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If that's what you gathered from that book, then you got the wrong message. Additionally, you haven't the slightest clue about my situation.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 06:46 PM
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Not sure. Hindsight being 20/20, I never would have married. But here I am 8 years and 2 kids later being a sole provider and generally unhappy with the marriage. I love my wife. As a friend, especially. I don't want to lose that companionship and friendship. The sex was great before kids. Now, with a dead bedroom and a lot of other ongoings that have developed... yeah. Hard no from me. Don't do it. It would be tolerable if sex was still a part of our relationship, but it isn't anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 07:18 PM
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Correct.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 06:41 PM
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Correct.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 06:41 PM
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Sounds all too familiar... I'm sorry, brother. I feel like I'll be there sooner or later, assuming she refuses to change. She actually brought up couples counseling last night, which is a good sign I suppose, but I'm skeptical due to the fact that she isn't really true to her words very often and I've been pushing for it for years. At this point, I don't feel like my level of commitment is being met and although I want her to be, she just isn't my best friend anymore. I still love her, ofc, but.…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 02:12 PM
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Your situation sounds extremely similar to mine. Two major differences, and they're my wife and her medical conditions might be different than yours, and we have two young boys (4 and 6) that I don't want to have to force through seeing a divorce happen, especially when we just moved into a new house for my new job. My wife hasn't worked in 8 years, but she finishes her Master's in PHA after her next semester. I'm not sure if I want to initiate the process now or wait a little bit, but I am gett…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 12:04 PM
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30M, similar situation except my wife hasn't worked the entire time we have been married (7 years and 2 months) and I would be ecstatic if we had sex as often as you two do. Don't worry, I'm on my way out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 11:54 AM
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Jesus fuck women are entitled as hell.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 08:11 PM
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Same except we have two kids. Rip me and my chances of ever retiring.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 02:18 PM
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Happy wife happy life is never true.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 10:48 AM
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Achievement unlocked.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/22 10:28 PM
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I'm at a weird spot where I'm so depressed that yeah, it is crossing my mind, but the only true fear I have is death, so I'm not ever going to end up going through with it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/22 04:37 AM
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If you're the main provider/bread-winner, not much can. Maybe if you're lucky and she has a degree and has earning potential that can be used against her, but even that's a long shot in what seems like most cases.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 09:18 PM
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Best of luck with your research. Cheers.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 08:36 PM
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I applied - my parents divorced before I was 12, but it certainly still had quite an effect on how I view things, and not only about marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 08:05 PM
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You do realize that my statement is quite literally backed by decades worth of research, right? There's a difference in making generalizations and providing a statistically and objectively correct statement. What the other gentleman was talking about is women making false claims about things like men being abusive in relationships, period, that have absolutely no backing to them whatsoever. Big difference.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 12:01 AM
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Yeah, not very smart. Women don't think with logic.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 11:42 PM
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I even called the one girl out on it. There's no reason they'd be so immediately hostile to the male party. 100% projecting.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 11:29 PM
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That's typically the case when dealing with a narcissist. Sorry, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 03:53 PM
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This is my probable future, except that I have two young boys instead of teenage girls. Not sure how much longer I want to give her to correct her mistakes. We've had talks about her behavior, and she has been genuinely trying, but even with medication it still gets through sometimes...
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 08:52 PM
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I'm literally contemplating suffering by staying married and physically separated from my wife, if she agrees to it, so I don't fuck my retirement up by actually divorcing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 05:01 PM
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Possible doesn't mean ideal. Also doesn't mean it is wanted by the majority of men. Whether or not you acknowledge this, it is a fact - your case is the exception to the rule.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 11:07 PM
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Never again. As a man, I've come to learn that you don't benefit at all from marriage unless your partner is quite literally exceptional in all facets and cares about you more than they care about themselves (which, for women, is in itself a trait that is 1 in 10 million, easily).
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 11:05 PM
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Noone said anything about becoming frustrated or being a fucktard, or doing anything irrational even. Way to out yourself. Projecting, much?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 04:22 AM
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Honestly, that's entirely debatable and is extremely situational. Accepting a less than optimal upbringing and poor mental development for your child is not good parenting, if you ask me. Just because the court says it is what is "fair" does not make it fair to the child and their development. Sometimes it is 100% better for there to not be visitation or a shared custody, and I would argue that this is one of the cases.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 03:09 PM
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This. Literally all of it. I was good friends with my wife for 8 years before we finally tied the knot and ever since we got married and had kids, life has gone to hell. There is literally nothing you gain, as a man who can provide for himself and find happiness in your life currently, by getting into a relationship. In fact, you only get less and less as time goes on. Remember this: men are not loved unconditionally. If you enter a relationship, you now must provide some form of thing in order …
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 05:33 AM
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That's literally the point. Research is done to confirm that the vast majority of people experience the same thing, and then we figure out from there what we want to do with that information. In a physics research experiment, you confirm within what is called a 6 sigma factor for proof that what your research discovered will also be the case for anyone else who attempts your research experiment - whereas for clinical psychology research, you go this route and determine what it is people are expe…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 01:43 PM
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I feel like this is less of a mental health issue than a legal fairness issue. I appreciate your research, but the emphasis needs to be on how we can make the legal processes more fair to men, not how that process (divorce in court and events prior to) has an effect on our mental health.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 01:32 PM
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That's exactly why I'm skeptical and don't know if it's a good idea or not.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 07:44 PM
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Not that I was looking for one, but that may be a thing already. There has been nothing but talk, but this other woman... actually seems to care? Idk. It's actually kind of a fucked up situation and I'm very skeptical about it, because I'm still fairly young (just turned 30 and recently out of the military). My last 3 years of active duty I was a recruiter, and as such was in high schools constantly in the area. Well, in order to keep up with the times, I had to develop myself as a social media …
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 06:47 PM
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That's my biggest concern/issue with divorcing - with my line of work, there's almost no chance I will get custody. I work as a senior control room operator for power generation and am on a 2-2-3 rotating 12 hour shift work schedule that can force me onto work at any point in time for an upcoming shift that day so long as it doesn't interfere with my original schedule. I'm legitimately at work more than I am home. I'd need 24/7 daycare for my two young boys, but it's hard enough around where I l…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 05:53 PM
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I'm not quite there. Stbxw expects the world from me as far as gifts are concerned and I haven't gotten so much as a thank you yet, let alone a card or a gift in return. Man, I cannot fucking wait for that bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 05:40 PM
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I'm somewhat in this predicament, but it wasn't her choice, just kinda circumstantial due to the nature of giving birth taking women out of the work force. Once I became sole provider, I stayed sole provider. And now life is basically as you state - she resents me because she can't work or do anything she wants, etc... Life has gotten to the point where I'm about to buy her a new car to transport the kids safely with, she's almost done with her masters degree, and once she's able to sustain hers…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 10:17 AM
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Hate is a pretty strong word, but you better believe I'll not be getting married again. No reason to.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 12:08 PM
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Hard agree with this. Especially knowing my STBXW and her tendencies. My two boys have amazing potential within them, and at 4 and 6 are already showing it in their studies. Both have been testing well above average, and both started school a year early due to late in the year birthdays. I've been doing what I can to provide for them and instill good morals, habits, etc... in them for when I'm no longer as involved as I want to be (and eventually pass away, but that's for another existential dis…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 09:23 PM
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Regardless, the grass is always greener on the other side until you have a life experience telling you otherwise. It's a subjective thing. If these people have their realities that have shown them x is better than y, then so be it and you have no right to tell them otherwise. On the same hand, they have no right to tell you otherwise. That doesn't, however, mean that they can't (and you can't) think a certain way about the topic.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 03:26 AM
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their monetary assets, career and other material things they have This isn't because they're looking for a materialistic partner, this is because having these things means you have your shit together and aren't a completely useless bag of human flesh. This is part of establishing why you're a good partner to whomever wishes to engage in a relationship. This isn't a wrong message at all - it is what the man has to show to meet some form of standard to his potential future partners to garner any k…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 01:18 AM
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Well done, sir. I'm proud of you. Keep going!
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 12:14 AM
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Power hungry, emotionally and financially irresponsible. They really can't handle it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 12:01 AM
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Honestly, as much as I'm sure you love your kids and might not want to leave them, it is more important that you get out and get healthy. You're of no use to anyone if you aren't healthy, and you need to do what is best for your kids. If that means leaving your wife in the dust, reestablishing yourself and being happy in your lane of life alone while being able to still see them and be a positive light for them, then so be it. That's what I'm in the process of doing.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 11:58 PM
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Same here, brother. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 11:21 PM
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Moral of the story is - don't bend over backwards for someone who won't do the same for you, and certainly don't go back into a relationship with someone who doesn't recognize or appreciate your worth. Not all women are like this, but most seem to be. They don't appreciate their husbands and only realize their "worth" in the relationship (doing things for her) after the fact. She not once says she misses him - only the things he did for her. And that is key. This is something a friend sent me. A…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 10:09 PM
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Moral of the story is - don't bend over backwards for someone who won't do the same for you, and certainly don't go back into a relationship with someone who doesn't recognize or appreciate your worth. Not all women are like this, but most seem to be. They don't appreciate their husbands and only realize their "worth" in the relationship (doing things for her) after the fact. She not once says she misses him - only the things he did for her. And that is key.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 10:06 PM
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At one point in time that was me. 7 years in, not divorced yet, but seriously considering it for basically all of the reasons listed under this post.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 09:51 PM
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Thankfully I haven't. She's been doing almost all of the talking. I appreciate the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 08:32 AM
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I'm sorry for you. It's never a fun situation. Although this sucks, and all I want is to see her be healthy finally, I don't think it's going to end up working. Especially not after this morning.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 05:05 AM
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