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GLOBAL RESISTANCENonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:01 AM
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DISCUSSIONNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:18 PM
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LIES MEN TELLNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:20 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:17 AM
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DISCUSSIONNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:22 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:10 AM
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SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGYNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:20 PM
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NAH, SISNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:13 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨Nonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:32 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCENonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:34 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKNonsluttymen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:43 PM
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I think I understand side chicks even less than I understand men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:37 AM
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I commented in this thread last night. This asshole is suggesting this one month after his wife lost her mother, too. He’s an abusive nutcase. Someone commented that the biggest red flag is that he refuses couple’s counselling. I gotta say, in my experience, that is indeed a huge red flag too, even without the other displays of crazy assholery. Don’t get me wrong, couple’s therapy is not always a good idea because abusers can manipulate therapists, too, but outright refusal gives you the quickes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:32 PM
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I'm not going to get into detail, but my male ex starting abusing me in an extremely diabolical way once something very bad had happened to my looks. He had used the excuse that I had hurt him but I'm 100% sure he wouldn't have dared start severely abusing me if the issue with my looks had never happened. He knew I would have left at the first hint of abuse otherwise. He started abusing me severely in a myriad of messed up ways despite knowing my life had just turned upside down and I had just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:20 AM
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The 80s were a wild time. NGL, wondering what your diet was to have a waist that small. I’m a millennial who had the same hip measurement with a bigger waist and thought my ass wasn’t big enough 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:03 PM
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Yup. I know there are some good guys out there who don’t do this shit, but I feel like almost of all them get swooped up when they’re young. The older a guy is, the longer he’s been single, the worse the likelihood he’s community dick with poor intentions and a shady history. (Not saying that just because a guy has been in a relationship since his teens that he’s necessarily a good partner, because maybe he’s with a pick-me, but more dating app experience in single men is not a good thing for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:13 PM
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Nah, I didn’t know enough about him, I just remember an offhand comment of his and him sometimes being disliked by women and liked by male basement dwellers but never cared enough to do a deep dive. The guy is very verbose and takes forever to get to his points in other videos I’ve glanced at. I have no patience for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:50 PM
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It’s for a subreddit of the same name!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 07:42 PM
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IME, sex addicts also tend to have rapist tendencies. Maybe it’s the porn addiction that goes in hand, or maybe it’s misogyny. Who knows. I’m sick of masculinity being tied to sex addiction. It’s fucking disgusting. Virility needs to be redefined. Sexual impulsivity in men, men being able to fuck almost anyone and then actually doing so makes me lose all hope in romance. The worst part is there are men who unnecessarily shit on random women’s looks but then fuck women who are objectively worse l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:53 PM
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Noted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:49 PM
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I don’t want to look at most of the trash comments but there was one good one: that we are experiencing an epidemic of loneliness due to the commodification of sex and love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:47 PM
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Same. Their disease taints you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:41 PM
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I was writing a long response and lost it. You wrote nothing to counter my points except asked a question about less rape. Haven’t seen that being true, but if it is, I strongly suspect it’s because it’s become more and more known that rapists too often walk free, so very few rapes get reported. Plus, porn has corrupted the minds of young women and they sometimes doubt if they were raped because they constantly see rape scenarios in porn. The patriarchy is poison. Too bad women don’t tend to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:36 AM
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Lol, what, men getting bored of women is porn? Is that what you wrote? Seriously? Besides the list of ethical issues within the porn industry mostly falling on women in porn, and furthering misogyny and violence against women in general, in regards to monogamous relationships, porn is emotional infidelity. Having a non-sexual but romantic connection with someone outside of your marriage is considered emotional cheating. Regular consumption of porn to orgasm to is similar. Your brain cannot tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:17 AM
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Lol what is your logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:04 AM
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Pretty sure research shows that women get sexually bored of men faster. I guess women need variety more than men do! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:57 AM
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Case study: Rihanna had her nudes leaked. Years later, she is for this movement. I like Rihanna but I find it like Demi Lovato’s case of getting raped when drugged and then going back to the rapist to convince herself it was consensual sex - a trauma response. Even if it’s not, porn has proliferated our culture too much. We are not like the isolated African tribes where women walk around topless and men don’t blink an eye. It’s too late in developed countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:56 PM
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Yeah, my ex had a best friend who cheated on his girlfriend. This same ex said his worst fear was getting cheated on. My ex didn’t blink an eye when his friend cheated, and stayed the best of friends with him. He “soft-cheated” on me according to his own rules from the very beginning, blaming peer pressure from his friend, and that’s just the cheating I know about before it became abusively non-monogamous only on his side for years. I’m willing to bet he cheated on me in worse ways than I know e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:26 PM
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I wouldn’t word it quite so negatively. I would instead say that it takes a lot for me to trust a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:21 PM
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Wtf? Was the perpetrator a family member? Did you try talking to your brothers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:27 PM
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I’ve literally had nightmares with storylines like this and this right here manages to be worse. This story ruined my day and I don’t even know them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:15 PM
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Yeah, I read half of that book and didn’t feel up to reading it all. I was not faultless but it got a million times worse in terms of his behaviour after that, unfortunately because I started to (mistakenly) think that maybe I had been wrong about him not truly caring about me. I wish I knew back then that it was about power and control for him, and that I was originally right to feel like he didn’t truly love me. I could seriously write a very depressing horror novel about it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:19 AM
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Maybe if their heads weren’t stuck so far up their own asses all the time, they’d be able to read us as well as we can read them. It might take us longer sometimes and we might not always know exactly what is “off,” but we feel it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:46 AM
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This. When I broke up with my ex years ago, he didn’t express much emotion. Granted, we had “broken up” for like an hour several times before during our arguments, but this time I had done it with no argument beforehand. He didn’t take me seriously and kept calling me like usual. Soon after the breakup, I told him I was talking to someone else and he flipped the fuck out. He was obviously angry that he was losing “control” of me to someone new, even though we had been on the rocks for quite some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:31 AM
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Not a TikTok user but interested in which content you’re referring to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:52 AM
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Yeah, he literally said in an interview that it was time for him to get married or some similarly aggravating equivalence to the OP. Hailey literally bends over backwards to take his abuse (caught on camera) and she’d been idolizing him for years beforehand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:49 AM
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He better not or revenge porn laws will lock up his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:31 AM
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Oh shit, I think you hit the nail on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:25 AM
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Check out the narcissist porn video in my recent posts. The guy talks about exactly this phenomena.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:20 AM
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This is one of the reasons why I regret making the first move in the past. Made it too easy and convenient. They’ll just take what they can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:20 AM
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Maybe it’s the use of “they” pronouns that makes it feel like he’s hiding something? Plus the first paragraph. Even if his partner is not a woman, it tells you something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:01 AM
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So glad that the podcast is doing so well. There have been few episodes that I’ve disliked from 2021. One of your episodes was my favorite podcast I’ve ever heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:50 PM
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Who’s going to tell them we can absolutely figuratively look down on men twice our size lmao. Do they see women worshipping gorillas? Because that’s how many of them come across to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:52 PM
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I am not surprised at all. I think revelations like this are a clue that we are wary of porn addicted men for even more legitimate reasons than we are typically consciously aware of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:43 PM
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Totally agree. It’s all too familiar of a situation to me. How is such a situation articulated? Does it count as emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, bullying or just the guy being an asshole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:54 PM
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No responsibility, no reward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:15 PM
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I would love if you posted this in the non slutty men community, which is basically almost all crossposts from FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:21 PM
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Him: “I was very clear I would not be willing to compromise on my bedtime” Also him: “As if she didn’t know living with me would require compromises on her part”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 08:04 PM
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Similar story here. He was always on the internet, jerking off to porn and had no real empathy. He just faked it a bit when it didn’t cost him any compromise. Not sure how I suppressed my disgust for him as long as I did. Oh yeah, dick can cast a spell over you for a good amount of time… literally all he was good for, now that I see he faked everything good about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:28 AM
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Like with many traits, either extreme end of the spectrum in something is often a bad sign, i.e. no pride at all and excessive pride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:01 AM
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Lol. Reading books in public is also a good conversation starter and weeds out guys with little empathy. How? Research shows that reading books increases one’s empathy. If a guy hates books and never wants to read one, ladies, you have yourself a scrote who is very unlikely to be able to put himself into someone else’s shoes. (Shows and movies don’t even come close.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:57 AM
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He probably had saved your pics to “use”😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:14 AM
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You did good. It could be what you suspected, or that he was a narcissist who wanted to monopolize your time as much as possible and isolate you over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:51 PM
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Be relentless with steering the subject back if they try to switch it up on you. Take it from someone who took years of narcissistic abuse. My last conversation with my nex, I steered the topic back to him taking accountability for having had no empathy. He gave a non-response (word salad) before saying he had to go, I called it out, thanked him for proving me right and said he was free to go, and he despondently responded saying this was the last time we were speaking. Lmao. Point is, be firm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:39 AM
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Totes. Rihanna needs to include lumberjack getups in her male lingerie line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:35 AM
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Oh yeah, I don’t dispute compound lifts raising T. I would feel the effects myself when I’d lift. I’m just wondering why woodchopping specifically. The axe isn’t that heavy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:25 AM
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Really? I wonder why that is. I've always found woodsy essential oils to be very sexy on men. Maybe this reason ties in as to why, haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:11 AM
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I don’t think it would have been the biggest factor at all, but perhaps one of many, given how she had written about it. As someone who used to exclusively post in male-dominated bodybuilding forums, this ageism towards relatively young women has been a thing for a very long time. Also as someone with an ex who valued porn over me, who noticeably kept ogling the youngest possible porn “actresses” even as we got older, and who also habitually insulted the looks of other women unnecessarily - my h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:33 PM
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Yeah, I stopped reading his website in the late 2000s because he is indeed of poor character. However, after looking at other sources, and remembering how he is, I looked it up on his website and the story confirmed what I suspected upon hearing of the news elsewhere. This is a woman who partook in one of the biggest patriarchal practises in life in the western world - pageantry, and she just so happened to take her own life at 30. I mean, I'm sure there were probably other factors as well, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 07:55 PM
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What a disgusting herpdick. These women are probably mentally ill and after his cash. Does he get alimony from Mariah Carey? Lol These poor children are going to be so psychologically messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:51 AM
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Epigenetics are also a thing. Stress during a pregnancy can affect the baby for life in so many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:59 PM
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Me three. You couldn’t pay me to mother that man’s child and on top of that, have his loathsome family influence my child. I can’t believe women are treating a pregnant woman like this. Traitors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:13 AM
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Women have sacrificed themselves for men a million times over too much already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:55 AM
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I think my subconscious was trying to tell me something when I kept singing this song a few years back, after never really being a fan. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:51 PM
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Thanks! I’ll save it to watch later. I’m also watching yet another video of this guy, Prof. Sam Vaknin, and just twenty minutes in, it’s so much real talk about the state of the world… it’s called: Narcissistic AutoErotic Dating (Talk with Genevieve DiNatale). It’s a must watch so far, though, and the stats he cites are pretty shocking and revealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:10 AM
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This brings up all kinds of triggers from my own history. So happy for you, internet stranger. I'm misty eyed. We all deserve better. As an aside, I wonder what your misogynistic yet high status job was. Misogyny has been the root cause of so many problems in my life as a woman, so I think we really need to focus on vanquishing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 05:24 PM
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I can’t take life on this planet anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:37 PM
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I haven't read the book but I have an inkling. When you're seeing him in person, don't always see him alone. I know this isn't that feasible during the pandemic, but if you're at least hanging out with him and a few other people, you still get to know him, with the benefit of an alternate perspective, although you're not investing yourself into just him as seriously. If he wants to turn things romantic, he'll have to make an effort to take you out. Also, obviously, don't have sex with him before…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:37 PM
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It’s got pick-me vibes but TBH, journaling is one of the best ways to catch red flags because let’s be honest, we’ not going to remember everything. It can save you years of heartache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:46 AM
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Psychopaths. At this point, it’s just safest to assume any guy who wants casual sex is a psycho like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:53 PM
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God I really wish I’d used this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:40 AM
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I couldn’t even read everything you wrote. I had to just glance at some phrases and even that was too much. Horrifying. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:53 AM
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That’s even way too low of an expectation, TBH. Not all guys bald as they age, even though someone in the FDS podcast mentioned that all guys should save for a hair transplant fund so they can at least be making some effort in their looks like their women do, like Machine Gun Kelly who got plugs and now dates Megan Fox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:47 AM
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As someone who barely slept for a three year period , I can personally attest that severe sleep deprivation is a living hell and fucks up your brain, making you a strung out shell of your former self. It becomes even more unbearable when some people think you’re exaggerating about how bad it is. Add pregnancy/birth recovery and a screaming baby 24/7 who constantly needs to be attended to? Yeesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:37 AM
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Where I am, we have to show proof of vaccination along with an ID card to get into restaurants and other venues. 100% ask to see his ID card at that point in time if you met online. I’ve done this even before the pandemic. Can’t be too careful with all the liars out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:59 PM
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Yup! A difficult lesson to learn is to discern the difference between a man who says he loves you but really just wants to own you, and a man who actually loves you. If it’s you who almost always has to conform to his will, sister, you love him but he doesn’t actually love you. It’s not just about what’s expected of him, but what he could do within reason to support your happiness. Denial of this realization at first is an expected defence mechanism, but sooner or later, you have to come to term…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:57 AM
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Something like this literally happened to me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:25 PM
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Texting all day, and texting about deep stuff to get to know each other, is kind of a yellow flag. It may possibly be due to covid, it might also be social anxiety, depression, lack of time or laziness, but one of the worst things it might be is a very subtle sign of a personality disorder. This is how narcissists have hooked me in the past, by getting me to “know” them via instant messaging or by text. You can’t see their face when they tell you about themselves, thus you can’t see any micro-ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:54 PM
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Animals are better. Humans have many more partners than the average animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:29 AM
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I think the market is ripe for some FDS-aligned song lyrics from some new female artists. If any of you are aspiring musicians, please, get on that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:33 PM
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Crossposted to non slutty men. It’s a step in the right direction. I wish the actual song was better musically. Lyrics: “If you want my love He gotta do what he does If you want these sweet like sugar Gucci lips He gotta give it up I know you think I'm cool But I ain't one of the boys No, don't be scared that I'm gon' tie you down I need a little more Baby, don't call me your friend If I hear that word again You might never get a chance to see me naked in your bed And I know girls ain't hard to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:29 AM
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The subreddit by the same name as my username says it all: let fuckboys die alone. They are toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:20 AM
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You know, speaking to other women, it's come to my attention that way too many ladies will date men who they are not physically attracted to at all, but they somehow rationalize it to themselves by thinking that the guy is somewhat objectively alright physically, which is not the same thing at all. Yes, being repulsed by the guy's personality will beyond a doubt severely affect your sexual attraction to him, but in my personal experience, if you were ever actually physically attracted to him in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:07 PM
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"All his exes had serious mental health issues" = it's likely that he may have caused these issues, or really exacerbated any pre-existing issues, or is exaggerating/lying for whatever motive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 08:15 PM
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If I could help it, I wouldn't give massages to men if I were a masseuse. As a woman, I always ask for a woman, as I'm sure many other women do. This reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where George Costanza feels weird getting a massage by a man in case it "excites" him. It's not like he was asking for a happy ending massage in the episode, if I recall correctly, but sexual undertones were nonetheless implied for the female masseuse massage he wanted. Binge watching that show is like getting an am…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:47 PM
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They 100 percent do have intercourse. I saw a google review complaining that protection wasn’t provided. Another comment here said they don’t keep condoms around because apparently that’s what would provide irrefutable evidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:43 PM
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I feel like it should be mandatory for half of police to be female, and more women should be in charge of investigations while men should primarily just act as muscle. I get the sense that too many male cops like to jerk off to rape victim stories they heard earlier that day. Plus the fact that they don’t do shit about these brothels so they can use them themselves since they’re in positions of power. Defund the police? It should be de-male the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:21 PM
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What is the point of dating and procreating with men when these things exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:16 PM
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I see many who are advertised as being from here, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:13 PM
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Wife, girlfriend, FWB…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:12 PM
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One of the google reviews for a place I saw complained that a woman did not care about using protection. Isn’t this enough evidence to close this shit down?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:10 PM
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That's the stuff! Reposted to the subreddit that is the same as my username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:48 PM
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The essence of their being is self-delusion and deluding others that they’re not empty vessels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:55 AM
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Narcissist level 9000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:03 PM
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Besides the fact that, on average, women are just better human beings than men (looking at gender crime statistics verifies this) - it's about equity. What is equity? This image explains it: http://culturalorganizing.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/IISC_EqualityEquity.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:14 PM
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Misogyny in Canada as measured by male violence against women has only gotten worse since. May evil pricks like this get what's coming to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:21 AM
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I noticed this in myself, definitely. The pattern was parents and exes all having narcissistic personality disorder or close to it. It’s like we’re recreating those relationships so maybe this time, they’ll finally actually love us for real. Spoiler: they don’t, not even close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:00 AM
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Am I a special snowflake because if I had an ex I still carried a bit of a torch for, seeing him get married would completely extinguish that dying flame. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:23 AM
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Reminder that you don't know anyone at only 2 months in and that men especially are more likely to fake their personalities to hook you in. Seriously, I've seen the true side of some guys and have thought they deserve an Oscar for their performances in order to snag a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:56 PM
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Can I just throw in a somewhat relevant tangent? I like many other women was attracted to tall men, not exclusively, but still. I suppose it was the feeling that they could protect me and the sexual dimorphism. Well, ladies, I’ve never come across less protective men than the tall ones. Besides the fact they were wolves in the end themselves, they would throw me to the wolves in various contexts, specifically socially around other men. Be careful out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 06:23 PM
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Does this book mention the dramatic rise of the misogynistic porn industry or so-called sex positivity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:59 PM
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I think this thread will get deleted but that’s how you know you’re related to a psychopath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:27 PM
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It can take much, much longer than a year. Hot tip: Vet their families. If they have a scrote brother or father, even if the guy speaks badly of their actions, chances are that he’s more like them than he lets on in front of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:39 AM
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Maybe it’s some trick or attempt into feigning intimacy, like something only an established couple would do. Scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:37 AM
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Nothing hints at likely mental illness in a man more than him being completely covered in tattoos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:23 PM
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I don’t think these things exist in all countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:55 AM
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Even though that particular action is nice, don't let a guy set up your computer or phone. He may be adding spy software to it - not even kidding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:54 PM
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It's so fucking gross when men need to finish themselves via their own hand after sex. They're so porn-fried that they can't even carry out their purpose as impregnating an actual naked, consenting woman in front of them. Let them be removed from the gene pool. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:38 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. I just wish that high schools taught basic psychology, teaching things like personality disorders and that cognitive dissonance can cause tension and anger in a person. It would save people (women) a lot of wasted time, life damage and trauma bonds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:47 PM
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Totally. Unfortunately, there are lots of instances of women living in cognitive dissonance. I know I was in a situation where I was both aware of trust-breaking red flags yet was also living with the prior belief that he was the only person in the world I could truly trust. It was too scary to come to terms with the recently emerged red flags and it was easier to let him gaslight me into trying to ignore them at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:23 PM
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I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self this thing about the device thing. I did exactly that yet stayed. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:46 PM
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First of all, she's super gorgeous. Secondly, this guy just gives off major meathead vibes, and like his primary concern is showing off to other men that he's "powerful" and can "own" a woman. Lastly, yes, too many men seem to be concerned with dating someone for status with other men rather than how much of a good fit they are. I've seen men reject pretty, sweet and accomplished women that ought to be super compatible with them because the women were on the chubbier side, even though the guy wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:47 PM
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Holy crap. Where have you heard this? I wanted to write female PI in my OP but already thought I was likely going too far. Maybe not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:07 PM
23

Yeah, it’s probably true. The problem is when people in your life ask you to justify your life altering decision to leave. Men especially tend to shame women for leaving relationships at “later” ages. Pick-me moms are also guilty of doing this to their daughters, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:37 PM
3

Who said anything about getting a man to pay your credit card bills? It’s about the men being good company and good fathers for women interested in having children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:34 PM
33

Funny how his cutoff age is 24 since the human brain finishes developing at 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:18 PM
51

It’s not even no male friends, it’s not making new male friends and not seeing existing ones alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:34 PM
33

Lol I don’t think the kid understands, nor should he at that age, but maybe there is hope yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:00 AM
12

As someone who was in a similar situation… Do not ever allow a guy that you are vetting any time to answer this question. Ask to see his porn right that moment on his device, and if he tries to shut it down or is afraid of you touching his smartphone or computer, you have your answer. He is just concerned with gaining/retaining sexual access to you and knows you would feel betrayed and/or disgusted by what he orgasms to regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:09 PM
13

Platonic friendships don’t require anywhere near the same commitment so they don’t seem to do it in those instances anywhere near as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:44 PM
6

Amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:59 PM
63

^ Every man ever who wants an*l
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:53 PM
455

By sheer volume of shit we have to deal with, it should be women losing their minds and shooting up malls and schools, targeting only men, but the actual reality is it’s always only pathetic, entitled men who are mad that supermodel-like women don’t want their peepees. If we had to generalize, men are fucking nutjobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:00 PM
128

Why should we give in to men’s desire to subjugate us? It only gets worse when you see the pattern of guys making more money being more likely to be cheaters. Men like this are scrotes. I just hope it’s not all of them. Edit to add: I am now much more likely to avoid any movies in which he acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:26 PM
2

Cut off age? It’s not about age. It’s about how you feel for the other person. The red flag is never falling in love and staying in that relationship for so long regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:46 AM
171

During our fallout years ago, my ex friend’s boyfriend secretly told me that he wasn’t sure if he actually loved my friend. They had been together for years at that point. They’re still together. This seems to be uncomfortably common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:47 AM
56

To be fair, the cost of housing in Canada has absolutely skyrocketed during the pandemic, i.e. hundreds of thousands of dollars increase for a single detached home since early last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:49 AM
130

This guy just helped me realize that I am generally not attracted to most men I just see or meet for the first time overwhelmingly because I assume they have a shitty, misogynistic personality unlike his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:08 AM
38

Yup. Got with a guy when he was an unmotivated loser. When my life went to shit, he abused me, shamed me for feeling depressed and left me completely when I finally put up a boundary after stringing me along with years of this. He used the excuse that I hurt him, but did everything in his power to deflect how he’d been hurting me for years beforehand. The level of entitlement is vomit inducing. Don’t raise your daughters on Disney’s brainwashing crap. Men aren’t worth our love and devotion unles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:23 AM
283

Consume filth, become filth. It’s like the sayings of “you are what you eat” and “you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” If you continue pollute your brain with perversions so others can make a buck off of your sexuality, you will pollute your entire sexuality. It just so happens that men are the weak-minded gender when it comes to this, and only the more ethical and smarter ones will be self-aware enough to resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 07:13 PM
26

I’m going to presume it’s because women have much higher levels of oxytocin and feel more of a bond to their male partners, whereas men are way more superficial and just see women as interchangeable sex objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 05:03 PM
19

Have some compassion for your younger and more naive self for buying patriarchal brainwashing that only male sexuality matters and that women’s role is just to be desired by men. I don’t blame you at all. I think a lot of us have been there, giving the ugly guy a chance because of our negative state of mind. At least now you know better, that a man needs to appeal to you in more ways than one to deserve that kind of attention from you. Keep healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:57 PM
13

Oh my god, this post needs to be pinned. This is so, so fucking true. It can take years to see, sometimes, especially if you’re young, and that is when they can do the most damage - when you’re trying to establish your life. It will take you even longer to see if you become isolated over the course of the relationship, or if other problems (perhaps perpetuated by them) take a front seat in your life. I cannot emphasize enough how true this post is. There are men who are so insidiously toxic that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:38 PM
9

It’s like, yeah bro, everyone’s laughing at you. That ain’t gonna help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:48 PM
3

I already shared them above
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:42 PM
347

Don’t engage or: https://youtu.be/QXAa99LHWwg At least she caught the guy with testicles for brains on camera. This video should be posted everywhere. Being a woman is actually the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:13 PM
68

I have a list of scenario-based questions I keep in my notes app on my phone that I got from a book called, “The book of questions.” Granted, they could still lie, but the more open-ended questions tend to be more revealing even if they do put on a fake persona, especially if you’re asking them several of these questions like a get-to-know-you game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:20 PM
3

A lot of men don’t have troubled relationships with their moms and still fantasize about hurting women in sexual contexts. Whatever the reasons are - misogyny, socialization, porn, toxic masculinity - these men are scum. I feel so triggered just reading this. This guy was a narcissist, pathological liar and misogynist at the minimum. These are sick men who are obsessed with power and fake any integrity, good values and empathy, but who expect it from others. Reminds of Joe from the show “You” an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:27 PM
39

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:23 AM
8

Thanks so much. Your response is on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:42 PM
26

I’m so sorry. What a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:18 PM
30

He doesn’t actually care about your well being. He only pretends to when it benefits him. It is a massive show of disrespect and objectification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:16 PM
67

That’s 2 levels of r*pe in one session. I’m sorry. I relate. These men are monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:12 PM
102

Someone who lies about that is someone who lies about everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:00 AM
65

It’s because these women aren’t even attracted to these men physically, either, they’re just getting off on being found attractive themselves and having a guy at all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:06 PM
16

Exactly. I could only watch a few seconds of the video before I had to X out because I recognized my own post-abuse demeanour in her so much. This is a woman who has been through hell and back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:19 PM
19

“Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men” by Lundy Bancroft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:50 PM
109

Let the scrotes be forlorn and get lost in their porn Crying ‘bout their issues into cum-stained tissues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:56 AM
62

I’ve seen the exact same thing happen - a Gen x getting falsies because of a Gen z. A retinal tear to look a few percentage points better for MEN?! We are failing our sisters. It is NEVER worth risking our health to appeal more to MEN. Trust me. These things can ruin your life, and for what? These things will only attract the men who see their female partners as trophies. Men don’t treat trophies with empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:49 AM
117

I just meant that many Gen z girls and women are wearing fake nails every.single.day. I hear through people I know that their female friends, who are already very attractive, are even “photoshopping” their social media photos to look curvier as well. It’s ridiculous and our society is getting noticeably sicker by the year, but so many men encourage it despite all the headlines. They may vocalize disapproval to you and in front of others to project their “nice” guy image, but their actions of con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:16 AM
359

10-15 years ago, no one wore fake lashes, fake nails, nor did a 30 minute makeup routine every time they left the house. Now these things are everywhere thanks to porn culture proliferating dating culture. People used to also take photos with actual digital cameras without filters, sans freaking out over looking “bad” from looking at their actual face…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:18 PM
553

Another vote for gang rape here. Whatever degree of depravity this is, this is horrifying. Ladies, don’t be afraid to post these gruesome headlines on other social media. Our silence is how they pervert our dating culture like this to the point of killing us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:09 AM
32

Disgusting. Absolutely revolting. The audacity. Just, why? What goes through the head of guys like these? It reminds me of those serial killers who kill kittens. They just like feeling power and have zero empathy, even if it involves innocent beings who think the best of others. Ladies, please find a way to inform the wives and girlfriends of these scrotes. There are tons of ways to do it anonymously if need be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:29 AM
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One word: PATRIARCHY Manwhores disgust me, especially unethical, hypocritical ones who lose their fucking minds when they get cheated on, but who cheat whenever they please on their female partners. These men feel no guilt and no remorse. They are absolute monsters. The term “player” should almost be synonymous with psychopath. Please join my subreddit by the same name of my username so we can start changing the narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:06 AM
169

Girl… if he needs convincing… he ain’t the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 05:14 AM
46

Yeah, I don’t like that either, the bit about fetishizing a woman yelping out in pain. However, PSA, I guess, I vocalize even when I’m alone, without using any sort of sex toy. Dicks and dildos aren’t all that. Some women are just vocal. Some are not. Letting sexual tension build up is how you have the best orgasms, whether alone or with someone. Guess what, scrotes, treating a lady well over a long period of time builds that sexual tension.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:52 AM
27

Yeah, it feels like a sneeze when you’re just going through the motions (if you even get there). Which is why I think probably having sex maybe three times a week is the sweet spot. You don’t get as tired of each other doing it every day, and hopefully, saving all your sexual energy for each other on the days off. Unfortunately, most guys these days spoil their appetite with porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:43 AM
70

Men orgasm waaaaaaay more consistently but women are the ones who get toe-curling orgasms at least once in a while. I’ve heard men describe their orgasms as if it was a “sneeze” of sexual release. Women can have a hard time shutting up vocally, or our bodies can writhe involuntarily for thirty seconds because of an orgasm, or experience several orgasms simultaneously. Obviously, that kind of sex is not typically the sex you’d be getting regularly from a LVM. So, I respectfully disagree. The prob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:32 AM
14

You know, women being angry with their male partners obsessing over porn is more common than previously thought. I did a Reddit search for something completely irrelevant and lacking in the right keywords, but I kept coming across posts about couples arguing because of excessive porn use by the male partner. Granted, there were a lot of pickmeishas trying to give their male partners the benefit of the doubt and stooping to their level, yet the situation still would escalate despite her efforts (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:02 PM
16

This is kind of the premise of the movie “Hustlers” but with libfems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:52 PM
36

All this misery just so they can say in the future that they were married at some point. Your lady relative is pitiable. God. Having “thirds” as a condition…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:16 PM
43

They probably arrogantly think that being a slow swimmer is certainly the only way it’s defective. They think they know everything but they obviously don’t. Medicine is a lot more barbaric and experimental than people realize. Sometimes that’s necessary to save lives, but don’t mess with things that are not necessary. It’s not like sperm is in limited supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:13 PM
190

This is the first time I hear of nanobots. Absolutely terrifying. For cultural context, doctors have been implanting textured silicone breast implants that have been poisoning women for decades, with the medical community just realizing this in the past 5 years or less, yet they want to do this? AND THIS IS WHAT THEY USE IT FOR, TO YET AGAIN, CONTROL WOMEN’S REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS?! (This is the same month that Texas implemented the 6 week abortion bill. You know, the one without exceptions for rap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:01 AM
143

Same exact shit here. My male relative got paid to mow the grass, but I was not allowed and never got paid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:53 PM
42

They’ll still want sex, just not as often as you’re willing to have it, because he would rather masturbate to new porn material all the time. He’ll take you for granted and think you have the rest of your lives to fuck. So, if you don’t live together, he’ll be too “busy” to see you even just a bit more often, but yes, he could appear to be loving otherwise. (PS: Since you used the word “pressure,” I personally don’t think only men should be initiating sex when in a relationship. If it’s always t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:01 PM
3

It’s nothing to do with that practise or office. It’s a regulatory body that governs all members of that health profession within that province or state. They have the power to suspend or revoke licenses. You typically just have to write and mail a letter according to a template on their website.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:42 PM
13

Making inappropriate jokes or bluffs to “see your reaction” is a red flag for the guy being a deceitful narcissist. It’s this weird power game they play with others’ emotions. They’re all about power and control rather than a mutually caring relationship. In my opinion, it’s emotional abuse that flies under the radar when it’s done often enough for less obviously offensive things. This story, though, is just absolutely ridiculous. At least he showed his true colours right away. Not everyone is t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:33 PM
81

It can go the other way, too. If he can stay hard but is only interested in fucking once a week with a supposedly sky-high libido, dump his ass. There are so many other reasons as well in addition to this post. FTND.org is a good starting resource and sells anti-porn merchandise and stickers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:12 PM
198

I hope she found and told his partner. I hope this catches on and becomes a trend. Pretending to be interested in two-timing men, then outing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:58 PM
7

Report him to his professional order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:36 AM
3

What the OP replied. None of the things you listed are personality disorders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:33 AM
24

There are plenty of health professionals, whether they’re psychologists or surgeons, who have personality disorders themselves. No one ever checks for that and prevents these people from becoming a member of one of these healthcare professions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:45 PM
84

I’m not sure why so many women want children, specifically female children, that will have to suffer a likely even worse fate. I understand adoption, but why create more lives that will likely be miserable? Just so they can force someone to love them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:40 PM
14

I got you! r/nonsluttymen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:00 PM
3

Taking care of a sick parent in itself is not low value, but it might be a low value situation. My ex actually fits to a sufficient degree with his mother what the OP described. He was the sibling of three who apparently took the most care of his father, who had become disabled from a stroke. He used his stroke victim father as a huge smokescreen to “prove” how good of a person he was, but my ex was secretly evil with an undiagnosed personality disorder (or several). Note that his brother refuse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:24 AM
7

Too little information. Not everything in this post will apply to men like this. Like a medical illness, you will need a more comprehensive understanding of the situation, but some differing symptoms may present in different people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 10:53 PM
18

It’s amazing how a guy can go from looking so handsome when you’re in love with him, to him looking like a troll to you if the relationship ends badly. Or maybe it’s just that men age so rapidly compared to women, or even that their horrible personalities start making their faces match as they age? Who knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:14 PM
2

Contact his exes to tell them, making sure to tell them they’re just one of several.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:09 PM
33

It’s funny how an industry that’s supposed to be about pleasure causes nothing but pain all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:20 AM
8

So, he says she’s crazy and violent, but doesn’t even bother to go to court to get at least some custody of his child who is in full time custody of an alleged wacko? He either doesn’t care about his own child or they’re false allegations. It’s been 4 years, almost the child’s whole lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:16 PM
17

The child can’t be left alone with him, yet he says she is the crazy one. Him having photos of injuries means little. He could have assaulted her first. It could be from someone other than her. It could have been accidental. Anything. Even if it was her, why is she the one with custody and he needs to be the one who is supervised? Typically, fathers are left alone with their children unless they’ve proven themselves dangerous. His own kid is not comfortable around him? You have to question why. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:37 PM
3

This would make sense. Is it your personal observation or something that is said by mental health professionals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:14 PM
170

Awesome. I wish they could be castrated, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:37 PM
14

I can vouch for this. I was never abused worse by my ex than when I was at my most vulnerable, at the lowest point in my life. He used my vulnerability to hurt me further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:16 PM
20

Terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:09 PM
79

Yup. My ex coerced my consent for a dangerous act that terrified, disgusted and humiliated me, and I realize now he probably date raped at least one other woman. He absolutely refused to criticize porn in any way, even after telling him for years about not only about the industry itself, but how he was hurting me. These men are dangerous but it’s not always so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:08 PM
18

Not the person who had this idea, but I would probably have an online, private diary guarded by a password manager app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:46 PM
50

This. I wished I had done this when I discovered over a decade later that I had wasted a huge portion of my life on a gaslighting, pathologically lying, extremely toxic asshole who got me to fall in love with him by frosting his shit cake with lots of rainbow icing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:18 PM
123

He should be the Marty to your Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:16 PM
194

Just another hypothetical scenario to dump a guy who won’t let you anywhere near his devices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:25 PM
11

Use change.org. I think this might be how the Canadian government was incentivized to look at Mindgeek’s sex crime enablement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:12 PM
62

It’s not just allergies and food. I know a couple where the husband didn’t believe the wife’s disease was really making her sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:09 PM
135

She fucks him two minutes later. They’re both cheating. It is not FDS friendly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:40 PM
131

He’s likely a manwhore and he is forever desensitized. It won’t happen for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:36 PM
66

Went to go look it up. I am thoroughly disappointed. The song isn’t good either (although I like her earlier songs) and her vocal style doesn’t mesh well at all with the pornified vibe of the video. What happened to her wanting to be valued for her talent and not her sexuality? I feel like this is likely an angle her label has taken to maximize profits but who knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:19 PM
2

I’m another person who also doesn’t know what Letterboxd is, but can you please explain why these movies would be red flags? I can see your point in some of them that I’ve watched but I don’t understand where you’re coming from for others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:54 PM
35

It’s them literally asking you what value you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:42 PM
55

I hate this. I wish Reddit could be sued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:22 PM
11

You’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:11 PM
5

If you’re able to find it again, please PM me. If you commented on it but the post is deleted, I can likely recover it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:05 PM
4

His story wasn’t that they approached and met her that day. He said his friend already knew her and they arranged to go pick her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:01 PM
7

You heard what, exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:00 PM
8

Do you think a prostitute, meaning purchased “consent,” or literal rape?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:03 PM
26

I had asked multiple times if it was and he had kept saying paying for a prostitute was not desirable because the woman doesn’t actually want him, but yeah, it really does sound fake. Make it make sense 😭 Also, he used almost the exact same line on another, regular woman he pumped and dumped. (If she lost the game they were playing, would she blow him.)🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:48 PM
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Neither, apparently, she was a nymphomaniac 15 years their senior who one of them had previously met. They picked her up and brought her to one of their houses. They all individually took turns with her in the car and/or house. My piece of shit ex had two turns with her. He tried to sell it to me as him being in a fucked up place after losing his ex and being a cocaine addict, thinking he would “never get another girlfriend” (which makes no sense). After we broke up, he was the ultimate communit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:39 PM
12

There are also the same guys you see constantly on a variety of dating apps over a long period of time. It’s like they’re paying to be at the top of the stack in multiple apps. Even though I didn’t have a strong opinion on them when I first saw their profile, it makes you smell their desperation and they end up being repulsive to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:59 PM
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Oh no, there are cowards who also turn out to be very, very shitty, managing to fake confidence and do outlandish things. It’s unbelievable. Want an example? An ex I had when I was younger was afraid to go buy condoms himself. How he lost his virginity? He passed around a woman off the street with three other friends in the same day. He asked her if she would blow him if he proved something about his identity with an ID card. Asked two of this ex’s friends about him hanging out with other women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:36 PM
1

Me too. Me giving men the benefit of the doubt tainted my life trajectory forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:51 AM
13

Jesus Christ, this is depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:48 PM
15

Heavily discounted on the real price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:39 PM
10

I had no idea the ring was for that. 🤡 All I’ve ever seen are movies where the ring is given back to the man when they break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:38 PM
7

My ex literally went to a regular strip club without asking me first, then years later banned me from going to a male strip club, even though at the male strip club, you can’t touch them at all but the regular strip clubs, all the strippers are hustling to make you pay to touch them via a lap dance or by prostituting themselves. They come up to you with their naked tits in your face, touching you to try to make you buy. Yet, my ex claimed nothing at all happened, and that no one came near him. R…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:32 PM
43

Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:40 PM
26

That excuse is complete bullshit. I would know. I’ve had it used on me. He didn’t even like the guy but felt no loyalty to his girlfriend at the height of the relationship? Yeah, no, he just wanted to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:38 PM
13

Cheating is anything that involves not wanting to show your partner anything that involves other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:22 AM
31

When will we be able to genetically engineer men into being actual humans with a moral compass? In the meantime, it looks like how you ask him that question will be a tricky operation toeing the line between pretending to be the cool girl and what you really think. A man would need to wear an ankle bracelet GPS to be desirable to me for commitment at this point. Yet, somehow, they’re getting worse and some are even resorting to stealthing and knocking up random women to pass on their shitty “leg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:18 PM
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I’m about to cry because I identify with so much of what you have said. So, so much, the only big difference is that I never got into his phone (that he guarded with his life) and I found out he was a pathological liar in other ways. All signs point to him having cheated for years on top of the hell he put me through. Going from trusting someone with your life since you were a teenager to not knowing who this person is that was the center of your life for years is one of the most traumatizing th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:46 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. It’s just like when rape victims go back to their perpetrators to make themselves feel like the rape was consensual sex (i.e. Demi Lovato’s experience). It’s all just women who’ve faced adversity trying to take control and making themselves feel like their traumatic experiences weren’t so. Then, men speak ill of these women. What about men who are sexually deviant and promiscuous? Are many of them that way because of sexual assault? No, they’re just predatory egomaniac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:19 PM
42

Wait, men are pretending to have lower body counts than they really do to new women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:10 PM
23

Women literally feel shame and worthlessness CONSTANTLY just for being women because misogyny is EVERYWHERE. What planet do these assholes live on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:42 AM
13

It’s the ratio of hookups to gfs. If most of his previous sex “partners” were hookups/one night stands = 🚩🚩🚩 Don’t ask him these questions within the same conversation to find out. Also, hookups should include sexual activities/foreplay, not just intercourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:34 AM
10

Crossposting this to a subreddit that is all about shaming promiscuous men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:22 AM
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Crossposting this thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:04 AM
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Yes but at least that risks financial loss for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:25 PM
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The pervasiveness of casual sex in popular culture and entertainment is like the ultimate manifestation of toxic masculinity in this patriarchal society - expecting people, especially women, to do the most intimate of acts with no associated emotion, or repressing any emotion, and somehow being proud of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:25 AM
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How does he have such beautiful skin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:51 AM
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He just didn’t want you to be in charge if he wasn’t stupid🙄. End of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:44 AM
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I’ve noticed this. I guess single women who want kids regardless should seek out sperm from donors who are as young as possible. The wall exists... for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:28 AM
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Women often do it for one same reason manwhores do it. To “prove” to themselves that someone is attracted to them. Unfortunately, the “attraction” is often fake on both sides, stemming from projection, ego, etc. However, it’s especially often fake from the man’s side. They’ll sleep with the exact same “unattractive” women they say they’d never sleep with. We need a PSA to women about random men sleeping with them not being a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:35 PM
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Unmarried commitment means nothing to so many shit-tier men. It’s basically them lying to you so you don’t sleep with anyone else but they cheat on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:31 PM
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See my username and humble subreddit. 1000000000000% this. Slutty men are way more problematic than slutty women for multiple reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:27 PM
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They don’t want an actual child. They want to feel powerful. They want what a biological child symbolizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:09 PM
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Agreed. I was around this age and had this sort of experience with such an age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:06 PM
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Yup. Be wary of men who aren’t open to adoption. They’re absolute scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:00 PM
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Yeah, I’m straight but even to me, a man will always be the least attractive one compared with bisexual women, yet they think women are always dying for their dicks like female pornstars are paid to pretend to want the dicks of male pornstars. They really cannot distinguish porn from real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:31 PM
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It appears humble but it’s just realistic. The problem is that it appears humble in a sea of sexually arrogant assholes. When they think they can please two women in a threesome, you know that porn has conditioned them to think they’re like male pornstars. At least a woman in a threesome with two men can highly please them both at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:24 PM
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My mother also had told me something similar to my face, but more like she hadn’t really wanted a kid but my father did, even though I was planned. Regardless, guess which parent reaches out all the time now and which one almost never does?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:55 PM
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Meanwhile, I’m an only child yet my father thinks prostitution should be legalized and taxed to “help them stop being exploited.” 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:20 AM
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Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:03 AM
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Yes, I know the bond is the reward, but remember that a bond with your child is not a lifelong guarantee. Even good parenting cannot guarantee your child will be a decent person, even if we ignore anything a father does to impact it. Children are greatly impacted by their parents, but many other factors, like experiences with others, social conditioning, physical conditions and circumstances will also shape children. Also, children might love their parents but dislike them at the same time. Chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:57 PM
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Yeah, as if the joys of motherhood, all motherly sacrifices aside, somehow are greater than the joys of fatherhood. These scrotes are even implying that it’s a lot greater. Hell to the no. Not only do women have to pay for it with their bodies, health, careers, finances, time, social lives and the increased likelihood their partners will be less attracted and/or cheat, men get all the respect at work and increased wages for being a parent while mothers get less compared to before, fathers give t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:22 PM
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I think I saw something like this on Instagram. Scrotes in droves were commenting, “wHaT aBoUt tHe joY oF moThErHoOd, they’re yOuR kIdS, tOo.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:45 PM
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Women are too good for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:05 PM
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People have told them to shut up. Even past girlfriends. They just don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:53 PM
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I had an ex who I was with for a long time. After we broke up, but were still “entangled” (before FDS), he wanted me to do a “lie detector test” with a polygraph - one of those machines that measures your anxiety when being asked questions. He turned out to be a pathological liar, lying about everything under the sun. The whole relationship was founded on his lies. He probably cheated on me, too, because there were massive red flags for that for years. I did lie about one thing at the end of our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:03 PM
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I know how you feel. I’m sorry. Thank you for sharing that you got it despite always using condoms. You’re doing a public service. 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:51 AM
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Hello! See my username and a subreddit with the same name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:43 AM
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I agree with you and I’m sorry you went through that, too. Come to think of it, mine did initially disrespect some boundaries that I didn’t think of when I wrote my comment above, so there were indeed red flags. I guess I’m just desensitized to more “minor” and especially non-sexual things, which isn’t good. (Tangent: Women need to be socialized to have more self-respect, which is a driving force behind FDS. I’m glad FDS exists but I hate that men so loudly insult the community because they’re p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:02 AM
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A guy stopping at manual or oral or whatever on you and not asking for reciprocation means nothing. My (eventual) date rapist respected my boundaries when I first had a fling with him and he didn’t ask me to touch him like he touched me. When I reconnected with him years later, he date raped me. I saw him again after he took advantage of my inebriated blackout to try to convince myself it was consensual since I don’t remember a big part of the night. The next time, he did pressure me into sex, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:55 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nlwj21/apps_promised_to_revolutionize_dating_but_for/gzlgkjc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:30 AM
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No swiping. Women can express ranging amounts of interest in photos of men. Let’s say she thinks, hmm, he’s ok, based on his pic I have 4.5/10 interest (and photos of other men that don’t get rated by her are ignored). She gets to send him a few questions anonymously. The guy gets notified that a woman has expressed interest but the level of interest does not meet the minimum threshold yet. So, he has to answer a few of her questions in one shot, which are asked by her anonymously. Then, if his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:17 AM
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Not references from their mom. The moms often have no idea how much of a piece of shit their son is, especially if they’re momma’s boys who grew up into incredibly hypocritical and dishonest narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:06 AM
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I’m not sure I can watch the reunion show after seeing a small snippet of him talk, on top of his recent public interactions with a 19 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:15 AM
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My life might have been very different if anyone had shown me the 2014 article that year. The reason that Reddit is a top website is because of all the porn on it, which then spills over into all the other subreddits. It was never because of its user friendly interface. If only women could objectify men as much as vice versa, using a similar means to an end on another website owned by women, but alas, we don’t because we see men as fucking people instead of walking genitalia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:08 AM
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Not my intention at all. I’m scoffing at these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:10 PM
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It really annoys me how so many men think using condoms means no risk at all of disease or pregnancy. Yes, the risks are greatly decreased, but not non-existent, and are actually quite significant if not used in perfect lab-like conditions. For example, if he gets at AT ALL SOFT while wearing a condom, which happens A LOT more now with male porn addicts, who are now EVERYWHERE. You might as well be playing Russian roulette.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:53 PM
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How is this justified?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:15 PM
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The fact that it’s caused by rough and excessive masturbation needs to go viral. Can some marketers by profession please get on this? I am so fucking fed up of how rigged this patriarchal society is against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:07 PM
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WHY, SHEILA, WHY? Really captures the mediocre, ungrateful dickhead plus high value, attractive pick-me (if such a thing exists?) dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:00 PM
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Precisely. https://youtu.be/qkgIHS4aGpo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:37 AM
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Yeah, like someone else mentioned, if he has to jerk himself off at the end of sex to cum after going at it for a while, that’s a sign. Imagine being such a porn addicted loser that your hand consistently feels better than a woman you’re being naked and intimate with. I feel secondhand embarrassment for them. I just feel like, on a visceral level, these men have subpar sperm. Maybe, maybe not, but it’s just pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:08 AM
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The first point in the OP is true but is a much bigger red flag for straight out cheating. Hiding porn doesn’t require hiding a locked phone screen. Some of the following are signs enough on their own, but others are “tells” when in combination with other signs: He takes too long to cum (due to death grip and a history of jerking multiple times a day). Roleplays must always start with or focus on blowjobs Lovemaking is minimal, if you experience it at all. No, it’s not just slow sex. Him asking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:15 PM
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Dr Gottman correcting himself on how porn affects relationships and intimacy is huge. He has some well known books out there. Ladies, don’t be shy to share this article on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:40 AM
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Thank you for posting this. Abuse isn’t always so obvious. There’s been a publicly funded radio commercial in my area lately about psychological abuse, I guess due to all the increased femicides since the pandemic started. It makes a point to say that abusers can both treat you well and abuse you at the same time, and it ends up being a vicious cycle. It essentially puts the abused person in a state of cognitive dissonance. This gets worse if the psychologically abused woman then engages in reac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:47 AM
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Reposting this to a certain community that does not approve of this scrote’s behaviour. Somebody virally tweet this shit so he hopefully eventually gets booted off as host from the Masked Singer. That’s a family show and we’re letting this community dick run it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:31 PM
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Not wrong at all. We currently have a society that rewards unattractive, pathologically lying male sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:18 AM
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Exactly. Then there are women who fall into this trap and get botched or hurt by plastic surgery, and even kill themselves. All for a scrote who then either treats her even more like shit afterwards or who leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:36 AM
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I feel like more Gen z women are getting fooled like her because of the toxic porn positive culture we’ve had in the last decade, mostly fuelled by the emergence of free porn streaming websites in the late 2000s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:55 AM
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Yeah no. Men don’t respect niceness. Some men will even try to blame you for their disrespect of you because you didn’t give them an ultimatum about something, even if you communicated it constantly. Some men will go from having realistic self-assessments of their looks to thinking they’re hot shit because you complimented their beastly looks, then will go on to secretly cheat on you for years because you lifted them up from being awkward losers to arrogant pricks. Some men will “love” you only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:20 PM
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They’re obsessed with status. That’s probably most of the reason many of them want to have kids, too. If you’re not convinced, look at how many guys love to watch sports and talk about players in these sports teams even though they don’t play the sports themselves. It’s often one of their only hobbies, if not their only one, gossiping about these sports players. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:29 PM
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