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Being unemployed is hard and can really mess with your confidence and understanding of who you are. It makes sense that you have these feelings of being empty and disconnected during this time. Before you make any drastic decisions just give yourself some grace and settle into your new role. If you feel the same way in March then reconsider. The way he shot you down was a bit harsh, but you can definitely build a family and a home with an ambitious man - don’t over think it. One thing that might…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 07:29 AM
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I understand the husband’s, and your concerns but as someone in my mid 20s watching everyone around me struggling with the dating market…. It might actually be good to be a little “different”. So many people date with the complete wrong mentality of focusing on appearance and sex instead of truly building a relationship. If a woman would be disgusted with me just because my genitals look slightly different than what she’s seen before then I would rather know that as soon as possible so I could f…
/r/MensRights13/02/25 09:12 AM
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I’d just like to point out that it is perfectly normal and in fact exceptionally important that parents/guardians carefully clean, dry, and moisturize their baby’s bottom/genitalia after they soil their diaper. Prolonged neglect of this area can be unhygienic and lead to diaper rash. I understand effectively what you are saying - it is profoundly weird for an adult to cut a healthy boys penis, and is a violation of their sexual privacy - however your comment unnecessarily demonizes parents/ peop…
/r/MensRights13/02/25 08:57 AM
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Very well researched! Thank you for finding the actual passages
/r/MensRights13/02/25 08:38 AM
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Sorry if the Christian-speak is off putting to some. I know it can be unfamiliar and cultish sounding to non-Christians, but I chose to use it as OP stated she is a Christian. Really, whenever you read something like this I think it’s helpful to mentally translate it into secular language to understand it better. Christians use religious language and a religious framework for understanding the world, but really what we’re saying has some parallel in the secular world. So when I say “This is the …
/r/MensRights13/02/25 08:36 AM
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Congrats on the babies :) I think this is really the type of thing to take to God. Reflect on the Bible, seek out diverse opinions on interpretations of passages, and spending some time praying. Personally from my reading it seems circumcision was necessary until Jesus came, after which point it was irrelevant (but you’ll have to do your own thinking) Your husband should also be reflecting in this way. It’s not about your future son’s sex life, or your disgust at the incision wound, or “standing…
/r/MensRights12/02/25 07:25 AM
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I think you’ve hit the nail on the head - in order to make friends, you need to have repeated interactions over a long time with the same group of people. Some people have success joining some sort of sports club or something but that never really clicked for me. What did work? Volunteering. Seriously it’s so freaking nice to see the same people every week. Plus, even if everyone there is an old lady (nothing against old ladies, just not who I envisioned spending my early 20s with) it’s still ni…
/r/MensRights12/02/25 06:37 AM
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Maybe the right to a “financial abortion” should be the same as the amount of weeks a woman is allowed to get an actual abortion. So like if the law in your state is no abortion past 6 weeks, the a father can only sign away his financial rights before 6 weeks. If the law says 20 weeks, then you have 20 weeks to do so.
/r/MensRights12/02/25 06:30 AM
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How long have you guys been dating? Are you like super duper in love? I ask because this might just be one of those things that makes you want to stop dating🤷🏼‍♀️Idk I’m personally christian and have very particular views on sex (it should be done out of love, other lusty thoughts are normal but inhibiting him them is a chance to practice self control) so the different views on sex and not the porn per se would be a dealbreaker for me. Especially if you’re dating to find your forever person and …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 03:46 PM
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I’m not sure how it is in Scandinavia but a lot of things in America are set up well for married couples financially. Home prices are obviously cheaper (though getting more expensive ugh) but there are also tax breaks and then just lots of little things that are cheaper when you share them with a partner (like a hotel room, or a Spotify subscription). I think over time it’s pretty natural for a married couple in America to very slowly get to a better financial position. Some of the things you me…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 12:42 PM
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I love the above comment. On board 100%. The following is completely unrelated, just for my own personal curiosity. I looked up Anna Kristina because I was super excited to find another Laura Doyle! Unfortunately, some of what she says seems a little bit toxic, like this https://www.tiktok.com/@annakrstna/video/7433082882966473992 I know a lot of these relationship gurus are a mix of good and bad (heck, I’m on a red pill sub right now!). I generally advise taking the good and leaving the bad. Bu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 08:48 PM
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Seconding advice about focusing on self care. This is definitely the most important. The other thing you could try to do is to formulate your requests for attention as extremely manageable. So like instead of saying “can you please put down your phone and spend time with me? I miss you” (which is already a pretty well formulated request, but can be difficult for someone who is genuinely EXHAUSTED) you might make the request even smaller, more achievable and more specific, and focus more on how p…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 08:32 PM
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I’m confused, what are you going to talk to him about? Are you going to ask him to do something different? Or just sort of open up about how you feel? My tone is curious lol not judgmental (internet body language is hard). I know the general topic is that you feel very unhappy and unsatisfied, but I’m confused about what the goal of the conversation is. Edit: I sort of skimmed through your post history, it seems like you’re going through a hard time. I feel like you might be misunderstanding the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:50 PM
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Yeah! I had the same exact results! I also tried the black cat thing and it just created problems. Laura Doyle works every time. My boyfriend is happiest is when I’m yapping lol
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 04:18 AM
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That sounds great! If he ever does it again tell him how much you love it and then treat him really really nice after so he’ll form positive associations with doing it
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 02:15 AM
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I am from a western liberal community and I low key agree that arranged marriages have an appeal. I really like clarity and clear lines and knowing exactly what is expected of me. I tried to get my boyfriend to write a “relationship contract” with me where we outlined our values and expectations etc and he thought that was weird lol. I think we’re normal I think some people just like knowing EXACTLY where they stand. I’m also sorry to hear you were abused in the past, that is very wrong and you …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 02:14 AM
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Correct, he is not. I would suggest getting married after I finish my PhD, but I just started and I won’t finish for probably another six years. I was hoping to get married sooner than that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 04:50 AM
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There are two men who I am close with who would make excellent partners. The stories they have of online dating baffled me. However at the same time, I have horrible stories of trying to do online dating and just being completely mistreated. I also know that when I was online dating I probably came off as weird or bizarre a few times. In my opinion I think the concept of online dating is fundamentally flawed. It’s just not working! I think it turns normal people into crazies. Let’s bring back di…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 02:36 AM
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I took your advice! I asked if he wanted to have sex Friday night, Saturday morning, Saturday night, and Sunday morning. Unfortunately he only took me up on one of those times. I think it’s the rough patch… but I’ll keep at it! I like your idea of keeping it positive. I am making some changes, so I’ll be sure to focus on those. Lastly I will definitely try to communicate to him in short ways that he is A top priority for me. I can’t say he is my biggest priority though… I actually try to reject …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 02:29 AM
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Congrats on TT!!! You are my idol!! Sorry about the burnout 😥 I have no idea how to not put expectations on myself. I have a backup career if academia is too much and a dog if the boyfriend ever breaks up with me. But for the most part if I want to be a scientist with a family then I have to be a hard worker and a good partner. I don’t know. What kind of things are YOU doing to combat burnout?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 02:18 AM
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Sorry to hear you were in a sexless relationship, that sucks so bad. I was once in a sexless relationship and it was horrible. I completely agree that sex is really important which is why I try and prioritize it. The biggest problem is that I live 200 miles away from him 5 days a week. A slightly smaller problem is that when I’m with him on the weekends I’m physically exhausted. This part might be TMI but there have been a couple times where I joked that I wanted to have sex, but I wanted him to…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 02:52 AM
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Hmmmm…. People have already offered some “quick and easy meal ideas” so I’ll take a different tack - what are some of your current interests and hobbies? I ask because maybe you could parlay those into an interest in cooking. For example, if you’re really into science you might enjoy Kenji Lopez from The Food Lab. I went through a phase where I was super interested into American civil rights history (history is so cool!) and I found a weird essay filled with “recipes for the revolution” and cook…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 11:30 PM
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I’m in a similar position, but not yet. I start my PhD next month. What’s wrong with being very specific about what you want him to do? Why not just say “Hey darling you know what would make me sooooo happy? It would make me so happy if you drew me a bath right now/ on Wednesdays at 7pm” Then, when he does so, go nuts with how grateful you are. I honestly think it’s a little bit more work to have to ask for these things than to just do them yourself, but I also think eventually that work pays di…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 04:53 PM
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I disagree. I agree that it was wrong of him to read the journal, but I dont think that should be the first point to be addressed. Right now he is hurting and extremely vulnerable, now is not the time to be criticizing him (even if youre right). Criticizing him now will either fall on deaf ears, or make him feel even worse to the point that it irreperably damages the emotional bond you have together. You need to soothe him emotionally first. Once you guys have built up some trust, after maybe a …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 01:51 AM
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In my personal opinion I would disagree that this is an extension or consequence of hypergamy. I think the implied meaning is that they are “envious” that you two are so in love! And that he openly adores you. I don’t think the are interested in your husband specifically, I think this is more in lines with people commenting things like “couple goals 😍” on an adorable instagram pictures of a couple kissing or something. Bravo to you two for keeping the spark alive!
/r/RedPillWives23/04/24 12:29 AM
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https://moderntantra.blogspot.com/2017/03/bad-good-and-magnificent-sex.html I think maybe you would find this blog post very helpful. The blog is written by one of the mods at the sex over 30 sub and she is fantastic. That “carnal” sex you’re talking about is what the author calls “adrenaline sex”. There is another kind called “oxytocin” sex which is more sustainable and more based on love and friendship and having fun. Im not married but my understanding is that every couple who is still having…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/24 08:00 PM
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I (female) would consider myself an activist for men’s rights (actually got into a bit of an argument about it with a date a few days ago). But the rage of rape is so real and so blinding. She’s right, I also can’t fill one hand with women I know who haven’t been sexually harassed or raped. Obviously only a small percentage of men are rapists. But once it happens to you, your friends, your mom 😭😭 it just becomes hard to think straight. Obviously not all men are rapists, but it’s really hard to l…
/r/MensRights23/12/23 05:19 AM
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I don’t have a story to share but I do want to say that whenever I have to do a difficult thing I always remember that God believes in me and loves me. God created us and he gifted us with wits, resilience, and stubbornness to get through difficult times. Sometimes we cry and feel small but if we just remember that God made us resilient then we will get through phases of life where we feel small to reach the phases of life where we are cherished. Sending you SO MUCH love and hope and positive vi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 07:42 AM
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We can rebuild a world where traditionalism works That’s our primary job as redpilled women. To give good men the reward of love, marriage, and loyalty. Ummmmmm I love you?? You are so articulate and this is such a good take. I think the idea that red pill and feminism can’t coexist is just patently false. I think most of the women in this sub want to be in happy, loving partnerships with men - we don’t want to be cheated on, we don’t want to be hit. We want to be told that the dinner we made is…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 11:05 PM
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Loyalty and love are such beautiful qualities. You sound like such a gem. Your husband is going to cherish those gifts in you but until you meet him you must be extremely discerning and protective of your gifts. Do not waste them because you feel bound by guilt.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 08:15 AM
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How is he in other areas of life? Does he treat his family well? Does he volunteer? Does he apologize at work when he messes up? I wouldn’t worry too much about the health thing. What worries me is that he seems to be quite fixated on his own sexual gratification and not yours. I understand that men have libidos, but a good man will know that the way to satisfy that is to make his partner feel safe and open. This is why I ask if he is kind in other parts of his life: if he is kind in other parts…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 09:24 PM
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Yes! The first time I fell in love with my partner I fell in love with his intelligence and confidence. The second time I fell in love with him because of the bond we had build and the safety I felt around him. In between there was a bit of a lull. It’s not a universal truth that men learn from trauma. From my read of the situation it sounds like you feel neglected, and your response is to try and be very attentive to him and nudge him to change. These strategies just don’t work - it feels awful…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 05:35 AM
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This is such a good answer. I just want to add to your list of small habits you can use to make yourself feel feminine. They don’t all have to be centered around appearance, as you noted expressing gratitude is a great habit, perhaps through a gratitude journal. You could also try doing nice things for your home: buying flowers and putting them in a vase, making an effort to keep your home tidy, put your hand soap in a decorative handsoap bottle instead of the plastic one it comes in. There are …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 03:21 AM
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I’ll bite. My boyfriend is probably 5’8” or 5’9”. I’m not sure because he jokes that he’s 5’12”. Balding in his early twenties. Muscular, but a little chubby. He has a good job (we both do) but he’s not a millionaire. He is literally the hottest fucking man on earth. We’ve been dating for overall 4.5 years but we broke up for a year in the middle because we were in a deadbedroom for a while. I desired sex more than him. After I learned how to manage my own desire without becoming clingy and he l…
/r/AllPillDebate31/10/23 07:42 AM
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not sure about the “empowering” part, but sex can be an extremely intimate and vulnerable act and doing it outside of the bounds of a loving relationship can make some women feel emotionally overexposed - hence the need some women feel the need to “heal” from casual sex. Emphasis on “some”. Everyone is different.
/r/AllPillDebate31/10/23 07:12 AM
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Exactly that’s why this trend sounded so sus to me. I’ve noticed that there are a lot of older, wealthy, WASPy women in my neighborhood who have this incredible super power to turn some arrogant shrek-like middle aged schmuck into a dapper salt-and-pepper fellow in under a year. All them are SO sweet (like remember-all-your-childhood-friends and gift-you-the-expensive-face cream-they-no-longer-want sweet). But all of them also seem super exhausted with their relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 12:01 AM
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The “daughter effect”😂I too tease my dad when he looks like a dork
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 11:53 PM
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Literally swooning right now. Who ARE you? OP, tell your fiancé to put the extra money into Vanguards money market… it’s at 5% right now! Or maybe VT - there’s nothing more romantic than planning for retirement together <3
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 06:10 AM
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It’s unfortunate, but I think the tarot card, crystal, witchy-y aesthetic that was so popular in ~2018 has developed a certain negative connotation to it. A little bit like the trope of blue hair. You could be the biggest Laura Doyle evangelist, submit to your man on the back of a motorcycle, and bake the fluffiest soufflés but if you mention that you have even a historical interest in tarot there is a strong chance that people will make knee-jerk assumptions about your personality.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 05:29 AM
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Yeah! I “nudge” my sense of style in the direction that my boyfriend likes. I would never push myself into wearing something that I hated or even disliked, but in areas where I’m neutral I’ll opt for the choice that I know he likes a bit more. For example, wearing a dress that’s a tiny bit shorter than what I would pick out for myself, or wearing glasses instead of contacts which I find to be less hassle. I think it’s natural and healthy to want to change your appearance a little (a little) to m…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 10:24 PM
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I do my best to do this as well but gosh it’s so hard to let go of my hygiene checklist. Does anyone have any tips for overcoming the terror? I don’t have actual ocd or any “ocd-like” personality traits in any other aspect of my life but I was told one time four and a half years ago that I smelled funky and now the hygiene checklist is a perpetual third-wheel. I’d almost rather tap the brakes early on to slow things down and disappoint my man a little than give him ANY reason at all to associate…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 03:52 AM
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Don’t get overwhelmed with feeling like you have to make a new thing every time! I have a couple of “templates” that i always revert back to: Sautéed veggies, a grain cooked in broth, mix ‘em together and add lemon juice sauté veggies, shred a rotisserie chicken into the pot, add a bunch of broth and herbs and simmer for 30 minutes. flat bread sandwiches with… whatever I have I’m not a pasta person but pasta is a really great template! You can tell a recipe is a really great template because it …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:13 AM
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I always hoped to get married by 22… I just love the idea of growing up together. It doesn’t matter if we are poor together from the start, as long as we work together as a team. Sadly 22 has come and gone for me but I still think it’s a great age, especially if you have good conflict resolutions skills and can manage your own emotions.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 04:49 AM
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This is a very personal decision! I love some of the responses here. I’ll just throw in my two cents as well. My calculated life expectancy (using this calculator) is 89 years. If my oldest and youngest children are spaced ten years apart, I’ll have about 28 years of having kids at home (from the birth of my oldest, to the youngest leaving home). That’s only a 1/3 of my life spent with kids at home. I’m SO excited to have kids, to watch my boyfriend become a father, to teach them how to read…. I…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 04:13 AM
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Darling he got you a gold necklace for your anniversary. He’s trying to be romantic but romance is a skill that takes time for men to learn. Picking up on subtle hints and then booking a hotel behind your back and getting you a gift is level 10 difficulty on the romance scale. If you really love being on the receiving end of these romantic gestures then every time he tries you have to go wild with telling him how happy his attempt makes you. Seeing the happiness on your face will make him so pro…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 02:43 AM
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This type of advice is so so so so hard to read but so true. We struggled with an (absolutely heart breaking and extremely difficult) libido mismatch in my relationship for a year, but it was completely unrelated to porn. I’ve finally realized that there are really only two strategies for bedding a male partner who loves you but doesn’t desire you: Be attractive Don’t be unattractive Self care is so important to achieving BOTH of those aims. Not being unattractive I can imagine that the most una…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 10:47 PM
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As someone who regularly “volunteers” (it’s paid work but the pay is nothing) as a poll worker I honestly think about 5% of women fully research the people they vote for and about 5% of men fully research the people they vote for. People have strong opinions about big major candidates like president or governor but with the demise of local radio and local newspapers its really hard to keep up with those smaller races, especially in a big city where you have to practically vote on like 50 positio…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 10:10 AM
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Girl this self wallowing pity is absolute BS. Gain some perspective! You obviously can still bond with other people. Honestly, I 10/10 recommend seeing a therapist. Being promiscuous when you’re young is a mistake but it’s a mistake a lot of us make because we weren’t raised in traditional households. A promiscuous past will not eliminate the possibility of you leading a good life, but nonsense like this will. The algorithm is still feeding you men’s RP adjacent content and it’s melting your bra…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 01:58 AM
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Make a list for why he was not compatible with you! He didnt want kids, he was emotionally abusive, etc etc. You may feel an urge to go back to him at some point as your memory of the bad times fade and memories of the good times remain. If you go back to someone who doesnt treat you right you will lose even MORE time so be proactive and write a letter to your future self who has forgotten all the bad things why she should not go back. Be convincing! That being said, 26 will be fine. In blue Ame…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 10:40 PM
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OMG girl put “spoilers” in your title 😭😭😭😭😭
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 12:47 AM
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Focus on your relationship with your husband and what your own family needs. Your friends will come around if they see you happy. You MIL is your hubby’s person to handle. Supporting your parents financially seems like the biggest roadblock here. I would try and let go of the “unspoken” assumption that you are being “unambitious” (from your friends, MIL, and internal voices) and just focus on the financial reality. You want to be a stay at home mom, but your parents rely on you financially. Pull…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 04:33 AM
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Can confirm. In my undergrad computer science program we called this the “yellow fever”. All of us women (all like, four of us) thought these dudes were gross.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:06 AM
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I would also be interested in a field report or any new theories you have. You do have a very unique perspective. My knee jerk reaction at seeing the terminology in this post was to clutch my metaphorical pearls but I think that’s just me being judgey (sorry, op 😞) SunshineSundress your reply brought me around. OP you said your relationship is built on trust and that you work to keep him happy. Fundamentally your situation seems kind of wholesome? I’m not interested in my boyfriends bank account…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 12:14 AM
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I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 22 and some of your anxieties in your post/comment sound so similar to me. People think I’m joking when I talk about worrying about my eggs going dusty… I wish I was!! I think christina is correct about waiting to move in until after you are engaged/married. My boyfriend and I moved in during covid and it didnt work out well for us at all because I thought it was a step towards greater commitment and he thought it was a convenience thing (obviously I was devastated but…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 11:10 PM
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It sounds like you’re just going through a hard period in your life overall. Also, I know we want to always be in a good mood for the people we love but being told that we’re not achieving that is a really sucky thing to hear! Ouch, I wish your husband hadn’t told you that. Between work, your intense exercise routine, house cleaning, and a bit of a negativity rut in your relationship… do you have anything that feels fun and light in your life? Something really small that connects you to yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 07:43 AM
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Uh excuse me who gave you the right to be that cool 👀serious power couple vibes over here!! ps OP I’m a software engineer👩🏼‍💻
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 07:04 AM
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Youre right. These are really hard questions. I think what it really comes down to is that his interest in AI makes me question his character - I dont want to get into a whole conversation about whether or not generative AI will be good or bad or whatever. But the men I’ve encountered in the field so far don’t seem to share a lot of my values (family, community, church) but have a lot of power. I’m already a bit insecure that my boyfriend doesn’t value family as much as I do - seeing him get sed…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 07:01 AM
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Ill read through the comments and do more deep reflecting when I get back from work but yes lol I was trying to be subtle but theres literally only one field that’s this hot.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 03:34 PM
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i feel like this response puts too much blame on OP. All of OPs actions seem like the well adjusted behaviour of a normal, feminine, romantic 22 year old woman. She put her heart on the line (which is always hard) while still being firm (but reasonable) about her boundaries. OP I think you did everything right <3. Starting fading and if he’s not off the apps and beating himself for waiting until date #8 to commit (instead of his oddly specific #5 rule) then I would consider the relationship a wa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 07:42 AM
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I rarely ever comment that OP’s partner is in the wrong because it’s usually not true but in this case this actually does sound bad. I hate using this word because it’s over used but this sounds abusive. I also have struggled with anxiety (currently under control :D) and his response to my anxiety would 100% make me feel way worse in that situation. Honestly, I’m so vulnerable in romantic relationships just because I love my partner so much… them telling me gently that I need to take more respon…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 07:21 AM
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If he’s a good dude (and it sounds like it is) he will become more independent naturally over the course of the next year or two. The stress of transitioning to being more independent is probably already hard on him - I feel like trying to “gently” encourage him to lead more will just put pressure on him. If I’m being honest I used to have feelings that my partner wasn’t leading that well and feel a little grossed out at the thought of being a mother figure. The situation became a lot better whe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:44 AM
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Every evening for a week i walked around campus with a boy talking about life and cuddling in one of the scenic areas of campus. We even went back to my place and cuddled on the couch. I texted him my creative writing and he texted back prodigious compliments. He told me a secret and confessed he had never told anyone else that. Then one day we were eating lunch together talking about our summer plans and I casually mused that leaving campus would probably be difficult for us because of our roma…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:28 AM
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This looks like a great list! Some other people are saying “raise your standards!” but I think that’s unnecessary. If you can live your desired lifestyle with a guy who makes X amount of money then theres no need to go looking for someone richer! There are a bunch of guys that meet your criteria… of them, pick the one who you have the strongest connection with.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:15 AM
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“Trade in”…. As if!! Where are all the 19 year olds lining up to date 42 year old men??? There are definitely some 19 year olds out there interested in this kind of relationship but it just seems exceedingly rare to me. If a 42 year old man thinks he can just divorce his loving wife of 10 years and “trade her in” for a 19 year old then he needs a reality check.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 04:15 AM
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You’re aging…. But he’s aging too!!! Try not to think about it, focus on building yourself up and investing in yourself and being a good wife and mother. Maybe also invest in a very good sunscreen since you know your husbands “type”. Maybe he’s superficially attracted to younger women but you were there for him when he was at a low point and you said you were quite well established beforehand - no sane dude would end a marriage for superficial looks compared to the bond you guys have built. And …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 04:11 AM
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I think sometimes this is just how love is - it’s fickle and so, so special when you find it. You sound like a catch! You seem lovely and pretty and like a great cook. Perhaps your problem is just bad luck. The one thing I think the blue pill have right is that male attention should never be a yardstick for self worth. Finding love is not about validation, it’s not about following all the right steps to “catch” a boyfriend. It’s about truly connecting with someone - finding shared interests, rep…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 05:27 AM
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is it possible that you’re spotting a “pattern” where there isnt one? I dont want to delegitimize how awful this feels, but I’m wondering if maybe the pain of it happening is causing your brain to search wildly for an explanation where there may not be one. Sometimes it’s just really bad luck. I would really urge you to avoid getting attached to a specific narrative like “I’m the girl guys dump before finding the woman of their dreams”. It’s an awful narrative to have and it may not be true! If …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 02:59 AM
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I wish i knew 😢 Maybe just more ruthless moderation? I also feel like it’s kind of on us as a community 😞A couple of years ago this community was absolutely hot with really visionary ideas. “Back to basics September” (I think it was called?) was also amazing. I’ve learned so much here! I really want to contribute and “give back” since this sub has taught me so much but I just don’t have the insight that pearls has
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 03:30 AM
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Oh darling, I sympathize so much. This is exactly along the lines of the conversation my therapist and I are having. Luckily, (or unluckily) the people around me tend to believe it’s “normal” to wait until 29-30min to get married so i don’t get asked intrusive questions like “when are you guys going to get married??!!”. (That’s honestly kind of rude of them?? Especially in front of you and especially if they know you want to get engaged but havent been proposed to yet 😢) I’m still struggling but…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 02:36 AM
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Mods, I’m so sorry because I know you’re doing your best but I feel like posts like this should be taken down. If you go through her post history, this woman is immature and is using this sub for false reassurance to soothe her anxiety (which, luckily, she isn’t getting from the community). It doesn’t feel in line with the original purpose of this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 02:02 AM
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Oh my gosh </3 it’s like you’re so reliant on him and in such a vulnerable position (not for any bad reason, just because that’s kind of how child rearing is) and the “imprint” you have in your system is that you can’t rely on anyone. The co sleeping thing must be a huge trigger for you because it’s something that you’re doing for your kids (which, by the way, is extremely difficult and not at all something your own mother would’ve done) and he’s not able to show up for you in this small way. Pl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:29 AM
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I don’t understand why everyone is panicking. You met this guy when you were 19 and never really had the time to differentiate yourself from him. Of course you’re going to have trouble committing! I dont know if this is exactly how you feel but if I were in your situation I might feel a little bit distanced from myself. It can feel good to pay your own bills, live on your own etc. It can feel like you’re competent and in control. Secondly, you got into an emotional affair. Okay this was not smar…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 03:35 AM
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This is so funny!! I hope you and your Duchess of Cambridge in a cowboy hat have a lifetime of happiness together <3
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:09 PM
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Whenever I feel lonely I feel better after I read. Reading is sort of like dating because you’re always hunting for the perfect genre for you. You can browse books like browsing a dating app. Are you going to click more with sci-fi or biographies? It’s a journey! The characters are sort of like friends. You get to live an entire life in 200 pages and all of that learning and living will help you process the breakup. The other fun thing about reading is that it’s one of those hobbies that people …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 08:27 AM
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you longsuffering peasant you 😂 I disagree that most HVM dont want someone overly independent. My boyfriend is always nudging me towards being more independent (he is also Turkish!). I think it’s just one of those things where it depends on the guy. In any case, I think it’s cool how financially independent you are!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 02:28 AM
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sigh I wish this wasn’t true. It was a nice fantasy to watch those YouTube videos and believe that if I just bought an apron and became fantastic at arranging flowers I would magically have four beautiful babies and a husband. Alas, I must develop “communication skills” and have “career ambitions”. (Jk I love my career but I wish having that 1950s aesthetic was a hack to receiving an earlier marriage proposal/having children)
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 05:04 AM
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Another woman in tech! We can form a secret society dedicated to determining our color seasons and also preventing bitrot
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 04:34 AM
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hiiiiii 🌸 nice to meet another one. I too am a secret secret feminist (don’t tell the mods! lol) who also finds that a lot of red pill ideas are very very good and not at all incompatible with some feminist ideas. I’ve been interested in gender for a long time. I heard a lot about my mom’s experience with workplace sexual harrassment in the 90s when she was an engineer and that was the catalyst. From there, reading about feminism led me to reading about gender and realizing that there are so man…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 08:12 PM
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Awww it sounds like he really loves you with the FaceTiming family and Christmas presents and stuff <3 I think the “red pill” solution to this problem would be something like “rewarding closest approximation”. Ie you initiate/plan a date and then you act all excited, tell him how much you love him etc. etc. Then if he suggests a date idea you follow through with the planning and get all excited all over again and tell him how great his idea was. Eventually, his brain will realize “oh, when we go…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 09:00 PM
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Literally so proud of how you handled this <3 your boundaries were firm and the cut seems pretty clean. Dont think to yourself “oh if I was more HV then he wouldn’t have had the urge to cheat”. It’s a natural response to think that but it’s just incorrect. A man with a mature outlook on life would be able to recognize that he felt unfulfilled in his relationship for some reason or another and then communicate to his partner what was missing. Praying that in a few christmases you’re making reddit…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 08:19 PM
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yes :(
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 07:21 AM
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I’m a huge swiftie and not all of her songs line up with red pill but some definitely vibe with it I like shiny things but I’d marry you with paper rings <3 All of my heroes die all alone / help me hold onto you Ladies and gentleman will you please stand / with every guitar string scar on my hand / I take this magnetic force of a man to be my lover Outside, they’re push and shoving / you’re in the kitchen humming Industry disrupters and soul deconstructors and smooth talking hucksters out glad-h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 07:20 AM
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I dont want to pry and make you feel overly vulnerable to a stranger, but is it possible that you might’ve had a traumatic life experience with an alcoholic? If you haven’t I would be direct and be like “I miss you and I miss having sex with you, but the smell of beer turns me off”. But if you HAVE had a traumatic experience you can perhaps take this as an opportunity to deepen your emotional connection by saying something like “I miss you and I miss having sex with you, but the smell of beer re…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 07:08 AM
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Hold on girlfriend I don’t want to invalidate your struggles but I think you are worrying a little too early. Of all of my highschool girl friends they ALL say they felt absolutely crippled with loneliness for the first year of college. About a third felt lonely all four years and most felt lonely some semesters and happy others. Secondly, consider the role that your own insecurity can play into this. I 100% know what you mean when you talk about the “weird look” but sometimes it is genuinely a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 06:49 AM
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I understand the frustration and I definitely think it was very wrong of him to turn to to porn if you explicitly said you were not comfortable with that (personally, that’s a mild form of cheating in my book). But feeling furious, though understandable, is not a helpful emotion for you right now. It takes two to tango, two to kill a bedroom, and two to revive it. I think part of healing the relationship will be working through your anger specifically; because anger will only push him further aw…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 07:09 AM
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Lol the “procrasticleaning”. From your post, it sounds like you’re feeling a bit burned out. I think there’s this expectation in some high-achieving circles that we will find one career path that just consumes us, and that we should find a job that we love so that we’ll “never have to work a day in our life”! I’m also in my early 20s and I think coming to terms with the fact that one career wont fulfill me completely is hard. I think a lot about the fact that some people honestly just truly view…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 06:56 AM
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No worries! I didnt feel attraction at all until I was 19 and it might’ve been later had I not met a very lovely man. My dream at your age was to live in a massive house in the woods with and be a plant researcher and live with a bunch of other adult, aromantic asexual plant researchers. I figured maybbeeeeee we would adopt some foster children. Maybe. I think it just takes a little bit longer in some women for some of the hormones to kick in fully; even though you may outwardly look like you’ve…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 06:04 AM
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“Hyperfixated” really seems like an appropriate word here. Being upset at the woman you have loved and cherished for six years over this?? I understand some men have personal preferences but surely the bond built over six years should override that. Wouldn’t he have brought it up earlier anyway if it was that important? It’s not my place to speculate about his mental health or hidden malicious motives but something is up with him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 03:15 AM
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Oh my gosh I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I don’t “cleanse” my mood of that “hardness” before I hang out with my boyfriend and I can just watch him pull away from me. I’m SO much happier when I can stay in that open and relaxed state of mind. I’m also unwilling to even consider giving up my job I love it lol even when it’s stressful. I’m still struggling but here are two things that help me a little: 1. Doing something with my hands when I get home. I usually unload the dishwasher and t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 11:49 PM
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A part of you is always going to miss A, but I think it would be a mistake to stay with him. I say that just based on your description of how there was still underlying hostility even after you tried again… It just doesnt sound productive for you to have to work this hard to get him to not be so hostile. I know this is very difficult to do but I think also reducing or completely stopping your ‘check ins’ with A is a good idea. I think it’s natural for us to feel protective and worried about some…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 11:26 PM
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I second this! There is some pain involved in having a copper IUD. You have to remember to take like 600-800mg ibuprofen before insertion and then “stay ahead” of the pain from menstrual cramps by taking half doses of ibuprofen on a regular schedule during the first few days of your period. Taking ibuprofen is not ideal, but I would rather have to take ibuprofen for four days every month than the pill for 24 days of the month. Plus I’ve found that it’s easier for me to be present, focused, and e…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 03:09 AM
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Ugh it’s awful to feel that a marital counselor, who is supposed to be impartial, is taking sides. I’m wayyy more inexperienced than you in relationship stuff but I actually have found individual therapy really helpful for my relationships. It’s helped me clarify what my boundaries are and learn how to respond to other peoples emotions without escalating the situation. It’s also helped me get in tune with what MY needs are, and then taught me how to communicate and ask for them clearly and nicel…
/r/RedPillWives27/08/22 03:39 AM
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I’m not an expert on metabolism or anything but walking is honestly so underrated. I try to do those dumb YouTube workouts for my mental health and they just make me feel tired and weird. Mrs. Midwest (the YouTuber) walks! I do like an 1-1.5 hrs per day with my dog.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/22 01:45 AM
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I had a consultation with a therapist today. I’ve been really struggling with romantic relationships - I’ve been stuck in an on-again-off-again relationship for ~3 years. I think, after serving God, my biggest goal in life is to have a family (serving God is sort of a “I must do this” type thing, but having a family is a worldly pleasure that I want selfishly). The problem is that I feel sooooooo confused on how women go from doe eyed 18 year olds right out of highschool to 35 year old wives and…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/22 04:42 AM
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Hi guys, I’m not exactly an rp wife I’m just a lonely 23 yo who is confused about how to build a family and you guys post lovely things about your cute kids and it makes me happy. (Please dont ban me 😭 I have some liberal values but there are so few places where family is valued as much as it is in married rp land) I dont know if this counts as politics but I’ve been thinking about the movie “it’s a wonderful life” and how everyone knew the banker guy. You used to be able to get a home mortgage …
/r/RedPillWives05/08/22 04:27 AM
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