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This was helpful thanks. What I gained just from reading this post is that even though I always respected the word no, I can use it to move forward, and not just to give up. So when they say no, I can commend them for their assertiveness and then I can suggest something else instead of giving up. After reading this, it sounds like I DON'T know how to respect the word no lol. All I mean is, I will suggest one or two more things that are less of a commitment, and if that doesn't work, then at leas…
/r/seduction26/10/20 01:23 AM
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I was once trying to get a waitress to chat with me. I asked her like 4 questions in a row, and she answered them all bluntly. She walked away, back to the shop(we were at the outside patio). I followed her(BAD idea!!). She went behind the bar area and started crying and her boss asked me to leave. I was walking back to my car and her boss jogged to catch up to me, to ask me if I would not ever come back because I creeped her out so badly. I felt like a leper. I was so horrifying to her that she…
/r/seduction25/10/20 03:58 AM
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Hey thanks for this. I ended up watching three of his videos about texting. I really liked them, and I don't disagree with any of it. But man, I really have some hangups with a lot of it. He is extremely vapid and inauthentic. The women he is attracting would have to be equally so. Which won't work for me. I mean, how is he going to attract a woman that is getting a graduate degree and is actually basing her life on what she values? He's just going to be like, "haha let's drink wine and I'll mas…
/r/seduction25/10/20 03:41 AM
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Oh yes. I have professional photos that are all 9/10 on photofeeler. I have a short but authentic profile which some women have said they really liked. And I always message with something fun from their profile. And after two messages, three if I'm lucky, they ghost. I really can't think of anything more I can do.
/r/seduction24/10/20 02:46 PM
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Oh if only I knew that! I can tell you that I am definitely not the boring one in these interactions. I don't think they're interested from the start. And apps are just filled with time-wasters. There is no way to get these women chasing me if they're the ones closing the door. Oh well. On to the next as they say.
/r/seduction24/10/20 02:32 PM
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I am all about this, and I am getting much better at it. But I often find myself wishing that the woman was doing the same thing. If I'm the only one acting that way, and she is still acting cold and distant...well...what then? It starts immediately like on a first date. We meet for the first time, and their hug is always pathetic. Like, I want a warm hug from someone that I want to treat like an old friend, but they always give the most half-ass cold hugs. How do you warm them up to match your …
/r/seduction24/10/20 03:10 AM
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Does he need to make it very clear that he is asking her out on a date? If he says "hang out" for example, she will think they're being friends hanging out.
/r/seduction24/10/20 03:04 AM
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I like this post--I think it is so important. I agree. The part that rang true for me was the lack of texting. So as I set a boundary not to chase them...I simply never hear from them again. Do you have a suggestion for making that boundary clear to them instead of just staying silent, waiting for them to respond which they never do?
/r/seduction24/10/20 02:38 AM
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Omg this reminds me of a time in 7th grade when a girl I thought was cute finally talked to me. After just a minute or less, she said that I reminded her of her Dad lol. I am very thoughtful and introverted so I guess I act old.
/r/seduction20/10/20 03:31 AM
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I was all on board with your way of thinking. But when I was 30, I hit on some college girls at my gym. After a little banter, I think when they were deciding if I was worth getting to know, they asked how old I am. I said I'm 30. That was the end of it. They didn't like it. That happened 3x in a row. I know 3 isn't a big sample size but it seemed pretty clear to me! They were all 21 iirc
/r/seduction18/10/20 09:49 PM
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Hah okay I can work with this...ty..
/r/seduction18/10/20 09:48 PM
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This is what I was looking for but...I just can't be that joker guy doing comedy routines. It's just too...unauthentic. I guess I will just say 38 and then change the subject.
/r/seduction16/10/20 11:40 PM
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It's not that I am looking at the age in particular. Rather, I would like it to be an option because I can't be picky where I am. My city is 10k people and average age of 58. If some young women show up, well...that's what I got to work with. Okay so...what does not making it a big deal sound like when she asks? How old are you? I just say 38 all deadpan?
/r/seduction16/10/20 11:38 PM
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I get that. I can work on that, and I will ignore it. But that doesn't help if she asks. If she asks, then what?
/r/seduction16/10/20 11:36 PM
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Okay well what are those answers? And what shit tests?
/r/seduction16/10/20 11:35 PM
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Jesus christ, can't she tell you're doing a bit?
/r/seduction16/10/20 03:06 AM
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I still remember this time a bank teller told me that I smelled good. I laughed and said it can't be me, it must be the guy behind me or something(I didn't put on anything aromatic). And I went on with my business with her and left. Like 10 minutes later, I was like wait...ohhhhhhh...snap. haha.
/r/seduction12/10/20 02:15 AM
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For sure. I get you, thanks meng.
/r/seduction11/10/20 03:25 PM
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tyvm, will do. I feel like I need to smile because if I don't, I feel like I am glaring instead of gazing. But I think that's in my head.
/r/seduction11/10/20 02:54 PM
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I like this. I will try it. Thanks!
/r/seduction11/10/20 02:53 PM
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Man, I can relate to the way you were raised fucking you up. I was raised by Christian shaming bullshit. My head was filled with such toxic shame. I was told that looking at a woman and feeling attracted was lust, and therefore a sin, and therefore worth burning in hell for all eternity in the opinion of the most merciful deity imaginable. Ugh. Will take me a lifetime to unlearn it all.
/r/seduction05/10/20 03:47 AM
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I appreciate your response, thank you. You're right, I don't want to do most of those things. I wish I didn't want women. I would be much happier being monk-like. And I could be, if I wasn't exposed to sensual reminders constantly. If I lived in a monastery.
/r/seduction01/11/19 04:11 AM
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Hi, thanks for the post because it helps reassure me. I have studied Buddhism for about 6 years now. I use my awareness every chance that I remember--standing in line, talking to people, doing my work. I have embraced authenticity and I have no fears in being vulnerable. I contemplate no-self and that our reality is an illusion, etc--my point being that I really don't fear being authentic since it is all ego-shit anyway. But I can tell you, none of it has helped me make friends or attract women.…
/r/seduction31/10/19 01:44 AM
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Thank you. Really appreciate it. Hah geez...this will be a miracle lol. wish me luck.
/r/seduction24/09/19 12:57 AM
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I guess your point is that intelligence won't get you far without game. You're right \=. I didn't say ALL women would like a smart, shy man. But some. Anyway, I went on to explain that yes, women are obsessed with confidence.
/r/seduction25/04/19 05:05 AM
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This whole thing about, "everyone likes confidence"--I'm really not sure where that came from. People just seem to parrot it. There are plenty of shy women out there that are adorable. They lack confidence completely. So what? She can still be very attractive. And shy men? Sure, maybe they're mysterious and brooding, or maybe they're hella smart. Maybe they can cure cancer but they sure as hell would never do a seminar on stage. I guarantee you that man will be attractive to plenty of women. BUT…
/r/seduction25/04/19 03:12 AM
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This is the best answer so far as I can tell.
/r/seduction25/04/19 03:03 AM
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Haha yeah man, I could feel the elation from seeing that receipt. Very cool.
/r/seduction03/02/19 04:49 PM
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Thank you for validating my difficulty instead of telling me I am causing it myself by being lazy or not trying hard enough to be extroverted. OLD seems like the most brilliant solution for introverts. A worldwide, life-altering, matchmaking miracle. It really could be. But it is a travesty unfortunately. I may continue down that avenue. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/seduction30/01/19 02:18 AM
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Thanks for your feedback. I have switched to asking for help in r/introvert because no one else seems to understand what I'm talking about. Hopefully they will!
/r/seduction27/01/19 04:08 AM
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Go watch that guy RSD Tyler or whatever that everyone loves. He's great for extroverts don't get me wrong. I like the guy from what I've seen. But he freely admits that he is talking about absolutely nothing...just bullshitting. It is meaningless by all definitions of the word. As objectively as you can get, the flirting that you would recommend is meaningless. I would love to hear by what standard, that bullshitting about some inane, arbitrary fiction that sounds cocky/funny is relatively meani…
/r/seduction27/01/19 02:41 AM
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I don't know what to say except...no one gets it. More advice about how I should be more of an extrovert and learn to have fun. Energy is not the only limitation for an introvert. Otherwise, introverts would be party animals when they did have energy. We're not bipolar. We don't turn into extroverts when we're not tired like werewolves. I can't be an extrovert even when I have energy. I will never like talking for the sake of talking. "the focus is about the interaction itself" will always be th…
/r/seduction26/01/19 10:00 PM
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Now you're gettin' it! It is absolutely a chore for introverts to do any of this. Talking to strangers in a non-meaningful way is about the most draining and horrible thing one has to endure. That is why we hate small talk and mingling and networking events and all that shit. I guess I will read more about asd. It's like they're from another planet...still...25 years later after I first said that lol.
/r/seduction26/01/19 04:39 PM
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I assume you are an extrovert. I really don't know what introverts are supposed to do. Everything on this sub is like a lesson in torture for introverts. I will never be excited to walk up to a stranger and endure her treating me like a leper out of instinct, and then forcing myself to embody some other personality that she will like better. There must be a way for introverts to meet women. We have all the best qualities except for ONE. The ONE thing they want most, to be able to flirt with them…
/r/seduction26/01/19 04:46 AM
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How can you be sure this theory about ASD is true? We have all heard it spread around, but I don't see any studies about it. I don't see any videos of women professing its accuracy. It's like any urban myth than can spread like wildfire. I'm supposed to wanna put MORE effort into a woman that is apparently rejecting me. That is ridiculous.
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:16 AM
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You talk about this like it makes perfectly logical sense haha. It makes no sense man. The concept of high value and low value is used a lot, right? Well, how is continuing to try to talk to a woman that apparently doesn't want to talk to you, and in fact APPEARS to suspect that you might have leprosy, how is that high value? I'm not going to jump through hoops for someone that doesn't even want to talk to me. Wouldn't that be quintessentially low value?
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:09 AM
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So...having bad body posture and walking a certain way is a positive correlation to being dangerously mentally unstable? Do you really think that would hold up in a study? And that is exactly my point; a handsome man that is walking unattractively can be creepy because she doesn't find him attractive. How in the fuck is walking unattractively creepy? You're telling me he's, "walking creepily"? A man is nervous talking to a woman, which 97% of men are(in fact it is a perfectly normal, evolutionar…
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:06 AM
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But what are these creeps doing that is so bad? I don't get it. Honestly, I don't know why the word creepy is used like it is the decades #1 most favorite word. Are there really guys coming up to them salivating and telling them they want to rub honey all over them? I don't think so. The fact is that anything a man does which a woman doesn't like, is creepy. So when you say they're approached by creeps, that just means they're approached by men they are not attracted to.
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:25 AM
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Yes, you are right. Well said. You're a sharp fellow. I like your last paragraph especially. If you pointed that out to some of those nice guys, I wonder if that would illuminate it for them because it really is very sound logic! If everyone has a different radar setting for when they are taken advantage of, then how does one know their setting is appropriate? I guess that is when you tell friends about it, and in their unbiased position, they can tell you if you're being mistreated.
/r/seduction23/01/19 03:21 AM
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Doing what someone else wants, rather than getting what you want is low value. Man, I have a really hard time finding my place. I think it is a tightrope and I dunno what to do. I like that you recommend doing it all within your own personality, but my personality is 180 degrees from a lot of this mentality though. I would call myself a layman Buddhist so I don't need to be celibate, but I definitely believe in serving others, being compassionate, selfless, humble, and kind. Doing for others is …
/r/seduction22/01/19 02:57 AM
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Love the 5th grader basketball analogy! Every cell in my body is saying, wait but that's stupid...why do we have to play games. But...I am trying to tell that voice to shut up.
/r/seduction19/01/19 02:11 AM
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I will, thanks. Deliberate practice was the basis of a book I read called Talent is Overrated. The author pointed out that even Mozart, who is famously credited with being born with talent, actually became good because of 10,000 hours of practice like anyone else. He had already practiced that much by age 16. p.s. The problem I see is that what I want to improve is not easily broken down and laid out in a plan. What steps does one take to stop feeling inferior? There are no such steps. I would h…
/r/seduction29/12/18 10:58 PM
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You right, you right. I'm on it.
/r/seduction29/12/18 03:38 AM
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I don't disagree. But dang. How long is it going to take to overwrite 20 years of this shit I've been doing? In theory, it should take 21 years!
/r/seduction29/12/18 01:09 AM
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Okay. I have nothing against you mind you but I am curious--what do you do that works? And what do you mean by works? You get more women by walking like a gorilla?
/r/seduction04/12/18 04:38 AM
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This was an interesting show! So does watching this show actually make you guys want to do more of the alpha stuff? Because it makes me want to do less, and focus on being a better person. The alpha is simply whomever is the most loud, obnoxious, asshole. And it seems to prove that alphas are simple-minded buffoons. Can someone have leadership qualities and courage and not be a loud annoying douchebag?
/r/seduction03/12/18 02:31 AM
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Okay. Well I'm glad it works for you.
/r/seduction03/11/18 01:59 AM
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I gotcha. Makes sense thanks for the clarification.
/r/seduction03/11/18 01:56 AM
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Ugh. This is ridiculous. It's like you can't hear yourselves. If this is what Models is teaching, then it is just self deception--deluding yourself. So let me get this straight: when you are talking to a girl, and you choose that you like her, and ask her out, and she says no...then you are choosing not to go out with her? Okay...sure.
/r/seduction02/11/18 11:42 PM
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Hey. I take your point but...one bit of confusion; how does it show that you're a high value dude and she needs to step up her game? Like, who does it show that to? Are you going to tell her? "Hey I don't like that you're acting cool even though you're only doing it because that's what you know and you're doing your best, oh and I don't like when you talk to other guys even though you're not my girlfriend. You see, I expect better from women I hardly know". If you don't tell her, and you simply …
/r/seduction02/11/18 11:39 PM
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Well that is great to hear! Me too. I joined MeetMindful and talked to a few cool people but it didn't lead to any meetings which was disappointing. I'm not going to renew it. Any more advice from a Buddhist woman?(I don't call myself Buddhist and you may not either). How is your self-compassion coming along? I understand a lot of intellectually--that life is merely our egos interacting with each other--our small selves, and therefore taking anything personally(like rejection) is irrational. But…
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:24 AM
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I'll look for it. Thx. Are you into spirituality? Buddhism?
/r/seduction27/10/18 09:32 PM
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Hah okay. That is all I do. No woman has ever appreciated it much less anything "af". I believe you, obviously you're not lying, but...you're the only one?
/r/seduction27/10/18 09:14 PM
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I appreciate your kind and mature responses. You are articulate and intelligent. Nice to see. I am 5'6". I am 5'7" with shoes on. I think this is a problem sometimes, maybe even a lot of the times. But not ALL the time. I believe my lack of success was exactly what you said: I walked up and told her she's cute and asked her out--it doesn't matter how confidently I do it--she doesn't know me and there is no rapport. There is no attraction. The only reason she would say yes is if I am smolderingly…
/r/seduction16/09/18 03:43 PM
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I appreciate your willingness to help me understand. But I have to disagree about the specific interaction being irrelevant, since it could be applied in principle all the time. I see your point but I disagree. You don't think I thought to myself, "what if she says yes and likes me", before I asked for those phone numbers? Of course I did, or I would have never done it. No one has ever asked out a girl without thinking it might work. That is how it works by definition. So saying positive things …
/r/seduction07/09/18 12:11 AM
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Hmm. This is good advice. But. I have asked hundreds of women for their numbers in 30 sec and have never gotten one number ever. That is because there is no rapport. She knows nothing about me. I could be boring, or a rapist. But you say you got a number in 30 sec? If you can get numbers in 30 sec from beautiful women, then you don't represent 99.9% of the rest of us normal guys, sorry to say. How the hell did you do it unless you're a lot better looking than you think you are?
/r/seduction04/09/18 01:31 AM
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Yes. I suppose it is a necessary irritation. And you're right, I would hope it would subside after a little time. But if she kept doing it through the years--ugh that would just drive me nuts. Is it a thing where they actually like misbehaving so we can be stern with them? Like a submissive/dominant thing? That could be fun but it would get exhausting.
/r/seduction16/08/18 03:04 AM
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lol yes that sounds right.
/r/seduction16/08/18 03:00 AM
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I would love for this to work. No girls look at me lol. Fat ones do.
/r/seduction15/08/18 04:13 AM
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These are all good ideas. Supermarkets like Whole Foods and Trader Joes have healthier people.
/r/seduction15/08/18 04:11 AM
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I think it's just a matter of numbers. When I worked in retail, the customers were just faceless. I couldn't remember them an hour later. I never really saw them. If you're approaching a lot of girls for 60 seconds or less, they are like faceless customers. That's not some kind of shallow thing. The brain can only focus on so much.
/r/seduction15/08/18 04:08 AM
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Am I the only one that finds this behavior embarrassingly juvenile on the part of women? I'm not into hooking up. I am here to learn to find a good woman. So I find this behavior ridiculous. I expect a woman to act like a woman, not a little girl. A good woman would automatically give me the respect I deserve and want to have good times. We would be building each other up, exploring our spirituality, our intimacy, our work for bettering ourselves and the world. Why would a woman spend her time a…
/r/seduction15/08/18 04:02 AM
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Man. This shit is why I feel ashamed for talking to women and being attracted to them. Why do they make us feel like this? Do they want to be left all alone until they die??
/r/seduction15/08/18 03:56 AM
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This is my question as well. Because I see it like this: Everyone will tell you that you need to do some accomplishment that will build your self-esteem. But wait a minute, we are supposed to feel worthy as we are. We are worthy inherently. If you are DOING things to feel better, then you are merely treating the symptom of feeling low compared to others and looking for peace outwardly. Peace comes from within. If you can feel worthy inherently, then you are onto something. But how is this done? …
/r/seduction12/08/18 02:31 AM
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That's amazing. Well done sir. I mean, if you're looking to sleep with someone who is easy, I think you pretty much got the ticket.
/r/seduction12/08/18 02:19 AM
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Hmm yeah I would have to agree this negative generalization is just that--a negative generalization. Even if it is info that is rehashed, the rehashing part is exactly what can make it useful for someone. Things need to be put in different wordings to click with people. That is why there is not just one successful pua coach, but hundreds or more. Tell your buddy to keep going if he thinks he can help people and make a living off of it.
/r/seduction11/08/18 04:26 AM
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You're here. Idk if the answers are really here but that's not the point. You know something is not working and you're taking steps to improve. You are already winning my man. You are so young that you are going to be golden just keep going bro honestly.
/r/seduction11/08/18 04:10 AM
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Serious? This could be a really fun idea lol. Can you elaborate? If the time is up, what do you?
/r/seduction11/08/18 04:09 AM
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Geez not everyone does this. Sounds like sex addiction to me? Maybe you should talk to a professional. I hope you're using a lot of protective measures.
/r/seduction11/08/18 01:47 AM
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Yes it does. I just have to do it enough until it starts to feel like it is me. Appreciate the reply.
/r/seduction10/08/18 11:38 PM
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Great stuff. Thank you. The most evocative line in the whole thing for me is that soccer Mom judging me. I feel a potent sense of shame for being a man--for hitting on a woman, for talking to a woman. For wanting a woman. Isn't that sad? I feel like I am not supposed to do it, or even want to do it. It's really fucking sad. How did this happen?? I know I'm not the only one. Maybe this is was an inevitable shit test that naturally manifested like as if through natural selection. If it is women's …
/r/seduction10/08/18 05:01 AM
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Haha I did that just yesterday. This is the sad thing though. I wasn't shopping. I wasn't "surprised" to see an attractive woman. I was sitting outside Whole Foods WAITING and hoping to see an attractive woman. And I still did it! Argghh.
/r/seduction10/08/18 04:51 AM
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My favorite bit was the line about incongruity. I wonder if that is my main problem. I feel like I have to literally become someone else to talk confidently to an attractive woman, like the movie Mask. I have to magically transform into a pua werewolf. I don't know how to assimilate "that guy" into my identity. That's just not who I am, in my mind. No idea how to do this.
/r/seduction10/08/18 04:11 AM
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This is interesting. You sound like a complex person. And not in a bad way really, but I am sorry that it is causing you suffering. You do realize that it's perfectly okay to wait and find a woman you really love, right? You don't HAVE to have casual sex with anyone. And if you fall in love with someone, your "inexperience" won't mean shit. You will both be vulnerable with each other and do it together.
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:46 AM
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Her hair will grow back fast enough bro. If you don't really like her, then why would you even want to see her?
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:43 AM
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Can you share your favorite parts so far?
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:41 AM
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Man I wish I had a brother like you. I have a brother 8 years older than me that is good with women. He never once helped me with shit. I mean, he could have changed my whole life! Yeah just keep caring about him and probe for what might help. Getting him out. Asking him about his negative thoughts. Telling him that if he sees someone he likes, you'll go chat her up and then introduce him, tell them what they have in common and then say you have to go take a dump, etc.
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:40 AM
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It is a contradiction in terms to say you're an introvert and you have a great night small-talking to people that will never be your friends. Sorry, you're not.
/r/seduction10/08/18 03:35 AM
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Yep, I've had to learn this the hard and long way. Women are attracted to what causes attraction. That sounds dumb, but the simplicity is probably what makes it so hard to believe/understand. You don't need a great job or money, or looks, or even to be a good person ffs! You don't even need any traits at all. All you have to do is make them attracted to you. The thing is, they have no freaking clue what that is. They are so clueless that a lot of women will call what we talk about here total bol…
/r/seduction09/08/18 03:39 AM
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But you work there bro. You're more of an insider than they are. Maybe you just need to make your own tonality. For example, the word "just" has a tonality to it, doesn't it? Are you proud of what you do? If not so much, are you working toward something better? Maybe say something like, "yeah, I work here, it's a great place to work, how do you like it? I dunno I suck at talking to women, but I know you can certainly react to this better! More positive.
/r/seduction09/08/18 03:31 AM
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holy shit are you kidding me?? I would literally pay your asian mom to help me with that exact thing. You got it for free. Research some text game but yeah dang, don't complain!
/r/seduction09/08/18 03:26 AM
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I almost didn't respond because I don't feel qualified. I am not good at talking to women either. But I also have depression. And I'm so glad to hear the things you have done man. Good job. Continue to try to be happy for yourself, by yourself. No girl will make you happy. She can add to it, and be a bonus, but only you can be at peace. From another anxious fellow, I would certainly wanna start smaller!
/r/seduction09/08/18 03:23 AM
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That's very true. I could use some deletes!
/r/seduction09/08/18 12:35 AM
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Ok we're cool :)
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:50 AM
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This is judgment-free zone right? We all start somewhere and such? Okay. Well. I asked this waitress a bunch of questions because she kept giving me short ass answers lol. I musta asked like 10 fucking things. She left. A couple nearby said, don't get down buddy, just be persistent, and the wife said that is how her husband got her, by being persistent. Well. I thought about it. I was willing to try anything. Not in a desperate way, but in a "I'm open minded and willing to try" kinda way. Well, …
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:38 AM
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How did you come to be able to endure rejections like that? If that was said to me once, it would crush me for years probably. I have been rejected many times but never like that thank god. A shoulder pat for you buddy.
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:31 AM
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Man. How ever did you come to endure such a thing? I would rather be shot in the heart. How do you think it is a reflection of her? Not that I disagree. You mean it shows she is a judgmental and arrogant bitch?
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:30 AM
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I found this to be really ignorant and insensitive man. You do realize people come from allll kinds of different backgrounds? People are all different geez. Chill out.
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:27 AM
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Yeah man talk to her again if you see her and make her your friend. She must have single friends at the very least. I'm not sure the long game strategy really is ideal though. Like chatting with her multiple times when you luckily see her. Man, that is some long game. Who has time for that? That is way too much work just to find out she has a bf or doesn't like you. I think you did it right. I m still really confused by all the conflicting advice. On the one hand, I see the merit in being direct…
/r/seduction08/08/18 03:11 AM
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Yeah it is amazing how a good conversation can warm you up. Honestly, everyone needs warm-up. You should just do it every time you go to the mall. I have gotten to where you are at and then man did I hit a wall. And then I hit over and over again. And that is that I can straight up say, "hi you're cute, do you wanna go out some time?". But that gets me NADA. I have NEVER gotten a number that way. I never will. Because I'm still a rando and she knows nothing about me. So how do you turn the conve…
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:55 AM
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Absolutely none. In fact, quite the opposite. That is why I describe my qualities as intangibles. I don't know how to showcase how great I am if I blow it in the first 10 seconds. And my experience has been that I do NOT have what women want. But I know that is not true. They never have a chance to know me.
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:45 AM
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Your problem is that you're afraid to ask out the hot women that have already said they're attracted to you through an app?? It's true, a lot of them match and ignore you. But shit. What a good problem to have geez louise. I was interested in your subject line because I was thinking the other day that I would have no approach anxiety if I could put on magic glasses that made someone look ugly. I would spot her, then throw on the glasses, and I could bullshit with her fine! It's retarded. I dunno…
/r/seduction07/08/18 03:14 AM
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This is awesome. I am going to read it all a few more times. I might send you a message eventually. "detail every reason you want to fuck her" had me laughing bro. What a poignant way to show my misunderstanding with reductio ad absurdum lol.
/r/seduction06/08/18 03:34 AM
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Good responses. I appreciate it, and I am going to be open-minded about it. I was primed by other things I have heard in the past. There was a dating guru I used to read from named Adam Gilad. He used to talk about being the man so that women can be free to...be free. The man can plan the dates, do the logical stuff, and be stable and reliable so the woman is free to be the ocean of emotions she is. So I am ready to learn more about it. Right on. Later!
/r/seduction05/08/18 08:34 PM
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I know. It is hard to believe. Imagine how I feel. I will tell you the facts. You can decide which one played a role in the rejections. 1) A lot of them were in San Francisco where the girls may be looking for above-average men. 2) I am 5'6". 5'7.5" with shoes on. 3) I am not only short but petite. Women have called me petite before, despite the fact they will also call me athletic and well-built. I guess I am like a ninja-warrior. I am athletic and muscular because I work out quite a lot but my…
/r/seduction05/08/18 05:33 AM
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Hey bud. Thanks for the info. Appreciate it. I am not opposed to what you're saying. Your answers make sense. But I want to think and judge for myself so you have to bare with me. I am definitely a believer in eliminating one's ego. We have no selves really anyway. "We" are merely products, programs. But my ego, my thinking, is the only way I can avoid being lead around by cultists. So anyway, my thoughts are telling me to be wary of what implications this actually could have on an average woman…
/r/seduction05/08/18 05:26 AM
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Okay. I can't disagree with any of that. I think we agree. Ideally, I can be persuasive and authentic at the same time. Sweet. Now how do I do that? Because I have no idea. My attempt to persuade you felt authentic because I merely listed reasons why I could be compared to a monk. The same way I would write it in an essay for school. It's just the facts. Which is why I would never call that an attempt to persuade you. That was an attempt to explain it to you. If you're not persuaded by facts, th…
/r/seduction05/08/18 05:10 AM
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Hey Joe. That video was terrible. But okay. You found someone with an open mind here. I like the premise. Why do the videos have to be asian music videos? And if this is about seeing women beyond how they look, why are the videos full of cute women with perfect smiles? Could we not see feminine energy from fat old women dancing? They could give off even more feminine energy because they're experienced.
/r/seduction04/08/18 02:59 AM
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Hi. Your reply sounds pretty spot on. It is a little worse than you think though. Because I have approached a few hundred girls over the last 15 years. I've never gotten one phone number. That is why my confidence is shit. The women can't see my qualities because as I said, they're intangible. They're the best fucking ones lol, but I don't get a chance to show them. So my confidence is even less than 0 because of all of the rejections. I wish I was starting from scratch at 0. My experience has s…
/r/seduction04/08/18 02:15 AM
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I appreciate the time you took for this reply. And I also read your response below this one, to JimBeam. I agree with everything you said. The fact that it requires persuasion is what turns me off of it. I am as authentic as it gets, short of being a full-time monk living in a monastery. I practice Buddhism and read a lot about giving up my 'self', being non-judgmentally aware of my ego's reactions, etc. To persuade someone of anything reeks of inauthenticity. I would be making a distinct tactic…
/r/seduction03/08/18 08:15 PM
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I see it like this; good looking men get checked out. What more advantage does one need? You already KNOW she finds you attractive. Do you know how fucking easy that would make it for me? For anyone? If you are getting signals then you have no excuses! It is dead easy! You have nothing to be unconfident about because she has already told you to talk to her. For the rest of us, we never get checked out, we have to literally go "bother" every girl we ever want to talk to. It is so much harder. It …
/r/seduction03/08/18 02:41 AM
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Hey, this is a great response. Thank you. Let's say you're right about making excuses. I could see that. Even though it really is an issue for me, maybe I am taking advantage of it as an excuse. How did you make abundance for yourself if you hate talking to strangers for no reason?
/r/seduction28/07/18 03:01 AM
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I wish all I had to do was wink! If I was you, I would go wink crazy now that I saw it worked lol
/r/seduction27/07/18 02:02 AM
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Don't you know who I am? I'm Trevor the amazing psychic. I can never think of clever things in the moment so you can forget about anything clever lol.
/r/seduction26/07/18 04:16 AM
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I'm just knit picking here. Ya know, someone has to be difficult lol. What if you make the assumption, and you are correct. But then she asks you, how did you know? Well, it turns out you didn't know because you just made it up. Now you will be caught having just made it up? If you admit you made it up, she will feel disappointed like...oh...well that intrigue is gone now...he's just using lines on me.
/r/seduction26/07/18 03:42 AM
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Yes. This is why I find the "just be confident" advice to be absolute horse shit. If you have nothing to be confident about, then you can't be confident. It's impossible. I used this analogy in another post which I think is very apt: If you shoot one hundred three point shots and you make zero of them. Then someone asks you to make a bet. He says, choose which one you want to bet on, that you will miss your next shot, or make it. You're going to bet that you're going to miss it! You are confiden…
/r/seduction26/07/18 01:07 AM
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I relate to this 100%. I was fucked up with a bunch of religious shame growing up. I literally was told that my desire for women was a sin(lust) and I would suffer beyond comprehension for all eternity. Exactly as you said though--I was given the impression that if I liked the woman for some other reason whatever the fuck it might be--ANYTHING ELSE, THEN it's okay. Wtf? Somehow my older brother turned out fine. It's like some people actually listen at church and others just ignore it? lol idk. B…
/r/seduction25/07/18 03:58 AM
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Since you are already aware of it, it should iron itself out with more practice. I agree with the Power of Now. Buddhist practices can help you understand what it means to watch yourself from a place of non-judgmental awareness. You can observe yourself and IN THE MOMENT take a breath, and last 10 seconds longer. Then the next time, 10 sec longer.
/r/seduction25/07/18 03:09 AM
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lol right?
/r/seduction25/07/18 03:00 AM
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Man. I dunno what to think here. I am conflicted. But the majority of me says you're right, and the reason I don't have more luck is because I am short/small. I am a freaking awesome person and everyone who knows me says so. But good-looking women don't ever make eye contact with me. It is like I am invisible. Much how I look right past any overweight woman. So how am I supposed to show off any of my strengths if I am invisible? What signs do you notice?
/r/seduction25/07/18 02:54 AM
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What song starts to play? lol. "The first cut is the deepest..."
/r/seduction01/07/18 04:47 AM
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