MigrationIssues Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
16	Alone time.	LTR/MARRIAGE	MigrationIssues	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 01:39 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Alone time. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your honesty and determination in getting this to me. I definitely know he’s an alcoholic. I feel like I’ve been running from alcoholics my whole life. I’m pretty grounded and very stable, and when I’m done, I’m done. In the meantime, a part of me really want to be good enough. It’s the same part that at 4 enjoyed candy necklaces my daddy brought home from the liquor store but needed so much more. That’s all way above Reddit’s paygrade though. You know how …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/18 12:24 AM
1	Alone time. Where we are now? No. Four bedrooms, the living room/library is empty 99.9% of the time and always at night. He doesn’t choose outside on the back porch either. Just the car.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/18 03:38 AM
1	Alone time. Thank you!! I really appreciate your advice and I really feel like you ‘get it.’ Perhaps you’ve been through something similar or know others who have. As much as I’d love to bark about rebab and ‘it’s me or alcohol,’ I know I won’t win that battle and it won’t ever stick if he’s doing it for me anyway. I’m not a completely stupid girl though. We’re not married. We have separate finances, I’m complete independent and take care of myself. I’d need to move into somewhere cheaper, but I would need …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/18 02:51 AM
1	Alone time. No. He died when I was 6, in a house fire. I don’t know if he would have made it out sober. Maybe. I do remember an incident of him making a physical threat to my mom. Any kind of physical violence would be an immediate termination of the relationship. The lines of neglect are a bit more gray for me it seems. This thread has been very helpful in trying to remind myself that perhaps, though it’s sad, there’s nothing at all I could do to be ‘good enough.’	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/18 02:43 AM
1	Alone time. No. I’ve socially drank a time or two but I don’t drink for fun and have never been drunk. My dad was an alcoholic and I promised myself I wouldn’t drink long before I was ever old enough to drink. I’ve not had anything to drink during our whole relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/18 01:37 AM
1	Alone time. Thanks. I tried to vet him. We got to know each other over a distance for 6 months before we ever met. I very early on asked about drugs and alcohol. It was a deal breaker for me as a kid of an alcoholic. He said it was over, I was stupid. Then it kind of snuck in. And when it’s good, it’s good. But I know you’re right.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 10:28 PM
1	Alone time. He’s a good man and he’s a good dad, he just doesn’t seem to like me I suppose. He makes all kinds of time for his daughter, he has primary custody because he fought hard for it. He plays with her and cooks with her, takes her to the pool and reads stories with her every night. He does still spend a lot of time in his car in the evening but he will generally stop and do anything she asks. Then right back outside.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 10:24 PM
1	Alone time. Ok. Thank you all for your help. I’m going to ask to talk with him tonight. Last time I asked him to come inside to talk about something, he said he didn’t want to ‘talk’ and sent this: “Women demand conversation because they have already decided how it should come out. Saying no is about not wanting to waste time.”	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 06:28 PM
1	Alone time. Thanks. I don’t think it’s any single issue. I can sometimes be to blame. Especially if I’ve been trying really hard and inadvertently turn it into a competition between the car and I. A few weeks ago we were having a great week, the night before, I had taken the kids to a program and he and I went out to dinner and such. I felt like it was fine that the car won that night as it was Friday and he had worked all week. Saturday we went and did an activity he was wanting to do, then he went to the …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 03:15 PM
1	Alone time. Thank you. I have tried. Maybe this isn’t the right approach, but I did say this after the paddle incident I just posted: “I don’t think you forget everything. But I’m not sure you should rely so heavily on your middle of the night memories as to call me a narcissistic gaslighting liar. The paddle was definitely there if you had checked. I also don’t think you would have checked too thoroughly in the morning without also noticing the new leather handcuffs nearby. The issue is completely moot tho…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 03:10 PM
1	Alone time. Well this interaction happened recently after he came to bed and wanted to play but didn’t see the paddle in its spot. It was there. He was drunk. This happened the next night. He was drunk then too. Him: The paddle is where? It wasn't hanging on it's hook the last time I checked. Me: It is. I’ve not moved it. Him: I looked this morning and it wasn't there. Don't gaslight me. Me: It has been there. I’ve definitely not moved it. It was turned with the black side out, maybe it just blended in. Him…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 02:59 PM
1	Alone time. I’d be happy to. I’m happy to host an entire sexscapades showdown every evening if he wanted. I’d also be happy to watch porn with him or, like you said, just invisibly give him bj’s as he’s watching porn. I’d love nothing more than to give him pleasure. He’s just not interested much. Even when he does come to bed, I’ll often wake up, snuggle up against him (more often naked now since he asked me to) but he generally doesn’t respond. He doesn’t lean into me, he doesn’t make a sound, he doesn’t p…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 02:42 PM
1	Alone time. Thanks. I don’t think it’s any other drugs. I’m ridiculously square, but there’s a lot of drug use in my family and I feel confident I could spot most of it. He does text me from the car. Sometimes angry crap if it’s late, but usually just every day stuff. A while back I asked him to not text me after midnight because the angry rants were becoming more anxiety causing for me. He stopped for a while but now he does some, though not as much. Lately I’ve not been replying a lot to his evening texts…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 02:32 PM
3	Alone time. Thank you. I do think it’s a lot about the alcohol, if not entirely on this issue, but I also know it’s futile to expect him to stop for me. I suppose I need to feel like I tried to be my very very best self for him and let him decide which direction to take his life.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 02:23 PM
3	Alone time. He’s not into video games at all, except for a few on his phone. I also really can’t encourage the drinking at this point, but I am all for turning that room, which is in a different area of the house than the rest of the bedrooms, into his space. He’d love a library. The issue of him choosing to do anything besides be with me still stands though and since he can’t smoke in the house (landlord rules) I feel like his car will still be first choice. It’s absolutely worth the effort to try though.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 01:11 PM
2	Alone time. Thank you. She is actually moving out in a couple weeks. She was finishing school, but otherwise works full time too so they barely see each other. I don’t discount your comment though and am pleased she’s in a position to move out and perhaps her room can become his space inside.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 12:45 PM
2	Alone time. He’s not on the phone. He doesn’t talk on the phone hardly ever. He is listening to podcasts, drinking, texting friends and family some (including me, he does regularly text me from the car which at least is some conversation) and smoking. I think it’s worth asking about porn, though I’ve casually mentioned something about it before, and that I wouldn’t be adverse to watching something together, but he didn’t really seem into to. He sometimes runs to the store to get cigarettes or alcohol but hi…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 12:30 PM
5	Alone time. Oh. I also wanted to add that this wasn’t a gradual process. His tendency to avoid physical contact has always been present despite him saying that it’s the best relationship he’s had. I am very pro-sex and lean towards a more kinky and adventurous sex life. I’m very happy to give him bj’s and equally happy to either be the more dominant/active one in bed, or be more submissive, letting him do what he pleases with me. There’s not been anything that I’ve said is off limits. I try to buy lingerie …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 12:21 PM
5	Alone time. Thank you. I absolutely think he has a problem with alcohol, I’m just not sure how to address it or how much of it is my business to try and navigate. He originally told me, when we were dating, that he did drink before but he had stopped after a dui and to retain custody of his daughter. He started drinking again after he switched to a car that didn’t have to alcohol detector blower thing on it. I don’t think he has his actual license back to this day. I don’t want to believe that I just made a…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 12:07 PM
3	Alone time. Their probably right though. I think 90% of it is to drink and he doesn’t want to talk about it. I think it’s probably worth asking about porn too. Maybe he’s watching something. I know we both enjoy time alone, but this seems excessive and hurtful, especially since I’ve said that it bothers me. I’ve even proposed the ridiculous idea that he comes to ‘tuck me in’ like he does his kid. Just a few minutes to connect and snuggle. It seems kind of pathetic to have to ask, and I don’t want to keep as…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 11:54 AM
3	Alone time. Oh no, I appreciate your help, I’m happy to answer. We rarely fight. I’m very, probably too, non-confrontational, and he’s pretty reserved too. When there is a fight, it’s usually because he’s drunk texting something mean and then I overreact by being angry and not wanting to do the things I normally do for him. We don’t ever have fights face to face. His using the car like a second home has gone on for a few years. Ever since we started living together. He knows I am frustrated by it, I’ve told…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 11:32 AM
3	Alone time. Thank you for your comments. I will work on improving in all the areas you mentioned. I do try very hard to be someone who is pleasant and comfortable to be around. I very rarely nag and criticize, and the only times I can remember turning down sex are times when he comes in very drunk in the middle of the night. By then, not only am I tired, I’m frustrated that the only time he’s interested in sex is when he’s pretty drunk. On my end, I could definitely try to initiate more when he’s sober.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 10:48 AM
1	Alone time. Thank you. I am absolutely not perfect. I could definitely stand to lose about 20 pounds but this is not new, I am at the same weight when we first started dating. I am trying to lose weight by being active (I have a pretty active job) and cook healthy meals. I recently got my physical done and got a referral to a nutritionist and have already lost a few pounds. I will keep working hard at this. I also am very non-confrontational, so while I have expressed my need for more time with him, and exp…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/18 10:31 AM
3	What books would you gift your long-term girlfriends or wives? Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood should fix her up. Bypass fiction for function if she’s needing you to help her become worldly.	/r/askTRP	05/06/18 06:19 PM
16	What am i supposed to do? You both should stop drinking. Also stop seeing each other.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/18 07:32 PM
9	What are women actually good at? Women exist because women are better at birthing babies than men.	/r/askTRP	23/05/18 02:24 PM
6	When her actions don't match her words Your apologizing and nagging and negotiating is nauseating. Hard next and go lift. Don’t even look at a girl for 6 months or until you get your crap together.	/r/askTRP	23/05/18 02:18 PM
5	Then it seems like many BPD chicks can smell me, totally beautiful chicks meet me, seem too interested, and then they get nuts Uh. They’re all insane. Learn to tame them of suffer alone forever.	/r/askTRP	21/05/18 09:46 PM
0	Alpha Women? What do you consider to be an ‘alpha’ trait in a woman? If it’s being outwardly successful, a leader, and dominant, she’s not alpha, she’s masculine. If by ‘alpha’ you mean ‘good’ or ‘of high value’ you’re really meaning submissive or feminine. I’m sorry it’s confusing. And just say no to masculine women, they’ll never follow your lead anyway. You’ll end up carrying her purse while she’s buying your dinner. Also ‘assertive’ and ‘controlling’ are just bitches. You have a long way to go.	/r/askTRP	21/05/18 06:42 PM
1	Suicidal thoughts It’s always a strength to reach out for help when you need it. Crisis Text line 741741 It’s free and confidential, they can also help you find local resources for additional support.	/r/askTRP	21/05/18 11:04 AM
10	Black Mirror TRP That’s the sweet, sweet 1950’s. Oh to go back to a hot home cooked dinner on the table, a clean house, clean and happy wife and kids when you walk through the door. ‘Here’s your drink Sir.’ ‘Here’s your slippers Sir.’ ‘Here’s your blowjob Sir.’ Someone make a time machine already.	/r/askTRP	20/05/18 09:17 PM
5	Depressed little sister Ha. Yes. Probably. Especially with a question looking to help a woman. Surely they will be looking for your terrible ulterior motive. If your sister is legitimately depressed, encourage her to seek some counseling. It sounds like your childhood and hers were similar but she’s processed it very differently. She’s going to end up being one of those super sad girls who sleeps with everyone trying to find someone who gives a damn because no one ever has. Spoiler: No one will ever care like you need …	/r/askTRP	20/05/18 08:20 PM
1	Mole on face It’s all about confidence. If it bothers you consistently, see about getting it removed (consider the scar may be worse.) Otherwise, it’s 99% confidence and don’t think about it again.	/r/askTRP	20/05/18 08:08 PM
70	Black Mirror TRP Yeah, that’s now. Enjoy	/r/askTRP	20/05/18 05:46 PM
-2	Do women get oneitis? Don’t let her buy your groceries, or any other crap. It’s a trap. She’s using you. No woman, regardless of the ‘awesome sex fest’ will willingly sustain you draining her funds unless she’s getting something awfully good in return. And your sex isn’t it, no offense. I bet your an orbiter and just don’t realize it. You’re her toy. Be a man and she’ll either leave or behave. (Spoiler... she’ll leave.)	/r/askTRP	13/05/18 08:50 PM
41	Do women get oneitis? Absolutely. I think oneitis in women often manifests as a magical, totally unobtainable imaginary man in which no other man will ever live up to. While this man may have at one time been real, once idealized he becomes something you can never be and is lifted to space you can never get to. Any sign of this and... Next. You’ll never live up to her egocentric imagination.	/r/askTRP	13/05/18 04:25 AM
7	Advice for easy healthy meals we can prepare on weekends? I use both an instant pot and air fryer regularly and they help make dinner super quick and really delicious. We all love air fried vegetables! You can also plan ahead instant pot (or even crock pot) meals and have them ready to toss in when it’s time to cook.	/r/RedPillWives	08/05/18 12:36 AM
20	What do you think it means to be a Red Pill Woman? I think RPW is definitely a verb and is demonstrated not by words or ideas but with action. One can say a lot of things, but nothing matters if you’re not actually doing it. For me, along with being a verb, it’s pretty synonymous with: respect, gratitude, thoughtfulness, femininity, surrender and grace.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/18 04:42 PM
8	How much of the feminine nurturing and loving attitude is too much in a RP relationship? I definitely agree with this sentiment. Even when I think my mate is ‘cute,’ that’s not a word I’d say. Animals are cute, children can be cute, but I’d call my captain playful, thoughtful, genuine, romantic... a lot of things before cute. Even in just thinking ‘cute’ I think it sets the mindset of a more feminine attribute.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/18 01:56 PM
1	"Don't You Know That You're Toxic?" - Christy0Misty is back! This is really great, thanks for sharing!	/r/RedPillWives	01/05/18 11:07 PM
1	Wives, what is your daily cooking routine, and how long do you spend per day cooking? I pack his lunch in the evening, usually before dinner. I meal plan and do all the shopping on the weekend. I don’t get home during the week until 5:30 and occasionally have kid lessons to run to also. I always cook on Sunday - Thursday. Friday is usually leftover night before I clean out the fridge. Saturday we could be anywhere so I usually leave that open. Between dinner and clean up, it can be 8-8:30 before everything is done. In the morning I pack up lunch and make him a hot breakfast to go…	/r/RedPillWives	01/05/18 11:07 PM
2	Wives, what is your daily cooking routine, and how long do you spend per day cooking? I use my Instant Pot and air fryer a bunch too! They are almost a must if you’re also busy doing other things during the day.	/r/RedPillWives	01/05/18 11:02 PM