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I can relate also man. I worked 60 hours a week, paid 100% of all of the bills while she didn’t work at all. And we had no kids which is the crazy part. Stay at home wife. She did cook and keep the house clean but I did have to help a lot which is ridiculous. Her spending habits were terrible and I allowed it smh. I’m doing better. But the provider/ protector in me is shut down unless I meet someone very special. Still healing from having to sell my house and split the net proceeds with her. I p…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 05:17 PM
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I actually enjoyed it. I didn’t have to force myself to go get pointless flowers, chocolates and balloons. I wasn’t under any pressure to plan a dinner and impress her so she can show off for her other married friend’s standards. I didn’t have to be disappointed with getting nothing. Had a nice steak. Watched boxing and relaxed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 10:00 PM
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We’ve all went through similar situations. I can feel your pain and I can tell you it will get better! I like you didn’t have any kids, but we just built a brand new house and were drowning in debt. I at least have to admit I knew about it. I let her run up all my cards to furnish this elaborately decorated home. My situation was different, my ex treated me terribly and was so nasty until I had no choice but to ask for the divorce. At least yours had the guts to do it. I’ll never forget those da…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 07:03 AM
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I know about that. I had to go through that when we were separated. I could barely date because women would say I’m technically still married. Glad it’s over now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:20 AM
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Good job man. I’m happy for you. I’m on it now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:18 AM
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My ex had a new guy literally a month after we separated. She won’t admit it but they had to have met before we did. She was FaceTiming her when we met to talk about selling the house. Stay strong. Use that as fuel.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:13 AM
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Good job man. I’m about 280 now. Want to get to 230. What was your diet and workout plan?
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:12 AM
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Done!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 02:54 PM
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Exactly. No kids. She’s blocked
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 02:54 PM
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My ex that I divorced last year called me to say happy birthday and she missed the nasty and fun B day trips we would do on a nice tropical beach every year for my Birthday day. I laughed it off, kept it short and got off the phone. Crazy mind fuck because I was thinking of her and not the woman I’m dating now the rest of that day. I’m thinking of changing my number. Nobody should have power over my emotions like that smh. Memories I didn’t think of at all flooded back. She knew what she was doi…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 07:14 PM
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I got divorced in January. Just met a nice young lady in April. We dated. Things were going well. But I started seeing things that were red flags similar to what my ex did. Being selfish, withholding sex, nagging and complaining. I cut things off after only 5 months. Imagine if we got married. Luckily her acting skills weren’t the best. Once you’ve been mistreated your tolerance is very low the second time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 11:57 PM
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I’ve been separated for a year. I’ve been dating a woman for 3 months exclusively. It’s been pretty amazing. She does nag me asking what’s going on with the divorce. Plus I kind of know in my mind I don’t want to get married again anytime soon. While I’m sure she wants to be married in the next 2-3 years. I told her I’m open to being married again. But in the back of my head I don’t see going through another marriage and losing everything again. I’m enjoying the sex, fun, and companionship. But …
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:15 PM
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We had the same ex wife minus the kids. Scary stuff. Took me a while to build my confidence back and recover.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 05:52 PM
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Man. It’s terrible. I’m in a much better place now. Sometimes I can’t believe the things I put up with. You really lose your entire self trying to please a person who can never be satisfied.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 02:47 PM
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I remember having to argue with her about watching football on Sunday. Then when I go to another room I have to hear about that. I loved action and comedy. She loved romance. 90% of the time we’d be watching Bridgerton instead of House of The Dragon smh. Now I watch and do what I want.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 05:06 PM
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I feel this. I completely lost myself in my marriage. I wasn’t seeing my family. I didn’t do any of the hobbies I enjoyed. It was horrible. Finally have some peace and happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 05:03 PM
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The walking on eggshells is the biggest thing I don’t miss. That anxious and uneasy feeling of what am I going to do to have to argue with her next. Also, always being the one who is wrong. Everytime it’s always something I did and she’s Mrs. Perfect. Another major thing is getting to see my friends and family whenever I want. She used to isolate me from them purposely.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 05:02 PM
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It’s crazy I was so naive to not see that as a major red flag. Why are you deleting my content! 🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:13 PM
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I’ve listened to all of those guys except the 33 guy. The crazy thing is I can clearly remember my ex wife deleting AMS and Kevin Samuels from my YouTube when we were just dating. I didn’t really care or think about it. But now looking back she didn’t want me to know her games. My favorites right now are FITXFearless, Austin Dunham, and Teachingmensfashion. They focus mostly on improving yourself. Once I improved my fitness, finances, and looks I don’t have as many issues with women.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 02:37 PM
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Dude. No. I didn’t really care. She just made it awkward. By saying me asking her out made her feel weird. When she had been staring at me and flirting for months. I still take her classes. It’s just weird because she doesn’t talk to me really. Like I was the creep. But I know I was respectful. That’s why I don’t suggest meeting women at the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 03:51 PM
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Not really embarrassed. Just awkward. She would be staring at me and flirting after class. Then I asked her let’s grab dinner. And she was like dude keep it professional. Don’t be weird.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 03:34 PM
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I would suggest never asking a woman out at the gym or some place you go to frequently. I misread my coach flirting at Orange Theory Fitness last year and asked her out. Soft let down. But now I try to avoid her classes because it’s super awkward lol. I would wait for her to approach. Women will stare at you all day then when you approach make you seem like the creep.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 02:35 PM
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Nice check out Orange Theory Fitness. I’ve been doing that for 3 months and I love it. Down 20 lbs.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 05:13 AM
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Great post. I agree with all of them. I’m in the gym heavy and in great shape. I can buy any gun or item I want. No arguments or tension in my life at all. I love the peace and stress free life I have now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 04:53 AM
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That’s an amazing business you scaled brother. I’m proud of you. The walking on egg shells is crazy. I don’t know why we even put up with it. I literally haven’t had an argument with anyone in the 9 months since we divorced. I wonder why?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 04:51 AM
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This one is deep for me too. My own mother I didn’t speak to for over a year because my ex wife hated her. Is my biggest supporter and my rock now getting back on my feet.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 04:49 AM
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I’m 100% wearing a condom if we’re having sex. If it’s oral I would give a heads up I’m about to bust and it’s up to them after that. Some keep going and swallow some don’t even want to touch it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 09:21 PM
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Holding her after a wild night of sex. Just laying there naked talking and laughing. Knowing this is my person. I’ve dated but it’s not the same.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 03:44 PM
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Thank you. No kids. I don’t see the possibility of another marriage. I always wanted to be a Dad. But it’s looking bleak at 37 turning 38 this year. Stay strong and enjoy life with the kids!
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 02:20 PM
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Thanks man. Have a great weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:24 PM
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Exactly. Thanks man. Feeling good about myself. Still not ready to date. No point in putting my energy out until I’m ready.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:05 PM
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Thanks. Chapter done. Book closed and burned in a fireplace lol.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:03 PM
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Thanks. You too
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:00 PM
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Not at all. Same vagina and mouth that they all have.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:17 AM
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I never though of that. We never were violent toward each other. She just verbally, emotionally, and financially abused me. I was the biggest push over and Simp ever created also. So I can’t blame her 100%.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:16 AM
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Thanks. She wouldn’t be able to even touch me again. The greeting and goodbye hugs were already too much of me. She pressed her whole hair and body into a grey rock twice.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:15 AM
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Yes. I sure will. Thanks for the support. It wasn’t east. But I had to remember the man I am!
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 06:42 AM
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Thanks. You too!
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:43 AM
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Thanks brother. It ended up being a huge mistake. But I survived unscathed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:07 AM
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Thanks. I won’t. Took her 3 months of trying to get me to enter back into the depths of hell. Even 30 minutes was too much.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:06 AM
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My condolences. That has to be very stressful and abusive. Stay strong man
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:06 AM
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Exactly. Cock Carousel on super speed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:05 AM
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Thanks. I appreciate that.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:04 AM
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Exactly. That was my main reason to keep it moving. My mental health was really suffering. And I wasn’t able to get anything done at work or for my business. That walking on egg shells really does affect you mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:04 AM
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Exactly. Jumped right on the cock carousel. And tried to get off at my stop. No thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 01:02 AM
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True. Already forgot she exists.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:57 PM
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Very true. Thanks man. Needed that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:57 PM
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Thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:56 PM
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Thank you. Huge risk I probably should have avoided. But I made it through.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:56 PM
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Lol. Really pointless. She definitely was that. Probably Bi Polar or BPD too. Who cares. Like you said. Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:45 PM
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Exactly. Epic fail on her part.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:33 PM
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Very true. I’m doing my best to avoid that trap.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:33 PM
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Facts!!
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:32 PM
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Man. I went through the exact thing with my ex. It’s crazy when you think why would I put up with this smh. One day I was the greatest man in the world. The next I was pointless and horrible. I also lost my house and that’s my biggest regret. I’ll never get 2.3% interest again in life.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 11:32 PM
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Very true. I get what you mean. But I meant more like she had her hair and makeup done. Revealing clothing. Not one time did I feel any lust or attraction.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 09:16 PM
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Lol. Trust me. Over the last 6 months I would want to knock her head off on sight. So it took a lot of growth to be so calm and relaxed face to face with her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 08:04 PM
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No regrets. Move on and enjoy life to the fullest!
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 08:02 PM
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Lol. Too many fish in the sea to mess with her friends lol. That’s just very evil. I’ll pass
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 08:01 PM
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No. I don’t think she’s on this sub. But she does have a Reddit. But mostly uses IG. She doesn’t know my user name. But I used a lot of details.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 08:00 PM
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Lol exactly. Comical.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:57 PM
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Lol. Trust me. I knew exactly that meant. I just kept a dead face and even said great for you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:56 PM
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Same for me. And I double my income from around 80k to now around 160k. In great shape. Thanks to Orange Theory. And I’m just so happy and motivated. Keep it up!
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:56 PM
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I agree. There was no real reason. But I’m not mad at it. I can move on with my life and never think about her again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:53 PM
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Thank you. I have to screenshot that. Pointless meeting. Didn’t need to happen. But it did. She does not exist to me anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:35 PM
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True. But it’s kind of different when you see her in a social environment or just out and knowing her personality she will definitely speak. I’m not that harsh to Ignore her and walk away. But I don’t want to chill or spend any time with her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:34 PM
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She doesn’t matter at all to me. I knew that in my heart. But it’s different to have her face to face looking stunning and still not care one bit about her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:32 PM
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What ever she tried I kept it Stone faced and moved on with my day. I would never allow her to manipulate or disrespect me again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:31 PM
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Lol. You’re right. I literally got nothing out of that encounter. I don’t feel any way about it. But for me personally it was just a closure that we had good times and terrible times and we both have moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:29 PM
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Lol. It’s funny because her friends all reached out and wished me a happy B day last year. I didn’t really gain much out of the encounter. But I’m glad I did it. Let me know I’m back to the strong and stoic man I was before I met her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:42 PM
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Thank you. I know it was. I didn’t even flinch.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:40 PM
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So true. I’m super happy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:40 PM
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Thank you. I could tell she was in disbelief I never reached out once the entire 7 months. And the way she was dressed I could tell she wanted to seduce me. Didn’t work at all
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:40 PM
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No kids. No reason to ever see her again. The only positive thing I can think of that came out of it was, if I see her again. Maybe on a date or just out. There’s no awkward moment or hard feelings. We sat down like adults and both agreed and had good and bad times. And we have no hard feelings moving forward. I’m completely happy but I’m sure she’s not 100% over me. I’ve ran into exes where I have to urge to literally run away because we just stopped talking. Might be stupid but to me it’s a po…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:38 PM
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The crazy thing is I posted about a month ago about my ex wanting to meet up. (I deleted it since she’s on here.) And 90% of you guys were saying don’t do it. You’re right. I gained nothing at all. But to know that I’m back to the stoic strong man I was before I met the soul sucking demon.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:33 PM
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Exactly. I felt and looked so good. She was looking great too. But I didn’t care at all. She had all of her cleavage out and she’s a double D. I didn’t look one time. Even at the end when she did a huge show of putting on her jacket stretching the twins in my face. Complete eye contact. She even laughed cause she was sure that would get me lol.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 04:30 PM
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My IPhone keeps giving me reminders of these memories together. I haven’t had the nerve to delete any pictures even after 9 months. I did delete the x rated pictures and videos since that was just weird. But all of the vacations and holidays photos are still there. You’re right. Time does heal and it’s almost unbelievable. The woman I used to hold hands with and kiss everyday of my life for 5 years doesn’t even exist to me anymore. I don’t even think about her much.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 02:49 PM
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I was walking our dog for hours and I realized I was dreading going back home. I was distanced from my entire support system, family and friends. I was constantly on egg shells and so unhappy and anxious. My mental health was really deteriorating. I told her we need to talk and let her know I wanted a divorce. She said ok. She was done also. I packed my things and moved on with my life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 02:31 AM
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Lol. I can relate. Been home the last 6 months. Left at 17 now I’m 37 and back smh. I really haven’t dated since I’m also embarrassed about my situation. But I think everyone would understand when they know what’s going on. Getting an apartment in March. Then lll take dating seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 08:38 PM
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I can relate. Over 7 years I used to give my ex cards all the time and write love letters inside them. She dropped off a literal big gift bag filled with all the cards. I just threw it away. I’m sure she thought it would bring some kind of emotions out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 09:10 PM
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Hate to assume this. But if you’ve told family members I’m pretty sure most people know by now. People love to gossip about juicy stuff like this. Especially women. Unless your parents are really private. I told my close circle but everyone knew and acted like they didn’t know which was more annoying. I just went through this. It’s not too bad. Just say things didn’t work out between us. I wish her the best. Don’t go on a rant or talk about how bad she is. I tried that and it makes you look wors…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:38 PM
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Man. That terrible. Just know you did your best and your better and stronger now without her!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:31 PM
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Exactly. No reason too. She reached out to meet but I never got back to her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:30 PM
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Man. New fear unlocked. But she was from a wealthy family. The house I bought on my own income and it took 34 years to put myself in position to buy it. I should have kept it. Paid her the equity she was owed. The rates are crazy right now. Probably just get a condo.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:29 AM
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Not 200. But I went from around 70k to 130k. Plus I’m able to do so much without the financial black hole that my ex wife was. My biggest regret is we sold the house. I’ll never get a brand new home for 330k with a 2.4% interest rate. In a one bedroom apartment now smh. But I’m happy and free. No kids so she doesn’t exist to me anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:17 AM
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I feel the same. Been divorced for 7 months and I haven’t even attempted to date or have sex. My friend was telling me he used Eros.com to sleep with escorts after his divorce. They were beautiful but I couldn’t bring myself to pay for sex and intimacy. When I used to get it for free often when married and even when I was single.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:54 PM
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True. I might just tell her no thanks. You can text me anything you need to.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 02:52 AM
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Don’t sell your house!!! That’s my biggest regret. I don’t care about her or the divorce. I’ll never get a $300,000 home at a 2.4% rate ever again. Plus she spent most of the money we made from equity after the sale. Hate that all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 02:50 AM
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Lol. Thanks man. I love this sub. I really was like why not. And of course my mom was like you owe it to her to at least hear her out blah blah blah female bullshit. Everyone here was like Fuck No Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:04 AM
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Very true. I didn’t think I would have to block her since we both seemed to have moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 06:07 PM
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Very true. Thanks for the great advice. It’s crazy because I just finally got completely over her. And now she calls to meet. It’s like she could sense I was at peace somewhere. To come suck me back in.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 04:52 PM
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Exactly. Not at all. I made the post yesterday about her wanting to meet up to talk. But I keep thinking about all the hurtful things she said to me. I can’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:32 PM
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It’s hard to say No. My first two years of marriage were the happiest time of my life. But the last two years were the worst. Being in love and starting a family and life is so amazing and makes you feel purpose and that you have a life partner. But the bad behavior, manipulating, constant arguing and complaining, no sex, disrespect is just unbearable. Also the laws are terrible. I lost my dream house and my truck. I was left with nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:27 PM
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Number 4 is so real. It’s crazy I allowed it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:22 PM
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Lmao. That would be crazy. To be divorced and pregnant again in the same year is wild. But I’m sure it’s happened many a time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 10:31 PM
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Exactly. I still can’t think what she could possibly tell me that needs to be face to face. I know it’s almost a 0.1% chance she wants to apologize for her bad behavior and I would apologize for allowing it and we could move forward. Would be nice. But I don’t have my hopes up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 10:29 PM
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We did all that on the phone call. Don’t know what she wants from me. I’m at peace for once.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:40 PM
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Thanks. Or text or just tell her friends lol.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:39 PM
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Thanks man. That all resonates with me so much. I appreciate that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:38 PM
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Thanks man. I went through the same thing. Haven’t really got back to dating yet. I’m focused on myself right now.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:37 PM
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For sure. And it took me a lot to recover from it. Can’t walk backwards.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:31 PM
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Thank you. A part of me wanted her to see how great physical shape I’m in and how stylish I dress now. But I realized that was petty and pointless.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:30 PM
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Thanks. I will. I don’t even watch it. It’s kind of like once I delete all our memories it’s like it never happened. And that was a big chunk of my life. Do you delete all pics and videos?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:29 PM
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Lol. Great advice.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:28 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. Makes perfect sense. Waste of my time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:18 PM
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Thank you. Much needed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:18 PM
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Thanks man. Needed that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:17 PM
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No. No contact. I don’t really have any socials.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:57 AM
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Thanks man. 90% are telling me to pass. I’m going to take that advice.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:56 AM
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Lol. Exactly. I was dreaming on that one.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:56 AM
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Lol. Exactly. Nothing to talk about. I still have plenty of nudes and videos I really need to delete.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:43 AM
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True. No reason to be honest. Thanks for that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:42 AM
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Exactly. My friend was telling me it’s all just her wanting to keep me around once she saw what’s out here for dating. It’s terrible out here. I was always kind, consistent and loving to her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:15 AM
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Lol. Jumped on the cock carousel and now wants to get off
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:09 AM
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I was thinking that. But that’s what makes me wonder? I’m not interested in sex at all. So I don’t think I can be seduced. But she was gorgeous. Don’t know if I want to put myself in that position.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:08 AM
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Yea. I kind of blocked her out of my mind. When I sit there and think of the good and bad times. I was getting distracted and emotional. I hated that. So I try not to think about her at all. Working 60 hours and going to the gym 5x a week also helps.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:06 AM
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Exactly. Some things I put up with I really can’t believe now. Didn’t see my own mother for over a year since they didn’t get along, sold my dream home, let her verbally abuse me, didn’t spend time with my close buddies. Crazy. Been enjoying life now. No reason to go back. But I can’t lie. I am intrigued what she could want to tell me that has to be in person.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:05 AM
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Sure. If I go. I definitely will.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:02 AM
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Lol. Right. That would be funny. I almost posted this on the r/ExNoContact sub but that seems like younger people mostly. Wanted real feedback from people really married not just a fling.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:02 AM
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Thanks. Great advice. Good or bad. It doesn’t affect me. So why waste my time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:00 AM
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I will. Looking 90% towards not meeting up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:00 AM
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For sure. She’s probably shocked I haven’t once tried to reach out to her. I don’t need you for sex or any communication. I’m good. She called me once right after the divorce. But I’d didn’t answer. Not sure why I did the other day.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:41 AM
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Never again. Thank God no kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:26 AM
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Thanks man. I’m surprised I even answered the phone.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:25 AM
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Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:23 AM
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Lol. Exactly my thoughts. All she can do at this point is try to seduce me. Why put myself through that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:23 AM
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Thanks bro. You too.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:31 AM
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Oh ok. Never heard that. Definitely not. Divorce was ugly. I hadn’t seen my family in years, felt controlled and belittled during the last year of the marriage. I’m finally back to myself and my hobbies and likes. We never had a talk to apologize or talk about our marriage. So if it was like a final talk then I would be cool. But any reconciliation is out the window. I’m so happy to be free from her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:20 AM
1

What’s that?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:18 AM
3

Thanks man. Much needed. I haven’t once thought about her at all the last 2 months. I’ve been having sexually thoughts and looking at old pictures since she called me. So I know it could mentally affect me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:17 AM
1

My first thought. I’m so far over her now. And I definitely don’t want the messiness of a FWB thing. Even though the sex was crazy. I’m not Interested in what comes with it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:11 AM
6

Thanks man. I’m leaning towards no thanks on that offer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:10 AM
2

That’s what my mom was saying. I did so much work to get back to a calm and peaceful state of mind. Do I want to run back into the tornado. Not at all. My best friend was saying go but be very disinterested and stoic. But what’s the point lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:09 AM
4

Probably. Funny thing. I haven’t dated seriously. Just been improving myself and working out. That would be hilarious if she’s already ran through in 7 months.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:07 AM
6

Grass isn’t green back on this side either. I don’t have anything for her lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:06 AM
3

Lol. I’ll see how I’m feeling and make sure it’s a very Public place.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:06 AM
3

I don’t know what pito is, but I think you’re meaning sex? I don’t even know what to feel about that. Think it would just make thinks weird. Even though that’s one thing that was always amazing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:05 AM
3

I’m really at the point I wouldn’t give two fucks about 1 and 3 Lol. Unless it was with a friend of mine. 2 is a huge NO
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:03 AM
6

Have respect for yourself and your mental health bro. It’s time to leave. I went through this exact same thing. Constantly being criticized and belittled. Wondering what I did wrong this time to make her mad. Losing sleep and my mental health from dealing with my ex wife’s roller coaster of emotions. I was going through therapy and wondering what was wrong with me too. She had me thinking I had ADHD or was autistic. Now I realize she was the one with some form of mental illness. Look into BPD an…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:39 PM
2

Lol. I was thinking that lol. I’m not even the biggest TV show watcher. It’s usually when I’m in a relationship I can sit down and watch TV for hours. I like to go hiking, shooting range or workout.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 07:22 PM
2

That’s exactly what I want to do. Thank you for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:19 PM
2

Thanks man. That’s why I said I’m going to look into therapy. Because I literally don’t even turn on the tv or open the app. Gotta be something deeper. Or some coping skills or thinking changes I can use to move past it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 04:36 PM
1

It’s tough. I have to get back into my shows.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 04:11 PM
2

I never was a big TV person. But she loved it. So I kind of just adapted into it and liked it. I’m a big shooting range guy. I can tell she really didn’t love it but she would go with me a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:39 PM
2

That’s exactly me. I’m going to start therapy. Because I don’t know the therapeutical term. But it has to be something unhealthy. I have to get back to enjoying my own shows.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:38 PM
2

I have no desire to watch anything. And some of the shows I was super excited for the new season. I’m going to look into therapy. Because I should be able to enjoy things I like. Even if they remind me of my ex during the great times.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:36 PM
8

I feel the exact same way. My friends were saying in the group chat how it’s so hard to find your person. I don’t even want to find a person anymore after this divorce. I would rather focus on myself and just enjoy life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 07:33 PM
10

How will I go into a store and just buy what I came for and walk out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 05:20 PM
2

Exactly. It’s crazy how some women have no concept of money or reality. I blame myself mostly for allowing her to even make decisions knowing she’s clueless.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 07:54 AM
5

So true. Their love is conditional while our love is unconditional. I really would have died or killed for my ex wife. How could you say you’re bored and want to leave?
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 04:30 AM
3

Thanks. I’m hope so.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 03:14 AM
2

I really just have been watching it since all of our bills and debt were on there until we finish our settlement agreement and finally separate all the debt we have.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 01:55 AM
6

That’s very true. Princess mentality.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 05:13 PM
3

I remember this exact story from a few months ago. Did you repost this? Anyway. Just focus on yourself and improving. Workout, enjoy life and spend time with loved ones. I actually started making sure I dress up looking decent before I leave the house just in case I run into her lol. That sucks. But you have to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:17 PM
11

Financial abuse. When I met her I had perfect credit, followed a budget, planned vacations 6-8 times a year with family and friends. Had money going to retirement. Never worried about money much making 90k/year and being single and very cautious and simple. With her I experienced overdrafts, pawn shops, collections, not being able to pay mortgage and doing Covid relief plans. Borrowing money from people I have never asked for money from in my 37 years. Just horrible financial management trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:09 PM
2

Exactly. I had to realize it was mostly my fault for allowing bad behavior and putting her on a pedestal. I do sometimes wonder would she have stayed feminine and submissive if I acted how I did when I first met her? But I really like she had some sort of BPD or narcissism. Because the way she thinks and responded to things was not right at all. But I just chose to ignore the red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 02:46 PM
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I went through the same thing. The first two years. I was the greatest man she ever met. I was a King. I was getting home cooked meals and sex all the time. My ex wife was so humble, submissive and sweet. After we got married she changed. Didn’t want to work anymore, started being so combative and belittled me all the time. Always complaining about everything, sex was every few weeks. Isolated me from my friends and family. The answer is because I allowed it. I gave her everything and never comp…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 05:19 PM
2

I’m on my 5th month separated. I was devastated and just in disbelief the first month. Even though I asked for the divorce. It was hard to be with someone every day for 4 years and then not even speak at all. Also I had to sell my home and financially it was a disaster. What helped me feel better was spending time with family and friends. Buying new clothes and working out. I also starting walking 2 miles 3-4 times a week. It’s amazing. Also talking trips with friends has been fun.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 08:47 PM
1

Sounds amazing. I definitely experienced a similar situation when I went to Columbia and DR. It’s crazy. I want to go to Costa Rica and Brazil also.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 08:00 PM
2

Lol. Hilarious. That’s exactly what happened to me. Nice guy only was good for the first few years. Then I started to get treated like shit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 07:59 PM
3

Lol. That’s hilarious. But makes sense. This guy has been a husband so maybe he’ll be mine. Which is the last thing I want to do.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 07:58 PM
3

Exactly. That’s what I’m trying to develop. That abundance mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 06:01 PM
1

It’s so weird to me lol. If a woman told me she’s going through a divorce after a long marriage, I wouldn’t even think of dating her if I was single. Lol exactly. A part of me thinks I never want to be married again. The way I was treated, losing so much money and assets. Then I think of the first two years we were madly in love and I’ve never been that happy. I think I’ll just date for now. I have a buddy of mine who casually dates great women for months and even years. Until they demand a rela…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 05:59 PM
1

Exactly. Then I have women I’m really not attracted to constantly wanting to hang out. But I’m not interested. So it goes both ways smh. I know. I really didn’t think women would be so interested after I tell them I’m going through a divorce. Like we both know this is a rebound.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:53 PM
2

Exactly. I was excited to meet someone so pretty and chill. I was really looking forward to a date. I have to have a more abundance mindset. Because I shouldn’t even care about a complete stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 04:45 PM
7

Dating is tough. I’m 36. Divorce isn’t finalized but we’ve been separated 5 months. I meet women I’m not that attracted to but the personality is the best. Then the very attractive ones I want are already dating someone. I had a popular post a month ago about a woman who wanted an exclusive commitment after our first night together. That’s something I have to figure out. It’s been weird. I met a beautiful woman at a sports bar Sat Night. We talked for a good 30 mins, laughing and really clicked.…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 02:34 PM
2

Financially I lost a lot. We had to sell our brand new 5 bedroom home that we had for only 2 years. We built and designed it, and I put so much work into it. We did split the equity. But I’ll never get that 2.5% interest rate again in life. The new truck we bought she wanted to keep even though I’m the only one who worked and needed it to work. Now I’m at my Moms house in my old bedroom at 37 sharing a car with her. It’s wild to think about. But she was financially ruining me. Now I can save all…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 04:55 PM
23

Major red flag. My ex wife basically said the same thing. I used to just have fun with guys and I would sleep with them first night and never see them again. Even our first night I brought her home. And she was DTF. But said if we had sex that was it. I liked her so I declined. But she was a girl for fun. And turned out to be that way. Body count does matter. It shows a person has low morals and no impulse control. Plus, do you really think she was using protection every time? That comes with ma…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 06:31 PM
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The worst part to me is being with someone who you planned life with, laughed with, made love to, shared secrets with, traveled with. Now you just don’t speak at all and that’s crazy. Also, I was super close to my ex wife’s brother. We went to every Falcons home Game, went to the bars. Been doing fantasy football for so many years. Text, talked and hung out. Had deep talks and were very similar we how we thought and act. Now we don’t speak. Lost a wife and a brother. Two of my closest friends do…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 08:14 PM
2

Great post. I’ve been working out, dressing better, skincare routine. And I’m getting so much attention from women when I go out. It’s been crazy. I also agree with the variety. I just have a bad a habit of falling for the first woman I mesh well with. And accepting ultimatums when I’m not ready to settle down. Taking things slow.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 03:02 PM
5

Lol at meat wallet. I used to say cum bucket in my head to finish faster smh. The woman I slept with the first time was for hours and didn’t even finish. It wasn’t as tight or wet as the ex wife, and the angles were off. So I was just banging away, she loved it though.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 02:52 PM
3

You got this. Reach out to me anytime if you need any support.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 01:16 AM
5

Very true. I realized that and can’t believe sometimes how I put up with those levels of disrespect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 07:14 PM
3

Same. I’m more focused now on getting in shape and saving money. Improving my health and attractiveness. I realize as my finances and fitness improve my self esteem and confidence does also. I wouldn’t take shit from anyone now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 07:13 PM
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I realized that also. Once she saw me not stand up to my family, not stand up to her. Just avoid every conflict I could. It was over. I know she loved me but she started to be nasty and belittle me. Which then gave me a resentment and it went downhill from there. I blame myself for being a terrible leader and never checking her. But her behavior is still something I don’t think anyone deserves. I remember her telling me to shut the fuck up during a disagreement, I was shocked. I would never say …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 01:53 PM
6

I agree with everything you said. When I met my ex wife. I was in the gym everyday. Working 3 jobs. In a masters program striving to be great. After we got married I completely stopped working out, only working one job, and dropped out of my program. Sometimes I can’t believe how much I lost myself. Just doing whatever to please her, but completely gave up on all of my goals in life. I can’t even explain it now. But I’m back in the gym now, working hard, and back in school. Can’t get those 4 yea…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 05:36 PM
1

Lol at being indecisive or confused about a person I just met. But thanks for the comment.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 05:13 AM
1

Thank you. Someone finally understood how the sex before the exclusivity was confusing to me. That’s why I though it was manipulation. It’s crazy to me how many women are after me and interested. I thought I would be damaged goods. But all my female friends have friends who are all interested and different people have so many daughters and women reaching out. It’s wild to me. I was enjoying being to myself and doing self improvement. But I can’t lie I’m enjoying all the attention, high interest,…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:36 PM
2

I just wanted to be honest. I did think about stretching out the time I’ve been separated from 5 months to like 10 months. But I always get caught in lies so I was just honest. Crazy thing is my ex and I don’t have kids and already sold the house. I already filed so it should be done soon. I definitely want to have some fun and meet some people. I’m always in long relationships and I’m tired of it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:27 PM
1

I’m pretty sure that’s how all of my dating has been in the past. We’re single so it’s known you do what you want. Then I just naturally fall in love with one person I’m getting to know then we talk and are together exclusively. The being committed before or right after sex was the new thing I have to adjust to at an older age.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:23 PM
1

I’m not really looking for causal sex with multiple partners. But at the same time I don’t want to be in an exclusive relationship with the first woman I sleep with. But you’re right a talk has to be had first moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 03:06 PM
2

Thank you. That’s what I’m focusing on now. We communicated well and I moved on respectfully. The reason I thought it might be a tactic was it wasn’t spoken about until the day after. I was thinking someone with those boundaries wouldn’t be so eager to sleep with someone she barely knows. But it all doesn’t matter. We communicated like adults and realized we want different things.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 03:04 PM
1

I get it. The last time I was dating and single was 6 years ago. If I met a woman, and we hit it off and became intimate around the 3-4th date. We never had an immediate talk about us being exclusive towards each other when we’re still getting to know each other. I guess it’s different know in my late 30’s. I respected her boundaries and moved on. I don’t believe every man a woman sleeps with becomes an exclusive partner right after.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:16 PM
2

Definitely wanting a marriage. Most already have kids that are older 10-16. But it’s bizarre that you’re so easy to sleep with and have such high interest so early. But still want a committed relationship right away.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:10 PM
1

Of course she did the whole I haven’t had sex in 6 months. I don’t do this routine. But I didn’t believe it at all. Plus I realized she wanted to drink even way more after getting back to her place. Maybe just to blame it on the alcohol. I moved on and she’s still reaching out to be friends. Funny. But no thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:08 PM
3

I’m going through the same situation, but a much shorter marriage of 4 years. It’s mind blowing that a person I spent literally every day with doesn’t even speak to me anymore. A person I planned life with, made love to, ate dinner with, laughed with, went through hard times with, traveled the world with, told my darkest secrets to just decided I wasn’t enough anymore. I post this from my childhood bedroom after losing my home and the business we started together. It’s really unbelievable someti…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:01 PM
1

What’s lindy? Can’t tell if you’re with it or against it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:11 AM
3

Definitely. Already communicated and we both moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 01:47 AM
1

Thanks. I realized that was a mistake. I wasn’t expecting so many women to be coming at me while I’m going through this process. Any more insight on why wait?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:39 AM
2

Makes sense. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:28 AM
2

So true. Thanks. I’m realized most women I meet around my age (37) are totally DTF right away but also want more of a commitment at the same time. Weird to me but I’ll find my way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:13 AM
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Lol. I love how half the sub are like respect her wishes. Respect her boundaries. And the other half is like F her. Do what you want bro. Forget what she wants. The duality of man.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:01 AM
0

That’s actually a good way to look at it. I’ve been on such a long drought of not only sex but kindness and lust. I would be happy for any attention lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:59 PM
1

Exactly. I think we both experience that post nut clarity. That was way too crazy for the amount of time we knew each other.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:01 PM
1

Not at all. I told her it’s not for me and we both moved forward. I’m just saying it’s odd that that’s a hard boundary for her but she literally already broke it. That’s like me saying I don’t have sex without condoms. That’s very important to me. But the night before I had sex with her raw. It would make one second guess. But I get that’s what she wanted. And I respected it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:50 PM
1

Good information. Thanks. FOMO is real. But I need to work on myself first.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:34 PM
0

I was skeptical at first. But literally everything they talk about I experienced to a T in all my relationships. Manipulation, lack of sex, disrespect, ultimatums, boredom, criticism. You have to admit most women have a similar tendencies. I read this sub and feel like we all married the same selfish woman sometimes. Man that got dark at the end. So stay single or keep dating, both seem bad with how you described it lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:33 PM
3

She’s already said let’s be friends and asking if I’m mad. I’m perfectly fine just going back to self improvement right now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:28 PM
0

I can respect that. I guess what made me think that is we had sex all night with no talk of exclusivity or boundaries. But now after that’s something you have in place. But just not last night?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:26 PM
2

Lol. So true. My last two relationships were started after the whole ultimatum thing. What are we? Where is this going? I’m not having sex or seeing you until I have a title. I caved in every time. I’m glad everyone explained to me this isn’t that. Just an adult with her boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:24 PM
2

So true. And I respected her for her communication and being upfront. Still think it was kind of pointless after we already crossed that boundary.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:21 PM
1

Very true. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:19 PM
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I guess how I view it is, I meet a woman then go on a few dates. We start sleeping together. Now the exclusive talk happens. Let’s say I say cool. Now if I’m out and meet another interesting gorgeous woman do I not pursue? Do I take her out but not try for sex until I talk to the first girl? I want to be safe and respectful too. But it all seems different in my late 30’s. In my 20’s I would never even ask or care if a woman slept with other men since were not together just dating. Nor was I aske…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:18 PM
1

Lol. I can’t even start my hoe phase. Everyone wants to lock me down. I literally just got out of a long prison bid with my ex. Maybe it’s my age. Im 37. How old are you? Not too many women in their 30’s and 40’s who are just down to be FWB. Unless they also were recently divorced. Not sure though. What’s your experience?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:09 PM
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I’m 37 so I wouldn’t say many at my age. But I’m sure they’re out there somewhere. Just the caliber I’m looking for it’s going to be like finding a needle in a haystack.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:05 PM
2

True. It was odd to me since we just met and she was very open to sex after the date. But now all of a sudden it’s a no go if we’re not exclusive. How do you know I’m not sleeping with anyone now? I’m not but we didn’t even have the conversation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:04 PM
1

I respect it. But personally I’m not committing to anyone I barely know. And definitely not marrying someone I don’t know if I’m sexually compatible with.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:00 PM
0

Very true. I’m not even thinking about dating. We just met for drinks and it went from there. I’m not even ready for the constant communication she wanted. So I’m glad we talked like adults and moved on. I respect her boundaries and being upfront. But it just made me wonder since it was after we had sex.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:58 PM
2

I never got an attitude. Or had any communication issues. We communicated like adults. I just felt like someone with those kind of rules and boundaries wouldn’t sleep with basically a stranger the first night. Then the next day say if you want to see me or sleep with me again it has to be exclusive between us. I just said no thanks. I wasn’t even looking to date at all. Back to working on myself and enjoying life.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:56 PM
2

I’m not. I’m done. I feel it’s a let me give him an ultimatum if he wants this again. But I really don’t care is what she doesn’t know.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:53 PM
3

Exactly. Rather just focus on myself and keep improving mentally and physically.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:52 PM
1

Exactly. I’m cautious also. But to be basically in another relationship right now is just not in my plans. Rather go back to Handgela and my side piece the gym lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:51 PM
1

I respect it actually. Just doesn’t seem right with the timing of us just meeting and me going through a divorce currently. We spoke like adults and moved forward amicably.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:50 PM
5

I rather not lie. Then I have to look behind my back every date. We live close by. Rather just have an understanding. The evil part is I realized most women would want to end the situation when they hear I’m sleeping with other women. Realized I could use that to make them stop dealing with me if I lost interest smh. This is too much. Why did my ex wife have to be CooCoo for Cocoa Puffs lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:49 PM
1

I was. I’m not ready for that at all. Not even to run through all of these women. Just for my own mental peace and freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:46 PM
0

I actually have the same values. I don’t sleep around. It’s just my situation. I’m getting out of a terrible marriage where I was controlled and manipulated. Didn’t see my friends and family for years. So to be in another exclusive situation is a no go for me. Rather just continue focusing on myself. The daily calls and texts were already annoying. So I knew I wasn’t ready. And it’s been only a week.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:45 PM
0

I’m completely lost also. I’ve been working out heavy and getting a lot of attention from the ladies. So the first woman I slept with wanted us to be exclusive. Do I deal with that every time now? The first one I connect with wins the spot? I have no idea.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:40 PM
3

I don’t know. But we literally haven’t know each other more than 7 days. So I didn’t know if that’s how things work lol. Because I’m just recovering mentally from the marriage. No way do I see myself in something exclusive.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:38 PM
2

Very true. I’m one who takes both very seriously also so it get it. But those kind of people don’t sleep with someone 5 hours after meeting them lol. So I blame both of us. Yea I’m done. But she still contacting me saying let’s be friends, she really likes me a lot Which is even more confusing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:35 PM
2

Very true. The reason it felt like that was because we just met. Had sex the first date last Friday. Never even got that deep into those kind of discussions since we moved way too fast. But now all of a sudden, if I want to get back inside I need to be exclusive after we already had sex. Someone with those strict boundaries wouldn’t be that easy to sleep with in the first place IMO. The date was dope and drinks were involved so no judgement. But just seems off to me. So I respectfully declined.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:34 PM
3

Exactly. My thoughts. I’m in Atlanta and the women are way outnumbering me every event I go to. To choose one to be with sounds crazy. Especially since I’ve been working out like crazy and improving my looks the last 6 months. But I get their mindset. It’s dangerous out here with STD’s and HIV.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:29 PM
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True. I have to navigate this. Because I do want to start back being intimate with someone I’m dating. But I’m not ready to just be with that one person and ignore all the other potential women out here. Until I can know them more and make a decision. I’m not at all a player. But I did want to date. Just oblivious to how it works.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:27 PM
-1

True eventually. But do I just stick to the first woman I start dating and sleeping with? It’s been a while. I wanted to see what’s out here. Not just be in a situationship with the first woman I start sleeping with. Man it’s tough. Because I’m the same. Don’t have any kids or diseases for a reason.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:25 PM
2

Lol. So true. I’m really not even looking to date. I just hate to be boxed in and in a committed situation before I’m even officially out of this last one. I’ve been enjoying not having to check in, call, text, plan dates, and overall just give my time and attention to any woman. But I do miss the sex and companionship. But I’d rather say no thanks respectfully and move on. I’m sure I could still sleep with her with the way I performed lol. But I wouldn’t even play games with her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:23 PM
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Thanks. Great info. I respect her boundaries. I really am shocked how many woman are after me as a soon to be divorced man. I thought I would be like damaged goods. But it’s been crazy how many women are reaching out or not caring at all that I’m going through a divorce. Maybe it’s like a hey. He was committed for 5 years with no cheating scandals. He’s a good man. He can marry me. But that’s the farthest things from my mind right now. Yea. I’m bouncing. She did mention let’s be friends. I didn’…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:20 PM
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Exactly what I did. No thanks. I guess what threw me off is we had sex the first date (Last Friday) and the ultimatum was asked for after the wild night not before. It’s only been a week. But I respect the honesty and clarity. Just not for me right now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:15 PM
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She’s just saying if I want to date her and have sex while we’re dating, it would have to be exclusive between us. It’s only been a week. Nothing deep yet. That’s why I think it’s a manipulation tactic. Thinking I’ll say ok to get sex. But I literally just got out of a 5 year relationship. 4 married. No thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:13 PM
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Exactly my thoughts. She’s been riding the cock carousel the last few years. And doesn’t want to get pumped and dumped. Sorry for the red pill talk lol. Been binging female mindset videos and it’s so accurate it’s crazy. But I admit the rage part is extreme. I get it. But why put that kind of restriction on someone who’s newly free. I just said no thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:11 PM
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Lol. F her. Might want to look at your close boys. She’s probably looking for revenge. 👀
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 04:04 PM
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That’s deep. She did have a few cuties in her circle. But even with all my bitterness, resentment, and red pill rage I don’t think I would do that. That’s evil bro. Even more diabolical, her mom absolutely loves me. And reached out basically supporting me and calling her daughter a selfish idiot. That would be wild to rearrange the guts of the ex MIL. But I don’t have it in me. Super sweet and aged like a fine wine too. 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 12:30 PM
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Lol. Very stupid. The only thing is I’m a therapist and we do remote sessions with our clients. So I don’t have to see her at the office daily. She complimented my shirt in the DM’s during group supervision meetings on zoom. Then sent her number to “give feedback on a client I had” I was just enjoying the attention. Didn’t fully get what was going on until I was in her house taking shots that weekend. Apparently she had been crushing on me in our weekly meetings for a while. I think women are ho…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 12:25 PM
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Thanks man. I just met another woman today through a friend. She wanted to get together this weekend. I didn’t know it was this easy. I was married for 4 years. Good to know I still have it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 05:22 AM
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Me too. She said let’s go out and I immediately thought about being seen in public with her. Time to have that talk.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 12:05 AM
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Exactly. Saddest part is she’s much kinder and calmer. What I need after being treated like shit. But I still need a certain level of attraction.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 10:03 PM
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Lol. I feel your pain. The girl I was with had no ass and a little belly. Where my ex had a fatty and a flatter stomach. It’s tough. But we’ll survive bro.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 08:29 PM
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It’s weird to even kiss a new person. Never mind doing the whole nasty lol. The worst part is now the constant contact. I was so much enjoying not having to check on our reach out to anyone when I didn’t want to.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 05:52 PM
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Exactly my experience. Way shorter than my ex. I had to fake an orgasm just to protect her. Because we were literally going at it for hours smh. I don’t know if it’s the condom, it was looser, or my porn increased too much since the separation. But it was super weird. I wasn’t even close. Not even that contraction you get that you’re close and to go harder. Plus she was getting hers from penetration way more than my ex did so that made me feel like a boss lol.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 05:49 PM
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Yea man. That was a crazy experience. Felt good to have sex and be wanted. I can’t count how many times she orgasmed. But it was a no go for me. Not even close. Don’t know if it was mental or physical. I was also drunk.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 06:53 AM
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I agree with this. Ex kept the dog even though I did 90% of the feeding, walking, training, vet visits etc. I realized how much of a burden and responsibility it was. Now I literally do whatever I want. No going home to feed and let him out right after work. I can travel without stressing about boarding. Don’t think I even want a pet anymore. I can play with the dogs if friends and girls I’m dating for a minute then back to no responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:50 AM
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I had sex with a coworker last weekend. Been separated 6 months. Not divorced yet. Couldn’t even cum at all. The angles were off, the vagina feeling was different, condom sex was just weird. Head was different, skin wasn’t as soft. I’m 36 and have been having sex since I was 16. Never have I gotten head and vagina and couldn’t cum at all. She loved it since I was just stroking away for hours smh. I eventually faked an orgasm just to stop the madness lol. Now she’s blowing me up for more, but I r…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:17 AM
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Thank you. I’m happy. Just trying to get focused on work and meet my goals.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 05:05 PM
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Thanks man. I’m feeling good just have to stay strong and enjoy life.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:27 AM
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Lol. Exactly. It’s crazy. I’ll never get married again. Completely lost myself.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 09:19 PM
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Exactly. I’m looking for anything I can find that was started within the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 05:59 PM
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I wanted us both to sign and file to make It easier. But I’m going to have to file on my own. We don’t have any kids or assets. So just the split of the 25k debt. We were together 5 years but only married for 3. Her family is very wealthy so I don’t think she would come after me for alimony, but I’ll get prepared. Thanks for the input.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:23 PM
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Definitely not. Most of that was her ridiculous spending. I paid off all my credit cards to buy the house and have the right debt to income ratio. She maxed them out behind my back after I begged her to not use them. My credit went from a 760 to a 590. Plus she tried to tell me well the cards are in your name and I was just an authorized user. I removed my name. So it’s on you…. No sweetheart. It’s both of ours to split. You for being a spendaholic and me being a Simp to make you happy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:08 PM
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True. But that’s not my problem. I never understood why people stay divorced for years until now. I didn’t ask for a separation. I want to be divorced fully. We’ll see.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:03 PM
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Thanks. I feel so much happier and free now. My last check Friday went straight into my new bank account. Only spent $50 on groceries and hygiene. Feeling amazing. That would have been blown by the ex in under a week.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:00 PM
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Exactly. I’m more pissed at myself for allowing so much disrespect and undisciplined spending. But I wanted to make her happy, and didn’t understand I was being manipulated, gaslight, and lied to so much. I was really starting to lose my own mental health recently. Not understanding what I did wrong or why her mind was thinking in such a bizarre way.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 03:59 PM
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Definitely. I’m not even interested in dating for a good while. I saw the post about waiting a year. Seems extreme since I’ve always had consistent sex. But makes sense. But I don’t think I’ll ever get married again. I lost everything and almost lost myself.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 03:56 PM
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Exactly. That’s my saving grace. And that my debt isn’t something astronomical. She really couldn’t believe we have to split our shared debt since she’s not working.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 03:54 PM
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Thanks man. I don’t understand why not sign so we can both move on. She’s with her family. I’m with mine. Nothing to talk about but splitting the shared debt. Probably can’t believe I would ever stand up for myself and leave and never contact her again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:56 AM
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I’m in GA too. Get out as soon as possible. I had to sell my dream home to keep up with her spending. Now I have nothing. And she spent the money from the sale. Get out and split what you can while it’s not too late.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:24 AM
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