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Oh absolutely there’s no reason you should’ve had to tell him how to take care of his dog to be a responsible pet owner. You’re going through way more difficult time than you shared as I know you were just focusing on the dog and man but thank you for sharing what you’re going through in your last msg, you sound like a fighter, I’m so sorry you had to escape domestic abuse, I hear it’s so hard to do for so many reasons. I hope stability and peace comes to you soon, big hug sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 02:11 PM
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Yes I am actually STILL unlearning my pandemic zones of comfort :( But on another note, I can be extremely extremely brutally hard on myself sometimes for not going out more and getting out. To the point that it makes me feel like such a loser that I end up “punishing” myself and staying inside. So I end up having a social life in spurts… where I’ll have 2-4 weeks where I got out each weekend and the something hard happens so it’s followed by 2-4 weeks of depression. I forced my job to let me go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 05:23 PM
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Yes please can you keep her? Poor thing probably has months left. So easy to say though. You have a good heart to take care of her as you have so far , poor old thing my heart breaks for old mistreated dogs like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:41 PM
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And also to be a HVW you don’t need to have trophies, speak multiple languages, be a super intellectual, have a stellar body etc…. For me a big one is also my religion so a big part is Nurturing my relationship with the creator who I believe in as this helps me be grounded and make better decisions and it also helps me to “glow” from the inside and put boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 04:32 PM
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I hope the OP nor anyone else takes this the wrong way but I don’t like the other half of the title so much as I feel that it is judging the reader as being one who would not typically believe someone’s rape. The implication is that some women are more credible , I don’t really see how being a pcimeisha means that it’s more likely it’s a fake allegation. The content on FDS should reflect the feminist standards that FDS represents which are so lacking in todays society. The second half of the tit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 04:28 PM
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Thank you for sharing this level of vulnerability and I hope this is a new trend that develops more on FDS as this group goes in evolving and maturing. Since my brother and his wife had the first baby on my immediate family’s side I’ve become Vastly more aware of my singleness for going on now 1 year. And around this time last year is when I stopped seeing this loser cause there were too many warnings even though I did really like him. And this entire past Spring vaca I kept thinking maybe I sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 11:22 AM
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THIS IS SOOOOO SPOT ON!!! And something that should probably be mentioned more often here. A truly good man will respect your skepticism and vetting process as he knows there are tons of bad actors out there! And how does he know this? Because HE HIMSELF is(most likely) not one of them and knows that the way men talk about women and treat them is so much below than what a woman deserves. He knows this because he is not one of these douches!!!! And And also a good man will give you the space you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:21 PM
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I agree with you, for me I’ve OLD to be a great place to build my confidence and get better at dating and for building my red flag radar because oftentimes I feel there’s less at stake since it’s quite easy to snag a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:22 AM
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We need to create a separate post just for this very issue… friends who berate you for having standards and chide you saying “you just have to put up with some things if you’re gonna be with someone”. 😳. I believe this is also why men are as unattractive as they are… women have taught them that their low standards are good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 01:26 PM
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Oh desde fellow FDS Redditor, you’ve really swung this discussion to another topic and that is the academic preparation that other clinicians have in comparison to MDs. Frankly, I don’t really see how your point is relevant or adds anything g to this whole discussion, if anything jt arouses a bit of annoyance for my part as I feel that the underlying premise of the original quesitoner was quite clear. Usernameunchanged I believe went outa her way to distinguish the medical expertise between the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 07:33 PM
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Obeyy!!!! Me heart goes out to you!! The post/“-labor care you received was maybe even bordering on negligence. If you’re still within the statute of limitations within your state for medical negligence then maybe reach out to a few local lawyers to present your case informally by phone and see if there’s a case there worth pursuing? But putting litigation aside, the treatment you got is inhumane! And here you are having given birth to a healthy little miracle and you get treated in such a cold …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 07:01 PM
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I’m assuming that when you say WOC you are referring to women of color. This is excellent advice and not only for medical treatment but also for recording for example replies to bureaucratic requests that receive denials and that way it gives you legal resource should the decision of some power tripping bureaucrats hurt you in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 06:47 PM
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Ya don’t be too hard on yourself sis. You’re lucky to have found FDS in what I take are still your 20s! A lot of dates I had in my very early 20s were very immature and weird, but looking back they were even kind sweet and innocent. Ah how things change!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:59 PM
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What for shaving temper tantrums when playing video games reveal? I had a roommate who had the cringiest temper tantrums when playing and what was equally bad was how he’d basically be playing every 2 hours as that was his “break time” from working (he was a moderately successful freelance video editor) and this was during the pandemic lockdowns here o worked in the same salon as him for 1 year…. Imagine🤪 ya I think I kinda went a bit crazy from all that lol but it really helped me tune up my sk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:54 PM
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Oh my goodness ladies y’all are seriously cracking me up spitting out these truths on here!! Literally my mood has lifted from feeling pretty low today to much better 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:41 PM
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My Mom did not like this guy I was dating because he was extremely active, always had a few projects in the side and businesses and doing random stuff like taking a full on cuisine course or taking signing lessons so that he could sing well for the company Christmas dinner concert 🙄 I actually at the time really admired all of that and thought that he was really into self-growth! But I finally realized why my mom warned me about him cause the guy couldn’t not just sit back and chillax! Always go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:39 PM
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Add no doctors and pilots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:33 PM
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What’s the problem with point 3 regarding wrestling? I agree but can’t verbalize why? This happened to me a month ago it was the first date and we went for dinner and soon after sitting down he wanted to hand wrestle me on the table and I just looked at his hand, then his face, and said , “nah”. I almost felt he just wanted to see if he could get me to act without class during a dinner meal? Like that is so lack of class to me! Not to say wrestling like that is EVER out of bounds… depends on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:30 PM
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Oh the coupon code users are also huge red flag!!! Went on a 2nd date for Valentines to a rather casual place (I mean dude could’ve gone to a slightly more elegant venue instead of what felt like a college joint, I get he didn’t want to go to some place that had Valentine’s Day prices… BUT looking back now through FDS glasses that was ANOTHER red flag as even though it was just the second date and it was on Valentine’s Day it was kinda a big deal for me as I could’ve gone on a genuinely elegant …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:24 PM
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First one here that I disagree with! I’m actually looking for guys who do not ascribe to the mainstream line politically. It’s an important point to suss out from the first date. I realized after a while that guys don’t really seem to care that I am scared of the vaccine and will avoid it as long as possible (previous allergic reaction to a vaccine when k was 10) but when I stopped asking before the first date I ran into 2 guys who quite obviously were not cool with it , one of the guys even was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:15 PM
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Oh my goodness! Ladies this entire threat is comedy gold!! Loool, the things we go through!!! We’re not alone lol 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:07 PM
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I dated a guy with whom he invited me over his place and he’d made a meal. I spent the night (I feel like wanting to stress this was lathe 5+ date) and next next during mealtime while we were eating leftovers he would not let up about me eating a couple slices of potatoes that were left (he’d done his culinary duty and aten a portion of potatoes). I couldn’t believe how many times he nagged me on it (screams controlling) and in the end when I didn’t submit he threw it away in the trash! I though…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:04 PM
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Oh my goodness that literally had me bursting out loud laughing. Oh thank you so much for this 🙏🏼 broke my all-day serious face streak. And yes I can totally see a 22 yr old dude probably in college acting silly like that 😂 but around a woman he’s trying to impress?? Bless the male race 🙏🏼💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 01:43 PM
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I literally read this a handful of times before I really got it!! Sooo true! Took a screenshot. Wow FDS is one of the most incredible places on the jnternet!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 04:16 PM
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That’s great that you think OLD is trash. But the OP wasn’t asking for peoples opinions on OLD. Unfortunately OLD is a is here to stay and a very common way that people meet their partners these days and is going to be even more common as we move into the future. I get that many people have bad experiences on OLD but it remains a legitimate way to meet people and a reflection of the fact that these days peoples social circles just aren’t as big as they were a few decades ago. If there wasn’t ab …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 06:08 PM
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I took a long break from dating but since I returned last fall to dating I ONLY meet a man who’ll do a video call with me first when using OLD. There are a few reasons for this.. -paradoxically, the very last reason is to see what he’s like! If I’m interested enough in doing a videocall with him then I’ve vetted him enough to know I’m interested in meeting him in person as the videocall is more… -to see his reaction! If he downright refuses and insists ln meeting in person directly then I’m done…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:34 PM
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Wow I’m really surprised so many people are against the cold approach. Perhaps it depends what kind of place you live in? I live in a big city where you don’t really need a car as everything is within walking distance mostly and the transport is ideal. I love it when a guy asks me for my number by just walking up to me! The few times it’s happened I’ve always admired the guy cause I know it takes guts. The only thing is I never gave my number out cause they weren’t cute except for once! And a ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:46 PM
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And also taking time off from dating to get more centered! It’s a zoo out there and you don’t want to be a little kitty exploring places where you’ll get hurt and retraumatized. It’s a very bad idea to date when you’re not coming from a strong place as it’ll attract men can sniff out that type of vulnerability. You might get very lucky and attract a hood-hearted HV man, but it’s way more likely that you won’t and end will end up in possibly even some dangerous situations! Ladies, dating isn’t al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:27 PM
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For none FDS ladies, those who will accept scraps I can see how this might seem like an overreaction. My mom doesn’t like cut flowers, she prefers potted ones and my dad never buys her potted ones cause he thinks she has too many potted plants in the house even though he could get her an orchid which don’t take up much space. She’s ALWAYS so disappointed whenever he gets her cut flowers for her anniversary and she has to watch them die. It does make me sad and I know many people wouldn’t get it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:35 AM
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If I said that we should give a man the benefit of the doubt than I said it the wrong way. Anyways maybe I didn’t use all the terminology but I have read tje handbook and all I was asking was it it’s ok to view men as predators in the end. Is a man in dating context a “blank slate” that we vet or do we approach him as a potential “predator” that we vet. Never ever give a man tje benefit of the doubt of course! But thank you for your points because I don’t want any sisters misinterpreting what I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:24 AM
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Ahhh thank your. Went back and reread and makes loads more sense now haha, so true libfem in a sick twisted way makes women think they can actually benefit whithin the framework libfem. Aaahhhhh it makes my blood just boil!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:20 AM
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YES!! Your use of the word psy-op is so spot on because personally I believe that it is also government agenda to keep us as a society from being more United and thus being more of a threat to the government.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:19 PM
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What does “get your bag” mean here? 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:17 PM
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My roommate tried to pull one on me when he told me once after he’d proudly opened all the radiators for the winter (a 10 minute affair) the he was proposing how about “he does all the mechanical stuff like the radiators and fix the sink and stuff and I do the cleaning” and I gave him such a death stare and said “don’t even try” and he laughed and said he was just joking. But he didn’t make it a joke when he said it and I’m 100% he would’ve gone along with it had I agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:10 PM
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Yes I have but it’s not about whether to vet or not but how to see the man in the dating context. My original question should’ve been clearer. Like is he a “predator/guilty until proven otherwise” (so watch out for not only red flags but with a big emphasis on also positives the “virtuous” traits that make him stand out) or is he “innocent until proven guilty” (focus is only on the red flags as you give the guy the benefit of the doubt he’s not a schmuck). I felt bad feeling like that about men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:38 PM
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Thanks this is great! Outside of dating I wouldn’t approach all men like this lest I go crazy due to the amount of energy expended on it. I was struggling with how viewing men like this is “unpure” but seeing peoples replies here I am comforted, thanks fellow strong women. The other approach is to see the man as innocent until proven guilty which is less of a defensive stance. While the “guilty/predator until proven otherwise” is very offensive as not only are we looking for red flags but also f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:10 PM
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My roommate is a major passive aggressive video game playing GIANT petty manchild who is also sexist and has admitted to me when I shared how I’d felt coerced sexually (pre-FDS) and he said that that’s just how men are and that he’s tried to take advantage of women himself in the past when they were drunk(unbelievable how he even shared that with me, like why?? And how how do you think sharing all that helped me right then?!?!). (I’ve lived with him for 1.5 years and moving our end of month). I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:31 AM
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I don’t like that term personally because it makes it sound as bad as friendzoned when it’s actually way worse. Getting used for sex vs getting used for your emotional resource. But I get the word fuckzoned is pointing at the hypocrisy of froendzoned, but there’s really no equivalent to being used sexually. On another note a part of me yells at the idea that some men are so entitled that they can even think being friendzoned exists, it’s like a pathetic emo poor me attitude and entitled… yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:59 AM
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I knoooow!!! Oh that was SO cringey. At her young age I can’t really blame her totally though for not realizing just what a red flag that was. She saw he had tremendous potential to be successful, I suspect, and was willing to overlook these red flags. Kinda happened to me too but I broke it off with him after a couple years dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:46 AM
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(Oops this was meant as a reply to someone’s comment that gates grew up middle class). He grew up upper-middle class at the minimum. Father was an attorney who founded a law firm and his mother was a board member for United Way. A fellow United way board member had a high role in IBM and this man was a major reason for Gates’s success thanks to his mother’s connection to IBM this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:41 AM
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You’re so lucky to have discovered FDS before your 30s! Less damaging relationships to suffer. It’s been half a year since I used FDS and I still put my 4$ Patreon subscription. That’s like 50$ a year; less than the standard therapy session. So worth it. Sorry that’s a bit off the mark in what you were saying there! But just to point out how much FDS changed my life. Was surprised to see less than 600 Patreon suscribers, I supposed people donate through other ways too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:30 AM
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Don’t see the problem with it either. Some wealthy families can afford to splurge on their children like that and sometimes regardless if the child can afford it or not, I don’t see anything inherently wrong with that. Even if they weren’t wealthy it’s an invite and gift. Doesn’t mean that by default there’s some underlying damaging dynamic there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:25 AM
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Oh my thank you sooo much for posting this guide. It made me realize so much not even about the topic directly like how hard life really is and we must milk every opportunity we can (as long we feel ok with it).. To be successful in this life that is just how it is we have to play the game. I READ THIS over half a year ago and back then I was broken inside and was repulsed by your post! But now I know how much I’ve grown inside because I can read it without feeling defensive and truly learn from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:22 PM
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I would like to say that the large focus on accomplishments is culturally based as a bit American but I agree with it more than disagree as we need to feel powerful within ourselves and the only way is by feeling like we have agency in the world. I think there is a bit more pressure to access that agency through accomplishments in the states than in Europe for example. However I think first and foremost, for women living in a democracy (I suppose those who aren’t probably wouldn’t be reading thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:49 PM
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Wow that is absolutely spot on and so insightful. Seriously I’ve been reading FDS for an hour and this is personally the best reply I’ve seen. I see this analogous to what a lot of govt propaganda works and even professional “mind control” programs (they were (likely also are) real actually). They whisper what they want you to think while simultaneously confusing you so you get totally out of touch with your deeper self that can make wisdom-based decisions. Confusion is a form of fragmentation a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:44 PM
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Thanks and yes!! Seriously brilliant, that is the perfect response and approach and with the essence of FDS mentality. Thank you for your input! I love FDS 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:57 AM
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Gross your mean there are romcoms now involving surrogacy? 🤢🤮 Unless you’re doing it for free, as in for family or a friend, surrogacy is going to always be 100% exploitative and consumeristic. It’s so upsetting. Perhaps as another commentator said they were compensated insanely, like 20 million dollars. Women are risking not only their mental health but life not to mention long term complications. Personally I cannot believe surrogacy is even legal in developed countries, but then again when co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:39 AM
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This post is missing something and is a reflection of society’s superficial take on modern relationships. This whole FDS obsession with cultivating oneself through hobbies is a little overdone in my opinion. A real HVM is going to want you for your values and morals. One can have many hobbies and be super active, but those can just be distractions from a lack of an inner self. I’ve seen it in both men and women. Then these types end up marrying each other and it becomes a further competition abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:43 PM
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Jeez that’s depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:46 PM
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Haha brutal 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:42 PM
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Bravo OP!!! Very well written and so sport on!! Thank you 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:43 PM
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🤣 Wow!! Beautifully done 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌 What a jerk to start an inauthentic convo with you just to get a rile out of you… men are the most passive aggressive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:41 PM
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Thanks for your message! Wow that is really disappointing to hear but frankly not surprising, he doesn’t act like a kind person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 10:22 PM
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What’s wrong with Joe Rogan? Serious question, I’m not joking I think he interviews interesting people and entertains alternative views in a well-researched way. As more time passes the less and less Joe Rogan the man himself is appealing, he’s rude and has a big ego I think and just kinda aggravating. So I can kinda understand why he’s not great but not like J Peterson who to me is verifiably bad as I’ve heard his mysognistic opinions and they really anger me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:45 PM
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I have to say though it does seem that they’re in love and he did end up getting a degree and working in electrical engineering. But it doesn’t take away from how bizarre their encounter was and what a pickmesha she was and the general message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:37 AM
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Fresh vaj? This is coming from a good place so don’t take offense. When you think about it on a deeper level we’re appropriating the language of the “opressor” when we use terms like that. Or perhaps you used it ironically, in which case it needs quotes in my opinion just to legitimize it’s use. I have a problem with that term in many ways and don’t want to write a thesis here on it right now lol but the main issue I have is how men love to say that a woman’s vagina changes shape from sex negati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:33 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 wow this is ruthless but laugh out loud funny! Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:43 PM
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Hey did you hear back from her? I highly doubt she would considering her level of denial but just wondering,her situation makes so sad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:55 PM
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Yes I remember your post! And I was thinking about it the other day actually about how you said that if a guy makes you feel a strange way or you like him but he provokes anxieties in you for an unknown reason, that that’s a problem. Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:52 PM
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Oh no!!! That’s so sad, I’m worried for this girl. Thanks for reaching out to her! She sounds like she’s still in massive denial, awful. Appreciate you sharing her post history, hope I didn’t make you feel attacked or anything. It’s just so hard to accept the reality out there, but so important to know so that we ver vet vet!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:38 PM
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Ugh I hate that kind of energy… why do men pout like that? Where I live men like to use this emoticon 🙈 when they think they’ve said something kinda shameful or annoying, I hate it lol!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:00 PM
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Spot on everything you said!!! Be inflexible! Be proud of it! As women we are made to always be nice… screw nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:55 PM
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Wow! Finally my sisters on FDS aren’t bashing OLD anymore but actually analyzing it and figuring out how to use it to our advantage. I was getting so sick of those OLD bashing posts. FDS does not reject OLD but proposes to use it intelligently and not as an only tool for meeting men. Especially for women in their 30’s who don’t have all the time in the world to meet a man organically and want a family I found the OLD shaming quote offensive. Ok end of rant lol. Personally if a guy cancels a firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:52 PM
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Same here, I’m never cooking again for a guy I’m just dating. Not only do they not deserve it but they also don’t appreciate it. Even if the guys suggest for the two of you guys to cook together technically something for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:44 PM
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When I see these stories on FDS reposted from other subreddits I often feel that whoever wrote it is trolling. I’ve seen a few where I’m 100% it was trolling. This one I’m not totally sure. I hope OP look and whoever post these stories on FDS look into the username of the person who wrote it to “vet” the account seeing the post history to make sure it’s legit. In any event, regardless of its veracity I’m positive these types of stories are real and it doesn’t subtract from the value of sharing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:34 PM
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Thank you! Yes FDS has been nothing short of life changing, as someone who prides themself of being a critical thinker and not one to “fall” for any movements or systems of thinking I really feel FDS is on to something huge. It’s the beginning of a new movement in women’s empowerment and I’m so excited to see where things go. I don’t agree with everything on FDS either but the points of disagreement I have are minor and the base theory is so utterly flawless and right, it’s resonates so much wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:49 PM
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Yes thanks to FDS I’ve come on board at 34 with accepting the reality that I AM NOT SETTLING and I will be happier being single childless than a possibly single mother. I even used to think, well if he turns out bad I can divorce him but at least I’ll have taken advantage of my fertile years. No way! After seeing all the stories of single mothers and how they essentially are never free of the LVM, but most of all after accepting that I deserve nothing but the best, I am finally getting used to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:46 PM
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The fifth date with a LVM was over his place. He was really into cooking (did the cordon bleu cooking course for 2 years during weekends for fun so I thought cooking was a big passion of his… turns out he was just a restless type who dipped his feet in many things… only now I learned that is actually a red flag… “trade in many master of none” not sure the expression) and his idea for the fifth date was to come over his place and cook together. It just didn’t sit right with me…. Even though he we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:45 AM
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I don’t know, although this could totally be real the way it’s written feels like a troll. Still doesn’t invalidate all the comments on here since this kind of stuff really happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:45 PM
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This is very important!! Thank you I did not know this. Also good to tell roommates. We should add a stay safe flair, good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:01 PM
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So true, ENVY. I’m so sick of jealous people (envy vs jealousy… still can’t remember the difference!). Despite all the benefits I had growing up I loved 5 times, went to 3 different high schools and it totally f-Ed me up in the head. But because I’m happy around people, and pretty and act carefree and where I live the country I live in that is I have a pretty good job (monetarily it’s ok but my career track is good) it inspires so much envy and resentment. Every person I’ve been roommates with h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:39 PM
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Same here I was raised middle-upper class and till I was about 28 my parents are now comfortable middle lower-upper class. Even though I’m technically “poor” myself I have a good career on my way (not making good money but about to get a new job that will put me middle class) and although I’m not super well travelled recently I did travel a ton in my childhood teens and 20’s. I can still easily blend in with upper class and if I try hard with lower class but it’s a bit harder as I didn’t grow up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:59 PM
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I feel weird admitting to my friends that the douche I dated pumped and dumped me. And that it really hurts because I “only” waited till the 6th date which to me is very early. While my friends fuck on the first date and wonder why men disappear saying “I’m not into games. If they don’t want me for me then sooner or later it’ll come out”. Girrrrrlll… So if I complain or express my deeep shame and sadness over having been sexually coerced and mind-fucked to get fucked sooner than I wanted it only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:42 PM
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🥰 your grandpa is such a sweetheart. Thanks for sharing this story, so touching. My grandparents are all gone but they really are the best!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:48 PM
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Thank you mods for keeping the loser peepee-owners OUT of our community!!! 🙌🙏🏼🙏🏼💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:46 PM
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Ya! Interesting genre no? I couldn’t figure out how to classify it either but thriller/romcom sounds right to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:23 PM
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Yes I agree, the guys who work at these places like elite consultancies where the environment is very male-dominated and they all have too MBAs are especially mysoginistic. That combined with very high intelligence and an impressive ability to pass as being very socially skilled (in a rigid, corporate, “buddy” manner) brings out the psychos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:17 PM
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Yes!!! I feel like Manufacturer below said that one scene where he said women have it easy is so redpill!! This movie touched on so many topics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:01 PM
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Oh my same here!! I watched it today and that line really stood out to me in the beginning -so much that I rewinded and had to listen to it again and thought of FDS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:00 PM
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Thank you for posting this. I saw this on here maybe a month ago and was blown away. We should post this regularly every month to remember. One thing for sure is that the rape and sexual assault statistics are way lower than they should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:28 PM
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I just watched this, it’s not a Hollywood classic or anything like that but still worth watching. I think they touch on a lot of different issues that we often discuss here at FDS. It’s definitely thought-provoking. Issues like male entitlement, red-pílleles (though not direct I could kinda infer it), female pressure to marry and give aceites a second chance… pretty remarkable how good of a job it did touching on many topics we cover here. Ladies we’re not alone! We’re waking up and in this toge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:10 PM
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Looool!!! Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:32 AM
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Wow that’s so lame lol. I use Bumble and never come across these types of posts. But my dating age is between 35-42 year old and am in a large city abroad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:00 PM
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💃🏻!!!! I love dance. There’s a huge salsa:bachata scene in my city. I’ve never had an issue with the men. The better you get the more they’ll ask you to dance. I guess it because I’m lucky enough to live in a city like this! There’s nothing that makes me feel so feminine and just so damn sexy! Plus as a single lady I crave that physically intimacy, it might sound really weird to some who have never tried it but it does give me that “fix” of touch. This weekend for the first time since the pandem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:42 PM
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This man is incredible!!! He’s not my type looks-wise, but after hearing these words coming out of his mouth I would absolutely date him. What a blessing for men and women this man!!!! I am in love 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:56 PM
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Remember even if they come back with an apology -people don’t change. Mine apologized but I could feel he just didn’t get it anyways. He chased and chased. Then when I was in a low spot I reached out and be immediately met me. When I got a string of texts 2 days later I new it was him -his abuse. He called me crazy and to never reach out to him again. Yes I was in a very weak point in my life. And he despises weakness. He was confused with my sudden change in affection. I did it on purpose subco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:50 PM
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Lol I broke it off a while ago. Can’t believe a dentist could be so nonchalant abojt STDs , but there were other reasons for it too though that was sufficient in itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:21 AM
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Haha I should’ve asked him if he had crest pens and notebooks, squeeze him for all he had 😅 Such a pathetic man, so cheap too. I broke it off for more reasons, thankfully I ran into FDS around that time and it’s what encouraged me to break it off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:19 AM
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I dated this year a dental surgeon who gave me a big box of travel-size toothpaste they give you when you go to the dentist. It wasn’t even a fresh box, it was a beat up box and it looked like he had been collecting them in there so it was pack full probably 2-3 times extra the amount of crest toothpaste than what originally came inside. Made me feel like he’d gave me some random collection he had no use for. At first I thought it was an electronic toothbrush but then I had such a puzzled look o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:34 PM
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Haha yes I was talking about the carrot lol. Actually I prefer carrots (😂😂😂) over cucumbers because they might be more hygienic since if you break the cucumber skin you expose the flesh bit inside. Oh dear can’t believe I’m talking about veggies like this! No Im not talking about a cooking recipe 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:21 PM
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Thanks for your response! Can I get your opinion on whether or not I should read the book you recommended? So yesterday after seeing you recommend the book I ended up reading reviews on Why Men Love Bitches and listened to the first chapter read via audio online and frankly couldn’t get into it! I worry that it’s teaching me how to play the player’s game, or in other words it’s showing me how to get a LVM (obviously that cant be the point lol). I get that it might help me avoid getting used in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:19 PM
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Yes!!! Exactly!!! “Don’t be out late at night so as to not get drunk and violate women” imagine enforcing a law written like that! Society would change so much faster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:28 PM
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Yes the guy on the left nodding in agreeement while staring at her breasts! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:27 PM
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Oh my I just am in shock! Thank you for sharing that and I’m sorry to hear it’s so so sooo backwards like that. Do you think that there is hope that on our generation things will improve?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:24 PM
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If you are curious and want to see what it’s like using a cucumber or even a large carrot (personally the thicker and longer the better! Lol) can give you an idea of what it’s like at least physically. Or if you feel comfortable enough then buy a dildo but I never could do something like that lol till I was older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:40 PM
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🤢🤢🤢🤮 That is just evil. Sorry you met this man and apparently there must be women out there who find it cool since I bet that wasn’t the first time he ever told that story to another girl. Pre-FDS I might have not believed this kind of stuff happens! Hope he kept his hands off you, sounds like you were ok though. What a pathetic scrotum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:38 PM
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ALLELUJA!!!! Thank you for this! Lately FDS has become quite negative, like why are you on a dating strategy website if you hate men so much that you’re not actually dating? This is why FDS is incredible, we don’t take bs or unhealthy behavior from not only men but women too! FDS is the start to something big, it’s the seed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:42 AM
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🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:18 PM
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Wonderful!!! Thank you so much foe all the work you do mods to make sure FDS is an empowering and uplifting place! Seriously thank you! It’s gotta be so much work filtering posts and reading through what I imagine is frequently negative stuff and not to mention men who post things. This place is really awesome 💃🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:56 PM
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Wow he sounds like a catch!! Thank you for sharing his red flags too. Honestly this is the first post I’ve seen on here where the man sounds like a legit HVM (so far!) Of course keep vigilant but you sound like you are being super cautious. I’m gonna go and buy “why men love bitches” now. The audio version! Keep hearing it’s a good one. Thank you also for sharing the things that helped you. Let us know how it goes! I can just feel from the vibe of your words and how you said everything that you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:53 PM
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I loved reading this!! Thank you! Before FDS I would have protested over what you wrote, reflexively wanting to debate it and fight my feelings of discomfort that such truths provoke when living a lie, while deep in a hidden part of me knowing that I believe it. Thank goodness for FDS for opening my eyes and bringing me close to such an amazing community of women!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:37 PM
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Yes in our lifetimes there is a real possibility of having to face situations that we can’t fathom ever happening now. I think people are aware that things aren’t right in the world, and it makes me especially sad for the children to grow up like that. What times we live in. But I do have hope for generation Z, despite the porn culture and the way girls are treated there are really promising dynamics I’ve observed. At least I hope!! I’m so grateful to have been born a couple years after you were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:20 PM
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Thanks for sharing the article. That’s awful that it says some ocean ecosystems will collapse already in the 20s! Especially for people who rely on it as a source of income that is devastating. What’s especially frightening is how every few years the scientists say “we were wrong, the year for X to happen is much earlier than we thought” or “we were wrong, the actual threshold is much lower, our ecosystems are much more fragile than we thought”. What I find particularly disconcerting are these t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:16 PM
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Sorry to reply to your message unrelated. I do wish that FDS instead of outright rejecting OLD focused on using it intelligently. I strongly suspect that a significant portion if not at least half of women will keep using OLD despite being part of FDS. Assuming that’s the case then it would be smarter for FDS to focus on safe and smart OLD dating. It’s better to accept the reality that OlD is here to stay and that the shifts in society (increased mobility and tech pushing us to be solitary) Is c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:17 PM
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Thank you for pointing this out! I would’ve missed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:43 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:29 PM
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HAH love it!!! 😂🙌🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:27 PM
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It’s already affecting us. I work in the carbon reduction industry so am very aware. But the scenarios being entertained here are far away from happening in the next 10/20 years as you say -at least not most women on FDS. In any event I do love the Reddit spirit of arguing (not being facetious) so if you have any studies that suggest societal chaos in the western world in the next couple decades please link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:25 PM
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It’s important to not get too ahead of ourselves. Have kids if you want them, don’t feel guilty about it. I don’t think any of us here will still be in our fertile years by the time that world chaos gets so extreme that we’ll need to stock up on bc, should such a reality come to fruition in our lifetimes. However it is really serious and ultimately do what you need to do to be safe! Y’all are scaring me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:37 PM
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Oh ya duh!! Thanks for spotting that, I must’ve been extremely tired when I wrote that last night!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:06 AM
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Honestly I still don’t know where I stand. My brother (who is an HVMx2) met his amazing wife on Tinder. I haven’t had any success yet been on countless dates. And have had 1 very negative borderline traumatic experience when I was going through a very low point in my life and shouldn’t have been dating. It might depend on where you live too. Since joining FDS I’ve realized that limiting myself to FDS(edit:OLD) is stupid, and ultimately might be as much work as getting out there in real life. I t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:48 PM
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If I can share my opinion, I personally think given the reality of the modern dating scene and changes in societal structures (people having smaller networks) that it would be better to accept OLD as a legitimate dating resource as I suspect many ladies on FDS will not quit using it. Assuming how many ladies on here won’t (but that’s just my assumption) quit it would be better to discuss strategies on staying safe and vetting. Personally I do think there’s a safe way to online date but that will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:44 AM
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This is why if my husband wants a prenuptial he will probably regret it as I will stipulate that for every month I don’t work to take care of if a child k wjll get x money, and it will also reflect the loss of income from the “mommy tax”. Depending on the country I marry in I might get a prenuptial either way! From the article that you linked to first... “If the child development research is true, then human development begins on day one. And the most important person forming these skills and ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:22 PM
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It’s personal observation... my ex who is an enormous narcissist was chasing me for 1.5 years when I moved back to the city he lives in. I met up with him a few times and although he apologized for having mistreated me before I never really gave him a chance again due to my conviction that people don’t change (unless motivated by some major life event). I was looking for work when I moved back here and he even offered me a job at his law firm. He’s become very wealthy, he’s more than doubled his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:34 PM
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I think also narcissistic men despise vulnerability... they look down at it always as a weakness instead of the reasonable and appropriate reaction to a situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:42 PM
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Thanks OP! That’s was very well written by the way. And yes that’s actually my biggest horror... marrying a man like that or worse, a narcissist. The two usually goes hand in hand. Watch how he treats his parents on their birthdays/Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. Of course doing something special for them doesn’t automatically qualify them as HV since some very successful types try to be perfect in all aspects of their lives. But if you’re 34 and live in the same city as your mom there’s no excuse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:28 PM
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Just a suggestion, someone should update the FDS handbook to reflect that? It actually has a couple sections with OLD tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:46 PM
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I can COMPLETELY relate. It’s thanks to FDS though that I’m feeling more and more ok with being single, and being single forever. I will never compromise on the fundamental ground values a man must possess. This reality means it might take a while to meet him. But there is a part of me, deep down, that is more confident than ever that I will meet a HVM soon. So I have more Hope than ever but at the same time am accepting the reality that I might be single forever. Perhaps I’m just bs myself in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:49 PM
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Sex is either positive or bad. There is no inbetween. I’ve always cringed at that saying and am so happy to see someone on FDS exposing that shit saying. There’s either positive experiences that leave me feeling honored and satisfied, and bad experiences that even when consensual leave me feeling borderline traumatized as I didn’t concern to being masturbatory flesh unit. Of course with positive experiences they range from good to amazing, but that doesn’t matter to me anywhere near as much as d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:26 PM
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Come to think of it, the reason for the shaming is because otherwise the majority of women would never marry! We literally need to be coerced, shamed and mocked about singlehood -the reality is that there aren’t enough good men in the world so the only way society can ensure reproduction is by pressuring women to marry the losers, which is most men. Meanwhile do men get pressured? In comparison to women the answer is no. If us women had our minds on straight without this social brainwashing we w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:14 PM
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That’s amazing, thank you for sharing that! I was just thinking how we at FDS should make up a word to replace spinster but then read your comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:06 PM
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Perfect said!!!!! I can stretch this analogy further and say treat all men you’re dating as if they were abscesses full of rotten puss that look fine from the outside. And keep poking till you know that nothing will come out, sometimes those little bastards are stubborn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:26 PM
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Totally. Ugh just wanted to say just shut up girl, you’re bragging about not having standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:21 PM
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Sending a big hug your way too, hope you’re finding healing and peace 💜🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:59 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words babyfrog98 💜 Yes what you say about taking a break like that is so important! I took 1 month off and am slowly easing my way back into it. And it’s totally different this time as I’m laying my boundaries down and not budging... and I have also promised myself to keep them up and slowly lower them when the guy redeems himself trustworthy. I think the hardest part isn’t going into it cautiously, it’s maintaining that vigilance as your heart is falling for him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:29 PM
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I wanted to DM you this since I don’t want to keep commenting on something not really FDS related but not really sure how big of a deal it anyways. Not sure if you have your dms blocked or if I can’t figure it out lol, I’ve never sent a dm message first. I just wanted to say how I love the tone in your reply, you sound like such a sweet woman with a generous heart. It warmed my heart! I totally agree with how rideshare drivers, many of them, will listen to you and they are quite therapeutic, I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:13 PM
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I love birds!!! Honestly I could totally see myself buying some land in Wisconsin and having my animals. Birds. Cats, dogs. Ferret. And a little pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:55 AM
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🤣 y’all crack me up so true! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:32 AM
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I guess id have to search for a bunch of studies online to prove myself right at this point. Just to be clear, just like there are more men in the extreme side of high IQ there are equally more men in the extreme side of low IQ. While there are more “average” IQ women. To me this mean that by sheer numbers, women are the genetically more stable and consistent sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:17 AM
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Sorry to take advantage of your comment to preach but what you said about tipping is so important. Always tip your driver, the same for Uber eats. You’re paying less than what you would using a public taxi anyways. If anything it helps you’re rating. Personally I’ve had nothing but good experiences with Uber in my city but can understand it’s not the same elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:49 AM
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I think OP was implying that she is only exhibiting OCD in this situation. I find her therapist suspect, I’ve never heard of “relationship ocd” as a diagnosis, the fact that her therapist had to stress that it’s “relationship” induced OCD made me cringe inside. If anything it’s confusing the definition of OCD with her patient which if it turns out her patient has legitimate OCD will make it harder to for her to accept as a genuine diagnosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:13 AM
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Hey there sister, you did the wisest most greatest act of self-love by breaking it off with him. Pay no mind when he talks about your “energy” (what kind of bs is that even to reduce an entire person into “energy”) like that, why would he keep seeing someone who’s energy he wasn’t into, this is so classic LVM behavior. You’ll see, you’ll get stronger in time. It might not happen overnight but each week you’ll feel better as you gain some distance and accept fully how toxic this man is. I’m sorry…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:01 AM
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Yes this!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Just because a man pays is not a sign he is serious. I think that the more out of your league a man thinks he is the harder he wjll work for getting you to bed, and sometimes the harder you make it for him the more he will work for it. I’m still emotionally messed up from how a recent guy I dated clearly only went after me for sex. I think he knew that I wasn’t gonna be an easy lay when he invited me to his place to make dinner together (an invitation I wasn’t very excited abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:47 AM
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Oh dear 😂 so lame our strength in being the more empathetic and caring (and just all around superior) sex bites us in the butts sometimes when we start feeling sorry for men in situations like this, I almost find humor in that though as we can look back from our FDS/empowered perspective and think how he wasn’t deserving of our empathy in that moment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:30 AM
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I think this is why I don’t really find American black men hot but black men from Europe are smoking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:03 AM
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Savage 😂 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:58 AM
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Ewwww!! I asked a guy to speak in Spanish but because i live in a Spanish speaking country and it was my first language. But not because of porn. That would make me so uncomfortable!! I’m sorry that blatant racism even happens during sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:46 AM
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Yes even wealthy LVM’s are frugal. I went on a date with one to this restaurant that was part of an association of restaurants. He pulled out DURING THE MEAL his little stamp pamphlet of this restaurant group that showed that for every 10 meals he got one free or something like that. And I was thinking wow this is so low! And this was still at that stage where he was trying to impress me. Maybe he did that because that’s where he took all his dates and it was a way of passive agreeablely making …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:12 PM
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Remember how the power imbalance in heterosexual dating is extremely skewed towards men. When dating someone doesn’t result in commitment as long as a man walks away having had sex then emotionally he is usually unscathed. Maybe the only he will have lost is his time and money. Incomparable when it comes to the emotional pain and sometimes trauma when for the woman if she’s had sex with him. And considering how many times a man will push for it if not often enough try to coerce (which is a form …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:06 PM
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Oooh I’m really sorry you’re going through this and I’m sorry to hear about your son. Men are heartless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:21 PM
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My ex could not remember the state I was from in the USA when I saw him again finally after I moved back to Europe. Words cannot express how disappointed I was. For his intelligence and background he SHOULDVe known and remembered the state I was from but frankly I just don’t think he cared!! I did give him a pretty hard time about it. And the crazy thing is we were together when I lived in Europe where I met him and then I had to move back to the states for 1.5 years and when I returned I didn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:20 AM
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Hey I have a solution... find one who’s a foot taller!! Ahh sorry ladies, couldn’t resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:29 PM
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Awww what a sweetheart!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:57 PM
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I like Bumble most, or hate it least, lol, because it allows you to filter men. Being a tall woman this is important. Also by age and education. And I only say “hi” to make sure he’s real and responds and I can usually tell by his first message how serious he is. I do live in a huge metro city so this helps. I also sometimes since about half of the men “like” me will “like” every single guy without looking at his profile unless his firs rpic is really ugly and then I’ll swipe left. I’ll copy pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:54 PM
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Yea my ex was I’ve League and not accommodating and Op I just left a comment on here (lol more like first page Oda novel) about one of the last guys I dated who was also Ivy League and the only guy I’ve ever arranged a first date with who when told that I’d like to meet in my neighborhood suggested a place 20min away (literally said it was close to his place too...). He was also stingy I noticed despite having a (red...sigh... no he didn’t have a small peeper but he was on the shorter side)... H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:33 PM
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Maybe it’s an age thing? I’m in my mid thirties and also find this confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:57 PM
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I used to look down at women who’s say that “men are animals” or “they’re all the same”... it was my internalized mysoginy that made me feel these women were betraying the men in my life meanwhile I had no idea just what an awakening was waiting for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:53 PM
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No no no just no!!! He knows exactly what he’s doing be touching you on your neck! So he prances into as knight in shining armor and now that he’s tired of being someone he’s not he’s trying to keep you by being point blank emotionally abusive and trauma bonding you to him. I should ve said this first, I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I think you are so strong for seeking help and for sharing your story on here. Only you know when you’re ready to leave this person. Whether or not you shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:50 PM
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I’ve never been asked that question. And if a guy did I would roll my eyes and say “that’s for you to find out” and lose all interest. If there was still a sliver of Hope left in me I’d ask him why’d he asked the question... but nah no thanks a man who asks this doesn’t really even care but a man who’s so self-absorbed and conventional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:32 PM
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🙌 so glad to hear it. Keep rockin! 💪💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:27 AM
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And people wonder why women instigate 70% of divorces 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:22 AM
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You have a heart of gold, that sounds so hard that you skipped meals for a few days, I hope things are better now that you don’t have that scrotum in your life. What a monster! 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:21 AM
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Op maybe you should black out the key words on that poster? So that just in case the rapy male lurkers on here’s don’t know any of them? It’s a a small world in the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:00 PM
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Thank you for your reply 🙌 My dad can be extremely passive aggressive and will often use a rhetorical non-question when he doesn’t like something instead of manning up and saying he doesn’t. That’s not to say what you’re doing here is that at all! But the asking a question back strategy always makes me feel like I’m acting like him and also won’t work on family who would probably Misinterpret it as such. In any event sorry to ramble, I will try it on friends and acquaintances. Especially over Xm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:42 PM
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Ugh girl they do sound toxic 😔 I’m sorry your friends have changed so much, it might be best to take a break from them, see if they change, or just leave them. People like this even early 20s there’s no excuses... so irritating and it doesn’t get any better with time either if anything people get more judgy And entitled to stick their head in your dating life if you’re a single female I am kind of a naive person, indeed I might even have mild aspergers. I never realized anything was wrong with r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:37 PM
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Beautiful! Lol gonna try that one. Ideally I just wouldn’t give a da but these things do get to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:27 PM
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This is a great point!! Thanks for bringing it to our attention. I am guilty of this sometimes myself. And also where when I write I try to defend every possible comeback even though it doesn’t add much to what I’m originally saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:30 PM
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Jajaja your first sentence is cracked me up! Some people are so programmed and unthinking that they go from phase to phase in life like automatons so those who don’t join them are at best weird and most often threatening to their rigid way of looking at life. Su<ks to be them 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:24 PM
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My friend who when people ask her if she has kids replies by shaking her head and saying “oh no no way, I would absolutely not have children” recognizing the insane amount of work they are. That usually puts people on their place! I don’t really have a good comeback though for when people ask if I have a bf. With dates when they ask why (usually trying to flatter me in a patronizing way “how is it possible someone like YOU is single”) I’ll say “because I’m f-info crazy”. But with family friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:22 PM
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Have tried confronting them? You could just say “what’s the problem with being single? I’m enjoying it and prefer it right now so I can focus on other things” or something like that. Old friends like that are important to have especially if they are pretty cool other than turning to kinda jerks since all entering this phase. Sorry I know you weren’t asking for advice. But you could just be incredibly blunt and tell them how you feel. Or just ask them if they have a problem with singlehood/why th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:17 PM
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They love saying “how is a woman like you single?” 😩 I like to say “because I’m f-ing crazy” (or sub the f word with something else depending on the man) and then they look at me with this quizzical look... It cracks me up seeing their wheels spinning wondering if I’m being serious at all or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:12 PM
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Yes so true!!!! Like my macho roommate I told him I wanted to remove this horrendous poster in the living room (looks like it belongs in a dorm room, even worse it’s like a brainstorm poster from a kindergarten class) and I found it so weird the he said “ok but don’t remove it until you replace it with something else” knowing that he had thrown out the original thing that had been hanging there and due to my kind and considerate nature that I wouldn’t replace it until I found something nice (but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:18 AM
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Congrats! 🎊🎉 that’s amazing 🤩 and it’s using your degree on top of that, so cool!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:39 PM
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I’m always very skeptical of statistics like that since in this case there are so many variables and ways you can cut up figures to get a number. Not saying it’s manipulated but a number like that without any context, like is this for working 40hrs a week per month? I just don’t see most women sticking it out for long doing sex work if they didn’t make a “reasonable” amount. What makes me especially sad is how many try it, find its not as lucrative as they thought, and now they’ve forever left a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:26 PM
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Thank you! 🙌 I just can’t believe men would argue it’s bad for the environment 😔 wanted to use a laughing face and then I realized heck no nothing funny about this. I still have that little bit of naive hope that they were just trolling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:11 PM
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It makes me almost angry that so many of these women DO have career prospects but they just aren’t thinking it through for whatever reason... lack of confidence in ability to do well in the labor market, laziness or need for attention. I can sympathize with women doing this in 3rd world countries (I still find it wrong). At the same time I can understand how some of these women living in more impoverished areas of the developed word really don’t feel they have options choosing this, but agh they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:23 PM
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I especially despise the Vice docs and shows on this industry 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:32 PM
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I’m extremely curious now, what is a drink condom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:52 PM
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Totally! Sadly most people are not as open-minded as we like to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:51 PM
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Doesn’t really make a difference. I have my standard hello and that’s it, I don’t ask anything. Specific ever because it’s too much time to invest when he might never even reply. I’ve even liked all the men a few times, swiped right on each one, since about half the men like me so that way I don’t have to waste more time and then go through those and select. It’s such a drain of time and energy seriously not gonna rely on OLD now that everything is opening up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:57 PM
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Wow. The way he waved those bills around, they really do think we’re pets/subhuman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:59 PM
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Omg the lack of self-respect your father has. I’m so sorry you went through that. As women we must stick together!!! Seeing all this stuff on FDS makes me realize even more how important female relationships are. We are the superior sex without a doubt and one will rule the planet, not foe a few more centuries but k have a deep feeling it will happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:44 AM
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That’s amazing! And that’s a smart quality to value in your bf!!! Not silly at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:27 AM
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Hey dating apps honestly are pretty horrific. The last 2 guys I dated were LVM I met online, but I’ve been having dating apps for years on and off and been on countless dates and because I’ve always been extremely careful and heeded red flags never had any bad experiences. Until those last 2, indeed I’d even say just 1 of the 2 was a “dating app predator”. But it was enough to make me realize something is wrong with these apps, not to mention all my other “not bad” experiences... in the end they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:45 PM
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Biggest red flag is his attraction to a woman pushing 3 dogs in a pram who also takes them on their dates which can only be for “dog catered” restaurants (have you ladies actually heard of an actual steakhouse allowing dogs inside and serving “doggy steaks”?!) and then expecting him to pay for their food (which came from the restaurant) 🤣 The woman is just doing her thang... And he’s coming on Reddit wondering if there’s anything wrong with it? Sorry ladies but some things when they’re bs I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:27 PM
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This is just painful, this guy reminds me of my greatest pickmesha moment ever and how it let to being borderline sexually assaulted and taken advantage of and being told that basically I have a great personality but it’s under the surface... I was going g through a massive depression at the timer tying get my spark back and this guy made me feel like utter toilet....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:02 PM
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One year older than you here.... it makes you an empowered woman for not having settled. I’m glad that I found FDS while still single and not married!!! If we wanted to we could be married with kids and that’s the reality of it! And no we’re not too picky, just know our worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:52 PM
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Omg 🤣🤣🤣 so funny but sad too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:44 PM
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Absolutely call your mum! I’m not going to repeat all of LadieLemon’s words as everything she said is spot on. Please get help now. I’m so sorry you’re feeling suicidal, please call your mum or reach out to a friend or a helpline. If you type “suicide” in Google some hotlines should pop up, the women that answer these phone lines are extremely supportive. I don’t know where you’re located, I assume outside the US. Most European countries have this in Google, if you do not speak the language in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:37 PM
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Honestly this woman sounds a bit nuts to me 🤷‍♀️ Sorry to say 😅 But if he doesn’t like it then he should most definitely just leave. And she shouldn’t make him #1 until he proves himself anyways so for him to complain about being #4 is silly. Honestly this sounds borderline trolly to me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:25 PM
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You can do this!!! You can do this!!! It’s so hard, I know, you are literally withdrawing from him, but you know what’s best for you and know that this is the right path. Don’t deviate from it. Listen to your feelings, don’t push them away, accept how you feel and what you’re going through even if these feelings are extremely unpleasant do not push them away. Accept them, coddle them like a little baby, tell them that “they” will be ok, at least that helps me when going through something really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:19 PM
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OP, I’m so sorry that happened to you, and that you feel you can’t report it 😔 sadly enough I doubt you’d have much resource to report it, I’m so sorry. And what a horrendous monster. I hope you are doing better/getting help for that experience, so traumatic. I’m so sorry. Just want to say that when it comes to many ladies’ views about OLD that I have to respectfully disagree. We must be more strategic about using OLD instead of entirely dismissing it. Therese been studies done showing that coup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:49 PM
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Hey that’s wonderful you are realizing this and you’re in your 20s!!! Frankly I do not drink on first dates, often times the man will get a beer and I a coffee.. although I live in a different country with a different mentality of drinking (it’s more casual here). But that was in my pickmeisha days and I’m at the point where I’m not going to rely on dating apps anymore (though I’ll still use them) and only do video calls first and then go out for dinner (if he doesn’t invite me for dinner then f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:37 PM
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Also you can transmit certain STDs more easily from oral sex (giving or receiving)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:28 PM
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Thank you, I just did that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:24 PM
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Former cop turned stockbroker... my red flag radar would be cranked to 100 with that one!!! Although I’d never not date someone because their profession itself is a red flag more often than not they do end up being jerks. There’s a reason why the top professions attract sociopaths (surgeons, ceos, lawyers) That’s just heartless how he showed no shame for cancelling those appts last minute 😔 Getting a bit side-tracked here... but Here’s a link for the top professions to attract psychopaths: https…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:23 PM
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Thank you FDS!!! This is the kind of info I need to protect myself from the cesspool of men out there!!! Ladies unite! 🙌💪👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:07 PM
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This is why I don’t give my phone number out anymore (thanks to FDS it’s given me the confidence to do what I want!!!) to men on OLD until after the first date. The second to last manchild I dated was so obnoxious in reaching out to me constantly via WhatsApp and I believe that is why I ended up seeing him despite the red flags. He was so darn persistent! Since we were already talking on WhatsApp it made it harder to brush him off for some reason... even when I was cold to him once he whined and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:03 PM
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That’s so insightful! The second to last scrote I dated was my height (which was a bit below average in height for the men where I live) and older than me (6 years older but turns out 8 as he lied on his profile, I’d look at him and think “wow you have such wrinkly eyes” and think he must just be very sleep-deprived and then realize “no, he’s just old and never uses sun-screen in this super-sunny country”) but I figured I’d give him a chance as he seemed interesting and had a “decent” face (I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:53 PM
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🍤 looool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:41 PM
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Looool too funny!!! And THAT is exactly the approach we must take with shorter/“riskier” men! Put the red flag radar (the type used in space exploration that are like half a kilometer wide) muzzle on them. “Red flag muzzle” them! That should be the term used for the type of red flag radar we need when dating certain types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:40 PM
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Hahaha chihuahua complex 🤣🤣🤣🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:35 PM
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Ohhh oh what a jerk! I’m extremely cautious when dating these “high powered” men, surgeons/specialty doctors are the ones I’m most careful about and have my red flag radar cranked to the max. entrepreneurs come in second place. I had one surgeon I was talking to online laugh at me for asking him to share some more pics with me as you could barely see his face on his profile. I bet many women de facto date him just cause of his title so he was surprised or even insulted I dared to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:34 PM
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Oh gosh that is awful!! Glad you only dated him and are with someone whom you can share the pace with!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:30 PM
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🙌😘 Yes living in Truth is always the way 💪 And heck ya this is such a special place! I feel so understood 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:18 PM
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Huh it just doesn’t make any sense but I get it we have to be careful not to give Reddit any excuse to take us down. These double standards don’t paint Reddit in a good light at all though I’ve heard that some of Reddits admins are pretty shady themselves (like they allowed one guy who was a pedophile to run a few subreddits knowing this guys status). At first I thought it was coming from FDS mods, that they thought it was wrong or something, but understand they are trying to protect our communi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:12 PM
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Good point! Which makes me think of this... Just because there are biologically speaking more male geniuses it doesn’t explain for the dearth in female representation in all the high-iq fields. Females are underrepresented there Because they were busy with homecare and childcare and not allowed to even pursue those areas for the longest time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:49 PM
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lol when he had a recent bout of severe back pain he had a “heart to heart” (which was Valium-induced For his back spasms lol he only had the balls to confront me under Valium) with me telling me that when there are things in the apartment that bother him it causes him to somatasize his stress and that’s why he’s getting back pain and why it’s important he tell me these things and not to “take it personally”. Then went on to list things he didn’t like about our living set up. These things were s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:18 PM
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I want a girl because I want to raise her to be a strong woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:01 PM
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I can understand how many people in society will find your comment the opposite of mysoginistic (what is the word for “male-hating”) but I deep down 100% agree with you. Genetically we are also superior as the median IQ for women is average (in other words there are more numbers of women with average IQs. Men on the other hand have more genetic diversity having an Y and X chromosome, there are more highly intelligent members of that sex but that ALSO means there are more less intelligent members…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:59 AM
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Praying for your Dad 💜 Im your age and totally feel your pain, just know you’re not alone. When women say their kid is the best thing that ever happened to them it really makes me wonder if it’s really that bad to end up with a LVM, but I always go back to how that’s not living life with integrity. The best I can do is live life to the fullest and not control the outcomes, and accept that we don’t get everything we want and that includes family! FDS has opened my eyes even more which is going to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:54 AM
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🙌 Amazing!! So happy for you! And he is so lucky to have you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:56 AM
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Sorry to hear you didn’t feel comfortable with her but its totally not surprising, the way you described that one experience with her it sounds like she was not very good at her job. When you find a good therapist they’re worth gold! Especially for certain things like trauma in my opinion it gets even more important to find someone good. FDS for me has been incredibly therapeutic too!! We’ve got each other’s backs here 🙌🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:10 AM
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That’s wonderful you are in therapy taking care of yourself! 💜 not that you don’t know it but just had to commend you for it (I too should get some therapy but have been making excuses). It’s so important when you have PTSD or any complex trauma or issues like addiction, eating disorders, etc to get professional support like that. Assuming the therapist you’re seeing was after that ex, it could be you didn’t go into detail because you were afraid of getting invalidated again. Hopefully you can b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:56 PM
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Unbelievable. I’m so sorry that happened to you, hoping you find healing. Unfortunately I think a lot of men have a view like that on rape. How tragic. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:28 PM
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Oh this is I have no words. I’m so so so sorry you were raised in such circumstances. And then how your ex gaslit you about it. So often as women we are seen as exaggerating, told our realities aren’t real. I’m so sorry that man made you feel so invalidated that you got back into touch with your “parents” (I put in quotation marks because I can’t even use that word to refer to them). I hope a lot of healing comes your way and that you find some peace in your heart, I’m glad you’re no longer with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:24 PM
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Oh my I am SO SORRY that happened to you. I cannot believe the depravity of humanity. I hope you find a lot of healing on your path. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:11 PM
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Ever since joining FDS the way I look at men has radically changed. I have a male roommate and used to walk on eggshells all the time around him and try to be nice and cheerful and now that’s totally changed. I feel he’s almost scared of me now, like he is so deferential and polite. I’ve owned his pathetic, low value a$$
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:09 PM
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Anyone know why we can’t use the name of a subreddit when referencing one? Just an innocent question. I can think of some reasons but just wondering why in concrete, because I believe in other subreddits they do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:02 PM
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In my pre pickmesha days I found in OLD when a man replies to my message without a question/doesn’t seem too interest and then I follow up with my own question to resume the conversation or I end up asking him if he wants to go out the guy never asks for another date or he turns out to be low effort or is just basically a LVM... because a HVM wouldn’t go out with women he’s not totally interested in as he has options. If a guy doesn’t keep engaging with me I will ask one question but that’s it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:42 PM
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That’s amazing!!! You are an incredible woman and will be an incredible mother. I will be 35 in half a year and before joining FDS was constantly grieving how this pandemic delayed my ability to meet a man, limiting my options to OLD during the more restrictive parts of it. When I started dating again at the beginning of this year I was in such a horrible desperate mental space that I gave a chance to 2 men both who I dated for 2 months each and one of which turned out to be using me, both were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:12 PM
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Thank you RussianCat for finding that article!! I should’ve originally checked who did and given you the credit in my comment for doing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:54 PM
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Maybe it’s also the influence of Reddit and always being on guard for trolls or men who want validation by making posts proposing to be written by a woman. It skews the way we interpret things. I agree I don’t think this was written by a man and someone on here found the original article and apparently it’s from South Africa where there’s a very strong class system (for the commenter who disagreed with the use of the word “class”).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:02 PM
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30% of couples met online according to a university of Stanford study from 2007-2017 and another one I found said 1/4 current marriages formed online. Furthermore, marriages formed online are happier, read the links below for some studies backing this up. FDS does not oppose OLD. I get a lot of women don’t want to use them and that’s respectable. It also depends on what city or town you are I imagine. But for those of us who do there’s no shame. Of course it makes for a better dinner story to sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:56 PM
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Thank you mods for your hard work keeping out the 🗑 🙏🏼🙌🙏🏼🙌🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:30 PM
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Just want to say I and plenty other women on here deeply appreciate all the effort you and the other 2 women do for this podcast. It’s extremely important! While this wasn’t my favorite podcast either I still valued it and learned something new and am looking forward to your replies on the points of criticism on the next one. It’s not like you have an entire production team behind you to structure each interview to address all critiques. I really admire that you guys address “critiques”. By the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:57 PM
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Wow I read both your replies twice they were so interesting and well written. I’m your age but feel like you’re twice as old with your honesty and wisdom. Hope I’m not coming off patronizing. Can you please say more about what the greatest mistake is of the “pickmesha”? I didn’t understand what you meant with turning a HVM? Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:22 PM
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I’m happy you got out but so sorry this happened. I hope you’re healing and finding peace now. If you don’t mind me asking and please don’t answer if you don’t want to, were there any signs you missed in the beginning? You’d said he appeared a HVM the first few years and that it was all a mask, did it ever/were there ever moments where you questioned his character during those first years? Where you saw a crack or felt that it must all be bs? One of my greatest fears is marrying for a LVM or nar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:02 PM
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I wrote you an actual reply which even included an apology but deleted it as I realized that as someone aspiring to be a HVW that I won’t engage in conversation with people who call me names. I had an interview and worked till 8pm today infront of my computer and am exhausted, I can’t believe I’m even entertaining this but it’s important to call it out that it’s not ok to use names like assbole. It’s really rude to call me an “asshole”, disappointed to see that on here :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:27 PM
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Im glad your friend is ok!! Stalking is the most terrifying abuse I can imagine... I’ve been very very slightly stalked and at first it was maddening till it started becoming a little bit scary. Can’t believe these laws!!! Makes me so angry 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:20 PM
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Can you take a break from him to sort your feelings out? You sound like I do when I know the guy is toxic but as part of that toxic trap I feel “addicted” and unable to walk away from the scraps of “good feelings” he gives me. Try to think about it as if it was your friend dating him, sometimes that helps me, would you want her to be with him? Lastly you can, and most likely should talk to him about the way you feel. A HVM will honor your feelings, 100% and want to make sure that you feel good i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:00 PM
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I was sexually assaulted (touched when it was clear I didn’t want to be touched there and he said nothing, it was sooo so creepy) and later coerced into sex. I broke it off with him very diplomatically but saying we just aren’t compatible. And never told him or even suggested the real reason. I keep playing in my mind whether or not to tell him the truth via a text. But then what will it really do? I mean if he at 43 (or any age really) years old doesn’t realize doing that is wrong or I mean mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:52 PM
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That’s why when I marry I’m signing a prenuptial that says for every year I don’t work to take care of the children I get X amount and then X amount towards a new degree. It’s gonna be expensive as ever to divorce me but I frankly don’t feel the laws, even when favoring the woman, recognize the extreme sacrifice we make for children. With so many women having kids in their 30s right in the PEAK of their careers (rather not peak earning but peak in the sense where it’s the most critical time to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:46 PM
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Woah chill out! You are totally misreading what she wrote. I can’t believe a read all of that 😅 honestly I couldn’t believe someone would write so much in reply to her comment and just kept going reading in disbelief getting more frustrated with myself that I ever even started. Because you’re a good writer I think lol you had me fooled there was something more substantial, till I got to the end where you recognized your “verbosity” lol that last paragraph was a little treasure. Dang now I’m doin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:38 PM
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Looool! That’s hilarious and kinda sweet (not sure if sweet is the right word though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:26 PM
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Thank you! I will report back here for how it goes in regards to this! 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:17 PM
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Same here I’m finding so much growth! Society likes to make you think that in order to grow you have to “pay” for it or suffer in some way. It’s incredible how just reading new perspectives and the support from women can change you into a better, stronger human being. On so many levels FDS is changing my life, relationships with men ALL men, not just romantic interests. How I view myself and my place in the world as a woman. My own beliefs about my self-worth. It’s a freaking Pandora’s box I fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:15 PM
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Totally agree with you! The more black and white a viewpoint the more it speaks of pure judgement than critical thought. I invite anyone to Google this and they will find plenty of studies pointing to how in the future the majority of couples will have met online, and that online-met couples of today are happier than ones who meet outside the apps (yes there are studies).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:40 PM
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Yea my relative met his gf on there too, and she’s the daughter of the VP of major (think CNN) new channel in the US and flies in her own helicopter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:37 PM
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I’m going on a date after a 40 minute video call with this a guy I met online. He’s successful and well-travelled and so far so good. He invited me to a really nice restaurant this weekend. I’m looking forward to it! Personally dating apps are fine as long as you don’t rely on them. They’re great especially if you’re in your 30’s and want to have biological children and want to maximize your options. I think society is changing and there’s no need to shame people for using them. Instead we shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:15 PM
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Same here! I just cannot get enough of FDS. I discovered it almost a month ago and am absolutely obsessed. It’s opened up a whole Pandora’s box for me on my own internalized misóginy (a lot of it fed by the biggest mysoginist I know -my Mom) and I am only just starting to examine it. It’s already made huge changes in my life and how I relate with men and approach dating. I am so grateful for FDS 💪👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:29 AM
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Damn I’m sorry you went through that and that he brainwashed you to even consider you’re not beautiful. Happy you’re not with this loser anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:25 AM
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By the way I’m going to read this again to remind myself before my date this weekend 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:39 AM
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Haha hope you went to bed after and that you got some good rest! Lol at your last sentence. That’s great you embody FDS values and so wonderful you’ve been strategic with men before and are trying to help your friends and other women. My case sadly has not been the same which is why I’m so grateful for FDS and all you ladies. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:38 AM
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I hear you! But for women who are just opening their eyes stories like these make us realize the reality. Although there could be more “tamer” stories I’m not sure this one wasn’t all that rare, indeed I can imagine a few men Ive dated acting like this :( Also for me its made me realize just how important it is to date quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:40 AM
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Oh my this is spot on and chilling... ladies this is why we need each other and to help wake each other up to all these LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:13 AM
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Hahaha I love FDS!! I use Roche Posse (spelling?). I use their stick plus lotion at once. I live in a super sunny European country and have to wear 2 layers wven if I’m out only for 15 minutes but that’s why i don’t have any wrinkles and mid-30’s (and single)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:33 PM
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Happy for you, well done!! So impressive having kids and your own successful business, I deeply admire that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:30 PM
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Glad you got out of that and healed body and soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:26 PM
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Thanks I understand now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:08 PM
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My colleagues we have a WhatsApp group for sharing non-work related stuff like organizing nights to go out and drink and stuff. I called out one of my colleagues who posted a video along the same vein as this pic something I would’ve never done before joining FDS. He said sorry infront of the group and then sent me a private text whining how I should’ve reached out to him in private. I did it infront of the group on purpose so that all them scrote colleagues know this kind of content is not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:55 PM
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Woooow 😳 62k upvotes??? How???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:57 PM
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Sorry maybe I’m a bit dense today lol but I don’t understand this comment? Can someone explain please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:55 PM
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My brother (who is someone I look up to and a bonafide HVM) met his wife on there and they’re happily married. Also her brother met his wife on a Christian dating app and they’re very happy. All of them highly educated (my sister in law and her brother attended the Ivy Leagues) So it can happen. I know many successful active people who use them. You just have to be smart about who you chose to meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:54 PM
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Rather they want to get comfortable with the psychological dissonance. No self-respecting female truly believes from deep down in her heart in lib fem. That’s why so many of my friends including myself would say “I believe in women’s rights but I’m not a feminist”. Ever since discovering FDS (which has been LIFE CHANGING and its already helped make a big difference not only in my dating life) I’ve realized now that I am a hardcore feminist... I now find myself critically thinking about women’s r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:09 AM
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This was a great episode, as someone with mild aspergers (I suspect) it explains a lot of my especially early dating confusion. I keep checking here almost obsessively by the way to see if episode 13 has been posted yet... 🤓🙌 love you gals, your voices do something to me, they lift me up, empower me, and you make me laugh. I feel like I uncovered an enormous secret that was never all that secret to begin with as I see so many of us had these views but they’ve been suppressed by liberal feminism.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:28 PM
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Wow thank you for this! Everything you said was really good especially the last part about showing gratitude, that’s amazing. Had no idea that back in the day women didn’t even bring a purse! Thanks again for the “tips” but they’re not it’s more like pointers. Seriously FDS is the best!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:28 PM
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Thank you for the award buttcheeksunite 😌💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:29 AM
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Hey there! Sorry it took me a few days to reply but I wanted to think about it some more and you’ve changed my mind completely. What we remnants I had that had me thinking this sort of talk was ok I can now was why it’s not. Thank you for that. I don’t want a man who’s ok with me talking like that to him, nor would I want a man who would say something like that to me. It doesn’t feel right, it feels wrong and degrading and isn’t coming from a place of love. Which, especially at the beginning of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:04 PM
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Oh my gosh thank you for your kind words 🙌💜 yes I must remind myself to be gentle and kind with myself :) I’m only human. Thank you sis!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:06 PM
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Deep down I think that’s the responsible thing to do. Unless you can afford to be a single mom without the need of a man, which sadly means depriving a child of a father figure (unless you meet one down the road...). I might move to a Scandinavian country to make this a reality if by x age I don’t meet anyone, but at the same time deep down I have a feeling, thanks to the help of FDS, I wjll meet him. Indeed in a way I’m grateful I found FDS while still single and a bit older than I’d like to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:04 PM
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That’s the question... that’s the question!!! Zvm + child Singlehood I think I know where FDS stands but we need statistics to really know (at least for my own satisfaction)... and the chances of having an unbiased study? Anecdotes are countless... which means ultimately... it depends on the person, the type of lvm.. etc... one of those things that even should there be statistics to back you up doesn’t mean your situation is good or bad depending on what the numerical authority says. For me I’ll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:46 PM
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That’s interesting how you say it may be why they return sometimes at the most random ass moments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:41 PM
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That’s interesting how you say it may be why they return sometimes at the most random ass moments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:41 PM
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I’m sorry you went through that. I also stuck it up with the last couple guys longer than I should’ve due to my age. And in the end I realized I just wasted my time when I could’ve been giving other men a shot! But that only happened because I was super desperate and by saw a family member have a child and so the pressure from myself (and my family) only doubled. It’s so darn hard but slowly (and maybe I’m only lying to myself) I’m coming to accept that I might never meet “the one” in time and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:40 PM
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That is also why it’s so important to date when you are in a good state of mind. If you date when you are weak you are much more likely to get coerced into sex. I am still kinda broken up over how I told one guy no multiple times and he still got his way. It’s basically assault and makes me wonder how in the world a man can be so proud to “conquer” a woman by breaking her. Conquer a woman by getting her to actually want to have sex with you 100%, not because she’s doing it to get you to stop gro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:30 PM
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The good thing about men who are shorter is that if they should ever become violent a shorter more petite man is weaker.... said a friend of mine who used to be in a few abusive relationships. Made me so sad when she told me this but hey she does have, sadly, a point. In general the taller you are the stronger you are and yes there are exceptions but this is nature science and statistics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:56 PM
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“You think you are some sorta queen”??? Loooool I laughed out loud literally! Thank you for this!!! What a looooooser! Omg thank you for the laugh. There’s no hope for that one, let him find himself a chambermaid (maybe that’s a tad mean but ok)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:50 AM
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“You think you are some sorta queen”??? Loooool I laughed out loud literally! Thank you for this!!! What a looooooser! Omg thank you for the laugh. There’s no hope for that one, let him find himself a chambermaid (maybe that’s a tad mean but ok)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:50 AM
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Every time I’ve turned to Google or Reddit to ask for advice about a man... he turned out to be low value. Ladies we have the gift of intuition! Strengthen it by listening and honoring it!! And don’t take advice from strangers or even family (who wants you to be with any schlep just to have a bf)... if you have that unsettled feeling in your gut after the dates... like something is off, or he is giving you controlling vibes, end it. Don’t keep giving second, third, a million chances... I swear w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:30 AM
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Back in my pickmeisha days (indeed since joining FDS I’ve taken a 1-month sabbatical from dating lol as I am going through “pickmeisha rehab” at the moment lol) I was seeing a man who paid for the first coffee date and then the second I paid and then the third he “invited” me out to a nice restaurant for my favorite food from his country. I was stunned when I returned from the restroom and saw the server standing by our table and she told me (with that look in her eyes... you know the “wtf sis?”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:36 AM
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I have a question. So when it comes time to pay the bill do you all still do the fake “make a move for my wallet” thing just to be polite (and then that gives him another chance to be “manly” and say “I got this”)? Even if it’s 100% clear the guy is paying (like a really fancy restaurant) I still do it to be “polite”... As a HVW do I never make a move for the wallet? How do you guys handle that awkward moment with elegance? Also, when do you thank him? I always say thanks when he pays (for cover…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:20 AM
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More hugs. And sorry to hear you went through all that. :heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:52 PM
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Love your message :hearts:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:47 PM
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Oh my gosh!!! This is the quintessence of liberal madness!!! Quick where is my puke bucket. Just maddening!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:45 PM
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Exactly. There are a few that can change but it’s very very few. And it’s not therapy that can change a man like that! Hahahaha I wjll laugh to my grave thinking about that. Sorry therapy cannot change a persons heart! Perhaps the only thing therapy can do is change his behavior as in make him realize he’s incapable of relationships and intimacy and so the only way to avoid hurting women is by not attempting relationships with them. But that doesn’t change his fundamental nature. It’s something …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:42 PM
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Hey I think you should tell him the truth. As long as you don’t think the truth wjll threaten your physical safety or even mental for that matter (if it might trigger him to attack you verbally, you could block him but sometimes it can be hard to successfully sever all lines of communication). I regret not telling the penultimate guy I was seeing the truth and it still feels like something is unresolved. Indeed I’m debating writing it up and texting him. Had I told him that he essentially sexual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:30 PM
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“Happy I’m not falling in love with potential anymore”. You Said It!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:38 PM
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Oh my I relate with your comment so much, and sadly enough so many other women do... Don’t give up, there do exist HVM out there... and if there aren’t any “theoretically” then by having the FDS standards we will change them by sheer necessity... Also, if you’re not actively dating that ok too!! The way I see it FDS is relevant not only tor our dating life obviously... but that’s a whole another box!! The way I see it is when I walk away from a toxic wasteland of a man I’m dating I’m teaching hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:14 PM
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This is so sad and true!!! I too went through this phase but it included questioning my sexuality even though deep down I knew I was straight. I’m not like those other girls mentality is also a secret way to signal to men that you are a rare breed. Part of the reason I tried to be bi was just to be more attractive to men... there was definitely a sincere component to my exploration there but a big part of it was upping my attractiveness (or so I thought)... oh sigh yes I admit my path to self-di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:01 PM
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“Oh he’s just nerdy” or “oh he’s just got mild aspergers”.... classic me. I always wondered why in the end the restaurants he took me to weren’t all that “impressive” for his apparent budget.... cause he was taking many other women out simultaneously... gotta save up! I thought “bless his nerdy heart doesn’t understand physical boundaries and that’s why he hugs me/kisses me/makes attempts at sex that are essentially a way to sexually assault me” Ugh 🤦‍♀️ just no. I still struggle with the fact t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:08 AM
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Thank you for this recommendation! I started it today and am 1/4 of the way in... it’s extremely dark but important insight into the deprivations of negative value men especially for women, I mean I always knew men like this are real but wasn’t aware it’s so systemic... and also had a tendency to put wool over my eyes whenever a man showed signs or blatantly even expressed the mysoginistic views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:55 PM
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That’s so kind! I just messaged you, thank you I especially want to read “you have the right to say no and not feel guilty...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:06 PM
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Yes you are so right! Western society still doesn’t want to see women living alone thriving!! Spot on. It’s not just the pressure they put in women to have children even with a 0VM but additionally they don’t want to see women alone and THRIVING!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:46 PM
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Exactly! It always actually really annoyed me... and still to this day I cannot wrap my head around it. I guess that why there are no “Freudians” left. The article is incredible. Especially the point about how people were refusing to accept that fathers could do this to their daughters and so to not fall out of popularity with the cool crowd Freud decided to “shift” the frame a bit by defending these a-holes as being victims of their own desires and children as provocateurs. Whenever I’ve come a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:43 PM
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Hey can you please explain what TGR stands for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:33 PM
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I’m actually going to edit my reply below (or is it above?) this comment... it’s much too long. I actually am thinking of asking it as a separate thread but want to spend some time on it making it clearer and including all the “counter arguments” and viewpoints before I make a thread on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:27 PM
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Hey buttcheeksunite! Lol what a name 😂😅 gotta ask is there some deeper meaning to it like is it the name of a band? Anyways.. Thanks for explaining where you were coming from. And I’m sorry for not being more direct with my comment... I should’ve just straight out asked you a direct question instead of delivering my own shade! I felt kinda bad about it honestly to the point that I didn’t want to look at my Reddit account and your reply for a few days! As I really feel that this place is truly so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:25 PM
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Can’t figure out if there’s shade here lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:27 AM
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Omg nooooo!!!! This is just awful. Even if this girl is around her 20’s her mentality is just sad. The fact that she’s actually questioning it is so so so wrong on so many levels and makes me so sad. I think she knows deep down in her heart that what happened is wrong. If she were a stronger woman she’d be sharing this experiencetalking of that monster as a now ex. When I told the last guy I waes dating during sex that I “wanted to be his little b”... just dirty talk he then said “since you said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:09 PM
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You’re very welcome! Yes and that’s another reason why we’re not “equal” as modern feminism likes to say, as the sex that gives birth we’re biologically more attached to our offspring and rarely abandon them. Not only do men lack that strong biological connection (though they do emit oxytocin after the birth of their child) they also morally and socially speaking aren’t so fiercely attached. It’s doesn’t hold them any less accountable for abandoning their families, yes I totally hear your on tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:42 PM
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Basically the first half of the movie is about how his amnesia started and the things going on in his and his family’s life at the time and how it affected his family over the years. Lots of pictures of him and the family especially since his son (the producer) took a lot of footage and shots of him as a way to cope he thinks, to make it more “distant”. Although the producer was already out of the house when his Dad got the amnesia. The man was already a shitty father, he divorced the producers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:42 AM
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Well I think this guy had a very severe mental Illness. I know many will disagree with me on that. It doesn’t make him not responsible though. He just wasn’t interested in getting better. I think his state was a combination of his mental illness plus his own moral failings, lack of character and choices. Because even the docs said he could get better if he wanted to. This was a really good but slow and thought-provoking doc on the lengths people will go to avoid shame. I don’t think he’s a funda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:46 PM
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Omg my worst nightmare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:34 PM
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Wow this is so so so spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:51 PM
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Amazing!! Very well said!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:05 PM
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This was the last straw that made me break up with the last guy I was dating. He’d invited me to his apartment by the beach 4 hours away by car and a couple days later after I said I was going he “asked” me if it was ok for me to pay 50-50 for everything (gas food and drinks..) saying how I wouldn’t have to pay for the lodging... Gas was gonna be 100€ round trip so it would only be 50€ for me when I asked him and I was shocked to learn that it was so little and that he wouldn’t suck it up. Espec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:38 PM
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Damn right!!! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:47 PM
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I disagree. Just because a man pays for something never ever means that you owe him anything. Plus if I were to sell my body a drink or dinner/s would never cover it. Not that I ever would sell myself. If the only reason to not go 50:50 is so that he doesn’t expect anything then that’s sad. Then again I’m in my 30s and looking for something serious. I let him pay for most things but will definitely cover some things or events here and there just because I want to show that I can contribute finan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:33 PM
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You go girl!! That’s the kind of standards that will change men if all women applied that (Maybe a century from now but they will change). He sounds so pathetic I almost need a bucket to you know what! What a major L!!! Keep at it, there’s a HVM who will value you out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:36 PM
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You go girl!! That’s the kind of standards that will change men if all women applied that (Maybe a century from now but they will change). He sounds so pathetic I almost need a bucket to you know what! What a major L!!! Keep at it, with that approach you have you’ll find someone!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:36 PM
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Omg I just listened to that YouTube vid where the caller who’d been dating a supposedly single man for 4 weeks finds out he’s married and writes a letter to his wife!! And Mr. Hussey’s reply was so incredibly gas-lighting and just plain rude and invalidating! Essentially telling her to mind her own business! I cannot believe! Mr. Hussey’s attitude has never sat right with me and I could never put my finger on it. Frankly I was not not surprised to see him on the list here. Now I understand bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:28 PM
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Hey ladies!! Sorry for the caps but here goes... I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY SOUL FOR THIS PODCAST AND FOR THIS REDDIT. YOU ARE LITERALLY PULLING OUT MY VALUES THAT IVE HAD HIDDEN INSIDE ME FOR SOOO LONG AND NOW I FEEL SO VALIDATED WITH HOW I WAS FEELING ALL ALONG. Also, hearing these ideas via podcast is not the same as reading them on this Reddit, though reading them is also powerful and necessary. Hearing the voice of incredibly strong and beautiful women resonating throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:27 PM
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Yes you are very lucky indeed! And good for you for seeking out this type of content. I wish I’d had access to it at your age, but that is how history and social advancement work... takes time, I think FDS is leading a new wave of feminism that is sorely lacking... I discovered it today and can’t get my eyes unglued. It’s been the most empowering content I’ve ever encountered in my life! Feeling so lucky to have found it now and not a day later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:24 PM
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