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Yes. This. and.. learn to cook!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 09:58 PM
1

cooking is the "secret weapon" to upping a woman's RMV This this this this this!!! (Also a man here commenting)
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 09:54 PM
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less obsessed with silly woke ideas like body positivity or sex positivity That's like 97.3% of the headaches removed. Don't downplay this. Sometimes you can spend months and years with a bad woman arguing over this pointless crap. It gets exhausting.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 09:44 PM
1

Well both can be improved and worked upon to some degree .. confidence even moreso than good looks.
/r/seduction24/09/22 05:59 PM
1

Yep. And/or social standing. Both really are connected.
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:12 PM
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100% agree.
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:11 PM
1

Yeah I think if you can, it's better to meet someone and marry them in your 20s tbh. Or at least to get with girls in your 20s if you can. By no means should you wait but if you are the kind of guy that is skeptical of being married early, and your calculus involves things like "omfg she's good enough I am not sure I can do better and I'm getting older.. OMFG I'll be 30 soon and maybe I will never find someone" -- if that is your motivation for settling down, then it is wrong. In that it is like…
/r/seduction01/09/22 05:43 PM
28

Also generally fit men seem stronger and more masculine and more capable. So that adds to the perception as well.
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:22 PM
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They are visual but not necessarily in the exact visceral way that we are. Being fit and healthy and "strong-looking" adds value. And yes some of them are more visual than others. They vary a lot... :)
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:21 PM
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If you're doing this good now.. wait until you get to be over 30. They fall out of the sky (for some men) after that age. I dunno what it is -- I think women just in general are attracted to older men or to men that seem sufficiently aged. If you are doing this good now you will absolutely clean up after 30. Just keep that in mind when weighing out your life plan.. Source: Am over 40 now.. I was doing ok after college and I thought it couldn't get much better. Boy was I wrong. After age 30 it wa…
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:20 PM
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Yeah it's very distorted for sure but some guys do get 1 a week for sure or more if they want to. It's just how it be.
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:17 PM
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More efficient use of your time. You can tell right away if there is interest or not. In the club you may get the illusion of interest (she dances with u) only to waste your time.. and be rejected. Also I personally connect better through words and language than dancing. So it depends …
/r/seduction30/08/22 09:40 PM
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Yes, of course. But rejection at clubs is a slower process and you waste tons of time. Better to get rejected early and often so you can move the fuck on. You can't get rejected all of the time. It's a mathematical impossibility. For every N rejections there will be K non-rejections. The N/K ratio depends largely on your game and attractiveness. But every man has an N/K ratio. It's best to get all the rejections out of the way as quickly as possible rather than waste tons of time on each individ…
/r/seduction30/08/22 01:59 PM
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My personal experience: clubs are incredibly terrible places to pick up girls, paradoxically. Best places are: library, book stores, supermarket. Since you are a uni student a great place is a study hall / library type of situation .. 100% way better than clubs.
/r/seduction30/08/22 01:25 PM
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While women definitely value looks.. they also (in general) value attitude, capability, and confidence. Giving off "I'm fucking hot" vibes is attractive. I think this is what OP meant. You don't need to be a gorgeous movie star to score with women. You need to be slightly less ugly than the devil, and about as confident as him.
/r/seduction28/08/22 09:56 PM
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Sadly it's more true than not. In reality like 5% of the men fuck 95% of the women. When they have success, it's like exponentially more success than the average guy even thinks is possible. It's just.. how it be. I am inclined to believe OP based on the details provided in his message.
/r/seduction28/08/22 09:53 PM
75

Eh, I did it for a time too in my late 20s/early 30s. Some guys just like that lifestyle for a time. It wears off tho and eventually even those guys look for actual real relationships.
/r/seduction28/08/22 09:52 PM
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picked up a super power where I can just read women really well. This. The more experience I got, the more I women I slept with.. I feel has helped me read them much much MUCH better.
/r/seduction28/08/22 09:48 PM
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Jesus man you are already a legend. Keep it up!
/r/seduction26/08/22 01:10 AM
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Eh, it all depends. I don't agree with this assessment. You don't know what was going on in the dude's head or her head. Granted, men need to be proactive and come up with ideas usually but the opposite happens too where men find themselves in "romantic" situations "by accident" as well.
/r/seduction10/06/22 12:03 AM
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Some topics most women find fun to talk about: travel, astrology, and maybe celebrities. At least that usually worked for me back when I was single. YMMV.
/r/seduction09/06/22 11:19 PM
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Generally yes.
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:12 AM
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What man over 30 (or over 40) doesn't absolutely always want to date a younger woman? Sweet spot for women is mid-20's IMHO. Much later and they tend to go crazy if they haven't found stability by then, 90% of the time.
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:11 AM
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Women like sociable men. Some do, some don't. Some are attracted to loners, actually. Quite a few are. Honestly the only generalization that I can make about women is that women are attracted to men they perceive as competent and/or powerful. That doesn't mean they are all gold diggers but women are attracted (in general) to competence and/or power (both are very strongly related). That being said -- even not all women are generalizable to fall into that.
/r/seduction29/05/22 02:42 PM
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Nah -- you DO hang out with her friends. It's how you can estimate what her character is like and what her values are. If her friends are trash and humiliate you that's a sign clear as day she's trouble and to be avoided. If her friends are awesome -- likely she's awesome too. Definitely do meet her friends it's the fastest way you can figure out if you should move on or if she's worth your time.
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:52 PM
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Nah. You need to respect yourself. If a woman pisses you off, and she does that on second date -- I would say life's too short to waste on negative energy. Move on. Respect yourself.
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:50 PM
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How old are y'all? This sounds like something very young people do. I personally at my age would call it off absolutely immediately. She sounds like she doesn't know how to treat a man and it's a huge red flag for my age group. But if you are young and she is young, sounds like something that would happen if you are 18 or 20. Either way tbh it's a red flag even then, to be quite honest. The fact that it bothered you and that she lacks the discipline and empathy towards you to do that speaks volu…
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:48 PM
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Thanks man. Nah I like her plenty. It's just, you know.. hindsight sometimes wears rose-colored glasses.
/r/seduction09/05/22 05:11 AM
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People feel and are very disconnected from one another in modern life. Whether it's by design or by coincidence, I do not know. But I agree, it is .. unfortunate and a tragedy of sorts.
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:09 PM
2

LOL can't tell if being cheeky or if trying to add to the conversation. Are you, in fact a woman?
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:08 PM
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You don't have to be perfect. That's the secret. Just be the best version of yourself you can be.. I know that sounds cliched. But that implies imperfection, since we are all imperfect beings. The right lady has the right set of imperfections to match or complement yours, and compensate for them. You can also compensate for her imperfections as well....
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:06 PM
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^ This.. so much this. Also I would add: avoid women that overly partake in online dating.
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:03 PM
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Online dating is trash. I would personally try and avoid any women that partake in it. Real women avoid that garbage. (Although I admit they may be rarer and rarer nowadays.. they do exist).
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:02 PM
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Try being married. It sucks too for altogether different reasons. Either way we are doomed. Best have fun with dating now tho while you can. Maybe don't take it too seriously. Try random things. Once you are married that all ends.. and you look back fondly at all the dumb shit you did while single and all the dumb thoughts you had back then. So .. enjoy this time!
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:00 PM
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I mean she's literally telling you she's not interested (in you).. so no. It's natural to be turned off. Whenever I hear that I just move on mentally, if not physically.
/r/seduction08/05/22 08:17 AM
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I agree. If they cheat it should 100% be over, especially if you're not even married no kids etc. As you get older you get better at judging people's character so you can eventually develop a crude sort of "cheater" spidey sense. But it takes experience to detect them and it's not exactly always fool-proof either. You just get better at it is all. Also it helps if your own personal values are clearly loyal -- loyal people attract loyal people and cheaters attract other cheaters (usually, but not…
/r/seduction07/05/22 06:32 PM
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This is not really true. Some people, women included, could be extremely incredibly attracted to someone but they will still cheat. You have to weed out the disloyal cheaters from the rest. Detecting them is an important dating skill.
/r/seduction07/05/22 06:10 PM
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Most women love to talk about travel and astrology. Talk about travel, trips you want to take, places you've been, how cool it was, what was bad about it, etc. Ask her where she's been too. If you've both happened to have traveled to the same places you can talk about what you both liked or disliked about it and reminisce about it. That's a good 30 minute conversation right there potentially. One that is memorable and not generic and breaks the ice. Also, if you are into astrology (and she is), …
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:00 AM
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I disagree. Best pickup is when sober or as close to sober as possible. Let her be the drunker one.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:58 AM
2

I always go with "eyy bby. want sum fuk?"
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:58 AM
1

Yeah who knows maybe she had an epiphany moment right there on your couch about her life or some shit. Too bad she couldn't have had that after you got to do the nasty a bit. Meh, screw her. Who knows maybe she does this all the time and she's k00 k00. You have no idea. Been there man. Like I said for every one like that there's another that is down to fuck. People are weird and different from each other, women included.
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:42 PM
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Eh, it happens. Fuck her. I guess she didn't want a 1-night stand or to put out that quick. I dunno. For every one of those there is another that is off with her panties in no time flat. TBH when a woman does what you described this date did, I am hugely turned off and refuse to see her again, because I like people that know what they want and don't overthink things. But that's just me. Some guys like the chase and the buildup like that -- but once you get to the point where you are making out a…
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:26 PM
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I mean some girls just are looking for a potential place to nest.. your place. If it's not got room for her she may bail. I have had this happen when I lived in a tiny place too. When you get a big house or a huge apartment that changes. Then they are likely to bang u even if they hardly know you for the potential sleepover and waking up in your nice place the next day. Women are just wired differently. Of course, not all women are like this -- but if you get a quick hookup like that you are mor…
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:13 PM
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I live in a super small NYC studio. Maybe this? IDK. Women tend to be impressed by wealth and power accumulation and in NYC it's hard to make any reasonable displays of that, given how fucking shitty the living conditions are there unless you are multi-millionaire. Just a theory...
/r/seduction21/04/22 11:57 AM
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Yeah I know where you are coming from. I was in that boat too for years. I found it incredibly hard to escape that. I ended up moving around a lot though, changing cities a number of times.. I even lived in Europe for a number of years. I found the more I moved around and shook things up the better that got for me. But I remember a time when I was in my mid 20s and it seemed absolutely impossible to meet new interesting women. I know that feeling. It feels like life is a dead-end and is hopeless…
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:52 PM
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Do I just give up at this point? She said she wasnt open for it in the beginning and looks like I have failed in changing her mind in the first date. Would it seem admirable that I stil am trying(without being a creep ofc) or do you simpy quit? Yeah give up and move on. She was quite honest. If she changes her mind she'll contact you. I know this seems out of left field but bear with me: Ever watch pigeons court each other? The male (the larger pigeons are always male) chases around the female. …
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:05 PM
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Yep. Because if it was just a normal girl not wanting to show off, she would have been much more sane and polite about it. The harsh over-the-top rejection is the sure-fire sign that poor OP got suckered into being her patsy so she can show off to her friends...
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:07 PM
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Yep. This 100% is the explanation. Guys also do other shitty things when in a group but it usually involves other types of activities.. like getting into fights or whatever it is that young men do when they are out and about and causing trouble...
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:07 PM
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She was probably just trying to get attention and to make herself look "amazing" to her friends. if it were genuinely a case of a mistaken glance or whatever and if she weren't a psycho, she would have been more tactful about it. The fact that she made a scene about it in front of her friends is a sign that she was doing the drama thing to make herself look badass in front of her friends.
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:04 PM
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leaves the guy feeling terrible/guilty or angry Don't get mad at that shit. Girls that do that are playing a game with their friends to make themselves look amazing. It's a narcissist's game. She did you a favor by revealing very quickly what kind of person she is. Just move on and realize there are lots of crazy people in this world. Some of them are even quite attractive. The worst thing you can do for yourself is get attached to a crazy woman. She can ruin your life. So the fact that you so q…
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:03 PM
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^ It's usually this
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:22 PM
1

I think an age gap where you are in your 30s and the lady in question is in her early 20s is ideal. Anybody calling you a creep is in denial about how the world works, and is living in a fantasy land.
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:21 PM
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This could potentially be a shit-test. I wouldn't send a pic of my schlong unless I got something in return. Demand something in return from her -- maybe ask for a vagina pic or have her pose naked for you. Quid-pro-quo that shit. Otherwise she'll take you for a sucker. If you get her to agree, you are in a secret club with her now.. which is a win. (The club of "I showed you mine and you showed me yours"). Either way do NOT send pics of your genitals to women unless they "earn" it... and can be…
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:45 PM
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Remember this: No matter how hot or otherwise incredible the woman is -- there is at least 1 guy on the planet that is sick of her shit. Always. You see a guy dating a hot girl and get jealous? Don't be. He has to put up with her. And you don't. There's 2 sides to this. On the one hand, there's potential for security and comfort and also personal growth in a relationship. That's the good part of being in a relationship. You can really grow and thrive, on a deep level, if you find the right perso…
/r/seduction23/01/22 01:38 PM
1

At my peak was something like 30 per year. This was in my mid-30s. I'm in my mid-40s now and am in a serious relationship, so 1 per year. :)
/r/seduction27/12/21 06:40 AM
1

"I think you're cute too" (if she's actually cute) If she's not, then be like "thanks" Also if you're attracted to her, follow-up with some game.
/r/seduction17/12/21 01:58 PM
1

Be confident and optimistic. Be brief too. No chit-chat via text... Try and score a concrete date. You can chit-chat via text later if you are actually seeing each other. But not before. Your objective is face-to-face, not to be a pen-pal.
/r/seduction03/11/21 12:51 AM
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Well she broke your heart already. Hmm. Maybe not a good idea to get involved again.
/r/seduction22/10/21 05:34 PM
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Is it a US/UK/Canada issue? American living in Eastern Europe here. Yes, it appears you are on to something. The kids here (by kids I mean anyone under 30) seem to have no problem getting together. They hang out in large groups of friends and they all date each other. I grew up in NYC and in the US I must say my experience was vastly different to what these kids are getting socially. Then again, the city I am in is much smaller than NYC so that may be a factor. Yeah my two cents is it may be mor…
/r/seduction01/03/21 10:17 AM
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Women just are. Men must become.
/r/seduction06/01/21 07:24 PM
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Eastern Europe? EDIT: I clicked your username and see some Greek in there. Greece. Yeah.. makes sense. :)
/r/seduction06/01/21 07:23 PM
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^ This.
/r/seduction06/01/21 07:22 PM
2

Pick a different girl. Some of them really do appreciate humor more than others.
/r/seduction06/01/21 07:22 PM
2

Age 35-40. It was pussy nirvana for that stretch. I think men in their 30s are in their prime as far as that goes, looking back. 40s ain't bad in theory either but.. At around 40 I met my gf so now I'm monogamous.
/r/seduction01/11/20 01:16 PM
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Oh wow very informative. Yeah it's a disaster waiting to happen.. clearly.
/r/seduction14/10/20 09:05 AM
1

Good luck man. Write me anytime too. I still have no answers.. only suffering. It's like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. :/
/r/seduction13/10/20 08:59 AM
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No man porn makes it worse for me -- I try not to look at porn at all. I focus on my work or other things to keep my mind off it but it really is hard whenever I leave the apartment and walk around in my city. Yeah porn makes it kind of worse for me.. idk. It's fucked. It's hell man...
/r/seduction12/10/20 10:06 PM
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Ha yeah I can relate on the cheating thing. I been cheated on and it messed with my miiind hard. Left emotional scars for sure. They only healed after finding someone else and time passing. I don't want to do that to anybody. To be fair I was a cheater too so I deserved what I received at the time. 40+ lays? Not bad. Yeah I'm in that ballpark too. It may be that too. Like I have so many examples in my mind of different body types and kinds of women I've been with. Like there is so much to like a…
/r/seduction12/10/20 09:44 PM
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Yeah man my experience is the quality gals don't go for that open relationship / polyamory bullshit. Plus like you, I would get jealous. It's not a game I would play. I also wouldn't cheat. Lying to the person that loves you like that is like lying to yourself. I don't want to do that to anybody -- and I don't want anybody to do that to me. Maybe if you two have kids things will change for you? I actually am not sure I want kids so I don't even know why I am in an LTR, lol. I think I just like t…
/r/seduction12/10/20 08:56 PM
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Not married but we are practically married -- LTR for 4 years this month. We been living together for most of that time. It's rough man. I started craving new pussy like 6 months into it but I suppressed the feeling hoping it would go away. It never does. Not even sure if it's because of lifting -- although I lift too .. that may be part of it. Who knows. It's tough though right? Like what do we do? We could break up with them, and become bachelors again and chase tail -- but at the same time it…
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:27 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you. TBH I have no idea what to do. Yes -- I still have that urge. It's torture.
/r/seduction12/10/20 02:08 PM
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Guys: I have lived a decent amount of time on this planet. I have learned one thing -- in general women's advice about how to seduce ... women .... is pretty bad. I am not saying OP here is wrong -- I'm just saying take whatever she says with a grain of salt. Women don't know what it's like to walk in our shoes and they have 0 experience seducing women. Just -- bear that in mind. Anything they tell you is very abstract and based on 0 experience dealing with women as a man. Whereas we.. on the ot…
/r/seduction19/09/20 10:53 PM
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Ok, again I must stress this is my list and other men may rate these differently. Here is the order for me: Looks & Beauty (I consider these the same thing) Sex (to me this means sexual chemistry) Smarts Humor Grace Wealth My list is 1 short because I consider beauty and looks to be equivalent. It's actually hard to rank them because to me smarts & humor often go hand in hand. It was really hard to pick between smarts and humor for number 3/4...
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:52 AM
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You're welcome! But I must stress men (like women) differ greatly. So.. it really depends on the man! But maybe my list can start off as a starting point. I think almost all my male friends would agree with that list.. so.. it's not a bad list to keep in mind.
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:44 AM
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It really depends on the man and the country/culture you are in. I can list how to capture my heart: Be open and honest Be truthful and trustworthy Be hot (sorry, it's true) Enjoy sex (with me) Appreciate food and/or cooking. Let me cook and also you should know how to cook too. (Sorry -- being able to feed yourself is like a basic requirement for adulthood and people that cannot do that are a turnoff) Be a good friend Have a good/high opinion of men in general (except for the bad ones) -- don't…
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:39 AM
2

I've been there, too. We all made that mistake.
/r/seduction01/08/20 07:38 AM
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Lean in... if she pulls away, that's that. If not. you're good to go. In today's woke culture if you grab her arm out of the blue with no warning... you may end up "cancelled"... so.. use your judgement about the arm-grabbing thing and when to do it.
/r/seduction01/08/20 07:36 AM
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This is amazingly good advice. By the way the eye contact thing also works wonders for getting you laid too... I mean.. kissing is the first step. But yeah -- eye contact works great.
/r/seduction01/08/20 07:35 AM
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Depends on what their options are....
/r/seduction01/08/20 07:34 AM
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Like with music or sports.. keep practicing keep doing it you’re inspiring others here.
/r/seduction19/07/20 10:17 AM
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You’ll get better and better at it. It’s good to read that someone on here is doing this. I bet if you do this for a year .. approach 100 a month.. you’ll be a totally changed man at the end of it.. for the better. It’s impossible for you to not get infinitely better and get more results as you do it. This is just the beginning. Keep at it and man.. awesome. 👏
/r/seduction19/07/20 10:16 AM
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Yeah true -- height helps.. a lot. But that being said, women don't give as much of a shit about physical beauty as we do. You just gotta try try try try try no matter what your height. Tall guys who look great can go 10 years without getting laid if they don't try. Short average guys can get laid every other day if they try try try. So it's all about initiative. I have seen some real hotties date some real dogs.. and the dogs got to at least fuck the hotties. They may have not stayed together -…
/r/seduction25/06/20 03:33 AM
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Initiative Looks Money In that order of importance.
/r/seduction25/06/20 03:31 AM
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Eh, it doesn't really work that way, sadly. Women are less visual when it comes to erotic stimuli. Oh, they can get turned on for sure by a hot bod -- but it won't have the same exact effect that they have on us. If you do happen to be shredded and look amazing and be tall -- showing some biceps and/or something that brings out your butt doesn't hurt. But the female erotic mind just isn't as focused on the visual quite as much as the male erotic mind -- so it won't have the same impact... don't …
/r/seduction25/06/20 03:21 AM
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I mean.. it depends on what you look like. If you're Brad Pitt in his prime (or even now) -- you have a great chance. If you're the average guy; yeah, you're right. You need to offer more than just sexiness (of which many men in modern society possess very little of).
/r/seduction12/06/20 08:42 AM
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"Why can't I be accepted for who I am?" Because women select the top males to mate with across the animal kingdom. It's the nature of being male. You gotta just do something to stand out. "Top", though, has a meaning in the mind of the particular female. If you stand out in some way above the crowd, that's your ticket. We sort of do the same thing when it comes to relationships though -- we will mate with anybody practically (hey, no skin off my back) -- but when it comes to relationship materia…
/r/seduction31/05/20 11:32 AM
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He only kissed her once? If he was with her for a while I'd say that would be a big deal and it would be bad for you to go out with her. But he KISSED her once..? Nah man -- talk to your friend -- tell him he's being ridiculous -- and go for her, if that's what you want.
/r/seduction21/04/20 02:39 AM
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Yep. It's true. For all the work we put in to seduction.. there's no substitute for just being good looking / hot. Don't get me wrong -- you can be good looking and totally fuck it up if you have 0 confidence or 0 skills. But being good looking is super important, sadly. (I say sadly because it's hard to really control that parameter -- you can improve it vastly by working out and taking care of yourself -- but some guys with little effort can totally beat you at that and it kinda feels unfair).
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:55 AM
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"I mean the confusing thing is if she really wanted to be clear in her signaling she'd stop covering her nipples with her hands so.. she must not be interested." -- Me, throughout my 20s.
/r/seduction10/11/19 03:52 PM
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If you've failed why think too much about it? Focus on other women and move on mentally. The way to "act" flows naturally from there. A girl in here posted good advice. Basically don't take her or the situation too seriously. Don't answer texts on time .. talk to other girls and get your mind fully focused on the next one. I really believe if you do that, the way to act naturally flows from that.
/r/seduction23/08/19 11:55 AM
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I look ugly as shit (like even bull shit looks more attractive than me) You really are ugly? If that's the case it's incredibly hard -- almost impossible to pull off a cold approach no matter how "skilled" you are. If you really are ugly as shit: I would recommend against cold approaches as you will fail like 10,000 times for every success if that's the case. Unfortunately cold approaches require you to be at least physically palatable. Or require you to be comedian-level funny and charismatic t…
/r/seduction13/06/19 08:09 AM
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Simple. But not bad advice. :)
/r/seduction12/06/19 04:57 PM
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drama club You probably have an edge if that's one of your hobbies because you at least probably have some charisma, and some ability to empathize, as compared to perhaps the average 21 year old guy that just plays video games and hangs out with friends. Use that to your advantage. The key to getting laid is to try. Keep trying. Make that the goal. Really it's all about trying and not giving up. 50% of the population have the genital organs in line with what your preference is. Of that, a subset…
/r/seduction12/06/19 04:52 PM
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Amateur gold digger. Move on.
/r/seduction28/05/19 07:22 PM
3

Heh thanks man. seriously bros before hos. Also -- how would it feel if that were YOUR gf doing that shit? Also -- cheaters will cheat on you too. All around it's a terrible scene. Nothing like a woman that's all yours and doesn't cheat. Best feeling in the world. Can't be beat. No need to go down that road. Only caveat is: if you really REALLY don't want to be in a relationship and/or just want a fuck-buddy, then MAYBE it's a good idea. I personally think even then it isn't. But at least you ha…
/r/seduction27/05/19 07:39 PM
1

Yep. I agree 100%.
/r/seduction27/05/19 07:36 PM
5

Well if it is then she just failed. That's a fucked up thing to say if not true -- it means she lies easily and is a red flag. If it is true and she has a boyfriend -- then move on. Either way -- best strategy is to simply move on.
/r/seduction27/05/19 06:28 AM
16

It's usually a bad scene though to get involved in. Depending on what floats your boat. Personally my advice would always be to run run run away from that kinda crap.
/r/seduction27/05/19 06:27 AM
112

LOL. Seriously? This subreddit makes me laugh sometimes with posts like this. Yeah if she has a boyfriend, move on. Either it's a true statement or it is not. Either way -- who cares? A clearer sign of her being unavailable could not ever be given. Don't waste time.. keep moving.
/r/seduction27/05/19 06:26 AM
1

So be professional. You can be subtle but still pay someone a compliment. Nobody got fired for that ever.
/r/seduction09/03/19 06:03 AM
1

Pretty much spot on. We're masters at fooling ourselves with our own rationalizations. That's 100000% all it boils down to. Accept it. If you do, then you can work with it and eventually overcome it.
/r/seduction09/03/19 06:02 AM
5

Hmm yeah maybe you're right. I take it back. :/
/r/seduction17/02/19 07:14 PM
-4

Yeah. She fucked around with her alphas and now that she's got some wear and tear on her treads.. this beta will do. :P
/r/seduction17/02/19 01:12 PM
2

I wouldn't disrespect anyone unless they disrespected me first. However, I don't generally stay in the friendzone. I either get out, or get in. I have enough friends. :)
/r/seduction17/02/19 01:11 PM
1

Awesome.. go for it. Use that passion to get with them. I personally like average or slightly above average height women but if they are runway-model style tall it's a bit of a negative for me in terms of attractiveness. But tastes differ. I get the sense tall women don't get hit on as much because many men get intimidated by them -- and then there are men like me that don't prefer them. So use it to your advantage! If you like that -- go for it!
/r/seduction10/02/19 07:30 AM
1

We all been there man. Keep at it.
/r/seduction02/02/19 06:00 AM
1

No, it is not. Get that out of your head.
/r/seduction01/02/19 08:15 AM
9

he could have just been 10/10 good looking. It's likely this too. The difference between "ewww.. what a CREEP" and "OMG he's so confident' is basically looks. They rarely admit it but -- If they think you're hot, you got it made, basically. Everything you say or do will be judged more positively.
/r/seduction26/01/19 06:43 PM
5

This is very good advice. On all fronts. OP.. ^ listen to this guy too.
/r/seduction26/01/19 06:41 PM
4

I think they half see through it but they appreciate the effort that goes into it, and it's flattering to them is how I justify it.
/r/seduction26/01/19 06:39 PM
1

^ Listen to this guy. He's a pro. 100% agree with everything you say here.
/r/seduction26/01/19 06:38 PM
3

Not really.
/r/seduction25/01/19 01:46 PM
1

Do something amazing with your life.
/r/seduction20/01/19 09:54 AM
6

Wait you still bump into her and/or have casual social contact? Stop it! Now! Never see her again is a start. Truly let it and her go and move on. You’re torturing yourself needlessly with her. If i had to guess I’d say that you’re probably running away from some other pain and are using her as a distraction. Get some therapy and figure out what the real root of your pain is... because I guarantee you it isn’t her. She’s just the new pain you’re using to numb the real pain you’re running from.
/r/seduction04/01/19 06:34 PM
0

Sure. It's pretty simple: "I'm looking to hook up. Are you?" You're not being a dick there. If anything people will appreciate the honesty. I've been thanked many times for being so honest. It's short and to the point. It eventually will work though, just not immediately. The advantage: zero time wasted. The disadvantage: you need to keep asking until it does work. But then again even that's a feature and not a "bug". You don't end up wasting time. My two cents is this method is very efficient u…
/r/seduction09/09/18 07:36 PM
1

For me this kind of thing is a deal breaker. Even if she's smoking hot. If it were me I would forget about her and never reply to any of her texts ever again. Based on what you've written something's not right in her head, from what you describe. It's an indication that she's an unreliable person. I don't like dealing with unreliable people even for casual hookups. It's not how I roll. The way I see it: there are plenty of reliable hot women out there to give my attention to, so there's no sense…
/r/seduction02/09/18 01:28 AM
1

Ugh. Stay away man. I am not into girls that overlap the next guy with the previous. They are usually trouble Up to you.
/r/seduction25/08/18 03:17 PM
10

Not true. While it’s definitely easier to do that if you’re a super hot guy, your success rate may still be quite low (owing to the way the female erotic mind works) and if you have no confidence you may get discouraged easily. Also you will end up banging women far far below you on the sexiness scale. So it’s not exactly a great deal. Compare that to an average looking guy with stellar confidence and charm. He will be able to turn women on with his mind and end up with far hotter women more fre…
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:26 PM
-1

Truth. Money/talent/fame (aka power) > confidence > looks for men. In that order.
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:24 PM
2

The problem here is that she is chasing other girls away thinking that she is my girlfriend and even thou she is not intersted she is always hanging out withe all time. Just tell her exactly what you wrote here. If she refuses -- she's crazy and you are free to escalate it towards rudeness. 9 times out of 10 she'll totally understand and go away.
/r/seduction19/08/18 01:02 AM
1

Oh shut up. Bars and clubs aren't for everybody. There's plenty of women just walking around in parks or at book sales or flea markets or farmer's markets or any other place. It's a different kind of game there "day game" as it were -- but it can payoff just about as well as bars. If he's not a bar guy why should he compromise himself? Let him be him.
/r/seduction30/07/18 01:05 PM
2

You don't have to go to those places. You can meet women.. in the LIBRARY or a BOOK STORE. I shit you not. And the girls that frequent those places are often of much higher quality (emotionally, etc) than the girls you get in a club or bar if you're the kind of guy that isn't into bars/clubbing. Go to a library or bookstore. These days book stores are rarer but libraries still exist in bigger cities. Or go to an arts and crafts type antique farmer's/flea market sale bazaar thing where women may …
/r/seduction30/07/18 01:04 PM
5

Wear a suit LOL. You don't have to wear a suit. Go for artsy hipster chicks without a suit. Although to be honest I bet even they would got for a guy in a suit too, lol. The thing is don't wear a suit unless you can wear IT. If the suit wears YOU -- the girls can tell. You're better off in jeans in that case...
/r/seduction30/07/18 01:01 PM
1

Wherever they happen to be. Find out where they are, and go there.
/r/seduction30/07/18 01:00 PM
1

Go for it anyway. If she likes you enough, great. She could be a positive influence in your life beyond just normal romance. Even if she decides she doesn't like you enough to be with you, perhaps the time you do spend with her will inspire you to see things in a different light and also live out your ambitions more, if you have any. Either way you have something to learn from this lady. Go for it.
/r/seduction30/07/18 03:36 AM
2

Depending on how attractive you are physically and mentally (preferably both) — pretty realistic. 30-40 is 10 years. That’s plenty of time.
/r/seduction16/07/18 12:04 PM
0

Dafuq is wrong with you. You are delusional and toxic in your thinking about women. This doesn't help you or anyone you interact with to believe this. You will find exactly whatever fucked up image you have of women. Change it since you're wrong and it'll do you harm.
/r/seduction15/07/18 12:52 PM
3

Possible? Yes. A good idea? No. Walk away and find someone else.
/r/seduction15/07/18 12:41 PM
1

Well the mall, random places you go. They exist. And you get to find out if they're a bitch or not by talking to them. The more you look the more you find around you. Keep looking and testing them out with conversation to find out. You have field research ahead of you!
/r/seduction02/07/18 10:36 PM
2

You know hot, non-bitches exist, right? Don't go for a hot bitch. Go for a hot non-bitch. They are rare but they do exist! :)
/r/seduction02/07/18 10:20 PM
6

Dude the more you do it.. the better it'll be. Trust me. I swear to god this is like standup comedy or playing the guitar or kung fu. Just keep doing it. Do do do. You'll see. I commend and applaud you! Keep at it. I GUARANTEE you will get a girl hotter than her eventually and you will be really happy and feel alive when it happens. You're doing good.
/r/seduction02/07/18 10:19 PM
2

Absolutely.
/r/seduction01/07/18 07:27 PM
6

Look at the US president!
/r/seduction29/06/18 05:46 PM
12

Honestly she probably did you a favor. But if you INSIST: Tell her what you wrote here .. "Honestly im not trying to make my first time special. Im not trying to fall in love before i sleep with a girl. I just want it to be consensual and i want her to legitimately be attracted to me." Tell her that if you really want to fuck her. She might bite. But she may have been doing you a favor in refusing. There's a very high chance you'll get attached and a very high chance she'll step all over your he…
/r/seduction29/06/18 05:43 PM
3

Well.. of course physically older men are attracted to younger women in general. It's pretty obvious. But mental age counts for a lot here. I wouldn't go for an innocent 18 year old that is fragile and has daddy issues, for example. Now -- if she's 22, has been around the block a few times and can handle herself, that's fairer. Hell even a 30 year old is pretty freakin' hot when you're 49. (I'm 41 myself and I can say 30 is a great age for a woman). I'm not saying it's wrong -- just unusually cr…
/r/seduction29/06/18 03:00 PM
3

So then go for it. You’re not marrying the guy. If anything you probably need to do this. If it’s not this guy it’ll be the next older guy. You like older guys where you’re at now. No running from it. Do it, see what’s there.. then hopefully move on.
/r/seduction29/06/18 12:17 PM
1

Not everywhere. Depends on the state and/or country.
/r/seduction29/06/18 12:15 PM
2

Eh. The dude sounds creepy. Who the hell hits on 18 year olds when they’re 49? Are you attracted to him? My gut instinct is to avoid the situation. But you do what you want. You’re an adult now. If you were my daughter and you asked me this I’d tell you “NOT A GOOD IDEA!!” But if you’re looking for a father figure I guess some mistakes are meant to be made. So go for it. Bark up that tree to find out what’s there.
/r/seduction29/06/18 12:14 PM
1

I agree with this advice completely. Esp. once you’ve already hooked up.
/r/seduction29/06/18 11:47 AM
1

1st pic: your facial expression is standoffish or something. Try and smile or laugh. If you can't "fake" a laugh -- get your funniest friend in the room to hold the camera.. or put on some Louis CK or whatever comedian you find hilarious on behind the camera. 3rd pic -- You look like a mannequin or statue. Get some action shot with you doing stuff.... My two cents.
/r/seduction29/06/18 10:56 AM
6

Really? You brag about this shit? Strippers are pretty low quality girlfriend material. I wouldn't even bang one at this point if she threw herself at me. Not worth the drama. They are the exact opposite of what I look for in even a fuckbuddy. But.. to each his own. Just be careful.
/r/seduction28/06/18 10:12 AM
0

But many still do need a man (just for different reasons). That is where we come in.. :)
/r/seduction25/06/18 09:48 PM
0

I think you're wearing pink-colored glasses in looking at the past. If anything it's a LOT easier now to at least have sex than it was 50 years ago. For both men and women. Lots of taboos have disappeared and it's normal now to have a dozen partners or more before you get married. I think you're just not particularly experienced yet in this stuff, and you're getting frustrated. Be patient and don't give up and things will get better. Optimism and resilience go a long way in everything, including…
/r/seduction25/06/18 09:46 PM
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Not always a 100% tell but it can help build the case especially if correlated with other tells and signs.
/r/seduction23/06/18 12:29 AM
109

Women use the word "cute" in ambiguous ways. They tend to use that word to also mean attractive, but it can also mean "child-like and huggable", and it can also mean "eh, that's nice". You gotta figure out yourself based on context and the speaker's intention. Just the term itself out of context can't predict any outcome or anything like that. Good luck.
/r/seduction26/05/18 05:23 AM
5

You have a fear of relationships/commitment and/or intimacy. It's fairly common and nothing to be ashamed of. Own it and understand it so you can work with it to make yourself happier and not fight against your present nature.
/r/seduction14/05/18 04:23 PM
1

My own take on it: I don't particularly seek out or expect to be pursued by a woman but if it happens, great. I don't expect women to be submissive either. I expect or prefer a woman that's just comfortable in her own skin and with her own nature and not fighting against her nature -- whatever her true nature happens to be. If she's submissive -- and she LIKES being submissive -- more power to her. I can respect and appreciate that and will do the dancing for her and will do more if not all of t…
/r/seduction14/05/18 04:20 PM
1

It is true that some people prefer fairy tales to reality. Reality can be shocking at first but the more you get used to it the more you grow to appreciate it. Not sure if that's relevant here to dating -- just agreeing with the general feeling that reality is definitely hard for some people. ;)
/r/seduction13/05/18 03:51 PM
1

There are TONS of younger women >30 y.o. who have this "I'm the prize, work for me" attitude that really have nothing worth working for. Yeah they look good, but too many can't cook, are looking for pay everything for them, have no personality, have no integrity, etc. So avoid those women. There are plenty of other women that aren't like that if that's what you seek. Also, if a woman thinks she's the shit, and you disagree -- then don't go for her and move on. Not every woman is like that. Think…
/r/seduction13/05/18 03:37 PM
1

She wanted the guy with the most power, because it was assumed she, and her children had the highest chance of survival. Who's to say they don't? In some cases they do also "work for it" (I hate that phrase). But you have to first be the leader of the pack or in the top 20%. ;) It's something like 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men or something like that. If you are in the top in terms of status/power/etc they actually end up competing with each other for you at least subtly. Hence the phe…
/r/seduction13/05/18 03:32 PM
3

Thanks man
/r/seduction13/05/18 12:29 AM
11

Eh, as much as I agree with the spirit of what you are saying you can't actually ignore the fact that on some deep level for many women there is a grain of truth in what she said. The thing is if you look around the animal kingdom, it's usually the case that the males try to convince the females of how awesome they ( the males ) are and why the females should pick THEM to mate with. Male confidence and shows of amazingness are all sexy to females -- this includes human females. When a woman says…
/r/seduction12/05/18 11:40 PM
13

Look at Elon Musk. His love life is always a disaster. His latest love is a crazy person.
/r/seduction12/05/18 04:31 PM
42

I agree with this 100%. If it's a pattern -- she's a flake or thinks you're a chump. 1 time pass is definitely the way to go.
/r/seduction10/05/18 06:35 PM
7

Yeah, usually panicking like a chump for no good reason is a sign you're a little bananas (or at least they may perceive you as such). Play it cool and things work out nicely and more sanely. Well done. Lesson learned. That being said -- if she's the type that often stands you up or isn't serious about plans -- unless you like that sorta thing -- it's usually good to just move on in a conflict-free, drama-free way. As in, stop contacting her and live your life. Drama and conflict for no reason a…
/r/seduction10/05/18 06:33 PM
2

9 times out of 10, based on what you describe: She probably is seeing someone new now, and things have gotten hot and heavy and/or serious enough with him for her to drop you cold. Move on. Wasn't meant to be.
/r/seduction06/05/18 07:46 PM
2

Yeah I agree. Also, at the end of the day you are acting as an enabler for emotional dysfunction. In an ideal world she'd figure out how to chillax and not be as anxious in a relationship if she doesn't need to be. Ideally it would be something she'd figure out on her own. That would be the best outcome because it makes her feel powerful without your help. In short: She would learn to focus on real-world goals rather than forever wrestling with imaginary dragons she conjures up. By giving in to …
/r/seduction06/05/18 05:02 AM
1

Yeah I think you're probably right. Also based on what OP said subsequently about her being inexperienced and everything like that. So yeah, I may be throwing the cheater moniker out there a bit prematurely, I admit. A curious case for sure... Haven't seen girls act that anxious in a while in my own personal life.. so it's hard to think back ...
/r/seduction05/05/18 06:46 PM
1

Spot on again, how did you guess that?! ;) I am for sure. I love her. Because you're in here telling us how you're stressed out over her well-being. Being worried for someone is a sure sign of love. Good luck man. I'm not wiser. I'm a fool. But I've been alive longer than you and I guess I have seen friends and myself go through stuff, is all.
/r/seduction05/05/18 04:02 AM
2

Oh man if her parents are ok, that's amazingly great news! Well it sounds like you are really crazy about her as much as you hate to admit it. And hopefully she's just as crazy about you. Sound that way. Though that's just my way of seducing, and I absolutely don't see myself changing that even in a year. Ha, famous last words. You can maybe just turn the notch down from 11 to 9 on the hot and cold thing. I actually think you two will be fine. I was worried she was crazy -- but it sounds like sh…
/r/seduction04/05/18 09:18 PM
1

LOL. I guess that experience does prove my thesis. Also constant accusations of cheating are a way to "create space" -- people that otherwise don't want to be too involved use this as a way to emotionally armor themselves. In your case she actually had a boyfriend and wanted to sort of excuse herself of her wrong action toward you by imagining that you're out of her league and making up excuses. Bah. I've been there too man. Shady insecure women.. are shady.
/r/seduction04/05/18 07:47 PM
2

She dreamt of me cheating on her while I have great dreams of her 3 times a week. There's a gap here. There's definitely a gap. You're healthy, and it sounds like she's not emotionally healthy (right now). It's not normal to have anxiety-laden dreams about your boyfriend who loves you when he has given you no real reason to feel anxious. It's ok if you aren't 100% all syrupy sweet all the time. I get the sense you are true to your word and honest in your emotions. That's what counts. You actuall…
/r/seduction04/05/18 07:37 PM
2

These ladies? Ah.. all ages. From when I was 20 to a couple of years ago when I was 39. They were all around my age usually. Really -- this type of thing knows no age limit. Cheaters tend to also be distrustful and non-cheaters tend to trust. It definitely is true at any age. As for your situation: Who knows? I think you probably know better. And yeah it could be you acting all cool though, true. I am reading between the lines and I am guessing you are both young. No need to go outside of your c…
/r/seduction04/05/18 03:03 PM
10

I'm 41 years old. Take this with a grain of salt but in my experience with the many girlfriends I've had over the years I have noticed a pattern between the ones that were cheaters and the ones that weren't: the cheaters are by far the more insecure ones -- they're the types that imagine you would be cheating all the time and they are the ones that are always suspicious of you (often irrationally). Why? It's because it's exactly what they would do -- so they figure you must be just like them. Ch…
/r/seduction04/05/18 01:06 PM
1

Yeah, ok I agree with this. I agree it is after all in the context of pickup and not finding a girlfriend. This is a pickup sub, by an large. Well said overall.
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:18 PM
3

Likely you had a very dominant mother. Tough. There are bossy women out there that like a submissive man. You may be very attracted to such women. If you really don't like the way you are -- and it frustrates you -- likely there are issues you have that will come out even if you do find that rare breed of bossy woman that wants a sumbissive man. You may find yourself "rebelling" against her and resenting her as the relationship progresses. Seek therapy. It can help. Also try and explore other fa…
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:34 AM
3

Most of these I agree with and in general are definite no-no's. However 2 of them really might be just your personality type -- and if that's the way you are.. do NOT try and cover up for that only for it to come out later. It's best to be yourself. These are: Being Impatient & Being Too Serious. Some people are just impatient. They want everything NOW or YESTERDAY. In some situations that's a good quality. Some women are attracted to men that are in a rush to get things done. I don't think this…
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:30 AM
1

Liberating, isn't it? You just opened a door to a world of more doors (options) for yourself. There's nothing more exciting than options and potential. By conquering your fear, you realized a lot more is possible in the world. You are opening up possibilities for yourself. Enjoy it man.
/r/seduction24/04/18 10:35 AM
1

Pay her compliments. If she responds well to them --start touching her. Start with her leg. Put your hand on her knee. Pay her another compliment. Take her hands into yours and go in for a kiss.
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:47 AM
-1

So this is all staged? Girl in the video is not even him?
/r/seduction19/04/18 05:03 AM
11

To me it looks like you're fine. I'm almost wondering if this isn't fake or a scam to get views. Sorry, you're a pretty young girl. You should be having much greater success than this. I sorta don't buy it. All apologies if I'm wrong.
/r/seduction18/04/18 05:48 PM
1

Yeah, I get the appeal. 0 responsibility and the promise of sex. Really it's some strange manifestation of the Oedipal Conflict reliving itself. Kill the father. It proves you're such a man to fuck another dude's woman. Or something like that. Good luck.
/r/seduction24/03/18 06:58 AM
2

This is the only worthwhile advice. Forget about her. She has a boyfriend. Who does she think she is, anyway, cheating on him like that? The Queen of Persia? Ditch her ass and find a girl that has no dude in the picture. You deserve better than a cheater with a boyfriend.
/r/seduction24/03/18 12:15 AM
1

The truth about salt is it's safe to eat any reasonable amount of it. All the science behind how salt promotes hypertension is tenuous at best. And in fact eating too little salt (even on the low end of what's considered the healthy range) has been shown to be dangerous. Eat as much salt as you want (within reason).
/r/seduction20/03/18 07:15 AM
1

No, that's incorrect. Meat has nearly 0 carbs. You derive most of your energy from things like meat or cheese or eggs from the fat and protein they contain, not any carbs (since they have nearly 0).
/r/seduction20/03/18 07:11 AM
1

That's not true. A steak doesn't have carbs. Eggs don't have carbs. And you can be perfectly healthy without much fiber if you eat nothing but meat. That being said, if you must get your fiber, you can eat lettuce or greens and they have very little in the way of digestible carbs.
/r/seduction20/03/18 07:10 AM
-1

You cannot and will not survive without consuming some level of carbohydrates Again, this is not true. There is no such thing as an essential carbohydrate. You are misinformed, my friend. This is actually the #1 most common nutrition misconception and is responsible for the obesity epidemic, so it's ok. Current carbohydrate recommendations are based on 1) preventing ketosis, and 2) providing glucose beyond minimal needs. However, it is clear that ketosis is not harmful. I would even go so far as…
/r/seduction19/03/18 08:22 PM
1

You're correct, you will not die. In fact you can thrive without exogenous carbohydrates. The body can synthesize the small amount of glucose it needs for tissues that cannot burn ketones or fat. This MapleA guy has his facts wrong.
/r/seduction19/03/18 08:12 PM
2

You will die if you don’t eat sugar. No you won't. That's just plain wrong. We can synthesize the small amount of glucose that is absolutely required for those of our cells that can't burn other substrates. The process is called gluconeogenesis and it's a major metabolic reaction when you stop consuming exogenous carbohydrates. The majority of your energy comes from fat when you cut out carbs. You become a lean mean fat burning machine. What you said is oft repeated but just factually incorrect.…
/r/seduction19/03/18 08:11 PM
3

I agree with this 100%. Hard mode for that is to cut out all carbs and go full on keto. It's worked wonders for me and I cannot recommend it enough to people. /r/keto /r/ketogains
/r/seduction19/03/18 08:09 PM
1

2) Have good hygiene. Shave you neck for God's sake. I agree with everything you said except for this one. I'm of Greek descent and look decent (not overly hairy but still have some body hair) but shaving my neck is pointless. I rock the wolverine look and it works for me. Also not every women wants you clean shaven. If you have decent chest hair and a beard and can rock that look -- that works too. All the other stuff on this list will more than make up for it.
/r/seduction19/03/18 08:08 PM
2

Eh, you can go the escort route but they suck in the USA. You have to go to Eastern Europe or Asia for it to start to be affordabl and a decent experience for a decent price. And you're gunna need to go more than once in order to really learn what the fuck your body and her body is about. (Unless you're a millionaire, it's not affordable). Really the best way to "learn" is to get a steady gf.
/r/seduction18/03/18 01:52 PM
1

You can't fail forever. At some point, with anything that's hard at first, you get better over time. The failures teach you lessons. Noone was good at anything hard and worth doing without first failing a lot. It's how it goes. So go for it man. The sooner you fail, the sooner you stop failing and succeed more!
/r/seduction08/03/18 01:08 AM
2

Good analogy. That's pretty much it.
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:22 PM
1

It sounds like she needs help to at least get over him whether or not you end up with her she def. def. def. needs to stop being friends wth him. This video is the first step. It's from School of Life.. and it's short. The guy that puts these videos out is a fairly well respected philosopher and thinker. Good luck to you and her!
/r/seduction05/03/18 04:01 AM
1

What are you doing writing such long messages? Don't text so much. Texting should not be about anything but planning meeting up. It's seduction 101. :) But yeah i mean it sounds like she's either really busy or turned off or just busy (I suspect a little of both). She called you a project and complained about your long texts directly. You gotta hand it to her -- she's a direct little number! She did you a favor! Take her at her word and leave her alone. You need to seriously work on your text ga…
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:37 AM
2

I agree with you 100%.
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:36 AM
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Yes, there are some incredibly sexy woman on this planet. A lot of them. It's one of the nice things about being alive, I guess. And somebody somewhere out there is fucking one of them right now. So.. that's a good thing! Would even be a better thing if that someone was me. But their existence is great. Don't take it as an attack on your ego -- but just a great goal and something to look forward to. Plus if you REALLY make that your ambition you will get one someday. Just by the law of numbers. …
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:28 AM
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Oh yeah definitely. But equally possibly is a much less hot woman being equally bad in bed. Just game high if you can. It's a win/win if you do end up getting her and there's sparks. Plus the best part about getting a hottie and keeping her for a while is losing her later. Your standards go way up and the 7 or 8's you struggled with at first end up easy peazy because you're always chasing the dragon of that 9 or 10. So it always pays to game high. Anyway.. I agree with you.
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:24 AM
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Definitely game as high as you can get away with.. definitely DO NOT game low just thinking it would be easy. If you get low enough .. it gets even harder... you aren't attracted to them plus on some level they know it, and shit test you like there's no tomorrow. So yes. .. I agree with this dude. Game high
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:23 AM
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Oh man. She's in a shitty situation. HAVE HER WATCH THIS VIDEO.. NOW. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTuDks4ogs0 The tl;dw of it is basically she needs to stop talking to him and end their so-called friendship. It obviously has left her stuck. But watch the video. And then have her watch it. I think it will help her tremendously. It's the answer she's looking for. This guy puts it perfectly.
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:10 AM
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I think you nailed it. That's the best reply I can think of. It doesn't even look cheesy to my eyes here as an American. It seems to me you are on top of the situation. And yes, one of the problems of being a player is then they hold that over you, so it's another hurdle. It never ends. But better to be considered a player than a guy who has no ability to seduce. If I had to pick between the two, I'd pick your situation. That being said you can always go about your business like a gentleman. Be …
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:04 AM
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I think just accepting that you will fail at first is liberating. Embrace the liberty that comes with not being so terrified of failure. You must fail a lot.. A LOT at first.. before you figure out how to succeed. Don't think about it. Just do it. Find yourself doing it. And embrace that the early pain of failure is only going to decrease in time as you do it more, and one day transform into the pleasure of success (if you keep at it and don't give up). No pain, no gain. It's like the gym.
/r/seduction04/03/18 11:43 PM
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Absolutely awful. No self confidence and I was a quirky weird geek with mommy issues. I was always above-average looking and tall, so I had that going for me, despite my childish flaws. I've come a very long way. Mommy issues gone, and am older and wiser and have been around the block a few times. I've seen my fair share of good and bad stories to not have (as) distorted a view of reality. Which helps a lot. I'm not overconfident. But I'm not underconfident either. I have some professional succe…
/r/seduction28/01/18 08:19 AM
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Ha ha yeah .. the advantage of a written article is you can skim to the good parts.
/r/seduction23/01/18 06:59 PM
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Yeah me too. This guys was impossible to watch. I closed it after 5 seconds.
/r/seduction23/01/18 04:54 PM
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Your problem is you're using online dating apps. fuck that shit. Go for real life instead. Otherwise your opening and stuff were top notch. As good as you can be you end up feeling like shit afterward. Seriously.. do the real life thing. Your text game will help you there too and at the end of the day you will end with SUCCESS rather than a hideous pit of dark despair in your gut.
/r/seduction15/01/18 12:21 AM
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Well, he's a clinical psychologist, not a philosopher. And it's not specific game advice necessarily though -- it's just a generally good observation about female sexuality. Everything he said I think a game expert would agree with, TBH.
/r/seduction09/01/18 06:54 AM
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Watch some Jordan Peterson videos: https://youtu.be/BhPnxmw4xNA Start with that short talk he gave at his college. Be a dangerous monster that's civilized.
/r/seduction07/01/18 06:06 PM
1

Mommy issues. Oedipal stuff. Psychology studies and understands this phenomenon well.
/r/seduction07/01/18 01:01 AM
1

You got mommy issues dude. Go for a chick your own age, it's more fun. Trust me.
/r/seduction06/01/18 07:35 PM
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Dafuq? You guys are all low IQ to misinterpret what I say in this way.
/r/seduction06/01/18 11:32 AM
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I can't respect a person that doesn't know how to cook at least a few dishes and feed themselves properly. It's a basic human skill. To me this betrays a bit of ignorance and a bit of "I don't give a shit about my health" attitude. Even if she's a billionaire's daughter -- she should know how to make herself at least a few dishes. There is something to be said about preparing your own food and controlling exactly what you ingest that I respect. That being said -- if you're ok with that -- no wor…
/r/seduction05/01/18 12:03 PM
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I would hate that shit. Mainly because i'm a picky/finicky cook and I have yet to meet a woman that cooks 100% better than me in all categories of food. I prefer to participate so we can both create better food together. I don't need a mommy to cook me meals, fuck that. But I can see how some guys like that situation. Not judging you. Whatever works for you my man!
/r/seduction05/01/18 12:02 PM
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Definitely good advice. Also cooking together is great for building up the relationship if you want to get more serious/romantic with her. But yeah,definitely -- cooking is a great test if you two can do stuff together and cooperate. And it also is a great bonding experience if it works out well.
/r/seduction05/01/18 12:00 PM
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Yeah man I agree. I also didn't see she was his friend for 10 years but if she's temporary she has a temporary mindset. I know it sucks if she lied but realistically what's OP gunna do? Marry her to keep her in the country? I agree it sucks to lie but it's weird to have a girlfriend you know is gunna leave in a month or two. Might as well have fun -- like you say.
/r/seduction04/01/18 02:57 PM
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Yep, it's pretty much this.
/r/seduction04/01/18 02:56 PM
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Dude she's a foreigner on a tourist visa. Get real. Get a real girlfriend. You know deep down in your soul you have unrealistic expectations and just want to be mad at women and/or don't really want a committed relationship. Otherwise you would have picked a different gal. The whole tone of your post to me screams of a guy that likes to be mad at women. Let the girl go or don't. She's a tourist exploring the USA. Stop being so stuck up and unrealistic about the situation.
/r/seduction04/01/18 10:31 AM
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Best cure for attachment issues is to stop talking to her unless it's about the kids. Don't seek anything from her. She's not going to give it to you. She'll only use it to manipulate you. Start looking elsewhere for the comfort you crave. Also go to a therapist. Seriously. They help you sort shit out. Make sure it's a good therapist. If you can afford it. And i'm with the other posters. When she married you, she took a vow. She broke that promise. And in a very fucking awful way. She's a terrib…
/r/seduction04/01/18 07:15 AM
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Oh jesus dude. That's a nightmare. I think you're doing the right thing in ending it with her. I realize you feel sick in the head now. You're staring into the dark abyss -- and it's staring back. You know what happens in times like these? It sounds cheesy as fuck -- but you grow. You're confronted with the darkness that exists -- the spectrum of human behavior and human nature which ranges from disgusting stupid evil to glorious sainthood genius and everything in between. Take your time with th…
/r/seduction04/01/18 07:08 AM
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Yep. I second this notion. Also -- whatever works and gets you out of bed in the morning and doing stuff is good in my book anyway, as long as it's not motivated by evil things. Wanting to impress women is not an evil thing, so it's good.
/r/seduction04/01/18 06:57 AM
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Nah. Welcome to the life of the male. It's the way nature works. :) There's this bird called the Bowerbird that runs around all day collecting shiny pretty objects. He builds a nest with them -- an abstract piece of art, really, to attract females. If the females stroll by and don't pay his nest any mind, he gets frustrated, tears the whole thing down, and builds a brand new nest arranging the colored objects he's carefully collected in a new configuration. He does this obsessively. That's the B…
/r/seduction04/01/18 06:56 AM
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Well the West Village is one of the nicest neighborhoods in town. Movie stars and millionaires and international models live there. Really -- you think you'd turn heads? Women are partially visual but also status oriented and verbal. It takes more than a pretty face for them. That being said, some women do check out men even in NYC. When it happens it's great! But the West Village is tough. Unless you're Brad Pitt in 1995, walking around barechested with chiseled abs or something -- women won't …
/r/seduction03/01/18 07:48 PM
1

That list is 100% true but it's obvious common sense shit. It's a good starting point but don't be a sissy. Use your gut feeling and don't be line an airline pilot with a mental checklist. Take the initiative, don't be afraid of risks. You have a lot to gain. Also don't be a dick. But I think you aren't a dick, actually, and are probably pretty harmless. Be less harmless, but don't be a dick either. I dunno. Good luck.
/r/seduction03/01/18 05:24 PM
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I dunno I grew up in NY. You transplants are bizarro to me. I hadn't figured out what makes you guys operate until I moved out of NY and spent some time in Virginia and later in Europe. I realized the rest of the world is normal and NYC is crazy -- ha! Seriously it's just everything is compressed in time and in space in NYC. It's a harsh reality. People live in a shoebox with 6 roommates and pay ridiculous rent. Money is the big huge problem in NYC for everyone. Everyone is there to excel at som…
/r/seduction03/01/18 05:22 PM
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It's the subway face. Everyone has it. Live in NYC long enough that face is your default face on the street. Stop being a pussy and don't get your knickers in a twist. Approach anyway if you find them hot and don't take it personally. The city has like 20 million people in the greater metro area. You're not that special at first sight. As HOT or as RICH or as TALL or as amazing as you think you are -- there are probably 10,000 people within 1 sq mi as good or better than you. It's just the way i…
/r/seduction03/01/18 05:15 PM
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Dude I'm a native new yorker. You can't expect eye contact in new york. You gotta get yourself noticed. Some neighborhoods maybe are ok -- like wb or greenpoint. But for the most part NYC is full of people that have learned to ignore their surroundings. TOO many people. So people shut off and just walk around in their own heads a lot. In general everyone is busy running around the city and women aren't typically looking for guys as they scurry to work or to do their grocery shopping.. your best …
/r/seduction03/01/18 05:12 PM
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Very thoughtful post. I especially agree with you that emotional intelligence is key. Suppressing emotion is a disaster waiting to happen. Coming to terms with emotion, understanding their underpinnings, and maturing them out to something greater and more "beautiful" is the way to go. But it takes time and lots of self-reflection. And also it takes empathy to recognize all the parallels with others. We are more alike than we are different, after all, and being all stuck in your own stupid head h…
/r/seduction26/12/17 08:22 AM
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I think he just meant negative emotions like anxiety or overly positive emotions like premature enthusiasm. FWIW I agree with you. Life without emotion is retarded. I'd rather have SOME emotions in the mix. Just don't let yourself get carried away by them prematurely, I suppose.
/r/seduction26/12/17 08:19 AM
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The funny thing is I got good with women before I got good with trading. So I took what I learned about women and applied it to trading a little bit at first because there were natural parallels there. But yes -- the analogy holds 100%. I love it. Good read. Thanks for posting and Happy Holidays!
/r/seduction26/12/17 08:18 AM
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Yeah man it's about self-respect! Exactly! You gotta give respect and get it from the people around you. If they don't give it, clarify that shit with them. If they refuse to change, cut them out of your life. This is especially true of a woman, where the damage she can do to you is huge. OP is obviously not happy with the situation. He has every right to explain that to her. If it doesn't change, he should just leave her. She doesn't deserve him.
/r/seduction23/12/17 06:12 PM
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Yep. Exactly. That road leads to ruin. Plus there are plenty of women out there that have the right mindset.
/r/seduction23/12/17 06:03 PM
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Yep. Totally. She used to fuck this guy and now they party togeher? What?? I wrote a whole comment on this in this thread. It's fishy as fuck. And on top of that -- if you don't like a situation -- either work to change it or LEAVE. Don't be anyone's bitch and suck up something you hate. What kind of life is that to just "suck it up"? And for what? I mean -- it's not like she's the last remaining woman on Earth. And in this case OP has every right to be concerned. He's not the crazy one here, by…
/r/seduction23/12/17 04:26 PM
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You have no fucking clue what you're talking about, and it shows.
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:35 PM
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I agree with you 1000%
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:34 PM
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I am going to run the risk of downvotes, but quite honestly, you are well within your right and I think she needs to figure out a fucking way to make that stop happening. This is a guy she used to fuck. Not some co-worker with the wrong idea. I think it's pretty shitty that she even has interactions with him at all. Ideally your girl doesn't continue to run into former lovers. But that's understandable. The fact that he keeps insisting means either he's a toxic douche (possible) or she's not put…
/r/seduction23/12/17 09:28 AM
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Prostitutes. Just kidding. :) As you get older they will come to you more. And you will likely open up more. But it sucks. You have to be social to meet them to fuck them. That or maybe online dating. Although honestly that shit sucks. IRL dating beats online dating in almost every way you can compare the two. I do NOT recommend repressing your sex drive. It's a basic human need. And it's strong in you. Come to terms with it as a healthy part of you -- and try and figure out how to satisfy it in…
/r/seduction21/12/17 09:59 AM
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Oh man, hmm. It's hard to say specific things, because it's not really an algorithm. Play it by ear and experiment. Definitely the lowest level thing you can do is touch her hand somehow or put her hand in yours. If she doesn't recoil back and stays, the light got a little more green. That's like level 0 escalation. And it all depends on your seduction technique and whatever psychological link (or not) is between the two of you., and the context. Fundamentally it's complicated because it depends…
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:25 PM
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Well if you do it.. don't be doing it on the job. :)
/r/seduction20/12/17 06:36 PM
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This is great advice! The whole radical feminist/neo marxist movement right now is victim culture. They victimize themselves ridiculously. Don't fall into that trap! Don't think of yourself as a victim! You don't defeat their nonsense narrative by also mimicking it. Instead -- recognize the ridiculous situations that exist (namely on college campuses) and steer clear of them. You know who you are and what's common sense. And yeah -- avoid college campuses.
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:57 PM
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Ha, yeah you speak truth. If you're famous be careful. If you're working, don't pick them up unless they really really make it obvious they're down with that. Don't date women you supervise either. It's asking for trouble. In fact it's best not to date at work, period. Good advice!
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:55 PM
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But instead of assuming she also likes me in a sexual way I think it's her being friendly and not "I want you to fuck me right now." Well it isn't just those two extremes. You have set up two basic extremes of "just friends" and "I want to fuck you NOW!!". That's very black/white and misses the nuance. There's a gray area in between. That's what escalation is for. Testing the gray area. You escalate as a friendly way to test stuff out. Both for her and for you. If it works out -- it happens natu…
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:29 PM
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Yeah man. And women can be terrifying, especially when you're young. I'm 40 now so the power dynamics have changed. But I remember being younger and it was very frightening. I am not entirely sure why but I think it's just hard to be a young man versus being a young woman, as far as dating goes, all things being equal. The thing is it really is a weird setup. Women are most sought after when they are young, early 20's. That's when they are the hottest and they have all the power in the dating ga…
/r/seduction15/12/17 11:10 PM
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Wow that's pretty good. Well you don't need perfect abs. I think just anything that's above average is attractive and is really enough. Yeah the last 2 is basically diet and ab work... But if 4 abs show you're already in the 98% percentile compared to the average population. So I'd say you're done. Unless you want to be mr perfect. The rest is gravy.
/r/seduction15/12/17 10:40 PM
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Oh yeah --- russian twists are great. If you got a gym membership you can also get on a machine that also works the lateral abs with more resistance than you can get just doing them on the floor. Better/faster results. Also there are ab machines at the gym, etc.
/r/seduction15/12/17 10:19 PM
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Well get down to 10% bodyfat. If you are already there your abs should be showing somewhat already. Then you can do the hanging leg raise. I also hate crunches with a passion and they are actually fairly low intensity compared with the leg raise which is much more effective per rep. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmc94Hi1Y0A EDIT: Let me just say if you hate doing abs, that's ok. If you have a thin waist that's like 95% of the battle. Do pullups (for your back -- lats are important!) and do sho…
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:32 PM
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I agree with everything you said and they're all tremendously helpful. I will go into something esoteric too. Try to grow as a person in other deeper ways. Stare at the darker side of human nature. Look into the abyss as it were. Understand yourself and others and try and grow past your inner walls. Go to the places that scare you most -- both internally and in the exterior world (within reason, of course). Don't be afraid to confront the things you fear. You will be stronger when you get out th…
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:13 PM
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/r/keto Eat a ketogenic diet. Diet > lifting > cardio Once you get down to 10% bodyfat, then you do minimal ab work and they pop out.
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:10 PM
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Confidence is huge, for sure. Cannot be understated. But also in parallel back it up with something concrete. Work out, have a nice body, look as hot as possible. All that stuff helps, I'd say. And you can look in the mirror and respect yourself and you're back to confidence again, so it's a self-feeding cycle.
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:10 AM
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Lol... I know the feeling man. My strategy was to get as hot as possible (work out, eat right, get washboard abs), and just worry about myself. I'd try and not be lazy and take responsibility for my life and do what I love and be passionate. I still haven't done all of those things 100% yet. I do have a great physique and washboard abs -- but working on the career satisfaction thing is a full-time non-stop relentless never-ending mindfuck of a job. Over time as I got hotter it got wayyy easier. …
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:08 AM
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This.
/r/seduction13/12/17 02:48 PM
4

Tell that to the SJW Feminazi academians and administrators that are ruining campus culture at US universities.
/r/seduction09/12/17 11:04 AM
4

In my experience when a girl talks a lot about herself it means she likes you. I know it sounds cheesy and cliched but the less you do the talking and the more they do the talking the sexier it is for them. With one exception. If they are talking about their problems constantly that's a bad sign. It means you will become the problem soon as you get associated with all that negative shit. Try and turn that around. But if they're just telling you about themselves (especially if it's good stuff) --…
/r/seduction08/12/17 10:48 PM
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Yeah man there is a certain archetype of a powerful/manipulative woman wants a hot guy she can boss around. She exploits his insecurity and uses it to control him. It's subtle, and not so black-and-white as I make it sound. But it's definitely one of the pitfalls of being a sexy guy that doesn't know it, heh. I suppose the opposite happens with hot girls that get manipulated by douchey guys. It can happen the other way around too.
/r/seduction26/11/17 02:04 PM
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Nah, you didn't do anything. If anything you did your duty to yourself! And women believe it or not are flattered by that stuff in the back of their minds anyway so it's not like she'll hate you or something for it.
/r/seduction26/11/17 02:01 PM
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Ha ha good point although over time I have learned not to give too much of a shit about what other people think. That being said -- always leave room for a "hi how are you". You never know when a former "failed investment" can come back and pay you dividends...
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:00 PM
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Sure, not gunna disagree. But if you've got exceptional looks and barely any game (but at least SOME) versus a guy with amazing game but not really anything exceptional in terms of looks -- I'd argue the guy with looks would usually do better. That being said -- you can always improve your looks.. AND your game.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:26 AM
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That's not all you need but it makes it far easier. It's definitely not a guarantee though -- just when you start to try and get women it will make it far easier is all.
/r/seduction26/11/17 08:10 AM
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Honestly, the only solution that I know of is practice. So much this. It's like learning to play and instrument or getting good at a sport. MAKE ALL THE MISTAKES. That is experience. You will eventually one day wake up and be good. Just practice. Keep at it. Also, drop Tinder. It gives you a false-sense of accomplishement. It can also give you a false sense of failure depending on the tinder culture in your area. It's a piece of shit for self esteem and even for getting laid. You're far better o…
/r/seduction26/11/17 08:08 AM
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Hey man I'm a dude. But I can say you're strikingly good looking. You're also tall. I think just be persistent in this goal and the path to success will reveal itself to you. You have a lot of ingredients already for success in this domain (the pussy domain). Just don't give up. If it's what you want -- experience with women -- just keep at it. Be careful of manipulative women though, is all I can say. Good looking guys that lack confidence sometimes end up with a manipulative bitch as their fir…
/r/seduction26/11/17 08:07 AM
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Eh, it's a slight red flag, for sure. I don't like talking to girls that still have their ex's in the picture. It's a sign they haven't really moved on and it could mean they aren't really emotionally (or physically) available to you. It basically makes it all more frustrating than it needs to be -- since she won't really be putting her "all" into getting to know you when she's still into someone else. It's not fair, basically. But I could be jumping the gun here a little, but I still don't like…
/r/seduction13/10/17 09:41 PM
1

I think you can turn yourself into a hot sex machine with the right body. Sexiness is also physical and the right physique gets you laid. My own N=1 experience.
/r/seduction25/09/17 10:02 PM
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A lot. I started keto and working out in 2011 and went from like 18% bodyfat down to 10-11%. I got more chiseled and shredded and women starting seducing me in bars in NYC with greater frequency. I'd get the odd office worker chick down for sex and putting the moves on me. One time I was just going down to the corner store to grab some snacks and basically a woman intercepted me on the street (she was a little tipsy and coming form a party). Like 10 minutes into knowing each other we were alread…
/r/seduction25/09/17 09:58 PM
1

Dude I'm not sure why there are so many haters in this thread. Seriously I think it's just people that do online dating all day and don't want to face the truth that it's far inferior to real life approaching. They can't take the cognitive dissonance, quite frankly.
/r/seduction23/09/17 06:46 AM
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Dude it's like 2% of the guys get all the dates. Everyone knows this. Online dating sucks balls. Unless you live in west bumblefuck where there literally are not enough people ever in 1 place to meet someone, online dating makes no sense. All my life I've lived in big cities. Always scored or got great gals IRL. Never once met anyone of quality online dating. It is shit.
/r/seduction23/09/17 06:45 AM
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Yeah man I'm a extrovert too. I hate online dating. IRL I get cute girls and I know right away if we have even an iota of a spark. Online dating is all waiting, all frustration, very little payoff. Fuck that shit. Honestly I hate to say this but online dating is total shit. IRL dating FTW. Esp. if you're an extrovert.
/r/seduction23/09/17 06:43 AM
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Nice. I love the horny type. EXCELLENT. There is something about a man showing up and fixing stuff that is sexy. I don't want to count your chickens before they're hatched.. but.. there is definitely a chicken there and it's a-hatchin'.
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:51 PM
2

yeah ha ha maybe wait for the crisis to abide then, good thinking. Makes sense...
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:29 PM
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No idea.. I am a computer programmer. Not even sure what a live wire is actually. I guess in principle my own gut would tell me "business first then pleasure".. that way maybe she will be happy that the job is complete and then you can text her and ask her out to a drink? I really don't know the answer to that one. My feeling is it's not super important either way so .. I can't say which one is better. Which ever one YOU feel better about is best, actually. :)
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:21 PM
2

I like this line. It starts with sort of a compliment and is super clear and direct and even innocent in its directness. I love it.
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:14 PM
3

THAT'S PERFECT! BE direct. Don't waste too much time texting. I've always had the best success when I just used texting as a means to negotiate real face-to-face time. Text plans and then meet IRL. I think being really direct "hey, want to grab a drink" is perfect, to be honest. Especially since it was the first thing that popped into your head. 100% guaranteed great. And if she says "no" she's really the crazy one. She did set herself up to be asked out...so.. you're well within your right. Go …
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:12 PM
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Nah too passive. Be direct. That way it's clear and if she says "No", you know. Otherwise you'll always wonder "what if?". And if she says yes.. well, then you get a date to enjoy. I think she's clearly interested so pretty much you need/should ask her out if you want her -- which it sounds like you kind of do.
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:11 PM
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Dude she is INTERESTED. Ball's in your court. Read her. Is she the type that emanates sexual vibes? Is she really sexy or horny looking? You could potentially just go out for drinks and put the moves on her. But if you want guaranteed success (or at least a guaranteed good time) I think getting together for a fun date is best. The best first dates are ones where you have a shared experience like going to an amusement park or something fun and that lets you two focus on something outside of yours…
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:10 PM
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Well my whole point is if you went to the trouble to ask yourself all these questions you're already taking her way too seriously. I am going to repeat my advice to you -- focus on someone else. As for your questions above -- who know.. who cares? Probably a little of all 4. But the real guesswork on your part.. what should be cooking your brain and making you obsessed -- is a girl that HAS NO BOYFRIEND. That's my point. I stand by my assessment I think you fear intimacy (which is the normal res…
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:00 PM
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My opinion is that you are afraid of an LTR so you start crushing on "safe" girls. Either far away, already attached, or otherwise unobtainable or whatnot. The tell-tale sign is you only grew more attracted to her after she became unobtainable. That, and it's a perfectly normal thing to go through after a 5-year LTR where you are wary of just diving into another 5-year affair. We've all been there. I would recognize this fear you have now and acknowledge it and work with it. It's perfectly norma…
/r/seduction22/09/17 12:55 PM
2

Just do it for the pussy and the sex. Yes the approval of course is awesome. It's great when you are desired. But it's a catch-22 there. You can't not have your OWN approval and seek it out in others. And you can't know whether you're sexy without some success. Ideally you don't need anyone to tell you from the external world that you're alright. I'd focus more on concrete results such as sex rather than the ephemeral and flaky trap of "approval", to avoid mindfucks. But yes, we all relish their…
/r/seduction22/09/17 12:38 PM
1

Eh, that shit comes back faster than you think. Just keep doing stuff and don't beat yourself up too bad. We've all been there. Through motion and action things happen. It's better to flail and fail miserably than stay at home and do nothing. You're doing alright. Keep at it and things fall into place eventually more than you think they will.
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:52 AM
3

Honestly you're already pretty far in the hole with her and it's going to be impossible to "win". You said it yourself she fucks with other guys and has long texts with you. That's pretty much your role in her life. If you are ok with that, great. You aren't. She throws you a bone every now and again by coming to see you, because she likes having you in the orbit in her life and is aware that if she doesn't do that you may end up losing interest. The fact that she finds clever ways to avoid havi…
/r/seduction18/09/17 08:01 AM
0

Not about rock-hard abs. Seriously. I mean if you got them great but they really are more of a masculine trait, get my drift? We like boobs and butts. Hips, luscious lips, delicate faces. We like women. Guys that are into rock-hard bodies are a minority or maybe are secretly gay.
/r/seduction17/09/17 07:32 PM
1

Maybe she has commitment/closeness issues and is putting up some cushion/safety zone around herself because of her disastrous last relationship, hence the "as a friend" thing. Anyway if she was with an abusive guy -- unless she's had a lot of work done on her inner self (therapy, etc), she might be trouble, actually. In my experience there's a reason women end up in abusive relationships and usually it's lots of family/daddy issues and women like that can be lots of trouble.
/r/seduction17/09/17 04:36 PM
1

One can always fuck anything up, of course.
/r/seduction17/09/17 08:58 AM
13

She's not into you. Move on.
/r/seduction17/09/17 05:29 AM
10

She's DTF. Why is it complicated on her end?
/r/seduction17/09/17 05:28 AM
1

Flirt and compliments and shit like that. It helps a lot if you're hot, though.
/r/seduction17/09/17 04:35 AM
1

Yeah good point. The "no solid reason" test is a really good one. If she says no, you know right away and no money/time wasted. Win. If she says yes, you know you're 75% in unless you fuck it up somehow or she's a psycho (that's always possible, lol), so worth going for drinks. With either outcome you win. Good strategy.
/r/seduction11/09/17 02:32 PM
12

I wouldn't put any work in with a much older broad. Either they're dtf or aren't. Go out for drinks with her and put your hand on her leg or something after the first round when you're already cozy at the place. Actually if she even agrees to drinks in the first place your 50% in. Put your hand on her. If she swats it away, not dtf. If she doesn't, dtf. Take it from there.
/r/seduction10/09/17 10:19 AM
2

Yeah man the thing is in this life you have to find the opportunities you DO have available to you and focus on them.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:36 AM
2

So date the ones that don't have that ridiculous cutoff. There are plenty. A good friend of my gf's is 5'2" and she's really cute. Her bf is about 5'6". They look great together.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:28 AM
2

Dude.. just talk to short girls. There are plenty of them in the world and some are hot. I'm tall and I can't date a short girl (I tried but it's just too odd with the height difference, it feel weird), but I wish I could sometimes when I see one that's my type. Enjoy the bounty nature offers you. At 5'6" you aren't a midget. There are girls shorter than you that you can date. Enjoy.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:08 AM
4

I have to say I completely agree with this post 100%. I can't give you enough upvotes. I think if everybody just understood what you are posting above, a lot of time and stress would be saved for guys that are going a little crazy in practicing PUA. It really is as simple as the above. Of course -- lots of guys have 0 experience in escalating, so they are awkward. But even that is ok. You can probably get the experience just following your advice. I love this post.
/r/seduction06/08/17 02:04 PM
6

Whenever it "feels right" really. Because, you now, if it feels right to you, then 50% of the people involved at least are doing ok and feeling right. And if you're doing ok and feeling right, then she's more likely to do ok and also feel right, if she likes you, so practically 90% of the people involved are all-right. So do it when you feel like it. If it helps, usually I text as soon as I get home if it was a short date but it went extremely surprisingly well. if it was a long exhausting date …
/r/seduction29/07/17 10:28 PM
1

If you are asking yourself that, then please break up sooner rather than later. LDR's are a pain in the ass. If you have doubts, you'd better get out now and cut your losses. You're young. Plenty of fish in the sea.
/r/seduction29/07/17 10:24 PM
2

Getting fit and being generally healthy is very attractive, agreed.
/r/seduction28/07/17 07:10 AM
11

In my experience if they are doing all the talking that's a VERY GOOD SIGN. Keep at it! You are doing great!
/r/seduction25/07/17 04:22 PM
5

This is a very strong response. OP!
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:37 PM
16

I agree with you. Never be a coward. Don't flake. Be clear. Always. Especially with women.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:36 PM
1

Why even waste your time? Better spend that night doing something else or setting up another date or going out to meet someone else. No sense in wasting even one evening on this chick.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:34 PM
1

Another good answer. But I think OP can still save it if he acts playful and says something witty that clarifies his intentions (as other commenters have suggested). But I agree with the spirit of what you say -- basically agreeing to it when it's not what you really want is a recipe for being a loser with her.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:33 PM
1

Another good answer. Listen to this commenter.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:32 PM
2

This is the completely wrong answer.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:31 PM
1

I disagree. She already looks stupid for inviting her friend, anyway. If she doesn't care, why should you?
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:31 PM
1

This is pretty much the answer.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:30 PM
1

Ha, could be.
/r/seduction15/07/17 12:22 AM
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Eh they may. I wouldn't recommend it. It gets old fast. I am 40 now but when I was 19-22 I had a couple of cougars. After the initial "woah I'm such a man I'm fucking a real woman" wears off -- you feel like a freak. Or at least I did. I'd recommend getting over the mommy issues and dating a woman in your age group. Not only is the sex better -- you will be with someone on more or less the same footing as you and be able to offer and receive real love and friendship in a more balanced fashion. I…
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:20 PM
1

If you are feeling adventurous, go to eastern Europe. The women are off the charts and are pretty friendly towards Americans. Poland, Romania, Bulgaria.. take your pick.
/r/seduction11/07/17 04:51 AM
1

My half sister once said "A man needs to be slightly less ugly than the devil." Use your ugliness to your advantage. Be physically fit and healthy. Even if you've got a hideous face some woman will find that irresistible. Just be fuckable.. that is.. be somewhat in shape (preferably very in shape).
/r/seduction16/06/17 09:41 PM
6

Good point about it being definitely hard mode. If you can walk away unscathed from dating or fucking a stripper and/or an escort -- you pretty much can survive any shit test from any regular girl that isn't nearly as crazy. So you definitely get a little bulletproof. I agree that your lifestyle and values won't be compatible with a stripper and/or escort and therein lies the rub. Best sex I've ever had in my life was definitely not with one of these women. Most fun I've had as well outside the …
/r/seduction05/06/17 07:26 PM
1

A few weeks? I don't spend that kind of time on a female I intend to fuck unless we're already fucking. I think my solution to your problem is to just talk to more girls and get more experience and not let any one of them drive you so crazy before you're even lovers. The best part is being lovers. You just don't know that yet because you don't have that much experience .. get more experience. Don't give up and keep at it.
/r/seduction28/05/17 09:09 AM
5

My two cents: Yes, and the ones that do it generally have control issues and/or want to be bossy. You should do the pursuing. Leads to less drama later.
/r/seduction27/05/17 01:31 AM
4

10 is relative. To me you are describing a 6 at best. I am not into stupid gold diggers with no professional skills or goals. There are women out there I would consider a '10' that aren't like that. I am with one of them.
/r/seduction08/05/17 01:20 PM
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This is spot-on.
/r/seduction05/05/17 04:12 PM
1

Don't hide it. Be honest.
/r/seduction05/05/17 04:04 PM
1

Trial and error, persistence. Welcome to adulthood. :)
/r/seduction05/05/17 04:03 PM
14

I think they secretly (or not so secretly, depending on their personality) hope a particular guy they are attracted to will approach them and they may even fantasize about being with him before he even approaches. If it doesn't eventually work out that way, they may get disappointed and wonder why not, sure. Like the other commenter said: they are people too (just their mating strategy usually differs significantly because of biology and society), so anything is possible.. including wondering wh…
/r/seduction12/03/17 03:59 AM
2

You're using Trump as an example of how to live your life? Why not reach for Gold and go straight to Hitler?
/r/seduction04/03/17 04:53 AM
3

Yep. Straight and to the point. I second this.
/r/seduction03/03/17 10:05 PM
3

This. So much this. A true friend makes you happy and you make them happy. Real friends don't do this shit. Real friends have your back and look out for you and you do the same for them. This guy has some issues. Cut him out of your life. You want to be respected by your friends not frustrated and hurt by them time and again.
/r/seduction03/03/17 10:04 PM
3

You're wrong about this one. You need to present a unified front and not go stealing each other's love interests. It's a bad scene. Learn the bro code and live by it. Get out of the woman's tribe and be a man. We gotta have each other's backs in love. What goes around comes around. Stealing each other's women is a weak thing to do and the women you end up getting that way on some level won't fully respect you. It's crappy and shows a lack of character and a lack of strength. And the girls that p…
/r/seduction03/03/17 09:59 PM
2

Classical oedipal complex transfer. He's basically killing his father and marrying his mother, that sort of thing. It's unhealthy for him to do that.. he may be the kind of guy that can't genuinely like a girl unless his buddy or someone else is also chasing her. It sucks to be him. He has some major issues, I would say. But don't feel sorry for him. Knowing he's got issues doesn't make it all better. He's still a shithead. I'd say you should pretty much get rid of him from your life if he doesn…
/r/seduction03/03/17 09:58 PM
1

There are no rules. Read the situation. But in general it's best to go for things you want in life and be direct.. if that helps.
/r/seduction27/02/17 05:13 PM
8

This. So much this. I deleted tinder long ago and now I have a hot girlfriend that I met in real life and am having the best sex of my life right now. I am not saying it's because I deleted Tinder. I still needed to go out and meet her. But Tinder never once helped me meet anyone of quality.. ever.
/r/seduction13/02/17 01:16 PM
4

That's a huge red flag. I would definitely avoid. It shows some sort of weird immaturity thing going on with her. She's still a little girl and can't handle being a grown-up if she needs her BROTHER to hold her hand during a date. It's a big no-no.
/r/seduction06/01/17 04:15 AM
1

Either that or incredible success and leadership in some domain... (which often leads to money but not necessarily always)...
/r/seduction02/01/17 08:57 AM
1

My own random thoughts: I used to live in NY. NYC is a shitty place for dating but a decent place for 1 night stands with crazy chicks. You could stop trying to date and simply try and pick up girls for sex in bars. Since you're a virgin tho, it'll be much harder for you due to your confidence and experience being probably lower than the average guy you're competing against. You could potentially work that into your pickup routine -- go up to drunk corporate chicks looking to get laid and actual…
/r/seduction22/11/16 12:36 PM
1

The girl is crazy. Trust me. You did yourself a huge favor. I'm almost 40 and if she acts like that after 2 weeks you're in for a world of insanity.
/r/seduction16/07/16 08:57 AM
7

Because girls are people too and people are erratic and unpredictable and immature sometimes.
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:06 AM
1

Are you really that ugly or are you trolling? Us guys can get away with being ugly if we're clean and fit. Surely you must exaggerate..! I am reading this over again and it could be a troll.. or it could be honest. Ugly guys usually have a chip on their shoulder about it and rarely admit it. If you know you are ugly.. and don't give a fuck about it.. I am SURE some women find that sexy as hell. Some women love an ugly manly in-shape guy. It makes them feel they're with a real animal.. seriously.…
/r/seduction13/03/16 03:18 PM
8

If you want to get laid then get hot and talk to lots of girls, it really is that simple. Yep. So true. Good on you for figuring it out early (ish)!
/r/seduction12/03/16 08:56 AM
4

Seriously? Well you may have lucked out in the wife lottery. Getting married is a crap shoot if you do it early as you don't know what kinda bitch she'll become. Everyone has different luck with that. I agree that if your wife is awesome and truly loves you and also is sufficiently dirty in bed, then yeah, it's a fucking amazing deal. Hands-down. But sooo many guys end up frustrated in their marriages... and I think it's just because they had no fucking idea what they wanted when they fell in lo…
/r/seduction12/03/16 06:24 AM
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Be as hot as you fucking can become. This involves taking care of your health and working out. Get shredded and stay shredded. Be sexy as a mofo. Sexy goes a long assed fucking way towards forgiving any other sins you may have. Finance is important but don't overestimate its importance. Get rich if you like being rich and only because you like being rich. If you have simple tastes and don't care about great finances, don't waste time and energy focusing on that thinking you'll get girls. You may…
/r/seduction12/03/16 06:21 AM
1

Honestly I usually nope the fuck outta there unless it's already clear she's interested. I'm not into blowing up a chick's ego at my own expense, generally. And it gets confusing and really boring mighty quick if we're both hitting on her. I am not into that, generally. Unless I know her already or something I'll usually bail. Or.. unless the other guy is a total tool and it's obvious his presence is only helping me. Then I'll stick around. But if she's obviously flirting with both of us just to…
/r/seduction12/03/16 06:12 AM
2

Yep. Excellent response. I would also caution that she may con you into going out with her again. She may even make seemingly honest attempts to win over your affections, OP. After she pulled this crap on you I would say you're better off investing time elsewhere and not getting involved with her. See her in the next life, maybe.
/r/seduction03/03/16 04:20 PM
1

Self esteem boost. Keeping you in orbit so she knows she has "options". Emotional tampon. Generally immature shit. But common. It sounds like it frustartes you and you hate it. Do yourself a favor and flat out call her on her bs and tell her to leave you the fuck alone. She obviously doesn't respect you. Even if you get in a relationship with her she may end up cheating on you or wondering what's on the other side of the lawn. My two cents. Of course there are other solutions/theories but that's…
/r/seduction03/03/16 04:19 PM
1

Yep. Pretty much my experience. You're better off sticking to real life approach. Fuck online dating.
/r/seduction02/03/16 08:15 AM
3

Yeah word up. See if you can have more mindblowing sex with her. Make it a regular thing. Sex + Time = love in most cases.
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:54 AM
2

Sounds like she's kind of a player.. but well whatever. Girls that age that are hot usually are. I would say like her.. like her a lot. If you like her, you like her. Follow your heart. Don't bottle up your true feelings or emotions. But if you fear entering some sort of mindfuck/weak position or something -- see if you can see other people. Use this new mojo and experience to find other girls to like in parallel. This way you don't drive yourself nuts, and maybe can meet some other sweet girl t…
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:53 AM
1

I would say if you don't fall in love with her, then you are ok. You still have to ask yourself though -- when there are tons of hot ladies somewhere out there without boyfriends (or "in-between" boyfriends) -- is it wise to spend time and energy and all that on something that can lead to trouble? Why do it in the first place? In my experience there is an answer to this question. Often being the other guy comes with less responsibility. Especially if you can set it up as a booty call situation w…
/r/seduction12/01/16 07:07 AM
1

If you can stick to that in reality, and your conscience doesn't bother you, more power to you. In my experience it rarely works out exactly as planned, for me.
/r/seduction12/01/16 05:54 AM
1

That's true actually. They do tend to tell you later though, after you're "in".
/r/seduction11/01/16 10:47 PM
2

What you write resonates with me greatly. I can say my story is similar. If it helps any, some great men have done similar. St Augustine was a huge sinner -- fucked lots of women, some of them married. Sinned hardcore. He realized later for him what was a good life, and achieved it. He said, "Sin so that you may know sin" or something like that. I'm not religious .. but that always stuck with me. Thanks for sharing.. I can relate...
/r/seduction11/01/16 07:12 PM
1

Ha ha, yeah sorry. I got a little riled up. Other people in this thread seemed to be all "gung-ho" about not flinching when she says she has a bf. Other dudes in this thread even went so far as to suggest it's a great idea to bang other dude's chicks. I just got worked up and vented to you. :) Same page, agree.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:59 PM
1

If a girl says "i have a boyfriend" at the jump, she's basically saying "i don't want to fuck you" in the nicest way possible. I wouldn't even go so far as to conclude "I don't want to fuck you", because that implies that you are repugnant to her or something. She may very well want to fuck you, but not want to cheat. Or she may not care to fuck anyone but him. At any rate -- unless you're into seducing cheaters.. best bet is to move on.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:54 PM
2

I agree with you.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:53 PM
5

Yep. Was originally gunna be my suggestion. She did you a favor by announcing she has a bf. Do her a favor and stop hitting on her.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:52 PM
2

Ha ha.. and even if someone answers "yes" here they are either: Lying Have a sad horrible story to tell you about all the bs they went through afterward after they fell in love with a girl that had another dude.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:50 PM
1

Bingo. This!
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:49 PM
1

Very true. Unless you're a psychopath. But most of us aren't. Always try and do (what you feel is) the right thing. There is something to be said for it. And it can reward you in this life in subtle surprising ways, as doing the wrong thing can torture you (again, in subtle surprising ways).
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:44 PM
2

THIS. So true! Your conscience has a nasty way of rearing its ugly head and torturing you. You sleep sounder at night when you did the right thing. I have stolen other dude's women before. I feel ashamed for it. I am not sure I would have or could have done any different at the time. I still think it's better to not do that. You are so right on the money here... it's profound.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:43 PM
0

It's dangerous to get involved with other dude's chicks. You may end up in a world of hurt. Especially if she's hot. I agree.. it is a dog eat dog world. No need to help the other dogs (bitches) eat you. By going for a chick that has a man, you are giving her a lot of power and a lot of options. Use common sense, of course, but in general it can be a huge waste of time unless you get out of it something that benefits you (easy sex maybe?). But if you end up falling for her -- it can be really ba…
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:39 PM
-3

Dude -- YOU GOT IT!. That's it. You have it down perfectly. Use your new power wisely. Don't hurt others. You may end up hurting yourself as well. Be responsible. And seriously... once you realize you have the power to seduce, and you aren't so afraid to try new things, get rejected, and/or have a little fun (there IS fun to be had!)... why bother with other dude's chicks? Plenty of ladies out there. The world is full of 'em. Some of them are perfect for what you want now. No need to hurt anyone…
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:37 PM
3

I definitely agree here.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:33 PM
0

Yeah, I hear you, and agree. I encourage you to fuck girls with a bf if that's a turn-on (it sure can be!). The bf deals with all her crap -- she just comes over for a booty call and leaves. It's hugely erotic. Bonus if she's mad at him and is revenge-fucking you to get to him. She'll be a dirty little slut in bed with you, sucking your cock, swallowing all your cum, etc, etc. it's a HUGE turn-on -- no question about it. I've done it. But it's not for everybody -- and in my experience you are pl…
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:30 PM
-1

I hear you and agree 100%. Two things. First of all -- what if she was YOUR gf? Wouldn't you want other guys to leave her the fuck alone? That's the altruistic argument. Also -- unless you are into that sort of thing (banging another dude's chick -- hey for some it's a turn-on!), it makes no sense to continue. It's like asking to buy a house, being told it's not for sale, then insisting on negotiating a price further. If it's not for sale.. move on. There are plenty of houses FOR sale, and chanc…
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:27 PM
2

Unless you MUST have HER.. Why bother? I've been with chicks with bfs, married chicks, single chicks. Everything. In my experience the sex can be good (esp with a married cheater), but it's a double-edged sword... And certainly not something OP is looking for. Op says he doesn't fuck with girls in relationships. So his best bet is to walk the fuck away and invest effort in a girl with fewer strings. Why waste time when its not for you? Ego?
/r/seduction11/01/16 01:01 PM
17

Thanks dude. I'm glad you agree. Was fearful I'd get all the down votes. There seriously are plenty of fish. Fucking with another dude's woman is a bad scene. Even if you "win", you still lose.
/r/seduction11/01/16 12:41 PM
7

It's not a shit test. If she has a boyfriend, GTFO if you know what's good doe you. Don't bang other dude's chicks. It's bad karma, trust me. If she's shit testing you and doesn't have a bf. Again it's trouble. Shit tests should come later and not in that form.
/r/seduction11/01/16 12:36 PM
7

It's highly relevant. It's lame to keep wasting your time if she says that. It puts you in a weak shitty position if you keep trying. You're better off walking the fuck away. If she has a bf.. You don't want the trouble associated with being the other guy. Plenty of fish in the sea. If she was lying and just said that to fuck with you -- it's a red flag that she's trouble. Walk away gracefully is the best approach for overall success in that situation. Even if you get her -- you wouldn't want he…
/r/seduction11/01/16 12:29 PM
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Well it's a good thing they tell you that up front. They are trying not to waste your time and doing you a huge favor. Plus, if she was the type to cheat on her bf.. Trust me, she's not the type for you. So back out of it by being honest. What you wrote here in your post seems reasonable and logical and true. Say basically what you're saying to us, to her, then move on.
/r/seduction11/01/16 12:21 PM
1

Not at all. And your writing and story touched me. Look, I am not in the Mark Manson & Co camp. I don't see women as manipulative bitches. But I'm a man. I have been this guy, the OP. I have friends who are him now. I know the pitfalls of being a man in the USA. We have mixed/weird/confusing gender roles. We got bombarded with propaganda as kids making us feel a little dirty and weird about our sexuality. Lots of guys now rather than being abusive chauvanistic dicks (as men were historically), h…
/r/seduction17/12/15 07:59 PM
2

Yes.
/r/seduction17/12/15 07:56 PM
1

I've tried it myself when I was younger, as a personal experiment. You'd be surprised at the answers you get. The spectrum is large (from shock to eyes rolling to blushing/intrigue to hot discussions about sex leading to actual sex).
/r/seduction17/12/15 07:41 PM
2

Don't be so afraid of STDs. You can always wear a rubber.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:20 AM
2

No! Be yourself! Ok, well, maybe a little. Sometimes. They tend to care more about how something is said rather than what is said, is the general pattern. But that's not necessarily exclusive to women, they just do it more, I have observed.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:20 AM
9

To go with the gym stuff more. (This is directed at OP): Think about the first time you worked out and lifted weights. You sucked, right? You were weak and your muslces were sore as fuck. Or think about your first day on the job -- you were a total noob, right? Well, same goes for women. You have to start somewhere. I seriously think OP ought to cut himself some slack, take baby steps, measure progress, and keep at it. If you want something bad enough and don't give up -- and keep at it -- you'l…
/r/seduction17/12/15 12:13 AM
5

As a male I'd say hanging out with girls as friends can help you get into the "female tribe" a bit and learn how to relate to women. Women are a bit more emotional, on average, in the way they come across and communicate. You learn to pick up on their emotional cues if you hang out with them more. They also have different favorite topics of conversation. Also, if you get anxious around women then having them as friends could potentially help you relax. HOWEVER, don't make the mistake of having a…
/r/seduction17/12/15 12:04 AM
1

At this point shit is getting real. Sex is great. You'd love it. Go up to every woman you meet (that you are genuinely attracted to) and pay them a compliment, tell them you are attracted to them, then flat-out ask them to have sex with you. Don't give a shit what they say.. if they say no, move on. If they say yes, great. You'd be surprised at the answers you will get. You'll likely get laid by the 10th woman. Especially if you say women in general are attracted to you. It's worth a shot. Do it…
/r/seduction17/12/15 12:00 AM
1

Escalate it to physical shit when you hang out. Kiss, make out, etc. Even then they make flake out. You got numbers on your side, though, it sounds like. Ultimately one or two of those will be on fire and you'll have amazing sex. Keep doing that until it grows into something else for you.
/r/seduction17/11/15 07:08 AM
0

Relationship = sex + time. Just be the man & fuck them.
/r/seduction09/10/15 07:02 AM
3

Yeah, good point. My personal experience is that I had self-esteem issues with women because of a semi-abusive situation at home growing up. I underestimated myself. I'm actually tall, quite attractive, very athletic and fit, etc. On the rare instances when I felt good enough about myself to actually hit on a girl "in my league" (that is, attractive herself), it really worked out great. Whenever I went for the uglier ones (the ones that matched my self-esteem, I guess), it was painful and frustr…
/r/seduction28/09/15 05:55 PM
8

I'm 38. This. Is. So. True. And yes, the ones that want it make it obvious as day and the ones that don't really are not worth the time. Unless you like the buildup and frustration (to many men that's a turn-on) -- but please, DO YOURSELF A FAVOR -- don't make every one of your sexual encounters be this frustrating thing where you are constantly rejected until you finally get some. Be nice to yourself and definitely allow yourself to get the easy ones. The ones that want you. That like to fuck..…
/r/seduction28/09/15 07:01 AM
1

This is partially cultural. In the USA the culture favors women behaving this way -- even divorcing is very advantageous to them. I have lived in various parts of the world and in lots of places especially in Eastern Europe, men are more likely to cheat than women. One, the women in that part of the world do a lot of self-policing and quickly accuse other women of being sluts if they sleep around too easily (not so in the USA), and two, women find it MUCH harder to divorce (due to social pressur…
/r/seduction28/09/15 06:57 AM
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Yeah. They are trying to overcome a deep inadequacy and/or psychological wound created by a distant/missing or otherwise careless father. The absence of the father figure means the woman wants male approval and attention to compensate for the wound. A great way to get guys to approve of you is to fuck them, obviously, since men love sex. Generally these women are quite into sex and can be quite sexual, though. But if you value fidelity and stability, it's not for you. Also, even "non-nymphos" ca…
/r/seduction21/09/15 12:19 PM
14

I strongly dislike prudishness. Women that get offended by the occasional swear-word or dirty joke are a huge turn-off. I don't like women who are afraid to question common/popular beliefs or at least discuss their beliefs. I like make-up. I like caring women that are even-tempered. An angry or easily-angered woman is a huge turnoff. I used to be into nymphomaniacs but it's a double-edged sword. she may end up fucking the mailman, and the milkman, and the guy at the corner store.. etc. And I nev…
/r/seduction21/09/15 11:14 AM
3

Yep. And it can play out that way.. Not always but yeah, that's one way it can play out for sure. I have seen the friend-zone-orbiters become boyfriends in the past, though, so anything can happen... but often she just goes for a guy she barely knows and all the friend zoned guys can stay at home jerking off while she has a fling with her new beau... that's one scenario that happens often too. Also it's disrespectful to yourself to put yourself in a position of such frustration and placation. If…
/r/seduction19/09/15 04:26 PM
4

Sounds like it's her problem, not yours. Just hang out with her and make moves on her and make it a little physical. If she rejects you outright and you don't want to be "just" her friend, stop hanging out with her. Basically ask for/initiate what you want from her (kiss her, etc). If she is unwilling to give it to you, don't just hang out with her hoping she'll give you some eventually. Only hang out with her as a friend if you want to be just friends. But if you want more, try for more. If she…
/r/seduction19/09/15 01:46 PM
2

You gotta just really force yourself to interact more with more women. Even if it hurts at first and feels like the last thing you want to do.
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:33 AM
3

That's the spirit!
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:31 AM
1

Very perceptive that you realize that's the reason you do it. Why do you want to appear emotionally invested prematurely, though? Really try and find out why that is for you, and whether it's a legitimate, noble, and good reason or not. I found that I was doing it at various times in my past for various reasons. Often I was trying to resolve issues left over from my mom or previous girlfriends. I wasn't giving the PRESENT a chance to happen.. Was partially living in the past. I think a better pa…
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:29 AM
2

I think you are very torn internally and you miss her terribly but at the same time you realize she .. or the situation rather .. is making you sick. I wrote you privately with my thoughts. I really feel bad for you.. and wish you the best. I went through so much confusion and pain with women at your age. I wasnt well equipped to handle it all because I grew up with a single mother and lacked a father figure. I had to figure out so much stuff for myself without the guidance of an older man -- an…
/r/seduction03/09/15 09:02 AM
2

Wow, your only thought, huh? Well, I would listen to your inner voice, then. And.. Im glad you are not ashamed. Good. I went through something very similar... many times. In retrospect it led me to take more risks and have some interesting (and some not-so-interesting) experiences. This feeling you have can be used to create new experiences.. romantic experiences! You have changed already, and are still changing. 18 is very young, and you have discovered something in life that you like a lot, an…
/r/seduction31/08/15 11:11 AM
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You are very much at the beginning of your life as a man. Hopefully there will be many more women in your life. I personally think you just need more experience with more women. Your first woman will always be special in your heart and in your mind, most likely, but trust me, there are many women in the world that can make you feel wonderful. Also, theres nothing wrong and everything to applaud about giving up (temporarily) your hobbies such as video games to obsess over a new hobby (girls). It …
/r/seduction30/08/15 07:52 PM
4

One-itis can pay off, in some circumstances. It is like salt or pepper or a spice in a dish. A little bit can make a dish more interesting. A lot is ill-advised. Sure, it's nice to obsess over one girl for a little while. She may even be impressed by your persistence and dedication and take it as a sign that perhaps you're cool and truly into her. It can actually pay off that way. Also, you may enjoy learning to discover the qualities in one person and it may be an enriching experience for you. …
/r/seduction06/06/15 09:01 AM
1

Well said. Be nice if it makes you happy to be nice. Being nice in the hopes if getting something back may succeed or it may backfire. That being said, being nice.. At the right times has social value. We all do it. With our friends, with our lovers, etc. A key rule is if you WANT a woman. Let it be known that you want her. If she rejects you and friend zones you, then you can decide then if you want to be nice or just distance yourself ever so slightly. If she likes you back and fucks you.. Go …
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 01:24 PM
1

It's a normal first reaction. Same shit happened to me. As time passes and you live by your new perceptions and you start to make more and more decisions as the new you, something changes and you begin to see women in a better light than before. It could very well be though that almost all the women in your life are garbage that need to go. That happened to me. 95% if the women I knew, I no longer really keep in touch with. Don't worry though. New women will pop into existence and the terms and …
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 01:19 PM
9

Romania! Just north of you! I've been to Bulgaria a few times on vacation (at the beach, and I also visited Balchik). I feel pretty wealthy here too. The Romanian women are slutty too (although maybe that has to do with my increased perceived value?). So much so that I've even had a few stalkers here.. :P I like Romania -- although Bulgaria is even cheaper and actually Bulgarians are in some ways "more decent" than Romanians. Romanians can be lying crooks sometimes..
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 03:08 PM
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I'm an American who also works in IT independently and who lives in Eastern Europe. I should note all of this is a lot easier to pull off in Eastern Europe than in the States. For one, the legal system is shittier so if you do walk away from a marriage she is less likely to get as much money, if anything. Also, the women are by and large far easier to "dominate" as OP put it. Socially it's more acceptable for them to admit they are with a powerful man and to "accept" his habits (such as keeping …
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 11:23 AM
1

Yeah, seriously, THIS. If she's doing a lot of talking the battle is nearly 100% won, my friend. If you feel attracted to her as she's talking, go with your feelings. If you don't, move on. No sense in being dishonest. But yes, if she's doing all the talking that's a VERY good sign, generally speaking (no pun intended).
/r/seduction25/04/15 07:34 PM
3

I wasn't aware of her until you just mentioned her. I'm in agreement with most of what's written about her on her Wikipedia page, and I'm going to research her stuff further. Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 09:36 AM
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I seriously think she's right. She's the only American feminist that I know of who doesn't have her own head completely shoved up her own ass. She actually makes sense and is non-delusional.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 07:07 AM
1

A million times this. You need to be your own best ally. That includes setting good goals of yourself but also cutting yourself slack to enjoy life and not needlessly attacking yourself.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 06:50 AM
1

Yep, this. Dunno why you got downvoted. It's because you are right and the truth hurts. It's power all the way. Everything else is a fine detail. Work on how much power/wealth/importance you got and the women flock to you.
/r/seduction27/03/15 10:23 PM
0

I have an alternate theory and I think it holds true 99.9999% of the time and trumps any other mindgames you may want to play with yourself or her. They are attracted to: Money, power and status. Those 3 things are all pretty much aspects of power tho. So it's power, basically, if you want 1 simple idea that covers every possibility. Aaaand.. That's pretty much it. Even when they or anyone else claims otherwise, power trumps everything.
/r/seduction27/03/15 10:21 PM
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That's.. disgusting. Why stick your dick in such a creature for such an extended period of time?
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:33 AM
2

Yeah gender relations are fucked in the USA. Seriously fucked. I don't even think the women are happy with the situation created by the feminists and by the media nowadays, really. It's like they have to be alpha-male sluts to be normal. And if they aren't, they are boring lame prudes. If a woman wants to be a homemaker she's a loser. I don't think even the majority of women are really content with the situation, honestly. Go control of population, FTW! They propagandized us as kids. They contin…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:09 AM
0

You rock. I agree with you 100%.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:07 AM
2

Also lucky for you, you don't have to marry an American woman! :)
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:05 AM
0

I agree with you here. I can't help thinking guys that get all bent out of shape about this type of thing may be on some level resenting their own lack of.. crazy experiences. Maybe the husband in this story secretly wishes he got to do all that stuff and is jealous. He probably never got to do all the fucking he wanted to do (for whatever reason.. morality, religion, family pressure, other obligations), and so deep down inside he latched onto this type of thing that she did as an excuse to end …
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 03:04 AM
1

Yeah I think the sanest thing you can do is assume they are all much sluttier than you. In fact, if you go on that assumption, a lot of your behavior will generally get sex out of them faster. You'll bring out their inner slut. I know the "sluttier" I've become as a male, the more I found even the normal-seeming women around me were actual huge sluts. It's like they realized I'm turned on by sluttiness, and they let their inner slut out. Your best bet is to be ok with sluttiness, expect it, and …
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 09:48 AM
1

He may be better off dumping her but we men get caught up in relationships too and it feels like the end of the world when we have to end it. Also, it's a pretty fucked up reason to end it. He may feel like he's being a draconian jerk. It's darned hard to walk away sometimes, even if we know it's in our best interest. I will put my money on the fact that there are other frustrations he has with her right now in the present. Finding out she was doing 3somes just was a culminating point for him. I…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 09:42 AM
1

Well in Eastern Europe the women are much hotter but less honest. Watch out. American women will 'fess up when caught lying (and they are generally shitty liars). An Eastern European woman will lie to your face even when you have evidence and testimony to the contrary. They are masterful liars. That being said -- they are less "slutty" in the traditional sense than American women so the stuff you are likely to catch them lying about is less awful. Also, they are very much hotter and it's easier …
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 09:36 AM
2

Same here. I bat a 1.0. Actually that not True. There have been instances where after the make out I wasn't into her as much as I'd hoped I'd be and didn't pursue anything further. As I get older I don't really care about rejection so much as finding a good match. That being said I filter out women I am pretty sure I wouldn't like anyway and only go for the ones that seem to have value to me. Generally things work themselves out .. I dunno. I'm 38. The game is different at my age ... I'm differe…
/r/seduction19/03/15 04:15 PM
2

Been there, done that. Works.
/r/seduction19/03/15 03:56 PM
3

Just start making out. Works. If she doesn't jump at sex from a hot make out.., turn her on .. Figure out what she responds to physically and do it. Ear/neck kissing are always a first place to start. As far as GETTING to the point where you can do that... Hmm. Wasn't too conscious about it but I guess spending time with her is a good start. Bonus if she comes back to your place.
/r/seduction19/03/15 03:54 PM
2

Key is to do it in a non-needy way. Insistent is key.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 10:15 AM
1

You probably wanted to save her or some stupid shit like that . Right? Or subconsciously maybe you knew all along you'd never be with her and you were just curious to get close and see what it's all about, knowing you could bail at any time because she's not really the one for you after all. Makes it easier to get out when there are all these obvious flaws, right?
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 07:52 AM
1

Don't even pump too much. You may end up deluded that she's not really like that and possibly suffer wasteful complications later with her.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 07:36 AM
1

If she's sexually inexperienced and hungry for knowledge.. Nothing better than you teaching her exactly what you want. Training a younger woman at the art of love (as seen through your eyes) pays dividends!
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 07:24 AM
1

Wow. Thanks for that. :)
/r/seduction31/01/15 01:24 PM
2

My mom was like this. Her dad was an alcoholic wife beater. So you can imagine mommy had huge issues with men. I witnessed her treat men like shit all throughout my childhood. When I got older, she started pulling crap like that with me too. You can imagine I think I've gone through boot camp and been to war already when it comes to this article. I'd like to THINK I can see through this crap -- but due to my own issues half the time I run away from it. It's like the exact opposite of what I want…
/r/seduction30/01/15 05:28 AM
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I dunno man. You already won by walking away, I'd say. Unless you want to deal with divorcee drama (any kids?), cut your losses. Unless she's mega-hot or something and/or the sex was amazing. What makes her so special to you?
/r/seduction30/01/15 05:27 AM
1

Well ultimately if hearing that is a huge turnoff for you, fuck it. Life's too short. If, however, you are compelled by her in some way and find it's worth it -- then yeah, the advice in this article helps. For example if I find a woman that really turns me on on some deep level. Like the sex is amazing and/or I really like her -- I'd be willing to force her to cut the crap. However if she starts pulling back and I'm not really that into her, I'll probably bail. It's a turnoff when you're turned…
/r/seduction30/01/15 05:25 AM
1

Hell insecure men probably have similar issues. I used to be such a fucking douche. As soon as a girl told me she loved me I'd immediately plan my escape and start actively seeking to cheat on her. Therapy plus growing up helped. I was basically afraid to let myself love her for fear that she would eventually hurt me. Lame. I can see it happening to either of the sexes...
/r/seduction30/01/15 05:23 AM
1

We're talking about mass quantities of hookers. Not just 1. Ok so you fuck a hooker once on a Monday. You get erections again the next day, the day after that. And what you gunna do? Jerk off to the memory of that hooker you fucked for the next 3 months? We are talking a new hooker for each erection the man ever gets. He won't have time to jerk off. He needs to cure his fear of sex. And the only way to do it is practice, practice, practice! And for that he'll need a lot of hookers. So in the end…
/r/seduction27/01/15 04:39 AM
2

$15 dollar hookers. You pay for the plane ticket once. You can fuck like 10 hookers for the price of 1 stateside. And they are all hotter. Makes sense if you wanna go on a hooker vacation.
/r/seduction26/01/15 04:44 PM
1

Can always afford it if willing to travel.
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:44 AM
0

Go to some prostitutes. Go to Thailand or Eastern Europe, where they are hot, not that expensive, and the service is good. Do that a lot until you are cozy with fucking and with your body. I usually don't think prostitutes are a good idea unless you have issues like this man has.
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:44 AM
1

Ha, that reminds me of this failed gambling strategy that my college roommates tried once at Atlantic City. They would go to a roulette table and bet on red. If they lost, they would bet on red again, but this time doubling the bet (to cover the previous loss). If they won, great, they would reset the bet to the initial amount and keep playing (sticking to red again). If they lost again, they would double again, and keep betting on red -- in the expectation that you can't always get black and th…
/r/seduction06/01/15 02:12 PM
1

Yep, you hit the nail on the head. This irrational fear can be overcome with work and practice but it's a scary world for most people who have been taught from youth to be risk-averse. It could end up really shattering your world-view. Most people fear this kind of change!
/r/seduction06/01/15 02:01 PM
1

Most people are horrible at math... so there's that..
/r/seduction06/01/15 02:00 PM
10

Eh, it's easy for them. Sit around and look pretty basically, and let us do the work. At least for the hot ones that's the case. Not sure what the less comely ones do... They tend to be subtle and more about having real conversations, I've noticed. Although once I was in a bar in NYC and a married chick just basically flat out asked me to come home with her after about 2 minutes of dry conversation. I, being single at the time, said "definitely", and we ended up having sex on her husband's bed. …
/r/seduction06/12/14 07:19 PM
1

Agreed. Very good advice. Plus being a decent dancer is fun and opens up a world of social opportunity.
/r/seduction22/06/14 03:15 PM
1

Wealth trumps game, pretty much. Game is essentially all about convincing the woman that life can be happy without much money. But wealth is really #1. Even for girls that claim it isn't, it is.
/r/seduction22/06/14 03:10 PM
1

It definitely helps to bang lots, even if you paid for it. I can see that being a good way to get over insecurity, get cozy with sex, your body, women's bodies. However at some point .. Unless you want to always pay for it, the confidence gained there needs to be put into practice with approach of a regular gal... While it's not the end-all-be-all to hook up with ho's, I can see it helping confidence. You're talking about pros right?
/r/seduction22/06/14 02:54 PM
3

I love you. This is what real feminism was SUPPOSED to be about. It got hijacked along the way. Thanks very much for writing this. It feels good to read this coming from the keyboard of a woman.
/r/MensRights05/06/14 04:42 AM
1

Just try and have sex with them to determine if there's interest or not. If not sex, then no hangout. If sex, continue to hang out. Seems like a relatively good algorithm
/r/seduction04/06/14 02:11 PM
1

Genius!!!!!!!
/r/seduction18/03/14 08:37 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction13/03/14 04:53 AM
2

And he even gave her a reason why "because you were checking me out", which sounds alpha-ish.
/r/seduction12/03/14 10:12 AM
1

10s might get approached less often than you think because most guys just fear them. I've had an easier time sleeping with a 10 than a 5. 5's can be very insecure because they are used to being fucked once and dumped and tend to have more barriers and emotional shit you gotta deal with. The 2 10's I've had were absolute joys to be around and didn't even know they were 10s.
/r/seduction12/03/14 10:11 AM
3

My rule is pay if you actually feel like paying and it's not a huge deal to you. Don't pay if you are just doing it to fuck her and actually resent paying or if it's a "thing" for you. Just be true to yourself basically.
/r/seduction09/03/14 11:02 AM
1

I think we're as bad as the feminists if we call this rape. It obviously isn't. It is, however a tremendously shitty thing the woman did, and she shouldn't be awarded 1 red cent from the poor guy.
/r/MensRights07/02/14 10:14 AM
1

Most women aren't this fucking crazy. Trust your instincts and you should be fine (assuming your instincts aren't wacky )... ;)
/r/MensRights07/02/14 10:12 AM
2

Astounding.
/r/MensRights02/02/14 11:58 AM
2

Meh. I would have told her to stop with the shitty attitude. I honestly can't bottle this stuff up. I need to be comfortable and relaxed with my woman. If I constantly perceive her as shit testing me I might as well start seeing other people. Why stick around with a chick that steps on your feelings and disrespects you? Anyway maybe it's a mole-hill that doesn't bee to be made into a mountain... But for me if this stuff repeats itself too frequently I break it off. Recently broke up with a woman…
/r/seduction29/01/14 06:20 PM
0

"Thanks for your time" is a decent way to end it if rejected, definitely.
/r/seduction19/01/14 08:34 AM
5

Yeah I agree. Get the number after having a bit of a conversation. Although there is something to be said for nazi-like cold efficiency in her method...
/r/seduction19/01/14 08:33 AM
5

I think going out with another girl is a good idea. He's more likely to react positively if there's another girl there. I'm pretty sure. At least I would.
/r/seduction19/01/14 08:31 AM
2

So don't talk, do. When the time is ripe, kiss her.
/r/seduction19/01/14 08:16 AM
-4

Invite them over and put the moves on asap. Resolve it. If they reject you, ignore them in the future. If they go with it, and fool around with you.. you win.
/r/seduction09/01/14 04:16 AM
16

"I'll make this simple. I just want to bend you over and fuck you..." and the bit about if you want to have conversation we can. I love it. Genius! And... "for science"!
/r/seduction07/01/14 07:18 AM
2

Book deal turned movie. Seriously OP should write a book.
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:37 AM
14

I'd PM her, asking "why didn't we have sex yet?".
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:37 AM
2

and a legend of fucking.
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:36 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:35 AM
1

And the confidence came with just doing this all the time and getting indifferent to the negative stuff, right?
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:29 AM
1

Ok, fair enough. But, I am not sure that adulthood and sexuality necessarily go together. We could conceive of a reality in which teenager's sexuality is healthily expressed and managed. I'm all for 14 year old having sex with each other as long as their parents approve of the situation, and as long as they avoid unwanted pregnancy and disease.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 10:10 PM
2

Why can't you understand it? It's sex and it's complicated (because we make it so). And we have to allow for gray areas, and people need to use their common sense. I don't think a 17 year old guy having sex with his 19 year old girlfriend should be a crime ever in the history of humanity. Sorry. I just don't.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 09:03 PM
1

I don't think I'm undermining anything. My position is use common sense. I was simply saying USE COMMON SENSE, in other words. And yes. Men and women are different and think differently. I'm sorry if the reality of our biology doesn't conform to your beliefs. I do, however, agree that men in general as being emasculated systematically. We probably agree on more things than we disagree, ok? I just think a 17 year old MALE getting his dick wet with a 29 year old SOFTBALL coach, at the end of the d…
/r/MensRights06/01/14 08:07 PM
1

Not sure. I actually really think it depends on how it went down. Was she in love with him? Was it a real relationship? Did he resist sleeping with her at first but it was a sort of sordid tortured love affair? Or was it an abusive situation? Was he manipulating her into doing all of it? I guess the same applies to the reverse guy-situation as well... but like I said, I can speak for myself as a guy, and I know in my mind at 17 any sex was WELCOME!!! I admit there's a double-standard here, and I…
/r/MensRights06/01/14 07:45 PM
1

Age of consent is 16 in her state, but 18 for situations where the adult is in a position of authority over the teenager. I would argue that there's the law, then there's wrong. A 17 year old guy fucking his 29 year old female softball coach is in the gray area, IMHO. It all depends on how they both feel about it, and if it was abusive and resulted in some sort of "damage". In my opinion the 29 year old softball coach made a stupid decision, probably. I actually think the punishment here is seve…
/r/MensRights06/01/14 06:56 PM
1

That skin has thousands of nerve endings that contribute to the sensations during sexual intercourse. It's not exactly like they are cutting off 1mm of skin off your elbow. It's on your dick, and it adds to sexual pleasure. Do I have to explain further why removing it forcibly from a child is wrong?
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:25 PM
1

Also even if not one fucking boy ever died from it, it's still fucking wrong. You don't cut off healthy parts of people's bodies, EVER, without their consent. You just do not do this. It's fundamental. And also, the foreskin is actual sexual tissue that is very sensitive.. so on top of that you're reducing the pleasurability of sex. It's so basic. I don't even get why the fuck there still is a debate. Outlaw it on anyone under 18 already!
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:23 PM
1

Ok, man's forced mutilation of it on newborn babies is ridiculously cruel.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:21 PM
2

KICKASS analogy!
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:19 PM
2

On the list of men's cause this to me just seems on the very bottom of importance. Mutilation of newborn children's genitals? Really? Doesn't seem important to you? It should be.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:18 PM
-4

I see your point. But the social bias is that men force themselves on women and women, being the "weaker" sex, cannot possible "force" themselves on men. They operate in the psychological space, by enticing. The history of western civilization is to disempower men in general, so it's not surprising that it applies here. Most laws were designed to remove male power. It's not really "women" that are doing it, per se, although they play along with it. The real culprits are other powerful men. Alpha…
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:11 PM
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My parents grew up in Communist Romania. This exact population manipulation technique was used back then, except it was all about making people afraid to question the principles and values of communism. Nice to see the land of the free is using the exact same technique to destroy people's sexuality and instill them with neuroses. Fuck man... you rid the world of one set of fascists only to have the country that helped do that become as bad themselves.. unfortunate.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:08 PM
-4

I dunno. When I was 17 I would have loved to have fucked a 29 year old. And some of the teachers in my school were sexy. I see this as a victimless crime, really. But whatever...
/r/MensRights06/01/14 01:34 PM
1

Fair enough. You got your own way of doing things which is cool. I personally am always open to new ideas on whatever, even pickup, from women, men, scientists, whomever. It doesn't hurt to listen. You can make up your own mind about what is true or not for you later. I do get why it can seem like a trap to take advice from women when this is fundamentally a male "problem". But hey, know your "enemy"! :)
/r/seduction05/01/14 06:25 AM
1

Use common sense but the point is a lot of guys are socialized into keeping things as puritanical as possible for as long as possible and that can totally backfire and suck ass. In our society we need to be reminded to sex it up, so as to compensate for that fact.
/r/seduction04/01/14 11:20 AM
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A sexual compliment can color her perceptions favorably and affect the mood of everything else that follows (in a good way!). It changes the rules of the game and lets her fucking know you mean business and that it's about sex... not about bsery. It ups the ante.
/r/seduction04/01/14 11:19 AM
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This girl's pretty fucking smart and on the money about a lot of things. I just subscribed to her channel...
/r/seduction04/01/14 11:18 AM
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Good way to look at it. If you're down to fuck and that's what you really want .. a rejection by a girl that isn't dtf is her doing you a favor, really.
/r/seduction01/01/14 01:28 PM
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I'm weird. If you want to hook up -- why not make the first move? Or be like "I would REALLY like for us to just get naked now and cuddle". See if it works. But first see if the other person would say no because they think you're bluffing. I dunno. If a female friend did this, and I was even remotely attracted to her, and single/unattached, I would totally try it. You know, for fun. But I'm easy.
/r/seduction25/11/13 03:50 PM
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You are awesome. Thank you.
/r/seduction15/10/13 05:31 AM
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Yeah.. but you gotta use your instinct. If an obviously sexual woman approaches you and there's a certain "I am perfectly horny and ready to have sex" sort of intoxicated look in her eye -- you can take a chance and be direct, was my point. Yeah there are exceptions to every rule was what i was saying. But yeah I agree. 9/10 -- aloof works well.
/r/seduction12/03/13 05:22 AM
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:) Ha ha. :)
/r/seduction12/03/13 05:17 AM
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Lol you're such a dick. Ok, I'm chuck norris back when he was young. Jeez. Fuck you. I have a sick body dude. You don't know who you're fucking with.
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:31 PM
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Yeah I hear ya. I got no obvious flaws man -- my job rocks and I have the body of chuck norris. I was just sayin', perhaps in a defeatist way, they all seem like shit-testers.
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:57 PM
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i think this is solid advice. If they shoot you, may they shoot me too!
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:45 PM
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Or you can be direct about what you want. This has actually worked for me: Her: "Wow, you're cute!" Me: (Checking her out) "So are you.. you're definitely my type" (checking her out some more she really was fine) "... since we're both hot, let's go back to my place later." (or something like that) Actually worked. I dunno if I would categorize it as an aloof response -- but it really was an "indifferent of outcome" response. I hoped we would end up fucking, but could care less if she said no. Sh…
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:41 PM
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There's always a catch! EDIT: What do I do to avoid oneitis? Be a bastard and see multiple women at once?
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:34 PM
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Hmm true.
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:22 PM
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Ha, I don't think my personality has any obvious warts. I'm actually probably subconsciously attracted to a certain type of bitch, perhaps. I need to start testing out this "non-shit-testers" hypothesis. It intrigues me and if true, could mean life can be more fun.
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:22 PM
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I think there may be something to this. I will start to think they don't exist. and hope for a brighter day..
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:21 PM
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.. or have some serious brain damage. Amen dude! Non-shit-testers! i will find thee!! and love thee! Awesome message ..
/r/seduction11/03/13 04:21 PM
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I'm 36. I fuck girls in your age bracket and mine. They all do this. Only ones that don't is the ones that are older than you that are into younger guys. They take on a different mentality when they are older than you, for some reason (but the same woman would do shit tests with a guy her age, just not you!). IDK. There must be some strange evolutionary reason for this. IDK, just my experience.
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:14 AM
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Yeah but all people can be shitty some of the time. It happens. Life is hard and not everyone is perfect. While I agree with you in principle, in practice I think this is a formula for being really intolerant and alone. You have to be there for your friends and loved ones even if they are going through a rough time. People can be that way sometimes. Tolerance is a virtue too.. to some extent. Although I do agree if it adds up to more trouble than it's worth, and causes chronic problems, it may b…
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:13 AM
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Your ideas are nice, but in practice I have yet to meet a woman that I have been romantically involved with that doesn't do this to a lesser or greater extent. Maybe it's just my karma or something, but seriously, they all do this to some degree. Being able to adapt and deal with it is better than categorically just saying "I'm gunna exit any and all such situations". But I dunno. Different strokes for different folks. And sometimes the shit tests are a temporary phase and once you break past th…
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:11 AM
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Well said!
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:08 AM
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Depends how old you are. I'm 36 now and I really just want 1 good one. But when I was 22 it was a different story.. I wanted to fuck everyone. Big, small, fat, skinny, ugly pretty. Was really curious what they all "felt" like..
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:07 AM
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You make a lot of angry sense.
/r/seduction11/03/13 06:06 AM
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Yeah this is the part that gets me. When I get infatuated with a woman quite often what can happen is that what I imagine is not what reality is. She's different than what I picture in my head. But I think that's ok and in some ways it becomes an iterative process as you gain more experience. I tell myself the more women I crush on, the more reality meets imagination, the better my imagination would eventually get at imagining more realistically (but still magically) what the woman is like. Also…
/r/seduction10/10/11 12:23 PM
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Screw her man. I agree -- deleting you is fucked.
/r/seduction09/10/11 02:40 AM
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I dunno. I beg to differ with this. There is something to be said for passion and intensity. If that's your gear -- ROLL WITH IT. Don't stifle your own nature. Understand it and be one with it. If you are the kind of guy that gets passionate quickly about a woman, reads her facebook wall, tries to know more about her indirectly.. well that's what you are at present (and it could change in the future). Be yourself and the girl you're meant to be with for your current state of life and mind will a…
/r/seduction07/10/11 08:03 PM
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Yeah spot on. I'm in the same boat, I also have AA though, most of the time. It's lame. I hate it.
/r/seduction07/10/11 07:56 PM
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Yes. Definitely a good rule. But on top of that, if you are having AA at a particular moment, you can be a superstar knockout like Brad Pitt. In reality women won't approach you very often (if ever!). And if you have AA, you won't approach them. So you could end up in a situation where you are pretty screwed. So the counterargument to this is: BS, if you are Brad Pitt women will be crawling all over you. BZZT! WRONG! Women won't approach you because they are typically much worse with the AA. The…
/r/seduction06/10/11 04:55 PM
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Well what's on your mind at the time? Are you being really self-conscious and/or critical? Are you constantly guaging how well it's going? These kinds of thoughts can be distracting. Here's a thought: since you have nothing to lose anyway (I'm guessing most of your dates end in boring failure) -- talk about exactly what's on your mind with your date. Don't do the small talk -- but really be yourself and talk about what's on your mind. Even if you think it's inappropriate. Like for example if all…
/r/seduction06/10/11 04:19 PM
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