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| 1 | It's very easy for a girl to rack up a HUGE n-count. Here's an example.Would you elaborate how could you get to top 5% muscle mass in 6 months? I've started lifting 6 months ago and see results, but definitely not 5% mm. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/02/17 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Ever been with a beta girl?Are you two exclusive? | /r/askTRP | 08/01/17 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Girl who rejected me, approached me at a venue: follow-up?I agree, generally speaking. That's why I went for the close the second time even if it was a bad moment. In this case, she knows that I am capable to go for the close as I did it twice, so I thought not going for it would mess a bit with her expectations. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/17 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Girl who rejected me, approached me at a venue: follow-up?I am thinking of going for something like that, super chill. I am thinking on the date perhaps even escalating and then not going for the close this time, leaving her wondering a little bit. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/17 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Girl who rejected me, approached me at a venue: follow-up?Yea, thanks man: I don't regret going for the kiss. It was a win: because we're really good at making up excuses for not going for it. The rejection was a bit harsh, mostly because I knew I blew it. Any thoughts on a follow-up? | /r/askTRP | 08/01/17 05:24 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkShe stepped back sending me this message: What I'm saying is that if you want to do something low key nearby I'm up for that. Tea, talk, walk. Note that I didn't say anything. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 08:34 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkThanks for your comment. Not even one day of radio silence and she sent me another message: What I'm saying is that if you want to do something low key nearby I'm up for that. Tea, talk, walk. So, it's a good sign that she explained herself like that. Any suggestions for the next move? Specifically, you mentioned to make it clear it is a Date, how would I set the tone? | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 08:32 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkThis makes sense. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 02:56 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkThe thing is: we're obviously not friends. Or are you suggesting that I play along and actually do activities with her as if she legitimately was my friend? | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 02:48 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkI didn't particularly commit much time/effort in this, nor did I nurture expectations; so I just feel this is a good opportunity to get some practice of this specific situation. Or what do you mean? That's why I'm asking for the best course of action: I obviously don't want to be her friend. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 02:46 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkWhat am I doing that classifies me as a sappy boyfriend? I thought confronting her directly would be he opposite of that; something on the lines of: "Come on, we are not teenagers anymore…" etc etc. Otherwise, I don't get what you are suggesting. That I completely ignore what she just say and keep running the game? As if nothing had happened? Doesn't this broadcast lack of social intelligence and "getting the hints"? And maybe that I'm not man enough to be upfront with what I want? | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 02:09 AM |
| 1 | The best way to confront a mention to the LJBF talkEven if it's just for the sake of practice, I'd want to try to go the escalation route. I mean, I've been on a date with her, and it's not like we have social circle in common: I literally have nothing to lose to try this out. I guess in order to escalate I'll need to break some rapport. Do I do that explicitly (such as option 1), or do I completely ignore this comment and go ahead the regular route? | /r/askTRP | 22/09/15 01:50 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereYea, I was confused because recently nothing like this has happened to me. I understand and didn't consider the things you have said: there might have been something going on outside of the current situation between us. And I'm not expecting to fuck on the first date all the time, but I just was never in the situation (at least recently) in which I don't at least kiss my date during the first date. I mean, if she's not giving signals and we're not kissing, I'm assuming she's not interested. This… | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:50 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereOf course I was very vague in the OP, so this might be an impossible question to answer: but any pointers? Any obvious things you think I might have failed? Or points I should concentrate more the next time? | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:46 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereThanks for the feedback, I'll go for the longer game then. She's an interesting woman. | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:46 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereShe knew I was going away for 10 days. As for your suggestion, it seems like a good one. Maybe I'll find something connected to some of the topics we discussed. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:44 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereThanks for the feedback. I will keep "mysterious", but as I'll be in another country for ten days and have no chance to set a second date up, any suggestion on how to keep the interest and good feeling from the first date up? | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:43 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereI replied to the text with something along these lines: "You are an absolute pleasure, name. Hopefully you could bring some of that nice nice taste over to this rainy Saturday. ;)" (referring to the dinner I cooked for her as we cooked more than we could eat and there were leftovers). I didn't reply to the friend request yet as I was not on Facebook, but I plan to respond with a little tease such as: "you've been stalking me on Facebook already?" something like that. Now I'll be in another count… | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 02:42 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereSolid advice. Thanks a lot for the feedback! I like you said "anyone can see that": sometimes we really need an external perspective, because I actually didn't understand. Ahah | /r/seduction | 05/09/15 03:04 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereInteresting: it just felt quite dissonant to me; inviting me over to her place but doing some pulling away. I'm going to be out of country for 10 days, how do you suggest I play it in the meantime? Should I qualify her by saying good things about our date? I was thinking of teasing her for having stalked me on Facebook. I mean, she is from a slightly different generation, so text game might not work in the same way it has always worked for me so far with younger gals. | /r/seduction | 05/09/15 02:51 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereUhm, ok, I understand: even though from no kissing or holding to F-close… So how do you think I should respond to the text and friend request? Should I qualify her a bit more? Ramp up the attraction a little bit? | /r/seduction | 05/09/15 02:48 PM |
| 8 | Pre-empting the branch swingingYou are definitely not setting your boundaries and you are allowing her to disrespect you. Next her. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/15 12:25 PM |
| 1 | How do you emotionally support a woman the Red Pill way?This is actually golden advice. Do you think there is the risk of encouraging being treated as an emotional tampon as – u/Invalidity mentions – with phrases like these, though? | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 12:29 AM |
| 2 | How do you emotionally support a woman the Red Pill way?Don't give advice. Never ever try to give a woman advice, she doesn't want it even if she desperately needs it. Yep, noticed that much in my experience, even with LTRs. I even teased girls and discussed this thing in more relaxed times. As an analytical person, I would think that when people tell me they have a problem, they are looking for a solution. Women aren't. Frankly, I don't suggest you become an emotional tampon; it doesn't matter what type of relationship you have, it's not your respon… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 12:28 AM |
| 1 | So much approaching no luck! Need tipsYou won't improve unless you analyze what you do wrong, no matter how many sets you open. Even in time of successes, you need to analyze what went right and what went wrong. Then you can work on your sticking points. If your conversations "go nowhere", I'd guess you are not escalating. | /r/seduction | 13/06/15 11:32 AM |
| 5 | I've desperately wanted a GF my whole life but honestly sex has been less of a concern for me than being accepted, appreciated, cared for, and maybe even loved. Now that I know that's all bullshit I feel lost and beyond that I fear I'm broken.Take yourself less seriously. Get out of the self-pity mechanism: it's a draining vicious circle. You've realized pretty hard truths: it will take time for you to digest them and, with time, even enjoy them. Work on your neediness. Forget about getting a GF. Work on yourself, whatever that means to you: the point is that you've gotta be absolutely fine with being alone before you can even think about being in a relationship. It is a weird paradox, but you'll learn it is pretty obvious: when I've… | /r/askTRP | 13/06/15 11:31 AM |
| 1 | She insists on our being "different", should I ignore it, address it or play with it?Ok, solid. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 01:37 PM |
| 1 | She insists on our being "different", should I ignore it, address it or play with it?Might be harsh to tell her that she has to work for more, so I am not sure about that; otherwise, thank you for the pointers! | /r/askTRP | 24/05/15 11:09 PM |
| 1 | She insists on our being "different", should I ignore it, address it or play with it?That is exactly what I am saying. How to make her qualify and work a bit more for it? Also, the main question is: what's up with this "difference" thing? | /r/askTRP | 24/05/15 12:06 PM |
| 1 | She insists on our being "different", should I ignore it, address it or play with it?No Oneitis here, I'm seeing other people as well. | /r/askTRP | 24/05/15 12:05 PM |
| 2 | Keeping up the attraction despite distance, and creating the basis for a relationship commitmentI don't know why you have been downvoted, it is solid advice. I perhaps wasn't clear enough in this post, but at the moment there has been no commitment to a relationship between either of us. What I need to do is to set the basis for this commitment, for us to come up and say: "Sure, let's try it." Your advice of: Relaxing my expectation Not pushing (maintaining the frame) Not being too available Is really solid. But, on the other hand, I need to show her that I am willing to try and commit mor… | /r/seduction | 22/05/15 02:53 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Text escalation, the importance of logistics, LMRAs I mentioned, I don't have a place. But I managed to invite myself at her place, I will be cooking for her. There might be her flatmate. From there I am not sure how to isolate, escalate. And I also understand that I need to address the LMR this time. | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 01:25 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Text escalation, the importance of logistics, LMRI have a few more days with her. Today, I was in the city and I sent her a text at midnight, asking if she was sleeping; she said she was out with friends, and I said: "too bad, I was around heading home and wanted to taste your lips for a second", then she said: "I can flee for a second". And she did, she left her friends and we met really quickly. I built comfort and attraction and made sure I ended the interaction before she did. Any tips on what I should do next? | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 03:04 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Text escalation, the importance of logistics, LMRIt happens when the girl's rationality kicks in during seduction escalation. I'd say this is a text-book example LMR because she said: "Let me remember the moment like this", which she used to back off and be sure not to be perceived as a slut. | /r/seduction | 14/05/15 03:02 AM |
| -1 | How to get things started on Facebook when the girl suddenly adds youGiven that there is no pressure, I think it might be a good way to practice anyways. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/15 03:45 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with flakes that keep stringing you along.Yea, tell me about it :) | /r/seduction | 02/12/14 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentThat's a pretty good one, actually. :) | /r/askTRP | 07/11/14 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentWell, reading most replies it doesn't necessarely look like it, but I am glad you are looking for the same thing, and I agree with you on the red flag thing. The question is: since obviously nobody is perfect, when you see a red flag, doesn't it make more sense to at least try and speak about it instead of just blindly next'ing? If so, what's the best way to put the conversation out and deal with it without sounding needy? | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentVery good read. I understand that I probably still have to internalize some of this. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentThank you, your point makes much more sense now. Although you use harsh words, I get that there is no way to be politically correct and also be effective in delivering the message, so I don't take it personally. Someone always initiates, at best the other is on the same wave length and imediatly jumps on the idea. I get what you mean: there is always somebody "giving up" first. In that case, it was her with her words. But, to be fair, it is also true that I was considering pretty much the same t… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentThings already happened pretty much as you described. I got some distance by not being available to her in the night yesterday, and it quite worked. Today she sent me a couple of texts, to which I replied with quick responses (as I was genuinely busy) and then she called me. We spoke a little bit (we didn't even mention what happened yesterday), and then she said that I sound very distant, and that made her scared. I really didn't want to sound distant, and I reassured her that everything is fin… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentVery helpful post: ♂. I can see you are suggesting me to subtly test the ground instead of confronting her about being receptive or not being receptive to my emotional needs, did I understand correctly? Since this is something I am specifically looking for in a LTR, do you mean that if she is not responsive to those attempts, I should realise she is not relationship material for me and next her? I might be naïve, but I have some sort of belief in speaking about things… since people cannot always… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentThis reply makes the most sense of all the ones I read until now, thank you: ♂. I'd really appreciate if you would elaborate on the masculine way to express emotions and why do you think I expressed them in a feminine manner. Or, otherwise, how can I express that I was bothered by her lack of care in a masculine way. After that happened and I gained some more distance, today she sent me a couple of texts, to which I replied quickly (as I was genuinely busy) and then she called me. We spoke a lit… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentI'm sure it seemed that way, but she doesn't love you. She loves the way you make her feel, and once that changes, she'll stop saying it. These are very powerful and true words. Elaborate a bit on them, please: do you mean that loving a person for what she is (rather than how they make us feel) is impossible? Or is it possible from a male, but not a female perspective? | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentYou are saying that women are not able to give emotional support? While I understand the necessity of maintaining frame and gender roles, I want to be able to express my emotions in a relationship. I am not happy just to have a fuck doll I can lead around. As I said in another comment: I just want to clearly state that this is what I want from the relationship, and if she's not able to provide it, there is not going to be a relationship. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentsending her a lot of messages or always informing her what you are doing Not sure if that is something implied in my post, but this is definitely not the case. I don't say it because I am being defensive: I am just bad at texting, so I don't send many messages and I sometimes do not reply to her messages either. If I am too busy, I don't even check my phone for hours. The only solution to your problem is to have a plan B. I see the logic behind this; however, it seems to me that it shows even le… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentYep. That's what I did. As I saw that she didn't care, I just went to my friend and spoke with him instead, and we hanged out in the evening and had a good time. However, for me this is an important part of what I am looking for in a relationship. I want a girl who care, and I want to have the feeling that — at least in the majority of cases — I can speak to my girl and she will care. You got angry with your ex. I don't want to get angry or confront her. Just clearly state that this is what I wa… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentI got some distance by not being available to her in the night yesterday, and it quite worked. Today she sent me a couple of texts, to which I replied quickly (as I was genuinely busy) and then she called me. We spoke a little bit (we didn't even mention what happened yesterday), and then she said that I sound very distant, and that made her scared. I really didn't want to sound distant, and I reassured her that everything is fine. When she asked if something had happened, I told her that nothin… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentSo, the bottom line is that even if my grandpa dies, I should not fall back to her? I understand that women are attracted to confidence, but showing weakness and emotion is not a sign of lack of confidence. I'd say it's the opposite, but let's say it's totally unrelated. What you are saying is that you are never allowed to show weakness in a relationship with any woman? But I see the ability of showing weakness as something I look for in a LTR; this is one of my requirements so to speak. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining frame while expressing emotions and demanding emotional fulfilmentNo, dude, not we, you are 2 different people, stop distancing yourself from responsability. I don't get what you mean, really. I am not distancing my from responsibility: we (as in me and her) spoke about transitioning from just seeing each other to being exclusive and getting into a more long term thing. I was seeing other people in the mean time, so this is not a case of oneitis because I had no other options: I think among the people I was seeing, I want to concentrate my time mostly on her. … | /r/askTRP | 06/11/14 03:11 PM |
| 1 | I want to reject the red pill.I feel the same. But it never ends. Three years ago I started a relationship with all the best premises: being alpha, holding the frame, leading the road. She was a strong one, but she was dominated: and she loved it. I kept this frame really strong for almost three years. She loved me wholeheartedly. We had amazing sex. We were going to get married. We went through a lot of things together: we lived in 4 different countries. We lived in a caravan. We travelled and had adventures. I thought, at … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/14 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with flakes that keep stringing you along.To be entirely fair, I have a good (male) friend who is such a flake. I think he might have some kind of social anxiety, so, sometimes he just flakes out. Sometimes he disappears for weeks without answering to the phone. I love him and he is a great guy, and we always have a great time together, but he is like that. With everybody. | /r/seduction | 13/08/14 12:28 PM |
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