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DISCUSSIONNoFondant2503/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:08 PM
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DATING ADVICENoFondant2503/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 09:52 PM
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DISCUSSIONNoFondant2503/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 11:55 PM
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Ok, not sure where you are citing this from but I will just take it as true for a moment. Do you really think it’s best for women to internalize these anxieties and live their life as if they are on a clock? My whole point is that yes, you can be aware of the fact that in general younger people have it easier or your fertility decreases but that doesn’t mean your life stops. I will still say to OP that you’re not even 30 yet. Focus on improving and building a beautiful life for yourself and bein…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 09:19 PM
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This whole idea of hitting the wall when you’re 30 is nonsense. It depends on the person and their life journey. Most people are late bloomers and make a lot of mistakes in their 20’s. So take a deep breath. Don’t chase men in your community. The world is huge. Go explore and take risks. Heal from your breakup Focus on building your future and I can’t guarantee the right person will come along but either way doing your own thing and focusing on yourself has never yielded bad results. Good luck a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 01:36 PM
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Thank you for sharing this ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:54 PM
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Thank you and I’m sorry that happened to you. Yes, the grief has been too much to handle so I decided to try to move on with a dating app. I’m not sure, it’s gonna heal anything but It makes me realize there’s a whole world of men out there.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 12:56 PM
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I don’t think that’s the case. I wouldn’t blame someone in that age range to never want to be married again or father a child or two at an older age. Our ending was painful with a lot of tears and a lot of love. He didn’t just abandon me. It just wouldn’t work and we didn’t want to sell ourselves short.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 12:52 PM
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Well, without sharing all my personal details, the bottom line really is that I want to Get married and have children. I also don’t want to be a widow before I’m 50. I also think that such a huge age gap can cause incompatibilities due to just being in different generations.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 09:54 AM
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I answered below.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:47 AM
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I really do want to, every single hour or every single day but there are other complications as well. I wouldn’t have thought twice if it was 12 years, it’s 25+ years. He’s already gone through all the important phases in his life. Sometimes you fall in love with the wrong person 🤷🏻‍♀️ He broke it off as well bc of all these same frustrations. No future and doing this in-between thing is too much pain on anyone. I guess he’s done opening his heart for it to be broken again and honestly I am too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:46 AM
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Thank you ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 11:37 PM
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I was looking for similar situations. lock it then
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 12:18 AM
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We are in the “talking stages”, friends for over a year. He’s into a completely difference race of women. I guess I’m similar to the body type but I feel defeated because it’s racial
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 11:59 PM
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except he’s not an HVM. There are a lot of narcissistic, sociopathic men who rise to the top. Money and success contribute to a mans value but doesn’t alone deem him high value. An HVM doesn’t drag women along. If he doesn’t want to settle down, he will hook up but not this “have my cake and eat it too” mentality. He will have the maturity to let her go because he can’t give her what she needs. He will have empathy for the woman he “deems to love” and walk away so she can meet someone who can. I…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 12:16 AM
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I agree. There are some great male artists whom I admire greatly. You have to consider women weren’t allowed to do half the things men were for the majority of history. So all we have is male work. It’s kind of like saying Christians built most historical buildings, universities etc all good things for society but the problem is there was no one else to do the job. Also, be vulnerable and emotional for yourself and your quality of life. Yes it’s more accepted for women to be vulnerable but let’s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:37 PM
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Special K 5 is totally missing the point. I’m not looking down on men but how am i supposed to respect my husband if I know I can do what he does and much much better and make a lot more money than he does? That average career guy would be “undesirable” to me because I can’t look up to him. Plus, the whole class structure thing is just compatibility. Yes, I can and am willing to date a self made man no matter where he comes from but the reality is MOST people stay in their class structures and h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 07:03 PM
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I did and the response is exactly what I expected. Some of them were fine but mostly these Men will be unhappy forever in silly, superficial relationships. They’ll never know the love of a strong woman. We’ll be alone but not unhappy, just alone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:53 PM
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Yeah you can’t fool grown women with that crap but you can a teenager which most of them want to date anyways. These people aren’t interested in mature relationships, they want a kid they can bully and manipulate. I’m saying this because at one point I was that young kid being traumatized by useless, immature, disrespectful men.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 05:12 PM
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If you’re a HVM, you won’t be following low value women on IG and leaving thirsty comments. You’d value intimacy, respect and real women because you would be mature and have integrity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:53 PM
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Therapy that’s geared towards goal setting, boundary creation and solving life problems. Men need goals and actions. Often male therapists provide that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:44 PM
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Most men grow up with a certain sense of masculinity that usually involves solving problems by yourself, logical thinking, not asking for help, keeping your walls up. Therapy is the opposite of all that and it makes men confront their emotions and bring down walls which makes them feel vulnerable and emasculated. I disagree that therapy is emasculating. I think the idea of masculinity men grow up with is actually a detriment to their lives. Humans have emotions and they should be in touch with t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:42 PM
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I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:38 PM
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Totally agree. I would be incompatible with someone religious but this whole Instagram “models” thing is ridiculous. It tells me so much about a man and his integrity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:37 PM
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Similar/higher class structure, higher salary than me. I don’t look at porn (maybe once in 6 months and I’m grossed out with what’s out there every time) or have any addictions.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:34 PM
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Yeah I totally agree. I hope I find a decent one but it’s rough out here and I feel like I’m losing my mind when I’m told these basic standards are too much of an ask.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:27 PM
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No I don’t look down on people. We would have hugely different lifestyles unfortunately because of the class structure our society is in.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 10:46 PM
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I’m an atheist. I don’t have an issue with porn viewed in doses but not following Instagram/Twitter accounts of porn or looking at pornhub every day. There is no moderation and it’s becoming an addiction. I will compromise, I’m loving and choose to see the better side or people but I will not compromise on addiction vices, money etc because I need to respect and look up to the man I’m with and my kids need to be able to do that too. If you’re a man with no sexual discipline and your lazy with an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 05:22 PM
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If the basics are too much for men then I’d rather be alone than be in another relationship /marriage plagued with these vices 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 04:53 PM
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Yep. Ideally way more than me so I can raise my kids in peace
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 04:23 PM
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I don’t know where to tell you to meet people. Maybe take an art class but you should read up on narcissism and the particular kinds of narcissists before you enter into the dating pool.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 03:12 PM
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Yeah but then I think If everything’s out in the open, women can make informed decisions instead of being tricked into being with some weirdo whose hiding all this stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 03:10 PM
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I agree completely. All I can offer to a man is sexuality, health, beauty, nurture, children, care and a sane psychological state. Apart from that I’m cultured and have a developed personality and I would say I’m pleasant to be around but other women can provide that too. So idk if I’m special.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 03:05 PM
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Well. Idk what to tell you but it’s disappointing to hear. You’d rather make yourself sick then create a new IG account.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 01:11 PM
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Well. What do you want me to do? Make $20k a year live in a shitty apartment and just hope a porn sick, aggressive guy sweeps me off my feet? I make money and do things because I have to, I literally have no motivation to be chained to a desk my whole life. I want to be a mom and have kids and love my family. I’d like a career but not where I work 60-80 hours a week. Do you see how this is a difficult problem?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 01:03 PM
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This^ also to look attractive, you need to afford a gym membership, good makeup, good food, a stress free lifestyle. How are you supposed to do that making $20k/year? I make 6 figures because I HAVE TO.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 12:53 PM
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No that’s fine and you’re right but as a single woman how am I supposed to survive without a career? I would gladly be at home taking care of kids but I make 6 figures because no man is providing me with that lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 12:50 PM
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Yeah and I don’t know what to do. I’m surrounded by Narcissistic borderline women desperate for attention on Instagram and aggressive narcissistic men addicted to porn and engaging in anti social behavior. It’s bleak out here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 09:02 AM
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I’m in a blue city/red state but yes I totally agree men are not ,if they ever were, encouraged to be the best version of themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:57 AM
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Hmmm. Yep. I’m beginning to realize.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:52 AM
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I don’t consider any of these things to factor into my overall attractiveness. Let me also add that I appreciate and indulge my femininity, take care of myself, keep my weight low and myself pretty. I would even consider being a Stay at home mom for the right guy and focus on raising my kids because that’s what would make me truly happy. My overall point was, I’m a woman and with all the difficulties of being a woman plus a millennial. I have options to become an Instagram slut or become a sugar…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:52 AM
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Yeah I just don’t think it’s that simple. It destroys men’s view of women and distorts reality. Most IG models are not real and are photoshopped plus they all use very distinct angles and filters. It’s distorting reality and more women in real life are starting to look less and less attractive
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 08:45 AM
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Jesus this is so depressing. Seems like the incentives are aligned in exactly the opposite direction. Will take a really strong guy who wants to make something of himself to beat all these temptations and become a man.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 02:47 AM
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I agree with this. Since men have the natural inkling to be competitive and rise to the top why don’t they surpass women and snag up all the high paying jobs?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 01:28 AM
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Wrong. Don’t make men the victim of the culture here. Here’s what I think men should do to improve their life: Work out. Get a career. Start saving. Take an interest in hobbies like sports or art. Make guy friends. Stop online dating. Go to therapy. I do all of these things. I’m a millennial and I make 6 figures, have my own home and hobbies and wide variety of interests. I’m a woman and although I have a lot of access to sex because I’m considered attractive, I’m sexually disciplined and don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 01:23 AM
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I think you’re missing the point entirely. First off comparing a reality show to OPENLY viewing porn on social media and getting emotionally attached to models and following their moves is seriously deranged but let’s say this is an addiction behind closed doors for your arguments sake. Yes people suck at both ends of the spectrum but my point is FAR MORE and I mean FAR more men are addicted to porn especially through easy access through Twitter and Instagram then women are to reality tv shows. …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 11:37 PM
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I don’t want to be a guys therapist. Been there done that. I’m 26 and I’m not in a position to be rolling the dice. I only have a few years left.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 11:02 PM
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Except it’s scientifically proven over multiple studies that video game addiction, while pronounced can cause issues, it doesn’t make you more violent however porn makes you more violent, more lustful and view women in a worse light. Let’s also say for arguments sake that I watch an episode of the kardashians once a week. That’s not an addiction nor does it really affect my life. I don’t have an emotional attachment to it and makes no difference to my reality however porn is so destructive that …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:59 PM
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None of those things plus I’ve been in therapy and never diagnosed with anything. Can you explain what you mean by hard events?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:49 PM
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Please read my post again.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:47 PM
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Dude, are you joking? Do you really think looking at Instagram porn (Yes, it’s literal naked photoshopped girls) from sun up to sun down 50 times a day doesn’t count as porn addiction or doesn’t warp your world view of what women should look like?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:25 PM
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Yeah exactly and apparently IG porn addiction doesn’t count lol? Are these people delusion? You’re looking at naked women 50 times a day from sun up to sun down, what is that, If not an addiction? THE APP IS LITERALLY DESIGNED FOR THAT.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:12 PM
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Never sleeping with anyone randomly or anything. These is a long relationship, a marriage and a couple situationships. Also hearing other women’s stories.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:11 PM
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Doesn’t apply. A HVM doesn’t date “a lot” of women. HVM in moral character may not translate to the top 10% of earners or NBA player reputation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:09 PM
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Explain this more, please
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:42 PM
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From personal experience and the many many women I know, it ranges from basically early teens to 65 year olds across most races, most intellectual and economic levels
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:35 PM
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Exactly what I’m saying above! It’s so low value and distasteful and somehow so many men just can’t wrap their heads around this. In the past, this was something done behind closed doors, and while problematic and caused issues, there is a whole other level of embarrassment, openness and attachment to it and I’m told to not make a big deal out of it. Lol gtfo 😡
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:19 PM
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You made my point for me. Basic standards is not a fairy tale prince life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:13 PM
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Seems to be the case
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:10 PM
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Totally agree. Seems like people have just lost it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:10 PM
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Thank you for bringing a man’s perspective. Examples of other issues are addiction/alcoholism, not being motivated to make money, unhealthy levels of anger, dragging on a lot of women (attachment issues), also, not being motivated to be in a committed relationship. For the Instagram strippers/porn issue: there is an issue that most women find with this area because these are specific women men are “following”, this is not a random girl on a porn site, this is a preferred girl and a preferred tas…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:56 PM
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Right. I’ve considered your last point before however would a man date a girl whose slept around a lot before but now she’s getting “relationship-ready”? Like the same thing goes for men. If you have an unhealthy sexual appetite and are doing low value things to deal with it, why should I really trust it?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:45 PM
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Thank you for this comment. Yes, I 100% acknowledge that I have issues and I’m in therapy and doing self healing for that. What I listed are things that should be rare in people but it’s in an overflow these days. Like there are PhD highly intellectual high earning, emotionally aware men doing shit like this. It’s absolutely demoralizing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:43 PM
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I see what other people are commenting and the details of his personal life don’t really matter here. What matters is that he sounds like he’s traumatized and hasn’t dealt with a lot of his stuff. Listen to yourself. Feeling paranoid means you’re not feeling secure about the relationship. That is normal. A couple things to consider before you proceed: Is he in therapy? It is a red flag if a man isn’t open to it. He should be dealing with his trauma and working through it. Have you guys done coup…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 06:00 PM
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You need to establish clear boundaries and cut him off. Make it known you need him to man up and commit. He’s really just keeping you around for emotional support and physical satisfaction until He does meet someone(probably toxic) who doesn’t take his shit. Men are about ACTION. You need to SHOW HIM. He needs to SEE YOUR ABSENCE. He won’t understand with words. I know it is tremendously hard and probably the hardest part about being a woman. I’ve had to walk away from similar men as well who lo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 05:51 PM
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A few things to work on: Really think through your insecurities. If you lose a bowling game, so what? Does that say anything about you? Build your confidence. Play to your strengths. Engage In stuff you’re good at. If you have a few things you know you’re good at, you won’t be so bothered by the things you’re not good at. Go to therapy. Anyone can benefit from bringing their issues to the forefront. Work on realizing that life is short and you’re never gonna be good at everything so have fun whi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 02:13 AM
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You’re joking right?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 09:40 PM
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Incorporate dry humping, teasing and resistance play
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 02:08 PM
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You’re literally describing my ex. Took me a long time to walk away. OP’s partner seems frozen in childhood trauma which even after years of therapy doesn’t go away. Op, protect yourself and your sanity.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 09:09 AM
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Men care about physical beauty. There’s no way around that. Can you mention your physical features? Are you in the lower end of your weight class? Height? Clear skin(free of akne, body hair)? Well groomed? (Do you wear no makeup or too much of it?, is your hair trimmed and groomed? Straight teeth? I didn’t start getting male attention till I turned 24, that’s when I got to the lower end of my weight class, lost baby fat, straightened my teeth, found a hair routine and style, figured out the righ…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:52 AM
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Therapy, first.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:44 AM
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Biologically, women need someone to look up to, to be better than them, know more than them so they can go to their partner for advice. In return, men need emotional support, they don’t really need our advice in situations. The roles here seem a little mixed up. You’re providing him emotional support without him stepping up. He’s inadvertently draining you and putting you in a mother role (hint: looking up to your partner prevents you from this parent child dynamic). It’s not that his problems a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:41 AM
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