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| 26 | Why staying in a toxic relationship makes you NV (lower than LV) when you have childrenYou are not a coward! You are brave for leaving. Society pushes this martyrdom ideal that it’s somehow noble and loyal to set yourself on fire to keep your abusive family members warm. You’ve given your mother many chances to make things right. Congratulations on escaping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:40 PM |
| 13 | At what age did you realize male validation means absolutely nothing?Instead of feeling down, celebrate that you’re starting a new chapter in your life. You are beholden to no man’s opinion. Don’t beat yourself up for falling prey to the socialization you grew up with. Celebrate that you’ve overcome the socialization, and very quickly at that. Age has nothing to do with it. The realization comes from two conditions: 1) the opportunity to observe who they are behind their masks and 2) the willingness to recognize it without burying the truth with excuses for their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:25 PM |
| 17 | I effed upWhat do you mean “terrible aging genes”? Everything except male pattern baldness is purely their own fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:42 AM |
| 16 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 11:55 PM |
| 30 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.It's too bad she didn't find FDS while she was working her second job. She could have had the realization that "My BF would rather not see me during the weekends than pay for the trip he planned with HIS income in mind. Why am I still dating this loser?" Then she could just continue working her second job to save up money to move out of their "50/50" rent arrangement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 03:36 AM |
| 13 | A female carpenter is facing a $15M defamation lawsuit for criticizing comments made by an all-male construction podcastJust a reminder to all, this is happening in Canada, which has different laws to the US. I don’t know enough about Canadian defamation suits to know how this will play out in the Canadian system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:21 PM |
| 2 | I had a frustrating conversation with my father.Save your energy for your exit strategy and supporting your cousin. Check out the self-help books on FDS wiki on how to deal with your parents since you’re forced to stay in contact with them. Basic gist of it is, stop trying to change them into better people. You can only debate people who converse with you in good faith. Grey rock them. React with minimal words but don’t engage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:09 PM |
| 1 | I had a frustrating conversation with my father.The best thing you can do is prove them wrong. I would change that to “stop caring about what they think, and stop trying to prove yourself to them. You don’t need their validation.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:04 PM |
| 31 | stop telling girls to respond "nicely" to street harassment/ sexism/double standards! Call that shit out!!Agreed. This post completely ignores that it’s more than socialization at play. Women don’t play nice because we think you deserve it. Saying “no” gets women beat up, harassed, and stalked. There‘s a reason you’re taught to yell “fire” instead of “help.” That’s the type of messed up world we live in. And if you believe in the goodness of strangers stepping in, I welcome you to see the world everyone else lives in, the one where the bystander effect is a real observable thing. Do and say whatever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 10:51 PM |
| 28 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteMy opinion: sure you could be fired for behaviour outside of work. Makes sense if you were acting racist in public and it would hurt the company image to have you interacting with the clients. But she wasn’t doing anything like that, not assaulting people, not selling drugs to children, not acting racist, etc... She’s not standing in the middle of the street flashing her genitals either. She’s on a pay for access website and she’s not doing it for funsies. The difference with only fans is that w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:42 AM |
| 11 | Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lolWelcome to the club. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 03:27 AM |
| 7 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandIf it’s legal where you live, you can record the call and the abuse would come through much more strongly by actually hearing his tone of voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:25 PM |
| 18 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandIf you’re looking to move into the same condo only because your name is on the lease, check your local laws. Domestic violence is a way to break your lease. Ask your domestic shelters in navigating these questions! I‘m highly against you living in the same condo as him. To begin healing, you need him out of your life for good. You can’t be running into him here and there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:28 PM |
| 59 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandPlease reach out to your local domestic shelters for resources and strategies in escaping. From how you’re describing him, in your shoes, I wouldn’t tell him until AFTER you’re already moved out, and I wouldn’t do it in person - remotely over the phone would be best. Furthermore, if he assaults you, please go to your local domestic shelter to get looked at and just to leave a paper trail. This may help in a restraining order (if needed) or getting a judge to divorce you sooner. Please start docu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 04:26 PM |
| 1 | “Set boundaries, find peace”Women are not rehabilitation centres. It’s not our job to teach them how to socialize properly. You don’t date projects and potential. If they want to level up, THEY can go read self-help books on how to behave in a relationship (whether platonic or romantic) and go to therapy for issues. If I have to teach a boyfriend how to properly behave in a relationship, I’m already turned off. I’m NOT your mother. It’s not my job to teach you to reciprocate affection, call people back, be interested in wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 02:18 PM |
| 15 | FDS principles lands on a political news channel. A few FDS’ers in the comments defending this woman for setting standards. So many complaining dinner is expensive and she’s a gold digger for the bare minimum.Click bait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:58 PM |
| 20 | FDS principles lands on a political news channel. A few FDS’ers in the comments defending this woman for setting standards. So many complaining dinner is expensive and she’s a gold digger for the bare minimum.Imagine my shock when I opened up my news feed and THIS was featured on a political channel. I thought it best to link the video so curious women can find FDS and read up on it, as clearly the woman didn’t read FDS or wouldn’t be advising that a guy pick her up for dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:56 AM |
| 2 | Opinions on surrogacy?Development of severe endometriosis is a side effect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:42 PM |
| 9 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.If you can’t be fully supportive at the labouring mother’s medical procedure, you‘re a hinderance. Get out. It’s a medical procedure, not a spectator sport. Mom’s labour >> witnessing child’s birth. Extra stress on the mother will prolong the labour and may cause complications. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 02:44 PM |
| 9 | How to reject men without fear of violence?Off topic, but your comment just reminded me of this hilarious video I saw years ago about the anti mugger walk. It was so ridiculous that I was laughing so hard that there were tears in my eyes. Look up on YouTube “Good Mythical Morning the safest way to walk.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 39 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsDo they hear themselves? Last time I checked, friends either lent money or they donated money to friends who are hitting hard financial times. Jerking off to sexualized images of your “friend” is some way to show “support.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:59 PM |
| 13 | I am BOILING. Ad that came up on my fb feed. A five year old with eye bags that need correcting?? The grooming starts so young. Thankfully they got dragged in comments.Eye bags? She doesn’t have any! Not bags, not dark circles. She looks like a normal, healthy human child. Looks like Lensa should update their slogan: Need a new issue to fix? Lensa can help. We pathologize healthy appearances to make you feel worse about yourself. edit: formatting, just to make sure Lensa marketing department sees their new slogan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Reddit’s infested with misogyny: mods at r/relationship_advice liken “pornshaming” to “bigotry” and it’s ban-able offence. Read their last words before muting me.What if I changed the title to r/r_a ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.Get her out of there. Keep a diary (dates!) of conversations (please have your husband write his own account of her father’s behaviour). I don’t know the laws where you are, but try reporting to child protective services to expedite the process. Demand a child health psychologist evaluate your daughter for trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:33 AM |
| 3 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornThis is what I meant by my first comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:15 AM |
| 8 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape Pornthis person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:51 AM |
| 8 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornYes. DM me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:32 AM |
| 12 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornDid you still need a code or did someone else get in touch with you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:00 AM |
| 45 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornPM for a code. It’s invite only. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:30 AM |
| 133 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornRadFem. It was literally created moments after Reddit banned GenderCritical. You can read their statement here: https://www.ovarit.com/o/Announcements/135/welcome-back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 19 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornHard to find a link without the name we are not allowed to say, but check out the comments https://ovarit.com/o/GenderCritical/24599/reddit-admin-update-as-of-today-the-employee-in-question-is-no-longer-employed-b | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:16 AM |
| 204 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornThen you wouldn’t be surprised to understand the reason why the female lesbian user base fled r / ActualLesbians. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:02 AM |
| 77 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornNo problem. Lord Paedomort has earned his title. I’ll be damned if I use a pesky “You-Know-Who.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:48 AM |
| 68 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornShe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:45 AM |
| 139 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornNo. I believe they’ve vetted Lord Paedomort for the exact qualities they were looking for. See who the mods are of reddit’s “women” spaces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:44 AM |
| 275 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornHave you looked at who the mods are of their current “women” spaces? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:42 AM |
| 156 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornWe have one. Check out Ovarit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:40 AM |
| 23 | I went on a walk today and a man spit in my faceBiological assault. I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m sorry we live in a society where if women want even a chance of the justice system making a half hearted attempt to take your statement seriously, we have to shut off our human reactions in order to be numb to think to collect evidence. Remember, ladies, he’s brazen enough to assault you with his DNA evidence. As much as you want to burn the tissue you used to wipe it off, use it to help the police to start the criminal record he so des… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:20 PM |
| 16 | im starting to think its not ok when guys approach women in public without making conversation 1stTime was, men used to have to put in the effort to get to know you first by going to social functions where they know you’re ready to socialize and accept introductions through mutual acquaintances. This was important because your mutual acquaintance would socially excommunicate you if they heard you disrespected the woman they introduced you to. These social gatherings weren’t limited to the upper class. Communities, whether religious or otherwise, held social gatherings all the time: Halloween… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 08:28 PM |
| 41 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexThat would require them to view us as active participants and not breathing fleshlights with boobs. We’re just objects in their porn sick minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 21 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.The light of this is this sub shows the world what women are really like once they get away from male interference. Unfiltered, we say it like it is: no, I won’t accept the bare minimum and congratulate you for washing the dishes in your own house. “I did the dishes for you” = I consider the chores your job and decided it was a favour to you to help out. Disgusting. Ladies who are lurking reading this, you sacrifice your quality of life when you settle. Better to be alone than be with a man who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 15 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.Yep. ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 119 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.Men pretending to be women TwoX, where are your women gone? Edit: they’re “over it” they said before they left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 11:05 AM |
| 2 | Your eggs are worth THOUSANDS of dollars and sperm is almost WORTHLESS!And this is why I believe egg donation is an exploitive practice. The cost to health is too high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:18 AM |
| 8 | Your eggs are worth THOUSANDS of dollars and sperm is almost WORTHLESS!One woman developed late stage endometriosis from the procedure. https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/infertility/causes/endometriosis-after-egg-donation/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:28 AM |
| 5 | Scrotes in the comment section on a video about Denmark having low birth rates. Men complaining about having "responsibility without authority". Translation: "I refuse to be a productive member of society unless I get to be in charge and rape women with impunity!"Am I the only one affronted that they’re calling themselves “baby makers”? That‘s such a big stretch. It’s like calling the produce delivery company “chefs” or “cooks.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 01:53 PM |
| 4 | I’m new to this community and this way of thinking, so I’m wondering. What are your thoughts on the kind of music we listen to? Do you ladies actively try to avoid music with lyrics that are disrespectful to women/sexualise women?Have you heard the soundtrack to Queen’s Gambit? It’s so beautiful. My favourite tracks are “Borgov III” and “the final gambit.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:41 PM |
| 15 | I’m new to this community and this way of thinking, so I’m wondering. What are your thoughts on the kind of music we listen to? Do you ladies actively try to avoid music with lyrics that are disrespectful to women/sexualise women?I’m of the mind that we must make conscious choices to avoid everything negative within our power. The music itself may be enticing but the song does have a negative impact on your psyche. Just how much energy are you wasting trying to ignore the lyrics? How much are you compartmentalizing? We are already socialized to put ourselves last. Our journey starts in the gutter where we have to reprogram our minds to believe we deserve respect and to start respecting our own time and labour. It’s a mes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:34 PM |
| 7 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...Yeah, she’s a pick me. Everything she said falls under the 50/50 trap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:01 PM |
| 5 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?Trust is earned, not owed. It’s slow to earn and very easy to break for a good reason. It’s fragile. A healthy dose of skepticism is what has allowed humans to survive. Respect that and you’ll appreciate the value of trust and never take it for granted. Those who pull the “don’t you trust me?” BS do not appreciate it. It’s manipulative and coercive. Trust is an earned privilege which can’t be bought or enforced through manipulation and fear. As human beings, the only thing we are owed is being t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 10:26 AM |
| 23 | Gender ratios among college-educated young people have been becoming more female since the 90s. Currently around 56% of new grads are women. How can all of us each find a HVM, if there simply aren't enough?You should stop thinking about dating for now. It’s distracting you from working on yourself. You may be smart and funny but you’re carrying massive amounts of desperation and insecurity about your looks.Being single isn’t a punishment, a sentence, or a disease. Furthermore, what makes you think you can apply statistics from gender graduation ratios of a liberal arts field to ratios of HMV out in the workplace? Why are you assuming the majority of the male graduates are HMV? Never trust a man wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 67 | What do you think about this influencer whose husband is 18 years older, and pursued her when she was 19?“She reminds me to wear a hat because of my bald head, and this shows me she loves and cares about me,” he says. ”I love his bald head,” she adds. Me: so you have to treat this 40-something man as a 7 year old boy that you have to remind to look after himself. Bleh. What a turnoff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 09:03 PM |
| 14 | Just saw the guy I was "exclusive" with on a date with another woman.That’s awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 67 | Just saw the guy I was "exclusive" with on a date with another woman.The only thing I have half a mind to do for the sake of informing the unsuspecting woman is to approach their table and say: “I’m letting you know I’m breaking up with you. I don’t tolerate cheaters. I’m picking up my stuff tomorrow.” And turn to the woman. “Have a nice date.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 11:37 AM |
| 107 | Just saw the guy I was "exclusive" with on a date with another woman.If it were me, I wouldn’t have told him I saw him. It would be a cold text: “We’re not working. I’m coming to pick up my stuff on Xday.” Don‘t text him while you’re in the middle of processing all your emotions. His responses will make it worse because he doesn’t care how much his actions have hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:32 AM |
| 0 | Men literally would not exist without womenThis is wrong. The fetus starts out physically sexless. Lack of a penis doesn’t make the fetus a female. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Sick of my dads LVM shitI think your father may be narcissistic. He wanted a boy who programs because he was looking for an extension of himself. Check out the books about victims of narcissism. It might explain why she continued to put up with it. Gift her a bunch of those books but definitely “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy. She’s normalized a bunch of the emotional abuse that she doesn’t even recognize it anymore. She only recognizes the extreme ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Sick of my dads LVM shitStop thinking like that! Do not hope to reason with him or hope your sister to have luck in reasoning with him. “It’s just the way I am” and “I’m too old to change my personality” type people never change. Why? Because they don’t take responsibility and accountability for their actions. You better hope you, your sister, and your mom find it in your selves to go no contact with him. He’s emotionally abusive to all of you. The longer it takes you to go NC, the longer it will take you to level up. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:05 AM |
| 21 | Reminder: If you have kids with a LVM, automatically have one more kidPerhaps you can save the date log of the hours playing (or screenshots), save screen shots and testimonies of the WhatsApp convo (dated) from your cousin as a later present to her when she decides to divorce him and needs receipts for why he’s an incompetent, neglectful caretaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 25 | What do you think about this?That and ill fitting clothes feel so uncomfortable. Someone here mentioned sweatpants, most likely due to comfort. Tailored clothes in a comfortable, breathable material feel very comfortable. You don’t have to sacrifice comfort for dressing well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Mask perksLol. “Shooting dice in my mouth.” You have a way with words! XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Mask perksIt doesn’t matter what we wear. Arab women in burkas still get objectified in the Middle East. It was only last century that it was scandalous for women to show their ankles in the west. You hide more body parts, and they’ll find a new feature to objectify you on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Mask perksWhat are your masks made of? I use double layer cotton masks and I change them every 3 hours or so due to the moisture building up. Then I wash them at the end of the day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Why do men ALWAYS settle down with the next girl after me?Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 40 | Why do men ALWAYS settle down with the next girl after me?You’re giving them too much credit. LMVs make shitty husbands that don’t treat their wives as treasures. They didn’t care about OP. They just liked the free benefits she gave them. They marry the woman they think they can manipulate and will tolerate their BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:44 PM |
| 19 | You ladies need to watch this movie! So chilling, so triggering, so relatable and so so so well done but also heartbreaking!! This is why FDS is important! They also shaded libfem with the whole men wanting a good girl and anal. 100/10 must watch!But the point was to spark conversation. For art to have a social impact, it must mirror life. This movie highlights the realities that liberal feminism refuses to look at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:23 AM |
| 1 | My county’s prosecutor basically decriminalized sex work and now I’m paranoid that men I date will be see sex workers.Nevada allows brothels. So that state skipped the Nordic model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 07:27 PM |
| 5 | I have been announcing to friends more often and more confidently that I will not ask out guys- the responses have been interestingGood luck to you and your friend! I don‘t know if you’re aware, but FDS has an extensive book list for healing and self-development. Co-dependency is definitely one of the titles. Maybe coax your friend into reading some of the titles by telling her how much more confident and happier you’ve become with these books? https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:14 PM |
| 21 | I have been announcing to friends more often and more confidently that I will not ask out guys- the responses have been interestingYou’re looking at his public persona. It’s easy to fake it for a few hours. Also, any man of average intelligence will know what behaviour to emulate to be perceived as favourable in society. The ones that out themselves with red flags before any kind of dating happens really have low intelligence. He may or may not be HVM but FDS warns about putting any kind of HMV label because then that starts to put a bias in your mind to ignore tiny flags that go against this label. Your friend’s bf is just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:47 PM |
| 42 | Kevin Samuels - “A woman who has had a baby has no right to make a “HVM” man wait for sex if she had the child with a “LVM” in the past”. My heart is breaking at this😭I want an 18-23 yo with no financial debt and zero partners. Translation: I want a naive woman who won’t expect orgasms and who hasn’t gone to university to further her education to become financially independent. Also, I’m a major pedophile for being a 34 yo lusting after and grooming a teenager who’ll only fall for my coercion if she has a history of abuse. I’m also delusional in thinking 18 yo are attracted to old guys, and I’m delusional for thinking my sperm quality is still good for passin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:42 PM |
| 58 | I have been announcing to friends more often and more confidently that I will not ask out guys- the responses have been interestingFirst of all, congrats on changing your mindset. We don’t chase because LVMs will say yes to everyone because it’s convenient to have a girlfriend. Second of all, I’m sorry, but how do you know he’s HVM or that her LTR boyfriend is HMV? Until you go through the trials, you don’t know their true character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 08:25 AM |
| 13 | Absolutely heartbreaking. This needs to stop.Read the FDS recommended book “Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men“ by Lundy. He studied abusers and breaks things down succinctly. The abuser hasn’t lost control of himself. For example, he’s in full control when he decides to take his anger out on you and your stuff. Why isn‘t his stuff damaged, just yours? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 07:15 AM |
| 91 | Fetishized for my nationalityYour instincts are spot on. Run. You don’t know how many disgusting comments I‘ve come across on YouTube saying, “these girls know how to look beautiful because feminism didn’t touch their country.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:26 AM |
| 90 | "A Medieval Device for a Medieval Act" [Truly sad it got to the point of a Queen inventing this though] OldieButGoodieApparently it’s not available yet. It’s still in the development stage and they’ve created a GoFundMe page. https://africacheck.org/fbcheck/rape-axe-prototypes-made-but-anti-rape-condom-not-yet-for-sale/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 05:59 AM |
| 192 | What do you think about guys who watch anime?While there are good anime out there, I’d run, far and fast. He most likely watches something that objectifies women. And these are rampant in anime: -the submissive girl who is unsure of herself and has zero boundaries -the Lolita character -the busty woman character who exists to satisfy their porn sick minds. And it starts with young audiences. If anyone remembers Naruto, the author used the objectification of women as a running gag. Women’s pain is their comedy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:50 AM |
| 85 | Why men expect women (or feminism) to pick up on male issues that are male on male induced?Man: but what about men’s issues? feminist: feminism isn’t about solving men’s issues. man: yes, it is! Feminism is about equality, solving everyone’s issues. Feminism is for everyone! feminist: I quote, “feminism is a movement to liberate women and children from oppression.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:24 AM |
| 4 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.You missed a great opportunity in your last sentence to use and paraphrase the finger pointing adage as “you’re pointing your finger at your mother, but you have three pointing back at you.” Also, I’m thoroughly confused about OP’s housecleaning comment. I’ve had to do chores since I was 10, but my parents never taught me how (and this was pre-easy-internet access days). The Borax box had instructions on how to mix floor cleaning solution. The washing machine had instructions under the lid and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:06 PM |
| 76 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSBeware liberal men, especially beware men who call themselves “feminists.” Men can be allies to feminists but men can never be feminists. Men are socialized differently from birth and they will never truly get the full picture of what it’s like to grow up in a misogynist society that throws objectifying images of your sex at you from an early age. Men are socialized to expect women to bend backwards and accommodate their needs and wants. When a woman doesn’t pander to them, they view it as abusi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:36 PM |
| 32 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.You’re going to want to change your mindset about “femininity.” Makeup and stereotypical “feminine” outfits do not a woman make. The one that practices these hobbies is not more of a “woman” than the one that doesn’t. Being a woman is not about adhering to these enforced stereotypical made up standards for women. The earlier you accept that you’re fine without following these stereotypes, the better your life will be. If it was never a passion for you to experiment with nail polish art or come u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:11 AM |
| 44 | The hardest thing about FDS is watching you’re girl friends struggle when you have the answersHere’s why it’s not working: FDS starts with personal self development first. Can’t see the wisdom in throwing away the toxic man if you don’t see value in yourself first. “He’s disrespecting you” means nothing if you don’t know how to respect yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Men and general cleanliness/groomingI suffer from dry (and sensitive) skin. It got much better when I cut sulfates from my skin care routine. I use unscented oatmeal soap (just make sure you get a shower filter if you have hard water). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:30 PM |
| 5 | She explains it perfectlyThanks for the clarification. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:11 PM |
| 3 | She explains it perfectlyNow I understand. Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 5 | She explains it perfectlyWhat are 7x1 soaps? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 7 | Don’t let “good” intentions cloud you on LV behaviourJust curious, but can you ask your husband how he would feel in this hypothetical situation? Would he prefer living the lie or knowing about your hypothetical child’s real moments secondhand even if he didn’t get to experience them himself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:13 PM |
| 12 | She's beautiful even at 56, where's the wall men constantly keep talking about?It’s the sun damage from UVA rays, which are available at all daylight hours. The skin around the eyes is the thinnest. As to why now? Remember that stupid trend where guys used to wear their ball caps backwards? Fashion from history used to be that everyone wore wide brimmed hats outdoors to protect their faces, so they had more sun protection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:00 PM |
| 26 | HVM suddenly displaying traits of LVMwhen LVM traits can be worked on? Never. Women aren’t rehabilitation centres. And men don’t respect women who stay with them through their LMV traits. How can I tell when an HVM is slipping up? HMVs make mistakes. They don’t slip up. Asking for an open relation was not a mistake. He’s showing you he doesn’t put the same value as you on a monogamous relationship. You’re incompatible. Values must always match up. FDS doesn’t give you a checklist for the HVM test. It gives you a checklist for red f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:03 AM |
| 3 | All of these lovely ring posts/ has anyone repurposed an engagement ring?As long as you do a good job of securing a bun with Bobby pins, sliding the decorative comb behind the bun should keep the comb from falling out. Or you could get a jeweller to incorporate your ring into a metal hair stick design. If your hair is long enough, the hair stick shouldn’t fall out, as your hair would be wrapped enough to hold the knot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 10:12 AM |
| 6 | All of these lovely ring posts/ has anyone repurposed an engagement ring?I’m not sure where one would wear this in modern day society, except to a wedding, but you could repurpose it as a hair ornament. Weave a braided half updo through the ring as is, or get a metal jeweller to solder the opened ring to a decorative metal hair comb and solder a few more pieces of matching metal to make a nice ornamental design. Use this as inspiration: https://images.app.goo.gl/CqZSLxBfFDBFLeqj8 https://images.app.goo.gl/s3zuECw6jzXsgG6G9 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:46 PM |
| 24 | I just realized beauty is power. It is why men have wanted to possess us, as if I'm an object. I might not be as big or strong as men, but I'm powerful through my femininity.I disagree. If that were true, men would be participating as consumers in the beauty industry. Let’s not confuse attractiveness with power. Beauty is only skin deep and it fades. That’s not real power. And look at how men abuse beautiful actresses and models. They don’t respect them. That’s not power. Edit: and “femininity” is a social construct. What makes the woman who chooses to wear flouncy dresses more feminine than the woman who wears pantsuits? Do these pantsuits make her more “masculine”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:14 PM |
| 7 | No thanksThese women who end up with these scrotes get pressured and manipulated into having kids. My point was if they’re not going to say “no” to these scrotes for their own welfare, they should at least do it on behalf of this potential kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:58 AM |
| 53 | Saw this quote today. Oh the irony...I feel so sorry for her... Like why? He’s old. Why can’t she see how much value she has? She’s wasted her 20s on him, is she going to waste her 30s too? I don’t want to speculate but I’m seeing this giant trend of female entertainers settling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:19 PM |
| 173 | No thanksWant kids: someday Someday is too late. They are living in dreamland. I just posted about sperm quality degrading after 35. I hope my post reaches the women with too little self-confidence, so that they’ll choose to say no to these scrotes for the health of their potential child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:40 PM |
| 26 | Biology warning: men’s sperm has a clock AND it creates higher pregnancy risks for you and your child! Beware men over 35 yo.We’re going to have to depend to the power of social media alone. Can’t go upsetting the patriarchy on mainstream media now can we? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:31 PM |
| 105 | Biology warning: men’s sperm has a clock AND it creates higher pregnancy risks for you and your child! Beware men over 35 yo.I imagine they’ll ignore it. Can’t have anything breaking their little fantasy of finally settling down at 40+ and impregnating a 20-something who’s obviously turned on by their receding, thinning hair, and wrinkles. Ah, and the beer gut. I hope this reaches far and wide. May the libfems wake up to another reason large age differences are a scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:53 PM |
| 23 | In response to "10 things every wife should know" here a "10 things every husband should know" by yours truly...see how stupidly controlling it reads. I'd never understand how people can perceive something like this as normal when it's used against women.I totally hate this “we” business. No. You are not the one physically suffering. Stop trying to appropriate women’s struggles. You weren’t the one to sacrifice your body and your health to create this baby. It diminishes what we go through when you include yourself, the uninjured party. Yes, it’s time women stop coddling men’s fragile egos. Women are not responsible for men’s fertility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:09 AM |
| 43 | In response to "10 things every wife should know" here a "10 things every husband should know" by yours truly...see how stupidly controlling it reads. I'd never understand how people can perceive something like this as normal when it's used against women.Honestly, if sex education were more rigorous, they would be more worried about becoming a dad later. After age 35, sperm quality degrades and actually poses more health risks to the woman. She has a higher chance of miscarriage and pregnancy complications. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/05/190513081409.htm This is why sperm banks cap the age around 30. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Porn is not cheatingLol. That present tense slip is hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:28 PM |
| 4 | He doesn't respect my opinion about porn and thinks getting coffee with a female coworker is okayGlad to hear it. By the way, have you seen FDS’s recommended self-help booklist? https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books2 Books about red flags, boundaries, self-healing from trauma (including toxic parents), and books on adopting new attitudes to a new more confident you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 13 | He doesn't respect my opinion about porn and thinks getting coffee with a female coworker is okayFirst, congrats on escaping. Second, I hope this imagery helps to calm the breakup anxiety. Picture him as a giant canon ball filled with smelly garbage that you’ve just dodged. And he was garbage. He argued with you about condoms. He gaslit you. He minimized your concerns. He dismissed your values. You’re free. Do you taste the rank-free air yet? He’s not sullying your environment anymore. Feel the relief now? Focus your attention now on getting therapy. FDS is not a substitute for it. And keep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Greg.Lol. I assumed she’d see all the other warnings on here not to date new people during COVID. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:26 PM |
| 7 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.I’ve learned the hard way to go to the trouble of filtering reviews and reading all the 1 star reviews. If the reviewer explains their position well, I don’t bother reading the book. Obviously this only works for popular books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Greg.Clearly you’re not ready to date now. Such social anxiety needs to be dealt with first in therapy. But when you are ready to date, no more of these **phone dates.** 1) They are very low effort on his part (he doesn’t even have to leave his house) 2) Hard to gauge lies because you’re not seeing his facial expression and his eyes. Direct eye contact is very important and you can’t get that face timing. 3) Only do in person dates while you get to know them. You’re getting much more non verbal info … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:16 PM |
| 27 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.Be glad you didn’t. Believe it or not, many YA romance stories make Twilight look down right healthy by comparison. Publishers’ morals went out the window when they realized how lucrative the YA market is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticYou’re welcome. Here’s more info on cortisol: https://www.yourhormones.info/hormones/cortisol/ While a low level is healthy for basic function, a high level produced by being under a prolonged period of psychological stress is physically and mentally damaging. Make sure to schedule regular relaxation time, whatever works for you. It has to be one of your non-negotiable activities just like brushing your teeth. How often and how long you need each session to be depends on how much stress you’re e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:41 PM |
| 29 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.And published in 2000, well before Twilight. Very popular trope in the romance genre. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 90 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.It’s why I gave up on the romance genre. Every romance niche has its own male lead asshole, no matter which sub genre you look at: contemporary, supernatural, fantasy, science fiction, thriller, and historical. Choose between some variation of these two assholes: 1) the one that waits to be saved and lets the female lead deal with his baggage as he plays hot and cold games with her, never really letting her go. 2) the chauvinistic “alpha” who forces his way into her life and breaks her will unti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:10 PM |
| 4 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩I’ll PM the mods to ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 44 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.Hate to break it to you, but Twilight’s didn’t birth this. This was already a trope in the romance genre before Twilight. It simply crossed over into the YA market as YA suddenly became its own class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:00 PM |
| 5 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩I’m just wondering if FDS would get away with actually promoting Ovarit with its own post. I’m sure a significant percentage of the 121k members would be interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 8 | Porn is not cheatingI’d go so far to say “brain dead.” My response to men are visual: “If you’re so visual, why is your imagination so stunted that you can‘t imagine erotic thoughts without a screen doing all the work for you? Last I checked, visual people see pictures in their heads.“ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:43 AM |
| 5 | Porn is not cheatingBut doesn’t this give him a heads up to lie about it? Wouldn’t the dumb fox method out him faster? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:37 AM |
| 11 | BoundariesHobbies, interests, and lifestyles you don’t mind sharing publicly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:20 AM |
| 7 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩You’re welcome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:48 AM |
| 42 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩Ovarit.com is a new social media recently created by women after Reddit banned all the other real feminist subreddits, and it’s to be centered on women, recognizing that feminism is rooted on women’s sex based rights. That women’s oppression happens because we are born female and we can’t identify our way out of it. It’s still new, so the hobby sub groups like books and arts are still limited as the mods are developing the site to handle larger traffic, but it’s freeing in that you can freely ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:35 AM |
| 11 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩Have you heard of Ovarit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:11 AM |
| 11 | she had an epiphany typing it out 😩😩have you heard of Ovarit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:10 AM |
| 7 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticIt depends on the person, but it’s any activity that relaxes your brain as you’re doing it and stops the production of cortisol, whereby afterwards you feel more energized. For me personally my chill activities include (and these are all things I do solo so that my attention isn’t taken by a companion) leisure bike riding on a nice day in a nature park (I pick trails without hills) slow, relaxing yoga to decompress the tension in my spine and muscles reading fiction (be careful with this one, as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:06 AM |
| 2 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticSame. I report comments and posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:28 AM |
| 14 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticPartial disagree. Me TIME is only “chill” time. Chores are not “me time.“ You do chores to keep the space hygienic for living, same as you go to work to pay for this living space. If keeping a job isn’t me time, then neither is chores. Chill time counts because it takes care to restore your mental balance. Therefore, me time. Chores add stress to your mentality. Therefore, not me time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:25 AM |
| 25 | Thought you ladies might like this. Men mad that women are focusing on themselves instead of men.This sub is open for viewing to everyone. Just sign out and you will see you’re still able to read everything here. The gate keeping only applies to posting and commenting here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 12:27 AM |
| 3 | My little “I love you” gift to myself arrived today. Years ago, I pinned this ring and when it popped up in my IG feed this fall I ordered one custom made. Loving all these ring posts.Sounds fantastic. After COVID is over, you’ll have places to wear it. :) By the way, what does rhr stand for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 04:10 PM |
| 5 | My little “I love you” gift to myself arrived today. Years ago, I pinned this ring and when it popped up in my IG feed this fall I ordered one custom made. Loving all these ring posts.Which finger will you wear it on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:15 AM |
| 77 | Nah, sisI have zero regrets and have better sex than I have in years bc yeah it’s the same end result but no drama so I can enjoy myself If you’re faking orgasms, you have a pitiful sex life. Just because you’re avoiding their mantrums by faking it doesn’t mean the sex is better. Your standards are still in hell. The woman who’s now with an emotionally abusive boyfriend calling it a healthy relationship because he treats her better than her physically abusive ex is still in a shitty relationship. I will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:06 PM |
| 13 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismI read the book long ago, so I don’t remember the finer details, but it was written by a woman and the main plot line of the main leads did follow the story. As for the side characters having their own story, I don’t remember that happening. Maybe it happened in the sequels which I never read. However, watching the series, I did get some of my memory coming back to me before the scenes of the main characters happened. I’m positive the TV adaptation stayed faithful to the toxic relationship betwe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:25 PM |
| 3 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏Height isn’t what’s going to factor in to how easily they can overpower you. The influence of years of testosterone is. You’re in just as much danger from a short guy as a tall guy. Muscle density is what you have to keep in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:24 AM |
| 10 | An oldie but a goodie. 31 year old man tries hit on a group of teenagers. Gets called a predator and argues with them instead of just leaving. Proceeds to get bullied by same group of teenagers 😂Just goes to show how deep his entitlement runs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:59 PM |
| 290 | An oldie but a goodie. 31 year old man tries hit on a group of teenagers. Gets called a predator and argues with them instead of just leaving. Proceeds to get bullied by same group of teenagers 😂but I stood my ground. It’s not your ground to stand on. You were told you weren’t welcome. Anything after that is harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:52 AM |
| 15 | Top comment on post about woman doing a photo shoot despite husbands wishes. where are all these boundary comments on how messed up it is to do something your partners is uncomfortable with viewing Pornography - scientifically documented as harmful to the individual and relationshipIf sex work were like any other job, THIS ^ wouldn’t be an argument for dropping paying work. All work is valuable. It pays your bills and puts food on the table. You wouldn’t see an argument for dropping custodial work because it makes your SO uNcOmFoTaBle, now would you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Let’s discuss why a HVM will choose to be with a HVW over the 100 million available pickmeishasThanks for clarifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 05:38 PM |
| 19 | Let’s discuss why a HVM will choose to be with a HVW over the 100 million available pickmeishasBecause a pickmeisha (or the male equivalent) don‘t have values and boundaries. It’s always changing depending on who “picked” them. Values and boundaries come from personal development and introspection to know why those are important to you and the will to enforce them. People with moving values/boundaries depending on who they’re with don’t have any. This is not healthy and I don’t want to be digging them out of their toxic hole. I can’t trust people who don’t know themselves enough to know w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:08 AM |
| 8 | Let’s discuss why a HVM will choose to be with a HVW over the 100 million available pickmeishaspickmeishas never get picked and always get picked at the same time What does this mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:54 AM |
| 23 | Another tale from the vault: Before FDS, I used to have to persuade men to wear a condom by telling them I was pro-life. To really sell it, I would look them directly in the eye, smile gleefully, and tell them that if they ever got me pregnant, I would keep the baby.This belongs in the book. If you have to put any effort to convince him to wear a condom, you better dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:43 PM |
| 15 | What a way to break up.One more comment: also, she’s posting this a year later after her “revenge.” Clearly revenge didn’t work or he wouldn’t have been living rent free in her head.A year has gone by and she’s taking extra care to send this video as further revenge to someone who has never cared about her. Lady, your creativity is wasted on him. You want real revenge? Indifference. Block and delete. All you’re doing is showing him how much you still care and how much space he’s still taking up in your life. Negative … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 15 | What a way to break up.As creative as this was, what relief did it bring her? I bet she was still super angry after leaving. All she did was waste her time and she has nothing positive to show for it. Furthermore, she probably wasted more time and energy imagining his possible reactions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Of all the Horrible Things I’ve seen from Men on Reddit, r/DeadEyes is the one that broke meYou’re going to have to open your PMs so that someone can get in touch with you about Ovarit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Of all the Horrible Things I’ve seen from Men on Reddit, r/DeadEyes is the one that broke meHas someone PMed you a code yet? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:16 AM |
| 13 | Of all the Horrible Things I’ve seen from Men on Reddit, r/DeadEyes is the one that broke meHave you joined Ovarit yet? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:07 PM |
| 159 | Scrote is absolutely mad as his ex gf is highly successful, and (probably) earns more than him. Tries to console himselfI wonder how his wife would feel knowing he’s still obsessing about a woman who rejected him YEARS ago. She gave him a son and he apparently has plenty of free time to mentally put his energy into this to stalk this woman years later. We all know what the statistics are on the division of physical and mental labour in marriages. You have to wonder how much slack his wife is picking up to give him all this extra time. “She missed her chance with the Alpha.” Lol. That’s a funny joke. Woman dodged … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 7 | Hitting his pregnant wife in the face with confetti during the gender reveal. I feel like LVM being blatantly abusive as a “prank” on social media is becoming more and more popularOh god... I feel so sorry for her. I thank the stars every day that I found FDS BEFORE I made major life changes. If an FDSer found herself in that lady’s shoes, she would immediately start her exit strategy and not drag her feet in denial. This reinforces how important it is to adopt the FDS mindset and practice it long enough to become an instinctive mindset so that when you truly need it to make the difficult choices, you have the mental fortitude to see clearly and act on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 10:59 AM |
| 34 | Hitting his pregnant wife in the face with confetti during the gender reveal. I feel like LVM being blatantly abusive as a “prank” on social media is becoming more and more popularI don’t have tiktok. What are the comments saying? Are some of them calling out this behaviour as especially dangerous to pregnant women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 12:05 AM |
| 27 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!Don’t say “please.” No need to be polite with these losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 10 | I want more female only spaces in 'real life'You might want to take this discussion to Ovarit.com | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:25 PM |
| 6 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.Don’t wait. Get an annulment immediately. So many red flags! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 254 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!Wow. OMG. So many red flags in that short message. On a more serious note, it sucks that only the ones with low iq advertise their LMV traits. If only it were that easy with all of them. With everyone else, it takes months before their mask starts to slip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 10:07 AM |
| 79 | Man tells girlfriend to run $400 worth of errands then refuses to pay her. She doesn't want advice on the boyfriend.Why do I have a sinking feeling that she’s going to ignore their advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:11 AM |
| 211 | Man tells girlfriend to run $400 worth of errands then refuses to pay her. She doesn't want advice on the boyfriend.I know my boyfriend sounds like a massive jerk OMG. Somebody call Cpt. Obvious to set this woman straight. He IS a massive jerk, not like one. Please tell me the comments are giving her a wake up call. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:03 AM |
| 2 | Bloke arranges stay at home wife a work christmas do and annual review of her housewife duties. Degrading and humiliating even as "a joke." When will women get some self respect?!Wouldn’t it have been the perfect reply to say, “I didn’t know you loved these kind of papers as a gift. I don’t want you to feel left out. No worries. I’ll print off the divorce papers when we get home. Oh, and I’ll be keeping your little report as evidence for the divorce lawyer.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 03:48 AM |
| 16 | I’ve read the handbook front to back and reverse. Still need some guidance.Guarded = masculine is the patriarchy talking. Stop listening. For the projection bit, stop dating. You’re not ready yet. Keep working on you. Don’t be in a rush. You’re only 21 and your prefrontal cortex hasn’t finished maturing yet. Your brain is still going through puberty until you reach 25. (Have you checked out FDS’s self-help book list? It’s extensive. You have lots to keep you busy until 25.) As for the “man hater” part, hate to break it to you, but in current times, anything less than p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:29 PM |
| 17 | Bloke arranges stay at home wife a work christmas do and annual review of her housewife duties. Degrading and humiliating even as "a joke." When will women get some self respect?!And he did it in public so that she’d sit there and try to laugh it off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:10 PM |
| 35 | This happened to me 10 years ago. I had just divorced and was dating pretty much every guy who asked me out who didn't immediately give me a bad vibe. My standards are way higher now. My tone is very apologetic because I thought people would bash me for being so judgmental of his diet and whatnot.Aside from the red flags, what a shitty, unoriginal movie idea. He’s obviously using writing as a way to express his fantasies. Wish fulfillment makes some of the trashiest stories I’ve read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:20 PM |
| 83 | fALsE aCcUsATioNsNotice all the instructions on here are exactly the same ones society unironically expects women to follow if they don’t want to be accused of inviting rape? “You dressed like a hoe, had a drink, and stayed out past curfew. Now you’re crying rape?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.FDS also has a self-help booklist https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:40 AM |
| 3 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenIt depends on what waxing process you’re using. If you’re using sugar wax and reusable strips, no. If you’re using conventional wax and single use strips that you’re throwing out in the garbage, yes. That garbage will be taken to a dumping site. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Trying to "save" a relationship with a cheating NVMTruth. “Growing” only happens when you self-reflect on your experiences and go through the painful process of confronting your inner demons that are holding you back. “Growing” is not a given. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:45 PM |
| 2 | How to rid yourself from pick me friends?Honestly, I would severe ties with her if I were you. Nobody wants to lose a friend, but the people you invite into your life do have an effect on you. She will bring negative energy into your life. You will have to put in that much more effort to detox from secondhand toxic mentality. It’s exhausting. You already put up with it from just interacting in public. You don’t need it from your friends too. If you were to invite her to a HVW ladies’ night out, would your hypothetical HVW friends want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:04 AM |
| 6 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.Please look at these books from the sections of abusive family and healing. https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/books Many of them are available at libraries. If a book you’d like to read is unavailable to you (maybe due to financial reasons), contact me and I’ll see if I can help. In the mean time, start the process of completely separating yourself from your mom and going no contact. She’s very toxic and has made your life very unstable. She doesn’t want to change. Don’t give her another c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 14 | "I like ✨natural✨ girls"I’ve noticed when I dress high maintenance, I get less guys trying to talk* to me. Bliss. That’s right. You can look but don’t talk to me. I’m not approachable. *Edit: I mean approach me in real life. I’m not on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:07 AM |
| 9 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenDouble edge safety razors. The blades from any company are universal and fit any razor from any company. The blades are cheap and come in a pack of 100. You choose what type of blade you need. And there’s no environmental waste. The blades are recyclable. I personally use a generic long handle butterfly razor from China with Dorco blades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:07 AM |
| 83 | Straight men shouldn't be OBGYNs- what are your thoughts?I have this experience. My female health practitioner (RN) spent years ignoring me telling her I had debilitating pain. I live in Canada, so you can only get to a gynaecologist by referral. We had a doctor shortage, so it was years for me to change practitioners because I couldn’t find anyone that was accepting new patients. On my first appt with my male doctor, he told me I had endometriosis and referred me to a gyno right away. To this day, I still hate that woman for not only refusing to pres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:53 AM |
| 47 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenAnother reason to cancel is because disposable razors are bad for the environment. The cartridges aren’t recyclable. Learn to shave with a double edge safety razor. After you get over the learning curve, you’ll shave quickly. Also, the blades are much cheaper, come in a pack of 100, and universal (so any safety razor will fit them). You can choose which type of blade you need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?I’m going to wait to congratulate you on escaping this leach until you give us the update that you’ve succeeded in severing contact with him. His stuff is gone. His numbers are blocked. And he’s stopped harassing you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:22 PM |
| 35 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?So he’s also a mansplainer and devalues what you say because it’s not what he wants to hear or it doesn’t support his little fantasy. He’s already devalued your experience of helping your mom. A HVM wouldn’t do that to you. You’re going to spend your future fighting for him to listen to logic and reason and he’s going to get angry at you for acting “stubborn” and trying to “control him and tell him what to do and how to do it.” Please don’t marry this guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:32 PM |
| 4 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?I’m coming back to reframe what you’ve said and hopefully give you a new perspective to remove all doubt so that you can trust your gut feeling. It‘s not just ambition he lacks but basic motivation to be the best version of himself. It just seems like if he has time, energy, and money enough to play video games in all of his spare time, that he could put a little effort towards our future. Let‘s for a moment imagine that he’s truly fine with his current earning and so are you. The question becom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?Holy shenanigans. Run, run, run! He’s got LVM in neon red lights above his head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:32 AM |
| 4 | Have you seen this YT channel? I'm in aweHopefully. But part of the issue is that people may be reading the dating strategy just superficially to apply to their own lives without exploring the feminism behind it. She may not want to because real feminism, unlike liberal feminism, makes you feel raw and totally aware. Awareness is painful, but living in ignorance does more harm, as the libfems have done a brilliant job of proving. I don’t know. Maybe we should bring this issue up with the mods to publicly address? You can’t be a HVW and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:02 AM |
| 6 | Have you seen this YT channel? I'm in aweAnd to think that you, an FDS Newbie, had to argue this to an FDS Apprentice who should have known better. SMH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:54 AM |
| 6 | Have you seen this YT channel? I'm in aweHow can ethical prostitution exist? Sex comes with a flood of hormones meant to emotionally bond you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | How do I emotionally cut off my NVM stepfather? Please I really need some adviceHave a look at these books, the sections on family and healing. https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/books | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:29 AM |
| 4 | If your man’s place looks like this - run. Don’t walk. That apartment is a reflection of his inner state.Oh, he’s got no excuse. The cat is the innocent party in this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:18 AM |
| 33 | If your man’s place looks like this - run. Don’t walk. That apartment is a reflection of his inner state.I‘m not sure about this. It takes two days on average to potty train a kitten, and I’ve had many. I’ve potty trained a born in the wild 4 week old and made temporary access ramps so that it could get into the litter box. They are very fast learners. The 4 week old learned in one day. It could possibly be that the cat had kidney problems. That would explain the uncontrollable bladder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:51 AM |
| 4 | FDS came thru once again!clears everything up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:49 AM |
| 19 | FDS came thru once again!Can someone explain the second comment to me? I’ve never received weird looks for giving complements. Is it that he’s insulting them and thinks he’s giving complements? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:45 AM |
| 10 | I’m not a child who is incapable of making decisions 🙄I decided to send you this unsolicited and invasive instant chat because... At least he admits he’s self-aware... And now I make edits: you’re gorgeous [I don’t care about your boundaries and I don’t see you as a person with your own autonomy, only as my future baby maker, as I admit this when I mention our future kids.] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:23 AM |
| 1 | LVM love to say that women hit the wall by the age of thirty, but this is Katy Perry at 36.You might want to save your money and not use it every night if it’s just for maintenance. https://youtu.be/i53HP7b23A0 Skip to 2 minutes when she starts talking about retinols. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:15 AM |
| 198 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.Right. I’m not going to give a list of instructions on how to act around me. My goal is to observe what comes naturally to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:59 AM |
| 61 | Looking for a partner but no prudes!Please tag this as explicit content or censor the dick in the photo. Now I feel the need to bleach my eyeballs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:08 AM |
| 38 | What do you guys think he wears to weddings?Translation: I’m too lazy to take initiative to make sure I have situation appropriate clothing, so I put the burden on my girlfriend (because she couldn’t stand seeing me in gym clothes anymore) to get me regular clothes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 96 | Pedophile is angry his victim cheated on him and tells her mom. 11 year relationship starting when he was 18 and she was 12!claiming the age difference was a typo? Really? 3 and 9 are far away on the letter keyboard, and they are far away on the numerical pad. tihs is a typo. There’s teh difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:45 PM |
| 21 | A tale from the vault: The one time my narc ex ate poisonous berries right after I told him they were poisonous and he blamed me when he got raging diarrhea 🤦♀️My take? If you’re stupid enough to eat something you can’t identify, you win the Darwin award. Enjoy the consequences. Adults are responsible for their own safety. They shouldn’t need carers running after them shouting, “don’t eat that!” “Don’t touch that!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:10 AM |
| 8 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?From the self reported ages I come across, I think the majority are anywhere between 18 to late 40s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 2 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.Thanks for explaining all this. I thought divorce happened first and then any property and finances were disputed after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 3 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.Thank you so much for clearing that up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.Yes, from Canada. I know about common-law couples. But we’re not talking about fighting over money and property. Let‘s say you just want to leave and be recorded as divorced. You have your own money and career and fighting him over his is just too much effort. Why would you have to air your laundry? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:19 PM |
| 0 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.Thanks for explaining the contesting part. I seriously don’t think Canada is anywhere near triple talak (TT). I over simplified my statement, but some significant time would have occurred between your spouse refusing to sign the papers and a court date being set. It would not be instantaneous divorce like TT. I wrote another comment about my issue with you having to justify why you want to leave. Can you address that one and if I have any misunderstanding? Why do you have to air your laundry? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 5 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.And let’s say you were seriously abused. Why do you have open that trauma to strangers in order to be able to leave? Or let’s say it was minor emotional abuse like your partner putting all the mental load burden on you. You want, in front of strangers, to itemize a list of examples of how your partner needed to be told to do chores, lectured that it’s his house too and he should take initiative to upkeep it too, given babysitting instructions on how to take care of your kid together, etc... Then… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 12 | WTF. Just looked at how divorce works in Canada. Why do you have to justify to a court why you want to leave in order to get approved if your spouse refuses to sign the papers? Just wanting to be single should be enough reason to be granted divorce.I know. This sounds so disgustingly like: my stalker ex boyfriend can force me to stay legally tied to him. How is this okay? You agreed to get into a relationship with your ex, but that was before you found out this personality trait he kept hidden from you. Canada should seriously rethink what consent is. No third party should have final say in deciding if you get to leave a relationship. If one person wants out. That’s it. They get to leave the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:24 PM |
| 17 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingExactly! This obligatory “no judgement: you do you” crap to not offend anyone is not helping victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 5 | 21yo seeking advice--what would you tell your 21yo self?Thank you. Frankly, this subject matter deserves its own book. We’re just scratching the surface of questions developing minds must ask themselves and mental exercises they must engage in, in order to develop into strong individuals who can’t be manipulated. If I have time to edit my comment for better flow and organization and add a few more relevant items, I’ll make a post about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:55 PM |
| 19 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingThen she should have just not mentioned the “nothing wrong” opinion about it. It sounds like she’s endorsing it as a legitimate avenue for dealing with the fear of rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:18 PM |
| 70 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingNo. Hard disagree. There is something wrong if you use it as your coping mechanism because it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism! Years ago, I read this article about school teachers who developed ptsd from school shooting training. The goal was to desensitize them so that when the event occurred, they wouldn’t freeze and be able to direct their students properly. Guess what a day of training drills did to them? So, by engaging in cnc coping mechanism, you’re traumatizing yourself from kink abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:00 PM |
| 27 | 21yo seeking advice--what would you tell your 21yo self?I would tell myself STOP! You are too young to waste those precious years while your brain is still finishing developing on a man! Focus on you. You are still changing (your brain hasn't finished puberty). Imagine how different you are from when you were 18 years old. 21 is still a mental teenager. You will be shocked at how you’ll feel around 25/26. No, seriously. It was like this calm descended on me and I truly escaped the horrors of the obstacle course called puberty, only you can’t physical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:20 AM |
| 3 | "My incel friend told my wife he'd r*pe her if he could and I did nothing. Now she's upset for some reason! What have I done wrong?"https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/k4f2ft/my_26m_wife_24f_just_packed_up_and_left_because/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 12:26 AM |
| 65 | "My incel friend told my wife he'd r*pe her if he could and I did nothing. Now she's upset for some reason! What have I done wrong?"I can see it now. It would be one of these disgusting gaslighting tactics: ”Chill. I was just joking.” ”I was complementing you. Jeez, tell a woman how hot she is and she’ll accuse you of rape.” ”He didn’t mean anything by it. OP, your wife is cRaZy.” OP: (laughs weakly) “He didn’t mean it, hun. You’re embarrassing me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:21 PM |
| 277 | "My incel friend told my wife he'd r*pe her if he could and I did nothing. Now she's upset for some reason! What have I done wrong?"Found gold in the comments. Someone did a translation of his post: they have dark and sometimes disturbing humor, They are complete and total creeps My wife has always been good at rolling with the punches, even if it weirds her out She has put up with being disturbed and creeped out repeatedly for our e tire relationship while deluding herself into believing at some point I would stop my friends from sexually harassing her and freaking her out There have been a few mishaps where she thought I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:20 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on this ladies, would you divorce him?I would have started the divorce process when the act occurred. I would not waste energy explaining to a grown adult who should know better why this is foul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:16 AM |
| 58 | He says it’s a sign of disrespect towards him to not have lost the baby weight already- after giving birth to their 7th child. The audacity!She’s trapped. 7 children. I‘m also guessing she has no recent work history what with birthing all these children. I’m guessing she was their primary caretaker too. What are the chances that he’s financially abusing her too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:28 AM |
| 14 | He says it’s a sign of disrespect towards him to not have lost the baby weight already- after giving birth to their 7th child. The audacity!Luckily the comments were supportive. https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/k2uynf/husband_just_asked_me_to_lose_weight/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:24 AM |
| 34 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similar“I’m kind and generous.” ”I’m funny.” The writing community has a very good advice for this: “show don’t tell.” If you have to tell me this, it means you’re very bad at showing it. And I only believe what I see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:16 AM |
| 1 | The question was « What job do you do that you enjoy ». She said escort and really dared to say that women selling their bodies would « decrease » men’s depravity and hate towards women!!Times like this, I really hate Canada. Our politicians and people in power wear this “holier-than-thou” mask while allowing stuff like this to happen. And I’m pointing fingers all the way up to the House of Senate. I watched the Senators blatantly ignore misogyny for the sake of being woke to pass a certain bill. Their comments in response to real concerns (and precedent evidence) about the bill were super infuriating. (I’m being purposely vague about which bill because I don’t want FDS to come … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | The question was « What job do you do that you enjoy ». She said escort and really dared to say that women selling their bodies would « decrease » men’s depravity and hate towards women!!Did the probation officers get charged or some kind of penalt? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Woman's self defenseYour size won’t help you win, but that’s not the goal. The goal of self defense is to find or create openings to run away. A lot of self defense depends on developing your instinctive reaction before the attacker ever gets the chance to touch you first. This is where you must focus your attention.Don‘t depend on that countermove to get out of a choke hold. Focus on the moves to evade him getting his hands on you in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:56 AM |
| 93 | A r*pe guidebook disguised as a "guide for frat boys to seduce freshman girls". Fucking disgusting. (found on another sub)”But now that alcohol is a big No No, alternative methods of seduction must be employed.” Later followed with “Then, every drink after that should be doubled in strength as she will be unsuspecting and the alcohol will be harder to taste.” You depraved, raping assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:41 AM |
| 7 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)Sorry, I didn’t mean that you publicly discuss her health. It was an expression of shock. All I meant that her health will get worse because they aren’t meant to stay in longer, even in the best case scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 18 | Woman's self defenseRight. Women have to think realistically. A “no” to any one of these questions means you will be wasting your time: Is this course longer than a pitying 15 hours so that the trainer has enough time to correct my form and ingrain the correct form into muscle memory until I do it correctly overtime unassisted? (Edit: I think anything shorter than a year is inadequate.) Will I get regular sparring practice so that I get a feel of how fast it looks when you’re actually being attacked with random att… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:30 PM |
| 29 | Woman's self defenseUnless you’re taking an actual martial arts class and stick with training, a short self-defense course would be a waste of your time. You cannot cram what you need into a short course. Your No.1 priority is to run away. Any kind of self-defense that requires physical contact needs to happen from a place of instinct, no hesitation or need to think about “What do I do?” Furthermore, the moment you engage any kind of counter moves, the perpetrator WILL up the aggression, so you better be sure that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:06 PM |
| 19 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)I want to share CBC Marketplace’s exposé with all of you. https://youtu.be/DL3AoEVGxvE Please share it with every woman and girl in your life. There’s no such thing as lifetime guaranteed breast implants. They all have an expiration date of roughly 10 years (that’s if something doesn’t go wrong before then—very likely). This means a second painful surgery is guaranteed where you make the choice to replace them (and get another surgery in a decade) or to permanently swear off implants completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:27 PM |
| 14 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)You might want to rethink putting off the surgery. They have an expiration of roughly 10 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:17 PM |
| 18 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)Yep. I watched an exposé on them from CBC. One of the biggest scams ever sold to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 9 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)What do you mean she can’t remove them? They have an expiration date of roughly 10 years. They have to be removed. Any life long guarantees are a lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:12 PM |
| 21 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?You need to add “other.” My rant on another (dead) subreddit was cross linked and posted here. Then I looked you up because I wondered who you were and why my post was relevant to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:59 AM |
| 38 | male depravity has exponentially grown since lockdown. try and prove me wrong.Lesbosville will get overpopulated with the women migrating there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️I know that NBC bank offers prepaid credit cards (in your name) for those who don’t qualify for regular credit cards. All you need to start is about a thousand in savings and a steady income. Once you build up some credit history, you can try applying again for the regular credit cards. But focus on one problem at a time, getting your money back and a plan to get away from your abuser. Worry about credit cards after. You might want to contact women’s shelters and social services to advise you on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 11:02 PM |
| 0 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️May I know what country you live in that you couldn’t get credit cards even with money in your bank account? It would help narrow down our advise to actually be more helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 5 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️Good luck! It will be an emotionally tough journey but you have it in you to see this to the end. Stay strong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:31 PM |
| 47 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️Exactly. I’ve read your comments /u/mandy_skittles and your bank should have a record of the transaction of ALL your money, not just the $20k you say you have a written record of. The transaction of other couple grand should have been recorded by your bank. Unless you payed in cash, which is shady AF, there should be a money trail to show it‘s your money. Lastly, please read the other comments in this post about red flags. A loving boyfriend wouldn’t do what your bf did to you and steal from you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | If Eve would have met FDSI find it more interesting that she was painted as a newborn killer. I’m finding a strong resemblance to men calling non-subservient women “witches“ and burning them so they don’t get their health cursed, not to mention the whole “witches eating children” trope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:20 PM |
| 3 | If Eve would have met FDSI read an illustrated Bible as a child. In it, it wasn’t an apple, but it was a forbidden blackberry of knowledge. I found it interesting how loose with the details these stories were. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:44 AM |
| 4 | If Eve would have met FDSI was thinking the same thing. We’re not inventing new words. We’re just putting the English language back to right. Hmmm... you know, with FDS’s ginormous user base, we could definitely put the word back in use. We have enough lurkers. It would catch on Twitter and social media. Any wereman that objects has to take a long hard look at himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:28 PM |
| 184 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄Found some gold in the comments: YTA His wife doesn't need to try wedding gowns. She can just drape all the red flags OP has been dropping for the last 11 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:08 PM |
| 7 | If Eve would have met FDSHere‘s a good recap of the origins of Lilith and how she became an icon of liberation (it‘s an interesting read): https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/lilith-lady-flying-in-darkness/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:17 PM |
| 14 | If Eve would have met FDSOne version I read said that the snake was Sammael in disguise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:44 PM |
| 51 | If Eve would have met FDSIn old English, mann = human/person. female human/person = wimmann/ wifmann male human/person = weremann This is where the word ”werewolf” comes from: weremann+wolf Then sometime around the Norman invasion, the English language dropped the “were” for only for men, thus shifting the language from neutral to misogynist. edit: I think it‘s a great idea to bring it back. Let’s start using wereman/weremen en masse. “Man” belongs to both sexes. We are equals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:22 PM |
| 82 | If Eve would have met FDSIn some versions of mythology, Lilith was Adam’s first wife. She and he were made from the same ground/clay. She refused to lie beneath Adam and be submissive, so she left Eden of her own free will. The Bible paints her in misogynistic tones as the bitch from hell for daring to act like Adam’s equal and refusing to submit. Then God solved Adam’s horniness loneliness by making the perfect submissive woman for Adam by taking a rib from him to use as a blueprint for Eve. For you see, now the proble… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 8 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsCertainly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:36 AM |
| 8 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsDefinitely amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:39 PM |
| 10 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsOh, well hopefully a mod clicks your post and reads the comments. I found I’m not the only comment who wants this pinned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:36 PM |
| 21 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsI think it would be more useful to subscribe to a bot that scans all your online dating apps and evaluates each potential match, so that you’re not limiting yourself to one place. Just imagine, with more time and resources, this bot would be capable to do the filtering and blocking for you! You’d never have to see another degrading “hey sexy” in your bot-approved inbox again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:26 PM |
| 11 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsWell. Now I have more incentive to learn faster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:32 PM |
| 74 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsI think OLD wouldn’t be a waste of time if we had bots filtering out messages for us and automatically blocking anyone that falls in the LVM category. Empty profile? Block. Copy paste message? Block. No clear profile photo? Block. Problematic keywords in their profile? Block. It can get as sophisticated as the programmer has time and ressources. Out of 10k guys, a handful of maybes wouldn’t be that much of a hassle to interview. It’s you doing the monkey work filtering for yourself that wears yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:30 PM |
| 17 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsThis is much appreciated! By the way, what language did you use? Python? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 26 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesDid you report him to the police? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:55 PM |
| 30 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsCan the mods pin this? I think it would be very useful to stay on top. r/FemaleDatingStrategy (I hope this alerts the mods.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?After you deflect it, you block him afterwards, right? Because even if it was innocent, you’d want a man with some social skills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Just wondering if my hunch is correct: is it a red flag if a guy asks you about your exes? The way I see it, a healthy person would have moved on and processed their past relationships and left them in the past while carrying forward any lessons they’ve learned. Purposely asking about that signifies they have hang ups about a woman’s dating history. Correct? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 7 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Definitely. The purpose of my post was to strategize against this and to spotlight that this is one tactic to ruin women’s financial security and that it could happen even at the very beginning. I included the Reddit example to show that it wasn’t a one off rare thing. Another commenter said she saw these examples all over Facebook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:09 PM |
| 12 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?She paid. She told me she dipped into her savings for all that and not her salary which is sad because she still has student loans and credit cards she’s paying off. She didn’t even break up with him until he threw the accusation that was one too many: He said the straw that broke was when she asked him why he hasn’t bought her a single gift since they’ve started dating when she bought him a gaming console and new rims for his car and he knew she was just discretely asking him to buy her an expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:58 PM |
| 8 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?So screenshot all your convos about agreeing to meet, their profile, and keep those handy to hand over to the police. I wouldn’t want to be the one chasing him to small claims court in case he gave me a fake name (which is highly likely since nobody premeditates this without a way to cut contact). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:49 PM |
| 10 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?He used the old “I forgot my wallet at home excuse.” Going out to eat at high end restaurants he requested and leaving his wallet on home at purpose to make her pay the bill and prove she’s not going out with him for money. and this line: so he set up the restaurant idea to see if she would get upset at paying a 500$ bill which she was. I asked him if he thinks her being an elementary school teacher could’ve contributed to her being upset at a 500$ bill at a restaurant he wanted to go to and he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Thank you for your answer. I’ve read the book, but it doesn’t cover such an extreme situation you must protect yourself from financially. I’ve seen scrote YT comments online saying they’d do this in a heart beat as perfect revenge against women. I’d rather think through all this ahead of time and learn from that woman’s incident than end up in her shoes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Sorry, I’ve been getting mixed strategies, and now I’m trying to follow through how each would play out. I guess I’m confused about the part that many women here say they are upfront about telling the guy he pays or they don’t agree to a date (or just not bring up the question of payment at all), but your strategy is to imply Dutch and let him declare it’s on him to see what he’d do when given the option. The other part that I’m really confused about is the fact that HVMs will also be vetting fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?So then wouldn’t it be sabotaging your chances with a potential HVM if you imply you’d go Dutch? Wouldn’t he read this as “this woman thinks so lowly of herself, so she’s not the woman I’m looking for”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:46 PM |
| 4 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?So, in your strategy, if the guy agrees to go somewhere else, it’s an automatic LMV flag because that meant he never intended to take you out on a proper date while purposely suggesting an expensive place. So automatic block and delete? Are there times HMVs go Dutch because he thinks that’s what the woman wants and doesn’t want to offend her? This part confuses me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:15 PM |
| 5 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?This was very helpful. Thank you 😊 I guess I should have asked what your goals were with respect to dating, as that affects how you go about your screening process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:24 PM |
| 10 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?It helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:52 PM |
| 20 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?So how much pre-date conversation (e.g. by phone) would you recommend to suss out some flags? Which conversations should happen before meeting face to face? I get it’s not a fool proof vetting method because some of them are very good at maintaining the polite and respectable facade until they get you right where they want you. But just as a general guideline? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:35 PM |
| 17 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Thanks for the advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:27 PM |
| 8 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Gotcha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:26 PM |
| 7 | Are expensive restaurants red flags?Like in the first example, he pretended to go to the bathroom and left. What would you have done in that situation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:11 PM |
| 86 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Screen shot everything. Gather evidence for marriage fraud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:04 PM |
| 4 | Best friend exploded on me for not wanting to hangout with her abusive boyfriend.Remember, FDS preaches only keeping company that brings value to your life. You may love her, but she’s doing the opposite of bringing value. Victims of abuse are certainly capable of turning into abusers. She’s being emotionally abusive to you. She may have once been a good friend to you, but not anymore. She’s turned you into her emotional punching bag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:44 AM |
| 16 | If a man brings this guy up on the first date, run for your f*cking life.He got famous for contesting bill C-16 (15?) in public. Before then, nobody knew who he was. His book is a drop in all the self-help books out there. It wouldn’t put him on anyone’s radar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.Neither is pepper spray or tasers. Canada really hates women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 09:15 AM |
| 103 | Little Mermaid is a pick-meisha who needs FDS and needs to heal her self-esteem.Ironic how historical tales were tragic for a reason. You weren’t supposed to feel good about the story. Lesson in Bluebeard’s tale is beware of men who need to keep secrets. If modern society (Disney) rewrote Icarus’s tale, it would be about him failing to get close to the sun on his first try, surviving the fall, being discouraged and moping, then making some genius alterations or technique to try again, and succeeding! The father would say, “I’m proud of you for not being a quitter.” Cue dram… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 01:41 AM |
| 9 | oh honey noSomeone pondered if woodworking might be his hobby. I can think of one type of “wood” that would disintegrate upon contact with water. MDF board. It’s cheap, man made, and held together by bonding solution. It’s what cheap furniture is made out of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:33 AM |
| 44 | oh honey noSo many comments telling her to coddle him just like a 5 year old. He’s there supergluing the plastic back on after she brought it back because it fell off and he thinks it’s acceptable to hand it back to her as a wearable engagement ring. He either doesn’t care or he’s incredibly stupid. Neither quality is admirable in a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:09 AM |
| 51 | oh honey noLet’s think of all the scenarios: 1) he’s purposely bating her to break up so she looks like the bad guy. 2) he’s testing her before he gives her the real ring. (If you have to test the person you’re proposing to, then you have serious issues.) 3) he’s a clueless romantic. (Who’s also an idiot who can’t think about time, place, and fancies himself knowledgeable about material properties without any research—what lack of forethought. Is she going to have to do the thinking for him when he decides… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:54 AM |
| 2 | FDS and real feminism figuratively saved my lifeThank you for your support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 09:02 AM |
| 2 | FDS and real feminism figuratively saved my lifeThank you. I’m already a member of Ovarit. You know the biggest irony? I’d have never found true feminism had it not been for Googling Jonathan Yaniv‘s name and coming upon dead links to old shut down websites with variations of gender trender (which made more me more determined to find out what was being hidden), this lead me to finding gender critical and the mysterious radical feminism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:17 PM |
| 11 | FDS and real feminism figuratively saved my lifeI’m glad you found solace from my words. I think the more we all share our experiences, the more therapeutic it becomes. What a difference it is to not feel alone. I may never meet you ladies in real life, but this is one facet of the internet I’ll forever be thankful for. FDS is a virtual group therapy session in a way. And listening to everyone else’s stories and their own reflections and thoughts really helps me with my own insights as I’m still processing my trauma while I try to make peace … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:14 AM |
| 8 | FDS and real feminism figuratively saved my lifeThat’s a great insight. What it would feel like to be raised from childhood to tell people no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:35 AM |
| 2 | How to Vet STEM MenI wonder if time cured that arrogance and superiority or if they carry that attitude into late adulthood. I don’t know because I don’t talk to engineers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:10 AM |
| 1 | How to Vet STEM MenNo.5 is hilarious. My organic chem prof complained that the engineering students were the ones who never followed instructions properly for the labs and didn’t prepare beforehand to familiarize themselves with the techniques. They were always messing up and giving her a headache because she had to supervise them really hard. (I guess because they were engineers who were above taking chemistry seriously.) She said the chem major students didn’t suffer this incapability in the lab disease. Later, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:49 AM |
| 8 | Remembering the Montreal Massacre - are men as brave as they say?https://www.history.com/news/women-and-children-first-on-sinking-ships-its-every-man-for-himself “It’s every man for himself.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 09:18 AM |
| 2 | Usually I don't bother, but I was boredWouldn‘t it be funny if someone (who knows how to program) made a script that would automatically reply to such prompts with your mirroring technique? The program might notify you when it doesn’t know how to reply in the rare event that their message actually gets creative. On second thought, this could be very useful on dating apps. The program could screen your messages for you and automatically block the ones that are generic and only notify you when something creative comes through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 11:12 PM |
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