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| 48 | Got laid for the first time in five months, last time was with my ex, third girl in six years | Field Report | Nearby_Advance7443 | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 04:25 AM |
| 4 | Patron at Work | Field Report | Nearby_Advance7443 | /r/seduction | 04/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym) | Field Report | Nearby_Advance7443 | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 08:52 PM |
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| 5 | How do you come up with opener that is witty and creative?Well, then! I got nothin’. | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 05:52 PM |
| 10 | How do you come up with opener that is witty and creative?For me? Improve your diet. It puts you in a better mood and allows you to be quicker on your feet. | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 04:02 PM |
| 1 | How to escape the friend zoneThe right amount of push/pull. Make a list of unspoken rules with your bond, and go ahead a break a few of them without explaining yourself. Maybe pull away from the bond a bit, without explaining yourself. See other people. Don’t shove her face in it, but don’t feel the need to hide it either. | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing?My dad was a ladies man in high school, and was very persistent with my mom. From what I understand, it was not something that gained results right away. But he just had fun with it. And they’ve had a thriving marriage my whole life, to the point where it’s grossed me out. While there’s validity to letting it go if a woman’s not interested, there’s also validity to going after who one wants. So long as it’s with respect, both for the lady and for the self. It often will yield unexpected results.… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 03:54 PM |
| 0 | Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing?☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼 | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Being attractive is largely about being healthyOne could argue that health is a major part of sociability too. Firstly, health is a multi-faceted term that refers to more than just physicality. And secondly, being physically healthier helps get one out of their head so much. Last week I’d been eating more fruits and veggies than normal, for example, and I felt so much more a part of the environment around me. Generally I feel trapped in my head, but suddenly I was bantering with people and rarely coming up short with things to say. A hot nur… | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Being attractive is largely about being healthyLol why do you think he was able to get women alone so easily? | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Age gap perceptionOh and another person who agrees with this general sentiment that lends a lot more credibility to the ideal is a former professor of mine. She was in her 50s at least, perhaps older. A very outspoken feminist. Brilliant lady. Strongly agrees that when somebody is 18 they’re free to hook up with anybody they’d like (and had two young adult daughters at the time). She said that people who feel otherwise are infantilizing young adults and “age-ist.” In other words, while there’s certainly a gray ar… | /r/seduction | 02/06/26 04:39 PM |
| 0 | Age gap perceptionHe would’ve been in his late 30s at the time and I think he said she was 19. | /r/seduction | 02/06/26 04:01 AM |
| 9 | Age gap perceptionI am a firm believer of something my older buddy once told me after mentioning he slept with his (legal) daughter’s friend: “If she’s old enough to die in a war she’s old enough for me to beat the brakes off her pussy.” | /r/seduction | 02/06/26 02:23 AM |
| 14 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?I’ve contemplated as much, specifically with nurses. There are a couple bars right next to the hospital the town over that I’ve seen women in scrubs at some nights. If I went out more, I’d probably try hitting them up. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 06:16 AM |
| 3 | I took my FWB shopping to the lingerie store .. it’s a great feeling!Fucking A, dude | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 07:32 PM |
| 4 | Got laid for the first time in five months, last time was with my ex, third girl in six yearsI’m sorry to hear how hard it sounds for you. I personally blame a lot of my issues on my cousin talking me into fucking her when I was five and she was eight. I believe it’s often paralyzed me with fear I can never understand. I definitely felt some of that tonight. I suppose the best advice I can give is to try to find joy in life in what ways you can (I read, go to the gym, and write mostly), and then make time to go out and try to be social. You’ll fail so so much, but you just got to keep p… | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Got laid for the first time in five months, last time was with my ex, third girl in six yearsActually, looking at your profile you and I are the same height… | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 05:02 AM |
| 7 | Got laid for the first time in five months, last time was with my ex, third girl in six yearsWhile I’m white I’m not all that tall. | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Never had game before. I'm 31Your writing is super helpful to me, and I’ve had plenty of girlfriends and experiences. Just never as much as I’ve desired. More often than not with women I’m less than fully attracted to. The couple that have been fully attractive the sex hasn’t been as fun as I want it to be. The sexless periods are longer than I’d like, and the idea of changing it feels like climbing a mountain. Definitely not a virgin, and co-workers often see me as somebody who’s a sexual degenerate ironically. But I admit… | /r/seduction | 14/02/26 08:45 AM |
| 0 | Reflecting on men who's lives are ruined because of a womanThat sounds very hard. In the future, maybe make contingency plans when you’re in this situation? Unless you’re with a woman you can absolutely trust, but don’t be giving out your trust easily. | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Reflecting on men who's lives are ruined because of a womanYou kept asking her to break up?… | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Reflecting on men who's lives are ruined because of a woman…Why were you with her for that long if she treated you so terribly? | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 05:24 PM |
| 8 | Reflecting on men who's lives are ruined because of a womanMy recent ex did this, and I barely blame her. It’s kind of a normal mating pattern, and by no means “scary.” When she started to demonstrate she wasn’t who I thought she was, I dug my heels in further and stuck to who I am. This is a big reason she’s an ex now. | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 05:16 PM |
| 0 | She’s telling you about her problems with another guy? Bro, you’re already in the friendzone.Lol my ex and I used to subconsciously spar about this shit. She’d tell me about her dudes, and I’d tell her about my crushes and the rare woman at the time. Once I went into work after skull-fucking a girl at school, and said ex was on the clock already (this was when I was still friendzoned). She immediately asked if I had just had sex lol But yeah we eventually dated. Was a very difficult experience, though. Probably at least in part because our dynamic started similar to how this post descri… | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Are there any advantages of playing "Nice guy"Be authentic. If you randomly buy her dinner, but you randomly do that sort of thing for all your friends and family and don’t have any agendas, that’s different and most women will sense as much. Examples: In high school after I got my first job and I had no responsibilities, a lot of the time if my parents let me drive to school before going home I’d ask a random friend as the bell rang, “Hey you wanna hit up the Asian Buffet? I’m buying.” Authenticity if I happen to have a girl I like in the … | /r/seduction | 15/10/25 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Stop looking for excusesDiagnoses are to make navigating your (dating as one part of) life more manageable so you have a set of words and instructions to understand your unique circumstances. That being said, really sorry you have to manage that at all. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.Mostly framing. Wouldn’t allow her to control our dynamic going forward. Started with me acknowledging my feelings for her and my desire to be more than friends, spurred on by a night where she was terrified and needed a shoulder and I was that shoulder and refused to take advantage. Was advised not to tell her about my feelings and to just start mildly pulling away without explanation. That progressed into her getting more interested in me, and we started cuddling and kissing and watching late … | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.You’re not a bad guy based on what you’ve described, but you’re really focusing on your victimhood in this situation and unless you’re legitimately traumatized over this that’s probably not necessary. When you focus on personal victimhood, it disempowers you to insane degrees. That is super, super, SUPER unattractive (to both sexes), except to unhealthy predators. Now when you’re legitimately traumatized, you won’t be able to have normal relationships until you deal with it. You can’t deal with … | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.Your ex sounds unhealthy, but you are allowing it to happen. Don’t, and don’t bemoan anybody but yourself for letting this happen to you. Of course she shares responsibility, but that’s irrelevant to your path forward because she doesn’t belong in your life going forward. Assigning responsibility to anybody but yourself is only ever important when you’re in an ongoing coexistence with somebody else. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 01:19 PM |
| 5 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.Ah, fair enough. The humbling yourself is the hard part. If you can do that much, it gets a lot easier. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 01:13 PM |
| -4 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.As somebody who has been physically assaulted a couple times, no that metaphor isn’t appropriate. Being a “nice guy” is like being a jon for a prostitute, except you replace money with, “I’ll do nice things for you and emulate the lead in my favorite romantic comedy from childhood.” When women lead these dudes on, it’s usually a prolonged shit test and instinctive. Now, there are definitely cases of women who lead dudes on to the max because they’re unhealthy, but that’s not a behavior as antiso… | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 01:12 PM |
| 9 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.This isn’t true. I’ve seen totally ripped dudes, act like total simps, and coincidentally they have shit dating lives. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 12:55 PM |
| 11 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.The reason society’s so hard on dudes for this is that it’s really not that hard to take your power back regarding this, and the women who put you in this position usually actually want you to take your power back, but that requires you to reckon with and accept some truly uncomfortable things about yourself. When I went through this process, I was able to get my last friendzoned situation to go from telling me she wasn’t ready for a relationship to leaving her panties in my backpack before leav… | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 12:53 PM |
| 6 | He said he would wingman but he fucked her instead?Well, in the show it’s hard to explain in totality. But my educated guess about the show, and I’m obsessive about subtext, is that the player wingman guy is lonely and is ecstatic to finally have a wingman in his best friend. But the name of the game is getting laid, and this character in the show treats every woman he has an opening with as a “target,” and that instinct kicks in every time rather than his instinct to be a good friend. | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 05:34 AM |
| 6 | He said he would wingman but he fucked her instead?I explained the basic plot beats, but it’s from the sitcom How I Met Your Mother. | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 05:30 AM |
| 20 | He said he would wingman but he fucked her instead?Hahahahaha the dude totally Barney Stinson’d you. Tries repeatedly to wingman for his buddy who’s single for the first time in YEARS, and every single time said buddy has anything resembling an opening he swoops in. Barney’s “friendly” advice after like stealing the fourth woman in a row…it’s a dog eat dog world out there in the dating jungle!!! You’re welcome! FRIEND!!! | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 05:12 AM |
| -2 | How do you handle jealous unrelated male fridges in the process of seduction?Lol or you can subvert the script and get her doing extra dirty and kinky things in spite of her overbearing protectors. Like fucking her in the ass right in the area where her dad lazes about most nights… Or spanking her so hard that she tells her boyfriend that she fell on her pet lizards’ lounge shells and severely bruised her ass… Women don’t like feeling controlled by insecure men, and often will lash out at those who are unchecked. You can easily use this to your advantage to play out your… | /r/seduction | 13/09/25 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Most of the girls have bfTo add to this guy’s sentiment of, “Just approach them.” My uncle met his wife while said wife was on a date with another dude. My uncle was quite the smooth-talker, was tough, as well as had three even tougher older brothers in a small area. He was quite the slut, and had a policy of approaching the prettiest girl in any room regardless of who she was with. When she expressed interest, my uncle waited until she went to the bathroom and told him he may as well go home. When they last refreshed m… | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 11:46 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with FOMO and morality when it comes to casual sex?Damn. I tend to love my slutty women. I approach it with a desire for a like-minded partner, myself. But your post is very well-worded and insightful. I like how some of the other comments on here emphasize that it’s ok to feel this way even if it’s hypocritical. Obviously, don’t be shitty to anybody. If a woman you want to maybe date turns out she turns herself out too much for your liking, just approach it with the mentality that you two aren’t right for each other. From your tone, you seem li… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 06:25 PM |
| 5 | Why Being a Nice Guy is a TrapMore simply put, any time you treat a woman in a way with the expectation of getting something in return it makes her feel like a glorified prostitute. This is anti-sexy to most women. Women can’t have sex with you if they feel anti-sexy. While women don’t inherently like assholes, they know by their very nature that assholes expect nothing in return for how they are treating said woman. Be authentic, don’t be “nice.” | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Going to Japan but there is one little thing I’m concerned about……Da Nile’s not just a river in Egypt, ya know | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Never chase a woman“I’m not copying you,” but dressed up. You’re on a roll. | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Never chase a womanBeen forever since I’ve heard, “I know you are but what am I?” | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Never chase a womanLol another stupid comment | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Never chase a womanNow you are moving the goal-posts, and saying that it’s merely about mental framing. Which is definitely a big part of it. But your long-winded post doesn’t convey that. You straight up shit on game in it. Your post isn’t about getting out of desperate framing, but about throwing up your hands in frustration and convincing yourself it’s the former. I’ve been there. But don’t delude yourself into thinking this is the way | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 03:27 PM |
| 7 | Never chase a womanStupid post and stupid comments. Further proof that this sub is full of lonely men seeking somebody to validate their pitifulness than to do the work that goes into becoming good at this stuff. I’ve never mastered, but I’ve had enough successes to know “If she likes you, she likes you and you can’t change if she doesn’t,” is fucking stupid. I’ve mentioned it several times in this sub. My biggest counter-example was when I was friendzoned for three years, and then I studied dating courses and wit… | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 02:38 PM |
| 2 | How to bypass the "i need time to get intimate" BS?The friendzone happens when you focus too much on getting along before sexualizing each other (you’re establishing rapport before attraction, number one way to the friendzone and a classic mistake). The point of dating is sex. Women know this. They don’t like us pretending that’s not the point, or like we’re ashamed of it, or like it’s somehow uncouth to be honest about as much. That’s not to say you should be crass. Saying, “Hey, wanna kiss?” will turn most women off too. The art of most things… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | How to bypass the "i need time to get intimate" BS?Respectfully, I disagree with this. See my separate comment for a different take. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Seeking Clarity from a Woman About Where You Stand Ruins AttractionA dating coach I studied once talked about this and gave an example. On a date he told her the story of the moment that set him towards becoming a dating coach, where he and his brother had a good business painting houses and they talked about stretching it into a supporting enterprise, and he burst into tears during the talk because he was so depressed over the idea of making that into his life. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Rule Number One is Never take her seriouslyLol I’m just gonna throw cinematic quotes. “I’m sorry, I don’t follow. That’s like saying, ‘How can an ant lift fifty times its body weight, but root beer floats are delicious.’ Are the two even related?” | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Rule Number One is Never take her seriouslyTo quote Hank Moody: “You wanna fuck around, fuck around all you want. I’m no Judge Judy. Just don’t string a woman along for a major chunk of her child-bearing years. It’s just. not. cool.” | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 04:49 AM |
| 6 | Girl at Gym Etiquette?This first commenter has the right idea. Imo, too many pussies nowadays who vehemently advise against approaching at the gym. Same ones who passionately advise against approaching while she’s at work. The common reason those people give (“She doesn’t have the option to walk away!”) is totally valid, which places a higher burden of accountability on us men to read the fucking room. While women want to feel respected enough to not have their daily lives significantly disrupted, most still don’t wa… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Super challenging for me: Gym approach when she's with a male gym buddy.Lolololol if my uncle listened to this person’s rule then my cousins wouldn’t be alive. He and my aunt have repeatedly told the story. The last time my aunt just smiled all guiltily and when referring to the guy that she was on a date with the night she met my uncle she smiled and said, “That poor boy…” | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Although this post is months old and I have a girlfriend now, you do realize that the girl in the OG post moved within ten feet of me after I stared and made eye contact a lot? No equipment or obvious reason to be there either, when the gym was dead. Could’ve easily been doing that work-out on the other side of the gym. As well as took her shirt off while doing her stretches in that time too? All after I very blatantly and per your interpretation creepily stared at her. Obviously none of that me… | /r/seduction | 17/11/24 06:18 AM |
| 5 | Is it normal, like part of the process, to be continually rejected?Lol you spelled Bukowski wrong. And that’s a really poor supporting reference, because he became QUITE the ladies man…through working his ass off in his greatest life passion (writing). Once Bukowski made something of himself through hard work, he had his pick of the women. Don’t get me wrong though, had Bukowski been desperate to get laid and pursued writing merely as a means to that then it’s doubtful he would’ve been as successful as he was. The “not-caring” attitude only really works if you … | /r/seduction | 03/11/24 09:31 PM |
| 2 | She is USING you if you are in the friendzone, this is why...This post kind of gets it but it misses an essential attitude of overcoming “the friend zone.” For the record, while I didn’t maintain it into a lasting relationship I absolutely got out of the friend zone I was stuck in for three years. And although I definitely made game mistakes when we were dating, I did get her to do things like… Getting naked and begging on her knees to see my dick for the first time, leaving the thong she was wearing in my backpack after work, and holding me and crying an… | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 02:03 PM |
| 0 | Need advice: I’m a woman and a hopeless flirtLol I’m surprised by most of these comments. None of them has suggested what I think your main problem may be. Sex appeal. Being more visual creatures, we men are not scrutinizing your game very much. You have to be downright socially challenged to turn a guy off with your personality, and you don’t seem so. That in mind, it stands to reason you’re not turning guys on enough. Put more focus into sexuality and your personal pleasure. Masturbate more. Watch porn and figure out what you like sexual… | /r/seduction | 19/09/24 04:27 PM |
| 0 | The worst part about rejectionThis is the way. Your instincts will learn. Your conscious thought is less important. | /r/seduction | 25/07/24 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Is it weird to approach girls when out with family?Not necessarily. I did this once, and my family played my wingmen. I did not have the know-how to close, but there was definitely attraction. It started with my brother sending our hot server to me while I was waiting to close a bar-tab, and her saying, “Your brother told me to ask, ‘Hey dipshit, what do you want to drink?’” I was a few drinks in already, smirked, and said, “I like it when you call me dipshit. Could you do it again?” She got a kick out of that. I believe before we left I asked h… | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone approach at the gym?😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 29/06/24 08:21 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone approach at the gym?Nah, this is the type of dude who’s gonna snake your girl right in front of you while you watch helplessly. Locate your balls. | /r/seduction | 29/06/24 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Should I tell a woman I’m dating my body count if it’s low?There is no correct (numerical) answer to that question. If you’re too high, you’re a slut. If you’re too low, you’re low value. Find a clever way to evade the answer. The above dude who says he treats women as people and not numbers is a great example of how to do this. | /r/seduction | 26/06/24 05:45 PM |
| 2 | What are the smoothest/witty lines you've said to girls?Her: “Fuckface is the PERFECT nickname for you!” Me: “Yeah, why do you think my nose is so crooked?” | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Why is it not a field report? | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)😂😂😂 Thanks for the “good luck.” | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)I disagree. I actually understand the theory behind this stuff decently, because I’ve taken a couple dating courses. I’ve just applied it in my life very little. That being said, doing stuff like this are like muscles that must be used to use well. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)What’s wrong with having all these thoughts, and then sharing them as a field report publicly? | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Yeah, you’re wrong. If a guy is only ever talking to women to sleep with them, it often trips him up. Enjoying and having fun with the process that leads up to sex is the way. Just because I don’t want to sleep with women right now, in the immediate aftermath of a pretty serious break-up, does not mean I don’t wish to sleep with women. Wouldn’t be bothering to do things like holding eye contact or introducing myself to one at my regular gym if I didn’t. | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Dude, read the whole post. Grieving, so I’m not ready for higher levels of escalation nor closing yet. But there’s a process that leads to that, isn’t there? I’d say the fundamentals I listed are a part of that process (because they contribute to building inner and outer game). Are you just saying, “If it’s not sex, it doesn’t count”? | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)What would you consider to the reality of meeting women, then? | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Not rushing to fuck the first woman I can, hanging out with a dude who’s in a similar scenario as me, holding eye contact with women I find attractive, and doing an initial approach (and forwardly complimenting sexually) to somebody a part of me felt was flirting through body language. I’m proud to be taking steps I would’ve been too nervous to when I was younger. | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 09:51 PM |
| 0 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Read again. Fundamentals | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 09:40 PM |
| -7 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Lol I know, right? | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 09:38 PM |
| -5 | Practicing Fundamentals (at the Gym)Yeah fair enough that sounds overly arrogant. I’ll edit and change it to “plenty of girls have acted super flirtatious.” | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys stop having every girl you have sex with to stop falling for you and keep it as just fwb?A friend of mine talked to me about this. Follow through the intentions with actions. Make it politely clear that they’re acting more into your situation than you’re comfortable with, and if they don’t adjust their behavior then you ghost them for a while (which isn’t even a full-on ghost since you’ve given a warning). After some time has passed, reach back out again and feel out if she’s learned the lesson. If so, fuck her again. If not, you’ve lost nothing. | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Women’s interest just die outToo much time texting. Texting is a tool to meet up, a means to an end. Men who use it to chat and try to get to know each other before she’s even put yourself in front of you are filling out applications for the friendzone. Be thankful you haven’t come across any women who’ve tried to use you for that. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Are b*tch shields and sh*t tests really a thing?I don’t think “bitch shields” are a thing. I do think “shit tests” are. But they get a lot less glaring the more confident in yourself you become. | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 02:12 PM |
| 32 | 25M bout to get laid for the first time. Need helpWhat he means I think is that the date is about establishing the connection. That’s the backbone of you enjoying yourselves, regardless of what happens. | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 11:49 PM |
| 9 | Classmate texted me randomly and suggests meeting at her place to study but then mentions she has a partner? What do?She’s fine with cheating on her partner. Not necessarily consciously, but she wouldn’t have made her place an option if the thought isn’t in her brain somewhere. | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 04:06 AM |
| 17 | What's the worst way you've ever fumbled a babe?I got a good one. A ridiculously hot chick I had class with once reached out over email. She was coy at first, almost like a psycho. Wouldn’t tell me who she was for a message or two, and when she did she was like, “You seemed nice and you’re hot so I thought I’d email back.” Told her I was about to date an old friend and it wouldn’t work out. Few months later the old friend cheated on me and I dumped her. Messaged hot former classmate and was SO on my texting game. I was also trying to smoke an… | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 03:28 AM |
| -1 | Is this cuck mentality holding me back from sex w women?So here’s the thing. Cuckolding is borderline its own sub-section of sexuality. And from my observations in the US at least, society is very cuckphobic. So feel free to take most opinions you’re getting with a grain of salt, or not. Should you decide that you’d be ok with living with this, just be respectful and keep the weirdness to a minimum. If you use your common sense, you’d be surprised how many women are receptive to such fantasies. You just have to understand and then eventually project … | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Breaking Free from the Friendzone: Strategies for Transforming RelationshipsThis has a lot of the right ideas but is also very misguided in some ways. I escaped the friend zone in the past, after being in it for years. It’s not easy, and debatably even harder to maintain, but it’s relatively simple. The biggest problem with this post is that you should communicate your feelings. No. That’s like the last thing you should do. It will kill any chance of sexual tension, because you’re putting big expectations on the idea before it’s even began. Let go of this idea that you … | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:09 AM |
| 1 | "Describe yourself in 3 words" - I've been asked that - is this a shit test or what?It is a shit-test. Being at least relatively light-hearted is advisable. But I don’t think you necessarily need to make a joke out of it if you don’t want to. While I have an inner comedian as much as the next person, my wit often struggles in the moment. So I’d probably just chuckle and say something like, “I’ll give you four words. ‘I’m not doing that.’” | /r/seduction | 28/02/24 12:51 PM |
| 100 | Would you guys hook up with a toxic girl?Be careful. Buddy of mine did this. Now he has a daughter with a woman that’s terrible. | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Getting fit was the greatest change in my life. Has anyone else noticed the social changes?I would argue that you’re speaking about maladjusted guys, and while they aren’t uncommon they aren’t the standard. Getting fit does little to really help maladjusted guys. Well-adjusted guys can still have problems like the friend-zone if they don’t understand them. And it’s true; if as a well-adjusted guy you get fit you hardly have to try with women at all. It becomes like shooting fish in a barrel. | /r/seduction | 29/01/24 09:25 PM |
| 7 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceYes, it is. Gives off the impression that you’re a little crazy and don’t understand human interaction very well. That being said, you can find ways to express vulnerability to women, it just needs to be framed correctly. Usually in the form of interesting anecdotes, not just focus on general unhealthy lifestyles. “Be authentic” doesn’t mean to be your lowest self because it’s who you are. The idea that love is about accepting somebody no matter how they behave is a lie. That’s attachment, not l… | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 03:03 AM |
| 0 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?Likely you weren’t being your best self, but it’s a tried and true method for the vast majority of men. I guess you’re just an anomaly, huh? | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 06:39 PM |
| 1 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?By loosening you and enjoying life outside of sex. These are only a couple of sex stories from me. I’ve had my fair share of dry spells, too. Went a year without sex and then into a poor relationship with a best friend where I barely got laid. Before my current relationship it was a seven month dry spell. The last two dry spells I had I got out of by focusing on other things in life that made me happy. You. Won’t. Get. Laid. If that’s all that’ll make you happy. Find other things that’ll make yo… | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 05:00 PM |
| 0 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?If you want a play-by-play of jokes and animated things I did I can’t help. Best summarized by loosening up and having a fun time myself, a fun time that wasn’t contingent on sex happening. The hungry don’t get fed. So learn to feed yourself. | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 03:41 PM |
| 0 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?Yeah, you’re wrong. Though admittedly I didn’t really explain very well. I’d been pouting on that date, because I had post-break-up sex with my ex two days before. When my date told me nothing would happen between me and her because she was fed up, I snapped out of my self-pity. I (obviously) stopped talking about my ex, I committed to enjoying the night together (food and a drive-in theater), and I made her laugh left and right. Had I gotten upset by her declaration, then she would‘ve stuck to … | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 05:09 AM |
| 13 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?Just be the most fun version of yourself and enjoy the ride, wherever it leads to. Once a date told me nothing was happening because I wouldn’t stop talking about my ex. Fucked her by the end of the night. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Ya Live and Ya LearnKeep up the can-do attitude | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | If she starts acting cold, in person or over text, always mirror her behavior. A lot of guys do the opposite, and it backfiresI mean, you’re allowed to be wrong. | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 12:04 PM |
| 7 | If she starts acting cold, in person or over text, always mirror her behavior. A lot of guys do the opposite, and it backfiresNot necessarily true, especially with texting. You should always approach from a perspective of self-entertainment, not neediness. If you mirror her behavior just because, that’s needy in of itself. I double and even triple texted this young woman last year, ended up taking her for a walk in a nature preserve and fucking her against a tree, and she’s my girlfriend now. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 10:34 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?More cop-outs. If you were interested you wouldn’t be actively refuting repeated advice from various people, and asking me to restate things others and I have already stated. You’re acting like a pissant. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 04:55 AM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Getting laid (like anything) takes work, dude. If you don’t want to do it then get comfortable. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 04:52 AM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?You’ve gotten a lot of good advice, and your response is to actively refute it. It’s not that you don’t know how, it’s that you feel comfortable being a pussy and are trying to justify as much. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 10:08 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Well, your attitude is, “I want to be better but I have no interest in putting in the effort.” I personally have no interest in the effort of science, even if the subject fascinates me. Do I whine about how I can’t get better despite not studying and putting in the effort? No. Because that’s pussy behavior. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 10:07 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Yeah, and there are a lot of women who complain that they never get approached. If you don’t want to be a part of the problem, then just back off and don’t cold-approach. Do what feels good and fuck what others say. Stop trying to justify why tried and true methods don’t actually work when you just don’t want to do them as they’re meant to be done. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:58 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?That’s just not true. You think men who are rampantly good at this are just “chronically lucky”? The world doesn’t work like that. It operates on Newton’s Third Law. You’ve gotten a lot of good advice on this post, from many people. If you’re determined to be a failure that makes empty claims to trying to be better, that’s on you. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?That’s possible through the art of conversation. Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t make it impossible. For me, the art of conversation means both showing interest in them and connecting yourself to what they’re saying in an organic manner (doesn’t come off as looking for an end goal). And if you don’t enjoy the art of conversation, again fuck it and do what feels good. You won’t ever improve in this realm if you don’t actively try to push yourself past your comfort levels. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?A person’s time and comfort and self-esteem all go hand-in-hand. It sounds like you’re telling yourself that you’re prioritizing those things for another person over yourself. But based on your descriptions, I guarantee a woman rejecting you is going to bother you a lot more than you approaching her poorly is going to bother her (unless you make her feel threatened). | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:47 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Getting better at things often means putting yourself through something uncomfortable. You think bodybuilders get so ripped by just doing what’s comfortable? There’s a reason trainers tell you to exercise until failure. Failure is the most powerful teacher. And, if you allow it to be, failure can feel like hell. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?You’re making false equivalence. If a woman says she’s not interested, then sure you absolutely should fuck off. Part of cold-approaching is CREATING interest. If you’re this upset about being bad at that, then you need to chill. You’re confusing “looking to improve” with “complaints about failure.” You have a looking for problems attitude rather than a looking for solutions. I constantly see posts on here that don’t relate to cold-approaching. You’re fixating. Let it go if it’s not right for yo… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?You just said you’re sensitive to how to make women feel when you cold-approach and are worried about making them uncomfortable. And now you say how they feel about themselves isn’t relevant? | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:30 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?There’s your problem. Socializing itself needs to be enjoyable, not based on a destination. Start cold-approaching people you don’t want to fuck to warm yourself up to it. Learn how to enjoy getting to know basic strangers with no endgame. It’s actually pretty awesome. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:29 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Nah, a cold approach is approaching somebody in any setting you have no immediate connections with. A warm approach is having mutual friends. Or a networking event. If you are in a place where you obviously have common interests, still a cold approach. Maybe not an ice cold approach, if you wanna get technical. No, rape is brute force. Talking to a person you’re interested in is not. If results don’t matter then why do you care to even post here? Keep doing your thing, feel good about whatever r… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:24 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Then you’re also ignoring the art of conversation. That is what’s enjoyable. Not the end result. You know how many fun times I’ve had trying that hasn’t led to anything? If a woman feels obviously uncomfortable, then of course I back off. Entertain and pleasure yourself without ever invading a person’s basic rights. If you’re trying to imply it’s in a person’s basic rights to never be approached for conversation and to see if there’s a connection, then you’re overly sensitive and will never get … | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?That’s a cop-out. Women who are successfully seduced by cold-approaching men feel WAY better about themselves than women who are being stared at by creepy men who can’t locate their balls to even approach. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?It absolutely is better to go after women where there is more to have in common. A convention for something you’re interested in? Still a cold approach, though. And you interpreting a cold-approach as brute force is off the mark, a lot. Hasn’t led to any action but has more to do with you personally? Ok, keep doing what you’re doing then. In that perspective, results shouldn’t matter to you. Just do what makes you feel better. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:08 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Not like you’re gambling and have much to lose, except your self-respect or pride. But if those things are contingent on you successfully picking up women, you have WAY more problems than seduction. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?And you do it both for your enjoyment and the enjoyment of those few women that’ll receive you well. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?I mean, generally speaking, men who aren’t afraid of cold-approaching do much better sexually than men who are. That being said, how do you do with women sexually? Has your theory led to a lot of action?… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?No, it’s not. It’s about attitude. Don’t go into it from a perspective of, “I hope she likes me and disregards what she’s doing” but “I want her and I’ll put myself out there and see if I have a chance before I never see her again.” If she’s not interested, which as you mention is likely considering cold-approaches having low success rate, it’s not a big deal. You seem like you’re jumping through a lot of hoops to justify a fear of rejection. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:34 PM |
| -2 | Confessing my feelings tomorrowHorrible idea. Your best bet is to practice some push and pull game. Now is time to pull. Give some unexplained distance, focus on yourself, and if she asks why keep your cards close to chest. I was going to do what you’re about to do with my best friend once, and my brother stopped me. He gave me this advice, and we ended up dating. Play the game, don’t play some romantic comedy. | /r/seduction | 13/09/22 12:39 AM |
| 4 | How long should I wait before asking this girl to be my girlfriendThe sleeping around part is relational to boundaries. But the more uptight you are the more you doom the relationship. Early on it really shouldn’t matter if she’s sleeping around or not. Remaining relaxed about that is attractive. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 04:48 PM |
| 54 | How long should I wait before asking this girl to be my girlfriendDon’t even be thinking about an actual conversation to define what you are. Any “actual conversation” at this point should only be to establish boundaries. Pre-mature labels fuck things up. Just enjoy each other’s company and let things evolve naturally. If and when you’re “boyfriend and girlfriend” it’ll be obvious and the conversation establishing as much will almost feel trivial and obligatory (but still easy) to both of you. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 02:29 PM |
| 2 | LPT: Most of society is completely against your seduction goals.Yeah most of my co-workers pass off an image of close-knit friendliness, but then get easily incensed when they see “I’m doing me better than they’re doing them.” This applies to all of life, not just sexually. Then when they get incensed they come at me in whatever way they can. Recently I started getting flack about talking inappropriately at work even though the very people complaining talk similarly. | /r/seduction | 04/09/22 02:05 PM |
| 0 | Shit testsHighly unlikely she’d tell you she doesn’t like you were that the case. Probably a shit test. | /r/seduction | 31/08/22 05:30 AM |
| 7 | Could this be the reason women say they want nice guys?Yeah, it makes women feel like glorified prostitutes. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 05:41 PM |
| 2 | 48 Approaches on The Wall, Pass One Down.. 49 Approaches...This comment is furthering my opinion that you’re on the right track. I used to be in total “beta” mindset too (still probably kinda am, since old habits die hard). My wake-up call was bedding a girl that I allowed to friendzone me for years and then losing her. Again, keep it up, brother. Even if you fail, it feels SO much better than being a bitchboi. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 01:29 AM |
| 3 | 48 Approaches on The Wall, Pass One Down.. 49 Approaches...You have a great attitude and you seem unphased by failure. Fucking love this post. Keep it up, dude. I’ve never gone full player though I have the potential (I end up in relationships), so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but you seem like you’re totally on the right path. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Hahahahahaha that you don’t believe facts about my life says more about your shitty life than my own’s grandiosity. But yes, I am working on a book about myself. It’s been a pretty wild ride, and since I read The Fountainhead it’s only gotten more and more awesome. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?That is projection and denial. If you live in a world where you think manipulating people into early graves isn’t antisocial, you’re out of touch with reality. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Lol yeah, that’s fair. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?And actually, Peter is an example of an antisocial personality far more than Howard. A character literally dies because of Peter. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?No, no you don’t understand the dynamics of rape. Now you’re also throwing around diagnoses that are also antiquated (“animus-possessed,” seriously?). The only remotely antisocial thing Roark does is the aggression he has when having sex with Dominique, and that is more CNC than legitimate rape. And while those two characters undoubtedly have psychological problems, like most people, by the book’s end they’ve mostly overcome the obstacles those present because they are authentic to their individ… | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Men Need to Get Out Of Their Romantic DefaultYou’re a genius and this is inspiring to read. You’re so right. How my current relationship started, casually. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Lol nope. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Admittedly, I had to look up what a “Salutatorian” is. Lol you really think of yourself as a fucking valedictorian when you laid down one of the most commonly retarded misinterpretations about one of the greatest American literature classics while claiming not to give a shit about dating coach’s opinions in a goddamned seduction sub? God, you’re fucking stupid. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Lol it’s fun for me. Clearly for you too, considering you’re still engaging me. This is not unlike shooting the immortal monkey Jack, only you happen to be the immortal tiny Simple Jack. Does this sub-Reddit m-m-make you happy? Even though you don’t give a shit about advice from dating coaches? “I use big words I don’t really understand and think that that’s clever and ‘nuanced’” would be a simpler way for you to communicate, yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Oh, so you do recognize your mental handicap? It’s autism, eh? Tough break, buddy. Some of you can be geniuses, though. Maybe start learning basic meaning and subtext, especially when you talk about books you don’t understand? At least you had the hindsight to correct yourself. Rock on! | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Interpretation only applies to any given word’s applicable meaning. Your failure to use basic language and acting smug about it just further demonstrates your lack of basic intellect. Oh when stupid people misuse big words and act like their esoterica is genius. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?“I don’t care what dating coaches think!” - while commenting on a sub-Reddit that’s all just watered down versions of what dating coaches teach. Fucking moron | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Lol and now you’re misusing the term “bamboozle.” Being authentically you is quite the opposite of what that term means, young Simple Jack. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?So you’re on a “Seduction” sub, but don’t care what dating coaches think?…oh, I get it! You’re mentally challenged! Whoa man, you should be thankful you can read at all, don’t start being hard on yourself because you don’t understand subtext in literature! And here I just thought you were a self-righteous bitchboi. Now I feel bad… 😞 And actually, that book doesn’t tell you to disregard anything really. Just insists you only listen to what you’re passionate to in life. But of course, you didn’t g… | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?Or it may have to do with it being written in the early 20th century and potentially your failure to take that, as well as it being revered by successful dating coaches as a depiction of an ideal man and subsequent ideal relationship, into account? | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 11:24 PM |
| 0 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?rolls eyes Dominique uses an antiquated version of the word “rape” when she describes it. A victim who actively feels raped doesn’t typically and immediately go back to their assailant for more, much more being completely and utterly and voluntarily submissive to said assailant if said victim did. You have to understand very little about how rape actually works to think of Howard as a rapist. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 09:57 PM |
| 7 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?While I empathize being annoyed with whiny bitches on this sub, this perspective is pretty reductive to what he’s asking. Yes, it’s possible to get a girlfriend while not being super social. The best advice is to constantly work on yourself, yet to be authentically you while doing so. Women won’t notice this in droves, but some quality ones will. Read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. While it’s fictional, dating coaches recommend it to give one an idea of a woman’s ideal man. He is very much an int… | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Dating is always summarised to looks, no matter whatNo shit it takes a lot, but it all starts with attitude. This post is a counter-example of a good attitude to accomplish that. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 12:31 PM |
| 4 | Dating is always summarised to looks, no matter whatThat’s complete horse shit. Nobody “just is.” While circumstance influences who you are, ultimately you are who you choose to be. What you’re saying is something the weak spout to avoid accountability. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 07:20 AM |
| 15 | Dating is always summarised to looks, no matter whatMy brother was a fuccboi, as you’re defining it. He hit triple digits before he was 25. Much as I envied him, I found most of the women he introduced me to annoying. Not to mention how, even while he was fucking these women left and right, he told me repeatedly that he was unhappy and only fucking around because he didn’t want to be alone. The gym’s ridiculously good for your mind (which when it’s in good shape [holy hell!] makes your personality more attractive and snowballs into better game!) … | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes frustration and pain are nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.Actually, I just thought about it a little more intently than I have in a while. I think that two other of my secondary values are common sense and quid pro quo. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes frustration and pain are nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.My primary values are creativity, integrity, and perseverance. I’m still working out my secondary values, but I know that one of them is adventure. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 06:53 AM |
| 3 | Sometimes frustration and pain are nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.My brother once said that depression usually is unsolved dissonance in your mind because you’re not living in a way that reflects your core values. They talk about in dating courses that knowing your values is important to being successful with women. If you need help identifying your values, a great way is to look at what art you were attracted to most as a really little youngster (movies are best, but music and books work too). What is the morale of the film? Two movies I was obsessed with as … | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Juggling two girls at once—what would you do?No, that’s just human nature. Thinking it as psycho is a victim mentality. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Juggling two girls at once—what would you do?Quite common for the friendzoned girl to fuck the guy when he begins sleeping around with other women, actually. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 08:55 PM |
| 4 | Bad social skills ruined my life 😞No shit, everybody wants to be that guy socially. You’re veering into mentally unwell territory, and to seduce effectively you need to pull yourself out of that shit first. Women should not be your primary focus rn. Not only are you not in the right headspace for them, but it’s unfair to expect anybody to put up with what seem to be mental illnesses that you barely have a handle on. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 08:53 PM |
| 5 | Bad social skills ruined my life 😞I’m so sick of seeing posts on this sub from sad guys determined to remain sad. Can we put some new rules in to stop this whiny bullshit? | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Girl flakes but asks to meet the next dayYes, that bare bones advice is true. And it’s good the more specific advice works for you. Maybe there are mitigating circumstances that have built up the more specific parts of your advice as successful for you. But in general, planning too far ahead in the early stages will fuck over most men. Too much planning early on = trying too hard = desperation. Again, there are exceptions. But generally speaking, that’s how it works. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Girl flakes but asks to meet the next dayThis is amateur advice. People in the dating scene have short attention spans, and you should try to avoid planning too far ahead with somebody you don’t know very well. Not only is there a high chance of flaking, but it makes one appear desperate. If you don’t feel like doing it (I agree with the guys that say do it and move on if she flakes again) when she suggests, say that you’re busy that day but you’ll make plans again soon. In the early stages, making plans the day of is usually the best … | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Why do guy friends stop talking to you after you reject them?You’re an idiot | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:58 PM |
| 6 | Why do guy friends stop talking to you after you reject them?That’s a super reductive perspective. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:43 PM |
| 8 | Why do guy friends stop talking to you after you reject them?Correction, a sad lonely man can’t be friends with a woman he’s attracted to. And he shouldn’t have to. This stupid whiny culture of how woman can’t be friends with men who want to fuck them is almost as stupid as the men that think they can fuck a woman by being her friend first. No person owes another person sex. And no person owes another person friendship. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:37 PM |
| 83 | Why do guy friends stop talking to you after you reject them?Almost certainly the first one. No man who the second two applied to would put that much time into being your friend and then go so drastically no contact so fast. To be honest, he did the right thing though. He’s probably harbored feelings for you for a long time, and that’s not a real friendship. Would you rather somebody who’s there for you out of genuine friendship, or somebody who’s there for you because he secretly hopes you might realize you love him? When he said you could still be frien… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:27 PM |
| 0 | An annoying fact I've discoveredLol bitching left and right how you’re getting called (relevant) insults for your pathetic post and you retort with an admittedly imaginative insult. Put that amount of imagination and effort into picking up women you’ll get a lot better. 😉 | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 06:54 PM |
| 0 | An annoying fact I've discoveredNo, he’s right. You really are behaving like a pathetic little bitchboi. Like a football player who whines left and right about how the rules aren’t fair and then bemoaning about how you’re always benched. Sack up and learn how to play the game, or don’t. Regardless, whining that it’s so unfair (which is really you whining that you’re not good at it) is a super pitiful look. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Why this "don't tryhard" advice is stupid.A. Nerdom culture isn’t nearly as niche as it used to be. All sorts of people partake. B. It was a random example. The focus of the example is that you build yourself up through things that bring you joy. Focusing on that specific detail and not on the overall example is the symptom of a brain looking for problems instead of solutions. | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 03:01 AM |
| 2 | What is good sex?Thank you so much! Yeah, recently I’ve realized that I’m experiencing one of the happiest times of my life. Never in my life have I realized it while it was happening. Pretty enlightening and just overall amazing. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 09:07 PM |
| 1 | What is good sex?Lol disagreed about it being unhealthy. Think of what I’m describing as the sex equivalent of a contact sport. While we crave to let our demons out in a borderline scary and violently physical manner, there’s no real malice and everything is 100% consensual. It’s just a way to have fun, blow off steam, and use as a supplemental tool to improve various aspects of our lives together. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 08:56 PM |
| 3 | What is good sex?Throw some consensual BDSM in there and this description fits for me too. My girlfriend loves being beaten during sex (until she says the safe-word, of course). This is my (29M) first relationship where I’ve REALLY let go and explored my Dom side. It’s been super enlightening being so brutal and mean in bed; it makes it so much easier to be patient and ever-supportive during vanilla life. I’d be worried about myself if we hadn’t been so structured as to how we approach it so she’s safe. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Why this "don't tryhard" advice is stupid.As the gentleman who’s discussing it with you agreed with you about, self-improvement is relative. Learning how to be funny and witty and saying and doing the right things is, not trying to be super cliche and corny just is happening, just about being true to yourself. Now what does that mean? To run with your point, identify the things in life that make you the most happy. Everybody has something (if not a few things) constructive that makes them feel better about themselves. So…let’s say I did… | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 04:40 PM |
| 10 | Strategy: Why it's good to always start off as "friends"Yeah, this is amateur beta mindset. Our standards for women as men aren’t that complicated. As long as she’s relatively intelligent and we find her attractive, normally our attraction only intensifies as we get to know her (not based on her aligning to some specific tailor-made female we’ve pre-designed in our heads). The only way you can be friends with a woman and still be seen as a viable partner is if you’re still fucking other women. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 03:00 PM |
| 35 | Have any of you ever had strong feelings for a fat girl(not curvy fat just plain)? What would you tell a guy who caught feelings for one?Yeah, rules are the same. One of my former partners that really pulled my head through the ringer was the chubbiest girl I dated (not saying a lot, but a little thicker than I tend to gravitate towards). But damn she just had this fucking confidence about her that made everybody around her want to fuck her stupid. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Fuck me baby ?? CringeIt’s weird, I was discussing this with my current partner. She’s the lone hottie in her family, and never really realized it until we started dating. She’s started adding more overtly sexual clothes to her everyday outfits, and was asking how to craft a good sex voice. It’s gross and uncomfortable to talk about, but I’ve dated three women who crafted child-like “sexy voices.” My high school sweetheart had this way of talking like everything sexual just fascinated her into this young joyous wonde… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:38 AM |
| 18 | Journey from "Alpha male" to "Beta male" - "Notes from Underground"Really cool post | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 10:40 PM |
| 2 | If A Woman Rejects You In Any Way, There’s No Solution. You Just Walk The F* Away.And? | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 11:54 AM |
| 2 | If A Woman Rejects You In Any Way, There’s No Solution. You Just Walk The F* Away.About six months ago I kept trying to get in touch with an old friend to hang out. She kept giving excuses, flaking, and sometimes just not replying. I struck a balance between giving her her space and other times texting her with playful exasperation. After a week or so of this, she finally agreed to hang one night. We went for a walk in a nature preserve, where we got naked and I fucked her against a tree. Flat out rejection isn’t the same as flaking. Your post is correct, in that no means no … | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 01:17 AM |
| 1 | A super easy and simple trick to make sure that once you ARE the boyfriend, how to not fuck it up.You have a title that says you have a trick to make sure you don’t fuck up being the boyfriend, and then don’t follow through on explaining said trick. Your post sucks. | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Why does Pete Davidson date so MANY more Hollywood A-listers than his peers?Haven’t heard that about DiCaprio, but this is allegedly a thing in Hollywood. About a decade ago my Film professor said his friends in the business confirmed that this is true for Kevin Spacey (which we now know about), John Travolta, and Tom Cruise. | /r/seduction | 24/05/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Will Lack of Sex Ruin My (M25) Relationship With My Girlfriend (F27)?Combination of this one and the one before it, with a little tweaking. First off, no amount of talking about it will get you back in her pants. It denotes that she has you up her ass and that’s instinctively unattractive to most women. Women get turned on by autonomy. The only thing you can control is you, not her. If she happens to like the changes you make in yourself, then that’s awesome. So focus intensely on things outside of her. The biggest things are the gym and outside life goals. If th… | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | What's the point of sleeping with average women?“You’re what they call a ‘practice girl’.” | /r/seduction | 11/04/22 10:08 PM |
| 1 | What’s your view on a partner having casual sex?Yeah, I can respect a person being entitled to their own preferences, but if you’re about to have casual sex you should allow leeway for the women to have casual sex. Personally, sex is one of the defining aspects of my personality. I find it so fascinating and fun to have, explore, and just study (both through porn and books). So when I find a girl who’s intelligent and as freaky as me I just see it as a major common interest and get super turned on. But of course, that’s just me I suppose. Sti… | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Rejection makes me evolve to new levels everytime but I am just tired of itBeen through a lot of the same shit, by the way. It’s really hard. But I advise you reframe how you think about it. | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Rejection makes me evolve to new levels everytime but I am just tired of itBut you are, just not through Reddit. Your brain working this way at all is something that one doesn’t usually just “hide,” and women pick up on that shit. | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Rejection makes me evolve to new levels everytime but I am just tired of itStop referring to a basic shitty experience as “trauma.” It’s a very unattractive speech pattern for any adult to partake in. | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Have some RESPECT for YOURSELFYou are a very toxic and stupid person. The sheer amount of idiocy you’ve displayed is baffling. I want to address each of your points, had almost a whole essay typed out, and then realized why the hell am I bothering to argue with such a crazy moronic individual who is bereft of common decency? OP was quite generous in his replies to you. He’s a good dude. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | how did you handel?Then she’s somebody who doesn’t take personal responsibility. But, I do have a sexist view of cheating. I tend to believe that most women cheat when their partner isn’t fulfilling their role properly. But any woman who actively blames you is a dunce. She has to have the humility to take a level of responsibility, even if you believe what I believe. An ex cheated on me. Told me it happened. I tried to talk to her about it, but was astonished how little she seemed to care. So I walked away. Observ… | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever purposed your best friend?I empathize by the way. Dated a friend after being friendzoned for three years, but she got bored really fast and cheated on me. I broke up with her, and then immediately regretted it. I decided I would get her back, but on my terms. I found The Scrambler seduction method by Bobby Rio and Rob Judge. Unfortunately, I was foolish enough to stop practicing its lessons after I took her back, and she got bored again within another few months. I walked away for good that time. Highly recommend you buy… | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever purposed your best friend?You see if you’re attracted to her and want to pursue her but she knows you’re doing stuff like this to tease her then you’re definitely not being subtle enough. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever purposed your best friend?Then you’re not being subtle enough. She knows what game you’re playing. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Have you ever purposed your best friend?Work on yourself, your body, and sleeping with other girls while distancing yourself from her without explanation. If she asks what’s changed with you pretend you don’t know what she’s talking about. This is step one. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 04:13 PM |
| 3 | How to get a girl who has a boyfriend.Be friendly but not friend zoned friendly. Make yourself clear as a man of autonomy that enjoys her company. Show respect for her boyfriend, but playfully mock when she leaves a window open. “Oh, you two are obviously soul mates! You’re gonna get married.” Don’t ever outright shit-talk him. Women who cheat usually have poor boyfriends, so imo you’re performing a service. To be clear, ring on the finger equals off-limits. Boyfriend is fair game. If you consider a job off-limits because somebody w… | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Why are women even on this subreddit?Me too. I’m saying even the dumb ones have a place here, for us to hear an opposing (and wrong) viewpoint and to discredit them. FreshandFit regularly do that on their podcasts with female guests. | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 11:03 PM |
| 0 | Why are women even on this subreddit?Even more of an opportunity to hone our skills as men. | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Why are women even on this subreddit?I would agree. And the ones who don’t know what they are talking about we can discredit together on here lol. That’s educational too. | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Why are women even on this subreddit?Absolutely, but some women are really smart. Even dating coaches that know how to get women will allow women to guest speak, either because these women get it or because they can be discredited and that’s educational. To your metaphor, consider the fish metaphor used in Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows. Moriarty compares himself to a fisherman and Holmes to a fish, and says he’s muddying the waters to confuse the fish and catch it. By the movie’s end, Holmes wins and gives Moriarty a flip book… | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 5 | Should I ask this guy to hook up even though he dumped me??And I counted at least one other comment that already pointed this out | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 06:57 PM |
| -2 | why do women share their nudes knowing 99% that it will be shared. what is the psychology behind thisSame reason women who don’t want to get pregnant love creampies. It’s hot. | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | A waiter at a restaurant waited until I went to the restroom to flirt with my gf, am I in the wrong to feel mad and disrespected?What everybody else is saying, but don’t get too insecure. A shit-test she didn’t even design, and almost certainly doesn’t view that way (she sounds like a good one). But a shit-test the same. View it as a compliment, guys coming at your girl. If she’s loyal, it’s awesome. You have a high-value woman other men want, which makes you a high-value man. Don’t completely shrug it off when she brings it up. You might come off as apathetic, and that can lead partners to stray. Instead, say something t… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Would you act seductively towards women you have no interest in dating seriously?Yep, BF experience without commitment. You need to always remember that and manage your expectations. If you can’t, then just end it don’t even bother “addressing” it. As soon as you address it, he’ll get uncomfortable and probably end it himself. And yes, guys doing this is extraordinary common. It’s also extraordinarily common for women to do this too. Harsh truth: He feels like he’s settling for you. Everybody wants to be with somebody they feel is just out of their reach. You feel that way a… | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 07:26 PM |
| 8 | “Fake it till you make it” and “Women can tell when you’re being fake and it puts them off”Glad to see this comment. I got a little worried about your post, but based off this comment you are just being honest in your OP and not just determined to be negative. You’re open to learning. But yeah, this shit’s tough. | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 05:54 PM |
| 0 | If you’re new to cold approaching read this.Wrong. Actors bring their personalities to scripts all the time. I do it in my job as a server. | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 1 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Go right ahead, I’m flattered. I almost unleashed my inner bully on this kid at his last reply, but I wrangled it in as best as I could. Sent one more of my own comment. Then I told my submissive about all of this and we read his comments together. I typed up her reactions to his attitude in another comment to try and give him some perspective. The ironic thing is that my submissive is one of those girls who often is too nice for her own good. She has been admittedly learning from me that she do… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 2 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.My submissive just read all of your comments. Some of her thoughts are as follows: “It definitely sounds like he wants to be negative. He’s gotta be more respectful of advice, first off. Sounds like he’s kind of bitching the whole time. His attitude, he kind of just sounds like he’s stuck in the past. This reminds me of my ex. Kind of sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy, where it becomes part of your identity. ‘I don’t know what I do, no matter what I do women don’t see me as attractive.’ It’… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 04:09 PM |
| 2 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Lol you want a play-by-play of how it happened? What really matters is how I got her in the headspace for it after she said no, which I’ve made clear (I stopped feeling sorry for myself and did what dating coaches describe as “taking her back to the playground,” coincidentally at one point by actually playing on a playground together). But sure. We’d left her car at my place since we were going to a drive-in. After I got in the right mindset we continued having fun. When I could see she was rela… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 03:07 PM |
| 3 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Thanks man. Writing it out is just as much for me as him. I wasn’t that different from him not too long ago, and like I said old habits die hard. | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 04:30 PM |
| 7 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Briefly looking at your profile, you’re putting way too much thought into it. A. Stop making so many posts complaining about your failures. It’s low-value behavior, and you’re not only putting that shitty energy into the world but you’re inundating your mind into being a failure (like how method actors can be known to lose themselves in roles). It’s a vicious cycle. People who get laid a lot are high-value, and high-value people don’t fuck people who exhibit low-value behavior. Referring to your… | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 07:29 AM |
| 3 | Getting a selfie/snap with a hot girl in a clubDON’T. Not only will she know what you’re doing, but EVERYONE will (and will think you’re pathetic, severely tainting your dating pool indefinitely)!!!! If you are set in these tactics, be clever about it. Something like a photo of your drink next to a girl’s martini with the caption, “Fun night.” Exploit subtext if you want to go down this road at all! But you’re better off not. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 08:29 PM |
| 2 | she wasted my time then laughs in my faceYep. Most of these dudes probably have poor social skills and don’t want to take responsibility for it (I say that as somebody who struggles being social). I’ve effectively done this. Got a hottie after I finally accepted the girl I lost my virginity to wasn’t going to give me a real shot, and within two months said girl I lost my virginity to called me to apologize how things went between us and to tell me in tears how crazy she was about me. By that time I’d developed some feelings for the new… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 07:03 PM |
| 13 | she wasted my time then laughs in my faceThis. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 06:34 AM |
| 2 | When she asks "what are you looking for"My favorite life coach said he was once asked by a girl if he was some sort of player type. His response was, “That’s a dumb question and I’m not going to answer it.” | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 10:25 PM |
| 2 | My first day of cold approach was a disasterYeah, just keep your head up man. Once during a break-up, suddenly I hit a random moment of like perfect text game with an old college classmate. Like, sex seemed practically certain. And she was FUCKING HOT. I literally got her into my bed, but I was overloaded with anxiety and thoughts about my ex, and I couldn’t get out of interview mode (she even commented that I needed to talk to her more naturally). She didn’t even end up rejecting me, I told her she should leave and walked her out to her … | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 02:38 AM |
| 4 | Got the let's be friends text...Agreed, but you’re only “going along” with the friend zone if you let if affect you. Keep living your life, fuck other ladies, and don’t worry about who that female friend is fucking. If you can manage to continuously do those things you can be just friends with somebody you want to fuck. That’s actually quite the strong foundation for a relationship, the Hollywood concept of being friends first that can work out. At the very least, you probably do end up sleeping together, you just can’t think … | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Dishonesty with intent is at the heart of most friendzone situations, usually from both people involvedMy longtime friend that I had feelings for but was in denial about had an experience one night where she needed me and I was there. It made me admit to myself that I had intense feelings for her. So I started to distance myself, and it led to us dating. She’s the last official ex I’ve had as of now. We were on and off for about a year and a half. We went through a pattern of her losing interest, me walking away for feeling undesired, her missing me, and reigniting. She told me she’d felt like I … | /r/seduction | 14/12/21 04:49 PM |
| 21 | When and how to reignite the conversation after she doesn’t reply to you?While I struggle with women I’ve studied enough to understand the how, I just have nerves and application problems. But texting game is the same as the rest of dating game, in that it’s a game and should be fun. So be playful and entertain yourself with it. A silent girl in text is only a challenge that we should take on with enthusiasm. Wait an amount of time that feels appropriate to the circumstances, ensure you don’t sound too needy, and go for it. No amount of silence is ever total game ove… | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Terrible Oneitis, how to get over this?A great way of getting better about being genuine and open when randomly interacting with people is practicing this with other men, or even women you wouldn’t actually sleep with. It forces you to listen and be in the moment because you have no endgame with them. Whereas with an attractive woman, it’s easy to fall prey to your inner voice badgering you “She seems interested in me, I might get to fuck her!” | /r/seduction | 07/12/21 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Approach Us!!!This. It’s on my mind to make doing so more of a constant priority. I’ve just been pretty socially awkward most of my life. I make up for it by acting like a clown (to varying degrees of success). But I’ve grown a lot in recent years and it occurs to me that if I master inner and outer game that I’m an ideological package. Right now I’m about to do a big cross-country move where I know no one, and I’m not great at juggling too many big objectives, so I’m not focusing on this that much. But after… | /r/seduction | 04/12/21 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Calling out a girl who plays games?Remove how much you care more. Games are normal in seduction. It’s why we say guys who are great with women “have great game.” As somebody who struggles with women, I get annoyed when I hear anybody say “I don’t have time for games.” Either they are still playing and don’t realize it or they’re about to spend a lot of time on the bench. | /r/seduction | 27/11/21 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Would pretending to be a male feminist work?Yo, dude. On one hand, I don’t think you should do this. You debase yourself pretty hardcore. I once saw a guy who dressed all alternative, passionately spouted hardcore liberal ideas without really thinking about them, and gave me shit for using the term “bitch.” And I really didn’t like him, but I wasn’t exactly sure why. Then it hit me, he was a “feminist” to bang feminists. I was the same way once upon a time, but I never went that fucking overboard with it. But on the other hand, I’m guessi… | /r/seduction | 24/11/21 01:54 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Yes obviously you shouldn’t screw a co-worker, but that is common knowledge that goes out the door by most people even if they live by it. I’ve seen people who espouse that wisdom break the rule time and time again, especially if there’s relationship building chemistry. Not that that last part applies to you. So if you can control yourself, it might be best to refrain. But if you’re like most humans and want to do it anyways, the question you’re actually asking (“How do I tell him I’m in an open… | /r/seduction | 07/11/21 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Marilyn Manson slams sexual abuse allegations as Internet says his BFF Johnny Depp was 'falsely accused' tooWhile none of the listed examples are foolproof if even at all instances of assault, there is abuse. Urging your partner to cut you with a knife you hold, is abuse. Writing the name of a man you think your partner is sleeping with on the walls in your own blood, is abuse. Trying to control everything about your partner’s life, down to what they wear to work events and making decisions for them about what work that partner should do, isn’t exactly abuse but yes is fucked up. Repeated police recor… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/21 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Marilyn Manson slams sexual abuse allegations as Internet says his BFF Johnny Depp was 'falsely accused' tooThere’s linked audio to Depp urging Heard to cut him with a knife he holds. There are references to Depp’s own testimony that he wrote Billy Bob Thornton’s name on walls in his own blood because he was convinced Heard and Thornton were having sex. There are articles linked alleging Depp controlling what she wore to film premieres and trying to control her work schedule, including trying to keep her from doing nude scenes. There are several links referencing his violent outbursts in the past befo… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/21 06:51 AM |
| 3 | Marilyn Manson slams sexual abuse allegations as Internet says his BFF Johnny Depp was 'falsely accused' tooAll evidence against Depp and Heard is completely circumstantial, but there’s a helluva lot more circumstantial evidence against Depp than Heard (while this following link is to an opinion piece, it cites all of its sources and maintains the situation as far more complex than Heard being guilty because of things she said in a recorded therapy session: https://medium.com/honestly-yours/johnny-depp-amber-heard-and-the-myth-of-the-obvious-abuser-6e2d88a6f988). People choose to be ignorant of this b… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/21 04:20 AM |
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