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So many. It was the gradual worsening and the combination that helped me leave. The biggest ones (can’t believe I ignored these! But I was young): Sulked if I said no to sex His mother took care of everything for him and never told him “No” He smoked weed He was in school for a theater degree (not bad on its own!) with NO career ideas except his local punk band. Even his last year and after graduation he had no ideas and never looked for a job. Lots and lots of Instagram models Had a dick measur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:44 PM
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Man, I lowkey fit this category just enough that random men will really just fetishize my existence and expect me to roll over to them. I like anime, I play video games, and yeah I’m hot, but I am not a mom or a therapist or wasting my time on these losers! It’s like a woman can’t enjoy things that a man enjoys without it being, somehow, for a man to benefit. Edit: and half the time these same men will act as if my taste is “inferior” to theirs, without asking me at all what shows or games I lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:26 PM
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If I’m dating and have a focus of finding a life partner, one I’m going to own a home with and live with, I’m going to choose someone who has the same standards of cleanliness as I do. I respect my space and I value keeping it tidy. Obvious not all the time, since I do live here and get busy, but I make an active effort and if I haven’t kept up in a couple days I’ll make sure to clean and stay on top of it. If my partner doesn’t, and they don’t want to keep up with cleaning or value a clean envi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:00 PM
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“Mom I went to the store and got the items on the list. Can you start dinner?” “Oh thank you Bobby! What a grown up boy you are, already 12 years old!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:49 PM
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“Mom I went to the store and got the items on the list. Can you start dinner?” “Oh thank you Bobby! What a grown up boy you are, already 12 years old!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:49 PM
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One of my friends showed me this sub as an “omg look at these NiceGirl Incels” thing and I have never told her how much I connected with it and how FDS has completely changed my life. Not even just in dating, but in every aspect. I’ll admit I disagree with a couple popular viewpoints here but overall I love it, and I never bash someone’s opinion because it’s different than mine. FDS is a wonderful space for us. Yet somehow this place is... “bad?”?I don’t understand, it’s like they don’t even rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:22 PM
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Look... if we are hiring housekeepers and such? Yeah sure. If we BOTH do equal amounts of housework REGULARLY? Yeah sure. But if I’m maintaining the house, the groceries, the appointments, when bills are due and where, AND working full time? Hell no. I’m already working two jobs there. He gets to cover the bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:31 AM
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How was the pain when you had the IUDs replaced? Was it the same level? Was having it removed just as bad? Im getting mine replaced next week I’m scared because the first hurt so bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:51 PM
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IUDs are really painful and not for everyone. My pain lasted 2 weeks. But the last 3 years it’s been really good for me! I’m getting mine replaced next week and I am terrified. Did your doctor offer you pain medication, or a very strong anti inflammatory? That’s what got me through it I think. They really should fully explain how bad it can hurt. Worse than any kidney stone I’ve had. I have flashbacks from jt. Awful awful awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:48 PM
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I just did this game! Wow, it’s really very telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:39 PM
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That’s an immediate no from me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:26 PM
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I watch a TON of anime. I have since I was around 6-7 years old. Anime itself isn’t a disqualification but... there are a lot of stereotypes for a good reason. I find a lot of men, when they find out I’m “weeb” or “otaku” they fixate on that and suddenly they think I’m this perfect wifey who will game with them and make them dinner and always be cute and “kawaii.” It’s creepy. So those ones, if I even get a whiff, get thrown AWAY from me. But if a man is like “oh, you like those shoes too? Cool.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:47 PM
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Ok real question: I see all this stuff about floor mattresses but mine is on the floor. Like the box spring and then the mattress and then the topper. I like the height of it and how it looks. So if it’s neat and clean why is it bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:24 PM
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Spammed me and my (male) best friend with screenshots of “emotional cheating” articles at like 3am. I was drunk and stayed the night instead of driving back or walking home alone in the dark. This was after he asked for an open relationship and had another girlfriend. He was upset I stayed the night because I wasn’t home 3 HOURS before the curfew he set for me... yeah, really. It got that bad and I didn’t realize. A lot worse had happened before that, but it had become so normalized to me, and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:48 PM
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My eyes actually teared up because this was my ex. From the outside looking in it’s so obvious, but I remember that feeling. “I can’t tell who is in the wrong” oh my goodness. Fuck I’m actually crying, this poor woman. She’s working and in grad school and so young, and he’s done this to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:28 PM
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This broke my heart, seriously. The way she’s already downplaying herself in her post because she’s trying to convince herself that she has no right to be upset... her pain is a normal reaction to such a thing. There’s no way that would be a good prank- to talk about marriage, get down on one knee on CHRISTMAS, have an entire speech, and then give an actual RING to another woman in front of her?! That’s cruel. It’s so so cruel. And then to dismiss her pain. Can somebody help this woman? Nobody d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:04 AM
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Y’all should go check out this Instagram, it’s a goldmine. They post screenshots sent in of “nice guys”. I’ve sent them some screenshots too of the craziest “nice guy” texts I’ve gotteb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:40 AM
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If I highlighted every red flag, the whole thing would be yellow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:17 AM
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Y’all I just wanna say I know this is MONTHS old but I think I just... saw my future. Oh my god. Wow. Yikes. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:41 PM
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What if she had gotten kidnapped or hurt? Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:40 PM
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Oh, this poor woman. I hope she escapes. An ex once said to me that he wanted to tie me up and whip my chest “sexually” because I made him “frustrated.” How did I frustrate him? By not following his curfew, cutting off my best friend, and having sex whenever he wanted. He framed it as if it was kink and I knew in that moment: either I say yes and he waits to beat me until we have sex again, or I say no and he has no reason to wait. So I said yes and never let him touch me again. I hope this woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:34 PM
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I also want to know! My partner and I have been together over a year and known each other longer. What level of gift is appropriate? Obviously not expensive electronics, but more than a card. He also earns 4-5x more than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:22 PM
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I think those who comment on Reddit are more likely to lean this way. I hate the phrase “not all men,” but in this case I’ll say not every man on the planet thinks and acts like his life is a video game and he’s got it harder than all women everywhere ever. Reddit has a lot of gaming/nerd/incel types so you see this shit more often. But even if some men don’t think like THIS specifically, there’s still a lot who have similar threads of thoughts or other significant issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:04 PM
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Did he seriously just say “tutorial mode,” explain it like you don’t know wtf a tutorial is, and then cry about how hard it is for him? and equate the ability to have sex with someone random/ease of access to sex with overall “easiness” of life? Oh my god, gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:56 PM
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Yeah, I was like “HEY! I take my meds! :/ “ but I don’t think they meant it how we took it, you know? People are just... uninformed about it. there’s a lot of stigma and misinformation so whenever I can educate kindly, I try to dispel some of those misbeliefs 😅😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:15 AM
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People with bipolar disorder can have normal, functional, healthy relationships. If your SO has any mental illness, the difference between a red flag and a green flag is how well they manage it, the actions they’re taking to manage it, and if they’re consistently evaluating themselves and seeing their doctors and professionals. Basically, taking responsibility for themselves and their health. Otherwise.... We Are Not Therapists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:11 PM
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Where did you find this mystical creature 👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:15 AM
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Any transcript?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:58 AM
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My ex was super “woke” and still pretends to be ultra feminist and pro-women. The ass raped and abused me for FIVE YEARS and lied about me to everyone when I escaped, and continued harassing me for NINE MONTHS afterwards. Then posted shit on social media about women’s shelters and supporting rape victims. Evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:19 PM
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I’ve had DOCTORS do this shit. It’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:14 PM
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“Sorry I can’t make it to the zoom call tonight guys!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:13 PM
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My ex-boyfriend of 5 years did the same. Heartbreaking. I hope this woman can escape and go live her best life. He keeps checking that she’s in it for the long haul and the minute she puts her foot down about it he’ll lovebomb her, make promises (OR call her crazy for blowing up about it... as if it hadn’t been on her mind for YEARS). God I pity her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:13 PM
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My ex threw away stuff of mine he didn’t like for whatever reason. Threw away my shower cap. The new dish sponge wand(???why), and I’m 99% sure my really nice $$$ red bra. One of the three bras I’ve ever had that fit well. It was a great color on me and super cute too- probably too cute 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:16 PM
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In case someone from the future sees this: there was a post about a woman who’s partner suddenly- and I mean SUDDENLY- started using baby talk in a restaurant to order a “chikey sanwi” or something. He really went in on this baby talk too, kept on using it and pitched up his voice and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:51 PM
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Mine close up a little bit I just wiggle the earring in and it’s fine again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:04 AM
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God, ANOTHER ONE??? I just saw this a minute ago. This poor woman is questioning basic sanitary practice because of a gross man who can’t be bothered to change his underwear, lord save her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:02 PM
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My (who I thought to be) friend told me I deserved it because it was my then-boyfriend who told me to stop spending time with my best friend and I didn’t do what he demanded. So somehow I deserved it according to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:22 PM
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One of the main reasons I didn’t report 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:21 AM
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At what point does it go from “I’m throwing away/risking my own future for a man” vs “I’m making a life change with a man”? Like for example. A teenager dropping out of college to move in with her boyfriend is sacrificing her education and future for some dude. But a husband and wife relocating if he has a higher paying job offer, and deciding together, is still the woman agreeing to move for the man but it’s seen as a more acceptable decision that they decide together. Even if the wife has to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:36 PM
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The Count of Monte Christo is not a tale to base your life on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:05 AM
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exactly that! We were in couples therapy at the time too ( 🤢 to teach me how to... want to have more sex with him???) and the whole time he was like “I know her uncle passed recently so...I don’t want to PUSH it...but-“ and the therapist said “oh I’m so sorry, when is the funeral?” And I told her it was THAT DAY and I couldn’t go to it, and she tried to shift the session to him comforting me. BUT HE KEPT PULLING IT BACK TO ME NOT FUCKING HIM ENOUGH!! And then he cancelled our future session beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:16 PM
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When my uncle died and I couldn’t miss uni for the funeral across the country, my now-ex made a point on how he WASN’T going to pressure me for sex because I was grieving, and that it would be shitty to do. And then he pressured me for sex. But “not really.” And then gave me the silent treatment when I didn’t have sex with him. while I had exams and my uncle was dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:38 PM
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What setting spray do you use? I’ve been using ELF which works but I want to expand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:03 PM
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A lot of people here are going to be against the idea itself, so let me say this: if you and your partner are both interested, go for it. Your sex life is between you two. As for “what if they like the new version of you”... ideally, this act is to ADD to an otherwise great relationship and sex life. It isn’t a substitute or a last ditch effort of a dying bedroom. So your partner already loves YOU how YOU are. This persona is also you. I think the idea of courting your SO from scratch all over a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:40 AM
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My SO has been asking for me to let him buy my groceries, since I’m experiencing financial hardship and he makes 5x more than me on average. The only reason he hasn’t is because he respects when I say “no.” That’s how it’s done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:11 PM
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The grow up without people telling them to stfu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:23 PM
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This is exactly what happened in my last relationship... but I hadn’t even been seeing anyone else yet 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:03 PM
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Hey girl, I hope things get less stressful for you. You’ve got this. Whatever life throws at you can be handled and dealt with, and be sure to take some time to focus on yourself and your health. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:24 PM
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I ask straight up! At the very beginning. For me it looks like this: “By the way, I want you to know I’m polyamorous. That means I maintain relationships with multiple people at the same time. Is that something you’re okay with?” And usually they either go one of three ways: “Oh I’m poly too!!” And then we discuss parameters and boundaries. “Oh, I’m looking for something closed/monogamous” And then we respectfully go on our own ways. Or: “what’s that? Can you like... tell me more?” And then ask …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:45 PM
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Is this Texas? Because we have plenty of fields and none of them are interesting. Everyone has been to the greenbelt. It’s not first date material AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:16 PM
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Basically they met through a forum about a mutual interest, and he had never noticed her showing a liking for jewelry, so instead of a ring he bought something sentimental and thoughtful about that mutual interest. And she said “wow that IS very sweet but I would like a ring for marriage” and he got upset. So the gift itself was great but it was NOT something to propose with. And she explained that, while she liked the gift, she wanted a real ring and then he got upset she wanted an actual real …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:08 PM
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My female gyno was very rough and cold to me. Her IUD insertion left me literally traumatized and I would shake and hyperventilate and cry whenever I went to the gyno after that. The first male one I saw was very gentle, explained everything, helped me breathe, didn’t shame me.... And when I needed a urologist for like half a year, he was absolutely amazing. I’ve never had an issue with a male doctor who is in a more specialized field . That said, male doctors in general practice have been the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:02 PM
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It just kept getting worse and worse and worse... this poor woman. This is heartbreaking. I hope she gets some therapy to help process things going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:47 AM
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Commes de Garçons (Like the Boys) - Rina Sawayama New Rules- Dua Lipa Boss Bitch- Doja Cat Sorry Not Sorry- Demi Lavato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:13 AM
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Hey, hello, woman who has handled crazy ex’s!!! When the Crazy Human you’ve Blocked (TM) goes through ANOTHER person to contact you, this is your answer: “(Name) knows not to contact me in any way. I won’t be discussing anything about them.” But then you’ll get something like “he just wants the shirrrrrt” “he realllllly wants to talk to you though” blah blah blah “I’m not talking with (name), including through others.” or even, “for my safety, I am not in contact with (name)” And that’s it. Don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:06 AM
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Oh lord. I remember forcing myself from going “I hate that he ALWAYS leaves the cabinet doors open!” To “...one day I’ll be sad they’re not all open, right?” I was a fool haha! Glad that’s behind me. This poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:08 PM
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Absolutely bonkers!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:15 AM
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Imagine everything he could have done if he just put his freaking phone down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:24 AM
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I just hadn’t opened the app, I didn’t even know he was messaging me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:07 AM
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“I’m not sure” “I’m not necessarily either” “Eventually I would like to start dating again” “I wouldn’t even have time to date” “I’m really just focused on being debt free” Oh lord girl run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:19 PM
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Oh my goodness, this just made everything click in my head about my last relationship. Oh my god. Like after a year it FINALLY clicked. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:14 PM
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“Only queen honeybees and female worker/attendant honeybees can be mailed via the USPS. “ “When going by surface mail methods, your shipment will need special care, and if you’re shipping queen honeybees or female worker/attendant honeybees via ground transportation, you would need to add the Special Handling fee. “ “The mailpiece should be constructed in such a way as to provide adequate air and ventilation—a temperature range of 40° to 100° F is recommended—and secure enough to prevent any bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:03 PM
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Congratulations! I’m glad you were able to do what is right for your body, that’s huge! I’ve heard a lot of women don’t do well with IUDs or hormonal birth control. I started on the pill in 2015 and switched to an IUD in 2018. It works great for me and I would keep it even if I never had sex again (it just helped in other areas). But IUDs are really invasive, painful, and can cause issues for women who don’t do well on it. Then to take it out??? Ouch! I’m glad you were able to get it removed eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:11 AM
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Me too! One pro of everyone going nuts over this place haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:58 PM
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This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time, seriously! I was in full crisis-mode already and then I saw my horribly Abusive ex near where I live. I literally screamed out loud (in my car) “WHY are you testing me right now?! why am I being tested!!!!” And then this appeared... as a direct answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:06 AM
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