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I love Dr. Sax! He has multiple other great books as well, the compliment to this book about boys is just as worthy of read, its called Boys Adrift and adresses how things like video games and over-medicating are negatively impacting a whole generation of men. My favorite of his though is The Collapse of Parenting, about how it came to be that parents no longer feel they have any real authority over their kids and how detrimental that is for young children. I love that you posted this recommenda…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 04:44 PM
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Agreed!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/20 02:52 PM
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It's a hard balance for sure but self care is so important!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 10:34 PM
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It sounds like you're needing to find new ways to practice self care as a new mom. Yes, your husband is working an excessive amount IMO, but that's not the real problem here. If it wasn't that, you might find something else to be upset about. I think you could ask for an hour a day to do online yoga, zoom with your mom, or go for a walk, and I bet if you were direct and respectful, without including accusations, he would gladly find time to take his baby for an hour. "Could you watch the baby fr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 07:36 PM
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Thank you for this reminder:)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:06 PM
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Thank you! This is great advice.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:05 PM
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Thank you! I'm here for perspective. It can be hard to see yourself as others see you and this is really helpful :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:04 PM
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True! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 05:03 PM
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I really appreciate this insight and its a good reminder for me and very encouraging. But I'm dying to know what you mean by: "I mean even reading your post I can see you're still not completely there yet. so maybe he sees it too." What am I missing?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 01:35 AM
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I feel like this is sort of a trap. It is not your job to check up on him about his work or graduate school applications - you are not his mother, teacher, or employer and he is not a child. You can't encourage someone into doing something they don't want to do and if he makes it your job to encourage him, then he can always blame you when it doesn't work out. It's okay for a man to feel scared and vulnerable, especially in uncertain times, but in general, is he the kind of person that takes res…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 02:14 PM
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I agree that it sounds like bloating. It may be dairy or wheat or something else. Veggies and beans, for example, cause a lot of gas. I was always bloated and couldn't figure out why because I thought I was eating a really healthy vegetarian diet. I tried the carnivore diet as an experiment for one month and felt amazing. I lost about 10lbs and got rid of all my bloating. I've lost about 10 more pound since then doing a paleo/keto/high protein style diet. You could even try an all-beef diet for …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 09:41 PM
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A potato microwaving in my brain, that is hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 12:49 AM
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Everything you've been through has made you who you are. There's no going back and whatever time it took to heal and learn is the exact amount of time you needed. If you want to get married, you'll probably have to date a lot. My recommendation is to make yourself into the absolute best version of yourself while you're doing so. Having a family and a partner is a worthy and beautiful goal, and it's important to keep this goal in mind while you date. Check out Laura Doyle's the Surrendered Single…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 12:50 PM
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Love that last line!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 06:21 PM
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Thank you! It's an inspiration just to know other people have done it successfully. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:16 PM
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It seems to be that way. Men are amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:26 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:25 AM
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Thank you! I absolutely will not. I laid out what I hope for in the best possible scenerio (we get remarried and live together in happy monogamous relationship and raise our daughters together) and what I hope for in the absence of that (a friendly cooperative coparenting arrangement where I respect and honor him as the girls father, but no intimacy). I'm obviously not asking him to decide now. I set my intention to wait 6-12 mos and see how this pans out. I'm waiting until if/when he's ready to…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:25 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 10:24 PM
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You're in a toxic work environment. Time to start researching other options & put your resume together. You can't just look for one other position - you have to look at tons! Figure out the gaps in your resume or work history & take some online classes or whatever you need to do to fill them. Apply for a whole bunch of jobs, practice your interviewing skills, and handle yourself with as much grace and dignity as you can manage until you get out of there.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 12:15 PM
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In my opinon, they are not great fiction but they have lots of good information in them, so yes, maybe? I read Keys to the Kingdom and Queens Code which are fictional stories about a wise older woman advising a younger woman in her marriage. They meet over coffee and talk a bunch, so I skipped over most of the story to just get the parts where she's giving the advice. She doesnt have her own podcast that I know of, but she has been on lots of other shows you can find on YouTube. She's such a pos…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 02:27 AM
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During a conversation with a male friend of about 15 years, he said something along the lines of "it seems like you think you bring out the worst in the men you're with..." and based on that he recommended I check out Alison Armstrong. She has an analogy of some women being "frog farmers" (as opposed to princesses who turn frogs into prince charming). So I started with her, but I love her on podcasts more than I love her books. I don't know that fiction writing is her strength, but I think she r…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 01:14 PM
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Thank you for this perspective. After thinking about everyone's comments last night I got off the dating app and messaged back the one guy asking me out, declining another date. I think you're right. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 12:54 PM
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Haha yes love this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 10:19 PM
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Beer. See this is why I ask - how did I not think of beer?!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 09:45 PM
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I love this wording.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 09:44 PM
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We mostly communicat online regarding our daughters but he does sometimes send messages through the children and I don't really like it. They both know something's up and they're really happy to see their parents interacting at a friendly level. My daughter later asked me what the letter was and I told her it was an apology for some mistakes I made. We've always been pretty open and honest with our children in a way that is age-appropriate. I have not heard anything back from him in terms of wha…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 09:43 PM
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Yes! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 05:51 PM
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Thank you so much for this feedback. My thought was not to tell my ex that im taking a break from dating, but rather the other men who have asked me out. I would not lie to my exhusband. I am trying not to be disingenuous with these other guys by continuing to see them. I'm not worried about losing the opportunities so much as trying to walk this line of staying available to my exhusband, but not getting too deep in thinking about the possibilities and becoming overwhelming or impatient. I'm sur…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 05:49 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 03:51 PM
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I very much appreciate this input. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 05:47 PM
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That's so encouraging to hear, thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 10:57 PM
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Thank you for the encouragement. It was really strange how thr revelations came. I tried to Jordan Petersons past authoring program and I got through my whole life fairly quickly until I came to my marriage. I stalled there for at least 6 months. I procrastinated and when I tried to write I couldn't remember much except the few fights that were particularly horrible. I actually think I blocked it out. The major thing that changed in addition to all my reading and self searching was that I starte…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 06:09 PM
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Yes, true. There is truth to every one of these comments. I love how thoughtful everyone is.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 04:56 PM
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Thank you, reading up on this now.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 04:55 PM
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Thank you! I couldn't find it in the surrendered wife or surrendered single, will have to check out kill the marriage counselors. Thanks for your support.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 03:53 PM
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I agree. I like this advice best.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:12 PM
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Thank you so much. I love this reply.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 11:12 PM
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Because he asked me a few times, I did wonder if he was wanting me to say I wanted to try again. He had previously sent me a song lyric video (shrike by hozier if you want to see the words), something he hadn't done for years and I cried and cried when I listened to it. I had already been journaling about my mistakes when he sent it but that video probably put me over the edge with actually sending him the letter. I didn't tell him that I want to try again at the time though because I really did…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 11:11 PM
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A nightmare for sure. Thank you so much.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 11:03 PM
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Thank you so much. It means so much to hear that and I'm so glad I posted on here. I don't feel like my friends would understand my new perspective and so it really means a lot to me to read these replies.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 11:01 PM
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