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Young men who wank vigorously to porn may struggle, but they're in the minority.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/26 05:30 PM
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Silver worn daily won't tarnish. I have two silver chains on my wrist for going on two years and they're very shiny and white. The setting and the hardness of the stone still matters, though.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/25 07:05 AM
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Yeah... Owning the car maybe means he gets to drive it where and how he likes. But does he also own her personal space and safety? If I were a hitchhiker, and the driver pulled over to pick up another hitchhiker, I couldn't object because it's his car. I'm just a passenger. I can get out if I don't want to share with another person. Is that the OP's status? If he'd simply said, "Oh, sorry. It just didn't occur to me that you'd mind" I could understand. But, "It's my car so I can do what I want" …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/25 07:07 AM
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He's already decided if you're attractive and feminine. Men decide if they want you within mere seconds of meeting you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/25 09:06 PM
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Checked post history. This is a guy looking to boost viewership.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/25 07:08 AM
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If after meeting him, you still feel this way about him, then go for it. What you describe sounds ideal. Someone you can believe in and stand by in any situation. Just be sure that he feels the same.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 03:19 PM
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Definitely wait until you've met before you do anything.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 01:49 PM
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As a westerner I don't know if I can help. You both have to take your families into consideration. I think you should talk to your parents and stress that this man can make you happy. Then assess if they can be happy with your situation. They may be intractibly prejudiced against it. Then you have to decide how much impact that would have on your life.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 12:59 PM
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OP has already amended the situation. There's no reason to go on about it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/25 12:14 PM
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Few women understand how important sex is to men. I have read that the less sex men have, the more they crave it. Women are the opposite - the less they have, the less they think about it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/25 12:13 PM
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I agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 06:54 PM
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I wasn't saying that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 06:38 PM
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That's a good point.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 01:59 PM
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In some countries, marriage takes place in two locations - one in the church and one in the government office. The religious rite and the legal contract are seperated.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 01:37 PM
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At some point, perhaps even before you met him, he chose not to be the kind of man you want. He may feel differently about someone else, but he won't feel that way about you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/25 01:41 PM
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I believe that men put us into a basket and there we stay. He's either just a guy who doesn't want a prize or he's got you categorised as easy sex. I don't think you can change his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/25 02:21 PM
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Yes! I am an alcoholic and it simply comes down to not being able to stop once I start. It's a progressive condition that never improves.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/25 08:33 AM
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You did right. If this guy were keen, he'd have been on the ball.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/25 11:11 PM
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It sounds like you're doing the right stuff. Just be prepared for this to take a long time. He will never fully "get over it." But he should eventually start to emerge from where he is. He should start to have periods of not thinking about it. In those times, be light and fun to be with. If, after a few weeks, he's still under the duvet or showing signs of depression, seek advice on what you can do for him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 10:06 AM
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He's not your husband - you've made no vows. You are simply vetting him to see if he's a good potential life partner. It sounds as if he doesn't suit your needs. Trying to either change him to suit your needs or change your needs to suit him won't work in the long term.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 05:51 PM
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If he doesn't feel scammed, it's OK.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/24 01:33 PM
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I guess you should just let it go. If he's happy with the work and the price, leave him to it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/24 01:11 PM
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That's not silent treatment. That's having a boundary and communicating it. Silent treatment is an emotionally abusive game where you punish someone by refusing to engage on any level. Maybe OP could have dealt in a better way, but she wasn't being abusive and noncommunicative.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 06:26 AM
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He's not interested. He may fancy you but for some reason he doesn't want it to happen. Maybe he doesn't fancy you but likes to see you liking him so he's flirting a bit. But he's said he's not interested so take him at his word. Don't waste any time trying to decode this guy. If a man wants a woman, he will make a move.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:22 AM
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You are cruising for a bruising! He will never commit to you. Maybe some other woman someday but not you. Because he's decided that you're not The One. He maybe doesn't want to find her now, but when he does, it won't be you because he's already categorised you. Guys never upgrade women in category - we can only fall lower in their estimation. And all his talk about spiritual self improvement is self-centered, naval-gazing woo woo. Avoid guys who talk in that jargon like the plague. And his talk…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 05:57 PM
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I am a literal prostitute and I am significantly older than you. I don't deserve that and I wouldn't put up with it. If you believe you deserve to be treated well, you will be.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 03:28 PM
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I have never personally met anyone who has a DUI that isn't an alcoholic. That he has two is a clear indication that he is definitely, without a doubt, an alcoholic. You do not want to be married to that. I absolutely promise you that. NOBODY deserves to be married to a cheating, lying alcoholic. Nobody.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 03:05 PM
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Don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 07:47 PM
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You're trying to solve the problem like it's a puzzle - if only you could figure out the magic words to say, or change your appearance, he'd decide you deserved pleasure. You can't solve it. He doesn't do these things because he doesn't care and you can't change that. You're wasting your time trying to get blood from a stone.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 12:13 AM
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Since you have your own money, what would he do if you bought yourself a car? Like, if he came home and there it was?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 10:48 PM
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He's telling you that he doesn't plan to marry you. Men can and do use women for "right now" with no thought. They may even have a vague idea that there's a perfect woman out there they haven't even met yet, but they're comfortable now. He offered to break up. He was giving you an out. Break up with him and move on. Be prepared for him to equivocate and seem unsure but be firm. He needs to be without you to see how he feels. He is unlikely to come back on one knee. Be prepared also to hear that …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 09:28 AM
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Not if she blocks him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/24 10:59 AM
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Is this a caste thing?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 06:55 AM
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He's just enjoying the fantasy. Living on a plot of land with rabbits is honestly pretty cliché, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 04:11 PM
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I think if you posted this on a sexwork sub, you'd get some harsh input. It would be full of cynicism that's unfortunately based in lived experience. Just because he's OK with your job doesn't mean that you have to settle. And it does sound like you're subsidising him to some extent. He's (supposedly) investing in a future that you have no legal claim to whilst you're paying real money now. At the very least, tell him that you want to split the bills 50/50.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 04:09 PM
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He thinks you're too young to debate with but not too young to sleep with? Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 04:41 PM
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Andrew Tate is charged with trafficking and pimping. He has openly boasted about getting women to fall for him and do sex work for him. This guy is just following his hero and draining women as a resource. He does not respect you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 09:18 PM
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Have his friends said things like, "wow! Never thought I'd see him settled/bring a girl home/so in love?" Are they indicating that they are seeing something in him they've never seen before?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 06:49 PM
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But would it have changed you from the kind of guy who doesn't want to get his hands dirty to the kind who is primarily concerned about someone else's safety? I don't think he can change into a protective alpha male just because he has been told to. Better they should find partners who like them as they are.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 04:42 PM
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Wanting him to spontaneously give you these things - gifts, celebrations - is a way to be disappointed. You can convey to him how happy they make you by acting really happy and showing enthusiasm in gratitude. Even if you have to ask him, just making it very clear that he's made you happy is all you can do. Men who love us want to make us happy. If he's not motivated to make you happy, he's not the one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 06:59 PM
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You're not being unreasonable. You can tell him that you'd like to celebrate on the day or the weekend, because that's what feels good. State it simply. "I would like to do something on that day." If he doesn't want to do it, then he doesn't. You get to decide how you feel about that. We don't try to change boyfriends: we vet them. If they're not what we want we move on.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 06:10 PM
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Realise that there's a limit to what you can do. Be supportive and loving, but only he can do what he has to do. He might fail. He might have to leave the country. That will impact and likely end your relationship - but you can't make that a reason to shoulder his burden.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 05:24 PM
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I am torn on if you should or not. It seems to be flushing out some of the red flags, but I would worry it might come across as baggage. People can be weird and see someone as damaged if they've ever been the victim of mistreatment. I guess I feel like maybe the best thing is for the past to be a mystery.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 11:38 PM
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The key issue is your fiance. Does he have a shiny spine? Or does he default to appeasing his mother in any situation? It can be hard to see these things before marriage, but once you're married, your marriage has to be his priority. If he has to choose between keeping his mom happy and respecting your boundaries and needs, he must be able to side with you. This will become increasingly important once there are children.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 11:03 AM
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Op, this thread has been on my mind. I know that the point of this sub is to focus on what we can do, rather than complaining about men and trying to change them. But I am a bit worried about you. You have described a husband who, due to anxiety, has to have the entire household behave to his liking, and yourself as going so far to comply as to doing things like tiptoeing around holding the dog in order to maintain silence. You mention that he doesn't want any airborne dust and describe yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 01:22 PM
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It's what he wants and his wife wants to do everything she can to give him that. Even if that means tiptoeing and holding the dog for several hours to maintain silence.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 09:16 PM
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I think the OP believes that his wishes are to be respected and she's willing to do whatever she can to comply with them. I admit that my eyebrows were raised up to the crown of my head after reading some of the comments, but in this sub we approach things from the POV of doing what we can to improve ourselves, rather than trying to change men.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 04:35 PM
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Could your husband go to bed earlier so that waking up with you isn't as onerous for him?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 04:31 PM
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Women. We have fairy tale dreams. We wish for this so much that we'll overlook stuff like him being unemployed or living in filthy squalor, because we cling to the idea of Romance. But a guy being employed and hygienic wins no points on that, unless he gives us tingles
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:17 AM
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You don't, but I think this guy does.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 08:28 AM
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It's not unusual and he's just being honest, but you don't have to like it or accept it for yourself. He feels entitled to sleep with other women and all he will ever do differently is hide that from you or future partners.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:23 PM
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Of course it won't.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 05:13 PM
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I feel like you're asking "what magical feminine tricks can I perform to make him do what I want." Sometimes, there's just nothing you can do. I would bet that if I could sprinkle magic fairy dust on you that made you genuinely stop caring about him, he would somehow sense this instantly and come running. He'd chase you and try to pin you down. But as soon as he caught you, he'd revert to making you feel insecure. That's just what he does. Until he decides to change and works on it, he won't be …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 12:05 PM
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Just smile at him and say "hi!" and ask how he is. That's all you need to do. If you can't bring yourself to do that, then you're not mature enough to date.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:00 PM
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That shouldn't be a turn off. Either he's got a fetish for particular underwear and requires it to be aroused, or he's controlling - the stopping sex because you're not wearing what he wants sounds to me like withholding affection.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 01:24 AM
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Baggy, greying, granny pants with period stains can be an understandable turn off, although I think most guys will keep going. But simple cotton bottoms that aren't ragged shouldn't be a problem.( Plenty of men really like them, actually.) What exactly do you find comfortable and what does he prefer?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 01:02 AM
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They're not mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 07:07 PM
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Most of us will focus on our appearance in the morning, before we go to work. Then when we're at work, we focus on work. But, even whilst there, we're (hopefully) not mindless labouring drones. We have relationships with the community of clients and coworkers. There's often friendly banter, even friendships. There is nothing wrong with wanting to present yourself favourably to other people at work.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 06:58 PM
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Who said anything about "sexy?" OP said "feminine." There's nothing gross about feminity.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 02:57 PM
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Looking feminine isn't the same as looking "sexy." That is, nobody is talking about skin tight or cleavage. There's nothing wrong with looking feminine, because there is nothing wrong with being feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 02:57 PM
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If you don't like computers, but do like working with people, then I don't think you should go into IT. Is there anything else he would be OK with?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 11:57 PM
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You could even demonstrate it to them. Do a bunch of contouring and photograph it head on in flattering indoor light. Then show them how it looks from the side in natural daylight. Tell them that as long as they're not drunk in a dimly lit nightclub, they will not be fooled for an instant.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 12:43 PM
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You have no idea why he got mad?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 11:25 AM
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He sounds sane and like a good guy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 08:04 PM
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I think not. If a woman believes in being old fashioned, then she can wait for a man to ask her. I think the asker pays. Or at least you split the bill.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 01:16 PM
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They can! But if that convo doesn't immediately lead to the point of meeting and reconciling, then it's not a sign that they want to be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 10:22 PM
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When they say, "I miss you. I want to see you. Can we meet?" and so forth. "I miss you" isn't enough. They have to state that they want to do something about it and then follow through. Any waffling is bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 03:38 PM
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I would say it's crucial in order for you to grow and be a better person. You can be a lovely, supportive partner to someone else and the faster you get over this guy, the sooner you'll be able to do that. Block him so he can't pop back in to mess with your head. I swear these guys can sense when you've moved on.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:21 AM
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Go think positively and be your best self without him. I would bet my next month's pay that if you fell in love with someone else, he'd suddenly declare that you're now what he wants. Seriously, this sounds bad. He's going to string you along with these breadcrumbs for years. Asking how you are every so often is just breadcrumbing. You really think he's waiting for you to be what he wants, like a green banana or something? Nonsense. He will get with someone else if he wants to be with anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:13 AM
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I am guessing that he will tell her that an ultimatum is just her failing to prove she deserves him. He either loves her or he doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:09 AM
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How does he feel about this? Is he still in your life at all?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 07:28 AM
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I think "pick me" is to put down other girls in order to try and compete with them. Literally, "pick me over her." You're just describing being agreeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:16 PM
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I am an escort and I get the RP stuff here. I do use it for my work. The number one thing men crave is respect. I have to manage the booking and keep them happy while enforcing boundaries in a way that they don't feel dominated. It's all applicable!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 08:36 PM
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It's your choice to feel sorry for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:01 PM
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I got the point. Carrying that around with you and allowing it to spoil an otherwise promising relationship is a choice. I have met many short men who are confident and very popular with women. I have even been impressed with the balls on a short guy for approaching me. Sure, being big is attractive, but confidence is an aphrodisiac.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 06:00 AM
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But if a woman is smiling at you, clearly interested in you, actually on a date with you, bitching about her being taller is fucking stupid. I have genuinely not noticed he's shorter until he grouses about me being "too tall." Then he will suddenly look like a little bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:04 PM
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I'm 5'10" and I don't care, unless he's very significantly shorter, like 5'2".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:02 PM
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As a tall woman who absolutely has dated shorter men I find it's usually the guy who has a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:46 PM
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Exactly! A lot of them are married and want sex without the risk of blowing up their families.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:37 PM
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I am 53. Genuinely attractive, fit younger men pay me for sex. I look good for my age - stay fit at the gym, etc, but they're choosing me because they think an older provider has something to offer. All manner of men punt for a wide variety of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:35 PM
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Sex industry exists because of demand. The providers and performers are not really the ones driving the industry and directing the market. They're responding to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:28 AM
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The ones I know tend to meet a client they really click with and the guy gets them on a deep level and doesn't have typical views of sexual roles and power. The ones I know enjoy being able to relax with someone they can trust and not have to be in control of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:26 AM
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Most clients of prostitutes just want sex without hassle. Some might pay because they have to but quite a few just want to fuck someone different, or don't want any emotional entanglements at all. Some want to lie back and get a blow job without needing to put any reciprocal effort in. Quite a few are dominant/lead in bed if the provider is cool with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:23 AM
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He's aware that he's fallen short and it sounds like he is trying to change, but that's no reason to stay with him. I once found out that an emotionally unavailable guy went to therapy after we broke up and was able to fall in love and get married. It wasn't a matter of not being willing to do it for me - the failure of our relationship was his wakeup call and he decided to grow and change. Good for him. I recommend that you move on by cutting off contact and focusing on yourself. He may try to …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 10:50 AM
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Being emotionally healthy doesn't mean being a pussy. When George W Bush choked up in his speech after 9/11 or at his father's funeral, he didn't seem like a pussy. He was displaying what people had always liked about him - humanity and empathy - he seemed like the kind of guy you could have a beer with (people used to say that.) It's true that we despise weakness, but not human vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:41 AM
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When people think of bodybuilder physique, they're thinking of them in photographs on stage, etc. Not how they look off season/bulking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 08:00 PM
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They're not as cut as bodybuilders.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:59 PM
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He was "lean" in terms of body fat. He had a beautiful adonis belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:56 PM
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Doesn't bother me, either.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 08:37 PM
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Like growing a beard to conceal a weak chin?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:38 PM
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Yep! I'm not trad con, but I think this sub is great for young women who want to be in relationships with traditional gender roles.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:52 PM
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This sub is about holding women accountable. Whenever a member posts about a relationship issue, we stick strictly to what her responsibility is. It's about how to behave in a relationship in order to encourage traditional gender roles in which the man leads and the woman supports. I don't see much discussion about what the RP guys ought to be doing. It's just about how to be feminine. The HVM are simply those who are emotionally prepared for a traditional marriage, perhaps able to support a fam…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:51 PM
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Don't go making excuses based on his unhappy childhood. Once you start doing that, I want to shout "he's just not that into you" What do you want from a man? To make you feel loved and cherished. And for marriage. He's not giving you that and he's not going to. Cut your losses.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 01:04 PM
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This is so true. As I was reading the op I was thinking, "Chad rarely makes girls squeal." You don't need a big dick, either. You just need to give a shit about her pleasure and be willing to find what works for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:37 AM
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Based on them just thinking anyone over 30 is "old." Because they're just kids. Of course there are exceptions. But in general most 18yo girls think guys over mid 30's are old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:14 PM
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Most girls that age think 35 is old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 01:16 PM
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Younger women just go, "ew!" when a 35yo hits on them. They're not interested in the social ramifications.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:59 AM
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The reason younger men aren't approaching IRL is they're young - ie insecure ninnies. Older men are more confident.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 06:43 AM
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I think you're right to be unhappy about this. But I don't think you can do anythings about it - he wants her in his life and he won't prioritise you. The only thing you can do is move on and find someone else. Maybe she can't be choos and has to accept his crumbs, but you sure can.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 08:57 AM
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Ambitious? That's not good. She won't put you first. Hard working is great. Hobbies and interests are obviously good. But she should be willing to work hard as long as her husband wants her to but put her career second to his needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:37 PM
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I don't think men shouldn't want that. I think it's perfectly natural. I just think if a man actually asked a girl that, and that's what she actually said, he wouldn't respond well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:36 PM
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You'd think so. But if you ask her that question, and that's her answer, what are you honestly going to think of her?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:34 PM
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I think if a woman actually said that in response, the guy would scoff. As others have said, the question isn't really asked in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:33 PM
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The things men actually desire from women sound weak. "I'm young and fit with a pretty face. I have a very low body count. I have an agreeable personality."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 07:24 AM
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Look at the animal kingdom. Behold all the male displays of the courtship stage of mating. Yes, you have to be entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 01:03 PM
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Huh? I give very enthusiastic blow jobs because I enjoy doing it. They enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:27 PM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:06 PM
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I am fine with this. If I'm out with a guy and he's not chivalrous, then I know he's not very interested in me. I believe every man will, if he's interested enough, be keen to hold doors, etc. I was recently asked out by a guy who walked very, very fast as I struggled to keep up with him. He liked me enough to spend time with me but I didn't inspire him to treat me like a lady. I wasn't upset about it. I just knew what it meant and didn't take him seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:44 PM
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It was 3 days
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:32 PM
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By contemporary American standards, you're average. 50 years ago, or in some other countries, you'd be plump.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 04:38 PM
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The point of Christianity is to not be shackled to our past mistakes and sins. Mary Magdalene was a fallen woman who, after her conversion, became the first person to encounter the risen Christ. Not even his own mother - a virgin - had that honour. Today is Good Friday. Spend this weekend in prayer and reflection on the sacrifice of Christ on the cross. Pray through tomorrow, as He is in the tomb, and come Sunday morning celebrate the assurance that your sins (which are minor and perfectly norma…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 09:02 AM
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You don't submit to just any man. You can choose to defer to a man you trust completely. You can walk away from any man you don't trust. You may have been poor, etc when you met him, but that doesn't mean you have to settle. The guy is irresponsible with money. You are right to be concerned. Why would you make you and your child dependent on someone you don't trust? This guy feels entitled to call the shots because he has the economic power over you. That's his prerogative, but you should be thi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 06:42 PM
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What he needs is a partner who makes him feel supported and loved.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 06:31 PM
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If he's complaining, then you must be really unbearable. Give him space and peace. Stay out of his way. Do NOT sulk or give him the silent treatment. Just... Go be quiet in another room. Let him come find you when he wants to interact with you. When he walks into whatever room you're in, light up and beam with joy at the sight of him, but hold your tongue. Practice speaking only when spoken to for a while. Practice agreeing with him, mostly nonverbally, but verbally if asked a question. Just giv…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 06:30 PM
3

I'm actually pretty leftist,politically. But I've been banned for even commenting on subs, like arguing with some silly incel.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 12:22 PM
1

I'm 53. I can afford to be picky. I can choose if I want to spend my time with/have sex with any interested man. What do you, as a 26 year old, have to offer me?
/r/AntiFeminists01/02/23 01:01 AM
2

They watch porn, in which the men vigorously finger bang. 😣
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 11:07 PM
9

In my (very extensive) experience, kissing is a sample of what the sex will be like. Bad kissing never leads to good sex. You said that you don't like the way he touches your body. In my opinion, this can't be taught. A good lover will read the feedback and respond to that. They'll adjust intuitively to your response. The best lover I've ever had is a wizard at this - finding things that even I didn't realise I liked. The worst are the kind who think that foreplay is scrabbling at your vulva lik…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 04:06 PM
1

She's not talking about withholding sex, I don't think. But pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 08:26 AM
1

My mind isn't boggled. He doesn't want to go and he feels like it would be wrong for his wife to go without him. Several years ago I wanted to go to a heavy metal music festival to see some bands I had wanted to see for 20 years. We'd moved closer to the inlaws, the kids were a little bit older, and we no longer lived in the remote Scottish Highlands, so I could get away for the 3 nights. My husband wasn't fazed in the least. But the number of people who said, "Wow! Your husband let you go?!" ca…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 08:19 AM
4

Breaking up should mean breaking off contact.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 02:51 PM
7

This is beautiful. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 03:50 AM
107

Because most of the stuff in porn doesn't feel good. In a lot of porn, women are treated badly. There are guys who think that what they're watching is actual sex and how sex ought to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:28 PM
7

The baby becomes the most important thing in the universe to a mother and some husbands struggle with that. Mothers can get upset about their husbands not being able to do things around the house and become resentful at what starts to feel like a second child to care for.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 09:10 PM
10

I had three boys (well I still have them but they're teens now.) Boys are generally very sweet and affectionate. They love their mommies. They usually (obviously not always) naturally gravitate to boy toys like trucks and dinosaurs - they love nothing more than to see a firetruck or bulldozer go past. Your husband will be a masculine example for him, so don't worry about your role. Just be a mom, and all will be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 09:06 PM
2

Why do you dream of something you say universally doesn't happen? I don't dream that I can fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 08:29 PM
7

Yes it does. It won't override a face like the kid in Mask, but it does. A fit body, good hair style and good grooming will make a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 08:27 PM
4

You are right that men are more easily isolated and that's really sad. Good point about the sort of men who approach women they don't know. That used to actually be a pretty taboo thing to do for the middle and higher classes. You had to be introduced to someone. Even another man may be weirded out by a cold approach. (In Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Darcy is not happy when Mr. Collins introduces himself, even though they're at the same party and they have a close acquaintance in common elsewhere.) …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:19 PM
38

I would say that it's not worth waiting. If he wants to travel to you, and you want to see him, cool. In my opinion, while women are more prone to develop feelings via sex, men are more romantic and if they fall in love it's generally faster. He told you that he's happy to continue seeing you until he feels otherwise but if he meets a woman who hits him like a bolt of lightening ("soul mate") he will break up with you. He seems to think that there is a soul mate and he's got his eyes open for he…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:40 PM
12

Sounds like she did and he said no.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:36 PM
8

Ask him to do things you can't do then thank him enthusiastically for it. Tell him that you appreciate his ability to do whatever it is. Ask in a sweet, feminine way for him to help you. "Honey, I can't open this jar. Can you please help me?" "Can you please help me and get that bread maker down from the top of the cabinets?" Just praise him whenever possible for specific things. Touch specific things and praise him - the muscles in his arms, his hair, whatever it is. Don't just say "you're so h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 08:54 AM
5

Maybe her question was poorly timed. There's not much we can do but see how people behave. She's not obligated to actually wait for him. Some guys are just too busy for a serious relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 03:10 PM
29

Why did you imply that he was lying? He said you'd hear from him in two weeks and you did. He probably thinks that you're too much drama, now. As another poster illustrated, there are ways to get your needs met without being accusatory. I think you have insecurities about relationships, and that's understandable, but you are going to make the worst come true if you act like that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 09:41 AM
4

Not selfish. She's depressed and needs help.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 10:27 AM
2

But then she ends up with a high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:51 AM
2

If you have a hole in your heart, it's like having a hole in a bucket. No matter how much affection and love is poured in there, it will just drain straight out. You're not alone. You have a deep-down belief that you don't deserve to be loved. Presumably, something in your childhood taught you to believe that. I have a hole and my parents were very loving so it may not be that. But somewhere along the way you picked up the belief that you are intrinsically unlovable. How does one fix it? I suppo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 09:24 PM
4

Hugo Boss is nice. Very popular, which you may consider either a plus or a minus. Chanel Egoist is great. Issay Miyake - but I'm not sure which one.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 07:06 AM
2

I'm comfortable with it anywhere that isn't a mucous membrane. If it grows hair, it's skin. The folds between the thighs and pubis are exactly what I'm cleaning. One reason I use a cream cleanser is that, unlike soap, I can actually get that into the mucous membranes. I don't mean up inside the vagina, but in the general labia area is fair game. A doctor at the sexual health clinic recommended that to me. As for pH... It's just the pores and hair follicles and the skin in that area that is affec…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 11:31 PM
5

Wool is amazing for that. I have wool socks that only need washing when they looklike they need it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 02:31 PM
10

I'm gonna disagree on washing hair with any given frequency. Unless your hair gets sweaty/oily or you are in a smelly environment (like around smokers or working in a greasy kitchen or something), I think hair should be washed as infrequently as possible. Plenty of curly hair women wash weekly. I do it twice weekly or slightly less than that. But my hair is fragile because I bleach it. Some people wash their hair daily with no problems.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 02:30 PM
35

Sex work
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 02:26 PM
52

I have some advice for you,as I have to be spotless and odourless for my work. I can take five or more showers a day. So I don't use soap. I use a cream skin cleanser. You can buy specific cream soap substitutes for people with skin issues - ask your pharmacist what their shop carries. You can also just get the cheapest facial cream cleanser and use it on your body. It will feel strange to not have bubbles but remember: it can remove heavy makeup so it will remove dirt, oils, etc. I only use soa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 08:42 AM
6

His shoulders are a bit suspect. Natty shoulders don't have that rounded ball look to them. Personally, I like an athletic natty look. Broad shoulders, a nice chest and a flat stomach. A six pack may be a bit too lean. Muscles that look like they were acquired doing an activity are hot. But all women are different. Some love a more bodybuilder look and some love a dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:22 AM
6

I would phrase it in the same way as the op, but I'm not sure they're entirely wrong. Hopeless and frustrated young men are very dangerous in large numbers. They're ripe for grooming by extremists. There's more at play than just sexual partner matching - the hopelessness can also be due to economic factors - but it does play into things. Look at cultures that practice polygamy. This results in an excess of young men. The Fundamentalist Mormons just expell their for spurious reasons, but some cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:11 AM
3

Was anyone in your family a drunk? At any rate, you don't feel safe in close quarters with drunk people, and that's not really irrational.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 12:52 AM
4

In AA, we describe an alcoholic as someone who can't stop drinking once they start. Also, in my observation, some alcoholics undergo a personality change when they're drunk. Is he nasty to you whenever you do something he doesn't like, or is it when he's drunk? You might find looking into al-anon helpful. It's a program for people in relationships with alcoholics.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 12:50 AM
95

I think it's sensible for a girlfriend to contribute to the living expenses. But if he wants to buy a house, that's his house. Basically, he's saying that your housing expenses should go up because he's buying a house. Will you be getting more for your money? Will you be paying rent towards a nicer home? I feel like you're being asked to take on wife duties but on girlfriend status. I think that a married couple should have mingled money in a joint account. You're not married, and that makes a h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 10:16 PM
2

I'm not reading along, but I've read the book a couple of times and I sometimes listen to random chapters of the libravox audio book. I enjoy reading your summaries every few weeks, even though I don't have much to say.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 07:15 AM
5

Sounds like you've been skipping leg day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 02:59 PM
1

I don't regret my path. My life is OK, really. I have compensations for sure. Many of which I wouldn't have now if I had married younger. Life is what it is. But I'll step out now. Xx
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:51 PM
2

Exactly
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:50 PM
5

And the handsome young President of France is apparently happily married to an elderly woman.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:29 PM
3

Not that drastic, maybe. But I think a lot of women are shocked to discover that the men they fancy have little interest in them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:28 PM
-1

That's a very good point. We can have careers and passions and do all sorts of meaningful things.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:20 PM
-1

I'm old.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:17 PM
0

Nurses and teachers yes. Those are feminine and caring roles that don't come with quite as much student debt. High powered men aren't generally impressed with high powered women.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:15 PM
1

Career means nothing to men. So long as she's not a lazy layabout, it makes no difference. If anything, a high-powered career is a liability in the eyes of men. Doing something middle class is good-but that can be something in non-profit or the arts, like a gallery or museum. Posh girls do that until they marry posh bankers. But girl bankers struggle to marry their career equals. A good career is useful to women, of course. But it adds nothing to SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:13 PM
0

I was over 30. It's a sliding scale. The man I'm currently absolutely gaga about is 62. If you have unrealistic expectations, you're fucked. Do you think an obese guy below average height, receding chin and making $25k a year doesn't prefer the perfect 20yo hottie? Of course he does. But he has to settle. That's how it works
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 03:51 PM
3

The wall is nebulous. Most men find 25 more attractive than 30. Make of that what you will
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 03:16 PM
-5

No it isn't. Men prefer women younger than 26. That's a fact. They settle for otherwise. I mean, even fat losers prefer 22yo 9's and if they're at all sensible they settle for what they can get. The hard age does vary - numbers aren't absolute. But there is a point where we start to decline in value. A woman's primary value is youth and fertility. Nobody gives a fuck if you're educated and accomplished. Just don't be a train wreck and able to cope with basic life whilst being slim and pretty. Sa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:50 PM
5

I'm OK. I would be happier if I'd cashed in earlier.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:45 PM
-9

You accept your value and then strive your hardest to deserve what you get.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:44 PM
6

I accepted my lower smv and made myself useful to the man who settled for me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:43 PM
-3

Put your money directly into his account. Let him be the steward of all the money. Express your wishes then respect his decision. He is the captain and ultimate steward of the the family resources. He may value your homemaking and mothering above money, or he may be the opposite. Regardless, rest assured that his decisions are made for the best of the family. Very few men get to stay home just because of feelz.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:41 PM
-17

Of course. But you have to lower your expectations drastically. At 26, yes, you have hit the wall. Sorry. It's true. But you can be a prize to a much older man. Especially if you have no baggage of your own and are happy to step up to handle his baggage. A 40yo with 2 kids and weekend custody can still feel lucky to get you. You can yet be an utter princess to a 60+year old and his kids may be on their own so less hassle. But the best men will cherry pick the best women and you ain't it. Sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:36 PM
-16

The wall is real. Sorry
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:32 PM
-4

At a certain point, not having baggage and being able to drive at night can compensate for a 60+ year old. A slim, relatively pretty 35yo who doesn't have kids can yet be useful to a much older man. Especially if he has health problems.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:31 PM
2

That would depend on how you came across in person. You'd have to come across very strong and so powerful that your height didn't matter. If you came across like having balls like Zelensky. Not saying it wouldn't matter but it wouldn't be impossible. I've dated your height before.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:30 PM
1

Honestly? It's different for men. I'm sorry but it's true. The repercussions of a woman cheating are much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:44 PM
1

Depends on how they put it. Acknowledge that she may be a bit cautious so suggest meeting at a neutral location for a coffee and say that you prefer it to texting and I'll totally understand. I recently unmatched a guy who's third message was suggesting that he come by my flat for a cup of tea. That's ridiculous. I think one evening or afternoon of text banter, followed by a suggestion of meeting for a coffee makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:57 PM
4

Some people are not monogamous by nature. I know men and women who feel that way. And you don't have to agree with them. You don't have to accept it in a relationship. While I do think men are more likely to feel inclined to variety, it is not something that you have to accept in a partner. But it is also something that you cannot change. This guy is telling you what he expects and feels justified in doing. At best you can guilt him into lying to you about staying monogamous. There is a concept …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 08:11 AM
75

Don't take full responsibility for his food. That's wife privileges at best and kind of mothering at worst. But go ahead and cook for him at yours. Tell him you'd be happy to cook with him at his place and you two can go to the grocery store together to buy ingredients. He probably doesn't have all the gadgets and stuff you do, though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 01:55 AM
4

I don't know. I am 52. So... That's too old for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:34 PM
1

Don't give a shit. Although at my age, a virgin wouldn't be OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:38 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:02 PM
1

I'm sure that some women were turned off by him. I wouldn't have liked him, myself. I definitely appreciated gainfully employed men who had good careers, but I have absolutely passed on guys who were flashy and materialistic. I don't like men in obvious designer clothes and I'm not excited by sports cars. I like men who are very intelligent, well educated, intellectually curious and relaxing to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:58 PM
2

I read the article. This is different than making up a rape that didn't happen.
/r/MensRights22/02/22 04:51 PM
-5

We have no reason to believe she issued a false rape claim.
/r/MensRights22/02/22 04:39 PM
2

I'm glad you're feeling like you have options. You don't have to tell your family about it. It is only your business.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 07:35 PM
16

Depression is an illness and will fuck with anyone, no matter what goals they have. I'm on citslopram, which helped me to stop obsessive and negative thoughts. I don't know if you need a medication. If talk therapy isn't working, you might want to try a medication. You should speak to a doctor. In my experience with Citslopram, I felt slightly off for a short while but when it kicked in, I felt such peace. If you had a broken leg and needed surgery then traction in the hospital, you'd be unable …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 06:13 PM
1

I am old enough to have found Adam Ant dreamy 😂 Liked Andy from Duran Duran, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 04:57 PM
3

You gotta do that for you. Hinging it on his approval is putting your health in his hands. He may even be undermining you because your weight loss is a threat.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 03:36 PM
3

He will never think you're enough. Think about this...what would you think of a woman who thought her boyfriend wasn't enough? You'd think she was a fool to be with a man she didn't admire. Flip the script: what's holding this guy back from having what he wants? I'm willing to bet that you're exactly what he wants or thinks he deserves; someone he thinks he can demean.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 03:35 PM
1

I think the article missed out on a possible explanation for the differences in what different age groups of women found attractive. They said that maybe older women accept loss of muscle mass in older age. I didn't see any reason to believe that the women were asked to think about the men they can/did date but just what they found attractive. I think maybe there's a generational difference in taste because of the popularity of different physiques over the years. Younger women have come of age w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:19 PM
1

I think that was how I took it, as well. I didn't see anything about the second-most-appealing physique. A woman who really prefers the brawny guy may well also find the athletic guy very attractive. There are variables like face, voice, hair, etc that are not addressed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:14 PM
1

I like men who look like they lift heavy, but are natty. I do know what to look for, and I am turned off by the shoulders of a guy who has that kind of shoulder profile that can only be achieved with gear. I'm a bit turned off by a very low body fat percentage, although at the same time I will expect the wiry guys to have bigger dicks (because its a fact that belly fat will obscure some of the length, and because that sort of healthy physique usually goes with good cardiovascular health/strong e…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:12 PM
1

I'm likely to end up enjoying myself, so sure. That's assuming that the sex is generally good and I am not expected to swing from the chandeliers or something super kinky. My not being in the mood is likely due to stress and exhaustion. If I go in expecting some vanilla kissing and caressing and a bit of missionary and he won't take forever, it may be the case I end up happy I did it. I might get so into it that I do end up swinging from the chandelier. If sex is expected to be a wild porno then…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:25 PM
1

You make a good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:06 PM
0

If abortion isn't possible then it would behoove women to not get pregnant. Everything is her responsibility and choice. Men are not part of the decision to conceive so they should have zero responsibility for the rest of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:16 PM
1

The person who gave birth to it can.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:07 PM
4

Nope. Her problem. Not his. He doesn't get pregnant. She does. Her body, her choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:06 PM
2

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:58 PM
3

That's why men should not be forced to comply. No paternity should ever be assumed. Dna tests should be required to establish one. Nobody should be forced to go along with the testing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:42 PM
10

Why should anyone pay for an unwanted child? Mothers can petition for a paternity test. Men can refuse to comply.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:41 PM
1

For some it's very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:13 PM
1

I'm definitely not a young flower. But I'm well preserved. If someone is curious about what wisdom and aquired tricks an older woman might have, I'm a palatable specimen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:59 PM
1

I'm actually pretty good looking for my age. Theres the idea that older women are better at sex. I hsve also heard that younger girls are more likely to starfish. I swing from the chandeliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:54 PM
1

I think they sign up even numbers when possible
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:52 PM
1

I get a lot of 20-something clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:51 PM
1

But they could pay the same or less for someone younger and bustier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:04 PM
3

What's really weird is that a surprising number of men will pay to sleep with me, and I charge slightly higher than average. I am a 52-year-old, flat-chested woman. I can only take a small fraction of the requests I get. I'm literally able to pick and choose only the ones who sound lovely on the phone. I have friends who I think are less attractive than myself and they're booked pretty solid. It's a weird world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:37 PM
1

This is true. I sleep with anyone for money but I have specific ideas about whom I'll make time for. My current obsession is a man who is 62, an inch shorter than me, rather introverted and mild mannered. But he's kind and I trust him and he fucks like a freight train. I've been infatuated with him for about 8 months, now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:35 PM
1

I'm an escort and I'm about 99 percent there. So far the worst I've done is grin and bear it. Then blocked them. I'm fine with most men and will look for something to connect with when possible. In recreational sex, like at sex clubs, I just want a friendly face, not obese and not an idiot. If I'm gonna shave my legs and make time to see someone specifically, then I want to see a spark in the friendly face. I'm turned off by model pretty men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:32 PM
3

I tried speed dating once and it was fun! I think more of that would be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:26 PM
13

I would hate it because I don't want to put on makeup and worry about lighting, angles and the pile of laundry in the background, but I understand that younger people are more keen on video chatting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:33 PM
2

Like one that only includes biological women? I hsve heard that that can be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:32 PM
1

To schedule the chat would require something like swiping right I already swipe left on anyone who doesn't put something substantial in their text part of the profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:32 PM
12

OK. Well, to be fair, it would put a huge amount of pressure on the relationship for you to move there. As an expat who talks to other expats on various fora, I have seen a fair number of instances of someone moving to be with someone, not liking where they are, becoming homesick, and then the relationship suffers. I have also seen stories of people sort of stuck somewhere with few resources if the relationship ends. If you move there with the expectation that he will be the only thing to make i…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 12:57 AM
19

Has he expressed any desire for you to move to where he is? Do you want him to move back to where you are? One of these two things has to happen. Otherwise, the best thing for you would be to go no contact, get over him, and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 12:48 AM
1

It also makes sense to have one that employers may see and another where you can post photos of yourself drunk or political or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:17 PM
2

Yep. Everyone knew everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:06 AM
2

Be legitimately single and have some indication that you're using your real name would be a start. I'd imagine that the ladies in your user name are vetting you pretty carefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:18 AM
4

Actually, yes, there ought to be some indication that you have good standing in your community. That you are whom you say that you are. It used to be that you only met people who knew your people. In fact, there was a time when if you wanted to chat up a girl, you needed to find someone to introduce you to her. Even if you were at the same social event. Everybody knew everybody's business and reputations were sacred. These days, you can approach women anywhere or just hit them up online. Her aun…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:15 AM
9

I'm not sure how common this really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:11 AM
3

The sort of men I'd date I would expect to find some evidence online to indicate who he is. At my age, it is likely to be Linked In and Facebook. Men my age are more likely to be married than not, statistically. It's not a deal breaker - the man I'm currently involved with has no social media - but it can be a hint that he's not being up front. My Facebook is pretty locked down but I'm there. And if I'm involved with someone of course I am happy to add them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:09 AM
7

I might be slightly suspicious that you're married or something if I can't find you anywhere online.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:13 AM
182

You're being taken advantage of. Just because you're not perfectly feminine and submissive doesn't mean that you hsve to put up with anything. He may consider himself a HVM, and he may be handsome enough to get female attention, but he doesn't sound HV to me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 08:08 PM
9

It honestly doesn't matter because his behaviour reveals him to be a pretty crap person. Like I said, reasonable people will maintain a polite face to the end of a bad date and then not see you again. You can be mystified, but you'll never really know what he was thinking. Because he's not rational. By the way, the menu thing was weird on your part. It's no longer the done thing to order for the lady, and even when it was, she was expected to tell him what she wanted. Then he spoke to the waiter…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 11:20 PM
9

The first red flag is that he's the sort of guy who smokes weed even though he's in the military. Which means he's utterly stupid and irresponsible and about to be dishonorably discharged as soon as he he's randomly drug tested, or he's lying about being in the military. As for the rest of it: it's entirely his problem. Even if he didn't like certain traits of you, normal and polite people keep it polite and then drop you off and don't see you again. You seem to be concerned with why he doesn't …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 09:53 PM
4

Many mothers will go into work at that point. Although they won't earn as much as someone who has been in a career all along. My mother was an engineer for Bell telephone and quit to have children Then, once we were in high school, she worked in retail and did volunteer work. Considering the norm in the US is to put infants in childcare at only a couple of months old and return to full time work, a lot of both men and women would prefer to have a parent at home. "lots of children" could mean twe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:49 PM
4

"lots of kids" is work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:51 AM
11

Could you please elaborate? What, specifically, did she do that was so special?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:49 AM
4

Same with confident men who like tall girls!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:08 AM
11

I'm 5'10"and I have gone shorter plenty of times. I only notice the discrepancy if they complain about it, and then they will often phrase their concerns in terms of my being "too tall." That makes them look like a little bitch. But I otherwise don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 02:23 AM
1

There's no reason why you should care. I was replying to someone saying that men read it to look clever and get laid lol. I think you're arguing with me but it's not necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 06:38 PM
1

In my experience, men are more inclined to read War and Peace, and they definitely seem to prefer Dostoyevski.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 05:01 PM
4

That's because they were! They were young and idealistic and we watch them grow. I loved the description of the way she just took over the care of his brother and dealt with it with such compassion and efficency. Levin had her on a princess pedastle and it was such a revelation to him see this other aspect of femininity that is practical and helpful rather than ornamental.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 05:00 PM
1

I have not met many men who have read it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 02:25 PM
2

It's about a lot more than that. There are other characters who grow and develop.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 02:25 PM
1

Hopefully they will become good enough to satisfy base urges. They ought to put girls on their notice. Unfortunately, the one thing they can't do is to satisfy the ego... To know that you have seduced a woman into doing something against her best interests and to know that pain inflicted is genuine. So the unfortunate upshot is that the bots will absorb the benign stuff and women will be needed when they can provide the ego trip of enduring pain and psychological subordination
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:50 PM
5

I do know a woman with a very high sex drive. I know her from the sex clubs. She is like a man that way. But she doesn't go only for super hot men. She definitely goes for men she finds hot, but these are not necessarily model handsome. In the sex club/swinger club scenes, you see people focusing on sexiness rather than beauty. It's definitely about hygiene and not being physically repulsive. I honestly only want a friendly face, good hygiene and the ability to look down and see their own penis …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:10 PM
119

I'm having a fantasy of you sincerely thanking him for helping you to improve and level up, because you've just met a guy who thinks you're gorgeous and you couldn't have ever achieved such a fantastic man without his tutelage. Seriously, though, he's negging you. He would absolutely shit himself if a man came along and said that you were gorgeous. I know this from experience. I had a guy criticise and treat me like a pity project and when I met his old college roommate and we immediately fell i…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 04:13 PM
0

Here in England, men like him minus some of his charisma are doing just fine. He's a handsome man who carries himself with confidence. He exudes masculinity. Reiterating the caveat about age, though. Most 20yo women would find him just too old. I think this sub focuses on what appeals to and works for 20 year old people. I can't really address that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:00 PM
4

It sounds like he's not giving you things you need.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 01:23 PM
-1

Which he acquired due to his ability to melt panties. He would absolutely be attractive IRL, albeit to women over 30 as he's not exactly young.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 12:34 PM
2

I dated bald and balding men. And men with hair transplants. A toupee? Never experienced it. If it was noticeable I think it would bother me. To see him without it if it was so good that I hadn't noticed? No. A shock, maybe, but not game over.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 12:25 PM
1

Honestly, as someone who likes short men, to me it would seem unmasculine and insecure to do something like that. A shoe that adds an inch or two seems reasonable. I can see why some guys might like cowboy boots for that reason. And if they get hair transplants or teeth veneers I would understand. But I think anything extreme would bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 12:24 PM
3

That's no reason to do it. Some men have real issues cleaning under their tight foreskin or it hurts when they're erect and that's a good reason. Just keep it very clean (pull back the foreskin and wash thoroughly every day, as well as before sex) and your dick will not be gross.
/r/MensRights27/01/22 07:21 PM
2

My experience with this was to be a part of a narcissist's harem. I think the two concepts can overlap. But a narc harem may not be about sleeping with all of the women. The primary point of this kind of harem is attention, or "supply." In my experience, there was a lot of "don't ask, don't tell." He definitely did not say that he was having sex with a couple of the other women, but we certainly weren't in a relationship that I had any expectation of exclusivity. However I was aware that he had …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:59 AM
1

They are certainly rare. If you're a keen gym rat then you may stand a chance of meeting a lady who shares your interest. I see a lot of those sorts at proper body building gyms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:57 PM
1

You're trying to date women with 7% body fat? Do you have any idea what that looks like on a woman? That's the bf% of a female body builder on competition day. I don't mean bikini competition but proper body builder. Fully defined abs and some veins popping is 10-12%. And neither are sustainable. They look like that for the competition or photoshoot day then they puff up, again. They can only achieve that with drugs and intensely monitored diet. They will stop menstruating and risk osteoporosis …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:31 PM
9

This is all wonderfully wholesome
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 06:09 PM
1

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=uglyhot&amp=true
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 10:42 AM
1

Just Googled Richard Brake... I see it!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:17 AM
2

Yes! Strong features are masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:14 AM
3

Well, I like men who look like Steve Buscemi and Pete Davidson irl. I was just served by a bar man who reminds me of them... Something about the eyes and teeth. I found him compelling and interesting. I have never found Johnny Depp attractive, until he dressed up as a kind of scruffy pirate. It made him interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:51 PM
3

Very likely true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:23 PM
24

I actually like their faces. Although I might have first noticed a character they portrayed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:56 PM
123

Pete Davidson is a young Steve Buscemi in the way he looks. I found Buscemi attractive. There's a thing called "ugly hot." Willem Defoe, Christopher Walken, Adam Driver... There are definitely women who find them hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:49 PM
2

Yes men need women
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/22 09:02 PM
5

Women do not build empires. They can help. Or stay out of the way Women are biologically designed to gestate and lactate. Can we be of use otherwise? Of course we can! But the fact remains that we have 2 sexes for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 06:54 PM
4

You make valid points!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 10:13 PM
10

Mothering nurturing is an intrinsic element of femininity. The key is to provide all of the comfort and support of The Mother without ever making him feel like a child. To be female is a beautiful opportunity to suffer selflessly for something greater than oneself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 08:11 PM
4

I'm a cautionary example. I undermined my man and I'm now suffering the consequences in my old age. I should have loved more and striven harder to serve with the appropriate attitude of gratitude. I'm now engaged full time in making myself as useful to men as possible, with what dwindling attributes I still possess.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 08:09 PM
4

I think everything you say is true. But it's based on the idea that the hopes, dreams, and existential experiences of women are equal to those of men. Women who prevail succeed only in securing their own immediate, fleeting comfort. Men who achieve build empires. They land on the moon. They compose odes that convey the glory of such an achievement. A society that equates in importance the immediate temporal comfort of women with the genuinely profound striving of men is at best a mediocre morass…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 08:05 PM
-13

Let him steer. The hard part is to watch the children suffer Try to remember that they are his children to deal with as he prefers. Modern laws and feminist poison interferes with the sanctity of the man's castle. This undermines all of society in profound and catastrophic ways. I think it's better for women to be focused on the idea that a beautiful and loving woman will inspire men to greatness. When the urge to nag arrises, she will perhaps do better to consider how she might be more inspirin…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 06:44 PM
-21

Why is it the woman's job to warn him? If he wants to take months off to chill that is his business. It used to be that the man of the family was fed the first portions at dinner. As far as I am concerned our role is to keep providing no judgement support. When money runs out, cook until the cupboards are bare , making sure that his caloric needs are satisfied first. When or if he asks why there's nothing more to eat, just reply simply that the food is gone and no more money to buy more. By now,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 05:41 PM
27

I'm sure that my ideas aren't quite what is intended. I believe that females exist to assist and nurture males. Men build empires, explore, conquer, create...they also produce the art and philosophy that expresses all of the meaning of these endeavours. Women assist in this mission. We are biologically constructed to gestate and lactate. We are made physically weaker - significantly so - for a reason. We are not the equal of men. Instead we are reliant on their provision and protection. All we c…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 05:33 PM
2

This is true in my experience. I'm 52. I look good for my age but I'm not in the same league as the model types. I charge the same rates as escorts 30 years younger than myself and I turn away business all the time because I can't see all the men who ask for bookings.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:30 AM
5

Ask him to do something easy. Then no matter how he does it, thank him. Gush over how happy he's made you. Tell him that you'll be giving him a special sumthin sumthin later with a wink and then follow through. How do you train a dog? With lavish praise and rewards. If he's literally doing a shitty job of stuff - like leaving streaks of food on the plates he was supposed to have washed, then don't ask him to do that again. Find stuff he can do and then praise and reward. By the way, there's no o…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/21 06:23 PM
1

I'm a 52-year-old mother of boys. I have no real skin in the game - whatever decisions I had have long ago been made. I'm just interested in the idea of the sexual market. I think it's interesting to see what shakes out, especially now that there are relatively few barriers to divorce. I have no bitterness towards men who are able to get the most they can.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/21 01:23 AM
1

I. I'm not bitter. I think fair play to the man who pulls it off
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 07:06 PM
1

I don't know. Ten years, three kids, three stone and a bunch of stretch marks later... Can I really do any better?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 06:52 PM
1

I do think that many men remain smitten for life. But I think that a truly good woman serves without that expectation and she may well be sending a sleek, well-fed, relaxed and confident man off to the office every day and this confidant, relaxed man will be attractive to younger women. I think it's natural for him to be interested in the fresh little young thing gazing up at him with adoring, innocent eyes. The wife no matter how sweet and loyal and supportive will know his weaknesses and faili…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 06:50 PM
1

I agree with you. But I think it's common these days to break that contract
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 07:30 AM
0

I'm not sure if you can, really.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 12:34 AM
1

I don't know. It certainly happens a lot. I suppose women will, too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 12:21 AM
0

Well I try to keep him happy
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 12:20 AM
1

Why do so many incredibly rich men have three or so wives?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 12:07 AM
-3

Thank you for your kindness. I'm past the age of child bearing. I roped a beta into knocking me up. At least in my defense I can say that I am financially supporting the whole family.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 11:29 PM
-13

I want to believe that you are right. But I think I may judge a man who doesn't level up to a younger trophy wife as somehow weak. It's fucked up I know.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 10:15 PM
6

You're like someone in a raft going down a rushing river with terrifying rapids that keep getting worse. You're speeding towards a waterfall. But you don't get out of the boat because the terrain on the banks is rough and has no paths and you don't know how you'll be able to hike out of the woods... So you stay in the boat. I promise you that he will not get better. It will only get worse. You're settling for disaster.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 05:45 PM
8

I don't know if I see these as connected. They sound like a list of unpleasant or self-destructive behaviour. Some women really want male sexual attention, hence the vulgar behaviour. Some women very much want to discourage male sexual attention, and so may make zero effort to groom attractively. Both of the above may have their roots in sexual trauma early in life, by the way. Some people of either sex are angry and pick fights. Some people have different ideas about physical touch and appropri…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 03:44 AM
1

Fat, opinionated, promiscuous, baby in tow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:52 PM
3

Development towards what? How is it not possible to have a life-long interest in something? It doesn't preclude doing other things with their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:20 PM
1

They look like normal people who have normal jobs. At any rate, their wives seem to like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:19 PM
7

Meanwhile, most metalheads have good jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:16 PM
1

Then don't fuck an old metalhead. They won't miss you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:15 PM
4

I go to festivals full of metalheads of all ages. Its not just a phase. Nor is it a lifestyle. It's just metal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:13 PM
6

I have a lot of friends who are in metal bands. They have fun. They also have normal jobs and families and shit. It's not about getting laid. It's just a metal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 07:11 PM
1

He probably loves the way you look Wear cute pajamas or nighty. He will appreciate seeing the special, private you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:50 AM
0

Supermodel Paulina Poritzkova married Rick Ocasek, an objectively ugly man. Yes, he was rich. But she could have married any one of non-ugly rich men. She was, at the time, literally celebrated as the most beautiful woman in the world. She must have found something else in him that she particularly liked. Julia Roberts was once in love with Lyle Lovett, possibly even uglier than Rick Ocasek. She was plenty rich, herself, and she had been linked to plenty of other men. Benjamin Bratt, for example…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:24 PM
1

I agree. Low commitment. Imagine being stuck on an elaborate date with someone you know right away isn't for you? When I was young and on the cock carousel, I never saw men as means for getting free meals. I wouldn't even accept a drink if I knew I wouldn't be interested. I would chat with them for the duration of the drink, figuring that's what they were buying - the chance to chat. If I found them unpleasant I would leave the drink unfinished and walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 12:28 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 12:18 AM
13

There's nothing more dangerous than a generation of young men who don't feel like they have any real shot at thriving. It's not just sex - it's marriage and job opportunities. I think it's going to mean increasing radicalisation politically.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:36 AM
3

Stop trying to push him to lead. Tell him what you want and let him give it to you. "I would love to try that new restaurant." He takes you. You thank him. If he ever suggests a movie and a restaurant you don't like, you agree and go and you thank him. Any time he expresses a desire, agree, unless that desire is to do something utterly awful like smoke crack or attend a sex party (unless you're actually open to swinging, of course.)
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/21 11:30 AM
3

There's literally nothing misogynistic in that text. You should have been offered sympathy and support because you sound depressed.
/r/MensRights14/11/21 04:34 AM
1

My options as a woman are patches or gels. Progesterone is via the mirena coil, which I luckily tolerate. Estrogen is a gel. I haven't heard anything about an estrogen implant for HRT.
/r/MensRights29/10/21 09:57 PM
3

Lifting weights is actually pretty good for weight control. For me, too much cardio makes me crave carbs. But lifting doesn't. It burns calories off even when you're not exercising because your muscles recover over the next 48 hours.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 03:17 PM
12

As others have said, you can't change other people. And any attempts to change him will only further emasculate him. All you can do is accept him or find someone else to give you what you want. I'm curious to know what you mean by submissive. Do you mean passive? Sometimes we think of masculine behaviour as being a bit loud, physical, and bossy. But many men are quiet and reserved without being submissive. They will still stand up for themselves and what they believe in, when it matters, and som…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 06:50 AM
5

I think they mean the MAGA cult.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:37 PM
1

Drama. Someone who is constantly in conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:36 PM
1

Men accrue power in order to access more vaginas.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:42 PM
3

Charlie Sheen once said, "You don't pay a hooker to fuck you; you pay her to go away."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:41 PM
0

There's no point talking about it to him. He knows how you feel and he's chosen to travel on the dates that suit him. You can't nag the guy into being what you want. Accept him exactly as he is or reject him. You have that power and that power only.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 11:30 PM
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The normal course of events in mammal mating is the male ejaculates inside the vagina. That has been the norm for millions of years. If you want anything otherwise, that needs to be discussed. Saying "I'm on birth control" relieves human males from the primary worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:43 PM
4

You no longer feel sexual desire for female bodies?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:33 AM
2

I'm not thinking of the other extreme. I'm replying to the implied idea that the thinner you are, the more attractive you are to men. There's definitely a lower limit, which is subjtctive of course. But I think quite a lot of anorexic girls believe that they out to be ever smaller.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 04:35 PM
13

There's certainly too much of a good thing. I don't think a skeletal woman is more attractive than a petite, slender but curvy one.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 10:19 PM
1

So do I. I'm about to end a relationship because he's not interested in sharing these interests with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:26 PM
1

I'm very similar. History, politics, travel, reading. I have to share these interests with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 10:10 AM
2

You're definitely not alone. But I think if men were offered a ONS with the choice I proposed (starfish vs very enthusiastic) I'm sure quite a few would pick the gorgeous starfish. If not for no other reason than this may be their one opportunity in a lifetime to touch such a creature.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:10 AM
10

I think men are more inclined to enjoy sex with a woman simply because she's gorgeous. They may even choose to bang a 10 starfish over a 6 freak in the sheets. I guess that's down to the men being more visual thing and the fact that they can usually orgasm into a starfish, as if they were a Fleshlight. But I think that they will still become quickly bored and dissatisfied with even the loveliest starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:37 AM
10

In my experience, the physically beautiful guys are not usually the hottest lovers. And it can be a bit intimidating to be with someone stunningly beautiful. This can distract from the sexual enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:31 AM
1

Attractive? No. But I'm an older woman so I am not quite as focused on beauty as someone younger may be. Great chemistry? Yes, that can affect the way I will enjoy subsequent lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:30 AM
0

I would just scroll on by and try to forget I saw that. Some people want to see the worst in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:35 PM
1

I do. I just don't think it's good to go into such detail.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:15 PM
1

Of course. If you are only wanting sex it should be pleasurable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:28 PM
1

Of course if the sex act is the end goal
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 07:58 PM
1

Women are built to enjoy sex but it is not a priority. A few decades of birth control and legislation don't mean a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:09 PM
1

I agree. There is a lot of emphasis on the performance and enjoyment and I get it. But I think that these are secondary to the male ejaculation. And tertiary after the male's material support.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:07 PM
1

Getting off on for the sake of it? Nah But I think there is MUCH TOO MUCH emphasis on her pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:05 PM
1

It is better that she enjoys the man. But no... It is not necessary. But I think quite a few men would be reassured to know that she is not lusty and up for anything with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:02 PM
1

I am a slut and very happy. Call it what you want but you cannot argue away the desire for men to feel like they have a loyal woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:01 PM
1

The point of intercourse is insemination. We don't leave our eggs on a piece of seaweed to be fertilised by the male later like some fish do. There are secondary reasons for sex of course. But the vast majority of our mental and physical machinery is aimed at insemination. And that depends on the male ejaculation. Further, after that the female must somehow convince the male to protect and provide, at least for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:47 PM
0

Obviously it is better to not have pain but I think there is too much emphasis on the individual autonomy and pleasure I do not believe that female physiognomy is compatible with autonomy. Female bodies exist to gestste babies. Humans are social animals. Women just can't be autonomous. Our bodies and our reproduction are communal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:43 PM
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No. Sex isn't actually personal. It is communal. It creates babies and that involves other members of the community
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:34 PM
0

I didn't say that they get loose or stretched or any such thing. I have a WAP. I love sex and squirt, etc. But I'm old and not at all marriage material. I belong to the other category of women that is equally necessary for a stable society. There is nothing wrong with being delicate and sensitive. It reassures men that you're not a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:32 PM
-3

The ultimate point of the sex act is insemination - the male ejaculation. It's great to enjoy it - we have evolved with a clit - but we should work to accommodate the male as that is the point of sexual relations
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:29 PM
2

I'm really sorry that you've experienced this. Honestly I think the mistake is believing in equality, I don't want to get kicked off this sub but I'm a woman who thinks it is folly to attempt to meet women in good faith on equal terms. Nature has made one sex significantly stronger and the sex incredibly vulnerable.... This is for a reason.
/r/MensRights01/10/21 05:21 PM
1

I'm sorry I'm new to the sub. Apologies
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:17 PM
1

Laugh if you want... But our value declines as men only get more valuable. Lock in a good provider
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:17 PM
-8

Why? You don't think that women are meant to recieve the penis? Sure, we get open and wet when we are turned on but the truth is that men like the assurance that we're not too easy. Delicate, tight, sensitive.... This is positive for men. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:16 PM
-3

I think it's my job to inspire man to great sex. If he's not WOW then I figure it is down to me not lighting him up
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:08 PM
-8

I think she'd be better with counseling to get her used to the pain. She sounds very tight and feminine and I don't doubt it would make men very excited. The woman's role is to recieve the man. She just needs to accept it and learn to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:06 PM
12

I would say that the real red flag is knowing this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:44 PM
1

I believe that the only way to keep things as they ought to be is to deposit all pay into his account and let him allocate it as he sees fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 05:44 PM
20

I love everything about this response. My feelings are along the lines of, "he's embarrassed because he has been exposed as unmanly," but you put it it as "should inspire him to be a better man £and I like that better.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 06:21 AM
1

Nope. I had no real sides
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:28 PM
1

This was the case in Europe after the first World War. A lot of women were unable to find husbands because so many young men were killed. It has been a partially credited with the start of the sexual revolution, as women had to share men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 09:57 AM
3

I understand this and my advice to women is to be mindful of what they tell a guy. Some women tried casual sex and found it wasn't for them. Another scenario is that a woman might like a man so much that she is afraid of her heart being broken so she's cautious. She may have viewed some guys in the past as good for sex but not much else and then meets a man whom she thinks is wonderful and therefor take more care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:31 AM
0

I have taken steroids and testosterone. The effect on my libido was insane. I was insatiable. It was fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:25 AM
6

I had forgotten that sub was a thing. I'll check it out.
/r/MensRights27/09/21 04:11 AM
27

I've always said that young men who don't feel they have a chance of a productive future are dangerous. One of the reasons there are suicide bombers in radical Islamic terrorism is the surplus of young, unmarried men brought about by polygamy.
/r/MensRights27/09/21 03:43 AM
6

I'm sorry if I sound like a troll. I am a woman. I don't think traditional gender roles are at all hateful. I think women have been sold a fraudulent bill of goods that puts them at the odds with their biology. Obviously there are exceptions. Not all women are feminine/nurturing just as not all men are masculine/providers. We are lucky to live in a society that tolerates those who don't conform. But I genuinely believe that we are happier when we are in harmony with our gender roles.
/r/MensRights22/09/21 03:15 PM
-2

The red pill women group isn't actually bad. It acknowledges the logic of male redpill thought and attempts to see the female POV. The participants are generally striving to be more feminine and agreeable so as to attract a man long term.
/r/MensRights19/09/21 08:17 PM
6

I'm auto banned from all sorts just because I have engaged on various "wrongthink" subs.
/r/MensRights13/09/21 08:19 AM
3

Ah! I'm not entirely monogamous but I can only deal with that sort of thing if it's casual and I don't want to know much about the other people they're inv with.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 02:20 AM
3

Sounds like you were the unicorn of a throuple? I have heard that the bi woman making the triad is often in an unequal position.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 01:26 AM
5

I don't blame you for not wanting to hire women. So much heartache and hassle could be averted if men and women had stuck with the traditionsl gender roles
/r/MensRights09/09/21 06:38 PM
3

What would he do if you stopped at KFC on the way home and brought your own dinner in the house? 2 pieces with some biscuits and a Pepsi? Would he literally take it away from you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 03:35 PM
19

That's exactly what I was thinking. Imagine his exacting ideas on pregnancy and childbirth. A man who feels like he has permission to physically grab and throw away things that don't belong to him... I don't think he'd hesitate to expect the same physical authority over the body gestating his baby.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 09:09 AM
3

That's the word I was looking for
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 09:07 AM
4

You don't have to let him put his dick inside you just because he's ready. Just decide that he can't until you've orgasmed. Then when he makes a move to roll on top or whatever, stop him and say "not yet... I want more of that thing you were just doing."
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 04:13 PM
1

They may also both be right. Some people just love drama and will practically seek out or provoke abuse. There's no way to be sure so the op should move slowly.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:30 AM
6

I think I would if I were her, yes. It's not unnatural for someone to genuinely want to warn people about an abuser. But I think they'd want to be helpful and forthcoming, rather than cryptic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 02:06 AM
1

It's not like the faith is a red flag, of course. Not sure how to put it... If someone makes an obvious show of it, it might be. By that I mean identifying oneself as very devout, etc. Ever notice that the weird catfish online dating scammers talk a lot about their love of God and desire to find a good, pious woman? I only mean that you should never think that someone's professed creed has any real bearing on their character. If you are given any reason to doubt their character, "but he is a Chr…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 02:03 AM
0

Did you reply to the message? Ask if they have any evidence, like screenshots of texts or whatever. And slow down the relationship a bit. Chivalrous and Christian, quite frankly, may be red flags. See how he reacts to you slowing down a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:08 PM
1

I do understand what you're saying. Especially in regards to him at least taking care of some of the more masculine sphere things like DIY and the lawn. But I do believe that the ideal woman makes life as comfy and effortless as possible for men. So they can return at the end of the day to an environment in which they can totally relax. Unfortunately, women are now of very low intrinsic value, since sex has been largely devalued. We can be easily replaced. And as we age and further depreciate in…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 12:23 AM
0

I don't know. He may be hypercritical and that would be bad. But I don't think I believe in the sort of equality that feminism touts. Men want to be cared for to a high standard. Being a woman isn't easy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 10:58 PM
3

Don't respond defensively. Just pat his arm and say "yeah, it's frustrating." Drop it and change the subject. He's just annoyed with the yard. Don't give him the opportunity to transfer it to you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 02:48 PM
23

I nagged a man to fix the broken shower and he dragged his feet. I would ask when he was going to do it. I finally dropped it and took baths. Then one day I just said "I don't feel clean taking baths when I'm on my period. I want a shower." He fixed it immediately and cheerfully. Because instead of nagging him about what he ought to do, I expressed a need and he wanted to satisfy it. He enjoyed doing something nice for me. Nobody enjoys chores.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 02:46 PM
3

You are dealing with her. You're giving her information. She probably just doesn't know better. And I have met plenty of fathers who's only justification is they want their sons to look like them.
/r/MensRights19/08/21 08:56 AM
2

No, that was my own lighthearted way of saying that they react negatively. Usually by backing away with a stricken face and blurting out I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! They're not actually verbally insulting. But it's still a rejection based on the assumption that my chat is a come on.
/r/MensRights18/08/21 09:30 PM
14

This is the perfect response.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 02:50 PM
5

Yes you are on the right track. You should always strive to be a better person than you were. There's no such thing as a perfect person.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 02:49 PM
72

If it makes you feel better, few of them make money. It's completely over saturated.
/r/MensRights02/08/21 11:38 AM
24

I agree. Its not uncommon for someone to pull back a bit when things are going very well. Give him the space to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 09:56 PM
18

Those aren't trivial things at all. Please do expand on the situation for us all
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 01:57 PM
6

What do you consider better?
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 01:20 PM
11

This is not enough information to go on
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 12:47 PM
1

London, Paris, Barcelona, Rome, Amsterdam and Bruges.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 07:43 PM
3

I stayed at home when my kids were little. Once the youngest started school I started to work agsin. I have to say that it was hard for me. I was very much an extrovert and we were living in a rural Highland village. I damn near lost my mind. I cleaned and cooked a lot. I would stay up late on the Internet because that was my only free time for my own thoughts. I'm glad that I was educated. I don't know if it made a difference to my kids but it is just part of who I am and it has enriched my lif…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 11:35 AM
14

You should never give another person the power to validate if you are a good person or not. I very seriously doubt that you are. Terrible people don't suffer from self doubt, for one thing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 05:26 PM
8

You cannot heal someone. In fact, it's not uncommon to do all that work and then see him take his healed, better self off to marry another woman. If you want to be married, then find a man who is ready for it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 04:50 PM
10

He will never be happy. Do you want to be unhappy with him?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 02:57 PM
5

The OP's problem is that she grew up with her father out of the picture and so has no model of reference for a good marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 11:03 AM
19

I second this... Be sure to pee before getting frisky and then put down lots of towels. When you get that feeling like you're gonna pee, don't hold back. Sort of lean into it and let it happen. You're almost certainly going to squirt.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 10:30 AM
1

Yes it can be a huge mess. But I know what my intentions are and if someone thinks I'm hitting on them, that's their issue. It's not pleasant if they vociferously reject me... "Um, I was just remarking on your shirt because I like the same band...that you don't want to see my saggy tits wasn't really something I needed to know." But I'm not going to be changing my ways because I have had many pleasant interactions and have made many friends from such spontaneous chats. Sometimes I even get my sa…
/r/MensRights16/05/21 07:26 PM
1

I'm sorry that happened to you. That's an entirely different situation and you have no control over it. Just like being called "gay." It's a bullying thing. When I was in high school someone decided to spread the rumour that I popped my cherry with a hair brush. I was teased for the rest of my time in school over it.
/r/MensRights16/05/21 04:06 PM
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Approaching is not creepy. (However, if you're old enough to be her father, then you may be considered creepy.) Back off immediately if you don't get an enthusiastic response and you should be fine. I'm 51 f. I have been interpreted as creepy, myself. I am a friendly, gregarious person and I talk to anyone. But I know that it's not uncommon for men to assume that anything from a woman means we're DTF. So, younger guys can be creeped out by me.
/r/MensRights16/05/21 01:20 PM
3

You've done well... Made other plans because you're not sat waiting for him. If a man is keen he will move mountains to see you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 01:32 PM
7

It's also weird that he's told you about this. It's a bit drama-llama of him. And, frankly, it sounds like triangulation. Him having lots of female friends and him telling you that they're objecting to you... I have been in a situation like that. Twice, in fact. In my cases, these were guys with narcissist harems. the narcissist harem https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/06/the-dollhouse-5-roles-you-play-in-a-narcissists-harem-or-love-cult/
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 04:30 PM
2

Nobody is saying to be a doormat. Just that being less combative may be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 07:37 PM
11

As the above poster said... Ask yourself if its worth it. Try to focus on the other person. What do they want? To be seen and heard and recognised and respected. Work on being a good listener. That's what people want....
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:58 PM
4

I don't think you should be afraid of losing him. There's still the matter of him not letting you have any input into the decor. And he stands to benefit significantly from you paying the mortgage. How do you know that he's really interested in you as a wife or just enjoying something convenient? I think if a man is sincere about marriage, then he will wait until you're both ready for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 09:21 PM
1

Well, at least that way you're demonstrating that you're not looking for a handout. If you're not ready to commit to combined finances, maybe it would be best to live apart.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 08:01 PM
2

Can you afford to pay rent and live by yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 07:57 PM
11

He's going to accrue wealth based on the money you give him. Now, that would be great if you knew that you would be sharing that wealth with him, someday. But talking about getting engaged isn't the same as getting engaged and that's still not marriage. Furthermore, while it may be his house, it will be your home and he should want you to be happy with the decor, etc Can you afford to not move in with him? Why not rent a place that suits your needs? If you two end up married, great. But I don't …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 10:12 PM
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While what you say is true, there are a lot of ordinary people - "5's" if you will - who are leading happy lives. I know plain women who are madly in love with their devoted husbands, have lots of friends and do work they enjoy, etc. I think it's down to your mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 03:00 PM
1

I was thinking more about the feminine traits of kindness and compassion. But I don't know if such traits can be acquired at any university.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 03:11 AM
1

For all you know, it's Amal I have a crush on. Someday, you won't be young and hot. It would behoove you to have some other attractive qualities as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 02:56 AM
1

Someday you will be infertile and you will hopefully still want to sleep with your husband,who will - God willing - survive to be an old man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 02:42 AM
1

I have no college debts, just the degree. You know what's not at all attractive or feminine in a woman? Tearing other people down, particularly based on their looks. It just makes you look jealous and unpleasant. You may be physically attractive - not that hard when you're young. Or, you may be a fantasist troll - after all, you're not in the tabloids being scrutinised. At any rate, you've got decades to see how you turn out in your fifties. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 02:28 AM
1

You should hope to be so hideous in your 50's. Or, married to someone half that hideous when you're in your 50's.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 02:21 AM
4

He's still incredibly handsome. He's aged pretty well. But, more importantly: He's also rich and famous. He can have a 10/10 20yo if he wants one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 11:22 PM
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He's a very powerful man. He can handle the "challenge" of having a highly successful, educated wife. I know he looks old to a lot of you, but he's genuinely one of the handsomest men alive. He's had his pick of women for decades. He's picked her.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 05:44 PM
3

Greta is awesome.
/r/MensRights16/04/21 07:01 AM
2

I got the Astra Zeneca/Oxford first dose in February. I am happy to be mostly protected and I'm looking forward to my second jab in a few weeks. I had a sore arm for a day or two is all.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 12:28 PM
11

No, this isn't normal. I don't know what his motivation is for the things he's saying, but it's not normal. He: Pulls your hair (which is apparently something you don't like, and that's OK); Ignores you to the point that you think he's broken up with you; Threatens to leave you over your appearance (something that was there when you got together.) None of this is normal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 07:25 AM
4

Fantastic. Thank you
/r/MensRights04/04/21 04:51 PM
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I'm also a prostitute and I'm familiar with your predicament. I've been in it and I know many women who are similar. Quite a few of them have happy marriages. For me, I realise that I'm in many ways non-monogamous, but that doesn't mean that I have no boundaries or make no distinctions. I actually do enjoy the sexual contact with many of my clients, but it's different from the sex I have for free. With clients, the focus is on their satisfaction and the maintaining of healthy boundaries. In my o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 06:00 AM
7

I understand how you're feeling. Can you share what it is that you're unsure about?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 03:12 PM
1

You're right. This is the sub for women.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 08:16 PM
5

Figure out what foods will give you the most protein per dollar. For example, both chicken and sirloin offer about 24g of protein per 100g of weight. But which one is cheaper per kilo? Chicken is. And chicken is very versatile. It can be made into a variety of stir frys and casseroles. It just absorbs the flavours it's cooked in. Whey protein powder is 80g of protein per 100g of weight. It costs more per kilo, but the yield is still such that it's economical. I can make a shake with whole milk t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 06:11 AM
5

For stretch marks, look into dermarolling/microneedling. It will help.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 09:40 AM
1

The op weighs 125lbs. The nice, round number of 100g would give her .8g of protein per lb of bodyweight. As women have lower lean mass than men, that's plenty. It may even be very hard for the op to achieve. The above, combined with getting 400g/5-A-DAY of vegetables, will almost certainly create a calorie deficit, as the OP will be too full of slow-digesting protein and fibre to be hungry and crave junk. Having a calorie deficit from diet, there's no need to burn off tons of calories from cardi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:46 AM
14

Lift heavy weights. It's the best exercise for fat loss. Eat high protein, 5-A-DAY of veggies and cut out sugar and reduce bread, rice and pasta. If you get 100g of protein a day plus 5 servings of veg your blood sugar will be stable and you won't have room for empty carbs.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 01:16 PM
7

This is the kind of thing I want to do for a man in a major life crisis. The death of a loved one or a cancer diagnosis. Not for every day stress.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 10:46 PM
6

I only shave up to the knees and around the pubic area. The hair on my upper legs - on the quadriceps - is very fine. You can't really feel it. If I do shave it, it doesn't even feel stubbly growing back.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 02:45 PM
11

I like the "let me have this one" approach.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 02:34 PM
6

I recommend the book The Surrendered Wife. The tech issues and the sport are seperate things. Leave him to the tech by himself. Just turn a blind eye and let him screw up as he likes. He doesn't want your help so you can't win. The sport... Hide your running times. I don't know if it's a good idea to underperform for his sake, though. Do you always train together?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/21 01:35 PM
6

No it's not too late. What is even the point of thinking that way? If we all say yes, you gonna join a convent? Everyone's lives are on hold just now. Most people are putting on weight. Lose weight, focus on self improvement and be patiently open to opportunity.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 10:58 AM
36

Well, what do you have to offer? Despite what some people say, most high-value men aren't really interested in teenagers as serious partners. You may be very physically attractive, indeed, but someone who is genuinely ready for marriage and family will want someone with a bit of mental and emotional maturity. They often also want someone with an education similar to theirs and some life experience.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 10:52 AM
3

I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I am 51 years old and have decades of experience to draw on in considering your position. Your problem is that you're smarter than average. That means you're smarter than most men. You also sound strong-willed and confident. Being smart, confident, and strong are not bad traits for a person to have. Abandon any thoughts of changing who you are. It won't work. You can modify some behaviours in order to get along better, socially. As you mature you will…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 02:24 PM
1

The things you describe as having been traumatic experiences in your life have been the conscious decisions of other people. You can't control other people. It's one thing to honestly evaluate what role you might have played in a dynamic. Why have you been in the position so many times? Are you not setting boundaries or screening out people who aren't good for you? These are fair questions. But they are the ones who have chosen to behave badly. The fault is theirs. Everyone makes bad decisions. …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 02:09 PM
3

You shouldn't feel dirty, like it's your fault.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 01:16 PM
11

Some people are bad texters. Especially if it's online dating and you've never met. With the pandemic, this can be a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 07:24 PM
18

Enthusiasm. If he's really interested, you will know because he will be keen to get hold of you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 07:12 PM
1

OK... That shouldn't take months. They take phones for months.
/r/MensRights27/12/20 07:06 PM
1

The thought that my phone is going to be taken for several months might make me think twice about reporting a rape. I don't know exactly how the phones were used. I mean, are they only looking for information regarding the specific incident/accused? And what is shared with the defense? If the victim has sexted a bunch of other guys and talked to girlfriends about enjoying hookups with random people, is that considered relevant? Wouldn't it be used to make her look like a slut who was asking for …
/r/MensRights27/12/20 06:36 PM
12

You will stand out a mile to one guy. You don't need to win every man. Just one.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 11:37 PM
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For the most part, you set your own value by treating yourself like someone who is worthy of your care and respect. If you carry yourself and behave high value people will tend to believe you. Looks on a scale of 1-10 are a different thing. You will match with people roughly as attractive as you are.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 02:16 PM
89

Studies across cultures find that wealthy men prefer slender women. Men in greater financial peril prefer heavier women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 06:12 PM
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Why are you worried about passing their tests? It sounds like they should be failing yours.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 10:22 PM
4

The first baby I ever picked up and held was my own. I was completely in love with him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 12:54 AM
18

Perhaps he has said something about you to her. Your intentions may be perfectly honourable, but he may think (and talk) of you in a way that upsets her.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 10:52 PM
1

Even if he does manage to beat the system, the sites will just kick him off once the algorithms reveal him to be bad for business. I know this because we did matched betting. This is a way of taking advantage of the free bet sign-up offers to make small profits. It's not gambling - it's like extreme couponing. You place the free bet on an outcome on one site then bet your own money on the opposite outcome on another. If the odds are right going in, you'll get maybe 30% of the free bet money as p…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 05:12 AM
6

I'm afraid I don't have much optimism about that. I encourage you to take some time to read about gambling addiction.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 09:25 PM
24

Gambling is a brutal addiction. It is literally as bad as heroin addiction in terms of being tough to beat. Do not marry him until he has shown you that he has recovered from the addiction. Being married to a gambling addict will ruin your life. You can't stay home with the kids and trust in his stewardship if he can't handle money. And you do not want a life of policing him and checking on him. For him to get better will mean he has to admit that he is addicted and want to quit and then put in …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 09:15 PM
2

Do you mean that she's simultaneously seeing both men? Thats is a bit odd. But I think we've all met people who are attractive and fun and sexy, but you know that there's not much there beyond maybe a ONS. You may be able to have a bit of fun with them. A man who is potential relationship material is more likely to be able to break my heart. I could catch feels for him. I would proceed with more cautiously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 05:34 PM
10

I'm 50, so I will like older men than most of you. I like tall men, but I'm not fussy so long as they're my height or up (I'm 5'10") . I prefer dark hair, and salt+and-pepper is nice. I don't mind if the hair is receding at the temples. I prefer a long, bony, "seasoned" face with prominent features/bones. Dark hair with blue eyes is a good thing. I like them to look intelligent and friendly. Beards can be nice if they're well groomed. I'm much fussier about fitness. I go to the gym 6 days a week…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:06 PM
1

They may have been responding to your emotional vulnerability. Not many men are willing to say that they're not successful but have hopes and ambitions. On the other hand, plenty of guys will big up their success.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 08:32 PM
1

I think they do like it - it's flattering and it makes sex easier. But I think it can result in a woman wasting time on a man who wouldn't put in the effort bec she's not his first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:48 PM
1

It may be bait or it may just be a case of wanting to appear nice. It's not unheard of for cultural expectations to be to demure an offer out of politeness and they can be confusing situations. I would only consider it a possible negative if they had invited me and chose the restaurant. And it wouldn't be a huge negative, either. But, it may be something that I would notice if there had been other negatives. Honestly, if someone invited me, etc I likely wouldn't even offer. That said - I have, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 05:27 AM
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I think your take on it is right:we offer and don't expect to be taken up on it. I suppose it's a little bit shit test, a little bit wanting to appear to be a reasonable, nice person. However, I would just graciously pay with a smile. I may consider his acceptance of the offer a mark against him and it may inform my decision to meet again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:29 PM
39

Most guys have no idea if a woman is wearing makeup, so long as she doesn't have a ton of it on. They really mean that they don't like the caked on look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:10 PM
3

There probably is no second woman That was pure sour grapes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:49 PM
1

That's pretty much how I like to dress! Although I have a body very much unlike LVP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:06 AM
3

Plenty of men don't want the aggro of baby rabies. Especially if theirs have grown and they're also looking for a second chance at love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:06 PM
4

I'm 50 years old and will be closer to mid-50's when I am ready to date. So, yeah, 50's to low 60's will be age appropriate for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:00 PM
2

Men in their 50's and 60's are age appropriate to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:25 PM
10

I get this, yeah. I have lost weight and grown my hair out. I'm feeling more in touch with my femininity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:47 AM
2

I don't like anything competitive or any contact sports. I like hiking, yoga, jogging and weight lifting for fitness. I wouldn't mind finding a group activity at some point when such things are allowed again. Park Run is pretty cool and I have enjoyed walks with the Ramblers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:19 AM
2

I like this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:53 AM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:24 AM
7

This is really interesting! I need to go through it all properly but I have had a look and I seem to be either a "dramatic" or "soft dramatic." I like clean lines that accentuate my slenderness, and show off my collar bones, arms and legs. Anything that creates the illusion of a waist is good. My colours needed revamping when I went platinum and then again when I tanned a little. I went through a department store with a friend and held up sweaters and scarves by my face and she told me what look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:17 AM
6

No, I don't. I have an idea of how I'd like to look but I don't have all of the skills. I do have one friend who is extremely into grooming and stuff and she advised me on the self tanning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:01 AM
20

I expect to need a while before I can actually be in a relationship, but I sort of seperated from my husband 7 years ago. He just refused to move out and I have had to support the whole family on my own so I have been doing that. I haven't slept with him since then and I told him that I was going to do what I wanted, so there have been a couple of brief flings, but I never really felt like I could seriously entertain anything. In the meantime I want to project exteriorly what I feel inside. I go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:02 AM
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Thanks for your post. I don't expect to be dating anytime soon. I just want to get out of the drudge mindset and the perimenopause mindset that I have developed. I want to feel like my life isn't over. I don't think finding someone else will be a fast or easy thing. I just want to completely get out of the mindset that I deserve to be with an obese loser. The seperation will be logistically difficult, but I don't have any emotions about it. I told him 7 years ago that I wanted to seperate but he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:55 AM
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Someday, that can bite you in the ass. Like when kids come along and you're recovering from a c section. Suddenly you need help but your partner is unable to. Try to let him do things for himself, to his standard, and relinquish control. If he is simply incapable, then dump him. But don't pick up his slack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:07 PM
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I didn't want to say anything that might give offense (for all I know, you think gold teeth are nifty lol). But, devoid of any context, it read to me like some white guy saying that he wanted to adopt what he thought of as a Black aesthetic. My guess is that he fetishizes Black women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:54 PM
14

What's up with the teeth photo at the top? He says he wants teeth like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:04 AM
6

It's pasted now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:43 PM
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By Jill Chodorov Kaminsky May 22, 2019 at 12:00 p.m. GMT+1 “Do you want to get married?” “Do you want to have kids?” During my 30s, I tolerated these “well-meaning” questions. By the time I turned 45, these questions were increasingly delivered in past tense with the sympathy usually reserved for someone with terminal cancer: “Did you want to get married?” “Did you want to have kids?” My perpetual singledom was not for lack of trying. For two decades, I had been on and off dating websites, where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:42 PM
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By Jill Chodorov Kaminsky May 22, 2019 at 12:00 p.m. GMT+1 “Do you want to get married?” “Do you want to have kids?” During my 30s, I tolerated these “well-meaning” questions. By the time I turned 45, these questions were increasingly delivered in past tense with the sympathy usually reserved for someone with terminal cancer: “Did you want to get married?” “Did you want to have kids?” My perpetual singledom was not for lack of trying. For two decades, I had been on and off dating websites, where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:42 PM
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By Jill Chodorov Kaminsky May 22, 2019 at 12:00 p.m. GMT+1 “Do you want to get married?” “Do you want to have kids?” During my 30s, I tolerated these “well-meaning” questions. By the time I turned 45, these questions were increasingly delivered in past tense with the sympathy usually reserved for someone with terminal cancer: “Did you want to get married?” “Did you want to have kids?” My perpetual singledom was not for lack of trying. For two decades, I had been on and off dating websites, where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:42 PM
7

That's a definite win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:50 PM
6

This is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:17 AM
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He's celibate. But it's nice to be reminded that there are decent people in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:10 AM
11

Testing to see what she will tolerate. The fuckery will only escalate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:53 PM
14

There's something weird about him telling her. I don't mean that he shouldn't tell her - but that's what most scrotes would do. It seems like he's into mental torture games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:54 PM
8

No it doesn't apply here. Which is why I agree that telling the wife is a good idea. As for would she be glad to know... Surprisingly, they often aren't. I have even heard accounts of women in the OP's exact position being harassed by angry wives who somehow think it's all the duped woman's fault. People are fucking weird like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:18 PM
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I think it's a good idea when someone has been deceived and tricked. I'm less in favour in situations where the teller is a 3rd person. Or they knew the guy was married and only come over with a conscience after they've been dropped. I have learned the hard way that such things are rarely appreciated, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:03 PM
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Normally I'm not a big fan of this move but in this case I absolutely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:38 AM
8

Roger van der Weyden for the win. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:34 PM
72

I know they think a woman talking 30% of the time is dominating the conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:56 PM
22

Exactly right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:31 PM
72

I always queef when I flip over from on my knees to on my back. Happens in yoga class, too. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:20 PM
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I'm going to agree, here. It's not clear if he pemetrated or banged into her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:50 PM
167

Even if it's accidental, he's clearly doing that thing where you pull all the way out on each stroke. I fucking hate that - dries me out and pumps me full of air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:48 PM
3

I can relate to so much of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:47 PM
3

I think the poster you're replying to was talking about the op's insecurity. If she were confident that she's a queen, her housing and age, etc. would be no problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:27 AM
13

You did what you could. No doubt he told her all sorts of nonsense to keep her sweet. It may be that your deactivating your Facebook made you seem shady/easier to discredit, but you're not obligated to talk to her beyond what you did. Someday, she will have reason to reconsider it all in a different light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:32 AM
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This is so true. And if there's something you like that they don't, and merely mention it, they'll denigrate it. I don't mean asking them to watch The Real Housewives with you, I mean just mentioning that it's something you did last night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:25 AM
5

Haha thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:04 PM
4

I have experience with fabswingers and lifestyle clubs. I know some single men who do reasonably well, but you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:33 PM
10

They don't like the full on, contoured Instagram makeup artist look, which is understandable. But they can't tell if you're wearing subtle, neutral makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:54 PM
6

Presumably he travels for work. That's not unusual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:57 AM
25

CL hasn't had those kinds of personals for at least a couple of years. It's possible he's switched to lifestyle sites like fabswingers or fetlife. But it's hard to arrange that many meetings that quickly. He's talking about being in several cities a week. And the frequent allusions to high end hotels, balconies, pools etc seems suspicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:16 AM
33

I love The Hard Times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:48 PM
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https://thehardtimes.net/blog/help-my-wife-and-i-started-an-open-relationship-and-it-turns-out-shes-significantly-more-attractive-than-i-am/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:30 PM
42

Satisfying vanilla sex is difficult for guys. To figure out what makes her cum and then patiently do it? They're not interested. Young guys are especially useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:29 AM
76

The dirty bedding thing? Just refuse to sleep on the filthy thing. Or visit his grim apartment. State calmly that you aren't comfortable with the hygiene and leave it. He will act or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:43 AM
8

He's angry at his mother, too. Red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:56 PM
9

Fairly vanilla but.... breeding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:59 PM
14

There's a woman out there he's currently keen on and he wants to know if she's read his last message. (edited: or he wants someone to know they've been left on read). Otherwise, he normally has receipts off because he's primarily interested in obscuring his own activity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:51 PM
31

I've had a couple of conversations drop off because of the corona virus, but we acknowledged that meeting wasn't going to be happening anytime soon. That means I would be open to re-starting conversation in the future. It likely is to do with the current social upheaval. But I think he should have said "too busy hoarding toilet paper and ammo to really pursue a new relationship, now" or, you know, something along those lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:19 PM
9

I ignore the flairs. I figure everyone is coming from a point of being fed up and is going to be at different points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:44 PM
28

Of thinking they've found a woman below them. They bang a 6, that makes them an 8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:17 AM
31

This is off. He's set you up to ask him to tell you what the issue is. And then it's sexual. Plenty of people like to be naked at home. They don't generally think it's something they need to talk about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:42 PM
30

I bet she ends up apologising for being upset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:49 AM
6

That was some serious cringe, You're OK now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:42 PM
25

Yes - the movie didn't explain that the job of calculator was considered a woman's job, like stenographer. Once a job becomes exciting or valuable, then men want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:51 AM
3

Also 5'10" - not experienced a lie but yes they've argued that I'm taller than I am because they're sure they're 6'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:02 PM
2

Low Value Man Please read the "handbook" In the sub "about" section. It will get you up to speed with the culture here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:57 PM
28

She's so fucking awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:04 PM
3

I was heartened to see that you didn't give in to any of these guys! Going forward, you'll know to dump them the first time they even ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:21 PM
4

That's a fantastic blog post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:56 AM
1

I'm in the UK. They were unable to fit me with a 10-year version because I have a polyp on my cervix so I got a 5 year that was smaller. That's literally all I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:00 PM
1

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:24 AM
1

There are different ones. Mine is good for 5 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:52 AM
7

I feel you. My husband learned to never, ever grab me from behind when I'm bent over doing something like emptying the dishwasher because I am overcome with an involuntary flash of rage. I also hate my nipples randomly touched. I don't have any advice (other than buy and wear a thick bra or maybe pasties, which is a ridiculous thing to have to do.) It sounds like he doesn't respect your bodily autonomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:38 PM
24

Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:26 PM
43

You did tell him to fuck off, though. You just didn't specifically use the f word. He got the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:34 PM
5

I don't like them to look as if they care about their appearance too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:00 AM
19

I don't like pretty men and prefer rugged men. That said: Stay fit (lift weights!), keep hair and beard groomed, trim your toenails and wash your fucking ass, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:54 PM
46

Her husband, Jesse James, cheated on her with some porn chick/model. It came out in the tabloids and Sandra apparently dumped him that day. (According to him, he never saw or spoke to her, again.) About a month or so later she adopted a child. This was obviously in the works before the split and she just rolled on and did it, herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:11 AM
29

Sandra Bollock, though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:11 PM
11

Truckers have awful physiques. Terrible diet and sitting all day. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:10 PM
45

He's pretty much the ultimate HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:23 PM
28

It won't hurt to establish boundaries but I wouldn't expect him to fall into line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:37 PM
40

I like the reference to 9-11. Makes me wet AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:32 AM
3

I get "upset" if I think about my sibling having sex, too. Because that's a weird fucking thing to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:27 AM
5

Holy shit I read her post history. Girl! Get away from this guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:25 AM
2

Oh you'd think so... I was a couple of days shy of my 50th birthday when I finally got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:19 AM
11

I'd give him a clean slate for the weekend. But only one chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:15 PM
5

I'm aware that it's woo so I'm not lying to myself. I see no harm in identifying, naming, and ritually dealing with an emotion. I think there's something to taking an emotion that is often experienced physically (like in the gut or throat) and doing something physically distracting to dislodge it. I have zero belief in "meridians." But I found this method surprisingly helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:20 PM
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Also important post - 40: lift weights. We start to lose muscle mass in our 40's. Hence flat asses and bingo wings. Lifting heavy weights will preserve curves and also burns fat more effectively than cardio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:59 PM
8

Holy shit, this describes the fuckboy I just scraped. Well, the constant womanising and the feeling empty. He even said that he does it for the dopamine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:35 AM
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I walked away from a fuckboy and I still feel wretched. I still feel like I failed to make him care about me. Just because I haven't stuck around for more misery doesn't mean that I am not still disappointed by the entire affair. But at least I'm not still in there, digging myself into a deeper hole! And neither are you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 08:44 PM
12

He might not. But if he doesn't, don't worry about it. Just move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 08:41 PM
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Actually, all clothes made of cotton fibres will get mildew if they're damp. So many times I'll catch a whiff at a gig when some guy's band t shirt gets sweaty and starts to smell. Don't be cheap about using the tumble dryer long enough to get clothes crispy dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:23 PM
47

Clean under your foreskin. If you can't for any reason (too tight, too sensitive) then see a doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:18 PM
54

No, I think it's specifically addressed to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:41 AM
4

I remember you posting about this, I think. If you've assured him that you had fun, then that's all you can do. He may be insecure or he may have been projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:01 PM
11

That works, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 10:58 PM
15

It's not too late. You're busy! If the hot guy is at all serious, he's still interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 10:34 PM
1

I'm not at all anti block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 02:09 AM
4

Jesus. Fucking. Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:16 PM
23

Fantastic! He was never your friend. He was just lurking in the friend zone, waiting for the right time to move on someone he thought was vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:12 PM
42

I think asking "what would Obama do?" is a great way to get to the difference between the TRP ideal and a HVM. Can anyone imagine him negging Michelle?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:10 PM
6

Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:06 PM
14

I.... don't really see the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:38 PM
16

How will you feel if he doesn't text?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:07 PM
20

You can just block him now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:34 PM
3

I know you told me why you're afraid to block him - he sounds like a psycho. There's a technique called "grey Rock" that can be used against these kinds of people if you're unable to fully escape them. Basically, you just get very boring and non reactive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:35 PM
2

They don't become EA immediately but they apparently know pretty early on if they will ever want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:00 PM
39

I read the same thing years ago. Men do think they look better than they do. Women do the opposite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:10 PM
30

I think you're right, provided we're talking about a man with his ducks in a row. If you are talking about a college boyfriend, then you have to give him an allowance for not being at that point in his life, yet. My mother said that she observed that men will marry whomever they meet when they get to the point of life of wanting to be married. In my opinion, they may date someone until that point, but want someone different to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:11 AM
8

I was told many years ago by a guy that guys immediately decide if you're someone they can be emotionally attached to or if they just want to fuck you. A girl can be downgraded from potentially serious to sex object, but the upgrade in reverse will never happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:01 AM
7

Ah! Cheers for the explanation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:53 PM
17

I admit that I have this issue. It can seem like you've gone years without getting a guy that hot and maybe you won't get that lucky, again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:28 PM
9

Where is this in the Bible?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:26 PM
22

"Rape mattress" I'm dying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:18 PM
12

I do think it can be a big city thing. Saw it a lot in San Francisco years ago. I think people were young, a bit strapped for cash, moving home a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:25 PM
4

I like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:06 PM
23

I don't know if he adds anything valuable to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:54 AM
1

Do you live together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:08 AM
1

They absolutely will. That's guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:07 AM
1

Unfortunately, the green flags are completely cancelled out by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:06 AM
10

While it won't work for everyone, a hookup with a hottie can be a great thing. Of course, it can backfire if it goes shit. And some women just don't like hookups. But I use a UK website for hookups and have had some fun. Fills an evening and boosts the ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:30 PM
13

Maybe it shouldn't be, but... Do you think he'd be easily replaced?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:51 PM
16

He sounds wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:26 PM
8

He messaged last night and I grey rocked him perfectly. I asked nothing about how he was doing or feeling. I stuck strictly to rather bland statements about the gym and my lunch. I did ask one question about a mutual acquaintance (legit info to ask.) I didn't inquire about his wrist injury, his workout, or his feelings. I took a while (20-30 minutes) to reply. I actually put my phone away and fell asleep before he replied to my last message. I'm not going to be his emotional support animal any m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:00 PM
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It's generally a bad idea to even answer the question of "why." They'll just argue with you. Give something bland and then walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:49 PM
12

Great book. I remember the overall message was "trust your gut."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:24 PM
18

There's no shortage of people to post comments pointing out that the op is doing the pick me dance. Flair like "newbie" is helpful because it indicates that they're new and need guidance. "Probation" has connotations with punitive measures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:21 PM
31

I know a woman like this - her gratification goes beyond the man finding her attractive. The real points are scored in the competition against other women. She has a way of getting men to pick her then letting the other woman know what happened. It's weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:08 AM
25

He's not interested in a real relationship with you. He just likes your attention. Gets off on you being smitten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:51 AM
2

He ran his game on you (dangling possibility of love and commitment) and noticed that you still kept your cool reserve, so he's playing at pushing you away. Blocking and moving on was smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:15 AM
3

Holy shit! Is the answer shown on your profile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:32 AM
3

That's an interesting thought exercise. It makes me very uncomfortable to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:21 AM
3

Because I don't want to be a hysterical ninny. And because I don't want to just unblock him, later. I want to be ready to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:20 AM
3

This is awesome. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:16 AM
3

Checking in here is definitely helpful! I don't need to let him feel in control. I want him to feel like he lost me because I got bored of him.... I don't want him to be telling the next woman about the last one who got too attached. (He told me that about the last one.) Reminding myself that he's ultimately pretty useless is helpful. He's also hot AF but he's not exactly got a great life or much to be happy about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 11:26 PM
2

You understand where I'm coming from!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:56 PM
3

I wasn't this guy's therapist but I sure did listen to him complain about his marriage a lot over the years. Fucking boring, ain't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:55 PM
3

Yeah I have attachment issues, too. I get so anxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:54 PM
1

I like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:53 PM
29

It's better to be inscrutable than to be over eager!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:30 PM
2

This is good - I do relate to some of what you're saying. He wouldn't block me. He also wouldn't try and get around a blocking or even disregard my stated wishes for him to not contact me. But I do think that if I gave him silent treatment, he'd put out feelers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:24 PM
1

I'm already on it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:21 PM
1

Suck in his eyes? It's too soon to say if he's stopped entirely. We fucked weds. He messaged Thurs night and we chatted a bit. Friday afternoon he left me on read and I broke down on Saturday night and messaged him. He was sort of flat. That's it. I know what it means, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:53 PM
5

This is great and really helpful. Thank you so much. I have quit drinking and it is a matter of just saying no in the moment until it passes. Blocking him would be a way to prevent the equivalent of someone putting a cold glass of chardonnay in my hand. I just have to get myself psyched to do it. I didn't quit drinking on a moments notice. I said that I would on a particular day. I'm currently planning to block him at midnight on Friday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:36 PM
1

I might call him out on some things, but he never lied to me about anything. I'm ashamed to say that he made it clear that there would be no attachment and that he gets bored once he's been with a woman a few times. So I don't have much to say. Although he clearly had "get dick in vagina" as the end goal. We didn't fuck until hookup #3. But immediately after that, he went cold and stopped the daily chatting. I can call him out on that. And say that at least I'm free of listening to him complain …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:31 PM
1

I agree! I'll be doing some hooking up (which I've been doing all along, so I know it won't hurt. It will just fill time and flatter me.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:28 PM
4

He won't reach out to me via other means if I block him on Facebook, or even if I were to unfriend him and say that I didn't want to talk to him, again. I'm looking for advice on how to get over the urge to contact him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:26 PM
10

I can relate to this! He is definitely messaging other women. He has indicated that he is. (He knows that I have hookups, myself.) I have hidden him on Messenger so that I can't see his green light and his icon moving up to the top of the messenger list as he's clearly chatting with others, even though he told me that he's really tired and not feeling talkative. He's probably just giving them the same dose of rubbish he gave me, but it's still shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 06:03 PM
1

I did read this earlier and it was interesting. I don't know if the hormone is physically active this far out from sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:51 PM
1

Is that how you did it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:50 PM
2

I'd love to be able to do this. Just grey rock him. That would be ideal! It may require more willpower than I have. I think I can avoid messaging him first. But I don't know what I'll do if/when he messages me. I have a big birthday on Friday. I would be a bit surprised if I didn't at least hear from him then. Ideally, he'd say "Happy birthday" and I'd reply with a "thanks" a few hours later. Nothing more. But that will still open things up. Might even prompt him to see if I'm angry with him. Ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:48 PM
1

His previous affair was with a woman he called "the bunny boiler." He said she became obsessed and asked him to block her because she had no will power. I want to avoid doing that. I can't delete knowing his name on social media. I don't worry about him contacting me so much as I do about my contacting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:40 PM
2

That's what I've done in the past. Although neither time was I actually commited to ending it. I just wanted a break and told him so. It made him miss me/happy to see me when I came back. I have to mean it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:38 PM
4

You've done this? Staying busy can be a bit tricky. I spend some time sat at work between meetings with little to do. I'll have to invent some things to keep my mind occupied. As for the blocking - I need to be sure that I'm ready to stick to it as I've unblocked, before. I would also rather not appear upset. Would be great if I didn't care about appearing upset! But that would be the battle nearly won if I didn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:22 PM
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He's probably not a bad person. Depression is an illness, not a character defect. That said, he's just not a good man to be in a relationship with at this time. You can talk to him about it and tell him that he has to get help. Then back away from him and let him either sort himself or not. It's likely that this won't make him feel better, but it's not your job to nurse him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:19 PM
1

I've looked into one. It's not crazy expensive although I don't have the cash just now x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:34 PM
1

Thanks for that. I'm not drinking, again. The marriage is what it is. I can deal with that when I get myself calmed down a bit more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:34 PM
59

If you walk away now, you'll be OK. You were honest with yourself and he was honest about himself. Just don't go back there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:54 PM
15

I know! I've generally felt guilty about it. Like I somehow broke him. But I think he needs kicking into touch. I'm working on a plan to get the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:31 PM
7

I agree. This is her husband. And he's saying that he's sad - not bored or grumpy. Maybe he just lost his favourite uncle or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:41 PM
28

I don't think it's her responsibility at all. If she wants to protect herself from further fuckery, that's her prerogative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:35 PM
2

Can't afford to, unfortunately. I have to travel constantly to work and support the family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:32 PM
4

I might not be available for someone's first choice, but I won't settle for being made to feel like crap. have seen the photos of a couple of the women he messes with - he likes middle-aged women who are kind of plain. He's mid-forties but very attractive. Frankly, he punches down. I'm actually very attractive for my age (I work out every day and have good bone structure). I think he's a bit of a dick to me in some regards because he knew that I was arrogant about my sexual attractiveness and pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:48 PM
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I should, perhaps, but I don't really. I'm certain that if it weren't me, it would be someone else. He's got several others on the go - either fucking them, wooing them, or grooming them for future wooing and fucking. That said, when a previous affair became an issue (someone told his wife) I did start to feel bad for her. According to him, she's a miserable shrew. Perhaps she is. But I think it would be hard to be a ray of fucking sunshine when your husband ignores you and spends all evening ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:46 PM
38

My time is precious! Thank you so much for reminding me of that. My time is actually worth £160 an hour and I've been blowing off work in order to chat with him, think about him, meet with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:23 PM
13

A guy that women won't ride in an elevator with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:20 PM
-11

My husband does almost nothing. School run, bit of childcare, bit of laundry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:12 PM
2

You're the 3rd person to either message or post that they've been in this situation. I initially thought that this sub would be hostile towards me as I'm not actually eligible for "dating." But I think any woman who hasn't taken vows of celibacy is in a position to demand the best treatment from all partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 05:55 PM
3

I know that you're right! I've blocked him from Instagram and WhatsApp (I told him that I only like to use WhatsApp for work stuff) and I have blocked him on Instagram, although we never interacted there. I have also set my Facebook so that he doesn't see my posts. That way I can interact with my friends and family without wondering how things will look to him. I have my messenger set to hide our active status from one another. I'm going to be working on filling my time with other things. I just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 05:07 PM
2

I agree that he will miss what I do for him. But he will know it's because I wanted something a bit more so he'll just chalk it up to me being "obsessed." Unless I can somehow just drop him without blocking. I want to preserve some dignity if possible, but blocking is better than doing a pickmeisha routine for any longer. I think he may be at a gig on Saturday night. The ticket was expensive and I want to go. He talked about wanting to go a couple of weeks ago but I think it's likely that he won…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 04:13 PM
7

"Yes. You are being a mommy to a lot of people, and only some of them are your actual children. The affair dude? Cut him the fuck off. He sounds miserable. The cost-benefit ratio in that relationship is trash..... And girlfriend, you need therapy. You're attracted to men who are shitty man-children. My guess is that there are some underlying issues that draw you to people you need to fix." Yes, the FWB is very miserable. A friend of mine says that he sounds like an emotional vampire. I'd say he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 03:16 PM
7

I feel like even doing this - talking about him - is somehow focusing on him. I am so sick of thinking about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 02:09 PM
3

Yeah I'm going to be doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 02:06 PM
3

I'm definitely dealing with childhood trauma - it's given me a preoccupied/anxious attachment style. I don't know if I can go to counselling as I'm always travelling. Maybe I can find something Skype-based. I already do the gym. I'm currently on the wagon with drinking. I am sometimes slack about yoga. May try meditation. A hobby could be a good thing - something I csn do in a hotel room in the evening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:42 PM
3

I think a long-term plan may be the way to go. I'm going to start making plans - even little steps like setting up a secret bank account can help. I have to stay in my current work situation for now. But if I can focus then I will earn more. I'll focus if I get that married fuckboy out of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:38 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:23 PM
1

Thank you for your message and offer of help. I will message you xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:23 PM
43

I'd cool your jets for now. Keep your head down and don't let them upset you. Just keep doing a good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:54 AM
6

Are you saying that I should wait until I'm divorced to end the affair?! I don't know if the marriage can be ended quickly. But the affair is the source of pain for me now. I need to get out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:51 AM
3

I'm from overseas. His parents are nearby and I'm sure he'd lean on them. But this means that he is primary caregiver.... I have to travel to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:43 AM
3

I want to make a seperate comment on ending the affair.... Cutting him off. Like I said, I don't want to block until I'm firm in my resolve. I have a Major Birthday on Friday. I wonder if I could psych myself up for gifting myself that for my birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:38 AM
1

Also I don't know if he can get a job. He's a mess. He could probably find something but nothing that pays enough to do more than perhaps cover his own rent. He's not got a lot of qualifications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:34 AM
4

All still in school, the youngest still in primary school and has some special needs. Has to be taken to school. Husband says that he has to be available to pick child up from school if there's a tantrum, but that hasn't happened in a while. Next year, he will be in high school and taking the bus. Oldest will be 16 next year, next oldest 13... I think they could be latchkey kids if necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:33 AM
4

Oh! I see, now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:17 AM
3

If it was just him, I'd be totally in agreement. But I don't know how to support the kids if I can't travel 3 weeks of the month or more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:17 AM
39

How new are you to this job? It may be best to wait and bide your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 10:52 AM
8

I don't see the cheating wife bit? Am I missing something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:17 AM
11

Yup, not standard practice in the UK, AFAIK.
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