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I saw that one at the bookstore the other day. Thanks mate.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:47 AM
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Yeah, I don't know if I can trust anyone else that deeply ever again. It feels like a part of me is dead now. Trying to keep my head up. From the ashes grows the forest.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:44 AM
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I'm not sure if I can. I loved her with all my heart. I can't imagine finding someone else at this point. I guess time will tell?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:34 AM
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Unemployed, looking for work. Lawyer sent notification that she signed the paperwork. Next step is financial disclosures. Sad.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 01:12 AM
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I'm getting so sick of hearing about how men lack "emotional intelligence." It's become a social media buzzword that excuses women of their inability to communicate with men.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 02:37 PM
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I'm glad you found peace. Last night was my first night alone in the new place also. Technically moved in last week, but it's my friend's house that I'm living in and helping clean out of her parent's stuff. It's still quite a mess, but I get to make it mine. I was giggling at the dishes situation you described. My STBX would trash the kitchen and hide dirty dishes in the oven. One time I went to preheat and filled the house with plastic fumes because she hid a plastic cutting board in the oven.…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 01:26 PM
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I used a mantra. It's just a wave, not the whole ocean. Meaning you have to feel it, just like you'd have to ride a wave to get back to shore. It kinda helped. What won't help is pushing the feelings down with alcohol and drugs.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:10 AM
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Hopefully I'll have other more important anniversaries to remember. Not another wedding, but something.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:07 AM
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I thought I was Sooo smart making mine 9/10/11 so I'd never forget
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 02:55 AM
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Thanks. It was like I was a ghost all day. We were supposed to be going on a romantic trip to Ouray, CO I had been saving up to surprise her with. Instead I spent the money on moving and an attorney. It sucks
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 03:31 AM
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One day I'll be there. The wounds are still bleeding.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:54 AM
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She was served the papers Monday, this is our first separated.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 12:35 AM
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My wife told me she wants to leave me in June, I hired a lawyer and she was served the papers today, coincidentally the same day I moved out. All I could think all day was about how much I wanted to hold her and tell her it will be ok, I'm only doing this because it's what she wanted. I felt guilty when I switched the utilities out of my name, and when I shut off the Internet. I still worry about her being able to afford life. She left me. She gave no warning, just wanted to divorce. It's fucked…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 04:14 AM
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Grief is non-linear. It's like the waves in the ocean, some days it's clear, some days those waves crash into the cliffs.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 04:08 AM
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I'll let you know when the shock fades.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 03:58 AM
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All I did was talk, but I guess her perception is all that matters, especially in the eyes of the "law" . I am going to wait until I'm fully divorced to be with another woman because my vows meant something to me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 11:00 PM
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You can't fix her issues. You can only fix your own.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 03:56 PM
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Food for thought boys, thanks for the change of perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:30 PM
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It's crazy how similar my STBX sounds to yours. I'm so glad I won't have to put up with that stuff anymore. It's also not like I didn't help with chores either, I worked as a chef, grueling hours and would still be the only one who ever finished a chore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:28 PM
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Yup. It works on women as well, my STBX has an algorithm that says leave your husband and you'll be happy. Hate men and start to use them. It's horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:36 AM
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Maybe? Idk I just expect them to form a friendship. I'll probably cut and run idk.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 09:01 PM
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I just spent my 45th birthday packing up my stuff. Moving out next weekend. It sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 03:31 AM
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Mine told me and then left to "go get coffee" and didn't come back for hours. That was 15 minutes before I had to go pick up our 16 year old from work. He knew something was up because I was wrecked, and I'm not in the habit of lying so I told him alone after the countless times he asked me to please talk to him. She finally came back and was angry that I didn't wait to talk to him together. Wtf did she want me to do? Lie like she does? Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 01:43 PM
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Mine's The BBEG. That's D&D speak for " Big Bad Evil Guy." It's the boss at the end of a campaign.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 11:26 PM
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We need a poll of how many of our exes/STBXs refused therapy. Seems like it's a pattern
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 10:21 PM
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What he said. I adopted my STBXW's son and she utterly destroyed me. This sub is probably the wrong place to ask. I'm not even sure if I can trust a woman to give my heart to at this point and the majority of men here probably feel the same. That being said, to hell with your husband, he's not a man, he's a child cosplaying as one. What a dirt bag. I'm sorry he did that to you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 03:49 AM
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Not sure if this is the right sub for this. I can't answer for your boyfriend, but yes. That doesn't mean that he wants to go back to his ex though. You'll have to develop trust with him with communication and patience. Men are stigmatized for having feelings, and we tend to try to stifle them as a result.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 03:43 PM
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Yeah. There's a whole bunch of influencers out there that are basically bitter divorced women who make videos pretending to love their lives because they left their husbands. They tell women to "go live their best lives" and that their men are holding them back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 06:05 AM
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I'm in the same boat. My lawyer emailed the paperwork to me yesterday, awaiting on a notary. The thing is, even I could go back in time, it wouldn't matter. She would have just moved the goalposts. I can't compete with the divorced friends she had and the social media.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 02:49 AM
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I'm new to it too, brother. You're not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 09:32 PM
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Good advice, thank you. I've been struggling with how to turn half as cold as she did. It goes against my being, but she's made it clear that the only interests she has at heart are her own.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 09:17 PM
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I'm officially moving out of the marital home September 8th, and today I notified the utilities companies so they can switch my service to the new address. My STBX gave one sentence when I asked her why she was leaving me. "I expected more." is all she said. In our 15 years long relationship she has never had to worry about any bills being paid on time. She expected more she says. She's had Internet, shelter, streaming services, lingerie, fancy dinners, concerts, flowers and medical bills paid f…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 08:51 PM
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I don't know if she has yet. I'll probably find out that she's been cheating though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:19 PM
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We'll be better than ok. Stay up my man!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 06:39 PM
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I decided to get tour posters at every future one we go to together and frame them. I'm so happy for you, too!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 06:27 PM
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Nope. But all of us men going through this need to remember that we can walk away with a clear conscience. I supported her, financially and emotionally, and made every effort to make her feel loved. When my son, who is her biological that I adopted, expressed his feelings last night it made me hurt for him, while also made me feel not so alone. The two of us are going to come out of this closer and stronger, I can't say how she will come out of this, but I can't imagine she'll feel nothing. She …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 05:32 PM
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Sometimes I just have to cry on the couch. Yesterday was so tough for me, but I got through and today is better. Try and remember, this is just a wave, not the whole ocean. It's ok to tread water until you get to shore.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 07:18 PM
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That perfectly describes a lot of our STBXs and exes. They're so concentrated on us proving our worth when they ignore what we've been doing. Providing, loving men get left because they don't know how to appreciate what's right in front of them. Total "grass is greener" syndrome.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:25 AM
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New Mexico.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:21 AM
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In my state if there's no response in 30 days you can go default and the terms submitted will be the final judgement.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:45 AM
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You're not alone. This shit sucks. Society tells men to suck it up in every situation leaving us unprepared for this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 11:25 PM
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I'm sorry this is happening to you. Abuse is never ok. You need to make a plan and GTFO quickly. Hire an attorney, make plans to move to a safe place. Leave when he is not there and don't tell him or anyone that would tell him where you are going. If you try and talk with a violent person that you're leaving they most likely will escalate the violence. Don't let him know about this post, either, I hope you used a burner account to post this, if not it would be a good idea to delete this and make…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 05:05 AM
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"Where have all the good men gone?" They ask. There's a lot of social focus on "raising men right" which of course is important, but when every girl is raised being told they are special princesses, it's no wonder that they act so entitled in adulthood. My STBX says she "expected more" but never even expressed her expectations to me. She completely withdrew and no matter what I did it never would be enough, because she is a special princess.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:38 PM
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I was referring to the divorced friend as a narcissist. She is one. Completely self obsessed lady who has 2 ex husbands and 3 kids, her social media is nothing but pictures of herself in those stupid "moments of introspection."
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 11:14 AM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:05 AM
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Here's to the next chapter!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:05 AM
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That's my plan. Indifference. I want her to be nothing to me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:45 AM
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I couldn't prove it anyway. She'll just lie.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:35 AM
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I don't think I want to know. She's already betrayed my trust, the details won't make me feel any better. She's gotta live with herself, I don't anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:23 AM
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I agree. I was made out to look like a fool, but if I didn't learn from this, I would actually be a fool. Mama didn't raise no fool.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 10:13 PM
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No, I will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 09:39 PM
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I think she used to, until she started hanging out with our former neighbor who got divorced. She's definitely a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 09:21 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:46 PM
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I keep hearing the same stories as well. I'll be damned if I let this turn me into a red-pilled misogynistic prick. I've spent my 45 years of life building empathy and compassion. I will not compromise my values. Will I be hesitant to love again? Yes.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:30 PM
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No. I met my STBXW when I was 8 years old. She was my friend I met in cub scouts little sister. Our families have been close all our lives.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:14 PM
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The adoption was 15 years ago. I don't regret it, my son is the only good thing to come from her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:01 PM
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C'mon dude I'm trying to cheer this guy up.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 04:13 PM
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I'd suggest dropping the attitude of "I need to man up." That's bad for you, man. Men are allowed to have feelings. Reject that nonsense and feel what you need to feel. This is just a wave, not the whole ocean, and you need to ride the wave to get back to shore.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 02:23 PM
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My STBX got a job at a grocery Co-Op and started wearing patchouli. It doesn't matter who the other dude is, they aren't high quality people. Neither are our exes. What's grosser, banging an attorney or a smelly hippie? Ew gross to both.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 02:06 PM
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Her simp lives 3 hours away. It sounds like she didn't have as easy of a time as you think. I would feel kind of pathetic driving 3 hours for a piece of tail. Don't you think that's pathetic? Plus, you have a clear conscience, you did right by her, don't blame yourself for her actions. So many of our stories are nearly identical, maybe not in the details, but keep coming here. You aren't alone in any of your feelings, most of us here tried so hard to be good husbands, but there's nothing we coul…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 01:40 PM
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Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 04:42 AM
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I feel for you man. One step at a time, just keep moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 09:54 PM
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I turn 45 in 2 weeks. Yay.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 07:46 PM
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It's amazing how many stories I hear that are so similar. My wife got into "therapy" (betterhelp.com) and her unqualified therapist told her to divorce me. She dropped her and then our neighbor got divorced and my wife started hanging out with the ex-wife all the time. A year later my wife wants a divorce and is Yas queen with her psycho friend all over the Internet. Things will get better, if you work at it. I know how hard it is right now, but get up, go work out, and push through. Soon you'll…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 07:00 PM
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That first line hit home hard. That's exactly it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 06:12 PM
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I talked to my doctor about the anxiety. He prescribed propranolol for anxiety. It's a beta blocker that lowers blood pressure. It's a temporary help, but it doesn't have the side effects that anti depression drugs carry. Time and therapy help, too. Time seems to be the major help.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 06:45 PM
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My parents told me to stop feeling sorry for myself. My wife left me, I got COVID for the first time, my grandma passed away and my car died, drained my savings all in two weeks. The next week I got transferred to a different city and I'm all alone. Two and a half months later I feel like it's starting to hurt less. My sister is dodging my calls, too.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 12:04 AM
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It's amazing to me now how many times I keep hearing this story. Divorced narcissist friend sinks claws into wife, husband was loyal, kind and a good provider and never saw it coming. I know I didn't. The bright side is most of the men I'm hearing this from have moved on and are far happier. I'll admit I'm not there yet, but I'm looking forward to it. All my wife told me as an explanation was "I expected more" before she turned into a brick wall and stopped communicating with me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 07:56 PM
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Glad to hear that. Keep on keeping on my man!
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 02:17 AM
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They lie to themselves and about us to ease their own guilt.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 12:28 AM
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I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. Focus on you and what makes you happy. You will bounce back. Become confident in yourself before looking for someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 11:16 PM
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I'm almost 3 years sober. The last few years of marriage I've spent trying to improve everything about both our lives, I'm just keeping the train rolling for myself now. I think I might be past the worst of it. June was awful and nearly broke me. It started with a suspension from work for a week, and I told the wife about it and she said she doesn't care about my work shit and wants a divorce. Next day I tested positive for COVID for the first time, two days later while sick in bed my grandma pa…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 09:08 PM
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My wife gets to keep the house, too. Thankfully it's a rental and I'm stuck living in the studio at work for now, but a close friend of mine had to move her mother out of state and I'll get to live rent free at her childhood home as a long term housesitter. She's really come to the rescue for me. I've been the provider during our whole 15 years, adopted her son, gave her my whole heart. I'm absolutely crushed right now, but it does help to see all these other men in my position. Especially all t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 08:49 PM
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Mine started wearing patchouli. Gag. She bestied another divorced woman and idolizes her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 07:35 PM
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Something a friend said to me today: The grass is never greener on the other side. My soon to be ex seems to think it is, but she's going to get used and realize how good she had things before. You will have moved on by this time and your grass will be green and lush, all she will be able to do is look at it from over the fence.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 04:06 AM
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God damn there's a lot of people on this sub that pop off horrible advice. You don't know me, you aren't my doctor or therapist, and I don't remember asking for your advice. I also don't care about you dumping a woman or whatever. OP asked for advice, I responded to him. He can take what I said or leave it, but next time myofb when you don't have any details about me or my situation or the meds I'm on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 03:36 AM
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I started anti anxiety meds. It's helping, so does therapy, but you have to get a good therapist. Working out. My nightmare started at the beginning of June. I think the only thing that really is going to do the trick is time. I still have dreams about her. Some days are starting to feel better, but heartbreak takes time. Your anger, your confusion, your feelings just need to be felt and they are valid.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 02:51 AM
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No actually, I started dieting before. I was on a whole path of improvement for years. Quit drinking 2.5 years ago, started therapy 2 years ago, was just getting a new grasp on our finances building credit. Was improving the house, enrolled in college, paying 100% of the bills to support her career change. I adopted her son. She did nothing but complain to her divorced friend and started lying and withholding. The gym just happened to be next on my list of to dos. But thanks for the ill informed…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 07:48 PM
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My wife told me she doesn't love me June 1st. I've dieted and exercised nearly every day since and I'm down 42 lbs. She hasn't seen me in weeks. Good on ya, mate.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 06:51 PM
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My wife is divorcing me because "she expects more" whatever the fuck that means. I paid all the bills for 15 years and she started hanging out with a divorced bitch and completely withdrew from me while telling all our friends I'm impossible to communicate with. Hard to communicate with a brick wall.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:50 AM
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I wish my wife talked with me before she decided to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 12:25 AM
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I'm sorry that you are going through this. That can't be easy. It sounds like counseling would be a good choice to help you get through this. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your step dad, that's good! Ask him to continue to be in your life. I know that's a hard thing to ask, but just because your parents are divorcing doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. I wish you the best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 04:30 PM
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I thought I could save my marriage. If you talk her into staying be prepared for another list a year from now. My wife acted like everything was going so good and BAM!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 01:22 AM
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I'll never understand how that lady's advice about marriage was the one my wife chose to follow since that lady has 2 ex husbands. Misery loves company.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 08:20 PM
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Damn. Sounds exactly like my soon to be ex. The next door neighbors got divorced, she started hanging out with the ex wife and my marriage fell apart.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 07:00 PM
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