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Why THE FUCK do you want to get married? Don’t be a Disney romantic idiot.
/r/askMRP17/07/19 03:29 AM
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A couple of things you said resonated perfectly with me, ie "she has said things like "I know I'm not good enough in bed" etc, etc. But unwilling to change it apparently. ( at least for me)" and "It just grinds on me that she knows I want it and won't do it.". I don't have the answer for you, but can say with certainty that some women do not respond to dread in the MRP predicted fashion. My wife KNOWS I could walk out the door and get laid but it does.not.motivate.her to give me blowjobs. Instea…
/r/askMRP26/10/18 10:54 PM
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OP was fogging.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 05:35 AM
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Jeezus f'ing Christ you are weak for a guy your size. You have a LOT of lifting and eating to do.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 10:46 PM
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The most calloused area of my hand is under the ring.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:03 AM
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I second this. Wife seems to enjoy feeling my calloused hands.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 08:24 PM
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I'm failing to see how a barbell has any potential to deglove my finger.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 08:22 PM
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I think you're a masochist with oneitis. You have no children, she's financially secure, and yet you're bound and determined to reform a sexless woman. And I thought my wife was repressed...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 02:46 AM
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You ought to be thanking your lucky stars for finding these truths at the tender young age of 25. Absorb it son, then live it and be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:12 AM
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OP you need YNAB.com in your life for budgeting. I've used it for 7+ years and couldn't do without it. It will make the most of your income and give you peace of mind knowing where you stand month to month.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 10:26 PM
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I see what you did right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 02:44 AM
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David Duchovny as Hank Moody in Californication. Excellent role model for TRP in every episode.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 06:21 PM
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Funny you say that. Just today I was thinking that sex is a lot like oxygen - when you're getting plenty it really doesn't seem that important. When you're not get plenty it's a definite priority.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:49 PM
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Creating V2.0 of myself, and setting the course of my career for the next 10 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:22 PM
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Lifting consistently Eating more and better Sleeping more and better Supplement D3, magnesium, boron, zinc Fucking on the regular Regaining a masculine frame
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 07:14 PM
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I know for a fact that my desperate oneitis and need for validation has driven me to initiate ALOT. I was right there not long ago. Initiating while she's not yet interested only makes her contemptuous of you. I'd recommend initiate much less, and dig into BPP's book. I followed it like a Rx and turned things around.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 03:01 PM
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That's possibly the most unflinching assessment I've ever seen on MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:47 PM
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OYS: Week 28 Things are getting easier and easier. MRP is a lot like learning to water ski: it's a real bitch to get up out of the water but once up it's relatively easy to stay there. Small wobbles are expected and corrections are needed, but nothing dramatic is required. Wife is DTF about every other day, and she's finally relaxed and able to get off too. She's not confident about her blowjob abilities so I'm encouraging her to practice. Practice makes perfect they say. Reading now: How to Win…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:05 PM
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Art of Manliness has a good breakdown on it. Here's the overall Google search
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:39 PM
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Primarily lifting, eating better, good sleep, and supplements such as magnesium, D3, boron, and zinc. Just Google "raise testosterone naturally".
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 11:40 PM
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OYS: Week 27 Last weeks OYS about her sultry profile pic was a non-issue. My initial reaction was weak but I recovered soon after posting here and told her it was her pic and she could use how she wanted. She had taken it down between my OYS and me telling her that. Overall life is good. She's being a good FO. I need to continue building my leadership skills, that's the next frontier for me. Reading now: How to Win Friends and Influence People Details Age: 48 SO: 41 Married: 3 years Together: 5 …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 03:25 PM
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OYS: Week 26 Wife accidentally included me in a friend request from a fitness site that uses social media connections. Her profile picture was one that we'd recently talked about being sultry, and I'd told her I wanted that picture to be for my eyes only. At the time I didn't know it was being used anywhere. I brought it up last night and told her I wasn't happy about it. She said the picture had been in use for a while now, and that she likes having people to compare herself against. Thinking i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 01:00 PM
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Why not work a while at raising it naturally? I've gone from the middle 300's to over 600 in about six months.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 10:37 PM
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It sounds like I've got the same wife that you u/johneyapocalypse have. Mine had a mother that exposed her to mild kink as a kid and it completely soured her on the idea, repressed her if you will. She's DTF most of the month, is beginning again to enjoy it herself, but is strictly vanilla. Historically she's not been very feminine but that's slowly changing for the better. Mine is trying to flip the script on me by saying things recently like "You have to decide if you can live with vanilla, or…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 02:07 PM
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OYS: Week 24 Coming out of her period week she's been horny and has initiated twice. Yesterday morning she finally wanted me to give her an orgasm (after several weeks of having no interest). I tried a different approach that worked a treat and she went off like a rocket. Very gratifying. I have to admit to myself that a considerable amount of my interest in sex with wife is entitlement - if she aint giving it I want it more. Starfish sex just isn't compelling. I have not done the work of leadin…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:42 PM
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Agreed. Only in the last few months I've began to pay active attention to increasing my levels. I'm hopeful that heavy lifting, better sleep, reducing stress through studying Stoicism, much more sex, supplementing with D3 and zine, and a better diet will improve my numbers. I'll have new numbers this week. My wife would tell you I'm plenty DTF now and is afraid if my T increases I'll be looking outside the marriage for satisfaction. I remind her that's a choice of hers. I'm not interested in TRT…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:25 PM
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Tracking my natural T for curiosity, I'm trying to get it around 600. Got labs done yesterday, will be posting new numbers soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:13 PM
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OYS: Week 23 Wife has continued going to the gym with me. I'm easing her in with tiny baby steps so she doesn't have DOMS and want to quit. In the middle of shark week. She's been steadily improving her attention and affection toward me, but her sexuality isn't there yet. I'm being patient and evaluating what different mixes of alpha and beta do for it. I'm still evaluating this from last week: The experiment is also helping me separate wanting sex because of 1) biological imperative, ie horny, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 01:44 PM
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I think it's primarily due to her overall bad experiences with sex: 1) She identifies strongly as a 'good girl' and until about age 30 had a very low n-count, 2) her mom was a narcissistic train wreck that loudly fucked different guys within earshot of her kids and 3) as she was hitting the wall looking for marriage she had Chads push her boundaries in order to stay in the relationship then dumped her anyway. I'm currently formulating a covert "conditioning plan" to lead her through the fog.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 08:20 PM
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Good job digging below the surface. I agree with your assessment.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 04:39 PM
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A barometer isn't a goal or an endpoint - it's defined as "anything that indicates changes". I can appreciate the point you're trying to make though. I meant it simply as a measure of my progress and will edit the post to be more clear. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:56 PM
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The success of the sexual strategy called MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 08:47 PM
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OYS: Week 22 Still progressing w/ StrongLifts and tangible strength increases. My latest numbers: body weight hovers at 147lbs. - DL 225# 1x5 | Squat 185# 5x5 | Bench 150# 5x5 One of wife's 2018 goals was "to be healthier". After discussing and leading her to more specifics, she's begun waking earlier and going to the gym with me. Her weight is near ideal but she wants more cardio and upper body strength. I'm keeping the consistent expectation that she will join me and so far she's been on board…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 03:17 PM
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Many hours are wasted surfing the internet, usually ending up looking at some kind of porn. Once I managed to stop this behavior my sex drive increased and the wife became the object of my sexual attention. That cuts both ways - they like the focus on them, but initiating too much too frequently has been a turnoff for her. In the spirit of having control over myself, I am trying to give it a rest for one or two, sometimes three days at a time. I prefer good quality sex over frequency.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 01:59 PM
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Funny, OP was asked several times about the frequency of blowjobs but he hasn't answered. That is an answer itself.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 01:53 PM
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OYS: Week 21 Life is good: weekly hobbies currently include lifting, dance, public speaking, and yoga. I've made several new acquaintances but not new friends to hang out with casually. I need to improve on this. Income in 2017 rose significantly. I'm working on my MAP consistently each day. I need to approach more attractive girls just to make contact. Funny how the ugly and average ones are so easy to talk to. Wife is improving. She initiated three times since Friday 01/05. Also vocalized a de…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:02 PM
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It doesn't have to end in Cucksville, or divorce court. Total and complete Frame is required. I've seen it first hand - my nephew established from the beginning of his marriage he was going to have MFFs with his wife on a regular ongoing basis. He bird dogs the potential girl, wife approves, they cultivate a relationship with the girl, and if all signs are green they romp like depraved animals. A couple of things he's said stand out to me: His wife's libido skyrockets when a girl is introduced I…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:54 PM
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OYS: Week 20 After last week's middle of the night Marathon ended in what felt like failure, the next morning it turned around: she gave me a great blowjob and I finished in her mouth - for the first time in years. Seems with her realization that I'm not a given quantity anymore I've entered new territory that needs to be navigated differently. My success this week has been mixed as I'm still adjusting. We had sex twice more and she initiated both times. Once in the middle of the day, and once w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 02:53 PM
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Very good write up man, thanks for taking the time to collect your thoughts and put them out there. You can't optimize your strategy without stirring the pot That's the damn truth. I love the feeling of telling her whatever without fear of her reaction. She has no power over me. Change how you prioritize your time. When the wife calls you selfish, you know you're doing it right. If she’s not competing for your time you’re not MRPing right. That's been the game changer for me lately. My wife actu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:16 PM
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^ This OP.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 12:45 PM
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Have you read /u/bluepillproffessor 's book Saving a Low Sex Marriage? It is invaluable. After all this time, why haven't you pushed into DL4 - are you afraid of her emotions?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:39 PM
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Seems like she's at a breaking point, but hope it's a time for her bring up her game. I'm going to wait until next OYS to post a full update, but we had a breakthrough. She definitely brought up her game for me yesterday morning. If I handle her properly the promised land is in sight.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:35 PM
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Very interesting, thanks for the links.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:33 PM
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Try some A&A and AM on the shit tests. If you are semi autistic like me, AM is just tons easier. It frames one as dominant which adds up in little ways. I like your username. Good motto to live by. Thanks. It's a family motto found on our crest dating to the days of William Wallace. I'm only beginning to live up to the standards set by my ancestors.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:20 PM
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Let's wait a week and see what changes. Your challenge is accepted. Vision. Vision. Vision. Completely unapologetic. Good reminder, that is the pase I'm entering with her now.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:16 PM
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Damn man. You're 31 weeks in and your wife is still denying you? I don't know why that shocks me but I won't be putting up with that kind of bullshit 6 months from now. What level of dread are you working right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:43 PM
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Imagine yourself saying this in a few different tones of voice: cocky, angry, flippant, resentful, hilarious, pouty. I like this idea - I really need to inject some variety into my responses to wife's sexual denials.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:33 PM
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This ^ Focus your early energy here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:29 PM
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I ignored them, stayed calm, stayed in frame, did not try to fix or placate her. Did not chase her for attention. I picked up her slack around the house. That's solid for 13 weeks in, keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:27 PM
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I can control myself, except for when I don't That's all you need to say. Get yourself fixed man.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:23 PM
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I don't know that I actually have a drinking problem ... after a heavy bender ... Hangover day would leave me ... Dude, if you are using the word "bender" and having hangovers, you have a fucking drinking problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:22 PM
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Sounds like it's coming together for you, I'm looking forward to seeing your progress in 2018. Your input on my life has been helpful, and appreciated. Forward!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:18 PM
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OYS: Week 19 Things have gotten interesting over the last few days. As detailed in my recent post in askMRP [FR] Six months of work and DL4 issues, I began Dread Level 4 on 12/15 and it has jolted her. Yesterday morning I wasn't feeling it, and like /bluepillprofessor's book suggests I gave her a brotherly kiss before heading to work for the day. During the day she texted me several times about general things that I either ignored or replied "OK" to. At some point I invited her by text to my fir…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 02:10 PM
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you should be willing to leave her if she's low value, you should be unwilling to talk to her, it only gives her more words to convince you that you're wrong, she's right... I am willing to leave her. Except for the distinct lack of enthusiastic sex, she does provide me very good value. I recognize that talking with her is a losing game. She is not convincing me of anything different regardless - what I want and expect in my relationship isn't wrong. I AM willing to give her the time and space t…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 11:14 PM
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Digging down deeper into what I know about her past: Her mother was a narcissist who was never satisfied with wife's efforts, and who also gaslighted her by accusing her of things she did not do. Mom also had a string of lovers and wife remembers quite vividly hearing them as a kid. If her mother were on fire I wouldn't even piss on her. Wife has a strong sense of self as a good girl; her n-count at 30 years was two. She decribes herself as "vanilla with a couple of sprinkles". As she approached…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 02:10 PM
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Good point, I used "scared the cat" in the wrong context. I've read Day Bang. Was looking for shorthand prolly should have just spelled it out. Didn't want to use "went Rambo" as there is debate on that exact meaning...
/r/askMRP02/01/18 01:51 PM
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Indeed. I was the beta bux provisioner that she was looking for. I gave up power every day in small, seemingly inconsequential exchanges. My sexual expectations were near zero. My frame was absolutely non-existent. All of that is changing and it is very uncomfortable for her. She's going to fight it with the tools and weapons she has at her disposal - manipulation and sexual denials. This is a game that happens to look a lot like war. Thanks for the clear direction given. I will continue to purs…
/r/askMRP02/01/18 01:35 PM
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Is this your hard no? Like...that's it? A few words and you're defeated? It's annoying when... You might be making a good point here. It's more than annoying to me. I can feel myself becoming resentful that my wife is making me work to fuck her (push past her resistance). It's not playful LMR like with girls from days gone by; wife sounds emotionally checked out, flat, annoyed. It's seems that she's trying to diminish my sexual interest in her so she doesn't have to come up to my level. If she m…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 11:09 PM
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She will hopefully do some introspection and work on her own emotional codependency. She's capable of this I think, but will have to feel enough pressure from me to go through the pain. Women do not like introspection in general, and painful introspection in particular. How has her sexual interest in you changed since then? That's really all I'm missing now - I want my wife (current or future) to desire me and demonstrate that to me a time or two a week.
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:24 PM
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Nope, I don't think so. Hard no's every day just made her dig in the heels further. I initiate every couple of days now, when I feel like it, but it has not improved the sexual dynamic either. She's probably got some resentments that have developed since I started my MRP journey. The really frustrating part is that she was DTF the first three years of marriage and my Beta low libido slowly killed hers. All of this came together as a perfect storm this past June (I probably need to add that to th…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:21 PM
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The encouragement is appreciated. Yeah, I've had Oneitis for her and strong urges to relieve her discomfort when she started feeling dread. Since DL4 kicked off a couple of weeks ago there have been several times that she's made comments like "If you keep upping your testosterone you'll need to find another woman to satisfy you.". Now I STFU and leave it hanging right there for her to think about. As far as the content of the texts, acta non verba, and watch what she does Good reminder. I did th…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:16 PM
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Tonight will be time to ramp it up in the bedroom. I was thinking the same thing. If I had to bet at this moment, I'd wager she's not DTF when she gets home. But that's a self-defeating limiting thought I've adopted from so many previous denials. Instead I will envision it as a very strong possibility and give it every chance to happen without my prior experiences coloring my effort. Are you dominant when it comes to sex? I've been ramping this up, and mixing it in. In the last 60 days she's cal…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:06 PM
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You are absolutely right about the butthurt showing in that instance. It does need to be subtle and I knew it the minute I reacted. It's no excuse, but in that moment I was just so fucking fed up with her saying "No." that I bolted. I do think therapy is in order. She's done it before to work on Mom issues, it will be something in her future I expect. The maze issue has been on my mind for the last few weeks, thanks for the pointer back to it. I'll read on it more today. Curiously, my two statem…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 06:59 PM
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Keep reinforcing that insight experience for her gently with your behaviour, and dole out comfort as needed to prevent the subconsicous from completely rejecting it. That is walking the fine line. As noted below by snatch_haggis I've tended toward too much comfort, but now I'm letting her work a little longer and harder between bumps of reassurance.
/r/askMRP01/01/18 06:51 PM
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Wife mentioned the name of a girl that barely registered with me; I sought clarification and indeed the only context I have for that name is the threesome. I didn't know the answer - read my post. But yeah, I could've multiplied the effect by doing what you mention.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/17 02:06 PM
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Have you read up here about "prisoner's dilemma"? Sounds like you should put that into effect starting now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 05:35 PM
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"WTF, send me the phone number to that bitch and I'll talk to her", applying the "us against the world"-mentality. "Forget about it, if you want ice cream, go find an ice cream truck, I provide so much better things than ice cream". You've got a knack for it, I like your style.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:30 PM
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Havent posted in 3-4 weeks ... Haven't been to the gym as much as I should ... I've definitely been slacking. Your commitment to improving yourself is piss poor.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:27 PM
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Goddamn, I am realizing daily - hourly it seems - that it's all about frame and only ever was about frame. Preach it brother. Wife snubbed me yesterday, I handled it like a champ, later that night she snuggles up under my arm. It's a small small thing but such a different outcome than just a month ago. Well first thing I did was put together a rendezvous with two potential plates, and remember that's not about closing, it's acting on abundance mentality. I know attractive girls who treat me righ…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:25 PM
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My problem is my plan is still to throw logic at her. I need to care less, disconnect more from her... You'll get there. I'm working my way through this too. Yesterday, against my better judgement, I sent wife a text while we were both at work saying something like "I look forward to dinner and a relaxing evening with you." She didn't even respond to it. Just a few weeks ago I would've been butt hurt and sulking. Now? I use #slack to set hourly reminders that constantly reinforce what I'm trying…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:11 PM
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YNAB: Elaborate on what you want from a money system and I can parse it a bit more. YNAB is useful as hell to me as it's zero-based budgeting meaning every dollar you earn each month is given a 'job'. By entering every expense, you become acutely aware of where the money goes. Beyond that, it allows you to accrue funds in categories (say, Property Taxes) that have infrequent (annual) large expenditures. In other words, you can put a little into the category each month and later write a large che…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 11:58 AM
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my seven year old made hand-drawn cards for everyone. On mine he drew a picture of me on the front--with four muscles on each bicep. It was awesome :) That is nice. Not nearly as nice as your wife grabbing your arms and commenting about your muscles while fucking her, but still.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 11:46 AM
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The Family Alpha's 31 Days to Masculinity
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 02:53 AM
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They've been together 17 years, married 11. A few weeks or a month of monk isn't going to condition her negatively.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 10:27 PM
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if I say what I want instead of subordinating my desires to everybody else, my world does not fall apart. Keep building on this, it is key. Shit test example for some pointers? The real question is, did you slow down?, ie change your behavior because of her?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 10:20 PM
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Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55 ... Keep on top of expenses Take a look at YNAB, by far the best budgeting / money system I've ever found. I got a bullshit vegan wallet. Literally only present anyone got for me. Sorry man, this made me laugh out loud. Who the fuck gets a vegan wallet?!? A VEGAN WALLET!!! But it bummed me out that no one went out of their way to get me anything or even say thanks. This year I bonused ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 10:11 PM
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Go here today and calculate your bodyfat the recommendation of a sex moratorium, I'm considering that as an option. You'll get varying opinions here. For me, I wish I'd done this when I started my MRP journey. If you do take daily initiations off the table for awhile, you won't make things worse than they are now. There are so many concepts to internalize and master that adding the butt hurt and fighting from her rejections only stalls your progress. The fear is that it would leave to an even de…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 09:46 PM
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I'm still flip-flopping week to week between focusing aggressively on my own needs vs just relaxing into "being friends" with my wife. This sounds fine as it's giving her less than predictable inputs, keeping her on her toes a bit. I've been varying my attitude to home life as well and it seems to be a good approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 09:41 PM
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one of the tasks is to add 100 push ups daily to your routine. I am wondering how that will impact lifts. I am going to do it anyway. It's not detrimental at all toward your lifts, but your shoulders and triceps will eventually show the results. Since reading TFA's 30 DTM in June '17 I've done over 18,000 push ups. wife wakes me at 1 AM with her pants down and tells me "Come on, I need your cock" with her ass pressed on me. Niice. I look forward to my wife doing the same, it will be a milestone.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:54 PM
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she really wasn't into it, hand over her face, which is her modus operandi for not in the mood but you can use me. I ended up skipping it Same here yesterday - I just stopped, got up, told her she might as well be a Craigslist stranger with her hand over her face, and walked out of the room. I should have just left my dissatisfaction with her performance there, and moved on instead of placating her. I will be more mindful of these moments. It's never a straight line is it? Keep finding these imp…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:26 PM
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I'm very satisfied with my marriage and sex life overall, but on some shit tests... Something doesn't seem right here. If your marriage is that smooth why is she shit testing you? How did your marriage get to this "very satisfied" point without you even knowing how to avoid DEER'ing?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 02:45 PM
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she ordered food for Christmas and I found out the day before that the order didn't go through and we were basically screwed if we didn't get something prepared for the guests ASAP. I got visibly agitated with her. And you call her controlling? Take a look at yourself - focus on yourself - fix yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 02:43 PM
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OYS: Week 18 This past week has been solid frame building and outcome independence. I'm saying much much less to wife in ordinary conversation; my mindless agreeableness is almost gone and dead. Still, I got a strong but brief pang of jealousy and resentment when the topic came up of the one time she had a drunken threesome (FFM). That tells me I still have much work to do. My efforts are paying dividends when it comes to wife's attraction. Twice in the last week she's clearly indicated she like…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 01:41 PM
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Impressive breakdown by Reach180. I took several things away here myself...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 11:55 AM
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Are you making changes in your daily life to shift the power balance? Besides building my Frame, I really don't know exactly how to do that. The 48 Laws of Power might hold the answer. Any other resources you can suggest? What do you think makes her feel she's so secure in the marriage? I'm thinking it's a combination of her good looks (at age 40 she looks 30; skinny as a teenager, she's so fuckable now) and the fact that I am too logical and struggle to AA her and get the hamster working for me…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 02:51 AM
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I've listened to SAoNGaF once but need to actually read it again soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:14 AM
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A good reminder, much appreciated. It's only arduous if I'm trying to change her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:36 PM
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I have read it but have to admit that his airy fairy writing style made it hard to digest. I'll put it on the book list and have another pass at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:35 PM
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That's exactly what I needed to read this morning. The success stories here are nearly as important as the how-to posts - hope is a necessary ingredient. I've been working on replacing negative thinking and hamstering failures with visualizing success on the horizon - this post makes it easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:53 PM
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Well handled, even though she didn't test your mettle at all. Nothing you've said her sounds like she's cheating; but she knows another man picking her up should cause you to put your foot down and you did. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:34 PM
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openDNS is a great free option for this; purchased by Cisco now called Umbrella https://login.umbrella.com/
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:29 PM
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OYS: Week 17 I am still building my Frame, and doing my best to stay out of hers in the meantime. A part of that is accepting there will be days, like yesterday Sun 12/18, that she's going to be 'off' and no amount of fun, flirting, or feelz will change it. My waking her up by feeding the dogs and cats at 8:30 am put her in a bad mood for the day. WTF? The urge to have her in a good mood most or all of the time is a strong one, but is flawed. For the most part I didn't react to her and between p…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:19 PM
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Good comment, you make several solid points. Expecting her to follow through on a 'promise' is how I'd treat another man; I know better than to expect that from a woman. Old thinking prevailed. I definitely need to let her be fanciful. She says sexual things during the day and later has no recollection of ever saying them. Happens all the time. It's the thousand things that happen between what she says and later in the day; I don't sense that she's setting up my expectations to let me down. Yeah…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/17 04:43 PM
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I second this; letting go of my expectations has been one of the most important things I've done. It is counter intuitive, but wife is now responding favorably.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 09:26 PM
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OYS: Week 16 Last Monday 12/4 wife offered a handjob when she started shark week, but she never came through on it. I initiated twice later in the week and got hard no's both times. This (and her recent habit of no speak - no touch - no communication at all when we are both awake in middle of the night) precipitated an event on Sunday night 12/10 into Monday morning. Essentially I set the expectation / boundary that my wife will keep her promises (the handjob she offered) and make a connection w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 04:30 PM
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From the comments here it looks like the concept of ego breaks down into three main ideas of thought: I'm smart > I know a lot > I am right I'm deserving > I'm entitled > I am owed I'm jealous > I'm fearful > I am insecure Each of us have these ego issues to different varying degrees. For instance, I'm pretty chill with the "I am right" and "I am owed" ego, they don't seem to be too much of an issue for me. The "I am insecure" is what stabs frequently and isn't going away easily. Over the course…
/r/askMRP07/12/17 01:48 PM
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I found it at Amazon Prime and it's in my Watchlist now.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 01:08 PM
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Good catch. I was on autopilot, have been copying/pasting that section. Will update with current numbers soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 10:31 PM
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I'm in a very similar situation and the same questions cross my mind. It's been pointed out to me that because of my constant sexual initiation at this point of my self improvement, 1) wife isn't sufficiently motivated/attracted and gets irritated instead and 2) it contributes to her perception of having a higher SMV. Neither of which are helpful. I've been focusing outward and want to develop two in the kitty. The power of abundance mentality from other women interested and willing to have sex …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 03:11 PM
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Make sure she realizes your container is not spherical. I'm feeling autistic on this reference - clarify?
/r/askMRP06/12/17 02:55 PM
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I second this. I'd wager that 99% of women love to dance, or love the idea of dancing. It is challenging, but rewarding as the little pieces fall into place. Incidentally, it's an incredible way to meet new women that you automatically have something in common with.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 02:53 PM
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OYS: Week 14 Skipped. OYS: Week 15 I am steadily becoming more OI in all aspects of my relationship. Another way of putting it is I not expecting her to behave certain ways; lowering my expectations. That's helping me contain my emotions and be more stoic. I am reminding myself hourly of the things that I need to keep in the forefront of my mind. It's beneficial but I still screw them up. Just gonna take constant awareness and mindfulness to get them nailed down as habits. Sex is weekly, starfis…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:35 PM
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I continue to be impressed, amazed really, at the insights here on MRP. You are absolutely right. I'm doing the work, but at the core I'm doing it to win her - and she knows it. This perspective can affect your frame heavily and create neediness on your part, which is a gigantic turnoff for women. This is like a punch in the gut. It's exactly where I find myself at 2:13 am on a Monday morning. I woke up an hour ago, can't get back to sleep, because my subconscious realized this: wife doesn't min…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 08:19 AM
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I know I'm still in her frame and can identify it (becoming easier to see, changes still happening slowly though). What are you seeing that makes you say that? Thanks for the encouragement. I'm at war and have never felt so alive.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 11:20 PM
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OYS: Week 12 Skipped due to travel. Will include below. OYS: Week 13 I took charge of all planning and surprised wife last week with a trip back East for her birthday. The trip started great with fairly rough sex from behind as we finished packing to fly out. For the first time ever I held her head down and pushed it into the mattress - I expected some kind of resistance from her but didn't get a bit. Unfortunately she started her period moments after I finished and it lasted the entire trip. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 01:47 PM
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It might depend on your state. In TX it's separate property ONLY if she puts the money directly into a separate, individual account in her name. If she puts it in your joint account, you get half.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 11:06 PM
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OYS: Week 11 This past week has been better from the standpoint of limiting my emotional attachment to the relationship. I'm still trying to level out the lows and highs to be more consistent around her. Unmet expectations have been a big deal for me, a source of disappointment. As I see it I can either 1) lower my expectations and/or 2) NGAF when they aren't met. Both are helping. Had 3 'angry' events this week: wife hung up the phone on me because I pointedly told her she should've heeded my a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 10:17 AM
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Just today read that aloud at my father's funeral.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 02:20 AM
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I'll read up more on AB, maybe I'm not clear on it. What blue pill goal do you have in mind?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 02:32 PM
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I intend to be AlphaBux or free - one or the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 10:36 PM
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It's either black coffee or no coffee. Look into bulletproof coffee, you need the Keto diet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 10:03 PM
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OYS: Week 10 I realize that I'm still moving through the MRP Anger Phase as aptly described by u/SorcererKing. My anger made me emotional and I overreacted in the early weeks of unplugging, wanting to fix my entire life at once. This set me back considerably as it scared the cat. Being emotional hinders my ability to be methodical and consistent, intropsecting and seeing the bigger picture. Lastly, being emotional burns too much energy, gives me fitful sleep, and makes the marathon more difficul…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 12:35 PM
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I read this and was suspicious because so much of it was about your wife. MRP is a sexual strategy, yeah? At the moment and for the foreseeable future (until DL 9-10) wife is the only option for sex. I'm looking for input to implement that strategy and and achieve that result. So naturally when I'm failing at it I'm going to mention that I'm married to a woman and since it's OYS I'll give truthful details so that I get as much accurate feedback as possible. Not real sure how to elicit replies ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 08:02 PM
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That's crossed my mind more than once.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 07:38 PM
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Point well taken. Since I hurt my hip I haven't restated the goals I'd set previously.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 04:29 PM
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Afterwards in the shower together she apologized for not being sexually available recently and that it had been so long. Before I would have probably said "oh it's okay I understand, etc." but this time, I just ignored what she said. I think I probably grabbed her tits or something instead. Your response was better than your old Beta self. But keep in mind the principle though of ignoring bad behavior, rewarding her good behavior. What response would've been a better reward to her?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:17 PM
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Good show man, good show. Keep up the steady throttle and don't get soft because she's coming around.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 01:43 PM
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OYS: Week 9 Wife is now spooked all the way around. Last night she mentioned again her fears that not fucking me will make me give up on her and go get it elsewhere. It's in the early stage of vicious cycle where she wants to fuck me but can't get comfortable with it, then knowing that might send me looking for it, which makes things worse and now she really can't get comfortable enough. She has said that she doesn't want to fuck just to get it over with cause she would feel like a "shell of a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 11:43 AM
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Yeah, I've stopped most of them at least temporarily. I'm also planning a big surprise birthday trip for her so I'm being a bit shady about some things I otherwise wouldn't. I have also temporarily mostly stopped initiating. Wife's heart is in turmoil over the changes I'm making the last 75 days and she's suspicious, not motivated to fuck me. She needs a lot of comfort. When I initiate but she's feeling no trust with me it's not helping. So I'm focusing instead on being her rock and building tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 06:09 PM
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Whatever you do, heed the warnings to slow your roll. Read the first 5 steps of the 12 Step Plan of Dread and HEED THE WARNINGS in the preamble. If you provoke suspicion and mistrust in your wife like I did you'll be treading water for weeks if not months at a time. The ideal situation for you is to 1) really think and identify just how far gone the relationship is 2) really think just how hard your wife's heart is 3) calibrate your approach to the severity of the situation and 4) apply Dread sl…
/r/askMRP22/10/17 01:30 PM
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Heavy squats definitely activate my sweat response like no other lift.
/r/askMRP22/10/17 01:25 PM
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I called a local clinic and may decide to pony up the $275 for initial visit and testing. But I'm concerned about starting something that, from what I hear, is hard to stop. There are several good ways to increase your T - you just have to do the work. Don't be a lazy fuck and get the shots without doing the work first to see where you are then. Increase T naturally
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 02:58 PM
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that's the trade off of dread I guess, you're dialing up her fear but not necessarily her desire. Damn good observation, I'm living it right now. Ease off the pedal a touch? Let it sink in that you're not going to stop but that you aren't hammering her with dread? Not sure what the answer is here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 03:07 AM
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OYS: Week 8 Too Much, Too Fast I didn't heed several pieces of BluePill Professors dread advice and it's costing me: "TAKE AT LEAST 1 MONTH FOR EACH LEVEL OF DREAD!!!!!" "Go slow with this and don't be a dumbass." "Move up these levels one at a time, slowly, and carefully, taking approximately 1 month for each level." Because I've made so many improvements in a short amount of time wife is very suspicious of my motives and concerned that I'm with another woman. It is shutting her down emotionall…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 03:00 AM
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Haha I'm not seeing that as powerful, but each to his own.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 11:54 AM
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If the only method of sexual release available is ones's wife, and she denies it for days or weeks on end, she has all the power in this respect. Recently she's been denying me for a week or two at a time; each passing day makes me want it more - and she can withhold it more. Bad scenario. So jerking off relieved some of that tension, removed the pressure to get it from her, thus taking back some of the power. My wife drew the exact conclusion: Wife: "If you don't get it from me, you'll jerk off…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 11:21 AM
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Wife is submissive, gives morning blowjobs, never says no, she's loving, sweet and submissive. Damn that inspires me to keep putting in the work and calibrating my approach to Wife. I can see all this in her for the right man.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 02:43 PM
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You won't get honesty from her. Don't say a word. Does your gut tell you she's cheating, or that he is just an orbiter that gives her validation? Remember, if you aren't that fun guy to be around that games her and gives tingles, some other dude will be. Verify by physically checking her phone at an opportune time, or remotely installing a monitoring app.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 02:29 PM
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From your recommended reading I just purchased "The Subtle Art....". Over the last couple of weeks I've realized I have oneitis and I give waaay to many fucks about her.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 11:40 AM
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Hey thanks for dropping by. I understood when I wrote that honest assessment I'd catch flak. Why is this a goal? Self control; mastery of oneself. Doesn't mean I am happy about it or enjoy it - I'd much rather be fucking her into submission several times a week. Bitch. It's about integrity. Integrity makes me a man, not a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:59 PM
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OYS: Week 7 Current Failures and Issues Last 10 days or so I spooked her much to early; she was full of dread because of innocuous (to me) things like stopping by the neighborhood bar on the way home from work, going to a sit down restarant alone without telling her where, etc. Basic freedoms to my way of thinking but different than my normal behavior, clearly exercised too early. She was ON EDGE. I dialed it back to generally just be more considerate and let her know when and where I'd be. She'…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 09:02 PM
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It annoys the fuck out of me when OP's don't answer direct questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 11:54 AM
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When you can squat your body weight... Surely you don't mean a 1 rep max. I'm just getting to my bodyweight 5 sets 5 reps = 25 times per workout.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 10:16 AM
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I'm coming back to this because I am struggling with comfort vs. capitulation. Last week Wife was showing signs of improvement - she initiated a few handjobs and says she was feeling more confident. Her sense of dread very recently has inadvertently climbed to the point where she's on high alert - making mountains out of molehills. For instance: She accused me a day or two ago of "improving myself to be more attractive to other women." I created an Instagram account for the first time. I added s…
/r/askMRP04/10/17 10:09 AM
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Her accusation of me cheating was possibly a comfort test wrapped in shit. I'm pretty sure she's not cheating but I leave .1% room for being blindsided. She does value it, but she's very good at 'holding the grudge' and trying to outlast me. Turns into a cold war around the house for days at a time. I need to be scarce as fuck during the next one until she relents. I need to do a better job of resolving to not give it to her. I'm not the life of a party yet, but the majority of the time we do so…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 06:37 PM
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OYS: Week 6 Current Failures and Issues This past week Wife and I are in a small power struggle. I've stopped by our local bar a few times over the last 60 days without telling her where I was going (new behavior on my part). The last time I did it was on the way home from work Saturday. This set off her spider senses and she withdrew; at the end of the night while in bed, she vented. I never apologized; I did DEER a bit. At the end I told her "I understand it makes you feel uncertain, but I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 09:47 AM
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That is fucking hilarious, true or not.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 02:17 PM
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OYS: Week 5 Current Failures and Issues I still felt and showed some signs of jealousy, but I am on the road to OI. This ego thing is a bitch. Regardless of my mindset, I'm slowly making her more aware of how the world of men works: My wakeup call to find MRP was wife telling me that a rumor had spread at her work that she was fucking Chad A. Last week I saw her at work laughing, joking, and touching the arm of Chad B. It hit me like a flash - she's too familiar with these guys - it looks like f…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 12:29 PM
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None. I wanted it out there for the community but didn't know if /marriedredpill was the right place.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 02:25 PM
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Considering contractor work although that is scary for someone who needs medical coverage. Look into Liberty HealthShare, I've used them for a year and am completely happy. $150 a month / person (maxes at $450 / month), $500 per person deductible (maxes at $1,500).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 11:24 AM
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Damn, I inboxed you and didn't provide the link to the article I mentioned. I can't find a way to send again on that same thread unless you reply to it - then I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 02:03 PM
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Your point is well made and taken, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 01:57 PM
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This attitude is what's fucking you. She is responding just fine, you're just missing all the comfort signals. You are read up on sex god method? I've skimmed SGM (nowhere ready for it with Wife today), didn't see much on comfort but I'll pull it up now and look for it thanks.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 10:41 AM
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you are checking the boxes like one driven motherfucker. My first marriage was a train wreck that ended in divorce rape and two alienated children. Yes, I'm driven to have a great marriage with this good woman. you are a variable speed human vibrator with a fresh set of batteries. Bwahahaha! I spit out my coffee - thanks for the laugh. Your last post got you a LOT of great advice, read the comments again. Will do - over and over. Try it because you love her and she is your wife. So...no initiati…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 10:32 AM
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I appreciate your input; I will keep those things in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 09:51 AM
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I'm done trying to be a "good husband"; and I'm done trying to get her hot just to finally get a pat on the back and a reminder that she's just not that into me. As it is, she's effectively not a wife, just a reasonably friendly live-in housemaid and babysitter; This is good - where I'm clawing to get and really believe it. Own this and you're on your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 02:25 AM
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OYS: Week 4 A little bit about myself Age: 48 SO: 40 Married: 3 years Together: 5 years total Income: $110K me, $12K wife Children: she has none, I have 3 from previous marriage Height: 5’4” Weight: 145 lbs -- Target: 155 lbs (add 10 lbs muscle) BF: ~22% -- Target: <20% I was raised in a small town, practically feral with very little parent oversight. Naturally alpha. Never knew I was smaller than average. Muscular build; I carry extra fat very well (Wife cannot believe I'm 20-25% fat today). Co…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 02:16 AM
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That's the most painful thing I've read in a long time. My story will end with me grinding every single day to better myself for me and it has taken over a year to get to today. For the first time I don’t feel so much like a pussy. And you shouldn't. Grind that motherfucker out.every.day.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 06:17 PM
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Look up your nearest Toastmasters Club TODAY and ask for help - they are the gold standard when it comes to public speaking.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 12:03 PM
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What is self-medication? Is that like Advil or something? Is the guy handicapped? Could she be performing some motherly duty to him. Seems odd. Seems like OP doesn't want to give enough info to get solid advice - very odd indeed.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 12:00 PM
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OYS: Week 3 Stats Age: 48 SO: 40 Married: 3 years Together: 4 years total Income: $110K me, $12K wife Children: she has none, I have 3 from previous marriage Height: 5’4” Weight: 145 lbs -- Target: 155 lbs (add 10 lbs muscle) BF: ~22% -- Target: 20% Lifts and Fitness Started SL 5x5 on 8/30/2017. Most recent lifts: Squat 5x5: 120 | Bench 5x5: 80 | Row 5x5: 80 | OH Press 5x5: 55 | Deadlift 1x5: 110 Issues to work on this coming week Wife is very sensitive and the changes in me are scaring her; I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 12:23 PM
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Come on. Is this really a question? It's not the first time the question has been asked /archwinger put considerable effort into deconstructing the question
/r/askMRP12/09/17 12:16 PM
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Are you afraid of the harsher feedback that may follow? No, I've received well deserved much harsher feedback in the last couple of weeks.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 12:19 PM
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I went ahead and took my daughter to the bike store and had a look anyway of course. Fun morning except her weird reaction. That sounded weak to me, I wondered why you didn't buy a bike. Her reaction would've been better than weird.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 11:43 AM
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I'm kicking myself in the ass for even posting this. Hidden - no need for more input.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 11:41 AM
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Thanks for the detailed reply, you covered a lot very helpful ground. I'll come back to this over and over. My advice is slow your roll. That's the bottom line. Will do.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 10:39 AM
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Roger that. Looks like a little success went to my head.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 10:38 AM
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This is above my current pay grade, but here's my initial thought: find a Jedi mind trick instead. I don't want to give up pussy for a month. Plus, while I'm working on the same things (OI, DNGAF, etc.) I'm gaming my wife and figuring out what works to get her panties off.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 12:10 PM
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... realign the way I perceive it and help me to become my own point of origin ... too much for validation Give more examples of why this is bothering you - elaborate.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:41 AM
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You are a weak pussy and have no frame.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:37 AM
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Need more info. What's the state of your relationship today. Sex frequency and quality?
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:32 AM
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but with my wife I had a history of insecure, asshole behavior that tainted everything I said. I'm working my way out of this deep hole right now. I can't open my mouth trying to be cocky or funny without it rubbing my wife the wrong way. STFU is a mantra for a good reason. Acta non verba.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:25 AM
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Blowing your load takes the hard drive out of a man. Not blowing your load for a few days can make you ready to fuck at the drop of a hat. +1 in my experience. Like night and day. My sex drive did a 180.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 10:08 AM
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It is a lot easier to NEXT and replace a woman espousing that shit Not having the framework of TRP and nexting the cunt cost me 15 years of youth and $400k. Painful learning indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 06:57 PM
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Obviously, you want her to buy it herself because she wants to please you. You're not there yet. I just tattooed that.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 06:52 PM
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I get people to true 50/50 all the time. 50/50 on the asset split I can see, but not once child support and visitation time are factored in.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 12:21 PM
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the BP fantasy of 50/50 is as faulty as a business relationship that's 50/50. That only ends with partners fighting, no hierarchy of decision making. It's fatal in every enterprise: a business or a household. ^ This ^
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 12:18 PM
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Needless to say, the female model is "what's mine is mine, and what's yours is ours, because vagina". I've actually had a woman say this to me. I wish I'd had MRP knowledge at the time to quash it in our relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 12:16 PM
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If you continue to see it as "our" stuff you're subconsciously going to re vert to a 50/50 mentality. You'll expect her to do half the chores, half the cooking, half the cleaning, etc. If you see it as your stuff, you'll realize that all the responsibility is on you, but that if she wants to make use of your stuff she has to contribute value to you. Considering the current cultural sea we all swim in, and the laws affording joint property in a marriage, At what point in your MRP path did you ado…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 11:38 AM
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A veteran replied to me the other day "just do what Chad would've done" or similar. My use of the idea isn't to live as someone else. It's a temporary fix while I'm figuring this shit out so that I don't crave her attention.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 02:55 AM
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Solid reply, thanks for the examples. I'm nowhere near that now but I've saved it for future use.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 02:54 AM
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Best post reply I've seen all day. Some among us really would give their left nut to be him.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 06:22 PM
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A couple of chapters in and I'm so glad you pointed me to PFP. It's clearly written by 3 men of the manosphere - any idea what their handles are? Very.good.stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 03:58 PM
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I know that being able to spin plates, whether I choose spin or not, will destroy it, so that's what I'm working toward. Nah man, I do not see it that way at all. Plates serve several needs, but you know fucking well that it validates your need to have a woman want you. The ego killing thing is a HUGE topic for most of us and in the next week or so I will post a question in AskMRP to get community input. Slow your roll, and stay tuned in for that post. We both need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 03:56 PM
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If she says no, I will know she is a liar, and that she really can't be trusted. There's zero chance she's going to cop to it until you force her hand with the proof (you did capture the evidence, didn't you?). What the fuck do you expect? If you force it (prove with evidence) your whole situation becomes a distracting shit show.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:51 PM
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And what you REALLY want is someone who WANTS YOU. Damn that's a recurring theme in so many posts - and in my mind. There's only one path to that place, and you know what it is. Get to work OP.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:47 PM
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Reading your post today about finding your wife's communication, I read back through your posting history. Damn I see myself in your struggles, particularly with ego and validation. You've been told several times by dudes that know - kill your fucking ego. Here you are hamstering a way to keep it around by not being willing to identify the enemy and do what it takes to destroy it. The paradox between "simply" and "easy" has always fascinated me. MRP is chock full of these fucking things and that…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 11:47 AM
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Hell I'm gonna read everything eventually, so I might as well put them in a logical order - thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 11:42 AM
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Thanks for the heads up, looks like you are doing some introspection. Dig deep and put it out there - a crowd like this is going to find every weakness in your thinking.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:35 AM
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I need to quit drinking craft IPA is what I need to do....except it's sooo good! Ha, I love that stuff. Managed this week to keep alcohol out of my house, but I'll drink a double IPA in any restaurant.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 12:57 AM
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As far as I can tell, there are two and only two reasons to get a girl's panties off. Correct me if I'm wrong, but 1) I need to bust a nut so bad I could fuck and oak tree OR 2) it makes me feel good to be wanted and validated. If you have others throw them my way. Seems to me you fall under 2). I've earned and deserve, something that I'm entitled to. If you put that out in a AskMRP Post you will get skewered. You ought to try it - ask if that seems reasonable because you work so hard or whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 12:42 AM
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Have you read this? Damn it provided a cooling salve. Ending the line of Chads - The Family Alpha ...worry about what is going to make me better... So simple, yet so hard to implement cause we want to fix.this.shit.today.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 08:28 PM
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Also, I could be totally wrong here, but I don't think squirting is strictly a "size" thing like she thinks. It's an arousal thing. From what I read on it, you're absolutely right. My money says that Chad told her that's what did it for her - exactly what I would've said if I my dick was that big.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 08:25 PM
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Have you ever read the Art of War? No you need leave the battle field to work on yourself. You need to leave this anger for another day, and do something to put you on the road to being able to win. You can't win now, and being angry about it doesn't help. That left a mark on me, well said and taken to heart.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:58 PM
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Haven't read it yet, on my list, but listened to him on Tim Ferriss' podcast
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 07:45 PM
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Damn dude, owning it like a boss. I'm impressed and it gives me great hope. Have you come across or read Extreme Ownership - Jocko Willink Navy Seal
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 07:20 PM
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Because I lead her to it - I bring her to her true self. Good stuff man, fucking right-A. That's my journey. I will be a man worth following.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:06 PM
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A month of two ago she talked about how I have changed. There really wasn't much to say to this since she is right. I just let her talk. I'm having good success at these times by listening interestedly to her, occasionally thinking STFU, STFU. It literally takes her hamster off the wheel and gives it a rest. Thank God.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:26 PM
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Started documenting things when I feel out of sorts... Make certain your OPSEC is high and tight. I did the same but deleted and emptied the trash after reading a horror story or two about wife getting curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:24 PM
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Running my MAP and getting a lot of attention from others but concerned that our past is too much for her to overcome. As I hear it, keep working on you and whether she can come along for the ride is up to her. I'm only 60ish days into MRP and my wife has already seen enough changes to tell me last night she's "afraid you are going to leave me in the dust" and "... afraid that if I don't change you'll leave me". Wow. I'm amazed that she has already intuited the end game.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:20 PM
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She doesnt trust me and these moods are her going all in on trying to crack me and see if I will explode like I used to Roger that. Keep up the consistent, solid work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:16 PM
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"Why is everything you say sexual?", "Stop saying gross things", "Eww", "Stop", "Later", and any other stop. Exactly what mine does. I've nutted up a few times (generally when I was horny enough to fuck an oak tree) and corralled her to the bed, not taking anything less than a hard no for an answer. Worked a treat and she was hot hot hot.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:10 PM
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Wife turned around and there I was still talking to that lady not up to the water yet. Wife called me over, and later said "she should get her own husband". Gotta fucking love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:07 PM
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A main focus of mine is to make this a definite weekly affair. Really? How fucking hard is it? I stopped reading after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:04 PM
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This kind of post provides me so much hope and optimism, cause as you might've experienced, getting started on MRP can be ugly. I'm curious - how would you describe yourself (just how beta were you?) and your marriage (really fucked up?) when you began to unplug.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 05:59 PM
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Don't tell me - mechanical engineer? rocket scientist? J/k, keep it tight, looks good.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 05:52 PM
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Funny how this MRP thing works - exact same experience here. Stay the course. Engagement with kids is way up and there manners and attitudes have improved immensely.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 05:51 PM
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OYS: Week 2 I am here because: My sweet natured wife was becoming increasingly impatient and disrespectful toward me. Over time my low sex drive reduced her interest to near zero. She began dropping hints that recently she was looking at co-worker Chad. I finally woke the fuck up on 6/21/2017. Stats Age: 48 SO: 40 Married: 3 years Together: 4 years total Income: $110K me, $12K wife Children: she has none, I have 3 from previous marriage Height: 5’4” Weight: 145 lbs -- Target: 155 lbs (add 10 lbs…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 05:19 PM
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Damn dude I needed that. You're right, I'm not ready for it but that article nails it down for me. Rollo left me hanging with no action points and the comments to his post were mostly "how could any guy ever stay once he knows this stuff".
/r/askMRP06/09/17 12:36 PM
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The more I read that the more it makes sense on a couple of levels.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 11:53 AM
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Powerful reminders, thx. Once I stopped caring so much about her sex, focusing on me, and started withdrawing my commitment (time and attention at this stage) the more the anger went away. The less I give a shit about her sex, the less power she has in the relationship.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 11:04 AM
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All the generalized ones about 4 years ago. The squirting detail about a week ago. So, I get the impression that she started dropping these scenarios on you pretty recently?
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:54 PM
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I've got a lot of questions, that's for sure.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:52 PM
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3 years.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:50 PM
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Excellent, that covers it nicely. We men give a damn about her state of mind when we are weak, distracted, not taking care of the Captain and/or the ship, and/or we are operating in her frame.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 07:22 PM
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Roger that, working diligently to make that happen. I'm going to live my life knowing that I can always make new friends, have new experiences, and even get a great new intimate relationship with a woman if I had to. I make that clear to my wife, not as a threat, but as reality.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 07:21 PM
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I'd like to know more about that realization and how it played out. I selected a quality wife that had not ridden the CC, and assumed that she would work it through and improve her whore skillset. I was wrong. Over the next 12 months I'm going to give her every reason to want to be my slut. At that point it's up to her. Explain WRT please? You need to select what you hear from the wife WRT sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:18 PM
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Completely understood and internalized. You can't make her want to fuck you with no restraint. You can however become the type of guy she would want to fuck with no restraint. Agreed. I've got a nuclear reactor in the pit of my stomach. It's not her fault you don't get her best, direct your anger inward and grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:14 PM
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I agree, I'm not there. Yet. in summary, what she is really saying is she does not yet trust you to be the captain . . . not that she does not want a captain. I've told her I wanted her on the team, just need to find ways to show her without giving up the keys to the boat. you want to make her feel as though she is "part of the team" as your FO. the key is to always operate from your frame but to invite her into it.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 07:13 PM
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Jeezus painful is right. A wise MRP moderator told me that she might have seen me as Alpha then; but, I certainly wasn't. I think she is naturally submissive and was willing to try me out to see if I was up to it. So in a roundabout way, yeah it looks like test in retrospect. Up until my early 20's I was leaning heavily alpha, just not a 6'0" kind of alpha. Short dudes that are full on Napoleon are annoying as fuck. But since I respect your posts, I'll take a further look at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:07 PM
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Good reminder. Chad does not give a single fuck.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 07:00 PM
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During the day while she was quiet and withdrawn - turmoil. Later when she told me why - yesss
/r/askMRP05/09/17 01:43 PM
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Ha I've got to know - how do you handle sex better by yourself than her providing it with desire?
/r/askMRP05/09/17 01:42 PM
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I understand the concept of dread. Wife is more toward the Unicorn end of the spectrum and she's definitely responding differently than those women who bitchy constant Shit-Testers. She's definitely seeing the changes in me, some she likes (mentions improving body, grabbing and hanging on to my upper arms while I'm fucking her) and others she says she does not like. Says "she misses and liked the old me". I also think my changes are spooking her cause she's definitely sexually attracted to stron…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 12:59 PM
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I'll put "Younger Next Year" on my reading list, thanks for the enthusiastic outlook.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 04:46 AM
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Twice a day sounds like a great problem to have - that's a lot of sex. I take it you're in excellent shape? I'm 48 and glad I found TRP/MRP; I think I've got 20 great years in front of me.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 12:18 AM
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C'mon, spit it out. Use your big girl words and say specifically what you've got a problem with.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 02:25 PM
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I disagree. Covert contracts to my thinking. Anger stage, definitely anger stage.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:22 PM
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That is getting to work, nice job.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:21 PM
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If you have a low sex marriage and are afraid of her emotional reactions to instigating, or during sex play you will be too timid, not dominant and not sexy. This kept me meek, mild, and boring as fuck for years. I've adopted this attitude and going to keep slowly ramping it up. One aspect of my MAP is to have a woman (current wife? future plate?) that is my submissive slut in the bedroom. I believe that in a masculine, formidable man dominance over your woman is hardwired and non-negotiable. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/17 11:32 AM
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Pithy and well said - kudos.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/17 11:29 AM
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I've been there exactly with my ex-wife. For years I asked the same questions, finally couldn't take it anymore, and left the marriage after 15 years. Bad move. You need to look up divorce rape and child alienation, they are real and oh so much more painful than what you are feeling now. When I discovered TRP/MRP and read (most) of the sidebar, guess what I learned? I had acted like a blue pill beta faggot - just like you - and expected something in return from her. Get to work you pussy and don…
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:52 AM
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So damn true. I need to get back on the logistics only train. I've sent nice words to her recently, trying to provide some comfort, and if I get anything back it's a flat "Ok." I need to banish my fucking expectations.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:30 AM
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SOLUTION - let go of your expectations from her, until you are a man worthy of them, it comes slowly. Money shot right there /u/Mrpnoob777 It helps to remind myself frequently that I cannot expect any wanted behavior from her; in spite of this it's still hard to STFU and let it roll off my back. Provides tons of motivation to speed up the fucking process, ie LIFT, HIIT, eat clean.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:17 AM
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No, when they dig their heels in they would rather jump off a bridge than back track and show submission. That's the damn truth.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:13 AM
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You are 100% responsible for this. You've let it get to this point. Why would you expect it to be different with a new wife? If you're honest about things you will be so fucking frustrated with yourself instead. My wife brings a good amount of value to my life. She cooks nice meals, keeps a reasonably clean house, washes and puts away my clothes, understands and agrees to a household budget, is agreeable companionship when I'm not being a retard Rambo, and has helped immensely with my children -…
/r/askMRP04/09/17 09:59 AM
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I found it is very much a case of the grass is greener on the other side. This is human nature and seems to be our default setting. Add to that it can seem an overwhelming task to overcome the negative inertia in a marriage (accumulated hostility, now recalcitrant wife, personal frustrations). It becomes doubly attractive to start over.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 09:52 AM
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everything I have learned flies right out of my brain as this flood of hurt and betrayal and resentment washes over me. Fucking right A man, I am there with you. This Red Pill is a bitter one to swallow. See my first OYS this week, it's a doozy. she actually moaned a little. These were signs. Little tiny signs. Progress. Teaspoon sized but forward movement nonetheless. I've realized how much that is what I want - from her or from anyone. This looks an awful lot like seeking validation from women…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 07:00 PM
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Never posted her before but been MRP for about 5 months Welcome. Stay the course. Lifting: need to keep with the program and increase weight, going about 4 days a week and hit it hard. Weight is slowly going up, feel great, found out I need to rest 2 days in between leg/chest and arm days. Look into Strong Lifts 5x5: https://stronglifts.com/5x5/ Eat more fruits, vegetable, food high in protein, add protein shakes and creatinine on workout days. Are you familiar with the Ketogenic diet? Seems to …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 06:50 PM
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OYS: Week 1 I am here because: My sweet natured wife was becoming increasingly impatient and disrespectful toward me. Over time my low sex drive reduced her interest to near zero. She began dropping hints that recently she was looking at co-worker Chad. I finally woke the fuck up on 6/21/2017. Stats Age: 48 SO: 40 Married: 3 years Together: 4 years Income: $110K me, $12K wife Children: she has none, I have 3 from previous marriage Height: 5’4” - never accused of a Napoleon Complex Weight: 155 lb…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 02:53 PM
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Good stuff, thanks.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 02:28 AM
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Goddamn! Right thinking, love it.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 09:48 PM
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Dude, do you know how to Google? Youtube? C'mon, don't ask for spoon feeding here.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/17 02:19 PM
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user/BTed440 got an update?
/r/askMRP27/07/17 06:47 PM
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Funny enough that's exactly what brought me to MRP. I began realizing that by not having a preference about the small everyday things she began asserting more and more power in the relationship. I ceded a tiny bit of power every day until it was gone - poof!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 05:41 PM
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You sound butthurt @tacko276
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 04:35 AM
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It's the way she talks in such a disrespect tone. The yelling. The demands. Acting like you're stupid no matter what you say. Sounds like my ex-wife.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 09:19 PM
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I'm not going to hide money, but I will start to keep more money on me in case she decides to empty our accounts. Good idea. I went on a guy's trip to Chicago during the divorce. Was at Wrigley Field and tried to buy a beer - no go. Called the bank and guess what? Yup, she'd emptied the account. Meanwhile, I'm calling attorneys and setting appointments for next week. Excellent, smart. Sounds like you've got a solid plan. One last thing: ask your attorney to separate the finances asap. Otherwise …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 02:30 PM
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I chose to divorce in the recent past and here's what I wish I'd done differently. I did some of this, and didn't do some of this; I regret that I wasn't 100% on it. be blameless The moron suggesting you go get pussy now has no idea what he speaks of. Your wife will possibly make hay in court with this (read: you lose more money) and she very likely will use it against you with your kids for the rest of your life. Assume she'll find out. don't hide money It can be found and it will make you look…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 03:04 AM
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Predictable is not a pussy moisturiser. Bwahahaha
/r/askMRP13/07/17 01:10 AM
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this guy keeps sending messages every once in awhile to keep it going. I've been trying to let her past die, but when this guy keeps sending messages he basically gives the past CPR and revives it. Because your wife hasn't killed it.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:22 PM
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I have to know - how exactly do you intend to elicit the actual truth from her? It cannot be done without hard proof. https://youtu.be/LiZH5eH5eDw
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:18 PM
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If she tells me there was a physical affair at some point, Under what possible circumstances would anybody do this without hard evidence? Not. Gonna. Happen.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:15 PM
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If she was done with him she'd shut his ass down in a heartbeat. Clearly she is still enjoying the attention. Yup, well said. OP just can't get his mind around it.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:12 PM
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When he posts a pic of himself you could respond with the exact same words he sends to your wife. "You look hot, love you." Yes! ^ This would be one of my courses of action.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:04 PM
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If things do go south and you find yourself looking for a fling, first promise yourself not to get into another relationship for at least 6 months, if not longer. This may be obvious to everyone, but I wish I hadn't. Great advice. If you do leave, be blameless. Trust me on that. Also, look for a "men's rights" attorney, preferably one that breathes fire. The court and most attorney's will chew you up and spit you out - don't be a sucker.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:02 PM
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I've done it for about 10 years. You can do it "Gi" or "No Gi", with a Gi being the traditional way. Most gyms will offer striking but typically as a separate discipline, ie Muay Thai, kickboxing, etc. If you can find a Gracie certified gym, that would be my first choice. https://youtu.be/ybQ__WdAqvE
/r/askMRP10/07/17 03:58 AM
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There isn't any striking in BJJ, so a black eye is very unlikely. Check your ego at the door and verbalize to your partners to take it easy and you shouldn't get injured (remember, there is a difference between pain and injury). Physically it's similar to wrestling so if you did that as a kid you are good to go. Your son will build tons of confidence and you'll both be better for it.
/r/askMRP10/07/17 01:57 AM
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Sign the older one up for wrestling. That one sport can do so much for development. Great advice, wholeheartedly agree. If not wrestling, then Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. You might join yourself and lead the way.
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:39 AM
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Great stuff, keep up the good work.
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:34 AM
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Hug her and listen to her, STFU She's constantly eroding away your frame because you haven't made it clear to her "This is who I am". Be more fun and take her out for ice cream
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:19 AM
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ask her why she's behaving this way. Does she want a more balanced relationship? This kind of ridiculous tripe belongs somewhere else, not in a Red Pill forum.
/r/askMRP09/07/17 11:06 AM
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Everything I said basically was twisted against me yet again. None of my issues were addressed and now apparently I have extreme anger issues and say aweful things that she claims I need to seek help for. She claims that I need to now show her a change in my behavior before she feels comfortable staying with me or flying to the US. She then proceeded to twist my words into the belief that marriage should be stronger than this and we need to work it out starting with me seeing a counselor about m…
/r/askMRP09/07/17 10:54 AM
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