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Honestly this is definitely something I should do. I’ve been very stagnant with my style and my fitness (lack thereof really). I mentioned getting back on my workout routine and that’s definitely something I’ll be sticking to (just got back from the gym haha). However I really really like the idea of swapping up my look. I haven’t had highlights in YEARS and he loved them we I had them. Definitely time to freshen up the appearance. Also, thanks for the reassurance that most men aren’t literally …
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:34 PM
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You know, we ventured into bondage 3 or so years ago, enjoyed it, but never really tried to build on that so we just never really did that again. I think I still have the cuffs and ropes laying around somewhere in a box… that could be a fun thing to reintroduce (and the wax is an intriguing idea too lol). He’s coming over tonight so I’ll dig those out before he gets here. Thanks for the suggestion, fingers crossed it makes for a fun night! :)
/r/seduction21/10/22 02:15 PM
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Honestly that’s always a good idea haha. Literally can’t fathom a negative result there! :)
/r/seduction21/10/22 02:13 PM
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Oh that’s awesome, I’m getting advice from a pro then haha! That makes sense the way you explained it, and seems like something we could ease into. I think he’d DEFINITELY like it if I leaned into the feminine. (Andddd I would definitely like to lean into using a strap-on if he’d agree to it; he’s expressed curiosity before so fingers crossed haha). I’m sure you can get more extreme with it but what you described seems like a phenomenal starting point for us to push the boundaries a little and s…
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:48 AM
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So for you is that more leaning into certain aspects of traditional male/female behaviors sexually? Or perhaps clothing or actions? I don’t mean to pry if you’re not comfortable sharing.
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:34 AM
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Now THAT sounds intriguing to me. I’ve considered delving into some gender-role swapping and exaggerating and the such before. It’s a tad out of my comfort zone, but I have definitely still been interested in that idea and you have renewed my attention to it haha. Maybe after a glass of wine for confidence I’ll ask if he’s interested in experimenting with the roles a bit. (Between you and me, I think he’s dropped hints on being interested before lol, during talks about kinks and roleplay) That c…
/r/seduction21/10/22 05:27 AM
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Amen man, it’s so easy to get distracted and forget to focus on one another. Taking time to unplug from phones, tv, and other distractions is so important to me and it’s nice to see other people recognize the value in just talking late at night and allowing for passion when the whim hits. Always nice to discuss with a likeminded person. Hope you stay well, friend. Thanks again.
/r/seduction21/10/22 04:23 AM
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Hahaha! That is HILARIOUS. Could be a downside (or a plus?) from going commando under a dress I suppose. Gotta be careful where I walk after lol. So maybe instead of getting deep into the conversation over dinner, I’ll wait until after we (hopefully) enjoy some intimate time together. Talk about ways to make it better and such when he’s feeling more open, as you said. Thanks again for the insight (and for the laugh; I don’t usually giggle so hard at things like that but the mental image was trul…
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:44 AM
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Congratulations on a happy 40+ years! That’s truly inspiring. What a cute (and honestly kinda sexy) little running gag to have going! I THINK I know his love languages (acts of service, physical touch) but it’s been too long since I’ve made a deliberate and conscious decision to focus on those. Thank you for the advice and the reminder! Passive love is a trap that’s too easy to fall into. I’ll definitely take your advice and try to focus on loving with deliberate action.
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:40 AM
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No I understand that perspective, for sure. I know everyone is different and it’s fair to have that preference. I will say my boyfriend didn’t have a whole lot of luck with the ladies before me (think “math team in highschool, solo to prom” to put it gently lol) so I’m HOPING he isn’t considering going out of his comfort zone for other options just yet, haha. (That’s not to say I think he couldn’t pull another girl, I’ve really seen him grow in confidence these past few years so I’m not overlook…
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:33 AM
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You’ve listed out some really awesome ideas. First and foremost, like you and the other commenter touched on, I’ll definitely be making a point to work on that deeper communication and intellectual intimacy, as you so eloquently put it. A way to maybe combine that with what you said about secret desires would maybe be to enjoy some wine with a home cooked meal and try to move the conversation towards deeper sexual desires he may not have shared? Do you think, or is that too on the nose? In addit…
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:11 AM
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What do you mean by that? I appreciate him every day I see him. Do you mean some sort of specific action? I’m sorry, no disrespect intended, I just don’t understand your meaning.
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:04 AM
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I still have hopes to convince him to join me in costume; I think it would be a fun change of pace. But hey, Halloween is right around the corner, maybe a costume shopping date is in order! You’ve given me some really good ideas to try. Feels good to have a plan set in place now to spice things up. I’ll definitely be taking your advice. You are awesome, dude!
/r/seduction21/10/22 01:40 AM
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You hit the nail on the head for cosplay. Before Covid we would go to conventions together and I would dress up (he’s not much for costumes himself but was very active in helping me pick a costume). I don’t think I’ve ever seen him be quite so “energetic” as when I dressed up as a character from his favorite anime when he was teen haha. Maybe I should look up some cosplay events then, or just do it for the fun of it ;)
/r/seduction21/10/22 01:29 AM
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I think the party girl/raver idea would be up his alley for sure. I’ve never really leaned into the sexy outfits that come with clubbing culture. Maybe a new look and a night out to match the look (heading to a club because it’s probably been years since our last time going) can give a sense of something fresh! Thanks for the ideas.
/r/seduction21/10/22 01:05 AM
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Thank you! Honestly reading about that worried me terribly, because the information made a lot of sense but didn’t offer a whole lot in way of how I could do my best to keep him invested in me rather than follow those biological urges, you know? Your suggestion sounds like a really good way to kind of mix things up (especially because I know men are very visual) and keep things interesting, at least on the outside. I appreciate the help friend.
/r/seduction21/10/22 12:14 AM
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I appreciate the response. Do you have any thoughts on actions I can take to try to remedy this, like maybe watching porn together or something like that to satisfy his visual cravings? Or am I just doomed to hope and pray that he won’t give in to his biological urge to seek out other partners?
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:29 PM
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This is really solid advice, I just wish it weren’t so hard to broach that subject haha. I think it’s definitely time to sit down and ask about his needs and his honest criticism, and to tell him how I’ve been feeling about his decreasing interest/desire. Just gotta make sure I’m ready to hear his honest thoughts without letting it get to me. Thank you for your input friend.
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:27 PM
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Yeah, I spoke a bit on that with another commenter. I think we’ve gotten a bit complacent. I’ve gotta get back on my gym routine. And you’re right, it is 100% on both parties, but personally he hasn’t done anything to make me lose interest (sexual or otherwise) in him. He’s attractive to me, he’s intelligent and successful, and he’s good in the bedroom. The only issue seems to be his decreasing desire, which I think may be (at least partially) due to my physical and emotional complacency. Thank …
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:24 PM
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Right! After researching the Coolidge effect (for like the last half hour haha) like you suggested, I know I can’t fight that biological drive completely but I’ve researched ways to minimize its effects. A lot of it was spicing things up like in the ways you mentioned. And to your edit, yes, I think I was definitely being naive taking a couple of reassuring comments as total truth for his opinion when it felt like he was just being kind. This is some really good stuff, you’re doing God’s work ou…
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:57 PM
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You know, that’s really what I needed to hear. I wanted to believe that he was genuinely interested in my newer “curviness” but deep down I figured it was most likely just to spare my feelings. Even apart from the relationships, regaining my healthier body should definitely be my priority these days and I’ll stick to my workout routine. I’ll take your advice as well and try to take some flattering pictures in the meantime. It’s been WAY too long since I put together a nice lingerie photoshoot fo…
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:06 PM
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I appreciate the offer for deeper advice! Yes, sex is definitely happening less frequently than at the beginning, which isn’t TOO shocking but has been concerning me. Down from several times a week in the beginning to 2-3 times a month. Once a week if I’m lucky. For physical shape, we definitely have both gained around 15-20 lbs respectively from when we first met, just with life and Covid and the rest. I have been around 150 lbs for the last year (I’m REALLY short so it is definitely chubbier o…
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:51 PM
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This is definitely a humble brag but I am quite grateful to be one of those women that can derive their own pleasure from giving head. No shortage of enthusiasm there lol! Thanks for the input friend :)
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:43 PM
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Counting my blessings then, haha. Glad you’re comfortable in your situation! Sounds like you must have had success :)
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:36 PM
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I have always tried to cherish and respect every partner I’ve had. Thank you for the reminder to make sure he knows that. Maybe you’re right and it’ll help :)
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:33 PM
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It really does make perfect sense! And I genuinely find it helpful to hear advice from someone who’s already lived through my age range and gathered that wisdom when it comes to dating/sex/relationships. I hope that he’ll feel the same way about me when it comes to connection that you described. Hope you have a good one!
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:31 PM
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For sure! Thankful I don’t have to jump through the same hoops as a man, haha. I genuinely think it’s probably harder in the dating/sex/relationship scene for you all. Regardless, however simple that advice is, it really does help. Have a good one friend!
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:29 PM
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It’s so easy to overlook enthusiasm. I’ve been told by many different guys that the best sex they’ve had was when the girl was enthusiastically participating in sex/going down on them. The same is probably true in many aspects of a relationship I’d assume! Thanks for the reminder, that’s definitely something I can work on.
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:23 PM
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Well, I appreciate your honesty. I know deep down there’s some truth to that sentiment. Hopefully there’s some way for me to develop “new” experiences myself so he doesn’t give in to the natural desire to seek newness somewhere else. So far so good, but four years together is nothing in the grand scheme so I know better than to bank on him staying perfectly content with me forever. Thank you for your openness.
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:16 PM
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Thank you so much for the thoughtful and thorough response. It’s so easy to get caught up in the physical (especially in my age range I think) that it’s easy to write off deep communication and growth. I may be far overthinking the physical aspect and causing the emotional and communicative aspects to suffer. It may be time to open up and share like you mentioned. Thank you for giving me encouragement I needed!
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:14 PM
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