| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 38 | How do you reconcile the lying? | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 12:56 PM | |
| 25 | Made a dumb f*cking mistake last night | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/23 01:55 AM | |
| 21 | Wife is divorcing me, what now? | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 05:35 PM | |
| 11 | Wife is divorcing me, what now? | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 05:35 PM | |
| 8 | Stress Diet | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/23 11:22 AM | |
| 7 | Changing marriage therapists | MasonsNumbers | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 10:54 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | How do you reconcile the lying?A quarter century?! Jesus H, I thought the two years I went through with my ex (for the same reason) were bad. Shit... | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 10:13 PM |
| 5 | How do you reconcile the lying?Fuck if I don't empathize with everything you just said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 09:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you reconcile the lying?Willing to bet it's more than 4... | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 09:11 PM |
| 2 | How do you reconcile the lying?You're right, you can't save her. You're not her, and you're not responsible for her. You didn't make her choices, she did. And now she, and you, and all the rest of us in similar shitty situations, have to deal with the consequences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 07:46 PM |
| 2 | How do you reconcile the lying?Every time I hear that, "It wasn't your fault," or "You didn't do anything wrong," I feel like I should feel better. But it never works out like that. Hell, she even admitted to one of my friends that I did nothing wrong and that still isn't enough to convince me. Maybe you're right about believing the truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 07:14 PM |
| 0 | Made a dumb f*cking mistake last nightThe person who I referred to as a "they," literally refers to themselves as "they" on their profile. Even if it is derogatory it's literally what they're asking others to call them. I literally think you're just trying to manufacture outrage here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Made a dumb f*cking mistake last nightNo one said anything about disliking homosexuals except you (and the other guy that got dv'd into oblivion). I'm expressing fact: she literally left me because she's gay. She said this to me, several times over several months, including the day she left me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/23 08:39 PM |
| 13 | What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt?"You're a martyr because you'll never divorce me." To marriage therapist: "Yeah, I mean, my goals are similar to (mine), reconnecting and being able to be close again..." Drops the bomb on me less than two hours later. "I get anxiety, that's specific to you, when I'm around you." There's more but I don't want to dig anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/23 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Does it still just randomly hit you?I feel this. I'm not even a month in from bomb date, but I'm months into constant struggling for my marriage so I'm emotionally wiped. I wish I could be what she wants, too, sometimes. But then I try to remember that what she wants isn't me, so I'd basically be wishing to not be myself. I get trapped in it sometimes, admittedly. Wishing things were different, wishing I could have learned more or done better. But no amount of additional effort would have swayed her decision, and in fact in my cas… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Lost and need to vent.Having a good, strong support network is wildly important. This is the time to start cashing out, calling in favors, and in general leaning on people, likely more so than you every thought you'd be comfortable doing. There's absolutely no shame in it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 11:41 AM |
| 7 | Those that finalized and are on the other side. Looking back what was the worst part of the whole process for you?Same thing happening to me right now. Wife decided she'd rather nuke the whole thing wholesale instead of work on it. Something about "I'm hard gay" but has never touched or been with another woman before. I was (am) an obstacle to her, so now I get to pay the price for loving her unconditionally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 11:31 AM |
| 7 | When to sell house and realtor selection.This looks, smells, and quacks like a duck. She's trying to get what she wants at your expense. Get your lawyer, dig your heels in, and sign/agree to nothing without your direct consultation and permission. This is your house too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Advice: Wife's Recurrent Aggression Forcing Me Out of My Own HomeIf you both are on the lease, then you both "must" pay. Non-payment would hit both of you, which is, I'm assuming, why you're continuing to pay. If she has a history of violence, and is being threatening towards you, it's time to get a protective order and get her out of there. Divorce is enough of a shit circus without violence being rolled into it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Wife comes cleanSimilar time frame here. Prior to labor day weekend we had arranged to meet with our (second) marriage counselor the Tuesday after the holiday. During the meeting she was all "Yeah, I want to reconnect, I want to reconcile, yada yada," then not two hours later she drops the bomb on me officially. Lied to our counselor, lied to me, lied to so many people trying to make it seem like she wanted to carry on. Next day I come home and she's been sleeping with a friend in my bed. Same night she drops t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Wife is divorcing me, what now?I don't want to be with her anymore. She strung me along for months, lying to me, my family, and our therapists, all for a notion that she hasn't meaningfully explored on her own despite having more than enough time and ability to do so. To her, being gay is more important than me, so fuck her, let her be gay and find out the hard way what happens when you throw away everything on a whim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Wife is divorcing me, what now?Might have worked if: -She was willing to do so (because it was brought up) -If she hadn't already filed to divorce me | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/23 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Changing marriage therapistsI wish it were that simple. Example, my wife told me at one point that she "...Basically always expects our interactions (as of late) to be negative." I took this as truth, because why wouldn't I, and took it upon myself to try and limit our interactions based on the notion of lessening the negativity. When I opened up to my wife and therapist about this, and how it made me feel trapped because I felt like I couldn't communicate without causing issues, I was told by the therapist to "...have emp… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 01:19 PM |
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