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That's an extreme exception and not the rule. The rule is the man pays either way. Personally I don't disagree with that, as if he doesn't pay for his responsibilities it's left to the taxpayers to assist much of the time. What I don't like is the hypocrisy of modern feminists wanting equality but only on certain things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:07 AM
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So special rules for women that harm men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:02 AM
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Do you really think there's not a lot of guys who look back and think about it? Or that there aren't men who are sad and angry that the woman chose abortion? I don't like the concept of abortion or financial abortion, but I do agree that it's wrong to have one but not the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:58 AM
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Consent to sex isn't consent to pregnancy or parenthood. Unless you're a man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:53 AM
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What's there to feel guilty about? Do you think you killed a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:51 AM
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Just go to a dive bar and hit on desperate looking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:54 PM
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Me, I upvote any thread and most comments I respond to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:51 PM
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I haven't even fully read the sidebar on this sub. All the different labelling of stuff into different "pills" is ridiculous in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:22 PM
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Whatever people are into sex wise is fine so long as both parties are happy with the arrangement. Listening to my wifes tales from her friends it sounds like she's the only one who hasn't tried it. I'm little on the bigger side so it's not something she's interested in, and I'm honestly not interested in it myself. But according to my wife none of her friends actually enjoy it at all, and they do it soley becuase they feel it's expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:20 PM
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But why though? Why would you want to do anal if you know it's not pleasant for your partner? There a perfectly good "hole" right next to the anus that's designed for sexual intercourse, it's even self lubricating
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:47 PM
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It's too much porn usage that causes guys to be interested in anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:13 PM
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Well that's not how I engage in conversation with people. If you said "healing crystals cure cancer 5% of the time", I'd respond with "Wow, I didn't know that, where did you learn about that?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:14 PM
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Height, good looks, and a fairly big head. I'm also not a hipster or a nerd. It's just been a signature look for over 20 years. I've never really liked baseball caps so fedoras became my thing. Bowler hats in my opinion are very difficult to pull off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:08 PM
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TIL, my take on it is that you need to be to pull it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:05 PM
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Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:04 PM
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Fairly new in terms of social media stuff (yes reddit is social media). I mean my kids corrected me about a month show that it's pronunciated meeeemm, and not me-me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:03 PM
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Not really no. I've been collecting fedoras for 20 years. What happened in 2010 with fedoras?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:01 PM
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No I'm not implying anything of the sort. If I say "Men have disgusting farts after drinking Guiness all night". It in no way implies that women don't have disgusting farts after drinking Guinness all night. When you take the mindset you're talking about to the extreme you end up like lillithofbabylon
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:58 PM
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Shit, am I not allowed to wear fedoras? I have about 20 of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:55 PM
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Why though? The conversation they were initating was about women or about men, not about people. It's no different to me saying there really needs to be more funding for a diabetes cure, and for you to try and derail the conversation by asking "what about cancer research?". Well, what about cancer research, we're discussing diabetes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:51 PM
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Wangland might be an actual possibility by 2030
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:46 PM
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Bad teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:45 PM
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That you think it's all pre-determined, but also don't think you can sit back and wait for it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:44 PM
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The part that's not consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:20 PM
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According to you it is though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:45 PM
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No it's not fair as they chose their partner and later changed "the rules"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:45 PM
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Well in that case whether you'll meet someone is already destined and predetermined, so you might as well not worry about it as there's nothing you can do either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:43 PM
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He likes white knighting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:02 PM
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Okay. Back to my question, did you have a choice to respond to my last question? Yes or No? Do you really think physics forced you to answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:00 PM
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It is that simple. I'm a prolific reader and have a thirst for knowledge. I had to learn along time ago that most of the time you just have to let people tell their stories, and wonder about things on their own. You don't need to fill in the blanks for people. To me it seems like you lack emotional intelligence and don't understand how to socially interact.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:59 PM
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You just need to learn when and when not to share your knowledge, no one likes a know it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:49 PM
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What makes you think you don't have free will? Do you have a choice in whether you respond to this comment or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:46 PM
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Morals differ from country to country, from culture to culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:42 PM
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the world is a harsh brutal place and most people don't even know 1% of it. Most people are aware of this, they simply prefer to live in their bubble because there's no point in stressing about things you can't change
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:39 PM
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Because only one person does not want sex. It's one thing if someone had no interest in sex in general, it's an entirely different issue if they only don't want sex with their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:33 PM
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Does anyone dispute that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:30 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:22 PM
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It's only when you get into the 8+ category (and this can be relative to location - a Midwest "8" can look different than an LA "8") that men tend to have the advantage. Can you explain this more? Are you saying there more 8's in LA so they are common and less valuable?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:21 PM
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This might be true for a small handful of men, but they would be the exception abd not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:19 PM
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Most of that would depend on what was agreed before marriage. What I'm getting from the responses in this post is that couples should discuss this stuff in detail before marriage, and come to an agreement about minimum standards and expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:42 PM
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and much much more damaging than someone simply being sexually incompatible with you. Why do you say that? The dilemma is that they were sexually compatible, but one partner changed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:39 PM
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That's probably what most people in the situation should do once they've had enough of being neglected. Hopefully it would make their partner realize how shitty they are being made to feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:19 PM
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If my spouse couldn’t or wasn’t willing to have sex for a significant period, and they weren’t willing to allow me to be ethically non-monogamous, then I’d leave. I understood that, hence my last comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:17 PM
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I already did
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:04 PM
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Yeah, that's the attitude of most women who don't care about sex, regardless of how miserable their husbands are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 10:05 PM
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It's a moral dilemma. Not an issue I'm having myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:18 PM
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Okay, now can you address the moral dilemma in my post?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:16 PM
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Why bother getting married if that's your attitude about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:14 PM
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Why would she care, she's the one who doesn't want sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:13 PM
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Can you explain why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:13 PM
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This is a hypothetical debate, it's not about me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:12 PM
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That's Another one where I don't see the appeal
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:02 PM
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Well a perfectly logical solution is for the other party to start having sex again.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:48 PM
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My question in my post is Why should it be considered cheating if the other person doesn't want sex anyway. You're not giving someone else something your partner desires/wants, you're not neglecting their needs, and if anything you're giving them an easy out from their own nelgect.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:37 PM
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No one just stops wanting Sex with someone they love there this is the big issue with your example. Visit r/deadbedrooms this is extremely common.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:35 PM
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So, I'll ask again, why the mental gymnastics to justify hurting someone else? It's a hypothetical to discuss a moral dilemma. So, I'll ask again, why the mental gymnastics to justify hurting someone else? And again, why should they feel hurt? They should possibly be grateful that they get all the benefits while getting an out for their neglect of their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:34 PM
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You don’t stay in an unhappy situation or with someone who doesn’t respect you even if you are married you leave For those who believe in marriage that's not how it works. In your example it’s been a year of no sex for this couple have they talked about why the person doesn’t want sex or isn’t interested? The one being neglected had tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:32 PM
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Well in reality why should they care if they didn't want sex anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:18 PM
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Was the no sex mutually agreed upon? Usually not
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:17 PM
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Ideally yes, but most people aren't okay with an open relationship on one side only
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:16 PM
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Why is it on the neglected person? Why doesn't the other person leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 06:19 PM
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Well you can't imprison someone for hurting your feelings, so maybe focusing on what crime they committed is a better option?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 06:17 PM
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If a woman is getting together with a men who doesn't hold women in high regard, what does that say about her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:21 PM
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I completely disagree unless both people are asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:19 PM
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If she's not enjoying it then that's a seperate issue that needs addressing by exploring why.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:19 PM
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So long as your BF/GF agrees then I agree. I think most couples expect exclusivity though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:13 PM
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So do you want and expect your wife to have sex with you even when she won’t enjoy it? Sometimes yes, as she does enjoy it once it starts, and likewise I'll have sex with her when I'm not in the mood as I enjoy it once it starts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:11 PM
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No one found her interesting, she was very hot though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:09 PM
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And she has the body of an young teenage boy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:07 PM
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I doubt any woman would be like “I expect my husband to never have sex again”. Take a peek at r/deadbedrooms. And no, as ex therapist would agree that if a woman previously enjoyed sex, and then suddenly doesn’t, something changed. Find out what changed. They'll all tell you the same thing, it's a responsive sexual desire that's the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:06 PM
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Again, if they are married it's not as simple as "just leave". Do you really thi I so little of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:04 PM
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Sex is expected in the vast majority of relationships. It's naive and stupid to think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:03 PM
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The fact that the partner doesn't want sex is irrelevant in regard to the definition of infidelity. Wouldn't it be a form of infidelity if one person no longer wants sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:02 PM
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Women want sex with their partner just as much as men do. If she previously enjoyed having sex with him, and suddenly doesn’t, then something changed. Every sex therapist will tell you that this usually isn't true. What if she stopped having sex with you because you weren’t giving her the emotional and romantic things she needed to feel safe enough to have sex with you? The she should tell him that's the reason and have sex when he does those things. Please tell me what’s the harm in asking for …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:00 PM
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Are men actually attracted to paying for women? Yes and no. The point is equality and being reciprocal. Reciprocal can be monetary or something else of value.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:55 PM
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How is calling a baby a baby, the same as calling a baby an adult? Weirdly enough, we only talk about the right to life when talking about what claims a foetus apparently should have. Yet we aren't supposed to treat then as people in any other way. Curious.) We don't only talk about it that way. Plenty of people will say it's abuse to drink or take drugs while pregnant. Many if not most do consider it murder if someone was to force an abortion or miscarriage one women even though it's not legall…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:52 PM
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How is entertaining the idea of banging someone else behind their SO's back "trying to honor vows"? They're stuck between a rock and a hard place. They're in an impossible dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:49 PM
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I won't remain friends with cheaters who cannot take responsibility because I don't want to be friends with people who cannot take accountability or responsibility for their actions. Curious, will you remain friends with people who cause the cheating by denying their partners sex? Do you hold them to the same standard and say "If you don't want sex then you should leave, stop making them miserable, that's just cruel and evil". If not, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:39 PM
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No one is suggesting jumping straight to infidelity. My post was: Should it really be considered cheating if one person doesn't want sex anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:34 PM
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and move toward an amicable divorce rather than her finding out you humiliated and betrayed her by cheating? Why would she feel humiliated or betrayed if she didn't want sex? People do not just stop having sex for no reason. You need to realize that. Women enjoy sex. If she was enjoying sex with you, then suddenly isn’t, then something is wrong. You're in for a very rude awakening. The number one complaint I hear from all my male friends is the frequency of sex dying in their relationship/marria…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:32 PM
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Because they made a commitment and vows, and they are trying to do the best they can to honour those vows. From my short time on this sub I'm starting to realize that 80%+ of women initating divorces is exactly because they don't mean the vows they take.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:29 PM
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If they aren't having sex, then the relationship isn't sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:27 PM
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Well at least we agree on something
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:26 PM
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Why are you so stuck on cheating when you can just leave a relationship with a woman that, according to you, has no interest in sleeping with you? I should probably have made the post soley about married couples. Cheating is wrong. You can just leave the relationship or ask her to open in. No need to lie. I'm starting to understand more that this really is women's attitude. It's no wonder 80%+ of divorces are initiated by women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:24 PM
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Is it the fear they might exercise their right to leave? Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:13 PM
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mo·nog·a·mous /məˈnäɡəməs/ adjective involving marriage to one person at a time. "under Canadian law all marriages must be monogamous" having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time. "she admits that she has never been strictly monogamous" ZOOLOGY having only one mate at a time. "penguins form monogamous couples for breeding purposes"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:12 PM
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So should we also pretend that one party denying the other sex should be consequenceless? Let's say your sisters/friends marriage ends because her husband asks for a divorce due to a sexless marriage. Who do you have the most sympathy for, the husband or the wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:11 PM
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Cheating doesn’t fix the problem at any level. It fixes it on nearly every level. He's sexually happy, she's happy he's not nagging her or talking about it, and the marriage continues happily.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:08 PM
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And good luck in an eventual divorce if your partner finds proof of your cheating. Not sure what that means?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:06 PM
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people are often different in real life than they are online these days. I completely disagree. Like with alcohol, the just lose their filter when online. What you see online is the real them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:05 PM
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you can’t have a contract minimum because there are periods in life when both parties want sex less. If both don't want it, there's no issue. the solution is constant communication and both parties being equally invested in the other’s satisfaction and happiness. this would involve a lower libido (LL) partner understanding their partner’s needs as much as an HL partner does not want to compromise the LL partner’s boundaries. I agree, but the reality is that even when things are great this doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:04 PM
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So let's say it's been a year, now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:02 PM
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Yes, unfortunately far too many men honour their vows when the wife is not doing so, maybe that's the real crux of the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:56 PM
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How is it betraying trust if she doesn't want sex anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:55 PM
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A monogamous relationship is surprise surprise defined by being monogamous, not by having sex. Monogamous: having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time. If there's no sex in the marriage then it's not monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:54 PM
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Why are you putting all the responsibility on the nan if she's the one who changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:52 PM
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If her need is to not have sex, why does your need trump her need of bodily integrity? Well in my opinion it only matters if one party changes the status quo. If you entered into marriage when you had sexless relationship you shouldn't expect things to change and likewise if you entered into a marriage where sex was frequent you shouldn't expect that to change
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:51 PM
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“so do you believe most women on this reddit are not ‘agreeable 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:48 PM
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You ain't getting my love and support while fucking someone else, just because I'm not fucking your right now. Why? Why should the person being denied sex still offer support?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:44 PM
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And most do try to fix it. You're making it sound like leaving is an easy option, in a marriage it's far from an easy option.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:42 PM
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Let's be real here, most people are not just willy nilly cheating on their spouse. It usually starts after a long period of time of the person being denied sex trying to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:41 PM
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Is there not also an equivalent expectation that regular sex is an expectation for a monogamous relationship? Is that something you think should be explicitly talked about, and should be put in marrisge vows?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:39 PM
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Do you know of any men who would consent to entering a sexless marriage (it's a yes or no question)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:37 PM
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Do you think men don't need to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:36 PM
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I was keeping it simple, yes that was my example. It wasn't a direct comparison it was an analogy. Also, why would you want to stay with someone who doesn’t even want to have sex with you? Perhaps the people are married? Perhaps they have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:34 PM
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Even if you want to call a developing foetus a baby, I'm saying by definition a fetus is a developing human baby. It's not a giraffe. What "moral" claims can a one day old baby make that a fetus can't?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:32 PM
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Sure there is. I don't know a single man who would consent to entering a sexless marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:30 PM
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If it's just a BF/GF relationship you should most definitely end it, but if you're married that's an entirely different thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:29 PM
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The other option is for the party who's denying sex to start having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:27 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:23 PM
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But why is it a betrayal if it's not something they want anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:22 PM
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So why would we pretend like it's gonna be consequence-free? Are you referring to the "cheating" or the no sex in the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:22 PM
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My question is should it be considered cheating if the other person doesn't want sex anyway? If you desperately wanted/needed to watch The Batchelorette, but your partner doesn't, is it cheating if you watch it without him?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:20 PM
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What if BOTH people don't freely consent to no sex in the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:17 PM
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I don't think many men would disagree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:16 PM
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I agree. What do you think is the solution here? An agreement to have sex a certain minimum number of times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:14 PM
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I agree, but why is it okay for one partner to deny the other what they consider a basic need. Also I'm not referring to relationships where sex was never part of the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:11 PM
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But should it be that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:03 PM
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do you believe most women on this reddit are not agreeable and non argumentative? Yes, except it's argumentative (not non argumentative)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:53 PM
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If that's the case she should make that known to her partner before she commits. To be honest I've never understood men who don't care if their woman doesn't orgasm. If they don't care about it, then it's their own fault .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:49 PM
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Agreeable non argumentative ones
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:44 PM
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Why? One person says "I don't want the baby, and won't support it". The other says "I don't want the baby so I'm going to kill it" Note: I'm only referring to "deadbeat dads" who are branded that way when they never wanted the kids from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:42 PM
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Why though? They aren't giving someone else something you want. They aren't denying you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:33 PM
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It’s probably because I’m a women and don’t have the sex drive men do. Must be horrible to have that level of sex drive. Imagine if you need 10 gallons of water a week to survive, but your spouse controls all the way we supply but only gives you 20% of what you need. I mean it does take her 20 minutes to fetch the water, so I guess it's understandable why she doesn't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:32 PM
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What baffles me is that so many women don't get it, and fail to realise the absolute power that they wield. A few years back one of my wifes friends was bitching that she noticed her husband is amazing to her and super attentive, helping with chores etc for about 2-3 days after they have sex, but then starts slacking off again. My wife basically told her that maybe she should just have sex more often. The friend wasn't having any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:30 PM
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Is it really cheating if the other person doesn't want sex anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:26 PM
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One of them hinges on a metaphysical claim about what a baby, or murder, is, the other doesn't. Not really, we can just the dictionary definitions. Even if you want to call if a fetus that's still a human baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:15 PM
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There's a ginormous difference between a relationship and a marriage though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:14 PM
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Okay. If he's a deadbeat for not stepping up for a baby he never wanted. Is it fair to call her a baby murderer?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:06 PM
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They want them and are willing to provide in return. The difference is in the level of standards. Women standards are often much, much higher than men's are though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:03 PM
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If that's the agreement I'd estimate 99% of men will follow it. From what I've seen men get tired of being rejected when they do fulfill their part. They take their women on dates and still don't get sex, so eventually they say "why the fuck do I bother anymore, there's nothing in it for me".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:02 PM
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Oh, is that something that you see men running away from? I am being serious. Do you honestly think it's okay for one person in a commited relationship to just say "no more sex" and still expect the relationship to be successful, or for their partner to remain 100% loyal?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:58 PM
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In my experience yes most men want children, and they also want a partner who wants to be a loving mother and devote herself that life. It was certainly a major factor in why I fell in love with my wife. I.knew she'd be an amazing mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:55 PM
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“Having sex” is not part of anyone’s vows. Staying monogamous however is. So who’s really breaking the vows. A man can leave a dead bedroom marriage if he wants to. I would support that honestly rather than cheating. Maybe that's the issue. Maybe women need to have sex written into the vows so they'll take it seriously that sex is an integral part of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:53 PM
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How are they going to forego them? Well not having kids for one. I know a lot of men who would never have.had kids if they knew their wives expectations of what raising kids entails. Starve in an unhygenically dirty house where their children run around alone all day? Not starve, but yes eating less healthy easy to make food, and yes living in a more dirty home. I fail to see how they're not benefited by someone else taking care of them. I wasn't saying they don't benefit. I was saying they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:50 PM
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He's willing to work on it, she's not. He still honours all his other vows and wants to engage in sex with her but she rejects him. Now what? Divorce again? It seems like you might be saying women are not as willing to stick by their vows, and see marriage.as something you can just throw away but men do not
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:46 PM
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Is he still a deadbeat dad if he never wanted the baby? Which is worse that sort of deadbeat dad, or a baby murderer?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:42 PM
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Whereas a man who doesn't hold women in high regard probably isn't going to be as intimidated, amirite? Yes you're right. Now think about what that says about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:40 PM
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Awesome. What did she tell you women bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:37 PM
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Bonus points if you grab their ass while doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:36 PM
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The was the majority of women responding were saying they made more than their partners. Why are you getting stuck on that one point?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:30 PM
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Most of the women saying that in the other thread said they were higher income, actually. Which funny enough might indicate that this sub (or probably reddit in general) attracts a certain type of women that's definitely not in the majority of women, and isn't the type of woman the majority of men are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:28 PM
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What's your solution to a sexless marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:25 PM
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Their husbands will very often be willing to forego the benefits you are referring to, most women will not. Women do it mainly for their own benefit and their husbands just get to enjoy some benefits from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:24 PM
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Men expect their desires to be fulfilled but then don’t fulfill the woman’s desires outside of the bedroom. If a woman makes those desires known, I can almost 100% guarantee you that their man will fulfill them in return for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:16 PM
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Well if your partner doesn't want to have sex with you, and your choices are to abandon them or to seek what's missing elsewhere, many of not most men will see what I missing elsewhere and still devote the majority of their lives to their spouse and children
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:13 PM
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Married women are more likely to give up their free time, careers, money and happiness than married men, who often gain these things and just continue as normal without sacrificing much in marriage. How often are women doing this mainly for their husbands benefit? I don't think it's often. Women who give up those things usually do so because they want a different lifestyle or becuase of kids, not because of their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:03 PM
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That's a good example and it proves cancel culture is a real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:01 PM
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Nothing weird about it at all. I'm an entrepreneur and in my experience most people just don't have the discipline for it. When you make your own schedule and own hours, you need to be incredibly disciplined
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:50 PM
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No, the divorce rates have been dropping almost annually for 30 years
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:41 PM
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When the old one breaks. I recently upgraded from a Samsung S8 to the S22 Ultra
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:34 PM
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Well can you explain why you think it's sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:29 PM
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Well you clearly have no interest in a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 05:22 PM
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Well I've never taken any other vows, and don't intend to. I don't think marriage is for everyone, and I think way too many people don't fully acknowledge what they are committing to. About 10 years ago two of my best friends were supposed to get married. They were madly in love and were perfect for each other in almost every way. But about 2 months before the wedding he called it all off. The reason was that they had discussed certain goals and one of them was about moving, but she wanted to st…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:54 PM
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Women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:44 PM
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Women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:44 PM
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Anger on my opinion is the easiest of emotions. Men resort to anger because they don't know what the other emotions they are feeling are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:42 PM
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Because of Love. You're also forced to work things out if you both believe the vows you took.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:10 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:58 PM
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You can't report someone ince they've blocked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:57 PM
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Because there's tax benefits inheritance benefits, children involved and other benefits such as medical power of attorney, airo MN atic visa privileges
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:55 PM
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You guys need to go to marriage counseling, especially if you're about to retire
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:20 PM
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Yeah, far too many people get married for the wrong reasons. Fat too many don't take the commitment of what they are doing seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:18 PM
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No they can't. In crazy places like canada or Australia I believe they can though Edit: that being said, I do think there are exceptions if you pretended to be married, and presented yourself as husband and wife, and told people you were married ( even though you weren't)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:14 PM
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I'm married almost 20 years. The government part of it is the least important part. It's a vow and commitment to always remember our love and that we are a team that can work through anything
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:13 PM
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If my wife died I think I'd probably remarry. But if we divorced I don't think I'd ever remarry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:10 PM
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Whatever floats your boat. I live in a college town and it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:07 PM
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Ah, I see what you're getting but I'm not sure what this comment meant then Better make sure you don't live in a common law marriage state. In the states you listed you have to voluntarily enter into a common law marriage. It's not like in Canada where in certain provinces they force it upon you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:06 PM
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Fair enough. I guess you plan to return to china once you graduate high school. Anyway, the point was that most of the stuff on this sub applies to western world dynamics. If you're dating Australian girls this stuff likely applies but if you're dating Chinese girls in Chima it'll be very different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:02 PM
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Why not forever?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:00 PM
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What states have common law marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:59 AM
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Don't ever get married. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:57 AM
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Question, are you a chinese citizen or an Australian citizen?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:55 AM
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In Australia. Your parents obviously left China for a reason. Your dating pool is Australian women, so the stuff on this sub applies, if you go back to China and date there then a different set of rules would apply
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:42 AM
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Okay so you're Australian with Chinese parents and not culturally Chinese. There's a big difference
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:07 AM
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Then you're more Austrailian with Chinese heritage
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:02 AM
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Okay and your culture is completely different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:01 AM
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The issue is that women seem to literally just vent with no intention of actually doing something about it That's what venting is. It seems to me like you're focused on telling men how to handle the childish behavior of women instead of telling women to stop being childish. Yes, because you can only control yourself, and if you can learn these techniques to listening to her vent, it'll make her feel like she can be emotional with you. You do also need to place a limit on how often you'll tolerat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:40 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:37 AM
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Someone linked this brilliant video earlier. It's only 2 minutes long. https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:37 AM
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My wife goes from venting to insults. Her stress is a long sequential series of criticism and how I'm a disappointment. This is never okay. You cannot vent to your partner about your partner, EVER. Either address what's troubling you and ask for help solving it, or keep quiet
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:31 AM
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“””Because they are women”””
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:28 AM
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My method is to help you listen to her without Hong insane
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:27 AM
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Sounds like it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:41 PM
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I just had a kid call to the door all dressed in red. "Trick or Treat" he said. "Dude Halloween was on Monday", I replied. "I know, I'm a period and I'm late". Bloody twat got all my leftover Halloween candy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:41 PM
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What was the dating app she used? Was it Tinder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/22 10:38 PM
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You're single , right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:32 PM
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There's no mention of trans people in the post. Why are you adding term Cis to men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:31 PM
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As long as you can give a great BJ you'll be grand.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:29 PM
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Stop making me miserable with your constant negativity if you’re not trying to make the situation better. But they want to bond and be miserable together
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:26 PM
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Why can't women understand that if they tell their man about a problem he will want to fix it?? Because they are women Why it always has to be men who are "fucking clueless" ... y'all are pretty clueless if you want to cry and carry on about a splinter in foot and then get angry when the person who cares about you suggests pulling it out.. Because they are women Crying about a problem and getting angry when someone suggests fixing is the irrational part in this.. women need to stop doing this . …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:24 PM
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Best of luck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:23 PM
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I didn't mention men venting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:24 PM
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I agree, but there's a huge new belief amongst many younger people that we're the same and it's soley social conditioning that causes the difference
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:24 PM
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Men do not necessarily repress their emotions for not expressing them like women, though. They express them in other ways. Not to mention that often expressing emotions can be bad too as they can make people lose control or do stuff they need later to repent from. I completely disagree. What I see happening is that most men not only repress their emotions, they also don't understand them, and then it manifests as anger. Sure anger is an emotion, but they aren't often aware of what emotions led t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:40 PM
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Side note: men learn over time that their “venting” is viewed as weakness, which causes actual disgust among many. There is almost never any benefit - it is ammo saved to later take you apart or simply disregarded. Women have very little compassion to solve men’s issues and will often trade a man with “issues” for one who knows not to voice them. At worst, expressing sadness, loneliness, or anger can lead people to be afraid of any future extreme behavior you might exhibit and subconsciously or …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:36 PM
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I think you need to eat half a blue pill. It appears like you've eaten too many red pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:25 PM
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Not at all. Did you read what I suggested? Just memorize the responses I gave in the post. In fact I should have explained it a little better, but if you can :switch off" your emotions and just respond with the suggestions I gave you'll likely have a much easier time listening to her vent (and come across as an amazing partner).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:22 PM
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Well let's be real here, do you really think a woman could come up with a solution that a man hadn't already thought of? r/s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:20 PM
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Damn, this is BRILLIANT, bloody marvelous!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:14 PM
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and say can I vent to you for a few minutes. This part is crucial for many people. I also tell men that if you're confused about what she wants out of the conversation stop her for a moment and ask "Listen or Fix?"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:22 PM
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Women lend too much credence to their personal emotions, but won’t extend that focus and attention onto their partner’s feelings. It’s an inherently unfair dynamic that is enforced by society’s prioritization of emotional needs over physical needs, especially (and sometimes exclusively) when it comes to women. A funny take on this is that women expect men to cater to their hormones once a month, but don't believe in catering to men's hormones
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:19 PM
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And by being a man, you automatically possess significantly more social privilege. Can you give any examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:18 PM
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Chimpanzees go to war with other tribes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:16 PM
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Came here to say this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:16 PM
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That also works amazingly well ( if you want to be single).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:15 PM
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Exactly this. I don't think most women realise that it's not a switch that you can just easily flick on and off. They certainly don't switch it on and off themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:13 PM
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I guess it comes down to how you define venting. In my opinion venting means you just want to be heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:03 PM
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The reality is that most men would strongly prefer if you do take pride in your appearance. But that doesn't mean you need to go crazy high maintenance. I only ever dated two women who were crazy high maintenance and swore never to do it again. My wife only wears a little mascara and sometimes a small amount of makeup, and I prefer that. But she does have a very natural glow and in my opinion can pull off the no makeup look a lot easier than many people can.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:00 PM
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I agree that some men vent like this, but it's nowhere near as common as women venting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:56 PM
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I don't think they all like the drama, it's just a different way if processing their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:55 PM
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I also think that venting can be very harmful: it can get you worked up rather than get things off your chest. It can make you double down and refuse to see your part. 100%. Personally I can't stand venting, to me it's just reliving the bad shit when you could just move on. Why torture yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:55 PM
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Also make a plan how you can improve your situation regardless of the actions of others. If all you do is moan but take no steps to improve your situation people become less inclined to sympathise with you. I agree, but in my experience that's more of a male approach to things. I think it's why so many men struggle with listening to women vent. Many men don't understand why you would ever want to vent if you're not looking for a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:19 PM
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TIL, I've never really read any redpill stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:13 PM
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I get that. I guess I'm asking if you're looking for a man who is just like you in terms of personal maintenance, or if you're looking for a man who doesn't take pride in his appearance but is okay with you not doing so?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:12 PM
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You don't have to be super emotional though. My point is that most women want support, they don't really want emotional men, as that comes with a lot of extra drama and work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:06 PM
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An obnoxious gym bro, who only cares about looks and status
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:04 PM
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If heavy make up and fake hair is the expectation, then I’m going to look like I don’t care and thus attract guys who think I don’t care. Isn't that the sort of guy you do want to attract?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:03 PM
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If you're willing to keep up that level of maintenance long term go for it. If you're not then just be yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:01 PM
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I've reposted it as you asked. I was trying to keep it neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:59 PM
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Well your username makes that confusing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:56 PM
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In my experience men are usually willing to tolerate a lot more shit, and a lot more abuse if the woman is very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:55 PM
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Curious, have you ever tried telling a man how to show you compassion in the way you want it? By that I mean giving him the words and instructions?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:33 PM
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In your opinion why do so many women try to use Tinder for dating if they don't want hookups?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:31 PM
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Do you disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:29 PM
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It's just a difference in communication styles. Men tend to be more direct, and women tend to be more flowy with their communication. As for the getting lost in the woods. I think from an evolutionary standpoint men tend to have a better sense of direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:00 PM
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Using a vibrator can defintely impact a womans ability to orgasm during sex, but I'm almost certain that using a larger dildo does not, but I could be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:30 PM
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I'm almost 100% sure it doesn't work that way. Women don't get the equivalent of death grip In my opinion or experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:19 PM
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Why it it a "problem" though? If you're watching porn do you only watch porn with average looking women, doing very average vanilla sex acts? Or do you typically watch porn with hotter than average looking women, who are engaging in not so vanilla aex acts?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:04 PM
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I think some of what they are saying has since merit, but mainly only when referring to casual sex, and not to dating
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:00 PM
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Unless his extra money were going to children from a previous relationship, or charities, or other family members in need, retirement funds. Otherwise, what is the point of making money, if not to enjoy it? So let's say he's saving a huge amount to retire early. And by that I mean so he can retire early.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:56 PM
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But why would you have hope for biological inevitabilities to change? What biological inevitablitites are your referring to? This is a fairly nrw issue, and biology doesn't change quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:51 PM
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I'm sorry and hope those comments got removed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:49 PM
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There's women everywhere in the city, you can ask them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:47 PM
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And that's why you have "Lady" in your username :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:43 PM
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Because people have hope that things will change. Why didn't all the slaves in the USA kill themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:40 PM
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Are they trying to shame you or just giving their opinions since you posted on the sub? I don't know if I've seen any of your posts, but I do know I'd never have a relationship with escort. Do you conisder that shaming?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:36 PM
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So would you agree that their anger is justified?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:28 PM
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Given what the post is about, what if you've stopped having sex with him, as he keep pushing to have conversations about why and what's going on, or is that too far for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:26 PM
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Then make sure you have that conversation about your expectations while dating
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:20 PM
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How would it benefit me to live at his income level and just hoard the money and not actually use it for a nicer life? You could retire much much earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:15 PM
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Okay, so let's say your now husband does push something. So tiy talk to him and reassert your boundaries several times if needed or are you going straight to divorce (because that's what it soundes like(.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:14 PM
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Yes, exactly what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:11 PM
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if my husband pushed the issue after I explained he wouldn’t be my husband. I really wish people would stop saying this. Is marriage really that meaningless to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:10 PM
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Yes they could but it's not what most women want. They want the man to "just see' what needs to be done and do it without any prompting. The issue is thag since she already has it covered he often doesn't "see" it. I see this time and time again with divorced ot seperate dads. They might seem to do a lot less and then suddenly when she's no longer around thet become great dads. So YES if she's the one complaining then the easiest solution is for her to start the conversation about dividing and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:08 PM
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In general by our biological natures. It's not always the case but it generally is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:14 AM
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Also wtf has time for play dates during the week unless you’re carpooling or something She's a SAHM
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:13 AM
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I can't help it if there's two disingenuous idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:00 AM
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Well playdates for example are extremely different during the week the weekends. My wife feels the need to watch the kids like a hawk and is often exhausted after playdates. I hate doing that and just let the kids do their thing and watch from the distance. She came to the beach with us last Saturday morning and it was probably the least fun I've had on a Sunday morning with the kids and the dog in a year, because she was constantly stressing about both the kids and the dog. Her "standards" are …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:59 AM
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Well everyone else figured it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:49 AM
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Who is responsible for “defining their role”? The couple sit down and decide them together. My wife deals with all school stuff, and I deal with all extracurricular stuff for example. The other is often needed to attend certain appointments, but if my wife is needed at an extra curricular activity it's my job to make sure she knows about it and to remind her about it. She deals with playdate stuff during the week and I deal with it on weekends. We have two kids and we each take full ownership of…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:49 AM
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You can't seriously be this clueless as to what she's talking about. This is such a shitty disingenuous way to ask questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:38 AM
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For some people yes some of those things are considered too high of a standard. From what I've seen it usually boils down to a lack of dividing and conquering. Most men that I know would seriously prefer to have defined roles in this stuff vs having to think about it all the time. They'd be more than happy to take on a lot more if the expectation or roles were more clearly defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:36 AM
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That depends on the person. In my experience a lot of men have resentment because they feel their wives standards are way too high, and a lot of wives have resentment because they feel they have to take on too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:22 AM
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Question, how many of those men would have been happy to forego having kids if they knew what the expectations of their partners would be? (Hint, it's a hell of a lot more than you're thinking).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:16 AM
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so would I be able to include my earlier 20s when I worked my ass off to get to somewhere comfortable. I wanted to be in a comfortable situation in my life to work less, not more. Can you justify why, you view that working more instead of less to pick up the slack of someone who didn't work their ass off is the correct course of action? This is the part so many people are overlooking. My little brother is in my opinion whipped by his wife. He worked his ass off in his 20's and early 30's to adva…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:12 AM
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still counts as mandatory child care in my book. This is very often where the problems arise. What if he operates from different book? What if his minimum standard is far below yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:03 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:19 AM
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Listen, I didn't even read your response. If you want a conversation don't downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:14 AM
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Particularly because the difficulty of the work with children varies day to day (hell, even hour to hour). If we split childcare equally, but during your time, the baby barfs on you and themself, has a blowout that gets on the couch, cries nonstop for 3 hours, that’s not equal to my parenting time where they slept like an angel and cooed at me the whole time. But next “parenting shift” you never know what you’re going to get. It's never really been an issue for my wife and I. I do the morning ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:13 AM
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You can pretty much sum this up as unspoken expectations breed resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:09 AM
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All relationship ls are transactional in a way. The big difference between now and 50 years ago is that people knew what their roles and expectations were, vs nowadays it's often all merged together
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:06 AM
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There’s always more chores and work to do, you’re always gonna feel like you’re shouldering more (even when you aren’t), there’s always things you do your partner simply won’t see and things they do you can’t see, and you can’t exactly put a relationship value on different jobs that may make different amounts but be stressful in different ways This is only an issue if you decide not to each take 100% ownership of certain chores. It also can depend on how you split your finances. Perhaps one pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:57 AM
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In my experience issues around childcare expectations usually arise because they weren't discussed before getting pregnant. People can have very different views on what raising a child should look like, and very often times it's related to how they were raised. The most common difference of opinion I see amongst friends, family, and colleagues, is that some people (usually men) think the child should add to their existing lives vs others (usually the woman) think their entire lives should revolv…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:53 AM
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To me it depends on what choices you make. Don't you want to both have the same amount of free time to, I don't know, enjoy each others company? Sure, but free time can depend on what sort of jobs you choose to work, how efficiently you work and how fast you work. When I'm "on" and "in work mode" I am hyper fixated and extremely efficient. I can get work done that takes most people 8 hours done in 2-4 hours. Should people be "punished" for choosing a job that they hate but gives them lots of fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:47 AM
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Casual to me means you are dating for fun and not with the intent of making a permanent commitment someday. Most high school and college relationships are casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:17 AM
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Time is the number to base this off of, not salary. Do you both work 8 hours a day? Then both should take care of the home equally Why? Why do you conisder this equal if there is shared finances?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:09 AM
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To tell you that you should run for your life and that you're dealing with a manipulative witch
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:07 AM
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How can they adapt, can you please explain? How does a 5'5" man with bad genes make himself as attractive as Chris Hemsworth?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:57 PM
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Every woman I know off birth control has fluctuating desire — the first half of the month leading up to ovulation, they have spontaneous desire. Around ovulation, they have a constant burning desire that feels raw and primal and intense. After ovulation, they have responsive desire until a few days before menses, when many women have little to no desire. Then please explain how dead bedrooms happen in LTR and marriages. Also explain where the jokes (that haven't changed for decades) about sex ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:51 PM
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And he was correct about that. The weather cannot be predicted long term
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:51 PM
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Now I'm completely lost. Are you still talking about JPs comment about good men being "dangerous"? Also where's the acting toxic part you are referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:48 PM
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I lumped fluctuating desires into one category as to not confuse people further. A fluctuating desire is in my opinion a responsive desire if you want to simplify things. There's often no real life reason for a fluctuating desire other than hormones or stress, but that can still leave one party feeling very neglected. I was on some medication for about a year that pretty much destroyed my sex drive completely, and I would have been perfectly happy to have zero sex during that year. But I know my…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:47 PM
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I'm not talking about "acting" stronger, and neither was Jordan Peterson. I'm talking about actually being stronger and not ever using that power unless it is absolutely necessary. or shouldn't be strong emotionally like emotionally closed or distant Why do you think men shouldn't be strong emotionally? Not many women want their man to act similarly to women when it comes to their emotions. In my experience it's a huge benefit to be able to compartmentalize your emotions when you need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:38 PM
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I've freely admitted here that we're down to once maybe twice a week, and I'm perfectly ok with that. That's good for you, and good for your relationship. But the way you've phrased it makes it sound like you'd prefer to have sex more often. Now I have to ask: How could anyone ask that question and expect a different answer? Surely you understand that we age right? Have you not seen what people on this sub are posting? Many seem to think that anything other than sex daily (or several times a day…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:33 PM
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So are you saying that every man should be weak and useless when it comes to their size and strength? I'm not understanding this point
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:25 PM
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In what way do you think it changes the conversation? What advantage do you think I gain from skewing the information as you put it? I said it was a spectrum, and the purpose of the post was to make more people aware of how sexual desire can change, in order to facilitate discussions around how it can be managed. Do you think I'm attacking one sex, or giving one preferential treatment? I tried to be careful to not do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:19 PM
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And the 31 year long relationship she is just as interested in sex at any time as she was in the first year of dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:18 PM
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I think it's mainly that the men don't last long enough for vaginal stimulation to bring her to orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:15 PM
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It's just inexperience for many in my opinion. There are positions like woman on top where she can get both vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The g-spot would technically be vaginal stimulation but it's really just an extension of the ciltorus
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:13 PM
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and a man who is bisexual is just a closeted gay man which is completely unacceptable to women's dating standards. That's not the reason. All the studies show it's mainly insecurities on the womans part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:03 PM
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Just curious, if a woman posted saying her husband refuses to take her on any dates or do anything romantic for her because of some isssue or another. Would you advise that she wait an entire year for him to come around?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:42 PM
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JFC no way in hell. If she has BPD run for your life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:36 PM
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Did you overlook the part where I said when there's NRE that it can manifest as a spontaneous desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:19 PM
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I’m beginning to realize through this thread that maybe my resent is that she hasn’t been seeing the lack of sex as an issue until I brought it up. 100%. It's an extremely common issue in many marriages and long term relationships. Unfortunately it's really one of those conversations that needs to be had before marriage, where you both agree before hand that sex is an integral part of a long term relationship. If the conversation was had before hand it's much easier to reference it later when on…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:16 PM
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There have been several different studies done on the topic, all with similar results. It's a spectrum though. I tried to summarize a very complex topic into a short post. If you've never had a relationship that lasted for more than 2 years I can see how you might easily say it's BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:56 PM
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Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:53 PM
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“We’re both tired and over-stressed and things are good enough right now, why do we need to expend energy working on our sex life when we’re already exhausted?” Respond with something like "because I feel alone and unloved. Sex is such an integral part of a loving relationship for me, and without it, it's like I'm living with a roommate and not and not a life partner. I miss feeling loved, wanted and desired, and I'm worried that without those things our love will die. I want nothing more in lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:52 PM
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Again I don't want to argue semantics, but good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:48 PM
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Thanks for this comment, this is exactly the sort of discussion I wanted this post to generate. Scheduling sex is often a great way to overcome the difference in levels of desire, and it's an approach that many sex therapists recommend. Many people think it's unsexy, or eww, or have some other negative response to the idea of scheduling sex, but they completely overlook that in many ways sex was "scheduled" in some way at the beginning of the relationship. It could have been something as simple …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:45 PM
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There's no false info here. I just summarized an incredibly complex topic to keep it simple as most people are not going to be well read on the topic. Depending on what books or studies you read the percentages are going to be slightly different, and different psychologists will use different terminology to explain things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:39 PM
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Are you taking one authors view as Gospel?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:33 PM
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Correct, a spontaneous desire typically means you're up for it whether or not you were thinking about it before it was offered.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:32 PM
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Every conversation on this has ended in tears because she feels inadequate and doesn’t know how to fix it. Any advice on that front? It's a really difficult conversation to have. My advice is to try approaching it from the point of view of trying to get back the relationship you once had (before kids). Obviously it can't ever be exactly the same, but you should not be able to aim for getting it as perfect as possible. You can both talk about mutual respect and mutual appreciation. Start by askin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:30 PM
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Why are men considered lazy when they stop doing this when women don't really do this at all generally speaking? Wouldn't that make women lazier? Women should also try and do the same stuff that they did at the beginning of the relationship, especially when it comes to looking good and not getting too comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:23 PM
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Fine, move on to the next post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:49 PM
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No, I wanted to start a discussion to possibly help some people understand their partners better. I'm not interested in having this post be full of back and forward arguements. It's a very complex topic, and if you were interested you can easily do a few Google searches and find sex therapists who will say Spontaneous desire = high libido and vice versa. If you read 10 books on the touch you'll find that different therapists explain the concepts I different ways, but it all boils down to the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:48 PM
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This isn't a debate post. It's a discussion post. If you want to debate stuff pick a different post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:44 PM
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The resentment is something you need to talk to her about. She needs to understand how you are feeling. Try to talk about it not in an accusatory way, but rather as a "cry for help", you want her help to improve your marriage again. Someone once described it to me like this "Some people think that their love is finite, and that they only have so much love to give. You might have gotten 100% of her love before kids, but she's only giving you 1/3 of it after having two kids. But the reality is tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:42 PM
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Fine, move on to the next post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:33 PM
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Where did I mention anything about the AF/BB shit? There is no mood I have to be in or a "maybe sometimes I want to have sex". Then you likely have a spontaneous desire, congrats. Thats all that matters. I think the vast majority of women are like this and they just dont know it. Almost every sex therapist on the planet disagrees with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:32 PM
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That's great, and yes that's pretty much how it works for most people with a responsive desire. It's not as black and white as I summarized it to be. I did say it's a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:30 PM
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Yes I was lumping things together to keep it simple for most people reading the post. I was trying to keep it simple to facilitate discussion, I did also say it's a spectrum. Also, you're never going to get indepth knowledge from one Google search and reading one or two articles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:27 PM
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Are you saying your husband isn't arousing for you? If you are was he ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:23 PM
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I agree, that's a great book and there are many others. Reading a few different ones is always a great idea and different authors usually explain things a little differently, understanding it from different points of view was always helpful to me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:22 PM
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I disagree with this. If "Chad" stays a "Chad" she'll remain sexually attracted IMO. And most people are still sexually attracted to their partners after the honeymoon period is over. I'm not sure what point you're trying to make here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:21 PM
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Do you guys get a date night weekly? If not is that something you could organize? Another thing that might massively help is a vacation for just the two of you, even just a weekend or one night away (not on your own home). And alone time could massively help things. On the weekends make sure she gets at least 3-4 hours for herself in one big chunk, take the kids out so she can have time to herself (not spent catching up on chores) to go out somewhere or see friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:15 PM
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I don't think standards for the everyday male were lower. If they were it was minimally so. I think social media has just made people more selfish, and texting etc has made personal interactions much less meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:06 PM
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High libido is basically spontaneous desire, and low libido is basically responsive desire. It's all comnected.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:54 PM
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Exactly this, it's only one small part of the build up. For some it might take all day, for others just a few hours or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:52 PM
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Standards for the everyday male were lowered basically I completely disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:51 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:47 PM
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Just Google any sex therapist websites and do some extensive reading on the subject. I've tried to summarize a complicated dynamic into a short post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:43 PM
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Is she aware of the fact that she has a responsive desire, and is she aware of how important sex is to you in your relationship? It's defintely a common issue after kids come along as many women don't feel as sexy anymore, and they can be over stimulated with physical touch by the kids. Unfortunately resolving this takes a lot of communication and understanding from both parties. Also the longer she goes without frequent sex, the harder it will be for her to want it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:42 PM
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Sounds like you're aware of it and have figured it out. That's fairly rare in my experience and I commend you for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:38 PM
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In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:36 PM
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Sure some have trauma, but that doesn't necessarily impact if they have a spontaneous vs responsive desire which is what the post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:29 PM
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Not horny, but it can certainly be part of the the build up that gets you in the mood much later in the day. I'm not talking about one ir two little things, I'm talking about literally hours of build up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:27 PM
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90' and early 2000's
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:14 PM
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Well where are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:14 PM
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What sort of compromises with men are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:09 PM
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Chivalry seems to be a foreign concept to you. Hell, even if I invite a make friend out for food or a coffee I offer to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:08 PM
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That's pure BS, I make sure to try and compliment at least a few people a day, in fact a sales trick I teach people is for men to compliment women on their shoes or their jewelry. Two things that men rarely notice or compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:06 PM
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Read the book the 5 Love Languages
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:04 PM
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And yet they've all ended
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:03 PM
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Yes, by far the highest of divorce rates, almost double that of heterosexual couples. Gay men have by far the lowest divorce rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:03 PM
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I haven't dated for a very long time, but when I was dating if I asked her out then I paid for the date. But once we had been on several dates, or if she asked me out somewhere then I expected her to pay or to split it. If she was only taking and not giving then I just didn't ask her out again. I don't think I've ever actually had a conversation with a woman about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:00 PM
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Do you do that even if you asked her out?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:57 PM
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Question, how long has your longest relationship lasted for?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:46 PM
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If they shouldn't have to control it, does that mean they have free reign to use it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:53 PM
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This is such a great well thought out response. Gold star for you ⭐
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:48 PM
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Weird question, but how many of you have heard of the Christmas song A Spaceman came Travelling? I've been putting it on to help my youngest get to sleep, and was surprised to discover that none of my American Friends have ever heard of it. https://youtu.be/GmZg7tvGN9o
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:47 PM
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Sink puppies is very cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:10 PM
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Lilith
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:09 PM
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It's been proven that the type of venting that women often do can have very negative emotional impacts both on themselves and the person they are venting to. I'm curious if you'd label women who vent as suffering from toxic femininity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:08 PM
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97.7215%
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:06 PM
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And why is it bad advice? Do you disagree that good men are dangerous men who choose not to use that power in negative ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:32 PM
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Okay, now what did he say that was incorrect? His whole arguement is that even if we stopped using all fossil fuels right now today forever, and stopped all pollution that there's zero evidence that this would halt the danger associated with climate change. Do you disagree with this part?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:31 PM
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No he didn't. The Kathy Newman interview is what propelled him to fame. He was never against trans rights, he was against what he saw as compelled speech. If the law and society as a while compelled you to call Donald Trump a wonderful, kind, generous man who has love for everyone, would you object to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:26 PM
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NRE may wear off, but women will still fuck their hot partner cause it’s fun. If they have a spontaneous sexual desire, yes. If they have a responsive sexual desire then also yes, but usually a hell of a lot less than at the beginning. And that's what causes the issues. I think it’s a pity most men will never experience being the object of female sexual desire and a woman truly lust after you. The difference is night and day and changes your perspective on life. This is why being a chad is so hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:24 PM
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I do think it's usually an issue that's more common with men than women. I simply think toxic masculinity is a massively over used term used to tear men down, especially when people can't even define what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:20 PM
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So what did you think he was saying before I explained it to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:16 PM
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What data does he misrepresent? And what outdated science does he use? If you're going to discredit people, or slander them then try and be specific with details or examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:15 PM
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So you can't come up with a single piece of advice he's given to young men that is bad. Is that what you're saying? I'm not fond of everything he says either, but I don't think he's transphobic. He certainly hates the overreach that many trans activists are engaged in, but that's just common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:12 PM
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That's extremely vague, and how is that different to toxic femininity or toxic humanity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:08 PM
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So let's try again. Can you give one example of bad advice that he gave to young men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:07 PM
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Did you listen to the rest of what he said, when he describes in detail what he meant by that? The gist of it was that good man has power but doesn't use it unless absolute necessary. It's having the ability to be dangerous but not using it that he was talking about. E.g. a guy says he's non violent, talks about how bad violence is and how men shouldn't ever be physical. BUT that guy is 150 l s and 5'6". He's not capable of hurting anyone. Vs I'm 6'3" 215lbs, work out regularly, and have practic…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:06 PM
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I asked for a definition not an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:42 PM
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So no examples whatsoever.? Can you just cite one example of bad advice he gave to young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:39 PM
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What advice has he given that's bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:24 PM
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That's your definition of toxic masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:23 PM
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Me: "Right now I'm typing something for my grandmother. I help her out now and then. It's a tribute to a woman that went to my old church who passed away. Pretty emotional writing it because I loved this woman and knew her since I was a child. She had a good heart and soul. Hadn't seen her in years because they took her to a nursing home far away. I regret not able to visit her and calling her was near impossible for whatever reason." Her: "Awww 🥺. Hate to hear that. Hope it turns out well. . . …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:21 PM
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You're correct and it's a large part of why Jordan Peterson became so popular amongst many young men. Personally I'd hate to be a man in the 15-30 age range right now (I'm mid 40's). There's far too much confusing messaging, and it's leaving way too many young men feeling lost and misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:14 PM
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Can you please define toxic masculinity if you are going to use the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:07 PM
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From what I've seen with Peterson he took on way too much, and let the negativity and constant attacks get to him in a way he never thought was possible. He seems to take it very personally when he can't help people, and he's an incredibly empathetic person. As for the Benzos thing, let's be real here. If you or I were addicted to a certain drug and had both the knowledge and the money to not have to go through weeks of pain and agony from withdrawal we would also have chosen the route he did to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:37 PM
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I think the reason he became such an "institution" is that he was needed by many men who were or are feeling lost in todays society. You and I might have gotten through things "normally" but that doesn't mean everyone else was so lucky. He talked to men in a way that resonates with men, which unfortunately is in a way that alienates many women (which is part of why he's often very unpopular with women). The gym is defintely helpful but it's only one part of many different things needed to stay h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:23 PM
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I think you're overlooking that he's been a clinical psychologist for decades and has literally seen it all. He's seen every type of suffering, and has seen how badly some people are struggling to fit into our modern society. He's just in touch with his feelings, and has a very high EQ, that's going to overwhelm him with emotion from time to time as he thinks about people he helped or tried to help and couldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:05 PM
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Fashion is a different take as men's clothes are cut not cut to shape men. That's not true, you can buy clothes that fit your body type better, or get your clothes tailored, most men just couldn't be bothered. But plenty of gay men, and metrosexual men do wear clothes that hug their bodies shape. It's just not as comfortable, and most men seem to prefer comfort over fashion. Men don't have shirts available that make their beer belly into abs, but woman have clothing that pulls a saggy overweight…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:21 PM
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In my opinion most of these issues boil down to people not understanding what the differences between spontaneous and responsive sexual desire means. The majority of women (85%) have a responsive sexual desire. And a responsive sexual desire is a difficult thing to fully describe, because when there's a lot of new relationship energy (NRE) a person with a responsive sexual desire can appear to have a spontaneous desire. They have lots of hot sex at the beginning, but even if they stayed with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:51 PM
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She's just being intentionally provocative to get views.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:43 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. I can now understand better why some people say pansexual is just bisexual with no standards, and understand why some people find that offensive. Thanks again for explaining it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:42 PM
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And why do you think that would be a bad thing for society?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:33 PM
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I would never be in favour of restrictions on birth control, that would just lead to more abortions. I've watched a few justpearlythings videos and don't think she'd be in favour of restrictions on birth control access either. Most of her arguments aren't anti-women, she just likes pointing out the ridiculous double standards, and that society would be better of men and women both acknowledged their strengths and weaknesses and worked together as a team.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:32 PM
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Do you mind clarifying a little further? If a woman is pansexual does that mean she would date both biological men, and biological women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:27 PM
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So would that mean that in society we are constantly comparing the ideal female form with male regular form Not necessarily, plenty of men do try to also improve how they look, going to the gym, grooming, fashion etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:23 PM
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Well mental/emotional labour can be far more difficult and stressful than manual labour. With other forms of labour like like manual it's easy to put it off until later, or once it's done to forget about it, but with emotional labour it's often constantly on your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:42 PM
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Isn't pansexual just bisexual with no standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:40 PM
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Well I can't easily find stats on that. Most of what I can find is stats showing that the majority of women refuse to date a bisexual man, that's why I was surprised to hear you say that the vast majority of bisexual men are dating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:28 PM
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Fair enough, but aren't all the things you referred to just things to accentuate the female form?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:02 PM
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Well personally I only know one bi man (or know one man who has admitted to being bi) and he's dating a man. I don't frequent LGBTQ spaces so I'm not well versed on the topic. Like I said, I don't deny what you said is probably true, I was just asking if you'd seen any studies on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:01 PM
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The person straight up said suicidal women are just attention-seekers and you refuse to acknowledge that. My point was that it wasn't what he was originally talking about, you derailed the conversation and then they said that. Anyway, I can't do this anymore (interact with you), it's making me lose faith in humanity. Best of luck with whatever it is you are trying to accomplish on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:55 PM
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Well I wasn't super attractive, I'm arguably a 7, but I tall, athletic, confident, a good talker, I had money and played sports in college. I didn't really have too many issues finding a girlfriend or a hookup. For all of college except for 9 months I was in a relationship. I did the whole fuck around thing for about 7 months and got very bored with it. It got old very, very fast moving from girl to girl. The chase was fun for a bit, but it was meaninglessness. Funny enough after 7 months I made…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:52 PM
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I was giving an example of how you interact, nothing more. How about this. Try an experiment for the next 24 hrs. Try just engaging in what people are talking about, and see if it has any positive affect on people's perception of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:23 PM
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Well perhaps if you engaged with what people are discussing instead of being so negative all the time about people's complaints then people would think differently. I don't understand your inability to address what is being discussed as a stand alone topic. E.g. PPD commenter: There's an issue with men being treated like XYZ in society. Lilith: So what, there's also an issue with women being treated like xyz. PPD commenter: that's true but we're talking about men right now, can we stay on topic.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:12 PM
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It's called emotional labour because it involves a lof of mental work to think about, plan and organize. Perhaps a different term could have been chosen, but once you understand it, it's not BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:06 PM
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I want sex everyday but sometimes he's already watched porn & masturbated. If he's denying you sex because he has already taken care of his own needs that's when it becomes a problem. But if he was having sex with you and lasting longer because he already jerked off then it's not an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:00 PM
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Curious do you have any stats on that claim? I don't doubt it's true, but haven't seen any other than anecdotal evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:56 PM
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Why should it be a criminal offense? To protect women and young girls from predatory men. And what's stopping a predator from stalking someone and waiting a victim to be alone? Inside or outside the bathroom or changing room?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:54 PM
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Self pity is shitty behavior. But it doesn't make them shitty men (abusers, assaulters and rapists)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:51 PM
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That will not stop unhinged people from trying and realize there's no one really stopping him. Other men can stop them. If I take my nieces to the bathroom and wait outside, you can be assured that I will stop any men trying to enter from doing so. Most public bathrooms are not vaccant, there would be a bunch of women there also able to stop the guy until he has a weapon. Not sure what you're saying here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:50 PM
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There's no security at a public bathroom, what's to stop them from doing so with or without trans women being allowed in women's bathrooms? Well other men can stop them for one. If I take my nieces to the bathroom and wait outside, you can be assured I'm.going to stop any man who tries to enter from doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:47 PM
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If it's designated as a women's only space then of course it can be made a criminal offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:44 PM
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Well the female form is in general more attractive to look at. In my experience both sexes generally agree with that. Stating fact isn't misandry. I remember one time years back when I went to Vegas with a large group. After the night club everyone decided to go to a strip club, it was it was one where there was ladies downstairs and men upstairs. We all separated and within 30 minutes all the women in the group came down to join us. They all thought they'd have more fun watching beautiful naked…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:38 PM
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No one denies shitty men exist, the issue is that the way you talk you lump any men with complaints into the shitty men category. E.g. just from early today, you said something like not being on a relationship isn't being lonely and with the rest of your comments you lumped those men complaining in with shitty men. Shitty men here being abusers, assaulted and rapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:31 PM
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The negativity towards any complaints men on this sub pose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:29 PM
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I assume men don't give as much of a shit or transmen don't fight as hard to be let into the boy's bathroom. Also, changing rooms and bathrooms are different. Yes men don't give as much of as a shit as they don't see anything to fear. They don't fear a woman overpowering them. Ciswomen can do that too and it would still be against the law. Correct, but there's not much of an existing issue with women doing that. Vs there is an issue with men raping and sexually assaulting women. There's nothing …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:28 PM
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The "wall" is certainly not at 24. It might be where most women peak in terms of looks youth wise, but it's definitely not a wall. There are also plenty of women who don't necessarily peak at that age as they might have been overweight or might not have grown into themselves fully while in their early 20's. My advice is to not listen to this stuff, as most women nowadays are not looking for a life partner at age 20-25.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:51 PM
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You guys are really going to tell me that I should believe trans women will just start running into bathroom in droves, start public rapes, and the only reason this wasn't stopped is because NO not trans women, shitty men pretending to be trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:41 PM
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It's not just rape, it's creepy pictures, toilet cams, assault, making other women feel unsafe and uncomfortable. Have you not ever noticed no one really ever complains or opposes transmen in bathrooms or changing rooms?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:40 PM
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Why did you assume I was talking about men when you saw me talking about sexist dip shits? Because of everything else you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:38 PM
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I gave you insight. I was one of the first people to explain it to you. But you just chose to ignore it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:36 PM
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They don't.have to put up with it. They can hang out in other places
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:21 PM
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Where are you running into these dudes? If it's online then the simple solution is to avoid places where they congregate
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:19 PM
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Please stop trolling like this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:04 PM
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Of course they did. But giving them much easier access isn't a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:03 PM
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r/whoosh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:02 PM
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Well the result was what you have now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:13 AM
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Incorrect. Even if you had sex for 30 minutes every single day, that's only 2% of the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:12 AM
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Okay, so a rational conversation has been had and both parties still disagree. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:11 AM
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Depends on the day
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:25 AM
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It's based on who's swiping on you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:08 AM
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So what part did you not understand before?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:07 AM
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What part do you disagree with?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:28 PM
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Safest for transwomen yes, but not for biological women or trans men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:22 PM
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Maybe so
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:10 PM
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Fair enough. At least you now understand why there's objections to transwomen in women's bathrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:08 PM
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Okay fine, replace raoe with sexually assault. I think it's far more likely for a sexual assauter to pretend to be trans, than for a trans man to randomly encounter a sexual assulter while in the bathroom. Have you not ever noticed that no one is concerned about trans men in bathrooms? This is why.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:58 PM
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We just think it's ironic ironic that a woman with zero EQ or empathy came up with that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:54 PM
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I think it's far more likely a rapist to pretend to be trans, than for a trans man to randomly encounter a rapist while in the bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:53 PM
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Yes, people typically love mocking sexist dip shits. That's not new.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:48 PM
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But at least now you understand why people are against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:45 PM
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It's to do with shitty non trans men taking advantage of the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:39 PM
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It's more to do with shitty non trans men taking advantage of the situation. You might'nt agree, but at least now you understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:38 PM
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It wasn't one wacky study. There has been several studies done and they all got the same results. Are you seriously arguing against fact and statistics with your anecdotal evidence? Another easy explanation for the sex toys is that they are bought by younger women, or that women struggle to orgasm and buy toys to speed it along.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:35 PM
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That's more to do with responsive vs spontaneous sexual desire. She still has an 85% chance of having a responsive sexual desire no matter what age she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:24 PM
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Agreed. In my opinion having that bickering mindset comes from past relationship trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:22 PM
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Again, I don't think many men are taking that into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:12 PM
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I don't think many men are paying much attention to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:12 PM
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Sure, but perhaps he wants to date for several years to make sure she's the right one for marriage and kids. If she's 35 then he's on an expedited timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:11 PM
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Good for you, and if you've been in a long term relationship for several years and you still have.a spontaneous desire you're one of the lucky 15% of women, congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:09 PM
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That is entirely an assumption and wholly ignores context Correct but it's a valid assumption when seeking a life partner. It also doesn’t get at the other part here which is : if trauma should be a mark against a potential mate, why would a younger woman want an older (in your words, likely more traumatized by virtue of his age) man? I never stated anything about what she would want. The discussion was on why a man in his 30/40's would pursue a woman in her 20's. But since you bring it up, yes …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:07 PM
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I have a spontaneous desire too. That doesn't mean I didn't educate myself on what having a responsive desire entails. What if the woman you choose as a partner ends up having a responsive desire? (Remember that's 75% of all women). Unless she's experienced and aware of it, it won't really show up until after the honeymoon period is over. You could be dating 2 years at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:54 PM
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If she's happy at either age she's less likely to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:52 PM
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The question posed was why would a man in his 30/40s pursue a woman in her 20's. Plenty of women want kids before 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:51 PM
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What sort of a response is this? Are you just here to argue? Are you interested in learning anything new?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:49 PM
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You seem like you’re arguing : a woman’s trauma should automatically mark her as an unsuitable mate while a man’s trauma should not… Not what I was saying at all. I was saying that a women in her 20's is much less likely to have experienced more relationship trauma than a woman in her 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:48 PM
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Love, companionship, a partner, regular sex, and emotional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:46 PM
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Halloween is tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:43 PM
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Well that's not what it means at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:42 PM
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Sure they do, but her being older in no way guarantees she'll be more loyalty. I've never once in my life heard a man say that he things older women are more loyal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:42 PM
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Okay, that doesn't in any way change the fact that a 25 year old woman is far more fertile than a 30 year old or 35 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:40 PM
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Can you please link your response to my question, I'm not seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:39 PM
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What has that got to do with my question?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:38 PM
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What sounds crappy?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:37 PM
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You suggested we should approach when not in the mood, and stop making excuses. I'm almost 100% certain that's not what he meant I all. Question, what do you think having a responsive sexual desire entails?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:36 PM
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That's not how a responsive sexual desire works.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:34 PM
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Why is youth considered desirable? That sounds a bit creepy to me but I’m hoping you don’t mean it that way. She's much more likely to outlive him, be much more likely to be physically capable of doing different things, she'll have more energy and generally be more agreeable. You can’t tell someone’s fertility from their appearance or their age. Some young women are infertile. Assuming all are inherently more fertile than older women is a misconception. Not directly no. But statistically a 25 ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:33 PM
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No you didn't you asked other questions, and tried to start an argument. You didn't answer the question I asked which was: What does a woman in her 30's bring to the table that a woman in her 20's doesn't (referring only to things a man values).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:27 PM
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Where are you getting that information from?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:22 PM
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He's trying to start a conversation about libido and sexual desire. He's saying that in a relationship both parties should take an interest in doing what it takes to keep the relationship healthy and happy, and to make sure their partner is content.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:21 PM
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Why would a 30/40/and on up man still be pursuing 20 year olds? For the same reasons he'd pursue a woman his own age, except she'd be more youthful, more fertile, and have a lot less baggage and/or trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:19 PM
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What's weird about this post? It's unfortunate that it seems to have gone over so many peoples heads. What OP is talking about is incredibly important and it would help almost everyone on the sub to engage in discussion and understand it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 08:01 PM
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if a man has a high libido he should find somebody who gets turned on close to as much as he does, my wife has a high libido like I do, Do you understand that you married a unicorn? That only 15% of women haveba spontaneous sexual desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:59 PM
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Sure, I'm happy to do so once you answer the question I asked first.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:57 PM
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What do you mean? Do you understand how human sexual desire works? It doesn't sound like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:57 PM
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I mean your libido is going to be what it's going to be, Tell me you don't understand what the term responsive sexual desire means without saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:56 PM
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OP, I don't think many of the people responding understand what a responsive sexual desire is vs what a spontaneous desire is. I think you need to edit your post to give an indepth explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:54 PM
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That's irrelevant to the question I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:52 PM
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Sure that might be true, but that's not what we are discussing. We're discussing how to manage a responsive sexual desire in a relationship (especially in a relationship where the othe party has a spontaneous desire).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:52 PM
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I said sexual/ relationship marketplace. For the vast majority of people sex is an important part of a relationship. My question to you once again (I'll phrase it differently) is: what do you think women in their 30's bring to the table that's greater than what women in the 20's bring to the table. (And please remember we're talking about things that men value).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:50 PM
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Okay. But once again. If you don't think what she's feeling is insecurity. What is she feeling?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:47 PM
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Who here is talking about emotionally guilting anyone. I think you've made it pretty clear that you don't understand responsive vs spontaneous sexual desire at all. Do you not care about your partner being happy and the two of you having a happy and healthy relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:46 PM
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I think I've said enough. Best of luck
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:43 PM
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ok? i want my partner to be emotionally intelligent and have heart to heart convos all day every day. Is that really what you want though? If it is then it is something your partner can work on up to a certain extent. You could talk to them about it. isn't that what he is supposed to do? Actually no it's not. He can certainly assist and he's most likely to be willing to, but no, it's not something he can do on his own if you're not receptive. i've i'm turning myself on, why isn't he sucking his …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:42 PM
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Do you understand what having a responsive desire means? In short it means that it takes some time for your engine to get going. This usually means that you need to be aware of this a little more and think about it several times throughout the day. It can be as simple as feeling sunlight on your skin and allowing yourself a moment to feel the pleasure in it. There’s nothing to address. If you partner is feeling unloved and rejected due to a lack of sex in the relationship, do you not think that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:38 PM
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So you believe a relationship is just sex? No. I'm not sure where you got that from. My question to you was : what do women in their 30's bring to the table that men value that women in their 20's don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:34 PM
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Everything you shared. At 4 months you should still be in the honeymoon phase. It doesn't sound like you had that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:22 PM
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I'm asking what the feeling she is having is called.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:21 PM
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Correct, 75% of men have a spontaneous desire vs only 15% of women do. That's what causes a lot of issues in relationships around sex. OP is simply saying you need to recognize this and address it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:20 PM
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The point is that if your partner wants it and you don't then it causes issues. If you are aware this is an issue and don't address it then it's hurtful to your partner. You just need to do some research on how a responsive desire works. But TLDR it's basically nothing more than recognizing what gets you in the mood , and then doing those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:18 PM
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In what way are they better in terms of their value of the sexual/relationship market place? By that I'm asking about what they bring to the table that men value that women in their 20's don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:09 PM
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I don't know, but you've shared enough for me to think there's almost a 0% chance of this relationship working out long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:05 PM
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Oh my bad. What is that called?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:02 PM
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Any chance you could link to just one of those apologies?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:01 PM
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Well having all this drama only 4 months on is definitely an issue. I don't think my wife and I had our first fight until about 6 months, and we were both very remorseful immediately afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:09 PM
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You're right. I think I don't trust he's being honest & I'm getting resentful & pushing him away. He's afraid to communicate because he thinks I'll get upset. Do you think there's truth in this? When he has tried to communicate in the past have you gotten upset with him vs trying to listen to and understand what he's saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:07 PM
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That's actually true. Depending on what porn sites he's looking up he's probably getting pop up browsers, and he's just too lazy to close them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:04 PM
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Most guys look at porn, and for many guys following IGThot is just soft porn . The multiple email account might just be for different things. I have 7 different emails myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:03 PM
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Sorry I should have explained that it's just an example of how to properly set boundaries. Far too many people think they can just say "I don't like when you XYZ" and then wrongfully assume that the setback boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:00 PM
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For the boundaries conversation try this Edit: this is just an example of how to properly set a boundary Tell her the following. " I am putting some personal boundaries in place to protect my own mental health. Going forward I personally won't tolerate being yelled or shouted at or being spoken to in a harsh tone. I will also not tolerate meanness or name calling. I will be enforcing these boundaries by first giving a warning "Hey, boundaries" if these actions don't immediately stop I will the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:48 PM
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For the communication issues in fights try this Time to draw on the basic relationship skill of sharing negative feelings without attacking each other. Couples often get in to a trap where one person says "You always do this..." and the other person feels attacked. So, they immediately close up and get defensive and launch an attack of their own "Well, you always do that..." - and so it goes. An ever escalating war that proceeds to mutually assured destruction. Here is the key to breaking attack…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:47 PM
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He lied in the beginning of our relationship about seeing other people (we weren't official but he lied) a few months ago & it's hard to trust him. He lied at the beginning and that was wrong, but it sounds like he's commited to you now. You either have to let this go or break up, holding onto this will just destroy your relationship. But his phone is always on silent & he mutes his texts. I do feel like I get mad at him for little things and I'm resentful because I don't know if I can trust him…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:46 PM
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Well what are you guys fighting about?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:22 PM
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That depends on what you're constantly fighting about. In my experience most fighting in a relationship is usually a result of someone feeling unappreciated or unheard. Another huge issue is that most people never learn how to "fight" properly in a relationship. It's supposed to be both of you working together against the problem, not fighting to win or lose, or to prove the other person is right or wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:22 PM
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The guy in the post you linked is doing what I would refer to as casual dating or dating casually. There's nothing wrong with that at all, EXCEPT that he's calling it FWB. If he's taking these ladies out to dinner and on dates, then they are casually dating vs FWB, or serious dating. I break it down into 3 categories. FWB, also known as a booty call or fuck buddies. Usually there's no exclusivity, unless it's been discussed. Casual dating, which can involve dating for fun, companionship, being i…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:55 PM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:45 PM
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I agree with you. It something that's always been somewhat of an issue, but I've noticed it's getting much worse over time. I describe the phenomenon as Listening with the intent to respond vs listening with the intent to understand and then respond. The issue here is that when you listen with the intent to respond, then you're not actually listening ( thinking about what they are trying to say). What you're doing is formulating your response while they are talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:44 PM
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So let's be real here, why isn't Steak an BJ day (or a different day for men) a fair trade where women do things for It doesn't have to be steak and a BJ. It could be Steak and a beer, or going to some event you don't like with him becuase he likes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:39 PM
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Question. Has your approach ever worked? After chastising someone have you ever had them offer you a sincere apology and promise to try to do better? If it hasn't why don't you try changing your approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:37 PM
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Try looking at it this way. Guys in PPD: I'm worried about not enough funding being allocated to research on diabetes. Lilith: Women get breast cancer and there's not enough funding for that. Guys on PPD: Okay, but I'm not ta lm talking about breast cancer, I'm talking about diabetes funding. Lilith: you don't care about women, you guys are assholes, women have problems too, but you only care about men. Guys on PPD: I never said that, I'd just like to talk about diabetes right now. Lilith: goes …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:35 PM
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I completely disagree. Good, kind people simply know that it's pointless to try and correct assholes. You can try to educate them a little (in a kind way), and maybe they'll listen to you, but aggravation them or arguing with them is pointless. Have you ever heard the expression "Kill them with kindness"?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:25 PM
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Perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:01 PM
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Not as part of most abortion statistics. That's usually counted separately, but not always.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:32 PM
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As a man, I look average born to Indian parents, my face is a big flag for white women. The solution is then to not concentrate on white women. If they come in to you go for it, but otherwise pursue nonwhite women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:25 PM
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But you know how women think. For example, the friends you do have that you know are shitty GFs, do you know why?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:03 PM
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I tried that the other day and got next to no engagement. I realised that unless it's edgy, toxic, drama or controversial no one in the sub engages, so I rewrote what I wanted to discuss for the sub user tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:01 PM
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I 100% disagree, and I think most of my happily married friends would also strongly disagree. Marriage is a partnership. There's zero chance I would have been able to have the success I've had in all areas of my life without my wifes assistantance and my friends say the same thing about their wives. Knowing my wife is taking care of the kids and other aspects of our lives allowed me to concentrate fully on work, and allowed in to retire in my early 40's. My best friend is one of the top surgeons…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:57 PM
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I'm a man. And I know, the other day, a post in a marriage sub exploded over how a dude didn't tell her wife he was with transwoman after a few months of being married. Funny how now he should have told her. In all fairness there's a massive difference between being bi and being trans. My advice to any ma who is bisexual, is that if you want to date women, and plan to be monogamous, then you should just keep your mouth shut and not tell her that you're bisexual. It's not some she ever needs to k…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:30 PM
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I agree, but I think a large part of the issue is that in my experience a lot of young people are much, much more selfish then they were in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:27 PM
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Perhaps he's asexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:04 PM
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I'm starting to realize this is the reality of this sub. I was stupidly naive and taught O could actually help a few people out. Funny enough I've had a handful of people over the years respond with things like the unicorn thing. I usually refer to it as looking at me like I have 3 heads. I mean they came to me for advice because they want to know how my wife and I are still going so strong, and when I start describing what a healthy relationship actually looks like they look at me like I'm the …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:03 PM
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My arguement is that a healthy relationship is reciprocal. Your arguement is that real couples usually either don't celebrate at all (because they get romantic every day of the year), or they do something mutual like a nice dinner or a movie. Hence the no true scotsman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:58 PM
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The reality is that there's been several studies done on the dating lives of bisexual men. The same results are produced every time it's a minimum of 65% of women who say they could never date a bisexual man, and in some studies it was 82%. It's an insecurity issue though, and not biphobia.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:53 PM
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Finally someone who gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:49 PM
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Yet they all respond like they have. Maybe I'm too old, but i don't understand it at all. Are most people really just on the sub to argue, hate, and vent?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:48 PM
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Real actual couples No true scotsman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:46 PM
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That might be true for couples that know what a healthy relationship entails. From what I can see the vast majority in this sub don't understand at all what a healthy relationship involves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:42 PM
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Wow, lucky you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:39 PM
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We're have to agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:39 PM
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Did you read the book? Did you guys use it to have deep discussions about the parts that were different? Did you discuss expectations in detail and agree to fulfill them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:37 PM
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From what I see on this sub, most people don't seem to understand how relationships work in general. I was hoping to foster some actual discussions. But I'm starting to understand that almost no one participanting in the sub actually wants to learn anything, they just want to argue and post edgy comments, or vent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:33 PM
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and she secretly believed she could change his mind. And the issue is that he's damn well aware of this and takes what she's offering knowing he'll hurt her. You see this a lot when couples have different life goals such as kids. Like she wants kids and he doesn't. She hangs on hoping he'll change his mind, and he wastes her youth knowing he'll never change her mind. If he was a good person he'd end it knowing that she's not strong enough to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:05 PM
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It's not about keeping score. It's about both parties understanding each others minimum standards/expectations and meeting them, and both parties giving praise and appreciation when their partner goes above those expectations. It can be as simple as recognizing the effort someone put in, even if they didn't give you exactly what you wanted. E.g. you agree to pick your partner up after a night out, and your partner being super pissed off that you were 5 minutes late.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:01 PM
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Well that's a shocker. I don't think I could remain friends with a person who is that manipulative
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:34 PM
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Did she kill herself when you dumped her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:30 PM
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So let's be real here, why isn't Steak an BJ day (or a different day for men) a fair trade where women do things for their men to show appreciation?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:29 PM
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It's a weird joking meme that focuses on relationships being reciprocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:27 PM
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If there's healthy communication and expectations that have been discussed. From what I see on this sub most people don't seem to have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:25 PM
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Have you ever heard of the love languages theory? It's a great concept to help couples with different needs both feel loved and appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:24 PM
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That's just someone with mental health issues
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:14 PM
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In your linked post - You mentioned sex as if it’s something that women begrudgingly give up and not something women willfully engage in. In a healthy union both people would most likely want to happily having sex. Again, I had hoped to foster some actual discussion, in what you referenced I had hoped to foster discussion on different libido levels and how couples can navigate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:10 PM
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Is it also sad if women look forward to Valentine's day?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:44 PM
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Well in my experience being agressive isn't the best way to get an apology, it just makes people get defensive. A little understanding goes a long way if you're looking for an apology.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:42 PM
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It's simple. I don't tolerate bullshit. It's deeper than that, but I can't waste anymore time trying to understand you. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:38 PM
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And if someone knows they are leading someone on for their own benefit, knowing the other person will be hurt, doesn't that make them a shitty ass human being?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:31 PM
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So you understand that not everyone is a perfect communicator? I've yet to see a single comment from you that isn't agressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:29 PM
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What do you mean corner me? You just jump from topic to topic. because you refuse to hold other people accountable for their actions. What purpose does that serve? Do you really think someone will change because you scolded them? All I'm trying to do here is get a better understanding of you. And no, sympathy isn't always a two way street. I still have a lot of sympathy for you, knowing you have none for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:26 PM
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The issue is that you get hyper fixated on one or two words, and then ignore everything else they said. It's part of why I'm asking if you're ASD
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:17 PM
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I didn't. Then maybe reflect a little and realise how aggressive and negative your communication style is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:10 PM
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Okay, are you ASD?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:09 PM
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Is that an album?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:57 PM
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Well for me it's that I always assume people have good intentions until the prove me wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:56 PM
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I didn't. Now back to the question I actually asked Have you ever considered that it's how you communicate that leads to negative responses?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:53 PM
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and even if he knew it was her fault for not making clear what she wants Of course she bares some blame for putting herself in that situation. That doesn't absolve him of all blame though. Question. If a college girl walked home alone from Halloween party last night wearing a sexy costume is it 100% her fault that she got raped, or does the rapist have any responsiblity?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:52 PM
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So are you saying that no one should ever have sympathy for you based on how you act Oh, I do well with men who would never say something as fucked up as "attempting it more" is just a "cries for attention" because they actually see suicide, regardless of gender, as a serious topic. JFC it's like talking to a brick wall. Are you capable of answering the question asked? My question was are you saying that no one should ever have sympathy for you based on how you act My point was that you act like…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:49 PM
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I have made a post about my friends and I being constantly sexually harassed by 'social awakrd sweet boys that just needed a chance to show how nice they are'. Have you ever considered that it's how you communicate that leads to negative responses?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:39 PM
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Where do you advertise it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:34 PM
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There is a huge difference between "Cry for help" and "Cry for attention". Yes, so why are you changing what people say about women's suicide attempts? Why are you changing it from a cry for help, to cry for attention? Claiming women's suicide attempt is just a cry for attention is trivializing women's depression and suicidal behavior, something I will tolerate from men demanding/expecting pity for men. Ah, so that's why your doing it. You're trying to make it look like men say that when it's yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:34 PM
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YOU went off to claim women's suicidal tendencies are just cries for attention. No one said it's a cry for attention. It's a cry for HELP. Help with whatever trauma they are going through. That attempt might be an actual attempt but they didn't choose a violent method of suicide perhaps in the hope that it wouldn't be final.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:27 PM
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You sound like the guys who say that women shouldn't talk or hang out with a man if they realize he wants to hookup, because obviously they are leading him on. In those cases I think the onus is on the woman to let him know it's never happening if he's investing resourced into her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:23 PM
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Do you really think guys are that stupid that they can't tell the difference between someone who likes them, and someone is only interested in sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:22 PM
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It's certainly her own fault for getting hurt. That doesn't make him any less shitty of a person for taking advantage of her. Question, if a man at the farmers market sold your grandmother "magic beans" and charged her $10,000 for them, would that be her fault for being stupid and naive? Or would it be that he was a shitty human being for taking advantage of her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:20 PM
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I also believe I may have read that post, and she was interested in more than FWB
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:17 PM
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In cases like you referred to the guy OPs is a shitty person if he kept having sex knowing she was still hoping he'd change his mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:16 PM
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It can be argued that "attempting it more" is just a "cries for attention"." is not caring about women's issues. How? No one is saying we shouldn't care for her or listen to her cry for help. We should be compassionate and get her the help and support she needs, and people usually do try to. Demanding women care about men's suicide while you guys care nothing women's suicide is expecting one-way sympathy. That depends entirely on the context. The context here is that it was being discussed in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:09 PM
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If he didn’t explicitly say, “I want to be in a long-term relationship with you,” and you never asked, you have zero right to complain. And this goes for men and women. This is BS and is a total cop out. Being a decent human being isn't difficult. In cases like you referred to the guy OPs is a shitty person if he kept having sex knowing she was still hoping he'd change his mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:06 PM
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To prevent hurt feelings, and to prevent one or both parties being led on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:03 PM
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You look a little gay in that picture if I'm being honest. But you look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:55 PM
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I look at the painting and see a girl who's very uncomfortable, but I don't see the look of a predator in the mens face.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:53 PM
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I completely disagree. It's certainly not the sexiest of conversations, but on one of your first few dates one.of you.should bring up what your intentions are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:51 PM
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Shit like what? Any psychologist (male or female) will tell you that the majority of women who failed at a suicide attempt were doing it as a cry.for help. Of course we care about women's issues. The documentary wasn't about women's issues though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:46 PM
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Are you.asexual? Have you ever had sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:40 PM
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Are you ASD?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:36 PM
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Do you advertise your OF on dating sites?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:38 PM
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100% agree. I had a commneter accuse me of being transphobic for pointing for saying let kids be kids, and don't try to indoctrinate them. People are way to soft and actively look for offense where none is intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:33 PM
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Okay, that's good to know. Can you now please explain your accusations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:25 PM
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How does that define the word transphobic?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:23 PM
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Just curious. What are your thoughts on the fact that the men doesn't typically get any sort of engagement gift from his woman. Do you think that should change?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:14 PM
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Please explain, and please define the word transphobic as you are using it here. Also what a horrible accusation to make without asking clarifying questions first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:07 PM
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That one's a little more fair in my opinion. But it could be you have straight friends or kids you're worried about. I mean, as a straight man if I was frequently lesbian subs talking about lesbian dating and relationship dynamics I wouldn't be offended if people questioned why I was there or what I could contribute to the discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:01 PM
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I dont think I have met a single women scared of living alone, childfree with gorgeous kitties and plenty of wine I think this depends on how old you are. My middle sister and a few of my wifes friends are exactly what you've described here. They are also in their 40's. It makes me think you must he in your 20's or 30's to have never met a woman who regrets not meeting a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:55 PM
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With the age ranges you gave it's not usually frowned upon in American spaces. You'll have to provide examples of why you think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:41 PM
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I don't see a lot if discouragment of those things. Is this something you've personally seen as become an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:38 PM
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100% agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:34 PM
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A lot of the women on reddit are bored lonely housewives or lonely single women. They don't like age gap relationships as they are either jealous or they can't comprehend that there doesn't always have to be negative power plays involved. For some reason they think the women that age are stupid and incapable of thinking for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:33 PM
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I don't in any way see how that's raising them agender. It's just letting kids be kids. They love dressing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:30 PM
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Well the sub is here to facilitate discussion. It's unfortunate that since people don't know how to have a civil conversation, and that of they call people insulting terms then the other person won't want to converse any longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:28 PM
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Yeah, remember the nipples? https://people.com/movies/george-clooney-batman-nipple-costume-auction-40000/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:25 PM
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Do you mind expanding on this statement? Are you saying you'd dress a little boy in skirts (unprompted by him)?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:19 PM
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God no. That's like saying will you raise your kid in a literal bubble in case they have Severe combined immunodeficiency (SCID). What you're suggesting is child abuse in my opinion, and could seriously mess with a child's understanding of who they are. A much better alternative is to let kids be kids, and let them retain their innocence as long as you can. My two boys are crazy into traditional boy stuff, drawn to fighting games, trucks, cars, etc But they both liked a doll and lots of stuffed …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:18 PM
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We're having a discussion not a debate. You seem.to be treating this like we're arguing. Look, I've tried as much as I can online, but you have cross some of the bridge on your own. Yes I pivoted to try and help.you understand. I.was trying to help you see that as humans we do have more needs than just food, water, and shelter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:07 PM
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No. The complete complete inability to understand the needs , emotions or thoughts of others is the issue here. Read the book, it's not what you seem to think it is. The book is a communication aid to help you understand that just because something isn't important to you, doesn't mean it's not essential to someones else. It's a way to help you map feelings together. Let's say you don't care at all about gifting (it's gifting not receiving gifts), but you do care about words of affirmation. You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:04 PM
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It's far more than that. I love my wife, nieces, sisters, my mom, and my best friends daughters for example. I don't want to die, but would risk doing so to protect them. What reason other than love would I risk death?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:43 AM
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No. It's a prediction that western society will fall, and we'll be left with chaos and lots of infighting and wars again. We'll revert back to a situation where men and women will have to once again take on clearly defined roles with the men having to be the protectors again as one of their most important attributes. Yes more women will get raped, but at least a proportionate of men will die. It's crazy to me how little some people learn from history repeating itself. Peace has existed for a ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:33 AM
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No one needs it. Thanks for clarifying I was correct
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:35 AM
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I should clarify that I was referring to you reading the book to help you understand and relate to other peoples needs. The love languages themselves aren't a real thing, they are just a communication tool for people with a low EQ
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:08 AM
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Could it possibly be that because you don't have a need for sex, that you can't comprehend that there are people who do? There a little book called The 5 Love Languages. It's a great book to explain how you can learn to relate to these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:05 PM
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No one denies shitty men exist. I'd estimate 15% of men are shitty, and another 10% are a little less shitty, but 75% of men are good men. You talk as if ALL men are shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:02 PM
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We're talking about needs, not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:00 PM
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Putting a dick in a vagina is not socializing nor is it a need. I asked about a basic human need for companionship not "putting a dick in a vagina". Do you really think someone wanting a new phone is anything close to being similar to a need for companionship? You can find companionship without whipping your dick out. Why do you keep bringing up dicks? It's got nothing to do with the question posed. Like I said, I address what you say, you just dont like my answers. Not at all. You're not addres…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:58 PM
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I didn't say that. Please address the actual questions I asked you. Humans are social creatures and the majority crave companionship. Are you denying this basic need? Do you really think someone wanting a new phone is anything close to being similar to a need for companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:50 PM
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I've never seen a woman troll this badly. Perhaps I'm naive, but I thought the vast majority of trolls online were men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:48 PM
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You did not address what they said, and you've never addressed anything I have said. You come up with new talking points every single time. It's an extreme case of listening to respond vs listening to understand and then respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:46 PM
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Nope! Just the physical. You guys are doing the stupid valley girl thing where you exaggerate things. "I LITERALLY NEED THE NEW IPHONE!" Humans are social creatures and the majority crave companionship. Are you denying this basic need? Do you really think someone wanting a new phone is anything close to being similar to a need for companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:44 PM
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Are you capable of actually addressing what people say vs creating your own narrative in every response?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:41 PM
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One thing I didn't really know was just how many women truly hate men. There's quite a few women on this sub who refuse to accept men's opinions on other men, and prefer to assume nearly all mens actions are based on maliciousness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:36 PM
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What you think of men: I need sex to feel loved! Yep What you also think of men: I will have sex with women I don't love and betray the woman who loves me! Yep, if his needs aren't being met. First of all, needs are something for survival. Which is food, water, and shelter. For physical survival yes. Second of all, needs are things you would require since coming out the womb: Like food, water, and shelter. Again yes. I can't tell if you're purposely playing stupid on not understanding that peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:29 PM
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Women in relationship provide cleaning, emotional support, generally handling the life of their partner, raising the children,organisation, etc. I completely agree with you, except possibly on the emotional support part. My question to you is are those things she values or things he values? Are they things she would do anyway if he wasn't involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:24 PM
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That is not how needs work. Please explain how they work then. Please enlighten me. Men cheat even when they do get sex. Studies show men cheat when the opportunity presents itself. Meaning, they cheat due to a lack of self control. Yes they cheat less intentionally and tend to cheat more if an opportunity presents itself. Does the research you quoted take into consideration the percentage of those men who aren't in healthy relationships? (FYI it doesn't). Here's a quick way to tell sex isn't a …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:14 PM
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And in another comment you said i’d be okay with him being close friends with people he was already friends with before our relationship started. his roommate was a girl when we first started dating. i’d feel weird about new female best friends. Do you not realise that you yourself put men in a catch 22? He's damned if he doesn't want female friends, and he's damned if he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:08 PM
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And again I think you're looking at it incorrectly. The issue in my opinion is that most men are self aware enough to know that physical attraction can become an issue. As you put it "the juice isn't worth the squeeze", which here means the "emotional tampon" stuff isn't worth it when there's no reward for it, or that if they already have a partner, they know they could be putting themselves in a dangerous position.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 10:02 PM
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Sure, thousands of years ago too. My point was that once societies started becoming more civil, and we had much more "brain jobs" vs manual labour that height was not as important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:56 PM
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I'm a man. It's not misandrist at all. I'm not taking about personality differences. I'm talking about our needs as a partner, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:54 PM
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At this stage you've defintely been stood up (sorry). The text is just to guilt her into a response. I'd also send a picture of where you are, so she can see that you did actually show up. I don't understand the mentality of young people nowadays, and why they think it's okay to treat people like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:35 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:31 PM
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Text her. "Hey, just checking in to make sure you're safe. I'm getting really worried you were in an accident."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:30 PM
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My guess would be that a few hundred years ago it mattered a lot, but then I once societies started to be more civil it mattered a lot less so long as you could provide. Then it started to become much more important again over the last 10 years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:28 PM
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So 4 then
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:24 PM
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That's my exact observation too. I still can't tell if she's doing it on purpose, or if she's really that oblivious. I'm leaning more towards on purpose though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:13 PM
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Who cares
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:04 PM
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My wife had forbidden me from predicting if a couple will break up or get divorced, especially when it's her friends. She got tired up me being right every single time, and joked that I was jinksing people. The majority of the time my predictions were soley based on how the couples talked to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:03 PM
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Some men being bitter (and rightfully so) about the current state of affairs when it comes to dating and relationships, doesn't mean they hate women. They're just hurt and tired. I personally feel a lot of empathy for young men nowadays, and I'm worried it will eventually cause some very, very serious problems for our modern civil societies. I'm also worried for the women of the future who will likely lose all the progress they've made over the last 100 years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:48 PM
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This is very well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:38 PM
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I'm not sure that's true at all. In my experience most men Iove women. They just want to be treated like men, and don't like being expected to behave like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:35 PM
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For men I learned that the small minority of men who care about N count are really damn vocal and their position makes no sense. What have you seen on the sub that makes you think it's a small minority vs the majority of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:32 PM
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It can be extended indefinitely with the correct techniques and good communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:39 PM
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Aka trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:22 PM
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Absolutely https://www.reddit.com/user/bunnakay/comments/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:20 PM
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Again not what I asked. Arguing and debating are different things. My only point was that you seem to be here to stir the pot for your personal entertainment, not to actually engage in honest discussion. Which is why I think you're a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:20 PM
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, and you love arguing and causing drama? What about that part?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:14 PM
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See there you go again. By agreeable I don't mean "saying whatever makes men happy", I mean agreeing when someone does make a valid point. From what I've seen, and based on my own limited interactions with you, you completely drop out of conversations when someone has a valid point and question your weird arguement on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:14 PM
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The transactional aspect is implied. What I hoped to start a discussion on, is that more people need to acknowledge these things and actually discuss them. Once you do your relationship will be infinitely better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:11 PM
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Even if they did they still wouldn't fully understand the dynamics. Of course she can participate in the discussions, but she should acknowledge that she's not a "normal" woman when it comes to heterosexual relationships, and the dynamics involved. Would you go on a lesbian sub and pretend to understand the dynamics of lesbian dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:09 PM
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You answer questions as though you're a typical woman. Can you at least admit you don't like being agreeable, and you love arguing and causing drama? A lot of your responses often seem like you're intentionally trying to provoke a response
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:06 PM
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Yes that's part of the whole "men and women being different". Women's libido ofen drops over time Also her libido doesn't have to drop too much. If she acknowledges she has a responsive sexual desire and acknowledges that sex is important in a relationship she can easily work on activating her responsive desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:59 PM
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It's not hard to predict at all. Ask any woman you are close to. They know exactly what their true libido is. The honest ones will also admit that they engage in more sex at the beginning because it's expected. I will acknowledge that if she's never had a relationship for longer than 6 months that she might not know her own true libido level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:57 PM
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You are also very well aware that you are an extreme outlier when it comes to women. I'd say less.than 1% of women are similar to you, yet you answer as if you speak for regular women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:54 PM
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By attractive I meant physically
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:52 PM
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You are. You answer as if you're single, and you just want to argue. Oh, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:50 PM
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That could just as easily go both ways. Why don't you, as a man concentrate only on high libido women? That's incorrect though. Men constantly complain that there sex lives were great at the beginning, but later (after the were emotionally invested) went downhill. A typical womans libido can easily seem to be high libido at the beginning, but her real libido reveals itself after the honeymoon period is over (that period can past 6 months to 2 years)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:49 PM
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Now you're getting to the meat of what I wanted to discuss in my post. You know most men you date want frequent sex, and need it to feel content with their partner. Knowing this, if you're low libido line 85% of women, why aren't you concentrating only on low libido men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:06 PM
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Men are more likely to say fuck that I rather be with the simple "uneducated" woman who's pleasant to be around. This is the part OP needs to understand better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:58 PM
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Height, high income, an emotionally available man, a man who takes interest in her hobbies, a man who doesn't want frequent sex, a man who will be an "equal" partner solely based on her version of equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:57 PM
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That's fine, but it's most definitely not the norm for 99% of men. I don't think it's possible to change your view
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:55 PM
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So it's not transactional. You have to agree to he terms of a transaction beforehand If you're in a relationship with a man you know damn well that one is the expectations is usually frequent regular sex. So yes, you did agree to the transaction
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:53 PM
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Correct but women very often want a lot more, and get very annoyed that men don't place a high value on the other things they bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:51 PM
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Right, but they'll have much easier life with it. I'm worried about the state of the world and have already bought both my kids home as a saftey net for them. Would you deprive me of my right to spend my money as I choose?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:49 PM
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How high of an education is your requirement? High school Community college College Masters PhD
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:47 PM
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So therefore a body count requirement isn't ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:44 PM
1

Then your view has been changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:42 PM
0

It's rare that daddies money is the only reason for their success.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:42 PM
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Loyalty, a partner they find attractive who will have sex with them regularly, peace, a companion, and someone to take care of them (which they take care of in return)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:40 PM
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So why do you think having a body count requirement is BS?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:36 PM
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Question for you. Would you date a girl in your class who has fucked every single guy in your class?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:35 PM
1

And how is that affected by inheritance?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:31 PM
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I have nothing but admiration for my mother, she's very selfless and has an amazing ability to make each of the kids feel like we're her favorite.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:27 PM
1

Why do you think parents shouldn't be able to provide for the kids and grandkids?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:25 PM
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How clueless so many women are about how simple men are. By that I mean the constant denial of what men really want from a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:21 PM
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It really is. I've got two sons, and I'm already a little fearful for them with how fucked up dating etc has become.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:17 PM
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It's a balancing act with everyone when you discuss politics. I seriously need to bite my tongue whenever talking to a younger person about politics. They typically mean well, but very often live in a weird utopian mindset. The trick is to simply never argue about politics. Just say your piece and acknowledge theirs is also valid. Perhaps someday you can change their view but it's not going to happen because of you arguing your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:09 PM
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Yes, and it be great if more people would start recognizing that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:05 PM
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She's just a bored wife who likes trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:04 PM
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You're not being very inclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:03 PM
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In my opinion it's more about things not changing too fast, especially without knowing the repercussion of the changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:58 PM
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Sure you can, just make sure you actually listen to their opinions and don't state your own as Fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:57 PM
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Ah, she's trying to do gemini mind tricks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:55 PM
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When I was dating I certainly preferred college educated women, but my point is that it's not a requirement, and it doesn't raise a woman status much. What most men want is a loyal, attractive women, who's fairly agreeable, takes care of them, and has frequent sex. Education and other similar things can certainly be a bonus if you're providing the other things. If you're not providing the other things no one give a shit about your degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:53 PM
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That friend of mine associates a degree with intelligence in a woman That covers the better conversations. A woman who works is not a "career woman". A career woman would be a female lawyer who is obsessed with climbing the ladder If she went and got a degree she's much more likely to want a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:28 PM
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Okay, those are things she values, not things most men place high value on for their partners. They are certainly bonuses, but aren't a requirement for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:26 PM
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If anything it'll make her less agreeable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:22 PM
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Ask them if it's due to earning potential or just to assist in better conversations. Also ask them if they were rich would they prefer a stay at home spouse or a career woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:22 PM
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an African American now owns Twitter. Lol, good one. Never thought about it that way before
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:17 PM
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How exactly is having a degree(ability to make money in real life) the same as being good in a video game which is useless in real life ? Because most men don't care too much about that, they don't place a lot of value on it (justim.j ecwomen don't place value on him being a good gamer). Pretty much all my friends have stay at home wives (or their wives work only because they want to) , and the ones who don't aren't in the happiest of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:15 PM
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Depends on the man, but for most I'd say it's a preference not a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:10 PM
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Because it's true. If you're going behind their back to get your needs met, then you're doing that because you do still love them despite the fact that they are no longer satisfying your needs or holding up their end of the bargain.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:08 PM
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But you don't understand the dynamics if you don't date men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:03 PM
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It's not that men don't want them. It's more about the fact that it's not a requirement, and doesn't really add anything to the womans value in terms of what she brings to the table. Try thinking of it this way: let's say you meet a guy and find out he's a level 8 Mage on Fornite. Does that add value for you in terms of what he brings to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:59 PM
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Her education level is a bonus, it's just not a requirement
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:55 PM
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That's fine, but you're definitely in the minority. Over 65% of women say they'd never date a bi sexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:31 PM
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Listening to my niece talking to her friends was a real eye opener into how mean and cruel some teenage girls can be. My BIL grounded my niece for 2 months a few summers ago for being a mean girl despite my SIL protests that it's "normal".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:05 PM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:59 PM
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When a man is abusive? “Well, maybe his mom made him like that since most criminals were raised by a single man”. Nope. We don't excuse those men. We might try to understand why they turned out that way, but we do not excuse them. When a man irresponsibly has 10 baby mamas? “It’s not fair that he has to pay so much in Child support!” Most men who don't step into the child support and/or fatherhood role are labeled and branded as deadbeat dads. The only time I see child support arguements is arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:57 PM
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Then adopt
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:45 PM
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I like sex. I'm also lazy and would prefer not to have to put in the work needed to manage a responsive sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:44 PM
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with the possible exception of Britain, nowhere else have I seen such low quality women who perversely seem to think they're God's gift to men. I chuckled at this one. It's very very true. I feel sorry for British men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:42 PM
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Then why even participate in this debate. It's also something you have no real experience in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:40 PM
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What division of labour? You have to do all the labour when you are single
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:28 PM
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No one is saying that's the only reason to have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:25 PM
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Okay, but there's still more homeless shelters for women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:15 PM
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You don't have to have kids of you don;t want them. You don't ha e to experience childbirth
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:14 PM
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Because I live in the west, and women haven't much easier here then men do. They are catered for, and aren't as accountable for their actions
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:09 PM
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I will.say that I very firmly believe in the old school tradition of a man/boy calling to the house to meet the parents. The modern version can certainly be meeting the family Dad/brothers/uncle's meeting a man a woman is getting serious with. It'll certainly seem sexist to many but ai do truely believe hat many/most men do have very good instincts about what other men are like, vs sisters, moms and aunts and often be easily swayed with charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:38 AM
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That's certainly an aspect of things. One thing I've never fully understood is people letting themselves go after getting in a relationship. To me it's like false advertising. Someone is willing to dress up, work out, doll up etc to get a date, but then once you're together it's suddenly okay to stop making an effort? I'm not saying I've not being guilty of slacking off on personal maintenance over the years, but I am aware of when I've done that and started to course correct. The same thing goe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:29 AM
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What you're calling Reciprocation is part of "transactional".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:42 AM
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Aren't you married?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:39 AM
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I'm a man and here's my take on things. In my opinion many men would be happiest knowing exactly what the minimum expectations are, and are more or less happy to fulfill those. But they'd appreciate praise when they do more than that, and that praise would encourage them to do more than the minimum more often. When it comes to the sex activities on porn I agree with you, and think of they wanted more vanilla sex then most women would be be more open to sex more frequently if it wasn't "weird sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:14 AM
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that he continues to be the type of person I would even consider dating. And that probably includes a lot of different variables.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:02 AM
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In my opinion the love languages are really just a communication tool to help people with different needs to understand one another, and provide what each person needs. That in itself is a transactional arrangement. E.g. one of my wifes primary love languages is gifting, vs that's not important to me at all, mine is acts of service. Having discussed this with her in great detail, I know almost exactly what her gifting needs are and literally have them scheduled in my calendar. She in turn caters…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:01 AM
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The transactional aspect is always a symbiosis of sorts, and the transactions don't always have to be equal. In my own situation my own wife admits I do a hell of of lot more than she does if you're an outsider looking in. I'm one of those people who usually rarely sits still, and is always on the go. Right now I've been taking a step back from the constant go, go, go mentality, but when I am on, it's full steam. Because of this I don't mind doing a larger share if the traditional chores and pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:53 AM
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That's fair. I would suggest that the solution is then to 100% avoid OLD and only express interest in men you yourself are into, and where you make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:23 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:45 AM
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Done. It hit the shitpost filter again
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:43 AM
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Are you a mod?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:39 AM
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try imagining that access to casual sex has negative value. Like what? Can you explain that further?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:19 AM
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Exactly what he said. Women in the west have it very easy and are catered to on a much higher level then men are. There are also lots of safety nets for women but next to none for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:18 AM
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Yep, that's my reasoning to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:07 AM
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I know exactly what you are talking about. You are saying that the men who fell for you only did so because of the fact that you were emotionally close to them, and that the intimacy they are feeling towards you is a result of you being close to them, when they aren't used to that. The reality is that you were likely always seen as "fuckable" but not relationship material to them. But then when they got to know you deeper they decided that "fuckable" was good enough and that your other attribute…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:04 AM
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Fine, I'd still be female next time around
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:00 AM
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A women so long as I had a high libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:55 PM
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You'd fuck or try to date a female friend after a traumatic experience or when no one else in your life showed you support? Got it. How on earth did you get that takeaway from my last response?? As per usual males on average are only capable of putting themselves in thr shoes of other men The same applies to both sexes as the thought processes are a little different. I'd consider myself to have quite a high level of EQ compared to most, but I still struggle to put myself in a womans shoes someti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:53 PM
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It probably depends on their age and how busy/stressful their lives are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:30 PM
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The difference between men and women is the socilization where men lack emotional intelligence or social awareness. I 100% disagree. I'd estimate it counts for 10% of the differences at the very most. Men on average have no ability to self reflect and have no emotional intelligence. I'd say it's the exact same for the majority of women. But that depends on how you define self reflecting and EQ. Funny how the more "logical" sex publicity displays their lack of emotional and social intelligence co…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:28 PM
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To me it's really boils down to how close we are and how much trust there is between us. In really only have 3 best friends (aside from my wife), and interestingly enough one from each childhood, high school, and university. Those are the guys I can 100% trust with anything, and could open up to about my Deepest or darkest emotions, with zero fear of being judged. Two examples are that one friend was getting divorced, needed funds so I lent him 50k no questions asked. Another is that I had a med…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:18 PM
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Sex every other day is high libido. But I get what you mean by mid libido here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:50 PM
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I get that. My point was that there is different levels of friendship. I'd pretty much rank my friends on the following order. Best Friends Friends Group Friends Spousal friends Colleagues Aquaintances They're all friends, I just have a different level of closeness and intimacy (sharing private thoughts/emotions) with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:47 PM
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Okay, so he's definitely in the minority of men (25%) that are low libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:44 PM
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Your comment just further illustrates that reality. Nearly 100 men who claimed to be friend couldn't have actually magically fallen in love with me after truamtic or events or because I showed up when no one else did. Sure they could. That's how most men work. To me it sounds like you aren't acknowledging that the differences between men and women are not a social construct for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:42 PM
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We're in "friend mode" about 80% of the time, sex is only a few times a month. That's your perspective. I can almost 100% guarantee you that the guy you are FWB with would be happy for it to be 80% sex and 20% friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:38 PM
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If people used it as a tool to understand certain relationship dynamics better, then TRP would be much better. The problem is that many if not most redpillers seem to make it black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:36 PM
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No, not true friendship You don't believe in friends with benefits? That's sex buddies, they're with you for the sex. The friendship is secondary.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:18 PM
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I've had enough ex male friends during my life time who told me that they weren't attracted or interested in me but fell in love with me because of what i did for them and because ot how I made them feel. Yes, attraction can grow. Guys know that, and it's why they are often insecure with their GFs making close male friends. Basically they start to overlook that they don't find you physically attractive, and the feelings they have start to make them physically attracted. And all of my female frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:16 PM
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Therein lies the difference. This is clearly a communication issue. When men talk about not being friends with women, they mean close one on one friends, not group friends. I guess it depends on if you "rank" your friends or not. Personally I don't consider group friends to be "real" friends for example, they are group friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:03 PM
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Not a monolith but I'd say 75% of us are pretty much a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:54 PM
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No, why would it? Because if they were only interested in friendship they wouldn't fuck you if given the chance. I noticed you didn't include my 40%...why is that? Because only 15% of women have a spontaneous desire, and therefore most women wouldn't act on it given the chance or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:43 PM
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I think some of what you said here is fairly accurate. But I don't agree with your conclusions. So when women offer genuine emotional/mental intimacy the automatically process that inherit affection as romantic/sexual love, This I disagree with some what. It's more to do with "why" would you go there without there being a desire for a romantic relationship. since men are socialized to have zero emotional intelligence While some of it is socialization, I don't think that's the main cause of our l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:39 PM
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Personally I think it fairly normal that they want to get reassure that they're making the right decision, and frequenting those subs or whatever, cements their thoughts that the decision they made was the right one. I have one friend that we joke is like Leonardo DiCaprio. He doesn't date only super young women, but he does date as you as he can and usually sets an clock on the expiration date of the relationship. Usually 12-18 months or once any fighting or arguing starts, or if he starts gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:28 PM
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About 70% of them And you don't see how that skews any sort of real friendship?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:22 PM
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I get what you're saying, but I understand that the MGTOW people are still resentful that they have to GTOW
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:21 PM
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That's true. I wish the mods had allowed me to post it, as I do think it's a huge part relationships/friendships that people in general do overlook. I find this to be especially true in romantic relationships where it's not fun or sexy or whatever to discuss things in transactional terms. Personally once my wife and I divided and conquered on the vast majority of chores and expectations our marriage went from great to bloody fantastic very quickly. It's really nothing more than both of us saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:19 PM
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How many of them do meet up with frequently (say 3-4 times a year) just the two of you? How many of them do you text regularly? (Again one on one, not group texts)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:03 PM
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How many of those make friends do you think would have sex with you if you offered it up on a platter?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:59 PM
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Possibly. I know a few men who I guess would be considered MGTOW. They're basically just "done" with playing mind games and relationship games, and they've gotten to an age where they just don't want to deal with it anymore. They're so burnt out from bad relationships that they don't see any point in even trying anymore. They just don't see the benefits. It probably doesn't help when the see many guys in the group divorcing and/or complaining about their own relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:57 PM
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Perhaps I'm mixibg you up with a different commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:49 PM
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I should also add that the solution to responsive desire is to recognize that's what you have. Recognize what gets you in the mood for sex and then start doing those things. E.g. let's say you have a high libido partner and you know he's taking you on a date tonight, and you know he'd probably love to have sex at the end of the night. Then during the day you can both do the things needed to get your "engine" going, being flirty, sexy little messages, some physical touch, grooming yourself in exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:01 PM
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Not at all. A spontaneous desire is high libido, and a responsive desire is low libido. This often times becomes a huge issue in long term relationships becuase during the honeymoon period when there's loads of new relationship energy a person with a responsive sexual desire (or low libido) can appear to have a spontaneous desire (high libido). But their true desire only reveals itself when the honeymoon period is over. Then one party if left wondering why the other doesn't desire them like they…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:51 PM
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Because you clearly don't have a spontaneous desire. A spontaneous desire basically means you're pretty much up for sex at any time. Have you ever seen any of those teasing tiktok videos or YouTube shorts? The ones where a woman puts her hair in a bun and acts like she's going to give the the guy a BJ, or she just walks in front of him naked when he's otherwise occupied (TV, gaming or whatever) and he's super excited. That's a spontaneous desire. He wasn't thinking about sex but when she offers …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:41 PM
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I 100% agree. My problem is that even in friendships people often don't reciprocate enough. A classic example of this is if a friend vents to you way too much. At the beginning you might be more than happy to help your friend by listening, but sometimes you then become the default person they vent to, and that gets old fast when you don't feel they are bringing anything to the friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:31 PM
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one of the main issued in relationships is that what people give and take can't be measured "objectively" and subjective perception of fairness is more important. Conflicts start when partners have different views on their personal input and what they're getting Which is exactly why these things need to be discussed. Personally I've found that divide and conquer is the best strategy for the vast majority of chores etc. Thay way each person knows the minimum expectations. E.g. it's my role to dro…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:28 PM
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Okay, so you likely have a responsive sexual desire. That unfortunately can often cause a lot of issues in a relationship. But there are plenty of ways to work around that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:04 PM
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That depends on the couple. These discussions are usually best had by starting in broad terms about what your minimum expectations are overall. If each person doesn't know exactly what the others minimum expectations are then how are they supposed to fulfill them? In general unspoken expectations breed resentment. The 5 Love languages book is an amazing tool to facilitate these discussions. Unfortunately most of those who talk about the love languages have never read the book, and don't understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:02 PM
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I'm referring to the relationship as a whole not just to sex. One of my minimum expectations is that I only have sex that I want and enjoy. Question for clarification: are you saying you only want sex when he's willing to put in the effort to help you orgasm, or that you only want sex on your terms/when you're in the mood?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:58 PM
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Most high libido men would want more in the morning. Like I said this is a fairly simple situation in my opinion. It can be solved simply by asking him how often he ideally wants sex. It's unfortunate that most people dance around the subject
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:55 PM
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That's fair. I would have thought it's fairly simple for a woman to figure it out. It could be as simple as asking him (after you've had sex for a while), how often he ideally wants to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:46 PM
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I agree. My point is that in my experience big relationship issues often arise precisely because one party isn't fulfilling the others minimum expectations. E.g. I provide ABC and in return expect DEF". This can even be as simple as one party not feeling praised or appreciated enough for their contribution. It can be something as small as a husband thanking and praising his SAHM wife on a daily or weekly basis for what she does vs "I work, so why should I praise you".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:45 PM
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A guy fulfills all your minimum expectations, and then expects you to fulfill his minimum expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:41 PM
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The transactional part I mentioned. It's not a "sexy" way to think about it, but it's reality. The transition here being "He wined, dined and wooed you" (what she wanted) and now he wants sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:40 PM
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I'm curious, are you dating low libido men? They aren't the majority but it's estimated that 25% of men like 85% of women have a responsive desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:38 PM
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Not necessarily. If you compared her to a woman of the same age that just didn't get married but did have very long term relationships, I wouldn't see any issues. But if you're comparing her to a woman of the same age with no dating experience that's different. In my experience any woman I have met who hasn't had at least one serious long term relationship by age 35 has a good reason for that (usually some negative personality traits).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:35 PM
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Tried to make a post on this but it wasn't allowed. Hopefully it can be discussed here. CMV, All relationships are transactional when you boil it down. It doesn't matter whether it's FWB, a hookup, a casual relationship, a serious relationship or a marriage, at the end of the day it's transactional. Sure there's love and deep feelings involved, but if you aren't engaging in fair transactions, then the love easily dies. In my experience men are much more likely to acknowledge this, and are usuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:31 PM
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Sorry to hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:54 PM
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How do you think men feel when they are rejected? In my opinion this guy clearly likes you, why don't you make a move on him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:47 PM
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100%. I had a friend a while ago complaining about a massive decline in BJs in his relationship. Her #1 complaint was he didn't wash his dick enough. His arguement was that he showers daily so "it should be clean". When I told him that I wash my own dick with soap and water right after brushing my teeth at night any time I'm hoping for sex he thought it was the my ridiculous thing ever. I couldn't convince him that it was such a simple solution to his dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:42 PM
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Question (if you don't mind answering). How frequent was sex in your marriage? If it wasn't frequent, do you think frequent sex would have made a difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:36 PM
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That's mainly due to 75% of men having a spontaneous sexual desire
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:29 PM
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Question for you. If it's just bonds with women that we want, why are men do obsessed with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:25 PM
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Wait. You have a BF?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:23 PM
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Those areas also have a lot lots traditional women in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:07 AM
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We should protect all women regardless. We live in a society, which should be seen as a large community, this when something is happening to OUR fellow women, we should step in. Why? What's in it for us?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:04 AM
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Not sure how this is relevant to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:02 AM
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They're still here. They just got replaced by non-binary
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:59 PM
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Guinea pigs are the best pets and the easiest to look after, they only live for 5 days, and you never need to feed them or give them water.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:57 PM
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Like why are we waiting for women to change? Not what I'm talking about. An example is the man picking up the tab for meals etc because he's getting laid later that night. But then he doesn't get laid. Hell most guys barely have the courage to approach a woman for a date. Because the chance of rejection is too high for many. I've seen men just stand by and watch a woman get assaulted on trains and do nothing. Not if it's his woman though. The deal is he protects his woman, not all women. Men sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:51 PM
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So why then do men still complain that women aren't traditional? From what I've seen it's due to women still expecting men to be traditional, while not being traditional themselves. In my opinion relationships are inherently transactional when you boil it down, and if one party isn't doing their part then the balance feels off. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/yf5zvm/cmv_all_relationships_are_transactional_when_you/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:27 PM
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I'm happily married, and I'm on the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:12 PM
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If you take the RedPill the you leave the Matrix. If you take the BluePill then you forget this sub existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:04 PM
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My mistake. There's a typo. Retag
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:02 PM
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If it was a CMV post, they would have posted that. To me it looks like they are just looking to start s conversation. The problem with that mod making it a CMV post, is that discussion (on top level comments) must challenge what the OP wrote, you can't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:52 PM
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Why do you feel the need to retag posts like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:38 PM
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I tried watching a few episodes of the show after seeing this post. While I agree that most of those couples should probably break up, I also think people are emotionally complicated. Personally I've only ever dated one man that FDS would consider a HVM, and unfortunately I was the one who drove him away with my insecurities. Most men I've dated haven't had a high level of emotional intelligence which I guess means they aren't a HVM. That being said they did give me much of what I've needed over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 03:31 PM
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