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| 1 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!There seem to be quite a few now... Self-love rings is what they're called, but they're pinky rings which isn't what I remember. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:41 AM |
| 3 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!This reminded me of when a few years back there was this ring women could buy for themselves to show they were commited to themselves. (Also the added bonus of not being bothered by as many creeps when out.) And I don't know, but I liked that idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Wtf Will Smith... I thought you were one of the good onesSo they are both messed up then... But I thought she had the 'affair' while they were both separated? P.s. and what makes you say she's a narc? Genuinely curious as I don't know her story well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:03 AM |
| 9 | For those not actively dating for a HVM, this is basically it. Once you love yourself, other people are just an option, not a necessity. And this is the best feeling of all.I'm starting to realize being alone will probably always trump being with someone else, except maybe for safety or financial reasons, which in themselves are not good reasons to be with someone so 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayEx literally told me he'd given his all to women in the past and been treated like shit so now he was never putting them first again, which meant ME... I never felt our relationship could recover from that (let alone other stuff). I bet he's crawling on his knees for his new piece, though, they always do when they feel they no longer have back-ups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayWhen all his ex-gfs were the one to break up with him... Yeah I don't know but 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:26 PM |
| 16 | I never get a good vibe from the “brutal honesty” guys.Being "brutally honest" means they can demean you without consequences, but turn that around and be "brutally honest" with them and they get all sulky... Double standards much? Also, my ex was super into "honesty" when it suited him (telling me I needed to lose weight or when I asked him what he thought about the dress I picked) but not so much when it didn't suit him (telling me he wanted to end the relationship, except only when he became more financially stable and his mistress decided to lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:15 AM |
| 5 | These scrotes ain't loyal, but we knew that. 🙄 Here's an idea: how about you tell your GIRLFRIEND she's beautiful, not me. Boy bye. 😤Please let the girlfriend know so she doesn't waste any more of her precious time!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:41 PM |
| 3 | are men ok lolI... Lost my train of thought there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:40 PM |
| 33 | LolBoom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:38 PM |
| 55 | LolThey're not used to "real" women, they only see porn stars, models, youtubers... 🤷♀️ (I'm not trying to say girls who wear make up are not real, I wear make up all the time...) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:38 PM |
| 34 | LolThis. The amount of men who can't tell when women are wearing make up is honestly worrying... I will give them a break (lol not) with the more "natural" looks but eyeliner? 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 6 | Le PoWeR woRDs...😂"I don't feel special anymore 😭😭😭" Jesus Christ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Dating advice from seniors !Great advice! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 5 | If I could turn back time......You can do this, you're doing great! ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 13 | I think I’m done with my LVM “Friend”What a douche... Good for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Regained self esteem feels like the biggest reliefCongrats!! 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Man asks for tips to help him stalk a Twitch streamer because her likes her. We can’t have anything nice without men trying to insert themselves and their desires.Wow, he's got more perseverance and makes a lot more effort as a stalker of an internet person he's never met than a lot of dates I've seen people post about here on FDS. I'M KIDDING. I just don't know how else to respond to this shitstorm... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:18 PM |
| 8 | “We’Re OpPrEsSeD ToO”If the shoe fits, buddy... What is it with men needing to always chip in with "nOt Me ThOUgH" like if you don't see yourself represented in the statement, why even bother to reply? It's like someone driving past a pasture, sees lambs, parks their car, goes up to the farmer and tells them "but I don't eat lambs!" then drives off leaving a very tired farmer in their wake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 25 | BlissYessss! Makes me wonder why I ever wasted years of my life on men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:06 PM |
| 12 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?I'm so glad to hear you're doing well! I wish I had that kind of confidence (stil working on it) but you're right, you reveal one tiny insecurity and they'll work hard to expose the rest. My ex was a bit of a mess himself. He'd use this app to count calories and I'd tell him that's pretty much an eating disorder. He'd always ignore me and say he knew what he was doing and worked for him. But God forbid I rejected his advice! It was like hell on earth... Men really do have fragile egos. That's wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 10 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?Me too! I hate being watched while working out, be it someone I know or not. Just feels so awkward! (Well, being watched in general is creepy and I don't like it tbh). They want to control is, basically. I kept having to repeat "you're not my dad" over and over again in my last relationship. It's gross, and they mask it as concern/caring for us. Yeah right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?Because they have a daddy complex 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?What a bunch of losers! What keeps them from being humble and actually complimenting your tastes rather than passive-agressively attack you because they're jealous/insecure? And then WE are the catty ones? Suuure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?The projection is real! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:52 PM |
| 9 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?Thank you! I'm curvy and have big hips/legs but a small waist, etc. Which sounds about average! That is preposterous, I am so sorry as well! They chip at your self-esteem until they can manipulate you easily. Make you feel fat, ugly, worthless, until you believe there's no one who'd have you but them. But you also get the opposite: men who try and make their wives as fat and "undesirable" as possible so no one will take them. I read this one article about a man who'd put hormones in his wife's f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:50 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?You know what they say: intelligent people doubt themselves, dumb people are the most confident (something like that)... And it's true! It's gross how men think so highly of themselves when they ain't shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 8 | I Took Out the Trash👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:41 PM |
| 23 | “Oh man!”Yup! Never thought about that before 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:40 PM |
| 27 | Proving their point: Guy feels attacked on thread lamenting men's hygiene, says it is 'unfair' to claim that never washing one's hands is unhygienic. O.oI can attest to the fact that most men I work with at the office don't wash their hands (the air driers are super loud so you definitely KNOW when someone has used them. Also our cleaning lady confided in us that she never needs to replace their hand gel or soap. Wtf!!!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | I hate “sex positivity” with all of my heart and soulThis always felt very demeaning to me... Any type of submission feels like that and I would panic if someone so much as held my wrists above my head (has happened and I was terrific, but they stopped once I told them that was NOT cool). People who say they feel empowered by this - well all the more power to them but I just personally don't see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:37 PM |
| 97 | Men stay invalidating our experiences while simultaneously never having to actually experience them. It’s actually insane.And male politicians are the worst kind since they can actually pass laws against women... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 27 | Just...why?!This doesn't even make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 15 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?They watch one Athlean-X video and think they know everything there is to know about fitness... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:27 PM |
| 44 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?Yup... men like to think they own women's bodies, whether they're their partner or not. You give them a hand, they'll want the whole arm. I think it has to do with the fact that they're hardwired to solve problems. Women can just talk and listen to each other without trying to solve anything - we know the word "vent". But men need to fix everything they find or they'll explode. My ex did this. But was a bit different. He started to get really pushy,say it was for my health, etc, but would then c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:23 PM |
| 6 | Rich men can still be LV. It isn’t all about money, it’s a disgusting mindset too.That is disgusting... I have no words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 7 | HVM and stdsYou're right! Sorry about that. Turns out any skin-to-skin can be contagious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:11 PM |
| 10 | I kinda like a guy but he has less earning potential than me.I don't think men can deal with women who make more money than them... I've seen it happen countless times. It makes them super insecure, angry and spiteful. Make the women feel guilty and frustrated. You don't want that kind of energy. The no going down thing AND being a Marine only adds to the madness. Just don't even bother... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:39 PM |
| 2 | HVM and stdsThat's why I said "Or maybe he just wants different things for him, which is fine and reasonable". I never said anyone who doesn't want to date someone with herpes is LV. Not wanting that is the person's choice, but shows they're not the person meant for the OP anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:31 PM |
| 7 | “He simply cannot be who we need him to be.”Why are we even trying to separate the man from his politics? They're the same. He will rule based on what he believes in. I know people like to say women are the emotional ones, but truly, we can separate things better than men can. I wouldn't personally want to be ruled by a mysoginist rapist, no matter what he promised. And he hasn't promised very much. In fact, we should look at what he DID so far rather than what he plans to do. It's the actions that count, not the words. Being pro-Trump do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:23 AM |
| 2 | My NV ex moved out last year. I converted his old gaming area into an art studio for myselfThis looks amazing! Congrats on taking the trash out and moving the beauty in ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:17 AM |
| 43 | For real thoughI'm guilty of having faked orgasms in the past... To be honest, I just wanted it to be done and over with so I could go do something else 🤷♀️ I don't think I was ever attracted to him and he rarely turned me on. I thought I didn't need that to be in a relationship with someone - love was enough! Having sex felt like something I had to check off every week or few days in order to be a good girlfriend. So I wasn't really into it, just didn't want him to get bored and leave. Terrible but at least … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:10 AM |
| 19 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.Unfortunately most only show their true colors afterwards! Unless you do some detective-grade stalking, there's no way to tell until it's too late... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:33 AM |
| 30 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.Yet whenever they get a MILD cold they act like they're dying and leaving this earth early... Smh. I'm glad you're okay!! Sometimes men need a rude wake up call, which unfortunately rarely comes at their own expense. I hope he becomes more considerate of your health in the future (not just pregnancy-wise), that was not nice of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:31 AM |
| 49 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.Yup, max projection right there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:28 AM |
| 9 | Am I too sensitive?You did the right thing. You're not sensitive at all, you actually put up with TOO MUCH. But we all do until we see the light. This forum will help empower yourself again and regain your misplaced feelings. Don't ever take this guy back, keep him blocked, and don't even try to date before you've recovered from this absolute madness. Your mind and heart need time to heal. Otherwise another LVM will take advantage of you tenfold. Be proud of what you accomplished and know you were never in the wro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:27 AM |
| 30 | These scrotes only bother the scared, turn the tables on em, become scary.This is some strong energy but unfortunately men have murdered for less. Stay safe, make yourself safe. These moves/advice are akin to Russian roulette. Even if you can get away with it in a public place, make no mistake: they'll be waiting outside for hours if necessary to then follow you home and beat you to a pulp somewhere more secluded. Humiliated men are dangerous men. I like the humor and I like the energy. But unfortunately it's just that. Investing in self-defense could help in many sit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:21 AM |
| 12 | My Husband Makes $975,000 and Won't Let Me Stay Home! (Instead, waste money on childcare. Which is expensive in Canada)This should have been discussed pre-marriage and pre- children. They're now in a partnership and that means commitment and compromise. Unfortunately, one of them will have to yield and compromise. And it won't be the husband making $975k. I feel sorry for this woman. She would have done fine making $90k. Ultimately, it's no one's fault. Their expectations are obviously different and again, should have been discussed prior to getting pregnant. Don't ever get married without concrete expectations … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:03 AM |
| 12 | 25f, I'm feeling insecure, that I will nEveR bE gOoD eNOuGh because I am not as fit and attractive as I could be. I feel like I am wasting the pEaK oF My yOuTh and BeAutY because I'm not iNsTaWoRthY. Fears of losing value as I age. Help me change this silly attitude and replace these shit beliefsDon't make it a competition. Stop following/looking at those instamodels - most of them are heavily edited anyway, so you'd be trying to achieve something impossible. Don't compare yourself to anyone. Definitely use your old gains as motivation but don't be too hard on yourself. If you do get to that point again, great! If not, you did your best and became healthier/happier in the process, which is a win in my book. I get how you feel. Depression and mental health issues can rob you of so much. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:50 AM |
| 208 | Someone teach men how to have an engaging personality!It's funny how women with even an ounce of a personality are automatically called "bitch". Strong opinions are intimidating for the average boring person, I guess 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:44 AM |
| 37 | When you appreciate your own company (/r/wholesomememes)I love it! This is what we should aspire to be: happy and comfortable by ourselves. Whatever else comes, better complement or life and bring value or else gtfo 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:42 AM |
| 11 | Recommended K-drama(s)?I loved Strong Girl Bong-soon. I have yet to find a more perfect k-drama! I also enjoyed Descendents of the Sun. K-Crush and The Swoon are two YouTube channels I like to watch if I'm in the mood to find new titles. They share various scenes from different k-dramas, and commentary so you can get a feel of what to expect. Hope it helps! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:41 AM |
| 14 | Is it even worth it?Don't bother with men for now. Do your thing, invest in yourself, do what makes you happiest, and get to a level of financial security that makes you comfortable. Enjoy your hobbies, get a solid education, build a great group of friends. The right person will come at the right time. Never waste a day of your life worrying about dating, men, etc. I completely get your mindset because I too witnessed a messed up marriage and my mom suffering countless times over my father. I swore I'd never go thr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:35 AM |
| 41 | Rich men can still be LV. It isn’t all about money, it’s a disgusting mindset too.Wow, just wow. That's the thing, isn't it? It's NOT about the money, it's about the way he treated his partner, watching her struggle, selling stuff to pay for THEIR dog's surgery, supporting HIM, I mean... Honestly, after 4 years there's no excuse. And then discussing a prenup for marriage??? As if she didn't prove to him enough times how self-sufficient and reliant she is? She doesn't need his money! You don't have to be rich to be HV, but you do need to treat your partner with respect, kindne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:27 AM |
| 3 | Fellow queens, don't settle for less+follow your instinct - A man who you wouldn't be proud to introduce to your parents is a man that is below your level.Self-reflection is not something many men are capable of doing - they'll absolutely answer something along the lines of "of course!" But yeah, you can definitely root out some scrotes with it. The problem is men with no self-esteem are also LV, but at least those will be able to admit it when asked 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:22 AM |
| 7 | Found out one of our aquaintances follows teenagers on SM.Wow, just wow. You never really know anyone, do you? How do people manage to disappoint so much and so often? I'm sorry you had to go through this, it's a major trust blow and can only imagine how it makes you feel. I'm sure he'll try to contact you to find out why you suddenly ghosted him and that's honestly not a position I'd like to be in considering the mutual group of friends. Are you considering talking to them about it? If you do, I would screenshot everything just to make sure he doesn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:19 AM |
| 16 | Instant block or tell him that’s not good enough of a date suggestion?I don't think the video chat IS the date (it's also wise these days), but the drinks better be somewhere nice and expensive if he's trying to impress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:14 AM |
| 16 | Should I delete my Instagram?I would delete it. Not because of men, though. It's a part of your life you no longer connect with, or feel comfortable about, and the time spent deleting/blocking these followers could easily be spent elsewhere. I would create a different profile and make sure it wasn't traceable (use different email address, phone, turn off certain privacy options, etc) so that you can start fresh. Then I would make the profile private. Beware some of your previous followers may have downloaded some of your ph… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:11 AM |
| 143 | After a lady ranted about low quality men, a man proceeded to suggest she give up her high paying job and nice apartment to attract better men.This has to be a troll. I can't believe some human being actually believes any of this. Imagine working all your life to achieve a certain lifestyle and then give it all up for a man/God. Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:06 AM |
| 10 | HVM and stdsA lot of people have herpes. I've seen couples where one of them has much more serious, deadly STDs like HIV, and they live with it fine. They just make sure to be really careful and always use protection. The thing you have to keep in mind is that oral sex will probably always be out of the question. But other than that, as long as you use a condom, it should be fine. If a man can't understand this, then he really isn't a HVM. Or maybe he just wants different things for him, which is fine and r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:04 AM |
| 33 | Can someone explain to me ?Men need constant reassurance about everything because their egos are so fragile. Primitively speaking, we all need to feel part of a pack in order to survive - that means having a social group we can lean onto. Men have their group of friends, some of which would not look upon certain behaviors in a good light. Probably shun this person for what they did. So in order to avoid rejection by the people they trust and look up to, they lie. It keeps their dignity and manliness intact and bonus point… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:58 AM |
| 41 | I’m just so done trying to be friends with heterosexual/bisexual men...I feel the exact same way. The only close male friends I have are all in relationships (I met them as a couple, so we all hung out) and even those I don't trust blindly. There's always a comment here and there that reminds me they have a penis in between their legs and it really puts things into perspective. I have only a couple single friends. An "interesting" thing I've heard from several guys throughout life is that if they're single and their female friends are single, they'll automatically … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:51 AM |
| 21 | Online Dating & “locker room talk”I've seen it happen here on Reddit so Facebook probably has those too. Unfortunately, this has nothing to do with online dating and more to do with human depravity. Before the internet existed, there was already locker room talk, friends getting together to share their intimate encounters, etc. Of course now it's easier to do that, there's proof to show too. But until men/women learn to keep their private lives to themselves, there's nothing to be done. Online dating only facilitates an age old … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:41 AM |
| 1 | The double standard is astoundingIt's okay, I completely understand where you're coming from. Just didn't want any misunderstandings or causing anyone any discomfort whatsoever. This is supposed to be a safe space for all women, and I intend to keep it that way. I hope you get to move on and become your old self again - break ups can be so damaging and taxing, why do we have to go through them?? Glad to hear FDS is being a tremendous help. I feel the exact same way and have been learning lot. Absolutely ❤️ Ugh, do they have not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 12:05 AM |
| 3 | A clip from Don't Tell The Bride UK. The scrotacity of this man...OMG what episode is that? I feel oddly curious about this tragedy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:36 PM |
| 6 | A clip from Don't Tell The Bride UK. The scrotacity of this man...That's very true - I was too kind! I know some people swear by the Montessori method and I think one of its core ideas is getting the child to quickly learn to be independent as soon as possible by helping around the house with small chores, etc. Very interesting, and wish more moms followed that method with their sons, especially! Maybe they wouldn't grow up to be such delusional losers with too much self-esteem and nothing to show for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:30 PM |
| 18 | A HVM going above and beyond for his lady 👸I agree! It takes away from the moment too because she's trying to capture it with her phone in a nice light/angle and getting distracted by it rather than just enjoying it. It's just a flex to make everyone jealous in my opinion... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:14 PM |
| 21 | A clip from Don't Tell The Bride UK. The scrotacity of this man...Men are terrible but their moms are to blame too! Why would you baby a grown man? Actually, as soon as they become a teenager they should learn to do basic chores and take care of themselves. But no, mommies baby them and then the girlfriends baby them and they obviously take advantage... My ex's mom was constantly trying to do everything for him. In his defense, he tried to fight her and be independent, but still she would basically force him to be useless. After we moved in together, whenever … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | This surprisingly gets near to 50 upvotes. Wow.I don't read the comments, just appreciate the posts. Simple but works! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:05 AM |
| 7 | This Instagram has no shortage of these types of fuckboi messagesNo, hon, it's definitely not ok to be crazy.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:03 AM |
| 11 | She asked what it's like to sleep with a guy on tiktok lolOMG the replies are golden 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:01 AM |
| 6 | Has anyone else encountered the white collar city fuckboy type of LVM?Yup, he's "too nice" and bends over backwards for everyone, to the point of being a doormat. It's honestly embarrassing. And I called him on it a few times like "you can't let people take advantage of you like that" or "you need to be firmer". The only person he took my advice to heart was myself 🤷♀️ So I got to see his true self, and he once confessed he might have taken out his built-up frustrations (like wanting to fuck another girl I guess) on me. Also always putting up a front for everyone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:00 AM |
| 6 | The double standard is astoundingI'm sorry if I made you feel bad in any way, that was not my intention at all. But what I said is that men who are already attracted to children sometimes seek these types of bodies as a way to satisfy their fetishes without breaking the law - I did not say ALL men who are attracted to these types of bodies are pedos. But unfortunately, I speak from experience. I was a very late bloomer, I had a "childish" body until I was about 22. Men would actively pursue me and I would later find out they th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:00 AM |
| 8 | Has anyone else encountered the white collar city fuckboy type of LVM?This. I hate when people say you can tell a man is a good person by the way he treats service people - no, sis. Some of the worst men I've met were delightful to others, then went home and beat up their wives and kids to a pulp. My own father paid for massive group dinners/lunches for friends, landed money to everyone, did massive favors just to gain their respect/popularity, then didn't allow me to get a bag of cookies at the store because they were too expensive and I didn't need them. Men can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 08:47 AM |
| 4 | Man tries to get his girlfriend to sell the condo she worked her ass off for so he can take the money and be put on the deed since his is shitty and he can’t benefit from the one solely in her name. He tries to guilt her into selling by slut shaming her since she used stripper money.So proud of her 👏👏 Who cares if it's stripper money? The girl bought an apartment entirely with her own savings. This guy's just salty over her being so much awesome than he is. I hope she finds a way to get rid of him, though... Question: how do you open the attached pictures? I can never read the entire thing, it's always cropped around the edges... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 08:17 AM |
| 3 | I know some of us are strong enough to not get this point but I do know that others have been here and it's quite hard. This makes me feel a lot better.Been there, done that. I remember my first time with my first boyfriend - my vagina literally did not let him in. He was naturally well-endowed and I was a virgin and it hurt like a mother. I cried so much. He was considerate and didn't force anything but I felt humiliated. As we kept trying for over a year and a half (LDR so it wasn't like we were trying all that often) I felt worse than helpless. I felt broken, defective, useless. I knew he would get tired and just leave me. Turns out he was j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 08:14 AM |
| 5 | Men call you an asshole when you dont lower your stardards. NOT KIDDINGI'm glad some of them were actually decent and offered sound advice. A lot more than I was expecting so faith in humanity restored a little bit! I'm not sure if these men are putting up a front or if they are actually like that in real life, but I have hope for the latter. It's hard to find a decent guy but they are definitely out there. Let us know how changing your location/dating pool goes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 07:56 AM |
| 17 | You know what is empowering? Abstinence, modesty and not dating. People have asked me out at my job, feels empowering to let them know I'm not interested.Honestly, I'm on that path as well. I have a low libido due to birth control, past trauma, etc. and was always one of the things I hated about being in a relationship - the pressure to perform or they would leave/cheat. It was extremely stressful, and felt like a chore most of the time. I personally feel like sex is super overrated. I've always felt like I'd rather be doing something else, and that's not to say I've never had good sex - I had and it was great but when it was over it was just not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 07:18 AM |
| 10 | When people act like the women here that are calling out LVM behavior are just as bad as misogynists/incels/PUAsEvery sitcom where the couple hates each other or the woman is constantly put down for comedic effect. My ex loves Dave Chapelle and the like. I was always uncomfortable about certain topics like him making fun of his wife but would still laugh. Some of his stuff is funny, but it's generally very offensive. A girl I know got tickets for a very famous comedian for her fiance's birthday. They both watch his content together and she laughs heartedly at the jokes about everything from child abuse to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:49 AM |
| -4 | The double standard is astoundingWow, first time I'm hearing about this... I remember boobs always being such a big factor in attractiveness. I never knew a guy who liked smaller boobs, which made me kind of self-conscious to be honest. Mine are pretty average, not big, not small, but I always felt this pressure to get them bigger - it was one of the things I hated about getting into shape and losing weight: the boobs went too! I feel sorry for people who think it's okay to even mention that to you. What the actual fuck. What a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:36 AM |
| 3 | That’s how low young girl’s standards are nowadays ladies & gentlewomen 🤦♀️I'm glad you shifted your mindset - you deserve the world, girl!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:27 AM |
| 26 | THIS 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼Unfortunately, from what I've seen, they'll be forever shopping 🤷♀️ Pure FOMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:16 AM |
| 90 | Reading this makes me both sad and mad at the same time!!!I feel like men want younger women because they're incapable of facing they're getting older, uglier and less wanted and seeing their same-age wives every day is a reminder of that. So they go for younger girls that make them feel younger, and more attractive. It's a mirroring thing. Utimately, it's just an escape from reality, which will come and bite them in the butt regardless. Super sad and insecure. Most men are inherently cowardly and can't face their own mortality - just like they can't e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 07:32 AM |
| 9 | AngerBecause, deep down, we know they're no good, will never be, and it's exhausting to keep trying. Maybe it's just a phase, but even if it is, we just go back to the very place we started in the end... Don't force anything. If you currently despise men, put dating on pause or it'll just be straight up torture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 12:22 AM |
| 197 | I’m in shockEven being married doesn't mean much these days 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 12:09 AM |
| 7 | This guy said that he has never managed to not cheat on his partners in 15 YEARS OF DATING and his sister rightfully called him out on it and he's upset at her for it because it was in front of his daughter.I know right? I think my ex is being super nice to me because he's scared I'll tell everyone he cheated on me with his very good friend... He didn't even tell his mom he had broken up with me, or she would ask WHY, and she just assumed it was me who did it. Guess someone doesn't want mommy to find out he's not so golden boy after all (she proceeded to trash talk me and he still didn't admit it, though he did defend me - again, for his own gain). Own your shame, people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:25 PM |
| 33 | I’m in shockJust saw this on Twitter too... I'm shocked, I'm appalled and I have lost all faith in humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 19 | This guy said that he has never managed to not cheat on his partners in 15 YEARS OF DATING and his sister rightfully called him out on it and he's upset at her for it because it was in front of his daughter."It's an embarrassment for me" ... Good, it should be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 7 | Disrespects her during live Q&A multiple times + doesn't want to marry or have kids with her. And she continues to date him???The comments are just hard to read... Especially his. I didn't watch the whole video because that's just too much, and I've seen enough. Basically reading mean comments about her with her present, saying he'll never get married or have kids and she can just leave if she wants to... And if she does it'll be all the same to him. WTF Have no idea who he is but I'm pretty sure my ex follows his channel and watches his videos a lot 🤔 Know their role models and you'll know their real selves, I guess! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:34 PM |
| 11 | This couple (man is a senator in México) the husband says in a IG live video: "you are showing too much leg" I translate the rest in commentsHe's disgusting. His tone is also super rude, if I were her I would have been livid and just told him to fuck off... Then showed my whole damn leg! Unfortunately, men of power think they own the world and everyone in it. What is she doing with him? She's young and gorgeous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:15 PM |
| 3 | I have no wordsLet's hope so... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 5 | I have no wordsThat's good to know. I'm sure she's so messed up she can barely think so probably didn't cross her mind to look that up. Again, hopefully people will offer good advice in that threat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 196 | Periodt.Yup, no point teaching them, especially because once they master it they'll go treat some other girl well - not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:01 PM |
| 8 | I have no wordsThis is sickening... I hope someone in the thread is able to help her somehow. Maybe a woman who can provide her with some place to stay until she has the baby and can get her life together. I've seen it happen before so fingers crossed some good Samaritan sees the post and helps! It's truly disheartening to see she's reaching her lowest and is actually considering suicide... This is no joke. She needs to leave that place. But I wonder what would happen legally considering she's on the lease too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:00 PM |
| 2 | The bar is this low yet men will still call her standards “too high” 💀I think she's being sarcastic... She has to be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 19 | On a post regarding "marriageable" womenGood for you!! I honestly don't know where he's coming from... I see this daily, have tons of friends in this situation... It's like when men say they've never witnessed sexual harassment. You're either blind or just don't care? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:48 PM |
| 10 | It's time to decenter men in your life, period.Yup, it's insane how some women swear by their man's character. I never once dated anyone I trusted 100% and I was still burned - they managed to destroy even my lowest expectations, which is truly a feat in itself. Either way, I would/will never say "this person would never never be capable of X", be it a romantic partner or anyone else, because people have the ability to surprise you in the worst way. I see girls here doing that too: saying they found a HVM and I don't want to sound like a ske… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:47 PM |
| 21 | From the same social media feeds of all the men & pickmes from your yeehaw small town that believe their high school science courses have given them the same educational credentials & authority as a doctor are also experts in discerning a woman's marital status based on empirical shoe evidence...I use all of those, depends on my mood! Too bad men can't comprehend how complex and multi-layered a woman can be, it's too much for them... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:40 PM |
| 3 | It's time to decenter men in your life, period.Thank you! Yeah I mean I'm not swearing off men forever (I don't even know what I'll eat for breakfast tomorrow lol) I just don't find it a priority/necessity at all right now, or think it will be a priority/necessity in the future, taking by how burnt I was in the past. I feel bitter, but I'm definitely happier too! I wholeheartedly agree, I feel the same way 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:52 PM |
| 49 | Imagine being this much of a butthurt clownIt's disgusting what people do to get likes nowadays... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:48 PM |
| 42 | Yeah, I'm going to pass on all that and just be myself fr.It is really exhausting... It's even worse in a relationship! So just be single, is my reasoning 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:46 PM |
| 12 | The real reason FDS pisses people off so muchThat's what you get when you let your guard down and actually treat men like human beings, showing support and putting your differences aside for a common goal. They shit right in your face and have the audacity to say it's on you. Awesome post, by the way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:44 PM |
| 16 | Women aren't "making men feel special" anymore because we're tired of so many men not meeting our standards for even being a basic decent human being. I'd much rather make myself feel special than a man who thinks I owe him anything for existing and wants me to inflate his ego even bigger than it isThat's his mom's job. Or his teacher's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:39 PM |
| 8 | Men thinking we owe them a relationshipI agree, that's the only time I would find it moronic too. But again, it depends on the circumstances - we only got his side after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:36 PM |
| 36 | How do you deal with shame of being a pick me in the pastI see it as me growing up and changing and being a human being who made/is going to make mistakes. Always. They don't define who I am and I'm the person I am today because I learned from those mistakes. I don't know if that works for everyone but that's what helped me move on from being an idiotic pick me (I'm still learning though, it's not an overnight thing). Just be sure to be kind to yourself and take it easy. Forgive your past self, let go of those who wronged you. You'll be fine 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:19 PM |
| 137 | On a post regarding "marriageable" womenCharming 🙄🙄 Unfortunately, I don't think he's wrong. He's wrong about it being rare, though. I see so many great girls settling for assholes every day, it's really quite common. He probably just hasn't been lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:17 PM |
| 58 | I often feel like the black sheep of the family being single, but when I compare it to my sisters…You should never compare yourself to anyone... What's important is that you feel good about yourself and your life. I'm sure it pains you to see your sisters in those situations but you shouldn't be made to feel bad for making good choices - stay single if you wish, or not. That's your choice. Better be the black sheep and happy than conform to society's standards and die unhappy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:15 PM |
| 42 | It's time to decenter men in your life, period.Why even bother with men? Might as well stay single. I just don't see any reason why we'd want to go through the whole process of first finding one worth our time when the chances are he'll reveal to be an asshole down the road, and second stay in a relationship that will basically be a second job, both financially and emotionally taxing. Why not save myself the trouble and just not to go looking for anyone? Maybe I'm just bitter and can't see the light just yet... 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:12 PM |
| 8 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”It never does... But at least you got to see it before you guys had kids and got married. Now you'll be free soon enough, no strings attached! Congratulations on leveling up 👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:11 PM |
| 14 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”Good for you!! He has all that free time and is still mad about spending what, 1 day of the week with you? What an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Post from /trueoffmychest shows the reality of how men can take decades to learn that you deserve better than them.Good. Start doing some groveling just before she leaves your ass, so you can feel 50x worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:03 PM |
| 5 | he probably thinks his answer is funny...but it only makes me want to puke 🤢🤮Is that a... Threat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 19 | Men are more violent when there are more women aroundOf course it's our fault... Again... Because men can't possibly be responsible for their own actions. Ffs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 6 | Grown man angry that wife did not pack his camping clothes for him. After she packed literally everything else for their trip!She actually has two children, she just didn't know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:56 PM |
| 57 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”"They're always so busy! But they pause their videogames for me so they must REALLY love me ❤️" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:36 PM |
| 11 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”Animal Crossing 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:36 PM |
| 3 | In addition to questioning my modesty he also told me I wasn’t submissive enough and that he thinks it’s fine to hit children. Dodged a bullet here 🙃I love yoga pants. If some man doesn't like them, he can go look for someone with a similar fashion sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:23 PM |
| 6 | What happens to the “cool girls”.I was a cool girlfriend and got played just like this. Never again, learned my lesson! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:17 PM |
| 22 | Statistics. Men are static regardless of their age, prefering young girls. Women are more dynamic and desire men around their own age.Disgusting how the older they get, the younger they want their women 🤮🤮🤮 Old enough to be daughters/granddaughters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:14 PM |
| 6 | Yikes! Predator exposed 😐Ew, Ew, ew, Ew. The fact he thinks she won't mind if he's old because he's successful and drives a Mercedes (what kind of Mercedes though? They come cheap too 🤣) is vomit inducing. Sounds like he's looking for a sugar baby... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:07 PM |
| 106 | My Wife's autistic friend wont make eye contact me or laugh at my jokes, how can I get my Wife to stop having friends? I want my house back.This wife of his is a QUEEN! She literally just told him to fuck off to his parents house if he's so bothered... Imagine having a woman at your house you feel doesn't find you funny or attractive and wants nothing to do with you - must be tough. I would cry too. Good on the wife for being such a good friend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 23 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalOf course he is controlling! Never let a man dictate what you say, do, wear, go, etc. There is no legitimate reason why they should be allowed to do it (unless your life was at risk or something disproportionate like that!) Please find someone who respects and trusts you enough to be able to make your own decisions. I'm glad this man is in the last because 🤮🤮 His entire post reeks of insecurity, victim blaming (imagine if you were raped - it would be on you for wearing those revealing clothes), … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:50 PM |
| 7 | Okay 🙌🏼I don't think it's very safe to go on vacation with a guy you don't know very well... Unless they were friends, this is actually a bit creepy. But happy to see it went well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 10 | 😂😂😂I sincerely hope he reciprocates in the same way... Though I highly doubt it 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:44 PM |
| 2 | “Dance for me, pickmeisha”I have no doubts about that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Her: I'm a lesbian...LVM: so you wanna try it out?True. And then they'll drop them like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Always about them 🙄🙄🙄I don't mean to be rude but. Sit. Down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Sorry!!!! (Not) guy was so damn thirsty.Exactly. Just because it doesn't matter to him doesn't mean she has to feel the same way... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Such good lessons...I'm sorry to hear it... Just know you're better off without him. You're good enough, he was just an asshole trying to make himself feel better by belittling you. Strong people don't do that to others, they uplift others. Born again Christian... God knows his true self and doesn't want him 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:52 PM |
| -4 | Of all the images he could have used, this Youtuber used a sexualized image of a teenage girl in his thumbnailWhy? Im not condoning what he did at all. Just saying it's both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:54 PM |
| 11 | Male (7 years older) wants me to go visit him in different state that’s in lockdown.I think he didn't even consider any of that... He just wanted to get laid and felt he could get lucky. What an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:11 PM |
| -11 | Of all the images he could have used, this Youtuber used a sexualized image of a teenage girl in his thumbnailUnfortunately he knows people will pay more attention to this thumbnail than a completely normal, non-sexual one. I'm not saying he's not a pervert for sure, I'm just saying he's smart around his business and knows what sells. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:04 PM |
| 21 | What’s something that you did with good intention, too early for a man, and now look back in it with so much regret?This might sound crazy but I actually did more for my ex when we were going through a rough patch/close to breaking up than in the beginning. I was very hesitant and didn't trust him at first so didn't really put in much effort - he was the one who love-bombed me and I had sex with him not even a month in. I don't regret the sex per se but I definitely regret letting him in emotionally. I clearly wasn't ready for another relationship (had a nasty break up just a month prior) but his charm and at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:02 PM |
| 18 | Filled with resentmentUnfortunately there's nothing you CAN do about resentment other than let it go and invest your time and energy on yourself/what makes you happy and fulfilled. Nevermind him, or what he does, where he lives, whom he dates. Just never think about him again and don't allow other people to talk about him or stalk his social media, etc. Just act like he doesn't exist and your brain will soon believe it. What happened was on him, not you. If you allow any more of your time and energy to go to him, you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:58 PM |
| 68 | Step 1: Try to sound smart while not actually saying anything. Step 2: Make it known that you don’t know how to plan dates. Step 3: Get blocked.Is he trying to sound smart by using big words? First sign he's not that smart... Going to the park sounds like a friend date. I don't get the appeal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:53 PM |
| 5 | His ex showed up on the date and said “we broke up yesterday, good luck, hes an asshole”Unless they're from the south, there's no excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:51 PM |
| 8 | “You’re so sensitive”Yes. They use the honesty card way too often as if it justifies everything ... And then when you call them on it they ask "what, you want me to lie instead?" It's too much for their emotionally deprived brain to understand basic human decency and compassion - to quote Thumper (a literal fictional rabbit) " if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all". And definitely don't attack me for wanting you to be the littlest bit considerate for my feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:45 PM |
| 3 | “You’re so sensitive”Oh this is good, thank you for the suggestion! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:41 PM |
| 10 | “You’re so sensitive”Yup, you'd be crazy too if you were led to believe that for a long time and dealt with so much shit during that period. Takes a toll on your mental health. They're the ones who create crazy, yet have the audacity to walk away unscathed and proud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:47 AM |
| 2 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?Unfortunately I think that day is already here for most people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:44 AM |
| 5 | ClassicAs a child of an alcoholic, I wholeheartedly agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:40 AM |
| 6 | ClassicI know a similar story too. One of my friend's mom attempted suicide when the children were small, she just couldn't take his behavior anymore. By some miracle, he changed overnight and became a loving husband and parent, completely alcohol and drug free. But again, that's the exception, not the rule. And for the woman to have to go to such lengths for him to get a wake up call is insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:40 AM |
| 11 | Such good lessons...Men's love for women is the love for flowers: they pluck them right out of the dirt without a second thought, for their own interests. We're beautiful to look at and have but they don't give a shit about our wellbeing if it fits them. Might place us in a pretty vase or just an old glass, depending on their mood. Do the bare minimum for a while (change our water, maybe, if they're so inclined, or not at all). We'll just start wilting day by day (depending on our treatment, we'll last longer or di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:36 AM |
| 1 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄That's insane. Thankfully I'm too broke to ever consider it but I don't think I'd go that far for a man even if I did have the means! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:29 AM |
| 32 | Her: I'm a lesbian...LVM: so you wanna try it out?It's disgusting how "converting lesbians" is such a turn on for most men. They just won't give up. Just leave women alone, especially those who were lucky enough to be born not having to deal with your gross ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:27 AM |
| 9 | don’t ever have a kid with a LVM 🤮🤮🤮Where's the lie? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:23 AM |
| 17 | don’t ever have a kid with a LVM 🤮🤮🤮Exactly - she can call herself that, no one else. Just like you can insult your brother but will beat the shit out of anyone who does. He should crawl back into the hole he came from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:23 AM |
| 8 | don’t ever have a kid with a LVM 🤮🤮🤮I've recently decided if I ever want to get children, I'll either use a sperm donor (and possibly surrogate) or just straight up adopt. I'll be a single mom for sure, I have no patience or time to take care of a grown ass man to boot. But I'm not in a financial position to do that just yet, so it'll be a few years before it happens. I saw Natalie Imbruglia's case the other day and it inspired me to do the same - she's in her forties, single, pregnant, and happier than ever! Don't let any man jeo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:20 AM |
| 7 | Thanks to FDS I can't watch romcoms without picking them apartThis!! I enjoy romcoms but I can now pinpoint exactly what's wrong/toxic about them. It's scary. Same with romance books. I'm one of those people who can enjoy something and know it's problematic at the same time, both are not mutually exclusive. But I understand if someone can't. To me it's fictional so it's not to be taken at heart value - but of course if I were to see it happening in real life I would be running for the hills. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days is still quite fun to watch, but I n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:16 AM |
| 11 | Sorry!!!! (Not) guy was so damn thirsty.I beieve they think it's cute and flirty 🤮 Boy bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:06 AM |
| 25 | Sorry!!!! (Not) guy was so damn thirsty.Yes, for some reason they have the tiniest memory where they can only remember the last thing they did wrong but nothing else prior to that - very selective! I wish I could do that trick on command. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:05 AM |
| 12 | One day, when you have leveled up significantly, you will come across a picture of a man you used to pine about and think to yourself, "he's not even that hot"I am so happy you achieved this level of self-worth and happiness! It truly is a blessing to rid yourself of scum - everything else seems to woosh right in afterwards, as if by magic! He was clearly the odd one out. Good for you!! If you don't mind me asking, which books resonated with you the most? My ex completely destroyed my self-esteem and I need it back asap! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:02 AM |
| 6 | If I could slap my past pick me self...The important thing is that we're no longer that person, and have grown into our beautiful, confident selves who put up with no one's shit. It's an uphill battle, with constant challenges, but we'll get there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:56 AM |
| 4 | FDS 101 👑When you're totally at ease and in love with yourself, you attract a different kind of crowd, I swear! And vice-versa. But unfortunately, being happy and confident in your own skin is also a beacon for scrotes and NVM/LVM looking to score - thankfully, if you're doing you then you're probably already well-versed in the art of keeping them away. Thank God for FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:54 AM |
| 35 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.OMG I choked 🤣🤣🤣 So perfect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:50 AM |
| 6 | “Dance for me, pickmeisha”I'm so sorry you had to go through that... No matter what we do, it's never enough. They just want more and more, without reciprocating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:45 AM |
| 9 | “Dance for me, pickmeisha”My ex would withhold affection and attention from me and when I asked (begged!) for them he would say (in a joking manner) that I hadn't done anything to deserve them... This was 7 years down the line! He knew it made me crazy and enjoyed the hell out of it. Even though I fought him on it in the beginning, eventually really started to believe he was right. That's the kind of power they have. Wise up, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:43 AM |
| 5 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?Yeah to this day I don't think I'd date a man with kids... Maybe if he were a single dad (mom had died or something like that) and even then, I just don't know if I could handle it. It's worse when there are other women in the picture though, you'll never be able to compete and he'll always have to prioritize his children (of course) but rarely do you see a healthy co-parenting arrangement that doesn't exude drama and ends up messing with your own relationship. So yeah, no kids or family, even i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 96 | “You’re so sensitive”Yup, when they're the ones who make a big deal out of nothing... We only make a big deal out of things that matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:19 PM |
| 66 | “You’re so sensitive”They want to make you sound crazy so you doubt yourself and feel bad... Classic move but oh so easy to fall for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:18 PM |
| 7 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?I know, I feel so sorry for all of you but I'm glad he's able to handle it like a champ. How trash do you have to even think of breaking a happy family apart without a second thought? Makes me sick to my stomach. If I were to ever hit on a man and find out he was married, I'd be out of there before he even finished that sentence. Plus, I would never approach a man with his kids around with that sort of intention, he's very clearly taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:02 PM |
| 3 | HVM know the value of a woman they talk to. And they aren't insecure to admit that.Yeah I wouldn't be surprised... Unfortunately they know exactly who to prey upon, they can smell vulnerability a mile away and heavily exploit it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:59 PM |
| 42 | The last two sentences... I wish I could unreadYup, men find the idea of having children so appealing because most of them aren't active participants anyway. It's just for show, or because their friends have large families, etc. They have something to prove (more babies = more testesterone = more manly men) as men, not as parents. Anyone can shoot a load and hit an egg, that doesn't take a lot of skill. But raising a child? Yeah that's the real challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 31 | The last two sentences... I wish I could unreadUnfortunately, there's no way to explain it to him because he won't get it. At all. She'll be wasting her breath. Men who minimize housework as "not really work", men who want a lot of kids but don't lift a finger in raising them, men who are close to thirty marrying barely legal women... Yeah, no, no, no. He managed to ensnare her and she won't be able to get out now - she's super young and doesn't deserve any of it... My heart goes out to this poor soul and I hope she gets the help she needs t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 7 | A pickmeisha in her natural habitat. This just ain’t it...Tearing down other women who've done nothing to her and she has no business talking about... Yeah that's not a good look. I think even men don't care about that sort of behavior these days, and they don't have many standards 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Are Men Trash? Article on how this in-joke has become a whole movementHear hear! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:42 PM |
| 8 | Are Men Trash? Article on how this in-joke has become a whole movementNowadays, all 90% of them are useful for is procreation. Which you can get from an anonymous donor at a clinic or by adoption anyway, both of which don't require the woman to interact with said men. Soooo yeah. We can literally get everything else from our own selves, toys, and friends and family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:42 PM |
| 6 | HVM know the value of a woman they talk to. And they aren't insecure to admit that.I'm so sorry he did that to you, I hope you're okay now. Men never fail to surprise us, and not in a positive way... I hope his girlfriend isn't aware of this because knowingly dating an abuser is possibly one of the lowest a person can go... And if she isn't, I hope she finds out before he does it to her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:39 PM |
| 7 | HVM know the value of a woman they talk to. And they aren't insecure to admit that.It's always hilarious when they realize you're confident to the point you know all of it so the compliments don't really faze you. So they go on to call you "conceited/full of yourself" just because their ego was bruised when they weren't acknowledged for their meager effort. So tragic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 26 | Raise your standards in everything. You are worth it.Yup, as the saying goes: "if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for everything." So better start standing for everything, just to be sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 28 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?That is a whole other level of insanity... Is her brother okay?? He doesn't seem right in the head to me. His family must be mortified every time. And how she just goes along with it is completely unreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 21 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?And then argue "they couldn't help it, it was stronger than them!" As if they're animals without any type of restraint... It's scary. Imagine if we'd all just do what our hearts desired, unable to control ourselves - that's what rapists, pedophiles and the like go for too. Yet cheating is seeing as completely normal and even expected... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:28 PM |
| 23 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?People have no fucking boundaries. Women are more attracted to men who they perceive as "husband material" so the kids are like a beacon to them 🤮 Especially if they've been single for a while or recently divorced, so they're desperate for a man. It's like when that one guy no one paid attention to before (because he was so average) gets a girlfriend and all of a sudden all other girls are interested because, if he managed to get a girlfriend, then surely he must have something special about him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 23 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?I'm in a similar position. One of the things I made sure to tell my ex was "Once a cheater, always a cheater. And you can bet both of you will cheat again." She also cheated on her then boyfriend with mine, so guess they deserve each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:17 PM |
| 30 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?Unfortunately I've met some of these women (and some I was friends with for a while back in the day). They rationalize it by saying they're single, so it's not their problem. It's the man who cheated, not them. It's not their responsibility. Like wtf, since when have we as a human race become this selfish and narcissistic? I don't get it. I would be disgusted if I accidentally got on with a married man without knowing, how would someone willingly accept it and be okay with it? Blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 17 | For reals sometimes liking man feels like a curseThere are happy lesbian relationships and unhappy ones too. There are good girlfriends and bad girlfriends. I've seen my share of toxic lesbian relationships so can't really say they have it easier just because their partner isn't a man. I do feel like it's an easier road to travel overall - just because you get each other more easily being both women, things are more apparent. When it comes to the romantic aspect of it, though, both sides have their big challenges and if you don't work on it an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:03 PM |
| 292 | “You’re so sensitive”Yup, always testing us to see how far we'll put up with their bullshit, then getting mad when we "fail". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄Thank you so much! Yeah it's hard not to make that connection when they played such a big part in the whole situation, I can totally understand where you're coming from. That's true and it was hard for me to get to the point where I didn't blame myself or thought I could have done this or that in order to keep him from cheating, which is insane. I bent over backwards just to try and save our relationship, and all the while he was going to the other girl for all his emotional needs while I was le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Yeah, not a good guy at all... I feel really crappy for believing him 🤦 He's a very competent scammer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:38 PM |
| 1 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄God, are there no genuine people left? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:19 PM |
| 12 | My LVM ex lied about his SAT score being higher than mineI agree, their emotional intelligence usually sucks... Then again, don't most men's? I guess just in different ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:32 PM |
| 2 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄Gosh, same here... I do like some simulator games and I did enjoy playing with him from time to time (he was always trying to find games I liked so we could play together but he could get a bit competitive, which I didn't care for, and was just too pushy for me to try stuff). So yeah he was considerate in that aspect but I guess I was so messed up already I didn't even care for games anymore and just wanted something else where we could enjoy each others company more and that I could enjoy more … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 1 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Someone said he used to be a pick up artist and was just really shady in general, so I went and did some research and just didn't feel like he was a good role model after all... A shame because I did think this video at least was quite good but he sounds toxic and anti-single people, which goes against what I believe in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:16 PM |
| 4 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄Yes!! I was suddenly clingy for wanting to watch a movie every now and again... and of course I DID become clingy and desperate because I felt this man pulling away from me and I had no idea why - which only made him pull away further. It was honestly one of my lowest moments and I don't plan to repeat it. Don't want to spend time with me? I know where the door is (to either leave or show it to him). Let him miss me then. It's also funny, when you give up and go tend to your own hobbies, they su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:04 PM |
| 16 | Im not sure if im overreacting: female friends?Girl, don't even think about allowing this to continue. I did the same, was "cool" about the whole thing, was FRIENDS with her and next thing I know he's having an emotional affair with her. Nope, never again. And she had a boyfriend too, so that means nothing. She wasn't happy with him and was just using him like my ex was using me. You may think it's wrong to "forbid" this friendship when there's nothing going on but trust me, men don't really see other women as friends. They're not like us. E… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:48 PM |
| 31 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄All my boyfriends were gamers and it's never an issue at first. But once they feel safe in the relationship and know you're not going anywhere, you can bet they'll choose their games over you. Then complain women are vapid and vain for spending too much time on social media or reading or something else equally "boring". Bro, you're not an intellectual for screaming into a headset and pushing buttons... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:38 PM |
| 1 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Eww, really?? That is very disappointing. I'm taking down the post now... Got me good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:07 PM |
| 2 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Well unfortunately that's what sells. If you don't make it look "mind-blowing" people's interest won't be picked, and with so much competition going around for the same things you need to really market yourself. But yes I agree to some extent. Sometimes people need to be told the obvious because they can't get there themselves - especially if they're too sad, depressed, or have low self-esteem. Sometimes you just need someone to point out something you missed - being on the outside is easier to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:42 AM |
| 3 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Ah I see! I didn't watch any more of his videos, I suppose I should have before posting... Thanks so much for the recs, I'll check them out instead 🙂 Don't want to follow a guy who doesn't like/value single people, wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:36 AM |
| 58 | This is why we should never play housewife (especially besides a job)What an absolute bag of shit. So she does ALL their chores, plus has a successful career, and he can't do this one thing for her? Seriously? And feels like because of everything she does she's entitled to "a few demands" here and there but only when HE deems them important? Boy, you got yourself a QUEEN and you just don't know what to do with her... I hope she realizes this soon, and I take it from his post that she's slowly but surely getting sick of his bullshit. Good for her 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:34 AM |
| 22 | solo date ideasYes, girl, so happy you'll start doing this!! Your ideas are super inspiring, I'm hoping to try them soon (it's been difficult with the pandemic but hopefully things will get better soon). I actually went on my first solo date recently and have to say I felt more at peace and enjoyed myself more than I had in ages with my ex... Or actually with anyone. I'm an introvert so I truly enjoy alone time. Being in a relationship made me forget how much! It makes me really annoyed when people say that's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:30 AM |
| 38 | Pickmeisha accepts proposal in McDonald'sThe amount of shade the author throws right at the beginning is... Something! This poor woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:22 AM |
| 12 | Really need advice/rescue mission!!!She'll find out who he is eventually, no need to tell her anything. Remove yourself from the situation and although I am sorry this happened to you, please never be the other woman again. It is terrible for both you and the girlfriend and any man who cheats is not someone you'd want to be with, whether he leaves her or not. If he was that wiling to leave he would have, with or without someone else in the equation. The fact that most men only leave when they have someone else already lined up is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:20 AM |
| 4 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄What do you mean? What I got from this was pretty much just that women shouldn't settle for NVM/LVM or give them second chances, wasting time when they should be moving on to better things. The only part I don't agree with is the need to be serial monogamist. Being alone is fine and leaving a relationship for no one is the ultimate goal. I felt, personally, it aligned with FDS values in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:05 AM |
| 5 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄Yup, absolutely and that was the only thing I didn't agree with him. But everything else is very spot-on and great for anyone needing to get out of a toxic relationship or just being unhappy with what they're currently getting. I think the relationship-mindset is what sells so that's what he goes for, but really can be applied to anything - it doesn't much matter why you do it as long as you do do it. Just replace "man" with anything else you'd like to achieve and you're set! I have a good frien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:01 AM |
| 8 | Lesson learned. Never settle!Yes!! I strongly believe we DO need to go through certain trashy relationships to be able to learn and appreciate the good ones when they come... It can be applied to pretty much everything else in life too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:52 AM |
| 26 | Turn down for what?Came here for this 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:44 AM |
| 33 | Epstein & Trump defender Alan Dershowitz says “Statutory rape is an outdated concept” 🤢so disgustingOf course he would like to rape 15 year olds legally... I'm sure a lot of pedophiles agree and will feel extremely empowered by this interview. I wonder who thought it a good idea to publish this trash... You can bet all those "freedom of speech" activists will come to his aid when he's called out. Smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:39 AM |
| 6 | How to be happy aloneAs an introvert, I still kind of relate to this. But the hobbies suggestion is perfect, I certainly do find myself with a lot of free time and a lot more energy now that I don't spend it all on my ex... and I plan to put them to good use! Trust me, you'll be fine on your own. You just need to find other means of fulfillment other than being with other people. When I start to feel lonely, I think about this thing I heard someone say once "In the end, we only have ourselves. We die alone. You may … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:31 AM |
| 7 | LVM Manipulation Caught Just in TimeYes Queen, yes!! So glad she left this piece of shit before he could do any more harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:38 PM |
| 10 | Why do super disgusting posts by LVM get so much attention, both positive and negative and yet the potential HVM posts out there get next to no response, positive or negative.He got a comment and an upvote from me. I urge everyone else to do the same (at least upvote) so we can get this post to where it deserves! That is some lucky girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:21 PM |
| 15 | I broke up with my forever boyfriendGirl, you did the right thing!! I'm in a similar situation, but he was the one to break up. Unfortunately we have to live together for a bit but yeah, stay positive. Better things will come after everything gets sorted out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 09:04 AM |
| 2 | HVM lives peacefully with wife's Dissociative Identity Disorder and all her alternate personalities. Meanwhile, men can't even deal with our mood swingsBeauty doesn't mean anything... Men have cheated/broken up with beautiful women before, and sometimes for a much "uglier" person. Doesn't make him automatically a good person but certainly makes him a better husband than all the low-lives I've seen leaving women for much less 🤷♀️ He might not be a HVM - I don't know him - but at least appears to be. And I was making a comparison between the lengths he goes to for the one he loves vs what most people will (which is not much). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Out of all the terrible OLD openers I’ve received, this one is definitely up there.So many strange and contradictory statements in just one sentence... Wow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:05 AM |
| 5 | Tell me it will do no good to hit "send". More info in comments.I know how hard it is not to try and get through their thick skull how epically inconsiderate and downright assholes they can be but, truly, it's not worth it. He's trying to gauge a reaction out of it so not giving one will break him more. He wouldn't even care what your message said, he just wants to have his validated. Pay him no attention, it will drive him mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 07:57 AM |
| 1 | HVM lives peacefully with wife's Dissociative Identity Disorder and all her alternate personalities. Meanwhile, men can't even deal with our mood swingsNot quite, from what I could gather her personalities are actually all male 🤣 He explains that these alters are simply friends and they've established they would never date or engage in anything romantic or sexual (although he's had one such experience with one of them before he knew what was going on, thinking it was his wife). So yeah, I think they have a pretty great system going for the circumstances and he sounds like an amazing partner, to be honest! He's literally gaining nothing from it,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 07:51 AM |
| 13 | Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by an ugly dusty you gave a chance and he ended up playing you?I never thought I'd find so many people like me! It's honestly both a relief and a terrible shame we ladies had to go through something like this... I have incredibly high standards but never acted on them because I felt I wasn't good enough for these perfect guys and knew they would ultimately only bring trouble (cheat, lie, etc.) No one told me you'd get the exact same thing with unattractive men though! I just thought I wouldn't be dealing with drama and girls wanting my bf all the time but s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:54 AM |
| 8 | How do you tell if a guy is boring or if you're just so used to toxicity in relationships that healthy feels boring?Do you have nice conversations? Do you have anything in common? Do you find yourself missing him if he's not there? Do you want to tell him about your day when you're together? Do you feel comfortable with both talking and silence, etc? Those are some good places to start. If he checks off most of these, then it's probably just your brain missing the craziness and not knowing what to do with the peace. If he doesn't, then he's probably just boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:28 PM |
| 120 | Scrote mad because he can't jerk off to pictures of some women because they have their kids with them.This is all kinds of fucked up. First up, the AUDACITY of looking up a stranger on Facebook with the sole purpose of jacking off to her pictures! Secondly, the AUDACITY of thinking she's posting pictures of her kids on her OWN social media as a shield to avoid said masturbation? As if scrotes like him are on her mind all the time while she's selecting what to show and not show to the world... How about because she loves her kids and wants to have tons of pictures with them? How about because it'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:41 AM |
| 13 | A train wreck of a tinder profile. From shaming other women to embarrassing his ex to requiring women to be his “savior” (aka therapist).So... he wants a mommy, basically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:35 AM |
| 5 | Relationship with an expiry dateI'm one of those people who doesn't believe in marriage (blame my parents) and never wants to get married (also haven't really wanted kids either but that's still on the table). So I've never seen myself marrying any of the guys I dated. I feel like most men only marry becausr they're pressured anyway and the relationship is never the same after that - he's just going to be resentful and sleep around. Not all men, obviously, but most men from my experience do this. So it's really pointless to ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:33 AM |
| 7 | Listen to people when they tell you who they are. Taken from “How to be Famous” by Caitlin Moran.Yup, men always tell the truth, you just need to pay attention. They just don't think you're smart enough to get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen of tinder, men can’t think logicallyOmg how can someone say "no" to this?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:10 AM |
| 1 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Agree with the Taurus thing. Never actually dated a Capricorn but noted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:52 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Girl I'm so sorry... Dated one, and one was enough! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:48 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Ugh yes! I mean he used to boast to anyone who was listening how he'd not kill any spiders in the house, just gently grab them with a dustpan and throw them outside... Just be a good person, no need to advertize it 🙄 He also follows those guys on YouTube who teach you how to groom, be a gentleman and pick up chicks - I dare anyone to see them as "gentlemen". Just so cringy... Lots of self-help and self-improvement books yet not one taught him not to cheat on me, oops (yes I'm still salty) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?And look at memes all day and watch videos on YouTube. I keep seeing a lot of people say they're boring... Kinda have to agree! Now that I've had time to cool off and process the last few years, he acted like a goody two shoes (more like God almighty) all the time and was so annoying... Especially when he actually was just another asshole pretending to be a good guy (aka nice guy). Also super "focused" on work yet never held a job for too long... 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:25 PM |
| 1 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I am utterly fascinated by this but don't know the Venus aspect thing... How do you figure that out? I suppose you would need his date of birth and time of birth? You can't get those on the first date unfortunately... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:03 PM |
| 3 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Dated a Taurus. I'm not sure he was lazy per se but he did like to have the house clean and proper all the time (sounded more like a Virgo man, maybe he was defective LOL) but to be honest never saw him do much other than play videogames and work out. He did cook, though. Just too much conversation and little action, if you know what I mean... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:58 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Really? According to my natal chart I'm most compatible with Virgo men... Yikes 🤣 Time to ignore astrology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 12 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?My Taurus ex was similar: very materialistic, controlling, a "nice guy" who lied and gaslighted at any given opportunity. Stubborn as hell, needed to be right ALL the time and sulked almost daily. Very exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:50 PM |
| 4 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Gosh, I dated a Taurus and a Gemini before that and I can attest to Gemini being fucking crazy. Taurus are just stubborn to the point you want to kill them or yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 14 | I wanna thank this sub for helping me recognize my strength...You are stronger than you ever imagined. You've taken the first step - and it's going to be hard - but I believe in you! And having a supportive family is everything. Please stay safe and let us know how things go in your new life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:46 PM |
| 3 | Can we make this a MASSIVE red flag......if a man tries to persuade you or negotiate after you say ‘stop’ or ‘no’, he’s not a keeper!Nice guys are sometimes way worse than bad ones... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:43 PM |
| 8 | When they lurk FDS and know all the talking points 😂Straight teeth... Darn, you don't see that every day, do you? fans self | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:41 PM |
| 23 | NVM comes back into pickmeisha’s life with his newfound religion. Pickmeisha bends over backwards to adapt, and gets mad when her daughter doesn’t oblige and wear a hijab. Wtf!Thank. God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:37 PM |
| 18 | and feel attacked when you ask for anything moreSo classy 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 5 | "Men age like fine wine" Sean Penn, 59, and Leila George, 28 just got married. There are no words.She is so beautiful, and apparently talented and well-off. What is she thinking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:20 PM |
| 6 | High standards are a form of self-careSo true - toxic people are not picky, but they do pick the vulnerable people out quite masterfully. The secret is not letting them in, let alone stay! Easier said than done but... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:08 PM |
| 99 | and feel attacked when you ask for anything more"What, you don't like my bare minimum? You're such a spoiled brat. As if you deserved anything anyway. You're also ugly. Good luck finding a guy who cares!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:06 PM |
| 8 | Never explain or negotiate your sexual boundaries- It's all LVM manipulationYup I'm just like you, I do feel the need to do everything my way lol And my ex did often complain we always did what I wanted because he would give in but I wouldn't - I don't think that's fair, I did go along with a lot of stuff I didn't particularly care for but didn't feel was a battle worth fighting so didn't even complain. I think he just focused on the stuff that I did complain about lol So in the end I felt extremely guilty, thinking it was my fault... And you know what, maybe it was but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 6 | Deleted all OLDCats are great if you need a more independent type of love... Dogs are better if you like constant love and affection hahaha It can get a bit too much sometimes! But either of those sound better than a man at this point 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:08 PM |
| 1 | You ladies inspired me and I whipped this piece up in less than 24 hours. If I want to, I will ✌️Yay, can't wait!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:06 PM |
| 18 | I like simpler things, how do I know if I've crossed the line into being a pickmeisha?I think what FDS preaches is simply to set your own standards and stick to them. Your standards will be different from everyone else's: you don't like fancy dinners or expensive gifts and honestly, that's not uncommon. HVM don't have to be rich, they simply need to treat you well and be thoughtful. Being thoughtful means different things to different people. Again, set your own standards and boundaries and don't allow anyone in your life that doesn't fit the bill. The type of dates shouldn't mat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:02 PM |
| 5 | The “what are we” textIf it was never clearly defined that you were indeed in a relationship, then you're definitely not. He's probably found someone else (I'm sorry but it's true) yet wants to keep you around as well. Long-distance is hard and not for everyone but some couples can do it - unfortunately, it was never said you were a couple so he's taking advantage of that to do whatever he wants - and to be honest, since there were no boundaries set, he can technically do it without feeling guilty. Just know it's not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 31 | When i was on high schoolYou were so smart at just 17!! I wish I'd been as smart as you back then... Wow 👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:48 PM |
| 19 | Most importantly, NEVER SETTLE LADIES!Me too, girl, me too! But better late than never hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 15 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughI'm so sorry you are feeling this way but know it's very normal. They can be extremely manipulative, especially after realizing YOU are dumping THEM - in order to avoid feeling rejected, they'll make you feel rejected instead. It's a really, really shitty tactic but very, very common. If you feel undesirable, not only will it empower them (you're just not good enough for THEM) but also will assure you won't go try and find someone else straight away (because your self-esteem is too low for that)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 40 | Never explain or negotiate your sexual boundaries- It's all LVM manipulationThis. My ex pressured me to do a lot of things I didn't want to at first (not just sexual ones, mind you) and after insisting repeating and asking why. I wasn't too firm at first because I didn't feel like he deserved it but after becoming too pushy I would get angry and give him a big "NO", at which point he surrendered. But he would get back to it after a few weeks/months, trying to test me again. After getting rejected for a lot of stuff, stuff I just wasn't comfortable with and would sometim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 8 | This is the guy that assaulted me six months later. I was 18 he was 25.That is horrible, I am again really sorry. But at least he's no longer in your life and this experience taught you something valuable, albeit in the worst possible way. I hope you get to find someone worthy of you who treats you kindly 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Quick question about cancelling datesI don't know whether it's gentlemanly of him to leave the date up to you (from what I can tell) or if it's just a way to try and wiggle himself out of the date. Circumstances do happen so personally I wouldn't ditch him just yet... He did let you know 4h beforehand and told you about work getting unpredictable sometimes so he's not inconsiderate. I'll leave this one for more experienced members to offer advice but I'm sorry he cancelled on you, all the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:02 PM |
| 64 | Deleted all OLDHonestly, cat ladies get the worst rep but I'm positive they're one of the happiest people on earth. I mean, who doesn't love cats?? Definitely better than men. So good for you! 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 25 | This is the guy that assaulted me six months later. I was 18 he was 25.These "men" talk as if women were simple cum vessels... Revolting. I'm sorry you were treated like this by a boyfriend, no less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:56 PM |
| 83 | Most importantly, NEVER SETTLE LADIES!Yup, can attest to this. Men will try your limits all the time, hoping to break your boundaries or catch you unprepared. And once they know you'll allow A, they'll go on to B, C, hell, the whole alphabet. And make no mistake, they won't even need to get to the bottom before they lose all respect for you and start treating you like crap. Because if you allow it, then why wouldn't they? They basically have green light to do whatever they want. Don't fall for it. Set clear boundaries and stick to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:50 PM |
| 34 | Sneak attacksI am so sorry you had to experience this... It's extremely disgusting that they feel entitled to your body ON THE VERY FIRST DATE and feel no need to even ask for permission before engaging. Unfortunately, unsurprising but disappointing all the same. One would assume men would have developed some social/romantic awareness by 50+, guess not! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:45 PM |
| 4 | You ladies inspired me and I whipped this piece up in less than 24 hours. If I want to, I will ✌️I would hang this one in every room. Perfect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Know your worth, you are a miracle ❤️Oh yeah, that's a good point! I've been wanting to read a similar one called So Good They Can't Ignore You. It sounds similarly empowering, so I have to give them both a go :) Thanks for the rec! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:18 PM |
| 20 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themExactly. This guy acts as if we expect a "perfect" man when in reality we just want someone at the level we've worked hard to achieve ourselves. You can call the shots when you're on top, and you're not forcing anyone to do anything. They're free to go find someone at their own level and forget all about us. Except that means dealing with rejection in a mature way so....... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 12 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themI would agree with him if men ACTUALLY planned to stay with the women who emotionally supported them. More often than not, they forget about them as soon as they find someone better who, now that they've achieved a certain level, will finally agree to have them. Meanwhile, the "supportive" partner is left to fend for herself and deal with all the trauma and abuse that man left for her, which didn't only deplete her emotionally but physically as well, robbing her of the best years of her life, of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 28 | Lovely ladies- Do not EVER, EVER fall in love with ‘POTENTIAL’Yup, don't bother staying and supporting him because when he gets to where he wants (if he does get there, and 50% because of your help), he'll leave you for someone who didn't have to witness his journey or put up with his shit. A brand new model who he can pretend to be perfect towards, as if he'd always been that man, and feed his ego from day one. We've been brainwashed to stand by a man's side through thick and thin, yet forget they weren't taught the same way. Don't be that woman, or if yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Loving yourself isn't vanity, it's sanity Queens!Sailor Moon teaching young girls to be confident, independent, badass ladies ♥️ Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 9 | Know your worth, you are a miracle ❤️Facts! I feel the same way about employers but while you don't need a man to live, you do need to pay your bills lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:48 PM |
| 2 | PSA - No he's not. Stop lying to yourself.So happy to hear you are out of that awful situation! That is amazing, and you'll only get better from now on :) Your ex is beyond anything I'd expected. How delusionally egotistical do you have to be to be to do it in front of witnesses without expecting consequences? I'm so sorry you had to endure that... I can only imagine the suffering. Abuse takes many forms, and most often than not, perpetrators use them in bulk to mess with the victim more effectively. I completely understand what you're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:02 PM |
| 8 | When you send your best friend the FDS Handbook & 1 week later she dumps LVM and texts you thisYou are both QUEENS!! So happy for her ♥️ Live that high life, girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Oh and thank you for the book recs! :) I used to love reading but have not done it in a long time because of brain fog ugh... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Broken up during the pandemic in a foreign country with no money or friends... Ladies, never put yourself in this situationYeah, it's not so much that it feels like a long time - it honestly doesn't! I only regret not having broken things off when the red flags started... And having wasted those 7+ years. That makes it so much harder to accept. I'm glad to hear that! The first few weeks I kind of cried my eyes out and stayed in bed all day watching sad romcoms about breakups. Some people would think that's downright torture but to me felt incredibly cathartic! I could see clearer day after day - seeing myself in tho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Oh sorry about the misunderstanding, that last part was about my ex! I have a good relationship with my dad - that is, we talk once every few months and stay out of each other's ways. I'll never forgive what he did to my mom, but I also don't think it's fair to cut him off completely or burn bridges I might regret later on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Can't tell you how many times I've had unsolicited comments about my appearance by scrotes on OLD thinking that it's a "compliment"I suffered from low self-esteem throughout my younger years because boys would literally call me ugly after I refused their advances. Took me more than a decade to figure out they were just being insecure little shits who projected because the "pain" of being rejected was too much for their precious egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 06:11 PM |
| 6 | Can't tell you how many times I've had unsolicited comments about my appearance by scrotes on OLD thinking that it's a "compliment"Exactly. It's disgusting how you need to literally bring another male into the equation for them to back off - they respect that guy but not you! And sometimes not even that. It's scary being a woman nowadays. You can pretty much get killed just for saying "no" and people still argue we don't need feminism... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Broken up during the pandemic in a foreign country with no money or friends... Ladies, never put yourself in this situationThank you! I'm happy you think so even if I don't feel like it right now... That's really kind :) I wasn't ready to date this guy either. I was fresh out of another rollercoaster relationship with another loser, felt lost and confused, and he swooped in ready to make me feel better, loved and wanted, like a prince charming. I didn't stand a chance. But then, that's when you attract LVMs - they can literally smell the vulnerability. I know that now, just wish I'd known it back then! *cries* So I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Yeah... That describes it perfectly. He still wants to use me like that. That's probably why he's been so nice lately, hoping we can still be friends and he has someone to lean onto if he needs it. I already told him I won't be his emotional crutch, to which he replied HE WOULD NEVER do that to me. Yeah well, I won't hold my breath. It's depressing how he's never apologized for what he did to me yet apologized to her so many times when I told him he had to cut contact (which, to his credit, I th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.But why? He could easily get another apartment with his income, and move away on his own. He just did! He was always complaining about something or another anyway. Like the dishes weren't clean, or the house hadn't been vacuumed, or whatever. He felt like because he was paying half the rent, he was entitled to having everything his way. I couldn't even leave a blanket on the couch because it wasn't "tidy". I would yell at him "THIS HOUSE IS NOT A FREAKING MUSEUM." He would sulk for days after th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Thank you, fingers crossed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.He definitely has narcissistic traits but he's managed to fool everyone into seeing him as a golden boy, including myself, and to this day my brain is still confused. My dad was a bit similar: he treated everyone else, even strangers, like royalty. Yet when it came to me and my mom, we were pretty much an afterthought if that. Sounds like the type of guy he is, and sounds like I need to work on my daddy issues before attracting anyone else similar! After making me go through shit the past couple… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.The cheating was emotional, which to me is even worse but apparently, to men is a very gray area. To this day, he still doesn't understand why I make such a big deal about it. He said something along the lines of "are you still thinking about that?" when we had our break up fight and I brought it up. Like, YEAH, maybe it traumatized and hurt me like hell and maybe I still think about it after 5 months. Sorry I didn't get over it as quickly as you did. Then again, if it was not that big of a deal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Truer words have never been spoken. I didn't want to pitch them against each other, I just don't want people to let him off easy. By all means, be his friend but know what he did to me - know why I don't want to be near him or his new fling, or why I decided not to stay friends (when he's such a good person after all). I just don't want to look like the bad guy who's trying to be difficult just because she's bitter. I'm bitter because someone cheated on me, gaslighted me, and made me go against … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.No solution that I'm aware of... But I need to revise our contract again just in case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:15 PM |
| 11 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Yes, unfortunately due to economic reasons we have to live together for another two months... Until our lease is up. After that I will either get my own place or stay at a friends house for a couple of months. It's scary because my job situation is not completely secure due to Covid and I can get fired at any time. I've been looking for a new one for months but so far, no luck. It doesn't bother me as much any more (he's scarily nice to me - more than he was when we were together), but I definit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:25 AM |
| 9 | Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now?Personally, I would not date but I'm a decade older than you and have had my share... However, if I could go back in time that's exactly what I would do. I regret not having focused on my career more (that's why I'm struggling financially), my needs, and my goals. Ultimately, the only good reason for one to be dating at your age is to experiment and see what you like, want and need in a partner so that in the future you can make better choices. (Also to fulfill any sexual needs you might have - … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:07 AM |
| 7 | Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now?Are you sure you're not me? Honestly, what you described just now is exactly how I felt while in a relationship! I would neglect my hobbies and even friends and family because all I could focus on was them/us. Worst of all, I would go out of my way to engage in activities and hobbies they liked to "have something in common to do". Even worse than that: how they sometimes downplayed my tastes and instead suggested I did something else, which led me to not want to show them what I liked to do in m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:56 AM |
| 9 | I just came to the realization that maybe I fall for LVM because all the men in my family (dad, brother, most of my uncles) are LVM 🤯This. My parents' relationship definitely shaped my views of the world. One of the reasons I never wanted to get married or have kids (child of divorce) though that has somewhat changed a bit as I get older. I would witness my dad come home drunk, spend weekends away, and never even remember a moment where they were remotely nice, let alone loving towards each other. He was also an unrepentant cheater (who went so far as to leave his phole charging in the kitchen where my mom would see his mistr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:41 AM |
| 7 | High effort COVID dates?Lots of people use videochat to stay in touch with their loved ones during the pandemic so it wouldn't be too weird to ask for a videochat dinner date, in my opinion. You have no idea where this stranger has been, so be safe rather than sorry. You can still get to know them while having some nice food and drink and there's a little less awkwardness. And if you end up not enjoying their company or disliking them for some reason, it's much easier and quicker to leave! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:36 AM |
| 38 | Can't tell you how many times I've had unsolicited comments about my appearance by scrotes on OLD thinking that it's a "compliment"That's one of the reasons I rarely show my face online: both for safety reasons but also to avoid lurkers thinking they have a say in my appearance. Though this doesn't exactly stop them either - I've had men unsolicitedly making comments about WHY I didn't have pictures of myself: some saying it was probably because I was ugly, while others tried to coax me into revealing myself (either to make themselves feel special or to make sure I wasn't too ugly to be an option - mind you this was never a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:29 AM |
| 26 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.You're absolutely right. I honestly don't think most would, but there are a few who maybe only accepted me and hung out because I was his girlfriend in the first place (some were his college friends, and their respective partners). Those I don't care about, though. It's difficult because he is the ultimate "nice guy" to everyone, someone who's always helpful and wouldn't hurt a fly. Whereas I was considered "a bitch" by some because I would speak my mind and not allow myself to be a doormat (I m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:23 AM |
| 15 | Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now?Same here... I'm 28 and feel like I've wasted so much time and energy trying to please others (not just men, but people in general) when I should have focused on myself. I only started dating at 19 and had only two serious relationships: one lasted one year and a half and the other 7+ years. That's a huge chunk of your life to waste on ultimately meaningless stuff. The only good takeaway are the lessons learned. Due to this experience, I (hopefully) won't end up an unhappy and broke divorcé with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:15 AM |
| 14 | Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now?On one hand, it sounded so much straightforward back then. On the other, you got stuck with all sorts of wrong people (sometimes for the rest of your life) because of it. But I do wish it were easier to find someone good and honest and compatible without having to go through all the stress and heartache of modern dating. I can't imagine myself going back there anytime soon (recently got broken up with), particularly because of how emotionally taxing it feels - also the sheer amount of wasted tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:07 AM |
| 17 | Scrote’s reason to quit porn: it supports womenAh I see, thanks for clarifying! That's even worse than I thought, then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:02 AM |
| 63 | PSA - No he's not. Stop lying to yourself.This also acts as a reminder of how many people still see physical abuse as "the last straw", when emotional abuse should be just as important (and is, instead, often brushed off). It's sad because a punch/kick never comes out of the blue - there is always a lot of emotional abuse behind it that was either overlooked or misunderstood until it escalated. That's why it's so important to gtfo before it gets to this point (because, trust me, it will). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:59 AM |
| 77 | Scrote’s reason to quit porn: it supports womenI like that he at least admits it's hypocritical of men to call women out when men are the ones supporting the industry. I'm a bit confused though: he says he quit porn but then goes on to say he watches porn to support women? Or is he just trying to expose some guys' idiotic reasoning to watch porn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:52 AM |
| 62 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.I definitely need to learn this... I'm feeling incredibly vindictive over my ex and the girl he cheated on me with (whom I thought was a good friend to us both) and am constantly debating whether I should expose them both to our group of friends or not. It would seem petty and sound like I was just the crazy ex going around spewing lies (trust me, everyone will have a hard time thinking my ex capable of doing something so vile) but I feel it's so unfair that he gets to act all knight in shining … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:46 AM |
| 3 | Broken up during the pandemic in a foreign country with no money or friends... Ladies, never put yourself in this situationI'm so sorry to hear it... I honestly wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I'm glad you're doing better and it certainly is a great lesson. I feel the exact same way. Thank you! This forum definitely came at the perfect time. I wish I'd known about it sooner to avoid all this heartache, but I guess there's no better way to learn! Right now, I'm so traumatized I don't think I'll be dating ever again. I just can't seem to wrap my mind around the fact that most men always cheat, and I would always… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:31 AM |
| 3 | Broken up during the pandemic in a foreign country with no money or friends... Ladies, never put yourself in this situationThank you so much! I feel extremely gaslighted. I have no idea which parts were my fault and which were his anymore - it's like I was the difficult one who made him turn on me. I admit I might have been at first (my fault, I'd just broken up with someone else and decided to get involved with another person not only a month after, which I clearly wasn't ready for and was very defensive) but I did start trying hard to be a better girlfriend later on. I don't think I ever did anything close to unfo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:26 AM |
| 4 | Broken up during the pandemic in a foreign country with no money or friends... Ladies, never put yourself in this situationThank you so much for the kind words. You and me both... I think I failed to mention this man is considered a "nice guy" by everyone we know, wouldn't hurt a fly - a good person, good friend, good son, etc etc. I thought so too, until we started dating and certain issues came to light: he was exceedingly confident and controlling, though disguised it as concern and "taking care of me". He constantly pushed me to do things I didn't want to do, then got annoyed because "I never wanted to try anyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:14 AM |
| 2 | Only my husband deserves the title of being your "son"That is a very good point. I've only had two boyfriends my whole life, both of which I considered serious enough to meet my family (both turned out disappointments). And I remember how much my mom, especially, suffered when I told her the relationship was over. I think it's not just the energy and time THEY spent on those men, but seeing you so devastated afterwards. I know I was a wreck each time and it made my parents so incredibly sad that I'd gone through something so emotionally taxing. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Men stop putting in an effort, and then are perplexed when you’re no longer cheery, feminine and enthusiastic about sex.This. My ex used to use the excuse "you need to get healthy" to practically force me to go to the gym with him. (I HATE the gym.) All the while commenting how it would make me firmer. (He'd insist I wasn't bad, just could be better!) Whenever I refused to go, he'd say "Well, guess I'll go alone... Stare at other girls' asses... Because my girlfriend doesn't want to come." They make it sound like jokes when it's straight up emotional blackmail. I'm disgusted by how much I put up because I was/sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:20 PM |
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