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Go, you don’t have to stay long. Dip in, see your kid and when she’s having fun with her friends tell her that you have to get going and that you have something planned for her too and dip out
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 02:50 PM
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Keep it tucked away. I threw mine out, it was ceramic because I work with electric. I feel dumb about it now because I wore it to a lot of milestones in my life. Most important was my sons birth. Maybe give it to your kids when they’re old enough. If you have any
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 09:20 PM
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Keep your mind busy. Do things that you enjoy doing. Get a new hobby
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 07:47 PM
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You’re in a hard time right now, you’re still in the honeymoon phase. Her being on dating sites is in not comparable to you watching porn. I’m guessing she’s using it as the scapegoat to leave. You forgave her but she can’t look past that? She’s gone my friend and the sooner you start to grasp that the better. It’s not going to be easy but it can be easier. You’re both still so young that this will be a blip in your life before you know it. I think she’s doing you a favor by ending it so quickly…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 07:35 PM
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I wouldn’t try to work on it for a whole year like I did only for her to tell me it wasn’t going to work out. Would’ve started the process a whole year earlier and kept my dick in my pants.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 07:21 PM
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Some people just want to burn it all down if there’s an angle to it. I don’t think my ex did it on purpose but I guess it doesn’t matter anymore 🤷‍♂️. I take that back, she was/is a fixer. She’s attracted to people in need or she perceived to be in need and probably overstepped boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:52 PM
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My ex seemed to always have a problem with the people she worked with. They would start off as friends but that would deteriorate over time. So and so is a bitch or they’re two faced or whatever….no matter where she worked it always happened. Of course I took her side but she’s the common denominator
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:27 PM
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It’s amazing how we neglect friendships when we’re married. I’ve been more connected now than in my 12 years relationship
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 05:56 PM
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Introspective is a good thing. I’m in a similar boat. Separation was initially the worst thing to ever happen to me. After talking with her a bit and reflecting on our last few years….I realized that i became something that I am not proud of. I’ve done therapy and it’s been an eye opening experience. I’m learning who I am and what got me to the point where it was just a mess but I also realized that I didn’t get there by myself. She did things that helped me change and become untrusting. There’s…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 12:16 PM
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Going to take my son to a doggy shelter to see how he interacts with a dog I want to adopt. Then the family is having a barbecue in the afternoon. Hope you guys have an enjoyable day
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 12:44 PM
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My ex wanted to have paperwork signed on the 29 of April which is my birthday. I told her that I really didn’t want to deal with that on my birthday so she compromised and decided to do it on the 28th. Thank you for the thoughtfulness lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:42 PM
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I’ve spent 2 years riding the blame train. Feel it, learn and apply. Don’t stay on longer than you have to
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 02:07 PM
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I get that, I understand the feeling of disrespect. This is actually pretty typical though from what I’ve seen. Just think about the look on her face when you blindside her with paperwork. That should be satisfying enough for you to wait
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 12:06 PM
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It sounds to me like she’s checked out a bit ago. Sorry you found out this way
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 11:55 AM
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File today but keep level headed. Don’t let anything on and lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 11:50 AM
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Most if not all states are no fault. Nothing is preventing you from filing first. What did the text exchange look like?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 11:21 AM
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Trust me, we know what you’re feeling. Let go of that hope. It’s the hope that kills you
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 10:59 PM
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I understand the feeling of carrying that guilt. Some of it may be on you but some of it is on her too. Time is your best friend. Improve yourself and learn from your mistakes. No contact will help you too.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 09:08 PM
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Do not shoulder all the blame here.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 09:42 AM
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Save them for your kids if you have any. I have a ton of stuff I put in storage for my son when he’s old enough. He might want to see them
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:24 PM
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My ex says she loves our son more than anything in the world. The clothes he’s wearing when I pick him up from school say different. They’re dirty and smell like they haven’t been washed in a bit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 11:37 AM
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The most important person in your life is you. Stop keeping your life on hold if you’re not satisfied. Like you said, you’re not getting any younger
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 11:28 AM
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Same here. Trying to see what the market does. Interest rates are out of control
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 07:43 PM
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I’m sure this goes without saying but make sure she knows her place. It took me a long time to feel any semblance of normalcy after she dropped the bomb on me. I’d hate to lose that progress if she decided to start talking to me again
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:57 PM
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Oh yeah
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:40 PM
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I’m saving a ton of money. Going to buy another house in a year or two depending on how the market plays out
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:38 PM
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Moved from a 3/2 to living in my parents spare room 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 04:30 PM
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It’s taken me about 5 months. It doesn’t come on it’s own. You have to put in the work. I started doing things on my own that my ex didn’t enjoy. I started going out to dinner and the movies by myself. I started treating myself the way I wanted to be treated. I started going to the gym and dieting. Cut out pornography, don’t fall down that rabbit hole. I joined a support group at a local church. Everyone has a different timeline when grieving. Don’t compare your journey to anyone. If you decide …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 02:29 PM
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I used to be the same way, why should I talk to a stranger about my problems? Once my ex said that it was over then that’s when I wanted to try. My advice is to help as much as you’re comfortable doing, just don’t put her in a place where she can walk away and be fine while you’re starting from square one. My ex did that to me. She sold the house and then after a few weeks of me keeping my distance she started to reach out to spend time together. I thought it was my opportunity to get everything…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 02:07 PM
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You can always ask her, don’t assume her response.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 01:39 PM
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🤙🏼. It’s not easy but you can make it easier
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 05:10 PM
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life. What are you going to do with it? Are you going to start it off feeling torn up? You have an opportunity to start fresh. Take those lessons learned and apply them, grow and move on. You did your part and that’s all you could’ve done. I decided to go to church for the first time in a while and they had a great message. You are free to choose your choices but you are not free to choose your consequences. Invest in yourself and your kids. Show them w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 12:57 PM
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You’re in for a long ride. There’s no sugar coating it. My best advice is to let yourself feel your pain. You absolutely have to get through it and not suppress it. Seek therapy and start new hobbies or maybe just one. Hit the gym and let your anger out. Read books starting with No More Mr Nice Guy. Retain a good lawyer and file first. Note when she left and see if it counts as her abandoning the home. Record all your interactions and keep it civil. I’m very sorry that you’re on this road with s…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:39 PM
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I think you ultimately made the right choice
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:29 AM
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I have to keep strong. I’ve come too far to relapse now
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:02 AM
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Jesus Christ, your situation is dire. I’m sorry that you have to experience such pain. I’m keeping you in my prayers. You’ll pull through
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:49 PM
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I am at a point where there’s nothing else she can do to hurt me. It’s amicable at this point
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:35 PM
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I also have 50/50. It’s not ideal but I’ve grown an amazing relationship with my son. It’s something that gets easier with time. It’s never easy but use the time you do get and crank that shit up to 11. Be super dad when you can and enjoy/improve yourself when you have alone time
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:15 PM
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Good for you! I’m improving too, I’ve hit a slump but I’m ready to get back at it
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:10 PM
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We have one kid together
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:09 PM
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I appreciate you keeping me grounded
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 07:49 PM
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I imagine so, it’s the states way of making sure they’re not footing the bill
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 07:51 PM
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I’ve come to the same conclusion. It’s helped me when thinking about the way things ended. The woman I am divorcing is not the same girl I fell for, likewise I’m not the same guy she fell for. Different seasons in life. We split on good terms. Nothing that couldn’t be fixed but she saw it differently. To each their own. I don’t think the next guy will put up with as much as I did or give as much as me. At this point it doesn’t fucking matter anyway
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 07:28 PM
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You need to get yourself out. She’s already taking steps to get over you and you’re just spinning your wheels. When she’s ready to move on she’s going to cut you off and be just fine while you start from square one. She’s using you to make herself feel better. Go no contact, file and start healing
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 09:48 AM
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That was going to be my advice. Take your time for yourself. Now is your chance to grow
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:43 PM
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How long have you been separated
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:27 PM
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This is going to be a tough uphill climb for you. I think a lot of women will definitely ghost after that
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:12 PM
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That must’ve made you feel good! Kids are more perceptive than we give them credit for. They’ll see the red flags that we ignore because we’re infatuated.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 05:46 PM
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I would maybe approach her with your concerns. Talk to your child too to see how they feel. I’m in the belief that if my son doesn’t like the person I’m with then the relationship will fail sooner or later. You’re the dad and have the right to discuss your concerns. If possible, file to amend your parenting plan
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 04:46 PM
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Is this something that you guys discussed beforehand?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 04:39 PM
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I know how you feel. I kept my ring in my car in the hopes that everything would work out during last year. Once she finally knocked down the last wall earlier this year I dumped it in the garbage can. It was ceramic, I work with electricity. I feel dumb about it now, not because of her but I wore that to a lot of milestones. My son’s birth, buying our house, my huge promotion…. it definitely hasn’t all settled yet. We signed and filed last week. I still miss her sometimes
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 02:50 PM
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I started calling my ex “my ex” as soon as she said she wanted a divorce. Even after we spent a bullshit year trying to “work” on our marriage. Did a peek at her profile after she said that it wasn’t working and saw that she basically hated me half of the time we were trying to “work” on it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 12:53 PM
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Thank you for replying. I wouldn’t call us good people by any stretch. Some days I wish it all worked out but now it seems that what ever happens, happens. We used to think that God made us for each other, we said all the beautiful things too. Sometimes I can’t believe it’s happened. Yesterday I went to the mall with my son and saw all the women and I didn’t even want to think about a future with any of them. Dating seems so repugnant to me now
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 10:13 AM
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Brother, it will get easier. When my ex told me that we couldn’t fix our relationship I was completely devastated. I thought I couldn’t live without her. I texted and called and tried to spend time together. Last night we signed our papers to get filed, completely stoic and hugged it out at the end. You have to remember that this will pass. You might be codependent. Take this time to improve on you and set the example for your daughter of what a strong man looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 04:19 PM
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Look into getting an uncontested divorce. Cheaper and faster. Many if not all local courts should have someone there to help fill out and file paperwork
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 12:13 PM
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I would say to keep it surface level. It might be a conversation to have when he’s older and has developed some more experience in his life. Sometimes things don’t work out between people for reasons he will come to understand.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 09:45 PM
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Do you think that it’s your son’s business?
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 09:26 PM
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People process their emotions differently. She could’ve already mourned it. You’re in for a rough ride. You truly won’t begin to heal until you’re away from each other and it sounds like there’s still some things that need to be done before that happens. Find your outlets
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 12:15 PM
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The more you compromise the less she’ll respect you. If she’s checking out then there is no reason to keep disrespecting yourself and your heart. If she doesn’t love you then that’s on her. You can try and fix everything but if she’s not willing to accept it then there’s nothing for you to do. Retain a lawyer and prepare yourself for the next step. Hopefully it works out for you but in reality it looks like you’re going to run out of band aids
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 01:05 PM
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I’m sure you are aware but just in case, you are in for a roller coaster of emotions. Ups and downs and mood shifts throughout the day. It’s a chaotic time. You’ll be feeling fine for a week and hit rock bottom the next day. Hold fast and remember you will get through this. It’s normal to feel all those things. Just be sure to let yourself feel them. Don’t repress, but process
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 05:46 PM
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Could be many reasons. Her new piece didn’t work out. Found out the grass wasn’t greener. Learned what the average guy wants and what they’ll do/say to get it. Maybe she realized that she made a mistake. If it happens to you I would suggest making her date you all over again. Like you just met her for the first time. Make her work for it. My buddy did this and realized a couple dates in that they weren’t compatible again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 03:12 PM
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Have you tried seeing a doctor? Could just be that. Have you processed the divorce? Worked through your feelings? 25 years is a very long time
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:31 PM
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I compromised and compromised some more, shit lead to resentment
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 07:38 PM
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Love does not compromise, it enhances. Well said
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 05:51 PM
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Commonly it’s the wife that initiates divorce and is acting like this. So I imagine that the same rules apply. He checked out a long time ago and has already dealt with the death of his relationship leaving you by yourself to start now. This is something that has likely happened months ago. He doesn’t respect you anymore. You need to start a new routine for yourself and start healing. That tightness in your chest is normal and will linger on for a long period of time. When you finally move out a…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:05 AM
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You need closure one way or another. How she reacts and moves forward is beyond your control. Be ready for the outcome which ever way it comes from.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 01:10 AM
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You’re right. It’s not worth it
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 09:02 PM
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She’s never bothered trying to get one. Buys from the same dealer. Nice guy, had dinner with his family one time
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 08:01 PM
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Seems like a lost cause then. Thank you for the advice and sharing your experience
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 07:09 PM
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I have done it with her for many years, it’s been easy to quit. She would toke in the morning before work, during lunch time if she could swing by the house, after getting home and through out the night until she slept. Don’t know how she does now though. Says she’s not addicted, it’s her way of relaxing
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 06:19 PM
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Not really and that’s why I’m conflicted. She is a good mom but this has me worried. She used to have road rage and I don’t want our son to suffer for anything that might happen.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:50 PM
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Medicinal only
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:47 PM
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Good for you on starting the process. I would at least ask to see if she’s interested. Could save a lot of time and headaches
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:18 PM
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You need to get past her before you can even start dating. You need to heal or you will bring that baggage to your next relationship if you decide to go that way. The woman you married and fell for is gone, she’s not who she was and neither are you. Focus on hobbies and working on yourself. Focus on your kids. Life gets better. It won’t be easy but it can be easier.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 02:27 PM
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To begin to heal you need to separate. Being around her will keep you in this loop. Think about your kids. They need you too
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 09:17 PM
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I didn’t initiate because our problems were not out of the possibility to be worked on. She felt differently.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 04:55 PM
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Take the time to yourself before you go looking for a relationship. Heal first. For the sake of your own mental wellbeing and your kids
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 02:57 PM
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My therapist said I have absolutely no obligation to be her friend. Best advice I’ve gotten. I’m going to do just that
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 02:07 PM
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I’m glad that my ex and I have separate homes now. She’s been….not bitchy but she’s been aloof. She stated that she wanted to keep our friendship for the sake of our son but all my attempts have been unsuccessful. We’re big John Wick fans so I invited her to see it with me and she blew me off for a Pokémon go event then she said we would reschedule for that week and she just didn’t bother. I’m not bothering anymore either. Her house stunk of weed when I dropped my son off on Sunday. She hasn’t c…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 01:53 PM
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That’s a rough situation. You’ll never really start to heal until you’re out of each other’s life
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 12:35 PM
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Don’t be someone’s second pick after they already said I do. You’re worth more than that. Work on you
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 12:21 PM
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My wife changed after separating. We tried to work on it for about a good year before she decided that she didn’t see me as anything more than a friend. After that she treated me like the plague. She went from hugging, kissing and sexual one week to what business is it of yours the next. Not even exaggerating. She was on her knees on a Wednesday and a complete 180 on Monday. I was mostly trying to figure out wtf happened.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 05:55 PM
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I’ve been told these things before, women will give each other advice that’ll Keep them single, most of the times they won’t take their own advice.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 04:44 PM
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This is very likely my case too. Crabs in a bucket
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:19 PM
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It’s been about 2 months since separation and I’ve made great strides. I initially had a very hard time after she left but she’s made it very easy for me to get over her. She’s not doing anything crazy but essentially started treating me like I had Covid. She ghosts me, gaslights conversations and just flat out ignores me. I initially wanted to keep working on it then it became me trying to keep a friendship going for our son’s sake but she’s put in no effort. Therapy has helped and just sitting…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 09:49 AM
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It’s definitely a slow burn. It’s best to go no contact as much as possible. It gets easier but it’ll hit you in waves. Build that support system and know your worth. Best advice I’ve gotten is to date yourself. Don’t rush into anything new, you’ll know when you’re ready
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 01:51 AM
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Time shines light on everything. Sometimes we just don’t want to see it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:59 AM
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I know that those aren’t words that you probably want to hear but I think they’re the ones you need to know. I romanticized the idea of my ex coming back, now I can’t stomach the idea of it. Do a post mortem. You’ll start to see all the glaring flaws she has too. Slowly, you will start to let it go. It’s not easy but it can be easier
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:10 AM
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I agree with this. I remember my ex asking if we’d ever get back to where we were months before separation then bam, she found a reason to bounce. Her life was so easy that any fight was blown up bigger than it was. I remember telling her that I wish I was the monster she made me out to be because then I would understand why she left. Fuck her. I gave it my all and stood by when it was “for worse” she can’t say the same
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:07 AM
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I know that feeling all too well. Trust me, I’m leaving that part of my journey behind. You will feel guilt and some of it will be, but there’s plenty to share. She had her part in it too. All you can do is process it and move on. Stop punishing yourself for how she reacted. That’s on her. Her actions are her consequences, not yours. Take account of you and what you can control.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 04:07 PM
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She made the same vows and broke them. Got out at the “for worse” part. I’ve had to come to the same realization. Don’t let her run you anymore. She’s supposed to help you through the rough patches. Not run when it gets hard.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 03:36 PM
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Don’t do that to yourself. Never be someone’s second pick, especially if that person said I do to you a long time ago. Be kinder to your heart. You’re worth more than that
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 03:29 PM
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Work on you and it will come together. Don’t let her live in your head anymore. She’s clearly not worth it. If living her best life is sluting it up then you dodged a bullet. People like that kill everything around them. Better now than later. Will it come around? Maybe, but it doesn’t matter anymore
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 03:25 PM
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I understand your pain. The first step is to accept what she did and start to heal. Do you really want her back after what she’s done to you? We all carry burdens of what we did and you can’t dwell on it forever. Identity your faults and begin to work on them. Once you start to put yourself right then everything else will come together. Enjoy your time with your kid since your time has now been diminished. Make it count. Sitting thinking about her is only poisonous to you. She’s not worth it, no…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 03:16 PM
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Older Atreyu. Up until Lead Sails and Paper Anchors
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 09:55 PM
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Limited contact, keep it about your baby and nothing else. I’m in your shoes too. It’ll be hard at first think detoxifying. It does get easier as the days go by. You have no obligation to be a friend. Have you taken up any new hobbies? If not then try those. Get back into your old loves and rediscover your worth. Fall in love with you. Treat yourself the way you would treat your love. She’s gone and you need to kill any notion that she might come back. You’re just hurting you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 01:29 PM
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I can agree with this post. I’d be in a better place if we didn’t have a kid. I absolutely do not regret him. Having contact with her is the price to pay to see my boy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 09:48 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I’m tired of being up and down
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 10:16 PM
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Holy crap! That’s hilarious because she called me the narcissist
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 09:29 PM
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Even if she’s the one that left me? It’s typically memes or sometimes to see how I’m doing. It feels better when I don’t talk to her. Most of the times she stops responding completely after I reply
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 09:18 PM
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What’s that?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 09:08 PM
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I think friends have something to do with it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 06:23 PM
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I limit texting and keep in person visits to under an hour when I drop off my son. It’s more for me than her since she left me and I’m trying to get over what’s left of my feelings for her. If I go more than a day without texting she reaches out first. She confuses me. She’s not a complete bitch but seems to want to keep me somewhat in the picture
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 11:36 AM
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Yeah, my office has some guys that have been through divorce. I asked them for advice and we’ve become friends. What’s so hard to believe about that? I like the people I work with
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 07:31 PM
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It’s hard to tell how long she’s been throwing this around in her mind. I know the hurt, but you have to allow yourself to feel it, process it and move on. The why doesn’t matter, not anymore. You’re going to drive yourself crazy thinking about it
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 09:40 AM
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Have you tried talking to coworkers? I’ve made great friendships out of mine in this situation. Women with self esteem issues are tough to convince. My ex was also on the heavier side but my God she was a knockout in my eyes, nothing I said or did ever made her feel any better. I also “talked”to women online and she snooped and found it. No matter what I did to convince her that all the comments I made were just that . Comments. I didn’t have chats or texts, just stupid comments I left on pictur…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 07:34 PM
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You’re emotions will come in waves. Start building some sort of support system. Lawyer up. Look for a therapist for you and start looking for hobbies to keep your mind busy. It’s over, she’s made up her mind. My situation is close enough to yours. We’ve been split up over a year now and we tried to work on it but it didn’t work. I wasted a year on my ex thinking that it could turn around but she had already convinced herself before we split that there was no way back. Don’t simp, work on you. Fi…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 07:08 PM
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The last thing you need to do is compare your healing to anyone else, especially her’s
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 07:23 PM
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Look at how the court system treats men in divorce. Society is heavily favored to women
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 03:52 PM
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You don’t need to look further than the court system
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 03:45 PM
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It’s not easy. You’ll go through a roller coaster of emotions. Prepare yourself and your support group. It’s ok to feel your emotions and no one heals at the same pace. Take the time and heal and grow.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 09:51 AM
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As stated above, you have no control over anything she does and in reality it just doesn’t matter anymore. Let her do her, you being mad or angry isn’t going to affect her at all.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 06:39 PM
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No one knows your ex better than you, what do you think
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 06:38 PM
2

Don’t feel rejected. It’s not you. It’s his state of mind. The best you can do is to continue what you’re doing. Keep encouraging him and show your support. It’s probably not what you were hoping to hear but he needs a great friend and you’ve been it. It will come with time
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 06:51 PM
2

He could still be healing
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 06:23 PM
2

Child support might be a problem. She can refuse everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 10:44 PM
1

See if your state offers noncontested divorce
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 10:08 PM
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Get out now. I just came out of this last month. She was trying to find that spark but that didn’t last. A year later and I’m starting from square one again. She moved on just fine
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 03:10 AM
4

She used these three words on me a lot near the end
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 09:16 PM
2

I have a suspicion that one of her friends encouraged her a bit. I guess a woman that managed to make it to her 30s a virgin and mostly single had better advice than a therapist?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 11:38 PM
3

I had a similar fwb situation with my ex. It will end with someone being hurt and more than likely it will be you. Save yourself the heartbreak and embarrassment. End it now. No good will come of it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 12:35 PM
2

This is true for me right now. After our split I got into mtg for a bit and we tried working on our relationship, I taught her how to play and we enjoyed it. Now after she told me there was no path forward I can’t stand to look at the cards I got
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 12:40 PM
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One thing that helped me a bit was letting out the anger. I parked my car at my moms and just yelled. I yelled as hard as I could. I let that venom out. Say what you want to say. Don’t hold back. It’s just you and the car. As far as shame from friends and family? That’s where you’ll learn who the real people are. If they shame you, let them go. I’ve reconnected with a close friend recently(2 years ago) and he got me to pour my heart out, I trust him more that ever, he saw me cry and yell and he …
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 06:19 PM
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Look into a non contested divorce. I think it’s your cheapest option, if she agrees. Y’all would just have to decide how to split everything up
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 11:37 PM
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I do when I don’t have my son
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 03:33 PM
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My dad is an excellent cook, I always thought that it skipped a generation. I think I’ll give it a shot too
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 11:29 PM
1

Did that help you?
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 11:28 PM
4

“Date yourself” best wording I’ve seen so far
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 11:27 PM
8

Quickest way to hate a hobby is to make it a job
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 10:21 PM
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This sounds awesome, I signed up for a couple meetings
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:59 PM
3

What’s meetup about?
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:37 PM
1

Well damn
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:33 PM
1

Even just recreational?
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:24 PM
1

I’ve always wanted to learn to fly a plane
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 08:44 PM
2

Thank you for your help
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 08:37 PM
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