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CULTURAL MISOGYNYMilkMadeMe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:23 AM
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Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:04 PM
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We all have to do the work I think. Good for you for improving yourself. Good luck and take care! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:42 PM
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TBH when people I get to know on a deeper level act like their family histories and relationships are pristine and without flaws, that’s now a major set of waving 🚩🚩🚩 for me. A totally healthy family history does not exist. All families have something. Differing degrees, sure. What kind of “healthy family” power plays an individual’s upbringing for control? Sick. These people either have failed to recognize the unhealthy family patterns in their family or just refuse to change to maintain the fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:22 PM
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Amazed by you! …And get your need for a year of solitude. Way to heal and grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:28 AM
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“There’s no timeline on it.” Please, no. I used to sacrifice my wants and needs to perpetuate loyalty in my relationship and called it “love,” too. It’s not love. If could scream this from a mountain… Someone remind me why it’s societally far better to be coupled off like this again? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:22 AM
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WOW. At least two years…sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:58 AM
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YES. Back away and keep your secrets. No explanation. The lesson learned is ours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:54 AM
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Seriously, it’s a skill. Something I have had to practice with given my ADHD. I am sure I came off full manic-pixie dream girl in my early 20s when my ADHD was really flared tf up. I have two or three trustworthy friends I would or can call up and say I have a date, meeting with an old coworker, whatever, and would ask them to practice with me on some topics I wanted a well-packaged answer to. They would pepper me with those kinds of questions and I would come up with a response I was comfortabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:52 AM
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Lol I am in therapy so at least we are trying best. I’m not expecting others to be perfect but it says something to try to change your ways. We can let the crap roll off our backs. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 12:20 PM
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Ditto, I am at work to work but why not make it an uplifting place to be since we spend so much time there? Always people who try and take you down a peg and I just laugh and don’t let it bug me at this point. Same with not participating in their routine office gossip. What a waste of my time. Used to really bother me but at the end of the day I’m being professional and a team player so screw the narcissistic controlling losers and the gossip queens and kings who need therapy and have miserable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:16 AM
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Same. I was wondering what person’s photo had been snatched for use of his “witty” 🤢 post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:38 PM
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Honestly I’ve transitioned all my medical care to qualified female nurse practitioners, therapists, MDs, gynecologists…It’s heavy legwork and trial and error in figuring out who works for you but totally worth it in the end. Would also suggest this to any woman, but I know quality medical care isn’t available to everyone depending on where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:54 PM
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Agreed, wonderful post, OP. All of the women I have the pleasure of knowing deeply have all endured too much in childhood and in youth — many times without the freedom of choice to extricate the self from the situation. It’s totally a mentality that can persist to adulthood. But it can be CHANGED. Actually, given societal reins on women, I’d wager most of us have endured too much and can easily be stuck in this survival place…get to therapy ya’ll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:11 PM
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Like some other people have said these kind of folks have no idea who they are. It’s a mindfrick When these covert types appear to be doing everything you express you need, but it’s all surface level to maintain control over you. Glad we are out of that hell hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:56 PM
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Also as a woman with ADHD I understand where you are coming from. Our increased ability to empathize with others with some healthy boundaries and a high-degree of self awareness has become more of a human connection superpower than anything. Definitely took me work on figuring out how to implement those boundaries though. Keep after it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:51 PM
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100%. Told me he didn’t connect deeply with anyone in his family and God knows what he told them about me. Obviously not the truth of what manifested in our marriage because they all took his side despite many times of them telling me he was the black sheep. I at one time had quality relationships with many of his family members, enough that he felt like his family loved me more than him. I hope they eventually see the nature of his true ways, but I’m not holding my breath. I’m glad you got that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:48 PM
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Yes, thank you for your expertise. And thanks for the reminder that given the partial unconscious state of this kind of psyche, these types will never improve enough to be good people in a partnership of any fulfilling kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:40 PM
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When I did OK Cupid years ago I cannot believe how many of the hundreds of “matches” asked if I wanted to “share nudes” on Snapchat in our first interaction. 😂 Dumbasses. Some real predatory shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:45 AM
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I feel like something I look back on that I didn’t think much about at the time is how they interact with others, too. My ex-husband would be totally different in demeanor, tone of voice, vocabulary with each different person, I swear. Enough to have more than few times where I thought “wow, I’ve never heard him speak this way before.” Once I walked in on him on the phone with a (male) coworker early home from work and he was talking in a way I had never heard. Enough that it creeped me out with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:23 AM
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It’s a slang word for kids/toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:17 AM
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Preach it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:10 AM
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Yes! But also, it’s so hard for neurodivergent people to train themselves to NOT overshare. It takes a lot of effort for what I used to feel like was “lying.” My brain just wants to usually burst out my honest thoughts. It’s taken me a lot of practice and a few 3rd-degree burns. Keep up the practice, ladies, if you also share this brain struggle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:54 AM
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Your male coworker texts you after hours to apologize for another dude needlessly going off on you at a meeting at work — but he didn’t speak up on your behalf in FRONT of other men in the fray. Your “partner” says his buddy’s wife got fat (a.k.a gained a few biologically needed pounds) after birthing their baby and commends you for still being “trim”— for now. Your shitty, miserable (divorced) uncle telling you “you’ll never marry a man with a [self-reflecting and demanding of healthy boundarie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:40 AM
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This post and comments are amazing. So much truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:02 AM
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You are not alone. ❤️A shitty movie where the protagonist was a victim of repeated sexual assault (you know, needlessly and gratuitously on screen 🤬)was what sent me catatonic and made me seek out therapy for SA. Again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 06:17 PM
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These texts sound like every sexual assault experience we’ve all ever had. They’re not pretending we’re “disapproving” sexual partners — they are fantasizing about raping us. Can’t tell me otherwise. Glad you are safe, OP. Thanks for this reminder. Prayers for safety and healing for all women. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:30 AM
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This was super deep and wonderful, OP. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:37 AM
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Lol “I didn’t mean it in a bad way.” “Sorry if you feel that way.” 😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:03 AM
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No….people do this in the modern era?! Some Louis the 14th ish right there. Depravity lives on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:02 AM
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Fucking crushing. I feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:16 AM
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Ditto. She’s created a system of rating people’s perceived self-awareness by the public information about them…? Lost me there. Regret giving the view also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:44 AM
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Damn sister, number 2 for me hit it. Never thought of it as a “pride” piece before. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:28 AM
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And LVM have the hubris to say we are jealous when we catch them hitting on teen girls…? Nah, we’ve just been those teenagers and have had to undo the freaking damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 01:49 AM
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So glad you are safe. Blessed to read this — as a woman with ADHD I have been feeling extra vulnerable and exhausted by implementing those extra extra rules of self-protection as of late. That particular blurb got me choked up. Thanks for existing and being your amazing self. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:51 AM
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Yesss! Minimalism saves me so many brain cells every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:40 PM
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😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:22 AM
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With rent prices skyrocketing rn I felt like oh nooooo. So many people are desperate at the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:21 AM
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😂 These thread comments are slaying tonight! Thank you, bright women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:35 AM
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I wonder about this too for some families. Feeling some shame and culpability?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:26 PM
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Same. Thanks for this reminder. Feels good to think back on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:22 PM
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Noooooooooooooooooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:20 PM
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Hard to let go, but you can. It will never get better. In fact, it will only get worse. Mfer is about to be a resident and can’t even come up with a compelling statement of purpose? Don’t let him use your passion and intelligence and don’t let him drag you down. Energy you use to help him excel should be used on you. Would be a different story if he was pouring into you. But he’s NOT. He makes you feel empty. Best of luck in medical school. We need empathetic doctors who are women in this world.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:19 AM
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For real. Indicative of almost 0 self-control. Just because thirst trap shots are out there doesn’t mean you have to look at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:11 PM
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Hellllll yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:55 AM
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Thanks for the extra reading, have never seen this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:44 AM
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Are you all for real now? Good Lord, this sub gives me an education like none other…just when I thought I had heard it all. Thanks for this. Some folks are straight a d d i c t s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:21 PM
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I had to stop reading after that. Now that I think about it, I can’t recall a single “men’s advice” column I’ve read that expresses genuine empathy. All off them put forth a freaking takedown to establish credibility. Shocker. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:28 PM
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“She’s being controlling” lol people are MESSED UP. Friends know her husband does NOTHING and they are cool with it?! Hope she is “so controlling” of those finances, takes them to a whole new ass city, and finds people that actually appreciate her hard work and organizational skills. Run, girl!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:58 PM
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Same sister. Cycling through 7 and sure I will hit another as life is lived. Thanks for posting OP, and thanks for the reminder that healing can feel miserable sometimes. Saved this for later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:09 AM
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I feel like you can get a certificate exemption for these things. Japan loves their official stamped letters. I’m pretty certain that if they (or their crew) did the right paperwork, Olympic athletes could/can bring in their own medications in controlled amounts. Japan is super tight on drugs despite feeding their soldiers meth during wartime. I had to get a certificate to bring in months’ worth of a specific brand of birth control. Wasn’t diagnosed with ADD at that point though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:01 AM
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One of the best pieces of advice I have kept in my back pocket thanks to FDS is explaining yourself only enables an untrustworthy person to more adeptly manipulate somebody else after you. Let them be a miserable POS and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:24 PM
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EW. Beyond The Sixth Sense he just plain SUCKS. Split nearly made me lose my mind: 1.) yet another movie where someone with a serious mental health diagnosis is a psychopathic murderer (🙄) and 2.) [TW] trapping, harming, and sexuality abusing young women is like the horror element in the whole movie. Beyond jacked up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:20 AM
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Thank you, this whole thread reminded me I need a new mace keychain. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:40 AM
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YES. AND “There’s no way any of my bros have sexually assaulted anyone.” ……… uh huh. They’ve seen it with their own eyes and still pull this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:39 AM
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Spotify has a great 6 part Brené series this summer of walking you through your areas of weakness in boundaries among other things. Free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:08 AM
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Excellent point. Everything is going just “how he wants it to” and therefore the qualities of this woman legit do not matter. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:01 AM
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👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:09 AM
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Thank you. So much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:55 AM
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Took me lots of work to get to this love for myself, but it is worth it! Cheering you on. And all the rest of us too. Affirm away. If some man offers me real intimacy and respect time and time and time again, I’ll consider sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:12 AM
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He would never. Loyal as hell. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:05 AM
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Did not know this about narcs. Makes so much sense. Thank you ladies very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:00 AM
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UNCLE JOEY. I am speechless. What…ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:58 AM
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Loneliness is real. Fill that void with friends that make you feel loved even at a distance! Ask yourself if you are actually lonely or looking to be busy and distracted. Remind yourself that being with shitty people makes you feel the worst kind of lonely — lonely together. That BLOWS. I really have upped my personal sensual game if you will since being divorced: that means admiring my body in the mirror for a few moments after a workout or when I wake up, taking a luxurious bath, deep stretchi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:33 PM
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Nailed it. Any valid criticism of a male’s behavior = “our problem.” We’re “crazy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:13 PM
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Good riddance to him! I wouldn’t treat a dog in such a punitive way. Who do these people think they are that they can punish us for existing and having wants and needs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:09 PM
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😂 basically Thanks for the lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:45 PM
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Yes! Relationship insecurity is not the same as feeling insecure in your self. The older I get, the more I realize some men WANT you to feel insecure in your relationship because it makes them feel like they hold the power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:30 PM
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“Insecure” lol like the opposite. We feel secure in ourselves so no, we’re not going to give you access to our bodies These guys are really trying to pull out all the stops and psychologically manipulate for a picture of a breast! 🥴 Edit: Typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:26 PM
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I was not “fully developed” at 14 but old men still hit on me anyway. Yet another bs excuse for pedo behavior. Sorry men could not hold back their sick lust for you when you were just a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:21 PM
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I saw a group of young college students today and I still felt like, wow, they are so young. Can’t imagine wanting to date their male peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:04 AM
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Shew these comments got me. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:41 AM
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“Indiscriminate” really solidified the thought for me. Thank you. Made me feel like if I am hungry, am I gonna pick up and eat the half of sandwich someone dropped on the sidewalk outside my apartment? Hell no. Men pickup women in this careless, disgusting way and don’t think twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:49 PM
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Wow, OP. Really insightful stuff. Thank you for putting this into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:53 AM
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Honestly I can’t believe people post this kind of shit on Facebook but it only pads the online catalog of examples of unhealthy behaviors FDS warns about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:11 AM
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Lol noooooo he did not say that. What a sneaky little piece of shit. I guess this dude misspoke though because it sounds like there’s more like 7+ sides to this tale, 3 of which at least are going to get a much happier ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:28 PM
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Lord yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:02 PM
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Variations on a friggin’ theme. Cloaked in Internet secrecy, men violently spit out their hate of us. But even in secret women still hope that their man is actually good despite the gut feelings that say otherwise. Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:45 AM
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Makes me ill. I have too many stories where middle and high school age girls finally had the courage to say they were molested by coaches and teachers and were told they were lying. Were sent flowers. Were asked to touch teachers because they “were so adorable they could get away with anything.” Unreal. Most of these mfers are still working. One got transferred. Some were asked to resign “quietly.” Come to think of it, I wasn’t even initially considering the wives I know my age whose husbands we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:35 AM
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OMG YES. You nailed it. I even find men I am not that close with do this. I go radio silent for acquaintances like this. Dead to me. They always somehow seem to throw in some BS how you are so unique and would have a great perspective and mention how their wives “seem so unhappy” with X, Y, and Z. Like no doubt man, I would be unhappy too if my emotionally incompetent dickhead husband was sharing his marital problems with strangers. One in particular I know just wrapped up cheating on his wife a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:54 AM
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WTF. I’m sorry. Glad you trusted your gut even though you shouldn’t have been pressured for power-play intimacy by an old freaking man in the first place. We do not honor the gut feelings of young girls like this enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:34 AM
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My heart thumped reading this. Yes. Too many stories of my own and of other women I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:03 AM
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Embarrassing for sure! A step up from real dolls. Can’t even see these real people as humans, even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:13 PM
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Yes. I question if it’s just fetishization of POC to stay culturally relevant and appear/feel “cool.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:20 PM
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Good! Waiting on real men and fathers to call out this bullshit in real life. 🦗 🦗 🦗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:51 PM
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Moms are out here feeling guilty for a 3 day ladies’ trip and these dads are out here pretending to have other lives because they can’t handle the responsibility of being a husband and father. Weak ass shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:29 PM
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EXACTLY. …but pickmes gonna pickme all day long. Some even pick their sons over their own self-worth! That is not love, mamas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:19 AM
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Thank you for the inspiration to drill down and get more specific on my written boundaries. Appreciate you sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:17 PM
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100% gives them more plays at the emotional game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:05 AM
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If FDS has taught me anything, it’s that if you are over-communicating, you need to WALK AWAY. Over-communicating gives some asshole access to your deepest feelings again and again. Believe me, they understand what you are saying. They sure as hell don’t empathize and will only use what you tell them to their advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:03 AM
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You have already done so much: graduated school, got into law school, recognized deep truths about yourself and your family. Wow. Amazing. You are wise, beautiful, and capable. Therapy helped me alleviate the extreme sadness/anger I felt for the women in my family when my counselor helped show me that the women who came before me did break cycles, just not the one I am breaking myself. Maybe you will find your mom couldn’t help you totally scale this wall of patriarcal shit, but she gave you a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:27 PM
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Thanks for the solid technique advice! Never thought about it like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:58 AM
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Healing feels so good. Hard but, wow, walk with your head high and know you are worth it! Congrats to your healing. Keep your heart safe and eff anyone who tries to stomp on your boundaries or blames you for their problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:46 AM
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Dumbass. He wasn’t talking therapy with them — he was getting an ego stroke. Do men then therapy is instant gratification? Someone’s going to take their side? It’s hard work. No wonder so many of them don’t show up. Good for you for going to therapy. Never again with these chodes, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:40 AM
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😂 “dating” without even having the conversation with…you? The person he thought he was dating? What is it with these guys? Hike on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:35 AM
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Hell yes on the call out. Way to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:22 AM
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Congratulations, Queen Regina! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:21 AM
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Bye! 👋 Feel this soo hard. Now all the cool locales I suggested to him are a part of his personality. 🙄 Learned the hard way that if they are incapable of changing up date night, that ain’t gonna change a damn thing about their emotional wellness. Literally cannot evolve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:19 AM
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Star Wars Episode! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:04 AM
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Shiiiiiiiit. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:26 AM
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Having spent 10 years of my (non-crusty) 34 living as an “expat” in two countries I can say emphatically YES. Self-exploration just out of reach of ingrained social norms did me a world a good. Difficult, beautiful, and fruitful. Fully encouraging any woman here with a real desire to work or study abroad to go for it. I do not want women to feel like they have to performatively do something cool to “make up” for being 30 and childless. Being 30s and childless honestly rocks all by itself tho. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:50 AM
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“Why are you bringing up the past — aren’t you over it?” when behavior from the past is being repeated. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:52 AM
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I feel like men find it acceptable to cry when their beloved team loses (or wins even) — so a child cannot? A young girl is supposed to be more emotionally mature watching her football team than a bro is? Shocker. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:45 AM
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…thank you! I quickly eye rolled at “30 being middle aged” but was sitting here feeling super distracted by someone hitting up 44 countries in a year. That’s a week and a dayish in each country if spread throughout the entire year. Grueling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:30 AM
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Oh the GIFTS. Used to be me. 🤡 Side note: if he doesn’t remember/want to buy his mom a birthday/Mother’s Day/Christmas gift that she would like, he will put parallel effort into gifts for you. At least in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:42 AM
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Yes. It is legitimately hard work. Not a quick turn around or sudden glow-up by dropping a shitty man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:51 AM
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Guarantee he thinks he himself or some other “normal nice guy” (TM) would sweep her off her feet after matching on some online dating app. Fantasy land.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:41 AM
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Thanks for the lol sister friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:25 PM
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What a self-serving piece of garbage. I see his photo and my vagina hermitically seals up I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:22 AM
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I’m sorry. So tired of people saying children who just need love in the purest sense somehow are capable of seduction to get that…? Sexual desire is an adult feeling transposed on innocent kids. Just tired of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:12 AM
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Seriously. We are doing the hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:55 PM
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I am so sick of the story, but I am so proud of you. Women on this sub like you amaze me. Thank you for sharing your strength. Know you are supported too. It is my prayer to the universe that all women are wrapped in love and light and protection. Thank you for helping protect women and girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:27 PM
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No tolerance for that bullshit. Zero. Proud of you for making a stand. I know it was so hard. You deserved support for speaking up. You have it here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:31 PM
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😂 oh sheesh I never thought of this! They come to Reddit for porn but they are just end up jerking each other off. Again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:08 AM
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So sad. And hard. Glad you made the best decision for you. Legit a whole Olympic arena of women who have somehow felt the same way. Comforting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:52 AM
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The overarching lack of personal male ownership despite the fact men love to control other people’s shit is just too much for me to wrap my head around some moments. Good people are out there. I believe that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:35 AM
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I’ll carry her gown’s 47,000 foot train 😂 Brava!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:21 AM
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I think my Mom is getting there right alongside me. Been a long journey. Thankful for the women that have taught us so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:18 AM
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I think I needed to hear these stories from you — started a new job and can tell the gossip girls are present all around. Everyone is bitching 24/7 about someone or something. Will remain neutral and not give them a lick of information or negativity as per my usual when I finally am done orienting and back doing my own job myself. Thanks for discussing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:00 AM
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My mom did lol. Love her and all her skills but she never had a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:18 PM
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Leaving my LVX has taken all my savings to relocate, reestablish, too, even though I am frugal and have a very good paying job (not long out of graduate work, however). I will rebuild but WOW. The struggle is real. Keep up the good fight, ladies! Make a little nest for yourself. Time will come when you need it. Without a doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:14 PM
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Thinking about it, a lot of people prolly say women are “fake” for this reason. Not sure why I have been able to steer clear of those types but be strung along by a man with way less skill than some of those types of women that are skilled in taking out their insecurities on “friends.” 🤡 Live and learn. Edited because I don’t know what tf happened with the auto correct before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:41 PM
19

Awesome advice. I’ve only ever experienced this with a partner, but so freaking true. Thanks for making that point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:31 PM
13

No worries, I spent waaay longer than 3 months figuring it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:40 PM
151

An insecure man can never focus on you or your needs. Anything you say or do will not be a reflection of you, but how YOU make HIM feel — whether that is good or bad. Spoiler alert: You were always make him feel bad about himself just by being the marvelous human you are since he is unable to externalize you outside of his own self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:30 PM
22

Wisdom right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:25 PM
51

Crazy how hard we have worked with people who didn’t bat an eye at deceiving us. Glad you are feeling good. You deserve that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:41 AM
197

Yes indeed! One of my friend’s ex-husbands cried to me and said he “didn’t want to be labeled as a cheater” lol so don’t cheat then like…? A little too late for that title exoneration. You get called a cheater when you cheat. Don’t care if it is physical or emotional. Text or hookup. Your friend has got this. Glad you are there for her. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:37 AM
55

I also feel like some dudes just straight up use women’s affection like an addiction to soothe whatever ails them. Reach for a drink, reach for that smoke, reach for that pickme attention. Women are objects to so many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:54 AM
6

Not only are we choosing ourselves and growing in good ways, we’re giving a friend, partner, or family member their own opportunity to level up. Feels like a beautiful thing when society often paints it as “giving up.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:19 PM
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Was attempting to make a crappy joke. Thanks for making me aware of the multiple implications of the read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:20 AM
4

Must really be in a dark place to use the self-worth of others to feel good. Way to keep up the goodness for you! Good luck finishing your PhD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:45 AM
7

Say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:46 AM
13

GOD THIS. I realized this with time. Boosted their ego. Wasn’t about our accomplishments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:08 AM
19

😂 ded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:03 AM
58

Sheesh, thank you for saying this! Legit thought it was like breathing heavy on your neck, not CHOKING. Breath play makes it sound so lighthearted. I’m not old but these terms make me feel old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:29 PM
191

WTF about that lawyer tale...? People are just beyond jacked up. Thank you for telling your story. You are a strong woman. I admire your ability to stand your ground and stay true to yourself. Sure that pressure to conform was beyond intense... My wonderful, smart, and beautiful friend is now a prostitute after stripping for a few years. I love her, but she is living her own life right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:25 AM
46

Agreed! The multiple slip ups are the truth of the person caught out, the “good behavior” is a performance. It’s such a mind f*ck. Learn from these errors, if you haven’t lived this, dear readers. ❤️ Good people do misunderstand each other. Don’t let yourself be misunderstood on something dear to you twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:38 AM
17

So many of us have lived a form of this life. Wish I could squeeze each and every one of you. Thanks for sharing, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:05 AM
28

😂 😂 😂 Thanks for the guffaw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:59 PM
18

This sub is the only one I regularly check but the shit that pops up on my feed makes me question why I even use this platform...it’s all for this sub these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:56 PM
28

This spoke to my soul loud and clear today. Thank you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:20 PM
42

Pre-FDS and in my youth, even with morals and self esteem intact, I had no idea my love was “supposed to conquer” actual emotional abuse. I was unaware of the depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:52 PM
8

Control has always been a struggle. Thanks for laying it out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:58 PM
37

Keeping silent about past trauma as self-protection and recognizing unprocessed trauma loops in others close to me have been the hardest lessons of my adulthood. Thank you for posting this to make me realize other people are gonna be there not because they care, but because they are drawn to the “trauma porn” story to control us. I used to think I could share because I had the control. I feel like so many women share their very private past lived experiences on social media as a way to lighten t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:35 PM
21

Facts. “My husband gives me nothing on an emotional or financial level despite everything I’ve sacrificed and no woman will demand and get more than I got.” We do better, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:12 PM
17

You‘re quicker than me! I just felt like I had to GTFO. Now I might act differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:21 AM
4

You did great. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:17 AM
6

Shit is this new? Bless this post! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:02 PM
3

Maybe he should have googled a better better photo editor on that girl’s phone instead because that airbrush job is terrible, bro. Trash ass mfers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:59 PM
14

WOW. Amazed by you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:53 PM
7

Feel you. Take your time. Love to you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:52 PM
22

I feel like this too. The pieces are coming together more tightly with FDS. Thank GOD for FDS and younger generations. I can’t imagine growing up with social media and consumer-driven images shoving sellable worth into every tiny crevice in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:18 PM
33

Articles like this make me wish I could disappear to the FDS secret lair with ya’ll. By the Grace of God I can make it most days, but some days I just need an afternoon in the FDS Cave Grotto with the beautiful, healthy, and miraculous ladies of this sub to say WTF is happening up there. Lounging. Uplifting. Taking none of this shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:12 PM
107

Went to a dinner party at a successful older couple’s home. They let me use their master en-suite bathroom. The husband had marked off “do not exceed 125” on the retro scale with a little post-it note. I am assuming it had to be a “rule” for his wife. NGL, I almost passed out from the sheer horror. This woman was in her 60s, petite, and gorgeous. Imagine seeing that and feeling that pressure every day. Trapped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:00 PM
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Agreed! Although I consider myself a avid reader, I definitely had to take this book in chunks as the messages were so heavy — as were the realizations that the majority of men I encounter in my life fit the many molds laid out in the book. Always a great reminder, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:23 PM
23

Cringed in my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:29 AM
29

Actually never thought of the umbilical cord thing. Great flippin’ point all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:15 AM
3

Finally listened and wow. Moved. Felt hopeful. Inspired by the middle-class women’s call to action. Nice work ladies! Bless this woman. We are doing hard and beautiful stuff. What’s this movement referred to as in South America/Brazil? Simply radical feminism? Simply being and understatement. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:05 AM
1

Thank you for all you have done and all you have left to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:44 PM
41

Jerking himself off as a hero for confirming first-hand what so many people experience every day. Have to say, this isn’t a male-only problem but a majority rule problem. I certainly had the “prove it” mindset in my younger years. I feel like “trigger warnings” didn’t make sense to me until I worked through trauma in a deep way. I remember watching a documentary in my teens about racial housing discrimination and just having my mind fucking blown. All my friends at the time who were/are POC had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:38 AM
9

This poor woman. This dude will never be caught out. And will give inspiration to others. Are TikTok, Instagram, and OnlyFans all that different? Depends on use, I’m sure, but damn dudes are acting like they can just pick exactly what they want with no consequences across all these platforms. Reason 2,765 why I love keeping my trust circle small and my shit private. Not that even those things protect you 100% as we all know. It gives ME better peace of mind tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:10 AM
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This generation had its fuckiness for sure, but there is a lot of wisdom I think we’re missing out on by pushing the elderly to the side of society. Highly recommend spending quality time with a quality person this age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:57 AM
2

Speech-language pathologist. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:49 AM
20

I can’t figure out if these types are so addicted to shit (weed, porn, booze, whatever) they are hiding their habits from themselves subconsciously OR they know and they just are too weak to make a change? And which one is worse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:21 AM
20

She honestly amazes me. So clearly brilliant yet down to earth in the way she conveys her message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:17 AM
25

(#)NotAllOrgasms /s 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:02 AM
73

Great post, great writing! Hit me right in the face: PASSIVE. Thanks, OP. Their brains are jacked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:33 AM
7

Boss. SLP field is white-pickme’d as hell. Huge problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:29 AM
22

Felt this so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:26 AM
54

Was over him a few paragraphs in — but then the final sentence gaslighting and manipulating his own children? GTFO. This ain’t about food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:23 AM
7

The money piece is where my jaw dropped...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:19 AM
83

Amen to this. You are not dumb, OP, you were actually trying to protect yourself. Been seeing flight, fight, or freeze with PLEASE added to it as a 4th response to danger: we women have had to take the smiley path of least resistance to survive life and not get murdered. Trolls will think that’s a gross exaggeration, but ladies, how many times have you had to play nice to GTFO to higher ground when you felt threatened? Sorry about this shake up, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:27 AM
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Lol INGROWN HAIR. 💀 Never faked. Never will. ✌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:53 PM
39

Lol porn as the free space! 😝 DUH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:07 PM
6

Lol not shocked. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:33 PM
35

She has passed recently but lived a long life. I pray she had enough joy amidst the hardship. Thanks for the idea! I’ll have to gather my books and resources. 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:04 PM
2

Yes. Life changing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:03 PM
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As someone who had a beloved family member with schizophrenia, this makes my blood boil. I love her with my whole heart. She suffered so much from the hands of men. It’s commonly thought childhood trauma like sexual abuse can lead to the neurological/brain chemical condition linked to childhood onset schizophrenia or even later-developing types. And this piece of trash is taking advantage of someone who needs help. Beyond fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:28 AM
2

The way the doctor explained to me was that the test would cost hundreds of dollars if they tested for multiple strains of HPV since there are so many. I have no idea if you can request these. Assuming you can, but you pay. Healthcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:13 AM
9

Fuck that. Fuck him. Took me years to unpack the damage I didn’t even know I had. Sorry for your pain. Glad you left that piece of shit. You are a bad ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:56 AM
10

I seriously never learned this in my entire life prior to FDS. Thanks, ladies, for always for reminding me of this. There is no need to explain. I will not be heard anyway and only hurting the women that come after me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:52 AM
16

You are an amazing woman. Never forget it, never doubt it! Always cheering for you. And all the marvelous women here. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:49 AM
33

Do men regularly harp on the “insecure” argument to gaslight us in any situation? Sure seems like it. Like you I feel repulsed by these men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:46 AM
36

So glad you are free. And so glad you had a guardian angel that turned into a true, deep, forever friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:45 AM
69

Seriously! If you can do this at 18, you are a strong young women. Be proud of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:42 AM
11

Have my eyes set on this for sure. Definitely recognize I’m not strong enough in my own field related skills yet to do so. With more experience, that’s certainly the goal..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:09 PM
11

You have a right to be angry. It is a non-stop cycle of bullshit. And clearly you care with all your heart and soul and know that the “status quo” is not good enough. How to effect actual lasting change? How to make people see others unlike them as actual human beings? How to get people out of their comfort zone even know they know the system that comforts them oppresses others? God God, I wish I fucking knew. Change doesn’t seem to come fast enough for our lifetimes, or at all. I don’t lose hop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:40 PM
13

Went to a famous gay bar for a drag show once with a dear friend. The majority of the crowd was bachelorette parties (kinda blew my mind but...) These talented performers were there to make some cash and do their thing — was sickened to see the drunk women not “tucking bucks” but grabbing their breasts, crotches, etc. Felt way more handsy and lawless than the one strip club I went to back in my young, pickme 20s. One performer was visibly uncomfortable and reminded from stage to pay the performe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:44 PM
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YES. Condoms do not protect us. Genital warts are a strain of HPV too — so many strains of HPV they cannot and usually do not test for these in a standard STI panel. Learned that the hard way from a cheater in a long “monogamous” relationship. Women pay the price and have symptoms or an irregular pap before they even know wtf is up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:25 PM
12

Wow. Way to go! We live through the hard shit to know where we need to go. Jobs, relationships, friendships...proud of you. Sure you are a wonderful leader.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:21 PM
161

Not surprised but a great reminder! Thank you. Same thing happened when thousands flocked to Coachella in years past...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:40 PM
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I appreciate the sentiment and motivation, but corporate America is wholly lacking in the basic tenets of human respect we are demanding as women. I have seen so many intelligent women sacrifice their boundaries, compassion, and sense of morality to “climb the ladder” for perceived power and monetary gain. They drank the Kool-Aid. I would gladly work (and have switched jobs) for slightly less money if the job allowed me to keep my personal values intact. (Edit: typo)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:35 PM
1

Lol saaaaaame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:44 AM
3

Exactly! I am upvoting damn near every single comment on this thread. Great reminders of all the ways we get gaslit tf up and what these empty phrases actually translate to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:37 AM
7

YES. Or “I don’t remember that part of the conversation.” Otherwise known as: the point of the entire conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:33 AM
6

“Why can’t you just be happy?” Wow. Never though of that one. Big realization for me. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:32 AM
3

Hell no he did not do that. But he did. WTF. Go you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:30 AM
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For loving the vagina so much, men sure don’t seem to remember there is a uterus hanging out, like, right above it. Edit: not even sure if that is anatomically correct. Could just be my lordosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:25 AM
122

I’m thinking about how many women out there don’t even know this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:42 AM
48

I’m so sorry for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:35 PM
6

I am speechless. I thought this was a parody post...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:38 PM
6

You did though with your story. Know where you have been because I have been there too. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:59 AM
4

Very kind of you to say. Thank you. I certainly have had to train myself to see these people as individuals external to me with me helping out with the skills I can. Not my life, but we all have something special to give if we have boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:52 AM
3

Thank you for posting and dissecting this, OP. Truly appreciated. Disgusted, but we need to know this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:27 AM
31

YES. A majority of the time men are pseudo-connecting on surface level bullshit. They spend years together but actually don’t know each other and would almost NEVER call a friend out on their bullshit. Not. Real. Friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:49 AM
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Glad I googled PAWG because I was was going to mention the same type of thing. Yes, technically one could bounce a quarter off of this shit. Stop talking. Keep moving. It’s mine. 🍑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:44 AM
6

When he said porn gives him more joy than a women “could ever” give him I was dying laughing. WOW. 😂 Sick Sad World status. Still lol’d.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:59 AM
29

Truth. Haven’t given up hope entirely but open to life and all that it entails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:44 AM
22

Like you I am leaning towards the child-free. Always wanted to be a mother when I was young but often the responsibility of parenting falls on we the women. Only becomes more evident as I age. I would say 1/30 families I work with have a father show up and interested in their child’s progress in speech/swallowing services and engage in continuing growth at home. Would also like to see some stats on dads who✌🏼 out when the child-rearing goes to a whole new level. It’s a matter that requires real …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:43 AM
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As someone who often works with severely developmentally delayed/impaired infants and toddlers of so many étiologies and variations, I wish someone TAUGHT some of this evidence-based insight on aged nut 🥜impacting fetal development. Risks are indeed elevated. Feels like infertility and developmental disorders are often blamed on women (think “refrigerator mothers” supposedly causing Autism according to 1960s psychiatric literature 🙄), but I have no data to back that up. Just a hunch. Need to res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:59 PM
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Def have seen the Seven Year Itch recently but Gentlemen Prefer Blondes was so long ago that with this FDS mind set I can’t wait to see how I will see things in a new light. ❤️ Thanks again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:28 PM
14

Need to rewatch! Thanks for hyping it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:14 PM
73

Oops. 😂 Did not find. Or found and did not procreate. Life moves on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:10 PM
10

The pain you are feeling is so real. If you can handle his lies and deceit for seven years, you can move forward alone. Day by day. You are strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:40 PM
8

Wow. My mind did not even go there. Thank you for saying this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:05 PM
14

I know what you mean. Have hung with a few couples friends this summer and everyone seems trapped... 😬.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:47 AM
17

Never heard of him. Thanks for the eyes on it. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:40 AM
1

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:28 AM
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Keep reading these chodes, ladies. If we can see these 🚩 from a Reddit post, we can see ‘em IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:36 PM
1

Wondering: have at least one suspicious follower that’s also an FDS member. Reverse image searched the full face photo is on a porn site. 🤡Gives very general, no content replies to some posts. Cannot block but wondering how to report...? Or to do anything, if at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:34 PM
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Trash. He probably wants to bang the sister too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:30 PM
11

YES. Men saying we are “intimidating” is a compliment they don’t even know they are giving us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:19 PM
25

Geodes are pretty bomb. Do you, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:02 PM
19

I honestly feel so good knowing MANY boss mfing women like this are out there in the world. Keep it going, ladies...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:00 PM
61

Not into crystals but damn sister I never thought about it that way. Love when ladies do 👏🏼 their 👏🏼 thang 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:31 PM
15

Wish I could shake that mom’s hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:11 PM
7

A million times yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:10 PM
5

I saved too. Just a good reminder for when it is needed. Best to you! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:00 AM
53

So tired of moms fighting their GROWN ASS SONS’ battles. Let these dudes fuck up sooner so we can see them for who they really are EARLIER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:57 AM
61

Yes! Thank you, OP, for reminding us that all addicts hide from themselves. Porn or otherwise — I have nothing but love for those addicts fighting their addictions daily, but we cannot be in open, honest relationships with ANY active addict who sees themselves to have “no problems.” Been there, done that. And have fought (and am fighting) my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:55 AM
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DISGUSTING. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:14 AM
66

Beautifully put. Women have hope, deep love, and real empathy and intuition in our bones. Our skills are a real talent. Save it for someone worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:23 AM
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Although the steps are hard, there is a glow inside you that KNOWS you did the right thing. Hang onto that feeling! Blessings and love. Power to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:13 AM
9

Totally! OG version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:27 AM
9

just over here watching women respect each other’s boundaries and requests and support one another in a healthy way via comments on a Reddit thread Waiting for this book to come back into the library near me so I can get my hands on it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:32 PM
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Totally. Or beat us to the “shame” in seeing their dick AIN’T SHIT. “I’m not huge, just average.” Like...we’re having lunch, dude. Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:23 PM
11

I’m so sorry. The effort put in in the full-frontal deceit and double life is so gross. They have energy for better, but they don’t do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:22 PM
29

So beautiful. So close to home. Thank you. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:12 PM
59

Loved reading your story. So many women to look up to and to applaud in this world. Thank you for sharing. Only the best to you. Not that you need encouragement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:05 AM
52

So fucking tired of men mirroring our behavior in claims of personal realization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:36 PM
30

Glad she’s out of there. Nasty ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:31 PM
18

Beyond rank. I would literally lay down my life for my sisters. Anyone who tries to shit on that bond is dead to me. Don’t even get me started about men fantasizing about fucking twin sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:22 PM
7

Only if I can get their kids a sippy cup that says “My daddy’s only interested in passing along his genetic code for egotistical gain and is incapable in providing me with an emotionally sufficient upbringing.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:20 PM
50

Preach sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:22 PM
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THANK YOU. Sometimes I find myself thinking about the “why” but it’s a waste of my effing energy. Thinking, feeling, focusing on me. I know my worth. Appreciate this reminder. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:51 AM
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Yes. Some men have deep connections with other male friends — others never begin to take a deep dive into their actual feelings. Men need to learn how to share the hard shit instead of first practicing with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:03 PM
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This post fucked me up. But needed to hear it. Why did I watch the Handmaid’s Tale before checking this sub? Deep dive, ladies. (Edit: typo)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:00 AM
22

While she worked and had a kid to raise. He did not give a damn but his old-school coworkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:07 PM
6

“Some porn has a good plot and acting tho.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:06 PM
26

Hey now, maybe he just wants to see how her quick bowels move after coffee ONLY? How can you feel “physical chemistry” better at coffee vs. at a sit down dinner? He sure feels justified in that decision lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:04 PM
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Having lived in Japan several years a ways back I can say...yes. A few 🤯: Job applications often require you to list your age and often include a headshot (regardless of role). Boomer generations are almost expected to take a lover outside of their marital relationship. Met many women who were 10+ year long side chicks. An adult female friend’s mom died...her dad expected her to move back home to take care of him. He ran a giant corporation but didn’t know how to boil water. Another full-time wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:56 PM
53

Here for you. No shame in learning and growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:16 PM
2

Makes me sad. Yet proud of you for seeing it’s not right. Hope you have quality friends that feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:15 PM
8

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:55 PM
8

For real though. Women have learned so long to block out our own feelings and take everything around us in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:42 PM
49

anal prolapse and a McFlurry 😍 I’m dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:29 PM
120

Exactly. You are not high value if you use your power — experience, cash, good looks — to manipulate young, inexperienced women OR humans in general. Predatory shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:28 PM
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You could tell she was like doing the year math in her head. What a freaking BOSS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:04 PM
21

...not mention, plenty of research shows men are NOT more visual creatures they claim they are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:38 PM
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When she won the cash the host straight up said “he wished she was wrong.” 😂 Fuck’ em. What a wonderful, intelligent woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:46 PM
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Thanks for this. Feeling like I have read so much about narcissism but just couldn’t suss out the glaring takeaways. Appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:30 AM
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Thanks for this info. I feel so effed when it comes to IDing/labeling types of personalities or bonds like that. I hasten to label my ex husband as a “narcissist” but I honestly have no clue. Not sure why I feel like that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:15 AM
12

Seriously. I knew dick was a dime a dozen. Just wasn’t for me! Women don’t even have to try to get laid. Sex isn’t even the point for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:29 PM
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Props to you for seeing it sooner — feel like I just got it a month ago (prolly thanks to this sub). I’m not playing a different role in the same fucked up system. We’re expected to take the bait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:26 PM
5

CELEBRATE! 🎈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:14 PM
8

Yes, sister. Me too. Hard, but feels RIGHT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:03 PM
6

Yes. Thank you! So many feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:01 PM
7

Me either! Great point. Growth and change. If our partners can’t handle that change... see ya 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:58 PM
3

Living this alongside of you. We are worthy. Heartbreak is temporary, but staying true to self is forEVA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:55 PM
7

Amen, hallelujah. 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:54 PM
14

You still had to follow through and set your boundaries. So many cases where women let that fly despite their hearts screaming out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:48 AM
12

Loved reading your story. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:20 AM
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This is why I dig on this community...been lurking so long. It’s a master class, group therapy, a link to research on issues that women face. It’s a diverse group of women in regards to age, race, social status, and background — yet we all have so many overlapping experiences with men. I love the women in my family but I have so little experience with HVW outside of female friends that I just grew up having no idea how to articulate and stand up for my worth in relationships. No more. Thanks for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:18 AM
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That’s some major insecure shit on his part. Sounds like you love yourself and know who you are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:25 PM
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Thank you! Have not heard one poly relationship work out — more like result in years of therapy for the women I know involved in poly romances. Feels like a mfing cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:20 PM
15

We’ve all been there and turned the corner. Never looking back! No shame in it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:15 PM
8

Thanks for highlighting the variations that fall under “false accusation.” Just had no idea, honestly. Know for FACTS that police have tried to gaslight every single one of my friends who have been sexually abused/raped with the “are you sure you didn’t want it?” “we’re you leading him on?” “weren’t you drinking?” bullshit under the guise of “we wanted to make sure you were strong enough to stand trial” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:20 PM
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I legit have never heard of it before so thanks for the info. I just don’t understand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:47 PM
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“Free use?” FREE USE? Free use is a courtesy doggy shit bag at the park or a mask as you enter a grocery. Is this a sex-pos community thing? Fuck these rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:01 PM
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Yes!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:49 PM
36

Thank goodness for the wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:47 PM
1

Roll of toilet paper 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:42 PM
2

Whether cheating is emotional or physical, it’s all about the male EGO. It IS about emotions whether is he banging someone or secret-texting a flirty coworker — all about man’s lacking ability to self regulate normal everyday emotions and utilize self-restraint and respect. I never buy that “there’s no emotions” involved argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:41 PM
2

Def heading to the library to snag that book today. Have seen it posted everywhere on here and in the manual. Thanks for reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:33 PM
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I love how people like this hyper-focus on a single post and it just rubs them the wrong way. If they just scrolled down half a page they would see a story where a woman was actually raped by her long term partner or boyfriend. They miss the real aim of this sub by focusing on the minutia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:15 PM
12

Also apps are so common! I know so many men who do the sports betting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:17 PM
19

Great insight. Hard not to take a LVM everything does personally — it’s just who they are. Needed to hear this. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:59 PM
3

I get your disgust with porn. I really do. I encourage you to turn that anger into knowledge girl. Use it to educate. Porn has been proven to be as addictive as drugs, alcohol, and gambling, triggering the same neural responses of gratification and reward. Only more and more research coming out on this topic. Throw a developing brain into the mix and Jesus, imagine the effects. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4600144/ Edit: porn and not prom, although dayum they were definitely link…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:56 AM
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SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:11 AM
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Lord. So many good points. And smart women. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:30 AM
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Thanks. I stand corrected. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:22 AM
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GOD so true. “Lol I’m gonna Amazon prime it real quick.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:21 AM
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If a teen years away from a fully formed frontal lobe can get to this level of self-rationalization, I feel like there is hope yet. What’s the excuse for actual adult men? Cheering for these kids. I believe in them. If you are a teen girl and reading this, we love you and are proud of your deep thinking! Don’t settle for a pornsick boy. You are precious and worthy of real love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:51 AM
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If you can make meme about the trauma of dating a LVM and laugh at yourself, you are doing GREAT! Get it! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:36 AM
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Make it 100% for instances of rape, statutory rape, and incest. Special fuck you to Alabama, where the minimum age of victim is TWELVE and a poor, pre-teen babygirl can therefore “consent to sex.” I can’t wait for women to take over the world. Like damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:35 AM
8

Yes girl. Always time and energy well spent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:10 AM
6

You are beautiful, deep, and have INFINITE VALUE. Love you and your soul. Keep doing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:39 PM
1

Damn. Wow. I know sex can be used to get a high of sorts, but I never put these pieces together re: emotional repression. Thank you! Very clearly put. 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:47 PM
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You are putting you and your well being first. How beautiful and powerful your heart and soul are! Keep the path and give yourself grace since we all stumble. We have been hurt by others, but it is our responsibility to heal and then continue to PROTECT ourselves. You are doing just that. Feel the power in that! Let the scurf fall where it may so you can continue to rise. Blessings to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:37 PM
13

Amazing and heartfelt. So proud and happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:35 AM
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Made me lol. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:31 PM
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