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NangKwak51/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:52 AM
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No wait, you're an idiot too. You're not a passport bro. You moved over there, found a way to stay, and met a local woman. Good for you. But let's talk about real idiots. People who think they're going to get blown for free by trad girls with no money. I'm going to guess that even tho you married well, you're still the main financial contributor to your relationship. You just doth protest too fucking much with your implausible, ultra-perfect situation for there not to be a ton left out of your g…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:30 AM
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These women make about $10-15 a day. A ten hour day. You don't want to give your penniless GF a few bucks? And where are you meeting these paupers? At a club? No, those would be pro's. Seriously, where do you think you're going to meet these very poor women to date? "Day game" at the vegetable market? ThaiFriendly? That's 100% pay for play. So no, cheapskate dreamer, you don't HAVE to give them money, but since 95% of the time that's how it's going to shake out Hey, have a good ol' LOL (still?) …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:24 AM
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You'd think. If guys prefer Asian women or like living over here, I'm all for it. If it's an implausible, you'll miss me when I'm gone-take THAT scenario, then I want to point and laugh. To quote Yoda: Don't try, do. No one I know over here talks like these fantasists. If he posted this stuff over on AsianNow, it would be the roasting of all time, from guys who married prostitutes (on average) and are enjoying the best days of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:36 AM
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Just you wait. You'll miss that ex-felon when he's gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:29 AM
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You gotta give her like $600 a month. Are you game for that? Sounds like Betabux on a budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:26 AM
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Yeah, it's all about you -and you pretending that they didn't just let you out of jail. It's in your history. You're going for 2 months to two places. Have a great vacation (assuming you're even allowed to go). What's the plan to get a real GF during these short term visits? You've done this a lot, and yet you still come up dry. Is this your life -2 months a year on the cheap in Asia and then 10 months of jerking off? Because I love your plan. For you. I'm married over here and have one on the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:24 AM
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No one in the history of the universe ever said that dating in Asia is the same as dating in the states. It's easy to win arguments that you make up in your own head and then debunk. Maybe you could get a hand puppet to lecture to and then hit occasionally to reinforce your non-point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:35 AM
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I've been around this mulberry bush with you before. You dated westernized Asian women in the states. Have you been to Asia? Do you have a date that you can reveal when you will be getting on a plane to go to Asia? Does your recent release from 6 months in jail even allow you to go to Asia due to parole complications? Why would you chase your life dream by passively watching YouTube when you could engage with people who have done what you want to do and would be happy to tell you how to do it? B…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:32 AM
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Utah -where you can fake Mormonism. It be calling to you, Bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:41 AM
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As a constructive suggestion, read The Lady And The Monk, about a westerner/straight arrow J-girl romance. Super-unhot book. They're still married, tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:40 AM
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I lived in Japan. And I semi-killed it with women* over there, BUT: That was 1997. The beginning of Globalism and Lonely Planet-type travel. That bloom is well off the rose by now. My success was with women who wanted to learn English. Much, much less interest among Japanese in learning English these days. The world changes; the maudlin fantasies of copium addicts never do. *Most of my success was with married women who's husband's wouldn't fuck them. Can't fault it, but hardly the Geisha wet dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:38 AM
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Looking for the hotties who wanted to stay in flyover nowheresville just because? Maybe try an Amish community.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:33 AM
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W-w-wait a minute on those baldie Chads. Those baldies are baldies because they're over 55 -on retirement visa's. And they're there because they have the financial resources to have $3K-ish coming in a month. The word for a baldie without a long term visa and monthly income is: sex tourist. Not that there's anything wrong with that. So keep saving your nickels and dimes and keep buffing your shiny, horny head.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:31 AM
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Medical Tourism outstrips sex tourism by far. Cheap dentistry trumps cheap whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:15 AM
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I was bud-tending at a hostel in BKK. I did see one guy go with a few Thai women -and he was short (5'6"). He looked like a young John Travolta and he was pretty buff. He also had the ability to ride a motorcycle in BKK traffic and was studying Muay Thai. He had rudimentary Thai language skills. The women he hooked up with were the staff at the hostel and most of their dates centered around ya ba (the local meth). Some cuties were def in the mix, tho. For PPB success, follow his example: be grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:12 AM
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I just thought it meant bedroom sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 11:26 AM
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I got a good 'un. My wife was carrying on a secret emotional affair with a heroin addict. Another stupid Facebook hookup from her distant past. He flew to her, timed his drugs wrong, had a stroke. He's now a drooling semi-vegetable propped up in the corner. She's much happier now than she was with me. Sweetest part: she doesn't know I know and she knows nothing about my current life. Is getting dumped for a human doorstop funnier than getting dumped for, say, a lesbian? I think so. I met the lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 11:20 AM
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Nah, quick fix up. A call, a Chinatown meetup. A little adventure that went sour. What's it to me, if I did something "wrong"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:55 PM
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It was a blind date. She came, she icked, she ate, she left.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:31 PM
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She had a severe case of not into me-itis. My behavior? I was simping before simping cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:34 AM
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Never work on a relationship, never "try". As Yoda said, "Don't try, do". If you're sweating it, RUN!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:53 AM
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Don't sweat them sweating it. Then you win. I got a friend learning Portuguese; he's got that Bossa-fever bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:37 PM
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Yeah, lying is indeed a great tactic. -For postponing rejection ever so slightly instead of enduring it right up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:01 AM
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If OTHER PEOPLE can't have sex due to unrealistic demands or being crazy, how exactly is that any skin off of my ass? If anything, it takes the nutters out of the dating pool and potentially makes some of the stuck up ones more ready to deal up the road. Old Red Pill encouraged men to "enjoy the decline". Where has that chilled vibe gone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:28 AM
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A nymphomaniac, but still presentable to Mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:03 AM
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Yeah, but once you have experienced greater pants-choice, there's no going back. The only person on earth who's signing up for less pants is you. The prob: having been exposed to the full range of pants on offer, no one likes the pants they're seeing. But that's not the saddest story I ever heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:00 AM
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I am old enough to recall when it was vague, amorphous "Society" that was the problem, not SM. The same worrying, the same stasis. It has never, ever been easy to find romantic partners. The world has always been awash in cruel assholes. To quote my least favorite president: "On both sides. On both sides". Hell is getting what you want. Had I heard about Online dating 20 years ago like it is now, I would have swum through flames to sign up. And so would you. Some day, there will be a newer socio…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:56 AM
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What makes your dick hard is beyond your control. How you act is def. within your control. If you have a special romantic request (dress-size, kink, race) it's your little job in life to work that out without being an asshole, a problem, or a self-foot-shooter. A dose of realism would not go amiss either. If you want a little spinner and you're a Jabba the Hut-blob, some pragmatism or a long-shot plan will lead to.... very likely not much success. Which is still better than zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:49 AM
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I have a Thai FWB (no cash) relationship. I met her when I stayed at her guest house in Ubon. She's thin, pale, pretty good-looking (for the likes of me). I bought her kid a laptop because I liked her and was moved by her covid struggle. We fell into bed a month later. Very, very straight arrow sex. 40 seconds of blow time, a few tugs (in both directions) and then a shift to me on top. No positions, no going down on her. There's a lot of (possibly) Buddhist folklore about what you should and sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:56 AM
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Have you been to Asia? If not, when do you plant to go? Where? For how long and to what end? So far, all PP Bro's plans here would have to evolve mightily to even reach the status of half-baked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:17 AM
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I love living in Asia and will never go so-called home. I urge everyone to leave the sinking USA ship and relocate if they have the urge. I'm making assumptions because you're very big on maybe this/maybe not. And here you are splitting hairs and avoiding all declarative sentences once again. You gotta love the place to put up with the bullshit. You gotta have your own income, hook up employment before you get here, or be a high level coder or petrol engineer. Otherwise, it's the water-treading …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:14 AM
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If you humped my leg any harder, you'd be a golden retriever. Falling back on "each and every individual in the world is different" is basically bland surrender to the fact that you haven't done even cursory research into the imaginary paradise you goofily dream about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:57 AM
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It costs more to cook here than it does to eat out. The Girl Friend Experience you seek here started fading a generation ago. Finance is part of romance here, but only 97% of the time. If I'm in the states and I'm a bank president and she's a French fryer at McDonalds, it's never going to be a 50/50 relationship. That goes quadruple here. For what you want (or think you want), you need introductions from vetted Thai people. How would you meet these very open-minded women? Prob through work or po…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:53 AM
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Most of those YouTubes are out of date. I would not want to live in China on $2K a month -that's a lot of noodle soup. Plus, never mentioned: health insurance and visa fees. To get a very basic, fat in the can, moonface, 6th grade education girl from rice paddy-land, that's going to cost $600 a month, plus extra's, so many extra's. The formula is double what she'd make at 7/11. There's a good thread on AsianNow about this. A grand a month is the new standard, and toss in another $500 for a real …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:03 PM
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It's the Korean part, not the boyband part. White dick is by no means the #1 flavor. Never has been, less so today, less, less so tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:48 AM
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For example, retirement laws in Thailand are being tightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:03 AM
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Really, how will they know that Chad is killing it in São Paulo? Likewise, how will you know they're sweating it? This is a whole drama that's occurring only inside your fevered brow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:47 AM
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You, a hairy armpit feminist care about the bro's. Endlessly, and without relent. Why so uptight, bitch? There's a big black log of a thing waiting in Jamaica with your name on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:42 AM
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These are severe 2nd choice relationships. Backing out the few true Yellow Fever addicts, you're not attracted to their Asian-ness like you would be if the Barbie actress would give you a glance. It's -at best- the begrudgingly willing pussy of last resort. At least they tend to be more petite. At least you can have that. And they'd be much happier blowing a Korean boy band member, by a factor of one million. So: two strikeouts tolerating each other when they'd vastly prefer to be elsewhere. Hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:37 AM
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Where'd you go, what'd you do? Don't vague out on us, uh, Dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:13 AM
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When asked: Have you been overseas and done this? The answer was: Yeah, I looked at literally hundred of photo's and video's. And then: an ultra-vague "I've had the same experiences too. Where'd you go. what'd you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:01 AM
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Western men find Asian women attractive. On average, western women do not find Asian men attractive. There's the very occasional white women getting railed by a rent-a-rasta, but white women prefer white partners. White men are more open to racial diffs. Because of we are the world-liberal feels? No, to finally get laid. Women don't have to go to tin shack land to get laid. That's not confronting toxic personality traits. That' down to confronting basic reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:53 AM
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The whole have an opinion on a discussion board thing -it eludes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:48 AM
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Like a guy who's a motorcycle taxi driver in Bangkok? He's more red pill Chad than any laughable whitey on earth. He's living on energy drinks and pork soup, always ready for a fist fight. They think white men are like ladyboys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:44 AM
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They have McDonalds in Asia now everywhere. weights are creeping up. There's no place -no place, do you hear me?- to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:41 AM
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If they're so-called "traditional", what the hell are they doing with you? Traditional women give western tourists a wide berth. For example, traditional women rarely speak English. What kind of woman learns a lot of English and the ways of western men? Hmmmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:33 AM
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I lived in Bangkok for 5 years. And had what's called hi-so GF's there. To the one, they would have preferred an Asian partner over me. They think white people smell bad. I can come back from You're ugly. You stink is a steep mountain to climb. Asians are racist at Alabama levels. Race is hierarchal in Asia, more than than in the west. Most of the whiteys are with Issan girls, dark skinned women who light skinned Thai's don't want. You're fighting over the left-overs that taxi drivers took a har…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:30 AM
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There's also a complementary relationship with her extended family and town, the religion du jour, and their whole status ring kissing thing in Asia. Oh, for a mere complimentary relationship with just her. YOU may be a free floating little atom in the universe, but those people are dug in. At the blood line level.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:10 AM
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Yeah, def denying that. The bloom is off the western rose for at least a generation. As white people have become more nationalist and racist, so have Asians. I mean, duh. Egalitarian -good luck selling that on your zany Susie Wong date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:07 AM
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What's in it for them, exactly? Your wonderful whiteness? Hello Time Traveler from 1900.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:04 AM
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Tell me more about exactly what job you're going to do where you will make more money than in the west. You need a work permit, for very in demand skills. Period. And these days, that work permit is going to other Asians, not westerners. That's why you see young woman with retirees. Retirees: 1) can get a visa 2) don't have to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:02 AM
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It's like they never heard of the concept of lying; that poor people might lie to them. A lot. In cultures where lying (partic to outsiders) is much more acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:55 AM
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If a feminize wants to kill it with the Krispy Cremes and rant on (allegedly), really, what's it to me? How does it affect me one iota? And as long as I'm here, how does it affect you? Are they forcing their blubbery selves on you? No, they are avoiding you like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:53 AM
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I for one am happy to see the job of girlfriend for angry strikeouts exported overseas.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:48 AM
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No one on earth likes to clean. That's just straight up delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:46 AM
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They have Chinese, Korean, and Japanese passport bro's now too. A whitey is behind you in the line, but you are behind them. In Siem Reap, Cambodia, it's a wife-shopping supermarket - only for Chinese ugly guys with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:44 AM
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So what's the post-coital plan? How do you plan to work over there? What do you do all day in your straw shack (tin, if you're lucky)? Will you be learning the language, or will you be at her mercy in dealing with life? What do you talk about with a person with a 6th grade education who was raised deeply religious in rural poverty? Why not just tinder date in Missisippi? If you're planning to bring her back to the states, have you watched 90 day Fiancee to see how that usually works out? What ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:40 AM
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Women are def more open to a little fun far from home. Prob: these venues are mostly couples, but I did well at Club Med back in the day. Cruises have the singles table at dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:52 AM
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A person called me a racist and then deleted for saying that most Thai women have a 6th grade education. In fat 92% have a 9th grade education. Only 54% go on to finish grade 12. And standards are lower there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:53 PM
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Women who want to wallow endlessly in porn deserve a medal and the key to the city. I stopped reading after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:37 AM
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A great motivational speaker said that you only do well in life by helping others do well in life. And if you can't help them do well on life, at least wish them well. Hand rubbing-glee that someone else is not going to do well (let alone an entire class of people) is not a recipe for success or happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:13 AM
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But if someone you weren't attracted to "chose" you, you'd soft-next her, right? Or would you be "at the mercy of women"? One hopes at least, leather bustier-wearing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:36 AM
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"Great looking people with a lot of social capital do better in life, just like Aspen real estate and brain surgeons." "How can these basic laws of gravity be repealed?".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:30 AM
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Zero percent empathy could be your middle name. If you're killing it, in exactly the way you want to kill it, why so glum, Chum? Do I want to stay "competitive" in dating as I get old? No. I want to chill with someone into me who's not hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:19 AM
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Man, those are 2 big if's. Stats show that most old guys are obese and don't have $500 for a sudden car repair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:17 AM
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Why are you wishing misery on people you don't even know? If group X in the world is having some kind of problem, I like, here's some cheap and easy empathy, good luck, now back to my own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:15 AM
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One wonders: With your viewpoints and temperament, how many 35+ single female friends do you have to ask how well their dating is going?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:12 AM
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A lot of women lose interest in sex post-menopause. That means the ones who don't represent a smaller pool for men to fish in. Sexual, decent looking women go to their graves in some kind of demand. Unfair? Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:11 AM
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It's a revenge fantasy. For 86 year old Jane Fonda, there is no wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:08 AM
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They get to dictate what's attractive to THEM. Why is that a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:03 AM
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I always have to ask with posts like this: Did this person ever in their entire life, turn anyone down? Or has it been a Quasimodo-like life of constant shame and rejection in the bell tower? Because if he had, he would have been on the exact same footing as his oppressive naysayers, cockblocking his every move -out of spite, am I right? He would have nixed them because they weren't attractive enough or his preferred kind of attraction. Or because there was something about their perfectly fine p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:56 AM
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True victory involves suddenly remembering you left the stove on and have to go whenever anyone you're with identifies themself by ideology. See also: Libertarian, Sapiosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:34 AM
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Which would be more kryptonite in a tinder profile: Sapiosexual or Emotionally Intelligent? I gotta go with Emotional Intelligence. We prob don't agree on much, but we both agree that that is a mega-boner killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:31 AM
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I knew going in that "just enough men" would remain conveniently elusive. Who do you want to hear you who is not hearing you? Why do you want people who don't want to hear you to hear you? This sounds like recipe for pointless frustration. A super-vague "growing number" means it's not really happening. It's copium for that fact. A "growing number" (that never really grows enough to ever break through) is "growing" somewhere else, far from your actual experience, and that makes you feel better, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:27 AM
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Yeah, point it out, even tho nobody cares, then go back to trying to get laid. I accept that I have nothing to teach young nephews etc. If I ever begin a sentence with "I don't want a world", I can envision them gently dozing off in front of me. "Progressives" aren't stopping you from getting laid. If anything, they gave you pot, kinky sex, and birth control to help make getting laid possible and more enjoyable. Remember: In the right wing paradigm, sex is bad and should be controlled. That's wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:14 AM
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There's a good episode of Comedians getting coffee in which Seinfeld and Steve Harvey laugh hard at comedy schools and their futility. I'm a person who's a little funny. It comes from trauma, nerviness, and bad judgement. You could send me to comedy school and teach me to "observe" what's funny about gas station vending machines, and it would just be dead and lame. Whereas me musing about butt plug mishaps always gets a laugh. You have to be a person who has butt plug mishaps, or at least wonder…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:04 AM
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A perusal of world history does not support your theory. At all. Ever. Not a single time. Are we in the realm of sexual Maoism? Because that's a book I would pay to read. So if I have a hot GF, just bend her over a car hood and tell her to take on all comers just to even things out? That's going to take a Mao-level sell job.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:55 AM
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Will you at least consider happy rogue-dom instead of bewailing trash advice in women's magazines?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:51 AM
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Do you want to split the diff with "The Lord Moves In Mysterious Ways"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:48 AM
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Nothing is wrong with being a womanizer at all. Have at it. But as I understand it, as a non-womanizer, just a guy who has girlfriends etc, a REAL womanizer is out there, you know, womanizing. If people are yelling at him for being a womanizer, he's not yelling back, "no, you got it wrong, I'm not a womanizer, I'm gatherer". He's more along the lines of, "I can't heaarrr you. That's because of the meaty thighs wrapped around my head". I see a womanizer as sort of a happy rogue. I'm not getting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:22 AM
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I laugh in the stupid face of the current cultural zeitgeist and do exactly what I want. Why can't you? Why can't those poor loser moaning they've been "left behind"? If they've been left behind and THEN dismissed, how do they know that happened? Do they get sent a memo?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:09 AM
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"Just enough men to stop participating". Damn, that's some mealy-mouthed wriggle room. What % of men would be "just enough" to bring women to their knees and finally (finally!) thank us humbly for all that infrastructure? How close are we right now to this critical paradigm shift? How can we move it along?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:01 AM
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Mutual attraction is a rare experience for all people at all times in all places. If it happens to you even half a dozen times over a long life, you'd be very lucky. Mutual attraction is also unpredictable, it's no guarentee of anything. Dating advice, going to the gym, building elaborate gender theory models -Fate laughs at you. Hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:55 AM
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There are no tools to "actively destroy". Dating advice is useless across the board. That's why it's full of blather like don't hold up a big fish on your profile. They have nothing beyond common sense to say, and an endless appetite for dating advice content to fill. Dating advice is for laughs and time wasters. the only person on earth who thinks it's going to tip any scales is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:50 AM
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So if Red Pill is .00001% of males, and if we can toss on extra zero or two for the FDS-ers, can we declare victory?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:46 AM
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There's a lot of academic stuff that I never want to bother with. I have a stepson that teaches Marxism at a top 5 school. I don't sweat it if people like stuff I don't care about. Like, if they're collecting coins, I think that's stupid, because all of the Buffalo nickels look the same. But am I going to get in the face of a coin collector (or a pretend-Marxist taking an easy course)? No. Women's studies, coin collectors, marxists are classes of people that I would have to expend a lot of effor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:44 AM
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Emotional Intelligence is by far the most boring self-book I ever read. Don't fly off the handle, look before you leap -anyone who wants to lord their mastery of these simple concepts over me is going to be laughed at by me. I may even quote Chris Rock: "You're supposed to be doing that, Niggah, what do you want? A cookie?". How much suffering have you really born from accusations of Emotional Intelligence-failing? Has it even happened a single time? Please give details.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:38 AM
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'Teaching" people to be womanizers is like trying to teach them to be funny. Talk about an uphill slog. What in the entire universe is less funny than a congenitally unfunny person trying hard to be funny? You gotta know your limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:33 AM
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Dating advice is women-centric because they buy many more books about it. Men bought PUA stuff for a while, and then when they stopped, publishers moved on to the next cash cow, But bookwise, Men are not exactly paying for Manhattan publishers expensive midtown rents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:30 AM
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You may age out of the women asking about your friends. Can't recall the last time any women showed any interest. More of an in your 20's thing. They like that I have good job, wear nice polo shirts with a little alligator on them, and have a bit of gift of gab. It goes no deeper. Later on, these blind dates are just like little indie films starring you and her and less like a hill that you feel that you have to die on
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:28 AM
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How would she know? How do you know? Time will tell is what people who have no facts or even logic on their side say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:21 AM
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But you're saying kill the chads like in the French Revolution? But every guy wants to BE a Chad. So how is that going to work, exactly? Will it be like Mao's Cultural Revolution where the keep going after smaller and smaller targets? First it was the elite, then it was a guy who owned a second pig. Will it eventually devolve down to calling for the hanging of a guy with a cute sister? Hoping for "mild forms of (verrrry hard to measure) protests" is admitting that it's never going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:20 AM
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What every last person on earth says they want is fairly diff from what they really want. So too, every last person on earth wants a more desirable partner than they can likely get. -People are confused, disingenuous, greedy, and unrealistic. Film at 11. RedPill, Mansosphere etc is at least a decade old. Interest in it has contracted, not expanded. So social revolution-wise, it's going backwards. Passport Brothers too. A few people bought in, most moved on, few succeeded. If Red Pill was a car, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:09 AM
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All that cooing and sweetness. There's a bill accruing that you will be presented with up the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:33 AM
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But there has never been a consensus approving cold approaches. Women have been adamant about not being "picked up" since before I was born. Even in the old black and white movies, there was never a cold approach. Just John Wayne exchanging meaningful stares with a classy, not too hot rando-nurse actress in a slow-burn build up. The copium of the Friendzone was born in these films. The only place the cold approach has ever been accepted is on the dance floor. My friend learned basic salsa and hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:58 AM
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Consensus-building to make your life easier is not their prob. How many problems in life are you currently working on to make people you don't know live's easier? Why would you do that? Why would they?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:35 AM
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You have well outlined the reason why be social, use your friends to get dates is useless advice for 99% of dateless guys. If these things worked, people would already be doing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:28 AM
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No matter how you slice it, being approached is a kind of labor for which you never signed up for. It's like when Jehovah's Witnesses knock on my door. I was doing something else -that I wanted to be doing, that's why I was doing it- and now, I have to either be a prick, or politely talk to them for a little bit. Both of those reactions are mental labor that I don't want to do. The nice woman above felt she had to call back her Jehovah's Witness in question and actually apologize to him, reassur…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:44 AM
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"Man, that yoga class was a real work out, huh?". You get 2 of those before plausible deniability about you being a pest evaporates for good. If she fails to ask you a single yoga-question back, really reconsider that second bite of the yoga small talk apple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:25 AM
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It has never been easy and it never will be. Disco's, singles bars, dances, approaches on the ATM line -I lived through it all. They were all a sausage fest. And def approaching co-workers or other women on the bowling team or whatever was always ultra-low success-wise. You could make the point that society is now more atomized (less church, Family, bowling leagues etc), but these things were more likely to be oppressively conformist than comforting and mate-providing. The demographic shift of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:07 AM
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I will def book a 4* dinner for a second date; I enjoy the old style buzz of it. If she were disengaged and already done with me by the time the appetizers arrived it would be laugh. I'd def have a bit of trolling fun. Someone primed with a large cocktail and a crab meat cocktail will def be prone to oversharing and unintentional self-revelation. It would be like a little indie film comedy, heavy on the cringe. If she went on about how cheap other guys are, that entitlement attitude would mean n…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:03 PM
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"Do not tell a man that his personality is the reason for his lack of success with women" because that's a conversation that's going to be very uncomfortable and go nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:40 PM
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Attractive, statusy, gift of gab people do better. Film at 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:37 PM
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A little dangerous, the exact right amount and precise KIND of confidence and assertiveness; and then it has to LOOK assertive and confident too, and in the right way, but not too much. These are the wishy washy, nay-saying, mind-reading-demanding women who getting ghosted around date 2-3.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:35 PM
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Those non-women (and now there's a whole range of non-women) in positions of power don't care about you one whit either. It's a mean ol' world. And you, how much time each day do you personally give over to worrying about the mental health of people you don't know?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:22 PM
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Yeah different people want different things. And the different places problem? Difference, it's everywhere. I hate that too. How can difference be stopped? I agree: difference = problems. Making fun of abstract, non-real people's possible appearances is sort of a victimless crime. Assuming you don't do it in front of real people's faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:17 PM
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I always believed that even subpar women who had sex with me deserved a modicum of flattery and gratitude. At one point, I toyed with the idea of gift certificates for facials to soften the inevitable blow off. But then facial took on a double meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:13 PM
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She def blew me off. But I was GONNA fade. But I know; everyone says that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:52 AM
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You are the kind woman who enjoys a bit of a romantic dance in getting know each other and the kind of person I'd be happy to encourage to order a prawn cocktail. Warning: This casual observation does not necessarily constitute a prawn cocktail offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:03 AM
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Lists are OK and everyone can have one if they want to -right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:48 AM
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We differ here. If she looks like Jabba The Hut And she's "interested in relationships", that's gonna be a soft no from me, Dawg-ette. My sexual interest? Unlike you in that case, low. To say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:46 AM
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She was trying to be diplomatic. She also stressed that we lacked "sufficient mutual interest overlap". Translation: she thought she could do better. Who am I to argue with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:39 AM
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Some lists are detailed, others are not -Am I right? Women list = detailed and thought out. Men's lists = "just a vague resemblance" to any kind of list at all. As a man, you an't make one, ever. If you have special requirement (religion, golf-interest, hobbies), just put it in the ad -why play the dance of seven veils over time to see if it's a match?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:37 AM
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You seem a bit all over the map. Everyone should do exactly what they want (Duh), but you read an article in Pscychology Today and also really like a maybe this/maybe that waiting game. Next up: Every individual is different -zzzzz.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:32 AM
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"Please Men, put all of your cards on the table and be endlessly patient -while I take my sweet time, you know, "deciding". "Maybe the dial moves, maybe it doesn't. I personally have all of the time in the world" "My 'scale of interest'? It's always "hard to measure".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:57 AM
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These scenario's where attraction just mysteriously grows are more in the domain of couples who were friends first due to social connections. In dating, partic internet dating, this is much, much less common. Tell me more about how woman's "list" is "very specific" and men's list "less so" -without the waffling of "sometimes". We can at least agree that "bad qualities" are, you know, on the bad side.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:51 AM
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One woman blew me off by calling it an "attraction mismatch". Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:44 AM
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If they actually ARE into you, but are dementedly determined to convey that they're not, they're even more useless as a romantic prospect than someone who is flat out not into you at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:38 AM
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If they're not feelin' anything -at all- below the waist, men should just go home and work on their stamp collection. Groinal dampening is a slightly creative way of describing sexual interest. Maybe your's is perma-dry. Please don't ask me next if this is a post about stamp collecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:35 AM
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I have gone out with women who I wasn't that jazzed over due to bird in the hand fallacy-thinking. No hoper-women certainly exist and I have had wrong-headed sex with some of them. If you personally haven't, all I can say is: You haven't missed out on much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:29 AM
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Tinder introduces you to a lot more people (and fast) than you could ever meet in real life. Most of these people will be some variety of full of shit. How is this remotely surprising after 10 years of Tinder? How is it diff from real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:22 AM
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Death penalty. I will get up and leave on the second occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:15 AM
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2 bites (at most) of the apple and then its up to her re-initiate. Don't hold your breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:14 AM
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If people had a better offer than the rude, late, slur-caller, they'd be rejecting them swiftly and cruelly at the get-go. Their low esteem or whatever would magically evaporate. If they don't have any better offers, it's down to that slowly sinking boat called "giving them a chance". Or saying, "fuck it, let me just jerk off instead; at least I personally am into me". I have empathy for someone who steps in dog shit. I have zero sympathy for someone who keeps standing in the dog shit, saying, "…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:13 AM
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If she were ugly and not micro-famous, no one would have cared about her revelations. So discussing this goofy topic in terms of sexism is reasonable. Old schlub gets hosed by young hottie for being presumptuous and control-freaky? Also fair game for a gender discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:58 AM
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I've always been with women above my looks level (gift of gab, interesting job). The only diff: waiting a half hour longer for them to get ready to leave the house. Most good-looking women soon learn to diplomatically deal with unwanted attention. I notice that good-looking woman bartenders always seem to suddenly remember they have a lemon to cut up (at the far end of the bar), after conversational gambit #2. We can never entirely rule out the possibility that they've deliberately put that lemo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:50 AM
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A lot of people (including the ones with pussies) are fucked up idiots. Avoid them. Duh. Expecting society -or women at large- to "care" about your mental health is delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:37 AM
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Every last person posting here is enjoying some kind of sex role double standard or other that benefits them. No one is an egalitarian, new age role model. Every last one of us is cutting some fairness corners. Certainly, a few more corners get cut, society-wide, on the guy side. So if women are clinging to some bit of old chivalry bullshit that plucks at their rom-com heartstrings -while at the same time being broadly feminist-identified in terms of social issues- that is not the a-hah smoking …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:08 AM
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Lesson: Stay in your dating lane. If you leave it, be realistic about the problems of doing that and make accommodations. So if, for example, you're a full of himself schlub dating a young hardbody with a big male following due to thong-wearing, don't be a whiny little bitch when she doesn't turn into a hipster version of a Stepford Wife. Pick your stupid battles, grit your teeth, let her be her. My brother married a stripper who looked like Claudia Schiffer. His life got very complicated. He co…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:51 AM
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This is a vote for a boring, disingenuous conversation that goes nowhere where you will be made the bad guy. It may be "possible" that she then sees the error of her diffident and uncommunicative ways and sits on your face, but ask yourself: Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever heard of it happening to anyone at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:40 AM
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It took a zillion years for men and women to at least begrudgingly agree on the very imperfect 3 date rule. Or at the very least, having the fucking discussion by date 3. So now that's being rolled back? It's like restarting the Cold War. If women are entitled to endlessly dither without explanation (and they certainly and very reasonably are), then men also have the agency to suddenly remember they left the stove on during a Starbucks date where's she's checking her phone a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:36 AM
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A lot of people go on dates with no-hopers because they have no other better prospects at the moment (PPD alert: men do this too). It's not a conspiracy, it's just passive laziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:26 AM
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Guys, ask yourself: Has dutifully hanging in there and beating a dead horse ever yielded happy results? I'm asking the guys here. Women will be happy to respond with a one in a million anecdote where it worked. For THEM.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:23 AM
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When the verdict is not into you, there is no court of appeals If she's into you, but wants to wait for reason-X, she'll let you know reason-X and not expect you to be a mindreader while she secretly tests you. What kind of crazy person would do this? Time-wasters, placeholders, attention-hogs, and the perpetually confused. Plenty of men fit these categories too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:20 AM
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Do you toss them any bones of encouragement like a little arm touching, or is just a wall of stony silence while you surreptitiously make up your mind and watch them like a hawk for missteps?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:09 AM
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But a lot of time, women won't show interest because there's no interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:07 AM
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"MAY grow on us". "But mostly attraction is instant". "Keep trying, there's no downside for us, it's all on your end."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:06 AM
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Woman may need time to evaluate if they have interest in pursuing things further. But that groin either dampens or it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:02 AM
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All this time, I thought I was ugly and socially inept. It turns out they just had diarrhea. Thanks, this is the greatest day of my life. There's a new spring in my walk now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:59 AM
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Fair enough, and good for you. Sane people here are always saying that a holistic approach to socializing yields more fruit than just being a girlfriend-seeking missile.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:59 AM
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Having my brains beat in for hot sex -def a young man's game. And yeah, that hot sex will always be finite. Best to bail between week 12 and week 20 -with a sex maximization strategy in place towards the end of that time line.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:10 AM
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$2200 a month? A decent place to rent, a/c, cable, internet, phone, gym membership, health insurance and visa renewals are going to take you to $1,200 a month fast. That leaves a princely 1000 baht a day to eat off and for walking around money. I live on about half of that (including a fattie spliff a day). How much status and pussy-draw will my remaining 500 baht a day accrue in the so-called SMP? Not a whole lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:07 AM
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Yes, many foreign countries are different. From each other, even. Duh. In Thailand, a guy introducing you to a woman means that financial support will be expected. But only 100% of the time. Where are these countries where local men are falling over each other to help you hook up? Why do these men want to be your friend? How do you form authentic friendships in foreign lands so fast?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:54 AM
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He's getting something out of this mess. Maybe he likes the drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:51 AM
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I agree about being cashed up -and having health insurance (about $300 a month). Your GFE is going to be 10,000 baht at the 7/11 worker low end and 60,000 baht at the Coyote girl high end. She'll be having some cash-soaking emergencies too. A woman in a pot bar took down my line account. Months later, she hit me up for some money for a motorcycle accident. Because in her world, white dudes send Thai people money. Just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:43 AM
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You have a finer selection of the women that Thai's and other Asian men have given a hard pass to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:31 AM
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There is this body part called the mouth, which will always subvert broader cultural healthy diet trends. Perhaps you have heard of a substance called beer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:26 AM
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He's having some variety of crazy sex. Stop raining on his parade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:24 AM
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You're more likely to meet a soft opportunist than a scheming gold digger. Her ad will talk about how you're both going to "take care of each other". Well, fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:23 AM
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Yeah, but that striving tea lady is looking to hook up with a person of her own ethnicity. A Thai-Chinese person doesn't even want to get involved with someone who's not Thai-Chinese. Then other Thais, then other Asians. What racial group do you think occupies a distant 4th place?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:21 AM
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Less technology? I never see a Thai person without an iPhone. Agreed about the work hours tho. 10 hours a day would be on the short side here. And Sunday is for visiting Mama. Your college degree will be as meaningless to the average Thai person as if you told me you were a high Mason at your Masonic Lodge. If your profession is a high earning one, that's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:17 AM
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A lot of times, the cousin or brother is really the husband. Hence, their broad geniality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:05 AM
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Embracing the culture is useless. Most Thai people have only a very rudimentary understanding of Buddhism. It's a merit/demerit system for reincarnation, not a religious philosophy. Their culture is determined only by their specific Thai ethnicity. It's very, very hard to have a friendship with a Thai man. They have zero interest in you. I don't know any long term expats married to Thai women who have Thai male friends. My only Thai male friend is my pot delivery guy, who I share a bong with aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:02 AM
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I live in Thailand, where cheerful lying is the norm. If she says she's a virgin good-girl, than what the hell is she doing with YOU? I know a Christian Thai person (prob a virgin) who maintains a lot of internet friendships with men who send her small sums of money. None of these sponsors know about each other. They don't need you. A Thai person can get a job any day of the week, partic with English skills. And plenty of simps (Asian simps too, which they strongly, racially prefer) are tossing …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:55 AM
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If only rural Mississipi had more thin women. Because dating a women from there would make much more sense than wishfully thinking to the absurdist extreme about very religious, sexually thwarted, and passive aggressive-due-to-powerlessness poor women in Asia. You'd have more in common and could get a little BDSM thing going where you're the head of the household (after Jesus, of course). Kink with a woman fresh off the rice paddy? Gonna be comical.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:56 AM
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Unconditional love is reserved for infants and the dying. Everyone else, there's going to be some conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:50 AM
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"Scat-play or no deal".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:53 AM
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My male friend recently claimed to be alpha-widowed. He had a great-looking GF who was 20 years younger, looked like Dakota Johnson, and loved kinky sex. It was a very flukey situation which will be hard to replicate. The single moms and binge-watchers of Love Is Blind with a Pam searching for her what's his name are now a downer. He can't bring himself to go out to Starbucks for that intro coffee. I've been on the other side of this. I dated a woman who was with a famous rock star who died. She…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:25 AM
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"Jesus, I'm a passive aggressive pest who likes to pretend that me butting in to someone else's space is the same as ordering a latte -from the latte man -who is not a leg-clinging annoyance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:16 AM
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LOL you have no argument game. And still say LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:14 AM
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Wh-where am I? On some kind of forum or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:12 AM
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You too. May your every approach get at least a little pupil dilation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:43 AM
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Denouncing shallow pickiness -having dark suspicions about the shallow pickiness- is just spinning your wheels. If an ugly woman approached me, I'd be a little on the shallow-picky side. Yeah, it would be better if a hottie did instead. If only. How are women diff from me? In any given social encounter, we all decide fast how much oxygen to give it. I may not want to wait around interminably in case wisdom shows up in its many shapes and forms. Your life tip is a one way ticket to dullsville.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:28 AM
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I have a relative with BPD -which I formerly thought was a medicalized term for asshole. There's certainly some overlap with her, but I am grateful that in this era, people can get some help instead of just more useless judgement against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:42 AM
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Why is this a problem? Why shouldn't every last person on earth be a little picky about who they drop whatever they're doing to talk about what an interesting pair of shoes they're wearing? Do you blindly take on all small talk comers yourself? If a boomer wants to talk to you about how he remembers when a slice of pizza was a quarter, are you endlessly available for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:34 AM
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Your exposure therapy is someone else's awkward interruption. Why are they nonconsentually being dragged into your hare-brained self improvement scheme? If I have a bad stutter, are you on the hook to listen to me when I feel like inflicting it at large to help me sort it out? Just because?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:19 AM
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It's "OK to have negative interactions"? No, not when they are forced on you when you were just trying to sip you latte.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:08 AM
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If I'm out and about enjoying life, the times where I see a person attractive at the level where I am smitten are rare. Maybe 2 a month, and I live in a place with lots of great looking women and also a lot of great looking women passing thru. So when someone tells me that they approach women a lot, I always wonder how reality-based, let alone discerning, these copious attempts are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:07 AM
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Since virtually every woman on earth speaks about this, your OCD demand to know exactly "how many" is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:58 AM
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You don't know what kind of day they're having. No, wait a minute. You alone DO, amIright?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:55 AM
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Can we get a list of those melodramatically italicized very powerful institutions telling your white male self that your very melodramatically italicized sexuality is not wanted? How has this happened to you personally? Me? Only once when I wanted to tie someone up who told me emphatically no. My sexuality was not wanted. And still, I got over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:54 AM
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Yeah, but if she's not asking you band-questions back in 45 seconds, it's time for the last gasp of "going to the bar, can I get you anything?" and departing the area when the answer is no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:50 AM
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Maybe go with a mandatory approach me-badge for women? Or maybe a flippable sign like they have at a Brazilian BBQ restaurant? Green means, I LOVE people asking me about my sneakers. Yellow means Only if you're good-looking. Perhaps a picture of James Franco can be affixed to the badge for a point of reference. Red means "I'm on the rag, come back in a week and hope for green".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:48 AM
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As you get older, your life will def become more solitary. Cultivate resilience within, develop grace and gratitude for whatever human connection you can even scare up. Forcing people to listen to you or shanghaiing them into interacting with you will not do wonders for your self esteem either. And: more people will run away from you. Why wouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:43 AM
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As Red Pill-reformed, I find this a bit whiny. Old Red Pill was about, "Ok, be that way, Women. I'll be chilling and doing some chin ups".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:40 AM
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Patriarchy + submissive women = starfish sex followed by dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:33 AM
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No one owes you 20 seconds. You likewise, don't owe anyone 20 seconds. And it's not 20 seconds, it's your whole stumbling lead up time and then another 30-50 seconds of saying yuck and then laughing at you. I'll bet you listen to robo-calls straight through. "Well, it's only a few dozen seconds".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:28 AM
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At minimum, 19 out of 20 women are going to view your approach as unwanted, dissonant, and requiring an interaction back that they absolutely don't want to have, and now have to have. You are the exact equivalent of a homeless person "helping" open the door at the ATM. You are bothering a long line of people, hoping someone will be guilted into tossing you a quarter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:21 AM
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thanks for sharing your story. What a lot of people think is simply poor character is often hard-wired mental issues that tortured souls are struggling with. Your post today will probably lighten someone's load here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:58 AM
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But you can reject people too. It may not come up as often, but if you're not feelin' it with some Kathy Bates-looking woman, you too can politely demur. And should. Let Kathy2 find someone into her. Will she be vilified for daring to straggle up the greasy pole of dating a looks-numerical grade or two? No. And neither will you be. As to your math, if you're making polite approaches in a bar and taking a hint when it's no, I say you prob get at least a half a dozen passes. Hopefully, within that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:48 AM
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I was sharing my own sad life story. So in your stupid scenario the woman just has a little touch of cancer, can't fuck, but is otherwise fine? So for you, the absolute emperor of Duh-ness, I will amend my simple statement: It's hard to get laid if you have a very ill or disabled partner at home. Ver-ry hard. The only person on earth grappling with this obvious reality is YOU. I believe the polite word for empathy-free people like you is neurodivergent. Time for you haplessly stammer now: "Wha? …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:58 AM
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It's very hard to gin up much romantic and fwb interest when you have a dying spouse at home. It's a total pussy-dryer. I mean, duh. Maybe the most duh-statement in the history of duh-ness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:26 PM
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Like talking on the phone while eating, ghosting is something that people plainly want to do. If people want to ghost, does shaming them like scolding maitre d's do have any effect? The ship has sailed. You're right tho, when there's no downside to ghosting people socially, people are going to ghost.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:55 PM
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A year or two ago, ghosting was a straight up sin. Now, it's begrudgingly accepted. Is ghosting now where shaming cell phones in restaurants was 20 years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 03:45 AM
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Then why are you endlessly thinking out loud about travelling 12,000 to buy a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 10:04 PM
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How often are you subjected to these harangues from older women? Or is it the mere possibility that someone, somewhere is possibly complaining that gets under your skin?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:00 PM
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To get a woman to submit to you, you have to have the kind of character that inspires that in her; you can't buy it, you have to be it. And then there has to be something both emotionally and tangibly beneficial in it for her. Think of the Army. A lot of submission to authority, a lot of rah-rah inspiration, most people get a lot out of being in The Army. If I'm the sergeant, I can't just toss the troops a few bucks and talk them into that. And it only works with people who already agree with an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:23 PM
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White men get the women that the locals and other Asians don't want. If I have 4 mate requirements, looks 7+, some education, sort of bohemian-arty, and sexually open-minded, I face two obstacles: 1) Thai society is very biased against such women existing. They're tied to family and status. Education, curiousity, and artiness are actively discouraged. Def read about the concept of saving face in Asia, of which being with you is the direct opposite. 2) Status-oriented Asian men are passport bro's…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:00 PM
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You're abstractly sticking up for theoretical passport bro's? Why? And then you want to abstrusely argue every minor point into the ground? And claim that people sharing real life experiences are simply blinded by their own prejudices and have nothing to offer -while you offer even less? This, ALL OF THIS, is why you have women-trouble. Not because the mean ol' world is conspiring against you. You should change your user name to ResentfulFantasist. So to answer your very confused question, no, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:39 PM
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You don't have to put it all on women. You can just go get the sex you want for $70. Your fellow whoremongers will find this line of conversation a real downer. Keep it upbeat if you can, but 20 minutes in a beer bar will have you much, much less glum.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:55 AM
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2 constructive suggestions: post on Asean Now's relationship forum. You'll get the low down from guys who have done what you want to do. Get a ThaiFriendly dating app account. Test drive etc. -Don't know about this being a cultural moment. I was doing what you want to do 30 years ago. It cost about the same in airfare back then too, so if anything, it got cheaper. Call it $100 a day to get laid and eat street noodles. That's like Dollywood money. I mostly call Asian racist because the few who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:51 AM
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And they're more Americanized. Def save yourself some grief and hunt there. More open to anal too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:47 AM
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This torturous, go-nowhere argumentative approach to people who are already on your side - think about it. Do it. Don't take her to the beach. She wants to be back at the bar with her friends. Allow plenty of time for that. Otherwise, she will invent a stomach ailment and just ghost. Don't try to get her go freelance and cut the bar out of the bar fine to save money. That's her family, you're just passing through.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:21 AM
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I live in Thailand. In Chiang Mai. For a couple of years now. I have never seen a black/Thai couple. Thai people are very racist and light-skin-obsessed. Lightening cream is the biggest aisle in the drug store. Japan would be the most anti-black place on the earth. And the most blood-line obsessed (along with Korea). Not one Asian woman in a thousand over here would go with a black man. Most light-skinned Asian of both sexes would rather fuck mud than a darker than them Asian. They don't even pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:32 AM
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And I'm mostly here to make fun of people posturing as debaters in 100% content-free posts. I'm saying: If you want to do it, do it. Do it to death. Have that fake lesbian 3 way with 2 crackheads. Like $250, I say throw them another $50, but they've seen plenty of Canadians and Brits, so they're used to being stiffed, tip-wise. Learn the language and culture. At minimum, read Thai Fever. Or not. See how that shakes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:23 AM
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Google Fell Off A Balcony in Pattaya. Fell? Maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:21 AM
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I guess we're in Bizzaro-Absurdist land when we speculate how many women are promiscuously Tinder-dating in Africa. I'm going to go with: very few. You: "All of them".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 12:57 AM
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I'm mostly here to make fun of the horndog cultural blindness that P-Bro's show in haplessly dundering around in third word countries, BUT: The heart wants what the heart wants and consenting adult women (with a lot of hidden agendas) want to be with these dunderers too, if only pragmatically. Over on the AseanNow Board, you find a lot of former Passport Bro's who are now late age dads (that agenda thing). They moved to Buddhist Babylon for fun, but overwhelmingly, they ended up in Buddhist Miss…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:55 PM
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Undiagnosed BPD is rampant among bar girls in Thailand. I thought RedPill did a service to men in alerting them to the perils of BPD partners, but if they're lining up to fall in love with go-go dancers who still have one foot in the rice paddy, maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:35 PM
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I'm using "You" editorially. For the record, I don't necessarily think you stink either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:32 PM
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I'm going to politely guess that your understanding of Theravada Buddhism is bumping along zero. Since 95% of Thai's follow that very specific flavor, that's why they're not "polarized". A Zen Buddhist, or a Tibetan Buddhist? They never heard of it. They're not Turbo-whatever about politics because most Thai women have the equiv of a 6th Grade education. Rare is the Thai person who can name the president of the United States, so yeah, no arguing on that front. Fun fact: Past 45, a lot of Thai wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:30 PM
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Inviting completely unknown Senegalese men up to their 3rd world hotel rooms? Feminazi's want to know: "Where do I sign up?".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:23 PM
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Been to Senegal and Cuba. Didn't see a single bar for women to pick up local men. Whereas on the other side of the aisle.....
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:13 PM
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No one actually has to pay for sex. But you know that. But there does exist a tiny skeletal sex infrastructure of stuff like Chippendale Dancers etc. where women do spend money for a whiff of sex. If they want a six pack abs rent-a-rasta, he's going to want to be tipped. There was a great 90 Days Fiancee couple embodying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:10 PM
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Twas great back in the day, tho. A friend taught English and they'd have the conversation lounge, where you could just drop in and, uh, chat. 2 or 3 women might be vying for your attention (very politely). I went to visit an Imperial Palace, a decent-looking woman attached herself to me as an informal guide, we ate some pricey tofu and then we went to a love hotel. One woman told me I looked like Brad Pitt. I pointed out that we all look the same to them just like they do to us. We laughed, got …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:05 PM
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They're very religious, family-oriented women with very low sexual literacy. It's like having sex with Mormons, except without the juicy sexual shame part. They're non-confrontational and deeply passive aggressive. You only think you're not walking on egg shells due to misreading that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:23 AM
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This all falls spectacularly apart on even passing examination. Are there a few Kuta Cowboys boning Aussie fatties? Sure. Is there anything like a female version of Angeles City or Pattaya anywhere in the entire world? No, not a single one. But you know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:18 AM
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Problem: They're just not that into you. They think you stink. Ponder that. They're holding their noses while you do them. That's why they keep sending you to shower. Because you stink. All that dairy in your diet. You reek. They'd rather be with a Thai person or another Asian by a factor of ten to one. You are the fuck of last monetary resort. The stinky fuck of last monetary resort. If I could pay them to be into me, I would. But I tried (and tried) and failed. And I still stunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:15 AM
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Sadly, the golden era of Japanese women flinging themselves at hippies has passed, prob 20 years ago. The dawn of globalization and Lonely Planet Guides was great. The dream lingers on, like the $500 a month to live in Chiang Mai dream does. But that ship has sailed. Too many disappointments have killed that golden sex goose. Also, The Japan zeitgeist has turned inward, much less Japanese people are studying English these days. So much less opportunity to connect with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:07 AM
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In a word, thinness. If they were submissive and doting but FAT, no one would be getting on a plane. Thinness trumps even youth. A thin 35 year old has more dorks chasing her in Bangkok then a rotund younger woman. I polled a bunch of whoremongers on this and it was 100%. Not too far off in this thread either. Of course, in SEA, you can dial up both in the same body. These are very, very straight-arrow women in bed. You have to really like faked orgasms with a thin person to have it be worth the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:26 AM
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It's good that you know going in that life is full of crushing disappointment and that shit happens. If you want a guarantee in this life, buy a toaster. Yeah, if a woman loses interest in sex after childbirth, hard choices await. I agree that the grey area of people who so-called legitimately are refusing sex due to physical problems versus emotional issues is maddening and fuzzy. The only thing that changes is that you may get some sympathy with a dying partner and absolutely zero with a wife …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:34 AM
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If you end up critically ill or with a partner who is, you are in for a world of disappointment with health insurance, no matter how good it is. If you're making $150K with cancer, you're essentially poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:20 AM
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Nurses start at $300 a day. Prostitutes that you might even want to do start at $300 an hour. And she's going to wonder where you went -what's the cover story? You can read my story up above. I lived paragraph #3 to the hilt. Sometimes you're just fucked by life and getting un-fucked is too fucked up to do. I jerked off so much, I thought about changing my name to Red Ruffinsore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 04:40 AM
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That talk where you let her know that you'll be "trying to arrange sex with other women" may not be the unemotional tit for tat exchange you're hoping for". Your uncomplicated sex-arranging with a sick spouse in the background is a long shot too. Best chance: find a woman in a like-boat who's gagging for it. Odd? Long. Very, very long.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 04:02 AM
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So many of the comments here assume a non-existent situation where the non-sex partner simply fell off of a horse or something and is otherwise fine. 99% more likely, they will need a lot of very exhausting care. That will def cut into your dating time and cool guy-vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:55 AM
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These will tend to be situations where the person is seriously ill/exhausted, nauseous, in pain etc. Expecting arousal, let alone blow jobs, is reality-defying. And the number of desirable women gagging to get with a man with a super-ill spouse? If you thought your Tinder numbers were bad before......
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:50 AM
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I was married to a person who had ovarian cancer not all that long into our marriage (after a brief courtship). I went 2.5 years without sex, until her death. This was '95-97, so there was not the surfeit of internet porn and chat up opportunities that there is today. I managed a few months of chat with a woman who turned out to be 16. That scared me straight from further attempts; any kind of scandal in those terrible days would have been ruinous. I meditated a lot. I cried about 2 hours every …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:42 AM
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Crazy sex, it's a young man's game. 'Can't fault it. Trad-girl? Only if the sexual shame is hot. Like one in six.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:38 PM
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Town slut? Hellooo Time Traveler from 1964. Glad you hit a sweet spot BUT, most people (and cultures) that are sex-averse are a little crazy. Sex-averse people do not become sex-positive through access to sex. That shit is deep rooted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:19 AM
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More to the point, a low count, submissive trad wife is going to be a stone bore between the sheets. It's only really worth it if YOU are a trad. dullsville guy and having that stolid, dreary trad life is the be all and end all for you; or if you have to due to cultural pressure -which is not as forceful as it once was. Cosplaying at it is a recipe for misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:26 AM
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No rimming being stressed in an ad means not bringing up rimming before at the earliest date #2. I mean, duh. Maybe try to back into it, like, "look at the rimming on that hat" , or "that car's hub caps -quite the rim job they did there". See if she picks up on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:43 PM
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I had a whole marriage like this. The sex was killer in the beginning and I was drawn to the fact that she was a pretty simple person. Over time, she came to resent me. She felt that I was disengaging, but I was engaging with other people (non-romanticly) because she was such a potato to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:18 PM
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I live in Thailand where most white guys have clearly voted with their feet on the intelligence issue. The average female romantic partner has a 6th grade education. If she has a BA degree, that's like an AA degree in the west. Due to their hierarchal culture, curiosity is not encouraged (goes double for women, as always). I am married to a white woman here. Yes, I brought a ham sandwich to the picnic. Often, when we go out, a white guy will start ignoring his Thai GF and just start talking dire…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:05 PM
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I am a little wary around black people in an urban setting (so are many black people). That's because I have had a few watches and wallets taken off of me. No diss on black people, it's a visceral reaction; my problem, not their's. I can't believe how many stories of hassles and criminality I have heard from women about men in their general life. It's rare when I meet a woman who doesn't have multiple sex assault stories in her past. So it's like if Tupac gets on the subway with me times 1,000. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:23 PM
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But you're not required to "struggle" for women. You can do whatever you like. If you don't like the imaginary monolith of stuck up bitches, you can take your ball and go home -or look harder and be more open to a less attractive partner who has to be nice to you. Just because. At a certain point, they may be too homely to countenance. Then offer up the "it's not you, it's me"-speech (because it really is). And then back on the ol' hunt. If I see a desirable guy with a so-called lesser woman, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:05 PM
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I live in Thailand. The idea of being attracted to someone's intellect is unknown here. You would be attracted to their money, appearance, and status -like in the west 50 years ago. Education standards are low here; call it a 6th grade level on average. Maybe 1 Thai person in 100 can identify the current US president. Sapio's, beware. Eastern Europe is a place where intellect is much more prized than in America. Even an average person will have had more of a classical education that a US graduat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:22 PM
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I was way up on the likes and now I'm plummeting. Prob down to saying basic bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:00 PM
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Sapiosexual is a term for people who don't want to call themselves intellectuals. In Europe, there would be no problem in describing yourself as such. In America, intellectual practically means communist. The word -the concept- has been sneered at since the 40's, at least. Also, Intellectualism is a greasy pole. One man's avant gard is another man's hopelessly derivative. If she likes the New Yorker, is that really at the brainiac standard of The London Review of Books? There is a pecking order …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:55 PM
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Mentioning an advanced degree is edging into Sapio-dom. Abort!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:24 PM
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I liked your Just gets it-segment, but this expectation of shared affinity is something that all people hope for, often at absurd levels. I actually have a bunch of David Byrne's World Music selections. And I broadly like David Byrne. But then do I "get" David Byrne in the right way? You have to like the right things in the right way. Otherwise, you shoulda stayed in bed. To me, this example sums up the Sapio world view -which I am inclined to laugh at. Sapio = trying too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:11 PM
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As per PJ O'Rourke, a libertarian is a conservative who smokes weed. Knowing who a middle-brow like Malcom Gladwell is just yet another status-signifier. Pitching for that kind of partner is like saying, "this is my basket of intellectual status goods -what's your's?" I had a friend reject a date because he didn't know that David Byrne had a world music label (Luaka Bop). He made the first cut of knowing who David Byrne was, but he wasn't sapio enough to close with her. Sapio is more about self-…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:09 PM
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I just started working out 6 months ago. I had to push through the barrier of discomfort and fatigue and maintain faith in the logic of weightlifting, since my gains are super-slow due to a weak thyroid. My motivation is better health and a longer life. I couldn't have stuck with it if it was anger-driven. I have a trek in Bhutan that I want to do and that's my goal, not to meet women. Bhutan is for me and will never let me down. Women? All over the map. I'm not qualified to talk about endorphin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:17 PM
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If you didn't want to fuck them, would you still want to spend a lot of time with this person? Or if they were nun (a really great, perky nun, possibly a flying nun)? If the answer is no; they're just attractive, broadly agreeable people -is that how you pick your other friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:45 PM
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If you have to "work" at the relationship, run. If someone tells you that you're the one who has to work harder, run faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:41 PM
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A male Sapio is like a male Feminist -to be treated with scepticism until proven otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:27 PM
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Someone claiming emotional intelligence is probably a therapy-head. Or someone prone to self-praise without doing much. It reminds me of the Chris Rock routine: "Emotional Intelligence? You're supposed to be that, Niggah. What do you want, a cookie?". The actual book, Emotional Intelligence is dull and preachy. It's another conveniently squishy thing that everyone on earth can claim to have. Someone who claims emotional intelligence is usually a fan of soft self help like Brene Brown or Oprah. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:23 PM
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I guess the male equivalent of Sapio would be Libertarian. You're trying to convey that you're a rare breed apart from the herd, but in a way that involves no intellectual heavy-lifting at all. There are practically no women libertarians and just about zero male Sapiosexuals. If only they could somehow hold their noses and be able to stand each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:17 PM
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It means they want a decent conversation along Malcom Gladwell-esque, not too hard, but not too superficial lines. They want to listen to NPR and then have a blah opinion and tell you about it. The Sapio battle cry is "What people fail to realize"....and then some bog-standard bit of boiler plate and/or belaboring of some mini-fact. A lot of basic bitches and free riders in Sapio-world, looking to be passively entertained. See also: "great sense of humor". To cut to the Purple Pill chase -what d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:06 PM
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You need a reason for the friendship to exist beyond that you both spent a little time together. I met an attractive to a woman and felt an emotional connection. And then she uttered the buzz kill: "I only date black men". Oh. But we've met up once in a while since, exchanged books, had some juicy chats. She even offered to set me up with her friend. Mutual arty interests, shared references, non-grasping -it happens, just not often. These things have a shelf life, but I still consider her as may…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:18 PM
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You should live as you see fit and best of luck with your movement happening. You have a hard-wired preference, the same as people who are athletic and want a sporty partner or religious in a very particular way. Your's is no more less worthy than theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:06 PM
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Uh, me neither. If I COULD pay them to be into me, I would. But I tried, I failed, and really, the whole prospect is beyond implausible. In Thailand, these women are all very devout Buddhist and at least half of them are single moms. These hard facts preclude them really being your girlfriend, particularly for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:02 PM
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I feel ya. But if you're livin' in a 3 date world and you want to go to 5-8 dates instead, you need: 1) to be so hot you can dictate the terms (and still be willing to wave off 75% of guys) 2) a plan, some kind of encouraging dance of 7 veils that keeps them on the hook while you decide. 3) to boldly put this in your profile and be adamant about it to chase off the impatient and get a lot fewer responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:04 PM
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I live in Thailand. The same relationship issues plus lots of baffling cultural stuff are always at play. Average cost to take a woman out from a bar with some drinks and a moderate 500 baht tip is about $150 for an overnighter (which won't be that enthusiastic after the first pop; get ready to go out eating or shoppp-ping). You could take a small risk and get a free-lancer off the street for about $80. But the bar route is better, because they'll be professional sex worker charmers instead of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:49 PM
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Would this person help you move in exchange for some pizza? No? Then that's a friendly acquaintance, not a friend. They like you well enough, but not at the box-lifting level. A lover or potential lover? They would be a beast of burden, or for their REAL friends. If you'd help her move, but are hoping for more than pizza, then you are still only a friendly acquaintance. Friends give freely to each other without expectation. You are not a real friend. Friends also tell the truth and want their fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:56 AM
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And: not thin enough on average. Most of the Thai women I see in couples aren't that beautiful. But they are petite. I never see a guy with a fat Thai wife. Thinness trumps all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:37 AM
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It's very vanilla, starfish sex, tho. Having sex with someone super not into you -well, that's usually just called a bad marriage. And short, no more than 20 minutes of that hour will be horizontal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:33 AM
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We were on a board -like this one- and she liked my posting style. My points of view and way of expressing myself. And I liked hers. And then we starting dm'ing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:41 PM
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No lie: She liked my internet posting style.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:03 AM
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Patiently waiting usually just ends you up down a blind alley. If I had no bird in the bush prospect and only a fence-shitting bird in the hand, I'd go to date 5 if the sexual chemistry was high -and I being delayed for an attractive reason, not a dull-sex-grudging one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:56 AM
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We met on a Sexless Marriage board (on the now defunct Experience Project site). She was even more starved then me. Since we'd already shared our intimate pain on the board, it was easy enough progress to a meet up. Off topic, but on that board the split was 50/50 for men/women to be trapped in a passive aggressive hell with partners that derived material benefit from keeping us twisting in the wind. We eventually had to kick the two deadbeats to the curb. Our first date was in a hotel room. I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:45 AM
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I went out with a very straight-arrow, but lovely woman who I could tell liked me. On the 3rd date, I ventured a peck on the cheek. On the 4th, she pulled away, but said she wanted to go out again. On the fifth, she boldly put her hand across the table to hold, then dashed into a cab at the end. And then warm, very courteous phone calls in between. She was waiting for an unknowable sense of when to fuck. There was no date #6.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:43 AM
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agree, 2 months is the outer limit. Beyond that lies dysfunction, prob serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:33 AM
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Withholding sex for negative reasons (sexual shame, to manipulate/punish) happens to a lot of men. So if you are withholding sex for rational, personal reasons, that still correlates with male pain. And your religious upbringing is not their problem. Sort that out on your own dime. You have to find someone of similar beliefs and keep them interested, make it worth their while to cool their heels. For me, the endless horse trading would wear me out fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:29 AM
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Not getting the covid angle. In Chiang Mai, there's a shortage of guys who want to be sponsors. You'd like Chiang Mai post pot-legalization; lots of Thai/Western socializing. These days, a Passport Bro is laying low pretending to be a global nomad. If you did well with women in the states, I'm not surprised you did well here. One aspect where Red Pill meets P-bro: Short hight is more forgiven. But if you don't have money, you better be very good looking. And your most likely hookup would be with…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 10:51 AM
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In Cambodia, they have a new(ish) law: Over 50? Not allowed to marry a local. They've had enough. In Laos, you need permission from the paleo-commie government to marry a local. Laos is like the Mississippi of South East Asia -very, very conservative, very old time religion. The hotly sought out Girl Friend Experience has been dead and gone for a minimum of 20 years. As is the belief that the women "have" to go with westerners just to survive. I see plenty of women working for minimum wage at 7/…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:02 AM
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Yeah, that's a poll of Asian women in the United States. Asian women in Asia are different. Just like Asians are diff from Americans. They think we smell bad. I can (and have) come back from "you're ugly", But "you stink?", I'm going to leave that one alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:55 AM
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I did half a dozen examples of your side of the passport brother question, but the defensive cluelessness of guys pretending that the woman and relationships are going to be same as in Nutbush Tn cracks me up, so I shared a little reality instead of you go, Bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:49 AM
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I live in Chiang Mai. Prob 20 trips over here. I have known at least 100 Thai/Westerner couples. Mostly, the women don't want to leave Thailand. I don't blame them. Me neither. So yeah, you are def going to be living in a very trad culture, And no, a white boy is not their first choice or even their fifth. Sometimes, that brother or cousin who keeps hanging around is actually her real husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:45 AM
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I'm making the point that passport bros going the regular way are dreaming in color. Non-western men seeking western women are typically a beach vacation fling with the hope or a little payout, or a regular remittance, just like Thai women seek from western men. Most non-western men have a lot of cultural prohibitions about bringing home a white western women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:21 PM
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You seem like a bit of a bon vivant who I'd like to have a drink with, BUT: This is racism dressed up as a fairy tale. Due to less dairy in their diet, they sweat sweeter, but saying they don't smell when they sweat defies basic biology as we know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:02 PM
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Oh, and the weight thing: Stickman, a blogger who covers pay for play in Bangkok runs a lot of then and now pics of go-go dancers. The women are a lot bigger now -not to mention heavily tattooed-compared to a decade ago. Most malls have McDonald's. Mr Donut is another premium brand. This also has had a knock on effect to the nice women who you think you want. Love them for their love of Buddha, but loving them for being a size two? Try North Korea where they have to eat grass to stay alive. I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:56 PM
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Best of luck with your zany and quixotic love search. Check out the book Yellow Fever and the AseanNow forum. You're going to need a lot of help. From someone who is not me. Maybe, just maybe you're in over your head. From the get-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:34 PM
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Yeah, I cover your point to death in my other comments. I broadly agree, but it's complicated. Style tip: Belaboring your half a point with "maybe, just maybe" reeks of passive aggression. Do better. Also: "I'm not sure" -more lame passive aggression. Just read my stuff. Buy yourself a clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:33 PM
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Yeah but: the dating doors are being slowly shut in Asia. Cambodia and Laos have a lot of new rules about marrying, Thailand women have moved to Only Fans etc. A white man is a South East Asian woman's absolute last choice. I'm a Buddhist, I speak a little Thai and I'm on their wave length. I could get with a quality Thai woman. But they're never going get wet when I drop my pants. Who will? My old, white wife. Saddest story you ever heard, or what? But if you flat out love Asian women (I'm sure…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:12 PM
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Google tells me that only 5.5% of black men marry white woman. And a lot of those guys are not necessarily tall, good-looking, or athletic. A lot of black/white dating comes out church-based meetings. So maybe not all that high on the totem pole, unless your name is Kanye.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:01 PM
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I'm in an intercultural marriage myself. I'm from Manhattan, my wife is from a log cabin in Appalachia. A Tokyo-person is actually less of a stretch for me. Connection transcends culture. Can't see how "appreciated" you will be. Asia looks at white people the way that unevolved American people look at Mexicans -close, but no cigar. If you want a transactional relationship with someone with a high school education (we're talking college graduate in Thailand) and some of the most vanilla (and shor…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:54 PM
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In Thailand, a whiter skin baby is much desired. So if she's 30, and you're willing, she'll be moving that right along. Again, no value judgement or cries of deceit from me. Baby rabies here is about quadruple that in the west. A few guys get secret vasectomies and just shrug. But if she wants a kid and you're shooting blanks, your days are numbered.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:44 PM
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The woman of Laos are a hot commodity with Chinese men because they can usually pass as the more desired Vietnamese. But the women of Laos are holding out for a more ethnically similar Thai person (who hopefully has just the right amount of upscale Chinese blood in him), and are not that into Vietnamese partners -unless they live along the border, where it's all mixed. In Asia, there's a dating pecking order with many additional intra-pecking order preferences. And on no list is a white parter e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:38 PM
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Yeah, and their much less drawn to the allure of the white man these days. Too many neurodivergents have gone before you and pissed in the pool. You're talking about the most status and pure bloodline obsessed women on earth. If you're a hippie, you'd better be a Ryan Gosling kind of hippie.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:28 PM
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Asian dating alert: That nurturing nurse or caretaker is typically working a 60 hour week here. And the day off is to visit Mama. It's Netflix and pass out, not Netflix and chill here. That's why bro's like women who have a lot of free time to spend with them here. Hmmm, what kind of women are they in Asia? The man may finally get "to lead" (debatable), but you're going to be waiting a few days at a time to enjoy your fleeting leading. And no double-way can you be doing that as a white man in fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:23 PM
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There's a long thread on AseanNow about how many guys really wanted to move to a rural village in Thailand and how many did it to follow a younger love interest. Rural village love = 0%, Love interest =100%. Most of these guys end up as very late age step parents or even new parents. Not quite the hedonism they had in mind. The relationships are good, but asexual in year 3-5 and more of a duty/drudgery sentence on behalf of the woman's family. This is reasonable, you can't expect someone who mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:13 PM
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Agree, the heart wants what the heart wants, but you really need a strong affinity for the culture involved and an open mind as to your reduced status as an outsider in it to really know what you're signing up for. If your affinity basically boils down to them being thin and petite, you're in for a rocky road.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:05 PM
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I see passport bros getting a lot of eye-rolling, but no grief. Most women are happy to see such guys depart from their tinder listings, hopefully, for good. The job of being a passport bro's girlfriend is one the average western woman is happy to see exported overseas.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:02 PM
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Not yet mentioned: Oral sex on a woman is a kill me first-situation with most non-western men. So that critical 3 date night may turn out a little awkward. There's a whole sub-genre of Jamaican rap music denouncing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:59 PM
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Statistically, Indian men are seen as dating pariahs by white women on par with obese black women for white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:52 PM
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Eddie Murphy had a funny bit about going to darkest Africa to get a woman who would be a good girl -but then she'd be talking to the other American black woman and would turn on him and take half of his money just like they wold You either have to live there, with an all-encompassing trad culture that is not your own and most def not all that into you -or suffer Eddie's fearful fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:50 PM
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The whole Nigerian Prince thing -they'd be swimming against a strong current. Better for them to just book Pattaya and pay 30% more for sex than a fat white guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:45 PM
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This long running joke about Japanese girlfriends (I have walked the walk) may now be to un-pc to still tell, but here goes: You go to bed with Susie Wong and you wake up with Yoko Ono. This naive fantasy about undemanding "beautiful wives" in Asia dies hard and fast on the ground. You have her family to deal with, not to mention her many moods that she'll be very oblique and passive aggressive in communicating to you. You are less likely to have a happy union there than you are at home. I know …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:43 PM
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Because they are flavor of the week all over Asia too, which they prefer. Overwhelmingly, Asians prefer other Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:37 PM
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In a word, racism. Latin American/Asian women can hold their noses to be with a white American, assuming it's advantageous. North American/Euro women on average are not dying to get with a Middle Eastern, African, Asian, or Indian man. And if they are, there a plenty already nearby to engage with. No need for one to fly in. And the feeling is mutual. Plenty of dating opportunities in rural Mississippi. But how many non-western men will be drawn to an overweight woman who loves Jesus? You want a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:30 PM
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Yes, as long as they're useful. Key strategies: selective (means: complete) amnesia and affirming their wishful thinking proclivities.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:07 AM
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A Chad is a person who can get plenty of partners, act badly, and still get plenty of partners, No? Then Ms BPD is a chad. Your description of the ideal woman is someone who most men would push out of the way to get to the hot crazy one. I dispute that most men are gagging to get with your model, who seems to mimic the attributes of a smarter than average golden retriever. I'm in Malaysia right now, where women who fit your checklist are 10 a penny. Lovely people, a little dull, never even been …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:54 AM
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This post by the op is about a very un-average young women. Who is unlikely to get pregnant. And then I talked about about other un-average people, like cops who have 3-ways with former Amish women (true) and ugly nerds who get to spank hotties who read the New York Review of Books, which is what I see a deep yearning for here among the male side. Your view of life as a grudging acceptance of unpalatable bell curves to be tolerated with a snort of disgust and fatalistic Wall revenge fantasies is…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:41 AM
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Can a proud simp for sluts really be so cavalier? As my Dad said, a stiff prick knows no conscious. Or to paraphrase an old movie line: Your lips say no, no, but your dick says yes, yes. She sounds very emo. Emo girls, let alone thin hot ones, have been in huge demand since the beatnik era -when they were possibly invented. As per Hindu scripture, desire creates the universe. We have all played our part in that. We are all complicit in the madness. I appreciate the dialog here that attempts to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:02 PM
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Yeah, but nobody has to be average. You can move the dial.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:32 PM
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I can think whatever I like? Wow, thanks. I beg to differ. Nicole Kidman can pull better than Anne Hathaway. Because Nicole Kidman is a more compelling personality (obv, there's some subjectivity at play here, so shoot me). Anne Hathway can pull better than fill in the blank new young hottie (I'm to old to name the current one) because she's just so damned irrepressibly cutie-cute. There are different kinds of social/romantic currency than mere looks. My best male friend resembles 70's era Dr Sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:24 AM
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I'm thinking less different. Great-looking people who can bring the drama can def get away with more, no matter what the gender is. My brother dated a stripper and complained that her complicated life was always cutting into his hobby of fantasy baseball leagues. I told him he had a new time-soak now, and no more time for the old one. As our dad told us, everyone wants to dance, but nobody wants to pay the band. A compelling personality (which often goes hand in hand with BPD) has a long shelf l…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:40 AM
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Uh, thanks then. Whatev's. I'm not a diehard grass touching avoider, so I'll up my intra-thread commenting game.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:50 AM
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After lurking for a bit, this post (which rings true to me due the generosity of details) seems to cut to the core issue of this group: To what extremes will people go to get the big relationship prize? Good looks, compelling personality, romantic drama -this woman is a basically a female Chad. After thousands of hours of debating Chad-ness, a simple gender flip has thrown a lot of would-be sex role warriors for a loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:43 AM
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Thanks for your touching concern. No, derailing entertaining threads with off topic attacks is def a sign that you're too into your reddit thing and indeed def need to go out and touch grass. But now I'm feeding your shut-in troll mania by even responding, so...... Do you ever want to see a new poster here or do you just fight over nothing with the same six people? Don't feel like you have to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:19 AM
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Off topic personal attack. You're not a well person. Time to quote the Feminazi's and urge you to go and touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:55 AM
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Agreed. Thirsty men like I read about here would swim thru flames, poke themselves in the eye with a sharp stick, and make up any story in their feverish heads to get with her. A semi-convincing coming to The Lord and church attendance is likely her next arena to ensnare a hapless chump.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:25 AM
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