time just to pay the bills. What someone brings to the table is their personality. That’s why two people decide to marry. They like each other as people. Is this new to you? What do you expect her to offer while you both work?
/r/BlackPillScience17/09/25 08:52 PM
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But someone who’s got low social skill and no social life isn’t the best partner in 2025. Edit: today women have jobs and incomes. What most want from their partner is social and emotional things. Men who can’t deliver on that get left behind.
/r/BlackPillScience17/09/25 06:00 PM
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That’s not really it. Do you think most women today need a man to pay their bills? If you’re not getting your looksmatch? You either lack an active social life or social skills.
/r/BlackPillScience17/09/25 05:59 PM
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Well, trust me when I say that women who have rape fantasies? Zero interest in being raped. It’s more a fantasy of rough sex with a guy they have a sexual relationship with already.
/r/BlackPillScience10/05/25 02:25 PM
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You do understand they don’t actually want to be raped? It’s a sexual fantasy. Same as guys watch a lot of things in porn they wouldn’t want to do in real life.
/r/BlackPillScience10/05/25 09:03 AM
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There’s no sides. Just different ppl with different opinions. I think it’s obvious nonverbal consent is a thing. The law in most places agrees with me. Given the average social skills of young ppl in 2025 tho? It’s not a dumb idea to outright ask as well. The issue is more that it’s not a magic wand. Someone can say “yeah” and they still do not actually want sex. So then we are back at having to read vibes and body language, and being able to identify enthusiastic consent. Which doesn’t even hav…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/25 12:03 PM
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Also, consent can be verbal or nonverbal. I’m not sure they accounted for that. Which is going to mess up the stats. “Did you ask for consent?” implies using words. You do not always have to. Same as someone consenting doesn’t always mean they really want to have sex or you should proceed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/25 11:31 AM
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The thing is that if the guy initates sex? Asking him for consent seems a bit of a moot point. If he didn’t want sex he wouldn’t be trying to get you to have sex with him.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/25 08:12 AM
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Well, it’s online dating. What do you expect? It’s mostly picture based. But most people meet in social settings irl and then a lot of more things factor in. Like how you connect with someone.
/r/BlackPillScience11/01/25 08:41 PM
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Do you think 200 likes or 8 likes on a YT comment is many likes? For comparison: the OP video got 4.4K likes. Do you think that was all men? Sane women don’t ramble around in the YT comment sections.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 10:07 AM
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But 99% of women do not share this opinion.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 09:18 AM
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A big issue is that LGBTQ couples have just been studied less. So we have less data. Like the data linked her from Australia? Within the relationship, but counted psychological abuse together with physical abuse. Other studies have asked about abuse within a lifetime. A lot of women who are lesbians have previously been in relationships with men, before they came out. So then we can’t really know if they experienced violence from men or women. It might be women, it might be men, but we don’t kno…
/r/MensRights03/01/25 08:56 AM
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Key messages People who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, intersex or queer (LGBTIQ) experience intimate partner violence at similar rates as those who identify as heterosexual.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 08:51 AM
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Do we really? Like, there are incels. That’s not great. But it’s not going to take over completely bc men who have normal social lives don’t think like that. These women here? Similar. Socially isolated, mentally unstable people. Who cares?
/r/MensRights03/01/25 08:47 AM
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But these are just internet trolls? 99% of women want men to have a social outlet. This is a good initiative. But most women will think it is too. I’m not sure how much attention we should give unhinged people who clearly are just trolling.
/r/MensRights03/01/25 07:37 AM
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But is that hypergamy or just the wage gap? What used to be normal here? She got her bachelor in nursing, he got his bachelor in engineering. Or she was a skilled nursing home aide, he was a mechanic. Or she was a hairdresser, he was a construction worker. Or she was a psychologist, he was a project manager. Most of the jobs men chose? Paid way more. Partly just bc it was private instead of public sector. Partly for no good reason. Today that’s shifting tho. There won’t be any “hypergamy” in 205…
/r/MensRights02/01/25 10:30 PM
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But still, it’s not uncommon at all for her to earn twice what he does. A lot of my friends are female doctors. Many of them outearn their husbands by quite a bit.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:55 PM
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1: The report suggests one reason could be girls’ “better classroom discipline and better self-regulation”. 2,3: link not found. Edit: if you look at Harvard, Yale, MIT, Princeton, Stanford? Gender distribution is quite equal. It’s not that boys don’t succeed at all. It’s really more about money.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:46 PM
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If I’m working? Nothing. Or 50/50 on our shared expenses like rent/mortgage, groceries etc.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:43 PM
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Scandinavia. They take parental leave, men do too. You can split it down the middle, many do.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:43 PM
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We don’t really have data to prove this. We have data that shows more docile and obedient students (often girls) get shown a slight favoritism. What’s more likely? Students have 5 options after high school: 1) College. 2) Nonskilled job (ex: Walmart). 3) Trades. 4) Military. 5) Stay at home parent. Less girls will get married and have babies right out of high school. Nonskilled jobs will not be appealing to most bc low minimum wage. But given the cost of going to college? A lot of boys from poor…
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:29 PM
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No. I’m asking if the men who fall behind are more a victim of socioeconomic factors and lack of financial privilege than gender. If your dad has gone to a good college and has a career job? It’ll be way easier for you to do the same. That’s socioeconomic privilege.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 09:08 PM
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But… being a stay at home parent is working. I’d rather be at work tbh. More peaceful.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 08:20 PM
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Or they just need workers rights that align with pregnancy and breastfeeding. My country has those rights and then women don’t drop out of the work force. They stay for their whole career. And bc they know they can stay for their whole career? They don’t care if their husbands make way less.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 08:20 PM
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Yeah, something is weird.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 08:18 PM
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But isn’t this way more about financial and socioeconomic factors than gender?
/r/MensRights02/01/25 08:18 PM
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But isn’t it more valid to say that some people, men and women, are held back by the lack of social mobility? Especially in America? That it’s not about being a man or a woman, but which family you are born into and how much financial and socioeconomic privilege they have?
/r/MensRights02/01/25 08:17 PM
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Well, most female physicians I know work full time and have husbands who work full time too. They make more money than their husbands, nobody cares.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 07:27 PM
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But…most men I know get education and have good jobs? Men aren’t prevented from getting a good education and having a career.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 07:26 PM
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I’m replying to the comment above mine.
/r/MensRights28/12/24 05:55 PM
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But do you see they are a different kind of fairytale? It’s women are the evil witches. Men are the innocent hero you cheer for. If a relationship doesn’t work out? It’s all her. And it’s so black and white. Don’t you see? In reality men and women are humans. There are selfish humans, mean humans, manipulative humans, kind humans, selfless humans and kind humans. And even then people often have a mix of good and bad traits too. Don’t you see? This isn’t black and white, but it’s real.
/r/MensRights28/12/24 01:18 PM
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On YT you often find people telling adults fairytales for money. It’s one way to get rich. Tell people things that give them someone to blame and a way to feel good about themselves. You fall in love again by cutting the toxic social media content.
/r/MensRights28/12/24 01:00 PM
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Well. Social media is different. Why? Influencers are just trying to make money. That means they are happy to sell a story that people wanna hear. That’s why you’ve got “it’s all feminisms fault you are single” and “you deserve a model millionaire”. It’s not how people interact in real life. It doesn’t tell you about how female friends are with each other either, bc a female friend isn’t a grifter looking for a quick payout.
/r/MensRights27/12/24 09:11 AM
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Women having kids in their thirties? Barely any health complications. Why? Well it increases the chance of very rare diseases slightly. It doesn’t matter. Most women are happier working. 75% end up getting married. I think that’s pretty good. The goal can’t be 100% bc not everyone is suited for marriage.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 08:18 PM
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This is a misread of women’s social dynamics. Do you think the ugly friend or the hot friend has the most social power in that friendship? The hot friend wouldn’t accept the ugly friend scaring off guys she’s into. She does however want a body guard.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 07:08 PM
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But only 10% of divorce ends with alimony. She can’t refuse to work. When women are stay at home mothers? It’s something a couple agrees on together. It’s a perk for him too, he gets way less cooking, cleaning and childcare duties. Instead he comes home to dinner done. And they don’t have to pay for daycare which is very expensive. Most women aren’t stay at home mothers. A lot of women don’t want to be. You date people who want a similar life to you.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 03:21 PM
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Not really. Men who lose out big in family court? She was a stay at home wife. Or she makes significantly less and did significantly more of the childcare when they were married.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 02:26 PM
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The legal system is genderless though. If I marry a man who makes less than me, it’s me who’s taking the financial risk. If my husband is a stay at home dad? I’m the one who might end up paying him alimony.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 02:05 PM
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Still, very few women are uninterested in dating. Most want a relationship even if they have jobs and incomes, and even if they are feminist. What do you think they are looking for?
/r/MensRights26/12/24 01:05 PM
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Not really. Most single women are quite encouraging about each others dating life. Because they feel more hopeful about love and life when things are going well for their friends.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 11:05 AM
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But most women still get married and have children? They just also have jobs.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 11:03 AM
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Again: why haven’t y’all send an inquiry and asked about business casual shorts? And idk. It’s mostly just different. In many ways the clothes women wear are just less comfortable. Is it privilege? I don’t think so. How much would your life even change if you were allowed to wear skirts at all?
/r/MensRights25/12/24 08:56 PM
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A lot of people want to claim victim status. That’s the new 2024 trend. It’s dumb bc it’s really just losing power, making yourself more depressed and not winning anything. If women actually crossdress? As in present masculine with a chest binder, male coded clothing etc? That’ll get the same reactions as a man crossdressing. It’s 2024 though. In many settings you can just say you are trans or non-binary, and you’ll be completely fine. Even as a man. In more conservative business environments? T…
/r/MensRights25/12/24 08:34 PM
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Every company is different. But if this bothers you so much, why don’t you just get your male coworkers to sign an email to HR asking for business casual shorts to be allowed? Here’s the thing: I don’t think it’s about the shorts. Is it? I think it’s one of three: 1) You want to feel discriminated against. 2) You want to cross dress. 3) You are envious of the sexual desire women’s bodies are met with.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 08:12 PM
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Huh? I find it’s often the opposite. Bc men’s legs and men’s bodies in general are perceived as less sexual and thus more appropriate. Most business settings women can’t wear shorts either. Or bare legs, they’ll have to wear stockings.
/r/MensRights25/12/24 07:59 PM
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It’s shifting. I was Christmas shopping in jewelry stores, half the store is now jewelry for men. Pink and pastel colors, fluffy sweaters, short shorts, a lot of clothes that have been women only are now also fine for men to wear. Men wear eye makeup on special occasions, no worries. If you wanna wear skirts and dresses? That’s still going to be seen as cross dressing. But there are also a lot of social codes for how women can dress. Go out without shaving your legs or get a masculine haircut? Y…
/r/MensRights25/12/24 02:46 PM
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The population deficit won’t affect the current grownups much. Then if they don’t have children, why worry about what happens after you’re gone?
/r/MensRights24/12/24 08:18 AM
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But do you have to be either? You can just be neutral and whatever happens, happens.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 06:47 AM
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Huh? Wut? Rich wife? Good. Her money is yours. Attractive wife? You own her pussy now. And if you’re clever maybe even her eyes too. Skilled wife? Free labor. On divorce, her own trade skills can be leveraged against her. Poor wife? Good, it will be cheap to overpower her. Ugly wife? She’ll never question a thing as long as he gets exactly 1 sexual encounter every 2 years or so. Smart wife? No such thing. Except a lot of smart, emotionally healthy people do get married.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 12:02 AM
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Huh? In a custody case y’all both have to prove things. If you press charges for rape, the guy won’t be convicted either without proof.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:16 PM
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If you didn’t have sex to make the kid? Yeah, you can be.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:40 PM
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If you can prove you have been an equal primary caregiver all along? You have a strong position. If you mainly left raising the kids to her, less so. A lot of women getting a divorce, who have ex husbands who are good with the children, will want 50/50 custody. More time off, more time to date and have fun.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 02:28 PM
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This depends entirely on: 1) What’s your income compared to hers? 2) Do you have kids? A) Does she keep her job or do y’all decide that she should be a tradwife? B) Do you share childcare 50/50? It’s also about numbers. Marry someone who makes about the same as you, share childcare 50/50 and divorce isn’t likely to cost you anything. Had I married any of the guys I’ve dated? I wouldn’t have walked away a cent richer. I don’t want kids and they’ve all made about the same as me. We’d have just spl…
/r/MensRights23/12/24 02:25 PM
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Huh? I just pointed out that there’s not 2 women going to college per man. It doesn’t make me feel good or bad. It’s just reality.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 02:21 PM
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But when people share numbers and facts? It’s ok to point out they have the wrong numbers. Or we’ll really get an idiocracy.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 02:06 PM
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Most women still get married tho. They just try to avoid marrying a predator. Same applies to men. They should learn how to avoid abusive relationships and what to look for in a partner. Then wanting to be single is completely fair too.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 02:05 PM
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But where does this happen?
/r/MensRights23/12/24 01:48 PM
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But do we need civilization to go on? Why? And does it matter if there are fewer people around? Then there are many things you can do to encourage the birth rate. Offer people payment for pregnancy and for raising babies. Encourage platonic friends to have babies together.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 12:36 PM
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But in reality the difference is much lower than that. So it usually works out. Then people want people they are similar to. That’s not necessarily about college education. A nurse and a plumber might have a lot in common. But a plumber and a woman with a PhD? She’ll bore him, he won’t get her. Often, not always.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:27 AM
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And shouldn’t they be? A healthy marriage or relationship takes a lot of social skill. Raising children well is complicated. It’s not a good idea that everyone gets these things. Is it?
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:25 AM
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Most people finance their education primarily through: 1) Tuition discounts from the institution (if they come from a less well off family). 2) Non gendered scholarships. 3) Part time jobs. Acceptance criteria isn’t lower for women. Stop coping.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:19 AM
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But the majority is still getting married. Should everyone get married? No. That’s idiocracy. Not everyone wants marriage. And not everyone is marriageable. Divorce risk goes down when you marry later, so that’s actually smart.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:18 AM
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But it’s still rare in school for girls to physically attack boys. Some girls fight other girls. Most don’t. Most boys are not struggling in school right now because they are being physically attacked by girls. Wasn’t your complaint that modern school doesn’t allow physical violence? Because yes, this is true. It doesn’t. Let’s get back to the manipulated man. When we skip ahead from “it’s all the mothers fault” and “it’s all the teacher’s fault” and get to the grownups. Isn’t the core tenet of …
/r/MensRights23/12/24 09:10 AM
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Can I suggest you read Ronald Dahl? It was stricter. If you didn’t say “yes, sir” and “no, sir” and you weren’t completely silent in class? You’d get beat up. It was awful.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:56 AM
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Boys defend themselves against girls? Are the girls physically attacking the boys? More boys than girls have ADHD. This is biological. Getting treatment for ADHD is a good thing. Kids with ADHD do better in school and in life with treatment. Boys are doing worse than girls in school right now. But many boys still do well. Then there’s questions of what we can do to help more boys perform better. But boys doing worse doesn’t mean they are discriminated against.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:54 AM
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But when school was conservative and all the teachers were male? It was even stricter.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:27 AM
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But I just question: 1) Do you think boys aren’t allowed rough and tumble play? Because I see that everywhere. 2) Do you realize that if we allow boys to be violent, more boys will be bullied? When I went to school, there was a lot of violence. Mostly the big, strong bullies ruled the male groups and beat up the small, awkward guys. So many boys had their life ruined by this. 3) Do you think school was better before? Have you read Roald Dahl? Back in the day schools had all male staff. It wasn’t…
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:21 AM
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But….everyone wants to recruit male teachers. It’s just not a lot of men who wants to be teachers. So that’s a place to start?
/r/MensRights23/12/24 01:10 AM
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Edit: I agree some men’s issues are given too little weight. But I think it would maybe help to get people behind them if it was put forward as a constructive discussion? Like “boys are struggling in school. We think XYZ might help. A group of men have started a tutoring program for middle school boys. We see that…”
/r/MensRights23/12/24 01:02 AM
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Isn’t the claim in this book mostly that men do stupid things bc they are horny? Wouldn’t a solution be… to grow up a bit and take responsibility for yourself? If a man does something dumb bc he wants to get laid? This isn’t women’s fault.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 12:07 AM
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The thing with social support? You get most of it in close, loving relationships with friends, family or a partner. A lot of people these days seem to expect social support from strangers online. It’s not how any of it works.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 09:22 PM
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So many blog posts, so little science.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 09:21 PM
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It’s not really a narrative. I tried watching porn. Was surprised at how violent a lot of mainstream porn is and how bad the sex looks. Wasn’t impressed. Then I was also concerned about the ethics of it. I don’t want to accidentally watch an Eastern European teenager getting raped, and I just felt worried at how young some of the girls looked. And how do you even know how it was produced? If you pay for porn you could probably source more ethical porn though. But I just gave up on the whole thin…
/r/MensRights22/12/24 08:45 PM
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Which narrative? This is an issue with younger people. They’ve only seen porn, lack sex education and try to recreate porn when having sex. Which then doesn’t work great and often make the girls unhappy. And I have actually had a guy over to fix my washing machine. Surprisingly expensive, but that’s about it to report. Didn’t feel inclined to have sex with him, but did want clean laundry. Life is a bit more dull than the movies.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 08:38 PM
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Normal sex? Firstly it’s a lot about consent. This is lost in porn. But if you choke a girl without asking in real life? She’ll be scared unless she knows you very well. Then a lot of sex acts are more everyday in porn, but not done by the majority of people. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong to do them. Only that you can’t expect every girl to be on board with it. Most girls don’t do anal for example. Or deep throat. Or have threesomes, or sex with the guy who comes by to fix her washing machine. Th…
/r/MensRights22/12/24 03:02 PM
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Dude. What? Women don’t find pictures of vaginas especially offensive. It’s a body part, that’s all. The concern with porn is that the sex in porn isn’t necessarily ethically produced. Meaning you aren’t sure if there’s enthusiastic consent or just some drugged out teenager from poverty. The other concern with porn is that it’s affecting the sexual scripts of normal people. That when people have watched too much porn they might not realize how normal sex works. Edit: if it wasn’t for children an…
/r/MensRights22/12/24 11:36 AM
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Whatever do you mean by this? Edit: you realize porn is a fantasy and reality is reality, right? A lot of what happens in porn you can’t do to most real women in real life because it’ll hurt them. Porn makes both male and female bodies seem less human and fragile than they are in real life.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 11:32 AM
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Huh? When do people say this about baby boys or baby girls in real life, ever? Again, there’s no double standard. You’ve just found some insane people on the internet. You’ll find some insane men commenting how they’ll be disappointed if they have a daughter too if you keep looking.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 09:35 AM
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But these are unhinged people on the internet. Haven’t y’all seen how when someone has a baby irl, boy or girl, women just go “aww”?
/r/MensRights21/12/24 11:58 PM
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But…is it? Why do we have terms like “racially motivated violence” and “hate crime” then?
/r/MensRights21/12/24 06:27 PM
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People are dying. But let’s think critically for a wee moment. Do you think this initiative on gender violence is all that’s being done in this entire world to prevent…murder?
/r/MensRights21/12/24 06:23 PM
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Because most men are killed by other men. That’s not seen as gender related violence. When women are killed by men that’s seen as related to gender. Not everything is a conspiracy.
/r/MensRights21/12/24 05:22 PM
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Well. Where you drafted and deployed? Or did you choose to join the military? How about your uncle? There hasn’t been a draft in 70-80 years. If men want to join the military they don’t get a free wife. A lot of women are in the military these days.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 11:52 AM
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But do you think teachers raise children? That’s not the teachers jobs. That’s the parents.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 11:40 AM
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Well. Society is just about making it function overall. Not so much about individuals. Like how opening up after Covid was the right decision for the majority. But we knew it would kill some people too. If you want to not be disposable? You need to form connections with other people. Because to them you won’t be disposable. Finding good male friends, volunteering in your community, bonding with other people.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 10:23 AM
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Two decades ago? Yeah. A lot of things has happened in the last decades. Marital rape used to be legal too. But that is still horrible and I don’t understand why the laws were that backwards. And this study was more recent than that and just asked about different types of sexual assault. By both men and women towards children.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 10:21 AM
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But everyone is disposable in society. Men and women. Is this shocking news?
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:57 AM
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But so many men admitted to being victims in this anonymous survey. They had just been victims of men, which carries an even bigger stigma. When men and women on average act so differently sexually and have such different sexual opportunities, why do you expect them to match each other perfectly in rates of sexual assault?
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:57 AM
-15

But ? https://fls.org.au/law-handbook-temp/fines-infringements-and-criminal-law/sexual-offences/sexual-offences-against-children/
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:43 AM
-4

This is just a claim from one researcher without good evidence. Then number of reported crimes for women have increased, but the article doesn’t compare it to the number of reported crimes for men. And then there are just random case stories. The Australian study? Huge. They asked lots of men and women anonymously if they had been sexually abused as children. Many people, both men and women, said yes. But mostly by men. A psychopath isn’t the same as a pedophile. And female psychopaths are still…
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:30 AM
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I’m sorry about that. I don’t think you’ll find that has ever been legal. This wasn’t about reported crimes, but an anonymous survey on childhood sexual abuse.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:24 AM
-6

Everyone is. Till you build close friendships and relationships with other people.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 08:52 AM
-1

Is that genuinely the most emotional pain you’ve felt?
/r/MensRights20/12/24 08:52 AM
-54

This woman is disgusting and vile. But the reason it’s such a big news story? The perpetrators of sexual assault on minors are usually men. When it’s a woman it’s seen as more interesting news. There was a big Australian study that looked at people’s experiences with sexual abuse in their childhoods. Findings: 1) A much higher percentage of the population had experienced this than we’d expect. 2) It affects many boys, not just girls. 3) But the perpetrator is usually a man. Rarely a woman.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 08:51 AM
-2

Wut? My buddy you are never free to cheat. If I think my husband sucks in bed? I can’t just start banging my personal trainer. I need to either get a divorce or accept a sexless life. You shouldn’t stay in a bad marriage. And…how did you get there? My point is the exact opposite. That sex should be a fun mutual activity, not something you just expect to “get” as a service.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 02:38 PM
-1

Did it hurt? And you need better sexual boundaries. It’s ok to say no to sex when you are not in the mood for sex. That’s the whole point here. Then I don’t mean to offend you, but this isn’t a common issue for men. I’m wondering if you had some kind of sexual problem, if you weren’t attracted to her or if you had death grip/porn issues. Or if you were on antidepressants. But it could be the same thing as I’m talking about here for women. That emotional problems in the relationship and unwanted …
/r/MensRights19/12/24 02:34 PM
0

Huh? Modern marriage: 1) Both people work full time. 2) Both people share chores (cooking, cleaning, childcare) 50/50. 3) You fuck when both people want to. If you have a healthy relationship, good social skills and a wife with a normal sex drive? She’ll want to have sex bc that’s also fun for her. What is one sided here?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:51 PM
-2

Well. They should get divorced if their husband is like that. And ofc they shouldn’t fuck him if they stay together for the kids or whatever. Buy a sex toy, get separate bed rooms.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:45 PM
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Let’s cut to the chase. You were not in the mood. So it was uncomfortable/painful for you, you never got turned on and then ofc you didn’t orgasm. RIGHT? I mean, you were wincing a little and counting the minutes till it was over? Or we are talking two extremely different things here. You don’t get sex in return for chores. It’s called pulling your weight. Or doing your half. If you don’t however? Your wife might feel she’s in a relationship with a baby and that might turn her off.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:40 PM
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But sex isn’t owed. Do you get that? It’s meant to be about mutual desire. Then people should have a lower threshold to break up. That’s true for both genders. If your boyfriend can’t be bothered to try to make sex good for you? Eh, just dump him.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:23 PM
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You can just get divorced if you’re not happy with your sex life. You can’t cheat though. Or expect your wife to let you fuck her when she’s not turned on. Why does any of these seem even remotely reasonable to you? Do you think unwanted sex is even sexy? Wouldn’t you feel a bit like you were raping her? Is that even love?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:21 PM
-3

But…do you?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 12:20 PM
-17

Well, it’s true. If you just look for a bangmaid and think your wife should work harder than you and then let you stick it in whenever? Please don’t get married. It’ll always end in a bitter divorce.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:38 AM
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You didn’t understand that point. Sex isn’t meant to be something women hate (but give anyways) and that men get (without it being good for her). It’s meant to be a mutually fun thing a couple does together when they are both in the mood. Do you understand the difference?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:37 AM
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But having an open and mature conversation? Not nagging. Nagging is if he keeps groping her or repeatedly asking for sex when clearly she’s not feeling it. Then you need to have an adult conversation instead. Then it’s not “women control sex”. Some women are in dead bedrooms too. It’s that sex is two for yes, one for no. You need both people to be horny and want sex with each other. A lot of men mistakenly think a good wife should let him fuck her even when she’s not turned on. And that’s just… …
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:35 AM
-1

Well. If that’s the case: wtf is he doing? You get a divorce then. Or if it’s just about not bothering to please her in bed? Jerk off and live as roommates if you can’t be bothered to get a divorce either.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:30 AM
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It’s so relevant. These are the main reasons people end up in dead bedrooms. I know a lot about sex and I like men. It’s a good idea to listen. I think people just get upset bc they want sex to be something women give in exchange for marriage. Desire doesn’t work that way and being an adult is just a bit more complicated than that. What can you do?
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:11 AM
-24

I’ve been in long relationships. The sex has stayed good bc the relationship was good. I’ve also read a lot of dead bedroom posts. It’s usually one of the following: 1) He sucks at flirting and in bed. Brief kissing, grabs her tit, maybe awkwardly fumbles a bit between her legs. 5 minutes in total of “foreplay” that doesn’t do it for her. Then sticks it in, thrusts a bit and goes to sleep. Doesn’t understand that sex is meant to be good for her too. Thinks a wife is just something you cum in lik…
/r/MensRights19/12/24 11:03 AM
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So… this will just depend on who you marry. And your skills at flirting, sex and emotional intelligence in general. You should look for a partner who’s got a similar sex drive as you outside of the honeymoon phase. If you marry someone with a much lower sex drive than you? You won’t have a lot of sex. Then begging and nagging for sex turns women hard off. The “hat in hand” is an Ick. Instead you should respect your wife’s boundaries. Maintain a relationship where you two are emotionally close. U…
/r/MensRights19/12/24 10:43 AM
1

I didn’t read it well enough. But if he wants to be useful: why not volunteer somewhere? Men who mansplain are not in fact useful, that’s the point. They explain things to women that women already know. Yes, you have to check to see what the new hire knows. But you don’t retrain them from the ground up if that’s not necessary.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 09:21 PM
2

Any new hire should obviously not be trained as they know nothing. That’s inefficient. You assess what they know. Then you train to fill in the gaps if there are gaps. Isn’t OPs post thinking mansplaining means men who express something negative?
/r/MensRights18/12/24 08:53 PM
1

I don’t like to give out so much personal information on Reddit. But it’s very specialized. And they come to get help with “highly specialized thing”. And then they try to explain to me how to do “highly specialized thing”. It’s a mix tho. Sometimes it’s benign. Just trying to impress me, which is socially clumsy but not sexist. Sometimes they just assume they are smarter than me and get my job better than I do. They don’t.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 06:29 PM
1

Research.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 06:17 PM
2

A lot of my male clients try to explain my job to me. Even if they are doing something for the first time that I do professionally. And even if they’ve booked an appointment to get help from me. However, it’s not always malicious. They are just trying to seem smart and impress me. But sometimes it’s just thinking they are smarter. It’s a bit exhausting tho.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 06:06 PM
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It’s man + explaining. Not man + complaining. People misunderstand that.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 05:29 PM
0

Haha. But it’s not man + complaining. It’s man + explaining.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 05:29 PM
1

But why do you expect a 1:1 relationship in rates? That’s not true for other crimes. And then it’s also not true for men’s and women’s sexual behavior and inclinations overall.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 03:09 PM
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Good idea. Btw mansplaining means explaining something bc you think women are dumb. Like your company hires a new computer engineer. She’s a woman. Bob from accounting tries to explain computers to her. Men are also allowed to have mental health issues. You just misunderstood the word.
/r/MensRights18/12/24 03:04 PM
1

Fair enough. We agree.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 08:49 PM
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But this post isn’t about that? It’s about dying alone. And you can’t go on strike to get a wife.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 07:34 PM
1

Fair enough, we need a lot of these jobs. Just like we need nurses, teachers, cleaners and grocery store workers. But what appreciation do you want exactly? Better working conditions and higher pay? That’s what unions are for. Better appreciation by the public? Do you find when working as a plumber or an electrician that the clients aren’t nice or grateful? I’d imagine most people are grateful and polite. Then some aren’t, bc some people suck.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 07:19 PM
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But you do understand that the payment for a job is money and not a wife, right? You can quit an infrastructure job if you like. A lot of them are going to be automatized or outsourced anyways. If all men do that? There will be some chaos and scramble till we’ve trained women to take those jobs. But that’s all. Women aren’t going to fuck guys to get them back into infrastructure jobs. Do you think they will? Edit: everyone is useful in society. And we should appreciate everyone for the job they …
/r/MensRights17/12/24 06:41 PM
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I’m wondering here: why do you expect the rates to be equal? If we think of motive: Overall men and women’s sexual behavior is different on average. Why do you expect it to line up perfectly in this case? Then if we think of opportunity? If I violate a man’s consent? It’s easy for him to just lift me off him and walk out. Flip the script and I can’t do that. When you are so drunk that you can’t defend yourself any longer? Well, many men can’t get an erection either. So motives are different, opp…
/r/MensRights17/12/24 06:05 PM
0

Back in the day? MeToo was a FaceBook hashtag. It wasn’t about accusing anyone. Women just posted “me too” on their social media if they had experienced sexual harassment. And as an awareness campaign? It was really powerful bc you could suddenly see how many women around you had been affected by sexual harassment. Then it ripped the bandaid off and just made people feel less stigmatized about admitting they had been sexually harassed or sexually abused. If you could get men all over the world t…
/r/MensRights17/12/24 08:25 AM
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I have always thought it should be used to raise awareness about men who’ve been sexually abused or sexually harassed. Doesn’t that make way more sense?
/r/MensRights16/12/24 08:13 PM
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Google child sexual abuse. It’s mostly men. Then my take? A lot of people misunderstood the question. This is why: 1) 1 in 4 women report being raped. The number seems too high for me, but it would make sense if people counted “drunk sex”. 2) The numbers for 12 months vs lifetime are so unbalanced for men. You’ll remember a drunk hookup three months ago, you won’t necessarily think about it years later. To me it makes sense that the study is overestimating sexual assault. Which it has also been …
/r/MensRights16/12/24 11:00 AM
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Well, the studies from NISVS 2010-12 that I quoted showed the statistic as 1 in 5 but the study you quoted is from NISVS 2016/17. Regardless since there are no reliable lifetime stats for men, so there is no point in comparing them to women’s lifetime stats. If you trust the NiSVS then that should be able to give you reliable lifetime stats, right? Considering men underreport such instances even on anonymous surveys , I suppose they would only report such instances when they are at least serious…
/r/MensRights16/12/24 08:37 AM
1

What the question is here tho: what do you think might help? What will you do about it?
/r/MensRights15/12/24 11:48 PM
0

Ok, you are not angry. Sure. But why would women owe you sex?
/r/MensRights15/12/24 05:09 PM
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Hysterical women? Here’s some logic for you: adjust your expectations and you might feel less angry. 1) Not every date will end with sex. Most dates from dating apps? No spark. Hence why it might be better to meet women socially in real life. But no matter what? Not every date will end in sex. 2) Two people have sex when they both feel horny and are mutually attracted to each other. 3) This is also true for relationships. You’ll only have sex when you both want it. Logical advice: make sure she …
/r/MensRights15/12/24 04:39 PM
0

Good for you, I guess. But most progressive women refuse to date conservative men. And it usually works out fine. Why? Well, being progressive is pretty normal among educated, attractive men in 2024. A lot of the men women find attractive are also feminists. It’s not a truth if it’s just true for some men. Or, it’s true for them. But not for everyone. You missed my point about sex entirely. You can’t have good sex with someone who deep down feels women are either sluts or innocent madonnas. That…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 04:35 PM
0

But at the same time: the vast majority of men get married. 45% of women make the same or more as their husbands. Most couples match in looks, bmi and socioeconomic status. A lot of men want a girl who’s both hotter and more charming than they are too.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 04:30 PM
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It’s not true. 75% of men get married. Think they are all 6’5 blue eyed and what was it, finance bros?
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:23 PM
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Probably. But intelligent people have information literacy. Meaning they understand the difference between what someone says in a TikTok/YT (often to get influencers and gain money) and what is real life. And they have a real social life and social intelligence that allows them to tell the difference.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:22 PM
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You can want sex. If nobody else wants sex with you? You won’t get sex. You can feel whatever you want. But it’s not logical to be angry, bc you weren’t owed sex to begin with. It’s not unfair you don’t get sex, if nobody wants to sleep with you. This is just how sex works.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:21 PM
1

Do you live in a little village? I mean since a woman who’s had casual sex will have had sex with your family? In big cities people who’ve had hookups have not had hookups with anyone you know. When you do not ask, nobody is lying either. Then if you are socially intelligent, you can hide things if you want. But if you are an open person, you can tell men you’ve had hookups if you want. Many women prefer to not date sexually conservative men and telling is a good way to filter your dating pool. …
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:19 PM
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It’s not normal for women to only be interested in a man’s money. Are you guys ever social in the real world? Then everyone should learn to be classy about sex and dating. Have your preferences and keep them to yourself. Date the people you like and reject the people you aren’t into. Done. People who feel the need to loudly voice their preferences? For both genders that’s usually people who are not doing well in dating.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:08 PM
0

Huh? But I just don’t get this whole thing where people are angry about this meme. 1) It’s a joke. 2) Even if you are too socially oblivious to understand it’s a joke: can you be angry if some girl only wants to date hot, successful men? That’s her choice. It would only be logical to be angry about it if you feel women owe you sex.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:06 PM
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But do you notice how you only see this on dating apps and social media? Most classy women are not voicing their dating preferences on social media. They also don’t use dating apps and instead date men they meet in social settings in real life. Most classy men never ask you about your body count either. It just doesn’t come up. Even if you end up in a serious relationship. Someone having had casual sex as a single person? Well, often it’s an advantage they’ve sowed their wild oats already and re…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 03:00 PM
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Huh? Men don’t owe women anything. Women don’t owe men anything. So a woman can choose to only date successful guys. Then that’ll work out for her if successful guys want to date her back. If not, she’ll be single. This is how dating works. Same as a man can choose to only date hot women. This will work out for him if hot women want to date him back. If not, he’ll be single.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 02:47 PM
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I think…. overall people need to stop voicing their dating preferences. It’s not classy or necessary. Reject the people you aren’t into. Date or sleep with the people you are into. The end. And this is also what most normal people in real life do. The internet gives people a distorted view of reality. Unattractive women will usually struggle in dating. Unless they are willing to date equally unattractive men. Which is what they usually do. Most couples match in looks. Body count? Eh. That one is…
/r/MensRights15/12/24 02:45 PM
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This is a joke. It’s based on a song. If you want to be on social media? Learn to pick up on jokes. Then nobody owes you nothing. Including sex or a relationship. So if a girl wants to date successful men? She can if those men want to date her back. Edit: most men get into relationships tho. This isn’t the reality of dating if anyone was confused.
/r/MensRights15/12/24 01:51 PM
0

But isn’t there a lot of truth to it still? Everyone is insecure. It’s not a big deal. Insecurity can however block you from making social connections. If it makes you too awkward, self absorbed or quiet in social settings. Then that’s something you might need to work on.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 10:27 PM
-7

Everyone is insecure. However to connect with other people? You need to learn to manage your insecurities socially. Or it’ll block you from forming human connections. Uncontrolled insecurities? It’ll come across as social awkwardness. And also it’ll make you too focused on yourself to really see other people.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 11:32 AM
-1

Everyone is disposable to society. You need to look for close connections to other people and then you won’t be disposable to them. Male friends, female friends, a partner.
/r/MensRights13/12/24 09:36 AM
0

Is this a movie? But yeah, robots can’t raise mentally healthy children.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 09:31 AM
-2

But a robot won’t be good at raising children. Those children would grow up with attachment disorders and a plethora of other psychological problems. Why can’t you do your part for the fertility crisis and raise your own babies? What’s the point in having children if they just see you as a random stranger that lives somewhere in their home?
/r/MensRights12/12/24 09:10 AM
0

I’ve been to therapy. I found it helpful. If someone is feeling suicidal? It should really be a priority. I’m not trying to be mean or come at him. I skipped the entire argument on how society was created. What advice do you have for him?
/r/MensRights12/12/24 08:45 AM
-3

How come? Most people don’t marry to get a sex toy and a womb. Sex toys for men already exist. Will you raise a baby alone?
/r/MensRights12/12/24 08:22 AM
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You can’t rape women to save the human race. That’s an oxymoron. This invention won’t be banned. But the question is: do you want to raise a baby alone? Will do you do your part for the fertility crisis?
/r/MensRights12/12/24 08:22 AM
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I’ve got no objections. I think most women won’t. Pregnancy and childbirth is so hard on the body. Do you think many men will take the opportunity to be single fathers? It’s 24/7 work for many years.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 08:20 AM
-3

Have you considered therapy?
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:57 AM
-1

You know it’s not socially acceptable at work to criticize other people’s dating life, right? The best strategy at work is just to smile and get on with work.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:56 AM
-1

Suicide rates are higher in men. This is true. However 80% of men definitely do not die by suicide. What you are describing about feeling disposable sounds like feeling lonely and lacking a social network. That’s hard, but it’s also fixable. Start doing activities where you can find friends. At first just look for male friends. Then expand. Go to therapy too.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:44 AM
-1

Were you ever in a relationship with her? Did she sleep with you? If you are just friends with a girl, that’s platonic.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:41 AM
1

But society doesn’t think all men are evil and will rape you either? Women are just careful around men they don’t know bc a rapist won’t wear a t-shirt saying “Hi, I’m Bob the rapist”. That doesn’t mean most women don’t trust and love many men.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 06:10 PM
-1

Think about it logically: most men do not care. They prefer to have some pretty girls in yoga pants around when they work out. A lot of girls also do not care. Some girls care bc they’ve been hit on too much at the gym or they feel uncomfortable when they notice men noticing their ass. For evidence: more women’s only gyms have been successful. That’s actually pretty solid evidence. Do you want recommendations for where you can hang out with only men? Bc I’ve got lots.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 06:01 PM
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Yeah. Fair enough. There’s a bigger marked for women’s only gyms. Doesn’t mean it’s big enough. Most people dgaf.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 03:33 PM
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But you know it was the Boy Scouts who choose to open to girls. Why? Money. Going bankrupt settling sexual abuse allegations. What did the Girl Scouts do? Sue for trademark violation. I could name 10 hobbies off the top of my head where you could go guaranteed to only meet other men.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 03:32 PM
-8

Well, they opened men’s only gyms and this is what happened them too. Maybe a lot of people dgaf?
/r/MensRights11/12/24 03:09 PM
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But men’s only gyms have been opened. There just isn’t the same marked for it. Maybe there would be if you relaunched it in 2024? But women go to women’s only gyms to avoid men looking at them in a sexual way. Men don’t have the same issue working out and many men like to see pretty girls in yoga pants.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 03:09 PM
15

That can vary. Different women have different sex drives. Then it’ll depend on how good your relationship is and how good the sex is if she wants to have sex with you. But yeah. Don’t get married for sex. Get married if you want to spend your life with a woman.
/r/MensRights11/12/24 03:05 PM
1

But are they? My experience is that many men are less willing to be vulnerable with other men than they are to be willing to be vulnerable with women. Maybe that’s exceptions? But idk. It seems a pretty common sentiment and why single men feel so lonely. Then vulnerability is called being vulnerable. Bc it’s a risk for anyone, anytime.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 08:12 PM
-1

But is the solution then for men to get more involved here?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 02:51 PM
1

Girl friend isn’t a lesbian. It’s a platonic friend. Then who cares if they want to date women and those relationships are more toxic? Men are still safe from these women. Women who hate men do not have sex with men. And in 2024? They likely won’t have kids either. Level up? I haven’t heard that one. But I assume it means that person feels there are a lot of men, but not a lot of high quality guys. Not a huge treat to men either, she’ll just reject them.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 08:41 AM
2

So if the child doesn’t integrate well in society, we should blame the dad? And the mother should have 100% custody till age 3? Then what?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 08:12 AM
1

So men shouldn’t have 50/50 custody for young children? And being raped by a parent won’t affect your relationship with the opposite gender?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 08:09 AM
1

Everyone can hit someone. Not everyone has a gun or knows how to use it. For women it’s often neither.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 08:09 AM
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Depends if she’s there or not. And if the father is actually taking care of his own child or not. You know most fathers today do a lot of childcare for children 0-3, right? This is a good thing.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:56 AM
-2

How many men are shot by women each year? Or killed by women with other weapons?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:55 AM
-7

Is it? How come?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:54 AM
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Wouldn’t that depend entirely on which relationship you have with your parents? If your father was your main caregiver, that would be the main attachment. But I wasn’t really talking about attachment issue. More that girls who are sexually abused by their fathers can grow up with an antipathy towards men.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 07:28 AM
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From a peak cynical perspective? There are women who hate men and men who hate women. Both are usually caused by abusive parents of the opposite gender. And then either no dating success or abusive relationships. Upsides with the women who hate men? Smaller than men, so less of a physical threat. And they just swear off men. They go “I never want to have sex with or date a man again”. And then they get cats and girlfriends and live sort of a parallel life. People often feel more troubled with th…
/r/MensRights10/12/24 06:49 AM
2

But answer my question: how many percent of men do you think feel they can cry and be fully open about fears, insecurities and sadness with their male friends? Bc my take? Men are very focused on this bc a lot of them see women as the only possible emotional outlet. Hence why also they struggle more with being single than women. They want to be vulnerable with women and not men. And this is a part of the issue in many different ways.
/r/MensRights10/12/24 05:25 AM
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So how many men do you think feel comfortable crying and being totally open about deep insecurities and fears with their male friends? Or being the grey worm so to speak?
/r/MensRights10/12/24 05:22 AM
0

I agree it’s a bit presumptuous. But it’s not just my lived experience. It’s how many mature healthy relationships are. Look at r/AskMen when this question comes up. A lot of men will mention how they have an emotionally vulnerable relationship with their wife. I think it’s more a mix of other things. 1) A lot of men and women are selfish and unempathetic. Date someone like this and they won’t be safe to be vulnerable with. They either will respond negatively bc they dislike having to put in eff…
/r/MensRights10/12/24 05:19 AM
1

How did she explain herself then? And you come worse out of this than the immature women. Because you seem more calculated and self serving, they just seem unstable.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 06:08 PM
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Women feel empathic and often sexually attracted to men when they show vulnerability. But this has some prerequisites: 1) Being in a close friendship or romantic relationship with that person. A lot of men expect empathy from strangers. 2) Sharing in the right way. A lot of men are not used to emotional vulnerability. When they share? It’s often in big, uncontrolled explosions without having built a mutual sharing relationship over time. 3) Being vulnerable is always a risk. That’s why you start…
/r/MensRights09/12/24 06:07 PM
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But… Isn’t the societal issue described here…mostly how men treat men? In most families the mother is comforting. The father is the one who pushes for the boy to “toughen up”. And then men could have emotionally vulnerable friendships with each other if they wanted to. Male culture is what prevents this, though many men have broken free of this and have found new and modern friendships. Then most young men are single these days, so clearly their social issues isn’t that tied to women. And health…
/r/MensRights09/12/24 05:32 PM
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I get someone might feel like this. But then a girlfriend isn’t the solution. A therapist is. Either you’ll feel like this due to severe trauma, serious depression or severe anxiety. Or something else. But it’s a sign you need more help than the everyday person can competently deal with.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 04:53 PM
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Are you saying you date women who are as emotionally immature as children for sex? Because that seems not worth it at all.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 04:52 PM
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But it’s a description of a mental health episode? Why are you dating these crazy and high maintenance women? They do not sound mentally healthy or fun to date at all.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 04:10 PM
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That’s nice of you to say. Thanks!
/r/MensRights09/12/24 11:26 AM
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Are you being ironic or genuine?
/r/MensRights09/12/24 11:18 AM
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But most women and men I know have relationships like this? I think it’s more that people misunderstand how to be vulnerable. And then that some women (and some men) are just selfish partners. 1) Being vulnerable is always a risk. For men and women. A bad partner? Won’t care or will use it against you. These people you need to break up with. A clumsy partner? Will say the wrong thing. 2) If you open up about untreated mental health issues (see another comment in this thread, https://www.reddit.c…
/r/MensRights09/12/24 11:04 AM
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Well, idk. Most men I’ve dated or have been close friends with? They’ve been vulnerable with me. It’s not a rare thing at all in adult relationships. Then sharing vulnerability is also how people bond and fall deeply in love. You can’t love someone hiding behind a mask or an emotionless rock. They’ll seem dull to you and you don’t really know them.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 10:53 AM
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But the question is: who’s ready for this? Most adult men would also be alarmed if their girlfriend acted this way. I’ve never been in a relationship where a guy would be fine with me acting like this. “Incoherent anger at everything and anything”? That’s for example not something most women or men will accept in a relationship. The whole thing is a description of someone with mental health issues they need to get treated.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 09:23 AM
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That’s no reason to quit your job till you have another one lined up when you rely on your income. Now OP isn’t just not getting promoted. He’s unemployed. That’s worse.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 07:16 AM
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Edit: I think it’s more that people misunderstand how to be vulnerable. And then that some women (and some men) are just selfish partners. ⁠Being vulnerable is always a risk. For men and women. A bad partner? Won’t care or will use it against you. These people you need to break up with. They won’t make a good life partner. A clumsy partner? Will say the wrong thing. ⁠If you open up about untreated mental health issues? Well, then that will be a dealbreaker for some men and some women. If you are…
/r/MensRights09/12/24 12:00 AM
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I’m gonna give you a real, not mean, answer: you are probably both depressed and anxious. In a social media rabbit hole and in a midlife crisis. And feeling awful. However: if you don’t quit social media and stop thinking of the patriarchy and young girls you’ll never sleep with, who are now the up and coming? You’ll go bankrupt. Your wife will leave bc she doesn’t get you going bankrupt over nonsense. Your life will go to hell. Get a male therapist. Deal with it. Bc you might just lose everythi…
/r/MensRights08/12/24 10:37 PM
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But what abuse? Are you sure you quit and weren’t let go for HR violations? And most people care more about providing for their kids than respect and honor. Edit: When I was 18, I worked in a nursing home to provide for my family. I changed old people’s diapers and pulled my back lifting them. And the honor and respect? Not in the job, but in putting food on the table. Idk, I think many men feel the same way?
/r/MensRights08/12/24 04:47 PM
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If you quit your job and give up an income you rely bc of T-shirts people wear at work? It’s time to go to therapy. It’s not a balanced decision to take.
/r/MensRights08/12/24 04:25 PM
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Mostly, you vastly underestimate how limited the supply is in this world. Really want to get knocked up? You can find a man on Tinder who’ll have unprotected sex. Takes less than ten minutes. Or in any bar. Is it ethical? No. But that’s another discussion. There’s a lot of sperm out there is the point.
/r/MensRights08/12/24 03:30 PM
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Nobody forgets actual abuse. Why? It’s traumatic and memorable. The idea of “repressed memories” has been proven false. What is forgettable? Drunken hookup. What is illegal: having sex with someone too drunk to consent. What is not illegal? Two people drinking at a party and then having sex. If they were both still capable of consenting. For most men? Once they are too drunk to walk and talk, they’ll also be too drunk to physically be able have sex. Exceptions apply. Either we accept that 1 out …
/r/MensRights08/12/24 12:50 PM
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Questions: 1) What was the lifetime prevalence of rape for women in these studies? 2) How clear were they about sex under the influence of alcohol, and how possible is it that people will have answers yes if they have had a drunken hookup? Some of these studies come out with 1 out of 4 women have been raped. Why? People mix up drunk sex and rape. Similarly male college students might do the same. In reality these studies might show too high prevalences for both genders. The fact that lifetime an…
/r/MensRights08/12/24 11:53 AM
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Circumcision and drafts: isn’t this a call made mostly by men? Nobody is in favor of sexual abuse. Most feminists are opposed to both circumcision and a draft. Should we really try to make the world better by threatening to rape women?
/r/MensRights07/12/24 07:58 PM
1

But by that logic most short American men are also fat, so?
/r/BlackPillScience07/12/24 03:56 PM
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No, it didn’t. “More likely” doesn’t mean most short guys date fat chicks. Even if most short guys date smart, slim girls: if more short guys than tall guys date fat, uneducated girls it’ll be more likely.
/r/BlackPillScience07/12/24 09:12 AM
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Oh. They actually see that. The whole tradwife influencer thing is peak irony.
/r/MensRights06/12/24 08:58 PM
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Except she probably makes bank on social media. It’s making a career out of pretending not to have a career.
/r/MensRights06/12/24 06:25 PM
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Good luck with that. They’ll seize your assets and then draft you to the war on Ukraine. But at least you won’t run into many pesky women on the frontlines. Have fun!
/r/MensRights06/12/24 10:54 AM
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But does it? Since there are so few MRA, don’t you think women will just date men who aren’t. It’s a solid point that most women will still identify as feminists. But do you think you’ll get all men to break up with their wives and girlfriends if they have a good relationship?
/r/MensRights05/12/24 07:40 PM
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But most men can’t afford that and they do not want that. And normal guys aren’t going to divorce a wife they are happy with just bc of a Dump The Feminist Day. Do you think they will?
/r/MensRights05/12/24 06:18 PM
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Stay at home man? If you want a traditional relationship, you pay all the bills. Is that unclear?
/r/MensRights05/12/24 03:40 PM
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You can make an International “Dump Your Abusive Partner Day”. No need to gender it. But do you imagine men who are in a healthy relationship with a feminist will dump her that day? Do you think all men want traditional relationships where they pay all the bills and she’s a stay at home mother?
/r/MensRights05/12/24 02:11 PM
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Warning signs of abusive relationships: https://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics-for-healthy-relationships/warning-signs-of-abuse/ Then I just can’t imagine a feminist wanting to date a men’s rights activist, so I don’t really see how this day would be useful? How many of you are currently dating feminists?
/r/MensRights05/12/24 12:33 PM
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How does this make sense? All of these crimes are very rare in women? There are a lot more male rapists than female serial killers.
/r/MensRights05/12/24 08:40 AM
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But the cry porn on social media? It’s made to market. Some men love to watch this for sexual/revenge reasons. Some women get this and make cry porn. It’s a genre. Single women are just as happy or happier than married women according to science. It’s the single men who struggle.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 10:49 PM
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Well, single women are loving their careers. And most women? Not single, they end up married with children. Most men too. Most people meet their partner socially and that part of dating just hasn’t changed much. Dating apps don’t work well, but before there were none, so that’s sorta same same. Kids are struggling in schools bc of the pandemic, iPads and smart phones.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 06:03 PM
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I see that. And I don’t mean all men are stronger than all women. And I’m not active in any feminist communities. But look at this (sub doesn’t allow links, had to remove). TwoX is known as the most toxic manhating space on Reddit. And still they go on and on about how much they like their husbands and boyfriends. I could also pull another post where a woman posts that the internet is making her hate all men and people immediately jump in to tell her she’s being brainwashed by social media?
/r/MensRights02/12/24 06:40 PM
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Most men will not punch you hard enough to knock you out. You just hold them so they can’t move. Have you ever playfought a woman?
/r/MensRights02/12/24 05:01 PM
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Where do you see this women fighting women in real life? How often do you see it? And what’s the ratio compared to men fighting men? And that list won’t protect women. Women usually encounter violence and sexual assault from men they are dating. Or ex partners. Not women or random men who are strangers. A man wants to rape you? He’s not gonna nope out of that one bc you look down and avoid insulting him. Most women take a lot of security precautions. Do you doubt this? Including taking a lot of …
/r/MensRights02/12/24 05:00 PM
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Why? Well because a kick in the groin is maybe the only chance I’d have to stop a man. If I hit him? Won’t affect him much. If I try to restrain him? I’ll fail. If I tried to shove him? Unlikely to succeed. Eyes or groin if someone tries to rape or kill you as a woman. Why? Women are on average much weaker than men, and have no chance without fighting dirty. Personally: I don’t start any fights. But I also think it’s nonsensical to discuss this without mentioning how easy most men can defend the…
/r/MensRights02/12/24 04:53 PM
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But why seriously hit back? You can just restrain her. Are you dating very big women?
/r/MensRights02/12/24 04:48 PM
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You will rarely ever need to break a woman’s nose to stop her. Unless you are very small and she’s very big. Push her, then restrain her? If this happens in public, like in a bar, security will likely intervene quickly.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 04:46 PM
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Women don’t fight each other every day. You just clicked on a video of women fighting on TikTok and now your algorithm thinks it turns you on, so you get endless women fighting videos. That’s not my fault. Then yes, both men and women have to take safety precautions. Do you imagine women take less safety precautions than men? However, there’s common ground. Men are scared of being attacked by other men. Women are scared of being attacked by men. Neither men nor women are worried about being atta…
/r/MensRights02/12/24 04:33 PM
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The act of self-defense must be proportionate to the danger. https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/self-defense
/r/MensRights02/12/24 03:33 PM
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I don’t think you understand self defense laws. I’m not allowed to hit my boyfriend. I also do not do that. However, if I did hit him? He could easily save himself without doing anything dramatic. A small push or just restraining me, and he’s safe and the danger is neutralized. So if I did hit him? Which would incidentally not even leave a noticeable bruise? Well, then it’s hard for him to defend why he punched me square in the face and broke my jaw/nose/eye socket, and gave me concussion. Legal…
/r/MensRights02/12/24 03:21 PM
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But most men rarely get into fights as adults? And women basically never fight each other. Then most relationships? Also include no fights. Physical violence has no place in a relationship, if the person being violent is male or female. It’s abusive. However people will feel more strongly about a husband hitting his wife than the other way around. Bc he’s more likely to severely injure or kill her. She can’t stop him from doing that, and self defense is unlikely to help. Then since self defense …
/r/MensRights02/12/24 03:17 PM
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But both doesn’t make sense? 1) I think men and women aren’t that far apart in a fight. Who know who’ll win? Thus a man attacking a woman and a woman attacking a man is same same. 2) Men and women are not comparable in a fight. The man always wins. He’s a much bigger physical threat to her than the other way around. So it’s worse when a man attacks a woman than the other way around. Pick one.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 03:08 PM
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The last thing makes you sound crazy. And it was more in a post about what to do if a woman hits you. Personally, if a dwarf tries to attack me? If the dwarf is armed, I’ll go full defense mode. Bc that’s dangerous for me. If the dwarf isn’t armed? I’ll just lightly show him and he’ll end up on his ass. I won’t try to break his face. If someone’s tiny wife punches them barely leaving a mark and they break her face? Eh, I’m gonna judge that. Proportional force is the name of the game in self defe…
/r/MensRights02/12/24 01:40 PM
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Idk. Y’all think women attacking men is exactly the same as men attacking women. So clearly quite a lot?
/r/MensRights02/12/24 01:07 PM
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But the suggested treatment here? Not being allowed to be rude (both genders) and having to raise your hand before speaking (both genders). Is this wrong? Then not putting quiet girls next to disruptive boys. Teachers have often done this in the past, using the girls as a sort of pacifier. Do you think it’s bad they don’t do that anymore?
/r/MensRights02/12/24 11:04 AM
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It can be used for emotional manipulation, sure. But it can also be used to be kind to others, to be a good partner and to be good in bed. Many men are also emotionally intelligent. Thinking that not being able to understand other people is a win is a weird take.
/r/MensRights01/12/24 05:38 PM
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But….they are not? 90% of domestic violence shelters accept male victims. Want to test it? Call a shelter close by you. Say you are a man looking to escape your violent relationship. See what they say.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 11:20 AM
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I’ve heard of them. Neither is relevant in 2024. Today men’s shelters are opened without protests, and with champagne and ribbon cutting. So why not start many, many more? When it’s finally possible?
/r/MensRights23/11/24 11:15 AM
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Currently shelters are just being met with celebration. Should y’all celebrate that and take the opportunity to build many, many more? Women organized women’s shelters. Most of them were just in existing building the women bought or rented.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 11:06 AM
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Well. Since they were met with just celebration, why not go together and open more? Unless y’all are too lazy to do that?
/r/MensRights23/11/24 10:55 AM
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There are many men’s shelters in the US too. Has anyone here considered starting up one or volunteering at one?
/r/MensRights23/11/24 09:42 AM
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Yes. And if you have a medical incontinence issue, your therapist will understand. You shouldn’t have to pay or need to offer to pay. At least as long as you are taking the same precautions as people with periods: wearing diapers. If you have IBS with uncontrollable diarrhea and you go out in public not wearing diapers? People will have an issue with that.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 09:41 AM
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Have you ever been to therapy? Because it’s often very emotionally intense and you won’t be paying so much attention to anything else. And good for your wife. But all it takes her is a gush of blood not caught by the pad/tampon as she was getting up. Given that you have a wife: do you at least realize it’s different from peeing?
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:47 AM
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Not really, because it’s not that common. It can happen, it won’t happen often enough that you’ll need plastic couch covers.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:40 AM
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Make you in tune with the universe? What kind of woo woowoo bs is that? Accidents happens for two reasons: 1) Most commonly you suddenly bleed intensely much and you’ll bleed through your pad/tampon. 2) Sometimes you’ll start your period entirely unexpected.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:37 AM
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Ofc it’s not the same logic. Unless the person is incontinent and has to wear diapers bc pee is just leaking out? Do you think the client wasn’t wearing a pad or a tampon? Of course they were. But sometimes women will bleed through their pad/tampons anyways. It’s not a perfect solution. Do you sometimes accidentally pee on furniture? Because otherwise you can’t really compare. You can’t hold in a period the way you hold in pee. Did you not know?
/r/MensRights22/11/24 11:17 PM
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But you do understand that it’s not the same as peeing? Right?? Or are you incontinent? Do you sometimes sit on the couch, get up and realize “oh no, I peed myself again”? You can’t hold in a period. You can get one unexpectedly. You can bleed through tampons/pads unexpectedly. It’s not like she whipped out her dick and pissed on the couch on purpose.
/r/MensRights22/11/24 11:06 PM
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Approach women in social settings. In general approaching women outside of a social setting (street, subway, gym, store) will not go too well. If you want to date a girl? You can have a casual talking stage, but then ask her out. Don’t turn it into a full on friendship. She might not be into you at all, you’ll waste your time and get hurt. Joining salsa class can be a way to meet women. Just look for someone you vibe with, don’t hit on everyone in class. And make sure you aren’t being too sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 07:39 AM
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Most couples meet in social settings. Like at a party or another social thing with friends and friends of friends. Not on the street, not on the subway and not on an app.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/24 03:22 PM
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And 100% of the ones where you don’t aim at all. Just start with some normal conversation, what’s wrong with that?
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 11:40 PM
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But the thing is that it sorta matters how women feel about this? If they don’t like it, approaching them will just end in rejection.
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 08:59 PM
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1) I was talking about in a dark alley at night. The quote was about men shouting. 2) Approaching random women in public? Usually won’t work. Most couples meet in social settings, like through friends of friends or at a party. Then a bar is also a social setting, but you usually won’t do well in a bar unless you show up with friends and fit into that specific bar scene. If you have to approach in public? Don’t say that. It’s too full on from a stranger on the street. Make normal conversation and…
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 08:26 PM
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If someone shouts that after you when you are walking down the street? Well, yeah. That’s cat calling. It’s not normal behavior.
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 08:14 PM
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That’s what not the study said. It said context matters. In some situations a remark can be cute (like on a date) and in other situations the same comment can be scary af (dark alley at night). “You have beautiful eyes” is an example of this. Then some types of comment will be scary anywhere and from anyone. Like “I want to bang you, b*tch.” Then if two people are mutually flirting? Flirty remarks are being invited. Vs a stranger you are not flirting with will be a whole other story. This is the…
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 02:51 PM
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Could this possibly be linked to the high rate of sex work and sugar baby relationships in poor Asian countries? Not many men are sex workers.
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 08:49 AM
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Attraction rarely grows if it doesn’t arrive after the first few dates. Just end it. It’s not kind to her.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/24 03:01 PM
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You realize it’s often the biological father who does this, right?
/r/BlackPillScience11/06/24 05:20 AM
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Psychosocial difficulties (eg, depression) and psychobiological conditions (eg, hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis dysregulation) that have been shown to be related to both childhood abuse and obesity may help to explain these results. Doesn’t this make y’all just feel sad though? And some women report it as a defense mechanism. They get fat on purpose because they feel safer when they are unattractive.,
/r/BlackPillScience10/06/24 08:50 PM
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So you are in college now? And who are these girls you are talking about? How many girls are you friends with now? It’s hard to know what girls think and want, if you aren’t close friends with many girls. Who are your peers? All the guys at college? Or just the guys you know?
/r/ExRedPill03/06/24 06:23 AM
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But aren’t many of them in relationships? Doesn’t that tell you that it’s not such a huge issue overall? You need a social life to get a girlfriend. Often people will just be wild for someone new and different. I wouldn’t read into it that much, unless they aren’t dating Black guys at all. And I mean as adults. It’s common not to date in high school. Which girls are you really talking about?
/r/ExRedPill02/06/24 08:28 PM
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1) The Black men you see around you, are they all single? Where I live the young teen girls all crushed on boyband members. And then they grew up and fell in love with someone they connected with in real life. It’s just a life phase, like girls being obsessed with horses. 2) Do you have a social life where you meet girls? 3) School can be hard. Especially if you feel bullied and excluded. But in itself it’s not kafkaesque or traumatizing to be in high school and girls not wanting to fuck you. Th…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/24 10:04 AM
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For me personally I don’t feel sexual attraction unless there’s a romantic spark and a sense of connection. Even if the guy is hot. That doesn’t mean I feel less desire, just that my desire is more laser focused on men I have romantic feelings for. It’s a different way to be sexual. Does it mean you are less sexual? No. Is it worse? No. Does it mean the 80/20 thing is true? Not in the slightest. Guys I have felt a romantic connection with have often not been popular with women, but just guys who…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/24 12:22 PM
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Look for social groups for people with ASD. That can be a good way to meet someone similar to you, who’ll get you when you are being yourself.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/24 09:58 AM
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Are there no young people your age where you live?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/24 08:33 PM
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You join hobbies and activities. That’s where grownups make friends. Then you make male friends and whatever friends. Once you have a few friends it’s easier to make more. And then you are invited to social stuff where there is women. If there are hardly any people your age where you live? Consider moving.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/24 11:18 AM
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Ofc appearance matters. Doesn’t it matter to you too? But do you flirt with women?
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 12:42 PM
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But that’s also because most criminals are men. 99% of murders are committed by men. Look at crime stats. The only category that men don’t beat women is solicitation.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 05:54 PM
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But is anyone justifying police brutality against men? Police shootings towards men? Inflating police budgets? Increased police presence in areas with many men? No? They are just saying they’d rather be in the woods where there was a bear over a man. Usually because they have never been harmed by bears, but they’ve been harmed by men. So it’ll be easier to sleep knowing the bear is out there. That’s a feeling people are allowed to have. Edit: a better example is “who would you share a bed with?”…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 01:35 PM
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Humans aren’t a bear’s natural prey. The bear just want to be left alone. People live in woods were there are bears all their life and they are still fine. But this isn’t a logic puzzle. It’s really about how women are so scared of strange men that they’ll feel better knowing a bear is out there than a man. And that’s a societal problem. Caused by the frequency of sexual harassment and assault. When women answer this question, they remember times men have scared or hurt them. That’s what it’s ab…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 01:08 PM
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It’s subjective in the way where it relies on sexual chemistry between two people. Someone can be attractive without you feeling any sort of sexual chemistry. Or they can be ordinary looking, yet your desire for them is fire. Then just look at couples on the street. Most of them are two sorta unattractive people in love to put it bluntly.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/24 01:09 PM
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https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066 HIV also transmits in other ways than sex. Gonorhea is a niche STD. Look at how few catch it compared to the others. Edit: 1-2 million sex workers in the US. Most are women. That will explain a lot. Their STD risk is through the roof compared to the normal population.
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 06:10 PM
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https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 06:10 PM
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Different STDs transmit differently. No, women aged 18-24. 20% didn’t have sex last year, 60% only had sex with one guy. 80% in sum either had sex with one guy (most cases will that be boyfriend) or no one. Edit: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066 See the supplementary data.
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 12:51 PM
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HIV is obviously higher in males because gay sex is a much bigger risk factor than straight sex. Higher risk of transmission. Then gonorreah isn’t more common in women than men because women sleep around more. It’s just that women get it more easily. In fact studies on male vs female sex partners over a year? Little variation. There are a bit more men not having sex at all. But not a huge difference. Then most women are either having sex with their boyfriend or not at all.
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 12:17 PM
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A gonorrhea infection is caused by Neisseria gonorrhea bacteria. It can be sexually transmitted by vaginal, oral, or anal means. After just one episode of sex with an infected partner, a female has a 60% to 90% chance of being infected by a male, while a male’s risk of being infected by a female is only 20%. https://stdcenterny.com/articles/std-risk-with-one-time-heterosexual-encounter.html That’ll explain it.
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 11:09 AM
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Overall women more easily catch STDs than men. Meaning is she’s got an STD he’s less likely to catch it than if he’s got an STD. Then women are also more likely to see an OBGYN regularly where they’ll get STD testing as a part of the checkup. Also: female sex workers will be at high risk for catching STDs.
/r/BlackPillScience27/03/24 10:55 AM
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That’s not how that works. Most women aren’t having hookups. They either just never or they try it a few times, realize it’s bad sex for women and kinda boring, and nope out. Some women are having lots of hookups. But they are a small minority all the guys compete for. Hence only a small minority of guys get a lot of hookups. 80% of girls aged 18-24 had sex with either 0 or 1 guy last year. Most of them were just sleeping with their boyfriend.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 11:45 PM
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That’s just reality though. Most women aren’t into hookups. So there are few hookups available. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a girlfriend who’s wildly attracted to you. Or a great sex life. Most of the sex people have in this world is in relationships. Women have the best sex in relationships. Why don’t you want a relationship?
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 10:32 PM
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Do you want a girlfriend who you have a great sex life with? Because most people can get that. Or do you want to fuck around a lot? Because that’s like 5% of guys and it’s no failure to not be like that.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/24 10:16 PM
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But my first point is really: the pool doesn’t shrink at 30. If you are a pretty girl at 25, you’ll still be beautiful at 30. People get older, but it happens later. The second is how it’s genderless. The third is that a smaller dating pool doesn’t mean you won’t get a great partner. People get into relationships not based on an Excel spreadsheet, but based on who they click with and have sexual chemistry with. It’s a bit about looks, but a lot about being similar people and being on the same wa…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/24 09:41 PM
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I think you misunderstood my comment. My point was that there is genderless aging. But 30 is way off. It’s more when people are genuinely middleaged. In their forties and fifties and beyond. 30 year old women look young and that means nobody gives a fuck. And the reason The Wall is a lie? 1) It’s pretending men don’t age and become less attractive when they get older. Blatant lie. 2) It’s pretending there’s a sharp dividing line when it’s more a slow downward slope. What are they imagining? You …
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 07:11 PM
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Two things can be true at once. 1) Both men and women get older. When you get older you’ll look a bit older. And also most people date people their own age. As you get older, fewer of the people your age will be single. These things can make dating harder both for men and women in their forties and fifties. There are just less single people to choose from and you also just have to get onboard with the fact that your options have aged physically. Still people can fall in love at any age. 2) The i…
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 03:08 PM
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But just test it? Ask out women. See if they all just say yes to whoever bc they want a boyfriend. Try Tinder. Idk. You don’t need a study to prove that grass is green. Edit: there will be some women who’ll settle for whoever. Or jump into a relationship on the first date. But most women would rather be single than be in a relationship with a guy they aren’t into. And they date for a while to figure out if the guy is right for them or not. If women didn’t act this way, it would be easy for men t…
/r/BlackPillScience02/02/24 09:43 AM
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That women won’t get into a serious relationship with any random guy just so they can say that they have a boyfriend?
/r/BlackPillScience01/02/24 05:26 PM
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People had to get married if you go back in time. Women weren’t allowed to work or they were just raised to be homemakers. so to survive they had to find a husband. Now women have incomes and careers, so then there’s no point in a relationship unless you fall in love. Is there? But most people still don’t have crazy standards. They just want a romantic spark, someone they click with, someone kind. But yeah, you won’t marry a guy just because he’s got a job, if you don’t vibe with him. Why would …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 07:23 AM
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Men in their late twenties. 80% of married couples are 0-5 years apart. Big age gaps ups your divorce risk.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/24 08:30 AM
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But if you look at the chart, the items were attractive women were the most picky compared to less attractive women? Emotional maturity and the desire to settle down and have a family. But yeah, I think we read it kinda similar overall.
/r/BlackPillScience13/01/24 08:09 AM
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From the article: A minority of women—notably those low in mate value who are able to escape male mate guarding and the manifold costs of an exposed infidelity—will pursue a mixed mating strategy, obtaining investment from one man and good genes from an extra-pair copulation partner (as the trade-off model predicts). Since the vast majority of women secure genes and direct benefits from the same man, however, most women will attempt to secure the best combination of all desired qualities from th…
/r/BlackPillScience13/01/24 07:54 AM
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But what’s that got to do with anything? You see from the article: 1) Most women look for it all in one guy. 2) What they want isn’t just good looks or money. They want kindness, emotional maturity, someone who’s good with children, someone who’s smart. 3) From the introduction: Most people end up with people similar to them.
/r/BlackPillScience13/01/24 12:05 AM
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Click on the post OP made. Edit: the things were attractive women wanted more: «We sought to examine four clusters of expressed preference traits: (1) traits that have been hypothesized in the scientific literature to be indicators of good genes: masculinity, physical attractiveness, sex appeal, physical fitness, and intelligence (Gangestad et al., 2007; Miller, 2000); good investment ability indicators: potential income, good earning capacity, education, ambition and industriousness, favorable …
/r/BlackPillScience12/01/24 11:55 PM
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The things attractive women especially wanted more of and scored higher on than anything else? Emotional stability and maturity, wants children and wants to settle down. It’s like y’all don’t even read the articles.
/r/BlackPillScience12/01/24 11:52 PM
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From the article “ (3) traits hypothesized by the current authors to be good parenting indicators: desire for home and children, fondness of children, emotional stability and maturity, and kind and understanding (the latter pair—kind and understanding—has also been hypothesized to be indicators of good investment proclivities—see Gangestad et al., 2007); and (4) traits hypothesized to be good partner indicators: being a loving partner, devoted to you, and loyal (perhaps best conceptualized as si…
/r/BlackPillScience12/01/24 11:46 PM
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Translation two: it’s very rare for women to do that. Most women just go for one guy, because that makes sense. And then how shocking is it really that attractive women want a lot?
/r/BlackPillScience12/01/24 11:41 PM
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Eh, you were right. I could have worded it way better. Have a fabulous Saturday you too!
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 06:03 PM
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It could be about sex. But I doubt that a lot for 4 hrs per day. My bet is on depression/escapism.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 04:53 PM
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It’s an escapism thing. Like watching tv. It’s not about sex. But it could be about being tired or unhappy. Or just very passionate about reading.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/24 12:12 AM
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Dude. What? Getting old is a privilege. Sex isn’t everything there is to life. Why not enjoy life when you have it? And people can find love at any age. I didn’t mean to imply they can’t. Edit: not everyone is off the marked at 35. It’s constantly changing. Some women haven’t met the right guy yet or they’ve been too busy with career or family. Others end a relationship that didn’t work out and find themselves single. There’s no age where you are too old to date.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/23 05:15 PM
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That’s not the wall. The red pill “wall” is that no woman over 30 is sexually attractive and men have no interest in them. This is nonsense. I’m old now. But I’ve been 30 and single. I’ve never been more popular with men than right then. Thirty is a good place to be because you still look young, but you are also more confident and have a more mature, interesting personality. Idk, in the real world women have no problems dating in their early thirties. Most men just don’t give a fuck, as long as …
/r/ExRedPill26/12/23 04:53 PM
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Everyone gets old. But that’s the ironic thing. The red pill thinks women get old at 30 (most women still look young then) and that men look equally attractive at any age (no). The reality is that men and women both gradually get older. It’s just not instant and it’s not at 30 on the dot. It’s more as you push 40. Then the big issue with dating that the red pill also denies that most people (including most women) prefer to date someone close to their own age. 80% of married couples are 0-5 years…
/r/ExRedPill26/12/23 01:27 PM
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It’s not the red pill in itself. But the idea that women hit a wall? That’s an idea men want to believe when they crave “justice”. That the hot women who rejected them in their twenties will pay for it. Edit: but deep down the redpill in itself is a form of insecurity. Or trauma if you like. Because they don’t believe anyone can just love them for them.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/23 09:26 AM
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Are you very young? Because then 15 years can be quite an age gap. Rest of it is bs made up by insecure men who want women to be punished for not fucking them in their twenties. Think about it: how would anyone marry if women were useless after 30? And why would they be used up? Do you feel your girlfriend has got nothing more to offer this world?
/r/ExRedPill25/12/23 11:27 PM
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Idk. I think people are often just drawn to people who look similar. But some are cultural/capitalist influenced beauty ideals too. It’s mix of things. Some things are in our culture and can be shifted. But overall looks will always matter in dating.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/23 08:01 PM
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You realize Tinder is 80 % male and 20% female, right? Which means only about 20% of the guys will have a match there. Look at couples on the street. Most of those guys aren’t rich supermodels with giant ducks. (Typo, but funny, so left it). They are just normal people. Masc presenting though. That’s a thing. Most straight women will be more attracted to men who dress masculine over feminine. But most isn’t all. There’s a lot of different people out there. Some ethnic groups struggle more with d…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/23 12:09 AM
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But did you see the % of women who have conservative as a dealbreaker? Dont remember exactly, but think it was 66%. And you don’t need to know anyone’s voting habits to figure out they’re toxic. Red pillers will throw out more red flags than a communist parade. Women who’ve got very low self esteem/an abusive background might overlook it, but the rest will pull back snappishly. Like for example negging. It just turns normal girls off. It’s not sexy, it’s just an ick.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/23 11:27 PM
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Spend more time being social. Small talk with all kinds of people. Get more friends. Try to understand people better. Go to more social things. Talk to girls like they are just people. See what happens.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 11:15 AM
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Yeah. Some of them. Most don’t. The ones who do, date women who’ve had abusive childhoods and think abuse is all they deserve. Or girls who are young enough to take advantage of easily when you’re a grownup. Do they have healthy, happy relationships? Hell no.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/23 10:01 PM
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Could just be anxiety. Is it a problem when you are by yourself or just with a girl? Also, could be SSRIs. Talk to your doctor, you could maybe switch to another one, see if you have less sexual side effects then. Or it could be depression, that can cause ED. Most women don’t get off by PIV anyways. You could still sexually satisfy your girlfriend.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 08:17 PM
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Hyposexual represents a huge challenge in finding a long term compatible partner. At least for women. Why? Because most men will want a relationship with a healthy, frequent sex life. If you look at the studies done on couples, the average couple struggles with his libido being higher than hers. And you can’t have sex unless you desire it. If her sex drive is way lower than the average woman? Chances are that long term that will not be a successful relationship. She’ll want sex rarely to never, …
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/23 07:05 PM
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I’m sorry. That was bitchy. I didn’t mean it that way though. Was just my initial reaction, but I can also be excited by science and ramble on. What do you think are the real world implications of hyposexual vs asexual though? Edit: l’ll read the article about couples. However to me, it can be a chicken and egg effect. They say that through a relationship men’s tenderness towards their partner declines. For many women this type of romantic affection is a prerequisite for sexual desire. When the …
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/23 01:50 PM
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It is a fascinating topic. I just don’t see the link between this and dating. And did the relationship studies you looked at examine emotional connection and romance? I think a lot of men tend to let the emotional connection slide in a relationship once the honeymoon phase is over. And for many women they’ll have no sexual interest in their partner if they don’t feel emotionally connected to them. Then maintaining an emotional connection over time also takes skill. Edit: I’m actually intrigued t…
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/23 10:58 PM
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But what do you base this idea on? Like, why did you end up thinking this specific issue doesn’t exist among all others? And if you are so “hyposexual” you never want sex, what difference does it make? Personally I think we underestimate how many women have a low libido. I just feel I’ve got so many female friends who simply don’t see the point of sex at all and can go sexless for years without even noticing. But in relationships it’s more nuanced though. Then it can also be lack of emotional co…
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/23 10:14 PM
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But why do you think asexuality doesn’t exist?
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/23 05:08 PM
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Good game or sex in a relationship then? Those are the ones left. The last thing was just someone saying they should trust my opinion about the fucking flowers because I’d made another comment in another sub that even if you are in a relationship your partner doesn’t owe you sex. And that’s why that got brought up.
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/23 11:19 PM
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I think common sense is good for everyone. Don’t bring flowers on a first date, a girlfriend isn’t a free hooker.
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/23 11:37 AM
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That’s actually not the majority of my posts at all. And then: you do you. Want to bring you date flowers on a first date? You can. But at least make sure you do it in a confident, laidback way. I wouldn’t though, I don’t think it’s good game. I think a lot of women might feel slightly turned off by it, because it makes you seem a bit inexperienced, overly eager to get a girlfriend and like you are trying to hard to impress her and see her as a bit out of your league. Coming on too strong is sel…
/r/BlackPillScience25/11/23 01:40 PM
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If you are chill, confident and the other person is crushing on you, you can pull a lot of things off. Doesn’t mean that showing up with flowers is objectively a good move. A very confident, laidback and chill guy showing up with flowers would come off as cute. But most of the men who have the idea to bring flowers to a first date are in the opposite group. They have this idea because they haven’t dated much, are really desperate for a girlfriend and very nervous. And bringing flowers then would…
/r/BlackPillScience25/11/23 08:58 AM
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But I’m not theorizing that women find it unattractive when you act like you aren’t their equal. Or like you are desperate for a girlfriend and would date any girl. It’s really a gender neutral thing. Date and act insecure, clingy, needy, submissive and like you are below the person you are dating? This will work out poorly for men and women. You’ll repel anyone who’s got dating options and isn’t abusive. They’ll think that you are below them and find you less interesting compared to the men/wom…
/r/BlackPillScience25/11/23 08:52 AM
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I think you are just overcomplicating it. In the 50s and 60s, it was normal. So women liked it. Now it’s not normal. So women don’t like it. It’s like 50s clothes, you can’t show up on a date with a hat,. In relationships people want an equal. If you seem too needy, you seem like you think she’s above you. If you are cold and her like she’s bellow you, she won’t like that either. People just want to feel like it’s an equal. Edit: another way to look at it is that if a guy comes on really strong …
/r/BlackPillScience24/11/23 09:34 PM
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Depends on how far along you are. You go on a date with someone you’ve been getting to know for ages and you already clearly have a crush on each other? Flowers are cute. First date with a stranger or someone you don’t know very well? Most first dates won’t lead to second dates. Flowers just seem over the top and make the other person feel that you have too high expectations of the date. Women want commitment, but they want to get to know the person first and figure out if it’s right. They don’t…
/r/BlackPillScience24/11/23 07:52 PM
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It’s not chivalry. It’s just not understanding what’s normal and common. It’s a great idea to bring your girlfriend flowers. It’s not a great idea to bring a first date flowers, it’s coming on too strong and putting too much pressure on it.
/r/BlackPillScience24/11/23 06:41 PM
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Well, if you buy them flowers too soon, that’s not going with the flow. Flowers are the kind of thing you get after you’re boyfriend and girlfriend and you’ve been sleeping together for a while. It’s not an early dating gift. That was a thing in 1950. Edit: dating is about displaying social competence. Getting your girlfriend flowers on your 1 year anniversary? Great. Showing up at first date with flowers? That’s not understanding modern social norms.
/r/BlackPillScience24/11/23 06:47 AM
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1) Four years is no age gap unless one of you are 18. 2) I never got more attention from men than the year I turned 30. 3) Don’t let men with little dating experience explain dating to you. These muppets have no idea what they are talking about. Did you see the IG post about the red piller who bragged about hanging out with two young girls in their early twenties? One of them replied under the post. She said they were both in their thirties and sex workers. He just couldn’t tell, with the age st…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/23 06:33 AM
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That’s never been enough. You also need to meet a woman you click with and you need to flirt with her. Often the reason someone is single can be found in some aspect of their social skills. Have you asked your therapist about that?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 08:33 PM
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That’s a normal looking, fit man. Then that’s not your problem. Do you ask women out?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 05:42 PM
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Do you flirt with women? Live healthy (exercise and normal weight)?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 05:25 PM
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How are your social skills? Do you have friends and a social network?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 04:34 PM
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Mostly it’s about social skill. If you look at couples most of them are not models and there are a lot of odd ducks out there dating other odd ducks. But dating is a social activity. When people lack the necessary social skills, they can be left out. Both because you need a social network to meet people and because everything about dating is really about social things.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/23 08:56 AM
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They are just a bit dumb and yeah someone is just making it up. Or thinking mice and humans are sorta same same. Which is quite a leap.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 04:43 PM
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Pair bonding is from research on a specific type of mouse: the vole. Are you a mouse? If no, you don’t have to worry about it. Humans and mice are pretty different. How do you think pair bonding would work in humans? You touch a woman with your dick and then she’ll love you forever? I’m sorry if it’s disappointing, but a penis isn’t that magical. Love and sex aren’t the same thing. You can have sex without love and love without sex. You love someone because of the emotional connection you’ve bui…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 03:39 PM
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Yeah. A lot of men have extremely simplified versions of women’s lives which is basically “luxury”. And that’s not quite getting how like all people life is different for everyone. And most people have their challenges and hardships in life
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 03:01 PM
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You can do it now? But be aware that reality might be more awkward and less exciting than you imagine. There’s a lot of bad sex out there. Only 10% of women had an orgasm on their last one night stand, compared to 70% in a relationship. And you have to be totally at peace with the idea that someone will sleep with you and then ghost. It’s how one night stands work, but that doesn’t work for everyone. However if you are on board with both: why not just go for it? Unlike OP you can just try and se…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 02:47 PM
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Well, most guys didn’t. Then a lot of girls also didn’t. Then very few guys and some girls did. But realize you didn’t miss that much, right? Sex with random people is rarely that good. It’s often awkward and forgettable. It’s not something that’ll change your life. Love is a revolution. But random hookups? It’s like eating some fries and then afterwards not much has changed. At best. Sometimes it’s ordering fries and being served a cabbage.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:59 AM
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I think you are depressed and then bc you are depressed you get stuck on this one thing. That’s typical of depression. You didn’t miss out. There’s hookups to be had at any age. But it might not be your thing, if you are like many guys. It’s not about time.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 10:55 PM
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But then maybe see a therapist? Your experience is the same as most guys. It’s not weird or abnormal. Your reaction to it says that you might be depressed or something. Then there will be people at any age looking for causal sex, so that’s not the problem. But you might be like the typical guy and still not get many hookups.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 10:52 PM
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Most men won’t have sexually promiscuous lives. It’s normal. It’s not something to think about. Most women might have slept around a bit more, but it was seldom memorable. It’s not something to think about either.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 10:44 PM
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Well, if you have any understanding of what love actually is, you know it’s fucking nonsense.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 11:34 AM
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I think it’s a pretty common occurrence. And it’s also just a great test. Some people, men and women, won’t react great to vulnerability. They might appear uninterested, want to focus on themselves instead, get annoyed with you for creating “drama” or use it against you later. These are the people you can’t date. And it’s not specifically women, men do the same thing. Then some people will react in the emotionally healthy way, where they’ll feel more bonded and caring towards you. And more into …
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 05:50 PM
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In my experience when men I’ve dated have been emotional, it has made me want to sleep with them. You just feel closer to them emotionally, which leads to feeling more in love, which leads to wanting sex. Also, you’ll want to comfort them. People are different though, but I’m pretty basic and this is a pretty straightforward chain of events. Emotional intimacy leads to a deeper connection and stronger romantic attachment.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 05:29 PM
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I think you just lost your friends because you expected to get sex in return for friendship and in reality you get friendship in return for friendship. Then you can’t get mad that they don’t want to continue the friendship now. And apology is to own up to a mistake and take responsibility. Hopefully it can help the person you hurt. An apology doesn’t mean you’ll get the relationship back. Often you don’t.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/23 02:15 PM
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I think the more important thing to consider is that having a high body count won’t suddenly make you happy. If you weren’t happy before, you’ll still be unhappy.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/23 09:41 AM
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Well, there is the slight downside that you’ll never be able to have a good relationship if you join the red pill.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/23 10:39 PM
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91 % of couples met offline according to a 2023 study. The End.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 05:54 PM
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From Wikipedia about MRA: Many scholars describe the movement or parts of it as a backlash against feminism.[2] As part of the manosphere, the movement, and sectors of the movement, have been described by scholars and commentators as misogynistic,[3][4][5] hateful,[6][5][7] and, in some cases, as advocating violence against women.[5][8][9] In 2018, the Southern Poverty Law Center categorized some men's rights groups as being part of a hate ideology under the umbrella of male supremacy while stat…
/r/ExRedPill24/09/23 01:34 PM
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Because MRA is a lot about being against women’s rights, not just being for men’s rights. A lot of the content is pretty misogynistic. They talk about the homeless men etc, but that’s just an issue they push in front of their real agenda. They haven’t got much interest in opening homeless shelters. Most of them just want to yell at women or have a reason to see themselves as victims. If you create a men’s rights association that’s actively working on actual men’s issues, nobody will have an issu…
/r/ExRedPill24/09/23 12:32 PM
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Dude, why do you expect feminists to do something about the draft? In a foreign country they don’t live in even? It’s like if I work in an organization that’s focused on old people’s rights. Then if you have an issue with some children’s rights issue, that’s not going to be something my organization is working on. The feminist movement is focused on women’s issues. If you want something done for men’s issues, go to an organization that works on men’s issues. Or start one. And mainstream feminism…
/r/ExRedPill24/09/23 12:13 PM
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«Women and children first» isn’t a real thing. When it was, it was just about logistics. The smaller women would be trampled by the bigger men in event of panic and then their bodies would clog the escape routes. So if you get the women off first, there’s less clogging and everyone has a better chance at getting out alive. But it’s not a thing anymore. Most feminists are either against the draft or want a gender neutral one. Most Western countries haven’t been to war in 80 years though, so much …
/r/ExRedPill23/09/23 02:58 PM
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Every woman doesn’t starts out conventionally attractive. That’s not how that works. Not every thin woman is pretty.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/23 06:39 AM
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True that.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 11:06 PM
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Huh?
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 11:06 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 10:52 PM
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Haha. But it’s still clear it’s made up by men who only notice models and someone miss out on the rest of women. Women are born high value, bc they pretty. It’s very, very daft. Tells you how disconnected from reality those people are.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 10:47 PM
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Well, this logic is flawed in many ways. It’s not true. But to just consider one of them: what about women who aren’t attractive? How can they be born high value when according to this nonsense their value is all in their looks?
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 07:15 PM
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But it doesn’t matter if you are gay or not. When you sell sex, what you are selling is sex without being attracted to the other person. That’s why it costs money. Otherwise it would be free. Many sex workers are asexual or gay women and they still sell sex to men. And read interviews and AMAs with sex workers. They rarely enjoy the sex. When talking about their jobs, they talk about how to deal with the smells, the men who get violent. Often they don’t enjoy sex at all, even in their private li…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 07:22 AM
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Would you sell sex to gay men if it paid better than your current job? And science supports that women and men have a different interest in casual sex. Life also supports it. Try Tinder as a man and a woman, or go to any party. That post was just trying to explain how it might be cultural and if women were more ruthless in their choice of sexual partners (choosing more sexually experienced and attractive guys), they’d get more sexual satisfaction out of it and thus have more casual sex. However,…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/23 08:04 PM
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A lot of people do have social lives. And there aren’t that many women interested in casual sex. Sure, they might try it occasionally. But very few women regularly have sex with new strangers. So the supply is just very low. We know this from studies about people’s sexual behavior. Sex isn’t a right. If you want intimacy, but have some issue that means you don’t have many dating options? Well, you can get emotional intimacy through close friendships. You can cuddle with a pet or get a massage to…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/23 06:35 PM
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Women have sexual desire. And people are different, so some women will be into hookups. However what we do know from science? Women on average have a lot lower desire for sex with strangers than men do. You can have a sex drive without having any interest in sex with a stranger. Especially since casual sex is rarely sexually satisfying for women. According to a recent study 9 out of 10 women did not orgasm from their latest one night stand. And what I said about sex work is that for many people …
/r/ExRedPill20/09/23 05:32 PM
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Most women have no interest in hookups. Most couples meet in social settings, like through friends. Join some hobbies and activities, get friends. Paying for sex won’t make you feel better than buying a sex you, bc you know that person doesn’t want to sleep with you.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 06:10 PM
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I think “find most women attractive “ is an exaggeration. Men do find many women cute. But there are also many women few or no men find attractive.
/r/BlackPillScience29/08/23 06:13 AM
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But people don’t start a relationship with you unless they are attracted to you. And I’d said women have as varied taste. I find it easier to guess which girl is hot than which guy my female friends will be into. And they rarely agree at all. My point here is that someone being jealous proves nothing except them feeling insecure. You can be jealous af even if your girlfriend never looks at another guy. Just pay attention. The people who are very jealous often have no reason to be. It’s something…
/r/BlackPillScience28/08/23 09:58 PM
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The sad thing is that due to the RP cult, you will never get the way more common story of two people bonding or someone doing something kind for their partner and that resulting in desire.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/23 07:44 PM
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No. Like the other poster sorta said, people confuse sex with not being lonely. People need people. So if you don't have friends or do much social stuff in your everyday life, you'll feel depressed. That's a big reason many of the sexless men feel awful. They don't have sex, but they are also very lonely in general and that's their big issue. Then having a good relationship can be good for your self-esteem and make you feel loved and supported. But that's not about sex either. Sex just by itself…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/23 10:26 AM
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They are just using him for fame/money. I really doubt they actually find him attractive.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/23 01:34 PM
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A lot of guys do better with women in their late twenties/early thirties than in their early twenties because they gain confidence, social skills, hobbies, friends and careers. But that's about it. Everyone gets older. Young girls don't want fifty year old men to hit on them. You are right, it just seems creepy and delusional.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/23 10:59 PM
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Well, it is good for your mental health and working out will make most people more attractive. You have to separate weight lifting as the hobby where the goal is trying to lift the most and people just wanting to get fitter.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/23 07:23 AM
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So I'm either ugly or have an empathy level of the Netherland's average sea level... Haha. Or options: 3) You don't have a big enough social circle that you meet enough girls in social settings. 4) You haven't found your form yet socially. Attraction for women is a lot about confidence and social skills. 5) You haven't met the right person yet.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 06:06 PM
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Do you actually have any first-hand experience to back that claim up? Pretty sure there are a few steps missing... Which steps do you mean? Sexual tension just means there's mutual attraction between you. When two people meet up, their conversation flow and they find each other attractive there's sexual tension by default. But then you can enhance it by flirting. I did skip a few steps. But my main points where: 1) Start a normal, lighthearted conversation. If the person seems completely uninter…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 03:35 PM
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How do you "gauge" a vibe? Without having to rely on PUA? Just sort of feel if she's leaning into the conversation or pulling away from it. If she seems bored, disengaged, likes she wants to bolt or if she seems smiley, happy, asking questions back. And then as the conversation moves along, just feel if there's sexual tension there. If words feel loaded, if there's a lot of eye contact, if you both move closer to each other or accidentally on purpose touch each other. Idk, I struggle to explain …
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 02:08 PM
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Do you even listen to yourself? How would a lesbian's dating and hookup advice on women help a normal guy? If I'd pull her stunts, I'd probably be jailed or banned from clubs... How do you think lesbians hit on girls? Because it's not like in porn . I'm straight, but if I was trying to seduce a girl I'd do it in the way that most girls like. I'd start by just having a normal conversation with her and feel the vibe. Either you sense there's some mutual interest there or not. If she didn't seem in…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 12:55 PM
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Instead of being jealous, why don't you ask her for some dating tips? And then also just remember "comparison is the thief of joy". It's an old saying, but it never stops being true. Edit: I'm not queer, but I'd also consider that LGBTQ dating might be different from straight dating. That is something you could talk to your friend about. It's not always easy to just compare different life situations either.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 12:34 PM
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I've read that 39% study. They asked people "where did you meet your latest romantic interest?". That can just be a girl you texted and hoped to go on a date with, who ghosted you. When the PEW report on online dating in 2023 ask couples "where did you meet your partner?" only 9% said dating apps. For young couples between 20-30, 20% had met on dating apps and 80% had met offline.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/23 08:47 AM
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According to a recent study only 9 % of couples met online. Most couples still meet in social settings, through friends is the most common way. The people we should worry about aren't the normal looking, but the people without a social circle. Edit: need a social circle? Join an activity or hobby.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 05:01 AM
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Well written and on point. You sound like a kind guy, with good perspective.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 08:38 PM
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This was very well written and compassionate.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/23 08:29 PM
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That's a fair point. I mostly agree. I think there's a layer to romantic relationships that lets you understand more. At least with men, who often struggle more to open up. But it's not a necessity to understand the other gender. Just drunken hookups with strangers won't give you much. In comparison friendship is a much better teacher.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/23 10:24 AM
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Of course that makes no sense. If you want to understand people, you need to have deep relationships with them. You need to get to know them over time with long conversations, vulnerability and seeing how they move through life. Btw get an STD panel, just to be safe.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/23 11:44 AM
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I think a simple solution for this is to just buy some condoms and practice using them. Also, if things don't work out perfectly it doesn't really matter, as long as you just explain it's not about you not thinking they are hot. You're insecure, they are insecure, that's why everything gets messy. But it's easier when it is someone you are dating vs a hookup. You'll know each other better. I think just date someone normal, who likes you. When you are crushing on each other and you really like a …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 08:08 PM
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What do you mean, more? What girls will expect is mostly than you care about them having fun, that you communicate with them and that you care about their boundaries and comfort. For girls it's pretty common to not come from the sex part and need to get off in another way. If you get them off before y'all have sex, then they will happy either way. People are different though, so listen to what they want. But this often works well. Or if you get them off after, but then you might not be in the mo…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 07:41 PM
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The hard part of sex is making women orgasm. You usually don't do that by the actual sex anyways, it's more like what you've already done. So I wouldn't worry too much. If it makes you feel better, just buy a sex toy and you can practice.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:37 PM
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You don't have to tell. Nobody owes you their sexual history, bar STDs. I wouldn't tell a hookup. If it's a girlfriend and you already talk about deeper things and know each other pretty well, you can tell. If you read up about sex, they won't know. Sex isn't that complicated. And with a new person it'll be a bit clumsy no matter what. Then you seem to be ahead of the curve anyways. On the other hand I can't really blame the girl if she finds it laughable or a turn off. It's not laughable. But i…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:28 PM
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No. The escort won't teach you about sex or making women come. To her it's not a sexual experience. She's just letting you use her body and acting. A lot of women won't date men who've used sex workers bc they see it as unempathic to sleep with someone who's consent you bought. Buy a sex toy and read a bit about sex. You are already making women come, that's the hard part.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 03:14 PM
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What I think: To be fair to you, people are allowed to not date anyone for any reason. That includes partner count. It's just weird to have casual sex, but judge the people who also have casual sex. A big part of the reason it's weird is that you are judging the people you are having sex with, for having sex with you. It just doesn't add up. And it rare. Guys who have a lot of casual sex are usually fine with marrying a girl who's also had a lot of casual sex. They'll understand each other and h…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 08:57 PM
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Obesity in most people is the result of something you do But they aren't saying it's wrong to be obese. They just aren't sexually attracted to bigger men. And then it's up to their dating luck if they find fit men who are into them. Some men are into bigger women, it doesn't always work out the way you think it will. And sometimes the end result is that they'll stay single. Either way, you can't date someone you aren't attracted to. But it's not like a guy isn't sexually attracted to women who'v…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 07:49 PM
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"Wanting a slim or normal BMI man even if you're an obese woman is a A-okay !" These are two different things. One is about looks. A small girl can still like big men. A girl with long hair is still allowed to like bald men without having to shave her head. Also this sub: "Wanting a low n-count woman if you're a high n-count man is literal misogyny !" Bc that's about something you do. You shouldn't think that it's wrong for other people to drink beer, if you drink beer. That's hypocritical.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 07:39 PM
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Yeah, but just look for roommates who allow pets. Many people have pets these days.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 07:17 PM
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Just quit your lease and move in with someone seeking roommates.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 04:40 PM
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He just always tells me how much he hates to live with me therefore I hoped for this scenario That's just a power play. He won't ever leave. Do you feel he's dangerous? What would happen if you just moved out?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 04:15 PM
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We are both at university and have not much money, especially as we live mainly on my resources, but I hope so much that he will move out himself after graduating He'll never move because this is perfect for him. He'll leech of you and abuse you till the end of time. Is he on the lease?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 03:23 PM
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Go to the website loveisrespect.org And gather strength to leave. You'll feel like you again once he's out of your life. Consider going to therapy, a therapist might support you in this process. But don't go to therapy with him, go alone. If you can, just pack up your most essential stuff in a bag, go stay with friends/family or get a new place. Go AWOL on social media, get a new phone number, leave without telling him and don't give him your new address. Alert security at your workplace, if he …
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 09:02 AM
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You live in a fantasy world where things are happy because you are woman. That's not how it works. Your life isn't amazing just because you are a woman. You realize many women are unattractive, right? And also that bad things in life happen to women too? People alone in theworld are less prone to be seen in the streets because they go out less. I know. And this is sad. But if you have no friends or active social life, you won't meet women. You should join some hobbies and activities, make some m…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/23 05:49 AM
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If you refuse to talk to women you probably won't have a relationship This was the Reddit post you shared. A guy who was so socially anxious he couldn't talk to women. Ofc he doesn't have a girlfriend. A girl who's so socially anxious she won't talk to men will also be single. It's sad that people are this socially anxious, but it doesn't tell us much about dating. I am a pretty good conversationalist and didnt have success. But do you have a social network? Do you have friends, go to parties, m…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/23 05:45 AM
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His problem is that he's too scared to talk to women. If you refuse to talk to women you probably won't have a relationship. That'd not women's fault. And no, the men I've dated have been very normal.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 09:04 PM
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You need to watch less TikTok and YT, and spend more time with people in real life. Then you'll meet many very ordinary men who are in relationships with ordinary women.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 09:03 PM
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The men aren't getting girls. Well, a lot of men are in relationships. And 80% of couples are 0-3 years apart.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:30 PM
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If being kind was necessary to get girls, then nice guys would also get girls. No, bc being kind isn't the only thing necessary. You also need to click with that specific person, you two have to connect and be able to talk easily, and you have to be their physical type.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:29 PM
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Girls try actively to defend serial killers and other psychos. Which girls are you talking to? Bc normal girls are very disturbed by serial killers. That's like the least attractive thing ever.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:20 PM
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It makes sense to explain the world too. Most men don't have power. So they are invisible. But then look at all the normal couples in this world. The men aren't all powerful. Although you are right about abusive relationships, my point here is how they actively seek these men because they usually offer things they instinctively want. A lot of abusive relationships start as normal relationships. Abusers are very good at seeming great & kind in the beginning.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:18 PM
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Because women like power What do you base this on? Women don't all like the same thing. Some women like a guy who's a CEO or whatever, other women date the guy who's a physiotherapist. Why they get stuck in these toxic relationships with these guys when they could easily find a better one? Bc people, both men and women, who get stuck in an abusive relationship lose the confidence that they deserve better. They also feel guilty leaving someone they love. They often are also scared to leave bc the…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 07:00 PM
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Studies show (from memory): many are autistic (25%?), the socioeconomically disadvantaged are overrepresented and it's more common in some ethnic groups (like Asian-American men who might struggle more on dating apps). There have been done multiple studies on this.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/23 08:54 PM
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Bond with your girlfriends. Talk about your lives. Laugh so hard your stomach hurts. Like a boys night.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 03:18 PM
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Yeah, if I said a guy always seemed sweet and nice, that would be me defending him.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 06:24 PM
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If I say a guy is sweet and nice it means I think well of him. If I think he's sweet, nice and sexy, I'll consider dating him. If he's sweet and nice, but not sexy, I won't consider dating him. If he's not sweet, not nice, but sexy, I won't consider dating him. And everyone is rejected in high school, no need to take it to heart.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 02:33 PM
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For one thing you don't feel like a winner because someone sleeps with you, but because they love you and choose you to spend their life with. And then you get to decide your own dealbreakers. Everybody does with dating. But if you had the opportunity to have more hookups, wouldn't you? You've already had hookups, so it doesn't seem like you feel sex is just an expression of deep love in committed relationships. Do you? And if you think sex can just be casual and for fun, why should she feel dif…
/r/ExRedPill28/03/23 09:48 AM
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Make female friends. Not to date them, but to get used to talking to women. Hell, make male friends. Get used to talking to people. And you just go a bit jokey, but curious about the other person. Options: *Spin off the things they told you. Like "what made you choose that major?". "Oh, you moved here from Oregon, that's pretty far. Do you miss your family?". "What's your least favorite class and why?". *Spin of the party You can also move on to just talking about the party "Where do you know Bo…
/r/ExRedPill28/03/23 09:22 AM
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Sometimes this is just about wanting someone similar to you, with similar interests. A woman with a PhD might have more in common with a guy who also have an education. They'll be more likely to be on the same wavelength, have things to talk about, share references and values. That's ok. It's like a country girl might prefer to date a country guy. Bc they'll understand each other better.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 08:36 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 06:28 PM
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I don't know how common it is. 3.7 % of all children, way lower in married couples. And I'm not saying never get a paternity test. Girl you are casual sleeping with gets knocked up? Of course you ask for a test. But if you ask your wife of many years for a paternity test, then something is wrong. You should either get divorced or go to therapy. Depending on if it's about your anxiety or her being untrustworthy. If a guy I'd been in a serious relationship with for a year asked for a paternity tes…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 05:10 PM
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I couldn't imagine having a baby with a woman that would abort a pregnancy just because I asked for a paternity test. Probably because we view both abortions and paternity tests as different. An early abortion isn't a baby, it's just a tiny lump of cells. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/oct/18/pregnancy-weeks-abortion-tissue However I wouldn't let this grow into a real baby that had to live in a world with parents who didn't trust each other. And then I also wouldn't trust a man who didn'…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 04:20 PM
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It sounds like your social skills are holding you back. However consider that a lot of girls aren't looking for hookups in the first place. That's why it's so hard for men to get casual sex.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 09:05 AM
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Yes, that's perfectly ok. However you might have an easier time dating if you get down to a healthy weight.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 09:01 AM
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You change a lot from 20 to 30. At least if you make sure to be social, make friends, challenge yourself to be a part of the world. A lot of guys get more confidence and better social skills as they become more comfortable in their own skin. Like women also do when they get older. Since being socially intelligent is important to women, this means that many men will do better when they are a bit older.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 08:57 AM
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In real life it matters way less than on a dating app. Also, you aren't short.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 04:35 PM
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Well, people will rarely use you for your time. It's not fun to go on dates with someone you aren't into. It's awkward and boring. Money? Don't spend a lot on dates. Take girls for a walk in the park, get ice cream or hot cocoa depending on the weather. Go for cheap drinks at a cozy bar. You aren't supposed to spend a lot of money on dates with people you don't know very well. Just makes you seem desperate. When you get to closer with someone, you'll be able to tell if they are crushing on you. …
/r/ExRedPill11/03/23 10:26 AM
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Well, they've researched what makes people lose their sex drive in a marriage. Being married to someone who doesn't take responsibility for chores, cleaning and cooking does make women lose their sex drive. And lack of emotional connection in a marriage. The best approach: marry someone you do have good sexual chemistry and compatible sex drives with. If sex is an important thing for you, look for a partner who also has a high sex drive. And then do your part in the relationship and make sure yo…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 10:51 AM
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Exactly!
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 07:23 AM
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This is such a great point. They just bypass both real social skills and just growing a social circle (really important for dating) in favor of "game" which just makes most people seem off.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 08:31 PM
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Well, bc that's my secret plan ofc /s I just think it's insanity. Like putting a tracker on your boyfriend's phone. You either trust your partner or you should break up instead. If you think they'd actually do this. You realize people who cheat use birth control, right?
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 05:43 PM
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In my view you aren't rational, bc you don't understand the way relationships work. Did you get that it's way, way lower than 1% for adults in healthy marriages? Do you understand this doesn't happen randomly? I could pick that one couple out of a hundred. You could too.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 05:42 PM
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But that's when you have one baby and the hospital misplaces that baby. 15-20% of men cheat. Doesn't stop me from wanting a boyfriend, bc I trust my judgement to be able to pick one who won't. Same thing. I won't put a tracker on his phone, I'll find one worth trusting.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 05:40 PM
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3% or 1% doesn't matter. You can divide that number by a large number for adults in healthy relationships. Most of those children are the children of teenagers having hookups and not in committed relationships. And if that's the situation, you should get a test. And you know when your partner doesn't trust you. And then you'll leave, bc it doesn't work.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 05:38 PM
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1% of all babies, way lower for married couples is very rare. And it could determine your life either way. Push your wife to get a test, baby is yours, she leaves you.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 05:31 PM
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Option to have a stay at home wife who loves you? Sure. But it's very rare to find someone both traditional enough to want to be a stay at home wife and unconventional enough to accept you sleeping with other people, while loving you. And in general it's just rare to find someone accepting of a one-sided open relationship that does love you. Completely open relationship is easier, bc you can get that with two poly people..
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 03:55 PM
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Do you have an open relationship just for him?
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 02:17 PM
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That's logical. The only reason you might need a test is if you're unsure if they might have cheated or not.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 02:15 PM
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Have you ever been in a long term relationship? You don't make your partner constantly show proof they aren't cheating, you don't police them. You just either trust them or you end it.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 02:14 PM
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Oh no, I hate that vibe. That's what I meant with why it's a good question. If people answer like this, I know they aren't for me. If it's all about money/status/superficial stuff. I'm kinda old, but I went to a school like this once too and I know what it's like. But some of them are just very young and don't get relationships yet. They'll grow up a bit and understand what it's about more once they get some life experience. And others are just shallow. It's a good idea to do something fun on a …
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 09:13 PM
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I don't interview people to be my husband, I'm not on the hunt for one. I like to ask people this in general, both men and women because I find love fascinating. Not primarily as a date question, more as a "people in general" question. It can teach you something about what people look for and what's important to them. I've asked people I've dated this though, bc when they describe you then you know they like you a bit. And if that's not you at all, you might not be very compatible. Idk, overall …
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 08:19 PM
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When it comes to asking for what someones ideal partner is, its just pointless. It usually tells me a lot. Some answers will tell me we are very different people, have different values or outlooks on life. And other answers have told me things I didn't realize were important to people. Ask me? I'd say someone kind that I had sexual chemistry with. Who I clicked with (on my wavelength intellectually and emotionally). And who was compatible with me in everyday life. Meaning no big lifestyle incomp…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 08:04 PM
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Exactly. I see it the same way. If I get a nude picture from someone I have a crush on, I'll like it. If I got the same picture before I knew him? I'd feel nothing. And most men aren't like that. Try to join some hobbies and activities, make more friends, do social stuff with your friends. It's easier to get to know girls in social settings.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 09:07 AM
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Yes. But I think for many women it's about meeting someone you click with. Where there's a romantic spark, chemistry, a vibe between you. It's hard to explain, but you know how some people you have fun talking to for ages and some people conversation feels like pulling teeth? It's about meeting someone who's similar enough to you, on your wavelength. Most men need these things to fall in love too. But they don't need to have a romantic spark with someone to want sex. Vs most women do. That's my …
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 08:19 AM
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Honestly? Biology. Evolution made men (I'm being jokey here) slutty. If a guy sleeps with a 200 women in a year, he could get 200 kids. If a girl does the same, she'll only get pregnant once. And if she gets pregnant, the chance of her and the baby surviving in the wild goes way up if that guy sticks around.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 08:10 AM
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It's easier for women to find sex, bc most women are way more meh about having sex with a stranger than men. Hence low supply, high demand.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 07:58 AM
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I disagree that everybody settles. A lot of people just fall in love. A person doesn't have to be perfect for you to fall in love with them, but falling in love makes you feel they are perfect. And you only want That Person. We can see by the numbers of single women in their 30s and 40s that most women don't settle. And with women having careers and incomes now, there's way less reason for them to settle.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 07:57 AM
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I disagree, because it tells you something. It tells you about them as a person and their values, but also about what they find sexy. If a lot of people find the same thing sexy, that's sort of useful information. Like how many women swoon when guys are good with children and animals. It's partly "he'd make a good dad", but it's partly just sexy because you see "this person could be good at taking care of me. He's affectionate and empathetic."
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 07:54 AM
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And this can be anything hook up multiple parters This usually isn't something you can achieve by hard work alone. It helps to work out, but there are a lot of factors here beyond your control. This can even be an "unfair" arrangement where he sleeps around and she stays at home, if thats what he wants he must compensate her in some way or be equal. Is this really the relationship type you'd want? Because then you have a wife who's with you only for your money and doesn't love you. And it's real…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 07:49 AM
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How can I infer mental states from observing ambiguous behavior? People who are in love act in an unambiguous way. It's pretty easy to tell. No, they are not putting on an act. I don’t take your word for these mental states that you attribute to couples, when there are more mundane explanations. What is the mundane explanation? That all women are selling sex for money even when they have good incomes? It’s possible. Sure, towards models and actresses on screen. I suspect I’d quickly lose the cru…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:56 PM
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This is really hard for me to believe/internalize. Look at couples on the street that are in love (cutsey, holding hands, gazing adoringly at each other). Are all the men models? Disneyesque idealism It's not Disneyesque idealism to say we fall in love with people we are attracted to and can talk to easily, who are similar to us. Or falling in love is a neurobiological mechanism. Or that it just lasts a year or two, then people care about each other because they've gotten close. Or that many rel…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:43 PM
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Lol. So, all the married women planning a pregnancy are having sex with their husbands because they are attracted to them? Isn’t it just as likely that women have sex because they think it’s expected of them? How many babies are you planning on having? No, modern women aren't having sex just because it's expected of them. That's a century ago. And most women just won't marry a guy in the first place unless they are sexually attracted to him and in love with him. See: most women aren't hookers. A…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:01 PM
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This is why I think a lot of the advice in this sub about emotional connection yadda yadda, doesn’t work for men. It’s a terrible bargaining position to offer women something they have an abundance of already i.e. emotional connection. Because an emotional connection is partly why you fall in love. This sub hates to admit it but the only thing men have to offer is their earning potential, since two incomes are usually better than one. Not really. Most people aren't sex workers, so they won't tra…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 01:29 PM
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Two things: 1)Men are expected to initiate more, so men will tell women they are into them. Women might just be waiting for the guy to make a move and won't be so explicit about thinking a guy is cute. 2) Casual sex. Scientifically one of the few gender differences we can actually show is that men are way more into sex with strangers than women. So women will get a lot of offers of casual sex, men won't. And on the other hand because women are less interested in casual sex, men will be rejected …
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 09:12 AM
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Because being in love makes you feel vulnerable and insecure. You become scared of being hurt because you care. So then you are very open to all crazy conspiracy theories about how she doesn't really love you or she's not actually attracted to you. Alternatively, if you actually settled for your girlfriend just for easy access to sex and emotional support, then it'll be easy for you to believe she settled for you too. Even if in my experience (not science, just people watching): women are way le…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 08:06 AM
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I think you have a valid point. However, the content of the post: *If you are BlackPilled, you could realize that you aren't necessarily doomed after all. You might just need better social skills, a bigger social network or a new social scene. Clearly for this guy it's not about his looks so much as him being outgoing and having good social skills. *If you are RedPilled, you might learn that your solution isn't the right one and that you are barking up the wrong tree. People don't enjoy it when …
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:22 PM
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The point of the post is that even if you are shorter than six feet, not muscular or neurotypical, you can still do well with women. Aka the RP theory is wrong.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:53 PM
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The majority of people don’t get paternity test and the ones that do have about a 30% chance of it being a negative paternity test But the ones that do aren't the normal population. It's people who already suspect the child isn't their. Maybe they already know their wife had an affair. They are probably a selected group of....hmmm... 0.1 % of the population at best. It's not an everyday thing to do. The study says that like 100 times that there is no large population study on this issue The stud…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 06:24 PM
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one out of twenty-seven sounds pretty common to me. Like, if there were a lottery you could play, for a quarter million dollars prize, with a 1/27 chance of winning, everyone would play that lottery, even if it cost $700 for a ticket. That's not how it works though. That's an important part of my point. 1/27 are all children. And that number will also be lower today, when birth control is better. If you read the article it's not random. It's more likely if: *The parents are very young. *They are…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 06:43 AM
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Big meta-analysis (statistical summary) of many studies which ended up at a median of 3.7% of all children. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1733152/ Swiss study that reported 0.8% of all children: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7860087/ People think this is very common. Why? Brace yourself. DNA samples from fathers who suspected the child weren't theirs and paid for a test showed that 30% of them were right and 70% were wrong. People take this and run with it thinking 30% of all ch…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 06:37 PM
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Basically, people should have more of an open mind about this and not be so quick to become defensive or suspicious of someones motives. The best thing a couple could do is to have an open dialogue around their emotions, and leave enough space open for vulnerability. I agree with all of that. But leaving space for vulnerability isn't the same as accepting controling behavior. I'd be very patient with emotions and insecurity. But I just can't deal with a guy who can't take my word for it. Because…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 04:08 PM
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Trust, not thrust, or it becomes a different thing :) People are human, but grown-ups have to own their stuff. As in some things we can ask for and some things we can't ask for. We all are a bit jealous. If I get jealous, I might ask my partner "Are you into her? Do you think she's prettier than me?". And then he can tell me that actually he thinks I'm cuter and no, he's not into Laura from accounting. And I might ask: "why do you like me?" and he'll tell me why. That's your partner having some …
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 02:50 PM
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I’d argue that being defensive is a sign of insecurity too It's not being defensive to say "you either trust my word or this can't work". It's true. And it's also not being defensive to not accept controling behavior. Actions don't mean someone checking your phone. It's just not cheating and staying loyal over time.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 02:19 PM
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Bouts of insecurity or just need reaffirmation. But you can do this through just conversation and emotional reassurance. Which is normal. Everyone gets jealous sometimes, then you talk about it and reaffirm why you chose them and why they don't need to be jealous. Needing to check your phone is controling. Bc it implies not trusting your word. I agree it's less of a problem if it happens rarely, but I just wouldn't. Either they trust my word or we give up.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 02:14 PM
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The way I handle it, is like if I tell my partner I’m driving, I would give her a text when I arrive at my destination, so that she can feel comfortable knowing that I made it safely. It’s not a control thing, just a reaffirmation and comfort thing. But it is a control thing if they are checking your texts to see you aren't cheating. And this type of anxiety is never ending unless it's dealt with at the root. As an anxiety. After all, you could have a secret, second phone. Best put a GoPro on yo…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 02:06 PM
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I'd get an abortion, to be fair. Because I'm not having a baby with a guy who doesn't trust me. Then I can't trust him and having a baby with someone as a woman requires so much trust. Pregnant women are so helpless. They can't run, they waddle. They can't tie their own shoes. And then you have the whole birth thing, when you'll be lost in screaming and just need the guy to be someone you can lean on completely. And then you're tied to the guy for 20 + years, no matter if you break up or not. I'…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 02:00 PM
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No. Because all of them are "I can't trust your word". I'm not having a baby with a guy who feels that way. Having a baby with someone as a woman is putting a lot of trust in that guy. It doesn't make sense to trust someone who doesn't trust you back. It's also a bit of a dumb move, bc if you read the scientific studies on this, it's not actually a common problem. I don't want to date a guy who bases his life choices on TikToks.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 01:53 PM
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Well, I see it the other way. If a guy needs to see my emails, phone, texts and asks me to prove that our kid is his? I couldn't be with someone that distrustful or that controlling. What you freely share is different, but I'd still never just give someone free access to all my communication with others. You are allowed your own life in a relationship and that's ok.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 01:46 PM
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It doesn't mean that they suspect that their partner's cheating. But it does. If you trust your partner not to cheat, you don't need it.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 01:43 PM
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I think you should get a paternity test if a girl you are just hooking up with gets pregnant. That's just common sense when you aren't exclusive. If you are married or in a serious relationship? You don't. Same way you don't put a tracker app on your husband's phone. Serious relationships don't work without trust. If you suspect your partner of cheating or just can't trust them, you should consider ending the relationship instead. Or therapy for anxiety. Depends on if the reason is the other per…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 01:33 PM
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All of these are toxic. They also have in common that they don't represent the majority of men/women, but is just a small online community of people who struggle with dating. I think the FDS is nuts as a squirrel, but that's just me.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/23 09:45 AM
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My quote was a quote from the article you linked. Where are you going with this? What are you trying to show? If you wanted to say grown men should be allowed to date teenagers, then the study you linked said that it was better for ASD if they had their children with teenage boys. Can you specifically link any studies that eliminate pubescent pregnancies (under the age of 16) and control for obvious environmental variables? That sounds like a lot of work. Why don't you look for them?
/r/BlackPillScience22/02/23 10:07 AM
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Did you note how the article specifically said "the odds of ASD was unaffected by maternal age under 29"? Which genetic mutations? Bc genetic mutations are all rare. It is well documented that children who are born to teenage mothers have worse outcomes, including worse health, less schooling, and lower earnings in adulthood. Adolescent mothers have a higher risk of eclampsia, puerperal endometritis, cephalon pelvic disproportion and systemic infections. There's a higher risk of preterm labor, l…
/r/BlackPillScience22/02/23 07:59 AM
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No. It is an impactful experience I don't think most people feel it's that impactful. First time sex for most people: drunk, awkward fumbling in the dark for a short while. And then, that's sorta it. Skydiving is way more of an experience. Falling deeply in love? That can rearrange your brain a bit. Most people's complaint after losing their virginity: "I thought I'd feel different".
/r/ExRedPill21/02/23 11:27 PM
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Climbing is popular where I live, also among women. And it skews young. Try a climbing course? Hiking if there's a younger hiking group. Pub quizes are popular where I live too. Try to join hobbies with the goal of just expanding your social circle and getting new experiences. If you make a new male friend, he might invite you to something where you'd meet other people. Or, even if you don't make a friend, you'll have something fun to talk about on dates. Getting a social life where you'll meet …
/r/ExRedPill21/02/23 11:24 PM
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What does this tell us? If the main goal of society was to prevent autism, teenagers should only be allowed to have children with other teenagers, and no one else should have kids. We should also add that anyone with ASD in their family should probably not have kids at all, since it's got a strong genetic component. However teenage parenthood is associated with a worse outcome for the child overall. And autism isn't that common in the first place. So in reality: not much. Edit: "The odds of ASD …
/r/BlackPillScience21/02/23 04:36 PM
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The problem is that most RedPill beliefs don't come with nuance. And that's why it's easy to say they are wrong. When they say "all women are xyz" or "all women want abc" then it's just so easy to disprove and so hard to agree with. If their philosophy had been more nuanced, then they would be more in the right about stuff.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 05:04 PM
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It's men who think they should be paid back in sex for being nice. Instead of just thinking being kind and respectful towards everyone is the default and doesn't deserve any payment. And that relationships or hookups have a higher threshold than someone just being nice to you.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 02:28 PM
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Yeah, it's predatory and a big ick. Winning and losing? Think about who'll be happy in the end. Him? Nah, not a chance. The RP isn't a philosophy that can make you happy. You'll always come up short and sabotage any real connections you have. Her? Getting shouted at for not being a teen Brazilian model? Sounds like my idea of hell. You? You could be happy in the end. I believe in that. You have that kind of spirit.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:39 PM
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Do you want to date someone this dumb? Think the 18 year old Brazilian models are going to sleep with him? You sound like a much better catch than him. I think he's looking at a long stretch of being single and you'll find someone who is actually kind and not wildly childish.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 07:13 PM
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What do these highly romantically and sexually successful men have that men who constantly get friendzoned don't have? Two things. Most of them are just prettier. And then they have better ability at reading the room. Picking up vibes, being funny, making other people feel at ease in their presence, being comfortable in their own skin. And understanding how things will come off to the other person (as in not just "I meant this", but "she'll probably experience it as that".). Seeing things from o…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 09:52 AM
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So you have found very few seuallu attractive people in your life, right? Yes, that's my point. men who hookup with many women display way different personality traits from men who are seen as friends by many women And a lot of this is just better social intelligence. It's easy to misclassify it as something else. But the men I see having a lot of success with women are men who are pretty + have good social intuition. Like it's easy for them to be funny, read vibes, come across as charming, fun …
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 09:36 AM
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Most of the normal men I know have ended up in happy relationships with cute girls, once they finally found someone they clicked with. And the personality attraction isn't "you are a nice guy" or "he's a kind person". It's being on the same wavelength and it's just rare. Like, I've only met a few people I've really clicked with in my entire life. Idk, for me at least I've felt wildly sexually attracted to guys many other women haven't been interested in at all. It's a mix of them being a bit of …
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 09:28 AM
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Again, it's just my take. And that's such an important point. The RP spouts a lot of personal takes as "these are the facts!". You can't do this. I worded it a bit wrong, I might edit it. My point is that I think a lot of women don't feel physical attraction till they feel romantic attraction. So unless it's 1+2+3, they just feel nothing. Vs with men, 1 is enough for wanting sex and feeling physical attraction, but they need 1+2+3 to fall in love. And it's a mix of things, that adds up to a whol…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 09:09 AM
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My theory: I think attraction for women is a mix of things. Many women don't feel sexual attraction unless they feel a romantic spark. And a romantic spark requires several things: This isn't a scientific facts btw, just my take on things. The RP is really bad at separating scientific facts from personal theories. It's important. 1) You have to be a bit someone's physical type. Different women have different physical types. However a very pretty guy is typically a bit of a common denominator, me…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 08:31 AM
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It's a real issue. Getting flooded with "hey baby, wanna fuck?" on Tinder and dickpics on IG doesn't make people less lonely though. If you want friends, you need to invest in it. Join hobbies and activities. Look for men on your wavelength. Build trust and shared vulnerability over time. Accept that making friends is a long process. Women who do have close friends, have put a lot of effort in to find them. And many women are lonely too. I know many men with close male friends. It's not impossib…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 08:25 AM
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I am single and have a lot of close friends. My single guy friends do too. It's easier socially if you are in a relationship, but you can still have a good social life if you are single.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 07:56 PM
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But that's common for both genders. If you are in a couple, you get invited to more stuff.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 06:11 PM
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I think: start out by trying to make friends. Making guy friends might be easier if you are a guy. Join some hobbies and activities.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 05:54 PM
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There are a lot of studies that show women on average have lower sex drives than men. That's on average though, different people will still be different. Anecdotally (meaning not from scientific studies, just personal observations. Might not always be accurate in general ): I feel the difference in libido holds up with most men and most women you talk to. It's not like the average woman don't care about sex at all, but it's just way less of a focus than the average man. And then a bigger group o…
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 03:43 PM
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You probably need to meet someone you connect with. And relax more in social situations, then it'll feel less canned. Why not just try to teach yourself some things about body language and facial expressions? Like, watch reality shows, look at the faces people make and then listen to them describing how they felt. Or watch videos or read books about it.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 10:32 PM
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It does suck at times. But you don't need a romantic partner to have trust in others. Sometimes you won't believe you'll meet someone, till you do. But it's still possible to see that many women/men are kind, trustworthy and good people even if you don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend. That's not the same. And I never got to read your other reply before you deleted it. But I was sort of on to something, wasn't I?
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 09:59 PM
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Kinda like how my parents use2 just tell me no from time to time just to keep me humble and no other reason than that You shouldn't be treating your partner as a kid. I wouldn't refuse to reassure my boyfriend at random times, just to keep him on his toes. That's mean to him, but also manipulative. It's treating him like a lab rat, playing games with his mind, without caring how it'll affect him. Of course, it'll work. He'll get stressed out, try harder to get my reassurance. But it's not a way …
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 12:20 PM
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I think I'd easily misunderstand what you said, at least. Especially if it was someone I was a bit interested in. If you have a crush, you get a bit hopeful. So I could end up thinking "he's dating around, looking for a relationship. We'll end up being boyfriend and girlfriend". People are ridiculously hopeful when they have feelings. And in my experience just sex only works if both people are sleeping around. Then they both just want something fun and they both are seeing multiple people, so th…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 12:06 PM
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I say men cheat more because that's what scientic studies say. Women aren't leaders, they have a herd mentality? Come on, dude. The RedPill is a prime example of a herd mentality. Most of the members just let other people tell them what "female nature" is like and how to treat the women they are dating. And to stay single. Most people aren't leaders, some are. I am, even if I'm a woman. Everyone at work knows I'll be a boss someday. single women keep women single” - Kevin Samuels Not my experien…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 10:53 AM
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Good that you aren't rude or manipulative. so I released them from my roster to go out and try to find something serious because I don’t have sex with women who have sex with multiple men I'm very confused. If you are looking for sex and sleeping with multiple women at the same time, wouldn't it make sense to sleep with women who are on the same page as you? As in they genuinely don't want anything serious, they aren't looking for anything monogamous, they are just having sex with multiple peopl…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 10:22 AM
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Well, a more interesting fact is that if you are college educated and get married for the first time after 25, you have a 70% shot of being married forever. That's surprisingly good. It's important to be open about your own feelings, needs, boundaries and dealbreakers. If you felt you couldn't do that before, I understand that felt stifling to you. But that's not a specific RedPill thing. Common sense dating advice is to communicate your needs and look for a compatible partner. And end it if you…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 08:49 AM
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I had lot of social exposure as a teenager, I was still hopelessly awkward. You have to work on it conscientiously. Like the points I've listed. Read about social norms, read about non-verbal communication. Watch dumb reality tv and note how people act around other people. See their confessions later, where they explained how they felt at the time. Read Reddit posts where normal people talk about their problems with friends/dating/relationships. "How to win friends and influence people" have got…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 08:04 AM
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This is very on point. I'm just saying that it's also very silly, since women do often actually know what will work on women. Unlike Redpillers.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 08:01 AM
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Why shouldn't they? It's like any other skill, you have to work on it. I was a terribly awkward teenager, I'm quite smooth now, bc I'm old and I worked on it. Learning social skills is: *Get familiar with social norms. There are many unwritten social rules, but once you know them, you do know them. *Learning to read other people and their vibes. What do they do when they feel sad, angry, uncomfortable, happy, flirty? For some people it's easier to intuitively pick up on other people's feelings. …
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 11:00 PM
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Why was she uncomfortable? That sounds like either you wanted to communicate your interest in her, but went about it in slightly the wrong way or she's not the nicest friend. The safest thing to do when you are interested in a friend? Just ask them out on a date once. Be chill about it, say it's ok if they just want to be friends instead. And then if they say no or just give you some non-answer ("I'm very busy right now"), then you just close the case and pretend it never happened. Treat them as…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 10:50 PM
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But I have. What do you think I'm missing? And what about my post says dating is easy?
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 07:12 PM
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Oh, I've talked to a lot of guys about this in real life. But if you go back to my post, I'm not saying dating is easy for everyone or that "just do this and you'll get a girlfriend". I'm just explaining why I think the RedPill's dating advice is flawed and won't work. I'm not saying that dating is easy.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 06:30 PM
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Far worse? For some, not others. A lot of normal guys who do have active social lives end up meeting women they click with. Even if they are very average looking. I do agree to not pin your success on getting laid or finding a relationship though. It's too random.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 06:07 PM
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But if you want sex, you want to seduce women, right? And then you might want to know what women find hot or not. Even with a completely cynical perspective here, it would make sense to get some advice from women. To accomplish the goal.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 06:05 PM
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Tell me if it doesn't, I'll send it to you. It's not that groundbreaking though, just some random thoughts.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 05:52 PM
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I don't think a guy usually gets a lot of dates. You dont have to meet someone through a date though. You can meet them organically, at dinner with friends and friends of friends, at a party, at an activity. The risk is getting your heart broken. It mends again though. People get heartbroken and recover. But I see the RedPill as part insecurity and part wanting to eliminate that risk. Which you can't, except by not dating.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 05:24 PM
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I didn't delete it. Must be a bug. Is it there now?
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 05:22 PM
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This is all true. On the other hand I'd say that most people don't click with most people, and that it's sort of rare for anyone to meet someone they really click with. So that it can take a long time, without there being anything wrong with you. A lot of people I know spent their entire twenties searching for someone they clicked with and only ran into the right person after a decade. It's not an everyday thing. I think a lot of the people you are talking about though mostly struggle with socia…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 05:16 PM
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But my point is that women also have a lot of experience with what other women find hot, seductive or unsexy. What turns them off and on. Women talk to each other. After a date, my friends will call me and say "he did X and that was so sexy. But then he said Y, and it turned me off". This is my point. Vs a lot of the people on the RP don't really have that much experience with women and their sexuality.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 05:07 PM
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Thank you, that's really kind of you to say :) I felt it was a bit jumbled, so it made me happy to hear that.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 03:01 PM
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You are just young. You think you understand and then you don't. That's ok. Of course women can love men genuinely. Look at all the Reddit posts that are "my boyfriend is depressed, how can I best support him?". Relationships are a bit more conditional than parenthood though. But that's the same for men and women. If you love someone and they treat you badly, you sometimes have to leave even if you love them. Like if I loved my husband, but he kept cheating on me, it would tear me apart to stay.…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 09:43 AM
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So for now this is fine. But what about for life? Most people get hurt and heartbroken in relationships sometimes. It's part of dating. And that's why having a real relationship is a risk. People still continue having real relationships because when you meet someone good you can have a healthy relationship with, it's worth it. You have a partner for life. Smashing women might be fun for a while, but it'll get lonely. And then as you get older, it'll be harder to find a real relationship. You can…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 08:24 AM
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Depends on who you ask. Ask a sensible woman with good social skills and she won't only think about herself. She'll think about all the women she's known and talked to. And generalize from that. A guy goes on a date and afterwards he might not know exactly what worked or what didn't. But the girl will call her friend and talk for ages. "He said this and I really liked it. Then he did that, and it made me think this. But he also did this, which was really hot. And then he said that, which made me…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 08:00 AM
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The OP study suggests otherwise. Does it? It can just as well be explained by insecurity. Being jealous and controlling doesn't mean there's any reason to. Lots of people are very irrationally jealous, usually because of anxiety and insecurity. They make controling partners and have bad relationships because of this. median 3.7%, Still 96% of children does have the right father. Height wasn't mentioned as a factor. It was couples being poor, young, non monogamous, in long distance relationships …
/r/BlackPillScience10/02/23 07:11 AM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7860087/?dopt=Abstract Is cuckoldry really a critical component if 99% of children have the right father? And what does it really tell you that military men who were taller where more likely to cheat? You could probably also do studies and show women with lower waist hip ratio or bigger boobs were more likely to have children. Being tall is a dating advantage. But plenty of tall men struggle with dating too. All the short men I know are in happy relationships. It'…
/r/BlackPillScience09/02/23 06:19 PM
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There is a comparison between if not being 10/10 attractive means you should suspect your partner of cheating or no.
/r/BlackPillScience09/02/23 06:10 PM
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Cheating is a gender neutral concern. In fact more men than women cheat. And as for children, studies show that 99% of them have the right father listed. You listed a retracted table. Usually if something is removed from a scientific publication it means that it was inaccurate. Why don't you believe it adequately compares? And you could really list anything looks related here. Should women who are average looking expect their husbands to cheat on them and be constantly jealous? Why or why not?
/r/BlackPillScience09/02/23 08:52 AM
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Men have a preference for women with big boobs. Does that mean a woman with small boobs should assume her husband will cheat on her? Everything in this paragraph is just speculation. Theories without proof. Except for the thing that some women prefer taller men.
/r/BlackPillScience09/02/23 05:50 AM
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No, it's science. There are more than one possible explanation here. What's the most common reason for jealousy? Insecurity.
/r/BlackPillScience09/02/23 05:47 AM
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If you are more insecure, you are also more likely to have less relationship satisfaction and to be more jealous. It doesn't have to be because of their height, it could just be because of their feelings about their height.
/r/BlackPillScience08/02/23 09:47 PM
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1) More women have active social lives and more men are socially isolated. It's more fun to meet someone at a party or through your friends and it's easier to see if you click from the start. However this requires you to have friends and do social stuff. 3) Maybe dating apps just don't appeal that well to women's desire? Maybe men get something out of Julie and Jane in bikinis, but I just think "I have no idea who I'd be into in real life". It's just a bit flat. Most of the people I've liked in …
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 02:32 PM
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I think you misunderstand something about evolution. Does it play a part in sexual attraction? Yeah. But evolutions main effect on men's sexual attraction: they are sexually quite indiscriminate. The guy who goes "oh, I can see a faint line under your eye, now I can't get it up!"? He doesn't get a lot of ancestors. The buck shot effect if you will, men find a lot of women physically attractive. Women had a lot to gain by being sexually selective. Men mostly gained from being sexually unselective…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 08:22 PM
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1) geriatric pregnancy is the beginning of high risk pregnancy, when the risk of birth defects and other complications start to spike Spike isn't the right word. It's a very, very low risk getting a bit higher but still being very low. Like how if the chance of getting a falling brick in your head goes up a bit, you might not feel very concerned, bc it's not something that happens a lot anyways. Or if the chance of getting attached by a mountain lion goes up a bit, you still won't be very scared…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 03:27 PM
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1) Do you know what a geriatric pregnancy is? It's just that the mother is over 35. Most geriatric pregnancies run without any issues. Most women can have children till they are 40. Only 33% of women are infertile by 40, but by 45 most of them (87%) are. Did you also know that male sperm quality and fertilitity decreases with age? "The idea that robust fertility for a man will continue well past a woman’s decline in fertility is untrue..., the age of the male partner also has significant impact …
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 08:35 AM
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That is the proposed beginning of the decline in options.. But based on what? That's what I don't get. Where do they get these numbers? Thin air?? 25 year old girls are young and pretty. Who can even tell if a girl is 25 or 22? Make two Tinder profiles Julie age 22 and Julie age 25. Put in a picture of a hot girl. Test it. 25 and 40 is a pretty big jump. Saying: 25, no, I meant 40, doesn't really make sense. For what it's worth I've never gotten more attention from men than after I turned thirty…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 10:56 PM
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C) How would they know? Are they 25 year old women trying to date? What evidence do we have that 25 year old women struggle with declining dating options? I've never heard of a 25-27 year old woman feeling like she's got fewer dating options bc men suddenly think she's too old for them.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 09:37 PM
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Girls find cold approaches very weird and off-putting outside of bars and clubs (where people go to socialize). A guy hitting on you at the bus stop just seems like a loser at best, scary at worst. Most people meet through friends or doing social stuff. It's not all about looks, bc people look for people they click with. It's a dick move to hit on another man's girlfriend and if she goes for it, she's not the most loyal person to date and you shouldn't be surprised if she cheats on you too. Stat…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 01:56 PM
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Are you nuts? No. Most people end up meeting their life partner in their late twenties or early thirties. Some later. You are so young. Don't let anxiety get to you.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 01:23 PM
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A) Is this your experience from Tinder? That women value looks way less than men? Women don't need men to provide for them financially anymore, the world has changed. B) Most men definitely don't want to marry a virgin. If you do, just convert to some conservative religion. And you can enjoy 40 years of a deadbedroom. Also, they've studied it and most men and women prefer something in the middle. They don't want someone with a lot of partners or no previous partners. It's actually pretty gender …
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 04:52 PM
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But how do you know women don't value youth and beauty? Most people want someone they are sexually attracted to. And also someone they connect with. The last part means that people won't usually date with big age gaps either. It's hard to connect with someone that lives in a different world than you do. Hot, young girls want to date hot, young guys. They don't want to date what to them is an "old man". They want a boyfriend they can bring to the next big party and who they can joke to about teen…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 05:57 PM
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In my experience as a woman in my 30s? No. Men care about if they think you are cute and interesting, not what's written in your passport. Some men do better at dating at 30 than 25, but that's more about gaining confidence and life experience. 80% of married couples are 0-3 years apart. And the guys worth dating don't want to date a 20 year old in their thirties. Women don't wake up looking old at 30 either. And as time goes by, both men and women age, it's not like women get older and men don'…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 02:44 PM
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What? That's nuts. What's the point of a partner if they can't support you in a time of loss?
/r/ExRedPill24/01/23 09:21 PM
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You know it's perfectly ok to be attracted to girls, right? That's just normal, it's not wrong.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/23 09:10 PM
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Huh? Most women don't date a guy unless they desire him. Desiring someone isn't just looks, but looks (if they are your type) + connection+ chemistry. Most relationships are healthy this way. And look at couples on the street. Are all the guys male models or is it possible you don't have to be Channing Tatum to get a girlfriend?
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 03:06 PM
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In a healthy relationship you both desire each other. You also don't care about what other people think, bc you aren't trying to sleep with them.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 02:22 PM
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I think... You know that different women are entirely different people, right? Just like some men are super kind and others are very mean? Same thing. Don't worry about a random girl on YT.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/23 10:00 PM
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What specifically does it mean for you to be masculine though? A lot of it can be very wholesome. Like if you want to be strong and fit, and start working out. And there are gender differences when it comes to physical strength. However, other typical "masculine" traits aren't unevenly distributed among women and men, so thinking they are will often make you think less off women than you should. Or require more of yourself than what is fair. Women are equally competent, intelligent, resilient, g…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 02:14 PM
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What you are missing is connection. The sense of clicking with someone. You don't just blindly go out and pick the tallest, richest or whatever. You look for people you connect with. And most of us don't really connect well with many people. And that's the deciding factor. Dating isn't an Excel spreadsheet. Who makes you happy isn't decided by metrics.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/23 07:50 PM
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1) Don't you want your own opinions? I go to a feminist sub, agree with some post, disagree with some. Newspaper? Same. Redpill? I disagree with most, but I agree with some (it's a good idea to work out if you are going to date. And to ask out girls you like). The redpill seems to work more like a cult, where you just swallow an entire belief system whole. Don't you want to be your own man? 2) Women find it unattractive. They don't want to date men who see women this way. 3) It'll create huge is…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/23 07:01 AM
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Don't you have any concept of nuance? It's not black and white. Of course you can work on social skills and looks. I just mean that everyone isn't born with the exact same looks or social intelligence. I don't want an intensely goal driven guy, who's emotionally closed off and type A. I want someone who can be vulnerable, who is a bit laidback, who's not intensely focused on career or money. And I couldn't care less if he's got a six-pack. That's not the same as that I want to date an obese man.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 08:10 PM
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The problem with your theory is that: 1) There is a certain kind of genetic determinism in dating. Both looks and social skills are partly things you are born with. 2) Not all women want the same guy. Just like not all men want the exact same woman. The guy you are describing? I don't want to date him. Not my type.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 05:33 PM
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Try flirting first. You can see if she flirts back and there is a vibe. If there isn't, you don't have to ask her out. And if there is a vibe, the asking out part won't come out of the blue.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 09:09 AM
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I'm not saying it's true for all women. But I think many women at least need to feel some kind of spark to feel desire. Then because many women are like this, the cute women who just want sex have infinite options. So they'll go for the prettiest guys or whatever. Most women know they can have a hookup any day of the week though and they still just... don't. And ofc gay men have an abundancy. It's just men. Most men love hookups and don't need any romantic spark to get it on.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 05:14 PM
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saying women feel love towards their FWBs? I shouldn't speak for all women, bc I'm not all women. But it's pretty common for women to be in love with their FWBs. They've even done scientific studies that show this. The typical FWBs pair: he just sees it as sex, she's in love with him and hope they'll end up together. Am I putting things correctly? Kinda, but not quite. Again, I shouldn't speak for all women and women are different. But to me at least I'll only feel attraction to a guy if I feel …
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 03:15 PM
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Men will usually get rejected a lot and it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. However most people benefit from working on their social skills and social life. People greatly underestimate the importance of social skills and social network in dating. And exercising regularly, wearing nice clothes and having a good haircut.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 02:48 PM
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Nobody reads bios on dating apps. And dating apps are weird and don't reflect real life. They are 70-80% male, for one. What you need to do is make more friends, get an active social life and talk to women in social settings. And what I meant was for women attraction is romantic attraction & sexual attraction as one thing. So looks + personality+ how you connect matter. And since you don't feel romantic connection to many people, that's rare. So women are picky with relationships and sex. For me…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 02:45 PM
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I think you should just simplify this. Men like casual sex way more than women do. That's why it's easier to get a guy to bed than a woman. Men are just, and I mean this in a kind and jokey way, the sluttier gender. Men aren't more "democratic" out of the kindness of their hearts. They just really like to fuck, so even if I'm not exactly their type they'll be "it's gonna be fun, I excited about this". And women like casual sex way less. They have lower sex drives. Casual sex is way less likely t…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 01:24 PM
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You can differentiate between kindness and sex. No matter what you look like, people should treat you with respect and kindness. If they don't, they are the problem. However, you can treat someone politely and not have sex with them. Attraction is outside of our control. If a guy isn't attracted to me, it's not his fault. And I can't expect him to have sex with me if he doesn't desire me, to be fair or polite. I've been both unattractive and attractive. But being unattractive, I wasn't angry wit…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 11:23 AM
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No. Bc a lot of the times the real reason for rejection will just make the other person feel bad and achieve nothing. It could be good in the instances where it's something the other person can improve on and that's relevant for dating in general. Like for example "You started our Tinder Convo talking about your dick and that turned me off" or "you need better social skills " or "you should get a haircut, some new clothes and lose weight " But then a lot will just be about compatibility. Like, I…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 11:18 AM
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This is a actually a really important point. Most couples meet in social settings. And having friends and a happy life is an attractive thing.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 06:49 PM
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Flirting... Hmm. It's mostly just being jokey and lighthearted. Teasing ppl a bit, not being too serious. In a way where it sorta comes across that you think the other person's cute. It's a bit cringe, but if two people are into each other they don't feel it's cringe. Just looks dumb from the outside. If flirting feels too complicated? Talk to girls at parties, try to get to know them a bit. If they seem interested in talking to you, ask them out. Lots of girls like science and left wing politic…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 02:59 PM
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Do you flirt with women at these parties? Ask them out? And you just have to realize a win is different for men and women. Women can easily find sex with a random guy, but they don't want sex with a random stranger and hookups usually aren't that enjoyable for them. So what's a win for you, isn't necessarily a win for them. I mean, you could easily find sex on Grindr, but that wouldn't help you would it? It's sorta similar for women. A lot of them only want sex with a guy they have a crush on an…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/22 12:12 PM
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So if it's the top 15% and they hook up with two girls at the time? 70% of women have no one to hook up with. Reality? Most of these guys are pretty busy. They are popular with women bc they have a big social life, are outgoing, successful at work, have lots of hobbies & interests they are passionate about and are fit. These things take up a lot of time. And women take up a lot of time even if it's just hookups. You have to text them, talk to them, seduce them for sex. The guys I know who can ge…
/r/BlackPillScience25/12/22 12:53 PM
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The dating app thing is an important point. Bc dating in real life works differently and most couples still meet in real life.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 03:44 PM
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If you go on a dating app while in a strange city? That's more likely bc you are looking for a hookup. If you want a relationship, you'd want to meet someone where you live. So you don't have to move. Hence, less point of using the app while traveling.
/r/BlackPillScience21/12/22 09:27 AM
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It includes sex, but not casual sex. They want to sleep with a boyfriend, but not the stranger they met the same day.
/r/BlackPillScience21/12/22 07:51 AM
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1) We don't know 30% of women have a promiscuous phase. Doesn't really fit the overall number of lifetime sexual partners (CDC women 25-44: 4.3). More likely the % is way lower. 2) If 30% of women had a promiscuous phase, they wouldn't be randomly selected. Many of them would be women who have a high libido through their entire life. That's not uncommon either, a percentage of women do have a high libido. I find this sort of funny when men are so set on body count, bc they are really preselectin…
/r/BlackPillScience19/12/22 08:25 AM
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Most married couples have a 0-3 year age gap. I think if you struggle with dating in general, I'd focus on meeting girls in general. What's the point of dating someone 21? You could be equally happy dating someone older and it's way more likely to happen.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/22 10:03 PM
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75 % of couples aged 20-29 met in social settings according to a recent PEW research report. Online dating doesn't work well enough to have a real impact. At least not yet.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 02:03 PM
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Love Me Tinder, I already said that was the title. You'll find it if you search for it. What you referenced, I already replied to. In your study they were clear that a hookup didn't have to mean sex. It could mean whatever you wanted it to mean. If you think making out is a hookup, you can say yes to the question. 60% of the student had ever hooked up with someone in college (that's students overall, from the graph we can see that it's more of the men, less of the women). Only 40% of the hookups…
/r/BlackPillScience04/12/22 08:44 AM
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Agreed. They did a study on this as well. 90% of women didn't get off on their last one night stand. It's just pretty useless tbh. Vs with someone you know, love and trust, and can communicate easily with it's just very different.. Edit: username envy here, that's actually really cool.
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 11:56 PM
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My Tinder study on a group of college students using Tinder showed that only 7% of the women had a one night stand off Tinder. I didn't read the whole thing, but I think they ended up with that most of these girls were just using Tinder as type of mobile game/ego boost. Only 50% had ever been on a date with a guy from Tinder. The other studies showed 93.5% of women aged 18-44 has 2 or less sexual partners last year. 86.2% had 1 or 0 partners. Do you think this is bc they are looking for men to h…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 05:30 PM
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But the thing is: why? Bc only 10% of the women are looking for a hookup and almost 100% of the guys. So the women who want casual sex get their pick of the litter. Unless they are unattractive, then the attractive guys will skip them. The situation isn't: all the women are running around having wild sex every night with a new, very attractive stranger. It's most of the women are either sleeping with their husbands or going to bed alone. They know they can have sex with strangers, they just don'…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 05:15 PM
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It's not casual sex the way most people think of casual sex if two people are falling in love and end up in bed together. If I slept with my husband before we made it official, do you think that counts as a hookup? Of course that's flawed. Someone you went on a date with once =\= a relationship. How can that be unclear? https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 05:12 PM
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Thank you. Yeah, no point in discussing science if you don't actually discuss science.
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 04:56 PM
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The last study was flawed. They asked "where did you meet your last romantic interest?" That can just be: where did you meet the last guy you went on a date with. The PEW research report asked people who were in couples in 2020 how they met. The couples aged 20-29 mostly met offline. 75% (friends + school+ work+ family+ bars), of them 31% through friends. Only 21 % of the couples met online. I read the study. Only 60% of students said they'd ever had a hookup. They didn't differentiate between w…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 02:24 PM
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If follows quite logically that since many women are in relationships and most women have 1 sexual partner or less, they are having sex with their boyfriend. They aren't having casual sex at all. Couples have been studied and normally people end up with a partner on a similar attractiveness level as themselves. The average looking girl isn't dating a male model, she's dating an average looking guy. Why wound the male model date her, when he can have a girlfriend that's a female model? However, 7…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 01:47 PM
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The last thing is BS. And if you look at studies of women's sexual behavior, most women just don't have that many sex partners. Women aren't into casual sex the way men are. Tinder isn't Grindr. That's your answer.
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 01:43 PM
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Edit: to put this into perspective. Imagine you have 10 female friends. 5 of them are in relationships and are having sex with their boyfriend/husband only. If they are normal women, they are dating normal men on their own attractiveness level. 2 of them aren't having sex at all and haven't had sex for at least a year. Probably longer. 1 of them only had sex with one guy the entire last year, the other girl had sex with two. Probably guys they dated, which didn't end up work out. Last girl? She'…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 12:10 PM
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Science tells us that women overall aren't that into casual sex and don't have a lot of sexual partners. JAMA article 2020. Women aged 18-44: 86.2% had 1 or 0 sexual partners last year. 93 % had 2, 1 or 0 sexual partners. Women aged 18-24: a surprising 19 % didn't have sex at all last year. 87.5 % had 2 sexual partners or less. 79.8% had 1 or 0 sexual partners last year. That's not a wild amount of hookups. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066 From the article "Se…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 11:32 AM
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This tells you women aren't that into casual sex with random strangers. That's not news. It's just evolution making men bigger sluts than women (I'm saying this jokingly, but you get my point). Women often don't want casual sex, they just want romantic relationships. That's not unfair or an insult. It's just an average gender difference. Also the study doesn't tell you how the dates would end. Women who do want hookups, want establish trust before going home with a stranger. It's a security risk…
/r/BlackPillScience03/12/22 09:30 AM
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Yeah, you're right. Thanks.
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 10:57 PM
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It's that all the words you know?
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 10:57 PM
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But ofc old people aren't having a lot of sex. It's not that fun when you're waiting for your hip replacement. What did you think when you read it? Bc I think the most interesting things were actually that among young people, men and women where similarly sexually inexperienced and sexually active. Edit: Single women over 70 weren't having a lot of sex. Does that shock you?
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 07:55 PM
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But this is just what the actual study says. If you want to ignore the study, that's fine. But it says: between 16-44 10% of men and 14 % of women are sexually inactive. That's just facts. And then it goes on to show a table that says the % of virgins are the basically the same for men and women in all age groups. I'm just stating facts. Fine if you want to ignore them.
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 04:04 PM
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I'm just quoting the actual study, which says it's as common for women as men to be sexually inexperienced. And more women than men are sexually inactive among younger people (16-44). If you want to use science, you have to read the study and figure out what it says.
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 02:41 PM
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If you look at younger people in general though: *16-19: More women than men are sexually inexperienced. *20-24: Basically equal numbers *25-29: here the data is less certain, bc fewer people in the group. Overall a bit more men are sexually inexperienced, but do you find 5.6 vs 3.0 a striking difference? *30-34. Again, less certain data. But here the differences have evened out again. Men: 0.7, women: 1.0. Overall sexual inexperience is pretty evenly distributed between the genders. Older peopl…
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 02:37 PM
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4.2% vs 3.6% means around 4% of men and women have had 0 sexual partners. That's not a striking difference. Do you think it is? In the 16-19 age group, more women than men were sexually inexperienced. In the 20-24 age group it was 9.6 vs 9.3. Which is same same. More women than men were sexually inactive in all age groups. Since similar numbers of men and women were sexually inexperienced, it then follows that a smaller portion of the sexually inactive women were sexually inexperienced. Bc sexua…
/r/BlackPillScience29/11/22 07:37 AM
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Do you guys actually read any of these articles? The title doesn't mean what you think it means "Among both men and women, the prevalence of sexual inactivity decreased with age from 16 to 19 years where 33.1% (29.6% to 36.8%) of men and 34.2% (30.9% to 37.7%) of women were sexually inactive, reaching its lowest levels in the age groups between 35 and 39 years (men, 4.1% (2.5% to 6.6%); women, 6.4% (4.4% to 9.3%)) and then increased with age." More women than men are sexually inactive in all age…
/r/BlackPillScience28/11/22 08:03 PM
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Statistics from other studies than CDC show 80% of college girls didn't have sex at all last month. There are always outliers, but having a new partner every weekend is quite uncommon. Why do you think women would do this? They aren't that into sex with strangers to begin with (see: Tinder vs Grindr) and they flat out don't get a lot of sexual satisfaction from casual sex. 90% of women didn't come on their last one night stand. Real life isn't PornHub, real women have more fun thing to do on the…
/r/BlackPillScience28/11/22 11:25 AM
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Some might not be ugly but genetically inclined to be depressed and pessimistic. We are very nihilistic people and if you around very nihilistic people you are likely going to become more nihilistic. Are you sure it's such a good idea then? As you say if "you around very nihilistic people you are likely going to become more nihilistic." Y'all might be just very depressed, but making each other's depression worse. If I joined a community that was "all men are trash and we'll die alone". I'd get d…
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/22 11:34 PM
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I'm coming a bit from the outside here. I'm a woman and I'm just curious about the way of thinking. However, I'll never be blackpilled bc I know I've slept with and been head over heels in love with the kind of guys y'all think are undatable. Idk. I think maybe try to think about how these people know what women want? Have they got many close friends who are women? Are they women themselves? Do they have many relationships with women that have taught them what women want? Have they seduced many …
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/22 10:05 PM
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Nah. Someone recommended this sub to me, thought I'd check it out.
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/22 08:27 PM
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But don't you see the point? This study shows sex doesn't necessarily make people happier at all.
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/22 05:56 PM
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Being sarcastic or genuine? I just like science. I think people should actually read the article before they base their world view on it. In this case the article says something completely different than what people think it does without reading it.
/r/BlackPillScience27/11/22 11:27 AM
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Dramatically? By how many partners? Because it would have to be a lot to change my math here. Edit: Dude, do you guys even read the studies you post? When they thought they were attached to a fake lie detector, women answered 4.4 sexual partners through a lifetime instead of 3.4. 4 guys through a lifetime? Wild and crazy stuff, guys. Edit 2: The difference was rated not statistically significant, meaning too small to draw any actual scientific conclusions from. So the study does not in fact conc…
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/22 11:27 PM
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People don't lie to uphold their image when answering anonymous surveys in front of a computer alone. What would be the point of that? And think about it practically. Let's do the math. Say 5% of men are having all the casual sex. That 20 women: 1 guy, if all the women are having lots of casual sex as well. It's impossible for 1 guy to satisfy 20 women in a week. Women have greater sexual stamina than men. And women expect to be seduced even for hookups. That's a lot of texting, wining and dinin…
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/22 03:48 PM
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The big point people miss: many women have had casual sex some time in their life. However they don't have casual sex frequently and with many different men. That's very uncommon. The average woman isn't going home with a new handsome stranger every night. This is what people miss. How many sex partners do you think women have through their life? This is why it's hard for men to get casual sex. Gay men often do have many hookups and many sex partners. Which is completely fine. Women usually don'…
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/22 02:11 PM
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Not really surprising. Overall few men have regular casual sex, unless they are gay. Women just aren't that big on sex with strangers. Japan is known for a big focus on career and academics, which can lead to a kind of arrested development. Teens and young adults don't get the time they need to grow social/dating/relationship skills. Without these skills it's hard to have healthy relationships, with healthy sex lives.
/r/BlackPillScience26/11/22 09:56 AM
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An example of how sex isn't necessarily a win.
/r/BlackPillScience24/11/22 11:22 AM
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How would this not accomplish that? A) Have you had sex in the last year? B) Did you want to have sex the last year? C) Do you identify as an incel?
/r/BlackPillScience23/11/22 06:46 PM
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The test would be if the subculture or the involuntary celibacy was the cause of these issues. If it was involuntary celibacy you'd see equal rates of depression, social isolation, victimhood in these two groups. If the subculture was the cause, you'd see higher rates in the men belonging to the subculture. You could run another experiment comparing men who weren't involuntary celibate to these two other groups. However then you run into a huge issue of confounders. Are men who are sexless more …
/r/BlackPillScience23/11/22 08:05 AM
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Car insurance rates is a good point. It could also be driving skills though, they will also increase with age. However, you could study unmarried couples. Younger women are more at risk for nonfatal ipv, but women between 35-49 are the group most often killed by their partner. If this was solvable just by banning young men from dating, that wouldn't be the case. Testosterone in itself isn't the best explaination. It only decreases by 1% per year, after 30. That's not a very significant change. I…
/r/BlackPillScience23/11/22 07:58 AM
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It's not a robust question at all. There is an entire incel subculture, with shared beliefs about how the world works and a shared community. You can agree with these beliefs or disagree, but you can't deny the existence of a subculture. Men who belong to this subculture and men who don't but just aren't having sex and would like to, might score differently. It's like if you study single women vs single women who belong to an extremist feminist movement. The single women in the last group might …
/r/BlackPillScience23/11/22 07:40 AM
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A culture where women get married at 18 and which we know little about? Do you know if marriages are arranged or not? If women have their own income? If domestic abuse is more or less common? We can't necessarily generalize from relationships in one culture to relationships in other culture with completely different customs. Arranged marriages will for example be different from chosen marriages.
/r/BlackPillScience22/11/22 09:57 PM
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No. You could ask: A) Have you had sex in the last year? B) Did you want to have sex the last year? C) Do you identify as an incel? And men who said no on all of these would might as a group be different than men who said yes to C. That's my point. It's not necessarily the lack of sex for example that leads to increased victimhood. It's like if some single mothers join a group that focuses on negative things and negative theories on being a single mother. Vs others just live their life. The seco…
/r/BlackPillScience22/11/22 09:54 PM
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The thing though is that many men who aren't getting sex, don't identify as incels. It would be interesting to compare that group to this group with regards to all these variables.
/r/BlackPillScience22/11/22 07:41 PM
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The alternative here is that many men are taking out of the game, by refusing to go to the marked. People who socially isolated won't get laid. An increasing amount of men are living in social isolation. Edit: read the study. Men and women basically have equal amounts of sex.
/r/BlackPillScience22/11/22 07:34 PM
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Completely irrelevant since this is from such a very different culture.
/r/BlackPillScience22/11/22 07:30 PM
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Dude. That's not how it works at all. If you are in a good relationship with a sexually compatible partner, she wants to have sex with you. She isn't doing it to be nice. Should he be dating mentally ill women? No, but that's not really about sex.
/r/MenSupportMen30/10/22 09:53 AM
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No, you can't dodge it were I live either. That's against the law. But it's no problem in everyday life bc people know that if they turn up for the initial interview and say they aren't motivated for conscription, they are just formally dismissed. And sounds reasonable. I'd consider looking into therapy to fix the other life factors and maybe anxiety though.
/r/MenSupportMen23/10/22 02:13 PM
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There are laws that criminalize dodging it in my country too. But people know that even if formally it's strict, informally it's easy to get out of.
/r/MenSupportMen23/10/22 12:51 PM
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How is conscription practiced in your country? I'm from a country where there in theory is conscription for men. In reality it's extremely easy to get out of, they only accept guys who really want to join the military. If you say you're not motivated, you'd be dropped. Everyone knows this. I'm thinking that if you're from a similar country, this is an expression of a pretty severe anxiety and isn't actually related to conscription. Otherwise, it's still anxiety. But more understandable, people d…
/r/MenSupportMen21/10/22 04:59 AM
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You have to look way more closely. I see plenty of guys that aren't tall or buffed, but still have a girlfriend. And there lots of couples where the guy is way less conventionally attractive than the girl. You know how pregnant women see pregnant women everywhere and feel everyone is pregnant? If you are very focused on one thing, you tend to miss the bigger picture. There are endless beauty standards for women besides being thin. You can't have sex with a pet. But you can cuddle a pet and you'l…
/r/MenSupportMen18/10/22 02:55 PM
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Pets will love you unconditionally. Friends can too, but you need to put in an effort to find good friends. Beauty standards for women aren't any simpler than beauty standards for men. If you are a man or a woman, you don't need to be a model to be loved though. Look at couples on the street. Most of them are just two ordinary looking people. Dating apps give men the wrong impression, bc dating apps are almost all male. 70-80 % of users are men, it's just not a good way to meet girls.
/r/MenSupportMen18/10/22 02:34 PM
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When you are young, it feels like "everything will always be this way". When you get older, it's more "everything is always changing". Depression is lying to you. It tells you that it's hopeless. That it's better to end it. That you are hopeless. That nothing can change. It's all lies. Of course you can change things. Of course it's not too late. Of course you're not hopeless. Also consider that your real, big problem is that you are lonely and need better friends. This is fixable. For touch sta…
/r/MenSupportMen18/10/22 02:23 PM
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I think maybe the core of this is that you feel lonely and want better friends. This is actually something you can work in. It really does suck to be lonely. But you might not have met your people yet. Often you do have to search for a long time, before you find friends you really click with. But once you do, it's awesome. I think you are right that girls do get more empathy sometimes. For sex it's sort of mixed. It's way easier for women to get laid, but that's because women don't enjoy hookups…
/r/MenSupportMen17/10/22 10:08 PM
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You can't control the world, but you can shape your world. Most of the people you surround yourself with right now are abusive, mean and sexist is some ways. You need to find kind and progressive friends. Life will feel very different once you do.
/r/MenSupportMen01/08/22 09:38 PM
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But how do know this? What do you base it on? Edit: as a woman I find men beautiful. And more beautiful than women, bc I'm attracted to men. That was really my point. And I realize I've wandered of into the wrong subreddit by mistanke, but it came from a good place.
/r/MenSupportMen20/05/22 12:18 PM
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I'm not sure this is true. Beautiful women are used to sell things to both men and women bc women want to be beautiful and men want beautiful women. Which is a bit of a double edged sword, since it makes women more insecure about their looks. But what people see as beautiful depends a lot on which gender they are attracted to. Men who are attracted to women find women more beautiful. Women who are attracted to men find men more beautiful. It's easy to mix of your own perspective with the perspec…
/r/MenSupportMen20/05/22 06:39 AM
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What I agree with in the post: Ask people out. Treat them like human beings. Learn to express your own wants and needs in a relationship. Don't be overly pushy either, accept other people's need for space. And have your own passions outside of dating. All of these are pretty universal and apply to women too though. What I don't agree with: I find the "alpha-male" overly confident style a turnoff. Personally, I like kinda shy guys. Idk, it just works for me. And I have taken the lead on dates. Li…
/r/seduction04/05/19 07:36 PM
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I was being snarky with the fish thing, that was unnecessary. I just find it a condescending saying in the first place. What I meant was: different people do have different preferences. To a certain degree that follows demographics and subcultures. Meaning that something can be seen as generally attractive in one setting, but not in another. Think the Jersey tan for instance. Also, a lot of my personal preferences are personality traits and qualities that require time and talking to become appar…
/r/seduction04/05/19 07:10 PM
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Well, I don't agree. My point was only: if you want to know how to pick up women in bars, I'm not your girl. Since I'm not a part of the club scene or into casual sex. If I asked you: what do you find attractive in women, you'd know right? Fish do not want to be caught, can't talk and have very limited cognitive capabilities. That is why we don't ask them. My original reply was based on the guy I am crushing on now and why I want to sleep with him. We are not dating. I am not making an idealized…
/r/seduction04/05/19 04:06 PM
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Sure.
/r/seduction04/05/19 03:32 PM
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And bc I am procrastinating, I'll write a real answer after all. Genuine people. Kindness is the most important thing. Honesty, emotional openness and people who are brave enough to be vulnerable. Life is too short for fake or superficial. A mix of shyness and confidence, but leaning morevtowards shy. Idk, it just works for me. And a douchy thing to say maybe: but smart people and people who like to think. An ability to self-reflect. People who share my values and see life the same way I do. And…
/r/seduction04/05/19 03:31 PM
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Umm, yeah. You probably don't want my opinion, since girls aren't supposed to be a good source for pickup advice. And women are different, so this might hold true for some. I guess I just wanted to say that for me personally, most of these are not things that attract or interest me. That it might help to keep in mind that different people do want different things. Or different guys.
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:14 PM
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