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Dude. I’m sorry. That sucks. Best you found out now. You sound like a great person and Father. Your girls are lucky and over time they will see that. Believe me. My kids mom was the SAHM that did everything for them while I worked. I regret now how things were but I can’t change that. I have 50/50. 14/10 B/G. We have awesome adventures together and they still do with their mom too I suppose. Don’t worry about the outside world and their impressions of you as all that matters is the three of you …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/26 03:02 PM
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Ya for sure I think that was my point. Saying never get married again because how bad first divorce sucked is fair but also to rule out another long term partner isn’t great. Multiple friends of my 80 yr old dad had life partners after their first marriage (some official married and some not). For me idgaf anymore. I’m not scared to get married and or divorced more times. lol. The first one is definitely the hardest. I’ll just be much much smarter this time with legal work and not having anymore…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 02:46 PM
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Who gives a F mate. Good luck finding a high quality (or not high quality) female that wants to be your GF for 30 years on paper. Especially if you don’t have kids.. I’ve got quite a few examples (of my 80 year old dad’s buddy’s) to site on this. 2 that recently were diagnosed terminal that decided to up and marry their long term GFs of 30+ years. Why would they do this? Well because they care for their partners and clearly the state cares about that piece of paper.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 05:10 AM
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Let her find it brother. Now it’s time to go find your own. You can do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 11:38 PM
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Lol lol lol the last line lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 12:47 PM
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Hah man I remember 36! Right now, “You can’t see the Forrest for the trees” but I promise you with hard work, self reflection and some old fashioned time it will become clearer. You will be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/26 01:14 AM
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This 👆 I agree. It took a while for me but once I too realized that “you ain’t shit” was when I fully let go and moved on the right way. My GF makes me feel special all the fricking time. And the crazy thing? I don’t even have to “provide” everything for her because she is a Boss Bitch. (That only makes me more attracted to her and wants to make her feel special). That’s a pretty special feeling and one I’m not sure I ever felt before or at least since the beginning with my ex. Is she perfect? N…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 09:16 PM
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Your days will be very busy with two little ones but like always time will fly and before you know it they will be very self sufficient (especially if you do your part to raise them that way). You’ve got your whole life ahead of you bro. I’m 47 (divorced at 44). The world is your oyster, you just have to make it that way.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 07:50 PM
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“You wanna know why divorce is so expensive? Because it’s Fuckin worth it”. Idgaf what she spends/spent the money on anymore. Is what it is. And it was a lot…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 10:37 AM
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lol lol 😂 that would fill a Luis V
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 10:35 AM
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Thanks but I’m good on making my own decisions. I don’t care now if I marry 3 more times. I’ll be bullet proof prenup and trust. Also, my GF makes like 4x me tbh and I do just fine. She’s got plenty and would be protecting herself and her grown children. I gladly would be just a Partner but ultimately long run she won’t do that for 10+ years.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 09:45 PM
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Ya bro. Same here. My last 3 years have been amazing. I had moments for sure in the first year. And again 6-7 months ago when another guy moved into the picture and eventually into my old house. Once I processed that for a bit kind of sat back and had a good laugh. I miss my kids the weeks they are at their moms but my relationship is better with them than ever and surely better than if I was still married and ostracized because my parenting skills “aren’t right”. I agree with you about the dati…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 08:16 PM
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Bro. Go live your life. That sounds terrible. I’m sorry
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 10:20 PM
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OP I’m sorry you are going thru this. She has deliberately already cheated multiple times, told you she didn’t love you anymore and even has the audacity to then still throw it in your face. Please, for yourself, it’s time to move on bud. She already has. You have to now focus on yourself and surviving this all mentally and physically and financially. 50/50 will be a given. Your daughters are old enough and will adjust 100% fine. Get a lawyer. Try to take it calmly with her and go thru the proce…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 11:50 AM
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Dude I’m doing this I think next year. I’m not bad but I’m not great anymore. Lol. Two best buddies did it and worked great.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:15 PM
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Oakland
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:09 PM
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Michigan. Married 14 when filed. SAHM for majority of time. Thankfully at least got a job in year before filling and we knew it was done. I paid 3 years only. My lawyer said I could fight that but I just went w it. She got a lot more in assets, that’s why lawyer said that. 6 more month tho!!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 08:33 PM
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Michigan. Married 14 when filed. SAHM for majority of time. Thankfully at least got a job in year before filling and we knew it was done. I paid 3 years only. My lawyer said I could fight that but I just went w it. She got a lot more in assets, that’s why lawyer said that. 6 more month tho!!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 08:33 PM
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Michigan. Married 14 when filed. SAHM for majority of time. Thankfully at least got a job in year before filling and we knew it was done. I paid 3 years only. My lawyer said I could fight that but I just went w it. She got a lot more in assets, that’s why lawyer said that. 6 more month tho!!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 08:32 PM
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OP. Sorry this happened. You sound intelligent. So do the intelligent thing. Move on. She already has.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 01:55 PM
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Damn. A couple sentences you said really hit. I still look back and think about for how long and how many times my ex was looking at me and truly thought “Gosh, I really don’t like this dude”? All while I was working and paying for her and my family. Plenty of us on here were suckers bro, and plenty still in it are suckers. This is the game I guess. I’m so thankful now it happened though, I love my time with my kids now. We create our own timeline.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 01:54 PM
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Came here to say this. If you are reflecting and asking yourself if you are a narcissist then highly likely you are not. It’s nearly certain that a true narcissist would never question their own behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 10:20 PM
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In sickness and health…did she say those words? Man, I don’t know what severely ill is but I hope you get better. She’s not there for you in that she isn’t worth another second of your time on this earth. 50/50 custody. Fake a smile and internally get ready to go to war. Saddle up
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 02:35 PM
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This is so true. My parents were very supportive to me during it all so I’m thankful for that. My brother kind of but not really. To be fair he has his on Shizz to deal with. I had a small group of boys that were there for me. They all had been thru the same years ago (some a couple times lol). Those dudes were my ride or die. I’ll never forget that from them and I’ll always be there for them.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 01:52 PM
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Dude just enjoy the moment. Dont put too much pressure on yourself. Go with the flow and make sure your boundaries are respected as much as hers.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 11:13 PM
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So what. You are saved
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 11:01 PM
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I missed this and thank you for your perspective (immediate..). I wasn’t looking for anyone to come to my defense but this poster seems a bit aggressive. I actually wasn’t putting my ex down. I literally was just explaining something that bothered me. I don’t think I showed bad signs. I explained something that I said bothered me. That i spent many years doing what i felt right to support my family..and i felt slighted to hear that i didn’t meet the gold standard. ‘Hicks’ I never ranted and said…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 04:30 AM
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I’m 50/50. Week on week off. Mine are older now after almost 3 years. 15/10. It gets easier!! I had mine for 3 straight weeks this summer for holiday and I feel you - I was gassed! I’d see if can switch to week on off. It would be so much better for everyone imo. You got this bro! Remember some time in the future and it will be faster than you think you will actually miss this time period and give anything to have it back.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 05:15 PM
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Yes this one got to me but nearly everything else nowadays my response in my own head is that of your Dads now. Thanks for responding
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 12:02 PM
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That’s a bit selfish imo on her end. Do you mean like pictures on your social media that include your kids and your ex? Or like pictures in your house that include her? If the latter, then those need to go. If the former, I think that’s ridiculous to expect someone to go back and spend that much time eliminating them all as actually that would signify to me that someone was bitter and not appreciative of that period of their life. You have kids with your ex, it was a large portion of your life, …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 01:18 PM
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Got it. Understand your point.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 11:56 AM
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Ok sounds good. Sorry you had a crap childhood and sorry about England in the Copa. Maybe they’ll win today 🤷 have a nice day
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 08:50 PM
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Ok bud. I’ll make sure to do that. I said he was younger yes, but Not sure where you drew the conclusion that he is more attractive than me. You don’t know what I look like or him bud. Maybe you’re just projecting. 🤷 I didn’t call my ex a skank. I said it seemed awfully fast. And the comment about I’m not a good/great man clearly. That’s not very nice of you, you don’t know me at all.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 08:03 PM
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Ok thanks for the feedback. I said I was nearly there but not 💯. So this scenario triggered that remaining portion. I also acknowledged I got long winded there. And sheesh getting ripped on a divorced men’s forum for saying ‘giant cans and smoke show’ 🤷 I guess that’s a bit immature, but it was bit of humor and she paid for them well before me and loves them herself so is what it is. Saying she is a smoke show is me saying she is beautiful. I would hope you or any other man who got gutted in a d…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 06:50 PM
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Ok bud. No need to classify me as an insecure man. I clearly stated in my post title that it was something that bothered me some but that it shouldn’t. I listed it as a rant and realize it’s my own feelings. To have some level of insecurity about something is just being human. Believing one does not have any insecurities I believe is called narcissism. As for “upgrading” I guess that’s really just based on her own feelings so clearly I’m sure she thinks that. There’s a whole lot more there but n…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 06:26 PM
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Like I said entitled to your thoughts bud. I’m 💯 sure she hadn’t been happy for a while for a variety of her own reasons. I still wouldn’t sit around and tell my kids how my now GF is better than their mom in every possible way (to me at least). That would be disrespectful to her imo
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 06:17 PM
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Hah thanks my man! I could see how that would be awesome to have a sister who’s in your corner. Good for you! My daughter is my BFF and hype person just not on this topic lol 😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 06:12 PM
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Fair point. Focus on my circle. Agreed
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:46 PM
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I guess what do you mean exactly? Scarcity?
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:45 PM
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Thank you and you are right. I’m an overthinker and let some stuff get to me that shouldn’t
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:44 PM
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My nearly 2 yr GF loves how into her I am. And I love how into me she is. I mean no disrespect to her and she would not think that either. In fact I told her about my post as she knows I use this forum as a way of others perspective and thinks it’s healthy to discuss feelings
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:44 PM
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Both of you are right. Good perspective and I work automotive so that one is great
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:41 PM
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lol very true
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:41 PM
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lol no it doesn’t unless remarries. Her alimony has another 7 months shelf life. Can’t wait for that pay raise
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:40 PM
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Really good advice. Thanks for that
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:40 PM
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Thanks man. I’m basically there but yes still have moments where something gets triggered. Stating it on this forum is my way of venting (I don’t have a sister lol)
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:39 PM
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That’s fair. It’s not so much the guy that bothered me it was that was how little I think I was valued all those years before divorce talks
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:38 PM
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Dude spot on. My GF still lives in her marital home. Not a chance in heck I would ever live there. Her kids first days were in that house. If we move fwd we will be doing it in a new house. A very big house w a pool 😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:34 PM
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Well I agree that it’s not my business. I don’t want to hear anything about it. But when she makes a point to say something so strong to my 15 year old son who likely internalizes it and makes him question it his parents even loved each other and has to come tell me it kinda gets thrusted on me. She was a SAHM because that was her caveat to having kids after we got married…not before. I definitely never said she had to do that. Anyway. I’m the one who posted so you are definitely entitled to you…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:33 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. It’s well past time to go. Go live your life and hopefully find a partner that values you fully
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:29 PM
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Thanks and I appreciate the insight. I will work on fully digesting them. I’ve come a long way since the first months for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 07:59 PM
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I think you may be right. Legit the one thing I told her when we finalized “probably shouldn’t let anybody know about your paid off house as there are a lot of shysters in the world” exact words too about 3 yrs ago 🤦 not my problem now. You are right
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 07:58 PM
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Hah thanks Man. She’s great! So far…lol jk
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 07:56 PM
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Thanks brother. And I know you are right. It shouldn’t bother me one bit, but it kinda does. Just makes me rue the years I spent on her. And I mean spent lol. Can’t change the past tho and how was I to know back then. And I think you are spot on…legit dude would be my age (47) when she would be 60. Not sure that pencils either.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 07:23 PM
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My ex said this to me 17 years ago too. Somehow 4 years ago her beliefs changed. lol. Cost me 7figs. Get one.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 04:42 PM
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Dude. This ⬆️ I’m 2 yrs w my GF and there’s at least a 50% chance I’ll end up getting married again. There’s a 💯 chance I’m getting a PRENUP!!! And she makes 4 times me. Kanye got one dang thing right…Holla we want Prenup!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 12:00 PM
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Listen to this. 3 years out and there’s always some type of BS to deal with. It will make you feel slightly better but it won’t make your life easier. You know what the opposite of love is? Not hate. It’s indifference. Show her you dgaf anymore. In time all things become clear to everyone. Focus on yourself and your kids
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 04:56 PM
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Well done!! As a lifelong player/coach/fan now you know why it’s the World’s Sport! In most countries you don’t even need the Goal but just a ⚽️ball. Great job Dad! My kids and I after 2.5 yrs of my 50/50 have developed our “own things” too! I love hearing from them “that’s a Dad house thing!”
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:36 PM
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