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LIFESTYLENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 10:50 AM
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FIELD REPORTNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 01:34 AM
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DISCUSSIONNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 06:36 AM
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FIELD REPORTNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen28/04/18 10:45 AM
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ADVICENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 01:47 PM
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LIFESTYLENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 02:54 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 04:01 PM
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DISCUSSIONNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 03:36 PM
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DISCUSSIONNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 07:32 AM
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OFF TOPICNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 01:23 PM
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ADVICENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:17 PM
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OFF TOPICNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 01:29 PM
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ADVICENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 07:02 PM
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DATING ADVICENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 02:18 AM
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DISCUSSIONNessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 04:45 AM
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ADVICENessunolosa/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:41 PM
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Yes, all that is good. We never had it so that we couldn't go out to get groceries or anything, so that's important to know (I think people outside China may have a skewed view of what happened since the media is so bad at their dang job!).
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 02:32 AM
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Maybe, but it's unlikely to spread widely without sustained interpersonal contact like you find in a family or among people who work in close contact to one another. Most important is to wash your hands and stay healthy otherwise to reduce the burden on the health system in your area.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 02:04 AM
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One thing to notice from recent WHO reporting is that the virus still doesn't pass that easily without close contact with someone infected. We're in "quarantine" not because we want to be or think it's truly necessary at this point (296 total cases in our area, of which the vast majority are already cured) but because the local laws means we have to be. I understand being worried, but don't self-quarantine unless you've been to Italy, South Korea, China, or Iran or if you have had direct, sustai…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 02:02 AM
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I understand feeling scared. For us, since we were the first to go into this situation in China, it's now more boredom and the insecurity of knowing when it will stop being as weird. It does seem that closing things temporarily and being on top of checking temperatures/avoiding going out does work. So although it can feel scary I think it's also okay to (within reason) get some supplies. That said, we've been able to get groceries the whole time. The fresh greens were out in shops for a bit and …
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 03:19 PM
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I religiously listen to podcasts! I'll try some more audiobooks.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 02:07 PM
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Excellent advice. We've been doing well overall, I just also wanted to make sure we keep on track in spite of things.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 02:06 PM
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That's too much. But what's really worrying is the demanding nature of his expectations and the "quid pro quo" he appears to be pushing you into. He isn't treating you as a partner or as a human being he cares about. Not to mention that I'd be a little worried about UTIs if I were you (make sure that you always pee after sex!). I imagine this isn't the only thing in life that he is demanding about, right? He probably has very specific ideas about how just about everything should be done (his way…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 02:56 AM
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She didn't say that either of them were surprised.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 12:27 PM
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OP is orthodox Jewish, so this is a religious position.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 09:10 AM
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He doesn't have a definition. He just wants to manipulate.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 11:53 PM
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No, stop this. You can never be a "good enough girlfriend" for this guy, because he isn't in the market for a true relationship. He wants to manipulate you and is probably getting advice from the Internet how to best set up a power dynamic that will take away your agency. RPW are not doormats, and our captains don't expect us to be. There is a big difference between actual disrespect and a disagreement, and he isn't treating you as a partner or a "First Mate." Please, please, please don't let hi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 02:47 AM
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UGH my ex I talked about in another comment used to say those things, too. He escalated into making up a second personality (he wasn't suffering from a personality disorder, it was all manipulation) and using that persona to threaten me. Fuuuuuuuuuuuck that. Get out, sis.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 02:43 AM
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Are you sure you are being "disrespectful" or is he putting that word in your mouth? I echo what others have said. This is not the dynamic of a healthy relationship. He knows that if he starves you for intimacy, you'll be happy to have him back if he chooses to manipulate you with it the next time. He is gaslighting you, telling you that you'll never be "good" and so he can decide to cut you off whenever he wants. I had a boyfriend like this in my early days of dating, and he continued to manipu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 02:41 AM
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I discovered a new thing that I'm loving a little while ago. Yin yoga. It's a more slow and meditative practice than other types of yoga and is highly restorative. It's great after hiking or other strenuous activity.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 02:31 AM
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> I just feel like I can't make mistakes. That I'm always expected to be on top of my game whereas if he doesn't do things I ask of him he goes days and days without doing it. This hits home for me, and I'll let you know a little about how I've mitigated it a bit (but it's still a work in progress for my own marriage). The biggest fight we had this year came about because I put a wrong address into Uber and we were way off course on a vacation. Then I felt like I had to navigate and find everyth…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 04:30 AM
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It's just weird to openly ask for sex. Normally we don't need to worry about timing or anything, is what I mean. For those who don't know, TTC means that you have to concentrate sex in fertile times and that means more communication about ovulation and timing than we are currently used to.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 03:27 AM
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Identitarianism can be a hell of a drug. Watch out for people who throw around labels.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 01:28 PM
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This might be controversial, but oh well. I'm attracted to women as well as men and also able to have a relationship with consenting multiple partners at once ("polyamorous"). However, I choose to have been in a monogamous heterosexual relationship with my husband for seven years. I will always be with him and always be faithful to him. I take my marriage vows seriously and I knew full well what I was choosing when I made them. I don' know what dating is like anymore, because I have not been dat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:03 AM
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Oh, yes. In college, I had a two relationships before settling in for a long-term, serious relationship. I was 19, and he was 24 when we started dating. We talked marriage and kids, but it became very clear that we were incredibly different people. He developed a drinking/weed problem and I became highly depressed by the prospect of life together (he wouldn't do ANYTHING, not finding a job, not working out, nothing). I was fully indoctrinated with a certain kind of feminism and I felt I had to d…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:25 AM
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So important to learn to say, "Sorry, I can't" as Laura Doyle suggests. It really helps.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 02:44 AM
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You know those rough gloves that you can use for exfoliation? They are perfect from scrubbing the shower with. You can put a little dish soap on them and scrub the walls and any metal/glass in the shower area. The roughness removes the scrum but because they are meant for human bodies they aren't so rough they damage the surfaces.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 01:42 AM
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See, that sounds like perfectionsim if I did it....
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 03:44 AM
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I don't know if you need to hear this, but I found that getting a religious/spiritual practice helped me immensely. There are going to be times when your boat is so small, and the ocean of life so big. You aren't meant to do it alone. I struggle with mental health and can't afford therapy at the moment, either. But I'm better than I have been in years and when I feel helpless, I have things that I can *do* to help me both in the moment and long-term. For me, it's an eclectic mix of Buddhist, Cat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 03:39 AM
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Do you have any uh, "catchphrases" about this type of issue? I really liked the "Ouch" phrasing in First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors. Maybe "oops?" haha.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 04:15 AM
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Hot shower in the morning and at night (very quick, as I wash my hair 1-2 times per week so it's just for body cleansing). If anyone has ever tried it, Gongfu Cha (chinese-style tea-making) has really made my life better. It seems like a lot of faf at the start but it is relaxing and wonderful after a short time of practice. Sensory stimulation and tea! What's better?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 02:09 PM
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Definitely don't name-call. If it bothers you that he did that, choose a reasonable time when you are not actively upset to talk to him about it. But ask yourself first, is it really a big deal? Prioritize a happy married life (as you say you want to do) by picking your battles. You said you aren't working at the moment, right? Then at this time your job is house worker. That's all.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:01 AM
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Maybe I didn't make it clear from the post, but I am not mothering my husband. I am not being a "carer," so much as doing caring things in my role and capacity. I don't do everything for him. Forgive me, but I thought being the primary housework doer was part of RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 05:10 AM
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This is part of being a wife. You have to find ways to make it work for you, but understand that this is what you signed up for in marriage (not unreasonable mess and no help in the house, but the long-established dynamic of women doing the lion's share of housework). You have to find ways of making it efficient and support him by not being lazy when you aren't working outside the home. It's not often talked about, but many women take time to do their own hobbies and play on their phones or watc…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 04:42 AM
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In some cultures it is traditional to mourn a lost child (miscarriage or stillborn) with a statue or a birthday ritual. Look into these and take care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:55 AM
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Everyone gets lonely. Being an adult is loneliness. The key is to find ways to connect with others and to make life worth living by not settling and getting dusty in the brain.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 03:08 AM
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I really wish he'd go back to being polite like that. This is where your attitude has to adjust. It is never going to happen that way. You can't go back to the beginning of the relationship in terms of anything (and really you shouldn't want to after all the time and experience together!). If you want to live with another person, you have to learn to truly compromise. This may mean giving up attitudes and ideas that you hold dear. I've had to give up thinking that my husband will pick up more ar…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 02:57 PM
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This might sound a bit harsh, but you may find yourself doing all the dishes and all the laundry for the time being (or forever). My husband doesn't do much around the house in terms of chores. He grew up with parents who were too busy to keep house and his standards of "clean" versus my own are very different. When we moved in together, I noticed that I was buying all the groceries, making all the food, and doing all the dishes for us. I got a lot of messages from my culture and society that me…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 04:32 AM
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It's up to you in terms of what might be meaningful for you. You could write him an honest letter and then (safely) burn it. You could put out some salt in a bowl and eat a tiny bit every day, saying a mantra to yourself when you do so ("I'm free of worry about my breakup" or "I'm moving forward to my best life" or something positive like that). You could call on religious figures like saints or gods to help you out, if you feel like using religious belief might help. A saint's novena is a nine-…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 11:35 PM
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Have you considered doing a ritual to mark the end of that and the start of a new chapter in your life? It's not always talked about, but being spiritually in touch with yourself might help. I went through a terrible breakup in my early twenties and had to eventually ritualistically remove him from my life because of similar issues to what you describe here. There are some things that need ritual to help them pass, in my opinion. Why not look into that?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 04:12 AM
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Better if it can be a male friend/family member, too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 04:42 AM
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My husband doesn't care about sexy clothes. He always says that they all just come off, anyway :) ​ ​
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 11:23 AM
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Hahaha can so relate
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/18 06:38 PM
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You should not have spent this long in these situations in the first place. You have a chance to cut it out, and do it now.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 11:38 AM
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Oh, friend. Me as well. I was feeling sad for no reason this week, and started this whole long drawn out emotional blurghhhhhh-fest while we were working together in the outdoors (something we love to do). Tears and the works. Over nothing. Kitchen-sinking it, bringing up an argument from a month ago. After all that, and much patience on my husband's part, I go inside and discover that I'm a hormonal mess because my period was starting right then. SO embarrassing to have it all come down to horm…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 09:22 PM
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Came here to ask this!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/18 09:51 PM
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I appreciate your clarification, but I didn't like the "your Asian couple" above. She is from Asia, he is not, and the only reason I mentioned it at all is that he hurls racist insults at her as well as the other stuff. I'm not trying to prove some point here, in all honesty. I don't get the hostility.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:37 AM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 08:09 PM
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Like I emphasised, we are looking for greener pastures.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 07:28 PM
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Has he ever used the kind of language that I wrote about above to you? Just out of curiosity.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:07 PM
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Still, she says that she often counsels women to stay in verbally abusive relationships, right? You misunderstood the "asian" aspect of this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:05 PM
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This is a great perspective. I really appreciate that Christianity view.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:04 PM
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Laura Doyle says specifically that the categories are: 1) Physical abuse (sexual abuse included) 2) Physical abuse to children 3) Addiction to substances (not porn, phones, or video games) Those are the ones she says you need to get out of, but I personally am having a hard time reconciling RPW values with a system that allows for emotional, psychological, and/or verbal abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:03 PM
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That's a very nuanced response. Why in the end did you leave, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:01 PM
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It sounds like he is not RP, but just abusive. Yes, while it is possible that behind close doors she could be terrible and bitchy, but that level of public abuse is rarely warranted. A RP man wouldn't let his emotions get carried away like that in public, and especially to a figure that is behaving so helplessly. He is openly avowed to the Red Pill way of life, using it by name to describe his ideal relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 04:05 PM
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You can clean almost anything in your house with baking soda, vinegar, and dish soap. I find Dial especially useful for scrubbing the inside of the toilet bowl. Glass shower? Dip a sponge in baking soda and rinse with vinegar. Also, holy crap do Brillo scrubbers with on faucets and metal. I was addicted immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 07:22 PM
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Yeah, he realised that this was a shit move. He apologized and we're moving on.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 04:12 PM
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Not really. We aren't in fabulous shape either of us. Neither is more fit, we just have different abilities as others have said in this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 04:11 PM
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I don't know what the cards are really saying some of the time. I definitely suggest you should look up the cards and interpret for yourself too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 07:00 PM
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I asked if you've already met him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:52 PM
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Thanks for waiting. Here's my draw: Will you get married in 2019? : 3 hearts Are you wasting your time?: 8 diamonds My interpretation: Yes, you may get married next year. It is time to have some fun! You need to focus on the practical details of planning a wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:23 PM
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Thanks for participating! I drew the queen of diamonds. That's usually a Yes! You need to watch out for practical matters, however.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:20 PM
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Thanks so much for waiting. I drew four cards for you. Unconscious lesson from the first six months of 2018: 6 Wands What should your goals include this half of the year: Three of Swords, reversed What challenges your goals (obstacle): 9 pentacles If you work hard, what is the outcome at the end of 2018?: The Lovers, reversed My interpretation: You put a lot of work into the first six months. It was difficult, but you are really starting to see the progress. You may be receiving praise for your …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 05:19 PM
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Thanks for waiting. Here's my draw. Man 1: Chariot reversed Man 2: The world, reversed Possibility of Man 3: The Hierophant, reversed. My interpretation: The situation with Man 1 might have you feeling like you are a passive observer. Alternatively, he might be a slightly aggressive alpha-leaning man and you're not sure if you can keep up with his pace. Conflict over who dominates who is indicated. Man 2 may present a situation without closure, or an incomplete process. You may be feeling as if …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 04:59 PM
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I don't do predictions of when something will happen so much as what you might expect in the next six months. Here's what I drew (I did cartomancy for these ones). Next six months: 7 clubs Moving abroad: Queen spades My interpretation: You will have a good six months, especially in terms of money. Watch out for someone of the opposite sex bothering you or causing trouble when you move (ex?). The move will be positive for your love life overall, but you may go through a period of "widowhood" firs…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 04:54 PM
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Thanks for participating. Here's what I see. I drew the a situation, action, outcome spread. Situation: Reversed 7 Pentacles Action: 6 pentacles Outcome: 9 cups My interpretation: You have put a lot of work into yourself and the relationship. At the moment, you're feeling like you're not seeing the rewards of this hard work. In this situation, the cards seem to advise you to be patient, and be charitable to your partner especially. Give the labour you're putting into the relationship from a grat…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 04:47 PM
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I don't sorry! It's been very busy!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 04:37 PM
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This is probably the root of the issue. He needs more male time. Thanks for all the insights!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 07:23 PM
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I don't quite know, to be honest. That's the interpretation of the card. It's a little hard to situate. Do you feel like you are giving in the relationship, or receiving?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:41 PM
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I drew cartomancy (playing) cards for you. Is there a future with him? -- Yes, especially if he is connected to your career in some way. Advice -- Take time to recover and recuperate from whatever may have been draining you lately. Self-care above all! Then you will be ready for this relationship. Hope that resonates.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:39 PM
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Thanks for participating again! I don't do strict timelines, but I can ask about the next six months. What should you know about your next relationship? -- I drew the ten of pentacles, reversed. This is not a particularly happy card. It indicates rejecting traditions, lacking them, or having issues with your family or ancestors. You may need to create your own traditions/roles to make it work. It also indicates exile. What can you expect in the next 1-3 months? -- There is a warning here for you…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:37 PM
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Thank you for participating. I drew the Four of Clubs, which indicates a possible yes. However, there may be something you need to recover from first. Hope that resonates!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:28 PM
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Thanks for participating. Does he feel the same? -- Yes, you know the truth. Advice -- Focus on contentment, creating a great family home, and making him happy. Now is a great time to fulfill your wishes. Hope that resonates.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:25 PM
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Thanks for participating. What's in store? -- Not a great card to draw, the five of hearts. It usually indicates loss, despair, or grief. I feel it is important not to sugarcoat what I draw. There is always a sense of possibility with this card, including the fact that in the Tarot it has three overturned cups and two not. That means there are at least two lessons to salvage from whatever negativity comes your way. Do you have a chance? -- Maybe. You have to convince him! Hope that resonates!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:22 PM
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Thanks for participating. Here's what I have. Is it to do with this recent heartbreak? -- Yes, it is. However, you need to consider the needs of the new guy. What's in store for you and that new guy? -- This was an encouraging card. It seems that the man is a self-made, jolly, dude who wants to make you happy. There is a strong sense that this is a smart choice for a stable family life. Hope that makes sense. (Cartomancy draw: Queen of hearts, king of diamonds)
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:18 PM
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Thanks for participating. I drew the 6 and the 9 of diamonds. Have you met your soulmate yet? -- This cards is indecisive, sorry. It can be a yes if you are giving, or a no if you are receiving. It's best for you to interpret that one on your own. :) Who is he? -- He is an independent, self-made man with many resources. He is on the upswing in material means. Hope that makes sense!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:14 PM
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Nope.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 12:28 PM
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It's not about the ankles.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 08:29 PM
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Like I said, anyone can have a bad day. He was grumpy but it was also annoying to him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 08:29 PM
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Bigger people tend to move slower.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 08:28 PM
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There's a reason why different body types are suited best to some sports. I'll never be a top jockey, for instance. I'm not overweight and I'm reasonably fit, but I could be faster.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 07:48 PM
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The worst is when I need a short break and he stops ahead of me, then when I catch up immediately goes ahead! It's almost cute how infuriating it is.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 07:14 PM
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Definitely makes sense especially the last part.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:48 PM
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These are great suggestions.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:47 PM
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I'm also giant (6'1") so I probably have a disadvantage in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:46 PM
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These are exactly what I was looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:45 PM
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Most of the time he is very understanding. He was having a bad day maybe.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:43 PM
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Watch out for a returning cycle, then!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 06:44 PM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew two interesting cards. What's in store(1-3 months): Five of Wands, reversed What step to take: Seven of Swords , reversed My interpretation: There may a fair bit of petty conflict, hassle, and unhealthy competitive feelings in the love department. The five of wands reversed often also indicates boredom in a relationship, and a need to rekindle things. The advice from the cards to do this is interesting, indeed. According to the reversed 7 of wands, you need to face the…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:53 PM
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Thank you so much for getting in contact. I actually was inspired to start reading because I saw how great the Tarot Tuesday posts went.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:45 PM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew the four of wands, reversed. This might indicate that your home life is difficult at the moment due to conflict and missed communication opportunities. You may need to work on expressing yourself in a way that does not demand something outright of the person, especially to your partner. Be vulnerable, but don't make it seem like it's their fault you feel bad.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:43 PM
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Thanks for waiting. Here is what I saw. I drew a cartomancy card for you. The queen of hearts. This indicates yes, but be sensitive to the needs of other people. Maybe you move in with a roommate, too, and need to respect their space?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:41 PM
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Sorry, the mods asked me to keep it on relationship questions. Does your career directly relate?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:26 PM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew: Past: 9 wands, reversed Present: 7 swords, reversed Next six months: 7 of wands, reversed My interpretation: You may have been feeling like you were approaching burnout in the last few weeks. This might come from many reasons, but buckle down on self-care and make sure that you rest enough. There is only a short while to go until you can turn a new leaf, and move in the directions of your desires. You want to change your love life, and you have a spark inside you that…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 07:36 PM
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It seems to me that both option 1 and 3 were positive. You just have to make the decision and commit to it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 07:23 PM
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I'm sorry. I don't think it's a good thing to ignore something in the cards that's negative or ambivalent. But that's also why I put the cards on there, so you can interpret for yourself. Maybe you'll find a making I didn't.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 07:22 PM
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I drew the four of hearts with my cartomancy deck. This card indicates no, you are not in the right emotional state. Check in with yourself and see if you can be truly honest about why you feel how you do. Is there a possibility that you feel too much in too short a time? Hope that makes some sense! Sorry, sent it to myself instead of you. Whoops!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:03 PM
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I drew the four of hearts with my cartomancy deck. This card indicates no, you are not in the right emotional state. Check in with yourself and see if you can be truly honest about why you feel how you do. Is there a possibility that you feel too much in too short a time? Hope that makes some sense!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:03 PM
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Thank you for waiting. I drew: Option 1 (relationship): Knight Pentacles Option 2 ( just friends): 2 of swords, reversed Option 3 (no further relationship of any kind) : 2 wands My interpretation: I looked into three choices, and there are interesting results. The first choice, to pursue a romantic relationship, got the Knight of pentacles. This indicates having good energy to make this a reality. You have a lot going for you if you choose to pursue it. To just be friends, the card seems to indi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:01 PM
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Haha, great! So it's telling you to be your wonderful self!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:40 PM
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Yes, you should end it, but it won't go quietly into the night possibly. You know when a breakup clings on for a while? Be careful to set good boundaries (also remember never to make major life decisions based on a tarot reading).
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:39 PM
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Ok, thanks. I saw "men" above and thought it was more than one! I'll get right back to you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:52 AM
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Can I clarify whether there is one or more that you are dating?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:44 AM
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Actually, I'm new! Thanks for waiting. I drew: Is it growing in the right Direction: Ace of diamonds Good relationship?: 8 of spades My interpretation: The ace indicates a "yes" and that all is in your favour. The other card is about how the relationship will go overall, and may mean that there may be some illusions about power and authority within the two of you. Does either person perhaps feel trapped or powerless? This is not true, because both have power to make the relationship work well as…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:44 AM
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Thank you for waiting. I drew cartomancy cards for you. Will it improve? - the 8 of spades is a little bit annoying, because it means either "no" or "yes." The indication is that you have the power, through effort, to change the relationship and improve it. If you don't try hard enough, improvement is unlikely. Advice: The 2 of clubs is a card that indicates planning and preparation. Reading the Surrendered Wife is a great start. How else can you plan ahead to make your part of the relationship …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:39 AM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew: 4 of cups, reversed. My interpretation: You may either be experiencing too much emotion (feeling burned out) or too little. There needs to be balance and you need to engage with the real life emotions that play into day to day living. If you are going on vacation soon, make sure that you don't use it as a way to escape the realities of 'normal' life. You need a break, and when your break is done you need to find emotionally supportive people in your life. Basically, t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:10 AM
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Thank you for waiting. I drew: DO: 2 of cups AVOID: The Chariot My interpretation: Make sure that you lean into your relationship and rely on the union you have together (assuming you are in a relationship). This indicates marriage, partnership, and working together toward a common goal. Make sure that you are not over-thinking your own contributions nor relying too much on yourself. Avoid trying to take the reins too much! You need to remember that having two drivers in one car is a pain in the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:05 AM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew Relationship: ten of cups Future: the Empress My interpretation: As long as you are following good practices for relationships, you should be able to have an amazing home life and fulfilling love. The 10 of cups is a really good card for a serious relationship. Be a little bit careful that you do not make yourself sad about not having a perfect, "happily ever after" all the time, however. You need to appreciate the amazing things you DO have together. Avoid comparing y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:01 AM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew a cartomancy card (playing card) for this one. the jack of spades. This card means Yes, and that you should be single-minded about your goal. Get down to business often, hahaha! :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:56 AM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew: Past: 9 swords, reversed Present: The Tower Future: Queen of wands My interpretation: The 9 of swords is a card that may indicate getting worked up over things that don't actually matter in the real world. You may have been feeling as if molehills were mountains, or getting into a negative spiral quickly without considering how much control you in fact have over your emotions. The Tower is a card of sudden upheaval and removal of pride, a humbling of ourselves before …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:54 AM
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Thanks for waiting. I drew: Situation: The Empress Action: The Magician Outcome: Ten of Swords My interpretation: You are currently at a stage where fertility or nurturing tendencies are important to you. This might make you more vulnerable, which can be a good thing when done correctly. If you use your willpower and choose the direction you want to go in, it's for the better. The last card is something negative, though. Tens indicate finality or completion, and the ten of swords indicates "rock…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:49 AM
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I used my cartomancy deck for this one, since it's more or less a Yes/No question. I drew the Jack of diamonds, which indicates a "Yes!" but with the warning that it will be hard work.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:44 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. It is nice to see the cards helping someone out!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:41 AM
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Thank you for waiting. Here's what I drew: The 10 of Wands: This card usually indicates that you've been working very hard, and that you may be feeling overburdened by the work. 10s are associated with completion and fulfillment, but in this case you want to avoid trying too hard. If you are currently trying to conceive, relaxation can help a lot. Hope that helps!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:34 AM
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Here's what I saw. I drew a cartomancy card (playing card) for the question. It said no, you need to do more. To find out what more you should do to help your husband 'come into himself,' I drew the five of Wands. Normally, this card means something along the lines of rivalry or conflict. It's a struggle for dominance in the relationship, which might seem weird given that you are here on RPW. The warning from the card is to make sure you don't hold onto an idea just for the sake of being 'right.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 08:49 PM
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Thanks for playing. Here's what I drew: do= the devil. Avoid= the wheel of fortune My interpretation: The Devil card is sometimes an indication that a little sin is just what you need. You should find some sensual pleasures to enjoy together. Have some fun! The thing you should avoid is losing control of yourself in the face of changing circumstances. Be wary of being resentful, since your luck may change soon. Hope that helps!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 08:44 PM
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Here's what I drew, so you can look it up for yourself. Situation: Five pentacles, reversed Action: Knight cups, reversed Outcome: six pentacles, reversed My interpretation: In the recent past, You've felt lacking in resources or skills. The reversed card indicates that this time of difficulty may be drawing to a close. However, you should avoid being ruled by emotions. Let rational thought guide you toward your next relationship (by vetting more, or by sober consideration of choices. If you do …
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 08:28 PM
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I would keep things open ended. The answers tend to work that way.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 07:45 PM
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Suppose you don't have the income for this?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 07:38 PM
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Is Jordan Peterson even actually RP? I listened to a lot of his recent interviews and I am not convinced. He seems to be a contrarian above all else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 08:57 PM
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Whhhhhhaaaaaaattttt...... This is obviously a big part of the issues.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 06:54 AM
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I’m assertive, have a masculine personality, insist on splitting bills, am rational, ambitious, call a spade a spade and have no time for flattery or beating about the bush. Blunt to a fault. This is not the woman men want. Ok, you've identified a problem. Use your smart brain to start building new skills that replace the ones you decided you don't like. Although 28 is late, you don't want to have kids. That particular pressure is therefore off. Life is (probably) long, and you can start changin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 12:40 PM
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Yes! This is the solution.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 12:49 PM
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I'm not here for a debate. There's a sub for that already.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 04:03 PM
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Yes, this is really what men expect. Especially once married. I really wish that I had never been told things "should" be equal in this regard. I have different standards to my husband in terms of cleanliness. I used to get angry and fight and try to draw up chore lists. What a waste of time! I work more hours than my husband (same job), clean, cook, and have a part-time job. When we have children, I'll probably do a lot of the childrearing too. This is something that I've accepted. Is it more i…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 03:25 PM
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Ok, I was you ten years ago. So listen up. Don't give into the third wave feminist narrative. Don't slut it up. Don't try out nonmonogamy. Don't get involved with multiple men. Don't go out too much. But most importantly, don't get involved with a group of women who doesn't value themselves. These women will drag you down. All these feelings you are having are difficult, but believe me when I say I wish I'd just kept being a "saint" and never had my own wild years. I won't go through all the iss…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:26 AM
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In an LTR, it's nice to have things that are "just ours." I'm married, and my husband is the only one who ever sees me without makeup. I don't wear a ton (his request) normally, but I definitely wear it outside the house always. It's a bonding thing for us, because we have our time where we're just together and no one else is included. Maybe think of this in that way? Once you've shown you're worth the commitment, your man may appreciate the vulnerable "just ours" moments like when you're ready …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 10:37 AM
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I would caution against using any one biological factor as THE causative one, given how confusing biology is generally and specifically how complex human biology appears to be.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 04:23 AM
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Yes, age definitely does have to do with it. Some men, who I would not recommend commitment to, DO bin women once they reach a certain age. A major component for any RPW should be an understanding that she needs to retain value to her man regardless of her age. This will inevitably shift to housework, child-rearing, and non-nagging as time goes on and looks change. A woman who does not work to retain her value is destined to lose a high-value man due to nothing but her age.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 04:09 AM
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Falafel. Don't make it into something too intense. Mash some chickpeas. Mix with a bit of flour and cumin. Fry lightly. Boom.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 03:59 PM
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I don't mean to seed doubt, but why can he not see you more than 2-3 times a month? Back in my non-RPW days, this situation often meant I was not the only woman in his life. At the time, that didn't bother me. But if you know what's good for you, and you want marriage and kids, this weighs obviously not be acceptable. If a man wants to commit, he will. Period. If he's only around sometimes and being wishy washy about meeting up (even with the excuse of being a busy doctor), I have a bad feeling …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:27 AM
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This is actually a huge issue for many people in China and other parts of Asia.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:12 AM
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What about henna?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 11:02 AM
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Never official. That's all you need to know. If he was interested in a relationship, you'd have been. Move on. Improve yourself. Vet hard.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 11:54 AM
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Seeing how things are in the developing world/the past gives huge perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 12:41 PM
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Intersectionality taken way way way you they too far. I'm white, and to many in the feminist community I cannot be feminist due to the wholly unchosen colour of my skin. Got reduced to tears from horrible people online for a couple years when I identified as feminist. It was dumb.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 12:40 PM
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Far too many GIFs. I gave up.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 12:35 PM
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Not to bring her up again, but I found Laura Doyle's stuff great for this: She said that early in her marriage she felt her husband didn't give her a choice about housework. She got resentful, getting he expected her to do things and not him. It turned out they have different ideas about cleanliness. She stopped doing dishes, and realised that he would do them on his own schedule. The realisation was that he is capable of doing dishes and chooses to do them when he thinks it is necessary. I inco…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 04:36 PM
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Came here to say this. She lists the reasons to leave a relationship early on and addiction is one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/18 04:59 AM
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Ever since I started experimenting with RPW life, things are different in our relationship. I used to nag and bore him, or demand things. Although I'm certainly not perfect about it, I'm way better able to just STFU at times when further discussion is unproductive or irritating. We have a very egalitarian model for how we relate, but since I opened up about wanting him to take the lead sometimes he'll occasionally pulls rank. He'll half jokingly say, "You need to do XYZ. I'm the boss, and I say …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/18 01:04 PM
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Did you know that people have scanned whole recipes books into the internet, for free, from the past? I love the recipes from the 1930s, which are frugal and tasty. There are several which are specially made for young wives with little cooking experience. I've us called 1000 Ways to Please a Husband. Do you have Pinterest? I can send a collection I found online if you're interested. EDIT: I decided to include a link.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/18 12:40 AM
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Yes! I felt that could way, too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 12:55 AM
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For what it's worth, I think it should be free for you to get the medication you need.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 12:53 AM
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Sorry, it's been too busy to respond in a way that will make sense. I'll try to do so later
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 12:51 AM
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I used to say exactly that. However, it's clear that the term has gotten away from the more reasonable voices and simply does not mean what it once did. There's other stuff about "liberated"sexuality and stuff that is problematic to me now, too. Women and men should have rights, but women and men are not the same and telling little girls that they can do anything a man does is incorrect.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/18 06:27 AM
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I identified as a feminist in fourth grade. But it doesn't seem that women who are feminist now use the label appropriately. I want universal maternity leave. I want birth control to be free at point of sale. I want to live in a respectful relationship with a man who doesn't see me as a slave or a mother. My issue is with intersectional feminism and other problematic parts of modern feminisms.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 02:30 PM
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No kidding. I'm a white woman, which automatically made me a target for some in the feminist movement. I used to identify and Feminist on Twitter and my blog, but I stopped using the label because I got sick of people saying I couldn't be feeling better due to where I come from/my race. It was amazing how hurtful I found their words. It's totally a "who's more oppressed" contest a lot of the time. I can't argue about intersectional feminism; women of other backgrounds genuinely are more likely t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 02:26 PM
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Look, we have a difference of opinion. Also, you appear to be wilfully uninformed and/or trolling.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 11:09 AM
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Wow, interesting. Could you tell us more?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 11:06 AM
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A society where more than 25% of girls may before 18 (the legal age), where there are 888 girls both for every 1000 boys in Rajasthan, and where murders for dowry (still regularly required) are fairly common. India isn't as bad as it once was, but it was eye-opening because Western feminists act like their lives are so horrible. What I saw in India ( and through living in other parts of the developing world) really changed my perspective. If you think women have it great in India, ok. I don't. E…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 08:26 AM
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Social change, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 08:22 AM
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To add to what others have said, definitely self-care. Sounds counterintuitive, but he'll really appreciate it if you take care of you and don't completely rely on him for all needs. This includes feminine activities like doing your hair and dressing cute as well as taking care of your health.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 06:42 AM
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I feel you. I struggle with this and we don't yet have children! One of the things I do is watch old 'public service' videos on Youtube. From the 1930s-1960s. This helps me to settle my mind when it comes to how marriage was expected to be in the past and how I can act to encourage my own to be strong. Obviously some of the things are ridiculous, but I really like the matter-of-fact presentation in the old videos. Here are a couple that make me encouraged. What I love the most is how the narrato…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 04:36 PM
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You can cultivate an attitude of gratefulness that you have a good man, and you can create an attitude of respect for your husband. No one is perfect. You will not find a better man than this one. Imagine how much harder you would work on yourself and your marriage if divorce were not an option. That's what I mean by imagine what your great-grandmother would do. I suspect that you are not being fully forthcoming in your posts.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 05:03 AM
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Yikes I don't even know where to start. Two main observations: You seem to blame your husband for everything, and have very little understanding of what you have done to contribute to this situation. I thought this was one of the main questions to address before posting here for relationship advice (mods?). Your husband is good looking, earns a lot, and is sweet on you. You have a very good man, and you shouldn't read shit like that article to convince yourself that something is wrong. Ask yours…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 04:29 AM
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I am married and we lived together beforehand. It wasn't a choice at first; his apartment through his job was finished with it's one year contract and we still had a month in country before I could leave (we live and work abroad). It was the right time anyway, and I'd flip your questions about it around to say that marriage is not a Band-Aid that will save you if it just isn't right to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 06:19 AM
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I was a much more committed one. I don't really know where I fit now.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 11:02 AM
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This was originally why I started not shaving. Shame on me, I know. It was back in my days of being a feminist.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 04:06 AM
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Thankss!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 11:17 AM
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Just read the first part you suggested and I'd love to be part of the group. If you need any support for the bookclub, let me know.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 10:07 AM
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We wear them most of the time. I have my 'dress' wedding set which are gold an include my engagement ring, and then we both have silicone safe rings to wear when we work with our hands. Husband wears his silicone one at all times due to an old knuckle injury.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 01:53 PM
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Married, but not a mediocre relationship. Since this time last year I've been being much more RPW in my relationship. There have been some stops and starts (mistaking respect and submission for agreeing with him at all times, annoying him by saying, "sorry" too much, forgetting that doing household things makes me happy overall). I think it's really important to frame things in terms of choice. I choose to serve my husband. I choose to serve his needs. I choose to keep the house clean when I als…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 03:05 PM
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This is a great post. I don't get the hate. Surely this man fulfills a lot of what RPW are looking for?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 12:17 PM
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We need the money, though. sigh Usual problems, I suppose. Thanks for the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 04:52 AM
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We work in the same (teaching) jobs, so I'm finding it hard not to bring home the stress. What are ways not to do that?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 12:45 AM
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What is the biggest thing I can improve in my own self to build intimacy in my marriage? EDIT: I'm married for almost 3 years, living abroad and somewhat isolated. Want children soon, but so far it's a little tough to picture when that will happen. Feeling depression creeping in, and work is tough (teacher in a big, low-income primary school). Don't know if more information helps! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 03:42 PM
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He's a newish manager in a stressful situation, and the answers are in order: Sometimes. It's mostly about him having specific ways he wants thing done. We also work with teenaged volunteers who need significant guidance for all tasks. Treats everyone mostly respectfully, but is a know-it-all. Treats DH well, but doesn't really interact with him much. No history to speak of in terms of grinding people down. Don't know if people notice this. No HR, but there are two managers above him to whom I c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 03:07 PM
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It's not abusive. I just wanted a way to confront without confronting, you know? As in, confront without causing conflict.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 03:03 PM
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Totally different situation in a different country, work wise. I mostly meant how to be feminine and polite while conveying the confrontation. Or something.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 09:29 PM
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Yup, basically me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 09:21 PM
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Me too! I'm a world-travelling former(?) feminist who supports Planned Parenthood and is moving toward RP ideas. I've read Laura Doyle's 'First Kill All the Marriage Counselors' and applied it to my marriage, with unexpectedly amazing results. RPW has given me a space to say things that would be too controversial to talk about where I'm from. I don't agree with everything on here, but every goddamned time I try something out that I read here it fucking works. Thank you, ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:00 AM
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I love that! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 11:01 PM
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