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MartMillz/r/seduction16/12/17 10:33 AM
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MartMillz/r/seduction06/04/21 06:38 AM
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Fact is we've all seen plenty of girls dating big guys, hell there's lots of girls out there that actively prefer a 'Dad bod'. False. Its incredibly rare to see a cute girl with a fat dude and the Dad Bod thing is a lie.
/r/seduction06/04/26 07:36 PM
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she saw you as cheap after this Yea but it doesn't matter what she thinks if she's not actually attracted to him and if she's actually attracted to him she's not going to ask for a drink or leave.
/r/seduction05/04/26 06:03 AM
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Yeah man, I don't even ask for their number anymore. I just tell them, "You WILL meet me at Arby's tomorrow night." 100% close rate.
/r/seduction11/03/26 03:39 AM
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Not superior, inferior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:31 PM
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It's all in the assumption that women can't or shouldn't have to do certain things. It might be well intentioned but you're still treating them like less than.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:49 PM
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Not asking for the number or any contact details is bizarre. You’ve told her you want to get to know her and then just walked off and not given yourself an opportunity to do so. She said "have a good workout" which is basically "goodbye."
/r/seduction08/02/26 05:09 AM
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I mean, "usually" it's a series of rejections but the euphoria helps minimize that pain to indifference. I usually go for the one or two I'm attracted to right away if they're not in a group and then vibe out in a corner and see who puts themselves in my vicinity. I also recommend going out with a 2 drink max unless you are successful and have a 3rd with a girl.
/r/seduction25/01/26 03:57 PM
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Taking an edible and approaching a few half naked women.
/r/seduction25/01/26 06:20 AM
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Because you wind up dating women who really like you, not women you really like. Ultimately for me you realize you're not as obsessed with your partner as you should be.
/r/seduction09/11/25 12:35 PM
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I want a chav so bad
/r/seduction08/10/25 10:45 PM
1

Enter into a relationship, facebook official, first semester as soon as possible, before people settle into cliques and while everyone is still being super friendly. Even if the relationship fails you're still viewed as a relationship guy.
/r/seduction20/06/25 07:48 PM
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Also, if you're able to earn anything substantial promoting top clubs in a big city you are a lifelong natural chick magnet already. No one goes from this forum to that level of game.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:37 AM
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OP is too much of a little bitch to understand this
/r/seduction08/02/25 11:33 PM
9

Why would someone who doesn't want me get jealous? Make it make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:25 PM
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They will find you if you have top 10% genetics
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:09 AM
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That's not really customary in this sub
/r/seduction06/09/24 12:01 AM
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They're also known for cruising for sex in the woods, what's your point?
/r/seduction16/07/24 04:15 PM
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What is the point of this argument? Why shame people for not finding a "true" connection when the alternative is no connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:47 PM
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Slow to respond is fine, cancelling last minute for a different date is rude and bad karma.
/r/seduction02/06/24 04:31 PM
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https://youtu.be/C5FsdMky0J8?si=228fbX5dSCFUU3bx
/r/seduction25/05/24 03:08 AM
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You know you aren't attractive, so you couldn't pull it off. Not going to engage with the needless personal attacks. I am not desperate, I am classy. "Pulling off" a lowbrow classless behavior does not make it good advice. Conversation might continue in spite of it, not because of it. Ultimately, using pretty privilege to succeed is not "seduction." It requires no vulnerability or advancement of inner and outer game, which is what people are here to develop regardless of how they look.
/r/seduction16/04/24 03:02 PM
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Are you really saying that you'd get offended if a hot girl approached you and said she noticed you checking her out? That doesn't make any sense. Psychoanalyzing a man telling a woman the truth is wild. False equivalency, it is not the same dynamic and you know this. I would be thrilled, a woman might very well be mortified. Furthermore, your perception, especially of other people and their feelings, is not always "truth." Telling her you noticed her checking you out is an acknowledgment that y…
/r/seduction16/04/24 01:50 PM
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If you really want to psychoanalyze this, it's actually a defense mechanism. It's like saying "Hey, you noticed me, I didn't notice you, so you have to talk with me." It's also shitty because it's not even an expression of interest in the woman, it's just like saying, "Hey, you obviously like me so I'm here to collect the sex you owe me."
/r/seduction16/04/24 12:58 AM
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I suppose if you're hot then anything goes but it's a super conceited and awkward way to introduce yourself.
/r/seduction16/04/24 12:09 AM
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I don't think this is real honestly. "Hey I saw you checking me out" is like the worst thing you could say.
/r/seduction15/04/24 03:02 PM
6

The club exists, it is tangible.
/r/seduction05/03/24 10:16 PM
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He's right though, "the club is not real life" is a remarkably stupid thing to say.
/r/seduction05/03/24 09:20 PM
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I am literally exhausted of chicks seeking an immediate change of living situation
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 02:57 PM
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It's belittling because you assume the woman is too dumb/innocent to realize the man wants more than friendship. It's a flawed premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:30 PM
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For starters, all the personal safety reasons that you all are always on about
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:27 PM
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You're not observing well. Women are constantly sending out choosing signals to men, letting them know it's safe to approach. This tricks men into thinking they are doing the chasing. I agree with OP that a majority of marriages are just dopey guys getting a hunch that a woman likes him and then approaching her because it's safe. This is how you end up "winding up" with someone instead of going after someone you really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:17 PM
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So if you're hot for him then vetting goes out the window?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:03 PM
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My hot male friend's inbox says otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:59 PM
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That is a reductive approach and belittling to women's intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:53 PM
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Why even be alone like this with a man you have no romantic feelings for?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:38 PM
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I advise younger women I know to steer clear of these men. But that's Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:23 PM
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I presume mostly old people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:17 PM
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There is nothing fun and light hearted about the dating life of the modern average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:10 PM
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women is fishing and not hunting This is actually a bad mentality, you're just going to wind up with whoever will have you and likely wind up unsatisfied. It is far more fulfilling to choose someone you're crazy about and win them over.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:09 PM
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Actually it depends, I work with a pretty soy boy who is always whining about his dating life and the women love to hear all about it. I dont talk about my dating life because I'll just sound wildly misogynist because I'm nihilistic about it in a non-incel way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:41 PM
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“landwhales are disgusting.” This isn't stating a preference, this is making a classless comment. Stating preferences such as "I want a pale Asian girl," "I like women with big hips," "I only like super skinny girls,' "I only date white girls," or "I won't date a girl with short hair" are also completely unacceptable for men to vocalize while women are perfectly allowed to say things like "I don't date fat guys," "I'm not into bald guys," "I prefer guys over 6 feet," "I only date black guys," or…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:52 PM
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Chilis has a 3 for fucking 10 and plus if the girl likes you she will be fine paying for at least herself Ridiculous. Chili's for a first date?
/r/seduction30/01/24 03:34 PM
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If sex was not a primary fascination in your life you would not be posting here so just stop.
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:09 AM
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The whole point of entering an LTR is finding someone you don't have to do that shit with. I'm done trying to impress someone once they've reached the point in my life that they know all about me and they've met my family etc. If they want to leave the door is wide open.
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:03 AM
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Rich parents probably
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:00 AM
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Never said looking for serious or casual, it's irrelevant since the goal is just meeting women I'm interested in. Just trying to give you a picture of how much men have to go out of their way to meet one who is also interested in them. Day game is great fun, but realistically, even if you're looking for it, you can go entire days without a good chance.
/r/seduction29/01/24 12:55 AM
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Dating apps are useless for like 80% of men. Women don't match or respond.
/r/seduction29/01/24 12:21 AM
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Concerts are arguably the best place possible to game, but it's basically just bars on steroids. Everything else you suggested is just day game, which is fine but is not guaranteed to be efficient for the purpose of meeting women. You could go to 50 meet up events and not encounter someone you're crazy about.
/r/seduction28/01/24 09:27 PM
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Not a lot of other "settings" besides bars lol
/r/seduction28/01/24 06:19 PM
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Do you even like being at the bars? I go through phases with alcohol, I don't even want it in my body most days but still want to meet women. The only way bars are actually fun is when you're with good friends having a great conversation. It is very difficult to do this while also making a focused effort to approach multiple women.
/r/seduction28/01/24 07:56 AM
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Depends on the situation, crowd size, etc... one universal bit of advice is to not leave her side at all and try to escalate and proceed to an instadate at a different location if at all possible...
/r/seduction28/01/24 05:53 AM
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You shouldn’t even be at a venue if your entire goal is getting laid. Bro there is nothing fun about clubs other than the possibility of meeting women.
/r/seduction28/01/24 01:52 AM
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It's not a situation it's just a cycle of her sending me a selfie out of nowhere, me asking for a date, and being ignored or told that she's going through a hard time.
/r/seduction22/01/24 08:02 PM
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Sometimes some people are just going through shit. I've been chasing a girl who has been going through a hard time for 6 years apparently
/r/seduction22/01/24 01:54 PM
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The choice of work or be homeless is coercion, however you want to rationalize it otherwise is ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 01:39 PM
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Like in real life or over text/on line dating? I imagine most guys just slink away in real life.
/r/seduction06/10/22 02:20 PM
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Cold approaching in bars and clubs will always work better because if the girl is out that usually means shes down for something as long as shes not with a group of girls who will judge her. Where do you people get these pseudo rules? What bar even has girls? Much less girls NOT in a group? What fantasy land is this?
/r/seduction03/10/22 07:51 PM
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What do you mean by that exactly? What does she do that says otherwise?
/r/seduction03/10/22 11:07 AM
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If you want a hot girl with high sex appeal then this is what you signed up for
/r/seduction03/10/22 10:53 AM
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Best to avoid dating in workplace You didn't notice her until you thought she liked you so what are you upset about. It was probably a shit test/tease that you took too seriously anyway
/r/seduction01/10/22 09:23 PM
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Nah mate, you don't generally want to apologize for/answer questions that haven't been asked. And if you ever find yourself typing a run on sentence to someone you're crushing on you're probably sticking your foot in your mouth
/r/seduction01/09/22 06:10 PM
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There’s nothing a man can trade for that today. If you can make her cum reliably it naturally progresses to such.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:59 AM
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They are idiots, not for having a preference but for being cruel about it.
/r/seduction29/06/22 07:03 PM
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I wouldn't look at this as a rule. Gift giving is a love language for many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 09:56 PM
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> After you learn the pickup artist lifestyle, at some point you need to leave it behind. The next evolution in your dating should be once you’ve been on a first day, then you need to be a genuine and nice person. Don’t neg constantly, there needs to be some balance. Exactly. Ideally you want to find someone who you are satisfied with and who is satisfied with the real you. This is inherently impossible when you never show them the real you because you never dropped pick up mode. > Here is a tip…
/r/seduction01/05/22 12:58 PM
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It seems statistically impossible that you would run into 4/5 uncircumcised, let alone the fifth being a later in life circumcision.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 12:08 AM
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Even women who end up getting fucked in the bathroom I would like you to read into your own word choices here, I think you would benefit from a little self assessment as to your perception of women. Why "end up?" Is having sex in a bathroom part of a downward spiral for women whereas it might be seen as a sort of conquest for men? Why "getting fucked" versus "fucking?" The woman made the decision to consent to and partake in sex; the way you phrase it strips autonomy from the female and any enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 01:25 PM
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It's not about being able to win over every girl, It's about learning how to escalate from attraction which is a HUGE struggle for many men, regardless of how handsome they are. A lot of men simply need to learn to maintain their composure and how to flirt/respond to flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 09:32 PM
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Most singles are at least still interested in dating if not suffering from loneliness. I wouldn't advise anyone to just quit entirely.
/r/seduction03/01/22 07:16 PM
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You have to make it fun and leave an impression that you are a good, fun, sane person. You shouldn't bring any negativity or a business like attitude to an approach. If you're in a shitty mood either dont approach or try to turn it into a conversation that makes you feel better.
/r/seduction03/01/22 07:10 PM
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Probably because they have more suitors than free time. Forget sex, there is no time constraint on sex. But if you can't lunge in for a kiss within 2 dates, it's either not meant to be or you are your own problem.
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:11 AM
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Bubble Town dynamics are a cancer on sexual liberation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:50 PM
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My rule of thumb has been "There are no 10s, just 9s with money." This swings both ways, there are definitely women who strictly chase rich men and insert themselves into environments with rich men, but most people, men and women, don't expect to date outside of their own class. It's just more of a perk if you have money or an extreme negative if you're struggling to keep up within your class.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:10 PM
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Ehhh, the difference for both men and women is when you wind up with someone that you're so WILDLY attracted to that it clouds your judgment and you feel like you've gotten away with something because they're too good for you Most women know plenty of passable guys with average to above average income, she still has to have some physical attraction to him. I'm just trying to point out that both men and women can be physically attracted to someone and truly love them without being WILDLY attracte…
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:08 PM
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I dont personally like the dynamic, I've dated a few fabulously wealthy women. It just feels like this unspoken state of being perma-cucked that prevented me from taking the relationships seriously.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:01 PM
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You can flake also if your the weekday guy or Sunday guy as well which means your a second class citizen. I'm happy to let someone else stand outside the club for 45 minutes and spend $500.
/r/seduction29/12/21 02:40 PM
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I want to smoke weed and play video games
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 09:02 PM
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This is so stupid, as though women don't tolerate alcoholics or any other number of vices in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:47 PM
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I dont know why you're projecting so hard on video games, as though no one who plays video games gets sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:45 PM
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I don't think the competition has made me a "better" person, just less devastated by rejection. It still devastates me, but I can detach from it now. I'm not any more interesting, nor do I have anything tangible to show for these efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 01:02 AM
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This is a wonderful point, but in truth it also can apply to women (like most focused criticisms of either gender because people are individuals, not archetypes) A beautiful woman doesn't have to stick around if her man's portfolio crashes either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 12:54 AM
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I don't care how many partners a woman has had and I have RARELY heard another guy comment on it about a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:02 AM
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Yea that makes sense, but how should I feel about that? I don't find that very encouraging, actually a bit insulting even. Am I not worth the risk of a wasted Saturday night?
/r/seduction06/04/21 07:18 AM
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Not sure what you mean
/r/seduction06/04/21 07:17 AM
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No, the clitoris is just a small penis.
/r/seduction06/04/21 07:16 AM
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If women not answering you on dating apps is really affecting you then yea it's best for you to not use them. Matching with guys they don't want to answer is just another weird thing they do
/r/seduction06/04/21 07:10 AM
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Fuck Tesla but other that good points
/r/seduction11/03/21 04:29 AM
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How is COVID affecting your efforts? What is your approach like?
/r/seduction06/03/21 05:30 AM
2

Handshake is super lame. Go for the hug. If a girl will go out with you on a date to possibly pursue a relationship, she should accept and reciprocate a quick intro hug. If not she is a bitch.
/r/seduction28/02/21 10:17 PM
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Don't even suggest resting hand on thigh, it's not appropriate advice for newbies
/r/seduction28/02/21 10:14 PM
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Well at least now I know nothing was ever meant to be anyway
/r/seduction21/02/21 04:28 AM
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I wouldn't specify "at my place" lol, but if she actually responds anything is possible I suppose
/r/seduction17/02/21 04:31 PM
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It's not an enemy dynamic if you are sincere and open to dating that person. Of course, sincere dates are much harder to procure than dates where the guy wants sex but not a relationship. In those instances there is a sort of predator dynamic at play.
/r/seduction05/02/21 02:36 AM
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If you do decide to message her make sure to point out the HIPAA violation she committed
/r/seduction03/02/21 10:43 PM
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This is extremely difficult to balance over text when trying to also legitimately give her a reason to have a first conversation with you
/r/seduction03/02/21 09:31 PM
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Hinge is a better app but its suggested matches are an ongoing series of insults for me lol
/r/seduction02/02/21 03:12 AM
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Bumble is great for women because men are completely at their mercy on that app. I've never gotten so much as a decent conversation on Bumble, deleted it.
/r/seduction02/02/21 02:58 AM
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Can you elaborate on disqualifying, i could use a refresher
/r/seduction01/02/21 04:50 PM
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The best way to avoid the friendzone is to demonstrate sexual interest early and let her realize that you will make advances if given the opportunity. That will immediately force her to return some level of interest or essentially categorize you as someone to be avoided. Neither of these results is the friendzone. Both are positive results for you however as you either get escalation or closure. If this is someone you might never see again it is urgent to demonstrate interest at the first meetin…
/r/seduction01/02/21 04:41 PM
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It is rightfully frowned upon when done improperly, you should not try to chat up a woman who is clearly busy or in a rush for example.
/r/seduction30/01/21 07:32 AM
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I guess it is cause women are attracted more over time, and the ability to attract quickly is an art that needs to reach a certain level. I don't believe in relationships where she is is not excited about you at first, I'm sure it's possible to wear some women down over time but it leaves a forever stain on the relationship in my eyes. In any case I would say that this part of your logic is mostly wrong.
/r/seduction30/01/21 07:25 AM
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You don't really mean "someone" though, you mean "someone suitable," and we have no way of knowing if OP reciprocates her feelings, likely not given the tone.
/r/seduction30/01/21 07:13 AM
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I understand the comparison you're making and it's actually a bit thought provoking, however I think you start off with a very bad assertion. A man who hires a woman for dates, prostitution and sugar babies (i.e. undercover prostitutes) is seen as pathetic because the attention and validation he is getting is not real. He's deluding himself. He's not a man who is actually worthy of women's attention. He's paying women to delude himself and live a lie. It is a misconception to assume that men ONL…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 01:39 PM
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Your sugar baby is a prostitute
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 08:33 PM
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Yes, but sometimes texting is fun in its own right.
/r/seduction18/08/20 02:25 AM
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Yea, plus your text connection at first might suck but the vibes in real life might be great. Then the other party will naturally be more attentive to your texts after meeting. Also, realistically I don't really want to spend much time texting, even if it works out so texting until 3 am sets a bad precedent.
/r/seduction18/08/20 12:07 AM
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It's actually a fine way to handle the situation but neckbeards on this sub are reading some dumb jedi mind trick into it.
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:23 AM
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One of my snares with PUA is the advice to "live an exciting life that she wants to be part of" Sometimes I want to sleep for 3 weeks, not plan road trips and spend money.
/r/seduction08/08/20 04:08 AM
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That's an almost unhealthy minimization of Sex/Love/Companionship, it's certainly somewhere between the cell phone bill and student loans
/r/seduction04/08/20 06:39 PM
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I don't disagree at all, I'm just saying sometimes the rent is due.
/r/seduction04/08/20 05:32 PM
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Eh, there are worse things to say but this is cliche and would leave me feeling confused with no closure. It's fair to be honest and say "I'm sorry you're a great person but I simply don't have the feelings I'm looking for." It takes the responsibility.
/r/seduction04/08/20 05:29 PM
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Lol! How has this worked out for you?
/r/seduction04/08/20 05:24 PM
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Now the problem may be that you were not up front and clear about your intentions from the get go. But then you might not have scored
/r/seduction04/08/20 05:21 PM
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3 dates for a kiss attempt is way too much man. Really, unless it's just an objectively bad date, you should be urgently trying to land even a quick kiss on the first date. Initiating physicality is essential. It's better to get over the first hurdle of kissing as rapidly as possible, otherwise the first kiss just grows into this massive weight on both your shoulders or she decides you need to grow some balls and loses interest. You're not guaranteed tomorrow ever, crank up the urgency. If you c…
/r/seduction01/08/20 05:37 AM
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All relationships are transactional. Some more shallow than others. If you want to be loved unconditionally then marry a significantly less attractive person. If you want someone in your league or better then you have to keep them interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:47 AM
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Lacoste White and Liz Claiborne Lucky 6 are my choices
/r/seduction30/07/20 02:27 AM
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I had a bottle of this and never went back. Didn't smell masculine to me.
/r/seduction30/07/20 02:26 AM
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To answer your question earnestly, it affects your dating game very positively. Most importantly is that you will never emanate stress/insecurity for fiscal reasons. Women will perceive this as confidence or comfort in your own skin. It can not be overstated what a gift this is to you in terms of game. Financial worry is a hardship for 99% of eligible men and it is one of the few things that can preoccupy even the best of PUAs. You also have natural access to the wealthy women that middle class …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 04:59 AM
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Its just ladder theory to scale. The women keep a reserve of their perceived equals while paying most of their actual attention to their perceived high value options. Attractive men have a surplus of options, while average to below average men occasionally get a random bone tossed their way. It's sort of an everybody wins without fundamentally changing anything. Neither women nor men are changing any of their natural instincts, it's just more easily facilitated now. Women were getting bombarded …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 04:01 AM
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As a Latin man I disagree, often you will find these women are undisputed matriarchs of their family unit or workplace and evolve to be very loud and controlling to compensate. Not unlike male Napoleon complex archetype.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 10:05 PM
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This hit me hard. I knew this one girl who was so loud about sex and so forward about her sexual adventures, like showing me her ass and bag of toys unprovoked level - and she was basically trying to branchswing to me and wanted me to commit to a relationship before she would fuck me. It was the most insulting thing honestly. Like I would have considered a relationship if you slept with me under the same conditions you brag about sleeping with everyone else, she was fine as a person but that was…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 06:51 PM
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The way American men were taught to approach love by Disney is incredibly cruel. "Keep trying until she gives you a chance." I die inside every time I see the woman make the first move or decide to confess her hidden feelings to a guy who can't look her in the eye. You just know it was written by some well-off white male in Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 04:20 PM
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Idk man is this English?
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:29 AM
4

What is your definition of fuckboy? You have given no details, what's really going on?
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:15 AM
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Is there a clever/cool way to trick her into coming to my place Stop trying to "trick" them just be a man and invite her to your place for "coffee and cake" or something. Stop thinking you have to convince and sell her on the idea of spending time with you, your time is important; you only offer it to someone once. If she says no then ask for her number or politely move on because you're looking for someone for tonight.
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:09 PM
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Don't do this unless you can afford it. It's not worth the effort and money you'll spend trying to entertain groups of women. I'm not saying it's impossible, I'm just saying it's an uphill battle when all her friends are in your apartment, it's high effort low chance of reward. One of the girls will be looking to make sure none of her friends gives it up to a stranger and chances are one of your drunk friends will accidentally do something off-putting. I just refuse to play host anymore, I did i…
/r/seduction03/01/18 10:00 PM
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Sorry to hear man. I'm probably not as emotional/affectionate as you but I think the best thing to do is start mentally preparing yourself to leave. If you really want to stay together tell her that you are prepared to leave but if she wants to stay together your marriage is now open until you decide it's not. I would start seeking out a new fling immediately and make it pretty obvious. I know you said you're not feeling confident around women now but this is about making a point. You have to le…
/r/seduction03/01/18 09:32 PM
-2

That is one perspective, I wouldn't call it "the facts."
/r/seduction17/12/17 12:10 AM
3

It was more acceptable during the Bush/Obama years, now it's just intolerable.
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:09 PM
2

Thank you for the extended and truly lucid responses. I think you have saved me a bit of time and money on therapy. something formal enough that "break up" would even make comedic sense, and you hadn't closed? It was for want of a better term. It was the talking every day stage, I don't know. I probably wasn't too far from closing but hadn't had a natural/logistical opportunity yet. Not too upset about that. Eating seafood: Come on. Lots of grills serve seafood among other options. Definitely tr…
/r/seduction16/12/17 04:34 PM
1

As someone who has plateaued in game, I understand your frustration. May I ask what your goals are? Are you frustrated you're not getting numbers or frustrated you're not getting sex? I've realized game/pickup has done as much as it can for my personality but there are steps I must take to fix/rearrange my life because I am giving off anxiety/depression. I am a good conversationalist with women but it only gets so far before they realize how unhappy I am (and it's unattractive, obviously).
/r/seduction16/12/17 09:10 AM
2

You might be giving off an energy that you're desperate for a girlfriend or that you're depressed. It's really annoying when girls randomly decide that one off color comment or too much excitement to meet them means I'm a serial killer but such is life. The good news is that women who act like that are usually just shitty people who just want a man to henpeck to death anyway so don't worry about.
/r/seduction03/12/17 07:55 PM
24

"Your emotional pain is unattractive and for that reason you do not get love" Thanks Obama
/r/seduction28/08/17 05:12 AM
1

This is good, I have nice guy tendencies but I was never a big whiner or clingy in that respect. The end hit home because, I'm not sure I really "like" myself, because of problems I am successfully working on fixing. Anyway, it's amazing how insecurities creep out and push people away. It's like people want to give you love freely and you're just repeatedly asking them "Are you sure you want to do this? Are you sure you want to like me? I don't think I would give me love if I were you."
/r/seduction04/03/16 03:09 PM
2

I've found it much easier to get the attention/interest of hotter women in person. Basically, I think, using ladder theory, if you're a 7, it is much more difficult to step laterally or up online than it is in person. Good luck getting the 8 and 9's attention, and you'll probably struggle for the 7. Women seem to be more discerning about who they will talk to online which makes sense considering how flooded their inboxes must be, don't take it to heart. :/ But you know, online you'll meet nice g…
/r/seduction04/03/16 04:27 AM
13

That is true, but to again be fair, we both know that "making small talk" or learning how to, is something that could take YEARS for all of us undiagnosed aspies on Reddit to become halfway competent at. Never mind learning how to express intention/escalate.
/r/seduction27/12/15 02:49 PM
12

"Quick Question - can you answer the eternal question that hundreds of men on this subreddits discuss and write full-length essays about every day?"
/r/seduction27/12/15 02:23 PM
1

That's all true, and I don't disagree with anything you said before either. It's just easy to get carried away with the little gifts and dinners if you really like someone. That's who I am concerned about and why I didn't think OPs spending money comment was unreasonable. I don't have any sources right now, but I believe there's some scientific merit to the theory that there is a percentage of people out there who inherently express their love/affection this way (by seeking out/acquiring nice th…
/r/seduction10/09/15 07:13 PM
1

It sets a bad precedent pre-physicality.
/r/seduction10/09/15 05:45 PM
1

And I'm saying that given many people's living conditions it can be almost impossible to be respectful about it. I did it super discretely at my house with established girlfriends. It was 100% impossible for me to bring home one night stands from bars. It wouldn't have been the biggest deal in the world, my parents probably wouldn't have even cared that much but it felt rude and selfish. Hell, I even tried once or twice and it totally killed the mood, she laughed. Explaining the whole "ok let's …
/r/seduction07/09/15 06:05 PM
3

100% can't believe OP fell for that.
/r/seduction07/09/15 05:44 PM
5

It's perfectly ok to have sex with other people in the house. Just try to be respectful about it. It's really not for most people. Maybe if you have chill roommates or super-liberal parents and live in a big house that isn't creaky it's okay, but if you live in an apartment or old/small house it's pretty fucked up to do that while other people are awake. I would have never done that while my parents were up and about.
/r/seduction07/09/15 05:27 PM
1

Ain't that the truth
/r/seduction10/08/15 07:06 AM
2

This article is fantastic. Wow. In pickup it’s hard to fake your percieved image. Women are perceptive and can pick up on your vibrations. Literally, they can see you shake. Your body language and vocal tonality betray your insecurity. This is the truest thing. I'm currently preoccupied with startup business ventures and I am usually personally worried, and insecure about not really having a traditional, steady income. Like, it's a real thing I have to be concerned about it. So my anxiety about …
/r/seduction09/08/15 02:54 PM
1

I throw shit at the wall too, usually it leads to something suitable for conversation. But man, when it bombs, it really bombs.
/r/seduction22/06/15 09:20 PM
5

Hey man, you shouldn't go to places to daygame, you should daygame at places you go to. Go to places/events you legitimately want to be at and you'll run into plenty of girls. Plus you'll have the added bonus of an obvious common interest. It's not really a "show up to the field, practice for two hours, come back tomorrow" type of thing, it's more of a whenever the opportunity arises you have to be ready for the call type of thing.
/r/seduction02/06/15 11:47 AM
1

You just need to accept certain truths. Accept that you will likely be rejected more often than you succeed. Accept that it is better to be rejected than to wonder if you would have succeeded. Accept that the outcome is totally unimportant and has no bearing on the person you are, win or lose.
/r/seduction02/06/15 10:33 AM
4

Hey that's nice man, congrats on getting up the nerve to daygame approach in front of other strangers. I still struggle with that. Try to focus on starting by coming up with a quick observation about her outfit/jewelry/stuff she's carrying instead of jumping straight into commenting on her looks. Ex: "Hey what's your tattoo mean?" "Damn you have a lot of bangles on your wrist!" "Sweet yoga mat!" "What's with the huge purse? You going bowling later?"
/r/seduction02/06/15 10:13 AM
0

I enjoyed your description of stratification and in group/out group mentality but it really is a money thing. If you are the DJ okay that won't hurt at all, but just being in the VIP room alone isn't going to help anything unless you happen to find the stupidest and shallowest woman in your city. That's not even misogynistic or anything, I am giving women much more credit than I think you are. I really believe there are hundreds of other things you can work on besides getting a VIP room that wou…
/r/seduction02/06/15 10:02 AM
5

This article is garbage. You can easily throw over a thousand dollars away following this advice. It's not necessary to go to the same place every weekend and it's kind of lame if you really think about it.
/r/seduction02/06/15 04:18 AM
1

I meant more like what magazine/site is most influential?
/r/seduction09/11/14 05:40 PM
1

Maybe this is a stupid question but where would I go to even be aware of the trends as they change?
/r/seduction09/11/14 04:47 PM
3

Elite Daily is garbage and this might be their most garbage-y garbage.
/r/seduction16/09/14 08:14 AM
3

Many years ago an older woman gave me a compliment that I instinctively deferred. Her response was "Honey, when a woman gives you a compliment, just accept it." One of the better pieces of advice I've ever received.
/r/seduction16/09/14 05:05 AM
1

I truly wish you'd posted this before I went to and finished college. I learned this the hard way but better to learn late than be a 40 year old doormat. Cheers for a really quality post.
/r/seduction16/09/14 12:59 AM
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Next time you have an exam study as hard as possible and finish it as fast as you can. Then wait for her to finish and walk out with her, instant opener: "What'd you think of the test?"
/r/seduction12/01/14 08:57 PM
5

For me that's usually going to this abandoned shack Ridiculous
/r/seduction08/12/13 08:17 AM
2

Yeah, this. Do you WANT to hang out or do you feel strangely obligated to hang out?
/r/seduction22/10/13 07:52 PM
9

I don't mean to sound rude, but you make ZERO sense.
/r/seduction04/08/13 09:05 PM
1

I didn't really find this to be particularly lucid or thoughtful
/r/seduction20/07/13 09:24 PM
0

I have been a negative douche this last two weeks sharing all my shitty opinions. People don't like that. I can't even stop myself from being negative anymore, it's just a chronic pattern of behavior. I know it's a turn off to most females but I know I'm just guaranteed to laugh the hardest when being sardonic.
/r/seduction20/07/13 09:09 PM
1

While I agree with OP that inner game is a bit overplayed I think Inner Game is probably the single most important life skill one can learn. The problem is that "Inner Game" is an inherently subjective topic. Everyone has different life experiences and struggles, therefore everyone is going to develop different ideas of what Inner Game really is. That's the reason you see so much aimless, tautological philosophizing around here. It's a lot of people using different words and examples to describe…
/r/seduction20/07/13 07:47 AM
1

there's a gaint number or factors that filter in on your state of mind and emotion That is certainly true; however if any of those factors are dependent on receiving a positive outcome, your efforts will typically be in vain.
/r/seduction26/06/13 10:02 PM
1

Well, although I workout, I'm still a bit overweight and average looking. My kneejerk answer is to say you should take all those pent-up insecurities and take them out at the gym and in trying to get the best job you possibly can. Don't let that self-hate seep through to the person you're talking with. You just have to build up your confidence and know how substantial of a person you are so that your image becomes utterly secondary. Don't worry about what they think about you, worry about what y…
/r/seduction26/06/13 07:07 PM
7

Before anyone says online dating: The Mall, Farmer's market, a club, bookstore, the park. Although truthfully, I've noticed there's no real days where you just leave the house with the expressed purpose of meeting someone. It's all about stepping up to the plate and approaching her when you're actually in the midst of doing something else and you happen to notice her.
/r/seduction26/06/13 09:32 AM
1

Be outcome independent. Stop caring. As a heavy introvert, the best decision of my life was the day I decided "If any situation is going to be awkward, it's going to be awkward on my terms. And I don't think any situation is awkward."
/r/seduction26/06/13 09:24 AM
1

Don't get too down on yourself. I really think it might be the hardest technique, especially in those most critical of moments. Just work up all the gall you've got next time. If you're truly outcome independent, it shouldn't be so tough.
/r/seduction26/06/13 09:16 AM
3

So happy to be of assistance. Always here if anything.
/r/seduction26/06/13 09:01 AM
2

Perhaps. If so, you might have to work on something very deep. Your personal happiness should never be dependent on being with a partner or your partner's approval. That is unhealthy. It's normal to get that sickly feeling after a breakup, especially once the reality of single life truly sets in again. Just understand that if you broke up, it was for a good reason. Every friendship/relationship is a learning experience. Don't let that pain affect who you are as a person or what you're trying to …
/r/seduction26/06/13 08:48 AM
5

The top comment suggested Meditation (which I can't recommend enough), if you look into this further you will inevitably encounter items of Buddhist philosophy which will mention the elimination of desires. I'm sort of in the same position as you are. I'm ridiculously confident and I am very happy with my level of game. My issue right now is that my own unhappiness (which stems from matters that for the time being are out of my control) eventually becomes obvious to the people I am talking to. A…
/r/seduction26/06/13 08:24 AM
6

Eliminate your desire to be happy
/r/seduction26/06/13 06:12 AM
4

Online dating is a poor option for beginners because it doesn't help your approach or anxiety skills whatsoever. Plus, why would you want to spend beautiful summer days inside trolling profiles for hours on end?
/r/seduction23/05/13 04:52 PM
10

Don't worry about your success ratio in the street, just keep trying. You have to understand that everyone is probably on their way to someplace else and probably in a rush. This means that 99% of street rejections aren't even personal, just situational.
/r/seduction23/05/13 04:47 PM
12

Have you tried turning it off and on again?
/r/seduction23/05/13 04:41 PM
2

Oh sure that would work but damnit volunteering for pick-up purposes is so contrived!
/r/seduction23/05/13 04:40 PM
2

The finer art, really.
/r/seduction04/08/12 11:58 PM
3

Well... would you be so kind as to share with us what you changed?
/r/seduction07/07/12 12:47 PM
2

This is the only response in this thread that I like.
/r/seduction25/05/12 08:34 AM
9

"cool i have a goldfish" Real laughter was produced
/r/seduction25/05/12 08:34 AM
2

I do enjoy these posts, they're all usually very insightful. But the more I read them, the more convinced I become that "being yourself" isn't something that can be taught or explained, it's just something you have to learn for yourself. Or, more appropriate, within yourself. Honestly, cold approaching people you are attracted to is probably the best way to do this because it's so damn scary the first few times. But it's scary in that exhilarating way; the way big rollercoasters are scary the fi…
/r/seduction17/05/12 05:11 AM
1

That's cool. It's not inherently, absolutely bad, don't get me wrong. But it is, by traditional standards, "weird." You're taking a huge chance when you do. I feel like 90% of the time you will be unceremoniously ignored, unless the girl finds you very, very attractive. It's just an unorthodox thing to do. If you think it's worth it, go for it. But it can have social consequences if you know a few of the same people. I just don't think facebook should be considered a free-for-all of pickins of l…
/r/seduction03/03/12 03:34 AM
3

Her telling all your mutual friends what a creep she thinks you are. Not saying all women would immediately do this, but that, in my opinion, is the worst that could happen.
/r/seduction03/03/12 02:53 AM
21

Nothing wrong with hammering in the basics. Otherwise you wind up trying to get crafty and do something absurd. I've been there.
/r/seduction03/03/12 01:41 AM
5

...please tell me you have met in person and were friends previously...
/r/seduction03/03/12 01:40 AM
1

Yea I feel you. Well, I'd definitely still recommend most of the above... you can get a pretty sexy pair of black loafers for like 60 or for 60-80 you can get a really sleek pair of white sneakers from like K-Swiss... If you wait for a sale on some polos or button downs at Express you could walk out with like 3 for 25. Polos with deep, solid colors I really like right now. Then for the jeans you have some options, you can spend 60-80 or so for some DKNY, Roc-a-Wear, or Ecko jeans that will do ju…
/r/seduction11/01/12 01:41 PM
2

I've never had a girl even broach the subject, I have no idea how I would handle it. Are they disappointed that you don't dig it?
/r/seduction11/01/12 03:45 AM
1

I have a shit-load of clothes. More than I'll ever need. It's an issue. If you wear typical business attire to work, a barebones going out closet would only require 2 pairs of fashionable jeans, one light one dark. I would suggest splurging on the trendy jeans because cheaper ones will wear down an start to feel more like cotton and less like denim. Unless they're Levi's. But Levi's aren't typically on the cutting edge of fashion. You can probably just un-tuck most of your work button downs and …
/r/seduction11/01/12 03:12 AM
1

I'm at school and it's actually home, sorry. But it's like this black, polyester-sateen number from Express. You can find a lot of really awesome stuff at Express, Marc Ecko Cut & Sew, and Guess.
/r/seduction11/01/12 02:58 AM
10

Yes, absolutely. I have one jacket that I'm afraid to wear because it draws too much attention and I have to have my inner game set at 110% to handle that. To further elaborate; most days I just wear my big brown coat or a team-hoodie and nobody notices me.
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:57 PM
5

Well, I'm not really sure what I'm arguing over or what position I'm taking, but I'll try to better explain my philosophy. When I said "disqualify" I meant it like, "wouldn't pursue a serious relationship with." It's more of a like, "If I don't feel butterflies around her then I probably would never fall in love with her, so why would I waste her time and mine?" sort of logic. I think girls are just like guys; in that they want a partner that they're super attracted to. Sure, looks aren't everyt…
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:24 PM
11

A sincerely held belief that men and women aren't really too different
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:03 PM
6

Honestly, I operate under the assumption that men and women are completely equal in terms of sexual preference. Roughly, I figure that I immediately disqualify 7 out of every 10 girls based on physical appearance alone, so it would make sense to me if women did the same.
/r/seduction10/01/12 11:06 AM
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You're right, but I think it's fair to say that like 7/10 times it does.
/r/seduction10/01/12 08:08 AM
13

Only takes one.
/r/seduction08/01/12 11:19 AM
6

this shit is interesting, but reading it all the time sucks us into thinking that it's a substitute for learning lessons that you can really only understand after you learned them for yourself. Exactly. I've come to believe that everything that all of this "seduction stuff" attempts to teach is essentially intangible. Sort of, guiding lessons that require highly personal interpretations. With the end goal that is, in my opinion, aiming to form a more complete, inwardly self-satisfied, naturally …
/r/seduction29/12/11 06:21 PM
1

ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction28/12/11 09:41 PM
1

I was going to post that exact comment verbatim!!
/r/seduction17/12/11 06:55 AM
6

lololol then strap her to a radiator in your sauna and you're golden
/r/seduction30/11/11 09:30 PM
2

Haha, that is interesting information, however I'm inclined to believe that there are multiple, possibly more fruitful, avenues for achieving such an effect.
/r/seduction30/11/11 09:18 PM
5

I really hate coffee dates and don't do them with girls I'm not already dating. Every first date-coffee date I've been on has had me sitting on opposite sides of a table with a girl while she talks about work or school. To me, the ceiling of a coffee date, especially with a (never desirable) pre-understood time constraint, is scheduling another date. That being said, my advice, if you must go on this date, (quite frankly I would suggest trying to reschedule something better) would be to be as ca…
/r/seduction30/11/11 03:52 PM
1

yea i mean, a month give or take, just threw that out there arbitrarily. if every date is a legitimately enjoyable experience that simply hasn't yet lent itself to sex, i think it would be really dumb to just stop seeing that person.
/r/seduction24/11/11 07:34 AM
5

yo that's like the fucking saddest feeling when you come to the realization that some of your friends (while otherwise decent fellows) are detrimental to your sex life
/r/seduction23/11/11 10:35 PM
5

You don't need it to "survive" per se, however the act of sex releases endorphins and dopamine and in turn relaxes you. Having sex regularly stabilizes your serotonin levels, which is critical to your mental health. The positive neurochemical effects makes you not depressed, less irritable, and less stressed, a.k.a. happy. Not to mention that having sex makes you feel like a loved person and desirable mate, thus raising your self confidence. There's no point in denying yourself this satisfaction…
/r/seduction23/11/11 08:51 PM
1

I don't mean to sound dismissive but that's just not how it works. It's the same reason you take a used car for a test drive and get a carfax report. Anyone would say they love sex and that he or she is outstanding in bed. The only way to determine sexual compatibility is to actually have sex because both parties have completely conscious and subconscious desires that need to be fulfilled for them to be satisfied.
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:58 PM
5

I really think you're romanticizing it to an almost unhealthy extent. It's not the ultimate sign of love, making a commitment to someone and trusting them to be faithful is. Sex is a vital biological function, not having sex is very detrimental to your physical and mental health.
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:54 PM
1

I'm not sure what you're getting at... Could you explain?
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:43 PM
3

Yea, that's all very true. I was saying though.. maybe for date 2 or 3 you do something relatively cheap, you know? Maybe invite her to work out with you. Something that indicates she's interested in spending time with you for you, not just for the fuck of getting drinks or food out of it. In the end I think it spares you your own time and efforts as well.
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:38 PM
3

To me the problem is that sexual compatibility is a serious and urgent issue. It sucks to date someone a bunch of times and start liking them as a person, only to find out, after let's say a month of dating, that the sex is unsatisfying.
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:29 PM
2

Ah, yes, I'll be queuing it up for when I have the time. Thanks a lot.
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:22 PM
1

That's an awful thing to wish on someone, but I suppose that's about all one could expect from a United suporter
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:19 PM
1

I'm enjoying this, thanks. What's he's saying about getting paranoid and caught up in the clothes you're wearing is really brilliant.
/r/seduction23/11/11 05:01 PM
1

This guy is amazing at cursing.
/r/seduction23/11/11 04:46 PM
3

I mean, you shouldn't necessarily be lavishing her with free shit every night in the first place... I think a better litmus test of her intentions would be inviting her to check out a museum or to cook a homecooked dinner with you.
/r/seduction23/11/11 04:39 PM
1

Yes, in general, you're right. I'm definitely a big proponent of getting the kiss out of the way as soon as possible but I think it's more important to make sure not to force it.
/r/seduction23/11/11 04:21 PM
9

You know what? I don't exactly buy this. I have a hard time believing someone would bother spending time with someone they weren't at all attracted to or curious about, just for the sake of getting to chow down at restaurants for free. I know I wouldn't. Unless the girl looks you in the eye and explicitly says, "I'm not into you, I just want to be friends." I just look at it as her continuing to give you a chance to appropriately demonstrate your value. All of this, of course, is contingent upon…
/r/seduction23/11/11 04:16 PM
5

it's the same reason Pete Sampras couldn't necessarily teach anyone how to be a good tennis player.
/r/seduction17/11/11 09:19 PM
1

No, that part is fascinating. Mostly because my body is way more obsessively hellbent on breeding than my mind will ever comprehend or be. It makes me wonder how long until it figures out a way to counteract any and all forms of prophylactic.
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:39 AM
0

I don't want to live in this world anymore
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:24 AM
3

The biological function of the helmet shaped tip of your penis is to scoop out another males sperm. I'm sorry but I'm still picking my jaw up off the floor... Do you have a source??
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:10 AM
36

Posture. Don't make the mistake I did and spend four hours everyday huddled over your laptop. Lol, this is good advice, shame you're giving it to Redditors.
/r/seduction31/10/11 09:14 AM
8

Decide if you're into her or not immediately. If she's always hugging or touching you for no reason she'd probably be an awesome girlfriend. A girl named Jenn is going to go from pretty good looking to absolutely ridiculously hot in a 2 year span. Also, take it easy on the weed.
/r/seduction31/10/11 08:58 AM
2

I guess, but if humans want to kill they do it with a gun or knife; humans generally don't beat each other to death with their fists (anymore). If a chimp finds another male that is a threat to its local dominance then its only option would be to pound the other guy into submission. I presume that if a chimp is able to severely maim another then nothing would really prevent it from "finishing the job," so to speak. I'm curious as to whether leaving the opponent disfigured is done out of some pri…
/r/seduction30/10/11 12:11 PM
3

Why do you credit this action as with the intention of taking him out of the gene pool and not simply as good combat tactic since they know that the genitals would be a particularly vulnerable area? Not criticizing, serious question, I am legitimately curious.
/r/seduction30/10/11 11:37 AM
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