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No_Application_2807/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:34 AM
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Great comment. All the above
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:50 AM
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Divorce sucks. If you were trying before, maybe try 1 more time with her. That’s just my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 11:38 PM
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I’m sorry to hear that. Girls suck. Relationships shouldn’t be that hard, but they are.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 05:14 PM
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I’m sorry to read this. I hope for the best result. Divorce sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 03:10 AM
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Here you need to vent. I’m in a very similar situation. It just sucks in general and hard to process. Have you started therapy?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 01:17 AM
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I agree. If it feels right, go for it. You never know when you’ll get another chance. Just make sure she understands that you might have random grief periods.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 10:15 PM
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Sorry to hear! Hope for the best. List everything out and hopefully the process goes smooth. Here if you need to vent.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 07:18 PM
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Good to hear! Hope all the best! I hope I can say the same thing soon about mine and hopefully I’ll be in better spirits.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 08:58 PM
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Try couples counseling. Try individual therapy. Try everything possible. Divorce sucks and is hard. Plus you have a kid. Im sorry your going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 04:06 AM
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It’s too soon to know. It was definitely punch in the gut. I didn’t mind her get a lawyer, but she could have told me. It’s like, what the point in being sneaky about it. Just makes me feel better about the situation, she’s showing her true character.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:00 AM
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I just went through this. If you want her, I would try to do everything possible not to get a divorce. If that’s not an option, and it’s mutual. Get her to sign a paper saying, you get X or what ever you want. My ex surprised me with a lawyer on the day of court.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 05:59 PM
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I had my court date today. We were supposed to not hire lawyers cus we split everything evenly. Come to find out, she hired a lawyer….
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 04:47 AM
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Love hearing this! I hope I can post something like this soon
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 03:52 AM
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Sorry to hear that. Divorce sucks and after currently going through it, I hope no one does. If you can afford it, can you get a job you enjoy?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 04:51 PM
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Thanks for this!
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 02:51 PM
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I would try everything before divorce. It sucks ass.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 12:02 AM
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Its hard to wrap my head around this. I beat my self up on the what ifs and where my life could be.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:27 PM
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That is a good analogy. I just fear that I won't be there in my mental space. Its hard for me to even just smile and not crack.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:27 PM
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Thanks for the answers! You are right about #1. I need to come out of this stronger and better. 2 - I would like to think I have a few years and not needing to rush anything. 3 - I hope girls don’t think it’s terrible baggage. I’m hoping they think it’s a good thing. Like I know what to expect but who knows. 4 - I have to try to hard some times not to cry. It’s like, my voice is cracking just randomly cus I’m holding back.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:30 AM
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That makes me happy to hear!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:11 AM
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Sorry to hear. Im here if you need someone
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:41 AM
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That is what bothers me and makes me sad. I feel like I will be a different guy after going through all this. You are right though, I need to be a better version. Its just so hard to go forward!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:39 AM
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Have you tried a new therapist?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:37 AM
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Yes!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:36 AM
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Sorry to hear this buddy. I went through the same shit. She was miserable for 3/4 years. She could never tell me very clearly of what was wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 03:35 AM
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This! 💯
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 02:01 PM
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Pay for couples counseling. A couple grand his cheaper than losing the house and everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 02:00 PM
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Therapy for my self. More couples therapy. More ways of communication and try to resolve our issues. It was like 2 weeks of not being happy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 02:00 PM
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We did marriage counseling last summer. We tried to work out our issues. We were doing great. Stuff got escalated in January. Neither of us were willing to change. She signed a lease in March. I begged for her back in April and told her I would change. She said no….. The old would have, could have, should have. Same - you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 04:50 AM
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I was just in this situation 3 months ago. No main reason, just mutual tiredness and thinking there’s something better for both of us. It was a mutual decision but I now regret not fighting. Divorce is hard. I would stay, but that’s just imo. Divorce fucking sucks. Selling the house and losing the dog. It’s fucking depressing. Don’t do it. If you are a 7/8 happiness with kids. Go with the flow, seek marriage counseling, go see a therapist, maybe have a guy night out once a week. It fucking sucks…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 04:00 AM
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Sorry to hear. But maybe this is for the best.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 12:02 AM
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It still sucks to go through. I’m sorry that it’s happening to you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 07:00 PM
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So young. You both have your whole lives in front of you. Your both going to changing and finding out who you really are over the next 15 years
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 06:37 PM
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Sorry to hear that. I’m here if you need to vent.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 08:11 PM
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Glad to hear!
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 04:20 PM
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Have you tried everything? I might sound like a broken record, but divorce sucks! Exhaust all options. Therapy for you. Couples therapy. Journaling your thoughts.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:41 PM
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Glad to hear you are doing better!
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 03:57 PM
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I’m 3 months in and right now, I honestly would say. I regret it. Ours was a mutual split, but at the same she was thinking about divorce the last 3/4 years. I think I kind of opened up the door and she ran through it. Maybe after I get through this rough patch I can come back and provide an update. Divorce sucks, sucks major ass. We were married for 7 together for 12 years. Being lonely, it’s very hard to do. Thank god I have a lot of family around me. I miss my house, my dog, and her tbh. I wo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 04:12 AM
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Sucks to hear. Sorry you are going through that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 09:33 PM
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I’m sorry to read this. I don’t really have words. I hope the future is better for you!
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 04:52 PM
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Start putting your checks in a separate account
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:18 PM
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That sucks your going through this. I just know divorce sucks to go through and I can’t imagine going through it with kids. Have you expressed your feelings to the MIL? Or would that be too weird?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 02:31 PM
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Sorry your going through this
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:57 AM
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That sucks. I’m sorry. Why won’t she go? Have you explained to her that you two are having issues and maybe someone can help you both understand issues?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:52 AM
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It sucks buddy. From my experience and this group, usually they start thinking about years ago. This is my go to. https://youtu.be/C5WxLrDnkFg
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:33 AM
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I’m sorry you are going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:32 AM
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Hey buddy. I’m in the same position. I was willing to change and do everything, after 12 years - she didn’t want anything to do with me. I was willing to give her a foot, and she couldn’t budge an inch. It sucks. I’m sorry your going through this right now. I’m about 3 months in, and it’s ups and downs. I’m starting therapy soon and I try to hang out with my family as much as possible. I’m here if you need to talk or vent. Edit - we didn’t have kids though. We went from December and the last few…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:30 AM
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I saw a quote or something like. How would you view your dad if he went through it. Or What would you tell your son if he was in the same position as you. Divorce sucks. Have your tried therapy? Marriage counseling? Journaling?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:28 AM
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Good luck to you guys. It sucks, but you can come out better at the end!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:26 AM
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Yup. Guilty. It sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:19 AM
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I would journal your feelings right now. Write down everything that has happened and why you feel this way. I would even consider going to therapy yourself, to see if what you are feeling is tied to something else. Divorce sucks and is very hard. It’s not easy at all. If you really aren’t happy and dont see a way being happy, then yes - separation might be the answer. I wish I would have done all that above and more.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:09 PM
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I agree. If she wants the divorce. I wouldn’t be doing any favors. If she can’t afford a new mortgage, then that’s her fault. Now if you have kids, that is different.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:06 PM
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That’s tough. Maybe marriage counseling?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:05 PM
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Here if you need to vent.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 04:35 AM
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Good to hear! Good luck during the process. Let me know if you ever need to vent
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:11 PM
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Try this. https://youtu.be/C5WxLrDnkFg
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:41 AM
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Have you thought about seeing a therapist? Sounds like you have your own issues and it’s causing issues between you two? Are you two moved out yet? Is anything official? If she’s leaving you have 8 months from marriage, im assuming she was thinking about it before. They just don’t randomly think about it, usually it’s a few years that the idea is pondering. Have you two tried marriage counseling. Divorce sucks and is hard. Your 28, you are young. But I would try everything possible before you tw…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:28 AM
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Sorry to hear! I’m going through it too. Let me tell you, ups and downs. But I’m trending up!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:27 AM
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Good luck. Sorry your going through this. Reach out if you need someone to talk to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:41 AM
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Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:37 AM
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I agree with all this.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:24 AM
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I think sometimes the easy way out is to stay together. Getting a divorce and realizing that is the correct step is the hard way. At least for me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:23 AM
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Me too! It’s a hard concept to grasp.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 07:59 PM
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Yes, kill the ego!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 05:20 PM
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Glad to hear you are having success! Hope you are happy and everything else is going ok.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:05 AM
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I just know, divorce is hard. I can't image what a divorce is like with a child. It seems like money could be 1 of the issues. Do you guys do a budget? Does she want to on more vacations/outings? Like many other people said, i would sit her down and have a serious conversation. I would highly suggest therapy for you and also marriage counseling. I'm 3 months in my divorce, and I wish I did therapy for my self 1st. I also wish we did more marriage counseling - Keep in mind, just because the first…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 02:32 AM
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Thanks! If anyone is interested. This video hits hard for me https://youtu.be/C5WxLrDnkFg
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 08:53 PM
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I’m glad you got everything buddy!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:55 PM
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My nights are full of thoughts and then when I wake up. It hits me. It’s a fucking struggle. I don’t think anyone understands how hard it is until they go through it. One of things that helps me is to vent the truth to my friends/family, some times I cry. I at least get the feeling off my chest. I try to stay busy with plans with friends and family. But yes, I know what you mean. It fucking sucks. There’s a lot of guys in this group that offer good advice. Im here if you need to vent.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:55 AM
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It is a super power
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:50 AM
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Hey. I’m in the same situation. Sorry to hear this. I’m starting therapy soon too help.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:48 AM
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Sorry to hear this news. Are you asking if now is a good time to ask for divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:46 AM
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I just went through with this. Keep in mind I’m 3 months in, but right now - I regret my decision. Losing the house and everything. I feel like we rushed into it and didn’t really consider everything. Make sure you consider everything you could possibly lose. The house, pets, money, and anything else you have. Obviously no one knows what you are going through and it’s different for everyone. Your battles might seem little (weak), but it’s what you are going through. Consider marriage counseling …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 11:15 PM
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I kind have experienced the same.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 07:09 PM
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Not in the position, but going through my first. Good luck with this!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 06:09 PM
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I’ll try this out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:39 AM
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This is good!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:37 AM
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That’s terrible news. I’m sorry
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:27 AM
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I’m not sure. But I wish you best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:26 AM
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Bless you for going through with all that! You were doing a lot for your family.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:00 AM
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Sorry to hear that! Hope your able to go through the process.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:19 PM
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Glad to hear this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:13 PM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 05:45 AM
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Isn’t she entitled to half retirement regardless of years married?
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 04:23 AM
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Not to sound like a broken record. But I’m going through it too. 34m. Married for 7 years. Ours was kind of mutual, but I feel like she was planning it for years. She even told one of my family members that should could get a better guy than me. Smh She also said “i would have never married you if I knew how you were with your family”. Kills me. Good days and bad. This is a great point 👆 I’m starting counseling soon just to get crap off my chest that bothered me from my marriage. Here to talk if…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 04:19 AM
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Im here if you need to chat!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 01:33 AM
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Going through it now. Trying to learn the same thing buddy. Listening to podcast and YouTube videos. Trying to stay busy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:55 AM
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Sorry to hear. Do you want to fix it?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:44 AM
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Maybe it was mutual and he regrets it? It’s tough to be lonely!
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 05:08 AM
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Sorry to hear! I’m here if you need to vent to someone. I’m going through a similar process. I also went back to my ex and try to get her back. She basically laughed at me and said she realized she was miserable with me. It’s like wtf.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 05:01 AM
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This is true regarding the serval steps. When we finally brought it up, she said she was thinking about it years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 04:59 AM
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Great post!
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 04:40 AM
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