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I love Drew. She’s a fucking visionary, the avant-guarde of badass women finally standing up for us in the misogynistic cesspool that is the online world of today. May she continue doing what she does until the last seething piece of shit scrote deletes their tik tok and leaves the online space for normal people to enjoy in normal, healthy ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:17 PM
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If we are talking about people in general, in my honest opinion not all human interaction is supposed to be deep, giving, kind and selfless. That’s just unrealistic. I value my superficial relationships as much as my intimate/lifelong partnerships/friendships. Some people will be nice because they are just a nice person, some people will create whole-ass “friendships” by simply being polite and expressing interest in other peoples’ lives even if they are not actually interested. There’s nothing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:26 PM
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☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:19 AM
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I can’t understand women like this. Stay with a man at all costs, even if he’s blatantly sucking value OUT of your life? Nah, sis..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 04:59 PM
96

Beautifully put 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 04:57 PM
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Won’t repeat what other commenters said. Will just add he has to be a beast in defending my honour/dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:11 PM
12

Bahaha. Jokes on him when you actually fulfill his dream - dump him and find someone new to have sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:07 PM
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Agreed with other commenters, thoughtfulness is HVM, but theft really isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 04:20 PM
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100%. Sex without intimacy/emotional bonding is hardly different to masturbating on your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:39 AM
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I’ll side with other commenters and say you need to ditch this “friend”. No benefit in keeping a guy like that around (pun intended). But on a serious note, I very much agree FWB is a majorly bad idea. It’s like stuffing yourself with McDonalds - scratches the itch at that moment, but does you more harm than good in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 11:27 PM
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Indeed 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 02:23 PM
14

Looks to me like he was actively encouraging you to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:31 AM
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I mean it’s quite funny to me how men do this shit, then turn around and scream how women have no empathy for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:29 AM
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Yas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:28 AM
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Their typical deflection. He clearly had no way of justifying his douchyness, so took the easy way out by blaming the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:27 AM
43

And yet he called you selfish. What a fucked up narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:25 AM
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You are an example for all of us on how to not let abuse slide. Absolute queen 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:24 AM
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Spot on! Great examples. Men need to stop devaluing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 01:49 PM
3

Let me guess - college girls in USA?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 07:03 PM
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Red pill apologetically wishful thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:10 PM
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Spot a RedPiller. I’m 29 and have only had 5 partners in my life. Literally every single woman I’ve known has had little more than that. Stop lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:58 PM
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School and college are not very good examples.. In those setting your are normally surrounded by peers who you see every day.. Apart from the fact that kids are not well-rounded personas in general (they haven’t experienced enough of the real world), neither girls nor guys are likely to risk loosing face in front of their peers by approaching the opposite sex. Your social life can go to hell in an instant if you make the wrong move in school. Much less pressure once you are on the other side of …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:52 PM
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The entitlement is unreal with this douche. He wants to make minimal effort, but achieve maximum results (obviously only at her expense). This woman deserves so much more than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 09:36 AM
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So much yes 👏 I do the same. Anything tentative / give me a whiff of TRP/PUA - and you’re out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 09:32 AM
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Exactly! Could have had a lot more use from two iMacs Thank you sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:09 AM
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Agreed 100%. FDS should be taught in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:06 AM
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Took way too long to realise this simple truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:04 AM
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It’s a lonely world women grow up in. No one to protect us from a culture that is fucking rotten and anti everything that is feminine, no one but ourselves really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:56 AM
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Spot on lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:09 PM
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I don’t think the fact he’s got chlamydia registered in his brain 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 01:06 PM
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I wasted a lot of money on my looks and going out/dating apps etc, that should have been saved up. I also guided myself with the idea that I should have a husband first - then everything else would fall into place. Boy was I wrong. Edited for spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:14 AM
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It’s like FDS needs to overcome layers upon layers of (self-)gaslighting before the message truly reaches the core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 08:50 PM
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The part about degrading yourself and looking stupid is so true. We never realise this until we’re on the other side. I think the first step to healing is admitting it to ourselves. Because some people never really get out of the rabbit hole…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:14 PM
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Preach ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:11 PM
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For sure. I just can’t believe men like this get married. Someone needs to throw them all on a deserted island, away from civilised people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:41 PM
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The fuck? If it’s just a “kink” surely he can control it?! But SHE has to miss the wedding because of it? This is a whole new level of LVM / pickme relationship. I am appalled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:06 PM
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Not shitting on women trying to be fit, just highlighting how fucked up the standards are and how they can lead to an unhealthy obsession with fitness, in the name of chasing men’s preferences (if that is what a woman is doing)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:29 PM
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I mean what a lot of the guys who laugh at this don’t realise, is that it means in order to get a guy who sees a woman as the “end deal”, we should all in theory be waiting at the finish line and stop dating men our own level 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:29 AM
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Well put 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:19 PM
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Yeah, damned if you do, damned if you don’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:18 PM
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Yup 😂 our harshest judges!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:18 PM
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I feel your pain. I have the same issue! All we can do is really try to do the best, and accept the rest 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:16 PM
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That is the female reality today. That’s why it pisses me off so much how men screech about us “having it easy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:14 PM
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Typical finger pointing at the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:13 PM
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Then incels go about saying we’re loved for just existing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 08:11 PM
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Exactly. Basically you can either dip out of the game with self-respect or die trying 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:35 PM
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Absolutely poetic and absolutely true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 08:05 PM
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Savage 😂 I like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 08:03 PM
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What the actual fuck? Just when you think their audacity has reached its limit and they cannot come up with anything new - the horizon expands… If it’s that bad - get them all fleshlights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 04:48 PM
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Spot on. And the fact he was so non-chalant, spending days between texts/calls. Reading her her message and not replying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:40 PM
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She’s stunning. Would have never guessed she’s in her forties! Girl projected her infatuation on him, read into his reactions a bit too much, created a fantasy world in her heard that this was destiny, then pushed for sex waaay too early. He’s a low-balling, disrespectful douche, but she kind of invited him to exploit her vulnerabilities by over-investing… He just went along. She’s a beautiful soul, but girl needs to take the Disney glasses off… He was not going out of his way to pursue her (she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:10 PM
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Queens both the girlfriend and the mom 🤣⭐️ serves him right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 10:58 PM
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Women have not succeeded in meeting their relationship goals? Where? 😂 Women in happy relationships and marriages all over the place. I think it’s you who missed your “gotcha”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:09 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 10:48 AM
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I’d also add that it’s a bit weird to call yourself “kind” as it’s not an objective matter. Reminds me of men referring to themselves as “nice guys” - you’re probably not that nice if you have to say it out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 07:52 AM
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Very well put! Women need to stop going with the flow. Say yes to you, and no to pleasing others all the time. Please you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:20 PM
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Didn’t want or need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:59 PM
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Absolutely is. The thing about unsuccessful men who can’t score with women - they really want to be the successful guy. They have a really strong inferiority complex, and because they can’t get laid themselves, they CRAVE to be the guy many women would date, because that would finally let them quench the thirst and fuck an endless supply of successful women. The losers basically project their unfulfilled desires onto high-status men, but the thing is - successful/handsome men are not a uniform s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:53 PM
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You are doomed to be his “friend” now 😂 Condolences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:59 AM
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“So much fun”? 😂wtf? I swear, these dudes are self-obsessed to the point of no return. He doesn’t need a woman. He can literally have the same amount of “fun” by himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:56 AM
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I noticed myself doing this when I was truly invested and in love with this one guy, and had all my eggs in his basket. I would obsess over how to explain/how to communicate my anger to him in a non-offensive way. His reaction was to either deflect/make up excuses/or just outright ignore me, making me feel like absolute shit. After many days of crying, and some years of moving on, I met the same guy years later. I was in a different mental state (mind you, I looked almost exactly the same, just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:25 AM
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Agreed, hence why I mentioned this further up the comment chain - only attempt to help if you can do it anonymously/without jeopardising your career. Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 06:10 AM
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“How can I get over him being a depraved douchebag?” You can dump his ass, that’s how you get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:44 PM
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I’d tell the wife anyway 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:20 PM
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And you know this with absolute certainty, for each and every individual situation? I would rather assume for the worst, than give the benefit of the doubt. After all, if the wife -does- know about the mistress and is ok, she won’t care if you tell her. But if she doesn’t? We always assume that if someone is doing something with confidence and out in the open - that they are doing something “natural”, “normal”, “agreed upon by everyone”. In reality it might be that the husband has -that- much au…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:58 PM
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Agreed, but the only different way is not telling them and pretending nothing happened. This benefits only the men as their spouses cannot make an informed decision about whether or not to stay with the cheating husband, and shows the men that their actions will have no social consequences (so they will continue cheating).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:39 AM
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Sending you a huge hug ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:21 AM
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Very interesting take, I see what you mean about the limited exposure of women in the US to information that would benefit them. I wonder why that is, if it is inherently patriarchal structures and its’ control over media and information, and how did this develop differently in anthropological terms, to say, European countries? I am in the UK and I can definitely see how differently women’s issues are treated here (even in terms like maternal leave etc) but I might be wrong as my perceptions com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:04 AM
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Spot on! Men as a collective can’t ride the gravy train forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:01 AM
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And how do we know that the wives are definitely in on this? See, the “keep your mouth shut” advice reminds me a lot of that Matt Hussey situation where he berated a podcast listener for wanting to tell her date’s partner that he’s cheating. I say yes, try to suss the situation out if you have the time/opportunity to (try not to put your career at risk), but if you have a chance to anonymously open another woman’s eyes to the depravity of their spouse - do it. Do it and have no remorse. That’s w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 08:32 AM
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I think women are wising up thanks to FDS, and other FDS-inspired content-creators. And redpill -inspired media for men make our job easier in a way as their ideologies are in full display on the internet for women to see. Now women can analyse the mind processes behind shitty behaviour, and how their actions are motivated. On the other hand, in a cynical way, I guess the more pickmes get burned, the more they will eventually come to the same realisations that we have come to. And perhaps one da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:37 AM
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I’m so sorry these things happened to you. These people were absolute scum.. and then men wonder why women are flaky and refuse to date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:08 AM
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Agreed, it’s a never-ending cycle of dumbassery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:31 AM
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That’s a tricky one.. I would say doing what you’re already doing - avoiding her as much as you can. And just ignoring - that’s all you can do really? Confronting her about it doesn’t seem like it would be fruitful - she seems like the kind of person to just dig her heels in about you being the bad guy in her story. So just ignore I guess? Edit: I would also keep and eye out for the guy’s reactions. He could have given her more than enough reasons to crush on him. Wouldn’t assume he’s HVM just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:18 AM
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And they find this shit endearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:47 PM
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One has to ask why he’s posting this stuff and what kind of reaction he’s expecting to get lol, I bet you’re not the only one to observe how weird this whole situation is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:18 PM
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Self-love is the key ❤️ I’m so sorry you went through this and happy that you have healed since, here’s to never letting another undeserving man into your life, sis 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:03 PM
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Well, I would argue that counting someone’s sexual partners has gained a misogynistic undertone only because it is weaponised by many men to decide whether a woman is “worthy” of commitment - in and of itself sexual partners mean nothing. My argument is that if men try to put such an onus on this measure being the criteria by which to measure women’s desirability - they are shooting themselves in the foot, because at the other end of the stick is a man who devalues intimacy and does not commit t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 06:36 PM
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I often think about how the libfem/sex-pozzyness affects the young and how a lot of these mistakes coincidentally happen when we are quite young. I guess for a lot of us it takes time (and FDS) to undo some of the damage before we reach the right path
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:59 PM
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😂😂😂 YES!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:43 PM
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This stinks of p**dophilia. I’m kind of worried for the young daughter’s future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:32 PM
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I’m not saying that women’s behaviour is a direct result of men’s behaviour - the discussion is more about societal (and as you’ve pointed out - men’s) perception than the actual fact and why women are blamed for the choices and actions of both partners in these interactions. And the numbers I provided are arbitrary, just to provide an example. If I am to discuss the viewpoint of what is mainstream male opinion, I would need to use some kind of a guideline. It is not a moral judgement on my part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:45 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I agree that it is a difficult subject to tackle as it’s always tricky differentiating personal choice from societal influence. Like you have mentioned, this is very evident in women who do SW or related activities, but what about a demographic like the one frequently mentioned in purple pill - young female college students? Is there a different dynamic there? Edit:typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:12 PM
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You can tell this man is an abuser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:43 PM
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What a fucking psychopath family. She needs to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:24 PM
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Agree 100% on the romance thing. Nowadays, I don’t get into a relationship with a man if I don’t feel he’s going to be romantic in it. It’s a give&take, baby. You don’t make me feel loved - I won’t make you feel wanted. Simple 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:45 PM
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Clearly they don’t have enough to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:31 PM
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So hopeful that she does. Makes me happy to see men who try to put women at a disadvantage in marriage, get served their own medicine 😊Like the high-earning woman who asked her husband to pay compensation for childbirth. We need more stories like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:53 PM
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And the non-chalant way he brushes her concerns off… Why not just show her the papers if it’s just a game, my dude 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:49 PM
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They always need to make everything about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:56 PM
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Yeah, agreed not a good or bad thing in and of itself. But I think taken as part of a complex of positive, respectful and appreciative attitudes towards women - it can be a sign of a man that understands women’s contribution and expresses appreciation.. If it only surfaces on Women’s day and only towards random women while neglecting their own partner/family members/close friends then it’s definitely “good guy syndrome”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:40 PM
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I think it might also depend where you are from? This festivity could be more widespread in Europe/Americas.. I might be wrong though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:16 PM
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Only 5 women out of 200 and they still have a problem with Women’s day? Astounding. I really do not get this obsession of some men with trying to ruin any positive experience in a woman’s life. Another commenter quoted a statistic where there’s a spike in men googling “men’s day” on Women’s day. How sad and petty. Though at least your husband’s company at the very least tried to raise awareness of this day by celebrating it.. The overwhelming majority of companies don’t so it is quite nice, desp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:54 PM
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More of a stink than any other holiday, I should think.. Because celebrating women’s day is somehow translated into us celebrating our “superiority”, according to them 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:58 PM
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I can imagine the screeching from low value men 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:32 PM
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Yeah, I find it so ironic how they justify what they say with it “just being a joke” because their mothers and grandmothers found it funny, so SURELY any woman would find it hilarious? Surely it’s not because women were quite literal slaves who got beaten up for simply being in the same space as a man who was upset for whatever reason, let alone disagreeing with one? But indeed when women start joking about their man being their credit card or joking about cutting their balls off, suddenly the l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:03 PM
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What the fuck. She meant she wouldn’t want to be with a guy who is capable of losing control over his ability to beat someone up (a woman). But this guy took it as her undermining his ability (as in physical capability, not the intention) to beat a woman up? He is sick. Literally trying to prove to your gf that you CAN beat her up? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:34 PM
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Nah, they are able to. They just choose not to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 11:16 AM
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Yeah, there’s really no fulfilling end-game for these dudes. Thank you for your insight 🙏 Wish these men outed themselves quicker, the amount of time these guys manage to waste in a woman’s life is so infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:39 PM
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Oh my fucking God. What in the world did I just read… Is this really happening? Is this ACTUALLY a thing?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:50 PM
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It’s a tad strange coming from Peterson as I’m sure in another video somewhere he had said that “romance is useless”, but I’ll take that anyway. Dating apps are only useful for getting short-term validation but not a good investment in order to find a longterm partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:47 PM
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Yeah, can’t make this shit up 😂 or well I guess you can with enough audacity 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:51 PM
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He looks like an absolute troll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:06 PM
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Dear Lord, thank you for Gail’s existence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:05 PM
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Simon still running from his enemies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:04 PM
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The more I live, the more I start realising there really is no such thing as “toxic femininity”. There’s only justified, healthy reactions of women to bad behaviour from men. And yes, sometimes that means mirroring them. And yes again, sometimes to counteract an asshole you have to be a bit of an asshole 🤷‍♀️But even the most hardcore comments I’ve seen so far on FDS do not match what you see in other parts of the internet from men about women (example the guy who compared a woman’s body to a pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:59 PM
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Because we are now the “privileged” class 😂I don’t think these “men” can emasculate themselves any more than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:15 PM
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THIS. So much this post. This is why Red pill has thrived for the last decade - because of the existence of pickmes. If certain women stopped trying to pander to the male ego in return for crumbles, most men would very quickly sober up to the fact that virtually all normal women need to see effort/investment to feel loved, and to feel safe enough to give love. But as long as pickmes exist, the manosphere continues in its self-delusion of thinking they can manipulate women into a loving relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:03 PM
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This is why single women live longer than married women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:56 PM
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To every action there is a reaction. FDS is our reaction to your bullshit, scrotes 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:53 PM
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Agreed, it’s mostly only good for chatting/developing your vetting muscle 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:47 PM
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Well said. The irony is that every single one of us here will have heard, generation after generation, complaints from men about how women are “so clingy”, “so gold-digging”, “so emotional”. So now we’ve learned to be more detached, more financially self-sufficient and more emotionally stable than they are. Our grandmothers and mothers encouraged us to be complete, well-rounded, self-contained badasses, so that we don’t need to suffer like they did. And what does Red pill respond with? Encourage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:38 PM
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The “like” counter is like a yoyo right now 😂 mad little beasts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:27 PM
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Read it now. Ignore my previous comment 🤦‍♀️ back to Rape Island.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:08 PM
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Oh, I did not know this part. In that case - definitely a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:06 PM
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I actually really respect this. Yeah we can argue that his cluelessness is off-putting. But I like that he was determined to get his marriage back - and he pushed until he succeeded, in an organic way, that benefits his wife. Somewhere in that head of his a flashlight has lit up. I wouldn’t call him an HVM just yet, but definitely on the right path to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:53 AM
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😂 bet his ass wasn’t feeling as festive sitting on the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:06 AM
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This is an absolutely wonderful idea! Some Asian countries already have menstrual day policies, sad how far behind West is! Hope we will get to a point where this is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:51 AM
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You are so brave! Sorry for everything you had to endure! All the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:43 AM
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What did he do though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:59 PM
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10 years later, this guy saves up for a house with her round-up change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:22 PM
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What the fuck did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:03 PM
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Bar? What’s a bar? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:56 PM
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For sure 🙄Bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:05 PM
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“And don’t you dare touch it until procrastination ensues!” 😂 Because God forbid you show initiative in doing the laundry you wear?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:53 AM
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I found this Subreddit through the VICE article 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:33 PM
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True about not labelling someone HVM prematurely should be common sense. My point was that in our vetting process, swinging too far to the other side can be a thing, and in my eyes akin to a desperate pick-me trying too hard to be an ass by devaluing treatment that is actually good. Because that shit is what scrotes cling onto when explaining their immorality (not that it should make a difference in our strategy - but still). It’s all about balance and remembering to not only pay attention to an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:04 PM
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I agree with you that women should not be carried away by the bare minimum so if a goodnight text makes you melt - you’ve got a problem! However - and some may disagree with me on this - I also firmly believe that HVM are HVM for a reason. They will protect their own dignity as much as they protect yours, so not even acknowledging a truly value gesture does not seem HVW to me. Again, strictly my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:34 PM
1

When did I mention that? I wouldn’t be writing a post about someone I wasn’t remotely interested in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:02 PM
5

Thank you, that is the reality check 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:04 AM
3

Thank you! Makes more sense when put into perspective!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:34 AM
1

What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:28 AM
4

I found that suspicious too! But also ironic because now he is saying after the Covid lockdown he feels too lonely to live in the UK and wants to go back to his country to live with his parents (I assume). And Just the fact that he told me about these shortcomings of his, felt like a red flag. There is plenty of ways to learn how to date/take care of women. At the very least, he could have asked me, instead of having a ready excuse for why not to try...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:26 AM
6

Spot on, Thank you for that! You voiced everything that’s been playing in the back of my head for the last year.. I honestly thought I was being crazy. Even though I do feel sorry for him, and in many ways wish I could do something about this situation, I understand that it’s not my place to do anything and best just to keep moving forward with my own life and continue vetting whoever enters my life. A learning experience indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:12 AM
4

Thank you! Time to take rose-coloured glasses off ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:43 PM
13

I actually asked him why he wouldn’t simply find a woman that is into that, on OLD. And he said there are none lol jokingly told him he should put this in his description, but he came back with “people would bully me, I don’t want that reputation”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:00 PM
10

Yeah, that stood out to me as weird at the very least. But also kind of objectifying and unfair? He did not even seem 100% sure he would stay with this woman after “exploring” these kinks with her..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:45 PM
19

Yeah, I guess hearing it from someone else confirms what’s in the back of my head. It’s so easy to be in denial when you get good treatment one moment, then stonewalling the next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:38 PM
33

I am against sending nudes, whoever you are. Also was thinking about something a while ago, but in regards to men’s nudes (ie dick picks). What if the women who got these, added them on social media and just posted them to their wall, for all the man’s friends/family/co-workers to see? Just as a social experiment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:47 PM
5

No wonder streets aren’t safe for women 😒 these blokes direct all of their “masculinity” at terrorising their poor SO’s, instead of applying it where it’s due.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:06 AM
2

Oh, perhaps that was the term he used 🤔Either way.. seems degrading to the very “feminine, nurturing and dependable” women they seem to otherwise glorify...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:39 AM
3

It’s disgusting 🤮Their “morals” go out the window once in a different country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:27 AM
4

Funnily enough, I had spoken to another US guy on OLD before that, and he had told me the same thing. They don’t even hide it - marriage is just an extra benefit to them, but funnily enough the same men refer to the women that depend on them as “needappotamus” 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:25 AM
6

Seems they married pretty young and she had no financial agency of her own, or good family support. The saddest thing is she did not seem deluded or “brainwashed” into thinking it was ok, hence why she did not attack me/try to justify his shit. I really hope she figured out a way tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:32 AM
15

Thank you, it really was a bullet dodged... And this guy was at Lakenheath actually! It seems a lot of them think moving abroad will be their ticket to unhindered extra-marital sex, with no accountability whatsoever... sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:45 PM
6

Absolutely loved the podcast. So informative, lighthearted and easy to listen to. Not sure what the talkers’ handles are, but the girl who hosts the show has a gorgeous voice. Sounds like my childhood best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:57 PM
2

A while ago, I was watching a series called “Extreme Cheapskates” where people would do weird shit like that to save money. I kind of wonder if this nesting thing was similar to that? Regardless though - if you are this cheap and weird, don’t be looking for a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:35 PM
4

“My kids and family apologize for the inconvenience as well”. I am sure they don’t, but you obviously need to make it seem like you are a “nice, repenting family guy”, by playing the emotional card. I feel bad for his children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:55 PM
1

I feel your pain and am in very much the same situation... The struggle is real. Especially with covid. Hope you get through this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:43 PM
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