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It never stopped me from getting busy. I'm a freak, I like the girls with the boom... I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom.
/r/seduction24/01/12 09:32 AM
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Alright, I'm a brown (Asian) guy about your size, 5-7, 140ish soaking wet (years of ultimate frisbee and running sports leave me the same build as a soccer player). At this point, I've slept with a woman of most colors (white, Asian, Hispanic...). And it's true, people tend to hang out with and people tend to fuck other people they share similarities with. Thing is, your similarities run far beyond just your color. I'll read things like this, or run into dudes while going out, and I'll wonder, a…
/r/seduction10/12/11 11:34 AM
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You can be ace looking average, but having a good sense of style is never a negative and is relatively easy to improve. Why not give yourself every advantage you can get?
/r/seduction10/12/11 04:29 AM
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Good to hear man, I had no idea it would work out so quickly!
/r/seduction16/11/11 05:22 PM
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The idea that a job can provide a purpose and source of happiness is a relatively new construct. For generations and generations, people have done what they need to do to get by and found a way to cope in other parts of their life. Fact is, almost every working artist or musician today has had to work some crappy job to get by at some point. Heck, most pro athletes end up getting regular jobs when they're done playing, and just about everyone has to put up with some crap to get by. And maybe for…
/r/seduction14/11/11 11:08 PM
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Most of these are going to involve the possibility of drinking, but you don't need to participate in it to fit in. I also work a regular 9-5 and work out after work, and I'll usually have a beer or two if I'm out on a weekday, but I do need to wake up at 6 in the morning the next day (not that I get absolutely blasted on the weekends, I'm 26 after all). Social sports: agree with dave196, but with a caveat. I've played a ton of coed sports, and the quality of girls you'll meet varies greatly on t…
/r/seduction14/11/11 10:47 PM
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Moz has some great hair, but no one haircut is going to fit everyone's face. Moz has some very strong facial features and I don't think that cut would really fit someone with say, a more oval face.
/r/seduction18/10/11 10:29 PM
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Man you ate at Mel's a lot. I've been there, it's alright, I guess there's not much on that part of town that's really sit down and affordable. Skybar can be pretty cool sometimes and sometimes too douche-xclusive, but has a great view... too bad you couldn't at least get in. Voyeur is run by former UCLA backup QB David Koral from when I was in school there, which is a factoid that interests no one but me. Seems like the girls were good to you here. Glad you enjoyed my hometown! Feel free to com…
/r/seduction12/10/11 06:17 AM
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First off, don't get it in your head that girls don't like nerds, cause they do (genuine, actual, intellectual nerds, not just video game and Magic card players, though some girls dig that too). I've had many a gal pal, attractive ones at that, tell me how much they want some guy working on his PhD at physics or English or something. This is often to their detriment, cause just cause you're smart, doesn't mean you're actually fun, interesting, or even a good person, but that's a totally separate…
/r/seduction05/10/11 05:50 PM
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I'll just comment on places I've lived or have visited for a significant amount of time (long enough to go out and get the vibe). Los Angeles: the one place I've lived for a significant amount of time (also where I grew up). I've found that people in LA are actually generally nicer than most big cities once you're out the Hollywood nightclubs - if anything we're just guilty of indifference, which is good and bad. Nightlife is great, there's always something to do, diversity of culture and people…
/r/seduction23/09/11 09:46 PM
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Hermosa and Manhattan definitely have a frat bro vibe late at night, I've never seen so many people try to get into fights outside of restaurants at 3 in the morning. Santa Monica and Abbott Kinney is definitely more young professional, but if you go inland a bit to Brentwood, it's cougar city (especially around happy hour time). Hollywood is probably the most "typical" LA party experience as far as hot, high maintenance girls, while the hipster chicks in Silverlake/EP are a bit more relaxed tho…
/r/seduction21/09/11 06:42 PM
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The guys from DIOYY are regular Redditors, if it's worth anything.
/r/seduction20/09/11 10:40 PM
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You have pretty much the right idea. Get there early, and I would catch up with your acquaintances but don't stay glued to them either. Have fun, have a drink or two (if you're a drinker)... seems like this party is right size where it won't be a complete mess but isn't so small everyone knows each other already either.
/r/seduction02/08/11 10:31 PM
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And I feel fucking great! It's not like I don't know how to get here.
/r/seduction05/03/11 10:57 AM
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If you ever feel like taking over hipster Los Angeles, I'll owe you a beer.
/r/seduction05/03/11 10:55 AM
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I don't really think there's too many bad apples. I can at least understand most people's motivations behind posting. It helps the few people I've met from here have been beyond cool. The great thing about Reddit is it's sort of its own animal. Funny thing is I'm getting ready to go out right now and meet up with a couple girls tonight, true Seddit style.
/r/seduction05/03/11 04:57 AM
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Real life's always been here, I just hope this place inspires you to live it somewhere besides a computer all the time!
/r/seduction05/03/11 03:42 AM
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I don't get it. Charlie is, throughout his career, a charmer and a talented actor. He wouldn't have made it to this level of success without both those in spades. But I thought part of being an alpha was to leave people better than when you found them? Chuck Lorre and CBS network execs don't exactly need more money, but he's left a ton of people (production crews and the like) in a bind cause he can't get his shit together long enough to least seem like he cares about his well being and being a …
/r/seduction01/03/11 05:12 AM
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No particular reason, I just wasn't completely aware of the nomenclature. I suppose you are correct, I should work on generating more attraction first before isolation, it's more of a general problem for me. And I know I owe it to make up for her! Guess I should find stuff on wingmanning now.
/r/seduction26/02/11 11:14 PM
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Hell, I've met people and made friends simply because I have so many friends who DJ and throw parties. Having someone say "I've seen you at <so & so's> party" or "I've seen you at _____ !" is a pretty good way to eliminate even needing an opener.
/r/seduction10/02/11 09:06 PM
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Don't take this the wrong way, cause I think you're a good dude and your positive energy is good for this subreddit, but um, welcome to the basics of throwing a club party? You're basically doing what every club promoter in the world is doing at this point. Regarding the AMOG, I would seriously consider talking with the venue about actual security, especially since you know them and especially if things get bigger. You don't need to hire your own guys, but I would make sure it's staffed there. I…
/r/seduction10/02/11 05:08 PM
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Sort of hilarious, because I know this guy. Maybe not know this guy exactly, but I live in LA and I know plenty of DJ/actor types with oversized glasses and asymmetrical hair (hell, I might even be that guy, except my glasses fit, musician not an actor, and I have a real job beyond waiting tables). Anyway, ThrowawayPUA always comes up in here whenever someone posts an example from a movie about "how it's not real", but this is doubly true with reality TV. At least no one thinks TV shows/movies a…
/r/seduction09/02/11 07:05 PM
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If it's not sold out and it's a smaller venue, I would just wait til you get to the door and figure it out there. If it might sell out, I'd probably buy it, since it sounds like she's expecting you to do so.
/r/seduction01/02/11 03:22 AM
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Curiously enough this is almost the exact same point made by OkTrends on their blog about the attractiveness of women. Sure we'd all like the be Derek Jeter or Tom Brady - tall, handsome, rich, successful by all measures - but for most of us we'll fall short in some category or the other. Basically, the more things you got going for you, awesome, but the absolute worst thing you can be is boring.
/r/seduction27/01/11 10:01 PM
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I love Prince, have for a long time, in fact I was going through some old stuff of mine and saw a high school Spanish folder where I had drawn the Prince symbol on it. One of my biggest musical influences of ever, and his swag is enviable by everyone. I've always identified with his freak sexuality more than any Don Draper of the world.
/r/seduction25/01/11 05:24 PM
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I actually went to UCLA and still work in Westwood... haven't partied in Westwood or lived in the neighborhood for a while though!
/r/seduction15/01/11 06:14 PM
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I don't know, people's contributions in writing (and other arts) get discredited all the time because of disturbing things they've done in their personal life. That's not to say there aren't a lot of writers who are great and accepted who are fucked up weirdos, cause that list may go on forever, but don't a lot of people dismiss The Unabomber Manifesto and Mein Kampf almost immediately because Ted Kaczynski and Hitler wrote them? Not that what Gunwitch did is quite equivalent to those guys, but …
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:42 AM
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After seeing other Sedditors pics, it's safe to say most Sedditors look like All-American mama's boys by comparison.
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:02 AM
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Surviving while single? Embrace thriving while single. Alright, I figure I'm about the same age as you (I'm 25), and it is about that time of life when I log onto Facebook and it seems like a lot of my friends, especially female, are changing their relationship status to "Engaged" or "Married". And a lot of my dude friends are in serious relationships as well. But you know what? For 95% of them, I'm really fucking happy for them. There might be a few where I think they might be rushing it, or th…
/r/seduction06/01/11 05:10 AM
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It's only fair, since I've linked to pics in FRs before. I think these are the two I sent to a Sedditor who wondered before: 1 2 I'm Asian!
/r/seduction06/01/11 01:53 AM
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Naturally, I hate this line of thinking. I probably wouldn't check in on here if I believed these limits to be true. I'll preface by saying I'm not that short. I'm at least 5-7, maybe 5-8 (honestly haven't checked in a while cause I don't really care), which is short enough to know I'm short, but taller than a decent amount of girls, and I don't really have trouble buying clothes, though I usually end up buying the smallest men's sizes cause I'm fairly slender as well. I know guys who are 5-3 or…
/r/seduction30/12/10 10:32 AM
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Had to think about this for a minute. Don't usually do the resolution thing, but since it was asked here, and since a girl friend asked me, I might as well write something down. 2010 was a pretty big year for me getting out of the collegiate/post-collegiate haze. In the past year I've: -made new circles of friends, while keeping old ones -gone to the type of parties I only wished I could go to from pictures -become enough of a fixture with your LA indie scene kids that I get recognized before I …
/r/seduction30/12/10 01:40 AM
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It's really hard to set any sort of goal for you without actually knowing you, personally. I don't know if you're completely socially inept or just a perfectly nice guy who just needs to be more assertive and sexual before the girls start rolling in. Probably best place to start is to put a goal of actually going out and opening to people for each week and then assessing your progress from there. It's sort of silly to put a goal of "I must get 5 number closes this week" and then actually go out …
/r/seduction27/12/10 08:46 AM
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Good post, cause to be honest, the awkward friend types throw me way more off my game than almost any girl would these days. I really don't care too much if some random girl I don't even know says something stupid to me, but with friends, there's usually some sort of loyalty involved because you've known them for a while and they do offer something beyond my women talking skills. These are genuine friends here but sometimes I want to be like "Guys, you're killing me here." I remember, specifical…
/r/seduction27/12/10 08:34 AM
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Yea man, I initially was going to include more about text game, but then I realized as I was writing it a)I deleted a bunch of texts from my phone because I was running out of space (wtf LG and a 200 text limit) and b)there was nothing all that "gamey" to report. It was a very direct "hey what you up to tonight", blah blah some story about how my nights gone, and once you get an invite over you pretty much know what's going down. I already knew and had a rapport with this person, but I truly bel…
/r/seduction26/12/10 08:31 PM
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I generally talk about really observational things whenever starting out in conversation with folks. I mean, it may seem rather boring and innocuous, but an observation about the weather or a big current (usually local) event or something they are holding. Like for example, I'll chat up people in my building while I'm coming too and from work (I work in a skyscraper with a lot of different companies in building), and here's some things I've said: To security lady downstairs with a Laker towel af…
/r/seduction21/12/10 04:48 AM
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Totally man, got your point. Don't want to throw everyone here under one umbrella either. Regardless, I'd probably ignore someone who gave this to me in real life and move on... to be honest after seeing her picture I probably wouldn't give her that much of a second look.
/r/seduction21/12/10 04:28 AM
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When reading this subreddit, I'm a little perplexed by the standard that we hold up to models. I'm not sure how many times I've read on here "I was talking to these models..." or "I went to a party with these models..." or "She could be a model..." It seems almost completely antithetical to the PUA mantra that you basically treat all women the same, right? I mean that's why you all neg a really hot babe or try to charm the whole room or whatever. Now this will be totally hypocritical of me to sa…
/r/seduction21/12/10 03:57 AM
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That's almost exactly what I did: went to be a bunch of bars and shows by myself. I finally got tired and said, "I don't care if my friends want to go or not, I'm going to go to things that I like and see what happens." It was hard at first, there were times that I'd barely talk to anyone, or completely, completely flop trying to talk to a girl, but eventually people saw me around and I'd start having better conversations with people and start making friends. It's really almost as simple as that…
/r/seduction18/12/10 05:09 AM
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There is something to be said about actually asking that to 50 different people though.
/r/seduction17/12/10 10:56 PM
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Well, I first started using OkCupid right after college when I was having trouble socializing with new people. I don't really use it much now, cause I meet plenty of people without it, but it did get me a few dates, mostly cause I was on it all goddamn day. There's people here who are a lot better at it, you should probably ask them for more OkCupid-specific advice, there seems to be a thread about it every week. Anyway, looking back, it seems like every girl I met in person in there was either …
/r/seduction17/12/10 09:32 PM
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Ah man, it's too bad they killed that permanently. Think it's been smoke free inside for about two years now. Though I do like that the Gold Room's "smoking patio" is barely even an alley... it's like a storage room with a canopy over it instead of a roof.
/r/seduction17/12/10 08:29 PM
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I used to go out with a girl who worked for Spaceland that I met off OKCupid. I've played music since I was about 7, and always had a bit of a rebellious streak to me, but I also grew up quite the nerd (I'm a goddamn programmer by day) and was quite the awkward try-hard once I figured out what a penis was supposed to do with a vagina until I got out of college. Anyway, even though I don't even talk to this person anymore, I thank her for pointing me in a better way socially and musically (as far…
/r/seduction17/12/10 09:43 AM
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Oh no definitely not telling anyone how to dress. Actually, I am Asian as well. I guess I dress more toward a preppy hip more than anything, at least in everyday wear. Like Michael Caine in Alfie. Definitely not beards or flannel, I can barely grow facial hair, I can't pull it off. I just think when I see "fedora" online, I think I see "internet nerd fedora" or "hipsters love trucker hats!", which isn't really true these days either. But if you can pull off the fedora well, more power to ya. I'v…
/r/seduction17/12/10 09:24 AM
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To be fair, a lot of them are pretty good. But I'd rather go to the $1 taco trucks around the corner.
/r/seduction17/12/10 08:48 AM
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Go outside where everyone is smoking (assuming you can't smoke inside, you can't at most big cities now). Bring cigs or a light. Easy conversation cause hipsters all smoke, and hipster girls never have cigs on them.
/r/seduction17/12/10 08:07 AM
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Mostly accurate, but a fedora would get you absolutely laughed at by the hip kids these days. Plaid is sorta on the way out too, but not nearly as much so. Spoken from a guy who just bought a peacoat and wears skinnies. Other places I'd check out: - Vinyl shops - Thrift shops - (LA specific) anywhere a goddamn gourmet food truck shows up, or whatever that is analogous to in your city
/r/seduction17/12/10 08:06 AM
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You could hang out with me in Silverlake.
/r/seduction17/12/10 07:20 AM
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Don't think it would work as well for me. I have a tendency to live in my head sometimes and get completely lost in my train of thoughts (good for music or programming, bad for talking to people), and I've found in the past that visualization hasn't really helped me as much as other people. I've tried it while playing sports, I'll get too focused on what should happen instead of just reacting to what is. What helps more is if I can just relax and let go and be carefree for once. I can be a bit o…
/r/seduction16/12/10 05:55 PM
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Given that this was back when I was in engineering school, probably basketball or cargo shorts (since I wore that almost every day), oversized T-shirt (like a large when I'm closer to a small now), a bad shave and a bad haircut. An athletic jacket or hoodie if it was cold (both oversized) These days, more like slim jeans or slacks, button down (v-neck sweater too if it's cold) or occasional T-shirt, cleanly shaven, and all stuff that fits. It's not everything but presentation does help a lot.
/r/seduction16/12/10 02:03 AM
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That guy was probably coming off as a try hard, more than anything. When you're a model or otherwise just have people throwing themselves at you, seeing one ripped dude won't send your panties in a tizzy if you can get whatever you want.
/r/seduction16/12/10 01:41 AM
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I have to say I'm of above average attractiveness. See the thing is, growing up, it helped, but I definitely didn't get the mileage that I could out of it and I still was very socially awkward. Girls would get their little crushes on me, so I definitely wasn't repulsive growing up, but it usually wasn't the quality that I liked. And the two or three that I thought were cute and liked back, I was so awkward in approaching those few times that I completely fucked it up (shame, I've seen them now a…
/r/seduction15/12/10 11:43 PM
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Good work. You definitely didn't lose. I do think that showing up early to parties is sorta underrated. I have a tendency to get sorta antsy sitting at home if I know I'm going out later (good luck getting something productive done at 9 on a Friday anyway), and tend end up show up early for places. It helps that there's usually not as many people there and people aren't as drunk, so it's easier for people to remember. Also, the sorts of people who would be there early anyway (people throwing the…
/r/seduction15/12/10 06:14 AM
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Hey man, not a keyboard jockey here! I do suppose that I end up at a decent amount of parties with cameras around. I really do think about 80% of the posts here would be better learned if people just interacted more with real people in real life though.
/r/seduction14/12/10 11:31 PM
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Not sweating it at all. It was just a near immediate "HERP DERP why did I just do that?" about 5 minutes later. Just next time I go out, I'll try to keep a much more positive mindset and not worry about whatever's been stressing me out all week. It's been sorta that way for a few weeks though, I could really use more time locked away doing things I really love (locked myself away working on music at home the last two nights, that's a start) or taking a real break (vacation on the way). Cause wor…
/r/seduction14/12/10 11:25 PM
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I deal with being unattractive by being more attractive.
/r/seduction11/12/10 11:21 AM
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Um, I'm pretty sure that if your ex-girlfriend is having sex with another man (God forbid!) is the lowest point of your life, you've lived a pretty goddamn blessed life so far. Why are you freaking about something you can't control? I'm pretty sure women have the right to fuck who they want just as much as you, especially if they're not in a relationship with you anymore. You hadn't even been with her in months! Here's what you do, and it's pretty goddamn simple: find other girls. Obviously, she…
/r/seduction01/12/10 08:05 AM
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If you have to ask this question, you're probably not cool enough. I kid. Kind of. But I feel like I'm kind of obligated to answer this question since I kinda live in Silverlake. There is nothing really fundamentally different about talking to a "hipster chick" than anyone else. If you act or talk like a complete outsider, you're going to get an extra level of shield. But seriously... every hipster I've ever known was some level of high school nerd who all of a sudden became "cool". It's all the…
/r/seduction06/11/10 10:33 AM
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I didn't realize this is what passes as seduction advice these days.
/r/seduction03/11/10 05:28 PM
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I've felt like this before, where you feel like you're stuck in an infinite loop, and the worst thing you can do about it is sit there and dwell. It doesn't matter how great your life looks from the outside, how much validation or degrees or financial stability you get, what advice you get from the Internet, or even how much your friends and family tell you you're awesome and love you, you can still feel pretty low. You've just gotta go out there and DO something with your life. Do something pos…
/r/seduction03/11/10 03:38 AM
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The next time I see the word "hack" in this context, I swear I will "hack" someone's relationship to bits.
/r/seduction03/11/10 02:23 AM
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I am a bit curious as to which cities both you and intjpua live in. Then again, I live in Los Angeles, which might be the most vanity obsessed city in America (with the possible exception of New York). New York and the Northeastern cities are a bit more fashion-conscious (West Coast is a bit more casual when it comes to business dress and the like), but LA is obviously image obsessed (going to the gym, as well as clothes). There's a reason there's an LA Fitness chain of gyms and not really a New…
/r/seduction03/11/10 02:21 AM
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I would seriously kick the ass of my 17 year old self (as a 25 year old now) with regards to anything regarding girls. I deserved better back then. 1 that overrides all: stop trying so hard. No one believes that soft gifted classes Asian you is an gangsta, you're going to end up listening to the Smiths in a few years. It's way cooler to be weird ass you and be happy with it, instead of trying to be everyone else. Don't follow all your dumbass friends for approval about girls. These guys know jac…
/r/seduction01/11/10 09:18 AM
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Well, I thank you for hanging out here instead of trying to profit from it, though I'm not bad at women myself these days!
/r/seduction28/10/10 04:57 PM
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I'm willing to bet most people here would rate themselves a 7. Not so high they think they are God's gift to human eyes, not so low they think they were born with no aesthetic value. Even if you are actually a 9, you can't really go around proclaiming how beautiful you are without coming off as really stuck up unless you're really tongue in cheek about it, and even then. As for my own looks, I've been flirted with/hit on/honked at/and straight up been told enough to know that looks definitely ar…
/r/seduction28/10/10 08:14 AM
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In my time of following Seddit and other "seduction" websites (mostly just Seddit these days, since it's attached to the rest of Reddit), the one thing that's struck me is just how vastly different guys experiences are coming into reading any of this. Anyone who'd actually read up on this has a level of nerdiness to them already, but I'd say generally guys who actually subscribe to this subreddit fall into 4 tracks: Complete social retard - these are the people who in the past who not only have …
/r/seduction27/10/10 09:58 PM
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I don't give a fuck, I'm gonna be DJ Lance Rock from Yo Gabba Gabba. Helps I'm going to a show with a band that's been on there and that YGG is awesome.
/r/seduction27/10/10 09:09 PM
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Interesting take, I do appreciate the posts by both you and ThrowawayPUA. I guess I've never really considered myself broken, all labels aside.
/r/seduction27/10/10 09:02 PM
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It's always seemed like a weird dialectic to me. For a community that always talks about not putting pussy on a pedestal, isn't referring to yourself as an AFC and referring to someone else as a mPUA like putting the dick on a pedestal? Like I suck so much and you are so great. It's definitely good to be willing to learn from someone, but I find that part a little bizarre.
/r/seduction26/10/10 08:02 PM
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I find it hilarious on occasion that people refer to "Game" like no one ever in the entire fucking history of humans has ever figured out how to get laid. I mostly try not to mind the self cocksucking posts though, if it's helping someone or entertaining someone I figure to leave them be.
/r/seduction25/10/10 05:16 AM
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I'd rather masturbate than listen to John Mayer and Maroon 5.
/r/seduction22/10/10 08:17 PM
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Yea, I've done a lot better once I've relaxed my expectations of going out. I go out all the time, but I've learned a lot more by just wanting to hang out and talk to people instead of being so worried about scoring all the time.
/r/seduction21/10/10 06:49 PM
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Yea, to me it seems like there's an overemphasis on "club game". If you just skimmed over the material out there, it seems like there's a disproportionate amount of stuff out there focused on cold approaches and getting one night stands from a nightclub out there (the perception is definitely that, at least). I understand that it is the easiest way to crash course someone into talking with women, but do most sexual encounters fall under that scope?
/r/seduction21/10/10 06:27 PM
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My experience with this is that it's all about value. Think of anyone you don't know who you'd like to hang out with. I'm not really amazed by celebrity and I'm not a celebrity chaser, but man it would be really cool to play basketball with Michael Jordan or jam with Jon Brion. Sure, there's a lot of people I'd like to play basketball or make music with and have a great time, but they're the only ones who can do it the way they do. They offer something other people can't. So I agree and disagree…
/r/seduction21/10/10 06:00 PM
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I think you're overthinking it. I've had Facebook since 04(?... this was back when it was only open to a few universities), and have accumulated over 500 friends by now. Yes I've actually known pretty much all of them at one point or the other, from meeting people from sports I've played, dormmates, high school classmates, some family, music friends. Some I talk to all the time, some I wish I saw around more, and some I don't care either way if I saw them ever again. But no one really gives a fu…
/r/seduction20/10/10 10:24 PM
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I'm 25 and usually hang out and see girls who are 20-25. I hooked up with a lady once who was my mom's age (mid-40s) and it was weird.
/r/seduction20/10/10 08:07 AM
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Alright, since no one's really shared their own personal experiences like you did, I will chime in with my own. In essence I agree with you. There's no real substitute for time and experience, and no better person to learn from than yourself, if you can bear the introspection. I was at the very least aware of and had read through some of the online communities like SoSuave and had seen shows like the Pickup Artist and flipped through The Game back in college, though I never really applied any of…
/r/seduction13/10/10 03:23 AM
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I want to improve the quality of my life. Part of improving the quality of my life involves having sex with the best woman/women that I can possibly have. Though honestly some parts of the "pickup community" weird me out, I don't see any reason to not just leave them be. I'm mostly here cause you guys give better advice about talking to girls than I see in most places.
/r/seduction09/10/10 04:33 AM
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Don't be needy. Sometimes people really do have things to do. Like homework. Try to work another time, and if it still doesn't work out, move on.
/r/seduction05/10/10 08:57 AM
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Uggs make me go "Ugh".
/r/seduction02/10/10 01:39 AM
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This is a bizarre post, because I can't understand what exactly you are talking about. Could you not open up and talk to a pretty girl? Could you not hold a conversation with someone you find attractive? Did you whip your dick out and find yourself completely incapable of having sex? All I can say is this. There is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself with people you like and are attracted to, whether it's sexually or just even talking to them. In fact, considering that you're the result of seve…
/r/seduction26/09/10 09:35 AM
1

Treat her like any teammate. Obviously you don't want to sit so far away you can't talk, but do make a point of wanting to talk to her and know her better. If there's someone on the team who knows her better, I wouldn't cozy up to her right away, but if she doesn't really know anyone, maybe you could sit next to her or talk to her on the way in and help introduce her to everyone else and get comfortable with the team. Once you have a bit more rapport, then you can ask her if she'd like to toss t…
/r/seduction24/09/10 05:06 AM
2

This is great advice and the article had a great anecdote by the girl. I often wondered why any girl I really liked and took on a "date" (like dinner or coffee) and saw as a "date" would fizzle out pretty quickly, while girls I sorta dismissed initially and just saw around at shows or grabbed a drink with are the ones who hit me up to hang out all the time or are like straight up like "I'll suck yo dick!" I guess I was so afraid of being put in the friend zone that I would put up a totally diffe…
/r/seduction24/09/10 04:27 AM
1

I play in an ultimate frisbee league as well (as well as a bowling league), and a lot of times we'll go out to grab a bite to eat or get something to drink after a game. Why don't you get something together after a game like that for everyone to socialize? I remember the first time I played in this league, I really didn't know anyone other than my buddy who got me into it (he was in the related soccer league), and I was also one of the better players as well but no one really knew me. But we wen…
/r/seduction24/09/10 04:17 AM
1

Nope, Los Angeles!
/r/seduction23/09/10 06:04 AM
2

The best workouts are physically exhausting and mentally and emotionally relaxing.
/r/seduction22/09/10 09:03 PM
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What I like about working out and playing sports (not really a heavy lifter these days, more into intervals and calisthenics now), isn't so much that I'll look better, I'll be ripped, it'll get the testosterone going, or whatever. After all, I still weigh somewhere in the 140s and have a body that more resembles Paul Pierce than Dwight Howard out there, despite working out regularly and being athletic all my life. I'm in pretty good shape, and I'll run you to the ground if we are playing somethi…
/r/seduction22/09/10 02:15 AM
1

Went out with her a bit tonight. Both had to cut out a bit early cause we both have to work early (though for some reason, I'm still awake), but I'm not dumb enough to not do this. Went well, we are both crazy, plenty of kino... the only absurd part is we both get plenty of attention, individually, soon as we step out for a bit. Not sure how to deal with it, either way. Whatever, I'll see her again.
/r/seduction20/09/10 09:27 AM
1

I've gotten this impression. Talking to her is like talking to an overly enthused, sexed up child.
/r/seduction19/09/10 03:00 AM
1

Thanks for setting me straight here, that's pretty much what I needed. Sometimes I can't really believe my own good fortune, but I have to think all the work I've done being more comfortable around people and presenting myself better and improving my status is what gets me these chances, not just other people being crazy. We'll see what happens from here, after all, she's just a girl like anyone else.
/r/seduction18/09/10 11:59 PM
2

Guys can make themselves more attractive as well. You don't have to accept slobbery.
/r/seduction16/09/10 06:20 PM
1

8.5 to me. Much more my type... love the pic with the glasses.
/r/seduction14/09/10 04:05 PM
3

More like a 7 to me. She's not bad looking, but definitely not my type. Don't think I'd really talk to her.
/r/seduction14/09/10 04:02 PM
5

Who knew? Guys inflate looks to other guys who'll never see. And what's good for one may not be good for another.
/r/seduction13/09/10 09:30 PM
2

Nope. And I don't really care, actually.
/r/seduction13/09/10 08:45 AM
1

Hilarious, since these sorts of people are generally my friends. Age difference is not much of an obstacle. Most of my more hipster or more scene sort of friends are a pretty huge age range, from 18-40 or so, and I've seen some pretty big age differences between couples. It's more a willingness to live a certain lifestyle more than anything, one where you're going out a lot and involved in certain things. There's definitely a guard up for the most part. But these are just normal, varied ass peop…
/r/seduction13/09/10 08:40 AM
1

I think everyone comes on here with different experience and skill levels. From the time I've read Seddit and other seduction related forums (I mostly read here now, I used to check in on SoSuave a lot more often too), there's definitely a certain demographic that most of this really appeals to, which is, for lack of better terms, the middle-class Internet nerd. Why else would an idea like the PUA alpha male take such hold? Real poor people are trying not to get shot or fall into complete destit…
/r/seduction11/09/10 10:57 PM
3

I think the problem with the standard take em to the movies-buy them flowers-wait a couple dates to have sex sort of courtship is that it isn't necessarily what people really want. By golly, if you like going out on the town and having a wild time and hook up with someone, wouldn't it make more sense that you'd be more happy with someone who also enjoyed that than a slower pace of life? That isn't to say there's no time to slow time or do more traditional romantic things, but I don't think it sh…
/r/seduction11/09/10 10:26 PM
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Preparation and presentation, really. To be honest, I don't even really read or think about most of the stuff about openers and conversation topics and shit tests and the like. Occasionally something will pop up in my head if it's something I read that doesn't come naturally to me (like I'm a naturally aloof person and generally don't like to be touched, but the thought to touch people to establish rapport will cross my mind cause I read it here). And I've been on here long enough to see when so…
/r/seduction09/09/10 07:42 AM
2

I've been told I dance alternatively "like a voguing gay man" or "like a slut". Seems to work though. My friend who said I dance like a gay dude told me this after I was making out with a girl.
/r/seduction08/09/10 03:35 PM
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Dunno, never really thought about it that way. Just didn't want to be a bad house guest for someone I don't know that well but do run the same circles with, at a party where I had friends that I do see and hang out with a decent amount. I'm not so desperate for sex to just napalm everything. I do thank reading this place for remembering to touch people and bringing up the sexual topics in convo, though.
/r/seduction08/09/10 03:52 AM
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I don't know, might see her every now and again, seems a bit nutty to being having around too regularly though, and I'm not really hurting for options right now. She reminds me a bit of Eva in terms of potential soul sucking ability. We at least don't run too many of the exact same circles. Forgot to add the racial harmony part. So I'm here (short Asian guy) with this blonde, my half Indian friend is with my tall white former model friend, my DJ friend (white) is with a short Asian girl, and my …
/r/seduction07/09/10 04:40 PM
2

Yesterdays FR: Much shorter. I made two female friends on the train up... a curvy redhead from my city being one of them. I lost them at FYF while finding my keyboard player, but I made a new petite little blonde friend after. Tomorrow we are going to a pool party in Bel Aire. Life is good.
/r/seduction06/09/10 09:12 AM
2

I live in LA. Lair? Ha! EDIT: I also work in Westwood... used to go to UCLA.
/r/seduction06/09/10 09:10 AM
2

You'll just have to expand your social circle. Generally people don't want complete strangers showing up to their college parties, especially if it's a house party, so you'll just have to make friends... hopefully the type of friends who like to party. It's a bit harder but not impossible as a commuter student. I'd get involved in something social on campus. When I was in college, pretty much every party I went to was from either a friend of mine or friends of friends (or friends of friends of f…
/r/seduction06/09/10 12:56 AM
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Friday FR: First time really writing one of these out, and the details are a bit hazy due to the PBR and Sapporo, but I did post on here so I might as well report back. I walked into the Echoplex around 9:45, a bit early, but I was bored at home and wanted to see what the crowd was like. I'm greeted by my friends Larry (DJ) and Troy at the door, who get me in half price. No DHV here, the only person behind me was a scruffy lookin black dude so I don't think I'm sleeping with him. I walked in and…
/r/seduction04/09/10 06:30 PM
2

I will be seeing Stereo Total tonight and probably dancing the night away after, and going to FYF Fest tomorrow. I will be with friends tomorrow, but was planning on going by myself tonight, cause I haven't done that in a while, and I know I'll run into people I know anyway. But I could use a challenge! Enjoy your Labor Day weekends everyone!
/r/seduction04/09/10 01:28 AM
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True, people are different depending on the situation. Trust, I've known people who are complete scene messes who live for that next drink or hookup (or worse) and it's really not that great. I do think there's a lot of really lame bars and clubs out there that really cater to that. But c'mon, for the vast majority of people, going out is just an escape from the more boring and dreadful part of their lives. It's not like I can afford to spend most of the week getting drunk or dancing ridiculousl…
/r/seduction03/09/10 11:38 PM
1

Why do bars and clubs always get this wrap of "I hate the kind of people who'd go there"? There's plenty of normal ass people who have jobs and lives otherwise who've had a long week of work/school/whatever and just need to have a drink or get out and dance. That being said, since you like surfing and hiking, go surfing and hiking, and find a group or community to do it with. Those are hardly cock heavy activities anyway, you're bound to meet girls if you do these with people.
/r/seduction03/09/10 11:02 PM
1

For the record, I agree with the premise of the article, though I think it is a bit sloppily written and researched.
/r/seduction03/09/10 10:25 PM
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Dude, that's your grandma there. Girls come and go. If she can't understand the situation your grandma is in, ditch the bitch.
/r/seduction03/09/10 05:43 PM
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I felt a bit outcasted in engineering at times cause of this. Is it so wrong for an engineer to have a real interest in arts and music and not just want to play with computers all the time? I'm glad I was an engineer these days though.
/r/seduction30/08/10 02:45 AM
1

Such simple things are lost in a post-alcoholic haze.
/r/seduction30/08/10 12:06 AM
1

This is true about not seeing these people ever again. Hell, I live a few blocks away from one of my old roommates and rarely see him despite still talking regularly and being on good terms. Just different schedules and priorities. And this is someone I lived with, let alone random people you see on campus.
/r/seduction29/08/10 09:07 PM
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I'm not sure how much I can help you on this as I've been a big city kid all my life and went to a school with an on campus life and a decent amount people who lived on campus or in the area. But I do live in LA, which is huge and spread out, and I've met plenty of people who effectively live 2 hours away (with LA traffic). Your best bet really in finding girls or friends really where your relations will last a bit is to meet people in activities or scenes you already have in common. If you alwa…
/r/seduction29/08/10 08:52 PM
2

On fashion: I hear you, I'm out in the sun plenty and I'm from California so it gets hot at times. I think sometimes people miss the point when they go to fashion blogs like The Sartorialist or go to MFA (two things I do read and like). You don't need to look like friggin Don Draper every time you leave the house to be fashionable. That's just not practical, and I would argue, antithetical to fashion unless you actually live like Don Draper (my fashion heroes swing more David Bowie, anyway). The…
/r/seduction29/08/10 08:35 PM
4

I definitely agree your academics should come first. There were definitely times where I let that get away and it's no fun when you're failing classes... in fact it made me horribly depressed and no fun to be around. But IANAPUA_Yet is right about the goalposts always moving. It's like that line in Fight Club about "first you do good in school, then you get a good job, then you get a nice house, then... I don't know" (very roughly paraphrasing). The fastest thing I learned about academics after …
/r/seduction29/08/10 08:11 PM
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I was once like you, a young engineering major too young to go to bars and in classes with about a 50:3 guy to girl ratio. And back then... I was horrible with girls. But I did learn some things from then, and am better for it now. (Related: seeing all the college posts here recently, I want to write a general college kids advice thread but haven't gotten around to it yet). Being a CS major isn't the worst thing in the world. It's hard, and there's no girls, but job prospects are certainly good …
/r/seduction29/08/10 03:33 AM
1

Killing myself working on a project. Going out ain't free.
/r/seduction25/08/10 06:29 PM
5

Honestly... I appreciate the work you did on the graphic, and that it seems you consulted the original study, but I don't care enough to wear more red to pander to the female gene. I'm gonna wear my blues and purples and occasional reds and whatever the fuck I want to wear cause that's what I like and if they don't like it, ain't my problem. I care how I present myself but it's probably more beneficial to just like what you wear and be comfortable in it than follow every trend or study, scientif…
/r/seduction25/08/10 04:23 PM
1

I need a permanent drummer, are you anywhere near Los Angeles?
/r/seduction24/08/10 05:49 PM
5

I'm a musician. Hey, something had to make up for programming computers at the my day job and the years I spent at engineering school. I had written a song that's actually inspired by some of the stuff I read on here, I might upload it sometime when I finish recording it. Also I like to read, not just PUA books.
/r/seduction24/08/10 03:46 PM
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Is the game fucked up for short guys? Undoubtedly. Is dating harder for Asian guys, or black dudes (if we're talking relationships here)? Yes and yes. And for poor dudes, and fat dudes, and for all sorts of dudes. I suppose, in America, if you're some sort of white, or at least white looking, 6 foot tall, ripped dude with some semblance of having it together and some sort of cash, you're on relative Easy Street when it comes to women, and life in general. And even then, some people born into tha…
/r/seduction24/08/10 01:02 AM
1

I'm a maybe 5-8 Asian dude. Being short is a natural disadvantage for dudes, that's a reality. Luckily my mama blessed me with good looks so at least I got that going for me. But you know, people only know you as the short guy if you're short and have nothing else going for you. I think John Wooden said it best when he said "Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
/r/seduction22/08/10 09:37 AM
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Look, you're overthinking this way too much, which is pretty much the antithesis of dancing. Dancing is some people's thing, and not some other people's thing, so if it is your thing, than dance away, dancer. Where you lost it is when you noticed this other dude and were bothered by his mocking. If she's having a real good time dancing with you, she should be lost in it and disregard him too. Once she went to him and you went over, the battle was already lost. The troops are in retreat, the pres…
/r/seduction20/08/10 10:50 PM
2

Vest, on occasion, it was hot out though. HATE fedoras though, sorry.
/r/seduction20/08/10 08:12 AM
1

Sometimes you need to bomb a girl to save yourself.
/r/seduction19/08/10 10:28 PM
6

Let's see: My Adidas Sambas or Pumas Slim jeans (my legs are too big for skinny jeans, just make sure the pants fit though) A slim button up OR if it's hot out, a plain V-neck shirt Skinny tie if it's a button up Sport coat or V-neck sweater if it's cold And I always wear thick glasses, cause I'm blind I guess I look like an art hipster, but it works. EDIT: Example from this weekend. I need a haircut.
/r/seduction19/08/10 04:13 PM
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Don't get too smashed. College parties tend to turn into a drinking arms race. And you'll never pick someone up if you end up passed out on the lawn. Not saying to never get smashed though. I think everyone needs to find their limit sometime.
/r/seduction19/08/10 04:00 PM
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Gyms are a place where girls generally have their defenses up. This is opposed to out shopping, where defenses are generally down, or a bar, where defenses are up but they want to be approached. It mostly comes from a combination of three things: They aren't presented at their best in sweaty gym clothes. Even if they look good, most don't think it's their best look. A lot of them are blowing off steam from a long day. Gyms generally lean more male, and no one likes the creep factor. So I'd defin…
/r/seduction19/08/10 01:38 AM
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I upvoted on the sole basis of it being those Backstreet Boys. I agree the untucked dress shirt and (usually) jeans is a total default slob look for going out for dudes in their 20s. The shirt you linked isn't a terrible idea, and if you can pull off a hip suit (not a sloppy business one), even better.
/r/seduction18/08/10 09:00 PM
2

Wait... the Backstreet Boys? I Want It That Way Backstreet Boys?
/r/seduction18/08/10 08:34 PM
0

This is the equivalent of telling your kids "it could be worse, you could be [starving kid in insert 3rd World Country]". It's true that D-Day soldiers had an exponentially bigger challenge in front of them than you, and it's true that some poor sap in a 3rd World country has a much harder existence than you, but it doesn't mean you don't have your own problems to deal with. I'd like to quote the Mighty Mighty Bosstones (out of all people) - "I'm not a coward I've just never been tested/I'd like…
/r/seduction09/08/10 06:06 PM
1

You'd probably like Dub Club at the Echoplex for your dub and reggae needs. It happens about once a month and is pretty happening, their 10th anniversary was two weeks ago I think. As far as which venues are really popping, musically and otherwise, I'd stick to the ones toward the east side of Hollywood and Silverlake/EP/Downtown. I like the Santa Monica and Venice bars, but most of the acts playing there aren't really going places (trust me I played there HA!). It's pretty good for the young pr…
/r/seduction06/08/10 08:38 AM
2

You can meet me at Beauty Bar toonniighht.
/r/seduction06/08/10 01:59 AM
2

Sunset Strip sucks cause that scene is pretty much dead. It's still trying to desperately hold onto what it had in the 60s and 70s and 80s when Van Halen and Motley Crue were running around down here when there's no one like that running around anymore. I was just down at the Whiskey last weekend to catch a friend's band and while my friend's band is great, going to Hollywood to catch a bunch of unknown bands and blow $10 in parking and $8 a drink sucks when I can park for free and pay $4-5 a dr…
/r/seduction06/08/10 01:49 AM
2

Great, another out of towner moving out here looking to make it. Actually, welcome to the city. lookslikespeed covered most of the nightlife, and the scenes are pretty different depending on what kind of things you're into. I'm most familiar with Santa Monica (since I went to school in Westwood) and Silverlake/EP/Downtown (since all my friends are damn hipster indie rockers), but cool thing about LA is there is something for everyone out here. The bad thing about LA, for meeting people, is that …
/r/seduction05/08/10 11:08 PM
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I'm hardly the world's prettiest man, but I've been approached by a decent amount of women, so I must be doing something OK on that end, and yes some of us need the extra help. Thing is, even if you have girls approach you, there's still a lot on your end you have to hold up. They could be the one to set up a date and all but you'd still have to man up on it. Or even if they do approach you, and you come off as a stuttering noob, it'll turn them off quickly (believe me I know!). The only time ev…
/r/seduction04/08/10 01:11 AM
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Ditch the fucking glasses and get contacts or lasik. Some people pull off glasses, but given all asians wear them, they make you look asexual. I'm Asian and girls love my glasses. But I do agree with not looking like every other Asian dude. (They are goddamn hipster glasses though)
/r/seduction30/07/10 06:18 PM
1

Writing a bunch of bad songs is pretty much the quickest way to actually getting the good ones!
/r/seduction30/07/10 05:59 PM
2

Do you find that white dudes tend to get more chicks, more easily than Asian guys. Sure, yes, they have fewer barriers for them to hop. Do you find, as an Asian guy, that women (of whatever race) are less interested in you sexually than white guys in similar circumstances? Initially, sure. in my experience and with the data social science provides: my answer is Yes to both questions. What are you answers, and what experience/studies back them up? Well, the statistical data and anecdotal data gen…
/r/seduction30/07/10 05:59 PM
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I've never been a white dude, obviously, so I have nothing to compare it to personally, but obviously there is an effect. I've mostly hooked up with Latina and white girls in my experience though. I am not sure exactly what you are asking for though.
/r/seduction30/07/10 04:40 PM
2

What kind of show?
/r/seduction23/07/10 01:48 AM
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Alright, first, I'd like to say I think the introvert/extrovert thing (as well as MBTI types in general) is second only to self-diagnosed Asperger's as far as social crutches perverted on the Internet. Everyone has elements of both, most lean one way or the other, but being more introverted is not a fault or a death sentence or something that needs to be cured. Even the most outgoing, extroverted people I know get tired and need to spend a night at home. I once told my bandmate I was pretty much…
/r/seduction24/06/10 06:23 AM
2

It's not from the movie with Matt Damon and Ben Affleck... after doing some quick browsing and seeing the word "Goodwill", I thought it was showing someone pick up girls at the local Goodwill while picking up vintage threads!
/r/seduction22/06/10 09:33 PM
2

After seeing the title, I thought this was gonna be about picking up girls at thrift shops. Dammit.
/r/seduction22/06/10 09:15 PM
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I agree, I'm also a singer (sing in a band and such) but there's no way to break it out randomly without coming off as trying too hard. Definitely helps once you get on stage or once you get to know someone, but your game should never just be based strictly on one talent you have.
/r/seduction10/06/10 06:26 AM
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It's not the worst thing in the world. I've actually gotten this before (also on the shorter side at 5-7, and the younger face doesn't help), and it's a positive in that you've already got their positive attention, but you still have work to do to turn that into anything more. Thing is, "adorable" or "cute" can easily turn to "hot" or "you turn me on" with the right attitude. From reading your post, it doesn't really seem like you've done anything about it. You say you don't think they'd conside…
/r/seduction08/06/10 09:12 PM
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For the record, I know plenty of girls who are quiet and wear glasses and go to Starbucks and are dumb as hell, too. That being said, I'm not particularly interested in who's winning the SAT or whatever rat race. I'll probably have more in common with someone more educated, but I've gone out with girls who are top college grads who were totally vapid, and girls who had a community college education and were cool and communicated intelligently. That's probably more important at the end of the day…
/r/seduction08/06/10 04:58 PM
3

Oh wow I didn't even notice... well as they say, good artists borrow, great artists are blatant stealing hypocrites!
/r/seduction04/06/10 10:09 PM
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Redditors in general are clueless about girls, but I think it may have to do more with the condescending tone of the post. Most people don't know what they want, but that still doesn't make one person qualified to speak on the behalf of everyone.
/r/seduction04/06/10 06:42 PM
3

Who are you to decide what is better for them? Have you ever considered that maybe they don't want you to come in and solve every problem in their lives?
/r/seduction04/06/10 06:37 PM
1

I am strong... I am invincible... I am woman
/r/seduction27/05/10 08:08 PM
6

Stop progressing by settling. That's the exact phrase I've been looking for for a while. I will definitely take your advice about expressing that boundary though. I've found that no matter how much better I get with women that there's always someone less attainable I want. I guess one day though I'll find someone who'll make me quit this perpetual trading up game.
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:19 AM
3

I'm sort of at a strange stage right now. I've progressed beyond the stage where I need to mingle with everyone to break out of my shell. I can't say meeting women is really a problem anymore, I was texting about meeting up with two different ones earlier and I ran into two cute ones I knew from an earlier encounter earlier (but I'm home at my computer cause I'm drunk early and inappropriately dressed for the unseasonably cold weather here). But now that I actually have the power of choice, I've…
/r/seduction23/05/10 07:35 AM
3

I'm sure you'll meet plenty of girls at Hot Topic.
/r/seduction21/05/10 03:48 PM
3

His example of a hipster herb is about the furthest thing I've ever seen from a hipster.
/r/seduction20/05/10 05:43 AM
1

I'm on the shorter side (about 5-7 5-8) and agree with most of the points on the article, but I think you forgot one key point: posture. I've found when I stood up straight and acted like I had a reason for doing so, my height is about the last thing to cross my mind. Especially in this world with so many kids slumping their shoulders or fake puffing their chest out like they think they have something going on. Seriously, next time you're out, check out people's body languages, and see how many …
/r/seduction20/05/10 05:41 AM
1

It certainly doesn't hurt at all, but there's more to making it work than just picking up an instrument.
/r/seduction16/05/10 09:29 PM
1

I actually think he could be a good wingman given more practice. Part of it is I'm just more socially experienced at this point... I have a couple years age difference on him, and generally know the crowd and the places better. But he's actually pretty funny when he does meet someone he can hit it off with, and he's actually quite adept at pointing out girls who are scoping me out (though occasionally not telling me til after the fact). And it helps that we generally go after different types of …
/r/seduction16/05/10 07:20 PM
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You'd be surprised... some of my musician friends are the most socially awkward people I know. Especially guys who aren't lead singers or lead guitarists or first chair of something types. Funny what spending hours a day at home practicing does to you. And if they were all good with women, then how did emo ever get started?
/r/seduction16/05/10 07:02 PM
2

Probably will after a few beers next time!
/r/seduction16/05/10 06:56 PM
1

I live down in LA, I may be busy that weekend but there'll probably be a night that clears up though. Hectic times!
/r/seduction13/05/10 07:24 AM
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Man if that guy can do that... I'm way cooler than that guy... I really have no excuse. Might as well make more approaches, maybe I can get someone to film a video to spur me on. Cool video though.
/r/seduction10/05/10 07:14 AM
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I never actually really thought about it that way. I'm pretty much the complete opposite of a jacked Midwestern frat boy, and I have absolutely no accent growing up in LA, but I'm something of a dandy and that doubly sticks out being an Asian. I have noticed in the past though is that I do have most success when I'm in places where you don't expect many Asians... not too many Asians in Silverlake. One thing I do have in common with your friend though is at least I can handle my booze! I disagree…
/r/seduction10/05/10 04:53 AM
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Sucks to hear that man, some people are just bitches. But even people who won't say things to your face might be thinking it. Thing is, I actually am smart, hard working, and pretty thinly built, so why fight what I got going for me? What really helped me turn things around was when I realized hey, I'm not a frat boy or a gangsta, so why play their game? I started hanging with crowds that are more appreciative of a smart looking guy like me, and started dressing to complement my slim body type a…
/r/seduction10/05/10 02:27 AM
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Sort of a bizarre read - he starts off with some rather pointed criticisms of the seduction community, and then goes into his own advice, then talks about his own book. But I guess almost anyone who speaks critically opens themselves up to a certain level of hypocrisy and criticism themselves. Saying only guys who've had a certain level of success should be teaching things is like saying only Paul McCartney is qualified to say something about songwriting and only Michael Jordan is qualified to t…
/r/seduction07/05/10 07:15 AM
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The majority of posts on that thread pretty much singlehandedly sums up the sort of Internet chump dating attitude found on most of Reddit. That is not to disparage anyone on this site, or to say people who read Seddit are so much better, and that's not to say there isn't occasionally some very insightful posts on dating found of AskReddit or R_A. But I mean, it is what it is, by just reading a few of the posts that were most highly upvoted in there you can tell why most dudes here have trouble …
/r/seduction04/05/10 02:33 AM
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I do so much better in real life that it's not even funny. I actually get depressed when I try online dating, because the response rate is so low. It's so bad it makes me feel less confident. I might be less photogenic than most folks; because I think I'm decent looking, I know I'm reasonably tall and fit, but I can't get a date with anybody cute online. They're either fat, older than me by a few years, or simply unattractive, or all three. I've found this is doubly true if you are not tall, whi…
/r/seduction19/04/10 11:04 PM
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One of the better/more hilarious experiences I've had in approaching someone at a bar was actually an old lady. My buddy and I wandered into a bar after an early concert, and it was actually some sort of MeetUp singles night. Totally not my usual crowd, it was mostly older folks in their 30s and 40s looking for an actual mate or something, but there was an older lady in there, probably her 50s, maybe 60s, and I was just like "Dude... I'm gonna go hit on that." And it was one of the most pleasant…
/r/seduction18/04/10 10:22 AM
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I think this is may be the case too. I'm now past the point where I'm no longer shocked that a pretty girl would be attracted back and in fact, I almost damn near expect that to be the case (and if they don't, there might be something wrong with them). But finding them worth your time is harder. Anyway, it's probably just equally true that I've tired a bit of hitting the same venues and seeing the same scenes. Through the winter I seriously took up just about every social opportunity I could tak…
/r/seduction18/04/10 10:13 AM
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The first couple times going out by yourself can be mortifying. I've gone out interacted with so little that I've gone home on the verge of breakdown wondering if things will ever get better (alcohol does not help in this case!). Thing is, people, and girls in particular, can sniff the vibe coming off you like a dog in heat. There's no real reason to be terribly self-conscious, even if you make a fool of yourself an entertaining fool it's better than being a boring wallflower. But don't feel too…
/r/seduction18/04/10 09:36 AM
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A magic moment clicked in my head fairly recently (probably about a few months ago) when I realized all relationships, especially romantic, have a push-pull dynamic to them. It actually struck me when I was jamming with some musician friends of mine. Band dynamics are pretty much the closest thing two dudes can have to a romance without actually being gay (just look at some of the terrible band breakups), and sometimes I'm best friends with my musician friends, and sometimes I can't stand them a…
/r/seduction16/04/10 10:11 PM
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Are blogs more effective when written in ransom note format?
/r/seduction14/04/10 10:07 PM
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I have to say it's multiple things, some of which are pure misconception, some of it which is based in reality. Certainly there's a media message that tries to weaken men, or put certain men in their place. Is it some conspiracy? Probably not, but it's almost like a hivemind thing where if you're black and get bombarded by gangsta imagery, you'll feel a bit out of place if you're a straight A student, or if you're Asian dude and don't see any Asian dudes in the media, you'll wonder how the hell …
/r/seduction14/04/10 02:48 AM
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No social life or circle of friends? Then improve your social life and circle of friends. Me thinks your expectations are too high at the moment. Ultimately, we all someone hot and awesome (or many someones, for some people), but right now you really just focus on meeting people, approaching people, and improving yourself. Live in the moment, not this perfect fantasy future you have in your head. How do you reach the top of Everest? One foot in front of the other.
/r/seduction12/04/10 06:34 PM
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I actually have to say this is pretty true. I've been to goth clubs both here in LA and in Vegas and the part about goths being socially awkward but particularly nice is mostly true in my experience. You see the occasional ridiculous scene kid drama, but even though I dress nothing like a goth, the people are friendly. Actually, when I go out, I generally hit scene-y type bars (indie, punk, goth, artsy) and you'd be surprised... pretty much everyone is really awkward but in some stage of trying …
/r/seduction12/04/10 06:15 AM
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I don't know, it's sort of a chicken or the egg thing for beginners here. While I think developing a strong inner game ultimately accounts for the vast majority of your success, not just in women but in life, telling someone to focus on nothing but inner game at first is like throwing the whole playbook at a rookie ballplayer and expecting them to run it all right away. It takes time to build up enough real confidence and success in life to become truly self-assured. Routines and courses and all…
/r/seduction10/04/10 01:26 AM
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"best years of my life" That is a lie you don't need to believe. Rejecting it may help tone down your bitterness, which will drive away the good catches. One of the most freeing things of my life was when I realized my high school and college years don't have to be the best years of my life. Not only did it make me think my post-college years would be horrible, it rose up my expectations of college so high that it sorta depressed them. I find the people who push this sort of attitude are the typ…
/r/seduction09/04/10 09:16 PM
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I'm Asian so I naturally look young (my picture isn't too hard to find to see for yourself). Two things that can help you: 1) Start dressing better/more maturely.... it's easier to dismiss you as a child if you dress and act like one too 2) Get after those 18 and 19 year olds while you still can
/r/seduction06/04/10 05:49 AM
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I've read Rand and I'm not a huge fan, but I am a much bigger fan of Nietzsche who was a big influence on Rand later. Most people are far too concerned with fitting the norm and what they think they should be and never really let out their inner fire, their inner urges. I don't buy into the Randian concept of "reason above all" however and I certainly don't buy that you need to internalize narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy just to get laid. There are certainly elements of all those t…
/r/seduction01/04/10 06:48 AM
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While the books and online materials are great sources of information, I feel sometimes there's too much emphasis on the terminology and techniques and a bit of a cult of personality built around the gurus in the seduction community. These books aren't meant to be your bible or instructions on how to do everything, they should be a reference for when you're out living your life. The best advice I can give is to either live your life and socialize and reference what you've learned when applicable…
/r/seduction01/04/10 01:01 AM
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I can tell a few things gone immediately wrong by your choice of words. First you say you are "desperately looking" for an interaction. The fact that you chose those words yourself tells me you're giving off a desperate vibe. Secondly, bringing up a story about the police right away? Dude, you're an awkward kid at a college dining hall, not some badass Hell's Angel at a biker bar... that's immediately going to set off some red flags. Third, it's fine to mention that you're trying to get out your…
/r/seduction01/04/10 12:48 AM
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If you're still getting laid, I think you're giving the right answer.
/r/seduction30/03/10 10:46 PM
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I suppose being a self absorbed, manipulative psychopath has occasionally gotten dudes laid, but do you really want to live your life like this? As much as I like getting laid, there's more to life than just that.
/r/seduction30/03/10 08:01 PM
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This survey is flawed. First off, since it's a survey, the answers given are selected by what they think they want, not what they actually go for. As we all know, what women (and men) think they want and actually go for and get can be vastly different. To get a more complete picture of this, you'd have to figure out where their past and current partners rate on this scale. Secondly, I think it plays into the false dichotomy that you can only get two of these. We all have some level of shit we wi…
/r/seduction28/03/10 09:18 PM
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I think this is something missed most often. The generic "be yourself" advice is such garbage cause it lets people be their same ol lame self and expect different results. You can always change yourself and improve yourself to be a better version of you.
/r/seduction28/03/10 09:03 PM
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The crowd has definitely become more fashionable and outgoing, and I guess that rubs off a bit. And I occasionally hit up the blogs like Sartorialist and flip through the magazines. But I don't have any real interest in keeping up with the fashion wars. Mostly I look at people I think are cool and I think look cool and steal what works for me. So I really like the looks of the classic actors like Cary Grant and Gene Kelly but also artsy rockers like David Bowie and such. I know a lot of guys don…
/r/seduction28/03/10 11:57 AM
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I'm about 5'8".
/r/seduction27/03/10 05:20 PM
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Uh let's see... recent one... the other week I was out at one of my usual Friday spots where I have some friends who DJ (music, not Don Juan), and I was hanging out with another one of my friends, who's a bit older, when he's like "Let's go check out this goth party at 2 Headed Horse down the street". So we get down there and there's the two of us, looking way more Vampire Weekend when almost everyone else there looks like they're at a Cure concert, but hell I wore plenty of black and listened t…
/r/seduction27/03/10 10:21 AM
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It's probably been about a year or so since I actively decided to start doing something, though the before pic is from a few years before that, and I've been at least aware of the seduction community for a few years now. It really takes some time, especially to rebuild some of your social circle to one that's more active, if you're not going out there straight up sarging every weekend. That being said, I've always been more into the self-improvement and discussion and relational sides than the s…
/r/seduction27/03/10 09:39 AM
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Let's see. Prior: Dry spell that went 2 years at a time. Easily got jealous of friend's relationships and hookups. Could barely even talk to girls, the body language of a sheep. Hardly much of a social life, mostly a hanger on to what others did. Easily overshadowed by my peers around me. Typical meek programming geek. Just an overall air of desperation. Current: A hookup pretty much every weekend I've gone out recently. Now quite happy for friends and their relations. Treated like a respectable…
/r/seduction26/03/10 11:02 PM
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I think the most powerful thing you can get from the seduction material regarding dating is simply having the power of options. I think the two most pathetic things in the dating-scape are when people sleep around a lot cause they base their entire self-worth on whether they can fuck, and when two people latch onto each other like dual succubi in an unhealthily codependent LTR. Both put an unhealthy amount of self worth on the approval of other people. If you can use your powers of attraction to…
/r/seduction25/03/10 06:16 PM
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Basically, where a guy needs to prove he can pick up girls (both to himself and to his peer group), girls tend to have the pressure to prove that they are desirable (yep, both to themselves and to their peer group too). I think these are two sides of the same coin here. While a guy might base more of his self-image on his success than strictly his appearance and how he presents himself to the world (basically the DHV stuff), the appearance and presentation can significantly shorten the distance …
/r/seduction25/03/10 05:25 PM
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I'm fascinated by the PUA stuff because it helps me understand some of the dynamics between people more. To be honest, I find a lot of it too terminology heavy and aimed at guys who are way, way behind socially. I didn't need to be told to go to the gym cause I played sports and worked out 4-5 times a week, I didn't need to be told how to dress cause I damn well already love clothes, and when I was really struggling with girls it was cause I was struggling hard with depression (among other thing…
/r/seduction25/03/10 04:43 PM
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Well I give you props for having gone to therapy in the first place. Depression can be a long term, even life time struggle (I've dealt with it in the past). The best advice I could give you at the moment is to immerse yourself in something you really love before you get back into this. If you get that deep into your running, or reading, or music for me, you'll eventually sweat this shit off cause you won't have the time and space to obsess over your girl problems. As fascinated as I am with the…
/r/seduction14/03/10 11:25 PM
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Do not base your self worth on what others think of you. Even if they are attractive women. I'm beginning to think half of this subreddit needs therapeutic help, not pick up advice.
/r/seduction14/03/10 10:51 PM
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I agree about doing it indirectly being most important. Straight up bragging might work sometimes but will turn off just as many as it interests. Some of the things I do: Speak and act intelligently. I don't feel the need to drop big words for the sake of dropping them or invoke Nietzsche or de Sade when the situation doesn't call for them (though it can occasionally be comedic if your crowd understands it), and I'm too damn old to get uppity at every slight where my manhood might be challenged.…
/r/seduction09/03/10 02:03 AM
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Forget about it, find someone else. The most valuable thing in the world is your time. Waste it once, shame on you, waste your time twice, shame on me. If you wanna hang out with her again, make sure it is on your terms.
/r/seduction04/03/10 11:32 PM
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Some of the advice threads I've seen heavily upvoted on Reddit recently are some of the most asinine things I've ever seen.
/r/seduction04/03/10 11:19 PM
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It basically means get off the computer whenever possible. The way people do homework and study now, it's impossible to avoid the internet at night completely, but go out and actually interact with people instead of living your life on a machine. You will never be in such close proximity with so many young, nubile women and young people in general ever again. I'm out of school now and don't particularly miss it, and I do get out a lot, but there's never a situation where I can just walk out my d…
/r/seduction03/03/10 10:11 PM
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Welcome to Reddit.
/r/seduction24/02/10 06:12 AM
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You're right, I was a CS major and programmers wear nothing but basketball shorts (if at all possible).
/r/seduction17/02/10 06:11 PM
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Haha I wouldn't say pretty damn beautiful, maybe moderately good looking (I've posted this picture before on Reddit), and occasionally recognized among certain LA indie scene kids cause of some of the friends I hang out with. So I don't really have too much trouble meeting people despite being a natural introvert, since I'm out the house a lot, whether it's working, hanging out at shows, or playing in rec sports leagues. I guess more the question is how do I go about making a more natural rappor…
/r/seduction10/02/10 05:17 AM
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I don't consider it peacocking since I'm pretty much damn blind without them, but the damn glasses are a killer.
/r/seduction10/02/10 04:56 AM
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