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| 62 | Know your worth ladies! Don’t offer to pay for a first date you were invited to attend. And never offer to drive a stranger home. Boy, bye.I love this and am adding these to my arsenal of replies. I’m new to FDS and sticking up for myself. Me even replying to this crap was a huge step and I just let the words fly out of my mind into the text. No filter no edits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 09:17 AM |
| 55 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everYou’ve inspired me. I’m currently so out of touch with my own sexuality and sexual needs. I don’t wanna give anything away anymore. I think that it is a lot easier to leave sex out of dating because these men don’t seem to stick around and it feels a lot better when you can walk away not having had that experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:08 AM |
| 20 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsStraight woman here and I 100% agree with you. It feels like a total waste of time to be sexually and mentally attracted to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:21 PM |
| 7 | Just watched Some Kind of Heaven on Hulu. Ladies, please do not stay with these LVM through the golden years of your life…Pickme behaviors can last a lifetime. There are multiple older women who entertain his bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 12:23 PM |
| 14 | Preach it, sis!Oh I started an absolute shit storm with my comment on this post 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:41 PM |
| 75 | Posted on FDS a few months ago during a breakup. We broke up. I bought my own house and took possession this weekYou are absolute goals. I’m hoping to do this in five years. Working on the first big girl job/career move post grad degree. Better late than never! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:24 PM |
| 43 | LVM making his partner pay for everything, while he uses his full income for himself onlyIf his health is THIS BIG of an issue he’s got no business being in a relationship right now. Should be alone dealing with his own issues. Not sucking the life out of her in a “faux” relationship . I have been with a user like this when I was a pickme in my former life. Nothing good comes of it. He already doesn’t respect or regard you by this point. He will get better and leave. Or cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 12:50 PM |
| 37 | Why I forget things at his place.Omg I love this. Ordering a value pack of women’s earrings off Amazon and leaving them on the dresser of new men I date in the future (if I can ever muster the courage to bring myself around men anymore lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:44 PM |
| 122 | Aziz Ansari steps out of the spotlight with Season 3 of 'Master of None' (NVM gets benched for being a rapist)FDS ladies we did this! He was called out for his NVM behavior and despite the patriarchy refusing to completely ditch him, they knew their ratings would suffer as there are many female viewers for his hit series. We spoke out and he was wounded. Never stop calling these scrotes out for their bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:36 AM |
| 17 | Found this scrote in the wild….who doesn’t understand how conception works….Well NONE of these men believe they are LV so like how DARE we judge them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 10 | Men are oblivious to how they ruin their families with their porn-soaked sexual greed. Dude asked why his wife appliance broke. Saw this gem in the comments. He spent hours on Tinder, but he had no time for helping his kids with their homework and now he wants he wants HER to "act like an adult".It’s like what the podcast said in last weeks episode: men value the endless casual meaningless sex they see alphas getting and feel they deserve that as well. Versus emotional connections and deep long term commitments. They are incapable of valuing anything that also brings us stability and joy. No thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 09:14 PM |
| 8 | Men not boysI honestly don’t even want to have make friends anymore. I’m drifting so far away from men as a part of my everyday life other than the ones I need to work with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:02 AM |
| 68 | Profile of a Pickme- Behaviors on the First Several DatesLet’s not forget a LOT of the risky behaviors you’ve listed here could also classify as part of borderline personality disorder. Which disproportionately affects women and often goes undiagnosed (especially in the us). Let’s continue to support women seeking therapy and proper diagnosis as sexual dysfunctions are often linked to mental health issues for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:58 PM |
| 82 | How does FDS inspire your OLD experience besides vetting and having a scrotation?I’m convinced OLD has become a swimming pool for the lowest value men, many of who hate women or want to easily use women for sex and suggest bullshit dates like walks or 50/50 split drinks, or worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Gentle reminder: Please go get that Pap smear you’ve been putting off. And a full std test while you’re at itI was clean for 5 years. Before I found this sub was celibate for half of 2019 and all of 2020. then had one of those predatory “he took the condom off” during drunk sex. 3 months later tested positive for HPV Aptive. Anyone else going through this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:15 AM |
| 257 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.I wish my other female friends believed this. I 100% agree with this and am still struggling to process these new truths. And what it means for me going forward in love and dating and partnership. I’ve basically stepped out of the dating game Bc I’m not in the mood to handle the sexual pandering. But most of my girlfriends seem fine with this and give it up casually but still complain they want love and a “decent guy”. I try to explain what I’ve learned from FDS but they seem to go on the mans d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:16 AM |
| 2 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I currently live with my dad who would probably shoot him on sight as he’s basically Gran Torino lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:43 AM |
| 19 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Agreed. It rattled me and usually I’m pretty outspoken. But obviously I’m here in this group Bc I have had many doormat tendencies when it comes to men. I’m proud of myself for course correcting when I realized this wasn’t a date but more of a cattle call to see if I was bare minimum level to him for a fuck. I don’t owe men an explanation or an apology. And neither does any other woman in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:43 PM |
| 43 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Thank you and I may take you up on this. Going t dig around linked in today to see what I can find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:55 PM |
| 59 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Yep I had never saved him so have his number up top and the start of the messages to me were “you think you’re so clever to block my number and I wouldn’t be able to reach you” .... he used another number to send all that shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:42 PM |
| 285 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Good call and I will check! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:27 AM |
| 90 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I’m so sorry this also happened to you. It’s incredibly narcissistic and cruel. And I’m sure you felt some level of anxiety from it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:16 AM |
| – | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I only know his first name. Looks like he’s a musician but wouldn’t go into more detail About his full time job etc (all of these pink flags are what lead me to just go). So I’m not able to do much more to call him out. Saving the novel he wrote me of insults. I may need it to defend myself should he get fixated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:46 AM |
| – | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I panicked and deleted him off bumble but there may still be a way to complain. I’m honestly shook. He is a literal stranger and we spent maybe an hour together max. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:06 AM |
| 75 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?TLDR: went for one drink with a guy off the app. After the drink he asked if I wanted to go to his place. He said a few other suspect things during the one hour we spent together and something just felt off. My senses were tingling. Went to the ladies room after we packed up to go and decided I needed to get out of there ASAP. So I went home, no apology. He called incessantly and texted but I didn’t feel comfortable answering him. And then he sent me this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:04 AM |
| 21 | Sexual health.Agreed. 90% of men do not give a fuck about our sexual health. And don’t care about their own unless they have raging symptoms that affect their daily life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:46 PM |
| 17 | Research validates once again how men are promoted faster in the workplace (hint: it’s schmoozing)Worked that job as a naive 23 year old up until just recently. It becomes the office ghetto and you get typecast and can never ever move up. I felt like a nanny, maid, wife, personal consultant, shopper, therapist, organizer. It was hell. I’ll be damned if I ever take a job like that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:23 PM |
| 8 | Research validates once again how men are promoted faster in the workplace (hint: it’s schmoozing)What’s that? I am a newbie! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:50 PM |
| 59 | Research validates once again how men are promoted faster in the workplace (hint: it’s schmoozing)Or work as their admins with absolutely no upward mobility in the workplace. Office wife status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:06 PM |
| 87 | Research validates once again how men are promoted faster in the workplace (hint: it’s schmoozing)A good ten minute listen on the research of office dynamics and how women once again lose opportunity due to the creepy male bonding that apparently “doesn’t exist” according to men.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:53 PM |
| 13 | Beware of the men who pretend to be *woke*.Men who work in politics=almost always sexist perverse BDSM boundary crossing entitled pricks. Even in the public eye they don’t seem to care if they get caught. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 15 | Online Dating After FDS-BootcampHere’s one thing that I used to sometimes overlook or forget to check as part of the vetting process: publicly following and liking pics of pornstars and only fans accounts on Instagram. I find that to be so fucking distasteful and just shows the guy likely has a massive porn addiction which lends itself to many many many other issues. Low value behavior they try to hide from us. If I see that I’m immediately out now. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 03:33 AM |
| 50 | Have you dealt with having men in healthcare or other jobs belittle you during a appointment?I had an allergy doctor go on a tirade about how tattoos are NOT allowed in his house and if his daughter came home with a tattoo he would disown her or cut it off of her. He said all of this immediately after I took of my cardigan, revealing my half sleeve while I waited to get allergy testing on my skin.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 11:33 PM |
| 59 | Another reminder that hits close to home.Precisely. Don't go into a meeting with any man from a LACK mindset. You are not competing against hundreds of other women, your age isn't a qualifier/disqualifier, nor is your BMI or anything else about you that they love to judge us by. These men NEED you and your attention, you don't need shit from them, hold onto that power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:29 PM |
| 14 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!Sometimes even if they go to therapy who’s to say they aren’t lying to the therapist and/or waving their therapy flag around to show women how woke they are. Had a guy do this to me once. Would not shut up about how he was so Mature to be in therapy. He ended up acting like a complete sex addicted sociopath and ghosted me in the end. Better get a refund for those sessions, buddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:56 PM |
| 23 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!This was me. I was your friend. Continually getting burned by men bc I mistook interest with sexual desire or lust. Because I believed that if I wasn’t accepting his sexual innuendos or comments in flirty chat that I was bruising his ego or I was being “frigid”. When in reality it’s completely abnormal for someone to behave that way, almost as if they were a sex addict. It hurts and it leaves deep scars that often opens you up to welcoming this behavior from men even more. But I’m so glad I foun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:54 PM |
| 69 | Can you imagine a world where we refused to sleep with men who didn't prioritize our pleasure and comfort?And let's not forget they are not only terrible at the act but also consistently fail to respect a woman's boundaries before during and often after sex too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 09:07 PM |
| 78 | This is an important, straight-forward explanation that anyone who may be new here needs to listen to. It may be a hard pill to swallow at first, but really you should recognize this realization as your own freedom from a system designed to oppress you.this is the truth right here. Men really do not have ANY feelings about anything but themselves and how their own ego feels around whatever is in front of them. I have very often felt like a mirror for a man to see how great he was reflecting off of me and if I cracked that mirror he immediately got disgusted and threw me right in the trash, looking for a new shiny mirror to make sure his bullshit looked polished. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 02:27 PM |
| 15 | This is an important, straight-forward explanation that anyone who may be new here needs to listen to. It may be a hard pill to swallow at first, but really you should recognize this realization as your own freedom from a system designed to oppress you.They now use disgusting tactics to manipulate and sweet talk and lie their way into the vaginas of low self esteem and naive women to get the residuals of their patriarchal deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 02:25 PM |
| 6 | I'm relapsing into pickmedom.And LVM have a much higher likelihood of attracting and keeping pick me’s instead of high value women who are secure and willing to help them be better. These men are on a rinse and repeat cycle almost indefinitely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:01 AM |
| 16 | I don’t want the men I used to want anymoreSAME. this would have saved me so many bad experiences with me and sex. There just wasn't as much female positive dating advice in the mid 2000's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 125 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.This feels all too common. Is it because some these crappy men lose sexual/lust attraction to their partners after having a child and then just disassociate from the entire situation? This is a huge fear of mine :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Advice Needed: How do we come off as the one who is choosing on a first date?This is genius! Thank you ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:45 AM |
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