| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 21 | Spousal support + living with new partner | Spousal Support / Alimony | Mr_Stimmers | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 07:42 PM |
| 8 | Wife’s attorney asking for documents | Lawyers | Mr_Stimmers | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Did any of you guys have trouble finding a lawyer? | Lawyers | Mr_Stimmers | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 02:16 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?The entire song kills, but this feels especially apt to me right now: I ain’t a-saying you treated me unkind You could’ve done better but I don’t mind You just kinda wasted my precious time But don’t think twice, it’s all right — Don’t Think Twice, It’s Alright, Bob Dylan | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:30 AM |
| 7 | What happens if you just stop complying altogether?just don’t do it Fuck, I wish I could go back 20 years and tell myself that | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsMade some calls this morning, waiting for some call backs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsHe wasn't doing shit. I met with him for 30 mins and never got his email. When I called I was told he wasn't available and "good luck" in my search for an attorney. Cool beans. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsGod damn, my attorney's next appointment is August 22nd. Is that kind of delay normal? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsTotally yeah, makes sense. Sounds like they might be trying to screw me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsYeah I was told she admitted to trying to squeeze as much out of this as possible, which seems to defeat the purpose of mediation to me. Honestly, I’m not sure why we’re paying for attorneys and a mediator if that’s the route she wants to take. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsYeah I’m definitely suspicious. I know I’m being squeezed as I was told by a mutual acquaintance that she admitted to it. I’ve already given everything required by the mediator (statements for everything from marriage, separation, and current day) so there’s nothing for me to hide other than I maybe spend a bit more money than I should, which was really a coping mechanism to counter crushing depression. We had previously agreed to speak to a real estate agent, and valuations/insurance would t be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsYeah, sounds like it. There’s a lot of nuance in the tech industry in terms of earnings, and I don’t trust her attorney would be well enough informed to come to any solid conclusions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsThing is I have already supplied statements for all assets at marriage, separation, and current day. I’m not sure why they need everything inbetween unless they’re going to pick holes in my budget or spending habits. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsI previously supplied statements for all assets at date of marriage, separation, and current value. It’s everything in-between I’m questioning. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsThanks. I haven’t supplied anything yet so will hold off until I speak with my attorney. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:14 AM |
| 5 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsYeah, good call. I was hesitant to supply anything at this stage because it’s turning nastier each day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:13 AM |
| 8 | Wife’s attorney asking for documentsNo, I think she’s purposely not supplying it. I’m now wondering if this was the advice given to by her attorney. For the record, I haven’t uploaded mine either, because there’s been no context for why the documentation is required and what they will do with it. Of the mediator asks I will, but handing this over to “the enemy” seems a bit sus. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:07 AM |
| 3 | I have the deepest empathy for all divorced men.I’m only here for my dogs at this point. One is 16 and my rock, I don’t know how I’ll cope without him by my side. I don’t know if I’ll be able to stick around post divorce for my other two, which is absolutely tearing me apart. I think I’m going to lose everything, and if I lose them too I think I’m done. Fuck this timeline. How can this shit happen? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 06:38 AM |
| 3 | How do I even move on!Same, same. I’ve vowed not to do this again. I’m better off alone. I wanted to move out to the country but we share custody of our dogs and they’re everything to me. The last 15 years have been a waste of time because she will basically get everything, and I wont be able to afford anything but a shitty apartment in a shitty part of town. I don’t see how I’ll ever recover back to where I am today. Things are going to get bad, and I just hope one day I’ll be happy again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/24 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Spousal support + living with new partnerThis makes sense, thanks. I also found this, which kinda backs up what you’re saying here: Oregon law doesn't have any statutory laws about cohabitation, but there is judge-made law. Cohabitation is when two people live together in a romantic relationship that's similar to marriage. In Oregon, alimony won't be modified based on cohabitation unless the supported spouse's financial circumstances have also changed significantly. For example, if a paying spouse discovers that the supported spouse is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Spousal support + living with new partnerWhat if he’s listed on the lease or utilities? Edit: the reason I’m asking is because I have evidence they were and are still together, before and after our breakup. We were cohabiting about 2 months after we met, and sharing 2 incomes jointly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Spousal support + living with new partnerFor the record, I didn’t downvote you. I’m not sure of the law surrounding this here, so I’ll get clarification from my attorney (who is quite hard to get an appointment with 😕) | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Spousal support + living with new partnerI’m on the hook for about the same amount. If I argue for a lump sum instead I’ll be cleared out financially, and my job situation is rocky at best right now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 08:13 PM |
| 6 | Spousal support + living with new partnerUgh, that’s fucking awful. And I’m already on the “no marriage” train. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Spousal support + living with new partnerWouldn’t a rental agreement and utility statements be sufficient to prove it if both names are on them? May be difficult to prove the financial responsibility without bank statements, but those could be requested. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 08:07 PM |
| 8 | Spousal support + living with new partnerYeah, it’s fucking bananas. I’ve also found out that the spousal support is still considered my income, so I’m the one who gets taxed on it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 08:05 PM |
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