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ADVICEMarissa_Smiles/r/RedPillWomen19/09/24 07:06 PM
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Jewelry mostly gold, a first edition of one of my favorite books, a surprise trip scheduled and a new MacBook because my daughter accidentally dropped water in it a couple weeks ago.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/26 03:24 PM
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Do you have family support?? Or other income? You’ll be going to school and working. Sadly in our current reality, healthcare, childcare/education and housing is at an all time high. I support all women and their choices, but honestly concerned for your child. Have you considered adoption? My neighbor sons is adopted and they are currently waiting for baby #2 and so happy. I strongly believe that every child should be given all the resources, time and love to flourish. Please give this matter th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 12:18 AM
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I have 3 littles so I definitely understand how hormones can get the best of you. That aside, I feel this relationship was already not going well before the pregnancy. He seems very unstable, and you need a man to be your captain. It’s doesn’t appear to be him. Also it’s possible he is being out the worse in you. Hormones aside, you were not making the best decisions. Curious how far a long you are. And why you were working so much.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/25 08:10 PM
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I’m not gaslighting you. I agreed that some people have specific preferences. My cousin is a redhead covered in freckles. It’s not for every guy but she made it work. I’m simply suggesting to you that tour appearance is only part of the equation. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 04:09 PM
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Yeah I’m sure it does to some point, some people have specific preferences. But again, it’s something you can’t change, so I wouldn’t put much energy into it. I think an evaluation in other areas might be beneficial. The women in this group are welcoming and honest. You are appearing off putting and defensive. These are not attractive qualities. You say you’ve never had a boyfriend. Do you also struggle with other relationships? SMV it’s important but don’t forget RMV!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 01:21 PM
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We all want to and do change the things we can change. It’s just strange that you included your race (sometime you can’t change) when I feel it’s a non issue. Why are YOU trying to make it about race? I know many women who have gotten a nose job. That’s not a black woman only experience. Why did you include your race if you’re sensitive about it?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 12:13 PM
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That was also my first thought. Is it possible you’re just unattractive, insecure or awkward. I’m in the Bay Area so much more diverse than my hometown in the south, but I see beautiful black sahms all the time (assuming this is your goal). I’m not sure if this is a racial issue.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 12:08 PM
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I’ve definitely had people come up to me talking about abortion when they wanted me to sign something or donate. I’ve also gotten a flyer in the mail before. Definitely haven’t experienced it in casual conversation. How odd
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 04:24 PM
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I honestly think it’s because you invested in yourself, took action and got positive results. Your insecurities issues are yours alone. I’m a thin girl and always have been. I struggled with feeling insecure after my 3rd baby and I weighed less than when we married. Insecurity is a cancer in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 11:49 AM
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I think many girls think they won’t find the right match in time. But you just put must not focus on it. In fact I think you can utilize this to your advantage.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 12:28 PM
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Im curious about what your intent is. You said your goal is marriage. Do you plan to get married when you are older 35+? Are you asking if you will have more time?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 12:39 AM
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They are both. My husband and I are not political and a good amount of our core friend-group is the same. If you are considering joining a political party to make some friends I’d highly advise against it. There are much better ways!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 06:04 AM
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Prior to my husband I was in a relationship with a guy who was not really ready to settle down. I went into the relationship letting him know my desire to marry young and have a short engagement and he agreed with me at the time. The reality was he and another guy I briefly dated were basically fighting over me and he wanted to win. It wasn’t long into the relationship that I figured out his true desires. It was difficult but necessary to break up and I never looked back. Your husband will be on…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 09:03 PM
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I was banned from a reality tv show page. I’ve also had RPW called out in a tennis sub. I wouldn’t be to upset if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 07:27 PM
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I’m a SAHM and a sister in Christ so I want to give you sound advice. If you have no desire to complete additional schooling then don’t. If you are not satisfied in your current position, look for another. Don’t plan your life based on something you absolutely cannot control. It’s possible you won’t ever marry or have children. Or your husband may not be able to support you staying home. With this is mind how do you feel you can best serve god? What direction will help you feel fulfilled? I thin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 09:45 PM
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How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 02:55 AM
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So this is a valid point. There was recently a discourse about BallarinaFarm(I think that’s correct) on socials. A couple weeks ago my good friends (who are all married to success men) were talking about this. It does not matter how much money your husband has or makes if he doesn’t value you. He must see your work as being just as important or more than his work. The best indicator for this is obviously history. How did he grow up? What’s his relationship like with his mother, sisters, aunts. D…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 02:29 PM
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No this isn’t normal. Sadly, it sounds like he’s not that interested in you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 04:20 AM
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NYC has alot of alumni groups events etc, also try getting involved with philanthropic events, become a donor they often have private events, social or country clubs if you’re able. You are going to need to put yourself out there a lot more.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 04:18 AM
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Curious why your family isn’t supporting you in finding a husband. A lot of it is family or school connections. If you are close to NYC there are able events for you to meet a quality guy. Where did you go to school?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 03:53 AM
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A few questions. How often is he complaining about work?? Is your concern that he will get fired for behavior? Or that he needs to make more? It feels a bit like you don’t trust his abilities. You said you work ft, but he earns enough to care for you. Are you saving and investing your income now?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 07:57 PM
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Wth is going on with this sub later?!? This is a non issue.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 07:09 PM
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Might be the men you’re seeking. Maybe try finding one who enjoys hiking or music? Do you have a lot of friends? Are they mostly women are men? Do they share your interests? These hobbies don’t scream feminine but it’s not an issue for the right guy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 06:17 PM
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I’m not one to speculate, but it does feel like she has something over him. Please sort this out before you marry into this family.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 06:45 PM
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It very much feels like something is being left out of this story. Who is allowed to behave like this in a proper family? Also the way in which your fiancé is acting towards her is strange. I have 3 brothers so I know the dynamic well. This is odd behavior and I absolutely wouldn’t put up with it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 06:35 PM
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Not sure why you weren’t originally invited, but I think you should absolutely be added in. Your boyfriend is essentially going to a party where he doesn’t know anyone. Im sure him asking L if you can go wouldn’t be a big deal. Also the only way you and L are going to be friends is if you hang out with each other. If he has a problem including you or not going then you might want to reevaluate the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 05:49 PM
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I think that’s a good plan. You sound like a good friend, she’s lucky to have you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 07:44 PM
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Do you think it’s possible she has been questioning things for some time? You say it’s just been a month but you also say you exposed her to your similar beliefs long ago. It’s possibly she has been considering this for some time. If this is your best friend I think you can let her know you’re concerned. But don’t make it too serious and move on if she’s not wanting to speak about it any further.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 05:05 PM
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I’m sorry your family is going through this. You are at fault, your husband and his ex are at fault. He is a 15 year old boy who’s going through a great deal. You seem upset about him being on medication(I’m not big on meds either) but it seems to me his mother is the only one working on assisting him with his clear mental health issues. If he is so down he cannot brush his teeth, why is dad and mom not doing more? It’s clear your husband has built up resentment towards you about your stepson. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 12:37 AM
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Make sure you properly vett, picking a good one is mandatory. My husband and I are inseparable. I do suggest sitting down with a financial advisor as soon as you are engaged prior to purchasing anything together. This is a non issue for me because it was all set up properly from the beginning. My money is my money and his money is my money. We are also both fortunate to have family support and have built a nice real estate portfolio. I am extremely protected in the event of a loss of any kind an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 10:06 PM
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Happily married here, 30M is not a compatible match. I would focus on 30M. It sounds like you need to get to know him better but currently he is more marriage material.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 06:38 PM
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I feel this is a non-issue in our current reality. There are plenty of effective weight loss drugs, surgeries and proven diets that are easily available. I’ve never wanted to lose more than a couple of pounds but what always works for me is super clean eating, as an increase in cardio.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 06:11 PM
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I also had this issue, when I was 19 I went on bc due to spontaneous acne. And I felt like you described. Also I was super irritated by everyone constantly. I lasted 3 months and decided I’d find another way to deal with the acne.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 04:31 PM
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There is not one place to go for like-minded friends. I’ve personally met more traditional women at our club, church, Pilates class, kids activities, women’s groups like junior League or sorority alumna, charity parties. The options are large if you’re super social. Sometimes you need to put yourself out there. Aside from Reddit, I’ve personally had a hard time connecting to LM women. Many of them appear to be very political and performative, and frankly unhappy. I have a number of people I foll…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 12:26 PM
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Definitely have conversations regarding the future plans, but for the most part keep things the same until you’re married. You will be pretty busy planning a wedding anyways, no time to add new responsibilities.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 01:57 AM
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I have a good group of friends who are likeminded more traditional, sahm’s, respect and care for their husbands and home and are philanthropic. I’m a girls girl so I never have any issues making friends, but I also don’t discriminate based on politics, income level, race or religion. I was raised to not discuss the unpleasant. In the past most well bred girls were also taught this, but I have noticed an ugly shift the last few years. We did have to ask a woman in our league to resign her members…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 01:51 AM
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Sounds like you’re looking for a man with no children. Or older children who are close to being independent.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 08:27 PM
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Exactly! It doesn’t make any sense.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 03:34 AM
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This sounds like a guy I dated briefly. He would never tell me I was beautiful, pretty etc. he would say I looked “nice” often but that is it. When I called him on it, he made me feel badly by saying “are you so insecure that you need one more guy drooling over you. I think you get enough attention”. I broke it off with him shortly after. And he started sending me flowers, texting/calling me nonstop. When I blocked him,he sent me an email where he said he treated me poorly “because he was afraid…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 11:10 PM
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Thank you for the clarification. Your “deal breakers” are your own but it’s a bit concerning to me that he is making hurtful comments about your heritage and also making little effort to make a good impression with your mother. Curious if he would disrespect your father the same. Is this a new relationship? Is it possible it’s not a serious to him as it is to you?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 11:10 PM
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I feel I’m missing some pieces in this puzzle. My husband and I also come from a traditional background were family approval is a requirement, so I’m familiar. But I’m confused on (1) why your father wasn’t the one speaking to him. (2) why his family members dislike you (aside from him parents) and (3) who made these hurtful comments?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 10:05 PM
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Tons of free time? has your husband spent a day or afternoon alone with the littles? Famous last words 😜
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 02:08 PM
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Im also a mama of 2 and currently pregnant so I understand the demand. Realistically it’s absolutely impossible to 100% keep up with the home, homeschooling/ child activities, husband and self care. Have a talk with your husband and advise him the demand is too much and ask him to support you. This support can be hiring help, meal prepping, lower expectations of the home condition, speaking with family members to assist, looking into alternative schooling options etc. I’m not trying to be harsh …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 03:43 AM
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He has done zero things to make me believe he views you as a potential wife. You don’t seem to be happy in this.. situation. Since this is your first relationship I suggest you do some research and learn from this experience.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 02:59 AM
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100% OP didn’t do much work to ensure this was a faithful captain and yet he has stuck by you. OP needs to be thankful and graceful. The end
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 02:52 AM
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I waited until marriage. Like you my now husband was not a virgin. I was firm and he respected that and was eager to get to the alter. The right guy will wait. I had boyfriends before who said they wanted to wait, were Christian but ultimately tried to cross my boundaries. Don’t waste your time on those guys. If he can’t control himself now, walk away he’s showing you he won’t ever be able to in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 02:44 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 06:04 AM
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We started off screen free. But started using tablets for learning games/activities. I have an hour limit set on them. But honestly it’s not that much of a priority for us, as they don’t use them that often. I have 4 and 3 year old and am currently pregnant. I have found the key to keeping the house tidy is getting the kids involved in a ton of clubs/activities. We also are fortunate to have great weather year round which helps. To answer your question, It might be possible for someone who doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 10:12 PM
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If you unfortunately don’t have friends to set you up, belong to a club, Co-Ed hobbies, Church activities etc. I’d highly recommend a match making service. No sense in wasting your time. You’re guaranteed a serious screened match. I keep hearing horror stories about the apps. Just doesn’t seem worth it
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 09:45 PM
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I’m good friends with a mom in my neighborhood. She’s black and happily married and a sahm. We grew up the most similar as her family was also very religious. She’s not political but considers herself traditional. She has never shared any of the sentiments above with me. But when we met up for dinner in Europe she shared a terrible story that she felt was racially motivated. I’m sorry you are having difficulties finding a suitable match. But I wouldn’t let others beliefs deter you. Id search out…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:36 PM
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Congratulations! Ive been a MOH a handful times and a bridesmaid more then I can count so I feel I can give you a few tips that may help you along the way. 1. Set expectations with the bride immediately. Since you are out of state this is extremely important. I had a bride who wanted 2 bridal showers and an international bachelorette (and it also took 7 bridal stores to find hers)I was of state as well. 2. Befriend and utilize the local bridesmaids 3. Prepare the bridesmaids for high cost partie…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:54 PM
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I’m in absolute agreement with you. This reminds me of a childhood friend who lost her mind around the pandemic and was convinced everyone was against her because she was a Christian(this makes no sense for many reasons) she actually was suffering from some kind of pp psychosis and really did need help. So I’m skeptical at best, based on experience. That we are getting the full story.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 01:07 AM
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I’m also not political at all and although we are Christian not extremely religious. I’ve had a hard time finding influencers. I basically gave up as the suggestion I was being given seemed like women cosplaying. I follow other moms who appear to be more traditional and enjoy fashion, home decor, travel, skincare, cooking but haven’t found one who does it all.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 11:06 PM
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Great to hear! Does he currently own a home? Is this a goal of his? Is his work stable or is he in a volatile industry? I saw in a comment below that you stated you would be fine with a courthouse wedding and a silver band ring. Based on this info, I see no financial conflict that would cause a delay. You will not hinder him financially and may even help as you can bring some income into the household when you are married and you move in together. If you have already had a serious timeline conve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:08 AM
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Curious, do you currently live together? Do you work? Have you really had a sit down conversation about timeline? or has it all been vague. Four years is a very long time to go without a ring when you have made it clear you want children and you BOTH are in agreement. If he doesn’t yet own a house and is specifically working towards that goal, or getting his business stable etc. I would speak with him about an affordable ring and elopement or a mirowedding. If he is indeed a numbers guy this wou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:52 AM
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I’m extremely active. It’s a personal preference based on family history. Glad you were able to have healthy pregnancies in your 30s and keep your physique.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 08:34 PM
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28f Currently pregnant with baby #3 and have always had a desire to have 4 children. My husband and I are in agreement. However this will be my last pregnancy, as I do not want to be pregnant in my 30s. We are discussing adoption or surrogacy for a fourth. I am the youngest of 6 and loved my upbringing. My views did change after having my 1st and 2nd so close together. I realized I wanted a larger age gap with the next ones. Now I have two excited little ones who can’t wait for baby to come. Ins…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 10:47 AM
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If your goal is to marry and have children why would you currently be dating for fun? Counter intuitive of your goal. I was already married by your age, though marrying young isn’t for everyone. I had goals, which included a few years of enjoying my husband solo, travel, and preparing my home before trying for kids.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 12:41 PM
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So sorry you’re going through this, it sounds so stressful and the exact opposite of what you need. To answer your question, yes start planning to be a single mother. He has made it clear is not interested in being a father. You have only known him for a short while so you really do know who he is. And he is showing you, when things do not go according to plan. This situation is not ideal, but a good leader would have handled it in a way that made you feel protected.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 02:16 AM
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Hard truth: His divorce and ongoing spousal support isn’t any of your business. “His friends and family are on her side” - there is no side. Only a child who needs care. Your bf will always need to prioritize his child. His marriage didn’t work, doesn’t mean he stops being a parent. You sound like you are not interested in being a stepmother. Which is understandable this is not an ideal situation based on what you have described. You may never get acknowledged for the time and energy that you sp…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 11:06 AM
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As a girly who thought she had many “great male friends” and later realized I just had a rooster of men waiting to make their move, I can honestly say that I do not think men know the difference between flirting and casual conversation. My advice to you is to make sure the guys you do like know it. Work on your eye contact, the rest comes easily.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 02:51 PM
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I’m married but it was important for me to marry a stable man who is passionate about his work. I would have been fine with an artist as long as he also was coming into the relationship with family money. However, I know 100 percent my parents wouldn’t have approved of the union so in the end it probably wouldn’t have worked out. I think this dynamic could probably work well for a couple who doesn’t desire children. But I always knew I wanted to be a homeschooling mother, which doesn’t leave roo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 03:11 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I tried to give the benefit of the doubt to her, but when I politely asked what value this post is to others she couldn’t be bothered to reply. As I wasn’t giving her the validation she so desperately needs. As a RP married woman to a high earner. This is not common. I would argue that I have never seen this. What is common is to hire help. Why would you spend your time with your husband doing chores when you could be enjoying each other’s company doing something better. OP …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/24 08:55 PM
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I think you should just focus on creating the most welcoming enjoyable space and presence for him. My husband isn’t and angry guy but has come home frustrated from work etc before. I’m all smiles and happy to great him, make him a drink, make him laugh, give him a backrub or get him in the mood. Usually doesn’t take much. Is he taking the time to blow off steam? My husband and I are both pretty active and I think it’s the best for reducing stress.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 12:29 PM
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Wealth to me is generational (more than 2), includes a hefty trust, investments and a family financial advisor. In my HCOL area there are many tech tycoons. They are all well funded but spend a great deal on elaborate (some may deem unnecessary) things, constantly throwing money around. This isn’t all tech but in my area they have gotten a bit of a reputation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 12:06 PM
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I absolutely don’t believe this to be true. There are many happily married women in this sub. We pop in and give advice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 11:48 AM
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Not trying to offend but what is the purpose of this post. This sub a lot of young women who are still looking for their husband or many married or attached women who need advice from a rp perspective. You admitted you do not follow any of the “RP rules” so I’m lost. How do you feel this adds value to the ladies here?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 11:46 AM
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In your budget I’d check out Zara, Anthropologie, Brandy Melville, Asos, Mango, Free People, J crew.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 06:36 PM
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Are you in the right sub!?! How is this guy your leader, you talk about all you’re doing for your shared future but he is doing…. nothing. To asnswer your question, no you are not being materialistic or superficial. I don’t think you’re going to get the “taken care of”feeling you crave with your current bf. Maybe try having a serious discussion and see if your futures are aligning.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 02:09 AM
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Ask yourself. Is this an issue in your real life? There is a difference between someone who has been with past boyfriends vs someone who gets around.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 11:02 PM
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I think you need to work on your own finances before dating. It’s totally fine to not have a high paying job but I highly doubt poverty is attractive to any man. Why are you shopping and giving gifts if you have debt? It’s not easy but there are blogs, worksheets etc. online that guide you in paying down your debt/cutting expenses. You need need an expensive financial planner to assist/
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:04 PM
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I’m absolutely in agreement. I honestly view it as a turnoff because it shows a weakness/lack of control. You can be an attractive man and in a serious relationship. There are many attractive men who have low body counts simply because they are relationship guys, those are the ones to marry. A serial bachelor with a high count is a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 09:57 AM
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I do have some info in this department. My friend M froze her eggs 3 times at 30 because she wanted to ensure she would be able to have kids later. She and her now husband married at 35. She immediately wanted to try for kids but wasn’t having much luck. At 36 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. She was disappointed but knew she had a backup with her eggs. Unfortunately none of them made it past the thawing. The RE said it’s best to freeze embryos or have several (5+) egg retrievals to en…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 02:18 AM
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I think you need to expand your social circle. The fact that you think this is an outlandish request let me know what type of environment you’re in. Many men want to care for and protect their wives and children. Begin dating with the goal of marriage and approach being a sahm as a given. How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 09:02 PM
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I think you should bring it up immediately. Use the new year to spark the conversation. “I’ve been thinking about what the new year and my future will look like and I want to have a serious discussion about the trajectory of our relationship”. Explain to him your desires and expectations and if he can’t meet them sadly you will need to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 12:58 AM
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7 months is long enough for him to have consider your shared future. He 1. Doesn’t see you in the future 2. You are performing wifey duties as a gf and he’s going to take advantage of that before dismissing you or 3. He is having financial difficulties. My husband has shared with me that he felt an immediate need to protect me. I have never needed financial means yet it was always provided. It’s not about the need. There is something else going on in your relationship if he was previously genero…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 03:09 PM
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I’m going to be honest. This has nothing to do with you being able to afford things yourself. I also don’t believe he is being overly cautious because he was more generous with his ex. How long have you been together?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 02:21 AM
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I understand the point you’re making here but I think you should clarify that it is fake captains/podcast boys who have this requirement but cannot properly care for or lead. They are not hvm. It’s not problematic for hvm to value virginity.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 02:40 PM
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I waited until marriage and have zero regrets. It wasn’t easy but I’m glad I stuck it out. It greatly helped me navigate dating which I think is the #1 reason I would recommend. I think it’s soooo much easier to vet when you are not “drunkinlove”. I also planned to marry young (22) and it served as a good motivator to get to the alter. I also love that I’ve only shared myself with my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 02:31 PM
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From my perspective you and your husband are both feeling under appreciated. But it is less clear for me why your husband is. I’m a sahm of two toddlers and am currently pregnant. In this season of life BOTH my husband and I have had to make adjustments. We are a team. When we decided to try for a third we had a serious discussion about how it would work, areas we’d need more support etc. Now that you will be returning to work I think you should take the opportunity to have a discussion and draf…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 09:21 AM
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Just focus on sleep and enjoying the good moments. The rest will come together. I had terrible pp anxiety after my first. My husband did a great deal of heavy lifting for a bit. We also had a night nurse which I recommend and my mom came to assist, which was a godsend. Your relationship will not permanently shift, trust me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 09:25 PM
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I absolutely agree with the stunningsort. I went through a bit of a shopping addiction with my daughter. I was spending thousands of dollars at children’s boutiques buying the cutest (not the most comfy) outfits. I think I was just excited to have a girl to dress, since my son came first. I quickly snapped out of it and now invest that money where it’s beneficial to them. I also like to decorate my home for holidays/seasons, but I do so subtly. And invest in items that I can use year after year …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:26 PM
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I’ve had your exact situation. I waited until marriage and my husband did not. He told me early on in our relationship and I knew that I had to make my peace with it or move on. He always respected me and made it known he valued me and my decision.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 01:44 AM
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Yes, absolutely. Run don’t walk!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 08:54 PM
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My husband and I both work out and have activities we really enjoy and spend a good amount of time on. We also keep a very clean diet. But, are times in the year where he gets obsessive. For instance, every year we lodge for a month so we can ski and it’s honestly all he talks about for months before. It’s not ideal, but I’ve made my peace and found a way to make it fun for the whole family. It’s sounds a bit like he’s becoming a gym rat. I think it would be helpful to learn with him, focus on t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 07:16 PM
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You say this, but I very much feel we are missing something. If you have a great personality it shouldn’t be too difficult to make a girlfriend. Are you social? Do you live in a small town? What are the barriers? You basically are saying girls do not like you, but also say you have a great personality and no off putting behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 09:46 PM
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Maybe when you looked “bad” your personality was gentler, kinder and more fun. Or it’s possible it was situational, of course it’s easier to meet girlfriends in college, highschool or women dominated field of work. I honestly think it’s strange you would leap to “I’m too attractive”. I’m a girls girl, I’ve been fortunate to have a great group of girlfriends in every stage of life. I am also attractive and most of my friends are attractive, it’s not a requirement; Just sometimes happens that way.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 09:20 PM
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It sounds like you are doing everything you need to! And taking your PCOS seriously. My husband also wanted a couple of years with just us. Though I would have preferred to start right away. During that time I didn’t push but I did prepare myself by getting my body and mind in the right state (like you). Currently pregnant with #3 I’m grateful for the time we had caring for only one another.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 01:48 AM
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Please respect your husband wishes when it comes to this. Having a baby is a joint effort , both parities really need to be on board. If there was something huge that was going to change your whole life and relationship wouldn’t you want your partner to respect your boundary. If I’m being honest my only concern is your age. How many children do you plan to have? Have you saved for possible fertility treatments? It’s possible you will have no issues but it’s smart to be prepared. Have you had a f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 10:54 PM
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I think it’s fine to say you don’t hang out with men 1 on 1 other than your husband/boyfriend/fiancé. I’ve never had any push back on it and in fact I’ve definitely saved myself from a few awkward situations.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 04:17 PM
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No I’m not talking about men with no ambition. Simply men who don’t have a high paying career. Honestly I do fit the troupe of a kept women, previous to that I was a kept daughter I suppose. But I was aware that my situation was not everyone’s after moving. As I stated I saw many women who married hard working men who did not have family money. My childhood bestie being one of them. And without a doubt every sahm/sahw is providing a wonderful life for their family. Money saving tactics or planni…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 04:56 AM
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I agree that a mentor would be great for you. Find women that have the characteristics and life that you hope to have. In person is best but offer is there if you needs assistance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:07 PM
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I agree with this take. I believe there are a number of women who come to this sub who need help as they didn’t come from a traditional upbringing. I think there is a lot of misunderstanding as you mentioned and as a result the “kept” women troupe prevails. I grew up in a traditional family and until I moved away from my hometown every person I knew also did. They were not all wealthy. There was a standard that men didn’t marry until they could afford it(a home, ring etc.)but I think that’s pret…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 01:18 PM
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I’m glad someone said this. There are many working class men that happily subscribe to traditional marriage. Are women looking for a husband or a sugar daddy? It’s getting confusing
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 10:59 PM
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So this is strange to say the least. I agree with other commenters, you need to separate your virginity from this trip. Does he usually pick up the tab for things? Its a bit of a concern that he needs help with a cheap Airbnb. Nonetheless, If you want to go on the trip then contribute and put your virginity plans on hold for another time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 11:50 AM
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I was about to type the exact same thing. I don’t believe all men cheat. And I will never encourage my daughter to expect it or accept it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 09:23 PM
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Many men don’t want their wives to work. It’s a status symbol honestly. My husband once told me that he had a discussion with my father about this topic when we were seriously dating. My dad basically said that he didn’t expect his daughters to have to work or want for anything. He advised that If a wife was not put together and happy that is a reflection of the husband. We are in agreement. A homemaker has the ability to curate a life that a working wife cannot. It also depends on the wife’s re…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 02:12 AM
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I feel like I’ve missed a few parts in this question. 1. Does your husband spend any time with his children? 2. Besides cooking a lot, does he help with any of the other stuff. (My husband also works very hard but he does bedtime every night which frees up my night. So even when I have tough days I know I don’t then have to fight about the color of pjs and robes, books etc.) 3. Is it possible for you to hire some help? Either a nanny to help you with the kids part time or a housekeeper, whicheve…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 02:04 PM
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Yes, 100 percent upfront about my desires in the first three dates. I personally also had a desire to marry young and have all my children in my 20s. Which I shared. My husband responded well, we both grew up in a conservative environment where marrying young was not uncommon. He proposed without any nagging on my part. My mother taught us to set expectations, notify him of your style (ring wise) in a casual way “I’ve alway loved solitaire rings they are classic” or commenting on someone’s ring …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 11:10 AM
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Are mamas boys a red flag? I think so. I personally believe it’s an unhealthy relationship that often stems from inadequacy with the father and in the parental marriage. I think it’s extremely important for your future husband to have a good relationship with his father. I find most mamas boys do not.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 11:53 AM
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Absolutely not. I’ve have lots of friends who are stay at home wives. I was for a few years before having children. I stayed very busy, being a homemaker is work. If you and your partner are in agreement nothing else matters.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 12:54 AM
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I have both. My ER is a family ring (natural) and I also have a lab created right-hand ring, earrings etc. the only natural diamonds I own are family heirlooms. Ethically I just feel that is best for me. I can tell the difference on my own but I’ve never been able to tell the difference on others. My cousin just got a 2ct oval engagement ring that is so dreamy. Whatever you decide I’m sure it will be beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 10:07 PM
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“Your family” has to be your husbands priority. From day 1 my husband reiterated that our family, he and I come before his parents, my parents, everyone. I feel confident following his lead because I know we are his priority. I sympathize with your husband but you’re being a supportive wife and sadly I don’t think there is anything more you can do. He clearly needs some additional help/support.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 08:29 PM
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Currently pregnant with my 3rd, 4 and under. You are doing great! this is a season of being in the trenches.I’m fortunate to be the youngest child, so I have personally witnessed my sisters shift when my nieces and nephews got older. I know it’s on the horizon, and I definitely remind myself of it on the hard days (or week). I do have help which is essential for me to recharge. Is that an option? Or possibly a homeschool co-op?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 03:28 AM
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No. I think you accepting this absolutely unacceptable behavior is a result of you solely dating him for 10 years. At this point you don’t want it all to be for nothing. But believe me when I tell you there are men out there who actually respect and cherish women. Sadly, he isn’t one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 03:03 AM
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It’s sounds like he has had a dramatic change. If you were in the dating stage I’d tell you to look elsewhere. However it appears you’ve been together for sometime. Can you tell us more about your relationship. Do you live together? Have the same future goals etc. it’s a bit hard to provide advice with so little.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 06:47 AM
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Don’t discuss your job or if you do say it’s not your true ambition. Explain to him your passion is being a wife and mother especially if he’s already talking bout family. I brought this up right away when I was dating. Why waste your time? In the circles I grew up in women don’t typically work. But, I still think this isn’t a taboo subject.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/23 11:41 PM
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I think you’re fixated on this. The real issue seems to be the way in which you lost your virginity. I also see the casual sex as a result of this incident. You need to work through this. It’s clearly effecting your everyday life and marriage at this point. Please seek help
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 02:17 AM
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I actually really liked it, which surprised me. I thought it was really funny and cute.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 03:59 PM
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Lol no I have skisuits. I like to think they are feminine pink and beige or cute print and fitted. But honestly they all look a bit the same.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:55 PM
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I feel this is a common mistake. “Giving him everything” isn’t the best laid plan. My now husband and I married when I just turned 22 and he 25. You’re absolutely not to young to be engaged/married. I see a lot of comments advising you’re way to young. And I disagree. I always wanted and planned to marry young and be a young mom. I encourage you to have a serious conversation with him about your timeline. Do not move in with him or make life decisions based on him. Find out what his timeline is …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 03:45 AM
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I live in CA but we love to ski & love our kids having snow for the holidays so we spend 6 weeks in Colorado. I still only wear dresses and skirts( maxi or midi)with fleece lined leggings, cable knit tights, and winter tights. Long sleeve mock neck dresses, sweater dresses, leather midi skirts, tweed skirt suits with a thick wool coat is all you need.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 02:32 AM
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Yes the subs are terrible. I immediately left all the sahm specific ones I joined due to the negativity. Sadly I also left a mommy and me yoga class for the same reason. I’ve since found my people and ive never looked back. I’m huge in selfcare and always stress the importance of it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 10:07 PM
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I’m in the u.s and honestly I don’t think there is a country preference. Often people personally desire the sex they don’t have. But it’s still not that big of a deal. I have one of each and am currently pregnant. We don’t know the sex yet. But my husband is hoping for another girl and I don’t care either way.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 05:39 PM
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I always wanted to be a sahm. My mother stayed home and also homeschooled. As did my grandmother and mostly all of my aunts (I have 7). When I went to college I nannied briefly for a family that spent very little time with their children. I think they definitely cemented my desire to be a present parent. My husband and I were recently talking about education for future sahw/sahm. If you’re not able to finance an education without going into debt, it’s better to find a trade (esthetician, sonogra…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 01:52 PM
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He most likely is not coming back. And you shouldn’t waste your time waiting around. Stop fixating on the new girl. Shes not the issue. If you want children I highly advise you to store as many eggs as you possibly can, as time is not on your side. If you don’t want kids I highly suggest you consider dating older men.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 03:48 PM
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😂 this intervention actually happened when I was 19 after I briefly dated a bad boy. I went to a popular Christian college and it does have many many more rules then the average university, but i think it’s was what I needed. I agree, young women really do need a good level of protection.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 01:49 AM
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I see, is a soulmate a requirement if he fits the other criteria? My parents were best friends when they got married. My mom admitted that the love wasn’t instant for her. They are still together and obsessed with each other. They are rolemodels to me and many.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 01:45 AM
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Yes I knew he was the one. But I also was not 100 percent ready to find the one at that moment. I actually was really enjoying dating. I wasn’t allowed to date until I was 16 and I graduated and went away to college at 17. So I was definitely a bit boy crazy. My mom and sisters sat me down (like an intervention) and basically told me I was never going to be younger or more beautiful then I was then and I needed to get serious with my dating. My husband was friendly with my older brother and I kn…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:48 PM
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I don’t agree with a lot of what you have said. I think you’re blaming the pretty girls. Maybe you just have low self esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 02:50 AM
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I don’t think that’s true anymore. I think most girls went to college to meet suitable guys. This was before dating apps were really big and acceptable. I personally went for this reason, that and to have a bit of freedom. My parents knew I’d probably never work, I have 3 older sisters and we are all married; and only 2 finished their degree. I always hear men talk about not wanting to be with a girl who has school debt. Im sure a working girl with zero school debt is more attractive than the al…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 02:25 AM
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You absolutely can have the life you’ve imagined. College is not necessary today. You can take an entry level job and work your way up. Or nanny. We pay our nanny a competitive wage and she travels with us. I have a degree I never use and believe me when I tell you it’s a common phenomenon in the sahm circle.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 12:02 AM
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He’s telling you he maybe doesn’t want to get married and potentially wants to have kids in his 30s. Why are you not listening to him. At your age you can’t really afford to date so absent mindedly. Also having your first child by 29 isn’t ideal. Infertility rates are increasing every year and in terms of your skin elasticity you are better off having your first younger. Not to mention the increase in risk of DS and other abnormalities. Also how long are you wanting to be married prior to childr…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 09:49 PM
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Oh my, is it possible for you to pick up and move?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 03:15 AM
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I think boundaries depends on your specific situation. But all the consequences need to come from your partner. Don’t hold your tongue. Saying “I find it disrespectful when you speak to me like this” or “no” when asked to pick up her things etc. goes a long way. But also consider some of the other areas you may be putting undue pressure on yourself. You didn’t start this relationship to only be this child’s stepmom. You seem overwhelmed in this situation and I’d highly suggest you take many step…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 12:27 PM
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Your putting a great deal of blame on this teen. Ultimately it’s your partners fault. At her age I wouldn’t dream of disrespecting any adult. She does this because he allows her to. She does not respect his authority, she’s made that clear by continuing to disrespect you. It sounds to me like he is trying to be the nice guy on both sides. He’s lost control of his home, his daughter believes she’s is the authority?! I would absolutely evaluate if I wanted to raise children in this environment. I …
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 04:33 AM
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If you haven’t already. I always advise a self improvement break from dating following a break-up. That aside it’s not personal. If sounds like you’re dating the average 23-25 year old. If you are religious at all I highly suggest finding a guy there as they are often dating to marry. If you’re utilizing dating apps mention that you’re looking for your forever love, casual daters need not apply. I think the best resource to find hvm is young married women (like myself) with time on their hand to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:39 PM
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I wear a lot of linen in the summer (currently a fair bit from reformation)I have a few silk crops that I pair with midi skirts. But since I don’t wear shorts and only occasionally wear trousers I tend to have more dresses than separates. I actually find a lot of inspo from ig. I follow people with similar taste, coloring and body type and replicate outfits. I tend to go with more classic pieces than trendy items because I actually don’t love shopping for clothing. Let me know if you want some r…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 03:25 AM
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You should have specified that when you asked for advice. If you felt judgment in my reply than that is a reflection on you. I was simply being honest, trp values reality. Maybe this isn’t the right group for you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 03:00 AM
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It’s your relationship. Maybe don’t post asking for advice if you’re not open to it. This is a disorder that has been effecting him negatively for a lifetime and he’s not in therapy? And threatening to move out on you so he can have a breakdown. At what point am I suppose to interpret this as him actively taking it seriously. If you’re comfortable with your relationship then that is all that matters. Good luck 🍀
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 01:49 AM
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Sahm of 2. We keep a loose budget. We pay our bills with a shared credit card which we pay off monthly. We have joint bank account (majority of income goes to this acct) a few shared cards and also have personal individual accounts. We only consult each other about purchases that are significant. But we also have good communication so nothing comes as a surprise. In general we are not big spenders. We have a similar financial style. We also enjoy traveling frequently and prefer experiences. I’ve…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 03:43 AM
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“If he had cancer, I wouldn’t just bail on him” This situation is not the same as having cancer. The reality is, if he was newly diagnosed with cancer he would be taking it seriously, listening to professionals and seeking treatment. Your partner struggled for a lifetime before diagnosis and continues to struggle now. If he has no plans to take his health seriously and actively receive treatment than I suggest you seek greener pastures.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 02:55 AM
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In my experience traditional men want children. It’s possible there are a few exceptions. For instance a man who travels extensively and likes to have his partner with him. Or an older divorcee who already has children. Do you have any passions outside of being a homemaker?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 04:56 AM
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I was a sahw did 2 yeas before pregnancy. There was a ton to do! Taking care of two people, health, household, social etc. isn’t easy! There is a reason personal assistants are always in demand.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 04:47 AM
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See you do have lots of great interests! Unique enough to stand out and common enough for many people share them. I wish you a swift recovery. I’d start preparing for dating toward the end of your recovery. Groups,clubs or events you want to join to meet guys. If you plan to use apps, get a draft for your profile.After your surgery really invest in yourself, self care is healing. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 03:16 AM
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I understand your boyfriends concern and his feelings are valid. I also understand your desire to have biological children, as I’m sure that is the way you have always imagined. But I feel you’re speaking about mental illness as If it’s not a debilitating life long illness. Replace the bipolar disorder for heart condition. Do you still feel as strongly about rolling the dice with your children’s health. You say you feel you are better able to raise a bipolar child than your parents. But I still …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 01:22 AM
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I think you’re overthinking it. For the most part you sound like a pretty normal 21 year old. I’m curious as to why you’re currently not dating though. Based on how you’ve described yourself. I highly suggest you check out the soft girl aesthetic, lots of A-line skirts which is good for narrow hips. Also very natural minimum makeup that is easy to replicate. You didn’t really sell yourself on this post. But I’m sure you have interests and hobbies and a personality that others will like. Your you…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 01:03 AM
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Honestly the only explanation I can imagine is your social skills are poor or you have rbf naturally. When you are having these chats on the apps or when you’re out walking your dog are they flirty? Do you get the feeling you’re being well received?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 04:11 AM
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What is this post?!?! Yes please get off tik tok. If you spoke with people in real life you wouldn’t be speaking about crazy leftist beliefs and all the above. And honestly what is the purpose. You have one life, why not make it beautiful. Rid your life of this ugliness. Schedule a self care say Or vacation if you’re able and never look back. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 10:39 PM
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I’m now pretty invested. If you don’t mind me asking, have you been dating? Are you reasonably attractive?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 09:33 PM
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I was married at her age. Not to escape my parents, but because we were in love and it happens when it happens. OP, I think you should stay on your current track. Maybe you can apply for scholarships?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 09:27 PM
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I’ve seen it in practice. My cousin married a converted Christian who was a previous feminist. Also a couple years ago a new Christian joined our church small group, she spoke openly about her checkered past and was very popular. It’s possible these are just exceptions to the rule. I’m a typical Christian girl who was waited until marriage and the majority of my friends and family did the same.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 05:12 AM
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So I believe you have gotten some really sound advice. But I want to suggest you utilize your husband for friendships as well. I created a brunch with the wives of my husbands colleagues. Women started bringing their friends and sisters and as a result I have group of close girlfriends. I have some surface level friends as well, a couple we travel with, friends at the club I play tennis with, church friends, mom friends. I actually have more friends then I ever imagined. But this involved a GREA…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 03:35 AM
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I’m currently obsessed with reformation. I just repurchased the hazel linen skirt and flounce skirt (perfect length) in different variations. Definitely look into those.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 02:56 AM
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Your odds are very good. If I’m being honest I think the “born again” girl was appealing to guys because she was the “bad girl gone good” troupe.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 02:23 AM
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I feel a very big piece of this puzzle is missing. If you do everything you say and you have never even been on a date it’s time for immediate correction. Do you have friends? Belong to a church? Are the hobbies and activities social in nature? Do you use dating apps? In your case I think you should. Also it might be time for you to consider being set up by friends and family. With no history it’s extremely difficult to give you guidance. You say all the above, but would a man approaching you ag…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 11:18 AM
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Sorry that you are going through this. I won’t give you my opinion on what you should do, as it’s pretty obvious. But I will say this, based on what your shared above. If you stay with him your life will always look this way. Only you can decide if it’s worth it for you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 05:10 AM
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I also agree this is a personal issue. The way your describe them is as if they are more valuable then you. They are not superior because of money and accolades. I grew up with means, have never been concerned about money, but have has plenty of others concerns over the years. Everyone does and they are often the same concerns regardless of class. I agree with another comment about improving your etiquette and social skills. Maybe it will give you the confidence boost that you need.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 04:08 AM
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These are all extremely accurate but I feel #2 is a big motivator for guys who struggle with women.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 09:33 AM
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This is an extremely vulgar way to think and speak about yourself. It sounds like you both shared a loving relationship and it served its purpose. THE END. You stated he’s not what you want in a long term partner, nor are you interested in having him as only a sexual partner. So I’m a bit confused as to why you’re even entertaining the thought of any reunion. Move forward and find a partner that shares your life goals. One that will be loyal to you because you’re in an actual relationship. Maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 09:16 AM
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I echo the previous comments, you need to schedule a fertility consultation immediately. Also I’m a bit confused as to why you are only able to get out for one hour every other week. Id highly suggest joining a exercise class, downloading bumble BFF, Meetups, joining neighborhood/area groups. If possible hosting a get together for your husband’s co-workers and wives would be helpful. If you attend church, joining activities in your age group is beneficial. I think it’s very important for you to …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 08:55 AM
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My first pregnancy was also rough. I had terrible pp anxiety which made me an insomniac and I also lost 15lbs which is a lot for a small frame. I would never have gotten through it with out the support of my husband and mother. She was able to come stay with me until we secured full time care. My husband took night feedings(when I actually slept) and all his hobbies came to a screeching halt. It was tough few months that honestly felt endless at times. He kept telling me he just wanted me to get…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 12:32 AM
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If it’s done very well then go for it. So if you’re and A cup only go to a B cup.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 11:03 PM
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I grew up in an evangelical bubble and went to a Christian college. Every man there wanted a pure wife and the majority of them were not. I waited until marriage and have zero regrets. It was honestly easier to vett men, because the ones who wouldn’t respect my abstinence were immediately dumped. But now that I’m out of the bubble I find myself being in the minority. I think you should do what is best for you
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 01:29 AM
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Yikes, I read your comments in the wedding planning post and I don’t believe being conservative or RP is the reason for the downvotes. It was just rude and unnecessary. Do you want help and advice for planning your wedding? or do you want to argue with people with different beliefs. Nonetheless, I found weddingwire and the knot forum to be super helpful. I don’t know if you plan to diy(I did for one of the bridesmaids gift) budgetsavybride has a great resource section for that kind of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 02:24 AM
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This was very hard to read. I get a sense that you are a trusting, understanding women. That said, with the information you have provided he doesn’t appear to value you. And honestly he doesn’t seem to be financially stable. In this one post alone you mentioned him buying an expensive car and taking a holiday that he cannot afford. Is this your captain? A man who adds stress to your life, belittles you and leaves you alone in a time of great need. I think there is a myth that leaving a relations…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 05:53 PM
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I think you need to ask yourself what you really want. Is it to be married to anyone so you can have a baby by 28? If so than I think your fine to stay on your current course. Marriage is a very big commitment and you need to not only think, is he the husband I want in sickness and health. But also is this the father I want for my children. The provider I need to care for said children.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 05:04 AM
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When you have children you will understand. Your parents are scared you might not find a husband and want to make sure you can sustain yourself without assistance. Are your parents financially able to care for you and leave you enough funds to to sustain your lifestyle over your lifespan? They are simply looking out for you. Id suggest you pour yourself into things that will benefit your future self personally and professionally. Are you interested or passionate about anything? Maybe start there
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 07:02 PM
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You’ve expressed having a toxic relationship with your mother as well as not having some issues with your dad. This puts pressure on you, add your financial issues and it’s a-lot of pressure on you and also affecting your boyfriend and relationship. I realize you are currently struggling financially, but since it’s short term (until you can move in with your dad). Is it possible you can get a roommate or move in with a friend or family member in the interim. You can also ask your father for fina…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 10:09 AM
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I think it’s important to address the anxiety. You might only see it showing up in relation to his job. But maybe there are things in the home that also trigger him. I have an anxious sister, addressing triggers, daily exercise, consistent planned healthy meals, no alcohol or caffeine and weekly massages and breathe work keep her at a good level. I know this sounds simple but she struggled for years despite having her ideal life. It’s possible your husband will get a new job and have the same is…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 01:40 PM
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I Agree with you on the height analogy. But I think that most generalizations about generations is incorrect. Most of the information people consume is from social media. People copy what is profitable, and then you have the same story. A current one for gen z women, is that they don’t want to get married or have children. I have a herd of nieces and spend time with them and their friends and they all are looking for marriage. I don’t consider myself extremely open minded, but I also grew up in …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 01:18 PM
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I’m a very young millennial, born in mid 90s and can honestly say I am friends with people who have opposing political views.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 12:26 PM
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Are you religious at all? Finding a church with young couples really helped us. I also suggest joining a country club. I find women to be a lot more personable and like minded. Lastly, this might not be relevant, as if depends on the work your husband does and company demographics. But I set up a monthly wives event a few years ago and the group has expanded to include wives friends and sisters. It really has helped me feel welcomed into my community. My only other suggestion is to not discuss p…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 04:02 AM
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Definitely put your jog on hold, at least die 5/6 years if you plan on traditional schooling. I’m 27 and a sahm to my 2 toddlers. I couldn’t imagine working and I also have help around the house.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 08:25 PM
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I swim, barre and tennis. I’ve never enjoyed workouts at the gym. I tried to force myself for years but it’s just not my thing. I enjoy what i’m doing now and it still feels feminine and true to myself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 03:41 AM
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Absolutely this!!! Please do not put anymore time or energy into this relationship. It is toxic and you will not get what you want or deserve.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 06:29 AM
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This group is for women. My best advice is have fun! I met my best friends at your age. It’s sounds like you’re pretty serious, relaxing is good for you. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/22 07:35 AM
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Take care of your skin. My mother taught my sisters and I this very early. I have had an intense 10 step skincare routine since I was 17. I always wear sunscreen and currently I think I’m on track to age gracefully. My mother is in her 60s and looks amazing. Where I live Botox, implants, fillers, lip flips are very standard. My husband says he doesn’t find that look attractive and has made comments about the women who have work done, “all looking the same”.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 05:55 PM
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I’m married 27F my husband is 30, we both believe good etiquette is important. I don’t consider any of what you’re doing to be strange or weird. My hubs and I also enjoy traveling and we make it a point to learn and practice other culture etiquette on our travels.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 12:53 AM
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Andrew Tate is disgusting. All the decent wonderful men in my life agree. What man is asking a woman for a written copy of her sexual past?!? Is this honestly common? I don’t think so. Also it’s not anyones responsibility to provide this information to a stranger they just met or person they are casually dating. Or anyone they don’t feel comfortable with. This women is healing from past trauma. Who are you to tell her that she is worthless. Can she find a HV man with bad experiences In her past?…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 12:28 AM
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Oh my, don’t listen to any of those men! Also you don’t owe anyone a written history of your sexual past. I would put this idea of being “used up” out of your mind. Speak positivity and love into yourself. Take care of yourself the way you’d like your future partner to. Don’t disclose your past unless you want to. If anything, say you’ve had some sexual trama in the past but you have dealt with it and prefer not to talk about it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 11:02 PM
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I don’t think he is trying to rekindle your relationship. Based on what you have described I would agree that it doesn’t sound like a very good relationship. He doesn’t seem very interested in being a good partner to you. I agree he does seem lonely. But I think you should absolutely move on. And put up a firm boundary with him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 04:44 AM
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This is difficult. I don’t believe your previous partner invested that much time for game. It sounds like he genuinely cared for you. You admitted that you made the mistake of not appreciating him while you were together. Are you continuing this cycle with your new guy? You listed some great qualities. Why does that feel like settling to you? It’s possible he just isn’t the right match. If that’s the case move forward fast. But leave the thoughts of your ex behind you. No more comparisons. Live …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 01:43 AM
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Agree to disagree. I was referring to letting go of control in regards to house work. We decided to hire help. It means I have to speak with someone about how ‘exactly’ I like things cleaned, but believe me I do not feel LESS feminine because I outsourced. Women who stay at home with no children do as well if they can afford it. Also, as a mother it’s not that the “kids don’t give me time”. I love them and want to spend time with them. Would you rather spend time with one of your favorite people…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 10:30 PM
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“In my personal experience and with what I’ve seen childless women are much more feminine than mothers because they have the time to work on themselves etc” This is unkind. Im certain you are a good wife and homemaker. But I am also. I also have many friends and family members that are feminine mothers and was raised by one. She is great inspiration to me. I think the decision to have children is between you and your partner. But I don’t want the message to young girls to be that pregnancy and m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 08:29 PM
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I’m pretty easy to get in the mood or I suppose he figured out the thing that get me. But if I’m not in the mood due to whatever reason. He’ll start and I’ll just say “it’s not happening buddy”. It doesn’t happen to often and there has been a couple times where he’s told me he’s “trying to solve something” and it’s not gonna happen for me. But he is my first and only partner so I share all my my fantasies with him. We have good communication when it comes to sex. Other areas have required more w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 05:18 PM
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Is your concern that you being feminine and his primary caregiver, will somehow guide him to be feminine? If that is the concern; let me assure you that little boys come pretty hardwired. My son is sweet with me but is rough, always jumping, moving, throwing. Loves to wrestle with dad (I do not participate). Your job is to be mom. My favorite thing to do with my 4 year old is to snuggle while we read books or bake cookies. I think we are doing a good job. He is very sweet with his little sister …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 04:25 AM
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FAM is the only one I’ve ever utilized. The other options didn’t feel like a good fit for me and I knew I wanted kids 1-2 years after marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 01:06 PM
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If you do not mind me asking, where exactly are you from? I just read your edit: and what your describing is something I’ve never experienced. I’m genuinely shocked.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 09:52 PM
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I was going to comment something similar. My midwife and doula were all I needed. I took advice from family, friends and social with a shrug and a smile. Everyone has their opinions when it comes to babies.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 03:14 AM
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I believe the same and I haven’t been able to articulate it. Thank you for this.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:30 PM
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No it’s not unfair. I feel it is expected, tbh I dislike they he didn’t buy your plane ticket for you. But if he is agreeing to cover all your expenses and help you with your retirement, than let him. It’s not as if he is just some boyfriend. I’m assuming this is the man you plan to marry and share a life with.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 03:47 AM
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Honestly I come from a largish family (5 siblings)and grew up with the much of the same. I did grow up in a conservative evangelical bubble. Maybe try to find a woman at church.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 12:08 AM
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Why not work as a nanny. I had a wonder experience as a nanny one summer when I was in college. I also had a friend that did this full time for years, she even traveled with them. If that’s not your cup of tea you can do temp work. It’s always changing so even if you dislike an assignment it will have an end date. I was a sahw for awhile before pregnancy. I actually was extremely busy getting the house together during that time and we were traveling a lot. But I used my time to improve some skil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 03:01 PM
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I don’t think that’s true. I use to have a good amount of guy friends. As I’ve gotten older I’ve naturally strengthened my relationships with my girlfriends. But I think that is due to pregnancy/motherhood. They are mostly married now also, so we spend time together as couples. Dynamic changes but, still friends
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 02:22 AM
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When my husband and I were long distance, prior to us being engaged. My roommate had a guy friend who use to hang out at our plane and it made my hubs uncomfortable. He brought it up and it really opened the door for us to put up strict boundaries. It made us both feel secure, even if it seemed extreme for some of my friends. Long distance is temporary
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 01:51 AM
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I think it’s common for men to not really know how much rings are. I would let him know you’re not concerned with the price, but are concerned with the durability. If he understands that a 1000 dollar ring will likely need replacement in 2-4 years he might decide to invest more for longevity. Maybe point out the Mohs scale to him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 05:00 PM
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I can absolutely understand your concern. I was very fortunate to have family help. But my suggestion would be to consult with a lawyer. We have a prenup and joint tenancy of our primary home. I think a comprehensive estate plan will give you the peace of mind you seek.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 01:37 AM
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I love the hair curling tiara!! It has helped me get back least 35 minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 07:14 PM
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Sure Jane.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 03:44 AM
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If you did marry someone you didn’t like living with than you’d just have to work a bit more to iron out those “roommate” issues. But ultimately you marry someone for love. Communication is a pillar of every successful relationship. Also, it’s important to note that usually women in the camp of “don’t move in before marriage” also have never lived with any men romantically. I went from my home with my parents, to female roommates in college, to my husband after marriage. My husband is actually a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 08:55 PM
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My hubs and I didn’t move in together until we were married and I stand by this decision. I wanted the protection. I didn’t want to build a home and family with someone who didn’t want to get married. I’ve seen the bad side of this debate way too often. The reality is, If a man wants to be with you he will marry you so no one else can access you. The pressure is on. If you move in together, that relieves it. You start investing more in him and your home together and he knows your not going anywh…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 06:27 PM
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You must not know a lot of men.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 06:07 PM
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I agree with the (scratchycatcakes) comment! I would only add to utilize a calendar now. Time management is essential in being productive effective housewife. I married at 22 and was creating our home and improving my skills (with no kids for 2 years). At first I really struggled, my to do list would have 3/10 completed by the end of the day. It was really easy to push things off to the next day, or have 3 hr lunch chatting with a friend. Find a calendar system that works well for you (paper, di…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 12:37 PM
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Congratulations!! My hubs and I also had a quick turnaround. Though we grew up in the same community. He was my older brothers age so so didn’t really hang out. But from dating to engagement it was 8 months. Celebrating 6 years 😊
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 03:49 PM
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It didn’t have to be a meal, but that was usually the suggestion. A game, concert, exhibit, whatever was going on around town or campus. I had very little to do with how much my date spent, they asked me out. I personally would think it was a redflag If a guy brought out a calculator at the end of our date.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 11:45 PM
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I dislike that you brought up a concern (why are you following these women) and his response is to take a break from the relationship. Communication is everything in a successful relationship. If you are not able to share your feelings and concerns, without him disconnecting than it won’t work. I think it’s natural for you to feel sad that he is leaving but you need to do the work and put yourself out there. Your match could be around the corner. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 05:15 PM
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I don’t think that’s true in the least. When I was in uni and a guy asked me to get coffee I would just say “I’d love to go on a date but I don’t like coffee” study dates were also popular. I’d just say “I’d love to spend time with you but I have to study alone or else I get distracted. It was extremely effective for me. I also didn’t drink and would leave with my friends I came with as a general rule.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 05:08 PM
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It’s not unrealistic and honestly it’s less expensive in many states as daycare is significant. I’m a sahm in an expensive city. Many moms I meet also freelance, work pt or have a side hustle. I also suggest buying in bulk, growing your own vegetables, buying second hand, living close to family or friends (so you can have date nights at a lower cost). There are many frugal mom blogs that can assist in this department. But please don’t think it’s only a lifestyle for the wealthy. Or that you can’…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 06:31 PM
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This is very complicated. As he says he wants what you do but isn’t making the needed effort to get there. I’m a firm believer that when words and actions don’t align, there is a strategic reason. So yes, I do feel you are wasting your youth. But that doesn’t make walking away any easier. I would encourage you to get very intentional about the partner you’d like. Write it down if you need to. Then do the work to get yourself to the ideal partner. That’s different for every person. Then when you …
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 07:44 AM
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I have received zero negativity from being a stay at home mom. I think it’s seen as a personal choice now. My grandma has told me stories about women hiding that they were working or being embarrassed to tell people they had a job, due to how it made the husband look. I don’t think that’s the case any longer. Women with children work because they want to or need to and shouldn’t be shamed. But I personally don’t believe the government should have any involvement with any of these decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:04 AM
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You need to have a conversation with him. He can’t treat you the way he does everyone else. My husband owns businesses and as a person, doesn’t sugarcoat anything. Listening to him speak on the phone, I would honestly say he is short at times. But the way he treats me and our children is the complete opposite. He literally will sit for a tea party or endless questions from our son. Because he takes he role as husband and father seriously. Early on I had to have a conversation with him about me v…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 10:58 PM
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Anthropologie, banana republic, lulus. You can try a subscription site to build up, like adore me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 08:29 PM
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I think this issue isn’t really about your boyfriend. Not completely. I think you just need better work life balance. Maybe you can discuss reducing your hours with him. Let him know how much it would improve your quality of life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:55 PM
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I agree this is a wonderful topic to bring up. It needs its on post! I agree with you 100 percent and have some thoughts / tips.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:53 PM
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I’m a Christian girl that waited until marriage also. But I always had an attraction to my hubs. I couldn’t wait to marry him so we could be together. I did date quite a bit before we got together. One being a good friend who confessed his love. I felt bad and went out with him a few times, but as soon as we kisssd I knew I needed to break things off. Based on what you’ve said I’d say let him go. But this comment makes me think maybe you actually like someone else who you can’t be with? Nonethel…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:38 PM
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Do not contact him again. It’s a bit unsettling that you jumped so quickly to being friends. I don’t feel this is generally healthy. You state that he was verbally abusive, so keeping that energy in your life isn’t the best idea. Nonetheless, don’t put anymore energy into him. Delete the request you sent him. Go have a fun girls weekend, start working on something new (distract yourself), until you are ready to get back out there. Good Luck 🍀
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 01:50 AM
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Honestly, I feel more people are marrying in their thirties. We get have 5 weddings this summer and the majority are over 30. I grew up evangelical and always had a desire to marry young and start a family. In my hometown marrying 19-23 was common. In my current city, I get child bridesmaids jokes. My point being that sometimes your location can also influence your opinion on age. My advice is to be very intentional when you are dating. Make sure to share your desires early on. You did the right…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 02:25 AM
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It’s so hard. But you need to end this. Respect his wishes and love forward. You will be happy you did. Never settle for mixed messages. If a guy feels you are his soul mate then he isn’t going to breakup with you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 07:52 PM
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When I was dating I let my guys know early on that I was dating to marry. And not just marry, but marry young. It was part of the vetting process for me. I think you should talk to him about it as soon as possible. Good luck!🍀
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 07:47 PM
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I would wait to move in. If you’re correct and a proposal is right around the corner than you won’t have long to wait! If you were married living together you are equally invested in your shared future. If you are both single and you are giving up a place to move into a house he owns, what does that mean for the finances? And will you have a tenant agreement? As he is technically your landlord and can ask you to leave at anytime. I married young(22) and I felt comfortable doing that, moving 3000…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 09:10 PM
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I agree. I feel this whole situation could have easily been avoided. Waiting until marriage to live and be together intimately is the ideal. Going against this often causes women to act irrationally. I’ve witnessed a friend rush into a marriage with a 3mo rebound after crossing the line. I’ve seen other friends accept cheating because of the same. I don’t feel this is the core of who these friends are. But I would never recommend going down the route you and your friend have taken. What she did …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 11:15 AM
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