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Queen shit right there 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:14 AM
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Another scrote trying to leech a woman's resources like the pathetic parasite that he is. Like all scrotes are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:36 PM
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Don't blame you. Ultimately this happened FOR you, because the less we women trust, the better off we are. Aside from the trust aspect, I hope you're feeling back to your old confidant happy self again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:00 PM
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Second the recommendation for chumplady! Her book is what broke my trauma bond to a porn sick alcoholic scrote, and gave me the strength and mental clarity (finally!) to leave his ass after 23 years of marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:53 PM
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Fscking vile. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:45 PM
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That's THE biggest lesson I learned from my last addictionship with a narcopath scrote: TRUST YOUR GUT! Believe in it HARD and don't let your brain try to logic or rationalize it (admittedly difficult for we smart logical ladies). I'm sorry you went through all that, but if learning to trust your intuition was the result, then it was a painful lesson that happened FOR you, not TO you. Congrats on dumping the scrote and achieving this milestone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:43 PM
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But you KNOW it's not your fault though, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:16 PM
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Oo there's a good tip. Would work for dating sites (if he's expected not to be on any), Ashley Maddison, etc, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:15 PM
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Like "scrote", your excellent phrasing is now permanently stuck in my mind and used often. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:04 PM
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Love how you wrote this, resonates hard with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:56 AM
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Google Wim Hof Method - his method of cold therapy is excellent, so many benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:32 AM
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Preach! 💯👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:56 AM
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Ah, thanks. I knew the term "not like other girls" but didn't snap to the acronym for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:20 PM
5

OMG how horrific. I'm so sorry for the overwhelming loss. Just all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:55 AM
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God, what an absolute gut punch. On your birthday. With your best friend. I'm so sorry, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:53 AM
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NLOGs is new to me...what's it stand for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:34 AM
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Happy Cake Day, sis, hope it's a happy scrote-free day! 🎂🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:03 AM
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I'm a voracious reader, and you write very well, IMO. Clear, concise, creative and in a down-to-earth cool way. Right on and write on! 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:40 PM
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THANK YOU shoesfromparis135 for that beautiful story...it brought a tear of joy to my eye. 🙂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:34 PM
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Just 2 days ago I accidentally stumbled across an article about Spade Cooley, very famous so-called King of Western Swing in the 50s. Big Trigger Warning if you choose to read a non-Wikipedia story of how he horrifically beat and unalived his 2nd wife Ella Mae in front of their 14yo daughter. So gut-wrenching that she had tried for YEARS to get away and escape him beforehand. He ultimately went to prison for it, but at 7 years behind bars (1968) California voted unanimously to parole him and let…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:37 AM
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Along with all the other great advice, I'll add that if you're the one moving out, make sure to take pictures of everything inside and outside of the house to show and prove (if necessary) that nothing was damaged, and no you didn't steal his grandmother's heirloom lamp or his Rolex, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:07 AM
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Ditto! Spill the deets, I soooo need to hear a feel-good story of how karma gave a beat-down to a cheating lying scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:50 PM
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One of THE most stellar posts I've seen here, thank you! I needed this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:56 AM
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I just stumbled upon an FB group dedicated to solo travel for women over 50 (77k members). I spent hours reading their travel stories and drooling over their gorgeous pics from stunning locations across the planet. 60 and 70 year old women traveling and adventuring to foreign far away lands SOLO! Unencumbered, unafraid, fearless, active! And not one single comment of ANY kind about men. The poor dears! What about the penises? Won't they please think about THE PENISES!! 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:48 AM
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Aw honey, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I imagine you wonder how you even survived that detour into hell. I'm proud of you for escaping, too, I know it wasn't easy. Cheers to your scrote-free future, and congrats for kicking him out and blazing a new trail! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:45 AM
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"Giving Tree Syndrome" is a perfect description! for most men, I'd say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:05 AM
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I'd like to know, curious to hear your story. I suffered similar when I plummeted into a devastating depression, and my scrote ex-husband of 13 years (at the time) literally never cared, never tried to help...it was the beginning of 10 additional married years of emotional and psychological abuse, cheating, neglect, etc. If I'd've known then what I know now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:05 PM
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Definite FDS energy! I scrolled through some comments and a woman used the phrase "manic pixie dream girl"[1] and I thought she must be an FDS queen. 🙂 [1] I still don't know if this phrase is an FDS-ism or is from a movie or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 12:35 AM
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Same. And I really REALLY love the expression "die mad, scrote"...soooo satisfying. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:57 AM
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What is a "digital" nomad, exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:55 AM
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Men are the ultimate gold diggers, not women. A man's main motive towards women is first and foremost what resources, aka "gold" he can extract from her; the gold can be sex, maid service, cooking, therapy, emotional support, sounding board, ego prop, or money. Love and bonding are dead last on the list priority-wise. And a woman doesn't even need to be wealthy for a man to use her for money...she could be making $30k/yr and still be used for 1/2 rent, 1/2 groceries, etc because every dime he ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:29 PM
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I noticed after I posted this that they also have a similar one for women. I started watching and realized I have some more work to do! 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:25 AM
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It was posted to YouTube only 3 days ago, narrated by a man, factual and accurate, and aligns with FDS principles. I was gobsmacked to find this "in the wild" on a major social platform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:53 PM
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There's a great discussion about this over in the conspiracy subreddit. This isn't the win we think it is. What about the actual abusers? That'll stay tightly under wraps and they'll get off scott-free, no justice against the actual pedo perps. ☹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:33 AM
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This! ☝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:10 PM
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This is some serious Queen energy right here!! So very happy for you, and what a great role model for your daughters! Congrats on all of your wins and success...truly inspirational, and just what I REALLY needed to hear today (I'm also about 10 years from retirement, and was feeling a little hopeless about it until I read your post). Wishing you continued scrote-free blessings! 🙏❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:15 AM
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Makes me think of the book "Why Men Love Bitches". I know you're probably right, but I have difficulty believing it from a purely logic standpoint...but given how all the men just loooove Beth from Yellowstone, I'm thinking it's truer than I want to believe. Really sucks for those of us with kind, loving, generous hearts, it's not like we can rewire our personality. But if I could...I'd be a Beth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:45 AM
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Only 8 weeks? I'm sorry it went down in flames. Something tells me there are good lessons inside this story, and I'm intrigued...care to share whatever you're comfortable sharing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:33 AM
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Sadly, the odds are good that that spineless scrote will off himself like the coward he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:42 AM
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Heartbroken. 😥 I think it captured the world's attention partially because so many women knew she was suffering abuse and could relate to that...is there a woman alive who hasn't suffered a man's abuse?? "There, but for the grace of God, go I". RIP Gabby, my heart is with you. p.s. FYI, some folks on Twitter are doing a #LightsOnForGabby by keeping a north-facing porch light on in tribute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:38 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:06 AM
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Same, hun. Oh the regrets! But stay positive, we're going to heal our traumas and do it right moving forward. Stay strong sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:35 AM
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Noses tell nothing. Using past and/or present men is best way to learn and train the eye. The 7" guy I mentioned...I first stalked his FB pics for good hand/finger pics to study as best I could...then studied in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:16 PM
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I had a theory and did an analysis of the men I've slept with in the past...and also used it to vet a man I was dating for penis size...and this is what's worked for me in every single case. I'll try to describe best I can. Answer: Finger size (middle 3 fingers). Along with proportionality. Take a man who's 6', proper weight, or even a few pounds overweight. Look at his fingers. Long and skinny? Short and wide? Long and wide? Good length/width? And then next sort of eyeball/compare those fingers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:29 PM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:56 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:23 PM
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Women Who Run With Wolves is one of my favs. Haven't read it all yet (it's a big one!), but so far I love it, so creatively written, powerful and soul-impacting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:27 PM
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Solid gold 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:01 PM
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Freaking love this post so hard! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:59 PM
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Scrote Translation: I don't like my gf, and want to break up, but since I'm getting my pee pee wet ima keep using her till she dumps me because I'm too much of a selfish parasite/coward/asswipe to break up with her and let her go be happy. Edit to add: Yes I'm curious to know more, and yet not because I'll wind up getting pissed off and wishing they'd get a shot that puts them to sleep forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:36 PM
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Exact same scenario for me from 23yr marriage to scrote narc. Tons of photos of nex, kids, but virtually few of me. Nex NEVER wanted to take pix of me, me and kids, etc and when he did they were blurry, unflattering, etc. Except, of course, the "sexy outfit" pics that he was always so excited to take, and stupid braindead so-in-love me let him. 🤮 I deleted ALL pics of me from his computer, phone, thumb drives, etc. before I walked out the door (I'm an IT geek so I know how to do DOD-level destru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:25 PM
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Oh absolutely. The "studies" will say cluster-b personalities make up 1-5% of gen pop...which is not even close to accurate, considering most cluster-b's don't get therapy, or get diagnosed, and therefore are not counted in the "official" stats. I'd bet everything I own the # is closer to 40% (if not higher), considering the overwhelming majority of cluster-b's are men (surprise surprise).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:51 AM
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Your assessment is spot on. Goes without saying the YT comments are a cesspit. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:39 PM
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I need that t-shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:29 PM
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Hear hear! 👏👏👏 FDS has been a godsend and life-saver for me, too, totally changed and revolutionized my mindset. Thank you, Mods, for all you do and deal with! You are changing and literally saving lives. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:41 PM
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Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:37 PM
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My favorite is "x is the exception that PROVES the rule". ergo: An HVM is the exception that PROVES the rule that most men are scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:03 AM
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Exactly why I've never signed up on a dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:57 PM
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Anecdotal, but the past 2 narcs I was with hated cats. One of them even said (on more than one occasion) that "cats are like little women in fur coats".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:59 PM
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Yup 💯💯!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:49 PM
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Expression I heard once: Many (most?) cops are just criminals with a badge. Given that police have massive amounts of power and control over other humans, it's really no surprise that narcissists, sociopaths, criminal-minded, abusers, etc flock to the position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:47 PM
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Needed this so hard today, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:32 PM
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All that above! #goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:34 PM
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"Alpha" and "beta" off the top of my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:26 AM
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No apology needed, it was well-articulated and just right. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:32 AM
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I'd buy "Men are a scam" with a quickness. Also have back of shirt say "Die mad, scrotes". They get the finger comin' or goin' 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:54 PM
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He sounds deliciously hot! Let's hope he vets out to be "warm" (as in sweet, empathetic, caring, etc) everywhere else. 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:23 PM
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"Predditors" is my fav
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:16 PM
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I love this for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:31 PM
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riseanoveagain, please DM me your recommendation! I am desperate to try EMDR. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:26 PM
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Ah, thank you. I scrolled FDS to see if anyone had already posted Eilish story but I didn't see it, so I posted it thinking I was the first. Perhaps I should delete my post in favor of the other better one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:07 PM
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I'm the OP, this is my first post and I couldnt figure out how to add my commentary above. Post made for awareness of Billie's change, in addition to the cognitive dissonance between her choice of physical appearance and her quote from the article: "Her transformation – complete with exquisite Alexander McQueen, Vivienne Westwood and Balmain bodices – coincides with a chilling new song that confronts abusers who exploit underage girls, and sees Billie firmly take control of her own narrative. “D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:43 PM
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Welcome to the sub of truth and sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:10 PM
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Your story really struck my empathy nerve. I'm so sorry that POS scrote did that to you...3 weeks after a honeymoon? After 15 years together?!?! I can't even wrap my head around the utter heartbreak and devastation you endured, my heart goes out to you! I hope you're in a far better place now, and glad that you found this loving, supportive community. Blessings upon you! 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:01 AM
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Many/most men hate cats, and is anecdotally[1] a red flag that they're misogynistic, narcissistic, and/or dislike/disrespect women. Stands to reason, really: feline/feminine and all that. [1] Proven true in my experience [2] [2] Fun fact: my Internet search months ago for "men hate cats sign of hating women" or something similar led me to a post discussing this very thing here in FDS subreddit - that's how I discovered FDS, which has forever changed my life for the better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:14 PM
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"Anti-Scrote Spray" 🤣🤣 I need this spray like yesterday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:04 PM
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Life-long dog owner, grew up with 7 dogs, love all animals but was never terribly fond of cats, been rescuing animals for years. Long-story short, I now have 7 rescued cats (but no dogs yet, sadly); once I actually lived with the cats, learned their behaviors, studied them, etc, I've grown to love them and all cats so much! My favorite is my male tuxedo...I can't even believe how much I adore this cat!! He shows me love and affection every day...which is more than I can say for any of my worthle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:01 AM
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I'm dying here, y'all! Absolutely brilliant! 👏👏 Sooo needed the spot-on snark and lulz today, well done fabulous queens!! 👍💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:47 PM
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I think most women are "demisexual" but not most men imo Scientific and biological fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:07 PM
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Good vibes only “I want a chill ass female who I can manipulate as much as I want and now she’s pressured to keep the vibes good. Meanwhile I’m toxic af 😜” THIS! 1000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:01 PM
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<standing ovation> 👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:15 PM
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This pic is brilliant. Calls to mind someone else on this forum who coined "Scrotinger's Scat" or some such clever expression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:09 PM
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That last sentence slays. Happy Cake Day! 🎂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:59 PM
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We are clearly way more intelligent than them and certainly a whole lot more interesting, experienced, insightful and fun Unquestionably!! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:07 PM
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"Testerical mantrum tears" is DA BEST!! 🤣🤣 You queens spout the most razor-sharp brilliant snark I've ever witnessed in my life, and I can't get enough. Great post! And thank you Mods!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:29 AM
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Her comedic timing and delivery is exceptional! New fan here!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:13 AM
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Congrats and proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:32 PM
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Same here, but from Costco. I color-coordinate multiple bouquets to place in my foyer. I insist on having fresh flowers in my home at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:26 PM
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I'd relish the opportunity to make him unable to live. With himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:43 PM
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Here I am 🙋‍♀️ I was a sucker for that shit trick with my nex. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:22 PM
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/thugthizzle626 What is the TikTok's username? I want to send this vid to a male friend of mine (I've been trying to educate the dude) using the direct TikTok link
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:59 AM
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Same for me 4 years ago. Her book gave me the clarity and strength I needed to finally leave my cheating narc-hole after 23 years of marriage. I consider it THE best book for a woman dealing with a cheater scrote (sorry, redundant)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:40 AM
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It's like when you tell a scrote you're scared of heights...all of a sudden scrote acts as if his life depends on y'all going skydiving together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:31 AM
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clearly many men are sociopaths, not capable of love and empathy This is the REAL problem, and the nadir/crux of EVERYTHING wrong in the world. War, murder, rape, theft, deceit, greed, violence, poverty, suffering, destruction - overwhelmingly committed and caused by which sex again?? Which sex has the most power and control in the world? Someone recently posted one of several scientific studies that used actual brainscans to prove males have less of the frontal cortex area that produces empathy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:12 PM
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Exact same for me. Powerful, poignant, tear-inducing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:32 PM
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Absolutely. Some people just need killin'. Twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:18 AM
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Happy cake day! 🥳🎂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:44 AM
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Absolutely this. If there's just one rule, slogan, thought, whatever that needs to be drilled into EVERY girl and woman's head is that men are predators. Full stop. Start with that hard truth FIRST, and then proceed accordingly with your behavior, thought, plan, mindset, etc armed with that knowledge. How many shitastic and/or dangerous situations could women avoid if they had that hard truth burned into their brain and kept at the forefront of their minds at all times??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:42 AM
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EXACTLY my same reaction. Then the evil thoughts start. 🤮😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:31 AM
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Yes, we are! Happy Cake Day 🙂🎂🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:36 AM
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Missisabelarcher, we were married to the same man somehow. You've exactly described my ex-covert-narc of 23 years. There were definitely signs, but so subtle and stealth that only a pHD in cluster-b disorders would've been able to discern. If only FDS could've been there in 1994.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:07 AM
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Sickening. The mentally sick and diseased minds of scrotes never ceases to disgust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:53 PM
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Lisa Romano has a good YT vid entitled "11 Questions a Narcissist Simply Cannot Answer" - use this to help test and weed out the narcopath scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:35 AM
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One of the prettiest rings I've ever seen, love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:13 AM
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Happy cake day! 🙂🎂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:54 AM
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🤣👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:51 AM
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"Why is no one thinking of his neglected penis?!" OMG, this cracked me up so HARD, like still laughing out loud! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Edit: added clarification what was so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:54 AM
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If? Guaranteed he WILL. Because scrotes gotta scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:46 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:04 PM
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Thirded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:17 PM
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No apology necessary! Enjoyed your post, have experienced similar and feel the same, fwiw. 👍👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:35 AM
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I've often contemplated buying a device to chk for hidden cams, microphones, etc. Anything you'd recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:07 PM
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This pic captures it perfectly! I echo the gratitude, thank you, and well done! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:44 AM
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Agree with this 1000%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:32 PM
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Do they ever?? The day I meet a man who has real empathy is the day I believe unicorns are real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:31 PM
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Needed this today! Exceptional, thank you so much. 👍💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:40 AM
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Stunning ring! Absolutely love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:24 AM
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I wish I could award you something for this STELLAR snark that I fully intend to plagiarize and use against some scrote in the future. 🔥🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:59 PM
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Exactly right re: psychopaths, narcissists, etc. Steer clear of, or vet EXTRA long and hard cops (especially!!), judges, doctors, lawyers, high level execs, very wealthy, etc...any position that has any kind of real power and potential destruction over people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:52 AM
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I always say "I'm sorry" because a divorce means that love died somewhere along the way, and the death of love is a very sad thing to me. BUT I also always add a congratulations to her for doing what's best and moving forward to a new, happier life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:50 PM
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Added it to my calendar, must see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:45 PM
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The universe chose you to speak to directly to me today. I needed this so much, thank you. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:31 PM
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Thanks mods, you're appreciated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:28 PM
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Thanks for the good feedback, much appreciated. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:12 PM
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Fierce!!! 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:56 PM
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Curious about the age range for a 57yo such as myself. I prefer men my age or older. Have an interested 48yo HVM man that has professed extreme interest in me, but the age gap kinda bothers me. At my/our age, the difference is technically not that big a deal, I don't believe...perhaps even moreso considering he exhibits many HVM traits. But yet the age diff just seems kinda too much and wrong for me (completely irrespective of him personally). You can tell I'm not a cougar, zero interest in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:54 PM
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In my opinion, the Midwest would be the best place for dating, due to general morals and values overall. Christian religion influence for sure, but not the ultra conservative dogma you find in the South. Just pleasant, polite, wholesome, hard working strong types. Education/intelligence might not be as high as NE/New England, etc though. Next would be the Mountain states, MT, CO, SD, WY...but tradeoffs apply here (weather, jobs, low populations, etc), so caveat emptor. TX perhaps, also, for max …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:06 PM
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OP content was deleted, for some reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:42 AM
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I've always liked Mom (CBS). Like all sitcoms, Seasons 1-4 are excellent, Season 5 is sometimes good, and Season 6+ are extremely hit or miss (this pattern is the rule I see for ALL sitcoms). Allison Janey is brilliant in this role! Granted, her character is a narcissist, but if you can set that aside just a bit, her wise cracking take-no-shit spirit is inspiring, especially with the men in her life. The rest of the predominantly female cast are all great characters, and while they have their fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:52 PM
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🤣🤣 Totally made me laugh out loud, thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:47 AM
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How awesome it must be to have a good man tell you that you're his everything, and to take care of you! Happy for you! 👍💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:13 AM
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Tinder is well-known to be primarily a hook-up app, not a relationship app. Match and OKCupid are known primarily as relationship apps, but too much trash. The only relationship app I've ever heard good things about is eHarmony...it's designed to weed out hookups, players, etc as it has long questionnaires, costs $$$, etc. If I was ever to use a dating app, eHarmony would be the only one I'd bother with. I know several people who got married after using eHarmony, including my sister. I Googled "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:57 PM
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But if they tell you that the main character is their favourite and that they’re “just so like them” then absolutely run away. THIS!! I'm currently trying to disentangle myself from an LVM that felt off from the start with loads of red flags (I was giving it some time to verify my maxed out narc-o-meter was calibrated properly). What sealed the deal was him telling me how much he loved Dexter, how excited he was another season is being made, and that "Dexter thinks exactly like I think, I could'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:58 PM
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Love that movie and especially the Cell Block Tango song. Nice quoting, ladies 👍🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:54 PM
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☝️THIS!!! ☝️is absolutely the best advice!! Please heed for your own safety! So many (most?) of the women killed by husbands/boyfriends had told their SO's they wanted a divorce, or to break up, etc. NEVER tell them! Just do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:28 PM
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Exactly why I won't use a public gym. I have a TotalGym, treadmill, weights, yoga mat, etc at home where I can work out in privacy. Even if I didn't have space for equipment, I'd rather do floor workout or dance to YouTube vids or TV than goto a public gym. I wouldn't mind a public women's-only gym...does such a thing exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:06 AM
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This was great, loved the humor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:50 PM
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Reminds me of Miranda Lambert's song "Gunpowder & Lead". Pinnacle of female empowerment. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:02 PM
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Gold. Pure effing GOLD!! 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:50 PM
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Cool to see another Nancy Drew fan! I read all her books as a kid, too. Fantastic role model. I loved the Laura Ingalls Wilder books, too...I've probably read them all 50 times over (I still re-read them from time to time as an adult). Laura strikes me as a great role model also, especially for the time and circumstances. For certain her daughter Rose Wilder Lane was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:18 PM
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Exactly who I want to be, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:07 AM
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It's training on his part, and a deliberate predator tactic designed to manage her expectations down, so that when he DOES toss her a tiny complimentary breadcrumb, she'll be sooooo giddy and grateful that he'll have her eating out of his scrote hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:53 AM
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I seriously can't even
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:04 PM
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This. ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:31 PM
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Completely agree with your post, and likely explains what I've been witnessing anecdotally. At the same time that cluster-B anti-social personality disorders are on the rise (narcissism/sociopathy/psychopathy/no-low empathy subhumans), there's also (conversely) more awareness, consciousness and recognition of same by those blessed with empathy, love and light. As evil emerges and expands, so does goodness, love and light. Like a counterbalance. Yin/yang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:00 PM
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Do it, sphinx66! Treat yourself the way you want to be treated 👍💍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:41 PM
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👏👏 Congrats on your first major deal! That IS a cause to reward yourself - your ring is just lovely. And can I just say your hands and fingernails are perfection! BRAVO!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:21 AM
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That's awesome! Glad to hear this group helped you, it's amazing how life changes for the better when we level up. So good to hear a success story, keep it up, sis! 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:52 PM
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100% this! ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:37 PM
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Congratulations! 🥳👍 What a lovely ring, so very happy you found that special someone you want to walk through life with. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:35 PM
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This is a perfect example of why women MUST have firm boundaries and stop sacrificing our wants and needs for the benefit of others, at the expense of our bodies, minds and souls. Yes he's a selfish uncaring scrote (redundant), but unfortunately she trained him by pretending to like anal, and that if he just presses a few more times she'll give in. The only way this will stop is if she stops violating and sabotaging HERSELF by being honest and telling him that she hates anal sex and will never d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:26 PM
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Maybe antipornography, as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:48 PM
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Is this Dexter? (I've never watched the show)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:10 PM
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Are you me? 🙂 You speak for me and my experience 100%! You captured the most important things: learning from our trauma, to go inside ourselves to do our inner work, and leveling up to become better, wiser, happier women. Not only will we choose better men (or women) for ourselves, but we'll also BE better women for our partners, as well. Thank you for sharing and bringing the message of hope and the beauty of transformation. Brilliant post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:05 PM
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Well-known meme: No one's nicer to you than a guy that hasn't fscked you yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:05 PM
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1000% THIS!! ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:12 PM
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Thank you, will buy 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:54 PM
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Totally agree, SayNad. I did just that the other day, bought a lovely bouquet of fragrant star gazer lillies, the whole downstairs smells amazing! We single ladies should be our own boyfriend/girlfriend, and treat ourselves to lovely flowers, delicious dinners, and pamper ourselves with self-love. Let's treat ourselves the way we want to be treated. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:53 PM
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Good for you, they're lovely. Enjoy the celebration of you, and the gift of this sub. Happy cake day, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:23 PM
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Reminds me of something the psychopath I briefly dated would say: "Don't overthink everything!" Which is just another way of saying, "Ignore your intuition, don't listen to your gut or your doubts, pay no mind to the inconsistencies in my words and behavior, don't think too much or you'll figure out my game to use, abuse then dump you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:40 PM
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What's the name of book and author, please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:27 PM
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Feel your disappointment, sista I'm going through this now. I'm like, damn dude, we started off great, you (could) have so much going for you...why'd you have to reveal yourself to be just an empty psychopath? Thank you, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:12 AM
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Eluriaeve, that last sentence! Are you me? Crazy how certain comments stick with you, that can seem inconsequential at the time...until you're a couple months into dating and suddenly those inconsequential things become hard evidence of scroteness. The best thing FDS has taught me is the value of taking MONTHS to vet and get to know someone before ever committing one's heart and emotion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:05 AM
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I bought 2 of that one, also 🙂👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:40 PM
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Thanks to your recommendation, I just purchased this book; a high-speed scan of a few pages shows it was worth every penny. Thank you! 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:09 PM
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I think 5 should read: "You rarely feel good enough to earn their approval" Apart from that...yeah, every single one applied to ex-narchole hubby AND the psychopath that came after, whom I briefly for a few months (right before I found FDS). I knew said psychopath was "off" the first time I met him cuz my intuition was ripping my gut apart...but I a) felt a strong attraction, but also b) I wanted to suss his disorder, so I used him as my own personal lab rat and case study, just to put my virtua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:05 PM
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Chump Lady's book is what opened my eyes, saved my ass, and motivated me to get the hell out of that marriage quick! I was Googling, as you do in your pickme days/daze, trying to figure out his 180 personality switch-up and sick, depraved behaviors...which led me to CL's book, then immediately out the door, and on the road to peace, freedom, self-respect and happiness again. Like you, I'm the happiest I've ever been, though I'm still figuring out how to craft my whole new blank-canvas life. Big …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:14 PM
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You're not alone, sis! Here's to our better, happier, smarter selves. 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 07:41 PM
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I'm 57yo and glad to know there are other women here in my age range. I'm 3 years out from 23yr marriage to cheating, lying covert narc (sorry, redundant 😏) and spent those 3 years healing, recovering, learning, leveling up. I thought I had it on lock until I stumbled across this sub, and I'm so seriously grateful to've found this sanctuary of wisdom!! It showed me I still have more things to learn and more work to do. I'm thankful to all the women here who've shared tips, stories, thoughts, wis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 07:39 PM
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It has absolutely helped to transform MY life, 1000%!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:24 AM
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The following are in the same life coach vein as Tony Gaskin - HVMs using their talents to reach and teach women how to level up and become HVW, all would be FDS-approved: -- Trent Shelton (former NFL player, teaches leveling up in general, dumping toxic people, dude's absolutely phenominal) -- Derrick Jaxn (teaches women about LVM behavior, narcissism, etc) -- RC Blakes (Christian pastor, teaches women Queenology)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:20 AM
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This is gold. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 08:22 PM
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More whataboutism, aka look squirrel aka deflection aka red herring. Same as it ever was. sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:41 PM
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This made me lol, the way you wrote it. 🤣 If I had a dime for every never mind...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:56 PM
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Chiming in to throw out props for "Gaslighter", the newest song from The Dixie Chicks that came out earlier this year. Song title says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:16 PM
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Second the vote for that Kesha album, her best IMO. Got me through the darkest days of the breakup of my 23yr marriage to a covert narc. I was heartbroken, devastated and suicidal - Kesha helped restore my backbone and sanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:02 PM
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I'm so very sorry you lost your love, my heart goes out to you. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:46 PM
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Look at you standing tall and strong! That's some queen mentality right there. Takes real strength to stand alone and do the right thing. Prayers and positive vibes for ya, sis. 👍🙏👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:42 AM
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My covert nex of 23 years wanted to be cucked, also, along with wanting a swing lifestyle. Bottom line: he was lazy af and happy to have some (any) other man but him "do the work". Our entire sex life was me doing everything he liked (sexy outfits, dancing like a stripper), while he could never be bothered to do what I asked for...ya know, the really HARD shit, like scratching my back, or blindfolding me and exploring my body. <eyeroll> There was an underlying psychowhatsit in his brain, also, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:37 PM
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