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Depends
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:04 PM
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Can’t quite put my finger on it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:36 PM
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Beast
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:35 PM
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In a logical world yes but same dude sets ac cold af and complains about the energy bill (it’s July in the south)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:37 PM
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He’s my friend too so yes I’ll rib him all day. Otherwise no
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:36 PM
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my roommate has been using my tp and refuses to pay for it, because it shouldn’t matter - it’s only a little bit. Imagine his face when I hide the toilet paper because it shouldn’t matter - it’s only a little bit Yes I’m petty no I don’t care. Give me $5 or something or fuck off
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:59 PM
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Actually turned out to be the best thing to happen to me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:02 PM
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Never heard of that but sounds plausible. She would always compare us and our families. She kept a couple sentimental items from him and asked me if it was weird once and I said idk I guess not. Come to think of it I think she just wanted me to be him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:56 PM
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Haha I was genuinely distraught for months but it’s unbelievable how less stressed out I am on a daily basis
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:54 PM
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Alright it’s been over a year now and my emotions are removed from it, so I just want to know if this was in fact weird. Gf meets up with ex (who was/is engaged) for dinner, keeps it under wraps, we eventually fight about it, break up, they text/make each other playlists, she dates a different ex, and now we’re in the present day, where they continue to add to each other’s playlists (still dating other ex). I would like to work toward a relationship that is the exact opposite of whatever that is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:46 PM
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I’m cooking in the paint lately lol my roommate got a gf and she introduced me on separate nights to two of her friends, so now I have both of their numbers. This is my blue ocean strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:30 PM
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If my end goal were bagging useless box this would probably be a different discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:33 PM
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Shit happens, if I don’t sense a woman is serious I don’t let it drag on haha I have enough friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:27 PM
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Don’t think I ever have. For straw poll purposes I grew up with multiple sisters so I wonder if there’s a correlation there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:20 PM
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I’ve been on a legendary tear with early-fizzled talking stages and long organic conversations that amount to nothing. I guess there’s a couple ways to look at that. I don’t feel I need a partner. I’ve spent a lot of time on my own hobbies since becoming single around a year ago and I’ve actually grown to enjoy the solitude at times. Also these have all been attractive women so at least I know I can play. Most recently they’ve been first gen Americans from eastern Cold War countries which I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:14 PM
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Hell yeah bro. I love that attitude. I have a friend who’s always been telling me I’ve gotta use that to my advantage so I think you’re on the money
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:03 PM
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Never had a hookup tbh. fuck buddies yes, talking stages, girlfriends yep. Just never been how I roll
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:56 PM
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Ha. That last chick just stopped texting btw, shoulda listened to my flake instincts. Abundance mindset helps a lot though I haven’t even thought about it. This one - she was only in town to see a friend and she left again this morning. Lives about 4 hours away, trying to see if she’ll come back next weekend to go to baseball game with us as our team is in town
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:03 PM
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Got the number of this chick yesterday and she’s pretty hot but I had to pretend to be interested in her MLM. She’s top line though Anyway I have no confidence when it comes to bringing someone back who I just met. Make out, get her #, engaging conversations for hours, all that but I have a weird anxiety about bringing in the closer
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:52 PM
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Just had the dumbest altercation on the road, I’m pulling up to a protected left turn, busy intersection. Light is red. Half car length behind and in front of me. Fast food restaurant to right. One lane road each way aside from this turning lane. Girl is trying to turn left out of fast food exit, away from where I’m heading. Line of cars heading my way super backed up at this point. I do my best to make reasonable space while still protecting myself in case I get rear ended. I look over (like 90…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:17 PM
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Lmao that’s good because it makes no sense. I’ve done game pigeon 8 ball once or twice, that’s always a classic as well
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:29 PM
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Psyop like every person who was ever on ellen
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:26 PM
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Not standing for this shit anymore im sending this emoji 👎 to women who ghost me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:24 PM
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Who gives a fuck about the last word? On that topic though, there was a girl I was seeing for about a month or 6 weeks several months back and it was about put up or shut up time with making it official. I ended things and was straight up about it, and this chick had the most cordial response I’ve ever seen in my life. She was disappointed but so, so respectful. I have never in my life second guessed anything more than this just due to how she carried herself, I really hope she’s doing well
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:30 PM
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Ghosting is cowardly and any defense of doing so is delusional. My favorite is “well unfortunately as women we have to fear for our safety” as if someone who they feared would react negatively from rejection wouldn’t also react negatively from someone going dark lmao. Also, most of you aren’t being ghosted. It’s pretty granular but claiming to be ghosted by someone who you know nothing about and exchanged 2 texts with is absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:07 PM
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Virgins are more likely to be reclusive therefore you would never see them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:17 PM
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They’re all around you in that case . But the ones you see are less likely to be virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:08 PM
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I was just fucking around brotha I’m not nearly as autistic as most Redditors
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:06 PM
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I think you’re alright then. Tingling hadnt gone away in that girls case so she went to doc after a few days
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:56 PM
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Haha exactly my point
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:55 PM
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Is it still numb?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:43 PM
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hey with rizz
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:41 PM
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That’s easy. For them to be attractive is another. For them to be both attractive and non religious, yet another.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:40 PM
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My ex got Saturday night palsy once, her hand was numb for like 3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:39 PM
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Beast
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:39 PM
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Proving how mature and sexy I am by not texting her after she stopped responding for a day (this will further embolden her to act this way in the future with someone else)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:38 PM
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Just dressed up the most I have in weeks to go to Trader Joe’s. Yeah it’s whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:06 PM
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Man wtf? Genuinely what does someone hope to get out of that. Did he have a certain look, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:33 PM
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I can only imagine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:08 PM
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I think that’s fair. Also the guys who try to incorporate strangers into their kink without their consent lol. It’s so hot when the women I’m seeing are confident about it though. I fucking love giving massages. Talk to me nice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:30 PM
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Beast
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:25 PM
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Holy shit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:18 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:17 PM
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Nobody does man
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:16 PM
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Which is which?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:16 PM
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Non issue to me. Now one case I think is absurd is supposed HC racial discrepancies in the NFL. Who gives a shit if there are too many white coaches, have you seen the player pool? I don’t see any complaints that we need more white players
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:15 PM
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It’s a shame foot guys have the reputation they do because it’s really such a patrician taste if your partner is into it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:12 PM
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Wouldn’t really say got it for less as much as personal preference. We judge potential partners for all sorts of actions and behaviors, I don’t see how this is any different. the least we can do when someone tells us who they are is to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:01 PM
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Yeah I’m with you on that fs. That number would accommodate a number of casual hookups and repeat occasions. People make it sound like it’s very easy to get, say, 50, even in their early 20s, but to me that’s indicative of a different view of sex, a lack of impulse control, and a lack of maturity. None of which scream “marriage material”. Not a gendered thing either, as evidenced by your POV!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:29 PM
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Not a lot, but having an established history with her is a small tick in the right direction provided we’re on good terms. Like I said, small bonus but it’s not going to excuse 100 bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:18 PM
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I think the answer is likely somewhere in the middle and I don’t know where it is. But that’s a great point. Like I said I’ll keep options open and have more of an abundance mindset rather than one of scarcity. I know I deserve that at the very least
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:08 PM
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I know this isn’t what this is, but I believe many different traditional religious texts should be taught in public schools
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:06 PM
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In general the lower the better. Having been her first might excuse it a little bit more than typical but not an absurd amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:05 PM
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I’ve moved a few times already but most recently I moved to a new city to live with college friends. Exploring new region by myself while also going out 1-2x a week with them. Sometimes more
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:04 PM
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Def keeping my options open!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:07 PM
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Hahaha we’ll see bro I’ll buy you a brew if we do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:06 PM
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Alright that makes sense. I have a tendency to overthink in this stage so I appreciate it!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:25 PM
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Thanks chief. And to clarify you do mean “do bring up the meeting” right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:16 PM
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I’ve been texting a dating app girl for a few days now, fairly basic stuff but so far so good (low bar obviously). Anyway I asked if she’d like to grab a drink sometime this week, she replies that it sounds fun but she’s got family in town and then asked if she could get back to me when she knows what times she’ll be free. My soul read and from past experience, assuming she continues to text, is that this is genuine but I could be wrong. Do I just leave the ball in her court or is this too simil…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:12 PM
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It’s maddening even in gen Z dude. Lot of flirting and the second things turn concrete most women flake. It’s all a validation thing for many, low self esteem = “I want to feel desired” and here’s a way to do so without much risk. Use any generic reason to justify it and then blame men for your dating woes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:44 PM
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How old are you? I wonder if it’s a generational thing. Lot of advice prior to Gen Z was to text only to coordinate dates, I think that’s mostly fallen out of favor with a lot of people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:37 PM
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Sure. I’ve got enough going on, I don’t need the approval of women who don’t find me desirable - onto the next
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:33 PM
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I was listening to a podcast yesterday and I thought the guy made an excellent point: if you are a man who fundamentally believes you are broken, you’re going to find either a woman who agrees with you, or a woman who believes that about herself
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:19 PM
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You have given me a realization that I can and should want those women to self-select themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:15 PM
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100%. I’m not the guy you’re replying to but I’m asking this in the context of someone you just recently met or began talking with
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:06 PM
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Ha, that’s a great quote actually and you’re spot on. Self confidence has been a struggle at times. It’s a weird dichotomy of like outward confidence (not arrogance) and inward feeling like I’m somebody just pretending. That’s very helpful stuff though I appreciate it!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:05 PM
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Cool. Time to shift my mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:03 PM
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Ladies in mid 20s, if you’re texting a guy back is it more attractive when he texts you back right away/when he’s on his phone, or if he waits to text you back I work on my personal phone all the time I don’t want her to think I’m a loser. Not yet anyway :(
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:44 PM
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Yeah I guess so. It sounded like my issue was more an issue of compartmentalization and I allow these different compartments to either feel all the emotion or none of the emotion, or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:29 PM
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He said it was telling that my first reaction was “well why is that?”. Have you found any effective ways to stop doing this as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:28 PM
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The bar isn’t on the ground, the bar is the top like 10% of men. Even that might be a stretch - if you consistently work out you’re automatically top 50 or something. Not all, but many women have a warped value of their worth. Ironically I think the sense of entitlement is greater with women than it is with men, on balance. At least in western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:17 AM
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Hey now.. they gave everyone 1 (one) thousand dollars one time! Never mind most people pay taxes in excess of that amount + the runaway buying power lost far exceeded the same
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:14 AM
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IMO the republicans are more straightforward about their values. The democrats want to fuck you they just lie about it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:13 AM
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That shit is like the contemporary country music of jokes. If that makes sense. Same audience too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:12 AM
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Vivek is a beast
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:12 AM
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My therapist said I’m too logical. Like I try to rationalize things based on a filter of “how I should feel” instead of just feeling things. He kinda ate with that one!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 03:11 AM
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Put my signal on to pass a dude who was driving below the speed limit on a typical one lane road with passing. Instead of letting me over, he keeps swerving into the left to block me from doing so. wtf is wrong with people lol I’m just as bad as him though I laid on the horn for probably 20 seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:00 PM
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Beast. Good explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:02 AM
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That does make sense. I honestly think it’s a plausible deniability thing for women who want casual sex and need to make a “show” of saying “it just happened”. Many women by nature are pretty covert. Unfortunately I imagine that leads to guys pushing more
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:35 AM
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Unfortunately I’ve got receipts. Track record is lot pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:05 AM
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It’s all relative right? It’s weird to think that a world average salary (1480/month) is the same as the cost just for a month of rent in the US. But when the alternative is no shelter/no food/no running water..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:21 AM
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Is it true that girls who put “no hookups” in a dating app bio are more likely to hookup? What kinda mental gymnastics is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:14 AM
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Though you were fucking around put me on a list
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:22 PM
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Thanks beast
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:13 PM
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Now where do THESE women hang out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:13 PM
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Good looks man. I won’t flatter myself but there’s definitely a specific shirt I own I’ve been looking to replicate for years. Makes sense why I feel good in it now haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:12 PM
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You’re cooking
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:45 PM
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Lmao Sulek. It’s either the face card or I’m socially awkward. Maybe both!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:45 PM
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I bulked up to 180 at one point and I felt soft as hell so maybe there’s something to that. I still just feel small though. Got up to 215 bench but folded on 225 and then I’ve been out for a bit with an injury. Running to stay active lately. as it stands now I don’t feel big enough to not have a 6er (I’ve got decent ab definition, not my peak though). How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:44 PM
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That was the gym hahaha. Rehabbing a neck strain from lifting rn so staying active with lower impact exercise, once that’s done I’m going to do a slow bulk forever
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:41 PM
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I’m 24, both my grandfathers were pretty slight forever so I guess I should take that as a positive. Feels like I’m up against it with the dating pool sometimes but maybe I’m around the age where more men fall out of shape
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:39 PM
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I just can’t do it haha. Best I can do is a soundgarden shirt. I try to present well but I don’t really care for trying to adhere to fashion trends, give me a baseball hat, a flattering black slim fit T shirt, some cuffed jeans, and a pair of vans or Levi’s and I’ll ride that boy til I’m 70.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:36 PM
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I was talking to a chick for a bit on hinge and she unmatched me out of nowhere. She was missing an appendage. It took very slightly more effort for her to unmatch me when expressed as a % of total fingers available!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:32 PM
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I’m sick of having a sleeper build, limited facial hair worth growing, and being 5’10, 165. I’m in my mid 20s competing with grown ass men & I don’t feel like one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:31 PM
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I don’t mean linking your instagram (some apps allow you to do so, so people can see additional pics without following you). I mean putting your handle, specifically so people follow you. Then it’s “ahhhh men are so scary” like you’re pinpointing your identity idk how dumb someone can be
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:04 PM
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Lmao. Tech is aids
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:08 PM
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She looks like Roger Goodell
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:05 PM
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Ladies, if you’re looking for a serious relationship and have your instagram in your dating app bio, you’re self selecting out probably 90% of half decent dudes. It’s hilarious to see these people and then go to the profile out of curiosity and see they like their own posts lol. Time to grow up honeybuns Tbf I’m straight a dude so I don’t know if dudes do this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:04 PM
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Do as I say not as I do hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:59 PM
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What leads women to improve their self esteem and become more secure? For men it’s either you get out of a relationship or you never had one. For a man it’s normal to go several months to a couple years without dating, for a woman it’s less so. So are more women just insecure always? How can you be secure if you’re always seeking validation from other people (particularly romantic interests)?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:58 PM
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All you brotha, if you find an attractive woman with bangs who isn’t bisexual I’ll take them off your hands 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 05:21 PM
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Deal!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 05:21 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 05:01 PM
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We have different ideas of fun that to me don’t correlate strongly with someone being relationship material
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 05:00 PM
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Dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:55 PM
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Maybe if they sleep with someone he’ll love them this time!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:45 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:41 PM
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No like automatically
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:41 PM
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There should be a way to filter out rave chicks
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:33 PM
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This is legit the first bar chick that’s texted back so you’re right lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:47 PM
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sweet. I should add this was specifically regarding meeting up for coffee. Struck up conversation at said bar for a while and we’ve already kissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:38 PM
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I flirt with women I’m not even interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:52 PM
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I have a radio voice. Face for it too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:51 PM
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Some girl I met at a bar last weekend texted me “we can see about meeting up before I leave” (for a trip). Is that an encouragement for me to try or a lack of interest? I’m kinda lukewarm about it anyway I’m just bored
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:50 PM
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I’ve had 2 long term ones brother. This has gone off the rails
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:43 PM
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Yeah but what if it hasn’t gone wrong ? That seems like a fringe example
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:34 PM
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Is yours to tell them to be nice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:33 PM
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I’m not in a relationship I just don’t know what you mean by coercion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 06:38 PM
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What do you suggest? Not trying to be a dick I just want to hear your viewpoint
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:44 PM
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Should you ever leave your house?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:43 PM
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In your eyes do criminals follow societal standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:57 PM
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You’re asking men who are prone to violence if told no a single time, to pick up on social cues. You can tell them til you’re blue in the face, something tells me they don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:11 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 01:21 PM
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Tf is telling them the signs gonna do?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:29 AM
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Yes, deliberately making anyone uncomfortable is bad. But that’s flying over the heads of the people this PSA is directed towards. And the entire thing is these dudes don’t realize they’re being told no, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:37 PM
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I mean.. I guess? If your no is ambiguous you can’t complain that someone keeps bothering you is my point. Yes men can be better well adjusted. I think both can be true
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:48 PM
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For sure. I’m the wrong person for that though. I can recognize these women as conventionally attractive (like, model-esque) but it just doesn’t do it for me. You swipe left on all the models and then it sends you people who are either socially off or look to be in poor health. Where are all the average looking ones? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:46 PM
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I envy that lol. Could also be where I am - I moved to Florida and this place attracts the self-obsessed like moths to a flame unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:10 PM
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Average hinge experience: “I go to raves” (drugs are my personality) “I don’t get on here much here’s my instagram” (desperate for attention, has low self esteem, and probably likes their own posts) “I like to travel” (absolutely no coherent thought in that brain whatsoever) “Looks matter” (you aren’t nearly attractive enough to make those demands) “Be funny” (what do you offer?)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:49 PM
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I’m not even the same guy lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:38 PM
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My fault I should read better. In that case, I’d say things like mutual respect, trust, assuming the best, and top tier communication are important. I think those are self explanatory but for mutual respect that could even include things like how you talk about your partner when they’re not around, if you do/don’t entertain other people coming up to you with romantic intent, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:38 PM
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I shouldn’t say “really” - I should say it more commonly applies. Men more commonly approach women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:00 PM
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I wonder what that reason may be Like, legitimately. My theory is that some women have a disconnect in their perceived attractiveness and worth in the dating market due to the gender ratio on dating app as well as differences in swiping patterns to worsen this- men on average swipe right on more profiles than women, hence a woman’s attractiveness threshold to match a man of equal attractiveness is much lower. Again, even before considering the gender ratio disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:56 PM
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Minimum for prospective female partners from more of a selection perspective: is not vain. Signs of vanity include putting Instagram in dating profile bios, liking own social media posts, profile is entirely half naked selfies, rudeness toward “the other”, etc. has demonstrated positive interpersonal relationships with some or all of their family members did not have a hoe phase, or if they did have a hoe phase, they’re transparent about it rather than defensive treats everyone with respect. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:52 PM
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This is accurate. I will add, ladies, “no for an answer” isn’t something you can pussyfoot around and then blame a guy for. Be overt
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:44 PM
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Really this just applies to men due to traditional social conventions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:43 PM
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Idk where the daily threads went so here I go. I tried coffee meets bagel as I heard good things about it, but I don’t see the vision lol. It seems like for the most part the women on these sites have better experiences than the men because of the talent pool. In essence what you’re left with is women who don’t get any traction on other sites which is a very small subset of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:13 AM
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For whatever reason this comment brought back a monumental fold I had repressed in my mind. One time I was flying back from visiting work (I am the only remote worker) and my colleague asked me to move my flight and stay the night at her place. I was like “oh no haha I’ve gotta make this flight” just totally oblivious
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:34 PM
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Also, the ratios might be favorable, but, while I’m sure they’re nice people and intelligent, there probably aren’t a ton in a book club that you would find attractive. I looked one up in my area just based off your comment and that was what I could tell anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:32 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:28 PM
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Do you want kids - ooooof. Also the dm one lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:36 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve dealt with that but it’s really reassuring to hear this sort of empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:34 PM
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The most embarrassing rejection for me was pretty tame I guess. I had been talking to this woman at a bar (went with my friend) and she leaves to dance. I went up to her emboldened for some reason and asked for the chances she’d give me her number, she said 0 lmao. She cooked me. I thought that was sort of rude and I felt led on for the conversation we had being pretty in depth, but also learned a lot from this encounter. I didn’t even want her fucking number I just felt like I should have
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:34 PM
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Or younger women have a misguided idea of their own attractiveness. Also I wouldn’t conflate self esteem with an ego problem. Ironically a massive ego is often used to mask deeper feelings of insecurity or inadequacy. One is undoubtedly a positive thing, the other isn’t. Who would want to date someone with low self esteem? They’re more likely to be pushed around and struggle to establish boundaries, lack control, seek approval from others…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:23 PM
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I’d date her but my bs alarm would be up. If she’s actually feminist IMO she needs to be a TERF. A trans radical feminist is an oxymoron and just not worth the squeeze
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:53 PM
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Anecdotally my ex threw a water bottle at me when I didn’t want to have sex one time (I was drunk, therefore I couldn’t consent 😉) OP I think your post is controversial because it’s true. Look at DV rates in lesbian vs m/m relationships and it’ll tell yoy everything you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:52 PM
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There are too many weak and effeminate men. So when society starts collectively promoting the idea that men should be masculine, and no this does not mean repressing all feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:47 PM
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Doesn’t matter what they look like, no either way
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:54 PM
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That makes sense. How many times do you think a man would be approached by a woman? In the past year alone I’ve been approached a couple times this year by decent women and I wouldn’t say l I’m one most women find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:48 PM
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Can you elaborate on this. I’ll leave a little stubble at 24 but I can’t grow a thick carpet or a mall cop mustache like other dudes my age. On the flip side when I’m clean shaven I feel like I look 17. I can’t win
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:38 PM
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Fair. You guys can have the bachelor if we can have this
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:37 PM
1

I have hypersomnia:(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:36 PM
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I’d wager the guys saying that aren’t actually ugly, they just aren’t super model levels of attractiveness. As for where they get that confidence? Idk. If I’m being honest with myself, I, like most people, am somewhere in the middle just from a looks perspective. A little bit polarizing even. Seems like women either think I’m more or less attractive than I believe, there’s very little inbetween. Makes dating very interesting lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:33 PM
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I disagree for the most part. Looks are important but I don’t think it’s that simple that your looks aren’t why you’re getting dates. Take it from a man’s perspective - even one of reasonable attractiveness won’t be approached by a woman, rarely if at all. So if he’s not putting himself out there by asking women out, I don’t think you can make that conclusion. For unattractive women, what you say is probably more true as women are traditionally the ones being approached. But there are numerous f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:30 PM
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At least a little innate? Men stronger women gather? Blah blah blah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:57 AM
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This is legitimately a fundamental disconnect between b/t traditional values (some of which are innate) and the current societal reality. Probably also a contributing factor as to why so many women are dissatisfied in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:04 PM
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This is highly dependent on the person. Blanket assumptions like this are nothing more than stereotypes and should be treated as such. IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:02 AM
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Absolute master class from me yesterday. Got drunk and by some circumstance ended up dancing with some cute chick at a bar. We talked a little bit and I didn’t make a move. In my defense, she has a child, but this really emphasizes the whole self-defeatist mentality I need to get over
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:09 PM
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2 years? Idk to me she’s not obligated to share but it doesn’t sound like she has you at the forefront of her mind. I would strongly prefer my partner of a couple years be there with me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:40 PM
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Gay son. Even gay only son
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:34 PM
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Thank you for the reply! I figured I oversimplified things but my broad assumption was that earning potential increases fairly linearly, on average, with intelligence. The “men dumber” part I did word incorrectly as well haha I couldn’t figure out how to phrase it. There are just more deviations from the median is a simple way to put it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:10 PM
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I’m no Adonis but for whatever reason when I’ve talked to women they’ve been devastated when I want to stop. One girl was making TikToks about me months after we stopped - we only talked for one to begin with. Probably at least a little of that is a product of selection bias but it’s funny to think about. Then again, I don’t waste my time with wishy washy women anymore. I’ll be the first to tell my friend to pull the trigger on cutting a chick off because her shit isn’t together
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:15 PM
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That’s interesting!! So if I follow, dumber men are also, on average, dumber than dumber women. Serious question - does this call into the question the value of forced gender equality “for the sake of doing it”? That is, shouldn’t we expect more men to gravitate toward higher paying positions by virtue of their intelligence at the top end?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:05 PM
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How many partners (sexual or romantic interests) do you think a 50th percentile man has by age 25? I would guess 3 or 4 but I’m not sure. Wouldn’t be surprised if the bottom 25%ile is 0 and the top 10%ile is like 30+. Date Psychology estimates 27% of men b/t 18 and 30 report no sexual activity since turning 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:59 PM
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Where can I read more about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:51 PM
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Amen brother!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:19 PM
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I’m 24. Gym (weights, PPL split) 5-6 days per week, that frequency for around a year. As far as taking care of my looks, I don’t wear designer BS and I don’t feel the need to follow trends for the most part (fuck oversized clothing). I like wearing quality slim fit t shirts that compliment my physique, particularly my chest and arms. And some semi dressy polos and sweaters to mix it up. I very seldom dress business professional any more as I’ve WFH for a year. As far as grooming, not as much as …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:13 PM
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This is reassuring. Seems pretty cut and dry like the stigma follows people with low empathy. The idea of anyone crying, even a stranger, makes me upset
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:06 PM
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Idk one time I was told nice cock and I thought it was platonic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:19 AM
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They weren’t on a sale they were on my feet
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:18 AM
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Idk I just thought the people should know
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:36 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:39 PM
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It sort of is anyway. Most are 5s, a lot are 4s and 6s. Most people are average
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:37 PM
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Pre workout?? Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:35 PM
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This is a pretty good argument Ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:32 PM
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Hey with rizz (I follow the 5’10 rule: 5’10… 50 + 10k… 8….)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:31 PM
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Yup. I imagine women in that cohort will gradually become more conservative over time as has been the case in the past. Men less drastically so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:29 PM
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What if my aunt had balls?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:27 PM
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Male friends - not great. I’ve found it rare they have a platonic woman in the back of their mind that they haven’t been involved with already. Only exception is if they have a date and need a +1 to make it a double, though I try to avoid this unless I know she would want me there. Female friends - hit and miss. I have a F friend that is either super possessive over me when her attractive friends show interest, or she’ll go so over the top when it’s late at bars trying to pick up random women fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:25 PM
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One time a girl I was alone with in the elevator told me she liked my shoes and I just said “oh thanks”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:21 PM
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Respect. Seems like a mixed bag in the replies. I wouldn’t mind the lie if a guy pushes back on “no” as some have indicated but imo not great form to open with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 12:11 AM
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I could’ve possibly seen that either way, might have depended heavily on tone. I lean toward she was hitting on you but I wasn’t there haha. I like to think I’m average in looks which made it that much more baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:26 PM
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Oh for sure that’s the frustrating (and funny) thing about it lol. One time I had JUST had the “what are we talk” with a girl who I ended up dating a couple years, then I was driving back alone when this chick kept pulling directly next to my car on the highway. I kept speeding up until her friends were successful in motioning me to pull off at the next exit. Followed them to a parking lot and she just came out and said she thought I was cute and wanted my number. Started dating “what are we” gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:58 PM
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Slash s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:37 PM
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That’s sweet! Did he ask you out or did you initiate from that conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:30 PM
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Any rhyme or reason to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:28 PM
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Hmmm.. I guess I haven’t. Definitely never a park, and I’ve worked for an hour or two in coffee shops but that’s about it. Those are probably the type of women I want to meet, I guess I’m doing myself no favors by not putting myself in those situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:15 PM
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Ahhh okay maybe it’s a little different calculus in that case because I could see him taking “no” as an invitation to flirt more. I don’t like asking in that manner for that reason. Curious, what do you/would you like to hear in contrast? A while ago I finally worked up the courage to ask a girl out at my gym after we talked one day, seems like we could have had a lot of similar interests. She seemed flattered but said she had a boyfriend and I told her no problem and I’d see her around. My fema…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:11 PM
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Dumb stupid intangible ways that aren’t immediately apparent and thus are irrelevant to attracting a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:00 PM
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Went to the beach yesterday and read, mysteriously. No women approached me. I’m in good shape. I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:59 PM
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For women: of the times you’ve told approaching men that you have a boyfriend, what % would you estimate you actually did have a boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:58 PM
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Are you in Wyoming? lol. But on a real note have you ever considered moving?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:18 AM
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Huh, TIL! Greater insulin resistance, liver fat, and diabetes risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:17 AM
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Yeah seems to be a lot of defense out of nowhere for those lol. For people not even involved. At the same time, at a certain point (early-mid 20s?) women need to know better as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:13 AM
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Not sure you’ll have a ton of luck at the airport tbh. In my experience relationships that begin as or are intended to be long distance do not fare as well. Are you approaching women near you already? Why/why not, and if so how?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:11 AM
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Depends how you define it. More women (11.5%) have severe obesity than men (6.9%). More men are combined overweight or obese then women, and more men are “just overweight” than women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:09 AM
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My friend had a date with some tinder chick. They set one up, day comes and she flakes - says she can hang tomorrow. That day comes and she flakes again. I predicted this from looking at her ig profile btw. 4k followers 1k following and she likes all of her own posts. Walking red flag and the worst part is she’s not nearly attractive enough to act that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:04 AM
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Women have a higher % of necessary body fat in general, so I don’t think that’s true. That said there’s a biological reason for it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:03 AM
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Beast
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:02 AM
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What’s your end goal? I imagine a lot of them are going somewhere else altogether
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:01 AM
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On second thought I get the defensiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 10:39 PM
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On second thought I get the defensiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 10:39 PM
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What are you starting from? Like somewhere in the realm of average? Are you naturally “gifted” with a nice rack and ass in your honest opinion? IMO it’ll be very difficult to use it to get a job. But I would be curious to know what field you’re in.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 03:35 PM
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Good body won’t hurt but I’d advise you do it for yourself or you’ll never be satisfied
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:47 PM
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She is prohibitively annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:44 PM
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I don’t get the defensiveness from a man’s perspective (I am one). Because I know I’m not one of those people. Then again, there’s nothing worse from our perspective than being unfairly assumed to be one of those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:35 PM
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Good point. I would hesitate to call it violence, but my experience was a little fucked up - the last girl I dated (age 21-23) had been known on occasion to throw things at me the times I wouldn’t have sex. And in my mind it was interpreted as “she has a crazy streak haha!” rather than the reality of it. Imagine the genders were reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:33 PM
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I’m usually happiest in the moment right before downloading it again, and then I remember why I don’t. I can’t speak for men, but there are a ton of “low value” women. Guess it wouldn’t be special if everyone was special
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 07:01 PM
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Tuned my 6 string guitar down to Drop A to play Stacked Actors (song owns) and it’s just not very viable. It’s fun to play but optimal sound would be special strings or a 7 string guitar. The A is like playing a wet noodle, that’s how loose it is lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:59 PM
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You’re not a bad looking dude at all. Nice smile. I think it’s in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:56 PM
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Im built different
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:26 AM
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Haha that’s how you know it’s a valid criticism. Really dispels the whole “my side is perfect” myth that has this site in a chokehold. If nothing else it’s ironic to here
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:32 AM
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I’m a dude and I’d estimate 70-80% of women are not attractive. What the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:19 PM
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Women are over dramatic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:14 PM
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Keep in mind you’re asking Reddit. Naturally the answer is somewhere in the middle on average
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:12 PM
1

Liberals are the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:11 PM
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But they’re one of the Good Ones!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:10 PM
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Ah yes disagree because.. ummm.. uhhhh…..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:10 PM
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When one denies basic science…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:07 PM
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Moderate women who preferably aren’t super progressive or die hard conservative. Life is nuanced, political fanboyism is unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:06 PM
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Bro maybe if you comment this one or two more times it’ll come true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:03 PM
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Sounds like there’s pretty much only upside. This is the golden ticket imo - no pressure and you have a reason to fall back on for being there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:01 PM
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lol I’ve never thought of it that way but you’re right. Let’s just call it what it is, it’s an excuse to be cowardly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:00 PM
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Damn!! Compensation somewhat make up for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:58 PM
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Pouring one out for you brother. Hopefully it’s worth it at least
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:52 PM
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3 years 30.5k. Good chunk of those miles came on long trips actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:48 PM
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The easiest red flag on apps for me to swipe left on is an Instagram handle in the bio. Find someone who loves you as much as those vapid women love themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:48 PM
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Yup, I appreciate it! I wanna make it clear I don’t make those my bio anymore hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:44 AM
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Fair point. I think I phrased that wrong - I’d say “doesn’t take himself too seriously” is intended as a positive trait but YMMV. More like “capable of laughing at himself” rather than “nothing matters”. A sense of humility more than anything
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:32 AM
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Usually something variably in jest like I don’t take myself too seriously. When I was a few years younger and more immature I was “5’10, two different measurements”. I’ve also done “something something Jim and Pam”, tinder I hardly know her, and a bunch of other things I can’t specifically remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:49 AM
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Love it I will say I don’t terribly enjoy sex with a condom. Like I’ll do it but it’s not super enjoyable from a feeling standpoint. So I try to be useful in some regard. If I ever had a long term partner on the pill and ready for kids I’d probably enjoy it a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:43 AM
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It’ll be alright. I stopped looking at dating as something that needed to happen on a certain timeline and was relieved. I don’t want to end up alone but I’m turning myself into someone I can stand to be alone with. I’d recommend the same for everyone. Anyway, it’s been my experience I meet someone when I least expect it. I am least expecting it!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:42 AM
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“Never talk to women at the grocery store/at church/at the gym/in nature/at the beach” and all of a sudden you’re self selecting two of the shittiest dating pools for potential wife material - dating apps and clubs. No thanks. Good points
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:46 PM
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Some women do play hard to get deliberately
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:42 PM
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Fair point! And Facebook has a free height filter AFAIK
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:35 PM
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Bro yes 😂 although sometimes it’s positioned in a way when I’m wearing shorts that it looks like I’m chubbing. Makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:18 PM
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Lmfao!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:56 PM
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Sick! Maybe it’s because I was a skinny fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:49 PM
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I’m chirping today for sure but I’ve had multiple women tell me they’d thought I would have a small dick and then proceed to tell me it’s impressive (it’s not like I’m packing a footlong sub, but pretty big from what I understand). Can’t decide if I’m supposed to take that as a massive insult or a compliment lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:44 PM
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That’s true, but it’s also possible to make your height deceptive right? Angles, standing with short people?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:40 PM
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Alright you cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:37 PM
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genuine question - when questions about the height filter and lack of a weight filter come up, I hear some funny excuses. “Well everyone will lie anyway” “just swipe left” OK then might as well get rid of the height filter? What am I missing here? Seems like internalized misogyny I can’t even think of another explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:19 PM
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genuine question - when questions about the height filter and lack of a weight filter come up, I hear some funny excuses. “Well everyone will lie anyway” “just swipe left” OK then might as well get rid of the height filter? What am I missing here? Seems like internalized misogyny I can’t even think of another explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:19 PM
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tried Facebook dating for shits and gigs and it’s good in a lot of ways but shitty in others? Namely, I matched with a woman near me and she showing up in my notifications where I can click the chat and see her profile, but not in my matches. The app also keeps showing me people like 500+ miles away. It’s absurd. On the flip side, there’s no pay to win and the filters are pretty good IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:14 PM
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This was the nail in the coffin for my last one. Ngl it was pretty devastating especially because I was good at pleasing my partner lol I wasn’t one of those guys afraid to get down and dirty
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:11 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:09 PM
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Occupational?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:09 PM
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Haha no I know what you mean. I’ve done it in the Midwest now in FL and unfortunately that shit persists everywhere. On another note I wish there were better filters to use tbh, of course people say “just swipe left” but that would imply there’s no reason for a height filter either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:28 PM
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For sure. It’s easy to go into a gym and feel discouraged but damn reality is far off
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:27 PM
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I’ve not quite arrived to that conclusion yet. I am also willing to stay single if my standards aren’t met. Maybe it’s because I’m 24 but I find dating a lot more enjoyable that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:27 PM
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If she meets my standards it’s not settling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:22 PM
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It’ll make a world of difference even if you don’t notice it. Really does all the work in preventing dental issues
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:21 PM
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He’s right. I live in a house with 3 of my teammates from college and we’re all single. 2 of them think it’s dumb when we go out with a group of women (acquaintances) who have BFs because they’re already taken. The other 2, which includes me - we argue that being out in a group with women, attracts other women. Case in point last time we went out like this I made out with some girl who approached us lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:20 PM
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2:30 was my max in college athletics. No idea why we did it, wasn’t relevant to our sport at all. These days I prefer a different approach. If yall are well above one min I’d suggest trying one arm out and opposite leg out for around 30 sec at a time then switch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:17 PM
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Definitely closer to the right. Ngl some of the bottom left straight up looks like dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:16 PM
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It’s weirdly encouraging swiping left so many times on a dating app lol. So much of the population is overweight, unskilled/no education/no trade/no career, drug addicted, or actively unintelligent. Really helps you re-calibrate what a 5 is, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:14 PM
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Not saying I agree with it but that’s why they call it a hoe phase and not a hoe forever
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 12:53 PM
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Interesting. Probably some truth to the guys inflating their numbers thing because most my friends claim way more lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:57 PM
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Where are women like you lol. Standards are hot
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:48 PM
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I would wager he is not around
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:48 PM
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Tough call. I’d say anything above 20 is pushing it. Ideally below 10. Sweet spot for me is like 3-5 but I’m not that restrictive. 20 would allow a decent hoe phase and still account for a decent string of “bad dating luck” or some other bs. Interestingly if you asked me 40 instead of 30 years old my answer would be about the same I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:47 PM
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Based. I mentioned this in a thread yesterday and someone told me “I know what the statistics say but that hasn’t been my experience”. Thankfully someone else chimed in and made a good point - higher body count says something about your character and your values. It’s up to you to decide if that’s something you admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:44 PM
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Here ya go buddy. 24M, 3 PIV, but I would say 6 altogether. Of the 6, 2 were long term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:42 PM
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My ex didn’t count oral. Also ended up being a cheater lol Oral counts
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:41 PM
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lol right. If it’s so empowering why play coy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:40 PM
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Tough call, over 3 months I’d expect some repeats naturally. So I’d agree with other reply and say 6 max. That’s a new one every other week I think that number is the higher end of what I’d consider reasonable, and even then not if you extrapolate it over a year - two years - etc. I think more reasonable is anywhere from 0-3. 12 in 12 weeks is an insane red flag and leads me to believe we wouldn’t be compatible anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:37 PM
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Deeply ugly people outing themselves, is how I spin it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:31 PM
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I just cannot believe this is controversial. Reddit is so ass backwards
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:17 PM
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Idk what to say you see the statistics and say it doesn’t matter. No hard feelings, I’m pretty steadfast on this one. Have a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:14 PM
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I have unfortunately had the opposite experience anecdotally
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:01 PM
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You should be cautious. That said, it’s pretty decidedly a body count thing. https://twitter.com/StatisticCloud/status/1715349029029286180?lang=en#
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:33 PM
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Not so hard is it?? Haha I wish more people would just be truthful
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:26 PM
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At the end of the day, you’re right in that you really don’t know. But there is evidence to suggest it’s worth being cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:24 PM
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When everyone’s straight forward everyone wins!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:23 PM
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If we’re talking about one specific person, I agree with you that it’s pointless to worry about. But as I understand it, there is a positive correlation between body count and future infidelity. You can consider many things in dating, IMO this one shouldn’t be controversial. Obviously it’s a holistic approach as well, but I think it’s fair to consider at the end of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:12 PM
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Beast. Nice physique man, about where I want to be with PPL
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:03 PM
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Men don’t care about other men because they aren’t trying to date other men. I’d wager many women don’t judge men for body count because that would require they look at their own with a sense of criticism. So right off the bat it’s coming from a place of insecurity and not strength Edit: and to add how this is different for dudes - for a man and a woman the same age and of equal relative attractiveness, it’s about the same “difficulty” for the man to have more sex as it is for the woman to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 01:54 PM
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Beast
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 02:13 AM
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Wdym by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 01:38 AM
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I try to control what I can control. I’m happy to have had the privileges I had. I’m happy I’m in decent health all things considered. I’m thankful much of my family is around, though some have grown distant. I don’t think it’s an on/off switch, more of a gradient. There are things I wish were different, and of the ones I can control, that’s what I work towards. That pursuit makes me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 01:36 AM
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Hes changed now!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 01:33 AM
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I’ve fumbled before for sure lmao she expressed interest in me to her friend and I just absolutely bombed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 01:32 AM
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This will be all over the place, but I wish people were a little more understanding in dating and less likely to generalize (“all women are like this”, “all men are bad”, etc.) I’d like to meet someone who is accepting of their own flaws, constantly seeks to improve themselves without requiring approval from others, and most importantly acts with integrity when no one is looking. I’ve been cheated on in the past. It was awful, wouldn’t wish it on anyone. My options were to drown in my sorrow or …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 01:30 AM
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It’s 80/20 dudes, you need to pay cover, and frankly the women who frequent there don’t tend to be wife material. Awful place to pick up any kind of meaningful partner
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:33 PM
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Beast. Work out. Get sun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:30 PM
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And then wonder why “all men suck” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:28 PM
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I’m average (5’10) and I feel women have a warped idea of height lol. And let’s be real, women who demand a man meet x height are likely insecure themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:27 PM
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I would imagine their tolerance for loneliness is much lower. For many women being single for a month is enough lol. Try a year or two
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:25 PM
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It’s saying 50% of marriages end in divorce, but there are frequent flyers that drive that number considerably (people that get married and divorced once i would assume are much more likely to do it 2, 3, 7 times)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 07:54 PM
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Off topic but my friend (F) had a cute friend come into town and she started flirting with me until my friend purposely put a stop to it. That pissed me off
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:50 PM
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I feel we’re similar. If you could measure “dependability” and other intangibles, I’d be near the top of the dating pool. For many I feel like would be difficult to learn, especially if they’ve never had to. Any suggestions about how to improve otherwise? Keep going to the gym, keep a career, keep talking to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 01:26 PM
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You give me hope lol. Im 24 post undergrad and its a crapshoot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 01:22 PM
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That’s reassuring. Definitely something I can stand to improve. I think that starts with meeting more people in general, I bought some pickle ball paddles haha might give that a Hail Mary try
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:20 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 12:27 AM
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🤔 I hope women find my veins as attractive as the mosquitos do
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:28 PM
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Is this referring to the wrist? Forearm? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:06 PM
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I’ve had a friend (tall, pretty objectively good looking dude) tell me the exact same, pretty much. To play to my strengths. Mine will seldom be that direct approach. Hell, at 24 I’ve had more success with women coming up to me in my life than I have going up to them blind. Conversely, I’m good at thinking on my feet and have comedic timing. I’ve always sort of considered myself a long term play for this reason. I’m not this Adonis hot enough to open the door, but when I get it open I keep it op…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:05 PM
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Women in a biological sense mature faster. I’d argue that women, from a societal standpoint, have been sold a foundation of lies and the pendulum has swung “too far” in the other direction as far as “raging against the motherhood”. Many women finding out they wanted to settle down too late. As fertility wanes much sooner for women, this has major impacts down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:01 PM
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Thank you! Hopefully I can meet some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:59 PM
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What is?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:23 PM
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I don’t disagree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:53 PM
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That’s dope. I was not a STEM guy in the slightest so TIL
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 04:01 PM
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If you really wanna know read their body language. If they fumble over their words they’re probably lying and you can just walk away knowing you were probably rejected. There have been others times I’ve gone up to a woman and she’s said she has a boyfriend and you can tell when it’s genuine, for the most part. tl;dr: N/A
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 04:00 PM
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OLD and then inflate whatever success on the app a bit if you’re a man to match your real life attractiveness. Deflate your success if you’re a woman. I’d venture to guess women get, on average, 4x as many likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:57 PM
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WHAT ????? OH. YEAH
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:55 PM
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How do I find said running groups and pickle ball. I actually like doing those things on occasion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:54 PM
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They have to be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:52 PM
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If the alternative is being beaten, then yes, a 2 parent household isn’t as good as a separated one. But these are fringe cases. By and large, a 2 parent household - or at the very least having the father present in the child’s life - is a gigantic predictor of life outcomes. I’m sorry that happened regardless and I’m glad it seems you’ve defied the odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:49 PM
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Because it’s an uncomfortable conversation and holds people accountable for their actions. And unfortunately there’s a racial correlation which leads to this argument being perceived as targeted racism
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:48 PM
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Wages have not increased enough to make being a single income couple super viable from a financial perspective. The government NEEDS to incentivize childbirth more than it does. Even if you don’t want/have children yourself, the societal benefits are endless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 03:45 PM
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I’ll keep my options open. Thanks man!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:57 PM
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Yeah I might be fucked in that regard lmaooo. I’ve picked up guitar recently but I’m nowhere near good enough to perform. I also uprooted to a new state knowing like 3 people and work remotely so I’ve gotta be a little creative
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:49 PM
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Just to clarify you’re basically saying to meet people, right? My area as in my geographic location? You’re right though, I doubt my future wife is out at a club all weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:39 PM
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Fun thought exercise. My standards: works out has friends has hobbies has a career or a passion of some sort with at least a semblance of a long term vision I find her attractive generally a good person; integrity - what do you do when no one is looking? similar stage in life That’s it. Doesn’t seem like it’s a lot to ask but maybe I’m crazy. I think these standards are fair as these are what essentially I set for myself (e.g., I go to the gym, have a career, have hobbies, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:17 PM
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I appreciate it dude. I think I’ve become less impacted by rejection but it’s still something where I go up and don’t want to be assumed as “some creep” or like I’ll automatically be rejected. On the flip side, you’re right - there was one specific time I didn’t ask for a girl’s number after an awesome conversation and to this day I think of that lol. That’s way worse than any rejection I’ve dealt with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:48 PM
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FYI I understood what you were saying. Have you experienced fleeting feelings like that before? How did you adapt?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:19 PM
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I’m always looking for ways to improve myself. What are some things I can do to improve that internal thought process?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:18 PM
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Unfortunately the other half of the equation is them understanding you’re being facetious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:51 PM
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Alright I give up what is it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:45 PM
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I just try to avoid comparing but my last gf cheated on me and is now with an old ex lol. It’s that easy for her? I have another female friend who is objectively like a 4 and could log onto a dating app and get laid in the next couple hours in a mid sized city. She’s fucked probably a dozen pretty objectively attractive dudes in the past 6 months or so. Maybe very non-conventionally affective women share a similar plight, but by and large men are up against it. And I go everywhere and it’s all d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:35 PM
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Anyone just completely jaded by dating? I’m 24M in a new city and I haven’t tried a whole lot. On a new med for profound tiredness, focusing on my career, working out, spending time with friends, and practicing a new hobby (guitar). I know I want to marry eventually but the idea of going out of my way to potentially stroke the wrong person’s ego is repulsive at this point. I know I have a lot to offer but it feels like no one sees it the same way. Feels paradoxical almost. And I’m not upset. I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:27 PM
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Beast. But also men couldn’t vote
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:22 PM
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I’ll give you an anecdotal example. Was at the bar last night with a lot of 20 something’s overall and with my 2 male friends. We were playing darts and two girls came up and touched our arms and asked if they could please have a turn. They hung around us for a while after. Eventually they complained about another guy who came up to them that was a creep. “Why is he here alone” etc etc. I could see where they were coming from but it was still a little ironic given the concept of personal space d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:16 PM
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Low self worth and fragile ego
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 12:29 AM
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lol facts. I’ve rejected several women in my life and I’ve been straight up about it. Meanwhile some women reject men and display very ugly personality traits. Some are graceful, no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:07 PM
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Spot on. Nothing is worse as well than getting rejected in a rude way and women saying “well some men don’t take no for an answer”. I’m not sorry because im not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:06 PM
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You don’t want a woman who wants emotionally unavailable men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:04 PM
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Because women are pursued more often than men and therefore have the illusion of more options
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:03 PM
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6 hours is borderline day trip
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:02 PM
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Deep personal issues, hookup culture and a way to take back control
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:01 PM
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I’ve come to realize it’ll never be enough. I used to be too scared to approach women because it might mean I get rejected. Now I approach and get rejected anyway. Oh well, I’ll still be the best version of myself, which I realize is a never ending pursuit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:59 PM
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Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:58 PM
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From a game theory perspective I don’t think that’s a bad move. Public is all over UConn and not taking Purdue enough. Probably even more casuals in your office pool than normal so maybe some even taking UNC or duke
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:57 PM
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One or two small tattoos is fine but I agree lol it’s counter cultural to have no tattoos in this generation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:56 PM
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I’ve seen a disturbing trend of women posting about their experiences with guys who “just don’t get it”. Like they won’t take no for an answer. On one hand, I’d be annoyed too, but on the other a ton of them reek of insecurity, like they need to be validated that “THIS man” would approach me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:56 PM
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That’s unfortunate, seems like a twisted worldview in my opinion. I’d like to have my mind changed but it seems women are born “good enough” and men need to rise to meet their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 02:57 AM
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Interesting. I’ve taken a hiatus from dating apps but historically I’ve found myself in the classic territory of “I get attention, but not a ton”. I’ve met 3 women off them in my early 20s and could have met a couple more if I wanted. Afraid to try again because I have no confidence and no one has taken a picture of me for at least a year lmao This is not even semi related, but I’ve got a female friend who laments about her boy problems (we’re 24, in the professional world) and she usually hits …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:45 PM
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Everything
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:44 PM
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I’ve done decent enough being funny. But I moved and need to try again
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:43 PM
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some of my best experiences were from hanging out with other women, seriously. Nobody else try it this is for me only
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:43 PM
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She’s a dime
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:41 PM
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I’m on my first cut and feel the same way. Lost water weight immediately. Sometimes I waterboard myself if I get hungry (and by waterboard I mean look at pictures of the ihop menu) Or maybe that’s edging
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:40 PM
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Based. Godspeed
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:39 PM
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Depends if you wear mental illness like a badge of honor. I think there’s a fine line
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:39 PM
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He’s a populist is essentially what it boils down to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:38 PM
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When women say “the odds are good, but the goods are odd” as far as dating/dating apps are concerned, are they saying more that men are ugly or creepy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:38 PM
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