Mariamah Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	This is all bad. This poor woman😩. Don Jon 🤢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/12/21 05:57 PM
5	Hey Ladies, just a reminder to not post personal pics to your FDS username. The Scrotes are extra mad and are sending around “compilation” pictures of FDS members. 🙄 Everyone knows you’re not allowed to have self-respect unless you’re hot. 🤪	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/05/20 03:23 AM
4	Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”? What about in the reverse, when women list those qualities? I had a secretive/overly private ex, who didn’t want to share certain things he felt were too “private”, like how much money he made, etc... we were together 3 years, I only found out his salary 2.5yrs in. (I’m 100% not a gold digger, never asked, but still fucking weird in retrospect). There was just so much more that he kept from me, emotionally speaking, I feel like I never truly knew him bc he kept so much close to the vest. So now …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/05/20 03:30 AM
16	Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”? Such a bs power move- It just reads as “impress me,” like who tf do you think you are that I need to tap dance over here to impress you? Im not gonna insecurely list all the things that make me great just to hope it’s enough for you, stranger.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/05/20 03:26 AM
10	Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally. Why are we even keeping track of past fuckboys?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/05/20 12:05 AM
5	If a man is confused, you're going to get used. You’re 100% right, and I’m sorry. I was being too simplistic, and quite pessimistic. I didn’t mean to belittle what you went through, or blame you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/20 04:18 PM
17	If a man is confused, you're going to get used. Which has taught me, we are responsible for creating our own boundaries and standards. I no longer blame the man if I fall for this bs, I blame my own damn self for being a pick me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/20 05:58 AM
9	Guy on Tinder But he was sooooo vulnerable by saying you were pretty!!! And then you go and insult him by FALLING ASLEEP!? Totally logical. He had to protect his heart, lol.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/04/20 02:36 PM
2	Sorry, can’t hear you! 🤣 Oh no. It’s a black hole of male depravity. TRP= “The Red Pill”. Basically a lot of people characterize it as the female equivalent of FDS, but it’s much more extreme. Honestly if anything, FDS is a response to the sort of manipulative male behavior they extol. If this says anything about them, they have been “quarantined” on reddit for their hate speech towards women. While FDS has the goal of avoiding unwarranted pain and wasted energy with men, I would say TRP has a goal to dominate/manipulat…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/20 09:07 PM
3	Struggling to shake off my inner Pickmeisha Totally agree. We are human, and we get connected and it’s difficult to have no feelings when something ends even if it is the right thing to do. The whole name calling of “pickmeisha” has more to do with the lying to oneself and justifying actions that are debasing/ accepting poor treatment to save the “relationship.” You’re not doing that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/04/20 06:13 AM
8	Friend convinced herself it's okay for her to never be satisfied or entertained. He claims he just isn't sexual so he can't satisfy her or change his "nature." This used to be me, and I told her there are other men who are like him that will actually satisfy her. Wish I could get through to her. cringe	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/04/20 06:05 AM
52	Sorry, can’t hear you! 🤣 I see people dissing this sub all over the place, as the female version of TRP. It’s incredible to me that having self-respect, standards, and a strategy for keeping yourself from investing in shitty partners is so scandalous and triggering for people.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/04/20 12:17 AM
7	10’s Don’t Date Skumbags There’s gotta be more to this story! I’m genuinely curious, what was his “bait and switch game”?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 05:29 PM
2	A Single Dude’s perspective... Feel Free to discuss Total catch alert. You just sound afraid of intimacy and fear of being trapped in something you don’t want, therefore you have created all of these rules so you don’t get hurt. As long as you’re upfront about all this baggage when you get involved with someone, I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/20 12:07 AM
22	You left me on seen Who even has their “read” and “seen” notifications on anymore!? But I think you can guarantee that after a few hours, everything is considered “read”. Obviously there are exceptions, but most everyone has their damn phone, come on. I’m not advocating needing to hear from someone instantly to be reassured of their intent. BUT clear red flag if they are constantly ignoring you for a day or more.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/20 04:20 AM
38	Reminder: LVM say anything to get what they want. Exactly. I’m shaking my head at how long this girl kept talking to him after all the red flags. Like, don’t just “haha” him. Tell him to fuck off and block him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/20 03:23 PM
5	How do we keep a HVM The working on yourself part of it is so you can get to a place where you KNOW you’re good enough even when someone has treated you badly. You have to see that as a reflection of them, not of you. If someone is an asshole, it’s because they’re an asshole not because you’re not good enough to be treated well. Then you set super strong boundaries with people for your bar of how you’re willing to be treated. I know it’s hard not to take poor treatment in the past personally. But you have to learn t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/20 09:44 PM
16	How do we keep a HVM You say that you’re confident and you like yourself, but when you say stuff like this it’s clear there is some discord in your statements. I struggled with this too, thinking, “I do like myself, I don’t have confidence issues” but deep down I thought I wasn’t good enough. Since then I’ve done a ton of self-work and it sounds like you’re gonna have to learn to be single for a while, cultivate things that you want (strong friendships, learn new skills, etc...) and fall in love with yourself first.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/20 05:13 PM
3	Why You Should Cultivate a Great Social Life as a FDS Woman Gotta say, this is great advice- not only for improving your odds at having a successful relationship, but for being genuinely happy in general. Without this, no romantic relationship will make you truly happy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/20 01:44 AM
8	He’s special. He’s a nice guy. I don’t LOOK like the other piles of shit, so...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/20 06:09 AM
4	This is what happens when you compromise and date a pornsick man. This guy chose porn over his girlfriend and told her to fuck off and thinks he’s not the asshole. Oh, I gotta say this too! His male friends also told him he was being an asshole and aren’t talking to him either. Gives me hope.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/20 01:00 AM
198	This is what happens when you compromise and date a pornsick man. This guy chose porn over his girlfriend and told her to fuck off and thinks he’s not the asshole. If you read the edits, he went to try and apologize for yelling at her and telling her to “fuck off”, and she broke up with him. So I’m pretty happy with that ending.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/20 02:29 PM
3	Finally! Not saying he’s hvm but nice to see a like minded male. They lie though. Time will tell. I think it's easy to tell someone what they want to hear. Also, by asking this early, it comes off as desperate. You don't even know this guy, you shouldn't be trying to lock him down. You should be vetting him hard. So, instead of asking what he's looking for, you can show him what you are looking for by your actions: don't sleep with him until there is a commitment, don't accept last minute dates, etc... (ie: the rules). Furthermore, if you're only texting for the moment, don't get emotionally…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/20 04:27 PM
42	Finally! Not saying he’s hvm but nice to see a like minded male. They lie though. Time will tell. Talk is cheap, and you are basically telling him what to say to get you in bed. You listen and watch their actions, see how hard they pursue you, how they treat you in general. That is how you tell their intentions. Obviously bring it up eventually. But this is ludicrous as a beginning interaction.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/20 04:32 AM
6	Leaving my negative value situationship Totally! Very useful in determining what you want, and also in identifying red flags right away so you can take action and not make excuses/explain these behaviors away. Especially when it’s right there in black and white that you don’t want this. To be completely honest- even stronger than a list of qualities I want/don’t want, is how I want to feel. That way, if I’m feeling a way I don’t want to feel, I know almost immediately something is off. I don’t waste a lot of time being “confused” abou…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/20 06:28 AM
30	Leaving my negative value situationship This seems like it would be a great list in the opposite/positive form too- for what you definitely want/demand in a relationship. Epecially if you’ve gotten involved with LVM like this in the past. Good way to vet someone before getting emotionally invested. Basically because I think it’s helpful to focus on what you do want rather than just what you don’t want. BUT I don’t mean that in a critical way, because it’s great you’ve identified what you definitely don’t want in him. There’s def more …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/20 05:08 AM
27	sneak peak into the realities of a pickmeisha Too much work to reply to this, I’m guessing...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/20 01:18 AM
2	A cautionary tale from my failed marriage. Wow, that letter is an intense look into a stage that a lot of women go through. Thanks so much for sharing something so personal, and your insights from the whole experience.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/20 02:27 AM
8	Sisters, are long ass messages a red flag for anything? Red flag only if it’s emotionally manipulative or abusive. But here he’s literally responding to your joke. Doesn’t come off clingy to me. But maybe you’re just not that into him? Or what previous commenter said, maybe you’re subconsciously attracted to men who play hard to get?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 11:31 PM
0	Facts Anybody else ever watched the show “Snapped”? (Just FYI this is tongue-in-cheek, for those who would ignore the sarcasm).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/19 02:09 AM
46	Guy doesn’t text first or make plans, but will respond to my texts and meet up if I make the plans and ask him out. Do I drop this? Actions speak louder than words, so it really doesn’t matter if he says he likes you. A man who wants to spend time with you wouldn’t make you do all (or even most of) the work to make it happen. The only way to truly gauge a man’s interest is to continue living your life and see if he’s willing to put in the effort to see you. Ie: planning actual dates, ahead of time, calling and texting you, investing time and energy. It sounds like he doesn’t want to put energy into a relationship. Don’t fall…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/19 05:45 AM