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| 1 | Men think Being A Passive Submissive guy is Being Nice Then Claim Women Don’t Want Nice Guys.This is the part that gets me. They keep trying to place blame when you could have this figured out by middle school or at least high school if you had social interaction. Being a grown ass man and saying “but women said they want nice guys” just makes you look incredibly socially inept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Women, in order to avoid abusive males, shun the completely opposite demographic.People are really entertaining this incel/nice guy post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 08:37 PM |
| 1 | I just don’t careSo you've been banging a lot recently and its gotten boring? What's weird/unique about that? Take a break until you're horny again lol. | /r/askTRP | 07/12/20 08:32 PM |
| 10 | "I actually forgot about you" How do you interpret this? Shit test?Not too much details to go on, but I say flip the script. If you’re actually interested in them I’d invite them somewhere and ask for their phone number again. Make it seem like you just dropped their number or you never saved it to begin with. | /r/askTRP | 09/07/19 04:18 PM |
| 2 | I frequently go back and re-visit some post in the main sub when it's something to remind myself of or important. What are some posts or comments you frequently re-read?Nothing on here but there was a site called “Solve My Girl Problems” that I used to read. After awhile the author went ghost but I still used to visit the archive for inspiration. Despite the title, a lot of posts weren’t about women but more about being alpha. Shit was dope. | /r/askTRP | 20/06/19 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Babied by parents - I feel like my mom does not want me to grow upJust exaggerate how busy you are. Make a bit of time to call them once a week and they’ll get used to it. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/19 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Need help dumping GF - most painless way?You can end it now or just ghost, the only issue with ghosting though is that it may just end up being “end it later” since you guys have the same social circle and go to the same school. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 11:04 PM |
| 5 | How do you guys induce anger in your plates/LTR?If dread isn’t enough to keep your girl then you are either doing it too much, or the girl you’re with is not that into you. You have to use it sparingly. Be an alpha, be loyal, but let your eyes wander sometimes. If you’re constantly implementing dread then she might get used to it and either she will assume “that’s just how he is”, or she’ll start to check out of the relationship. Moderation is key. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Why is this happeningPart of the reason I stopped visiting. Too many trolls, and too many people who don’t want to hear the truth. Let’s be real, asktrp as a whole can be archived and all the answers people want can be found through search. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Doesn't hypergamy work both ways?This. I saw that line in op’s post and immediately scrolled down to see if someone acknowledged it. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/19 05:34 PM |
| 3 | How in the world are you able to beat easy dopamine addiction?This mentality is why you are struggling. There’s nothing wrong with fun and hobbies, as long as you are taking care of the shit that needs to be done. If you choose to live every waking moment toward productivity, that’s on you. I don’t mind being productive 6 days out of the week then taking the last day to relax and enjoy myself. I’m not even sure what this question is about. You say you’re going crazy trying to be productive 24/7 but you have been basically fighting everyone who tells you to… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/19 01:11 PM |
| 6 | Plate an Army Wife?One night stand? Maybe. Plate? Hell no. That’s just me though. I’m not into messing with married women, because of the drama+ consequences that can arise from that. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/19 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Before I met started dating my LTR she was a whore and a plate to local guys I knew.You just admitted you have oneitis for a girl that’s smashed the homies. C’mon man, your better than that. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/19 05:29 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with another girl joining the conversation with the girl I'm gaming?Game the new girl too. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/19 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Should I get a Nintendo Switch or PS4 w/ VR?If you want a console, get it. You seem self aware, and know that gaming could become detrimental, so you’re fine on that end. That said, I’d go with the PSVR. I have it, and not only is it a pretty unique gaming experience, it’s great for entertaining guests. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/19 08:27 PM |
| 1 | I hold my hands up. I am another hopeless nice guy who has spent all of his twenties depressed and unfulfilled because I can't get laid. Help?There is always someone in a worse situation than you. You have a shit ton of time. Look at some of the posts on here that come from guys aged 40+. Stop thinking about the past and the “what-ifs” and start building the life you want now. Be happy that you discovered this shit before a wife, kids, and messy divorce. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/19 01:39 PM |
| 8 | Would a woman ever leave an alpha for fucking someone elseBecause the ideal man is a guy who could cheat but never would. Women want men that other women want. Cheating is a sign that you can get other women but that doesn't mean every woman is willing to forgive it. | /r/askTRP | 12/11/17 02:04 AM |
| 1 | My GF has been FB messaging this guy to come since we got serious. Is it time for me to next?Next her. There's many reasons to demote a GF to plate, cheating isn't one of them. I mean I didn't read your last post but it sounds you couldn't even get you own gf to have sex with you meanwhile she has been trying to fuck someone else. Have some pride and balls. Next. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Social Media?Social media most benefits those who are doing well or are able to create the illusion that they are doing well. Sounds like you aren't in a place where you need to be on social media. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:21 PM |
| 5 | A girl texted me that I left my singlet at hers wondering when I can come pick it up. Is this an IOI or am I over-analyzing this way too much?My man | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:18 PM |
| 2 | How do you stop needing to feel validated by having sex with women?Do awesome shit and accomplish goals that have nothing to do with sex. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:14 PM |
| 4 | How do you make "barbershop talk"?Thought this was a troll post but holy shit you're serious. Topics depend on the environment. Just like any social interaction, you should be able to judge what type of conversation is appropriate. A long time ago I used to go to a shop that was also a hair salon and the female presence made things awkward because you could tell the barbers walked on eggshells with some of the conversation topics. After that I went to a barbershop with a primarily male presence and it was a much more comfortable… | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 12:25 AM |
| 3 | How do you make "barbershop talk"?I mean, you offered no explanation of why you find it hard to make "barbershop talk". For the most part there is always conversation, you just have to be willing to throw your own 2 cents in. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 12:15 AM |
| 5 | How do you make "barbershop talk"?How do you ask such a question with no clarification or context? | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Am I too worried about seeming Beta in conversation?If you're new to TRP, don't worry about it, that phase will pass. If you're not new to this, then you need to build your inner frame and confidence. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/17 01:05 AM |
| 3 | I realized I am too attached to my girlfriend, what can be done?A big part of the way we think is tied to the way we act. If you can discipline yourself to not act like a clingy, needy, blue piller then your mindset will gradually start to change. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/17 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Random girl got my snap chat, what do I do and what does it mean?So we sent a couple back and forths and she is saving all of the messages in the conversation. I now think theyre trying to set me up. WTF. WHY IS SHE SAVING THE MESSAGES. Admittedly I'm not too familiar with the intricacies of Snapchat, but if she hit you up randomly and you know for a fact that she is saving your messages I would just ignore. Sounds like some kind of childish prank. Who knows, your aloofness and willingness to blow her off might make her interested in you for real. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/17 12:46 AM |
| 3 | I don't understand my LTR's behavior... Should I breakup?You need to tone down the neediness. Look at you, you're upset that she isn't texting you enough. That said, the lack of a sexual relationship is nothing to scoff at, and if you are really unhappy then you should end it. If you want to try to salvage you can try some dread, but to me it sounds like it's not worth it. Don't let her illness guilt you into staying; there are guys out there that will happily deal with that. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/17 12:34 AM |
| 4 | Commitment/choosing amongst worthy plates/ am I ready?it's time for me to grow up, become a man, and build a relationship If your idea of "becoming a man" is to commit to an LTR then I have no idea what you have been reading on TRP. | /r/askTRP | 07/10/17 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Confused about LTR'ing a slutMany concepts are often spoken in terms of extremes and absolutes because of the fact that it's a waste of time to tailor a response to every specific situation, and the existence of the male hamster. If you were to tell a guy that there is a 1% chance his obviously cheating girlfriend isn't cheating, he's gonna run away with that 1% and continue to get cucked. Your definition of a slut is any woman who has sex outside of an LTR. That's a bit flawed. My personal definition of a slut is a woman w… | /r/askTRP | 07/10/17 05:02 AM |
| 5 | How to apply soft dread in a LTR where you're 24/7 together?Depends on the relationship. Dread can be anything from a glance at an attractive woman to full blown cheating. The biggest thing to remember is plausible deniability. Don't ever be blatant about it, and never respond to an accusation with "b-b-but you did that". | /r/askTRP | 07/10/17 04:27 AM |
| 2 | Posting old fuck buddy on snap storyI thought you were straight when you said you were treating her like a plate, but then you had to go and do that. Well at least you learned a lesson. | /r/askTRP | 02/10/17 03:58 PM |
| 9 | Instagram orbitersThey find your relationship more exciting than the food you eat or cars you like. | /r/askTRP | 02/10/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Understanding AWALT.Great analogy. AWALT is a matter of potential and likelihood. | /r/askTRP | 26/09/17 02:34 AM |
| 3 | How to talk to people you've ignoredPlay dumb. You were too busy with your own stuff that you never even noticed this person existed. If you want to engage them just make sure that you don't say any weird shit like "Yeah I saw you around these couple of years and decided to say whats up". Have a reason to talk to them. | /r/askTRP | 25/09/17 04:04 PM |
| 1 | How to develop real confidence rather than episodes of ego-boost?The term "fake it till you make it" has very real meaning behind it. What you see now as an "ego-boost" becomes natural with consistency. There are certain situations that may have you feeling more alpha, but if you continue to get into those scenarios and respond in an "alpha" way, then those responses will eventually become natural to you and become a part of who you are. | /r/askTRP | 25/09/17 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like a BetaRespond to how women act and not what they say. If she's still fucking you, then you are good. If she is saying she would fuck you but isn't then next. You seem to be stuck on her words. she mentioned the other night that if she was hooking up with anyone it would be me. Is she hooking up with you though? Can you legitimately hit her up right now if you wanted to have sex? If the answer is no, then you need to next. She's not the first girl to want to keep a back up plan around. Nor is she the f… | /r/askTRP | 25/09/17 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Feeling like a BetaI don't get it. In the comments you admit to having oneitis, yet still continue to ignore or go against any advice to get you over your oneitis. Reply:"Move on." You:"Yeah but I'm wondering if I should still talk to her." Are you going to just ignore all advice until you hear what you want? Fine I'll tell it to you. Keep her around, become her orbiter, and have fun having hour long talks on the phone while she gets plowed by some other guy on the side. | /r/askTRP | 25/09/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Roommate who brought home a girl last night who moaned for 4 hours, not sure why I feel so bitter.sidebar | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 10:51 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Handle My GirlfriendYou guys are in high school. Have fun, ignore the dumb shit, and be ready to leave when she crosses any lines. Most importantly, have fun. In a few years you'll wonder why you were even bothered by this. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Sort of beaten my oneitis, but I have a new problem nowIt sounds like you may not have gotten over your oneitis and are hamstering your feelings as pure physical attraction. I mean saying she is 12/10 is the biggest sign. Regardless, even if she is that hot, it shouldn't stop you from finding the 8s and 9s attractive. Unless of course, you aren't over your oneitis. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend considered going out with someone else.I have been seeing a girl for past two months I am more of an LTR guy than a plate spinner You seek LTRs which means you want to give your commitment away. Your girl probably didn't have to put in any work before you became exclusive with her. The fact of the matter is that she didn't think there would be consequences to going on a date with another guy. That tells me that there is a clear lack of respect. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 04:03 AM |
| 7 | Girlfriend considered going out with someone else.because I like the emotional connection What emotional connection? The one where your girl ends up fucking the new, hot dance instructor? First you need to understand something. LTRs aren't what you think they are. At least healthy ones. You have the idea you get to share all your deepest thoughts and feelings. Wrong. Look at you, how quick you were to verbalize your own insecurities. I told her it's a red flag to me, that you could consider going out so easily with someone else, while telling m… | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 03:23 AM |
| 1 | How to act when getting back together with LT girlfriend?You're on the wrong sub. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/17 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Was college the last chance to build a legitimate social media account? Has the ship sailed?If social media is relevant to your goal/career then having followers actually means something. If you think that having 1000 followers on IG is going to get you pussy then you are wrong. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/17 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Did i next her too fast?I agree with what you said except for the "last chance" bit. Avoid ultimatums. I mean, this should be her last chance, but he shouldn't be saying that to her. Way too overt. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/17 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How To Let GoWas gonna read, saw huge block of text with no paragraphs, chose not to read. Clean this shit up if you really want answers. Also, re-read what you wrote, and ask yourself "is this girl worth it?" Is she writing 1000 word essays about you? No she isn't, so you shouldn't be doing that bs either. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/17 09:44 PM |
| 2 | How to act when getting back together with LT girlfriend?but I imagine TRP would suggest otherwise TRP would ask why are you even thinking about, let alone meeting, an ex girlfriend. That is one thing, but you failed to even give any details about your relationship and your breakup, which means anyone who would actually answer your question has no real perspective to give advice. C'mon man. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/17 09:33 PM |
| 2 | I am too nice. People often walk over me. I often give in.Sidebar, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and consider changing your current environment. The last one is a bit extreme, but anyone who has tried to change themselves knows that hanging around the same crowd is the hardest part of changing. You don't want to be the nice guy, but everyone pushes you in to that role because they expect it of you. When you act out, (in your case start saying no) they make it seem like you're being an asshole. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/17 09:23 PM |
| 1 | I've tried and I still fail to understand.This is why we call it the matrix. The world isn't what it seems; relationships aren't what they seem. You can either get angry, or accept, learn, and adapt. | /r/askTRP | 12/09/17 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Anyone have a LTR with a girl our of your league and super rich?So her life would be a down grade in terms of houses etc. don't get me wrong, I earn good money, I can afford to take of myself, run a sports car and have a social life. She won't need to spend her money just for me to lay my bills and food. Are you already making plans for this chick to live with you? | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Dating an alpha widow - need helpNo, it's way too overt. There are many other covert ways to show preselection and if you are truly preselected, it will happen without you even trying. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Marriage or living a lonely life?You assumed that we all "suffer" for not being married and having a family, which is a pretty bold thing to say. So I separated you from the rest of us, because we're not suffering. That said, it seems like you failed to do your research, because if you had you would know that Married Red Pill exists. The reason why a lot of men here are against marriage is that it offers no benefits for the man and in most cases just leaves you at risk of getting divorce-raped. That doesn't mean you can't have … | /r/askTRP | 05/09/17 08:22 AM |
| 4 | Marriage or living a lonely life?Sometimes I think Red Pill needs a Red Pill. You are "lonely" and unable to imagine living your life without a companion. I understand that, but don't assume that the rest of the TRP community shares your weakness. Instead of trying to understand you immediately assume something is wrong with the rest of us. If you don't want to take the red pill then don't. It's not anyone's obligation to convince you of anything. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/17 11:39 PM |
| 8 | Bolt on F cups fucking destroyed me! Help!read the sidebar and forget about a chick who was a walking, talking, red flag. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/17 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Any ideas why TRP and MGTOW are generally not accepted at NoFap?Being horny doesn't make you red pill. If that was the case this sub wouldn't need to exist. You can crave sex and still be a blue pill warrior. To quote u/_the_shape_ a large sect of nofap continues to operate under the premise that the blue-pill world is the true world, and porn was a main or the main hindrance holding them back from fully realizing it. In a way, it's similar to guys who attempt to use TRP to make their blue fantasies come true, only the nofap community doesn't even make it th… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Girl I'd been semi-serious with for around 6 months dumped me because she wants to play the field in college, need some advice.Sidebar. She literally told you she wants to taste other dicks and you say: I really like her and want to be with her but I feel like after she's disrespected me like this there's no salvaging our relationship. You may have forgotten what sub you were on. Yes, you never talk to her again. Move on. Sidebar. Don't give her the satisfaction of making an "event" of the breakup. She just told you she wants to fuck other guys and you still want to invest time into the relationship. Send a text if you … | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Any ideas why TRP and MGTOW are generally not accepted at NoFap?Why would you assume that they would be related? Red pill is about truth and shedding illusions. Nofap is about gaining imaginary superpowers by not jerking off. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 12:58 PM |
| 2 | [Field Report] - Once a beta orbiter, always a beta orbiter.Sidebar. Lack of abundance + oneitis. You only put up with this shit because you felt the need to use your new found "powers" to conquer the girl who was too good for you. To let go is to conquer. Instead of having a great night with some brand new chick you're posting about a chick that you were supposed to have let go 3 years ago. BTW, if you weren't fucking her she wasn't a plate. Finger fucking doesn't count. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 02:57 AM |
| 1 | How did you kill your inner beta?The evidence that being beta doesn't work was enough for me to want to never act like a beta again. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend got mad at me then admitted that she has dreams about having sex with one of the people we went to highschool withShe tried to hurt you when she was heated. TBH it's typical female behavior. Even more so if she was mad about something related to another girl. Remember, women are emotional. The dream could have happened a year ago and she brought it up because she felt that was the only thing that could get a rise out of you. You failed with the "speech". It was too overt. Whether you thought this transgression was disrespectful or not, trying to verbally correct a woman's behavior will never work. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/17 02:41 AM |
| 1 | How do you regain social status post college if you have little to no friends and don't use social media?It's definitely a trying time but it's worth it. The great thing about it is that it's a healthy cycle. Like your day is filled with so much work that you have an awesome sleep, which in turn means you wake up feeling very energetic and ready to have another productive day. Leisure days feel "earned" so you can enjoy them to the fullest. It's draining, yet very rewarding. Good luck dude. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/17 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Work party/cabin trip risksIf you have been here for a while then you should be plating. If you are plating then you should have a girl that you can invite to this trip to take the heat off of you. If you actually have this reputation that you claim to have then you must have learned not to shit where you eat. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/17 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Girl I banged a month ago while on vacation is setting up in town, when to setup meet?How did you find out that she was moving to your area? Did she tell you personally or did you find out from her facebook? If the former, you can set up anytime, if the latter you might have to play it a bit more delicately to avoid being seen as needy/stalkerish/desperate. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/17 01:44 AM |
| 18 | girlfriend (20f) is going on exchange to italy for ten weeks in spring. What do?Break up and plate when she returns. I think I just responded to troll bait but whatever. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/17 01:25 AM |
| 3 | She mentions other guys by name a lot ... bad sign or not?A new girl wouldn't put you through so many shit tests, and if she did you would just next right? Why go through it with an ex? I don't know the circumstances of your relationship, but it sounds like she sees you as some beta guy that is willing to treat her to dinner while she tells you how much better it was with Chad. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 09:27 PM |
| 1 | How should I counsel a friend suffering from intense jealousy?Not much you can do. If I'm being honest, it's just very unfortunate that a good friend of yours is stuck so deep in the matrix that he turned out like this. People in his position very rarely listen to the truth, and attempts to help him are likely to make things worse. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 09:12 PM |
| 1 | dating a rich girl in the long termAsking any girl out, she either says yes or no. Then you move on. However if she says yes, and we get into a relationship will it ever work? Why wouldn't it? What relationship are you trying to have with this girl? Are you aware that LTR's aren't the only form of relationship to have with women? Her(parents) money means nothing when you are just calling her over occasionally for sex. If you manage to plate this girl, don't take it serious, and enjoy it while it lasts. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 07:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you regain social status post college if you have little to no friends and don't use social media?You need to increase your own sense of self-worth. How you go about it is up to you, but I recommend "monk mode". It helped me get out of situation very similar to yours. Work hard, improve yourself, lift, and you'll be surprised at how easy things become. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 06:13 PM |
| 3 | How did your good friend betray you? What redpill lesson did you take from it?Troll post? Sounds kinda far fetched... | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 05:58 PM |
| 3 | 45/yo man here. Married. My sex drive is higher than its ever been but i have trouble sustaining erections. Very frustrated.You just described a loss of rapport, not attraction. She doesn't find you sexually attractive. She also feels no sense of potentially losing you. That's another can of worms though. You need to read the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 04:51 PM |
| 9 | 45/yo man here. Married. My sex drive is higher than its ever been but i have trouble sustaining erections. Very frustrated.Try not masturbating for a couple of days. Also, your wife gives you sex a few times a year? Sounds like you have other problems dude. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Best friend obsessed with gfIs he new and inexperienced with dating? Sounds like it. He'll learn eventually. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 01:46 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to throw-up the blue pillIf you feel so strongly against it then why bother posting here at all? You claim to be trying to understand but reject and argue every reply. If its not for you it's not for you. You don't have to come here trying to convince people why TRP is wrong. They've already experienced the blue lifestyle and decided they want change. You'll probably fit right in with MTGOW. | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 01:43 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to throw-up the blue pillThe Red Pill as a term means any truth that clashes with the mainstream belief. It's Neo in the Matrix. This subreddit focuses on sexual strategy, which is just one example of a Red Pill. Society and media gives us the illusion that the correct and successful way to have relationships with women is to be beta doormats that will eventually earn some girl's undying love. "Taking the red pill" in this context simply refers to accepting that things don't work that way. It's not that complicated. You… | /r/askTRP | 30/08/17 12:17 AM |
| 6 | During a small break in an LTR, both her and I slept with other people. Coming back into it, I'm having a hard time seeing her as I used to. Grossed out and perpetually picturing her with this other man.Women and men don't view sex the same way. Sex is a bigger deal to men. It's why women are able to forgive a random one night stand but will curse your name for "emotional cheating". Men are the opposite. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 10:34 PM |
| 2 | I can't seem to throw-up the blue pillThe one where women deserved to be punished for being manipulative If that's what you've gotten out of this sub then idk what to tell you. Why are you here to begin with? Where have you gotten the idea that women are being punished? You're clearly rejecting masculinity the same way society in general does. A women manipulating relationships in her favor is fine and innocent, but when a man does it it's villainous and a form of punishment. Speaking generally, men want sex and women want commitmen… | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Cheated on my gf, feels like I want to pukeWe all have our own sense of moral code, independent of what is learned through TRP. I personally don't condone cheating in an otherwise healthy relationship, as it seems a bit cruel to do to someone you deemed worthy of an exclusive relationship. Others disagree and will cheat to their heart's content. Its okay to feel bad about it. You know where your morals lie. Just don't backslide over it. Yeah you messed up, but if she finds out it's up to her to decide whether or not to forgive you. Don't… | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Plate a girl not worth of LTR?No guy should LTR a girl without a significant "screening process". Recommended time is at least a few months. During that time she is a plate. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 07:34 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to throw-up the blue pillIf it's not for you, it's not for you. I personally don't understand why someone would reject this very simple truth, but I really don't care. If you can act like a beta and not feel disgust at yourself when you look in the mirror, good for you. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 07:29 PM |
| 1 | LTR Flirty comments. Is it over?This is the same girl who wanted you to build a "love shed". Why are you surprised? They told you she was a nutcase in that thread too. Time for you to start checking out. Red flags galore. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/17 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Girl said she is seeing someone else so not looking to go on datesNext. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Does escort can kill neediness?You are correct, he's talking some bullshit. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Girl follows me to new gym after ghosting me, and flirts with my coach hard. ( I have expressed interest in her)Sidebar | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Tried Everything to Get Over Girl and Swallow the Pill, it Doesn't Work. Help Me PleaseIf you can read your post and not feel the slightest disgust at how weak and pitiful that sounds, then this might just not be for you. Seriously, read that shit and ask yourself "Is this who I want to be?" She cheated on you dude, have some dignity. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Repost: Guidance on looking for LTRconstant keeping frame is getting old for me You have to do this in an LTR too dude. Of course for maintaining a relationship you have to occasionally show cracks in the armor, but the lack of frame in an LTR is why most guys are here in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 12:52 PM |
| 5 | I have learned something very valuable today.but I'm looking for a LTR now. Why? You've done that before. For 5 years. Truly ask yourself what do you want out of an LTR that you don't get from plating. Is it "da feelings"? Guess what? You can't "share feelings" in an LTR anyway. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/17 12:10 AM |
| 1 | How would you guys respond to OmLaLa's examples of shit tests?Go gym. Get jacked. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Why do breakups have a delayed affect on me?Your actions control your thoughts. This girl seems incredibly special to you because you took her back once before. Control yourself. Make her less significant in your life and she will become less significant. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 02:02 AM |
| 1 | How to scout for women who are suitable for long-term relationships?You seeking an LTR is fail in itself. Ironically, as long as you seek a good LTR, you will never find it. Your hamster will cause you to rationalize that the girl covered in red flags is LTR material. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Took a 3 month break from pulling girls. Need some easy tips to get me back on track.Good job on you spending your time to help crush it in college. Many people here have different opinions on the importance of college but in my opinion at the very least if you decide to go, why not absolutely crush it? To answer your question, you need to approach it like you would being rusty at any activity, keep doing it. You know what you need to do, you just need to practice it in real-time. Approach more women and it will come to you. You even say in your post that it started to come back… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 01:52 AM |
| 14 | Why do breakups have a delayed affect on me?Oneitis, lack of abundance, and lack of reading the sidebar. Read the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 01:38 AM |
| 2 | My gf was acting real shady with a coworker????You don't need to understand her side. "She cheats, she's gone" is all you need to know. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Everything was OK then she brought up her exWhy when you have hotter? The moment she started acting up you should have texted one of your other girls and did (something with) them. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 02:52 PM |
| 2 | My gf was acting real shady with a coworker????Dude wtf? You want some weird list of questions answered like your relationship really means that much to anyone here. Its already been said. She either cheated or tried to cheat and it didn't work out so she's doubling down on you. That's it. We don't need to over-analyze every one of her actions. The evidence is right there. You could see it yourself if you weren't drowning in oneitis. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 02:46 PM |
| 2 | LTR raising her SMVBe cautious, but don't create something out of nothing. In some ways fitness has become a fad, so its not too unusual for her to maybe have come across a few accounts on Instagram and decided to try the "gym thing". That said, look out for other signs of her losing attraction. Apply some dread here and there. You said your SMV was higher than hers so she may just be playing "catch up" but it's also likely that she may feel her "improved self" deserves a higher smv man. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/17 06:09 PM |
| 3 | people who say they're intelligent actually smart?This. It honestly is the case for everything. Whenever you have to verbally broadcast an attribute about yourself it comes off as insecure. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/17 05:58 PM |
| 3 | LTR went solo travelling + came back my ExIt may be an exaggeration, idk. All I know is that there are so many BP guys out there that believe that their GFs can do no wrong that they will even hamster being cheated on. For a man, that's like the ultimate sin a woman could commit. Regardless of whether or not your GF cheating was your fault (by being beta or w/e) you deserve and can find much better. | /r/askTRP | 20/08/17 09:47 PM |
| 4 | LTR went solo travelling + came back my ExIf it's eating you up that much, take solace in the fact that you had the balls to actually end the relationship, which is something 99% of the men wouldn't do. | /r/askTRP | 20/08/17 09:26 PM |
| 0 | Cheated.So your advice to the inexperienced guys asking questions here is to stay in a relationship where they are getting cheated on. Most guys asking questions about their LTRs have oneitis and you are asking them to do the very opposite of what they need to do which is "let go". "Dude, so what your girl is cheating, stay with her and learn from it. Sure you might end up with stronger feelings of oneitis for a girl you should next, and yeah, you may be tasting some other guy's cum when you kiss her, b… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/17 05:00 PM |
| 1 | I'm having a debate this week with a bluepiller, what are some of the best scientific evidence that supports TRP ideologies?Congrats on making everyone at this "debate" completely reject anything TRP. | /r/askTRP | 20/08/17 01:24 AM |
| 0 | Cheated.Is this the advice we give at askTRP now, to willingly get cucked? | /r/askTRP | 20/08/17 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Recovering from the lost frameNext. She tried to demote you to orbiter and you even admitted that she may have cheated. Next, sidebar, and self improvement are the next things on your to-do list. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/17 06:22 PM |
| 1 | I got her, so what's next?It sounds like you are more PUA than TRP and it's why you are posting here. Seriously, you get divorced and the first thing you do is LTR the first thing that looks your way? Save me all that "I enjoy deeper connections" bullshit I know you want to say and just admit you are still stuck in a BP mindset. Guess what? You don't have to LTR girls to fuck them. The sole reason you lack abundance is because you believe that LTRs are the only relationship you can have with women. You could have easily … | /r/askTRP | 18/08/17 04:22 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Handle HatersHow are your "friends" making contact with your coworkers? I literally do not understand. They just hang outside your job waiting for someone to come out to talk shit about you? | /r/askTRP | 18/08/17 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Guidance to a newbie in the anger phase.Having read this time and time again I've come to the conclusion that the "anger phase"only exists for guys who are upset that they have to put in a little bit of effort to game women. These are the guys who are upset that getting women isn't as simple as "be a doormat to a girl and earn her unconditional love". I never had an anger phase. What's there to be angry about? You've learned the very nature of women and how to manipulate that to your advantage. You should be in a "happy phase". But no… | /r/askTRP | 17/08/17 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Best way to deal with a stutter?I used to stutter as a kid, and eventually it came to me that the reason i stuttered was because I either talked too fast or tried to verbalize an idea before it had fully formed in my head. The latter still happens to me once in a blue moon. My advice is slow down. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/17 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Should I ever act like I crave her affection?The way you described it sounds like she never had time for you. Either way my point still stands. You're too needy, and your attempts at dread have been anything but subtle. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 09:19 PM |
| 4 | Losing virginity to a hooker vs. Losing virginity from a one night standI'm still a bit of a hopeless romantic at heart Lose this mentality. If you must, read some romance novels or some shit to get your fix. This way of thinking will cost you in the long run if you try to apply it to your own life. Either way it's just sex. It's better practice to game a chick into your bed but if you feel so strongly about being a virgin then do away with it as quickly as possible and get on with your life. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Should I ever act like I crave her affection?Oneitis for a girl you aren't fucking? Also, when you apply dread the key thing to remember is plausible deniability. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 03:10 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with being mugged?This is why you lift. It prevents 99% of these situations. Do you think they would have tried that shit if there were 3 jacked guys sitting there instead? It also helps determine who is actually armed. If you're built as fuck and some scrawny dude comes up to you they most likely are carrying something to give them that confidence. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 03:07 PM |
| 1 | why do you guys want to be good at game?If you want to date women and be successful at it the the question is "Why wouldn't you want to be good at game?" | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 01:50 PM |
| 1 | FR: Was this a shit test (or LMR) and how should I have handled it?No, LMR is Last Minute Resistance, stopping literally right before sex. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/17 10:26 AM |
| 5 | Need help pulling my life together after rape chargeProfessional Therapy. Find a good one. I'm not familiar with psychiatrists and such but I imagine that in the feminized society we live in, there are therapists out there that have some white knight/sjw agenda. Fuck that. Find one sympathetic to your situation. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 06:24 PM |
| 2 | FR: Was this a shit test (or LMR) and how should I have handled it?Humble brag? You got a bj in the car and are worrying if her not visiting your place was LMR? | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Is being Alpha worth it??He's right though. There are guys who are presented with all the evidence and still choose to be beta, despite the fact that it's what brought them to the internet looking for help. IMO, if you were meant to be alpha there's no way you would reject the information on how to be alpha. You wouldn't settle for less. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 06:11 PM |
| 3 | 20M lost direction in my life with gf 20f1) It doesn't matter 2) Stop being a bitch 3) See step 2 4) You don't talk at all 5) See step 2 LDR's don't work. Period. A man wants sex and a woman wants commitment. If a man is committing himself to a woman without regular sex than the relationship is heavily skewed in her favor. Come on dude, find a local girl that you can actually date, then come here and ask for advice. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Finding it really hard (26yo male) to respect women after swallowing the pill, how do I get over this? (I am starting to despise women)What do you want out of relationships? If your goal is to fuck then you should be able to put up with boring conversation to get your dick wet. Maybe you have no interest in the opposite sex.. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 05:46 PM |
| 1 | How would you have responded in this situation?Should have done a soft next. Sounds like you responded too soon to her texts. Also saying you were "disappointed" was a wrong move because it shows that the date was the only thing you had going on. A guy with options doesn't care if one flakes because he always has backup plans. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Reject to get in friendzone, look what happened nextPlanning a trip with a girl you hadn't even banged yet was your mistake. Her reaction was nothing special. You were an orbiter and she got mad that you tried to get out of that role. Some girls will just move on, some will shame you. She chose the latter. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 05:34 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else realize if you just smirk all the time everything becomes easyTotally agree. It's a fact that high SMV guys get away with a lot more than their beta counterparts. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/17 01:35 AM |
| 36 | Anyone else realize if you just smirk all the time everything becomes easySmirking "all the time" is a bit weird, but a smirk is more attractive than a fake ass "look, I'm friendly " smile. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/17 10:18 PM |
| 1 | My woman provides for me, am I beta ?You're being a beta by not using this opportunity to build something for yourself. It's like living with your parents. That in itself is w/e, but you have to take advantage of the lack of financial pressure to build your own thing. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/17 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Do women subconsciously always want men with money?Depends on the situation. An LTR obviously has more interest in your finances because of the investment. Being broke means an inability to comfortably support a family which means she may start looking elsewhere. A plate or ONS doesn't give a shit as long as you are attractive. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/17 10:09 PM |
| 13 | Who is your top Alpha role model from popular culture?Most fictional villains. You think Voldemort would have wasted time depressed over some woman? Nah, he was trying to take over the world. Didn't have time for that fuck shit. | /r/askTRP | 08/08/17 10:00 PM |
| 6 | I playfully called out a girl for her multiple Instagram booty selfies and after looking pleased she morphed into confused and proceeded to call me a creep and a liar?Cognitive dissonance. Posting booty shots is perfectly fine to her (and her followers) but here you are challenging that. So she eventually hamstered that something must be wrong with you. The creep insult was just the best she could come up with; it's like a beacon for sjw's and white knights. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/17 01:59 AM |
| 1 | I don't enjoy this 'Alpha' mentality.Naturals have it easy, I'm envious of them. Many naturals lack self-awareness, which means that there is a chance of them failing. It's the difference between doing something because it feels right and doing something because you know it's right. I've seen a lot of "natural alphas" turn beta. The content here isn't meant to provide motivation, it's to help the motivated. We aren't here to convince you to change your life, we are here to help those that want to change their lives. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/17 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Again? Girlfriend want's to go too another country!She only asks if i havent talked in 3-4 hours Then make it 8-12 hours. Fuck it, go a day without texting. You lack dread, and your girl lacks a fear of losing you. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/17 01:30 AM |
| 3 | Being silent in group conversationsAll about frame. If your aforementioned group has a high opinion of you they will seek out your input in such situations. Hell, if you have a strong influence in the group and seem disinterested, they may question their own investment in the current topic of conversation. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/17 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Do we focus too much on "women-questions"? /RantThe TRP subreddit is focused on sexual strategy. Regardless of your own feelings on what a man's focus should be, that's what this sub was created for. The thing is, the information here is helpful whether or not your focus is getting women. The steps you take toward increasing your SMV will improve your life no matter what your focus is. Also, let's be real. Sexual relationships is the one area where men tend to falter. We've all seen men kill it career-wise, yet absolutely fold when it comes t… | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 07:48 PM |
| 1 | What broke you?Got into an LTR at the age of 17 that ended up lasting 5 years. Backslid like hell during the latter half of the relationship and it ended. Found solvemygirlproblems.com and it was a wrap for me. Swallowed the pill like there was a gun to my head. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/17 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend flashed a group of people, next?Don't get me wrong. I agree with you that this isolated incident isn't "break up" worthy on it's own, but its still something that OP needs to be aware about. Just telling him "it's perfectly fine" is no better than saying "hard next," "ghost" etc. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend flashed a group of people, next?Sure it starts with flashing a group of gay guys. Next its a group of bi/lesbian girls. Then its a group of guys who are into tattoo/piercing culture (but don't worry it wasn't anything sexual). You can say it's all in good fun, but regardless its a red flag either way. The severity of the transgression is up to OP, but I'm sure most guys aren't into their girls flashing tits to guys, gay or not. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriend flashed a group of people, next?that is why sometimes it's to harsh to drop and LTR if she makes one small mistake I'd argue that most boundaries don't need to be explicitly stated. A girl who doesn't want to lose the man she is with doesn't make very many "mistakes". | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 06:21 PM |
| 1 | What can I do to get this crazy ex-plate to understand it's over?How is she still messaging you when you (should) have everything blocked? It doesn't sound like she's done anything too crazy yet, but be prepared if she does. BTW, you call her a plate, but you made her your gf. Dropped other plates and even met her parents? Yeah, you guys were in a relationship. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 05:56 PM |
| 7 | Being too much alphaFor an example there is this girl who is just fun to hang around with and cute I hang around a lot with her (long story) and decided she would be good LTR Sounds beta to me. You're an orbiter to this girl and want to LTR her. Doesn't mention that you even hooked up with this chick once. Oneitis it is. And then i remember that I had a lot more success with women when i was still a beta, for an example id text a girl to go out for a drink she would say eyy slow down, Sounds like you were forward a… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 03:18 PM |
| 5 | Girl keeps bringing up her ex boyfriend.Soft next. Dread. Plates are for fucking, and if she's turning you off from sex that defeats the purpose right? Might as well soft next and/or turn up the dread. If that doesn't work then hard next. Or you can just hard next now to be honest. It's up to you. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 02:38 PM |
| 48 | Girl comes to sleep with me but doesn't want to 'sleep with me'. What gives?Either she was DTF before she came and got turned off by something, or she was lonely/scared to sleep alone so she chose the most safe (beta) guy she knew that she could sleep with without sex. IDK enough about the relationship to tell you which. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Went to get stuff from exes apartmentWhile you were in a relationship with her she was getting plowed by some other guy then probably came to you and let you have sloppy seconds. You apologized to that girl. Think about that. Holy fuck dude. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 01:29 PM |
| 2 | In a strange situation and not sure what to do or how to actWtf it's obvious. All she has to do is say four words: "I kinda like you" and she has you following her around like a love sick puppy. You probably jump at the chance to do favors for her too. Move on. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Is this a shit test?Don't just ask for her number. Give her a reason to get her number. Make a date and then getting her number will be a simple courtesy. Also, you could have gotten her number in person, then asked your friend if it was cool. If he wasn't cool with it, then you could just toss it away and forgot about it. | /r/askTRP | 27/07/17 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Am I treating her like a child in the right way? Or am I doing it wrong?She thought you were Chad but as soon as she went away you regressed to some beta with some weird obsession with "nudes". | /r/askTRP | 26/07/17 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Wife gets pissed/makes fun of certain hobbiesYou say you're unplugged, but the only thing RP you have described about you relationship is good sex. I give her the attention. I do the bills, I do all of that, I fix shit around the house, for example, this weekend I randomly decided to spend 6 hours and redo our shower, which she loved. Sounds more beta than anything. Let me guess, your sole motivation for working on the shower was "she's gonna love this". | /r/askTRP | 25/07/17 05:09 PM |
| 1 | A question on flirtation to make or break my understanding of TRPIt's not about being dumb, its about not being boring. If you can't understand that a person looking for a fun time isn't interested in talking about new scientific breakthroughs/theories, then you need to work on your social skills. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/17 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Trouble with FrameSounds like you lack inner frame. Either build your inner frame by increasing your own sense of self-worth through improvement, or "fake it til you make it" and project a strong frame despite your inner feelings. Both ways will increase your inner frame, choose whats best for you. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/17 04:46 PM |
| 20 | Friends from beta past seem to throw jabs, or am I just being unreasonable?It's not always just shit tests though. Some will literally keep testing you until it escalates to something physical. At that point you have to decide if it's worth hanging around shitty people just to prove you can "take it". | /r/askTRP | 25/07/17 04:36 PM |
| 3 | should i breakup with my gf? i want to but it feels wrong and it hurts.Dude, you're in a sexless relationship and your gf is so selfish that she doesn't even want to please you in other ways when she is incapable of having sex. She either doesn't fear losing you, of she feels that there is no chance of losing you. Sounds like a shit relationship, why let your youth go to waste? | /r/askTRP | 25/07/17 01:39 PM |
| 2 | New to this.. Kinda red-pilled. Are there any exceptions to settling down with a nice girl?Yes, which is why Married Red Pill exists, and why there is plenty of advice given here for LTRs. The problem you have is that you are actively seeking an LTR, rather than letting it come to you. You should plate a bunch of girls, and if one pushes to be exclusive then you consider her based on what you know of her and what you've experienced with her. "Seeking" an LTR like you are currently is just a poor mentality and almost guarantees that any LTR you get in is going to be doomed due to backs… | /r/askTRP | 22/07/17 07:15 PM |
| 2 | New to this.. Kinda red-pilled. Are there any exceptions to settling down with a nice girl?edit sigh, this entire TRP community is exclusively about getting your dicks wet over and over. You can't even fathom what I'm talking about or have a real discussion about it. Stay blue pilled my friend. Just remember, when you LTR the first thing that glances your way and end up with another "baby mama", we'll be here to give you advice (that you probably won't take). | /r/askTRP | 22/07/17 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Why telling woman that my life purpose is the most important thing 'disappoints' them?It sounds like you are looking to only associate with like-minded career driven people, but that comes at a price. There are people out there that probably can be useful to you but will be turned off by your "philosophy". Also you run the risk of burning out. Do you really want to spend all your time working, with no time to unwind? What happens when you do decide to take a break? Who are you going to socialize with? Having a certain air of mystery surrounding you is a good thing. It makes peopl… | /r/askTRP | 20/07/17 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Why telling woman that my life purpose is the most important thing 'disappoints' them?They are shocked because you are telling them something stupid. Your purpose is number 1? Great. That doesn't mean you have to tell that to everyone you know. How does this even come up? What are you looking to get out of telling them this? Are you trying to impress? Covert is the language of women. Learn it. If you want convey to them that your purpose is number 1 priority, show it through you actions. Make them wonder about why you are so driven. Telling them outright removes any sense of myst… | /r/askTRP | 20/07/17 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Walked out off 6year long relationship.Forget the anger, be happy that you dodged a bullet. Trust me, I was in a similar situation. Soon you'll look back and find it funny how much you actually cared about this. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 05:59 PM |
| 6 | Is monogamy really a lie...?Monogamy won't work if attraction is not upheld, but if attraction is there, many men and women would not cheat on their partner. It's not absolute though. There are many men and women who would jeopardize a solid relationship just because they got "caught up in the moment." It's not a very complicated concept though. If you sign up for one thing, and are given something else, it's not weird for your feelings to change. Many of the guys here experienced that very thing (which led them here). The… | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 05:52 PM |
| 23 | Is monogamy really a lie...?An extremely large number of women ARE happily monogamous and will ultimately NEVER cheat on their partners What's left out is the statement "as long as their partners remain attractive." Women who have said they are happy and would never cheat are women who are dating alphas that they don't want to lose. It's not absolute. Feelings can change if the situation changes. But yeah, some women won't cheat. That doesn't mean that they won't break up with you and fuck another guy the very same night t… | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Is an LTR break acceptable if you initiate it?What's the point? If you have to take such measures to salvage a relationship, is it really worth it? Do you want to be a guy in a relationship who has to scheme to try to keep his girl from fucking other guys? I'd rather be a guy whose gf wouldn't ever think of cheating. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 05:05 PM |
| 2 | I talk too muchBe more confident. Make it seem like you take this walk often and revel in the silence. You don't care if she talks or not as you're enjoying the ambient sounds and scenery. Make her feel like she has to talk. Confidence is key. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with ultimatums from women who aren't committed to you?Joke is on you, because you're not only entertaining this bullshit, but its got you so worked up you had to post it here. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 04:26 PM |
| 3 | My LTR is starting to look elsewhereYou're able to go out and have a social life, meaning you're able to meet and interact with other women. So what if you're injured? That shit isn't permanent. Dread isn't just about sex, nor is it about the "here and now". It's about creating competitive anxiety. You really need to do some more reading. Women don't view sex the same way men do. Your LTR will most likely feel more threatened by you having an "emotional" relationship with another woman than a physical one. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 02:29 PM |
| 18 | My LTR is starting to look elsewhereDon't tell me to next her. I'm in not about to give up on this relationship just yet. How can I salvage this? I need a RP injection stat! True but if I start withholding the other things I bring to the relationship while I can't have sex I won't be offering anything. Usually when I apply dread game I withhold one part and continue with the other. Right now I would be withholding everything. And if I stop seeing her that just gives her free time to pursue Smelly McTrustfund. Since you seem so set… | /r/askTRP | 19/07/17 12:41 PM |
| 7 | Walked out on a date last night. Did I handle it right? What now?I wasn't even all that attracted to her when we first met at a bar last week Then you shouldn't even be worried. Ignore her text, ghost, and never think of her again. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/17 07:37 PM |
| 12 | [32 yo ex wizard] Have a friend with benefits since January. Started dating other girls, now she wants to be my GF - need advice.Girl A shouldn't even be a question. Based on the way you described her, Girl A wasn't LTR material even before she dumped you. Do not LTR this girl. She's upset that you are not only fine with the "breakup" but that instead you're giddy over some new girl. She just wants to confirm that you are "her's" for her own validation. As for Girl B, u/FuckboyAWALT said it already. I'll just add do not let an unsuccessful relationship with Girl B lead to you LTRing Girl A. BTW, you haven't read enough. Y… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/17 05:42 PM |
| 3 | When to go monk mode vs. warrior mode?"Monk mode" is typically used when you really need to get your life in order. When you've slacked and/or have fallen behind in terms of career/finance/health/physique. If you're a fat, unemployed, loser then monk mode is for you. If you've wasted time and opportunity in an LTR then monk mode is for you. It will get you in a good place while helping rebuild confidence needed to play the social game. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/17 03:32 PM |
| 2 | How much would it help my game if I learned to play the Guitar?Pick up the guitar because you want to play, not to pick up women. It will make you more interesting to some women, but doing it just to get women is validation-seeking behavior. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/17 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Did i do the right thing?Yes, the stuff on the right. Read that and you will become enlightened. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/17 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Why do you think AWALT?Based on the replies in this thread, this seems to be the case. Carry on. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/17 02:34 AM |
| 2 | LTR to Open LTR?Sounds like you want a TRP member to sign off on your extremely beta behavior so you can pretend that you're doing the right thing. Good luck with your cuckold lifestyle. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/17 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Reason she blocked me?I do want to try to fuck her now since she blocked me, seems like a challenge. Don't get caught up in that, it's a trap. Oneitis develops for numerous reasons, and this is one of them. Make a move on her if you want, but after that move on. It's a slippery slope. You initially pursue her for the "challenge" but it becomes some weird obsession where you can't move on until you've "conquered" this girl. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/17 02:10 AM |
| 2 | How do I deal with people who comment on how much I've changed from before?"Hm, have I?" Then go on about your business. And they say it so condescendingly This is the reason it can be hard to change yourself without changing your environment. People around you will try to put you in your "old role" so to speak. Continue to do you and don't acknowledge that you have changed. Make it seem like you genuinely didn't notice your improvement. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/17 02:27 PM |
| 2 | RP from start to finish with a new girlThere's a cool outdoor bar thing I may go to Sunday I can just invite her to as well. Go to this and invite her. Don't just ask her if she wants to go; tell her that you are going and ask her if she's coming along. It's always better to invite to a place that you would have fun at regardless of whether or not she shows in case she flakes. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/17 12:55 AM |
| 1 | LTR suddenly don't wants to get her pussy licked anymore and seems to repress her sex-driveI tried this sexual attention retracting Gotta reduce all attention, not just sexual. Reply late to texts and keep your replies short. Don't initiate contact or conversation. If you live together, find a reason to spend more time away from home. If that doesn't work then you just need to deal with boring sex or break up and find a new girl. | /r/askTRP | 09/06/17 04:06 PM |
| 35 | Ltr bringing up another guy.Dread. This situation you described is silly though; you baited a response out of her and got upset when you got it. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/17 04:20 PM |
| 1 | If my goal is getting 'relationship type' girls should my approach by different?A relationship will fail if you go into it with the mindset "I want to LTR this girl." No matter how you slice it, it's a blue-pill mentality and you're going to be far too emotionally invested to be able to do what's necessary to keep the relationship healthy. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/17 04:15 PM |
| 2 | LTR and Her Male FriendsSaw major red flags, still decided to turn into LTR, wants TRP advice. Our advice would have been to not LTR this girl from the start (and you knew this), but you ignored that would-be advice, so how do we know you're going to listen now? You should next, now. Actually, not now, yesterday. She carries way too much baggage. She clearly isn't afraid of losing you if she thinks its cool to have a male friend over at her place (and then invite you to see it). Nothing she does is ever going to be wro… | /r/askTRP | 07/06/17 04:05 PM |
| 3 | LTR wanted to invite a male friend over to help her move stuff around the house.she asks what's wrong and I mention him Messed up here. You have to let her mind make up the scenario. Instead of wondering what you were doing and who you were with she now knows that you just ignored her because you were upset/jealous. Instead of feeling anxious, she probably breathed a sigh of relief when you mentioned the guy. The spell was broken. Remember, the language of women is covert, not overt. Her attraction seems pretty high, so this slip-up can be forgiven. Remember, you can't conv… | /r/askTRP | 06/06/17 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Considering fucking my landlady, what do?It's entirely up to you. Is her pussy worth the chance of a strained relationship with your landlady or losing your flat? Also, never doubt the possibility of a crazy husband going after you, especially one with potential access to your home. | /r/askTRP | 06/06/17 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Father wants to move in when I'm older?This sounds weird. I'd play off his "insisting" like a joke. If he's dead serious, you might want to start working on slowly creating a little emotional distance, as he's obviously way too comfortable to be asking some ridiculous shit like that. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/17 12:53 PM |
| 4 | talks to her exI actually want to LTR her She seems like someone I would like to LTR. She had a strong first impression on me. I have options, I'm not your typical beta. Ignoring the red flag of her probably still being into her ex, this is beta thinking. Wanting to LTR a girl (especially this early) is needy and any relationship you get in is going to be doomed from the start. Whoever cares the least has the most power. You're giving up any sort of power in this relationship. You're supposed to be the prize, … | /r/askTRP | 01/06/17 12:18 PM |
| 4 | Question for red pillers who care about more than sexYou still have a blue pill mentality. It's every young man's dream to find the perfect girl, who you share everything with, and talk about your deepest feelings, but the reality of it is that is counter-productive toward maintaining a relationship. Remember the golden rule: Whoever cares less has the most power in a relationship. Also sounds like you mishandled her a bit. Remember to reward positive behavior. Her raving about your sexual performance+ sending you pics should have been rewarded wi… | /r/askTRP | 30/05/17 02:31 PM |
| -1 | How to answer an apology text?I'd text a quick "No problem" and ignore her response unless she immediately tries to set something else up. Sounds like she has low interest though so you might just wanna ghost. If she flakes again though definitely hard next and ghost. Stop the bullshit texting too. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/17 01:25 PM |
| 4 | Ex-LTR who cheated and I kicked out still pursues me. Is that the behavior of an Alpha Widow or what it is?She feels like she owns you; you took her back after she cheated on you. She had you so wrapped around her finger that she was able to get all the benefits of being your girlfriend with the perk of being able to fuck guys that she was actually attracted to. No alpha widow here, your behavior gave her validation that transcended that of a hundred orbiters. Of course she doesn't want to lose that. Block and move on. You made that mistake once, don't let it happen again. | /r/askTRP | 26/05/17 11:43 AM |
| 0 | I fucked up. I fucked my ex.This. Personally I don't see anything wrong with fucking an ex, I've done it. Definitely wouldn't recommend it to someone with oneitis though. If you can manage your feelings (i.e. not catching any), then go for it. Unless she did you wrong of course, then it's not worth talking to her at all. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/17 06:23 PM |
| 2 | LTR hasn't responded to text since yesterday morning. Very out of the ordinary. Shit test?Dread is about making her wonder, and letting her mind fill in the blanks. First, stop texting so much. You should be too busy to text all the time, and if you aren't, act like you are. There's many ways to apply dread. Ignore her texts/calls from time to time, reply an hour or two late. Pick up a hobby and spend some time out of the house. Get caught having your eyes linger on a hot chick for a second or two, etc. Be discreet, always maintain plausible deniability. Let her mind wonder what you … | /r/askTRP | 25/05/17 06:14 PM |
| 2 | How do you forgive yourself for past mistakes with women prior to finding TRP?Be grateful that you were dumb; It ultimately caused you to seek out TRP and become a better man. Better to make those mistakes early than waiting until you find yourself married and divorced. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/17 06:05 PM |
| 4 | LTR: Waiting out ImmaturityIt seems like you have a mild case of oneitis. You say you have abundance, but it sounds like you are scared to lose this girl because "you'll never find another like her." Can't answer this for you, as it's entirely up to you and your feelings. Is her immaturity a deal breaker? For some it wouldn't be, and for others it is. Also, who cares about the dumb shit she says when she's around your friends? If she's as hot as you say they probably wish they were fucking her. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/17 05:56 PM |
| 4 | You are a Faggot. Stop Being a Faggot.While it's great that people find help here, there's also an issue with your philosophy. The last thing some people here need is to be coddled. They become dependent. All you end up with is a situation where posters can't take a step outside of the house without asktrp's approval. Trp is trying to help beta, blue pill boys become sexually attractive men. At some point these guys have to figure things out on their own. Also, OP has a point. Some of the questions are ridiculous. "What's some good … | /r/askTRP | 23/05/17 12:55 PM |
| 5 | What's the point of wielding power if not for the fuck of it?For someone with such a diabolical plan you have a shit way of recruiting. Watch Fight Club or something. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/17 02:21 PM |
| 11 | Finishing my LDR with a "decent" girl. Feedback needed.Didn't have to ghost just because she was leaving for uni. Could have told her you guys should end it because she's leaving, giving you the chance for some sex later down the line if you want. Either way though, the end result is the same and you shouldn't worry about it. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/17 02:16 PM |
| 5 | How to stop investing in other people?How to invest all my energy in myself and stop letting the losers drag me down. Remove the "how to" and that's your answer. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/17 12:59 PM |
| 8 | How is a woman denying sex wrong but dread game OK?Dread makes a man more attractive to a woman, sex denial does not make a woman more attractive to a man, therefor they are not the same. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/17 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Plate With A Boyfriend - Help a brother outWhy come here and ask a question then get upset at the answers? You clearly have a blue pill mindset and are angry that you didn't get a blue pill answer. If anything you're just setting yourself up for failure. You want to build an emotional connection to someone who likely doesn't have the same intentions. What happens when you eventually catch feelings? He's right. You are her emotional plate right now. Nothing more. She gets to emotionally unload on you then happily fuck her boyfriend stress… | /r/askTRP | 15/05/17 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Whats the theory behind cheating drunk girls?Men play along with it because they also use alcohol as the "responsibility shield". I'm sure you've seen a guy act like an asshole when drunk and later blame it on the liquor. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/17 11:53 PM |
| 2 | General Anxiety Tips? Lifting/diet not helping.What worked for me in the past was making myself busy enough that social interactions seemed insignificant. Make sure you are always being productive. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/17 11:45 PM |
| 3 | Can guys who are seen as "alpha" get away with beta behavior in the eyes of women?Alphas can get away with beta behavior because the (assumed) intent behind the action is alpha. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/17 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Should I feel bad about no longer getting involved in the family business?If he's going to talk to his dad it definitely shouldn't be about his "feelings". He needs to tell him straight that he was working insane hours and got nothing for it. Very little to no pay is inexcusable. He was clearly taking advantage of his son for free labor. Besides, him talking about how "unhappy" would probably bite him in the ass if he did go back. He already said his dad likes to use him as the butt of his jokes and gets no respect. He would just be giving him ammunition for future jo… | /r/askTRP | 12/05/17 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Advice for college student dealing with overbearing parents while I am home for the summerHow long are you expecting to put up with this? How long until graduation? Plans after graduating? Those details will help understand your situation a bit better. I'll try to give you some general advice though. If this is your last year of school and you plan on getting your own place soon, it may be less stressful to just deal with it. A couple months of dealing with their bullshit then you never have to deal with it again. On the other hand, if you have to be home for some time after this per… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/17 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Situation with LTR's guy buddy arising.This shit is hilarious, but true. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/17 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Her ex keeps calling when I'm with her and she hasn't deleted his number. Would you put up with this?You call her a plate but you sound jealous like she's your girlfriend. If she's a plate how could you be a "rebound", and why would you care if you are. Plates are for fucking, and unless she's answering his calls while you're fucking you shouldn't give a shit. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/17 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Tips on gaming older women?Game them like any other women, just be careful with negging. If she's self conscious about her age negging too harshly could make her think you're not interested. | /r/askTRP | 03/05/17 04:31 PM |
| 8 | Going to prom alone and I'm trying to score tonightThe only way I could see this going well for you is if you already had a ton of social proof and everyone knew you could have had a date. Like if you were the star basketball player of your championship team and had girls lining up to go with you. Without any kind of social proof it's going to be hard to avoid looking like the loser who couldn't get a date. | /r/askTRP | 29/04/17 03:08 PM |
| 10 | I stood my ground with a woman at work and she attacked me behind my back to the others all day... how can I respond to this now?He's right. You think you're the first competent worker to have coworkers who dislike them? She baited you and you rose to bait with your response. That text that she's showing around the workplace? That's ammo you provided her with by engaging in her frame. You had the choice of being a competent employee with a hater, or a competent employee who gets involved in petty drama. You chose the latter. | /r/askTRP | 26/04/17 10:13 PM |
| 3 | How to be Ambitious?Just make sure you're always being productive in some sort. Research material related to your goal. If you're a bit stuck, research some educational material. Learn more. Plus, the material you learn can help in conversation and act as a display of higher value. Grind it out. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/17 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Still caught up on my exJust keep grinding past it. Your plates have fallen off, get new ones. You've done it before, do it again. Keep improving yourself, and find more women. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/17 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Why be a man?If you're satisfied with that lifestyle than there is nothing I can say to help. This place isn't here to motivate you to become a man, it's to help motivated men become successful, attractive men. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/17 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever wonder if trp has made you too cynical about everything?Read less TRP. This. Ive seen many posters here start a question with "I've been reading TRP for 2-3 years." At some point you're just reading the same shit over and over. Go out and live, explore, experience. Come back when you need a dose of motivation. Stop the intellectual masturbation. | /r/askTRP | 18/04/17 03:50 PM |
| 2 | How to push for exclusivity/upgrade from plate?Great answers here so far, but you also need to work on your mentality. You shouldn't feel the need to push for exclusivity. You're thinking from a position of lower value. You should be the prize. Remember, whoever cares less in a relationship has the most power. | /r/askTRP | 18/04/17 03:41 PM |
| 1 | How to be Quiet and NOT look autistic?A part of it is about appearance. If you saw a quiet guy in a business suit, well groomed, and fit, you would probably think he's contemplating business decisions, or something else important. If you saw an quiet nerdy guy, overweight, bad hygiene, plain clothes, you might think he is empty headed or busy thinking about some video game. Posture plays a part in it too. Sitting relaxed, confident, and like you own the place can be the difference between cool and creepy. | /r/askTRP | 18/04/17 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Are all men on The Red Pill only looking to get laid?The site is focused on self-improvement, and becoming the best version of oneself that one can be. When I first came to this sub I thought this was the case, as when I got "unplugged", the source emphasized self-improvement moreso than handling women (though game is very important too). It's become clear that this sub's focus is sexual strategy (pretty sure it's even listed as such). I can't complain though as there is tons of great information here, it just feels like some of the self-improveme… | /r/askTRP | 14/04/17 04:16 PM |
| 1 | What can I do with my heart about Oneitis?So while having a mission surely helps with those problems it does not cure them. You need to learn to manage your neediness. I think having a mission works, but it's not for everyone. If you've dedicated yourself wholeheartedly toward your own goals (unrelated to women), I don't see how you can have the time to be stressed over a single woman. In my own experience, it was the main thing that got me over my oneitis many years ago. It also helped me gain a solid frame. Once again, not for everyon… | /r/askTRP | 14/04/17 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Turned into a beta during LTR [1 year], she breaks up with me, where to go from here?You wanting to get her back is more beta than the backsliding you did that caused the breakup. Have some pride, and read the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/17 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Turned into a beta during LTR [1 year], she breaks up with me, where to go from here?There is no advice for trying to get her back because "trying to get her back" is the last thing you should be doing. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/17 05:03 AM |
| 2 | How to get better at lying under pressure?Agreed. When I was a kid I heard a quote, probably from a tv show or book, that the best way to lie is to tell some truth. I've followed that ever since and it's worked well for me. Granted, I really don't find myself in any situations where I have to lie. | /r/askTRP | 10/04/17 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Game or career?Women should always play second fiddle to your own mission in life. That was one of the major lessons I learned when I stopped being blue pill 7 years ago and I stand behind that philosophy. | /r/askTRP | 10/04/17 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Girlfriend met another guy without telling meSounds like you're looking too far into this. Could he have made mistakes in his relationship? Who knows? Maybe she just didn't think it was a big deal to have dinner with a friend. Either way she crossed a line that OP wasn't comfortable with, so he ended it. Assuming and telling him that everything was all his fault after the fact is just pointless. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/17 03:48 PM |
| 9 | How to get over blue pill rage, bullying and deep regrets of wasted years?There's no secret. Just gotta "man up" and get past it. Unless of course, your past has caused deep mental trauma in which case I'd advise professional help. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/17 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Used dread game for the first time with amazing results but now wife wants to 'talk'. Need advice for next stepsHmm...I'm wondering if you would have made a stronger point if you had not got on the bus at all. Regardless, I think that you have done well. As far as the future, whatever you do, don't let her know you did this as a response to her behavior. If you bring up her behavior now, she's going to assume you did that just to spite her. Keep up the dread, amused mastery is your friend. Avoid backsliding. If she asks about the bus situation, say that your plans genuinely sounded better than seeing her … | /r/askTRP | 09/04/17 03:29 PM |
| 3 | I fucked up, got caught cheating, what do I do ?Funny enough, I've heard this exact thing from Shark from SMGP: You silently listen to everything she has to say. Don’t comfort her, DON’T apologize, and don’t withdraw into beta body language. Alpha, in control, you are an Oak Tree. After her hysterical Levantines have passed (30 minutes to 6 hours), go up to her, hug her, say “I will always love you” or something deep of that sort, and then walk out. The tone must be of alienated remorse combined with some sort of deep transcendent love. Wait … | /r/askTRP | 06/04/17 12:53 PM |
| 1 | How to become more "Alpha" in mindset and not just behavior?Do and you will become. More alpha actions = a stronger alpha mindset. Also u/HotStickySemen is correct. When you can become completely dedicated to a goal, you will find it easy to disregard most of the problems people ask about on this sub. | /r/askTRP | 05/04/17 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Whats the best way to get over an Ex?Find other women or dedicate yourself to a goal. Do both of you want. Should be too busy to be hung up over ex's. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/17 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Ex trying to piss me offNo reaction. In fact, you haven't even seen it. You were too busy doing something/someone else. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/17 12:29 AM |
| 6 | How to get over jealousy and being a hopeless romantic.The biggest sense of abundance I've gained has not been from other women, it's been from dedicating myself toward my own goals. You'd be surprised how easy it is to disregard bullshit when it interferes with your purpose in life. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/17 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend on Tinder, brings up idea of a MMF threesome, and I'm meant to be moving in with her soon.If that's the road you want to take then why even post here? Instead of looking for an answer it seems like you're looking for someone to back up a beta decision that you've already made. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/17 02:14 PM |
| 3 | How does TRP view / What is TRP's opinion about women who post, for example, in /r/gonewild?You're thinking about it too deeply. There is no point in trying to make sense of modern feminism/sjw culture. They will spin every situation to fit their narrative, even if concepts are blatant contradictions. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/17 02:25 AM |
| 9 | How to handle this situation with LTR?Notice the escalation? It went from flirting a bit, to making out, next thing she's going to tell you that she fucked some other guy. never was going to drink again if i wouldn't let her Doesn't even sound right. If she was feeling truly bad she would be vowing not to go out and drink herself, not only if you let her. She's setting it up so that her not drinking is your decision, and it will be used against you in the future (he's controlling, doesn't trust me, etc). At the very least I'd demote… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/17 02:15 PM |
| 2 | I'm going insane the more I readYou're thinking of it negatively. Think about it like this: "who you are" has been shaped by a society that preaches a lifestyle/mindset that ultimately sets men up for failure. You have found a community dedicated to changing that. It's not about putting up an illusion, its about becoming a person that doesn't end up broken by modern society's philosophy. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/17 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Is it over with my HB9 modelYour mentality is a bit blue pill. In a relationship, whoever cares less has the most power. If you want to stop being beta than start by changing your actions. Stop following this girl, move on. Beta guys chase one girl because they have no sense of abundance. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it over with my HB9 modelYou didn't owe her anything. You don't have to be fucking other women, but you need to have some type of female interaction to instill dread. It kinda sounds like you want to be blue pill, and are looking for someone to tell you that blue pill is okay. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 10:52 PM |
| 3 | What am i missing on "read the sidebar"?Yeah I kinda agree. Was a bit surprised about how much of this sub is about women vs being alpha male. Almost feels a bit PUA-ish. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 10:43 PM |
| 5 | Is it over with my HB9 modelIf you read the sidebar then you should know to avoid having oneitis. Sorry, but your situation is not unique. It's never good to be hung up on a girl. Even if you were to get back together your relationship would be doomed. You have oneitis and she'd never see you as alpha. Man up, stop looking at her social media, and move on. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 10:34 PM |
| 5 | Is it over with my HB9 modelSounds like a bad case of oneitis. Give up on her and move on. Read some sidebar too. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 10:23 PM |
| 2 | How to attain emotional mastery?Action precedes thought. If you act the way a person with emotional mastery does then it becomes easier to think that way. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 10:21 PM |
| 5 | I play guitar. What songs should I play to impress?I wouldn't try to impress anyone. Play what you want. Trying to impress is validation-seeking behavior. | /r/askTRP | 24/03/17 11:46 AM |
| 7 | Is Oneitis always for the worst? I feel like I'm dying from it.It's never worth pursuing a oneitis. She just turned you into an orbiter. She knows you like her and just asked you to waste time hanging around her on the off chance that she comes to like you. Think of how pathetic you'll feel when she eventually tells you she's dating some other guy. | /r/askTRP | 24/03/17 11:41 AM |
| 2 | How can I get over the fact that it was MY fault for ending a good thingThis really sucks. No it doesn't, because you had/have oneitis. It was doomed the moment you contracted it. I see it as blessing; you learned a lesson with minimal losses. Imagine if you had gone on to get married or something. | /r/askTRP | 23/03/17 05:45 PM |
| 1 | I ruined a relationship by becoming 100% beta. How do I move on, and what can I learn from this so I don't keep repeating the same mistakesAction precedes thought. In this case, breaking things off with all of your plates only reinforced the mentality that she was special and deserving of all your beta behavior. You said she was a bitch, yet why would you have stayed with her when you had other women? If you've been around here for any decent amount of time you should have known this. Just chalk it up to a learning experience and move on. | /r/askTRP | 23/03/17 05:41 PM |
| 6 | I ruined a relationship by becoming 100% beta. How do I move on, and what can I learn from this so I don't keep repeating the same mistakesHe's not being a dick. You (like many others) think that your girl/situation is unique enough to warrant a specific response tailored specifically to your situation. It's not. You make a list of all your beta actions so you obviously know where you went wrong and what not to do. His advice was good. Don't get into exclusive relationships until you internalize abundance. If you had done so, this relationship wouldn't have turned out the way it did. | /r/askTRP | 23/03/17 05:29 PM |
| 2 | i make emo music, should i change genres/subjects?This has nothing to do with TRP. I mean, maybe someone in this community has an idea about the music industry and can give you advice on what type of music to make, but for most all we can tell you to do is work hard at it. I'm an artist but I'd never ask TRP "What should I draw?" I'd go to an art related community. | /r/askTRP | 23/03/17 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Treating women like children - practical guide?The hyper-specific examples you're looking for aren't very practical. The concept of treating women like children isn't just a technique you use in certain instances, it's a part of your frame and mentality. It's about having control of yourself and your relationships. It's not just limited to women either. If you have a friend trying to AMOG you in a social environment, you treat his efforts the same way you would if your 6 yr old brother tried to do it. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/17 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Not sure wether I should continue trying to make it work.Well, now you know. Not to mention all the other blatant red flags that you've mentioned. Dump her immediately, then spend time working on yourself. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/17 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Not sure wether I should continue trying to make it work.You could have saved yourself these paragraphs by reading the sidebar. Your situation is not unique. She cheats= she's gone. No exceptions. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/17 12:13 PM |
| 5 | How do you apply TRP to a long-term relationship (LTR)?How do you "apply" TRP to anything? What does being a dick have to do with TRP? I advise you to read some sidebar. If you are asking how to remain alpha in an LTR, then there's a couple of things to remember. Don't backslide. Ever. Keep up the competitive anxiety. Don't act needy. Don't "open up" about your feelings. Be spontaneous and decisive. Don't be afraid to next if red flags pop up. | /r/askTRP | 11/03/17 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Making friends without alcohol.To you and OP, I think that you are putting too much weight into the word friend. There's nothing wrong with having a friend that you only do certain things with. You may have a couple of friends that you only go to bars with, another that you only play sports with, another that you play games with, etc. Like you said, some people call them acquaintances, others call them friends; it really doesn't matter what you label them. It just comes with age. The teenage notion of friendship is that of ha… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/17 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Gettong back into the gymUse TRP for motivation to get in the gym. Don't use TRP for fitness advice. I mean, there may be someone here who is qualified to answer but you're better off hitting up a different sub, one dedicated to lifting/fitness. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/17 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Plate jealous of my financesIf that's the case I'd guess she's mad that he spent money on the apartment+renovations and none on her. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 02:57 PM |
| 2 | The Cost Of The Red Pill?First of all, why are you discussing red pill and women with your mother? Treat this shit like Fight Club. Second, you should feel enlightened that you now know you will be better off than 99% of the male population as long as you work for it. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Plate jealous of my financesIf she was demoted to plate than of course she is jealous. Imagine a girl breaks up with a guy, then he goes on to win the lottery a week later. If your financial situation improved after her demotion to plate, than she is going to be worried that another woman may take the place that she could have had. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 02:33 PM |
| 3 | How hard should I have mate guarded my LTR?Wtf. She cheated on you and you're asking if you should have stopped her from cheating? Girls don't cheat on guys that they are scared to lose. Sounds like you willingly got played. Read the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 27/02/17 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Parents found out I have started my sexual lifeIf anything, this should be the motivation to get out as soon as possible. Get a job to afford your own memberships. Keep killing it at school. Go cold with your parents. Do your chores or whatever, but don't be buddy-buddy with them. Gotta game everybody in your life, not just girls you want to fuck. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Is it too late to save my bpill friend?That's not rock bottom. For some, it only takes a painful breakup to seek change and TRP. For others, they won't become unplugged until they're divorced with 2 kids and stuck making alimony payments. Your efforts to teach him the ways of TRP are only gonna backfire. You have to let him learn on his own. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 05:15 PM |
| 2 | HELP! Thinking About Ending My LTR???Though to her credit I do feel like she has a lot of potential and I want to marry her and have my babies Cringeworthy. That's the beta part of you trying to rationalize your oneitis. Wtf is "potential". | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 04:16 PM |
| 5 | Am I stuck in this toxic attitude?You are only "stuck" if you allow yourself to be. You've taken the red pill idea of "respect yourself" and misinterpreted it into "disrespect women". Successful game doesn't come from a place of anger, which is how you come off right now. Go back and read the TRP literature, as right now you've got it all wrong. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 04:04 PM |
| 1 | being a avid gamer (video games) and being red pill/mgtow at the same time?Depends on your definition of avid. Winding down at the end of a productive day with an hour or two of gaming isn't bad. Nolife-ing World of Warcraft 24-7 is a terrible waste. Unless of course you are a professional streamer/youtuber and it's your job, but that's a unique situation. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 02:18 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with higher SMV guys? Should I get away from them until I am on the same level.Of course if a women is attracted to you she will enjoy the fact that you are changing for the better. However, if she has already categorized you as an unattractive beta orbiter she isn't just going to celebrate your transition to 'alpha'. She'll most likely try to pull you back in as an orbiter. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 01:08 PM |
| 7 | How to not act needy even though i'm in scarcity?This. One of the biggest mistakes I have seen on TRP is the idea that abundance mentality only refers to having more women. In reality, it simply means you have better shit to do. Why spend time playing games with a chick when you could be plotting world dominance? | /r/askTRP | 25/02/17 10:34 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with higher SMV guys? Should I get away from them until I am on the same level.Exactly. That's why it's not worth trying to game a woman who knew you as beta without any significant time of no contact. Also why people find it much easier to change when they move out of state or go off to college, etc. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/17 10:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with higher SMV guys? Should I get away from them until I am on the same level.If you feel that their presence is going to be detrimental to your own change than I would say to limit those interactions. Trying to make a change in the same environment is usually difficult because cognitive dissonance won't allow them to accept the "new you" and they will try to put you back in your "old role" so to speak. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/17 01:27 PM |
| 1 | ethical money problem with a friend (20k)He's practically asking you to risk 20k for his sole benefit. You get nothing out of it except putting your money at risk. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 04:31 PM |
| 1 | ethical money problem with a friend (20k)Incredibly insulting to the point I'd question his trustworthiness. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 04:13 PM |
| 3 | How many people who frequent TRP are *actually* crushing it in life?Honestly you don't know. All you can do is listen to the advice, compare it to your own experiences, use your common sense and make a decision. You can tell who some of the frauds are though. They post like they have some deep-seated hatred for women. To be honest, TRP isn't the type of community that you just subscribe to for years. Ideally most should hang around here for a couple months, gain the knowledge and motivation, then go out in the real world and crush it. There's no reason to still … | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 03:47 PM |
| 6 | Cheated on GF don't know what to doDecision is up to you but I will say that IMO when you go exclusive with a woman you are giving her your word. A man that can't keep his word shouldn't give it in the first place (in most cases). | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 03:26 PM |
| 1 | What are the best ways to improve frame and 'inner game'?Ok dude. You sound bitter that I'm telling this guy to build his confidence by bettering himself. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 03:09 PM |
| 1 | What are the best ways to improve frame and 'inner game'?Do you mean the lifting, competition, and success? I mean you can try to meditate on these concepts and tell yourself you are great or you can prove it to yourself by actually doing things. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Dudes that have made the beta to alpha change, what were some of you biggest "A-ha!" moments? Also, what were some of the biggest challenges you have to overcome?The hardest part is the transition; where you question every action or thought as beta vs alpha. Like every little thing. Every response, reply, reaction. After any social communication you think over it and possible ways you could have been more alpha. It's a fun period as you look at the world in a new and interesting way, but it can be annoying as you feel like your brain is overloaded sometimes. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 01:59 PM |
| 2 | What are the best ways to improve frame and 'inner game'?For starters I'd say focus on bettering yourself. Build a strong foundation by increasing your own self worth. If you're in school make sure you study hard, kill it at work, hit the gym, pick up a competitive activity and dominate that. Increasing your own self worth will allow these concepts to become ingrained into who you are, which is ultimately what you want. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/17 04:00 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with LTR stupidityI told her, that if she respected and loved me as she claims, she would follow my boundaries and wouldn't put me in situations like these Sounds like a bit of back-sliding on your part. Being alpha in a relationship isn't just making rules and boundaries. It's about maintaining a strong frame and SMV so that she's never want to cross any lines. Since you have this rule for her having male friends I guess you have no female friends? That plus living together means you have no competitive anxiety.… | /r/askTRP | 21/02/17 02:18 PM |
| 1 | I just saw my old oneitisDon't overthink it. There's even the possibility that your feelings were less about her and more about what she represents. | /r/askTRP | 18/02/17 09:51 AM |
| 2 | A Woman Just got me Fired For Starving her of My AttentionAs you just saw, someone did hold the ability to do that easily. As long as there is someone that holds such a position (boss, landlord, etc.), you have to be prepared that shit can go pear-shaped for you at a moment's notice. Btw, this situation seems to have been fucked up from the start. Having a boss who could be swayed into such a decision so easily was the problem, not the woman who joined. Was there any signs before that your boss was such an unreasonable person? If so, I would have looke… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/17 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Response to my ex, whom I had no contact with for month'sPersonally, since it's an ex-gf I'd play it safer because there's a good chance that she's just looking for validation. Like I said before the last thing you want to do is show a hint of desperation. From the way things sound, you really shouldn't have to do much. Read the mood, maybe some playful touches and teasing here and there. For reference, I slept with an ex before in a very similar situation. We hadn't spoken in almost a year and I had ignored her previous attempts to contact me. One da… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/17 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Response to my ex, whom I had no contact with for month'sYou already seem to be in a good position honestly. She's already shown signs of her dread by admitting that the pictures of you were killing her and her desperate texts. Her being the one driving to get you and drop you off is also good as she's the one putting all the effort in to make this meeting happen. As for what to do while hanging out, just don't get desperate. It's better to leave empty handed than to make a move that she can deny to feel good about herself. Play it cool, be engaging, … | /r/askTRP | 17/02/17 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Response to my ex, whom I had no contact with for month'sHonestly it depends what you want out of it. Do you want have sex or do you actually just want to chill out? | /r/askTRP | 17/02/17 11:53 AM |
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