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right but any person with an inch of intelligence would not read something and think I HAVE TO AGREE WITH THIS Then why word something in an absolute form at all? And why does your mod team assign dismissive flare to anyone who disagrees openly with something that's posted here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:51 AM
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It's 100% true that the misogyny that exists in regular society gets carried into polyamorous relationships, open relationships and any other kind of relationship you want to dream up. However, I'm gonna suggest from your story here the biggest problem is that you were doing things you didn't want to do and weren't comfortable doing because you wanted to be "cool" about it or something. Women who date monogamously can make that mistake too. You need to know your own boundaries and wants, and don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 01:41 PM
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Okay, so literally what I said is that if you want to attract beautiful women who are also shallow with shit personalities like yours then you'll be doing fine. And that's your right, so carry on.
/r/seduction10/12/19 12:04 PM
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What you described is a shit personality though. You showed you didn't tell.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:40 PM
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Plenty of women who got proposed to are also the planners in the relationship. In fact I'm pretty sure women are the planners in most marriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:19 AM
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I think this must be a cultural thing. Where I live (a liberal U.S. city) in all the cases I know where a woman proposed and the guy said yes they were both excited and the marriage turned out well. On the other hand, I've seen plenty of the women in this sub who promote traditional gender roles taking about formerly putting up with stuff that I don't think educated women on the west coast would put up with for a minute. I'll say it until I'm blue in the face, but there is no single way of meeti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:17 AM
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That's a typical romantic date thing though. So it's like almost from the start you were leading her on.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:34 AM
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Jesus girl. I know this situationship is probably old news by now but you need to pull yourself together. If a guy only texts you for booty calls then that's all he sees you as. If you want someone who'll take you on real dates then make that clear from the getgo and don't settle for less. You sound like you're desperate for crumbs and that's not a good look.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:33 AM
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And honestly, tinder has started to suck even more now because due to my looks.. I still match with low tier women who HATE my high tier personality. This is the dumbist shit I ever heard. The only women who are okay dating an arrogant guy with shit personality are the ones who have shit personalities themselves. If you just wanna date hot women with shit personalities then you know what you're doing, but don't assume every guy is the same in that regard.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:14 AM
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Yeah, neither of these look good to me. What floats other ladies' boats, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:11 PM
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A lot of guys have a rolodex of women and mass message this stuff. That's why low effort, impersonal messages are a bad sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:07 PM
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It depends on the women's body as well as the men's skill. I'd rather have a small to average-sized guy who knows how to work the angles and is great at foreplay, because what you can do comfortably is much more diverse. But my honey has a big penis and while it personally doesn't get me off by itself, he's fully aware it's not the penis that makes the man, it's the whole package.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:30 PM
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lol... yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:15 PM
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I have acne and think facials do about nothing. Retin-A is the most effective thing I've found for mine, and you can order it over-the-counter from Canada for maybe $20 for a tube that lasts three months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:06 PM
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I think opportunity cost is only relevant here if you're choosing who to date based on who is willing to spend the most money on you. I choose who to date based on who is the most attractive, who seems like the best conversationalist, etc. But yeah, obviously you want a guy who brings something to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:05 PM
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I take a shower, shave using a drugstore razor, put on some of my $10 concealer, $20 lipstick, possibly use a $20 straightener on my hair, and put on clothes that are clean and nice-looking (clothes are the most expensive part for me because I'm an unconventional size, but still I don't spend more than $100-150 on an outfit and don't buy clothes that I don't plan on rewearing many times). It costs me $60 to get my haircut also, which I do every couple of months. I can't dream of spending hundred…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:03 PM
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nowadays TBH, I think things are better in this regard than they've been at any point in western history. It's not great, and it should be better, but I definitely don't think it's a new problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:53 PM
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Yeah, that's what it reads like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:50 PM
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This reads to me like something a woman he dealt with (possibly his gf) put on bumble to try and embarrass/out him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:49 PM
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It always sucks when someone turns out not to be who we thought they were. But I agree with others, he doesn't sound like a very good friend to me, and I don't see the point in trying to hang on just because things were different in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:47 PM
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To me all the posts talking about how men should spend 100% of the money on dates and women should never spend anything and if a man is willing to spend thousands of dollars on you in the first 6 months or get engaged to you after a year that shows he really loves you are a little crazy. That just sounds like a recipe to wind up with a mentally unstable person to me, and makes me wonder if some women keep picking unstable men because of grand romantic gestures and then getting burned and coming …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:38 AM
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Yeah, I agree with this 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:30 AM
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Do you think their selection of which woman they have feelings for or want to make their gf has anything to do with how independent you’ve made yourself seem? Of course it does. It's only one factor, and not the biggest one, but of course there are lots of HVM who appreciate this trait in women, especially the ones who deeply respect and value women's opinions and ability to be coleaders in the relationship as a whole. The men who *don't* appreciate independence in women are disproportionately r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:29 AM
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I haven't seen the show, only heard of it. But part of being a HVM (or HVW for that matter) is having good judgment. It is possible to give *too much* too early on, imo, and then it's not sustainable. High quality partners, including men, know how to be generous without overextending themselves, so they can continue to show that love and support years into the future. Way too many people in the world who do grand gestures early on and then turn out to be mediocre partners in the longterm, and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:24 AM
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My dad pays for everything for my mom, but sucks at romance in other areas, and poor man is nice but has very low creativity. My boyfriend pays for most things, but not everything. And I'm okay with him paying for most things because he makes more money than me. But he does lots of other things - is generally romantic, made me handmade gifts, cooks dinner on occasion (neither of us do it much), lots of massages, etc. I've yet to meet someone who is 100% giving in all areas. I feel like only a su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:19 AM
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Most men spend most of their energy pursuing women who are more attractive than they themselves are. That's why I think this sub's advice to sit back all the time and wait for men to chase you is flawed. I made a post about that myself a few days ago though, and it got a fair number of upvotes. You don't have to be a supermodel to land someone who you're attracted to and who makes you happy, but most women also can't just lay back and expect guys like that to fall in their laps. It's a balance. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:22 AM
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i literally only been described as cute by people who’ve pursued me Umm... if they pursued you then I'd assume they thought you were attractive and wanted to get with you. I'd also assume that you are the one that didn't want to get with them, due to you not being attracted to them or them otherwise not meeting your standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 12:06 AM
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How old are you, if I may ask? Lotta ladies don't get called cute and don't have boyfriends, and a lot of ladies do get called cute and have them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:29 PM
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If I don't plan on having sex after a drink or after 3 dates, why should that concern me? I wish I lived in a world where women made as much money as men. I would rather make that money myself than have men pay. But the main reason I don't feel bad letting men pay for more than me (most of the time) is because I know we don't live in that world. Paying for myself makes me feel powerful. To me it communicates "I can take care of myself, I don't need you, and you're gonna have to step up your game…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 01:44 PM
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Naw, I'm just a pragmatist who values my time and peace of mind and not interested in dying on the cross of having someone else pay for my $10 cocktail, lol. I pay for myself when I go out with friends, and until a guy has shown me he's the kind of person I want to date or sleep with, a friend is all he can hope to be as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 01:19 PM
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If what you mean is that the guy is spending more money because he's buying alcohol and you're not, you can always just put down cash that approximately covers the amount you want to pay. A lot of people use venmo for this these days also. Or if it's someone I'm really vibing with and I know I want to keep seeing them, I might say something like "thanks for dinner, dessert is on me" or "thanks for dinner, next one is on me" or whatever feels appropriate to you. If it's a guy I've gotten to the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:13 PM
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High quality men won't judge you for your history, but they'll accept it as part of you. It's called emotional intelligence. And if they don't have that maturity, you shouldn't be dating them anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:44 AM
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It depends a lot on where you're coming from, tbh. I never got called cute growing up. I've always been tall as heck, with an angular face that made me look older when I was young. But I always thought "cute" was a very feminine characteristic and something I wanted to be. So the rare times a guy called me "cute" it made me swoon. But I use handsome/cute interchangeably, and my boyfriend calls me both "cute" and "beautiful" now. I say find you a man who will call you all the things you want to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:41 AM
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I don't think she's right, though. I've heard a lot of guys say "cute" means someone is the type of woman they'd want to date. Realistically, I think different people use these terms in slightly different ways, and have slightly different associations with them. For my part, I call my boyfriend cute/handsome interchangeably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:38 AM
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So what do you do in the case of guys who think that because they paid they're owed sex, but they're also manipulative enough to act nice until they get it, and then they turn into assholes afterward? I mean obviously they're still in the wrong. But after one-exboyfriend who spent a lot of time bitching about "how much he did for me" when I was breaking up with him, with incessant crazy phone calls, etc. I was well scared off of letting guys do much for me before they've earned my trust. For cas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:25 AM
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Plenty of women on reddit who waited until marriage to have sex wind up miserable. Everyone is welcome to choose their own risks, but I want to know a guy can throwdown before I even consider marrying him. That doesn't mean I feel like I have to give him sex either. Of course he's not owed anything. But once I get to the point of trusting a guy and knowing I'm attracted and enjoy his company, that's something I want to experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:27 AM
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(1) I've always been attracted to good-looking men. My mom herself is shamelessly shallow and would comment on mens' looks a fair amount when I was growing up. But as far as striking that balance of showing interest while being self-assured and laid-back enough that they don't feel pressured? That just came through time and practice/experience, I guess. I don't necessarily love the way I look myself, but I don't let that get in the way of going after what I want. I actually had a friend drop som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 11:14 AM
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Based on your post, I'm assuming you have a super awesome and engaging personality Much as I'd like to believe this is the case, I'm hardly miss popular. I do think I'm smart, and funny, and can turn on the charm when I like someone. But, I got rejected like this plenty too. If a woman is going to put herself out there to try and get to know guys she's interested in, then I think she just needs to keep the bigger picture in mind. The rejections don't matter as long as you're increasing the overa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 10:57 AM
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from there it’s in his ballpark It's in both people's ballpark. It's not like I never asked him out again. Actually, if a woman never asks a guy she's dating out and he continues to make all the invites, I actually might consider that as a bit of a red flag personally. At the minimum they should work together to set the frequency with which they see each other. I want someone who wants me to be an active partner in the relationship, who won't make assumptions about how interested I am or think h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 10:49 AM
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The point is I showed blatant interest in him, creating an opening. I'd say I did more than 50% of the work during the "friend" stage in ensuring we got to know each other better. Also, even once we started actually dating, we took turns asking each other out. When I think of the guy making the first move, I think of the examples in this thread of women who just did a bit of eye flirting and waited for the guy to come to them. That only ever worked for me when it turned out the guy I was flirtin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:58 AM
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I was totally with you until the weird turn at the end, but at least I see you addressed that already. I grew up in a really religiously conservative town, that was "sex negative" in the true sense of the word. That is truly not a better way for women, and I really don't think all the young women in this sub have much ground to stand on in saying things are worse now if they haven't experienced otherwise. I totally agree with you that men are experts at coopting for selfish ends though, especial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:35 AM
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The really pernicious thing is that sex positivity seems to do this on an explicit level, but the implicit message is that women's pleasure and boundaries ought to be dictated by men. I think maybe you mean to say that "sex positivity seems to do this on a superficial level, but the implicit message is..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:31 AM
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You're not exactly wrong. Two books I both liked actually discuss this with a lot more depth and nuance than I think most reddit comments sections contain, but they're "Female Chauvanist Pigs" and "Come As You Are." Both really should be required reading for all modern women, imo...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:30 AM
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Yeah I find it a little concerning that there are people in the comments trying to defend this also. Like, if you can't recognize when behavior is *way* outside the normally socially acceptable range, maybe you should start with calibrating that for yourself before you get too deep into dating. Because guess what? Guys who do crazy things (like acting clingy/controlling or *way* too into someone they hardly know) often wind up being actually crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:26 AM
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I'm American, and I definitely don't think it's an American thing. It might be more of a regional thing though, like our cultures vary a lot regionally. Some of the biggest players/assholes I know got engaged to their girls after about a year though. Who knows, maybe she was really the first woman to sweep them off their feet, however I was always very suspicious they were looking to lock it down before she had too much time to discover who they really were as people :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 09:57 PM
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I don't disagree with anything you wrote in your last comment. But my post was for people like me who don't get approached much, and so might find it helpful to do the approaching themselves. If you don't have that particular problem, then I guess the post really isn't for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 08:14 PM
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The flirting would be very subtle! One quick look in his direction /quick eye contact and look away. Keep chatting with friends. Give it a little time. Repeat once more but this time a little longer hold on the eye contact. I mean, this has worked for me a couple times in my life. Usually it's gotten me ignored hard :P I find I have better success with approaching guys directly, but keeping it ambiguous as to whether I just want to be friends or more. Then over time they get a chance to know me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:21 PM
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Well in this case it turned out the guy and I also had mutual friends, so hiking seemed less sketchy. But invite a guy I just met to something low-commitment like coffee or drinks in a public place? Yeah, I've done it. And I can't say that's gone any better or worse on average than when I've agreed to go on a similar outing when a guy was the initiator. I'm a big believe that you can't actually know if you really like someone until you've been seeing them a few months *at least* and you're bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:16 PM
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Well in this case it turned out the guy and I also had mutual friends, so hiking seemed less sketchy. But invite a guy I just met to something low-commitment like coffee or drinks in a public place? Yeah, I've done it. And I can't say that's gone any better or worse on average than when I've agreed to go on a similar outing when a guy was the initiator. I'm a big believe that you can't actually know if you really like someone until you've been seeing them a few months *at least* and you're bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:16 PM
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If he had not asked to join you, would you have pursued it further? Yes, I most probably would have asked him to do something with me even without that hint from him. I always do, with people who interest me, unless I pick up on an obvious sign of disinterest. But I definitely don't pursue people in any sort of ongoing way who don't seem to be interested or who don't treat me the way I want to be treated. I guess to me though, the difference between approaching someone out of the blue at a club …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:50 PM
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I consider myself to have made the first move in our situation. This is why it matters what you consider to be "a first move," however, and why I say it needs to be a delicate dance of not doing too much before waiting for the other person to meet you at least halfway. He wouldn't have approached me or chatted me up or asked to hang out or kissed me if it wasn't for all the moves I made, and I'm not ashamed of that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:42 PM
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Assigned, of course. I think it's because I also said I thought women were putting themselves at risk by trying to get married to someone they'd only known for a year, which also conflicts with this sub's ideology, but I'm not sure really...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:40 PM
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I’m not a fan of asking a man out - but you should definitely indicate your interest. You definitely shouldn't be making *all* of the first moves, but I don't think there is one right way to indicate interest, or one wrong way that is guaranteed to ruin things. In the case of my current boyfriend, I thought he was really handsome so I approached him and chatted him up. In the course of chatting, he mentioned he was new in town. I started talking about stuff I enjoy doing, and he dropped "you sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:30 PM
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I'm confused by this entire comment, and maybe it's the syntax you're using. You're talking about what you think works for pretty girls, right? So still not the most relevant to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:22 PM
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Being "into it" is a *good* thing, as long as your partner is equally or more into it back, and that he's meeting or exceeding you in the effort to move the relationship forward. If he's not, that's when you screen him out. If you feel like you have enough guys you are attracted to who ask you out without you having to do any of the work then there is no need for you to make the first move, I guess. My experience, as I clearly stated, relates to someone (i.e. myself) who rarely if ever got appro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:20 PM
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Basically some armchair psychology, but it works. Ah, yeah I've heard this theory before. It may hold true for some people but there's a lot it doesn't hold true for, at least in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:09 PM
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This works if you’re attractive, but only to an extent On the contrary, like I indicated in my post I think "wait for him to chase you" works much better if you're attractive. But for some of us who don't get chased much, we increase our odds by putting ourselves out there more. It's math, basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:07 PM
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Initiating has made me feel icky in the past about myself and this has an effect on confidence. It made me even feel icky when I made a counter offer to meet the next day (for the initial date) I think what you need to work on then though is your confidence. IMO a truly confident woman is going to be able to maintain the same confidence and the same standards no matter how she met a man, and no matter who expressed interest in who first. There is nothing shameful in knowing what you like, or kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:05 PM
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Depending on how direct your flirting is though, I think a lot of people would consider that making the first move. And either way, I explicitly say that different strategies may work differently for different women. So even if you were flirting quite subtly and that always works for you, it doesn't necessarily mean another woman would have the same results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:59 PM
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My mom straight-up told me in high school that once I turned 18 I was never allowed to live at home again. And it hasn't always been easy, but I figured out how to avoid that. So someone who has parents still caring for them at 30 is never gonna have the same kind of perspective on life as I do. They may not be a bad person, but there is a certain kind of immaturity inherent in that imo. Now my boyfriend lived with his mom until he was 26, but that situation was more the other way around. They w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 04:33 PM
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This isn't a new term, just fyi. It's probably been around for at least a decade. It's just another flavor of nonmonogamy (e.g. monogamish, open relationship, polyamory, etc.) I'm originally from a city where this thing is fairly common among men and women alike. Definitely not everyone's bag though. I've had terrible experiences with some nonmonog guys just using it as a thinly veiled excuse to act like a fuckboi for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 11:57 PM
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I think the difference is between bragging or talking up his skills (bad) and asking genuine open-ended questions about your preferences (good).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:55 PM
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I wish this was true. I think actually some guys can dance well but be mediocre in bed, and vice versa, at least based on my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:54 PM
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If he is a skirt chaser and very forward, he is a secret masochist. Interesting. What makes you say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:50 PM
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I'm not assuming though. I literally said we don't know. EDIT: Also one of the people in this thread who were labeled "Dating Coach" or whatever said she'd had like three fiancés break up with her or something. I'm sorry, but I don't think most people would call that "dating success." That sounds like a headache and a half...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:41 AM
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Maybe she just didn't want to marry Diddy, or didn't feel ready for that yet? You are assuming the woman had no power in this situation when I don't think we know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 05:56 PM
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If you vet properly, you can know what you need to know about someone within a year. Bull f-ing shit. 1 year is still in the honeymoon period for a large percentage of couples. EDIT: I like how I got labeled "pick-me" for not wanting to get longterm hitched to a dude I hardly know. Wanting to get married after a year has to be the most "pick-me" philosophy I've ever heard... My guess is a lot of newbies don't last a long time in this sub for reasons like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 11:49 AM
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Really? You really don't know someone at all after a year. Unless you're some sort of religious conservative, I don't see the appeal of getting married after a year at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 11:08 AM
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Statistically speaking most of us never have a rich boyfriend and a life that's a constant party. Even still, Wenger where I live on the west coast most women in their 20s aren't looking to get married soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 11:07 AM
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If someone wanted to get engaged after a year or less, I'd run screaming -the other way. It takes longer than that to get to know someone, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 11:01 AM
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Not all women are waiting. Some just don't care much about marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 11:00 AM
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That's unfortunate. I am legit flat af and haven't dated any pedophiles yet that I'm aware of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:10 AM
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Different men like it for different reasons, and a lot don't like it at all. But yeah, I try and stay away from guys who are too into sadism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:08 AM
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I just say that I expect people to treat me well, and if they stop treating me well I dump them. To me that should actually be the more important message to convey here. Obviously if you're just starting to get to know someone and you make yourself sound like a pushover that's not a good look. It should be true though. You should dump people who don't treat you the way you want to be treated. I think there are shitty people and non-shitty people, and mindgames can only go so far in affecting who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:57 AM
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My mom is the queen of using people's part against them. I've had a boyfriend do it too, but that's because he was a piece of shit. It's something shitty people do, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:54 AM
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My boyfriend treats me great, and at this point I've talked to him a lot about past problems with other men. But it definitely wasn't something I shared early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:51 AM
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I don't know if all the people saying "no way is he 34" are really young or what, but as someone who is actually about that age I have to say that there is a *wide range* in terms of what actual 30-something year-olds look like. Some people still look 25 at that age and some people look 45. Human bodies are weird like that. But sure, if he'll lie about his age once no point in trusting him regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 11:04 AM
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Damn. This totally reminds me of a 40-something guy I dated briefly, and it was full of cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:10 AM
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you know a guy likes you if he introduces you to his friends. Just wanted to point out this doesn't mean a whole lot. It means he's not embarrassed by you, but that's about it. Some guys introduce lots of women to his friends because they want to subtly show off that they're banging lots of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:04 AM
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Different people like different things. When I was younger I was scared of them, partially because I didn't realize know what to do. Then I watched some sex instructional videos by Tristan Taormino (a feminist porn director) and learned how to give one without much trouble. Now sucking a dick can really turn me on. But I still don't really enjoy the taste of cum, honestly, so it's more of a foreplay activity with my partner. Sexuality evolves over time and more than anything you should just know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:35 PM
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I have a longterm partner who meets and exceeds all these things. Thing is, they weren't standards of mine. I want a guy who can support himself and who is smart. I don't think a guy making a lot more money than me is ideal, however, because it can lead to imbalanced power in a relationship. And as far as dicks go, big ones can be pretty uncomfortable, and small ones can be pretty great depending on how they're used. I *do* think all women should hold out for men they're genuinely attracted to, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:24 PM
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I relate to a lot of what you wrote Kind of masculine facial structure and hooked nose here as well. Also very little dating experience when I was your age. Now I'm in a committed relationship with a guy who is (imo) very attractive. I asked him to hang out first, but as friends. So we had a more subtle buildup. The truth is I never got a lot of attention from men, so I started making moves on them myself. And I got hurt a lot in that process. But I think that's part of dating. Of course if you'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:10 PM
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Your edit is hilarious. Dude, if you asked her out she knows you want to give her the D, you don't have to ask about that specifically. And making crude passes at a roommate's friend is a terrible idea.
/r/seduction06/11/19 02:00 PM
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For me, how much the woman is into me and into having sex with me is the most important. I'd rather fuck an ugly chick who is having multiple hard orgasms all over my cock, than a stereotypical hot chick who looks bored and uninterested. Maybe other guys are different though. First off, I'm a woman. Second off, you seem to be making the assumption that an "ugly chick" would be more dedicated to pleasing you. While sometimes true, I think it's a dumb assumption to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 02:08 PM
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Pretty sure most people would choose the person they'd have better sex with. However, a lot of people would have better sex with someone they consider hot, because appearances are part of attraction and hence part of your ability to get turned on (for most people).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 10:56 AM
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Eh... men are the same, they're more interested in women when the women don't show too much interest back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:55 PM
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I noticed this research doesn't include anything about who has the most satisfying relationships, only who has sex with the most people. I'd argue that manipulators have more sex simply because yeah, if you're willing to lie to people or mislead them about who you are it's easier to appeal to what people want. It's not exactly rocket science. Any con artist could tell you that. But if you want a longterm relationship then eventually people will find out who you really are, so I think that's a di…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:54 PM
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You sound like you're about 15 years old. I'm sure the ladies really go for that :P
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:43 PM
1

Oh damn. I hope my live-in partner won't be too disappointed when I tell them...
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:20 PM
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Also the first time sex with someone isn't better if you know for 2 hours or 2 months. It depends a lot on the other person's attitude and level of effort though, and sometimes guys put in more effort when they feel more emotionally attached, and most women know this.
/r/seduction10/10/19 02:31 PM
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I won't say it's true of all of them, but I have definitely noticed this as a trend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 01:23 PM
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Nothing you can do guarantees sexual attraction. I am absolutely talking about how not to lose it, because that happens frequently.
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:50 PM
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I mean I think you can definitely work on yourself to become a more likable person though. Like by showing genuine curiosity in other people and being the kind of person who makes other people feel good about themselves, for example.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:11 PM
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if they keep talking, they are interested and you can be whatever you want, dominant, normal etc. Oh sure, build up their sexual expectations then let them down. *That* sounds like a great plan...
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:22 PM
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I could give many examples. However, in the interest of saving time here is a thread I started with women essentially answering this very question: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/dfeucj/what_are_the_most_common_reasons_youve_lost/
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:09 PM
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True or not, it's not like that contradicts what I said.
/r/seduction09/10/19 04:01 PM
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OP is probably hot or else this strategy wouldn't work. Still, girls with high self-esteem tend to like guys who are both hot and have good conversation skills.
/r/seduction09/10/19 01:03 PM
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I don't say they have low self-esteem because they fuck quickly. I say they have low self-esteem because they're okay fucking with someone who is a shitty one-way conversationalist.
/r/seduction09/10/19 11:08 AM
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you will be surprised which kind of women will respond positively Well I know it will be women who don't care that you ignore their own questions of you and are looking for kind of a shallow encounter.
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:33 AM
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Sounds like a great tip for sleeping with women who have low self-esteem!
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:04 AM
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This is silly. As a woman, I have absolutely started out liking guys who changed my mind with the stuff they said.
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:47 AM
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If guys were only ever nice and nonthreatening to the girls they wanted to fuck, then I'd think you had a point.
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:38 AM
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1943 was awhile ago. Maybe it's time to update your psychological understanding: https://markmanson.net/sex-and-our-psychological-needs
/r/seduction08/10/19 01:20 PM
1

I have multiple PUAs turn a "maybe" into a "no" with me. Does that help answer your question?
/r/seduction08/10/19 12:45 PM
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I would recommend you not frame this as "get their needs met." Scientists generally describe a need as something necessary for survival of an individual. This is a desire we're talking about here.
/r/seduction08/10/19 12:41 PM
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It's amoral when you're using it to get something out of someone that is different than what the other person ultimately wants to give/collaborate on. Some guys are more comfortable with the idea of men being the ones in control. You can seduce without being manipulative, but lots of people in this subreddit do promote manipulation and goals that involve one person getting what they want while ignoring the desires of the other person. So it's very case-by-case.
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:22 AM
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I don't think it's actually insulting to those people who it's aimed at. If that's the case then it's only because the guys trying to sleep around as much as possible don't care about what any women think anyway, they are mostly doing it for A) male validity and B) the experience itself. That being said I think the vast majority of guys grow out of it by the time they leave their 20s (although definitely not all).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 09:33 PM
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I think whether someone perceive something as an insult or not has a lot to do with culture. So if a guy was to hear enough people say it with enough contempt in their voice it might start to feel like an insult for him. A lot of that stuff is very contextual.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 09:31 PM
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How do you know she's talking about you?
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:10 AM
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That just sounded like what you were saying. It seems you're having trouble clearly articulating your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 09:37 PM
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Are you implying you don't have sex? If so you have even less ground to stand on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 09:15 PM
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I do, thanks. Have you really never had a woman reject you after sex? It's a fairly common occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 09:05 PM
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I'm a woman with lots of female friends and family members. I don't need to read some bullshit fluff article's take on why sex is the only thing women have to offer or whatever. I mean this isn't 1900 anymore, and I judge a man's actions every step of the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 08:30 PM
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Ooh, I think this is spot on, and you said it in a way that I haven't seen anyone else articulate. Good job!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 12:46 PM
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Women tend to view “first time sex” with a new partner as the moment in time the woman loses her power and gives it over to the man. Lol no way. Sex is just a step in the process of forming relationship. I'll judge men's actions as much after sex as I do before sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 12:41 PM
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Just because a guy will have sex with a woman doesn't mean he won't also see her as below him attractiveness wise. It's fucked up, but unfortunately for a lot of men it's true. They'd have sex with people they wouldn't be in relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 12:33 PM
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Not for me. It requires a tremendous amount of work to get me off, so I'm not going to crave that every day. I'm sure there is some variation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 12:21 PM
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But you do have to accept that society conditions men and women to feel differently about casual sex, and the knowledge to a woman that you mainly want to have sex with her for validation, and you'd be just as interested in it if her personality was the literal antithesis of everything you liked in a person, isn't going to attract her. And you might think that she won't know that but she will. This is so spot on.
/r/seduction30/07/19 09:33 AM
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Yes, girls are horny and went sex. Often, they want to have good, wild sex with someone who is actually interested in getting to know them better and who cares about their pleasure though. For women that's usually the harder one to find. No woman out there has trouble finding a casual lay. So if she's pursuing you chances are she thinks you might provide the latter also. Don't blow it.
/r/seduction30/07/19 08:48 AM
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This is one of the reasons a lot of people say it's not a good idea to have sex with someone who is really drunk. It's not always about consent. Sometimes they'll just regret it later, even though you won't, and then you're in an awkward spot. Alcohol changes people's personalities and their desires.
/r/seduction29/07/19 10:14 PM
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