NicoDl Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
19	Dating in Dance Class	Logistics	NicoDl	/r/seduction	11/06/25 10:48 PM

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1	I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information? You could have verified it the same amount of time it took you to write this sentence. Changing how you do things is time expensive hence you're asking a question. Might as do due diligence.	/r/seduction	26/05/26 09:10 PM
1	My city is famous for it's hookup culture and I am 24yo virgin First fix: You need a purpose. You're fixating on the small things. That's a lot of focus on specific heights. Who's looking at what. Dates gone by. Almost like you're living in the past. None of that small fry matters if you're doing or moving towards things you (not anyone else) values. I suggest building competency / income. This makes the next 2 fixes possible. Also, it builds competence. Second fix: Improve your self view To seduce the world, first seduce yourself. Trying to date when you s…	/r/seduction	04/02/26 01:54 PM
27	I want to learn how to flirt with my boss. like subtle, ya know. Not obvious shit that screams flirting. what do i say. She always gives me this look. She gives me this really sexy smily eyes look when she looks at me Before you can seduce the world, first you must seduce yourself. You gotta be solid internally with knowing who you are. Where you're going, where you're from, and what you have matter only as much as they contribute to you having a strong sense of self. From that foundation of self is where flirting just comes out naturally. "Who wants a piece of me? I definitely would. Let's see if she's interested." Shifting your thinking that way makes your world more fun. You engage w the world and folks wi…	/r/seduction	09/09/25 03:57 AM
1	Kudos to all the guys out there meeting women and getting laid & fuck all you jealous bastards that think all success stories are made up! Every so often, i find myself projecting my experience onto others. If I'm in a foul mood, i sometimes wonder how others could trudge on and be cheery as if the world wasn't dreary. I catch myself and realize my slice of space and time might be dreary, but for other people, they might be in a phase and space that they worked on that is truly genuinely happy. The air tastes different, there's a different buzz, and the light hits just right - like a movie montage. Having experienced pockets of hap…	/r/seduction	01/09/25 09:42 PM
1	(ULTIMATE GUIDE) 4 PILLARS OF DATING, if you lack one of these factors then you are ACTIVELY decreasing your results The real tip is the comment section. Not that OPs 4 points are bad. They're fucking good. Purpose isn't fifth. It's the zeroth pillar. The 4 others can only exist only if you go about w purpose: 1 Exposure / Approach - w the loss of 3rd and liminal spaces, most human interactions NEED to be purposeful. You don't have water cooler interactions or shared meals in dining halls anymore. Actively choosing the less efficient or convenient way to work or exercise just cause it's more fun is purposeful …	/r/seduction	30/08/25 11:57 PM
36	Most of the girls have bf It's actually intuitive when you think about it. Most guys nowadays dont take initiative, meaning you have less competition when you take ANY initiative. Rolling advantages nonstop like introducing an apex predator to a new ecosystem. Fucking brilliant!	/r/seduction	30/08/25 06:44 AM
6	How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate? Escalation is one thing but half the problem is logistics. 1) Getting from pt A to B comfortably, in a timely manner, and you can keep the tension through. Cars or close proximity to places help. 2) Having an actual comfortable / interesting point B. Yours or theirs. 3) Having a good theory of mind to not overthink things, not over pressure the lass, and hit points of escalation in conversation and physicality when they do arise (like in guitar hero and the you're in time w the beats) It should …	/r/seduction	22/08/25 10:40 AM
2	First hookup help me please Have you met her yet or have you seen her profile? Sound like one of those of the oldest profession working it on tinder. This raises some red flags depending on what you do want. Be honest that you're only in town on the 26th on. If it doesn't work out for her, you just need to try another day. This is literally like fishing. Some days, the fish are biting. In some, they dont. You dont catch anything if you dont try.	/r/seduction	10/08/25 07:51 AM
8	Can you transform yourself from a man with zero success to a man with many successes? Neuron activation moment be like This is why folks need to dare and get laid. You're in a good place, mate!	/r/seduction	10/08/25 12:20 AM
2	The seeming controversy over first dates being dinner. (Help) Dinner isn't bad and the suggestions here are good. My take is dinner as first dates should be tacked on something else if at all. I usually go with coffee first then second date is "insert event here" + dinner after. The event should be something you really enjoy that she might be interested in. You get to show off your passion and nerdiness while creating mutual experiences to talk about during dinner. I found great luck w museums tours or light showsthen dinner after. Also plenty of opps for …	/r/seduction	09/08/25 07:48 AM
2	Does it makes sens ro go alone in club and approaching there Enjoy your own company, and others will join you - Are you big on music? Feel the music. - If you dance, enjoy the dance. - If you like drinking, savor the flavour. If you don't, change something. The venue, the drink, the dance. All these little things show you value yourself and you should. You're important! The hardest part of seduction is first seducing yourself. Take care of yourself, get your life in order, work on your inner world. You don't need to be perfect, directionality is more impo…	/r/seduction	09/08/25 07:35 AM
2	I did something a bit creepy, and I’m wondering if I can still turn things around. When there's no close connection, always approach from the front or within field of view if from the side. Keep it casual and plausible as... it is casual and plausible. Main thing is you have a reason to be there and if you see her, make sure you're en route to something else (preferabbly one w a time limit to give a sense of exclusivity of your time) While it's creepy from her perspective, you also don't want to over commit more than you're comfy with - your time and experience is just as impo…	/r/seduction	09/08/25 07:27 AM
2	Can you be the prize as a male? Conceptually, you should prize yourself, but you should also prize her. I think the idea of putting the girl on a pedestal above yourself is denigrated in this community. Rightfully, it leads to bad outcomes a lot of the time. If she's on a pedestal, she'll look down on you. If you put yourself on a pedestal and she's below you somehow, you'd just seem like a right assh*le. Negging and presumptiousnes are not paths to a healthy relationships. Placing everyone equally on plain footing sounds grea…	/r/seduction	09/08/25 07:18 AM
57	Is “quiet dominance” a real thing? Tried it and got surprising results If you describe the opposite, you'll find you just described a person you wouldn't want to be around of - high-pitched, fast talking - twitchy movements - talks incessantly and doesn't give gaps for others to talk - directionless conversation Screams anxiety and with how humans mirror others' emotions, who wants to be around someone who gives you anxiety. Excude confidence / calm and you inspire confidence / calm. When you see folks who have their shit together with a, as you say, quiet confiden…	/r/seduction	06/08/25 03:23 PM
1	get with a office girl Actually, yes. Don't be that dude in the office. I used to work with a guy who was proudly sharing in the office how he got chlamydia. That and he got it from one of his three girlfriends. All of whom are chinese international students studying nursing. That and he had to inform his last 50 lovers in the past year of his STI. The story gets progressively weirder. Daniel used to hit on everyone in the office. Made his rounds in the morning, saying hi to everyone, lingering around the girls. He do…	/r/seduction	19/07/25 03:43 PM
2	get with a office girl This is cruel yet fair advice. OP needs to be themself, but not as they are now, but after some refinement. If they're awkward by themself internally, they'll also be awkward externally.	/r/seduction	19/07/25 03:36 PM
1	5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/Teasing I'd say 80%. The other 20% is logistics. Being presentable, having a place / life of your own design is the hard part. When push comes to shove, that 20% takes 80% the effort. When you have logistics sussed in the moment, 80% is flirting. You need to be really good at flirting to get anywhere if you dont have the final 20% sorted.	/r/seduction	29/06/25 09:59 AM
4	Dating in Dance Class Salsa is wayyyy more difficult than bachatta. At least with bachatta, you can lead a complete novice with no worrying about feet movement!	/r/seduction	12/06/25 01:25 AM
1	Dating in Dance Class I read the whole thing, and thank you for sharing. Definitely points to consider, but i guess it is similar to dancing. You learn better the more you do it, and hopefully, you find someone to dance with long term :) That and it's not the end of the world if it breaks but always be communicative and open	/r/seduction	12/06/25 01:23 AM
2	Does a disabled man have a chance? I've met a guy in improv class that works as a web dev. His right hand is congenitally deformed, noticeably smaller and cant hold onto anything. I forget that bit about him and had to actively remember after seeing your post. This guy is known now for his cheekiness, his distance running, and his lifestyle. Oh, and his insane game. Dude just pulls. He mentioned his distance running is a big part of his zen and focus. Don't overthink it. No one cares about your hand more than you.	/r/seduction	07/06/25 02:24 PM
26	Seduction is a lot about inner work. To seduce the world, you must first seduce yourself. You can pump yourself up and put on appearances, but you'd know when you haven't put on the work. When you have put on the work, others will tell you you've done some great effort into it. It's the difference between someone saying they shower and workout daily and yet still smell grungy and flabby. Vs a dude who has style, presence, and clarity of mind - folks actually wanna gravitate around him. There's an air of effortlessness to it. It tak…	/r/seduction	16/02/25 03:12 AM
80	Why do girls i used to talk to like my pictures of me and my current girlfriend? Sometimes, people click like because they liked what they saw. Not in the "oh wow" kinda sense but "cool, next". Don't think too much about it.	/r/seduction	02/02/25 03:53 AM
14	How would you introduce yourself to a potential blind date? Have her feel your face. She might be seeing a world on fire but don't let that stop you. All joking aside, relax. A good "Hi! I'm ______" never fails. Don't surprise them. This usually is seen as a turn off. Be open, friendly, and casual and go from there.	/r/seduction	07/07/15 11:01 AM
6	Simple exercise to boost your voice everyday Have you watched Inside Out? This will help you in powering your wagon the runs on songs!	/r/seduction	02/07/15 07:28 AM
2	How to initiate kino: "Does that bracelet have a story?" So... one of those rings were from you?	/r/seduction	17/02/13 05:05 AM