NavrusKhabar Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
73	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society?	Discussion	NavrusKhabar	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 01:21 PM
26	Should men only seek affection if they earned or deserve it?		NavrusKhabar	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 12:59 AM

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3	Women make it very stressful for men to stay single I mean if they both like eachother then by all means, they should fall in love and live happily ever after. But if someone can't date the people they want to date because they don't have the experience, then they either have to settle long-term for someone they don't want, or just try to get some casual flings or fwbs out of them to figure out their way around women. I'd say it's far more cruel and immoral do commit yourself to someone you think is below your standards. And you all don't underst…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 07:25 PM
3	Women make it very stressful for men to stay single The main thing that drives this whole conflict of interest is: even though there's a roughly equal amount of attractive/unattractive people by gender, unattractive women can still get occasional whiskey-dick from a guy who's more attractive than them, so they don't have to play in their league. That's why a lot of unattractive men don't get a chance in the first place. All these guys can do (besides hookers as the other person mentioned) is try their best to max out with fashion/haircuts, fitnes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 12:30 PM
8	Women make it very stressful for men to stay single all the super-woke women in here who love casual Lol those women absolutely despise men like OP and bully the shit out of them all day on here. If you're actually open to dating a grown man with no sexual experience, and you're not just virtue-signaling on the internet, you absolutely are a one in a million exception. I wouldn't recommend considering a serious relationship before at least getting frisky with that person because you have no idea what kind of insecurites, hangups, kinks, preferenc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 06:55 PM
15	Women make it very stressful for men to stay single <image> Any woman who wants casual can generally get it on demand from someone more attractive and experienced. People like OP might have to fumble a bit before they can get it right, which no woman would want to deal with. It's unfortunate for all parties involved, but the alternatives are to either never try and stay celibate forever, or committ to a serious relationship with the first person who says "yes" when you don't even know what you want in a partner or how it'll affect you, which imo …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 05:36 PM
33	Women make it very stressful for men to stay single This is why I don't agree with the whole: "just focus on yourself and until a woman deems you worthy" take. The only realistic solution is to lower your standards, have some excuses if they ask about history, and keep chasing casual pussy until you get an "experience", which might suck for less-attractive women that want a serious relationship, but you yourself can't make an informed decision on who you would be a good partner for with nothing to go off of. I admit I had to bullshit to get my fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 12:44 PM
–	Women actually agree with redpill ideals they just dislike the branding Men say they want the kind of women who want casual sex, but they aren’t what women who want casual sex want. I think thats the whole point of redpill. How to be the guy that women want to hook up with. And it turns out: it's not by being sensitive, vulnerable, emotionally available, and treating her like a queen as many people insisted in the 2010s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 12:26 PM
6	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy I normally see women saying their sex drive is based on how the man makes her feel. So if she feels that she's settling for security and material ends, her libido will reflect that. Like how if he slacks on chores or ends up being too needy, they lose sexual attraction. Unless thats all bullshit and most women just don't want to admit they want to fuck hot guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 01:18 AM
2	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy Yeah I admit its a generalization. There's going to be women who put in effort and it pays off. Especially those that have to grind from some disadvantages. But the common pattern is that a 25 year old woman is desired by more men than a 35 year old woman, while a 35 year old man has a better chance of getting with a younger woman than vice versa.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 01:04 AM
-1	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy Men are more likely to be narcissists, Machiavellian and psychopathic. Classical psychopath yes, the others hell no	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 12:04 AM
1	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy They are, I got good insurance and the new therapy modes they got now are way better than the "that sound hard, want some drugs?" from last decade. EMDR is wild though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 11:52 PM
0	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy The dance that birds do always involves demonstrating fitness, dominance, and risk-taking: puffing out the chest, showing off their wingspan, along with exposing themselves to danger via bright plumage or loud calls. I live in a city and you can constantly observe male pigeons fighting and posturing over a female. And these are animals that have had no common genetic link to mammals for billions of years. You can see the exact same motions in male dung beetles squaring up and baring their pincer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 11:33 PM
0	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy Do you think but noble apes act the same way as let’s say hyenas? In terms of mating behaviors literally yes. Males fight and express dominance, the winning males hoard females and the loser males either hang around in hopes of side pussy from the alpha's harem or form gangs that leave the territory and try to overthrow another alpha. This is common to most mammals and directly correlates to human behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 11:23 PM
2	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy In my case I'm too sensitive to harsh rejection and being perceived as a creep because it makes me feel morally "bad", so I have to compensate by trying to be perfect boyfriend material for women I've lowered my standards so much for that I'm just blatantly lying when flirting with them, at which point I catch myself and withdraw, and then I feel guilty for leading them on. Rinse and repeat. And yes, its child trauma amd mommy issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 11:06 PM
0	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy This is a really confusing and self-contradicting statement. Humans are biological lifeforms. Either you're coming from the perspective of some fundamentalist religion that believes humans were directly materialized by God and evolution never happened, or you're just trolling in bad faith to bait responses like this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 10:55 PM
4	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy I'd say from the male POV if you even have to "coerce" then you already lost and she just wants the ego high from being desired. But a lot of women seem to interpret "I'm moving on because you're clearly not even attempting to reciprocate" as "he just wanted to use me for sex".	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 10:36 PM
3	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy Yeah it's being said solely from the male perspective, but it's a genuine perspective. Women in their 20s are objectively at the peak of health, beauty, and fertility and there's no getting around that or wishing it away. If men thought middle-aged single moms were the most attractive then everyone's dating problems would vanish instantly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 09:42 PM
6	Male vs Female Mating Strategy Is Really Younger vs Older Mating Strategy That's really all it is. A lot of women insist that the RP trope doesn't exist and then are straight up like "I already been there and done that in my 20s and now I just want someone to give me house and bebes".	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 09:33 PM
2	You have two options - which one would you go for? Sorry, I forgot my peer reviewed meta-analysis on this hypothesis. You'll just have to settle for a joking observation of general social trends	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 06:02 PM
2	You have two options - which one would you go for? Well now that feminism has gone full circle into Victorian slut-shaming purity culture, your choices are a modest, prude tradwife who despises your soul, or a bustdown who's good-natured and chill. Edit: I see everyone else using "304" so I assume the H-word is not allowed, which I find kind of funny considering all the vile, radioactive shit I've seen typed out on this sub.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 05:43 PM
5	You have two options - which one would you go for? This. I unironically want a whore gf. Sexual exclusivity only matters if you want kids, otherwise it's just forcing someone to pretend their entire sexuality only revolves around you, which is narcissistic, abusive, and insane.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 03:47 PM
29	Men want women to settle for them For every man that whines about women not lowering their standards to fuck him, there's a woman whining about men not lowering their standards to committ to her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 06:01 PM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? So you do at least agree that abortion should be legal if a nonviable egg, zygote, or fetus risks the health of the mother? Natural causes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 04:46 AM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? And not even stillbirth. Normal people generally need multiple tries to initiate a successful pregnancy. Every "failed" attempt where the sperm still fertilizes the egg but it doesn't develop would fall under the legal precedant of manslaughter if abortion was considered murder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 03:51 AM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? If you kill someone on accident, you're liable for manslaughter. If a woman's fertilized egg dies, and that fertilized egg has the same constitutional rights as a born, living, conscious human being while being a biological appendage of that woman's body, you have legal grounds to charge every woman who suffered stillbirth with manslaughter. Her body killed that zygote because that zygote is a part of her body, even if it's a natural cause.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 03:45 AM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? By this train of thought, should women who suffer stillbirth be charged and sentences with manslaughter?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 02:27 AM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Most people in countries that are at an "indoor plumbing" level of advancement do not believe killing a zygote without a developed nervous system is the same as killing a born, conscious, developed human. If anyone who is anti-abortion also eats meat, they are a hypocrite and objectively stupid. Livestock animals are far more aware, intelligent, and sentient than an unthinking, unfeeling, unaware, unborn cellular mass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 02:00 AM
1	did all of your partners grow on you? This is what I agree with, and also why I think that people who claim "I need 7 dates to know if I'm attracted to someone" are either intentionally lying to virtue signal or are sociopaths who only see humans in terms of their use value.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 09:42 PM
–	Highly attractive humans being bad doesn't corelate with reality That would be filed under "those who faced adversity and trauma and managed to resolve it" or "those who are absolutely fucked in all aspects and see no possibility for good things", which mostly depends on whether or not you can still get a job and afford therapy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 03:53 PM
–	Highly attractive humans being bad doesn't corelate with reality This is generally what I see. Best people: Those who faced adversity and trauma and managed to resolve it, developing wisdom, inner strength, compassion for others who suffer and appreciation for those who helped them. Neutral people: Decently attractive, stable upbringings, reflect kindness back to them but don't really give a shit about others unless their compassion is socially rewarded. Like all the people on this sub who are well-liked, have healthy social lives and happy marriages, but no …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 01:14 PM
4	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I usually see this coming from red pill. While the blue pill/center left stance I normally see is that good men don't fail or struggle, so men who do are bad and deserve it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 04:00 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? How would you reccommend a single, below-median, working class man go about handing their power over to women? Like what would that look like on an individual level for men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 01:57 PM
–	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Here's a link where you might be able to find a mental health provider if you're in the US: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Please try not to hurt anyone. I hope you find yourself in a better mindset soon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 05:34 AM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Do you think someone murdering a bunch of innocent people is inherently morally justified if the perpetrator believes they're doing a good thing?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 05:11 AM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I'll define society as the general social consciousness of people in a broad culture, like "The West". So like when a vaccine for polio was invented, a bunch of people saw a way to fix a big problem, and governments, private interests, and the general population all decided "let's vaccinate everyone from polio" and they actually did that and now we don't have polio. That's "society" doing something. Men are part of society, but a lot of men don't feel connected to it or haven't found a sense of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 04:25 AM
5	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Well I meant to cover the whole "violent social liabilities" part right off the bat. But the current reality is that society is just like this, and most women and men who are socially well-adjusted at best, don't care, and often go out of their way to promote more shame, agitation, and alienation on the men who don't measure up in society. The point I'm trying to get across is: is this acceptable for you or do you think society should try to help resolve these issues since these men are generall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 03:11 AM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I'm in the younger half of millenials and I was raised on stepping aside and taking back seat because girls are the future, and I remember getting lectured about how we need to stop raping women when I was in like third grade.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 12:23 AM
2	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? It just means that society and/or biology make it easier for men to do those things, so more of them are able to do them. If you haven't, you don't suck. I mean I agree with you but this contradicts what I normally see from the feminist perspective: that being a unit of a category in which other units did bad things inherently makes all units responsible for those things. Like how men who don't rape people or condone it still perpetuate rape culture because there exists other men who do within t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 11:05 PM
1	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I would definitely prefer a community that pools some resources to help the members that have less ability to give back, rather than just supporting people individually in proportion to what they contribute. That would kind of defeat the purpose, as those who are already well off wouldn't need any intervention. And promoting well-being of those who lack it would put them in a better position to help others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 10:46 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Nikki Haley writing "Finish Them" on artillery shells aimed at Gaza comes to mind here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 10:18 PM
2	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I personally think countries experiencing this should invest public funds into researching the causes and addressing them along with mental healthcare availability and social initiatives to destigmatize these issues. Women who work in mental healthcare, sociology, and public policy should be working toward this as it falls under their job roles. Other than that, normal individual people of any gender should generally be less mean and judgemental, both online and off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 09:53 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I think for the same reasons they're not all rich and getting laid. People got a variety of issues that make it difficult to connect with others in our current point in history. Men seem to be experiencing this more and to a greater degree than women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 09:36 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I generally don’t see men taking pro-social action, proposing meaningful/practical solutions, or coming together as a group to support and build deeper connections with each other. Well that's pretty much the main thing. Men who struggle less in life tend to hold contempt for those who struggle more, and our culture maintains an individualist, competitive outlook on men that seems to apply to them more than other identity categories. There's a big group of men who are shamed, insulted, and ostra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 09:24 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? I actually have no idea what you're arguing. Like you're just trying to come up with things to talk shit about	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 08:17 PM
11	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Well yeah, I agree it's pretty fucked up how men are thought of in center-left social media culture	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 08:10 PM
2	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Ok I'm sorry	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 08:03 PM
5	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? The whole reason I work and pay for an apartment is so I have a place to comfortably sit on my ass without people threatening to kick it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 07:51 PM
5	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? It's not entirely of my own construction. Even mainstream news talks about how men are falling behind: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/13/upshot/boys-falling-behind-data.html#commentscontainer But I also don't literally believe the narrative that I posted as an extreme hypothetical example, as I don't actually think all men are individually responsible for all of the collective evil in human history, and I don't think men who struggle to succeed in our uniquely confusing and alienating timeline …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 07:35 PM
6	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? If men are inherently bad by nature, being the common denominator of humans who have done things like the holocaust, then a ton of them playing video games and watching porn would be a net good as these will limit their harm to society and suppress their socioeconomic power to oppress others. I'm being semi-sarcastic on most of this but I'm just trying to check the logic behind a lot of what I read.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 07:24 PM
3	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Do you think there's anything that can or should be done on a public or cultural level to connect isolated men to communities and positive social relationships, or do we have no choice but to accept this pattern as it's the responsibility of the men themselves to adapt?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 07:12 PM
8	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Do you hold this same attitude toward people in general, like poor people who fail to adapt to financial well-being under capitalism, or obese people struggling to adapt to a society built for thinner bodies? Or are there aspects specific to men's disproportionate struggles and failings that makes it more uniquely their own fault and responsibility?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 07:00 PM
12	Would it be better for more men to drop out of society? Despite being the grammer equivalent of a cruise ship disaster, it's one of the most wholesome and wise things I've read on this sub	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 06:47 PM
–	When people say that people (especially men) can “make up for” being unattractive with other traits, is the unattractiveness ignored afterwards or does it change or what? I relate completely and I think most men and women don't actually differ as much in this, but genders tend to play their respective parts of "I'm ONLY attracted to personality" or "I'm ONLY attracted to looks" to avoid the insecurity and stigma of admitting otherwise and being called a pickme or simp.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 12:43 AM
–	Men cockblock each other more than you think. The whole point of bullying in general is to reduce competition for mates. That's why so much of it is based on emasculation/defeminization and sexualized humiliation. It's often successful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 09:29 PM
1	Men are of very little use to a woman in a personal relationship. Here you have to realize: If a male human in the current era expresses this exact same emotional reaction to the exact same equivalent judgements, they will be morally shamed and shit on from both progressive feminists and reactionary chauvanists. There is a blatant double-standard that exists here in our global media culture	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 12:02 AM
1	Men are of very little use to a woman in a personal relationship. I think there's a disconnect between the men that many women think or hope are the ones who don't get laid, and the men who actually don't get laid. All the guys I unfortunately know who lose their shit when someone isn't into them are toxic far-right Chads who still have constant hookups and rotating situationships, just not as many as their teens and early 20s. Rejection isn't a surprise or a big deal to anyone who's really been through the shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/25 10:42 PM
8	Men are of very little use to a woman in a personal relationship. Very few actually lash out. Most of us just repress our feelings around others, whine about it on reddit and therapy, and immerse in chemical and digital escapes to cope.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/25 09:22 PM
3	Modern feminism is female supremacy, feminists don't actually want equality We need to be fighting for men in sports to earn less money. An NFL lineman whose only job is to be a big person who pushes other big person is not worth 20+ surgeons	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/25 07:36 PM
12	Modern feminism is female supremacy, feminists don't actually want equality There's a difference between feminism as an actual political and social ideology, and "feminism" as a mainstream pop culture and marketing platform. A lot of what's portrayed as feminism on the internet and mass media is the latter. Lamenting over glass ceilings in upper management while millions of women wipe old people's asses for minimum wage. An influencer's shitty date is a crime against humanity. Manspreading and mansplaining and man flu are all concious attempts at oppression. The music v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/25 07:20 PM
1	Threatening that you aren't going to marry isn't as scary as you think to women It's weird for a neurotypical, cisgendered, heterosexual man to not be attracted to the majority of non-obese women in his age range. That would indicate a medical or psychological problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/25 09:42 PM
3	The issue with the whole dating advice world online: dating is treated as a series of hacks and decision trees The hacks and decision trees absolutely are needed in order to get your foot in the door. Many women do prefer similar things when it comes to introductions, first moves, flirting, and asking out. Knowing this stuff can be hugely helpful to men who weren't attractive and popular in high school and it makes things a whole lot less awkward and uncomfortable for women. All general advice flies right out the window when it comes to actual relationships though, as these are determined by the things t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 05:37 PM
3	Men: how do you feel about traditional gender norms? This comes off kind of prickly but its a good take. I actually like being a dude, some aspects of gender role are comfy and fit nicely and there's good aspects to it. I legitimately feel more at home being a pragmatic problem solver and feel out of my element when it comes to more social and emotional things. It has its drawbacks but I'll always be able to maintain and overcome hard shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 03:39 AM
9	birth rate is declining due to men objectifying women more than before Sex is actually what makes babies, believe it or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 10:55 PM
–	According to statistics, men are more prone to schizophrenia, especially during their teenage years to mid 20s. How would this affect the dating market, in your opinion? Males in biology are more prone to genetic variance in general, which in humans can manifest as all kinds of neurodivergence and mental disorders. The Y chromosome is a mutation of the X and is inherently less stable. This is a feature rather than a bug in nature because males drive genetic change in a population while females maintain genetic stability. Selection ensures that males with traits beneficial for fitness will disproportionally reproduce with multiple females while those that hinder …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 09:30 PM
10	Most women are terrible at giving dating advice for men. The RedPill is needed. I've seen women give good advice and explain perspectives that men might not consider or be exposed to. I definitely value women's input if it's from any degree of good or neutral faith. But the vast majority of women's messaging to men in any form of media is just "you're either one of the good ones who we already chose or you suck and deserve to be alone." When men internalize this, they turn blackpill.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 08:54 PM
6	Apparently women expect men to read their minds Women shouldn't justify rejecting men as a personal failing on the man's part, and men shouldn't take it personally if they're not someone's type. This is a result of radical, fundamentalist blue-pill ideology that if a man isn't attractive to any particular woman then he's a bad person and he's doing something inherently wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 02:45 PM
14	Is sex a need? Depends on how you define need Honestly my definition of "need" that I grew up on is only 1, everything else is just nice to have. But my therapist tells me "being seen and heard" is a need so idk, that's up to debate. If you define "need" as "something that will result in maladaptive coping mechanisms if it's not met" then I 100% believe sex is on there for 99% of neurotypical, heterosexual cisgendered men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/25 11:36 PM
28	Is sex a need? Depends on how you define need I'd put it like: 1) Food, Water, Temperature 2) Safety, Security, Privacy, Basic freedom 3) Social belonging, At least one trusted friend 4) Sex and snuggles 5) Giving a shit about anything else	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/25 11:26 PM
3	If you make the claim that you think being single is perfectly fine and shouldn't be a problem, you should be open to talk about your relationship history. This seems like an honest take and I'm glad you're making it work. I definitely feel way less stressed about sex and love when I got some music or art things in progress or even a good book, anything to look forward to really. It's just when I'm in a rut and don't have any ideas or inspiration that the whole loneliness-rage and sexual frustration fills the void and I wind up in places like this. And that itself is mostly caused by work burnout and bad sleep.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/25 11:14 PM
11	If you make the claim that you think being single is perfectly fine and shouldn't be a problem, you should be open to talk about your relationship history. I'm mostly on OPs side but people who do the whole "thats anecdotal, I need a peer-reviewed meta-analysis on this completely subjective, personal subject" are insufferable idiots who should be ignored.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/25 09:57 PM
-2	Men and Women need to start settling for the average person The main problem here is "desperate people" are disproportionally straight dudes and "the rest of us" includes all their female counterparts who would rather be single and celibate or embrace political lesbianism	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/25 09:36 PM
–	Women go beyond a double standard . They rewrite the narrative I for sure agree that nobody would actually write one of these clickbait articles or refer to cheating as "exploring" if they didn't cheat on their partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 11:16 PM
–	Women go beyond a double standard . They rewrite the narrative Lol that second one is wild: "Craig, now a marriage support coach, openly speaks to people about how infidelity improved everything about her marriage and coming through it was the greatest test they could face."	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 08:31 PM
–	Women go beyond a double standard . They rewrite the narrative "But I’ve also seen the flipside, where affairs can be vessels for which to explore truth and expose desires." I admit that people say tons of crazy, whack shit on the internet. The double standard is that women can say crazy, whack shit in popular blogs and opinion columns and people act like its normal. https://www.divorceclub.com/support/how-an-affair-brought-my-marriage-back-to-life/	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 07:58 PM
–	Women go beyond a double standard . They rewrite the narrative There's a whole mainstream narrative of how women cheating on their partners is actually good and virtuous because otherwise they would be forced to leave them over dick. This isn't even the one I was trying to find, which means there's more of these: https://www.pedestrian.tv/sex-dating/how-my-affair-is-saving-my-relationship/	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 07:27 PM
–	Women go beyond a double standard . They rewrite the narrative I don't see what "goes beyond" double standards in these examples. Women just tend to be more eloquent with their bullshit than men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 06:55 PM
1	Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them. It does make sense: Life is inherently dangerous and anyone can kill you at any moment. People are better off just accepting this universal fact, doing what they reasonably can to be safe, and trying to enjoy the positive aspects of life instead of lamenting and blaming and gender-bashing others over inherent conditions of mortal existence that nobody has direct individual control over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 03:07 PM
4	Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them. Here's the actual reasons: Men's bodies are more physically adapted to inflict and endure physical harm Men have more testosterone and other hormones that mentally and somatically predispose them to aggressive/fight stress responses Males in every human community that has ever existed, without any exceptions, are heavily socialized to violence from very early on in life and "killing the bad guys" forms a core part of their values, personal identity, and social role. Males in nearly every biologi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 02:18 PM
1	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. Those are specific things I've seen people say in the women and feminist subs that got showered with upvotes. I think it's just performative online paranoia and anyone who acted like that in real life would have a rare and extreme social phobia, which is why I called it crazy and delusional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 11:17 AM
-5	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. How about this: Women should fear for their safety enough to be wary, exercise caution, and be aware of their surroundings and people's vibes when they're going out. Have fun but don't get too f***ed up, know where your friends are at, have escape plans for if a guy gets pushy, ect. Avoiding contact with all men, being afraid for your life when walking to the cornerstore in broad daylight, and demanding that men cross the street in your presence is crazy and irrational. Is this stance good or ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 02:11 AM
5	"Women have sex with Chad to make him commit" is false by the current, solely looks-based, definition of "Chad" I 100% respect any woman capable of acknowledging this. Simply by not insisting that Chad gets laid because he's vulnerable, sensitive, and emotionally available while non-Chads are evil misogynists, you've demonstrated yourself to be a rare genius among Reddit women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 08:03 PM
11	Men's social role is limited by society's preference for "masculine" traits Men are not, and have never been compelled to embody “masculine” characteristics that are unnatural to them Boys get bullied, ostracized, and physically assaulted throughout their childhood and adolescense for not living up to patriarchal ideals where I grew up, and in I think most of the US to some extent to this day. I think this is something a lot of people don't consider about this topic, there is a ton of brutal conditioning that turns innocent, sensitive children into the "men" archetype. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/25 10:24 PM
3	Women do want a good man, just not enough. If I was in the same place in life but in her age range, yes. "Not a total bitch" is an automatic +4/10 and her right pic is actually decent/cute for 40s-50s with no makeup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 09:52 PM
1	Dating isn’t hard, you’re just not putting in enough effort I think a major source of frustration is that a lot of women will still let a man pursue her and even subtly encourage it while having no intention of actually reciprocating. That with the constant refrain of "all women need to be cautious and hesitant around men so you have to prove you're one of the good ones" can lead to confusion as to how much initiative and effort should be expected from guys. I personally think if someone isn't obviously dtf after the first actual date, they're either too…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 06:50 PM
2	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 There's a hard cut-off. As the post said, 25lbs overweight is still attractively thicc. 100lbs overweight is objectively unhealthy and will comprimise the fitness and survival of offspring. It wouldn't make sense for a male to have the "me give u baby and house" drive for someone who couldn't chase after a toddler.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 05:45 PM
2	Are young men failing at dating because they aren't dedicating enough time and effort to it? I was making $14 - $16 an hour in a car-dependant suburb doing restaurant, factory, and warehouse jobs. I was paying only like $300 on rent but I wasted a ton of money on out-of-pocket college courses, therapy, and a DUI that set me back $10k. I moved out once I finally landed $25 an hour and saved up a few grand. I regret not getting out earlier in life and in hindsight I could have made it work, but I didn't know anyone to move in with and had no frame of reference for how shitty my life was c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 07:16 PM
25	Are young men failing at dating because they aren't dedicating enough time and effort to it? This is it really. I was only able to afford to move out to the city once I landed a white-collar job in my late 20s. I've only been able to afford to go out and afford food/drinks/shows recently in my early 30s and I'm just starting to build a social life from scratch now that I don't have to worry about being homeless. Even at all the places I go to, Im usually one of the youngest people there, and these are relatively "immature" punk shows and dive bars. Almost everyone I grew up with either …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 04:30 PM
1	Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation? Same here 100%. It took me a ton of expensive therapy and I was very resistant to the idea, but growing up in a family that's "a nightmare to deal with" is proven to cause self-shaming and learned helplessness. I also think that it's way more common than its even hyped up to be, and that there's some degree of child trauma in probably most people, but especially the agitated lonely people who post here. Basically, going long periods of time as a kid being alienated and bullied, whether in school…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 11:16 PM
5	Why do girls tend to arrange social groups in terms off attractiveness, whereas boys tend to do it in terms of interest? I think it just reflects the values that genders are socially conditioned to. Boys will often divide themselves based on external interests and abilities, like the sports jocks will all party together, music fans and band guys form their cliques, nerds get along with other nerds, ect. For girls, it seems like being pretty and popular is a hobby and identity in of itself. The amount of thought, time, and effort it requires to learn makeup alone is probably huge. Add that to the endlessly complica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 01:08 AM
4	Why do women keep children by men who don’t want to be fathers ? Almost all the parents I know, including my own, get married after their first kid or two if they can tolerate each other that long. Usually you decide to get married because of an unplanned pregnancy in the first place. Then again, I did grow up poor and I'm only recently starting to realize that a lot of the things I thought were normal are totally fucked up by upper-middle class standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 03:13 PM
–	CMV: The potential negative consequences for warm approaching are much worse than for cold approaching. It's not that they give a shit, it's that it's entertaining. Everyone loves a good "omg that guy tried hitting on me, what a creep!" story. Normal, healthy, responsible, middle-aged people do this all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 07:29 PM
10	CMV: The potential negative consequences for warm approaching are much worse than for cold approaching. Well yeah, you're normal. When you got fearful-avoidant attachment disorders due to mommy issues, you gotta figure all this shit out manually if you ever want to touch boobs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 07:10 PM
14	CMV: The potential negative consequences for warm approaching are much worse than for cold approaching. That's a very strange response to his question, sounds like you're the one with hangups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 06:49 PM
–	Why do a lot of men believe they will get sexier with age? I think they realize they aren't sexually attractive but that most women will fuck anyone for enough money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 06:26 PM
2	Why do a lot of men believe they will get sexier with age? I'm infinitely more attractive at 29 than I was at age 20, and it's entirely due to money from landing a somewhat humane and livable job. Lasik surgery, dental work, therapy, being able to afford my own apartment and clothes, and not living with people who make me feel like shit have been completely transformative to my appearance, confidence, and self-esteem. And it's only getting better. Honestly most guys in their early 20s should just jerk off and worry about making money. Once you can fully…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 06:13 PM
11	Men in western society should reject marriage There's another way... Date people, vet them, and keep trying until you find someone who you actually like to spend time with and be around a lot. Marriage shouldn't be some strategic war over who can screw each other over. Most marriages are fucked because people base them on the cold, calculating bullshit that permeates this thread, or they marry the first person who'll have sex with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 05:40 AM
1	CMV: Men who are not naturally good at dating and finding sexual partners cannot become good at it without making some women uncomfortable. That is not basic, it's a totally insane and delusional take. Sometimes people don't vibe, it feels awkward, and that's totally normal, human, and okay. Everyone sometimes makes people feel uncomfortable, even my best friends and I have had uncomfortable moments. You should try interacting with humans before making judgements on human interaction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 04:59 AM
3	CMV: If men are trash you're the dumpster I think this is wrong, and that men and women are roughly equal in kindness and empathy. The difference is that soft-hearted men are less likely to try wooing the maximum amount of women as humanly possible and therefore get way less exposure. There's also a significant portion of women who are insanely horrible and cruel, who will also claim to be "soft-hearted".	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 03:55 AM
5	CMV: If men are trash you're the dumpster Those behaviors you described are absolutely horrific and terrible, nobody should ever be treated like that. I'm also really glad you made a point that often gets missed. Because if we boil it down to statistics these men have a high turnover. Thus more chances to match/meet with women because they aren't committed. So these awful behaviors pollute the dating pool and make women more guarded and resentful. Most men aren't actually psychopaths. But the psychos are always going to be the thirsties…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 03:34 AM
3	CMV: If men are trash you're the dumpster It's interesting when you reverse the roles here. I feel sorry for men who say this, and things like it Why? They're discriminatory people who are no better than racists? A person doesn't just come to those conclusions out of nowhere, such an aggressive stance can only come from a pile of negative experiences they've had with women. "A klansman doesn't just join the KKK from out of nowhere, such an aggressive stance can only come from a pile of negative experiences they've had with black people"…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/23 02:47 AM
63	Sex is extremely important to people and when they say it's not, they're lying. It's just young women venting their frustration. They fucked some spoiled frat boy and get mad that he didn't fall in love and change his life like the rom-coms promised, so it's an easy cope to just insist that sex itself doesn't matter and men are shitty and bad for wanting it. It's an inevitable phase most women go through and it's completely understandable, but some just don't seem to grow out of it. It's the equivalent opposite of "MGTOW"s who don't go their own way and are actually obsesse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 04:43 PM
6	How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you? Yes, absolutely. This is common and normal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 03:19 PM
3	How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you? I never understood this, even from the perspective of a guy who's only fucked overweight women who I wasn't actually attracted to. Kissing and cuddling and feeling each other and getting someone else off are the whole point of sex. If I only cared about nutting then I'd honestly rather fuck my fleshlight to porn. Going through all the trouble of flirting with and attracting someone, bringing them home or going to their place, getting naked, just to robo-fuck, get dressed again, and dip out is co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 02:31 PM
–	Dating is much easier than most men make it for themselves, and they are misguided in their pursuits if they value a long-term relationship This. It echoes a lot of similar oxymoronic "advice." "Just resolve your issues and hangups and optimize all your thoughts and behavior. It's easy" I'm not being defeatist and I totally agree that the main barriers for guys are in their own heads, but there's absolutely nothing easy about overcoming those barriers and changing your core beliefs. Especially for men who were raised in toxic relationships, or whose early life really was hostile and alienating enough to warrant those core beliefs. W…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 04:54 PM