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Nope, I'm not conservative and agree with abortion access. I also believe that if a man wants an abortion and the woman does not, then the woman should legally be required to reqlinquish her right to child support. She should have to sign off on it when she signs the birth certificate. At the same time, the whole issue could be solved by just not having sex with someone you don't trust. Guys need to up their vetting game if they want yo avoid this. They also need to make it clear before they sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:30 PM
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One simple way to fix all of this: Make sure she's someone you want to marry and have kids with before you stick your d*ck in her. Easy. Problem solved. There's no way a woman can baby trap you if you aren't having intercourse with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:15 PM
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No, they all had horrible finances. I'm telling you. I didn't feel like I could do any better and was in "love" so I put up with bottom of the barrel. So many women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:08 PM
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Thanks, after reading all of this I realize I need to have a talk with him about all of this. The bottom line is that it bugs me that he couldn't trust me and felt like he had to "test" me like this. I'm just not sure of the best way to bring it up without going on the attack or like I'm making him feel bad. He did give me the green light to tell him if he ever crosses the line or if he's pushing too many of my buttons. However, part of me is like, why even tread so close to the line, and why am…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 07:24 PM
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Thanks, and trust me, there's part of me that feels this way. The other part of me is hesitant to end it (not out of fear. I know I could find someone else), but out of a realization that I was raised in the opposite way to the point of it being destructive and that maybe I could learn a thing or two from him and his family. It's still too soon to tell. I have basically been a complete pushover my whole life. Afraid to speak up, afraid to make waves, just accept the status quo and hope the world…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 06:07 PM
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One was super immature and couldn't keep a job, another was way older, and I allowed him to groom and brainwash me, another had an extreme personality disorder, was abusive and I was too much of a coward to leave, the last one was just completely checked out and had given up on improving his situation (he lived with his parent, didn't have a running car, had two kids and a toxic relationship with tbier mother). I stayed with all of them for way too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:23 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like this has run it's course. Made the same mistake with my last boyfriend. Tried to do everything, and he just sat back and let me do it. The most eye-opening thing for me was watching an interview on Lisa Bilyeu's YouTube channel (definitely check out her stuff) about the power of submission. You have to "let" men chase you and work for you. It's in their nature. They want to feel like they've earned your affection and that you aren't just giving it away to just anyone. Unfort…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 05:13 PM
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Nah, I'm a woman and did the opposite. Settled for bottom of the barrel because I though that was all I could get. Had to get real with myself and realize I was the one f*king up and was to blame for several failed long term relationships with men who had no ability to be competent partners or start a family. I've had to up my game in order to learn how to attract and keep a solid guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:10 PM
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Yeah, the most attractive quality in a man is knowing that he's attracted to me. No bigger turnoff than the whole, cold, aloof, "I'm going to make her wonder if I'm into her" bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:56 AM
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The whole point of being alive is to reproduce and perpetuate the species. Of course, the ideology is going to be motivated by enhancing reproductive strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:51 AM
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I appreciate it. Yeah, I definitely still have my guard up. We've never had a fight or a situation where he was upset with me. He's always been respectful in situations where I made a mistake. He also frequently spontaneously apologizes for stuff after the fact even if I didn't ask for an apology. He's the first guy I've ever met that does that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:26 AM
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Thanks, this is really helpful. Yeah, the ones that hurt more are the ones that trigger my insecurities. To his credit, he did tell me early on that if he's ever pushing my buttons to just tell him. I have a problem in that I am extremely conflict avoidant. I tend to stay quiet even if something upsets me. I told him this early on as well. It's the opposite of how he is, so part of me wonders if he's trying to see how far I can go before I push back. Maybe I just need to start telling him that h…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:23 AM
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Thanks, it's a bit too early to tell, but I think he's the former. I have jabbed back, and he usually laughs back and gives me a wry smile. I actually threw a particularly rough one at him this weekend, and he didn't get upset at all. When I did get upset and tear up the one time, he got really surprised, hugged me, said he felt really bad etc. He definitely didn't belittle me for showing emotion. I'm not sure I enjoy it or not. It's maybe a bit too intense, a bit too early. It feels like stuff …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:10 AM
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I'd say most like being taken care of to some extent, however if you go too far and try to do everything and never let him jump in and fix things every now and again, that can cause issues. I used to struggle with having the impulse to do everything for past BFs and to try to take care of everything myself. That included both traditionally masculine and feminine things. Most men want to feel like they can add value to your life by doing things they are good at. For example, if he's a car guy and…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:56 PM
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Thanks, to my credit, he never asked me to wear them outside the bedroom before I brought it up after noticing him cooling things down a couple of times. I assumed he just liked to play around with them in the bedroom and would tell me to put them on once things heated up. That's what we had been doing for a while, and he seemed happy and wasn't complaining. I actually really liked having him tell me to put them on in the moment and happily obliged every time. He never told me he wanted me to su…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:46 PM
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Agreed, he clearly did not want to be exclusive. He didn't ask to be exclusive or ask her to be his GF, and he deflected when she asked about the status of the relationship and where he saw things going. Not saying her response was ideal, but if he expected exclusivity, why didn't he discuss it with her?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:37 PM
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You didn't do anything wrong by being on bumble. There was no trust to break. You were not exclusive and were not in an official relationship. If he expected exclusivity, he should have asked for it and asked for both of you to delete the apps. He didn't. It sounds like he already had reservations anyways (2 months and no discussion about exclusivity tells me he was keeping his options open and was probably seeing other women), and the bumble thing gave him a convenient excuse to break it off wi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:29 PM
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Kind of a specific question, but I'm 34, get mistaken for my early 20s all the time, and still get carded most places (years of using sunscreen have helped), but I am blonde and about 10% grey. They look like platinum highlights at this point. Told my BF that I don't plan to color it as I age, and he didn't seem to care one way or the other or discourage it. What are everyone's thoughts on dyeing hair? I definitely plan to keep it long past menopause since the classic menopausal pixie cut adds a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 06:21 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate it. Another big thing I didn't mention that's probably playing into it is a pretty significant difference in our socioeconomic backgrounds. I'm solidly middle class from a more liberal county, and his family is on the high end of the upper middle class from a more moderate county. Where he's from, there is a lot of upscale tourism and Michelin star restaurants, etc. People get dressed up to go out for lunch and a walk around town.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 05:27 PM
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No, the majority of women still want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:44 PM
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Or how about moving slow and waiting until the early makeout/mutual matsturbation phase (but before intercourse) to start opening up about sexual preferences together? Let it happen naturally over time rather than giving your date a pre-sex interview. It's not all or nothing. You don't have to actually do PIV in your first sexual encounter. You can do all sorts of erotic things together to assess compatibility before building up to full-on intercourse. That's what most women mean when they say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:39 PM
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I ended up using bumble and met my BF there. It took a lot of filtering and a few bad first dates, but it worked like it was supposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:31 PM
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Yeah, but what if you are attractive to some people but not others? I, for example, have small boobs but am a 9-10 otherwise. I am profoundly unattractive to men that are into big boobs despite the rest of my qualities and would probably be a 2-3 to those guys. Is that my fault? Do I just need to make myself more attractive? No, because then the group of men that like small boobs wouldn't find me attractive anymore. I'd just have the same problem in the opposite direction, not to mention the pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:26 PM
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The problem is much bigger than what you described. Most young women don't even know how to get themselves off and are actively discouraged from learning how. It's not obvious, and so many women are brought up being told not to touch themselves and to completely shut out feelings of arousal. You can't expect women to communicate their needs when they don't even know what they need. The issue starts much earlier with the parents. Age appropriate sex ed that is inclusive of the topic of self pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:13 PM
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The passive aggressive, crying, fit throwing is not a feminine or submissive behavior. It is aggressive and actually a masculine trait. Women tend to do this because we got weird mixed signals about how women should act when we were growing up. We were told to be both masculine and feminine at the same time, and it f*ed a bunch of us up. We got clear signals that we shouldn't hit or punch, but we also got taught that we should stand up for ourselves when threatened, especially by men. So how do …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:17 AM
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What if those 40 dudes are also DMing 40 other women each? It's still 50/50, but because each guy is reaching out to so many women, it just seems like each individual woman is getting a lot of attention. Men tend to be the pursuers, so it makes sense that women would be getting pursued to a high degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:08 AM
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Thanks, this is really helpful. He definitely has an underwear kink. He's mentioned that the porn he likes kind of centers around it. I have my own kinks, so I don't want to kink shame him, I just want to be comfortable all day when I'm with him. Yeah, in some ways, I'm excited to reconnect with my femininity, but there's this little voice that tells me I shouldn't do it solely because of a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:40 AM
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Thanks, yeah, I definitely still have my radar up. One green flag was when I brought up my concerns, and said I noticed he was backing away when I was wearing the normal underwear and it made me feel unattractive, he got super apologetic, hugged me and reassured me he still found me attractive but that the nicer underwear would just help him get and stay in the mood better. When I have been assertive with him about boundaries, he does listen and doesn't raise his voice or belittle me. He will al…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:37 AM
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Thanks! This is really helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:29 AM
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Thanks, he hasn't called it a fetish, but he has said he does watch porn (which I don't have a problem with) and the underwear is a big part of the porn he watches. I want to be respectful since I have my own unusual things I'm into. I definitely don't want to kink shame him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:29 AM
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Thanks! He did say he'd be fine with cotton, but just wanted me in something sexier than what I've been wearing. It's never even something I've had to think about because no guy has ever complained before.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:26 AM
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I just wear the basic cotton Hanes comfort soft bikini underwear. He likes thongs and cheeky panties with lace. I have a hard time with lace or anything that goes up my butt.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 01:11 AM
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Yeah, who wants to tell all the guys on the apps that their unkempt lumberjack beards are a massive turnoff to most women? Just trim your beard for goodness sakes. If that's the only thing you do, you'll have much better luck. Seriously, like 50% of the guys on the apps had horrible, long, scraggly beards. I swiped left on a bunch of potentially compatible guys solely because of the unattractive beards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 11:04 PM
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Pick up any women's dating advice book, read the women's subs, or visit the women's dating advice channels on YT, and you'll see it's the most common problem women face with guys. They like to play an act like they're such a family man, future fake about wanting kids, and then keep refusing to commit or make any concrete plans to progress the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:55 PM
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But then there's all the guys that say they want kids to hook women in. Then they string them along for years, act like man-children, and freak out any time the woman asks about timelines for starting a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:26 PM
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Exactly. Women who want to settle down and have kids don't give two s*hits how big you are as long as you're not too big. Smaller is way better than big enough to need stitches after every sexual encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:17 PM
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Wrong. Women don't have options if they're looking for a long-term relationship leading to marriage and kids. So few guys out there have the personality or skills necessary, and most don't seem to be interested in having families anymore. Makes for very slim pickings. I ran out of guys to swipe on a few times when I was on the apps, and I live in a super populated area.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:10 PM
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If you want kids and a family, advertise the hell out of it on the dating apps. Not enough guys do this. You'll stand out. If you don't want kids/marriage, it's probably going to be a lot more challenging. Women seeking casual hookups are going to be more picky looks wise. Fitness only matters if you want to attract someone who's image conscious and a fitness buff themselves. (When I was on the apps, I actually swiped left on the guys with gym selfies, mentioned the gym, or had 6-packs). I wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:03 PM
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Depends on the situation. Once my mom divorced my dad, she was finally able to get out from under the massive pile of debt he incurred during the marriage. Men can financially screw women just as women can men. Depends on the person. I'm female, not made of money, but have a net worth of around $200k and pull in about $65k a year, so not a lot. Told my BF (who comes from a very wealthy family) that the only way I would consider marriage was with a prenup that we BOTH drafted together. Both parti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 09:31 PM
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Yeah, it's so hard to know what we genuinely want versus what we're being told what we want. I've had to do a lot of un-brainwashing on myself. A lot of the feminist messaging I got growing up was actually extremely misogynistic. It pressured me into denying my natural womanhood and made me feel like I had to act, look and be more like a man and deny my natural inclinations in order to be respected. I'm still doing a lot of work to undo all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:32 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately, I think we've all been brainwashed. Men and women. We're all the result of what society is telling us, and for some reason that's beyond me, they want the educated middle and upper middle class to stop reproducing. Because we have egos and don't want to admit we're being brainwashed, we say things like what you wrote above to try to deal with the cognitive dissonance and feed into the delusion that we will be happier if we focus on our careers. I don't have the data, but I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:12 PM
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Nah, I'm strongly anti-religion and pro-science and an independent. Society is broken because we've denied biology and have prioritized economic gains over the happiness and well-being of the population. There are so many people in their late 30s now who got pressured to wait and are now realizing they got bamboozled. I wonder how much money the fertility industry is pulling in now?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:04 PM
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No, you're right, however I don't think most women actually want to be "career women". We do it because it's what we've been told to do, and now we have no choice. They've brainwashed women into falling into the "your life is your career" trap in order to double the workforce and cteate more wage slaves to make the rich even richer. I wish I had been pressured to have kids young, but all the messaging we got in school scared the s*it out of me when it came to thinking about having kids. And don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:40 PM
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Yeah, you're the exception, not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:57 PM
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Yeah, but the majority of women do want kids. The problem is, when most women are ready, most young men are not. That's why a lot of women either have to resign to being childless but not by choice or they have to date much older men, and the pickings are slim because most older generations had more of a pressure to settle down young.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:55 PM
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Yeah, basically, they're not growing up or taking steps to actually build an adult life. Most guys in my age group that I've dated are just kind of existing and chasing fun experiences with no plan to actually buckle down and start a family. It used to be expected that you buckled down in your late teens/early 20s, got a job, and got a wife. We've lost that societal expectation to settle down, but women have not lost the biological drive to settle down. Most women have an extremely, extremely st…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:36 PM
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I think it's hard for most average guys because they've never been taught how to act. We've lost touch with tradition, and most young men no longer know how to be a gentleman and signal to women that they would make capable fathers. That's really the key to successful dating, show women that you would make a good father. Most women want kids, but there is a shortage of men with the skillset necessary to signal that they would make responsible fathers. You don't have to be rich or insanely attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:21 PM
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Most women serious about starting a family won't have shallow physical preferences. Plenty of 5'0"-5'4" women out there who will be happy you're taller than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:25 PM
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Get on the apps and plaster it all over your profile that you're a family man, want kids/marriage, and ideally want to start a family in the next couple of years. They'll come crawling. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:43 PM
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How about they start dating single older childless women? Lots of them out there looking for fathers for thier future children. Attractive ones too. Oh, but that would require them to grow up and provide for a family, and that's not fun. Less time for video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:56 PM
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