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It's awkwardtheturtle (poor owner of u/awkwardturtle!!) and the correct link is: https://www.change.org/p/reddit-mods-ban-u-awkwardtheturtle
/r/MensRights03/08/21 09:43 AM
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If she upped and went straight to the kids to tell them without you, a mediator is not going to work . Also, DON'T LEAVE THE HOUSE, like the others said. Can put you at huge disadvantage if it gets nasty (and, again, due to the above, it's gonna). Kids will be fine. Let them know they're awesome, that they can ask you anything and do your best to answer without lying. Edit:. Clarity
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/19 06:44 PM
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I think all but one or two states have laws anymore regarding infidelity. Unless they're in one of those, the courts could care less about it. I'm NAL, but, if it's in one of the states that does matter, it wouldn't be considered revenge porn as it's evidence. It'd most certainly be sealed though.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/19 06:26 PM
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Totally welcome bud! Hope it serves you well. Feel free to DM if you have any other questions. :)
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 02:56 PM
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Here's info based on my experience: $3500-$5000 retainers are very common. Can get much higher depending on the expected fight over assets. Start fishing by phone. Ask these questions: How long have you been practicing at <insert county court>? What are the names of the Judges that my case could be signed to? What is each Judge like and how does my case get assigned to them? How do you feel about my case and what you expect the overall outcome to be? Answers you're looking for: The longer the be…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 10:35 AM
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Tell her tough shit, lol! She's very likely ignorant on how taxes actually work. Deciding to divorce now has no bearing on the past...and, guess what? 2018 tax year is all said and done bud! Just because she wants a divorce now doesn't change the fact that you guys weren't divorced in the 2018 tax year. My advice? File that sucker, just as you would have without this stupid stunt. It's not illegal nor wrong to file it, claim any dependents, or tax credits as usual under a married filing joint st…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 04:19 AM
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I really feel for you here bud...when there's abuse or infidelity it's a whole lot easier to make this call. In these instances though, it's really hard. Your post really resonates with me as I too have that logic-minded/problem-solving mindset. It's a total mind-fuck when your literally solving the problems presented to you by your SO while not actually, in her eyes, solving anything. You're absolutely justified in being exhausted from the constant uncertainty that the "divorce/not divorce" fli…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/19 03:09 AM
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Doubtful...it's very common to try and work out such details mutually and courts typically far prefer agreements that are mutually agreed upon. I suppose an extremely biased offer, maybe, could be interpreted by the court as predatory and place you in a negative light...but, not very likely. The court will be focused on the guidelines set forth in the state's laws. During times of divorce it's super-common to be emotionally driven and family courts account for that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/19 02:19 AM
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Oof, I feel ya. Same here, ~20k for custody, no real assets, no assessments or professional testimony either...ughhh. Didn't even have official trial either....was "trial by lawyer". Some ambiguous wording that should've been more specific, some specific that should've been more ambiguous...kiddos bday's completely left out, lol! All in all, was worth it though. He knew pretty much exactly how the Judge thought and would rule on the important stuff...worked up an excellent strategy. Ended up wit…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/19 01:55 AM
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Ohhhh, gotcha, due to amount of days physically in your home. Yeah, can confirm they give zero fucks about divorce judgements. Definite rock and hard place situation. She may have already filed and claimed them...making this even harder. She's in compliance with tax laws, so, this is an entirely civil matter. If she has, this gets super tricky to try and fix at the IRS level too. Not as simple as her paying you her refund. As having them as dependents on your taxes affects a whole boatload of ot…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/19 07:37 PM
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If divorce is final with judgment and all, you shouldn't need her to sign anything? What document does she have to sign?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/19 06:51 PM
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Stop paying for consultations. Lots of them are just going through the motions, collecting the checks. They don't care what the outcome is and the longer it goes on, the more $$$ they can get. $3500-$5000 retainers are very common. Start fishing by phone. Ask these questions: How long have you been practicing at <insert county court>? What are the names of the Judges that my case could be signed to? What is each Judge like and how does my case get assigned to them? How do you feel about my case …
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/19 02:09 PM
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So, I was in the same situation...only it was ~400 miles away. You need to get an attorney and file for divorce right away...like yesterday. Along with that, file a petition for emergency custody and a temporary parenting plan. If there's any domestic violence at all, top it all off with a restraining order and get her out of the house. IMHO, such a threat makes it very clear she doesn't really care about your relationship with the kids and that she's in this to get everything she can...and, if …
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/19 01:17 PM
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That's not the linked article. http://www.iheartradio.ca/newstalk-1290-cjbk/news/woman-who-put-baby-s-body-in-dumpster-handed-suspended-sentence-and-probation-1.8462397 ^ - doesn't specify the facts you stated.
/r/MensRights27/09/18 05:17 AM
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Did you read it? The article doesn't specify either of those things.
/r/MensRights27/09/18 05:11 AM
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NAL Yeah, a Judge won't let that fly. Failure to pay is not a valid reason to withhold parenting time. Gotta let them know though. Go here: https://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/forms/Pages/enforcement.aspx You'll want to check your local court for additional forms/instructions.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/18 07:31 PM
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Unless otherwise specified in your judgement. If it's during your parenting time, you can do whatever you see fit and she really has no say in the matter. She can makes noise, but, that's about it. Best to give aftercare a heads up that she's making such threats. They likely won't tolerate it and simply say there's nothing they can do. If she insists in bothering law enforcement, they'll set her straight too. Sounds like shes just being emotional. She'll get over it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/18 06:17 PM
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Not unless the photos were taken illegally or are illegal themselves. Best advice is to just stop following and/or block them. Takes awhile, but, soon enough you'll give zero fucks about what's posted. :)
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/18 10:56 PM
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Don't even bother fighting over that stuff. It's real simple. Who wants to buy the used stuff? If she wants it, cool...she can buy you out at half the value and you go buy new stuff. Or, vice-versa. This perspective makes it easy. Unless it's super-high-end designer stuff that's worth like 30k, you'll spend more on attorneys fees than it's worth fighting over.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/18 11:57 PM
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Seriously, send the same exact text back. Sit back and watch hilarity ensue. She no longer has power over you man. That divorce Judgment is your friggin bible now. It solves all conflict. I take pics of relevant parts when she claims I'm in violation and text them back. Along with, "you're more than welcome to address this with the courts if you feel differently." They (the court) won't play the nitpicking game. They're waaaay too busy for that shit and they'll send that message to her fast. Ima…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/18 02:11 AM
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Oh def understand man! Same here, ours was via conference call and the mediator did their job doing best he could but kept making the "ohhh my gooood" face with eyerolls and all the whole time. Was hard not to just rofl at times. Literally everyone involved in the whole thing was absolutely flabbergasted after trying to deal with her. Mediators, CPS, Law Enforcement...the Judge (Her poor lawyer!!!) LOL
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/18 02:05 AM
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Yeah, mediation and/or their opinion is protected and unusable in court though. Depends on your court/Judge...but, generally speaking, in Oregon, she's not going to get to take off out of State with him if you put up a fight. Especially if you're dishing out that much alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/18 01:59 AM
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See, this is the cool thing...it's not! You have total control over that now. She tries to call? Do not answer, send text: "I don't want to talk to you. I am divorced from you now. Leave me alone. All communication going forward will be via text/email and in regards to the kiddo and the car repair only. Any other matters please address with my attorney or directly with the courts." She refuses parenting time? Text: "I have court ordered parenting time. We are divorced and you do not get to decid…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/18 01:49 AM
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I feel ya there man. Been through all that, then some, lols. Still amazed by it all in many different ways. Do you have records of her threatening to move out of state? Not allowing your ordered parenting time? She can't move out of state without 30 days notice to both you and the courts and you can object to the move. Without a valid reason the court will tell her no.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/18 01:28 AM
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Keep documentation showing your attempts to fix. Schedule appointment for the work to be done, give her the appointment info. She can reschedule if it doesn't work for her. Provide said proof after 60 days. She sounds high conflict. All of these discussions should only be in writing via email or text and should only be about kid or getting car fixed. Do not interact via phone or in-person. If this isn't the norm for you, make it so. It will make it much easier to deal with her. What does your ju…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/18 09:58 PM
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In my experience...not, really. I was is in a very similar spot. Proving the abuse in court costs a fortune and CPS won't do much unless there's other types of physical abuse involved. Best you can do is divorce, get 50/50 and you raise them how you see fit, she does the same. Support them, let them have a say, find some good individual and family therapists (many places have free therapy for DV victims), and in the long run it'll matter and they'll see through her BS. It's a long journey, but, …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/18 02:15 PM
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Honestly, when someone hurts you like that...I'm not sure you really ever do. For me, it's been 2.5 years since final, 3.5 since separation, aaaand I'm still pissed. Hell, I even won!! With time though, dealing with it is much easier. It gets nothing more than a moment's attention anymore. But, it's certainly still there, lurking in the shadows! Edit: the usual disagreements with autocorrect.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/18 09:44 PM
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NAL... but, in my case (married ~10yrs, Oregon), the rule was: In your name only and only you used or benefited from it = you keep the debt, In your name only and BOTH used or benefited from it = joint debt. Her dept store card she only ever used for herself in her name only = her debt. Her dept store card she also used on clothes for you/or kids = joint debt. What you've paid into it: it's gone, sorry. You can even go as far as itemizing statements and splitting only joint related charges. AU i…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/18 10:57 PM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/18 10:09 PM
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