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It’s quite obvious when a guy is a virgin if you know what to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 10:52 PM
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start making eye contact, smiling, and starting conversations. This is a one-way ticket to being labeled a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:50 PM
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Go to TwoX and search “autistic men”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:18 PM
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It’s not acceptable to profile someone as being dangerous or unsafe just because they are Muslim. Do you think it’s acceptable to be wary or feel unsafe around awkward virgin men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:17 PM
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Just because loners aren’t social, have a different personality type, and may not be compatible with a lot of people doesn’t make them "predatory". Loners might not be fun to be around (especially if you’re an extrovert), but assuming they’re dangerous predators that are potential mass shooters is just another form of bigotry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:06 PM
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Because you've only known of her existence for the last 20 seconds, there is no other reason to be interested than sexual attraction. But then if a guy gets to know a woman over a period of time and then asks her out, he’s still seen as creepy because that means he was just being friends with her for ulterior motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:54 PM
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Loners everywhere with their heads on a swivel, stalking women until they are sure no other man is around. Here we are again with the "loners are dangerous" stereotype. And women still wonder why lonely guys are depressed and su*cidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:51 PM
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If someone is creepy or acting inappropriately then their problem is that they’re creepy. They should not be ascribed with the social awkwardness label because that only further taints how other innocent socially awkward men are viewed. That’s how we ended up in the society now where women are repulsed by and view awkwardness as a leading indicator that a guy may be creepy even when no creepy behavior was committed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:11 AM
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The fact that women associate social awkwardness with being creepy is the fundamental problem. They are not related.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:57 AM
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Why should I approach or talk to women if my mere presence is going to be automatically perceived as a threat/danger?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 11:39 PM
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I largely agree even as someone that fits the category of men you’re discussing. But I also think we need to dispel this notion that if a guy is unsuccessful or friendless that he’s a bad person and it’s all his fault for failing at life. I think most of the time lack of success with dating and/or friendships comes down to things like social skills (which can be learned for some but not all), being in the right place at the right time (i.e. good luck), and how someone was raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 03:11 AM
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That’s an interesting point. What percentage of the 120,000+ members of the sub would you estimate are “numerous and destructive incels”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:53 PM
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No, because both of my parents are quite asocial and it’s a miracle they even met at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:44 PM
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Surely it’s possible to keep blackpill content off the sub and still allow looks discussion? The mainstream dating subs are able to do that just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:37 PM
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Terrorist groups have associated with religion and that doesn’t mean everyone in that religion is culpable or prone to being violent. Also, hate should be condemned regardless from where it’s coming from. This whole argument that FDS should be allowed because "they don’t kill people" is a massive cop out. Hate speech is still hate speech regardless of the true intent of who's saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:04 AM
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He was holding a camera in every interaction and it was obvious he was doing an experiment just by how he carried the conversations. I bet if he did this off camera and asked the women out in serious manners, he’d get quite a few hard rejections out of 100 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:50 PM
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Ministry of Truth…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:39 PM
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Replace "women" and "men" in that statement with an ethnicity, race or religion and we'd universally consider it hate speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:15 PM
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Men are shamed if they want to be in a relationship but can’t. Men are only praised if they had success in the past and then chose to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:18 AM
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Those are labels for men/women that don’t settle down/get married, but don’t have any trouble with sex/dating. I can assure you that no one considers the 25 year old loser man that hasn’t even kissed a girl a “bachelor”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:15 AM
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On my college campus, 80% of women look attractive enough to be instagram models whereas 80% of men look ugly and unkempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:07 AM
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Q4W: How much do things like hair style, facial hair, fashion sense, and other surface-level traits affect how attractive a guy is?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 12:58 AM
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How do you explain guys that haven’t even been given a chance to show off their personality to anyone? (Guys that can’t get a first date, can’t get matches online, etc) You’re not wrong that personality plays a big role, but personality is irrelevant if women find you unattractive. Only after a woman finds you attractive will personality take over as a main factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 12:52 AM
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Yeah, you have to be logged into Twitter to see replies now. Here’s some screenshots: https://imgur.com/a/He4bbPJ
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:30 PM
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I agree, OP is wrong for saying an attractive person can’t act creepy, but it is true that an unattractive person is more likely to be called creepy in situations where an attractive person normally would not. Here’s a recent example: Look at the picture in this Tweet. It’s a picture from a kpop event. Now look at the comments under the tweet. Women are calling the guys in the picture creepy, predators, dangerous, and other things I won’t even say. These comments got hundreds of likes. So what i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:26 PM
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The folks you’re talking about were able to fit into societal standards enough to not be seen as weird. How is committing multiple violent murders fitting into societal standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:14 PM
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Doesn’t matter if the guy is talking platonically or not. If the woman is not attracted to him, then him even just saying "hi how are you" will be interpreted as a sexual approach by most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 08:18 PM
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The solution is to only approach women who give you a signal to want to be approached. Here’s the fundamental problem, the people asking for advice are guys that have never experienced a woman giving them a signal to approach. So what’s the solution in that case?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:40 PM
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Unattractive women have the same standards as attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:06 PM
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Agree with everything, and the issues go beyond dating and socializing. 85% of autistic men WITH college degrees are unemployed. That’s insane when you think about it since an autistic person that successful completed college is highly likely to be high functioning and perfectly capable of being in the workforce.
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 08:31 PM
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So it’s a catch 22. To gain social skills you have to talk to people, but talking to people without social skills is creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:06 PM
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You’re probably right. But then maybe women should also realize that the radical incel forums are filled with dumbies and not representative of the average man.
/r/AllPillDebate30/09/23 12:47 AM
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Hard to be social when no one wants to be social with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:28 AM
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The chance of a random stranger assaulting you is not 25%. Most victims are assaulted by people they already know. If you walk around paranoid that any given man could assault you at any moment then you have a mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:55 PM
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Is it justified to be fearful of Muslims because there’s a minuscule chance they could be radical jihadists?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:45 PM
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But if guys took the time to think about how insulting this media is to women, maybe we'd be less bothered by it. I don’t know what video games you’re talking about that "insult" women. Video games have many different sub-genres, there’s no way you can say video games as a whole are anti-women. I play Madden and Flight Simulator, how are those games insulting women? Anime is a different story. Anime does actually have a systematic problem of sexualizing characters inappropriately. Plus, most are…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 07:39 PM
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Cringe maybe, but a hateful misogynist I’m not. You missed the context of that reply completely. I was answering to whether simply talking to a woman is risky. I’m not denying real harassment, but simply saying hi to a woman is not harassment by itself regardless of how “uncomfortable” the woman feels. The irony of you accusing me of hate when people like you would cheer for all unsuccessful men to shut up and k*ll themselves.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 11:07 PM
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I dare you to find where I have ever made a misogynistic post/comment.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 10:47 PM
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Says the guy that has an entire Reddit account dedicated to hating on virgin men.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 10:38 PM
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Jail is obviously an exaggeration, but the sentiment is real. A girl very likely will go tell all her friends about the guy that awkwardly said hi to her, although she won’t phrase it that way, but rather like "creepy guy tried to hit on me". She might also post the guy's name on social media and smear him as a harasser. And if it’s a work/university setting, this could and probably would get the guy fired/kicked off campus. The fact is that most women do not want most men to interact with them …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:22 AM
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They are misogynist, bitter and socially awkward. Why are you lumping being socially awkward in with being a misogynist and bitter? They are not related. Someone who is a misogynist and bitter is that way by choice while being socially awkward may be a result of a diagnosed disability or disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:53 PM
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Over 60% of Harvard and Yale students are virgins. https://features.thecrimson.com/2018/freshman-survey/lifestyle-yale/#:~:text=Sixty%2Dthree%20percent%20of%20Yale,the%20deed%20in%2011th%20grade. Also, anecdotes and stereotypes show that society sees a link between IQ and inexperience with women. Think about how prevalent the stereotype is of engineering and computer science majors at universities being full of virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:18 PM
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CNN has discussed the lonely male epidemic on multiple occasions: https://youtu.be/vK4y6C1Uuhw?si=RXJoRegqS_T_2E5O https://youtu.be/nnuprsO2-nc?si=M4a6-4LROs8KLaKw
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:58 PM
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The sub's primary purpose is to spread hate against men who view women as owing them sex, men who SA or wish to SA women, and general misogyny. Doesn’t change the fact that the sub is subtly engaging in virgin-shaming and negative stereotyping against inexperienced men. Misogyny and SA are not unique to so-called incels, so why is the sub called inceltear? I’ll tell you why, it’s because society looks down on virgin men. Why shouldn't I hate a man that claims that all women are sluts, that all t…
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 10:41 PM
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Why do you participate in a sub whose primary purpose is to spread hate against socially awkward and autistic men?
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 07:53 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selection_bias
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:43 PM
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Exactly. This is proven by the fact that "inc*l" is regularly used as an insult by women. And I know the women will say that it’s not used literally, but rather to refer to hateful/dangerous men. However, if that’s the case then why not just use the word misogynist? Because misogynist doesn’t imply a lack of sexual success like the other word does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:24 PM
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Q4A: What do you score on the “robot test”? https://arfer.net/games/robot-test
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:16 PM
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The women on FDS and TwoX also think that though. According to them, 50% of men are dangerous inc*l terrorists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:40 PM
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Because "low/ high value" is a bunch of bullshit you hear on podcasts trying to trick you into giving them money so you "do better in dating". Women use the "low/high value" labels as well when talking about men. See the FDS sub for example.
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/23 04:06 AM
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Weirdly enough ime good-looking, shy autistic guys have an easier time with dating than good-looking autistic guys who are loud, over the top, and terrible at reading the room. This seems counterintuitive since shy autistic guys likely rarely leave the house and socialize while the loud and outspoken autistic guys are always interacting and socializing with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:27 AM
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Well 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, 8 all apply to me. Guess I’ve got a lot to work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:09 PM
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You missed the entire point of the post. OP is saying that single men are treated differently by society (in a negative way). Yes, you’re correct that no one is owed relationships or friendships, however, someone should not be treated differently or discriminated against solely because they’re single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:50 PM
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Women typically don’t want stranger men talking to them at all. Time/place/setting does not matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:08 PM
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No. Wavy is fine. What I don’t like are styles like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:15 AM
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Black or brown hair. (And preferably straight hair since I don’t like curly hair on women) Don’t care Don’t care Not obese Equal to or higher Don’t care Don’t care Don’t care Don’t care Straight 18-28 (I’m 21) Preferably moderate liberal, but as long as they aren’t a communist or an extreme right-winger, I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:31 PM
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I don’t interact with any women unless she chooses to interact with me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:04 PM
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If she didn’t want him to approach and he still did And how would someone know ahead of time if a woman wants to be approached by you? (Assuming they are in an appropriate setting for social interaction)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:14 PM
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Good advice in theory, but cultivating a social circle involves talking to strangers initially. So we’re right back to square one. And before you say "talking to strangers at social events is different than talking to them on the street", yes that’s true, however, the point is that women's uncomfortableness towards men talking to them does not change whether it’s at a social venue or on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:33 PM
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So what would you recommend a guy do to meet women if every interaction with a woman is considered a form of harassment?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:21 PM
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If she isn't attracted, what does an ugly man expect her to do? Assuming the guy was respectful, she should be respectful, say no, and move on without crying about it being harassment or creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:12 PM
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Women are reacting rationally to a problem created by men. If you want to fix the problem, you have to fix the problem with problematic men. Individuals are responsible for their actions. I am not responsible for the actions of other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:13 PM
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They have women interested in dating them but those women arent good enough in their eyes. False. This applies to some men, but there are still large amounts of men that do not and have never had any women express interest in them at all. I know for me, if any woman ever expressed clear interest in me, I would jump on the opportunity immediately regardless of who it was or how they looked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:44 PM
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Unless there was an accumulation of warnings from Reddit staff and enough and was enough. Kind of crazy though that theRedPill sub has officially outlasted PPD despite being quarantined since forever.
/r/AllPillDebate10/08/23 11:32 PM
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PPD had much more exposure to mainstream Reddit though. Much easier to get noticed by the site wide mods when there’s 100,000+ members.
/r/AllPillDebate10/08/23 11:29 PM
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Damn. Must have been something real bad to be straight banned without a quarantine first.
/r/AllPillDebate10/08/23 11:27 PM
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Except there isn’t such thing a man starting a "situation appropriate conversation" with a woman. According to most women on Reddit, any conversation a guy starts with a girl in any situation (regardless of whether or not it’s a social event or setting) has sexual undertones and motives. Therefore, talking to a girl you don’t know regardless of situation/setting and topic of conversation will be considered an approach by the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:12 AM
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Cops can’t arrest you based on how a woman “feels.” True, but there can be other consequences. If your workplace finds out a woman accused you of something, you might end up fired. If a girl on your college campus accuses you then you might be booted from college.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:06 PM
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but somehow that isn't the case with getting women. That’s because social dynamics and dating cannot be systematized. This is a big reason why it’s hard to give dating advice because unlike sports, science, and engineering, there are no set "rules" in social dynamics and no outcomes are certain.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 10:33 PM
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In my experience as an autistic man, both men and women (although women do this more) tend to just not want to interact with autistic men at all. They show signs of disinterest the second one starts talking to them even if all he said was "hello, how are you". Most of the time it’s extremely obvious a person is autistic within seconds of interacting with them (this is even true for high-functioning autistics). The problem becomes worse when we tell autistic men or men struggling with social skil…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:54 PM
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It’s funny how people say women are more social than men when the vast majority of social events and spaces are complete sausage fests full of desperate single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:17 AM
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I won’t link it, but look up "the robot test" on Google.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:42 PM
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No, the reason is because women have time and time again said they do not want to be cold or warm approached ANYWHERE.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 07:49 PM
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Updated version where I asked chatgpt to have every user gaslight one another
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:55 PM
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I asked chatgpt to write a typical comment thread found on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:44 PM
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I would think it has more bluepill aspects since autism severely affects personality and social skills. So if autism makes dating really hard, then that essentially proves personality and social skills are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:05 PM
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Completely agree. Societal and workplace discrimination against autistic individuals is systemic and seen as acceptable. 85% of autistic people with a college degree are unemployed (US Department of Labor, 2023). That’s insane when you think about it. And what makes it worse is autistic people with college degrees likely have high-functioning autism since a low-functioning autistic person realistically would not be able to complete a college program. So 85% of high-functioning autistic people WI…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:00 PM
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Women tend to find blue-collar men more attractive and dateable while men tend to find educated women more attractive and datable. This is because blue-collar men are more physically fit, low inhibition, and have better social skills. Where/how someone grew up also plays a big role. For example, someone (regardless of gender) who grew up in an upper-middle class family of educated white collar workers is highly likely to want to date someone that matches that archetype.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:03 AM
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Yes, but I think a lot of it is also based on stereotypes and false assumptions about the type of men that are into certain hobbies. Men who watch anime are presumed to be p*dos, men who listen to kpop are presumed to be perverts, men who play video games are presumed to be misogynist, and so on. Society has a pre-approved list of hobbies that straight men are allowed to have and any man that deviates from that list is labeled a loser.
/r/AllPillDebate26/07/23 11:23 PM
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Social venues and social events are exactly where small talk with like-minded strangers is expected. Even this is changing now. Women are now saying (on this sub and other subs) that they are wary of ANY man initiating a conversation with them. This includes in social settings where talking to strangers used to be expected. Now the only way for a guy to talk to women he doesn’t know without coming across as potentially dangerous is for him to have established social proof. This usually means bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:59 PM
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The comments saying “taking to strangers is antisocial behaviour” are chronically online. Except most women do actually think that. Women don’t want unknown male strangers talking to them at all, even in a social setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:51 PM
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I walked 57 miles last week
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:55 PM
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What about stock trading?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:23 PM
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63% is not “bottom”. That’s nearly 2/3 of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:15 PM
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And you believe 63% of all young men are undesirable losers?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:52 AM
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80/20 typically applies to young people under 30. And the math does check out because 63% of young men claim to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 04:00 AM
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Yeah, Business Proposal was a good drama. It's interesting how K-Dramas can provide different perspectives on dating dynamics. Have you watched the drama Nevertheless? It contains a lot of themes surrounding dating and relationships that this sub likes to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 04:26 AM
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It’s a good idea in principle. However, blind dates always run the risk of being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. If either the guy or girl shows up and doesn’t find the other person attractive on the spot, then the rest of the date is super awkward and uncomfortable for both. It’s interesting you mention South Korea. I like to watch K-dramas and they commonly portray scenes involving blind dates, probably because blind dates are just more common in Korea. I'm reminded of that one scene in E…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:55 AM
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I’m not saying this as a joke or anything, but you need to seek help.
/r/AllPillDebate21/07/23 09:20 PM
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Conservatives literally do the exact same thing (especially the strongly religious ones). Also, leftist does not equal liberal. A true liberal supports freedom of expression and doesn’t believe it’s the job of the government to suppress any ideas or thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:50 PM
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Women also think "warm" approaches are weird and off-putting if they are not attracted to the guy. A guy talking to a girl in his college class would be seen as just as weird if it’s unwanted, despite it not being a "cold approach".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:16 PM
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To go from attractive to sexy, you have to escalate. Except if you escalate too early then you risk creeping her out by making her think all you want is sex. Guys have to walk a tightrope and not escalate too early for fear of scaring her away, but not too late for fear of making her think you’re not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:49 PM
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For real. That’s nearly 1 in 5 women. That’s a 1 in 5 chance you end up fired and/or in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:39 AM
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The average man who struggles with these things is unlikely to give a rats arse about women. The classic "ugly men with poor social skills hate women" trope. The opposite is actually true. The most attractive and charismatic guys are more likely to be misogynistic jerks than the average unattractive guy that struggles with social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:34 PM
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Then more women need to say that instead of blaming it on being a "nice guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:42 PM
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Honestly, no woman ever wants you talking to her. Thank you for confirming my social anxiety fears. I shall stop trying to improve, stop trying to talk to people, and never go outside just to make sure I don’t bother any woman. Your insistence on arguing with women about why you should be allowed to continue to make us uncomfortable, Where am I arguing that? I never said anything about making anyone uncomfortable. I simply said that standard social advice given on this sub and many others (advic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:24 PM
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The girl would have to be really low-functioning autistic for her to legitimately not be able to get a neurotypical boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:26 PM
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Autism in women manifest itself differently than autism in men. Therefore, autistic women still view autistic men as weird and off-putting just like everyone else does. Also, autistic women will have little to no trouble getting a neurotypical boyfriend. Why would they choose a socially inept autistic guy over an average neurotypical guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:37 PM
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Women on this sub: “These lonely men need to stop playing video games and go out and actually talk to women.” Also women on this sub: “Men should avoid talking to women because you’re not entitled to talk to anyone and men present inherent danger to women.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:24 PM
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Women have every right to assume the worst. So a guy should not feel frustrated when a girl assumes he’s a potential murderer/rapist just by existing outside? And you are not at ALL entitled to speak to literal fucking strangers for any reason. This contradicts one of the fundamental pieces of advice that is commonly given to socially stunted people, which is "just go out and talk to people". Which is it? Should people who are socially stunted continue to avoid talking to any and all women or sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:59 PM
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True, but I still think women are more content staying single nowadays compared to back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:03 PM
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Women wanted to date monogamously then. They still want to date monogamously now. Except women now have significantly more options available to them with online dating. So women are much more likely to hold out and stay single until they find the “perfect” guy. The result is more single men now than 40 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 01:51 PM
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Unattractive women are never viewed as dangerous or creepy by society. Meanwhile, unattractive men are presumed to be dangerous predators until proven otherwise.
/r/AllPillDebate17/07/23 09:37 PM
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…post-college adults don't really make fun of each other much at all. When they do, it's about behavior. In the U.S, 14.5% of all men are six feet or over. Among CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, that number is 58%. Statistics show attractive and tall men systemically get treated better by society at large.
/r/AllPillDebate17/07/23 09:32 PM
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Believe it or not, there are men out there that have never had a woman express interest in them. For those guys, a woman choosing them might be a once in a lifetime opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:53 PM
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Men aren’t wanted by women as much as women are wanted by men. Therefore, women effectively have all the choosing power. 90% of men would allow themselves to be chosen by 90% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:43 PM
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Women are the choosers and men have to be chosen. When a woman struggles with dating it’s because she can’t find someone she wants. When a man struggles with dating it’s because nobody wants him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:35 PM
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I heard a girl once say that using certain face emojis gives off gay vibes. I don’t know how that's possible nor which ones she was even talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:25 PM
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You can’t make a step by step guide, the very notion of that is sexist. So by that logic is everyone over at r/ FemaleDatingStrategy also sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:15 PM
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one of the key signs of autism is obsessively trying to categorize/rationalize everyone and everything. No, that’s a sign of being scientifically minded. Literally the definition of science is categorizing and coming up with rational explanations for things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:04 PM
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Nope. The only times women have ever initiated conversation with me is when they needed something. There was this one girl in high school that acted like I was her “friend” and frequently spoke to me. Looking back on it though she only really talked about school-related topics, usually in the context of needing help on homework or a test.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:29 PM
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So why are feminists the ones that almost exclusively use the word as an insult? Are feminists enforcing the patriarchy? If being a virgin is only perceived to be bad because of the patriarchy, why are feminist the ones that use it as an attack and insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:38 PM
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Here is a common example I see when people give advice to men on this sub and other dating subs: Someone (usually a woman) tells a guy that is struggling that he must not be trying hard enough and needs to go out and "actually talk to women". The same person will later stigmatize men approaching women in public, men chatting up women in public, and men joining activities with women. An extreme view I’ve seen sometimes is that guys wanting to date should stick to online dating and never approach …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:25 PM
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Selection bias. The men that truly struggle don’t have friends and rarely go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:08 PM
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Online does not automatically mean dating apps. I’d wager a good portion of the "40% of relationships start online" are people that starting messaging each other on Instagram/Snapchat based on already having mutual friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:07 PM
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Exactly. I think OP underestimates just how common it is for social activities and places to be complete sausage fests. And it’s not just “nerdy” activities either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:13 PM
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Exactly. I tried online dating for a month with the conservative goal of just finding someone, anyone to go on one date with. Didn’t even get close to fulfilling that goal. All my matches were scammers/bots. Never trying online dating again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:48 AM
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I’ve brought this concept up several times on PPD: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/13simi1/daily_community_chat_megathread/jlqsoc3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/13zh2lz/self_improvement_discussion_thread/jmrub3q/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/AllPillDebate05/07/23 09:05 PM
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When women are lonely, it’s because they can’t find a man they want. When men are lonely, it’s because they can’t find a woman that wants them. Women are the choosers and men have to be chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:00 PM
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That could explain lower marriage and birth rates, but that still doesn’t explain why 40% of the Japanese young male population has never gone on a date. We’re not talking about marriage or a relationship, just a simple date. There has to be something else at play here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:42 AM
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Honestly, this really isn't true for all men It is true though for all men that are out alone. A young adult male that is in a social setting alone is usually stereotyped by women and other men as being suspicious at best and a potential mass shooter at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:25 PM
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This is why I refused to go on TRT. I’m 22 and tests show I have testosterone levels of an 80+ year old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:11 PM
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You’re part of the problem when you insinuate that lonely male = misogynist
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:44 PM
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Go to the engineering or computer science department of any major American university.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:06 AM
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I say I’ll give them $100 if they reject me immediately. I pocket the remaining $9900
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 07:10 PM
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Socializing with people that aren’t the same as you and finding common ground. This only works if the people you are trying to socialize with also have this mindset. Unfortunately, many don’t want to socialize with people that are different than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 10:02 PM
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If she rejects you, you're a bit less sensitive next time you may or may not have to spend the night in prison. Obviously a hyperbole, but modern women behave nothing like the women of 50 or even 20 years ago. Gone are the days where a guy flirting with a woman on the street is seen as flattering. Nowadays, just speaking to a woman without a valid cause is considered hassling her. And with mobile phones along with a society that is quick to assume the worst, it’s not out of the question that fli…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:04 PM
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It shouldn’t, but it’s still not socially acceptable to say that out in the real world. Think of it this way; If someone says they're going to the gym and working out to lose weight, that is socially acceptable to say and society will commend them for their efforts to improve themselves. On the other hand, if someone says they're going to the gym and working out so they can get a girlfriend, then society will view that as weird and borderline creepy. This is because "normal" people (i.e. non-Red…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 08:52 AM
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I always found it funny that on the issue of whether men and women can be platonic friends it’s the extremes of both sides that say no. I’ve seen threads on both the redpill sub and TwoX where they are arguing amongst themselves on this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:30 AM
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There’s a difference. The desire for sex is genetically hardwired into our brains, whereas things like toys and money are not. Sex is not a need, but it’s not the same as any other want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:22 AM
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Not 100% accurate. Women very rarely approach. What women do is give signals (some more overt than others) to men they’re attracted to. The harsh reality is that there are guys out there that never or rarely received any signals from a woman. This leads into the irony of it all because women on dating advice subs will often say that blackpillers and the like are just lazy and not trying hard enough, but then if one of those guys actually goes and approaches a woman, then suddenly he’s a bad guy …
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 08:53 PM
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Most of anything discussed on this sub boils down to selection bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 12:03 PM
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I’m a geek and a nerd. I fit all the stereotypes (chronically single, play a lot of video games, shy/introverted), and yet I am quite interested in sports. I follow most sports and can banter about any if I needed to. I’m really into football (the American kind) and can talk about every team, the players, who’s doing well and who isn’t, etc. I haven’t found this knowledge of sports to be helpful in the slightest when trying to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 09:38 PM
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So what are you implying? Are you saying that more men are single today because more men have introverted and asocial personalities?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 09:29 PM
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Elementary and high school are the prime times to build a social circle and learn how to talk with the opposite sex. I agree, however, the desire to build a social circle has to be mutual. The problem is that many men and women don’t want to build social circles with perceived "low-status" people. This is especially true in elementary, middle, and high school. No matter how much someone desires and tries to build a social circle with others, if the desire isn’t mutual then it’s all a fruitless e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:35 PM
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Women can be creepy, but unlike men, they will never be seen as a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:47 AM
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Women don't tolerate spergy men Definitely agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:28 PM
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No. Of course people date in high school, but even if you don’t, your broader dating success later in life is still best predicted by the people and friends you interacted with at that stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:24 PM
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It can’t be a symptom of success if the friend group was formed in high school. What I’m saying is dating success in your 20s is best predicted by the friends and people you were around in high school/college.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:12 PM
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CMV: The most accurate predictor for determining a guy’s dating success is whether or not he had a solid mixed-gender friend group in high school/college.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:07 PM
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What’s the correct path then? If a guy that struggles with women that refuses to self improve, and a guy that struggles with women that attempts to self-improve are both considered losers?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:56 PM
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You are correct that self-improvement overall is positive and shows personal growth. However, normal people still do not need self-improvement to find a partner. Most normal people just found partners in life without engaging in any path of personal growth or improvement. For example, if a hard drug addict is trying to self-improve so they can eventually defeat their addiction, then that is seen as admirable by society (in terms of self-improvement). On the other hand, if a guy says he needs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:37 PM
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Normal people don’t have to “self-improve” to get a partner. So if you find yourself needing to “self-improve” because you want a partner, then you’re not normal and there’s something wrong about you that is a red flag. There’s many reasons why a normal person would need to self-improve, but dating is not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:53 PM
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Q4A: What is your opinion of guys that fall for every girl they meet because they’re so starved of attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:11 PM
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I can tell if a guy is a virgin just by how he talks/introduces himself to women. And I say that as a virgin myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:09 PM
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They cant comprehend meeting women outside of dating apps. To be fair, a lot of women don’t want to meet men outside of dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:18 PM
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How is it voluntary?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:52 PM
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All dating woes can be explained by this fact: Women are the choosers and men have to be chosen. If a woman is struggling in dating, it’s because she can’t find anyone she wants to choose, and if a man is struggling it’s because no woman is choosing him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:00 AM
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The fact that you included "spergy" in the same list as ragey, entitled, and resentful just shows how much women despise autistic men. Being autistic might make you awkward and weird, but it doesn’t inherently make you some entitled resentful asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:34 AM
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I don’t know, just in my opinion, curly hair can make an otherwise attractive woman, quite unattractive. For example, this woman and this woman are infinitely more attractive to me than this woman and this woman all because of the hair styles.
/r/AllPillDebate27/05/23 09:30 PM
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It’s just a preference I have. Just like any other preference. Are you trying to imply it’s something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:09 PM
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Women that have smaller than average boobs tend to be self-conscious about it. I personally think small boobs are more attractive than large ones, which goes against what most women think is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:58 PM
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Ideally; someone that is not obese, 18-26 years old, intelligent, kind, funny, and has straight hair (I know hair is more of a personal style thing, but I absolutely cannot stand curly hair). Realistically; I’d fall for anyone that showed the slightest interest in me because no girl has ever liked me in my life.
/r/AllPillDebate27/05/23 08:37 PM
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Small boobs > big boobs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:24 PM
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It’s normal that getting a job requires work and training, society understands that. However, it’s not normal nor socially acceptable to have to "work" to get a partner. If you told someone that you only found a partner after years of work and improving yourself, you would be seen as weird, whereas saying you had to work and improve for years to get the job you currently have is seen as admirable and a sign of hard work ethic. Society sees getting a partner as something that should "just happen"…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 09:26 PM
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CMV: If someone has to go through "self-improvement" in order to increase their chances of finding a partner, then they are below average in looks, personality, or both. Average/normal people just find partners, they didn’t have to seek advice online, alter their daily lives, take up new hobbies, or workout 6 hours a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 08:44 PM
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Has there been a jock who went on a shooting spree to try and kill women? Are you seriously implying that gamers and nerds are all potential mass shooters?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:29 AM
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Playing games is extremely unattractive because it’s heavily associated with children and teens. No. Only boomers think that. Video games are usually only unattractive if it’s an obsession, but that's also the case with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:27 PM
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In my opinion, it mainly has to do with personality types and selection bias. Nerdy STEM guys are far more likely to be natural introverts and shut-ins whereas the average blue collar Joe is less likely to be an introverted shut-in. Career paths reinforce a particular personality type and create selection bias. For example, someone who codes all day will never be forced to interact with people, hence reinforcing a shut-in lifestyle. A blue collar worker likely would be interacting and dealing wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 07:31 PM
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There’s no reason to avoid it if you’re approaching them as people you want to just talk to. If you go into every interaction with the goal of getting laid or getting a date, that puts an added pressure on you to perform. Here’s the problem with that logic. The guy may approach and talk to a girl as if she’s any other person, but the girl will never view it that way. 99% of women would assume an unknown guy initiating a conversation is hitting on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 06:06 PM
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I’ve said it before, if you go to college for four years and can’t find one girl to sleep with you or have a relationship with you, then you’re in rough shape. I must be in rough shape then because I’m heading into year 4 and haven’t even been on a date yet. I do have social anxiety though, so that plays a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 02:49 PM
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You listed 7 things for me to do. Only one was to quit video games. OP was implying that playing video games is the limiting factor in the romantic success of men today.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:28 PM
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No, because the reason I’m unsuccessful isn’t because I play video games. There’s many other reasons. I could give up video games tomorrow and my romantic life wouldn’t change a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 09:50 PM
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Like, if a man says, "Hi, beautiful day today." Like...how is this going to result in a scene? A guy randomly approaching a woman that is a stranger and saying that would be seen as creepy and predatory if unwanted. I’m a guy, but I’m pretty sure most women automatically assume any guy who strikes up a conversation in public with them is trying to hit on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:13 PM
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It’s just statistics. If a guy has never had a woman interested in him before, the likelihood that any given woman would like him in the future decreases.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:08 PM
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Yes. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:53 AM
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Who wants to be bothered? Do you? Why should they? I don’t want bothered and I don't bother anyone for precisely this reason. That being said, I also likely wouldn’t feel the need to file charges against someone that did bother me. If laws have to be created because men don’t seem to be able to read social cues that’s unfortunate but necessary. Missing social cues is not harassment in itself. Some people (both men and women) may miss social cues for a variety of legitimate reasons. There’s a dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:51 AM
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That belief is wrong. Most men would be ecstatic if a woman randomly approached them. And the few guys that would be disgusted by it are likely ones you want to avoid to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:25 AM
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"If it’s unwanted, it’s harassment" is a phrase that women use all the time. Heck, I've seen women on other subs make the argument that a man starting a conversation with any woman about anything is harassment if it’s unwanted by the woman. The UK is already starting to codify harassment laws that make it a crime to make a woman "feel uncomfortable" with the arbitrator being the woman of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:12 AM
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What is the solution then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 02:48 PM
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Thoughts on this article about the "epidemic of loneliness"? https://www.cnn.com/2023/05/02/health/murthy-loneliness-isolation/index.html
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:15 PM
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Okay, how would you go about differentiated successful from unsuccessful men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:42 PM
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Just talk to us Yes and no. Women (and people in general) don’t like talking to awkward people. And the people OP is describing are men that act awkward around others. I should know, I’m one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:27 AM
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Any outfit with knee high boots >>>>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:32 PM
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Let’s say the guy has aspergers (high functioning autism). How quickly do you think you could tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:58 AM
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Q4W: How quickly can you tell there’s something "off" about a guy? That is, how quickly can you detect autistic or other neurodivergence in men? Can you instantaneously tell just from looks/mannerisms, only when he starts talking, or only after an extended conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:37 AM
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The problem with your theory is that most guys that severely struggle with dating are in niches with little to no women. These guys are usually introverts that aren’t the type to go to social events or venues on weekends. These guys indulge in hobbies like video games/anime where the gender ratio can get as bad as 100:1 (depends on the genre of game). Also, a lot of these guys work in tech where the gender ratio is also skewed at least 2:1. So the advice for these guys would be what? Get involve…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:08 PM
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Can confirm point 3. As a guy with aspergers (now called high functioning autism), I seem to naturally repel women with my mere presence even if I didn’t do or say anything. It almost seems like women have a sixth sense for detecting an autistic vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:59 PM
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You’re partially right. It ultimately comes down to whether or not the girl is attracted to you. A guy she is attracted to can approach and talk to her however he wants to (within reason), and he will always be successful. A guy she is not attracted to cannot do or say anything to change that (most of the time). The biggest hypocrisy I notice is how women will say that struggling guys need to talk to women as people and get female friends, but in the next sentence say that women typically presum…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 09:45 PM
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Yes. I'm 21 and haven’t even held a girls hand or been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:04 AM
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Not necessarily true. A lot of inc*ls have very good paying jobs in tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 06:31 PM
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True, but most men on online forums discussing their dating struggles are probably really ugly, autistic, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:54 AM
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Generally speaking, you’re correct. However, there are still certain guys that will struggle regardless. An ugly nerd autistic guy is still an ugly nerd autistic guy in a volunteer or social group. So your advice really only applies to men whose main issue is they don’t get out enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:47 AM
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That’s cool that you’re always respectful with your rejections. Although, a guy stopping his car to hit on a stranger is creepy. I wouldn’t blame a woman for not being polite in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:04 AM
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I appreciate your well thought out response. I completely understand what you’re saying about women fearing being harassed by men. It’s sad that in our society today individuals have to fear strangers being polite or lending a helping hand may have ulterior motives. I’m sorry about the experiences with men you described. If a guy is legit harassing a girl for her number or not taking no for an answer, women are obviously not expected to be polite back. The girl I held the door open for was polit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:09 AM
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I apologize if my original comment was not clear, but I was not talking about cold approaches on the street with random women. I was more talking about conversing with and approaching women in social settings/venues or in situations where the guy and girl are already acquainted with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:21 PM
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Why do you feel that unwanted interruption and solicitation is respectful? Pretty sure this used to be called "socialization". You know that thing that everyone nowadays is afraid of. But yes, in today's world cold approaches tend not to be seen as respectful or acceptable like they used to be. However, I was more talking about situations occurring in social settings or situations where the guy and girl are already acquainted with one another. Why isn’t he starting casual conversations with men …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:17 PM
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I don’t believe women should be open to every man's advances, but I do think that if the guy is respectful, then the woman should be respectful in her rejection. The people over on the dating advice subreddits will often tell men the worst thing that can happen is she says no. This is false, the worst that can happen is she reacts with "eww", calls you a creep, and then tells all her friends about it. A simple "No, I’m not interested" is probably one of the best outcomes. Not to mention, many wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:39 PM
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They’re having less sex. I’m in college and it’s crazy how many men are virgins that have never even kissed or gone on a date with a woman. (And I’m included in that cohort). CDC claims the average age of male virginity loss is 17.5, but there is absolutely no way that number is accurate for those under 30. But it’s not just sex, young people today are more introverted, more wary of interacting with strangers, less interested in going to parties/social events/bars, and just overall more anti-soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:52 AM
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If you are not getting any attention from women, and you want it, you need to go where the women are and talk to them. They don't bite. I’ve tried going where the women are. Heck, I’m at a university where women are a slight majority. Yet without fail, no women ever expresses interest in even talking to me as a friend. I could start the most casual non-intrusive conversation with a woman, and I’d get one-word answers and clear signals she wants me to go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 04:19 PM
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Copy paste this comment into a thread about men in TwoX and I guarantee you it will get downvoted to hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:01 PM
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No, status and money are not enough to attract women on their own. For example, most women would always choose the 9/10 charismatic auto-mechanic that makes 50K a year over the 2/10 awkward af software engineer making 300K. Money helps, but it won’t trump other factors unless you're a CEO with a net worth in the hundreds of millions or billions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:59 PM
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At around 2:50 the guy says that the top 20% of men get 60% of the attention from women. Not exactly 80/20, but same concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:59 AM
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I was quite surprised that CNN ran a segment today discussing the 80/20 rule, how women only go for men with status and looks, and the recent data showing percent of single men/women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:17 AM
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That’s why I have never and will never cold approach anyone. I’m currently in college and I always follow the "don’t speak unless spoken to" rule when it comes to women. Might end up a virgin for life, but that’s better than prison for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:18 PM
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I never understood the "join hobby clubs" dating advice directed at men. In my experience, most hobby clubs are either full of old people or are complete sausage fests. I guess if your goal is just to meet people and improve social skills it might be good advice, but to meet single women? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:21 PM
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How is this inc*l content?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 07:38 PM
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That’s not my answer and not what I meant. See my other comment
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 07:01 PM
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I agree. I’ve pretty much accepted that the whole "there’s someone for everyone" concept is BS. But I do have worse problems than not finding a partner since I struggle to even make friends in general (of any gender). If I’m doomed to never find a partner, then I should at least try to get some friends in my life right? Or maybe I’m not entitled to those either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:47 PM
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Oh I know why. I’m an ugly ass nerd with autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:38 AM
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An unattractive person can be creepy just by existing. An attractive person has to actually do something creepy to be seen as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 12:42 AM
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I can attest to this. I'm rather unattractive in looks, short (just under 5'5), quiet, and have high-functioning autism. Because of this, I don’t really have any friends. I’m in college and constantly around other people my age. So not having friends is seen as a big red flag by most, and it's quite obvious that both men and women find my presence creepy. Although, men probably would describe me as "weird" instead of "creepy" since men likely don’t consider me a "threat" the same way women do. (…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 11:10 PM
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How are you defining repulsive? Are short men repulsive? Are autistic men repulsive?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:29 PM
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Women: The standards for men are in hell The standards for men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:16 PM
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Anyone ever heard of or used RentAFriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:24 PM
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This data is not surprising at all and anyone who’s been to a college campus recently will know it’s very true. I’m in college right now and it’s quite obvious that more than half of men are single with a good percentage of those being virgins. Meanwhile, 8 of 10 women on campus will claim to be in a relationship. Something doesn’t add up here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:06 PM
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What are your thoughts on the theory that women avoid STEM because they think that it’s full of nerds and socially awkward men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 12:10 AM
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Have you seen “My Name” on Netflix? It’s sort of similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:43 PM
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Does anyone here watch K-dramas?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:25 PM
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It’s hard for unattractive and autistic men to make female friends because women are more likely to presume ulterior motives when these types interact with them. You see evidence of this in friend groups. The groups where you find a lot of autistic and unattractive men tend to have little to no women in them, meanwhile the mixed gender groups tend to be a bunch of conventionally attractive, neurotypical men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:12 PM
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And yet here I am at 22 and I haven’t even found one women that will agree to go on a simple date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:01 PM
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when is it socially acceptable to romantically pursue women? When the guy is attractive. It's that simple. It's almost always socially acceptable for an attractive man to pursue a woman, meanwhile, it’s almost always socially unacceptable for an ugly guy to pursue a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:01 PM
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I’ve seen women call ugly guys creeps for just existing in the same room as them. There is a certain cohort of women that would file a harassment complaint on an ugly guy asking her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:58 PM
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Women don’t intentionally reward a-holes or creeps. They reward men they’re attracted to, and women are more likely to overlook bad behavior in men they find attractive. That’s not to say attractive men can’t come off as creepy a-holes, it’s just much harder for them to come off that way to women. Meanwhile, a very unattractive man can creep a woman out simply by saying hello to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:49 PM
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Women will almost always assume an unattractive guy interacting with her has ulterior motives until proven otherwise. The only way an unattractive man can become genuine friends with a women is by being around her on a regular basis and putting on a constant asexual guise. Once it becomes clear to her that the guy has no sexual intentions, then she might see him as a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:51 PM
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I partially agree. For an unattractive man to have genuine friendships with women, he has to always maintain an asexual guise. The key is that women will assume an unattractive guy talking to her has ulterior motives until proven otherwise. So it takes time for an unattractive guy to prove to a woman that he has no sexual motives and just wants friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:23 PM
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I’m specifically talking about unattractive men. A lot of men that complain about the friendzone have average looks. Also, if a woman "friendzones" a guy that usually means she was already friends with him. I’m talking about situations where a guy talks to a woman and they're strangers or barely know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:19 PM
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That’s fine if that’s your experience. I’m basing my opinion on my experiences. And I didn’t say every single women was like that. I’m quite unattractive, and I can count on one hand the number of women that were genuinely friendly and nice to me upon first meeting them. Meanwhile, the vast majority of women are repelled by me and clearly don’t want anything to do with me when I talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:14 PM
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It’s not every guy. Physically unattractive men and men with autistic mannerisms are more likely to have women assume they have ulterior motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:10 PM
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Yeah, I’d say the situation differs in a school or work setting where it’s someone you're seeing on a regular or daily basis. Once a certain amount of time passes without a guy making any moves, women will usually assume he’s not interested and feel more confortable being around him and interacting with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:07 PM
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Very true. But women should also not immediately assume any man interacting with her wants to fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:58 PM
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CMV: Telling unattractive men who struggle with women to just talk to them like "one of the guys" is bad advice because most women will view any interaction an unattractive guy initiates with her as flirting or a lead up to asking her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:49 PM
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Watch the Bald & Bankrupt channel on YouTube. This phenomenon can be seen in his videos. When he travels to Eastern Europe and Southeast Asia, you can tell that nearly everyone is eager and open to have conversations with this foreign man holding a camera. And these aren’t surface level conversations he’s having. He'll just start talking to the taxi driver about Romanian political history and personal hardships, and you’d think they were friends for years based on the way they're rambling to one…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:46 PM
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This only applies if your primary problem with women is that you’re nervous and anxious around them. If you’re on the autism spectrum and/or physically unattractive, then most women will never be comfortable in your presence. Doesn’t matter how laid back you are around women if you make them feel uncomfortable just by saying hi or being near her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 09:08 PM
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Your comparison is not valid since you’re comparing a Reddit community to a message board known for being full of extremists. Instead go to the foreveralone sub (which is mostly men) and you’ll see no extremism, just sad, depressed, lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:31 PM
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Having sex with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:29 AM
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This describes me almost perfectly. Except I never bother or approach women, but I definitely do look like a dork ass nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:00 AM
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It’s not surprising. I saw a graph on this sub a while back showing that things that were “normal” for high school seniors 40 years ago are becoming increasingly less common. Like drinking, smoking, going on dates, working, having a driver’s license, having sex, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:50 PM
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But why is it that socially awkward men tend to be below average in looks? Correlation is not causation, but there is an argument to be made that being unattractive leads to less socializing in youth years, which then leads to social ineptitude later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 03:07 AM
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This is 100% true. The fact is there are guys out there that legitimately have never had a girl flirt with them or be interested in them. Trying to tell these guys that they’re just missing subtle hints only makes things worse. If a girl is truly into you, it will be impossible to mess up or miss the cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:12 PM
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I appreciate the honestly. My voice is quite high pitched and I do feel that’s one of the reasons women are turned off by me when I speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:57 PM
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20 on the masculine advantage. Yeah I’m fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:33 AM
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No joke. This Twitter employee meeting looks like an incel meetup https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Fh6qtzYVUAI5aYv?format=jpg&name=large
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 03:52 AM
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Did you go to college? Universities are ground zero for the “nerdy socially awkward male” stereotype. At my college, I can confidently say that at least 20% of guys have never even held a woman’s hand. In engineering and science majors that figure rises to 90%+
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:08 AM
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Probably around 5% for women and 25% for men. Those figures change depending on the location and type of university. For example liberal arts focused schools would have way less virgins compared to an engineering/science focused school.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 02:48 AM
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What does it mean if someone says a guy has an "incel face"? Is that just a synonym for ugly or is there more to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:17 AM
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Yeah. At the college I go to, it definitely seems like more than half the guys are virgins. And in STEM fields that rises to ~90% of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 02:42 PM
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You’re assuming that all sexless lonely men fit the basement-dwelling, obese, porn/anime addicted, neckbeard stereotype. Believe it or not, there are otherwise successful men that are lonely and loveless as well. I know several guys that graduated college never having had sex or a girlfriend. Most got engineering or computer science degrees and now make 100K+. I still talk with some of them regularly and they are still struggling romantically and socially. None of them were obese or fit the stan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:49 PM
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I got rated a 1.6 on Photofeeler, and that doesn’t even take into account the fact that I’m 5’3. How fucked am I?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:40 PM
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A guy cannot improve his social skills around women unless he interacts with and talks to them. And women seldom want anything to do with the "socially weird unattractive guy", thus creating an unbreakable cycle. Using your driving analogy, "if a guy isn’t allowed to practice driving before the test, he will always fail the test".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 09:16 PM
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CMV: If a guy is physically unattractive and has poor social skills, then ANYTHING he does around women will make them feel uncomfortable and creeped out. And for some women, the mere presence of a socially inept unattractive male creeps them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 08:51 PM
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