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LifestyleMir_man/r/seduction18/02/22 10:28 PM
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Fundamentals Mir_man/r/seduction25/08/22 02:33 AM
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Outer Game Mir_man/r/seduction17/02/22 01:04 AM
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Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too BroadMir_man/r/seduction30/01/22 10:00 PM
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Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too BroadMir_man/r/seduction07/03/22 12:15 AM
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Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too BroadMir_man/r/seduction19/03/22 09:07 PM
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Escalation & CalibrationMir_man/r/seduction19/03/22 08:15 PM
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FundamentalsMir_man/r/seduction01/03/22 06:34 AM
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Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too BroadMir_man/r/seduction01/03/22 06:40 AM
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Mir_man/r/seduction20/03/22 09:24 PM
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Haha you really wondering if she's interested in that context? If a girl sends you snaps of herself randomly with no context, then compliment her on something. I.e. "damn your hair looking 👌 here". Or " that outfit looks 🔥 ". Shit like that, and if she likes that she ll escalate further.
/r/seduction10/10/22 07:50 PM
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I mean why would you flirt with a person who is not interested? Its just gonna make you both uncomfortable.
/r/seduction19/09/22 04:26 PM
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I tried but it predictably failed. When you fuck up with a girl early on then it's a lost cause imo cause she forms her opinion of you based on the limited interactions you ve had. Probably the only thing that would change a girl's opinion is if she saw you with another attractive girl but at that point why not stick with the new girl?
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:59 AM
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100%. Been in an awkward situation where both me and a buddy were both pursuing this chick, she would only hit me up occasionally but my bud was getting none stop snaps from this girl. And to add insult to injury the times when me n the girl were texting back n forth a lot she d ask me why my buddy wasn't answering her message very frequently anymore. So not only was I not her first pick, but when she did give me attention it was clearly because I was backup. What's worse is I felt guilty for re…
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:31 AM
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Nowadays dark skin doesn't hurt a guys chances, at least not in the US imo, a ton of girls into darker dudes. Seems to me its mostly about how good looking you are irrespective of skin color and how you carry yourself. As a relatively light skinned guy myself (think southern European, Mediterranean coloration), I have occasionally felt like I wished I was darker just cause some girls I liked seemed to be into darker dudes lol. Really we should all just try to look the healthiest version of ourse…
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:49 AM
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Thanks for the input. I guess I ll go with dyeing.
/r/seduction17/04/22 12:02 AM
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Damn all this time people telling me gray hair didn't make a difference but now that I actually dyed my hair everyone says it's better dyed. Just shows friends opinions are never to be trusted.
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:46 PM
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As in the dyed hair?
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:44 PM
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Guessing you talking about me. Yeah I ve gotten the Adam Levine comparison before (because of the low hanging eyebrows), not so much the sasha Baron Cohen, but I see what you getting at. I guess I can shorten my side burns a little bit.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:28 PM
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And the hair color?
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:09 PM
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I guess you right. Shouldn't let the word creepy trigger me like that.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:39 PM
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Yeah I guess my expression is a little intense, but I m just trying to get a pic to demonstrate the grays vs dyed hair, not trying to fill my photo album with good vibe pics And seriously, calling a serious photo creepy is a bit much. Why does everything default to great photo or creepy these days.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:30 PM
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sideburns giving creep vibes, what's this world come to.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:24 PM
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I look creepy? Is it the side glance?
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:23 PM
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What did platnium do? Slow down how frequently your profile is shown?
/r/seduction07/04/22 02:30 AM
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I get 4 matches a day, but almost all the girls are way less attractive than what I usually can get in person. And the few times when I do match with someone I find attractive the conversation dies early or never takes off. Dating apps seriously make me feel like I m ugly, but in real life decent looking girls do give me a chance.
/r/seduction07/04/22 02:29 AM
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I m removing both pics now
/r/seduction04/04/22 03:13 AM
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Yeah I ve thought about that. The premature graying isn't doing me favors. This girl even suggested helping me dye the grays. The girl is not a teenager, she's approaching mid 20s right now.
/r/seduction03/04/22 04:45 PM
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Depends on what you mean by game. I mean being likeable and comfortable around a girl vs being nervous/stiff/boring. If by game you mean pick up lines then yea that's BS.
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:22 AM
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I agree with the sentiment of keeping chins up, but I disagree with the notion that everyone will get someone eventually. Guys especially need to work at it or they may very well be chronically single.
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:05 AM
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Not sure I agree. I see a fair bit of normal looking guys with good looking girls in everyday life. That's the case for a fair number of my friends who aren't millionaire's with a ton of money and look on par with me, though they do have better game.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:54 AM
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Yeah I have suspected its not an uncommon issue for a portion of men. Women can get away with being being awkward around guys they like because men are so focused on how a girl looks rather than how she is behaving. Additionally women just get weirded out by off putting behavior from men way more cause there's always the thought in the back of their head that an odd man can be a dangerous man. And to top it off personality and how a guy carries himself factor into women's interest in their partn…
/r/seduction03/04/22 02:41 AM
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Its the only pic I have with me along side her, and I don't want to post too many pics of her for privacy reasons.
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:34 PM
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still working for me
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:29 PM
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Fashion: in casual settings I do wear t shirts, here I m hiking so I was going for casual. But admittedly fashion has never been a focus for me, I just go with nice fitting clothes and don't really pay much mind to anything else, so yeah might be an area I could focus on more ​ Hair: Yeah I usually just go for a medium short cut and don't really go for a very noticeable fade on the sides. ​ Physique: this probably my worst area, I just recently lost a fair bit of weight, but was too lazy to exer…
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:26 PM
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I m usually not into square jaws on women, but she pulls it off well imo. I think this photo makes it look more exaggerated because of the selfie angle and her wearing a hat. Ordinarily girls look better with a less square jawline but there are lots of female models who have square jawlines. imo if the rest of the face is feminine it can look good.
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:18 PM
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what does SMV stand for and why is she above me in this regard?
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:07 PM
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Yeah I get told I come off as tense and uncomfortable sometimes.
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:52 PM
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Thanks that's reassuring. I got rejected by the girl, she herself has all but said it's because of my terrible game and the vibe I give off, which is fair I suppose but I always wondered if it's because she was out of my league.
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:50 PM
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Wait what's wrong with my hair, fashion and physique
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:44 PM
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She's definitely attractive (the image doesn't do her justice), but her attitude and how she carries herself also makes her way Sexier in person, she gets hit on all the time.
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:39 PM
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Yes I come off as very desperate whenever I m around girls I m attracted to, so much so that my friends point it out after words, even the girls say it sometimes.
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:49 AM
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Well thank you for the encouragement and kind words.
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:42 AM
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Yes of course you need both. I guess my question was if my looks were holding me back, of course I do think I have to work on my game.
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:21 AM
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Of course I still have feelings for her, but this move is meant to address that. A real friend would definitely be down to help a friend out to meet new people. I m not even suggesting she set me up with her friends, but rather wingwoman me and give me pointers.
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:28 PM
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Never heard of the term before, is this really a "thing".
/r/seduction01/04/22 05:56 AM
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Not really. Sometimes hot girls are friendlier but no, plenty of nice mediocre looking women out there.
/r/seduction26/03/22 10:36 PM
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Just general shyness imo.
/r/seduction26/03/22 09:52 PM
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Its not even about commonality imo, its about whether you can cause emotion in the other person. You can talk about stuff she's usually not into but if you talk about it in a way that sparks her interest she ll listen intently. I think you just have to act down to earth, a little silly and tease and if the girl is any bit interested she will be engaged in what you say.
/r/seduction21/03/22 05:21 AM
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Same problem. Its always the same story, girls seem clearly interested when they first start talking to me, but after a few minutes of talking they become increasingly less interested. It's a failure of connecting with girls on a more personal level because you keep things very artificial. I don't even think it's necessary the topic (though emotionally intriguing topics are better) that's the problem it's how you engage with the girl. I know for me it's my nerves that make the convo feel stilted…
/r/seduction21/03/22 05:14 AM
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That's what I suspect. Still a little too tense to let loose and be myself.
/r/seduction21/03/22 01:36 AM
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I d say go try to start a conversation with her during your shift whenever you think its a good time. Probably best not to wait till the end cause if something comes up and she's not around then you might have to leave without doing this. I say do it in the middle of the shift when it feels right. ​ Imo put it this way: ​ "Hey girl X, I m sure you know today is my last day working here, I didn't get the chance to talk to you much here but I d like to get to know you more outside of work. Would y…
/r/seduction20/03/22 12:38 AM
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Oh I m not saying don't ask her out, do ask her out. Just don't try to be dramatic about it and tell her you find her beautiful and really like her etc. Just ask for her phone number and ask if she'd like to go out with you. Believe me when a guy asks if she d like to go out just as he's about to leave the job, the girl knows what's up.
/r/seduction20/03/22 12:22 AM
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It's not a matter of lying or being upfront. It's more about not getting ahead of yourself. The girl may very well be into you but confessing your interest real strongly might scare her away. If you want you can ask if she's down for a coffee date. But I think since your interactions appear limited, it might be best not to frame it as a date just yet. It will be less pressure for both of you. Just say would you like to hang out and go from there.
/r/seduction20/03/22 12:10 AM
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No don't tell her she's beautiful, you haven't even gone out with this girl. Just ask for her phone number and ask if she's down to meet outside of work. Confessions never work. It only feels right because this has been building in your mind for some time. It will sound Hella weird if you tell her she beautiful. Also OP are you young?
/r/seduction19/03/22 11:52 PM
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Depends on how approachable the girl acts. Some hot girls can be really friendly and those ones always have guys hovering around them.
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:16 AM
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Yeah she hasn't given an alt time yet, but that's cause she was trying to see if she could still make it. We haven't officially canceled yet.
/r/seduction07/03/22 01:05 AM
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I ll message her that tomorrow. I text her asking if everything is ok with the fam (that's what a person concerned for another would do after all), and the tell her to let me know when she'd like to reschedule.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:53 AM
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A serious family issue that came up. She gave me detailed run down of the situation (not gonna mention it here obviously). I have known about her family issues for some time, so I do find it quite plausible, but she could also theoretically be telling me this as an excuse cause she thinks I will believe it.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:34 AM
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Well in my case she was very apologetic and said we should probably reschedule, but since she was leaving the door open that we might still meet on the agreed time I didn't tell her to give an alternative time yet.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:29 AM
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So did you even bring up the date the next day?
/r/seduction02/03/22 07:51 PM
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I personally think it's better to invite to a group hang out first. Just tell her you liked working with her and ask her if she d like to join you on a hang out with some friends, and get her numbers. It's clear you haven't established a connection yet, imo going for a date straight away is to big a leap.
/r/seduction02/03/22 07:37 PM
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Used to think this way, but nowadays I think for men personality plays a much bigger role. That is of course if you are decent looking enough in the first place. A dude with 6 looks but high charisma can score a 9 girl imo, and I ve seen it first hand.
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:37 PM
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I wish you luck bro. This is shit we all have to deal with, hold your head high and be proud of yourself for dealing with this like a mature man.
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:34 AM
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First of all why do you see her everyday? Are you guys coworkers? I was/am in a similar situation where I got vaguely turned down by a girl and she ended up being more interested in my friend. Fortunately I m no longer in a situation where I see her all the time, so most of the time out of sight out of mind. But I do still occasionally hang with her and my friend, I just try to not think about it and just see her in a platonic light. I still do find her attractive mind you, but I think pursuing …
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:23 AM
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Let her get back to you.
/r/seduction25/02/22 07:09 PM
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I had this situation a few months ago. Obviously it goes without saying you need to be extra careful cause its work. The danger at work HR wise is you need to make sure she is not a subordinate and you absolutely never flirt with sexually explicit language at work. But imo it's best to start by inviting her to group hangouts outside of work along with other coworkers or your friends. It's an easy way to gauge if she's interested in anything outside of being just coworkers. And her vibes will als…
/r/seduction25/02/22 06:45 PM
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Yea I d agree.
/r/seduction20/02/22 11:35 PM
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If you still look reasonably young I d say it's mostly an advantage. But yea if you balding and look older then it's harder.
/r/seduction20/02/22 11:32 PM
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Probably depends on how you look. In some cases you d have an advantage over younger guys honestly.
/r/seduction20/02/22 11:10 PM
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Tension skill, what's that?
/r/seduction19/02/22 06:45 AM
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Yea you may be right. Neither me or the guys at the party are white and generally the ethnicity on question is very friendly and accommodating. So yea I do think my concerns may be unfounded.
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:32 AM
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No the reservation was mostly because I was worried I d stick out and everyone else would connect more easily. I m not white and neither are the people in the party. But I agree with another poster that my differing ethnic background can potentially become a source of humor and conversation, so it can be an advantage.
/r/seduction19/02/22 05:08 AM
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Idk, I m on the fence honestly. Any tips on how to convince myself to go.
/r/seduction18/02/22 10:41 PM
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So how do talk to a girl you are interested in then?
/r/seduction17/02/22 03:02 AM
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Things were tense between us in the past. So for our next outing I kinda want to go for platonic then if the vibe is right consider something more. This would be the first time we hang alone for real.
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:09 PM
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An ask out would be telling the girl I have romantic intentions, while what I m suggesting is platonic at least at face value.
/r/seduction07/02/22 05:53 PM
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Because I think its a little too fast. Seems to me she needs a little more build up. Hanging with her alone first seems like a good next step before an actual ask out. Mind you this is a girl I had some degree of bad blood with in the past. We aren't a clean slate.
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:45 AM
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Friendzone only happens if the girl is not interested and you stay friends. You don't get friendzoned for being friends first Plus I ve already made mild flirtation and suggestive joke with her. She knows I m not an entirely platonic guy.
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:40 AM
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Nothing definitive. I m not even necessarily trying to get with her right now, I just want to become closer friend and see if she's interested then. She told me she only really becomes interested in a guy once she likes his "vibe". So even if I m going for a romantic angle with her the more 1 on 1 time with her the better.
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:33 AM
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Yea I guess some time apart made her less mad at me. Things were obviously still tense when we first hung out and she still looked kinda mad but at least wanted to talk.
/r/seduction30/01/22 10:42 PM
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I don't think so, when we fought she put me on silent treatment, no texts and didn't want to meet up. I don't think being on bad terms with her would translate into her wanting to sleep with me. I might agree with the idea that her actually feeling angry enough towards me is a sign that I m something to her and not just some random guy. But I definitely don't want to fight with her.
/r/seduction30/01/22 10:24 PM
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I do want to hang just us, but I m not sure she's ready.
/r/seduction27/01/22 10:26 PM
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No to what?
/r/seduction27/01/22 09:57 PM
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Yes but it was all abstract stuff in the future, no solid plans. The closest was a hang out with my buddies which I invites her and our common friend to join. When the common friend ducked, she seemed to duck too, but then a little later said she might come without him. But it never happened as the common friend kept changing his mind about coming or not coming and it got late and I guess she kept switching between deciding to come with her car or get a ride with him.. So she said another time. …
/r/seduction27/01/22 09:52 PM
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Thing is hanging with that common friend isn't even an option anymore. Should I just suggest hanging along side her or my friends to reduce the pressure.
/r/seduction27/01/22 08:59 PM
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That's the thing, I don't know if she would, she's suggested hanging alone before but I don't know if that's just trying to be nice and act like we cool. How can I build trust with her?
/r/seduction27/01/22 08:09 PM
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Ok dm me. I ll try to be honest.
/r/seduction26/01/22 11:17 PM
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Yeah confessing interest is a bad idea. Instead you should have asked her out to hang out 1 on 1.
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:31 PM
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I agree. In fact the "coming on too strong" thing usually happens when a guy is trying too hard to do whatever it takes to impress a girl instead of being his natural self. I ve seen plenty of guys succeeding with a girl by just being laid back and being themselves.
/r/seduction26/01/22 07:36 PM
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Tell me how did you approach this girl, why would you say you came on too strong?
/r/seduction26/01/22 07:11 PM
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I think you ve narrowed your idea of coming on too strong too much. A guy being very upfront about his interest only really works if he's angling for a hook up and is confident. For most other situations especially if the guy isn't the most confident type, being a little more subtle is better. Keep the girl guessing a little.
/r/seduction26/01/22 07:08 PM
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You mixing up being confident and coming on too strong. You can be forward with what you want in a non pushy way and if the girl is down for hooking up she d reciprocate. But coming on strong is when a guy seems super infatuated with a girl and it seems like he got mad feels for her. That can freak out even a girl whose into you. The other thing that separates coming on too strong and being confident is the former comes with a lot of insecure vibes.
/r/seduction26/01/22 06:55 PM
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You gotta be kidding. Even guys get weirded out when a girl comes on too strong. It's an even bigger issue for girls. A guy coming on too strongbis bad cause it comes off as desperate which is the biggest turn off ever. It's even worse than being a jerk honestly.
/r/seduction26/01/22 06:24 PM
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