MomsSpecialFriend Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	Have any of yall ever posted a photo of yourself with a dog that's not yours for your dating profile? No, but I do sometimes use a pic of me with a cow or me holding a chicken, neither are mine.	/r/seduction	20/07/25 11:22 PM
20	I hunt Gold Diggers with a Prank Bank App and I don't feel bad I’m a bartender in a Spanish club and so many men have showed me a bankroll, or a big $$ check, or their bank balance it really doesn’t even matter, if you aren’t spending it women don’t care what you have.	/r/seduction	09/04/25 11:25 PM
3	I feel insecure about not being able to have sex every day Maybe give more foreplay if they are often left wanting more.	/r/seduction	04/02/25 09:17 PM
12	Seeing unattractive guys with beautiful girls. Yes it is, it has ALWAYS been normal to be a 22yo virgin. I’m a girl, I’m telling you that everyone here is absolutely correct, your attitude is pure incel and that’s 1000% of your problem.	/r/seduction	17/01/25 01:00 PM
2	M 30. When you dance with your ass on a guy at the club, what should he do? All they want is a dance. Push up on them a bit, hump them a bit, if they are really into it push her down from around her neck and make her get lower. It doesn’t mean anything though, they aren’t trying to make out because they danced. I work in a club and I literally never see people making out, but they are twerking and humping each other like there’s no tomorrow.	/r/seduction	12/01/25 02:46 PM
3	M 30. When you dance with your ass on a guy at the club, what should he do? True. I work at a Latin nightclub and you can really see who fucks by how they dance 😂	/r/seduction	12/01/25 02:43 PM
2	How much does hair come into it? Having well groomed hair of any length is a major bonus. I don’t think men realize how important a fresh haircut is.	/r/seduction	29/11/24 04:48 AM
19	Cold Approaching a girl with a friend who is clearly less attractive I feel like having a wingman is important in that situation or you should be generally flirty with both but only escalate with one. I bartend at a nightclub and watch men do this 20 times a night. They always get a better reception when he is flirty and talks to them both, or there is two guys. The vast majority of the time one man approaches one of two women, they are shooting each other looks when his back is turned. There are some regulars that work nearby and they slide in every night to try…	/r/seduction	16/11/24 06:54 PM
1	Bad kisser or she didn't want it to go too far on the first date? Sometimes I wonder if men that take us out are aware that we are on our periods 1/4 of the month.	/r/seduction	16/11/24 06:28 PM
2	Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you? Honestly I’ve been with a handful of people who did all of this and more, and made it seem effortless. Sex is a way bigger deal to some men than others. It’s a big deal to me so I really appreciate and vibe with people on that level. I’m freshly out of a LTR where the man was not open to anything except what he wanted and it made me certifiably insane. He had a nice penis and good oral skills and there was no passion, no kissing, no exploration, no room for new ideas. I found him to be very sexy…	/r/seduction	15/11/24 04:29 PM
7	Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you? It just feels infinitely better. We are not meant to be stabbed in the vagina.	/r/seduction	15/11/24 04:18 PM
22	Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you? I don’t even look. I’m speaking to the void.	/r/seduction	15/11/24 03:32 PM
79	Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you? Everyone wants different stuff but for me personally I want someone who makes out for a while, kisses on my neck and takes their time on my body. I want oral sex, to give and receive. I want someone who is gentle and slow on me but can set a steady thumping pace with their tongue. Knowing how to really finger a girl with that hook motion and also being super clear that you are open to me squirting would be a huge bonus. I literally cannot if I don’t feel 10000% sure they are super into it. Don’t…	/r/seduction	15/11/24 03:01 PM
1	Slept with a woman but didn’t have sex. Wtf? Not into physical touch, giving mixed signals, this is honestly not even worth pursuing unless you want to ALWAYS be the one initiating sex, you can handle rejection well and can go long periods of time without sex. If not, move on.	/r/seduction	09/11/24 04:45 PM
0	How Porn is Secretly Killing Your Dating Life I’m a 40yo woman and so many men have jerked off until they have ED by this age, it’s sad :(	/r/seduction	07/11/24 01:11 PM
1	How important is penis size for one night stands? Women do not want to go home with very small penises for ONS. Average is fine. Very small you need to establish a relationship.	/r/seduction	20/03/24 01:41 PM
1	My husband for seductive foreplay really wants to stick a finger in my butt - but I get very antsy- like aren’t men worried about it being gross? You know, you don’t have to be into anal. You can just say no.	/r/seduction	08/09/23 08:37 PM
2	Grocery store pickup attempt That is so cute. Even if you don’t get a date you’ll make someone’s whole day like that. Playful, respectful, good job.	/r/seduction	27/06/23 02:24 PM
13	Cold reading a women? how to tell whether the lady is super horny? Dude, no. None of that. Stop reading weird shit on the internet and start talking to women like they are human beings. Why the fuck would our eyebrows grow in bushier because we are horny, does that make any sense to you? What DRASTIC changes occur in your face when you are horny?	/r/seduction	07/10/22 02:04 PM
11	Easily bored by everyone I meet You should consider therapy. That is not a normal thought process. Women are more than the men they slept with.	/r/seduction	13/09/22 10:42 PM
0	Why do girls say they " don't usually do this " I stick by what I said. You are speaking out of both sides of your mouth here on this issue- but the biggest thing is that you think you are owed a number and like, details on how many over what period of time. I’m not going to give a number and let someone judge who I was at 17.	/r/seduction	04/09/22 02:07 PM
9	Why do girls say they " don't usually do this " Right because being vague about their body count makes you a shitty person who lies. Because men are owed those numbers and it would be a betrayal to learn they were high. See how this looks? You literally can’t win. You can’t keep it to yourself. You can’t share it or it will be thrown in your face. Every woman who has had a threesome with another woman, and not wanted to repeat the experience and then told that to another partner has heard “so you did it for them and not me?” I hate to general…	/r/seduction	03/09/22 06:33 PM
3	Why do girls say they " don't usually do this " I said vague, not lie. If it doesn’t matter then why would it be so terrible not to talk about it? No one owes you a number.	/r/seduction	03/09/22 06:29 PM
4	Why do girls say they " don't usually do this " I’ve yet to meet someone who doesn’t do this. I highly advise women to be vague about it.	/r/seduction	03/09/22 04:40 PM
19	Why do girls say they " don't usually do this " Or shame them for having partners or trying sexual positions/etc before you came along. That’s really why people don’t admit it.. a woman’s value is directly tied to how many partners she has been with.	/r/seduction	03/09/22 04:06 PM
0	Why do some women tend to post IG stories of them at a fancy place or restaurant but don’t show the guy they’re with? Just something I was curious about. Why do we need to be with a man to be out at a nice place lmao	/r/seduction	04/08/22 12:00 PM
2	M23 wondering how to look more attractive That is great. You are a really good looking man.	/r/seduction	02/08/22 02:37 AM
2	M23 wondering how to look more attractive Yes. You need a perfect fade. A crisp hair cut says a lot to a woman.	/r/seduction	31/07/22 06:58 PM
3	M23 wondering how to look more attractive I’m a woman, your face is good, just tone up and get a haircut from a black barbershop.	/r/seduction	31/07/22 04:49 PM
1	Was told by a friend from HS I now emit “chad” energy and I’m a “chad” It’s a roundabout way of saying you make him insecure in himself	/r/seduction	07/07/22 04:28 PM
-2	Does smoking weed get you laid? So you want to pay for sex the cheapest way possible? Fucking degenerates. How is this seduction?	/r/seduction	14/06/22 08:14 PM
-5	Does smoking weed get you laid? Why not just pay for sex from a hooker instead of all of this?	/r/seduction	14/06/22 06:45 PM
5	Does smoking weed get you laid? I tell people I smoke on my profile and it is NOT because I need a connect lmao. It tends to be a dealbreaker for people so being honest is best. Also, a lot of people who smoke don't drink so they want someone with a similar vibe.	/r/seduction	14/06/22 06:44 PM
2	Does smoking weed get you laid? No one is fucking for weed, don't be that guy. Weed is either: recreationally legal, medicinally legal or illegal and whichever the situation, they already have a plug and just want a date. Would it open more doors if you smoke weed or are at least cool with people who smoke weed around you? yes. Trying to leverage that beyond just being a cooler human is pointless. -girl who smokes weed	/r/seduction	14/06/22 06:42 PM
1	What’s the longest FWB you’ve kept around? Randomly for 20 years.	/r/seduction	19/05/22 12:29 AM
2	So I went to 2 bars (for the first time) It’s going to take a while then. Women like gifts. 🤷‍♀️	/r/seduction	01/05/22 06:58 PM
2	So I went to 2 bars (for the first time) I’m a bartender at a Latin dance club where women dress half naked and I rarely see women actually leave with our “regular” playboys. Maybe they get numbers but they don’t take them home as much as you’d think. These men seem generally put together, possibly have money, reasonably attractive and the women I do see them take home are usually kind of a mess. They are there at least one night a week. They buy a LOT of drinks for girls.	/r/seduction	01/05/22 06:28 PM
10	Women of reddit what do you find physically attractive in men I am mostly attracted to people who are reasonably taking care of their bodies (I’m thin, I’ve been with big men, it’s still sexy but concerning long term.. not relationship material for me) I like when their facial hair is cleaned up and they have had a haircut in the last six months. No long hair, it’s a turn off for me but I know some women love it. Otherwise I enjoy men of every variety. Be clean and witty and I’m pretty agreeable.	/r/seduction	30/04/22 09:03 PM
1	is it not possible to pick up women if i don't drink alcohol? It is NOT okay for you to take drunk women home, as a sober man. Meet them, but fucking them when there is a serious imbalance of functionality could be a HUGE problem.	/r/seduction	26/04/22 08:18 PM
1	Hot waitress. Leave your number. Don’t ask for hers it makes things awkward because you still want a tip. I give out a bad number because it makes me feel put on the spot, just leave the number behind please!	/r/seduction	22/04/22 12:05 PM
7	Do short guys still have a chance in casual relationships (hooking ups or one night stands)? Well I’m 5’1” and I don’t have any issue with men my height but they need to be normal weight.	/r/seduction	13/04/22 05:36 PM
1	can you call girls that aren't your girlfriend dear or babe? That depends on the established boundaries of your relationship. I would not be okay with that.	/r/seduction	25/03/22 04:26 PM
99	What can we learn from Pete Davidson? Besides being rich and a professional comedian? He’s rumored to have a giant dick and good drug connections.	/r/seduction	17/02/22 09:49 PM
9	Why do women respect the "disrespectfull"? This is a complex question. Women are attracted to good looking men, and good looking men have options, no different from popular and attractive women who you continue to try to talk to even though they aren't really interested. If you are asking why women stay with men who have proven themselves to be abusive somehow, then the answer is because a love/hate relationship causes a chemical imbalance in your brain where you become more and more desperate to feel good feelings, so the good ones feel…	/r/seduction	14/02/22 07:36 PM
2	Just got rejecter by co-worker Oh I can’t imagine why you are single. If a woman wants to be treated professionally at WORK she must be jealous? Do you apply kindergarten level thinking to everything you do?	/r/seduction	12/02/22 06:33 PM
1	Just got rejecter by co-worker Dude your coworkers are human beings trying to earn a living, not your personal harem. I don’t go to my job to be hit on. I would never date a coworker. Those things don’t change just because you have bad luck at online dating.	/r/seduction	12/02/22 04:11 PM
5	How to actually enjoy yourself at night club? I work in a nightclub and get the benefit of watching men work over the course of the night, over weeks and over months. The men who do the best DANCE. (We are a Latin club, if you learn a simple bachata you’re golden). Wall flowers that get too drunk too fast are the least successful, they usually act super cringey once they finally have liquid courage. Pace your drinking. Don’t expect sex that night, try to get numbers and bring them back there alone if they are with friends. I honestly almost…	/r/seduction	10/01/22 01:58 PM
3	Women, do you know the exact reason of why you're not feeling a guy? Its not always appropriate. We can have shallow reasons for not dating a man that don't need to be said out loud. I don't want someone going "I don't think I can get past your acne", just tell me you weren't feeling it, we don't need to get into specifics. You don't always know someone is abusive until you test them and for that reason, I am not here to make waves with men I don't know. I pass on men for SO many superficial reasons but I know myself and I don't really care to explain it to them,…	/r/seduction	27/12/21 07:09 PM
47	Women, do you know the exact reason of why you're not feeling a guy? Yes but that doesn’t mean I feel comfortable telling men exactly why I don’t like them.	/r/seduction	26/12/21 11:35 PM
1	[deleted by user] The problem is totally your attitude. You’re 30 and won’t date someone divorced or with kids? Well, the pretty ones were already taken by 30 so thems the breaks. You have money, you look okay, you smoke cigarettes and you judge women for having a life before you came along. It’s going to be an uphill battle.	/r/seduction	19/12/21 01:23 PM
5	What are the best spots for a first date? What are the worst spots Botanical gardens, museums, aquariums- anywhere that you can be entertained and have private conversation. Worst first date is movies, nightclubs, hikes and extreme sports.	/r/seduction	17/12/21 05:06 PM
15	My first time nightclubbing and why it should be the last. I’m concerned with the comment “why would they bother to dress up if not to have sex with me” People go to the club for Halloween to just have fun with friends, to celebrate birthdays or milestone moments, to win costume contests and plenty of them are regulars that have their pick of men and don’t need to go home with someone every night they are out. I work at a nightclub and not a lot of people are making out there, honestly. You aren’t having some abnormal experience to have such a woe is me…	/r/seduction	31/10/21 05:30 PM
10	[deleted by user] Yes, a man telling me that he wants to fuck me would put it on the table for a yes or no, and if he was personable and seemed like he might be packing some heat by visual clues I’d probably go for it. I think making that clear is a very good move.	/r/seduction	08/10/21 12:00 PM
1	I don't think height is as important of a factor as people say it is here. After being in a long term relationship with a very short man, and his insecurities about it, I would like a guy around maybe 5’10” but it’s not the #1 factor or anything and I have never swiped on a man based on height alone. Plenty of very weird looking tall dudes out there.	/r/seduction	04/10/21 02:55 AM
1	[deleted by user] Date on your own level. Be honest with yourself.	/r/seduction	29/09/21 12:59 AM
40	How do I ask her to pay without making it awkward? Hey man, I am a woman. She is using you. A good way to make it stop is "I enjoy hanging out with you but since our relationship is not romantic we should go dutch, is that cool?" She will then dump you. But thats cool because now you can meet new women.	/r/seduction	21/09/21 02:58 PM
1	[deleted by user] I’m a girl and will give you honest advice if you want to send me a photo lol. I would suggest the following: diet matters more than exercise so focus on that to get in shape. Are you wearing makeup? If you don’t have makeup experience you can schedule an appointment at a Mac or Sephora to get makeup done, it’s usually free with a 50$ Purchase minimum, sometimes there is a fee. They can show you how to use products and give you a makeover. Make sure your hair is always clean and neat. If it is a…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 03:17 PM
36	"Dont be friends with girls" If your entire online/social circle is just women you are interested in sexually, women will notice that and lose interest. You should absolutely have platonic female friendships so your future partner knows you can be trusted, especially around their friends. If your only goal is to sleep with women and not make a long term connection then by all means, make no female friendships and stick to the plan, it’s better to not be unclear about it.	/r/seduction	30/07/21 01:00 PM
9	Coworker asks me out over text on company provided cell. Why are men so dumb? We had to sign a document acknowledging that we will first handle the issue ourselves. We also had to watch a video where they said you should be careful how you dress to avoid unwanted attention, with example women and outfits. I work for the state so....	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/20 06:42 PM
1	Why have I seen so many "girlfriend cuts boyfriends hair in quarantine" posts but not ONE post where the boyfriend cuts his girlfriends hair? I really relate to this because I became the hair dresser for our sons, when they were very young and now again as teens during quarantine. I wish I could get someone to help me touch up my roots, or maybe someone to braid my hair for the first time ever. My 19yo son did install my hair extensions in the back recently though! I’m really hurt by the expectation that I should be home with the kids every day. My job went remote and I’m home schooling three angsty teens. Sometimes my ex mentions in …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/11/20 04:22 AM
0	How do you open up with working girls and with what mindset? You are correct. She is working, don’t disturb her.	/r/seduction	06/11/20 03:13 AM
5	No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks. Honestly, that is what it is. They have gay fantasies about other men and want their partner to act them out in their place. It is absolutely not about a woman's pleasure.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/20 06:06 PM
8	No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks. Yes. From experience it is exactly as you have described.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/20 12:10 PM
29	No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks. My husband asked to be cuckolded about 8 years into our relationship. I begged and pleaded. Told him I wanted our relationship to be faithful. He turned sex into talk of cuckolding to the point that he ruined sex between us. He would insist I agree to fuck other men and talk about what we would do. Eventually I did sleep with other men, met someone who didn’t want to share me and left my husband for him. Now he gets to pay me most of his salary because he wanted me to be his gay avatar. Fuck cuc…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/20 12:07 PM
46	I Tried Femdom And It Was Nowhere Near As "Empowering" As The BDSM Community Would Have You Believe Yes. Cuckolding included. I divorced a man over this issue.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/20 03:24 AM
29	Who told old men young women want them? One of the men brought his young son with him, when he was going to meet a 13 year old boy to have sex with. Another had his sister and her children waiting in the car while he was inside trying to meet a 13yo. There is absolutely NO limit to the depravity. As a mother, dating is almost impossible for me. I don't trust men around my children at all and I never will.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/10/20 02:30 PM
45	Who told old men young women want them? I watch old episodes of "to catch a predator" and these old men are delusional. They honestly think a young girl wants to meet them and have sex with them. They often ask for anal sex even though the decoy told them they are a virgin. They come over, annoyed at how hard it was to find the place, annoyed with the minor request to bring food and they walk straight into someone's house expecting to sleep over with a 13 year old. These are often married men, men with children that are of similar age…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/10/20 02:08 PM
19	“wish ALL girls would do this tbh” I don't cold approach men because men are opportunists. They may not have set out to cheat on their long term girlfriend that day, but I just showed them it could be easy. Dating me should be an intentional act and nothing less.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/20 06:31 PM
5	the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂 I’m in a lot of plant groups and the amount of husbands/boyfriends that can’t just let their women be happy is astounding. In fact, it’s a good test when men say “I can’t even keep a plant alive”. If nurturing something repulses them then what hope does a relationship have?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/09/20 02:19 PM
57	I know FDS is true because ... (a message for those not-yet-sold and those who deny FDS altogether...) The most glaring thing is that it’s all the same behavior in different men. Once you accept this as real and see things with a more critical eye, you can avoid it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/09/20 12:06 AM
6	Has it always been this way? I am not attracted to most men. I’ve decided to date younger (31-33, I am 37) as the men my age look twice as old as me. I can’t handle it anymore. 4000 likes on tinder gold and maybe 2 are actually attractive.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/20 03:21 PM
10	What’s your opinion on approaching girls at the gym? I rarely go to the gym because I hate being approached there. Please don’t.	/r/seduction	12/08/20 03:28 AM
3	How much does being in shape help you while pursuing girls? It does not need to be a six pack, but a belly is not cool either. No overhang when you put on a belt, have some kind of shoulder definition. I wouldn't ask this if I didn't have the same standards for myself. I am not into super muscle bound dudes.	/r/seduction	10/08/20 12:24 PM
18	How much does being in shape help you while pursuing girls? As a woman, it makes a huge difference. I can date men based on personality but I am only actually attracted to men who take care of their bodies.	/r/seduction	07/08/20 06:17 PM
27	LVM are all opportunistic narcissists. Listen, this has been the last few years of my life. If I hang up the phone because he's calling me names, then I have to apologize for being being a fascist and a nazi who controls communication and doesn't let the other person speak. I literally have been called those names every day for 5 months. He calls me dozens of times a day from a blocked number, he follows up with emails and then starts saying he's going to contact people in my life if he can't get a hold of me, that I must be unstable…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/08/20 09:03 PM
18	I guess I’m not a real woman then 🤷‍♀️ The drawing has to be of another woman's foot, which makes it 10x more cringe. No mans foot looks like that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/07/20 06:21 PM
10	Pick-me garbage with 24 AWARDS saying women are ungrateful and we just don't know how to talk to men This is stupid. If you tell your man “I like when a guy buys me chocolates” his fragile ego will follow up with “who is buying you chocolates?” Or some nonsense. I tried every non confrontational way to be heard and it never pans out.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/07/20 12:31 PM
11	I don’t get many dates but whenever I do, it seems that I catch girls by surprise when we finally meet in person. I like gardening and photography, so I have photos in a greenhouse and photos of me taking pictures. I also have a short HD video of me with a baby goat because... everyone loves baby goats. For men, the best photos are usually ones taken at weddings, if you have ever been to a wedding, please go through the photos and try to save one of yourself if it is possible. I would rather you cut a woman out of the photo than use a bad photo of yourself alone. If you can't manage to get someone to take y…	/r/seduction	07/07/20 06:57 PM
350	I don’t get many dates but whenever I do, it seems that I catch girls by surprise when we finally meet in person. From a woman's perspective here, it is possible your online photos are off putting. Men should put a little effort to look nice and have a front facing photo (not from under your chin). The vast majority of photos I see are absolutely terrible and tell me nothing about a man's personality or lifestyle, where as I have a half dozen professional quality photos of me participating in my hobbies and interests. Sometimes I want to swipe right just so I can take the guy out and take a decent photo of …	/r/seduction	07/07/20 03:02 PM
8	16 year old girl asks how to attract a boyfriend and this grown ass man replies with THIS. i’m disgusted I joined a Facebook dating group recently for my state and a man asked “I’m curious, what are women looking for in a man?” I was honest, I wrote a whole paragraph about what qualities I am looking for. It was simple things like kindness, respect, finances and life in order, attractive, etc. Also, I mentioned a few red flags I look for as well, things that I would just want to weed out right away (alcoholics, someone that hasn’t had any time since his last relationship, etc). I got a lot of likes…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/20 06:25 AM
11	Do incels actually exist? Yes, I do. Even ugly people have standards and they also are not attracted to ugly people, so they remain alone. You have to lose all standards of attraction to find your equal because they are doing the same. It’s a hard thing to find.	/r/seduction	18/06/20 09:21 PM
7	This is the type of husband I want to marry. I spoke for hours with a nice man recently. We hit it off well. We met up and went antique shopping for hours. We made out a little when we parted. He added me on Instagram. There (and on his Facebook) were hundreds of gushing, lovely posts about his wife. Beautiful professional photos of them, they built a business together. What in the actual fuck?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/06/20 07:56 PM
6	He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVM Thank you for this today. It was food at the right time. I know these things and everything you spoke on is true to my situation (to an extreme degree). I just needed to hear it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/06/20 07:33 PM
10	How I overcame my pornography addiction & why I started to change my life for the better. Thank you for being open about this topic. Porn addiction is out of control and no one wants to discuss it. Men masturbate to the point of erectile issues, their view on sex becomes completely skewed and women suffer as a result. I don't know a single woman who would say that they weren't personally hurt by their partner's porn use, their obsessions with women who look completely different (can you imagine being in a relationship with a woman who had gigabites of porn and all the men look totall…	/r/seduction	08/06/20 02:46 PM
6	Fall in Love with Taking Care of Yourself My problem is that I have done this and now I am very happy with my life and I don't really want to deal with men fucking up my happiness. I don't even find most men attractive anymore, even though my sex drive is still high.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/06/20 03:22 PM
124	Dump him. Thank you, I took him for all he was worth in the divorce, and then some. I'm living my best life and he's a good "weekend dad". I've changed a lot as a person and I need to forgive myself for how it all went down.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/20 03:36 PM
226	Dump him. The way I was treated after labor caused irreparable harm to our relationship. In addition to forcing me home before I was ready after a c-section, making me go house shopping the first week home, preparing me incredibly small portions because he wanted me to get my figure back (while breastfeeding.. he served me half of a bowl of cereal. I will never forgive him for that), going on a fishing trip on my due date with the next one, never taking a single day off for the birth of our children, insi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/20 03:04 PM
28	Let’s Talk About How to Discuss High Value Men On This Sub Have we ever spoken on how to raise HVM? I have three sons and work hard to make them good people, but I’d love work together with other women to make a guidebook for preventing these problems for the next generation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/05/20 01:29 PM
5	Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him. This particular thing always stood out to me as a glaring reminder of my ex husbands lack of effort. When he did give me a massage, I had to give him one first, which he timed to the minute and would not provide any additional. So, let’s say, I’m 9months pregnant with a toddler at home and my back is hurting really bad, I need to massage him for as long as I can hold out and pray what terrible massage he gives me makes up for it. I get massages now on his dime thanks to a generous divorce.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/05/20 01:25 PM
22	Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally. I dated a guy who told me five or six times he wanted to help me set up a fashion line. Something I never expressed even the slightest interest in. Later I found a video of his ex girlfriend on the internet and her lifelong dream.... was to be a fashion designer. He literally couldn’t tell us apart I guess. That proved to be true when he accused me of everything she did, including telling me on multiple occasions I had issues from sexual abuse in my past that never occurred and was something SHE…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/05/20 12:55 PM
17	Make sure you're not with him just because you want something to love. Plants. Seriously, you raise them from little babies, you treat their illnesses, you support their growth and it is very rewarding.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 06:10 PM
30	If only some men realised this Men are being kind? Where?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/20 01:40 PM
16	Instant Left Swipe I really like your list. Some of those are major pet peeves (other women.. why? I assume it is “I met this hot girl once and I want you to know this is my goal, an out-of-my-league cheerleader or car show girl) Here is more of my list: If he can’t even put his job title, he doesn’t have one. Men who have never had another human take their photo. Men with fish. (I fish, but I also have a personality) Men who have really intense hobbies that I don’t care about. (Sprint car racing?? No.) Men that l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/03/20 12:52 PM
29	Fun Quarantine Activity I am trying to date again at 37. I look like I am in my mid 20s and the men in my age range look like my dad to me. Its crazy, they have silver hair and look like they've had a drinking problem for a decade. It is so sad.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/03/20 07:54 PM
19	nO I don't even like it when people do that to train their dogs. That woman looks worn down.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/03/20 08:29 PM
68	Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens. Finally went to HR today about a coworker that has been incredibly disrespectful to me. I sent a polite email asking him to not contact me over work messenger anymore. He then upped the ante and turned up at my desk. I walked straight to HR and filed a formal complaint. He has been trying to intimidate and harass me for a couple months now. I have saved significant documentation to support my claims, I have remained professional the entire time. He followed me on the elevator to HR and told me I…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/20 05:27 PM
61	HVM comment on how LVM financially manipulate women. Remember, financial independence is a a FDS key! This was my experience. I was made to live like I was poor, struggling to make money as a stay at home mom to pay the utilities, provide food, raise the kids, etc. I got divorced and its funny, I no longer have those money problems! He can magically afford another house AND a massive support bill to me, where as he was BARELY covering the mortgage before. All it took was a court to force him to be honest about his money. I was living somewhere I hated, trapped by money thinking I could never eve…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/03/20 02:28 PM
49	Don’t apologize unless it was actually your fault Things that have greatly improved my life recently: Not apologizing for things I don't feel responsible for. Not rushing to say "its okay" when someone is apologizing to me, or has otherwise wronged me. Not saying thank you for things I don't want or didn't ask for. Its crazy because this seems simple, but even in practice I will say it automatically, and correct myself. "You know what, it isn't okay that you did xxxx because we've discussed this before and it continues to happen". Even if you s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/02/20 04:21 PM
18	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 29th 2020) I have recently moved to a new city and would like to take this opportunity to upgrade the kind of women I surround myself with. Most of the people I work with are significantly older and those I work with directly are all men. I believe my lack of meaningful relationships with other women is making me overshare with men and is making me vulnerable. Where can a late-30s divorcee meet other confident women?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/20 04:31 PM
14	The Difference Between Building and Supporting I can't even believe how much I gave to the man I had been seeing. He lived with me for a long time and never paid a single bill. I got him a job at my work and he picked fights with me there in public, putting my job in jeopardy. I bought him hundreds of dollars in clothing to start his professional career. Sometimes he would buy one or two items out of my grocery cart when we were together, but then he usually claimed them for his own at home. Every gift he ever gave me he took back. He even t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/20 02:29 PM
1	What do you think went wrong? She is a classmate I'm used to flirt with Come over and watch tv is not inviting someone to an event. Get over yourself, women are tired of low-effort sex dates. Sometimes it is LAUGHABLE that someone feels entitled to have sex with you without effort. If you are going to be so incredibly lazy and presumptuous, don't expect her to put on the effort of sparing your feelings or going out of guilt.	/r/seduction	27/12/19 02:32 PM
9	the guy who has been texting me for weeks is married and hided it. feelin disgusted, blocked You can forward information to wives, but you will find VERY quickly, they will blame you and bring hell into your life. One time a man lied to me and I just had a casual hookup with him. His wife found me based on my email, stalked me to my house and showed up to my house while I was home alone with small children, I had NO relationship with this man besides a one time fling, I was in a consensual open relationship, this man never even disclosed he was seeing anyone. Another man contacted me an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/12/19 08:54 PM
7	When you discover FDS too late, what do you do? 27f in “engaged” to 37m we have two kids I am 37, I have 4 kids. I was a SAHM for the better part of a decade. I was able to leave a marriage and come out on top and believe me, it wasn't easy. First, I got a job at the local school, they always have open positions if you can pass a background check and TB test. It wasn't much but it helped. Then we broke up and I needed a short time of public assistance. Once you are on public assistance, you will find it even easier to get a job. I found a position within the state. I had no period o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/19 08:48 PM