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Thanks. I've heard lots of good things about Defy. They're not too far from me physically either. I'm thinking about taking that leap if I don't get anywhere with my local urologist.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 04:53 PM
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OYS #11 - time for it all Me: 39, 5'8" 151lb, BF ~12%, wife: 37, kids 7 and 4 BP: 155lb (3 reps) DL: 105lb (6reps) SQ: 195lb (8 reps) I haven't posted in OYS since before the holidays, so I tried to wake up early this morning before the kids to have some quiet time at the keyboard. It feels like a constant them/struggle in my life now is finding time for it all. Time. My biggest struggle these days is that I have an overwhelming and building pressure that there's just not enough time in the day/…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 12:34 PM
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I did meet with an attorney last week and minimizing income was one of the recommendations.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 07:24 PM
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Well shit, it looks like you are right. I really tried to make this about me, but it's obvious to me and all of you that I'm not able to get her out of my head. The mental part is the toughest for me. I still covertly seek that validation from her, even when I'm trying to not care. I'm a dancing monkey. What to I want? You mean what do I want in life or what do I want from you? Well to keep it simple, in life all I really want right now is an ounce of respect at home and to get my dick wet once …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 07:23 PM
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OYS #10 - inevitable divorce is my mindset Me: 38, 5'8" 150lb, BF ~14%(estimate), wife: 37, kids 7 and 3 BP: 155lb (3 reps) DL: 195lb (6reps) SQ: 185lb (8 reps) I'm back from a temporary ban (Rule 9 violation) and 2nd victim puke/panic . I feel like lots has happened mentally during this time, despite pretty much nothing changing with the dynamic at home. I feel like I finally have internalized what it means to "be willing to burn it all down to get what you want" and have come to the conclusion…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 02:54 PM
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Sounds a LOT like my situation about 5 years ago. I also have a prude, cold, asian wife. Sex and all affection/love/caring fell off a cliff after our first kid, similar to your situation. One thing you have going for you is that you found MRP now, before years of resentment set it, and your kid is still a baby. I wish I had been so lucky. Start reading TODAY. Start with NMMNG and then I would suggest MMSLP (this was really eye-opening to me), and then skip to "Saving a Low Sex Marriage" by bluep…
/r/askMRP07/12/19 02:59 PM
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Oh yes, she's threatened/asked for divorce a bunch of times. I think part of her wants to divorce, part of her is trying to make me divorce her first, but another part of her is scared and ashamed. Not sure which part will win.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 09:21 PM
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Yeah I've done that and she'll be like "I don't care. I don't want to be your wife because of how you are now. I'll never sleep next to you." Then it simmers like that for weeks. She doesn't feel the dread because I still have a weak frame, and basically I've let there be no consequence to her living in the guest room indefinitely.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 09:19 PM
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Thanks for this. I think what you're saying is that instead of pretending to DNGAF about her living in the guest room, I need to more overtly express my anger and expectations. When I tried this in the past I get gaslighted and frustrated and would end up caving because it just got too painful. Yes, my frame is weak. Any aha moment that helped you to deal with that? I need something to get around her manipulation and stubbornness.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 08:05 PM
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Great reply, thanks. I'm very certain that she's not fucking anyone. You're right about the rest of it though, I've been weak and continually caving to her. She knows that withholding sex wears me down and eventually she wins. I can't let this continue to happen.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 02:28 PM
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I appreciate the reply, but I am totally certain that she's not fucking anyone. I don't need to go into how I know this, but I do.
/r/askMRP02/12/19 02:23 PM
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Well said, thanks for this. I am definitely making progress on my mentality and value, but I'm not there yet. The oneitis is getting weaker, but to be honest I'm still drawn in to her and find myself still seeking her approval/validation. I hope to get to where you are in the next ~6mo. btw does she really call you Daddy?
/r/askMRP02/12/19 02:08 PM
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Thanks for replying. Several others have told me that they think she's on the NPD spectrum, and I am aware that it's a possibility. Can you elaborate a little on "checks MANY boxes"? I'm unsure of the specific traits that I should be looking for. The other possibility is that she really lost all trust/respect for me and any other man due to my past weakness and has morphed into a control freak to compensate.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 11:16 PM
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Yeah I remember reading this and thinking "yep, sounds a bit like my life". However this still doesn't define "Batshit Crazy" and I'm having trouble drawing a clear line between that and AWALT.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 07:54 PM
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At some point you're going to have to call her on her bullshit here and tell her that she needs to stop bringing up 9 years ago. (Was it cheating? If so, that may change this advice) Never cheated. she resents me for not protecting her from a friend of mine who was a jerk to her when we were engaged/first-married. Also she blames me for a sexual assault by a creep male massage therapist who touched her inappropriately, and I was too weak (conflict avoider) to properly handle it.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 07:16 PM
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lift heavy, eat big, and GROW Yep. started getting more serious about this in the last month. Already up a couple pounds. How tall is your wife? How fit is she? 5'4" and skinny, ~110lbs. she's not super fit, but genetically very slender and looks good the rest of what you can fix is in your head and you can just do it This is way easier said than done. I may need a coach or someone real to talk to who gets this stuff because I feel like I'm in my own head all the time.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 07:10 PM
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151lb, body fat ~16% probably best guess. I posted about it in last OYS.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:53 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I've already read much of your history. I've been following your posts for a while. You're one of my inspirational figures here and I'm very happy for you.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:45 PM
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somewhere in between the 15% and 20% photo. I posted in detail about my BF in last OYS. edit: weight 151lb
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:42 PM
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Why were trying to prevent the trip in the first place? Mate guarding? Nope, I was never trying to prevent the trip. She was in one of her withdrawn roommate phases when she planned this trip and bitchily demanded that I transfer her the airline miles. I said no your attitude sucks lately, try again when I like you better. Because you’re desperate for her approval. Yeah, so true.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:39 PM
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Thanks. I listened to the audiobook version not long ago. I probably should read the text again to better internalize the message.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:23 PM
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You may not be wrong. I don't know why the downvotes. I promised myself I'd give my MAP at least a year before deciding to kill the puppy.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:19 PM
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What is your height and lifts? 5'8" BP: 155, DL: 185, SQ: not sure right now haven't done a max effort Demands? Need more context around this. For example last time she demanded that I share the passcode to my phone, claiming she can't trust me if she thinks I'm hiding something. Another time she wanted to book a solo trip to visit a girl friend. I gave her airline miles and permission to go. is your wife bat shit crazy? I think that sometimes. Based on reading everyone else's stories here, I th…
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:17 PM
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Don't do it! My situation is very similar to yours. I started a business a few years ago out of the house. Also married sooner than I should have for green card reasons. I thought it made sense to hire my wife since operations were already in our home, and this was preferable to having someone else come into our home every day. While she did a good job at work (most of the time), it really fucked our relationship even worse. She will bring her shitty attitude to work and poison the morale. She w…
/r/askMRP29/11/19 05:20 PM
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So how the hell am I supposed to feel comfortable in my own house when she actively being bitchy, disrespectful, passive-aggressive, and just an overall cunt? She's trying to keep me in her frame with active retaliation and it's working. How do I break this?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:57 PM
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OYS #9 - 2nd anger phase 38 | wife: 37 | together 12, married 10 | Kids: 2 (7 &3) | 152lb (up 1) | BF: see below Bench: 155 (3RM) | DL: 185 (3RM) | Squat: still working on form Body fat: So this whole time, I'd been using this crappy chinese bathroom scale with body-fat for my numbers. It's always put me at 19%-20%. Last week at the gym I realized that they have a handheld body composition analysis device so I asked the trainer to give it a try. I told him my scale has always had me at ~19% and …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:16 PM
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Good question. I'm still trying to figure this out completely. Immediately, I'm working on re-configuring YNAB to three overall categories: 1) necessary family expenses, 2) my discretionary spending and 3) her discretionary spending. As it is now, we have too many categories in YNAB that require us to discuss and agree upon. She has made it clear that she's unwilling to cooperate on this (not a team player at all) so it hasn't worked. So I think by reducing it down to our absolutely critical fam…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 01:57 PM
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Yeah, I admit I'm angry as fuck about her warped perception of money and fairness. She has this mentality that the money I earn is our money, and the money she earns is her money. She's been not-so-secretly hoarding cash for years while I'm dipping into our savings to just cover our expenses while trying to get my company off the ground. And I fucking let it happen. This is only the tip of the iceberg. I think I'll do a longer post/ask about it in AskMRP later, because I'm not really sure how to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:41 PM
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Plus, she got fired by faggot. I didn't fire her. She quit. Six times. Any time I do something that she perceives as selfish she protests/punishes by trying to fuck me over. Her go-to tactics have been moving to the guest room, quit doing my laundry, and quitting her job. In past episodes, she would later break down and beg to come back. This time I terminated her for good, I can't let her emotional instability continue to impact my business. "You should just go jack off" was her line. Buuuuurn.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:40 PM
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OYS #8 - Improving but still failing Stats: 38 years old | 150lb (up ~4lb) | BF 19% | Wife: 37 | Married: 10yr | Kids: 7 & 3 First time I've been able to sit down and write a real OYS in a while ... I feel like I've made some great progress on myself, my body, my mental state of well-being, sexual competency, setting boundaries and putting myself first. It feels good, but at the same time I feel like I'm failing because my wife is not onboard with the changes and continues to do everything she c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 01:59 PM
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OYS #7 It's been a long time since I posted here. It's about 7 months since I discovered MRP, and at least 4 months since my last post. Progress has not been as steady as I would like, but this is my fault for getting too comfortable and lazy and reverting back to some of my BP ways in times of stress. In my last post here, we were about to buy a house. The house is great. The whole process of moving, arranging, and fixing it up took a shit ton of energy and during that time I got lazy and stopp…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 02:35 PM
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This is something to ponder. I'm very wary of going Rambo because I made that mistake already at the beginning and it was not pleasant. I think there are more subtle ways to reset expectations without laying down the law like a new sheriff -- especially that I'll finally have a physical workplace to go to to get out of her face every day. I may DM you later this week to talk through some things. Thanks for the offer of help.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 04:31 PM
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I guess that makes sense, but for me I still went Rambo in the beginning and also shared too much with my wife early on (based on the outdated advice in NMMNG). This set me back quite a bit and is probably why she's still not sleeping with me. Your book is very clear about timelines, going slow, keeping it to yourself, and risks of too much dread too quickly. I could have used this advice in months 1-2. I think ideally your book should be used as a reference in sections. If I were to give advice…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 04:22 PM
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You're an inspirational image of a man that I hope I can achieve one day. Thanks for that. Yeah, I've let her control and dominate me since pretty much the day we got married. It sucks knowing now how poorly I have handled this for the past 10 years, but I'm owning it now and working on my MAP to regain dominance slowly. if I were you I would consider letting your new house become a physical proxy for a new relationship. i.e. There is a new sheriff in town (sheriff Rambo) and in this house here …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:46 PM
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If she doesn't start acting like a wife, I start acting like a single dad -- truly living my life the way I want. She gets cut off of the credit cards. I close the joint checking account. I make her pay rent. I take the kids on vacation without her. I buy the car I want. I go out at night. Etc. Yes, if we nuke the marriage then it'll get messy for sure. That's the real risk here. She knows that she can never afford to keep this house without my income, so I expect this to amplify the dread (once…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:24 PM
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I get it that it sounds stupid. Believe me, I've thought about this for a long time. I don't care if you think I'm a faggot or whatever, I bought the house because I wanted a house. I'm approaching 40 and haven't been able to own a house my whole life -- I finally can and that's what I'm going to do. I did not buy it for her. I did not buy it to make her happy. I bought the house because me, my kids, and my family deserve a nice place to live, in a house that we can make into a home, in the scho…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:16 PM
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Great update. Inspiring. I always enjoy your posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 01:08 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 01:05 PM
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7th OWS -- 14 weeks Stats -- Me: 38 5'8" 145lbs (down 1) BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3. Another tough week at MightBeNiceGuy's house. Wife continues to dig in heels and resist the shift in power. I'm dealing with unprecedented levels of disrespect and shit testing, then angry/disproportionate responses after I pass the shit tests. This shit is hard. Spent much of the week gradually moving things and setting up the new house. This sucked away a lot of my time, and made min…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 12:55 PM
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Yeah I can recognize the shit tests pretty well now, but I'm struggling with seeing/responding comfort tests. So last night I didn't go fetch her a box of tissues and a q-tip because I didn't want to (was busy getting kids ready for bed). This morning she's in tears texting her friend and tells me "when I need your help you're not there" "you don't care" "I can only take care of myself" "my wall is up -- I'm blocking you out". I STFU and say "of course I care" without addressing the specific sce…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 02:20 PM
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Ah yes, power struggle indeed. My wife seems to have more fight in her than most. She pushes back hard on my responses to shit tests in a negative way. I haven't seen the desired effect yet. I was getting overt "you are not attractive" comments 3-4 months ago and that's what lead me to MRP. Haven't heard that since then but I am getting a lot of "I don't like you" "I hate you" and "I can't trust/talk to you" and she withdraws instead of comfort testing. Keeping on course. This part is really har…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 01:05 PM
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This post has me a little worried. My wife has been more and more overt since I started MRP (3.5 months at dread level 1-2). She's not shy about trying to "punish" me for knocking her off her pedestal and taking back control of myself. For example, last night she asked me to go get her a box of tissues and a q-tip while she's doing her bathroom mirror routine. I walked away and said "No, go get it yourself". This morning I'm getting "go away, I don't like you", and "don't touch me" and very dire…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 12:38 PM
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I'm definitely motivated. As soon as we get into the new house I'm finding a gym that I can access more easily/frequently. I never really felt that I was out of shape. I'm skinny, not strong, short but decent proportions. What do you think is a good goal for weight/BF for a short guy like me?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 03:40 PM
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6th OWS -- 13 weeks Stats -- Me: 38 5'8" 146lbs BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3. Still weak AF but getting stronger I had a tough week and probably set myself back quite a bit in progress. The wife has been a bitchy, condescending harpy in response. I'm deviating from the normal format for week's OYS to reflect on my screw ups and set goals to do better next time. I really need to STFU. My worst mistake was DEERing like a pussy when my wife saw a inflammatory text last week…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:32 PM
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You are right. it is totally incongruent. I do care a lot if she sleeps in the same bed with me. I think it's a basic minimum expectation of a wife and I've told her this. She's been doing this to exert her power over me. It's not that I'm trying to "trick" her. I'm trying to simply be unaffected by her BS with the goal of ultimately nullifying her passive aggressive behavior. At the beginning when she moved out of the bedroom and I started on MRP, I didn't have nearly the frame to set a boundar…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:37 PM
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She didn't really learn anything new about fight club. She was just upset to find out that I had been expressing my dissatisfaction/frustration about her not sleeping in our bedroom to my coach while acting like I'm fine with it around her. You're right that I had been allowing her to not participate as a wife by constantly lowering my expectations. I need to reverse this. I thought by not giving a fuck she would eventually come back to me, but it's not happening yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 01:48 AM
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5th OWS -- 12 weeks -- "ups and downs" Stats -- Me: 38 5'8" 146lbs BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3. Still weak AF but slowly getting stronger I've missed a few weeks of OWS mainly because by the time Tuesday morning comes around, I'm too slammed with business related things to sit down and write. I'll keep this one short because I'm short on time again today. Next week I plan to pre-write my OWS on Sunday or Monday so it's ready to post in the morning. Reading: Moving slowl…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 02:21 PM
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After I read you comment about FA the other day, I did some binge reading on the Avoidant personality type and bought one of Jeb Kinnison's books. Amazingly insightful! Most of this describes my wife pretty well. She definitely experiences these avoidance episodes, threatens to end it (many times), but never does. I do feel like she's trying to make me leave her sometimes. My question is that I've not experienced the swing back to submissiveness and sex in _many_ years. I'm wondering if it's due…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 02:23 PM
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This is gold. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 01:49 PM
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Thanks. I think the plan is the same regardless of DA or FA or anything else. I need to start implementing dread and just not give a fuck about her. Maybe she'll come around like your experience. I'm still early in this process but am planning for dread level 3 next month. My problem now is that I am still giving her attention and affection even though it's not ever reciprocated.
/r/askMRP17/05/19 06:54 PM
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This reply got me started on a reading binge last night about attachment styles. Now that I've read more into it, I think my wife is more accurately described as Dismissive-Avoidant rather than FA. She has this attitude that she doesn't need me for anything, is annoyed by my desire to be affectionate and intimate, and therefore withdraws herself from the emotional side of the relationship. I'm really trying to persevere here and stick with the plan and continue focusing on improving myself, but …
/r/askMRP17/05/19 02:40 PM
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Wow, this is incredible. I think my wife may be FA, too. I'm still new to this and still trying to develop my frame and wondering why my withdrawing attention doesn't seem to phase her at all. She does seem more comfortable when I'm around the house but not giving her any attention. This advice really resonates with me. Throughout our whole marriage I've always been the one to be affectionate first -- hug, squeeze, touch. I know exactly what you mean how this causes her to push me away, be mean,…
/r/askMRP17/05/19 01:48 AM
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I find the lashings motivating and sometimes even reassuring.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 06:11 PM
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You are spot on about all of it. Most of it I knew already, but you have a way of saying it so elegantly blunt. I will be tracking progress in OYS. Thanks for keeping me accountable.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 06:02 PM
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I also have a 6yo. Wife hasn't let the 3yo grow up and sleep by herself yet and uses her as an excuse to disappear for the night. The power we're struggling for is lead of our relationship. I was a drunk captain for many years and I let her control and emasculate me. I'm trying to turn the tide but she digs in her heels and resists hard.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 03:06 PM
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Great update. I'm genuinely happy for you and learned a bunch from this post. How do you go about selecting a therapist? Are there RP aware therapists out there? How to find them? Asking for a friend ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 01:30 AM
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4th OWS -- 9 weeks -- "treading water" 1st OYS 2nd 3rd Stats -- Me: 38 5'8" 147lbs BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3 Brief background & summary of my 9 weeks of MRP so far: Career beta/provider nice guy. Never had much game with women growing up. Met an exotic, loving, nurturing asian girl in my mid-20s that was really into me. Unexplainable urge for her to be the mother of my children. Moved to the west coast together and married her shortly after. Failed to be the strong al…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:44 PM
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I was in a similar position. I always needed to hug or cuddle my wife to feel ok about myself, and would get needy and unattractive when she refused or resisted. I've tried to stop doing this. It's very hard. My wife seems to be happy that I'm not annoying her with unnecessary touching anymore, but it hasn't improved anything so far. Sex definitely hasn't come back yet. I get the feeling that she's relieved that I don't need her anymore so she's now free to just leech my betabux without feeling …
/r/askMRP03/05/19 02:07 AM
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Thanks for asking. Still recovering but peace is pretty much restored and we're back to "status quo" while I slow the fuck down and focus on myself, lifting, and developing some frame and the balls to say no to her. What I learned from this experience is that I definitely came on too strong and was being mean when I was trying to be assertive/decisive. She picked up on this as me being fake and just didn't accept it at all. Everything came to a head and we had a "main event" after our 10-yr anni…
/r/askMRP25/04/19 02:20 PM
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I did bring it upon myself and I take responsibility for that, but I'm not going to argue that my wife isn't unreasonably crazy as well. This is hard mode indeed. Thanks for your support.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 08:02 PM
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OYS #3 -- still digging myself out of the deep hole It's been a few weeks since I posted due to events with work consuming much of my time and trying to keep the peace in the house with whatever free time I have. I'm about 6 weeks in to the MRP program but 2 weeks ago had a blow-up with the wife where she went totally nuclear, threatened divorce, started smashing things in the house while I was away, telling the kids that she's getting her own apartment (with bunk beds!), and roped my mom into t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 06:02 PM
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I totally get this in concept but how do you pull off a busy fulfilling life out of the house with two young kids at home? I want to be a great dad, too and participate in the parenting. My wife has always been successful at guilting me into not doing things I want because when I go out it means she's stuck home with the kids. What strategies can you share to overcome this?
/r/askMRP01/04/19 08:52 PM
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To be fair, it wasn't a hard slap with the intent to hurt. It was a very gentle smack on the side of my face. But yeah ... point taken.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 08:13 PM
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Unfortunately, there are no adults in my house (including me). I've come to realize that I'm a 38 year old child. I never learned how to be a man. I'm starting to try to fix that now, but every day is a struggle.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 08:11 PM
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Yep, you're absolutely right. I'm in fucking deep. Believe it or not it's getting worse. Don't have time to go into detail now, but may post a follow up after a few weeks.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 08:08 PM
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She probably would be meek and submissive if I wasn't such a pussy for so long. In the absence of a dominant man she turns into raging tiger. That's where I am now.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 03:33 PM
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Hah, ragin Asian is pretty accurate. She has the conflict resolution skills of a 10 year old and loves being a victim. This is not the first nuclear blowup in our marriage, but it's the first time I'm not rushing to placate her like a pussy.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 01:23 PM
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It will get much worse before it gets really better. Yikes. Our 10 year anniversary is coming up in a week. I have reservations at one of the best restaurants in town (made them a while ago). I think there's a good chance I'll be dining alone. How funny would that be if I went to dinner by myself?! Hah, I might even order dessert.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:06 AM
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Yep. Still learning. The value in posting here is the feedback that I get and it allows me to retrospect. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:47 AM
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Watch what she does, not what she says. This is encouraging. Thank you for this. She's talking like she hates my guts, but she's still getting up every day and doing what she's supposed to do for work (she works for my company), cooking dinner, looking at houses, planning for the future, etc. It's not like she's packing her bags or calling up divorce lawyers. I think I'm slowly breaking her. It hurts to watch. I will ignore the hurtful words and hold strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 11:31 PM
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Have you told her you have an expectation that your wife sleeps with you? I think it's a reasonable expectation a husband has of his wife. No, I've been letting her have the distance and just not letting it bother or affect me. Honestly, It's kinda nice having the master bedroom to myself. I can turn the fan on if I want, turn the bathroom light on if I want, jerk off whenever I want, and sleep much better without a 3yo climbing in bed and kicking me in the middle of the night. you failed becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 06:52 PM
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Welcome. Read the books on the sidebar! You might want to start with MMSLP, it's an easy read and gives concrete advice that you can apply right away. I'm new at this too, so can't really offer any other advice. Just be grateful that you're still getting laid. I haven't gotten any since January and my balls are bluer than the sky. Since starting on this journey I'm still in the "it gets worse before it gets better phase" and haven't had a sensual touch from my woman in months.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:48 PM
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OYS #2 -- Three weeks in. The wife retaliates [1st OYS] Stats -- Me: 38 5'8" 147lbs BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3 This week has been good for me, but bad for the wife who's taking the changes very hard (more on that below). I'm feeling more comfortable in my new skin and more confident than ever that my life is going in the direction that I want. Lifting: I had my first weightlifting session at a crossfit gym near my house. Since it's been 10+ years since I've lifted anyt…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:00 PM
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Not responding is STFU which is training wheels and probably right for you at this point. Where you want to get, once you have control of your emotions, is to respond with a funny comment (amused mastery) or agree & amplify. Still working on the amused mastery. Gotta sharpen my wit. How would you have responded to that comment with AA or AM?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 03:10 AM
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Thanks for the insight. Yeah, it was shitty advice by Dr. Glover to talk about the book with her. I'm definitely regretting it but gotta own it and move forward. I don't think it's a comfort test -- it's a form of punishment. She's punishing me for the last however many years of unsatisfying marriage and probably angry at me (and herself) for the current state of our relationship. I'm not talking with her about it anymore. I'm just carrying on with life and trying to ignore her generally bitchy …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 07:40 PM
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You are pretty much spot on about me. Not gonna lie. Thank you for putting it so bluntly. I needed to hear that. My only other comment is that I'm not claiming to be any kind of special snowflake. I was just clueless. I didn't learn about RP or STFU until several days after reading NMMNG and the talk with the wife. It's a shame that the author of NMMNG strongly suggests sharing it with your partner. If I had found RP before the book, it would have played out differently. Can't change the past or…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 04:13 AM
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Fuck you. It's not like I was like "Hey honey look at this red pill shit. I'm going to turn into a giant asshole, your going to be so uncomfortable and it's gonna make you want to fuck me daily". Come on, I'm not an idiot. She saw me reading NMMNG before I even discovered RP. I wasn't hiding it or reading in secret or anything. In the book Dr Glover actually suggests discussing it with your partner and letting her read the book. We had a discussion about NMMNG after I finished reading it and it …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:49 AM
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Dude, this is inspiring. I'm new on this journey and it's refreshing to see someone who has turned around their life and DB in such short time. I'm also a CEO technically ... although my startup is just getting off the ground and is mostly just me with a couple people helping out. I need to start acting like a fucking leader. I can see how MRP helps with that. I never thought about getting my T checked ... what clued you in that it might be low?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 01:21 AM
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NEW HERE! OYS #1 My stats: 38 5'8" 147lbs BF 18% Wife: 37 Married 10, together 12, Kids 6 and 3 Background: Very low sex marriage since pregnancy and kids started nearly 7 years ago. For the longest time I was one of the fucking whiners over in /r/deadbedrooms because I had no clue what I was doing wrong and even less of a clue how to fix it. I've never been fat or lazy. Always been able to provide for the family. I pull in over $150k every year for the last 7-8 years. Finally about 2 weeks ago …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 09:00 PM
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