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RP is just a single worldview to understand the world and IMHO not the end all be all, nor does it have a monopoly on answers. Gotta say, you're nuanced replies are a breath of fresh air here. I see RP as a tool like any other. Works well for some jobs, sucks at others. The way I see it, hunting for one system / paradigm / life view to handle all the complexities of life is a setup for an eventual gut-punch.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 02:47 PM
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LOL
/r/askTRP10/04/15 02:08 PM
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OP it sounds like the main issue here is exhaustion. It will definitely fuck up your mood, your attitude, and your outlook. At the end of the day, you HAVE to make sure you are taking care of yourself. If you are on an unsustainable course (seems pretty clear you are), your options are to take action to make change early (before disaster), or wait for the crash, at which point everything will be a lot harder to manage. Have you had a candid conversation with your boss about your needs? I don't m…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 02:01 PM
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Can you elaborate on the mobility work? I've not heard of that.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 01:45 PM
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So last night ~11:30, she texted me and said her roommate was gone and wanted to know if I was available. Translation: Come over and fuck me. Skip to about an hour into me being over there. We're both doing homework Oh dear. Double face-palm.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 01:42 PM
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But she went nuclear, even gave me an ultimatum about divorce or counselling Wow, I just deleted an entire post I wrote cuz I missed this line. Seems pretty clear there is more going on here besides judo and soccer. This kind of ultimatum doesn't happen in a vacuum. She is fundamentally unhappy. Sounds like she has little faith in you as a source of leadership, guidance, and wisdom. May or may not be salvageable by focusing on improving yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/15 12:45 PM
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I think in this situation I'd seriously consider getting very aggressive. I mean look at what's happening here. She's playing the role of a naughty, coy, little girl (teasing you and flashing her tits...playing hard to get) who wants to be caught and given a good hard spanking by daddy. My bet is she is testing how dominant you can be. Next time she does this I'd grab her hard, lift her off the ground, and throw her on the bed. Maintain frame. You are calm, cool, and collected, but you are going…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/15 12:26 PM
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"I need some time to get reacquainted with you." What the fuck? Something just doesn't feel right about this. This is not a normal response from a spouse. To me this spells MAJOR RED FLAG. I am cringing just reading your story, because it brings back memories of a very similar interaction between me and my then long distance GF. I expected my visiting her to equal lots of fucking. It didn't go down that way and holy shit did I smolder about it for weeks. The long distance factor is torture becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 04:29 AM
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Man, the aborted BJ is a tough one. Sorry things are strained. Sounds like it's kinda transactional for her...as in I'm doing you this favor...hurry up already. I don't see a quick fix except to become a man whose cock she is hungry to gobble up. Even then of course there are no guarantees. In the end the desire must be hers. There is hope though. Wifey and I went through a pretty shitty sex stage for some years. BJ's were pretty mind-numbingly lame. All I can say is change is possible. Now she …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 03:53 AM
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What the fuck? If I want a French kiss I rape my wife's mouth with my tongue. Seems like this could be fixed in 30 seconds. She pecks you and moves away. You grab her, hold her close, and look into her eyes. "Kiss me again." She pecks you. Burn into her with your eyes, grab her ass and say "no, kiss me." Each time it happens you move your lips closer and closer so she has nowhere to go. It sounds like this woman needs seduction, not dread. Jeez just take what you fucking want already.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 03:36 AM
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I don't think it is productive to think of it as a punishment. That's just being covertly butthurt and playing the victim to external circumstances that are not under your control (i.e. her behavior). This sort of paradigm will reinforce toxic, disempowering thinking patterns. I'd suggest instead consider it just a simple pause. A time to reflect. A time to marinate and grock the true reality of the situation. A time for contemplation, abstinence, and self-reflection. These are incredibly powerf…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 02:49 AM
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Yes, what you say is really important. We don't want to come across butthurt. Quite the opposite in fact. We want to project positivity, purpose, and focus, but oops, the Mrs. doesn't get to really enjoy it because she's not the object of our attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 12:02 AM
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until I re-initiate attention There's your answer. She's been conditioned that she can simply wait until you reengage. You are losing frame and folding before it gets too irresistible for her to refrain from reaching out to you for attention. Don't go full on silent treatment. Just go business - only and NO affection until the tables turn. It took several daysin my case. The habit to just initiate contact is very tempting As time goes by and she stays in her shell. You have to SHOW her this is u…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 10:23 PM
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One year ago I cut a bad porn habit (frickin' hours per day) and almost all masturbation out of my life. I was a little concerned because afterwards I became far more sensitive and prone to early orgasm. A few things that seem to have helped: I read Sex God Method -- has some good points on this issue When I notice my self getting too worked up too early, I do my best to shift my attention towards slowing down, relaxing my body (overtime I realized tension was building in all muscle groups as I …
/r/askTRP05/04/15 12:54 PM
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You titled your post "I am at a loss for where to start" but "I have a plan but I'm feeling a little overwhelmed" might be more accurate (and perfectly understandable). Here are some solid positives about your situation: You actually have a plan. Is it perfect? Probably not, but any plan is better than none, and you can refine it over time. You are fully aware there is a problem and seem to have begun the process of taking responsibility for your suffering. (Eventually you will want to stop proj…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 12:17 PM
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But the truth of the matter still remains: pure aesthetics is the most important factor in interpersonal dynamics. Possibly but the attraction formula is multiplicative. It is an aggregate product of many attribute. Perhaps looks are most heavily weighted, but if another trait is severely lacking, looks may not be enough to compensate. As an above average looking guy with horrible game throughout high school / college, I can confirm. Good looks coupled with weak confidence =/= getting regular pu…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/15 11:50 AM
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Don't know your full situation but this post is really hard to read / swallow. You seem very short-sighted, immature, and impatient. A few months and you're done? Are you like 20 or something? My intent is not to be a dismissive prick (quite the opposite in fact). I am hoping the feedback you get here will inspire you to hit the brakes on the impulsive moves and focus on one day at a time. I second all the other advice you've received on this post. If you had no kids I'd be less concerned about …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 10:43 AM
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'Tis true. Get this, my daughter is only 10 and she has a nose for it. In the past few years, if I fuss on her too much with hugs and kisses and questions and conversation (sometimes I just like to pester and annoy and smother her hahaha she's my girl), there is a tipping point and the little pisser starts blowing me off! I really have to laugh about it. I'm like, holy shit my 10 year old daughter is putting my beta ass in orbit! Of course all I really feel about it is awwww how cute! After all,…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 02:10 AM
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I don't feel normal if I'm not lifting. I save time on travel to my gym...it's in my basement. Now I don't think I could ever deal with a membership gym long term. I am always annoyed with waiting my turn for equipment. ;) I started with: squat rack bench barbell plates some dumbells Now also includes: heavy bag Concept 2 rowing maching treadmill (mainly for the Mrs.) various accessories (medicine balls, bands, dip rings, etc) Wishlist: mountain climber machine big tree to hang my 18 foot rope f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 05:40 PM
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I inferred unsustainable as implying some sort of eventual breakdown, i.e. damage. Fair enough. Hope I wasn't dickish. Mainly I was trying to bounce some thoughts and I suppose strong opinions off you. I am in no way dismissive of body weight work outs. They kick my ass and I agree they are a way. Have you seen Beast Skills? The guy is...well...a beast.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:52 PM
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Some random thoughts: she has been making comments about how I am acting "like an asshole." I'm sure you'll get lots of opinions on how to respond. From me this would result in a "Hmmm...", a shrug, and a walk away. In other words, do not engage and validate this kind of talk whatsoever. But also be very sure in your heart that you are indeed not being an asshole i.e. acting from a position based on resentment, blame, anger instead of peace, love, leadership and quiet inner strength. Tonight she…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:43 PM
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Just bought No.1 Captains of Crush Hand Gripper. I'm psyched.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:17 PM
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Mini rant: You've got ten years on me, but I'm a little confused. Heavy lifting is a relative term. Given adequate recovery time (which does increase with age), good form, and modesty in setting goals / planning the program (this is huge for me), I don't see how lifting would be fundamentally damaging to the body (i.e. unsustainable). The vast majority of people are never going to be throwing up a 400lb squat or 600lb deadlift. Surely there must be lifting programs that are sustainable for senio…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 12:46 PM
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Get a grip strengthener. I never would have thought to prioritize that. Makes sense though. A man's grip is a distinct and exclusive aspect of his masculinity (i.e. show of superior strength / potential for dominance) that a woman experiences. Must...squeeze...harder....
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 11:59 AM
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My wife is a "no game girl" as well, and yes the attraction is there, but the creativity is not. Your post gives me hope. Not sure what "I was OI" means. LOL on the finger story.
/r/askTRP18/03/15 02:28 PM
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Guilty as charged. Way to cut through all the bullshit to the heart of the matter. Can you elaborate on how to "make it known that if she wants [my] attentions she is going to have to earn it?" Do you mean simply by stopping initiating? Seems like a big jump...do you really think that is all it will require?
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:32 PM
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Being married for 20 years has it's good side and bad side. On the one hand, we are able to communicate very efficiently in SOME areas and pretty much know what each other are thinking just on feel alone. Unfortunately the down side is that this has manifested with a mere twinkle of an eye and a "hey I getting in the shower" as her primary mode of initiating sex. Again, a lot of dead-bedroom guys would probably kill for this so I try to keep some perspective and remain grateful. Nevertheless, my…
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:24 PM
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Actually it has dawned on me from your post that I need to step up and just do this. Odds of her spontaneously deciding "hey, I think I'm going to get a stripper outfit today" = 0%
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:18 PM
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Patience is not my forte. I am also guilty of a lack of persistence if I face adversity. I will need to address these character defects. Your post makes a great deal of sense. An incremental approach seems to make a lot of sense. It will be a challenge for me. But I love your idea of simple steps...i.e. pick a position. As in, get her to assert herself, even if on a very small scale >> rinse, repeat and expand over time. Thanks. And yes, SMV SMV SMV
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:13 PM
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So basically: Dial up the passion meter. Do not consummate. Be a tease. Dread. Positive feedback for good behavior. Inject dirty slut talk while maintaining positive frame. This is good. I think part of this (or maybe all) I have to take responsibility for. I lose frame when it comes to the dirty talk. It happens during sex, but I have been afraid / hesitant to use the slut / whore words. (Ironically this is exactly the side of her I'm wishing would awaken, so I guess I am to blame.) When I have…
/r/askTRP18/03/15 12:08 PM
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Very much like the wording used of "empowering her." I really think this is key, because this is precisely the issue: she feels insecure and also has some upbringing baggage (slut-shaming message from very traditional, religious family). I am very careful to never throw off negative / rejecting vibes. Over the years I've learned this is toxic to her self-esteem and gets us no where. Tough to bite my tongue sometimes, but in the past I have almost always stuck with positive feedback. Increasing S…
/r/askTRP18/03/15 11:48 AM
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I don't know if you are attractive or not. Why not focus on those aspects of your life that you can change and improve, and cease investing energy in lamenting the hand life has dealt you (i.e. things you cannot change)? I am nowhere near an expert on this sub (just went out today to work on my approach anxiety), but I just see so many examples of relatively average looking dudes with incredible conversation / seduction skills who get plenty of women. I strongly believe it is one of THE most cri…
/r/askTRP18/03/15 03:45 AM
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So you're a dabbler...welcome to my world. I just don't have one particular thing that I feel like pouring all my energy into. Basically it's about being a specialist vs generalist. Actually both are needed so it's not necessarily a bad thing. I found an awesome blog on this once but for the life of me I can't find it. Basically someone who had embraced their dabbler wandering ambling style of living. Specialists get all the praise, but I suspect when the zombie apocalypse comes, generalists wil…
/r/askTRP16/03/15 11:58 PM
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I think I relate to this as well. Perfectionism can really be a crippling neurosis to deal with. I think for some folks it manifests with the "type A" attitude...the stereotypical business owner who can't relax and obsesses over their biz, sacrificing their well being. But my experience is that it can also manifest as hesitation and inaction as a result of holding myself to an impossible standard. It is pretty much an insane type of thinking that leads to depression, loss of enthusiasm, poor sel…
/r/askTRP16/03/15 11:50 PM
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Wow this is extremely clarifying for me. Thanks.
/r/askTRP15/03/15 02:41 PM
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Thanks. I'm not sure which post exactly you are referring to, but I read several and it yielded fruit. I learned a new term: AMOG. They're a part of reality and I need to learn how to deal appropriately.
/r/askTRP11/03/15 08:55 PM
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Thanks. Of course. I have been hiding behind the "introvert" label to soothe myself, when in reality I am just afraid and haven't yet faced the fear. No substitute for honing the skills (x1000).
/r/askTRP11/03/15 08:52 PM
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