My1Addiction Archive

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5	Divorce Advise Yes…..your wife’s lawyer..,.works for your wife. That is their job, they are not a neutral party in this and the sooner you realize that, the better. As far as your soon to be ex wife’s sister altering notes… not relevant. You or your lawyer should have been taking your own detailed notes. If they are not in line with what you have, then simply contest the written notes either to the judge, mediator or whoever they plan on submitting theirs to. “It appears there is a miscommunication of what was…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/25 02:05 PM
2	grok/chat gpt for divorce laws Correct. Thats why how you prompt it, is extremely important. There is a huge difference in what you get with “write a motion that can be used in court” and “assume you are a skilled lawyer with 20 years of experience, only use verifiable facts and provide sources to where you got this information.”	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/25 06:45 PM
3	grok/chat gpt for divorce laws Just be careful when using AI and fact check! I made the mistake of giving it the prompt of “assume you are a skilled lawyer with 20 years of experience in divorce law specializing in representing fathers, create a compelling motion and cite relevant case laws that will substantiate my arguments where relevant” it sounded great! “Courts have historically done XYZ see Jones v Jones 2004….. except there is no Jones v Jones 2004…. Or if there is, it actually decided the opposite of what you are try…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/25 06:39 PM
2	Alright fucks.......what is your gut saying? Soooo… do you feel better after screaming your very specific to you anecdotal story into the void? Thanks coach! Great pep talk!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/25 03:17 PM
9	Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date? Couldn’t attack the argument so went digging in his profile to attack his character. Ad hominem has joined the chat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 11:03 PM
1	Another question, if I’m still married and buy a house in my name, can she still take half the funds or the house? Have her sign a quit claim deed that is notarized by an official stating that she has no financial interest in this house. Source: I did it	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/22 07:08 PM
1	Wife wants a divorce I think if she would compartntalize her emotions like Jesus and I want her to and realize fighting constantly is normal everything would be great? What in the actual fuck did I just read? I was waiting for the turning point of how this was a joke….and then it never happened and now I’m genuinely concerned.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/22 03:51 PM
7	In case of a divorce, what happens to assets accumulated before the marriage? Forgive me if this comes across the he wrong way, but how are you about to get married to someone that you are unsure of any part of her life? Especially one such as debt? Rhetorical I guess, as you should absolutely sit down and have this conversation with your partner.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/21 08:20 PM
3	How do opposing counsel discover accounts? NAL - I wouldn’t risk what I think you’re trying to risk. If she (Ex wife) knows you have crypto / secret accounts and can produce any evidence to corroborate that, the courts will not look favorably on that at all. To answer your question, I don’t know how they do it. Just know that they more than likely have a way to find it and it might not be worth the risk. Good luck!	/r/Divorce_Men	23/08/20 06:01 PM
2	Divorce in CA Going back to court in December, hoping to get it lowered to $1500 a month. I cover health insurance as well	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/19 06:37 PM
4	Divorce in CA Divorced in CA , active duty military taking home a net of $60k a year. 3 children, I have 20% custody and pay $23,500 a year in child support, ex wife makes minimum wage if that helps.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/19 12:49 PM
5	What 50/50 means to her😮 You’re title and post are non sequential. What does this have to do with the kids? Or am I Missing something? What she does to get over you is unfortunately none of your business, if it’s therapeutic to rip up pictures and smoke l, then so be it. Not your place to judge anymore friend. Sorry to come across as harsh, but it’s true. Distance yourself from her and win the long game by being happy, healthy and humble.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/19 05:17 AM
5	Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing Debt Keep things civil with her and try to negotiate out of court. If you two can work something out and submit to the judge. That’s it. Once lawyers get involved, that number for debt just went higher and neither of you are going to be happy with the outcome. Good luck man. This sucks, and it’s gonna get worse before it gets better.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/19 09:34 PM
6	How do I process my emotions right now? Spoiler alert..... you won’t be paid back. Separate the accounts. Document her saying she took your money and will pay you back. Go cold turkey and gray rock. Good luck bro, it sucks, it really really sucks. I’ve been there and I wouldn’t trade places with you if you paid me to right now. It gets better , trust me.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/19 04:54 AM
6	Alimony: A Loan to Pay Lump Sum? I feel that this thread is full of all the advice on why you shouldn’t do it so I won’t bother repeating. Maybe get yourself some checks that you can customize the pictures on and make a fun little game of it? Pictures of you enjoying life, little things you know will make her angry? Think of it as a away of taking control of a shitty situation and being able to inflict a little bit of humor into it.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/19 08:51 PM
1	Should he disclose the affair? Neither of us planned on it? What the hell does that mean? You were both engaging in extra marital affairs and oops just slipped, tripped and fell into some feelings ? Here’s the problem I’m having, you have repeatedly been told in this post and In past posts in other subs that this is wrong and you are exhibiting narcissistic behavior yourself. Ironically, your narcissism wont except fault or blame and you fire back some half coherent ass backward way that you’re just rescuing this man from the…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/19 10:54 PM
2	Should he disclose the affair? If you want legal advice, go to the legal advice sub reddit. Your thinly veiled rationale and victim complex falls short in here and I’m not trying to helpful, I’m merely pointing out how horrible of a person the both of you are. Looking forward to future posts from one of you claiming infidelity.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/19 09:48 PM
9	Should he disclose the affair? “Hey guys, home wrecker here.... should we tell the truth in a court of law or not because it makes us look like bad people?”	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/19 07:21 PM
4	Why do men get so screwed over in almost all divorces? Don’t hold your breath for a logical, rational response. Most of us are victims of the system and jaded beyond belief. It’s not right, it’s not fair, but it’s our cross to bear until societies new norm catches up with this “equal opportunity” movement.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/03/19 05:19 AM
18	Opinions?? You’re gonna get a lot of “don’t do it man” But I’m gonna play the role of the little devil on your shoulder here.... Do it! The catalyst for me taking my life back and realizing that everything was going to be alright, that I was desirable, that there was fun and exciting times ahead, was getting laid by someone who wanted me. If your wife is out at bars and initiating this divorce, more than likely she’s doing the same. It’s over, don’t look back!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/19 11:22 PM
1	STBX took $6k out of savings — why? Planning a divorce..... why would she take money out of the account? I haven’t a clue..... Come on man.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/19 02:35 AM
11	This is my life right now. Calm before the storm that will commence next week... As long as you know the rain makes the grass grow, and the storm is temporary, you’re gonna be alright. Chin up, eyes forward and focused on the goal. Pick your hill to die on and don’t budge an inch.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/19 02:25 AM
1	Child custody when wife is narcissist Just my thoughts: Highly unlikely unless it’s documented, and even then, not as much of an impact as you would hope. If you stick around here long enough, everyone seems to have married a narcissist. We tend to demonize our spouse and paint ourselves in the best light. Reality is, you are both on your worst behavior right now, I bet she’s over at divorce-woman asking similar questions. Try to stay civil, don’t claim anything you can’t prove with documented proof and if I missed the mark complete…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/19 08:21 PM
5	Six years to go Welcome to lifetime alimony payments! If you’re serious about sticking it out 6 years to save yourself financially , you might want to strategically plan your exit. Ensure she is working and contributing. Get cash back and save up for a “rainy day fund”	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/19 05:25 PM
1	What to do after picking a girl up, before you've gotten home? Yea that’s understandable, In my opinion and experience- jumping out of the friend zone is hard and definitely not something you want to attempt at your place when it’s just you two.	/r/seduction	02/12/18 07:06 PM
2	What to do after picking a girl up, before you've gotten home? The OP explained all the reasons why the method he proposed works and the benefit. You’re advocating taking someone you just met into a strange place to get her and going straight for the kill. There are nuances to this shit, enjoy the game. make her feel comfortable, let her take in the new environment, she’s obviously committed to getting freaky with you by coming to your place, but she’s curious about who you are and where you live. By establishing these talking points it also gives you somet…	/r/seduction	02/12/18 06:29 PM
1	What to do after picking a girl up, before you've gotten home? Yes.... yes it is.	/r/seduction	02/12/18 06:00 PM
5	SPOUSE NOT PAYING CHILD AND SPOUSAL SUPPORT. WHAT TO DO? Women get spousal support all the time ( my ex wife included) Why shouldn’t he?	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/18 10:45 PM
1	Does it get easier? Something that resonated with me early on that I struggled to believe but only now with time believe to be true. It doesn’t get easier..... you get stronger. Head up, one foot in front of the other... fake it till you make it.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/11/18 10:43 PM
2	About a family friend who's going through rough times. Not advice but what I did. Go through the 7 stages of grief in whichever order you choose.... Got drunk a lot , and then I reached a point that I got mad, reached down, grabbed my balls and fought back like hell. Get angry, get educated and take the ball back in your court. She can’t take everything, he has rights and entitlements too, and if she wants to roll the dice on splitting $25k in legal fees just to burn it all to the ground, let’s dance. He’s gotta pick his hill to die on , does he car…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/18 10:59 PM
7	Wife using wood that I am storing on our property at marital home? Thoughts? This sounds petty. Document the cost and include it in the compensation with pictures if you must, but seriously- pick your battles man.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/18 04:53 AM
12	Sex after divorce. You’re gonna hear a lot of “don’t do it.” Here.... but you’re probably going to do it anyway. It’s a band aid man, don’t rip it off and put it back on. You’re just prolonging the pain you will eventually feel. Just my 2 cents. Best of luck bud.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/18 05:52 AM
3	Spouse Used My Credit Card For Divorce Wow man, that is such a shitty situation! I have no advice, only that I hope this all works out for you. I’m active duty Military as well! Semper Fi.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/18 05:26 AM